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Movements Bigger than Fear: Kenosha and Belarus

Skimm This

24:41 min | 9 months ago

Movements Bigger than Fear: Kenosha and Belarus

"What I wanted to say is he has the scared but the. Movement is already so much stronger in our feelings of scared or being tortured. What do you get when you combine Kobe nineteen social media influencers and girl power? In the Eastern European Nation Belarus, the answer is revolution. Are we afraid of Yes. Will we stop going to the states because of hello? Welcome to skim this. This week will explain what's driving hundreds of thousands of people into the streets. Of Belarus, to call for the removal of a dictator who's been office an allegedly rigging elections twenty six years longer than some of the people protesting him have been alive. then. We've got the unconventional story of how Republicans skipped writing a new party platform at this week's RNC Oh and we've got a fun fact for you at the end of the show or at least what passes as a fun fact in twenty twenty. First, some context two developing stories. The first has to do with the shooting. Of Jacob Blake Blake is a twenty nine year old black man living in the city of Kenosha Wisconsin on Sunday police they responded to a nine one, one call domestic. When the police arrived a bystander started recording video, which appears to show police yelling at Blake before he walked away from them and his car door, and that is when a Kenosha police officer shot Blake several times at point blank range in the back and attorney for the Blake family said Blake's three sons were right there in the car as this happened watching the whole thing according to his family attorney Blake is currently in critical condition and is paralyzed. What followed the shooting has by now become a familiar pattern in the US protests and demonstrations of solidarity with yet another victim of police violence. MILWAUKEE'S NBA team. The Bucks KBOI caught their playoff game in a statement. The players said that on the court they put and maximum effort and hold each other accountable, and that was only fair that lawmakers and law enforcement should to. And the WNBA followed suit boycotting some of their own games but on the streets of Kenosha protests took a very different term. In addition to some largely peaceful protests, the city has seen more destructive protests at night businesses were looted and several buildings were burned to the ground. Unfortunately things didn't end there. A lot of disturbing and graphic images from Kenosha overnight who people were killed there last night another wounded when shots rang out during protests social media footage appears to show civilians with guns. On Tuesday night a white man reportedly opened fire on protesters and then allegedly was able to walk by responding police cars without being stopped the seventeen year old suspect later fled to neighboring Illinois where he was arrested on. Wednesday, and reportedly charged with homicide. That's where the story currently stands, but we wanted to pull back and highlight to key things. I. This is yet another police shooting of a black American and it has reignited calls police reform. Walter cats is the vice president of criminal justice at Arnold ventures a philanthropic organization he spent nearly two decades as a public defender in California before overseeing police reform efforts in the Chicago Mayor's office he says, calls to reform. The police are usually too narrow in focus. Often when we see reactions by policymakers to high profile incident, the trying to solve for the last thing that occurred after the killing by the police officers up Brianna Taylor, there's a call to ban no knock warrants. Same thing occurs in terms of Jordan Floyd. Let's prevent chokehold. When is necessary? is to take a step back. and Ask why Are. These events recurring? And what are the factors behind them that seems to create the conditions? So these events recur. This week Wisconsin's governor called on the state's legislature to urgently past nine police reform bills proposed earlier this summer which cats mentioned include banning choke holds and ending no knock warrants. Cat says, one proposed reform in Wisconsin goes a bit further and involves adopting a standard for the use of force by all police in the state? Basically new ground rules that apply to all officers and which the public can understand. It's too early to tell whether those or any of the reform will pass the Wisconsin legislature, but we could find out as early as next week. And the second major thing about this week's events in Kenosha concerns vigilantes. It's a term for people acting like they have authority to enforce the law when they really don't. In footage captured before Tuesday night's shooting several civilians can be seen carrying assault rifles in the streets of Kenosha. They reportedly claimed to be protecting a building from protesters and in this footage captured on a livestream, called the rundown, live the police drive by and actually toss them some water bottles and thank them for being out that night. And cats says seeing that video reinforced double standard. He observed earlier this year when armed and mostly white militia members entered the Michigan state capital to protest Cova nineteen restrictions and police didn't bat an eye compared to generally unarmed. Universally on unarmed peaceful protesters reaction to become the George Floyd. And how quickly the right gear came out and the tear gas and stun grenades and the batons, and it disappears that the response to one group of protesters of by the police was very different than to and other protesters and I think one of the difficult conversations that we need to have is that what is the role of the police in the? Democratic in Democratic Small D. Society. And the role that they play in keeping the peace in a neutral fashion. For updates on the situation in Kenosha. Be Sure to subscribe to our morning newsletter the daily skin you can subscribe at the skin. Dot Com. Our second developing story. This week has to do with threats from Mother Nature. For once we're not talking about covid nineteen though the pandemic is a part of the story. We're talking about hurricanes on the Gulf coast and wildfires on the west coast. In California fires have burned through one point three million acres after what the State Fire Service calls a quote lightning siege and in the Gulf this week to storms delivered a rare back to back hit to residents of Texas and Louisiana I with Tropical Storm Marco on Monday, and then with hurricane, Laura, making landfall in the middle of the week as a category four storm. So, how exactly are states managing emergency protocols like evacuations during a pandemic? In Northern, California tens of thousands of residents have been evacuated and schools have closed down at other schools cafeterias and gyms are being converted into social distin compliance shelters. Elsewhere, the American Red Cross has resorted to sending many evacuees to shelter and hotels. It's something they've done before for other disasters but not at this level because of the pandemic, the Red Cross is discouraging drop donations supplies. Kobe nineteen is impacting the hurricane response in similar ways though on a larger scale. State officials in Louisiana mostly suspended covid nineteen testing in preparation for the storms and a spokesperson for memorial. Hermann hospitals in the Houston area told the local ABC affiliate that they're preparing by making sure they have enough food and supplies to shelter in place for ninety six hours. Also remember those long lines outside the supermarket while people stocked up on supplies earlier in the spring, well, in the lead up to the storms that happened again to. If, this all sounds chaotic especially during a pandemic, the bad news is it might be like this for awhile. Hurricane season in the Atlantic actually goes on till the end of November and forecasters have predicted that this year could be one of the worst hurricane seasons on record and the California wildfire season. Well, actually season in recent years, wildfires have been happening year round meaning this could be the new norm and this year's fires are already among the worst state has ever seen. Meanwhile. Kuban. Nineteen looks like it'll be sticking around for the long term to and the full scope of the damage and how states are able to manage these disasters. All during a pandemic may not be seen for a while. If you'd like to assist the victims of hurricane. Laura. You can donate to the American Red Cross at Redcross Dot Org or text the word Laura to nine zero, nine, nine nine to make a ten dollar donation. Hundreds of thousands of demonstrators have been on the streets of Belarus for over two weeks. Thing they're protesting a national election held earlier this month in which the president of Belarus was elected for a sixth term. His name is Alexander Lukashenko and he's been president for twenty six years. He hasn't been worried about job security. That's because Lukashenko has been called Europe's last dictator. Oh. Yeah Europe Beller is. Neighbors countries in the European Union like Poland, Latvia, and Lithuania. And Guy Lukashenko has been charged there for basically all of his country's independence. That's because Belarus is a relatively new country. It's the millennial countries after the Soviet Union collapsed in Nineteen ninety-one Bellarusse was born and not long after in nineteen ninety four, Lukashenko rose to power. Pretty quickly. Lukashenko. Developed a bad rap. We're talking about abolishing term limits, censoring the press presiding over corruption in all ranks of government and more recently human rights violations including torture an unsafe prison conditions. It's kind of fitting then that he has a habit of dressing in a military uniform and walking around the streets of the capital with automatic weapons. So. What was it like to grow up in Belarus and watch the sky rise to power I'm a freelance journalist editor and international relations and security analysts we called up handlebar Ben to find out growing up was the basic. Now I understand that it was strange because I never knew at school. We learned the park, but we didn't realize what is actually because we do not have parties. We learn in theory what is audition, but we didn't realize what is because we don't have an