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"bollman" Discussed on KLIF 570 AM

KLIF 570 AM

01:39 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on KLIF 570 AM

"Rollover Calif stand as smart as the story. At least six occupants of a border Patrol van were injured Thursday when an 18 wheeler cut it off on the West Texas highway. It happened about two miles east of Van Horn. The van carrying six detained migrants was traveling east on I 10 when the semi pulled out of a roadside rest area right in front of it, forcing it off the road where it rolled. All occupants of the van had to be hospitalized. The driver of the semi was unhurt but was ticketed for causing the accident. Dennis Martin l I. F news news and information time is 54. Let's go look at right now. Traffic Here's Bill Jackson. In Dallas on I 35 E South Funded Illinois. Amadou erect blocks two left lanes. It's slow going from downtown in Rowlett on the George Bush Turnpike north approaching Miller Road. Looks like the latest problem there is being cleared out of the weight. Richardson on 75 North Beltline. The stall blocks the H O V lane that adds to intermittent delays all the way from Lemon Avenue in Grand Prairie on the George Bush Turnpike South Front of Jefferson Erect is reported with Stop and go delays from Carrier Parkway in Arlington. I 20 East Bonded Bollman Springs. An earlier accident was cleared, even with all lanes open their left to back up past campus drive that's still very slow in those eastbound lanes. And also backed up on the southbound side of east Lupe 20 with Kayla traffic. I'm Bill Jackson. Now, let's get a look at your 5 70 K l F News and information forecast w F A A meteorologist Jesse Gorilla, Maybe a shower thunderstorm north of the Metroplex overnight 74. We'll see clearing.

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"bollman" Discussed on KTRH

KTRH

02:12 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on KTRH

"Present CEO Chris Bollman made the announcement on Twitter, saying it's just just not possible this year. These times are tough right now, but we have to stay positive. And if you know me, we know we're going to stay positive because I believe there's a bright future ahead so much so that I'm pleased to let you know that next year will be our 90th anniversary 90 years of the Houston Livestock Show in Rodeo. We've been here a long time. Trust me. We're not going anywhere. Bowman's his livestock show and the horse competitions will continue his private events next month. We have all the details posted and Katie are H don't calm pharmacies across Texas, starting to administer covert vaccinations a week from today, February 11th. That's when the shots start, the federal government is shipping a million doses to 6500 pharmacies nationwide. This is going to CVS, Walgreens, WalMart, Rite Aid and Costco. This is people who qualify in the one A and one B categories. CVS was the first to get their details out. You're going to need an appointment, and you could do that online. Each company developing their own portal. You start signing up next Tuesday, and these are only going to be a select locations. We still don't know which ones CBS has only got 38,000 doses that 70 locations across Texas, but it's just the first week it's a start. Nikki Courtney NewsRadio 7 40 Ktrh. A search continues at this hour after Montgomery County sheriff's deputy opened fire on a wanted felon who fled a traffic stop along the North Freeway. Texas DPS Sergeant Eric Burse said that it happened here. The Efforts Saunders Road exit just before two in the afternoon mail suspect jumped back in the vehicle and attempted to take off as he was trying to leave. Shots were fired at that vehicle. That vehicle tried to run over the Montgomery County Sheriff's Office. Deputy investigators say a female passenger fled on foot but is now in custody. 28 year old Tyler Goodson still on the loose at last check, police have set up perimeters. Around. Pruitt rode all the way to the Grand Parkway, Texas. Congressman Mike McCall, the top Republican on the Foreign affairs Committee, says President Biden made us weaker by canceling the Keystone XL pipeline, adding that the nation will still need oil and I'll have to come from somewhere else now.

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"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

