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"I just want to recognize this very feel very privileged to be able to do that right like to be able to set housing expenses. Relatively low you know you can't do that everywhere and getting a good school district in safe places Say that that is obviously a privilege that we enjoy. I'm very thrilled about that. But yes not having to track. Individual dollars is a major mental health benefit for me right now. I love it all right next question. What are your favorite kid activities. And least favorite connected. I thought this was a great question. Yes oh i'm a fan of rock climbing lessons. I will throw that out there. It's kind of random but it's something if you have children who are not shall we say particularly gifted in the ball sports category which a lot of hand eye coordination or if they are not particularly swift which is also another thing that is necessary for say soccer or basketball or whatever rock climbing has a lot going for it because very few people have inherent upper body strength. And so it's something that everyone is going to have to learn. And so you're not starting from being so far behind in the way that you are from things that involve balls are running. That people are more doing young ages. It's kind of fun for kids because it seems a little bit dangerous rock climbing gyms. It really isn't my least favorite. I will have to say is wrestling. I am very proud of sam for doing it for a couple of years. He did it for like three years. Watching your kid wrestle one on one in the middle of a ring just like physical combat so hard to watch. The meats were always somewhere in random rural pennsylvania towns at eight. Am in saturday. And so i was just a logistical ridiculousness. To get there and be there are for like four hours for three meets like for three matches so i was not sad when he elected to stop doing wrestling. How about you sarah. I am excited. We have some gymnastics classes that have started. They participate masked and haven't put too much of a fight about it. But i like it because it's fun to watch 'cause i enjoyed it as a kid get Like more comfortable and watch the quarter. Larry and i feel so bad saying this. Because i don't really mean that. I dislike it. 'cause the kids liked it and you know there does seem to be at least some talent with ball sports with lease one of my kids but i hated like sitting on the sidelines of soccer for hours. It was so hot especially if there was a toddler with me or a preschooler. It's just a but i don't know what will maybe figure out ways to continue that those sports without the part from me and then i also feel like i have a lot of childhood baggage around like being told the practice music and so that have a love hate with that because i love his learn music but i do not want to be in a position where i'm telling them to practice but i also don't want them not to practice so i'm in a little bit of like a spiral with that. That sounds yes. I would say just as a practical tip if listeners have many children including older ones in younger ones you may wish to hire a sitter on the weekend for a few hours. If you are facing down long swim meets or wrestling meets or things like that because while it is miserable enough to be at a four hour wrestling meet. It is even more miserable with a two year old. You're chasing around and you also inevitably wind up missing the really cool move. Your kid did because that's the moment where your two year old elects to go. you know. Throw over the trash. Can that sitting on the side of the gem so something to keep in mind we had one more. But i think we should save it for future episodes. Qna 'cause it's more involved so don't worry hurson who wrote in about this other thing. Sorry whatever guest yes exactly so we will get into our love of the week of reader wrote to me about this and i remember the first time i looked at. I was like okay so what it is. Is this youtube video by a very popular youtuber. That i'm sure. Half of our audience has heard of named jordan page. She runs a site fund cheaper free. Her demeanor is a little different. She's a Outrageous in out there and the editing of the videos like the super-quick fast cuts that to me is like a little. I don't know not my favorite style. However i don't remember. Oh so somebody alerted me to her planner product. Which as you know have that other. Podcast planners sounded intriguing. So watch the video again. And i still found video. Not the world's most fun to watch. Now she definitely never going to be a guest on our show. Whatever but i thought her concept of her time blocking method was very different than the time blocking. I had heard before i thought it has value. I thought her planner was actually very unique in a sea of planners that are very similar. So jordan page. I had to give you a second look but might be something. Readers would be interested in checking out. Yeah well i'll do my love of the week. I'm enjoying my whitney english planner that sarah bought for me. I am using it. I like when you switch planners you always have to sort of figure out what you can do with things. But i've found some additional pages in the whitney english where i could make lists sort of bullet journal style. The various places through there and there is enough space on the two pages for each week for me to do roughly what. I was doing on my chico notebook before. So it's exciting to have elevated my planner game. So thanks to sarah for giving me that in for recommending it on best-laid plans which everyone should go. Check out if you're not already listening to sarah's other podcasts. I am so excited that the match ended up working out. I was actually nervous to ask. You know it's all good all right. Well this has been an all mailbag episode. We will be back next week with more on making work in life fit together..
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"To exemplify that day and it has been a total game changer in my life. Well that was awesome. Just a side note for our listeners. Liz and i were talking while she was off in a cabin in the woods her internet had a few issues. Although the recording is great. Thank you squad cast for creating local tracks as we don't have the connection issues that we've had with some other recording software. But before liz was cut off she did want to share a one more thing with our listeners. Which is that you can find her book. Own your morning on amazon and bookstores today. Which is september seven when this is first airing. You can connect with women's health magazine at women's health mag dot com and also at women's health mag on all social platforms. You can also connect with liz personally. She really wanted people to do that. At liz plosser so l. is e. p. l. o. s. s. e. r. And if you tag own your morning she's gonna be really excited. And we'll share your morning winds so please take advantage of bats and connect with liz. Because she is lovely so now moving to our question. This is from a listener. Who says that. she's paid. There's a lot of attention paid in particular by me to the benefits of working from home but our listener dislikes it. She knows that some people don't feel that way. Obviously there's a lot of people would like to keep working from home even post pandemic but she really wants to go back to work in person. She finds herself distracted by being at home even when she has childcare or an empty house she brings her own lunch to the office in snacks. Less when the kitchen isn't four feet from her desk. She does a run commute to goes the office. So it's like she's got this exercise built in really great new teen. She likes dressing up and going to different neighborhoods. She also likes feeling as though work and home lives are separate and during the pandemic she has felt like she's constantly toddling back and forth. So do you guys want to talk a little bit about the benefits of kind back to the office. Are there benefits to in person. Work so sarah you have mixed feelings on this right you talk you know though the more that i have done a mix the more that i am convinced i would not want to be one hundred percent remote. I do feel that. I if i'm by myself too many days in a row work. I don't know i. I crave the structure be imposed structure and the seeing other people and the leaving the house so a hundred percent. Get what you're saying for me right now. The sweet spot is usually three days two three days at work. Although lately it's been more three and two days at home. And i also you mentioned that you even dislike it when the kids are in the houses empty i really dislike it when the house is not empty because i just find it incredibly distracting. I think you have to look for ways to bring some of those things that separate your work life and also bring those rituals. You enjoy into remote work if you're forced to say at home for longer such as either working Another location replicating your run commute. Maybe you're gonna run to a park in back or something like that. You could do a like a walking meeting with somebody where you're both on the phone and you walk together. You feel like you have that togetherness and that being out in about kind of feeling. So i think there are ways to bring some of the aspects of the benefits of being in the office to the home environment. You can get the best of both worlds. Sorry i had to. But i if you're just looking for us for someone to say yes you're right. Working remotely is not the end all be all for everyone. I m right there with you. So i see you. Yeah i mean there's there's obviously some nice aspects of the office and we often feel more professional if we are put together and if we have gone somewhere creating that separation so you know i think a lot of people will discover that a hybrid approach is the best of both worlds that there are upside to seeing your colleagues in person. There are certainly nice things about having that structured environment. Five days a week may be overkill for a great many jobs and so finding a way to do as sarah's doing three days in two days Home really could be a great option for for many people and ideally deep coming out of the pandemic lot of organizations will move to something like that but we shall see how this plays out if you wanna go in five days a week as i guess this listener wants to. She can be there by herself. Two days a week or other people are gone. I don't know we'll see how that plays out. I was asked just gonna mention since she mentioned separation. That shutdown rituals of some kind can help so think about what steps you might want to officially open and close your workday. Mine is very unelected right now. I tend to slant not slam shut my laptop screamed on the stairs on going to be simple as that. Maybe you want something more elaborate. Nothing shaw quick. All right well. This has been best of both worlds. I have been interviewing. Liz baker plosser on how to own your morning. We will be back with more next week on how to make work in life.