opposition. For much of her childhood in Belarus, Barb and said, people didn't question who was in charge for me. Look shankly's president was something that you skies blow under the sun is Shining The president is something that you just a saying rewind. That's not democracy, and for that reason, the US and other nations consider Belarus to be an authoritarian state and say that every recent election in Belarus since Lukashenko took over has been rigged. But something about this year's election felt different from the start and one thing that set it apart was that several major opposition candidates had big followings on social media. They did not expect that it would be such stone influencing mechanism elder people signed up to this youtube channel country for life. That's Dr. Al Lebed's a political scientist based in Belarus. She told us that President Lukashenko underestimated the power of social media to mobilize young people that one youtube channel that she mentioned country for life was started by A. Blogger and activists who wanted to run against Lukashenko in this year's election. Until he was arrested when he went to jail, his wife stepped in to run instead and took over his social accounts and her message that she didn't want to rule Belarus but just oversee the return to fair elections hit a nerve. These digital media became really powerful moves off influence between that account and others run by other opposition leaders on the encrypted messaging APP telegram, they've wrecked up tons of new followers we're talking about a combined to. Follow hours which in a country of nine and a half million people is pretty impressive. So this year President Lukashenko had a little problem on his hands when it came to controlling the narrative and cove in nineteen turned that little problem into a powder keg ready to explode Bellarusse never imposed a lockdown to curb the spread of covid nineteen countries. Autocratic leader Alexander. Lukashenko has preached his message of defiance in a packed church advising his citizens to meet the virus by drinking more volker many in the country are weary of the government's lax policies toward the virus undertaking measures. Now into their own hands that was the scene going into the presidential election on August ninth handlebar ban wasn't hopeful the. Results will reflect how people actually voted, but between the countries failed handling Kobe nineteen and the unprecedented support of the political opposition this year she expected President Lukashenko might be a bit more modest about the size of victory i. thought that our self-proclaimed presidents would be more Weiss and he would stop at least sixty percent. Of course, almost all our election sweater falsified starting from I think to salads I know but I thought that this time he will show some I. Don't know humidity. That's not what happened with my store connect to the news and isolate that got eighty percent while the lender. Stoked. That's. Something will happen in the country. Something did happen. People took to the streets to protest the results and police used tear gas rubber bullets, batons, and even live ammunition to push them back at least six thousand people were arrested after being released protesters say they faced appalling conditions in prison from overcrowding, poor sanitation, violent beatings, and psychological torture. Some women also told the press they were forced to strip naked in front of male officers while being filmed. Those stories only inspired people to protest more and Hannah told us that she and others have continued taking to the streets. Even if it puts them at risk, their were the Arctic police in front of us and my parents were with me. I was afraid for my parents because I thought that my parents especially, my father would not survive reason. I was survived. I'm Yon I'm a girl. I they are mostly guys and I thought I will survive like my parents. I was scared for them more than two weeks after the protests in Belarus began people are still out in the streets. The top opposition candidate running against President Lukashenko has fled the country and arrests have continued along with continued crackdown on the press. But in recent days, police haven't been using violence to clear protests despite a promise by the president to stop all demonstrations and Dr Look Vets told us that women in Belarus deserve a lot of the credit for lowering tensions. Even while speaking out I, think women have played a huge role by organizing exchanges of solidarity and by hitting such a great impact on the success of this who protest movement. Women played a crucial role, a crucial role to stock those repressions they came out. Of Solidarity wearing white clothes, holding flowers and demanding to. Stop. Keleti. So what's the skin? If. You're thinking this story in Beller sounds a tiny bit familiar didn't something like this happen in Ukraine a few years ago. Well, you're kinda onto something Bellarusse, in Ukraine, our neighbors and in twenty fourteen Ukraine also saw hundreds of thousands of people take to the streets demanding democracy but there's an important difference during its big revolution Ukraine was trying to get recruited for team. Europe. Meanwhile. Belarus is super reliant on Russia for things like energy and trade. Dr Look of it says, if Russia wanted to, it could literally cut off Belarus from supplies of oil and gas, which is a scary thought with winter not too far on the horizon and that's one reason that protesters in Belarus aren't trying to change their international squad and are mostly keeping their focus on domestic goals like getting President Lukashenko out of office, freeing political prisoners and having fair elections. But that does leave protesters in Belarus feeling like they're getting the cold shoulder from the European Union and its allies even though Belarus literally shares a border with three. E. U. COUNTRIES? There's been some talk of possibly you or US sanctions against president. Lukashenko's inner circle but overall Hannah says the international support for Belarus has felt a bit underwhelming in any other country, European? Kanzi response will be much bigger and much stronger much more done. If this now in Belarus here, we are actually all alone. Writing for this principles that other countries already develop. Enforce Chirs. Dr? Luca bats has different feeling. She understands why the Revolution in Belarus might not be on the front pages but she hopes the world can support those fighting for a basic standard of democracy in her country and at a time when Americans are marking one hundred years since the nineteenth amendment expanded voting rights and in an election year when people are counting on their votes. To matter, that's a fight worth paying attention to I. Think is a great lesson for the whole world because bellows it's a story of how people are feeling for twenty six years in the conditions of authoritarian regime. Finally went to the streets finally embrace their own power no matter what we should fight for our rights for freedom and for the more Chrissy and it's possible to. Last week on the show, we talked about a little bit of drama surrounding the Democratic National, convention, it was over the language that Democrats put in or actually didn't put in the party's official political platform about fossil fuel subsidies, and while we still don't have a good answer about why that happened. It's worth saying that internal debates over political platforms are actually pretty common in election years. What this week's Republican National Convention the Republican Party decided to skip the drama altogether they basically said since trump already has a platform from four years ago can't we just use that and that's exactly what they did for the first presidential election. Since the eighteen fifty s, the Republican Party doesn't have a new political platform and is instead leading trump's set the agenda one hundred percent. The party defended its move saying it wasn't right to have a small number of people set an agenda on behalf of all the parties supporters though not all Republican supporters are on board including the editors of one conservative media outlet the national. Review. In an editorial, they wrote that taking the energy to write a platform was the least the party could do if it's asking voters to let them run the entire country. And other Republicans, quoted by the news outlet politico said re polishing the twenty-six seen platform was just sloppy since the political landscape has changed so much since then. Instead of having a party platform to reference this year, voters will have to make do with a bullet point list of president trump's second term goals in a reference to the ongoing pandemic one goal was to. Return to normal in twenty twenty one. which as far as the political agenda goes is a bit light on details but as far as New Year's resolutions go, we can get onboard. For more on President. Trump's term guys we've linked to them in our show notes. Before we go today, we've got a fun fact or Just, a comically dark fact that will definitely make you say that. So twenty twenty. A lot of us have our eyes on a big event coming up in the first week of November including NASA. That's because NASA reported than an asteroid is heading towards earth and will come very close on none other than November second as in the day before the presidential election. But fear not NASA says as far as asteroids go he's a little guy think about the length of A. King size bed or just six and a half. So while that might be a lot of bed for any of US earthlings when it comes to asteroids well, NASA isn't too worried plus NASA. Also says that even if it did the Earth's atmosphere and the chances of that happening are less than half of one percent it's so small that it would bury likely disintegrate before ever reaching the surface. So you can cross asteroid hitting earth off your list of things that might happen in two thousand twenty. That's one less thing to worry about. Thanks for listening to skim this. This podcast was skimmed by car. Marian Lozano and Luke. Barca's and I'm your host Justina Davey. We'll be back on your feet again next Friday don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review on Apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcast for more skim and sign up for a daily newsletter head on over to the skin dot com.