In Your Corner Divorce

07:33 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

"What he wanting. One of the cool things i do is as you could totally steal if you'd like. I want more people to do it. Once we get through their anger and their fear and all their junk. I make them right number that movie scrooge i think it was called scrooge. I'm jewish. So i don't know like the christmas movies that i remember like bill. Murray back in the eighties. I feel like are the nineties. There was a movie like the ghost of christmas past go. Yeah that's yeah. Yeah okay. So i make them write a letter from their children as if they were adults and if they have more than one child after eight separate letters from that voice of that child is that each child has their own voice and the first letter is called the ghost of christmas past and they have to write a letter as if nothing changed in the way of their parenting and co-parenting and all of the things. They're doing in the letters from the adult child to the parents saying. I wish you wouldn't have done this. Look what you did to us right. And then they have to read it to me. We talk about it and then we do another session. And i make them write. The second letter is if they made all these changes and what they would say to them. What do you want your kids to save you in fifteen years about how you handle this now. It really they have to look at it. It's uncomfortable but i think they need to be uncomfortable. I think they need to be uncomfortable. And i think You know we have to be honest. And i share a lot of stories with my clients. you know i went through a very messy divorce with my parents and your hearings as my own. Yeah my own parents. it was very very traumatic. How i was four while they were in court until i was nine or ten so for five or six years you just had drama drama back and forth to court. That was a guardian. There was I remember at one point. My dad came and took us from our mom's house and my mom waited until dad went to work and came and took us back We had to write letters. I remember my dad sitting down and making us write letters of all the bad things that my mom had done. I remember the visitation plan to this day. I remember this visitation plan. And i was in second grade. They split the year each parent got six months and so the six months that we were with dad. We got every other weekend with mom and a six months that we will with mom. We got every other weekend with daft. Anyone decide that. I have no idea. That's that was awful. Thank god i had my brother. I can't imagine if i would have been an only child We missed my mom so much. You know my parents had very different. Parenting styles my face time. There is no no no debate and so the school was actually in the middle of the two parents. So you know one was this way in one. Was that way and whenever we were at one house the school was the boundary. That was as far as we were allowed to go. We weren't allowed to cross over into dad's territory And that was back in the day when we rode our bikes for hours and hours. So when you got married or had exciting celebrations where you ten and your house. How are we gonna do with both parents. So yeah so My college graduation was an absolute train wreck and right to breast friends. I put one best friend with my mom and one best friend with my dad To try and keep them apart but Because most happened when they were together it would always fight. It was always and my dad could be very very very loud And then i will tell you that when i was graduating law school. I've had enough of it. And i said i'm having i'm having one dinner. You're gonna sit there and behave or don't bother to come. I am so impressed with you. I feel i wanna hug you that you had to endure that and i'm so proud of you that you said that because you know what shame on them. They miss out. Yeah what did it. One of them chose not to show how they have a daughter that graduates from law. School exactly So i said i wasn't doing it and too bad so sad. I think is a great tool for anyone. that's listening. That's an adult child or a teenage child of divorce. Is you put back on them. And you say look. I'm doing this. I'm sick of splitting everything. You need to behave like adults. This is weird. This is happening. my salvation is this. I do not want to ruin it. If you'd like to behave and come. We would love view. And and after that i mean i think things pretty much settled down with the parents There really wasn't that many other occasions that had come up You know. I was living overseas and so my son was born overseas So unfortunately they weren't there for that but Yeah that was the point where i realized. And that's what i share with my clients is. You're trying to get your kids to force to pick a favorite in what's going to happen is you're gonna end up losing your child. They're going to have enough of this. They're going to get wrapped up in their own lives and they're going to have their own drama and breaking up with their boyfriends because there and they should yeah And so stop trying to get them to choose between the two of you so yeah. That's i'm really impressed with the work. You're doing i could talk to you forever. I have one last question. Because i know is almost up for those listening. Who are divorced or going through divorce and they hear that they're doing some of these things maybe not all of them but they know that they're not behaving like if you watching him video. They know that that's not all what advice or guidance. You have for them right now. What i will tell everybody is that there is a workable solution. For every problem. We can find a way. It's gonna it's gonna require compromise. There's going to have to be a little bit of give and take but there is a solution to every problem that is focused on the wellbeing of the child. And that's the ultimate goal. So you know sit down. Think about it. Think about how you can make it work work with a professional a mediator a mental health provider. There's lots of counselors out there that do co parent counseling. Period coordination is becoming more prominent use a parent coordinator. They're not all the same And i don't know where you're you're you are but how. Oh okay. okay so ohio and we have to have very special training and you don't. You can't just sign up and take the training. You have had judicial approval to take the training so work with one of these professionals that has seen a lot of this and we'll have two three four solutions that we can tweak work through. This is almost like a scared straight episode for my listeners because the majority of them are really trying avenor start of worse and they kind of veer off the path once in a while and this is the extreme of what their life could be like. If they don't do this really important work. Which is why i don't Do what you're doing. I do just coaching as you know. I'm not willing to work with a client. That's not willing to make these simple choices. Because they don't want this they don't want that result and i can't convince them that they do otherwise they're gonna end.

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"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

In Your Corner Divorce

07:13 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

"Over this parent is going to attack this parent. Because i did something In in its crushing to hear that this little girl who's supposed to be having fun with friends and enjoying her activities sitting in a counselor's office for the second year in a row crying because she lost a bra. And i tell you something. That's so cool talking to so i re- so my memoirs came out in a shared my whole big story and the divorce was the hardest ever made but it was absolutely the right one and we are doing a loss job. And i'm really proud of that and that is why i up going to divorce. Coaching is different things that i was doing that. I wish i would have done in the beginning right. And when you're talking about this extreme level which i know is happening all the time it literally brings tears to my eyes and i'm not a very emotional teary person because i believe what you're doing. And what the message that the world needs to hear is like what you said. Stop it like this is not acceptable. But if you're rain your children not only that you're gonna destroy your grandchildren. Yeah you're gonna destroy whoever they come in contact with in. It's because you're so and selfish but you can't see yeah. It's i don't understand why that is not so clear but it's not because we get so stuck in our own stuff. Well there's also the mentality it's one of the reasons i hate doing straightforward divorces is Because my brethren have created this will. We're going to stick it to him and we're gonna get you all this money You know and my neighbor will. She's giving eighteen hundred dollars a month in child support. Why can't i get that well. Ohio has rules. I don't know where your friend is from. But you know we don't leave a father one hundred dollars to survive off of. Don't you want your children have a balanced home life. Most of them. Don't i i now right when when we're talking about those kinds of divorces and they get to me Typically and i can usually packet right away. And i will tell them at the intake. I can tell you you're going to be very upset with me in a few weeks. You're not going to like what i'm going to have to say. And then i will call their attorney and say listen. I'm going to change this mentality or your client is going to be very unhappy with me because i'm not putting up with this. We're not putting up with unless there is something wrong with dad. There's no reason why mom must mandate that. He's going to have supervised visitation. There's no db there's no drug use. There's no other concerns well He and i just can't get along so it just needs to be supervised now now. I'm not buying that. So as i said knock it off which big girl pants on. And let's figure out how we can do this moving forward so that you can both co parent your child and these these are typically. The parents are very very upset with me. I have been called a lot of names in that. I've been getting a lot of long text messages like ranting area and i have to remember. This person is very emotional and angry. And i just keep redirecting them insane. You are at a crossroad choice. And you could stay stuck in this anger or you can say to yourself. What can i do to make the best possible choice for my child right and you have to let go of what your preconceived notions were eye of what it was supposed to look like the best possible choice. My child is stay together. And i say like sheryl sandberg set when she wrote option b. action is no longer available right. This is option b. And i hear it so much from you. Know my mom's. I can't be away from my baby overnight. I can't be away from my baby overnight. What makes that any different for a dad. You're saying it's okay. what. But i'm the mom. I'm the mom keep it. This is the dan right and dad had been the one that was doing bath time in books and now that's changed and you're saying he's not allowed to miss that as much as you're gonna miss that it's just. I don't think that when people go to the divorce they understand all of the factors that are going to happen. Which is when. I do figuring it out. I tell them the ugly side of everything. And i told them that whether you stay together whether you decide to part the work that you're going to do is incredible. Yeah there's pain and sacrifice either way even in the best case scenario of divorce you're gonna miss your kids but that's why they're supposed you create a life that they're excited about but you know i get what it feel a hundred percent tarrant before ours. Our fifty fifty and that was really a very painful change for me but i would ask myself. Think about the people that you know historically who don't have a father in their life. Yeah how well does that go for them. How does it go when they hunger so badly for a relationship and you are gonna stand in the way of that. I'm not going to stand in the way when i am a healthy willing. Father who just wants an my ex will never admit this in. It's okay but he is a better father today because of our divorce than he ever been together because he got to show up. And i think that's true of a lot of the dads. They're going to do one or two things they're gonna show up and they're going to realize i'm this close to lose in what i have or they just walk away and say i'm just gonna take my wednesday and every other weekend and you know for for some parents that works for some kids that works You know for some kids at doesn't and unfortunately in the culture that we live in We have kids from all walks of life. And you know i try to make the parents understand that. All the relationships need to be healthy. And so for example. If i have a parent that has a mental health issue or has a substance abuse issue. I tell them. I'm on your side and when you demonstrate a period of sobriety or when you demonstrate that you are engaged with a mental health provider. And you're taking your medication as prescribed. We're gonna make sure that you can the parenting time. But i can't arrange for the parenting time if you're not healthy so because ultimately for you who is your alternate interests mckee the kids my kids. Yeah even with me. I mean the clients that are hiring us are adults but our our job is to protect. The children and i will put it right to their faces. What.