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"You'll see lightning bolts and twinkling stars and musical notes those sorts of things. But yeah a lot of the the different rubrics that pop up in our magazine and in our digital stories make appearances throughout this book and even some of the editors of women's health wrote different essays throughout and a lot of the women who are luminaries in the wellness space whether they are advisory board members to women's health jests women we featured throughout our pages make appearances as well sharing their morning routines are essays. So it's a whole giant women's health slash. Liz love fest. So tell us about your morning routine and how it has evolved over the years. You can tell us what you're doing currently and then give us sort of a tour of times in the past definitely. This is a bit of a strange time as we are preparing or fall to come. you know. it's still summer days. My children are out of school. Not commuting into hearst tower right now which is where the women's health offices are. It's a little bit wonky. Which i actually find to be a challenge in some ways without that structure and routine of like got to get the kids to the bus at eight. Oh for a Gotta be at my desk by nine. Fifteen am on the upside. It does allow me to sleep a little bit more since. I don't have to squeeze in so so many things before the tornado of getting the kids and myself out. The door begins but I'm still an early riser. Up most mornings by six. Am partially because. I love seeing the sunrise partially. Because i have no choice because i have a nine month old bernese mountain dog puppy named willa. Who is up in adam in wants her walk in the morning but my morning always begins with coffee. That makes lots of appearances in this book. And i always like to sweat in the morning. So even if it's just stretching and yoga moves or if it's a run or more Hardcore kettle bell kind of weightlifting type of workout. I find that when i move my body in the morning. I am just much more confident. Calm and clear headed and ready for the rest of the day. So those are kind of my non-negotiables and i would say whether it's now or rewind you pre pandemic when my mornings were incredibly busy and i was up at five seventeen and you know in the gym and home and showered by seven. Am or even rewinding further back to. When i was a kid and could barely pull my head off the pillow in the morning. My dad would often pull me out of bed on saturday and sunday mornings. We would go play tennis or gopher job together. It would always end in coffee. So yeah those are the staples of liz morning and It just the alarm clock has buried. And as i've added more children in animals to the mix it has become a little crazier and archaic has gone by. I was gonna say. I wonder if you could help our listeners. Out who are dealing with very young children right. Now who may wake unpredictably. Because there was a time when liz warning featured infant twins for instance i imagine it looked a little bit different than yes no for sure i mean when you have. Babies are puppies who are getting you up at all hours. You're just in survival mode. It's constant sleep deprivation. I would say that the ethos of this book which is very much about finding your core values knowing what are the non-negotiables that help you feel like a more fulfilled. Happy human. whether that's you know. Nutrition or family. Time or taking some time to write or meditate. I would encourage you as challenging as it is to build even micro west of those moments into your morning even when you are in like. Oh my gosh you know. I can barely keep my eyes open. If you know food and healthy living and nutrition or important to you. It could be as simple as having a bowl of green apples on your kitchen. Counter that you sort of glance at while you're up with your baby nursing him or her if families heim super important to you that doesn't mean you have to call your mom or your sister and have like a forty five minute long facetime or conversation. It could just be sending text. You know with a fifty emoji and saying i love you. I'm thinking about you or even just giving your sleeping child a quick hug. So i'm all about making sure that you create a nod to those things that are super important. You don't kill yourself or turn them into some you know just like nam Huge shaking that becomes overwhelming and not funding sort of defeats the.
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"Top secret super special agent. You can make up your own job title. Think about what would make you feel really excited. And then ask for that all right. So let's do our love of the week sarah. What do you have for us all right so as listeners know my sister owns a yarn store in north carolina called warm and fuzzy. And i don't it so it is very rare that she will post anything. Where i'm like you want that but obviously i follow her instagram. She is my sister and she posted this magner project bag and there was something about it that drew me to it and i was like this is gonna be my planner supplies holding bag even though it's supposed to be for like knitting projects and so she gave me a discount. She's a very nice sister. And i love it it came. It's so cute. It's mid green a perfectly nestles like my like fun pens unlike couple planners i'm working on reviewing in it's like up on my desk in like a perfect area and it just it just makes me so happy so yes canvas magner project awesome. I'm gonna do a shoutout to the national parks pass which is really such a great deal like if you think you're going to be going for american listeners. At least if you think you're gonna be going to any of the national parks in the us. You can get one pass for the year that allows your family to go to all of them. Which is very economical but even more so for our listeners. Who have fourth graders. Look into this. The us gives every fourth grader. A free perks pass if they take a little online quiz about nature and stuff and it gets your whole family in for the whole year. So if for instance you have five children who have all been fourth graders. Do ride this train for a long long time. So ruth is taking that little quiz so we can go to our national parks this year for free. That's awesome so look into that anyone who has fourth grade or before th grade homeschool equivalent. They also allow for that too. So basically anyone who's nine ten can make it work all right so this has been best of both worlds. This has been an all mailbag episode. We will be back next week with more on making work in life fit together..