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Wisconsin DOJ Reveals Details In Lead Up to Jacob Blake Shooting

Erin Burnett OutFront

52:51 min | 9 months ago

Wisconsin DOJ Reveals Details In Lead Up to Jacob Blake Shooting

"FACEBOOK has taken critical steps to prepare for the US elections. They've more than tripled their safety and security teams implemented five-step advocation and launched a new voting information center. Learn more F. B. dot com slash about slash elections. Out Front next the breaking news, Wisconsin on edge double the number of National Guard, troops tonight, and you curfew about to go into effect the Attorney General of the state WHO's leading the investigation into Jacob Lakes shooting is about to hold a very important press conference What we understand will be a lot of details that is live in just a moment here out front and we have more breaking news as we wait for that three playoff games called off. Tonight is players protest Lebron James Tweeting F. This man we demand change sick of it, Bob Costas out front with the latest and a catastrophic category four hurricane barreling towards the coast at this hour. Is slated to be the strongest hurricane to ever hit Louisiana with unsurvivable storm surges We're going to talk to the mayor of the city right there in the eye of the storm. Let's go out front. And Good evening I'm Erin Burnett out front tonight the breaking news investigators about to hold a news conference on the shooting of Twenty nine year old Jacob Blake Blake was shot in the back multiple times by police in Kenosha Wisconsin. Three of his children just feet away in the backseat of the car investigators have a lot of questions to answer tonight. It has been three days since that shooting still though we don't know the basic facts of. What led to Jacob Blake's shooting meantime officials and Kenosha are bracing for what could be another deadly night Wisconsin's governor doubling the number of national guard on the streets. Tonight that is not going to be five hundred after what we saw last night, which was violent protest and mayhem local officials moving moving the curfew up an hour. It comes after two people were shot and killed last night a third seriously wounded we have obtained video of that shooting. and. Warning, it is disturbing. Shot that guy to stomach. People use. Yours. Seventeen year old suspect from Illinois. Kyle rittenhouse arrested in connection with that shooting. Now, police have not confirmed. He's the same person seen in that video, but they have arrested him. He is now charged with first degree intentional homicide. Saying he saw group of about a dozen people carrying firearms trying to protect local businesses. They were mingling with the protestors but when people would ask them, Blake, who are they? What like what group are you? What are you out here for on the we're not anybody's friend were steered to protect the city. Protests escalating in the aftermath of the shooting of Jacob. Blake all three NBA playoff game suddenly postponed tonight player's protesting Omar. Jimenez is out front on the ground as he has been a since the beginning and Omar, all eyes on exactly where you are right now the podium behind you the state's attorney general going to be perhaps giving us some crucial information. There has been just none out there we may find out more and I know he's slated to speak any moment. That's right Erin. Now, as we understand the attorney general here for Wisconsin Josh Cole is getting ready to speak but we actually just received literally seconds ago communication from the Department of Justice White for here in Wisconsin shedding light likely on what he is about to talk about in a few moments for one, they identified the officer here in the shooting Kenosha. Police Officer Rusted, Ski Saying He's been a law enforcement officer with the Kenosha Police Department for seven years. He also mentioned that this call and this is again coming from the Department of Justice here in Wisconsin leading the investigation into the shooting mentioned that they were dispatched. Female caller reported that her boyfriend was president and was not supposed to be on the premises, and so we can imagine again as the Department of Criminal Investigation within this department of Justice here in Wisconsin has been reading this. We're going to hear some of those details officially come from the Attorney General Josh Call we're going to continue to go through some of this, but there are also various other aspects of this story as well. We of course, on the other side over, there's been three nights of unrest including last night seeing in some cases, instances of deadly violence and I want warn them the video you're about to see may be considered graphic. A, contentious and at times violent night in Kenosha Wisconsin for a third night in a row. And in the late night hours, gunshots someone appears to go to the ground and then opens fire police speaking publicly for the first time since Jacob Blake was shot couldn't comment on the police shooting but they did say twenty six and a thirty, six year old were killed last night and a third seriously injured a seventeen year old suspect Kyle Rittenhouse from a nearby Illinois town was arrested police haven't confirmed is the same person seen videos from the scene, but he is charged with first degree homicide. FACEBOOK says it's investigating a group using the name Kenosha Guard which promoted an event for last night titled Arm Citizens to protect our lives and property. It's unclear if last night's violence is tied to the facebook group or event. Yesterday I had a person call me and say, why don't you deputize citizens who have gone to come out and patrol the city of Kenosha? And I'm like. Oh Hell No. The And what happened last night and I think chief Matt Skin is going to talk about it was probably the perfect reason why I wouldn't. And with more demonstrations expected Kenosha officials requested an additional fifteen, hundred national guard Wisconsin Governor Tony Ever says he's adding to the amount of national guard. He's authorizing making five hundred of them available to go along with local law enforcement response already bolstered from other jurisdictions. The governor's office saying they denied the President's offered to send federal assistance but that the FBI will help support the. State response. But at the center of all of this is a family calling for peace and with one of their own clinging to life Jacob. Blake's injuries ranging from the vertebrae two holes in his stomach I think it was done at police officer that person would be charged with attempted murder. I don't think there's any question especially with the benefit of A. Video Camera. which clearly shows the crime being committed meanwhile investigations into how this interaction with police ended with seven shots in the back are still ongoing as a federal law. Enforcement official tells CNN the US Department of Justice and FBI are also reviewing the case. So we are again here on scene waiting a press conference any moment now from the Wisconsin Attorney General Josh Call. But before that, we did get communication from the State Department of Justice here with some new details on what exactly they found and how exactly they are looking at things. So for starters I mentioned before that the officer, the discharges weapon here has been identified as Kenosha police officer Rushton shaky. He was a he had been Erie has been a law enforcement officer with Kenosha, police, Department for seven years also during the investigation, they say that Jacob Blake admitted that he did have a Knife on his possession that the Department of Criminal Investigation agents recovered from the driver's side floorboard of Mr Blake's vehicle, and afterwards as well. They do go on to mention that the Department of Criminal Investigation is leading this assisted by state police and the FBI is well, and basically how this is going to work. They say the Department of Criminal. Investigation again within the Wisconsin DOJ is reviewing evidence that they are then going to turn over to a prosecutor and it says that they aim to provide that reported the incident within thirty days at this point, and of course, comes just days after We had seen the video merge of Jacob Blake being shot in the back seven times. He was going around again to that driver's side door and comes on the heels of what has been multiple nights in a row of people demonstrating in the streets in some cases showing violent confrontations. We know that the curfew has been moved up tonight to try and prevent some of the destruction we saw in previous hours and as officials told us to try and deal with some of these crowds more under the sunlight as opposed the nighttime as they had previously. But again, all of these details are. Likely, going to come from the Attorney General Josh, call you steps in and we'll have the opportunity asking questions, swells right and I know you will be asking questions Omar as he speaks we are going to go to that live where Omar is as we await that though I wanna go through the statement that we have, which will be part of what the Attorney General presents and of course I'm sure he will add more and be asked a lot of questions joy Jackson's with me though to go through what we know now criminal defense attorney legal analyst Joey this is the first we have heard. Of anything of what led to this from the investigative side. Okay. So can I just start with