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"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

In Your Corner Divorce

07:59 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

"What it gets ugly it depends how do you create boundaries for yourself and your clients so i don't typically have a lot of boundaries. There are some things that by our local. I can't do. i can mediate anything. The idea the pirin coordinator is i have some authority to issue decisions and recommendations And i will typically file those with the court if i cannot get mutual agreement. Certain things i can't do. I can't modify any domestic violence orders or protection orders or things like that and i can't go from mom being a residential parent to ordering them to do shared parenting. That would come in the form of a recommendation But i can order for example that there's gonna be a clothing exchange on wednesdays. I can order for example that there's to be no communication service providers about the shared parenting plan. And i can do temporary changes of time. So for example is A very important function is coming up for one of the parents and the other parents like too bad. It's my time. I'm going to order that you send the child for example for russia or something like that mom you need to the the following week. You're gonna make up that time now. If they already have plans or mama already had plans. I don't force the issue. But i do say. Let's put a plan in place for next year to make sure that this doesn't become an issue again right so balanced if it does you'll bounce. I've had one where Is one of the first ones they did. Actually where right before every summer break. When dad would was due to get his summer holiday time mom would file some outrage motion. That i it was physically abused the child that it was bad sexually abuse to the child. Whatever the case was there was always emotion causing dad not to get his parenting time for the summer. And so at the time that i was appointed was before summertime. And so i. I did make the decision in filed with the court and mom had to turn the child over for summer vacation Those those things. It's i want to get into the topic that you mentioned earlier about the treating mental health disorders issues for these children that are growing up. How could it not affect them so negatively to hear that kind of language especially when it's not true to just be ending talk to me about what you've seen. How much interaction you have with the children or is it. Just the adults still. I will sometimes interact With the children I try to limit that especially if a guardian is involved and keep in mind. I also do an expensive amount of guardian light on work. You do i do. yeah okay. So sometimes my roles i use some of my parents coordination techniques when the guardian For example i have a case. Now i've talked to the children. They're a little bit older. Twelve and fifteen on the one parent is saying one more one more time in the kids are saying. We don't want more time. And he's saying what mom's forcing them to say that to you and so i really had a conversation with the kids about what were their concerns. What behaviors were causing them. And i don't want to hear what mom told you what you tell me what you've seen. Tell me what you've heard. Tell me your direct experiences that are causing you not to want to do this I've had I do a lot of situations where the kids have a mental health provider. I will work hand in hand with the mental health provider And say okay. We're going to start working on these parenting behaviors. Can you check with the kids and a couple of weeks to see. If they're noticing improvement or the mental health provider will call me. And say gosh there. Was this huge. Blow up and child came to me sobbing and then i have to get the parents involved in. Say what happened. How can we fix this. And how do we make it better going forward. You can't keep doing this to your child. The embarrassment the sheer embarrassment. They don't realize sometimes how much they're embarrassing their kids. Just of all of the drama all of the drama of one parent showing up to school because the other parent wasn't gonna turn the child over for parenting time so to make sure that he got his parenting time. He showed up and pick the child up a little bit early from school. This kind of stuff is so stressful for the kids. And then we use the kids as messengers and messages get mixed and then this parent says well. I don't know why your mother would have told you that the reality was. It was like a game of telephone writing. Things were lost in translation. Now we got a child. It's upset and crying to her counselor. Or sometimes i've had a phone call from the school counselor. That says the child's asked me to reach out to you about this going on. She says you don't have a mature adult in their life. That decisions it is. The parents are trapped in their own stories and neither of them are acting like a parent correct correct. In fact i've i've had the conversation with a couple of them And one of my favorite lines is knock it off. Stop it you know. You are causing problems for your children. Knock it off. Have you ever seen a transformation. Has there ever been like an issue that was consistently horrible and then something broke them. Open one of the parents. Tell me so there's been there's been quite a few of those and sometimes it takes them hearing from myself and from. Maybe the child's counselor. Your behavior is creating a mental health issue in your in your child and let me tell you what that looks like you tell me you have a problem with child because this this and this let me show you. This is directly related to your behaviour now. Mom and dad. I need a commitment for you that we're gonna try something for six weeks and then we're going to see if those behaviors don't improve and so all of a sudden we see improvement and behaviors. Like oh my gosh. You know we're really doing this like kind of new changes you offer them. Implementing we'll kind of protocols We do exchange protocols we do clothing protocols we educational protocols we do. We set up parallel parenting so that we remove the incentive for the child to misbehave when it's time to go to the other parents house which sometimes will happen when we have the helicopter parent versus the free range parent We put communication rules in place which basically says if what you're about to say as no value to the conversation you're not allowed to say it so we're talking about baseball bat than the conversation needs to be about the baseball bat We're not going to talk about you only to you always lose it. How could you leave it out in. The rain was irresponsible. What that's doing is creating anxiety in the child. There's always going to be a problem no matter what whether it's my clothing. It's a problem. I lost a sock. It's a problem. We had A young lady Who was having anxiety attacks because she misplaced. One of the parents bras that they had bought for her. She had a set at mom's house in a set at dad's house and being over misplaced resin and she was very active child active in a lot of extracurricular activities and spending time with friends. It's bound to happen..