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"She does. she does. Stay in the gilded change or find something else all right so our love of the week mine is going to be warning runs. I don't run in the morning all that often in the early morning because it's just hard with a baby who wakes up early and sort of trading off with michael. I often want to sleep during my trade off part of the morning but this morning i got up went for run i would pass this beautiful missed over a feel it was just gorgeous. And it was only seventy degrees. It'll be ninety five by the middle of the day but running in seventy degrees with missed is just so nice. It was a great way to start the day and yes. I'm tired because i didn't get enough sleep last night. But maybe i'll take a nap later and then i could get my nap and the run in the morning. So that's that's my love of the week. I wish we any time of the day here that you could run in seventy degrees. It's not possible because it never gets to seventy degrees soundly all right. Well my love of the week is so you'll have a phone background than you. Leave it there for like three years and you realize picture of your two year old actually five and blah blah blah. While i subscribe to some email newsletters anna. I think it was like the simplified one. And she's like. I have a summer free phone background. Now's like why not so. I put it on for summer. It was cute little summer. Wave seen was aqua very nice. An august hit and i got another letter from a different person. This one was from equal. Press with who. We had on the tania dalton on the past couple years ago and i put on her calendar as the background. The free thing. It's these free ones are polished pretty some designer made the and i just think i might like a seasonal phone background person now kind of fun. Yeah now i didn't change mine for years than last spring i put on a nice flowery scene and i'm enjoying looking at that but i guess yes i should change it again at some point. It autumn leaves so many times a day. Can you know if you put something inspiring. It could actually affect your mood. Which would be kinda cool so something to think about all right well. This has been best of both worlds. We've been talking going back to school. During the time of cova we are wishing all the best for listeners. Happy and healthy school year with lots of good things even if there will be some challenges so we will be back next week with more on making work in physio. Thanks for listening. You can find me. Sarah at the shoebox dot com or at the underscores.
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"Hi this is laura vander camp. I'm a mother of five an author journalist and speaker and this is sarah hart unger. I'm a mother of three a practicing physician and blogger on the side. We are two working parents who love our careers and our families. Welcome to best of both worlds here. We talk about how real women manage work family and time for fun from figuring out. Childcare to mapping out long term career goals. We want you to get the most out of life to best of both worlds. This is laura says episode two hundred twelve. Which is airing in late. August of twenty twenty. One we're gonna be talking back to school though with the background of cova particularly the delta very going on right now and how that is going to inform the school year and what we can all do to do our best to make sure that our children have an uninterrupted year of education that people are able to focus on their work despite this background of the pandemic going on. But we'll start with a little bit of light stuff namely back to school shopping. We just got an email yesterday. I'm very excited about so. We've done back to school episodes for a couple of years. Now and sarah has always mentioned how awesome it is that her local public school. When her kids went there had a fundraiser. We could buy all the prepackaged school supplies for the individual classes. It was great. We never had that but this year we do like. They teamed up with staples to do boxes for.
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"Was part period of time when everything was very very black and white and it felt like even discussing thinking about risks and actually calculating in thinking about why we're making different decisions was almost like frowned upon so i felt like your newsletter was one of the first places where i was like. Actually let's do some math and think about how are decisions in this context which is wildly different but headache compare to decisions. We've made at other times. Could you talk a little bit more about that. Visiting grandparents posed in kind of the thought process that went through gauging risk. And how you explain risk to people and maybe a little bit about the response. Sure so at that time. I think this was kind of we. Were coming out of these first stage of like everybody is like down. Everyone's in their house and starting to ask these questions about okay my kids daycare's reopening or you know now it's can. I see my parents in two months three months. Like can i see them or they're safe ways to do that big. You're exactly right that people had initially was sort of like there's totally black and white like don't do anything. Don't leave your. Don't leave your house but there became a point. Where at least people started thinking about not doing that and i think a lot of people felt very trapped in the question of how to think about this in the new world and so kind of what i tried to do was both give people a little data and give them a framework to think about that which started with the idea of just being very explicit. About what the question was that they were asking and in a sense of. Oh that is really obvious. I think that it was the piece that people it was a piece that was missing for a lot of people so telling people look what you wanna do is ask you know. Should i see my parents or not. But should i see my parents now or in two weeks or now or in six months or now or not until the vaccine. And i think that kind of idea that you really need to think about what. The alternatives are the concrete alternatives are. I think was already somewhat helpful because sometimes people say well you know what like. I'm actually it's not like i'm not willing to wait until there's a vaccine like i cannot imagine doing that and so then it totally changes how. I'm going to think about this choice. When i know no matter when i see them there's going to be some risk and so the question is then. How do we mitigate the rest counter we evaluate the size of the risks and then he spent a lot of time talking to people about. Okay what exactly. Can you do to make these risks smaller. What's the value of testing. What's the value of quarantine. How do we think about those. And then how big are they relative to some other risks that you undertake every day
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"Twenty one i'll be interviewing rachel rodgers. Who is the author of the new book. We should all be millionaires. Which i read and really enjoyed so. Hopefully lots of you will pick up as well sarah. You're intrigued by it as well right. Yes i'm intrigued by the title. I'm intrigued by the concept. And i started googling her as one does and her recent twitter feed. Got me even more excited. She was just talking about like kind of off the cuff about fun. Resonated with me. is that properly laura. Yes you did. Because i had listened to. Glenn doyle's podcast. Recently there was a great episode on. And how many of us including myself have trouble doing things that are purely fun and not productive in some fashion and rachel started talking about the fun she'd had with her kids on her solo parenting day and included activities such as skibo which is totally something purely fun. I mean who doesn't love that in her kids were it to anyway i just. She seems really really cool. And i'm excited for this interview. And even though i've pretty much planned on making the summer mostly juicy novels and not nonfiction. I'm gonna make an exception for rachel's book. yes exactly. Yeah i mean she makes the point and we'll talk more about this than the interview but a lot of women really. Undervalue themselves financially. I read another book recently. Called think like a breadwinner that had a very similar theme. That many of us grow up thinking yes. We're going to work. I mean this is modern times. Most women do grow up with the idea that you're doing something professionally but we still don't have the idea that our earnings could be. What establishes our family's standard of living. Because if you do think that you're gonna make different choices. And i'm not saying that all families need to be like that. Sarah and i have discussed. We are not necessarily in families that are set up that way but it is always a possibility and it's something that we can do by at least thinking that way by taking are earning capacity seriously. Like how are we investing in our career. And how are we valuing our time. This is what really got me about this book. Because rachel is preaching that we should not cut the daily coffee to save three thousand dollars a year instead spin the effort thinking how could i make four thousand five thousand thirty thousand more dollars in the next year. Don't think always about skimping thinking about growing your earning capacity and she talks about doing that as an entrepreneur as she is but there are ways to do it within more standard jobs as well. Sarah you've been really good getting more seniority. More leadership roles going on over time right. Yes and chose a low paying specialty. But i would say what. I'm doing right now to some extent i'm not doing it to maximize my earnings complete like. That's not my entire reason for doing it. But i do appreciate that by adding leadership. I am able to earn more animal to do more of what i love and make an impact in a way that i think is important so yeah. I've embraced this over time to some extent. And it's it's taken. It's been a journey but attorney. Well me as well. I mean you know especially in self-employment you can always run into the temptation to undervalue. What you do and had a lot of great messages about that. I mean people who love what they do can go. Well it'd be doing it for free but no no no. I'm not doing it for free ever anymore so we should all be millionaires. Sarah should all be millionaires. As rachel said so. Let's listen to what she has to say. Will i am thrilled to be here with rachel rodgers. Who as we said in the introduction is the author of. We should all be millionaires. So rachel welcome to the program. Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to be here. Great can you just tell our listeners. A little bit about your work and your life. yeah while. I'm from flushing queens in new york city. That's where i grew up. And i now live on a fifty acre ranch with three horses and three dogs and three children. I also have an older child. Who's in new york and my husband. So that's what my personal life is like chaos basically and then. I run a business called. Hello seven i'm the ceo where we help marginalized folks build well. is an awesome mission and as we learned from the title of your book. You think we should all be millionaires. But what's holding people and particularly women back from being millionaires. Well what isn't right. Like some of it is our stories and our thoughts. It's also the government and media right like we are it. There's a reason why specifically focus systemically and historically marginalized people which is pretty much everybody who's not assist white guy and a we can see what is happening. We can see the system ization of it by noticing that black families have an average net worth in the us of seventeen thousand whereas white families have an average net worth of one hundred seventy thousand literally ten x and those gaps continue for women who make around fifty four cents women of color for every dollar made by a white guy and those gaps. Continue for every different segment of marginalized community including clear. People disabled people people who identify as fat. It's sort of like unless you're like straight white guy you are. You know kind of kept out of this wealth-building journey and possibilities and opportunities right. They come easy to you. Typically if that's your identity and if that's not your identity they don't because literally women at least in the us. And i'm sure this is true around the world as well. That women couldn't have credit cards until the seventies women couldn't have their own bank accounts and still today. The advice given to women around finances like cut coupons and stop buying lots as if that made anyone ever a millionaire right. It just doesn't happen and so we are taught like do more with less. Be last shrink yourself. Be a caregiver. And every way pus take care of everybody else. Show up for everybody else. Don't have boundaries otherwise your bitch you know what i mean. It's just like there's so much in our society designed for us to not make money so that's why we're not millionaires. But those are all things that we can definitely overcome. Yeah and why is it. So important that people who are in marginalized groups. How more wealth. Because it's the wealthy who make the decisions you know with our politics and in our government. The wealthy are backing political candidates. They are lobbying for what they want. And our needs continue to be marginalized and our causes continued to be pushed away and not prioritized and so i think we need to have money and because money can buy you power right and so we need more of it and also to fund the causes that we care about to create nonprofits to be able to write checks. That solve problems right. What would happen if the world's millionaires were not all white guys but that they were black women and other women of color and queer people and disabled people and people who typically are not what we.
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"Somehow you learn a lot about publicity over the years but starting an email newsletter earlier would have been much better. But i guess twenty two year old laura too busy with her leather jacket to figure that out so wait. Did you do the book title. yeah i guess if you have to explain the title of a book you'll lose people suggested general. Which book does that refer to grind hopping the early career book so that was like a mid twenties kind of thing that i i wrote. There's a reason people have not heard of it on something. That's the only one. I haven't read today ago. Ever want to. You can get for it all right. Let's go to our question for the week. Do you wanna read this winner. Sure all right. And i think this is a very opera question because i think a lot of people are going through similar. Yeah so we can. We can sort of disguise it as we will be yesterday. Yes among the city in their second. That's important we'd love to hear an episode on best practices and strategies for returning to the office now that many companies are calling for their employees to return. I work in new york city at a leadership position at a major company and recently found out. I will need to be in office three or five days per week this fall during the pandemic we moved out of the city so i'm struggling with how to plan for both parents to be out of the house. Twelve to thirteen hours a day to allow for commuting. My husband has to be in the office due to the nature of his job and was for the entire endemic so he cannot work from home. There seems to be limited flexibility at my company. So i would need to prepare to have childcare five days per week if business needs require it hosted sixty hours per week any tips for making this work. Feeling like a dual career household with commutes isn't really a viable option. But i would hate to have a major setback in my career. There aren't many work options for me in the suburbs. I worry if i leave new york city than my salary cut would be substantial enough. That i wouldn't be able to afford fulltime childcare. I also don't want to be a weekend parents and barely see my children now. That have gotten so many great memories. While working from home any suggestions i realized a career is not linear and perhaps in a few years i may need to find something more part time until my kids are older. They are two and four. I think many working mothers are facing similar situations so thought. This could be a good topic to hear more about great question. Yeah i'm hearing this from a lot of people right now that you know pre pandemic. They were in the office and had negotiated. Maybe occasionally work from home now. They've worked from home full time for a year and some places are really trying to get people back in almost fulltime and a lot of people are just not interested in doing so. We had a few thoughts. I mean one is. You could move back to the city. I mean certainly some people who moved out of cities thinking that location with no longer matter if it does turn out to madder than the same rules pre pandemic applied like having a long commute is what often makes a big job unsustainable especially if you have two parents commuting and what we tend to see a lot of is that mom winds up taking scaling back because something happens in the middle of the day kid needs to be picked up at school and nobody's anywhere close to the school and it's just harder to restart a career once you've gotten off that track you can but it's hard so we suggest you could move back inner so both of you had a short commute. Both of you would be there and that might have some upsides to it. We also suggested really trying to codify this three days in today's home that this is the max that would be that you absolutely can work from home at least two days per week. Ideally that they would be flexible. You choose which ones you want to do. So you know seeing if they would want for that instead of really saying okay. Well maybe you can come back three days a week with the understanding that we're pushing toward five and then there's always the option to find another job because a lot of places are in flux right now so it is quite possible that you'll find something more prestigious better paying end more flexible and you just don't know until you look yes agree with all of those and one additional option. Is you know you mentioned the three days. Actually looking at what your work duties are and even if the rule across the board is three to five who knows maybe there's somebody immediately above her who she could explain why in her particular special case. It would be better for her to be two days. Maybe she could be a quiet exception. That is able to do things a little bit differently. And as for the moving back. They said that they had been planning on moving out anyway. So that didn't really apply to them but i will say all the news. Headlines seem to be saying that the previously extremely pricey areas of like manhattan and san francisco are actually areas. Who had the largest recent drafts in average rent. I'm sure it's still extremely expensive but like moving back when be the craziest thing especially if you're lucky you had time to move out right and your house is appreciated. A whole bunch so a lot of housing markets are still very hot right now so it could actually be strategic financial decision although caveat. Don't take any real estate advice for me. I spend as discussed from sarah's learnings she. She may have not wished to have bought the house that she bought. Yeah i have a slight fact checking thing. I have to say from what i said earlier. Apparently the original cosby trial was moved to the pittsburgh area. I think and then the retrials and sentencing hearings were in my area in our local courthouse. You like something. But why was i worried about getting jury duty or something for and then i was like okay because there was something here it wasn't it wasn't just that it was made up out of whole cloth in my head..