what we've learned here as to why police showed up? Okay, there's been a lot of speculation. Nobody had any idea they're saying they showed up because a female caller reported that her boyfriend was president was not supposed to be on the premises. So that's the reason they're there. What do you? What do you make of that? Being the reason and the outcome being what it what it is So iron. It's always important to know why police responded because it informs their judgment right when police are heading to an event you WanNa know what they know. Do they hear shots of fire? Do they hear that is a drug transaction? Do they hear that there's a domestic dispute? Do they hear that something else is happening because that? Obviously yes, them in A. State of alertness and readiness. But when you hear an instance like this, okay, they're coming to break up the dispute. How does it though so bad and how does it go bad so quickly, and so when they're going, they're not there because there's a determination that there's a on the scene or anything else. Now I'm not suggesting that police work is not dangerous in. A best thing that police are not out there doing what they need to do is I don't think. We are absolutely. All right. So joy say with me here's Josh call the Attorney General Wisconsin. Let's listen of his life stressors I'm going to be providing an update. On the status of investigation into an officer involved shooting incident that took place in Kenosha on Sunday evening. and then secondly, I'm also going to comment on some recent events. That have taken place in in Kenosha. So I we're going to be providing some updated information about. Some of the basic facts that have been learned so far in the investigation. We are able to do that at this point because this is an ongoing investigation and some of the interviews of material witnesses have now been conducted So we now feel comfortable consistent with the investigation. To release this information we've sent out a press release. That contains the details. But the basic facts that we can report at this time are are these That on the evening of Sunday August twenty third. Twenty twenty. Kenosha police. Department officers were dispatched to a resident. Residents in the twenty eight hundred block of Fortieth Street. After a female caller reported that her boyfriend was present and was not supposed to be on the premises. During the incident officers attempted to arrest Jacob S Blake Age twenty nine. A law enforcement deployed a tasers to attempt to stop. Mr. Blake. Up at the Taylor was not successful in stopping him. Mr. Blake walked around his vehicle. opened the driver's side door. And leaned forward. While holding onto Mr Blake's shirt. Officer Rusted Chassis fired his service weapon seven times. Officer Shatskikh. Fired the weapon into Mr Blake's back. No other officer fire, their weapon. The KENOSHA police department. Does not have body cameras and therefore the officers we're not wearing body cameras. Are The shooting officer Kenosha police officer rust and Jesse has been a law enforcement officer with the Kenosha Police Department for seven years. During the investigation following the initial incident. Mr Blake admitted that he had a knife in his possession. And Agents Division of Criminal Investigation. Recovered, a knife from the driver's side floorboard of Mr Blake's vehicle. A search of the vehicle located no additional weapons. Law Enforcement immediately provided medical aid to Mr Blake. And flight for life transported him to. Freighter. Hospital. MILWAUKEE. Mr Blake remains at the hospital. A division of criminal investigation. At the Wisconsin Department of Justice is leading this investigation. And it's being assisted by the Federal Bureau of Investigation. Wisconsin state patrol. And the Kenosha County Sheriff's Office All involved law enforcement officers are fully cooperating with I during the investigation. And the involved officers have been placed on administrative leave. I'm as I said this is an ongoing investigation. So. That is the extent of the information regarding the facts of this case that we can share at this point. there have been interviews conducted material witnesses but the investigation remains ongoing. under Wisconsin Law. In cases in which a person dies case in which an officer fired their weapon The law requires that an independent investigative agency brought in to conduct the investigation. But in many other cases, Wisconsin of justice is brought into conduct an independent investigation as well, and that is what is happening. In this case, our agency is the independent investigating agency. Our job is to gather the evidence is completely and thoroughly as possible. And provide that evidence to the District Attorney's office joined today by among others da Mike Gravely. their office then makes the determination about. Whether, charges are filed. So that's the information I can provide right now about this case. I also want to comment on the events yesterday evening in Kenosha. What happened yesterday night? In Kenosha was despicable. Two people were shot and killed in a third person was shot and seriously injured. One of the things that we have seen in the last few nights is that there are a number of people certainly some and quite possibly many of the people who've been involved in a destructive activity or violent activity. We're not from the city of Kenosha and in some cases, not from the State of Wisconsin. I'm this community has been through some extremely traumatic events in the last few days the people of this community decide to have the opportunity to grieve. Deserve, to have the opportunity to come together. To Protest Peacefully. Call for the change that they would like to see. And ultimately to work to heal this community. People who are coming to the community to commit arson. or. Violence. First of all, if they think they are serving some agenda, they are wrong. all they're doing is creating chaos. The people of who have. been impacted. particularly. The people of Kenosha are the ones. Who should be leading the way as people protest peacefully. it is vital. That we work to unify people. There has been a lot of division. Recently. It's easy for politicians to stop division. But we need to do is to come together. As we work to strengthen our criminal justice system as we work to call for justice in the system and as we work to heal our communities. So with that I'M GONNA turn over to District Attorney gravely. Thank you everybody So these are difficult times as I've seen in. Kenosha and the more than thirty years I have resided in this community. and it is a moment certainly in our history that brings up of some of the issues of our time right from this moment of history. I have been so proud of so many have of the moment of history were in in. So many ways that there's been voices that have not always been enfranchised who have had a chance to speak with new clarity and passion over the last several Munson that has been I. Think Inspirational to many people and including those who are asking and demanding reform in the criminal justice. System And it is a moment here in Kenosha today where all. Agreed for for Jacob Blake and and hope for his recovery. We grieve for his family. You didn't have to do more than see his mother and father express parents rage and and and grief at the moment that are in an emotional moment in thinking about the. Way that we think about our children in that, we want them safe and we think all the best of them in terms of the things that were said at the press conferences by the family. We have community today that is literally on fire. Set on fire by the deep divisions that have been fueled by a number of forces that are brought to bear in this case. systemic racism. With its insidious history in Kenosha and throughout the country is certainly a part of all the big issues that are being considered. modern policing, and the tremendous difficulties and challenges ahead to think about how to police in an ever changing society and community with different expectations and concerns about how societies forces have affected our ability to police and our ability to police in a new and modern way. And then a world of social media that is. Has Clearly, emphasized immediate action. Over any ability to be calm or deliberate when making the most important decisions in life. and has emphasized a quick decision making immediacy and emotional impact instead of thinking about making a accurate decisions and prioritizing nat above all else. And so those forces are at work in anybody who doesn't agree that those forces are we work of course, is not really seeing this moment as we are here today in front of all of you. All of that said I wanna say that I endorse and applaud all of the methods of peaceful protests both about this case and about those bigger issues that we've discussed you know, I? Think it is gratifying to see folks like the Milwaukee. Bucks for instance, say that what they know about this case and bigger issues it reflects. Are Things that they felt. So strongly about that, they decided to make a dramatic statement in terms of boycotting play. Those kind of things are important and they add to the debate. And the only thing I ask is that we understand that the destruction of property and the violence. That is too often occurred in this community over the last couple days. Does a disservice to this moment in history? And does a dramatic disservice to an ability for there