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"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

In Your Corner Divorce

07:52 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

"It's the clothing exchanges. It's the sporting equipment. Exchanges it's Certain behaviors that. I don't tolerate. We're not going to prohibit for example a child from saying hi to dad because it's mom's day own my lord. Please tell us right now. The the behaviors that you don't tolerate. Because i know that it's it sounds ridiculous. Say it out loud but this is actually what's happening so tell us behaviors that you see that you do not tolerate because i i have to that. I don't tolerate. I want your list. So don't tolerate any name calling of any that's one of my that is just encapsulating of there is no negative talk ever the other parent ever under no circumstances in that includes if someone else is in the room saying it about them you shut it down right absolutely okay. Don't talk about your dad that way If there's a problem let's talk about the problem. Or like another relative saying it about their father or their mother that down right I don't permit sort of during exchanges. I limit what they're allowed to communicate about and they're not allowed to go beyond that scope And i there's been a couple where i've said the next report that i hear. I wanna hear that you had a smile on your face and said hey how are you. Johnny had a great weekend. Because that's what. I expected to be in front of the kids. So i don't allow any name calling or negative talk about the other parents I don't allow any sort of this. These games that we play in extracurricular activities where one parent Can't the child can't talk to the other parent because it's mom's time or whatever so that's my second omen two in my second one is under no circumstances. Are you just sit in separate sections. You are in a public place. No one's gonna physically harm each other. There's people all around you don't sit next to each other on into their laps but you can sit in the same row or in the same sections so when your kid hits a first base run the gop to one place. He gives me chills every time. I talk about it to have that moment where they have to look in multiple places. Because you're so selfish you can't be in the same space on the you wanted to live with for the rest of your life right and you you've created this child together and The other thing is i. Don't i've shut down a couple of where we start talking to service providers the school the coaches about while our shared parenting plan says this our parent coordinator told me that we have to do this. All you need to say to that service provider is. Can we schedule an appointment when i can get The data on the phone or is it. Okay if i pay you half and dad pays you have. Would you prefer one of us. A you in full not bringing their drama in garbage. All over haider's right right and for the really really high conflict. Unless there's an issue of poverty I mandate that they get on our family wizard and app or they have to message each other and then they get in trouble for tone no. It's not that they get in trouble for tax trouble. But like i have a client that if they don't when they write something the person in the middle season and they have to have a specific tone. So would i typically do is i use that. It's a it's an court-approved communication system and has a calendar function. It has an information bank. It has an expense reimbursement function. It's a fantastic tool. I like to use it to monitor communications. And then when i see a communication that's gone outside of our rules i say okay. I label it parenting exercise and say i want you to redo this email to comport with our rules Or if a situation happened over the weekend outdo parenting exercise. Please tell me what you could have done differently yet. Plus regarding that one of my clients who was working so hard to have star divorce regardless of what her co parent one city or doesn't want to do is involved in a situation. They have one week on one week off. Shared parenting which i actually find to be really painful for the children It's really it's really emotionally painful especially for young children to be away from apparent for that long but she is not allowed to talk to her own children for a week. Only giving like trout times the whole week and i'm like why would you do anything to take away the ability to communicate with the other trial like that with the other parent like why would why would any parent say no. I don't want to talk to your mom or dad now and i don't typically You're told that by one of your clients. What are you. So i tell them. The typically i don't allow those kinds of restrictions Is is a you know you're divorced not theirs and that We're trying to help them get to a new normal. Yes what what. A lot of parents don't understand. Is that the divorce and having to split. Two homes is a traumatic experience for kids their whole life. Sometimes they're now at two new homes because the marital residence. That's what we did four blocks away on purpose because we wanted them to be able to ride their bike and dad's house mom's house to get a cord. You forgot and to be in the same neighborhood on breaks. Yeah so you know. I tell them you know. Let's have a phone call during quiet time at the end of the day so that mom can say how was your day will get you in jamie makeup. I remember you told me yesterday. You had a fight. This allows both parents to stay integrated into the child's life and have those sort of intimate moments with their kids where they have shared stories. Well i'm really talking to mom about my friendship with suzy. Because i'm not comfortable talking with that about it but you know but then there's some things going on you know the dad's helping child work through and they wanna be able to just call and say. Hey guess what happened today or download them study for a on friday and then it's mom's week next week. The has to wait a whole week to find out how you get on your idea. Restricting any access to someone's parent right almost feels abusive I think it's traumatic. I mean i think you're you're telling the child that there's something inherently wrong with you wanting to have contact with your paren- on my parenting. This is my parenting time. It's all about them and it's all about nine one right. This is an the parents. This is your problem you need to get over it. I love you you might rain. How go ahead mike. Famous line is suck it up buttercup and get over it. I am stealing. And i'm gonna tell you tolerance yours but it's true i just had so i also offered the service of cold figuring it out. Which is sue. Hard and i basically sit with one client at a time in then two of them at a time and we just lay out the facts that he would never tell someone what to do. I believe in marriage and love. I also believe in healthy divorce. Whatever is right for your family. But when one parent decides that this is what the right choice for them and the other one doesn't want it no matter.

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"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

In Your Corner Divorce

05:43 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

"Can you.