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"You're not going to scream. Think about what needs to be done and make a plan and that kind of attitude is so valuable in any workplace. You know if you know how to get along and get things done. I think that's incredibly valuable. Said no that you bring that because that's an incredible gift that you can bring to the workplace. That's so funny. I'm just thinking about how my most chaotic call day is still like much. Calmer than one. Solo parenting weekend like totally. My husband used to laugh at me because when the kids were really little i worked in the pediatric. Er he said it's a picture of how stressful parenting small children is that you are going to an urban emergency department to continue working with children. Because that's like your restful day. Boxing day emerging. You know at least those emergencies their staff with no one's calling me mommy. That's amazing while you have listened to the best of both worlds. You know we like to get our love of the week from our guests. And i'm going to be unoriginal. 'cause i'm kind of like looking at what's on my desk right now and i don't feel like i've given okay. This is going to be a dual of the week. Do first of all these are tombo play colored dot pens and i don't like the part at all actually it's very spongy and i can never make the dot straight. So that part's not a love but they have a fine tip on the other end. That is like my new favorite fine tip pen like they're super. I don't know like precise. And i liked him better than the better than the stettler fine better than the flares and. This is dual of the week. Because i order them from a small online shop held press dot. Nc which is based near my sister actually north carolina and they sell japanese and korean basically all different asian stationery products and With kind of a little bit of a southern she's little southern vibe going north carolina and just a great online shops. You should check it out. But you should order these pens. If you find things. But i don't know if someone can master the the dot i. I feel like the dot for those bullet colors. Yeah i mean. I do that kind of planning but i can't i just i don't i don't have the skill can't get it to you like even and it also has a lot of bleed. I'm very picky. That's all right okay. My levels week. I've been actually planning for this. 'cause i know you always ask so my level. The week are the books called one hundred one things to do on a rainy day. There's also one called one hundred one things to do. Outside an author is done. isaac. I s. a. c. my daughter my eight year old daughter found them early dern covid because she was reading the ramona books and this is always reading some two hundred two things to do and so she said mommy said a real book so added. No let's look so. We found this book the library of loved so much and it's been such a great thing during home it. My daughter will flip through on her own and get ideas. And then we've done a bunch of the activities and she's excited to do a bunch more the summer while that sounds so perfect for my nine year old that i am going to immediately after this. Go to my library hold Servants have fun doing it. I will well. This has been such a pleasure. I one of my favorite interviews. Honestly so i really am going to suggest my residents check it out. I don't know that they they know. I have a podcast. But that's okay. I guess we'll know now. So thank you still out there. We miss it was wonderful and tell our listeners where they can find you if there are any avenues. You know what you really. Can't i mean other unless you read the academic allergy literature which case i published under some of them do not or you can find my husband. Because he's a pastor and he's written some books akseli jamie dunlop and he's written a book about church budgets and church community so awesome. Thank you so much. Have a wonderful rest of your day. thank you. That was great. Thanks for that interview. Sarah so instead of doing a normal question answer today we wanted to actually share a follow up from somebody who had sent in a question to us at previously. This listener had asked for a work from home arrangement back in the stone ages of work from home which was twenty nineteen and had been told. No no that will never work for us. Our organization can't possibly work remotely fast forward of course and twenty twenty her organization like every other one of this sort of did have to go remote. They did not fall. Apart turned out that they could work remotely anyway. She wrote back. Did you wanna do you wanna share. What she she wrote to us. Yeah and this is all nice and anonymous. Don't have company name to read it pretty much. And by the way when you send us feedback about our you know our responses. It is so much fun so if we ever answer your question please let us know if the advice worked or not or anything like that all right. So she writes. Hi laura and sarah. I was thinking about our email exchange from two thousand nineteen wanted to give you an update. You ask answer my question about an employer who was restrictive on work from home on your podcast back then. Obviously with cova. The work from home world has changed for march twenty twenty two april twenty twenty one. The same employer did an about-face fulltime work from home when they go back to the office hybrid work from home will be available with two days from home three days in the office but i learned that i love working from home so much that i've found another job in my industry and a huge career upgrade at that as of last month i took a fulltime remote position as a consultant with headquarters in several hours from home. This person will go to headquarters when necessary a few times a year but otherwise we'll be in her home office. The job also came with wait for it. A thirty percent pay increase. Its own version of the best of both worlds. She writes the world is changing and all the better for working moms. Thank you both for the content. You produce. It's a lifeline for moms like me made us so that made us very happy and i love followups like this and i also want to say that. Hello original company blake. You could probably kept her if you'd let her work from home full time and gave her a raise. But you know since that didn't happen. I'm glad that she found another organization that was willing to make the appropriate steps to lure her over there. And i give her the job. She wanted at a pay rate. That was good for her. So congrats to our listener. And i also just want to call attention to this because often we think about jobs in terms of trade offs like. Oh if. I want flexibility. I'm going to have to give up. Acts like i won't be able to find a job that i love is flexible and pays a lot like i'll have to give up one of those things like okay. Maybe but the thing is careers and jobs aren't like money where every dollar is exactly the same as every other dollar. There's there's a certain efficiency in markets that there isn't in the job market because people aren't like that right so when you are looking for a job you found one that was available around where you were. You know at the time you were looking with an organization that you knew about now any of those things limiting it in a way that if you had all the information available wouldn't have been the case and so what that means is that most people have not absolutely optimized in terms of their jobs so many more simple terms. Like if you don't like your current job it is always possible that you will like a better paying one better like is high. Figured have to trade off one of those things necessarily so. Make sure that you aren't just settling because you assume you will have to. Trade off cast a broader net. Keep looking network a lot. The odds are good that you haven't optimized on one dimension which means that it's possible you'll be able to go up on multiple dimensions with your next move. Love that wonderful advice all right. Well this has been best of both worlds. Sarah interviewed dr. John dunlap about her career. We will be back next week with more on making work in life fit together. Thanks for listening. You can find me. Sarah at the shoebox dot com or at the underscores shoebox on instagram..