to be a profound and complicated. And absolutely necessary conversation. Okay now I've said all that and I've tried to talk in broad strokes. But I need to let you know specifically what the role of a prosecutor is in this particular moment in reviewing this case. So the Statute of Wisconsin demands quite appropriately. Than an independent investigative agency, do all of the investigative work in this case. And so the individuals who are who are involved directly. who fired the shot the particular police officers, Kenosha Police Department officer. So the department that is investigating as you know is through the Department of Justice here in Wisconsin So that is an agency that has no direct connection to the Kenosha Police Department and they are conducting that investigation in full. When they complete that investigation, it's turned over again by statute by law to the local district attorney's office, and that will be our office and we have by law a very narrow task in the enormity of the big issues I talked about. We. are asked to review that independently garnered evidence and we are asked are there any crimes? That a police officer is committed. They can be proven to a jury beyond a reasonable doubt. So I need to let you know now in the community, know that is the only thing that the Kenosha district attorney's office will answer. All of the bigger issues that are so important. Will Not be issues that will be absolutely will not be definitively decided by Kenosha. District Attorney's office, we will only decide. Whether any Kenosha police officer. is going to be charged with a crime and that can only occur if we believe that that crime can be can be proven beyond reasonable doubt. So. I hope that the public expect and want the public. To get. that. The best possible decision in that regard. and. I believe the public deserves aid decision. It is based on reason. And, that is based on the most full and most accurate information that can be obtained. And so I hope all those who witnessed the events That we have seen on video all those persons present to new have information I. Hope they fully cooperate in this investigation because that's the path to the truth that's the path to real decision-making being able to occur in this case. And I ask for as much patience. As our times allow. Because again, if we value accuracy and value real decision making over a quick decision made in an emotion, the most emotional moment then we have to facilitate a full and complete investigation. and. I know that the Department of Criminal Investigations. D. is doing all they can to accomplish that. And I want to be sure that the public has the maximum ability to be confident of this decision. I've called on the US Attorney's office. To conduct a parallel investigation I've asked them to do the civil rights investigation by law they are allowed to do and can do I'm hoping it will happen at the same time that gives the community a chance to heal quicker because independent prosecuting agencies, the US Attorney's office, and the DA's office. Can both make independent decisions about whether crimes can be charged either in federal court or State? Court. That means we don't have multiple decision points where there are new opportunities for people to be disappointed or enraged, or for there to be unrest that is about decisions that are being made. So I'm hoping our community can heal and I'm calling on the US Attorney's office to do that. I WANNA. Thank the US Attorney Matt Krieger and his office for being a for being a partner in this case in the sense of providing assistance at each time in terms of federal authorities being therefore the the Kenosha. District Attorney's office specifically and certainly Attorney General Josh Call and the. Agency have been have been complete in their use of resources and their ability to assist our local community. So I thank you all for being here This is a these are difficult times and these are difficult momentous decisions. We're going to do the best job we possibly can. and. We ask for your patience for the Invest Investigation to also take place. Thank you. I'm joined today by some community leaders and two of them are going to be speaking to you So I Anthony Davis. Good evening my name's Anthony Davis. Local, president of the endless EP hand Kenosha. And also. A member of the Wisconsin State Conference where. We're being led by. Wendell J. Harris. First of all. I like to. Give my thoughts prayers. To the family. Of Jacob? Blake. They're going to difficult time. and. As it has said. You have to give a family time. To deal with these situations. We know a lot of folks are trying to to get to them. Each and every day. But Any? Time Give. Them some time to heal. We know that. This incident. Came to Kenosha. Unexpectedly. And I just WANNA say. Kenosha is not a place. where? We see things like this every day. We need to. Come together. And I. Appreciate. The state. The. Josh Call. and. Our local DA here in Kenosha. Coming to us. And try to share. What they can at this time. The process. We know is not going to be. One that's going to be quick. But we know. That we are part of the process here. And we asked number one. How some patients. We also want everyone to understand. We have to find a way to de escalate what has been happening around here in our city. As I said, we are in the process of trying to mourn through this. But the path that has been taken by some individuals. Has not been appreciated. Let us have our say as a community. Let us be patient. And above all. Let us keep God in the process? Thank you. Next we have James Hall. All right. We are monitoring this press conference in Kenosha. Wisconsin are Omar Jimenez is is they're they're going to be take questions in just a few moments. So worry monitoring that the attorney general was speaking, of course, the District Attorney and the head of the Wisconsin NWEA CPI Joey Jackson back with. You you hear them speak What do you hear most prominently? While his two things, the first thing is I have to say that I'm a little disappointed in the process. Let me explain why what I'm hearing is that there's an independent investigation by the state as a result law the state agency comes in and they do the investigation thereafter, it is then submit it being the findings to the local district attorney. Understand what that means. You had a local district attorney whose depending upon officers to bill cases and other cases whose depending upon officers to work with them collaboratively, the safety of the community and. That same local district attorney has to make an assessment as to whether the prosecutor officers. That's a bit troubling to me, and it's troubling because unless you have a process wherein everything is independent, not only the investigation but a determination as to the prosecution and whether children were okay very difficult in that regard. The next thing are in briefly is that you talk about it district attorney who saying the only thing I'm here for us to make an assessment as to whether we can prove the case beyond a reasonable doubt that's a jury determination. You know listen whether or not. In these cases, for example, is put before a grand jury. They indict lead a jury of twelve decide when a district attorney unilaterally mates an assassin I get prosecutors have to decide whether they can prove the case, but that's very discretionary to me, and so I think ultimately when there's a question of fact, when this question was there night with they're not a knife. This case doesn't appear to me to be a close question when get shot in the back seven times there's nothing close about that and so I just wonder whether this process will allow itself. I pray. A let me ask you a couple of things because there's a lot we learned, but there's a lot that we still don't know. Right. So we know that the police get a call dispatch gets a call for one woman who says that her ex-boyfriend is there and he's not allowed to be there presumably some sort of restraining order or something maybe, and so they go and then there's hiccup. Blake, there his attorney said he was he was he was an eight year old's birthday party. But, now we're hearing that that he was the the woman there says he had a restraining order something presumably. There's kids in the back of his car there there just seems to be a lot that we still do not know even though they say they're telling us a lot. I still am confused. This is true and it's not unusual that they're going to be disputed facts was birthday party. Was a domestic violence incident looking for is what's informing officers judgments. They the scene and they believe they have to pull out their weapons stop will we see that? But tactic routinely could you have done something else such that he didn't even need to get to that is Mr late to the car that you have the shooting in the first instance wise. The gun drawn and what's the immediacy of firing the weapon as many times as you did or at all and so notwithstanding the front story, the backstory on looking at his video, which is telling to me that this didn't need to happen did happen. So. Let me ask you. So what we learned now is that he admits he has a gun we now we know from. Raison White, who filmed it they were screaming at him to drop the knife I'm sorry that he had a knife said tonight there screaming at him to drop it, but he didn't have a knife on him. Right. So he goes to the from the car leans into it. Now, they don't say what he's