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

In Your Corner Divorce

07:30 min | 1 year ago

"bollman" Discussed on In Your Corner Divorce

"Regardless of how we find ourselves in the world of divorce the one thing we have complete control over is how we behave from here on out. We have two choices. One is to remain stuck in the stories. The anger and pain in the other is take a breath. Adjust our sale to the wind in work harder than ever before to create a new story for our children for ourselves and for the world around us. It's your choice your work. But i'll be in your corner welcomed in your corner divorce. Podcast my name is carly israel. And i am your host. Today i have the privilege of talking with christina bullman christina. Welcome thank you to be here. Thank you christina. Isn't experienced attorney. Mediator parenting coordinator christina works with all the high conflict parents to resolve issues. Just those words ultra high conflict. Give me a stomach ache. Can you tell me what that looks like. So this is where there is little to no co-parenting relationship. This is where we have kiddos caught in the middle. This is where conflict has been going on post divorce from multiple years Or during the divorce. This is where the parents have repeatedly returned to court for contempt or motions to modify. This is where we have outside service providers being drug into this. You know we're arguing with baseball coaches in schoolteachers. We're having to have multiple parent teacher conferences. we've had. Some parents have been asked not to come onto the browns. I mean we're talking the cream of the crop. The worst of the worst. We have very little communication skills on the other hand. We do have some that. The court would call alter conflict and typically if we can put some protocols in place in some rules for communication. We see that things. Settle down pretty quickly. So how does the client get to you. So mind will typically come through court appointments and the reason that we choose to do this is because if they come to me privately they pay private practice fees right if they come through the core. I'm appointed pursuant to a local rule. They pay the courts Fee which is typically between sixty and seventy five dollars an hour I'll either come. Because i was referred by a guardian Or attorneys that. I've worked within the past Most of the magistrates in our local counties. No what i do That kind of thing so it's typically through a court appointment or referral from guardian. And are you meeting with both parents. Just one always both so typically the way i do it is. I do an intake with both parents. I really need to figure out what the issues are. And then we start at what the question is. What are you seeing. Are the big ticket issues that are just consistently at your at your door. Every cases a little bit different Some of the bigger consistent issues we see is one or both parents have mental health issues or personality disorders We see conflicts because there is two very different parenting styles either one is very permissive and the other is very strict Or we have sort of the helicopter parent in the free range parent in. It doesn't mesh well together. The crux of all big issues. It's communication off an understanding and respect for the other parents and respecting that. You know mom says. I have a concern about this. Not throwing your hands up and saying oh my goodness you make such a big deal out of every paying and really truly showing respect and saying okay. Well let's talk about this and let's see if there's anything that we can do to work together about this we'd compromising it is and you're not. You're not asking someone that is not able to do something to do it. Because you're mad. I have a question for you re in regards to that. 'cause i know you have more say about that putting aside which you don't get to do but i get to do because i can't work with for clients. I can't work with someone who's got mental health issues. Because i'm not experienced enough to do that and there's an it's a whole different boat so putting aside those do you still see ultra-high contract ultra high conflict when there are minus the mental health issues. The other issues mentioned absolutely. I do too and what i want to ask you and i feel like it's kind of simple so much work is i tell i tell clients that the number one reason that their children will be harmed by not showing up at events because the other person's there by putting them in the middle by saying negative things about them by allowing to say negative things about their parents by doing lots of passive aggressive. Yucky stuff is because they're selfish correct and they're not willing to do the emotional work. It's gonna take to get through their story so when i work with people. I'm a coach. So i have the ability to kind of be hard and i'm like look you get to tell me your story one time and then we're done with it absolutely and i say the same thing. It's great that you gave me some background information. I want to talk about what we're going to do going forward. Yeah because here's the thing. The decisions already made. They're no longer together. So you are talking about what happened in will unravel what. They didn't what she did. It doesn't matter. The marriage is over. Your only priority is. How can we best raise these children in something that. I think that you definitely can connect with that i do. I actually believe that what you're doing. What i'm doing are very similar. It is it is it is and that we can literally change the landscape of divorce for generations to come because like you said before we started talking and we're going to really get into it. We're creating mental health issues. Children are growing up to be teenagers and adults who get married or in relationships who have children and then it keeps repeating and repeating yup. Were perpetuating this Sort of some of the belief systems. I i have sometimes referred to it as the golden uterus syndrome. Where just. Because you're the mom i you know i'm the mom i get to make all the rules while we don't we don't do that anymore. And it's not shut up that and pay your child support anymore And then we talk about the dads because for a lot of our dads what. Co-parenting is is new for them. They're actually learning how to be a parent her wrecked and and i always tell them you know they say oh well you know. I don't know when. I don't know this okay. But you've just totally you want shared parenting and shared parenting. Means you have to share in the parenting and that means that when juniors sick you don't call mom you gotta meeting..

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"bollman" Discussed on WMAL 630AM

WMAL 630AM

03:16 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on WMAL 630AM

"Empowering a healthier you so this is how it works I'm just watching CNN during the break and Jim Acosta is saying is not going great for the White House today Anthony Fauci has been contradicting the president all day and most recently pointing out that the virus is ten times more lethal than the flow so the drive by media has their headline based on something found she said but they're leaving out the lead they're leaving out the main point of charges now they're even lying about south G. contradicting trump all day long now Anthony found he's got his work cut out for it means having to contradict the president all day long my pointing out today the virus is ten times more lethal than the flow it doesn't matter the fact what sound she said that that's ten times more lethal than the flow figure actually brings the corona virus fatale only rate lower than official estimates why can't they say that why can't they say that the new discovery is that the corona virus metallic rate is not three to six percent is one percent and falling by the way well because it doesn't fit the agenda because there's a political agenda behind this they have weaponized this and they're doing everything they can to damage trump this is no more than the continuation of trump Russia collusion and the meddling and all that and we have the Ukraine impeachment protocol Seoul tough not to just blow my gasket sitting here folks because every day my instincts are proven right on the money don't ever become a conformist the best way to be made a fool every day is to become a conformist some of the best product inventions happen as a result of pure curiosity Bollman brand shoes came about this way a husband and wife couple discovered what a great night's sleep they got on a pair of luxury sheets in a five star hotel they had never experienced sheets that felt the way these dead in their five star hotels where they wanted to find out where they came from how they were made how much they cost they went in search of sheets like the ones in the hotel they found them in retail stores and I found that cost a thousand dollars and I said well all we're not gonna spend a thousand dollars on a pear shaped we're just not gonna do it so they determined to invest the time find the materials and see if they could make their own sheets for a much more reasonable price point so they went out they found what they thought was the best fabric thank you yeah the end up being the softest sheets that they can make and then they share them with family and then with friends and I ask for feedback and the feedback was awesome and that's how Boland.