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"Thanks for listening. You can find me. Sarah at the shoebox dot com or at the underscores shoebox instagram. And you can find me. Laura at laura vander kim dot com. This has been the best of both worlds podcast. Please join us next time for more on making work and life work together. Hey listeners is anything interfering with your happiness. Is anything preventing you from achieving your goals. If so better help can assess your needs and match you with your own. Licensed professional therapist. You can connect in a safe and private online environment and start communicating in under forty eight hours. Send a message to your counselor anytime and you'll get timely thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video or phone sessions all without ever having to sit in an uncomfortable waiting room better. Help is more affordable than traditional offline. counseling and financial aid is available. Anything you share is of course completely confidential in fact so many people have been using better help that they are recruiting additional counselors in all fifty states. I want you to start living a happier life today. As a listener you'll get ten percent off your first month by visiting our sponsor at better help dot com slash best of join over one million people who've taken charge of their mental health again. That's better help. H. e. l. p. dot com slash best of..
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"There but yeah in the beginning. Sorta just give yourself a time target. Give yourself permission to try different things within that and then be open to feedback in what comes in love it well. This was a fun episode. People enjoyed oh. I guess we hadn't into level. We have the love of the week do we. Let's let's hope we have one So go ahead. Yeah say something. Specific i do like family meals and i know that family meals as sort of a tough topic for many people. Because it's that thing you're supposed to do and if it doesn't work for some reason in your family. It's a sign of i dunno. Everyone's going to be delinquent result. And that's just ridiculous because that's not at all with the research shows but you know it is kinda fun when we can all sit around the table at the same time and even see little henry sitting there in his highchair leaning in being part of it and it's fun to have all of us sitting there talking about stuff it never lasts long because somebody's up from their chair immediately and you know somebody's screaming about something but in the seconds of contentment but happen. I enjoy that. I will say i just love. The my kids are still at the age where they want to do stuff with my husband. And i hope that stays forever. Maybe we'll be lucky like annabel. Got the idea that she was like. Let's cook this whole kids cookbook this summer and like oh what a fun project we can do. Is rely camera out skateboarding with josh. And like i love the idea of like going with his dad. Don't get me started on a forty mid forties to late forties person skateboarding but that's another episode. But they love it and they're so happy and yeah just the fact that they still like that and hopefully we'll for awhile sounds good all right. Well has been best of both worlds. We've been talking about kids. High and low moments of parenting. What we like about each of our kids. We will be back next week with more on making work and fit together..
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"Right. We are back. And since we we're gonna we're gonna make if anybody has heard of feedback sandwich where you give something good and then you give something constructive or not so good and then you give something good this episode or -tunities for growth that this episode is going to follow that structure so this is in part because personally i feel that i benefit from hearing others low moments sometimes because it makes me feel a lot less alone when i have my own makes me feel less like. There's something wrong with me. Laura and i are going to go ahead. We're going to be a little more anonymous with this. Because again like but helpfully we have each a few kids so we're able to tell somebody the story of my anonymous without entirely telling them okay. Bye first one is in the toddler years and we had a particularly memorable flint plane flight. Where one child exploded a baby food pouch which happened to be blueberry. Of course oliver everyone in a row. The other child fell asleep and had an accident and did not want to change and had to be carried partially unclothed and whaling through the airport. So that felt like a low moment. And if you've been there well just know that you're not alone. There's somebody else carrying a naked child or the airport covered in blueberry applesauce. Whatever it is Yes so. I know. I've told this particular loam it before at some point but maybe it was one hundred episodes ago so if you aren't worth listening than back when i was pregnant with number four so i had three older children but they were not very old. We had rented a house and the jersey shore and theoretically. We're supposed to have a babysitter there or my husband there with me the whole time but that did not happen for various reasons and so i spent a lot of time rainy days at a beach house with three small children while pregnant at some point some of the children elected to start game to entertain themselves in which they jumped off the front porch railing into the bushes so i was not a big fan of that game and at one point i was out on the sidewalk. I just lost it like screaming about him. Stop jumping off the railing and the neighbors complained to our landlord about the crazy screaming lady on the sidewalk so she calls to try to suss out if there is like some sort of child abuse that needs to be reported so that was a particularly low moment for me. I was not thrilled about. Maybe your kids were jumping off to escape the yelling lady or something no. I don't know what they were. Just jumping off because it was the thing to do. Oh my goodness it interesting that those both involve vacations. I think are a. You're in a new scenario. you may have predicted. Your children would act one way. They didn't we all learn things. But at least we have memories to take away all right my seconds a little more heartfelt and you know still something lear kind of dealing with times but just receiving negative feedback from teacher about behavior especially when it's repeated and nothing changes keeps happening and you start worrying that. The kid is going to hate school readers of my blog. I've gone into a little bit more detail. But this can be tough. And i will say from a parenting perspective. When i hear other people going through this i never think to myself. Wow you must be like crappy parents. And yet. When i was going through it i absolutely was like well. I must have done everything wrong. We've allowed so much screen time. I'm sure that's the root of all evil. And i could have done things better or i should have helped my kid be more prepared or something. I don't know you do go to blaming yourself and it's been helpful to hear from a lot of people that like. They had this thoughts to but really. That's probably not accurate so we are doing proactive things. Now we've board time in into helping with things so that's good but it was kind of a lower parenting moment because it's all well and good to be. I don't notice that you can be very hands off and let kids be independent about school when they're doing a great job but when things aren't as successful it does become more difficult and you have to reevaluate what your role is so semi related. I have one child that. I'm sure people longtime listeners. Know exactly which one this is but who in any sort of group setting will sometimes get into trouble for being physical and this makes sometimes group sports just painful because you're constantly watching to make sure that he's not going to do something that is going to freak other parents out and this you know like i said a soccer game the other day where. I'm not sure. I'm not gonna say he isn't instigating it. I don't think he's always instigated because of good chance being the one who gets caught select. Somebody was like that child is kicking my kid. He's gotta be separated way for my kid. And i'm like like it's.