leaning to do, but at this point. From their own words, they thought the knife was on him and it wasn't. So therefore did not know that it was in on on the front floorboards, the car where maybe he was reaching forward and maybe he wasn't. So that's what we know as to why he's leaning in and then seven shots go onto his back. Is there anything in that scenario that would justify in any way what officer arrested in Chesapeake did? Yeah, well I say, no but beyond that, Aaron I don't even think we know that what is what we don't know in terms of their actual and I think they'll be forensic testing where did the night come from our his fingerprints on it? You know that is Mr Blake. Springer. Prints on. It was the officer in a position if there were a night to make the observation even if there wasn't that he turned her act furtively towards the officers sites that the altarpiece justified in discharging his firearm seven nine. Seven times we can't presume the fact that there's a knife on that talking about conspiracy theories. I'm talking about evidence where I've come from and the standard the knife was being picked up. Was He picking up the night? Did you also observed that and even if there was a nice what if anything was he doing with it such the Oughta felt that he had an. Immediacy of a threat to respond in a deadly way, the proportionality of the record seven shots is often the reason ability of the conduct off. So I'm concerned about all those things if I'm a prosecutor moving forward. All right, Joe Thank you very much for laying all this out. As I said, if they take questions are are Omar Jimenez there we're going to tell you. What what we find out. We are now less than a half an hour away from curfew in Kenosha as all this information just comes out this information or lack thereof with all the questions that you have, and this is just twenty seven minutes away from that curfew beginning. So we're continuing to monitor this I. Thank you, and we have breaking news as well with. That life threatening hurricane This is a stunning Kane. It's a monster category for it will be the strongest storm to ever strike Louisiana. We're talking about wind gusts of one hundred and seventy five miles an hour plus more breaking news NBA players taking an historic stand tonight all three playoff game scheduled for this evening called off this because of Mr Blake and Kenosha Wisconsin. Bob Costas is out front. In preparation for the US elections, facebook has taken critical steps to secure their platforms and provide transparency they've more than tripled their safety and security teams to thirty five thousand people implemented five-step AD Verification and launched a new voting information center. Learn more about how facebook is preparing FBI DOT com slash about slash elections that's F. B. Dot. com slash about slash elections. Breaking News, Kenny Smith of tease inside the NBA, a former NBA player walking offset just moments ago in support of the NBA players boycott at boycott resulting in the NBA postponing. Tonight's scheduled playoff games. and. For me I think the biggest thing now is to kind of. As a black man as a former player. I think it's best for me to support the players and just not be hit tonight. And figure out what happens out. I've. Never respected. Okay Upfront. Now Bob Costas Hall of fame broadcaster, our contributor host announcer for the MLB network and you know all four of those gentlemen set very well all of them are you know obviously you can. Imagine Charles. And check out there the WNBA. Now announcing moments ago, they're not gonNA play the Games. They'd scheduled tonight in support of the NBA boycott I mean. As you sit here, Bob you've been covering the sports world for your entire career if you ever seen anything like this. No not exactly. Obviously, players have walked out or refused to play. There were on strike over labor issues. Tommie Smith and John Carlos have been referenced several times over the last several hours on CNN one thousand, nine, hundred, Sixty, eight Mexico City Olympics with the clenched fist salute Mohammed Ali not an a team sport. We know about what he did and what he sacrificed Colin Kaepernick and others kneeling. But as far as not playing in a team sport over a social issue I have not seen this and I've been following this for a very, very long time, and now it's coming from all directions. The NBA, which generally speaking has been for many years the most progressive and not in the best sense of the term, the most progressive of all the leagues and generally speaking has the most cooperative respectful and trusting relationship from the Commissioner's Office to its players of any of the four major team sports. The NBA is in full support of this, not just coping with it. They're showing that they're in support and understanding meanwhile in baseball, which has fewer American players than either the NFL or the NBA the Milwaukee brewers in effect in solidarity with the Milwaukee Bucks since they will be the baseball team. Of, Kenosha Wisconsin as the box are the NBA team, they postponed their game tonight against the Cincinnati reds the WNBA had four games. I think scheduled for tonight in their playoffs they're doing a very interesting thing at the seven minute mark of each quarter whoever has the ball is going to put the ball on the floor and take a twenty four second violation and the other team will then do the same so that there's no competitive advantage the seven minute mark because of the seven, which is generally what we think it might be but the seven bullets that wound up and Mr Blake's back. I mean it is incredible. When you see this solidarity the head coach of the La Clippers out in California where you are doc rivers said had an emotional press conference and there was just a moment that I thought was really powerful as he tried to. Take away all the politicisation in simplification of the words defend the police and talk about what he meant and how and how he felt. Let me just play. We. Protests. And they send riot guards right these. People in riot outfits. They go to Michigan with guns and they're spinning on COPS. And nothing happens my dad was a cop. I believe in good cats. We're not trying to be fun the police in take all their money away. To get them to protect us. Just like the protect everybody else. It was really a powerful and eloquent moment there for Mr Rivers. Do, you think this resonates Bob with sports fans. Yes I do and I think that some sports fans will. It and some of that resentment is on display in various ways subtle and overt this week coming from other directions at the RNC some will resent it. Some will say I'm not GonNa Watch anymore. I've had it up to here. They said, said it with Colin Kaepernick they've said it with black lives matter on the court in the NBA bubble. So this will perhaps a kick that resentment up a notch for some but I think and I think doc rivers understand this. This is a seminal moment for a lot of reasons think of how diverse the protesters were in the aftermath of George Floyd's death. Think think of the response now, the Milwaukee Brewers, most of the players on that team are not players of color and the players of color with the Detroit lions or now with the Milwaukee Bucks and others in the NBA are joined by their white. Fellow teammates there. There's something afoot here. That is different than what has preceded it, and while I certainly understand doc rivers, emotions, he is a universally respected man he's a good man and as he said. Where you someone speaking to me and it's not you Erin Guess I'm sorry. I should I continue I guess I should. Talk Rivers. Doc Rivers is a universally respected man, but I think he understands that regardless of some of the forces of resentment and resistance or worse including what we saw in Kenosha over the past twenty, four hours with the shootings. There are millions upon millions of non black people in the united, states who stand with him and with his black brothers and sisters. Bob. Thank. You very much. And I'm Bob Stores. I want to go to Ben Jealous WHO's president of people for the American. Way Foundation former president and CEO the N. W.. C.. P. A couple of crucial questions Ben for you first of all, how significant is this you know this moment standby, the Wnba, the NBA and these other teams. No this is this is huge. It's four years to the day since Colin cabinet started kneeling. And while many may have wanted this solidarity earlier it is. It is right on time and it is extremely powerful. This is a moment when the president should be stepping up to heal the. And instead he's been doubling down all week. Here we have a young man, this shooter who was a trump rally, and then we have trump at. you know his his is social media been full of blue lives. Matter. There is anybody who believes in the police who would believe in what this person had to do. This I. I mean, my Granddad was a law enforcement. My cousins are in law enforcement now. But you know this this young man. WHO's after trump rally and then you look at the Oran see this week in trump has mccloskey's who brandished guns. At L. and protesters. On stage. We, have a president that stoking this to have the players steamed up in this moment in this way kind of shut things down. That leadership is leadership that our nation needs. We would expect it from the White House. We don't expect it from the players, but I'll take it from whatever corner we can get it for. All Right Ben I