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"bollman" Discussed on C-SPAN Radio

C-SPAN Radio

01:40 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on C-SPAN Radio

"It was all about raining grab his coat tailing has some if I come to Washington can I stop by CDC as mobile how old were you I was about twelve and a half at thirty thirty you took off for Washington at thirteen yes Maybank hired Bollman to sweep the capitol steps for two dollars a week he worked his way up maybe in the country's most powerful politicians and enjoying an insider view of Congress your part of this committee for five years everything that comes in everything that goes out into all of the business every senator and everything he was close with Titans of the hell like Jesse Helms and segregationist Strom Thurmond here is bringing in the cots when Thurman filibuster the nineteen fifty seven civil rights bill for twenty four hours straight we did a lot of things behind the scenes that no one is seen in this film mostly what seven noon with it don't do it all myself so you keep that to yourself by the mid sixties he was on the foreign relations committee where he mentored a young man from Arkansas bill Clinton was a messenger we have fallen and I felt like a complete idiot though typically used to build a set who's the residual constantly Hyman overactive push these up a little more these days Bowman prepares to room for committee hearings checking mine sometime I was escorting wetness and keeping time one senator Jim Risch starts now here so I know you're the chairman but who runs the committee he does clearly we all take orders from.

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"bollman" Discussed on ESPN Chicago 1000 - WMVP

ESPN Chicago 1000 - WMVP

01:33 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on ESPN Chicago 1000 - WMVP

"Russell Westbrook on the bench coming in from the login yacht Yanis one all euro we did also I think it's got Christmas and he really go wrong you really can't should be a lot of fun hope you join us Troy Daniels with a three out of the timeout miss but who's the right they're offering to rebound and puts it in for the score one ten ninety four in favor the Lakers under eight minutes to go to be a fun weekend in the way sweetie sitting there on ESPN radio Jordan pull is pool heating up the rookie out of Michigan we had that buzzer beating three against Houston early in the eighteen NCAAs on their way to the championship game which they lost by the way their castles all over the world there's a lob for James makes the catch somehow on the sideline doesn't step out and finds your veil McGee right at the Cup I thought he got bush and I think how do you fall out of bounds he gets that call what you think yeah I think we would add that Lee whistle tennis is for lebron James tonight because of what thirty five games now reset at least ten assist one twelve ninety seven in favor the Lakers Jordan pull in traffic for three in and out of print supported tell we could grab it James has it lebron's with his brother this thirty fourth game of ten plus a six years James for three missed it on top the Skylanders soon as the Golden State rebel he's the only guy in the league averaging double digit assists and he's almost eleven per game hi Bollman try.

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"bollman" Discussed on NewsRadio KFBK

NewsRadio KFBK

01:34 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on NewsRadio KFBK

"Is left in the field to rot that's the news I'm you can make all his good evening nine oh three on Bob Williams in the KFBK traffic center I has reporters of push person standing in the roadway fifty eight hundred block of manzanita Avenue this is near hilltop drive what else is going on I'm awful lot pretty quiet out there not found sunrise Boulevard of winding way has reported there to the disabled vehicle in the turn lane the number two lane there blocking the south side of the intersection sees peace the scene so that should get cleaned up fairly quickly not a lot of construction activity is kind of went out there long term projects to would just be aware of eighty westbound shoulder work from Bollman to Haynes in plaster county also work on the offramp lanes north and southbound five at the garden highway east bound garden highway some surface street work between in garden highway and the el Comino Avenue over cross is going to be actually this is on my I. five on the side there watch out for that also southbound five one of the two pocket road on ramps to southbound five is close to the twentieth of December and your long term project for the Thomas levee project wing includes the closure of the garden highway from west of trucks sold to north cable of our next update at nine thirty three traffic every ten minutes mornings and afternoons news ninety three point one KFBK for calling tonight we'll see a little rain and drizzle later one will be forty to fifty two and then for tomorrow we start out with a leftover shower in spots but otherwise just mostly cloudy skies as we sixty to sixty four any kind.

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"bollman" Discussed on KLIF 570 AM

KLIF 570 AM

01:41 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on KLIF 570 AM

"Off of it like it's tough which is ridiculous in itself but you know what is going to the I think it's cool truck I like it it is a cool idea it'll change by the time a release by the way item for someone tell me I should invest in test for about a year ago I should've because that cyber truck thing up Tesla shares up four percent after that hello so that's a stock continues to go up two hundred thousand pre orders no you bought a car to stand you're really into the whole thing I love it seven thirty five right now let's check the traffic on the fives again here's bill Jackson well first of all the miss getting through the grapevine on one fourteen east the Texan trail or wrecked blocks the left lane and then on the six thirty five eastbound ramp from one twenty one there's an accident all of that's close enough together that that that is really turned into one long back up now to get through the grapevine heading from grand prairie into Dallas on I. thirty eastbound at loop twelve all Walker the left lanes blocked by a wreck on six thirty five there are accidents no eastbound at Plano rolled eastbound and Jupiter the Jupiter run wreck was first so that the second what happened in the back up and that means that jammed up getting through all of that was but it's adding to the delays with onlookers and it only took like twenty once bonded Bollman springs an active it's been moved to the right shoulder with KLIF traffic on the flights and bill Jackson it's that time of year again head like savings time when the light gets darker and you need a fresh pair of headlights that are up to the task can't remember the last time you replace your headlight bulbs well now is the time visit headlights savings time dot com to find your perfect bowl I'm meteorologist ran breezy and seventy eight today with south winds ten to twenty shifting north tonight low mid forties.