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"Chicken or pre veggies or something that you can easily assemble a dinner later and so i thought that that was a better take on the concept and probably makes better food too. She's got some great cookbooks. Good recipes so go check her out yes. She was one of my favorite food guests as well. She was great all right. Should we talk about what we learned from each other. Yes uh-huh about what we learn from each other. I mean honestly. My list could be very very long but it doesn't matter should be sure my shortlist of things that i have learned from laura over the past two hundred episodes or so just to let go of a lot of guilt and judgement and ask myself. If i'm going down guilty road like joy need to be what was laura say. I mean. there's definitely questioning the narrative and switching the genders. Around if something kind of seems gender-based then tell the story backwards and it will often reveal the truth. My husband actually really likes this one. I think it's eye-opening to him. Sometimes something will sound normal at like you know. Dad works very hard and his away from his children for fifty hours. If the mom did that like would you feel the same kind of okay about it like maybe what. I'm not saying. No but some has flipping helps us to view my week and one hundred sixty eight hours. Of course not every day has to be balanced. There's a lot of time in those one hundred and sixty hours and finally what we talked about recently which is like don't let one bad day necessarily spiral into a story that changes everything because it doesn't necessarily have to. Yeah well that's good. I'm glad you got that. Sometimes i need to remind myself of those things. I think one thing. I got from sarah that is surprisingly practical and useful. It's the weekend email. So i had heard on her blogger. She'd mentioned it here. But that sarah's sends her and josh copying yourself so you can have a record of two but the cruise director email about the weekend plan and as our weekends became more and more complex. I realized it was good to do that. It forced me to think through it as well. Because then i start to see like. Oh yeah we have this time available. This town is not available or were gonna need to figure something out here because we have to be three different places. There are two of us so every thursday. I tend to send michael an email. I often put a question in there to check that it is being read now. I will say he does read it because he has learned that they're excellent question. If if the question is responded to there will be like is it. Okay if i throw out your fever. Ten t shirts. Okay thanks something. He would have liked to answer. Assume yes if no response you know. I have not sent the weekend emails since kobe probably should start to get. It's really it's very useful. I wasn't i wasn't sitting at during covert and then when it's like i knew things were kicking back up when i'm gonna go. I should start sending their email again. But you know it's been good. It's how we can make sure we both have some time to do things how we get to everyone's events so that was a hundred percent copied from sarah and then i mean the fact that there is a whole world of planners out there but i did not know about and it's just broadening my life in all sorts of ways as i listened to best laid plans every week been listening to i was listening. We're recording this on monday. And i was listening to it in the car this morning. I was dropping children off at school. So i've been learning about the cool pens all the different options i can have this week. It was about if i wanted a more masculine style planner. Oh you're super uptodate. All of them. Of course this morning doing press. And so if you've ever do me the honor of allowing me to buy a planner if we could discuss what you would like in. I would be very excited. Okay and even have various credit so i could do it in an easy manner easy. Oh yeah i'm all about that. I'm almost done with my current notebook from target. Because we don't wanna waste that i'm excited. Okay we'll have to discuss this off. I'm serious okay. All right we'll see a few know enough of my planning method or non method as the case may be that you cannot do that so yeah and i also just. I mean so appreciate from sarah that she still authentic on her blog. Like and you guys see that those of you who read her blog like all that she's willing to share. I am probably not as brave as she is so learning that from from sarah and just made it's been so fun to watch how your career has grown. I mean your share ability to craft your career with multiple different aspects of the things. You're interested in as i mean. Take away what. What can i do differently. What i what should i try It's very inspirational. Thank you. I think you have a pretty cool career so i don't think you need a mess with that too much but now i've been lucky and i'm also lucky that my readers are generally really really nice. They're also. I don't think i could be as open and or reckless as i. Sometimes let's call it open not reckless. Yes all right. So let's do our love of the week which is best of both worlds. Of course two hundred episodes in if you enjoy us please leave a rating or review. If you don't like us maybe just don't like us silently as we talked about earlier. That's fine if you're still lifting listening. After two hundred episodes maybe his stumbled on the two hundred episodes. Who on earth are these people. That's fine but if you like us please leave a rating or a review all right so we have a question from a listener whose this was an audio one The same pipe if you over to sarah's blog and click on best laid plans. That's where she got the widget. I e pipe you can pipe. I asked him what would what on earth steam pipe steam punk version of this regime. Yes you don't have to do that. I speak pipe. You can leave a to ninety second question and it's just say it's for best of both worlds are we can try to figure it out to all right so listen to the question. Hi sarah laura. I'm a mom of three and my youngest child is six months old after a few months of part-time teleworking with my baby. I will be returning to fulltime teleworking with a.