appreciate your time. Thank you very much. I. Mentioned that we do know that the man's This young man who committed is accused of committing this arrested charged I- social media was full of blue lives. Matter. We we have not yet confirmed that he was at a trump rally but I just want to make that clear. Next breaking news millions or in Hurricane Lars Path and it's expected hundred and fifty mile an hour winds I'm GonNa speak live with a man who was flying right now through this life threatening storm with winds as I said, one, hundred, seventy miles an hour. Breaking news a dangerous category four hurricane heading straight for the Gulf Coast National Kirke. Center. Warning of an unsurvivable storm surge that will cause catastrophic damage hurricane are expected to make landfall just hours from now right after midnight along the Texas and Louisiana. Coastline sustained winds one hundred and fifty miles an hour gusts up to one hundred and seventy five parts of Louisiana including at least one major. Roadway already under water more than one and a half million people have been ordered to evacuate six million now under a hurricane warning and watch seventeen million Americans directly affected by this Jennifer Gray episode weather center and Jennifer I. Mean we talk about unsurvivable at this is a storm, the likes of which at least in in known history right we we've never seen anything like this in Louisiana coast right. Absolutely and you and you don't hear the National Hurricane Center the weather surveys use terms like that. We've here life threatening, but unsurvivable is one that you definitely do not hear from them. So we've got to take this one seriously this could very well be the strongest storm to ever make landfall in Louisiana did strengthen within the last hour the hurricane hunters found wins one, hundred and fifty. Miles per hour that is up from last hour and gusts of one seventy five. As you mentioned, it has finally made more of that northerly turn that we've been waiting on all day. So it's now following that track and it looks more and more likely like is going to make landfall along that southwest Louisiana coast. This is a very vulnerable area South Louisiana is made up a lot of. Bias and marshes, and so this is very low lying. So it will be very easy for that water to get all the way up to I ten, which goes through Lake Charles and we've been looking at a couple of models and it does seem that the water is going to get so high that we could likely see half or more of Lake Charles Underwater and so we're already. Starting, to get those outer bands on shore that's going to continue the winds are already starting to be felt tropical storm force winds already onshore in South Louisiana and so it's only going to get worse as the night goes on. We're already seeing three and four feet of storm surge along the south, Louisiana Coast and the storm Surge Threat Fifteen to twenty feet along Cameron parish in South West. And what that means all of these areas shaded and read the water's going to go that far inland and maybe even more. So you can see, Itin. Splitting through Lake Charles that's where we're going to see that storm surge come in and then as we mentioned the storm taking that track is still going to be very significant storm well, inland North Louisiana and points to the north and east beyond that needs to be on the lookout as well. All Right Jennifer. Thank you very much. I want. To go now to the mayor of lake. Charles Louisiana Nick Jennifer Gray just going through the the catastrophic situation you're you're facing now mayor unsurvivable as she said, a word that they just don't use US life threatening they don't use the word unsurvivable The worst hurricane known hurricane ought to ever strike the coastal Louisiana right where you are. How concerned are you for your city? We're very concerned. We're very concerned about our city. We're concerned about our citizens. Obviously, we've issued a mandatory evacuation and we've done everything humanly possible to get people out late Charles out of southwest Louisiana for those that didn't have the financial means to do. We've provided transportation options. But we are very concerned about our city. So. Where are you writing this out there? I am hunger Berry. At location in downtown drills. All right. So what do you say to anyone who's left in Lake Charles and it was they see unsurvivable? Obviously, you're not going to be able to have first responders. Go any anywhere to help anyone for quite some time, right? Absolutely, and that's very unfortunate thing for people that may have stayed. Very, soon, it's going to get to a point where our public safety just simply cannot respond to calls, and so there's GonNa be a wind there where the desire will absolutely be there from our public safety and law enforcement to respond to calls, but they just can't do it. So part of what is is so stunning about this storm and its power is how quickly it's intensified right? We just see it happening quickly hour after hour. Is that something that worries you in terms of people in terms of how they responded right a day ago. There were warnings this would be bad but but but just literally in the past few hours the past hour we start to hear that it's going to be so much worse. There wasn't a lot of warning. Well let me say this. We locally local officials have not minced words. We have not waffled as soon as mandatory evacuation came out. We made the point crystal clear to people that they needed to get out of Lake Charles and how to county errors So I am hoping that that enough people did that I. Concern. That there are some that are. Someone's home and plumes. There's only so much. You can do so much messaging. All right well, Mayor Hunter Look I know you're you're hunker down somewhere that you've been assure to save. We hope that you are safely hope that everyone in Lake, Charles has gotten out of that the path of this storm I appreciate your time and our thoughts are with you tonight and everyone there I wanna go to someone who has been tracking this right as we intensifying moment by moment this is why because of People like Lieutenant Commander Kevin Ramos who is in the storm joins me on the phone hurricane hunter currently on board Noaa W P three Orion the hurricane hunter commander dreams Look you know we. We've just talked about how this is going to be the strongest storm ever destroyed coast of Louisiana at least known storm I. Know You've just made your first pass through the eye of the storm what are you saying? Yes it's a very, very powerful storm. We've been doing for a long time since he was in the middle of the Atlantic. We are. This is our last night before it makes landfall and it is definitely gotten his act together, very well organized and very, very strong winds. I just make sure everybody is on their guidance from the local emergency managers in. All of our most out the information on the hurricanes I go by the hurricanes that are a lot of great information coming off his aircraft right now there center. So everybody knows what's going on with this very dangerous. Commander I talked you during storms you you do what you're doing, right? This is what you do. But this is a storm right that we just in terms of the. Of the the intensification in terms of the speed in terms of unsurvivable. What do you see in this storm? That is that is that is different than some other storms when you think of its power. There's A lot of Memories a duo Michael where again he's throws over these really really warm Gulf waters and suck all the energy out of the ocean and it turns these storms and he's really really powerful whether phenomenon to there is a lot of rain. He was just doing. We just made her first pass through the northeast quadrant of the storm's center in the South West we're on the northbound turn now we're about. Ten minutes away. Now we're making our patches or. but yeah. Just these rooms can be very, very dangerous. There's switch energy stored in the Gulf there, and they just suck it all up and they can really really big hardware store so and everybody on the ground that maybe. It's unsurvivable obviously National Oceanic Administration Atmospheric Administration Noaa they have weather satellites right. But but you fly into this together all sorts of information that you're not even able to get by satellite. Tell us what you're learning that. We don't get any other way. Yeah, we're just a Y whether laboratories. We have numerous different sensors on board. Two of the most important ones measure which the surface, and that's the thing that satellites can't do very well, we had these little the call it drops. To that we actually walked out of the bottom of the aircraft into the storm. There's a little parachute and falls through. You can lose storm on the surface in fact, temperature pressure, humidity, dew point and GPS drive wind speed We also have a On the hangs out with the left wing called because the smurfs stepped frequency microwave radiometer that also measures win eat after surface So combination of that and the numerous other whether I on the aircraft, we were gathering all those things that you cannot get. Planted Ramos I appreciate your time very much and we all thank you for what you do. Please stay safe up there right now, as you said, just passing through that I thanks to all of you for joining us as our coverage of that breaking story and our special coverage of the Republican National Convention continues now.