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"bollman" Discussed on WZFG The Flag 1100AM

WZFG The Flag 1100AM

03:29 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on WZFG The Flag 1100AM

"Works it to the left Zack yes it's a metal and puns that gets her second kill no kills in the first set to win the third Grove claims a ten nine lead site out four times in Kelemen get the back on a dig tell Burke and Burke fires and she raises her right index finger has her team has an eleven nine lead grow by two over Thompson when a nother service air service error number seven four oh girl that's on telling me mackenzie Hughes on the server for the girls' Indurain Thompson a block at the net by jaded sites I have that as Sackets well to grow with the lead Grove just one said one set away from the semis and right now things are going sour four times in Alice in now within a year down the left line in Oak Grove five three now with a thirteen at ten lead Berg rises stationary serve with the right hand Thompson from right to left here's Oak Grove Burr of with a quick says nine Miller it's Bob to the front in its kept alive nice job by Bollman in the front row and boldly somehow get the you go in as the first kill of the game for a moment thirty to eleven in they must have sensed the energy just a little bit as you may see your time over two hundred close to three hundred kills on the season team desperately needs her and here's another attack if he does it again your time with two straight killed for Thompson in were tied at thirteen remember other other scores around the region so far all Fargo teams have won science three nothing over Bismarck they win the final set twenty five fifteen role is looking for a clean sweep here in day one can they get it but another air at the net four times in six points growth lead Oak Grove at fourteen thirteen against that Tom said Tommy's can the defending state champs stave off elimination or will the rising Grover's take control nine Miller hates it at the net another violation on the time these in that point four nine Miller fifteen.

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"bollman" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader

KNBR The Sports Leader

11:52 min | 2 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader

"Now lead by thirteen ten minutes to go they're playing well tonight but yeah stray mondegreen had I think kai Bollman fall on him and his elbow I mean it was pretty violent play accidental of course but the elbow went down now with all that said it looks easy checking back into the game he's checking back in with the sleeve on so that as the ball well either they are they took a look at it in dream on green is now coming back in to the game but the injuries just continue to pile up and you know it if it's just so it's so are the way and I wonder if you all agree with this the way I react to everything that goes on with this team this year of course you don't want anyone to ever get hurt but everything gets process so differently think about the injuries that happened over the last five years because they happened obviously they have been in the finals and in the playoffs this last year with both Durant and clay but there was such an immediate heart falls feeling of disaster taking over when those injuries happened now this year you look at it and you think first thought is are you kidding me like really another one but the second thought is and I've said this a couple of times about Steph curry at least without one there is a very clear silver lining to me and I I I tread lightly on not because we don't ever want to make it sound like another human being getting hurt is is okay because you're never read for that I don't want anyone to be in pain I don't want anyone to have their other career go through a bump that said I would comfortably if given the opportunity even explain this directly to staff if you were sitting in front of me I would just be like my man you have earned some rest and I think I could do you well on the long way I think for clarity and staff their legs getting arrested after what they've done the last five years is not the worst thing in the world and then beyond that there are there are the team issues specifically to staff I think this is going to be a really hard here for him personally I think the defense is we're gonna triple team him I think the warriors were probably not gonna win a lot of games anyway and therefore NBA Twitter was gonna take off and start talking about see I told you so the staff was just a product of his environment wildly unfair and now he's protected from that the third part of it is if the warriors lose a bunch of games and get a really early pack that's not the worst thing in the world either I said this a number of times they can be amazing that still I mean amazing next year if you think about healthy staff healthy clay healthy loony that are easily drain ma if you get creative on a trade with the as low Russell I think that's possible you have now found Eric paschal you would have an entire offseason not hard capped for Bob Myers to go to work Hey on a lottery pick as a whole lot of stuff that is all whole lot of stuff to play some basketball for shark okay robin Saratoga on these boards later hi rob what's up what's up guys on so I'm looking at it Jimmy G. Q. and then in addition to everything everyone just said and this and that barking up the team my I mean this guy gives me hope confidence and style I mean this guy is that Steve McQueen a football I might like on Sunday man on Sunday I no joke or a blazer and in a red and gold pocket square and there it is and and yet he has the five and I'm like rolling into work in it Dan he rubs off on a lot of fun at all say this rob I I I kind of get what you're saying because to me I appreciate the call Hey I feel like if you go back through the history of the NFL when a team is either really good or really interesting one of the other if not both it often has to do with the cornerback not always but the quarterback in other words somebody who by himself is on entire subject that the work place the next day somebody who takes you on a journey every Sunday ops downs all my gosh I can't believe you did that all my gosh I can't believe you did that that's when the team has a quarterback that's the manifestation of the equality we always hear about now historically we forget that the previous if quality quarterbacks in forty Niners jerseys we forget that they ever made mistakes we forget that that's what history does Joe Montana never throw peg Steve young never don't take Michael Jordan never lost a playoff game that's what history does Kobe Bryant we're getting close to Kobe Bryant never lost a playoff game we're getting there and then we throw all of that lebron realize that like fifteen years from now lebron will have never lost a playoff game in that crazy sees actually usually loses the files but history forgets the losing when you're in it sometimes it's all you can think about all you can think about Jimmy control four hundred thirty yard four touchdown games and you're like that damn Reds on pack we can drives you nuts down sixteen points score thirty six goal for for twenty four four touchdowns clearing a two minute drill when we can read zone interception I mean it's it's actually kinda laughable when you take all along if you take a long view it is really kind of funny that anyone would come out of the game in your life not too sure about those pics like man you are ignoring all whole lot of stuff you think Brett Farr didn't take fans through this journey I mean holy smokes one of his most famous passes ever was a terrible pick now there wasn't a Green Bay fan base but Minnesota's fan base or one of his most famous passes ever you know ME I was at the OSHA title games initially thought okay so the grades do this and I'm not calling Jimmy great yeah we're just we're we're too early but he's not doing anything out of the norm it kind of feels that way I think it's just because we're in it we're just in the midst of it let's see how about Matancera fell him out it's going on tonight if you are a man I'm guns going on before I guess my point I think robin Saratoga just had is his stash delivered before I called you well I know I think he had a moment I don't know if he was you know encouraged by any outside substance I just think I just think you got a moment that was a man admitting his I. his true love for another man and there's nothing wrong with that I I got no issue with that I he's he's quite a handsome guy yes there's no avoiding that and then a second before I get to my point is regarding the warriors that thing that you may have mentioned that you did when you were just talking they're going to get a chance to truly evaluate their young talent and see what they've got that they can hold on to and in the years to come which is very unusual you don't get that generally because you're trying to win games now they don't have any answers for the most part so it's like let's see what these guys can do it I think it's going to pass out long term ask all they're seeing chi Bowman and Hey on this goes the other direction to like I'm interested to see if Jordan pull ever starts making shots because if he doesn't then that's something to note you know Philip Seymour Hoffman and along came I don't know for their but we're on that track yeah all right we lost we lost about how about Sir Richard in Menlo Park I Richard what's out tonight all lyrics into god make it on I'm kind of you know on the peninsula working to the traffic headed home in and it's got excited about that the call you made it Richard and you are on the fence law which I don't know if you're listening an hour ago I struggle to define the peninsula I was defining each area in the bay what how would you define the peninsula and having been born in redwood city it's it's surrounded by water on three sides no I totally get it I I grew up in because I was born and raised in foster city like I but I I will I lived there I lived there forever like danced out to Jim Plunkett and then the all the way to San Jose and then all the way to you at the aspen and everything that for me you're saving my life right now because sports is the only thing that's really given me anything to really root for and I really love that Jeff Wilson made that catch me and that was a very tough catch and it was like every receiver supposed to get the ball if it's close and the brothers got the ball and tell you why Jeff Wilson junior is an amazing story and you're absolutely right Richard thank you it was an underrated catch and it can go that way when the ball only travels Mike five yards by add this contacts to the fact that the ball was a little bit behind his head and he caught it cleanly that was important to a P. bobbles that he may get caught from behind he catches it cleanly both Jeff Wilson and Jimmy Garoppolo stated that at the time of releasing the ball neither one of them could see each other how about that that's amazing I mean that's that's preparation and college Santa hand drew up one play for Jeff Wilson junior and I came in that was a nice time to break it out on our Kitty on the bay bridge hi Jenny how you pay already so good are you always on the bridge or is it do you only call when you're on the bridge or is that just trying to fan so you know what I'm with that for sure today I got a wonderful donation of giant dots are from the giants have a big toys for tots and then every year my nineteen Daniel and fall yeah I know it's amazing in the giants donate every year and I got the **** who the autograph you know the fact that you were cold and I turn on the radio oh my god if the market will urge yeah here it is did you know that is actually this is crazy now Katie it happens every night did you know that yeah okay I decided what Paul in basketball and hockey with you but I'm not you know me this call during baseball season comping hi I love you I miss you I miss based on having withdrawals being in oracle target they would like I'm ordering.