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"Yeah house one hundred. Okay go for it okay. Well number one half dick shout out to my sister which was episode. One hundred sixty five she. At the time. I think my niece mariam was only a few months old but my mom. My sister is a single woman. Single mothers by choice and also a small business owner so she actually does have a really unique perspective plus. She's my sister so it was a really fun interview to do to take turns. Let's take turns. Well i mean we have some of the same ones. Interestingly so dr laura erdman think you may have mentioned her to she was the guest who talked was so. I did my list of like specific things. I've learned from guests so not not my favorite guest. 'cause i love all our guests but the things i've learned actually listening to so dr laura erdman is a obgyn who specializes to some degree in paramagazine menopause. And so she shared a lot of information about hormones and what people can expect as they enter their late thirties early forties which happens to be a big chunk of our listeners. So we got a lot of great feedback on that. And i thought that was a very helpful episode as well. That was number one hundred. Sixty nine lani lanny. I always pronouncing lanny in lender was episode number one forty one and i know you listed this as well. You mentioned her howard color concept which i love and i also just got really. I don't know if i have one concept. I just felt really empowered to focus on my work wardrobe and then ended up working with kind of in a partnership with her and did greatly improve my everyday working wardrobe as a result of that episode. So that was an impactful one. Yeah we are now. The proud owners of some unique uniqlo draping t shirts. Which hot tip are slightly nicer than your average t shirt and they're also like ten bucks or something so you can order a lot of them and it's great so lanny another tip. She knew she had the top five things everyone needs in their wardrobe and one of them was a power color. So you know what color it is for you. That people like. Oh that looks really nice on you or is that a new shirt or did you cut your hair. Usually because you're wearing something awesome. That's a great color and you should wear one of that. So another one shasta nelson. Our friendship expert assoc- was last fall. I think september august somewhere around there. Her new book was called the business of friendship which is about making friends at work. But i've since read more of her work and had before as well and she shared the message that friendship is really about repeated contact and that is why seemed so much easier to make friends like when you were in school because you could see each other five days a week you are playing on the playground together and why. It is so much harder as an adult. Because you're not seeing your friends so regularly over and over again. However many people are seeing their colleagues five days a week similar to your classmates at school and so that's why it can be a great way to make friends if you turn some of those work friends into real friends or at least make it a part of your workplace life that you enjoy a great deal more and she offers some suggestions on how to do that so i thought that was a great episode. That was a great episode one. I just all time favorites in terms of like enjoyment of recording. It was the one that we did one. Fifty eight with richie homes grant. Who made a career basically a hobby which was making table scraps and she really made a career out of it. Like she's been hdtv's she's got a thriving instagram in kind of social influence or type presence. And you can just tell. She loves what she does and she's kind of i don't wanna say grooming her daughter of encouraging her daughter to follow suit and it was just something i knew nothing about and just opened my mind to to that i think she's like one of the only career influence we've had on our podcast but i thought she did a great job. Yeah i love ritchie. She's she's awesome. And i love looking at her table scraps on instagram. So people go. Check her out. Pedigree tip from sarah powers and i don't remember if some of these are go further back than hundred because i didn't know we were only doing the last hundred but that's okay. Sarah powers is the co host of the mom our and she mentioned in the evenings with little kids back when her kids were. Small should sorta shrink the area. And i love that idea that you sort of get everything you need. Go into one room upstairs that you're not going out of that room. It sort of makes the whole evening more contained and more doable. It feels than if you're chasing three small people around the whole house. So that was a just a practical tip that if you can start shutting doors and reducing the physical space you might be able to keep a better handle on that evening craziness. Finally i will mention one of my favorite kind of pandemic. Themed guests was with kelly. Fredin who we were connected to. Maybe emily oster. We've also had on. Emily is now kind of feel like getting some a lot of press The route this pandemic some Mixed although. I like a lot of what. She has to say but dr kelly. Freedom was a pediatrician. With a lot of evidence based kind of thoughts about how to handle the pandemic with kids. And i thought she did a really great job just kind of providing a nice balance perspective that we all need it at the time. Yeah and now. I'm not sure how far. I'm going back here on. But another great tip. We'll stop with mine on this one but cats cassie joy garcia who runs the fed and fit blog. She says if you're going to meal prep on the weekend do it by thinking to yourself as your own sous-chef prepping ingredients so you can easily assemble meals later and i love this because i know that some people are given to spend all sunday cooking for the week ahead and i always just viscerally dislike that idea of spending your whole sunday. Prepping for the week ahead. But she's saying if you're gonna do it do it this way that you're still gonna be able to make fresh meals. You're not pulling love frozen. Lasagna out of the freezer defrosting. It to make it you just have you know maybe pre cook.
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"Did you. You offer your nannies a raise. When a second kid came into the picture yes and no i see yes because at least <unk>. Especially back then when our second kid came into the picture fairly soon after her nanny had started with us. I was pregnant with him when she came so she kinda knew she was signing for kids. We did yearly raises in those days. And when i say because at some point we hit kind of a little bit of a ceiling where we just started adding other things like increased bonuses and increase vacation time at cetera. I wouldn't say we added specifically because of the second kid but we did increase <hes>. Compensation anyway and i will say that you know just like for a parent sometimes. It's helpful for a caregiver to have the toddler out of the house for part of it so they can focus on the other kid especially if they're going to be doing some housework duties as well so back then. When annabelle was three in cameron was one that was probably one of the hardest parts of her job. Say harder than it is now especially because for the most part all three go to school for a significant portion of the day. But i had alan in preschool at age three even if it was just for four or five hours that really broke up the de for time that she would just have with a newborn time in part. When that new warriner one-year-old even would be napping so just took the load off a little bit so sometimes it doesn't you know it's not an either or plus particularly in non cova times preschools had have benefits to something to consider. That might make things easier for your caregiver. If you're adding more than one can. Yeah i mean. I would say like in general with any. I mean you employ in your work worker at home as well. i mean. anytime someone's job responsibilities increase substantially than than raise would probably be appropriate in our case we had always <unk>. wound up in a cycle. We are hiring new people. Like as i was pregnant with the next baby so it was like. Yeah i like you the they were signing on in negotiating with that in mind knowing the number of children that would be involved in the job and then currently we actually are any wanted to trim hours a little bit over the past year. And that's that's been fine. Because michael and i are both working at home right now. I'm not travelling anywhere. And so and we'll we'll see how that all pans out when when the pandemic is over people travel again but but for now it's it's been okay