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"bollman" Discussed on WGN Radio

WGN Radio

03:11 min | 3 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on WGN Radio

"Five for the Wildcats for their own thirty I circus trick there while. Smith looks over the saloon. the five nineteen for the game ten ten. maybe changing the player making sure everybody knows the play devil's real the play clock. Smith quick throw right side is made peddling marker down. penalty marker down the hatch made. sought by Bollman. the. stop made by Lamar Jackson over there the officials having a a conference. chop block offense number six and fifty two. let's see drinking Anderson Sam jury that puts the cats will change here. well the the you. this has some problems and pass protection it's very key the heavy ready back in there for past protection he did. it is totally illegal today's game. second down for the. go back to the fifteen yard line. to the left. your. still second season Whitacre I thought in the I think it was either will occur who jumped but a I give the reason that clap to help. the noise is has become the boat in college football. and. but that was the. twenty four please take a. pushes his way out to the fifteen yard line where it's going to be. third down a twenty. Kayla Tanner runs down for that's the kind of play tether specially when you're working in the wind. well for the game and facing third twenty for the fifty to really click field position yeah just came here for Drake Anderson an easel he's obviously a a more better player is also catching on the path to. protection of the use of. move to move across the fifteen across the twenty minute the twenty one yard line is driven back so we got six yards but it's fourth down the counselor for punch with three forty three to go yeah again the fumble recovery. right at least fumble the ball picked it up on the same place so we save the fumble but now they have a kick into the wind and you're going to see. a short feel by Nebraska Taylor brit the deep man for the Cornhuskers but not all that deep standing at the forty five yard line the corn Husker territory could be a to point. zone seven where they need to pick one gets to the.

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"bollman" Discussed on WGN Radio

WGN Radio

01:37 min | 3 years ago

"bollman" Discussed on WGN Radio

"Speaker users just say play WGN radio on tune in the news is sponsored by town so financial here Steve resented based in good morning everyone it's sixty nine degrees in Chicago another night of severe weather leaves vehicle submerged under water and homes flooded mainly in the northern suburbs in Waukegan firefighters had to rescue residents trapped in their homes on the helm holes Avenue near Jackson street fire crews had to carry members of one family including a child and their parents to safety several vehicles became stranded due to high standing water on route forty one in Lake Forest the weather service is wide spread rainfall of one to three inches occurred since last evening over much of the area a localized swath of three to five inches and maybe even more cross of portions of bone in northwestern McEnery counties an eighty seven year old retired construction worker may lose his eyesight after someone shot him with a paintball gun WGN's Pam Jones reports Lee Ingram says he was on his way to a friend's house in Inglewood Monday at around three PM when he was attacked he parked his car outside a corner store near seventy fourth street in Racine Avenue when someone opened fire with paint pellets Parker developed world one on top running on the line no really no hours well I did not know about police believe it may have been a random incident they're looking at surveillance video from nearby cameras in the search for suspects Pam Jones WGN news man is accused of killing a mother who was shot while driving her four children last month in Dalton police say Abby on Fonthill has been charged with murder in the case and. thing Marcio Bollman the victim was shot and killed October a make that August twenty first.

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