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216: Tommy Terrific's Can't Miss No Doubter NFL Picks

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216: Tommy Terrific's Can't Miss No Doubter NFL Picks

"Credit on my day off. Okay, Norman Blake Blake, I feel ready to go another night. And I feel ready to go another night and touch down today. I consider myself lucky house on the bricks. We don't do with it. Not odd can welcome back flip it. I'm your host Tom Anderson burned down, you know, they had a bath. All right. Today's podcast is brought to you by betonline.ag week 9 in the NFL. It's already November 8th. I can't believe it. It's like 70 degrees. Sunny here in New Jersey. I'm pretty pumped about that. But I just wanted to hop on the podcast real quick and give you some of my week 9 picks for the podcast special announcement. Also, I'd like to get an ounce Jade Bayliss course, you know from ESPN college basketball analyst NBA draft analyst got almost 2 million followers on Twitter reached out to him to come on the Pod and it looks like he wants to come on down. So the Jay Bayless podcast should be coming your way shortly. Can't wait to share that with you. But today I want to get into my week 9 picks in the NFL starting with a crazy game the Baltimore Ravens and the Indianapolis Colts. The game is in Indy the Cults here are favored by one point makes no sense Baltimore is the better team. This this line is just absolutely crazy everyone and their mother is picking the Ravens to win a game. It's like how could the Ravens not win this game? How the Ravens not favored in this game even with everyone pick and then the line hasn't changed so cold by 1. So for all those reasons, we're going Colts in this game to win the game. The culture went in the game the line makes no sense Vegas know something is up. We are going with the Colts all the way another game. I want to look at the Falcons and the Broncos. Now, these are too like the most disappointing games of the last five years to me. They just they're always have a lot of hype and they always find ways to lose games Falcons here at home. They're favored by 4 and 1/2 points. I got Matt Ryan. I'm starting to my fantasy football this week. But in this game, I like the Denver Broncos here to pull off the upset getting 4 and 1/2 points. I just have no confidence at all in the Atlanta Falcons. I don't know why anyone would have any confidence all in the Atlanta Falcons. I don't see them blowing over here. I'm going to take the Broncos in a little bit of an upset another game. I'm looking at the Seattle Seahawks at the Buffalo Bills bills here at home are getting three points. I still like to see box. I think the Seahawks team is very special Pete Carroll. Just getting a big extension the coach there and Seattle Seattle's feeling good about themselves Russell Wilson's feeling real good about himself. I think Russell Wilson will outdo Jaja. 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It's been nonstop election rehearsals and off tonight, and it's just it's been very busy time but we'll get back to the podcast here. I promise you here on terrific talk and we'll see you next week. You can hear my voice. I'm exhausted. I'm going to bed. All right in, Georgia. Games officer of jog. My name is Tom Anderson paak. Are you guys home late? Like a sauna? I feel ready to go another night and I feel ready to go another night. And today I consider myself the luckiest down on the brake. With it. Not hot cam. Welcome back further. I'm your host Tom Anderson paak and went off.

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Tommy Terrific's Can't Miss No Doubter NFL Picks

Terrific Talk with Tom Anderson

06:51 min | 7 months ago

Tommy Terrific's Can't Miss No Doubter NFL Picks

"Credit on my name is Tom Anderson paak. Okay, Norman Blake Blake, I feel ready to go another night. And I feel ready to go another night and touch down today. I consider myself lucky off on the brake. We don't really think not. Can welcome back with it. I'm your host Tom Anderson burned down in Georgia. All right. Terrific talk. Today is brought to you by betonline.ag NFL Sunday. We are here. I'm here to give you some can't miss wage. FL locks these are pics. You cannot miss go to bet online and and have some fun this weekend with these with these games. I know we're losing Cam Newton, but the Patriots are somehow was playing on Monday. I don't really know how that's working out at all. The Titans game Steelers, of course got pushed back screwing up Derrick Henry on my fantasy team and I felt could be going away very soon. It's a song. I'm a little nervous but we've got picks this week that I want to get to you. And the first one is the Dallas Cowboys taken on the Cleveland Browns Cowboys here are favored by thoughts and 1/2 points. This line has been moving people somehow like the Browns. I'm not really sure why I think Dak Prescott and this offense has been really airing it out you seen. Go over four hundred yards. They played some very tough competition. The Browns haven't really beaten anybody good in the Browns aren't that good defensively high scoring game. I think Dallas holds on at home. They outscore them. I liked Dallas Page. 3 and 1/2 this week another game. I'm taking another favorite just cuz I think this is going to be a blowout the Baltimore Ravens taken on the Washington football team Ravens fair by fourteen points. I get it. It's a lot, but we've seen with the Ravens last year and this year when they go up against a crappy team they take care of business early and it's usually a blowout. I think the Ravens just blow them out. No chase used for the watch football team still weird saying that it's they need to get a name is a joke, but I like the Ravens - 14 this week another game that I am looking at that I've noticed a lot of people are kind of on the Colts. They're playing the Bears this week. The Colts are favored by 3 and 1/2 points bears are undefeated. They have Nick Foles right now. The defense has been playing. Well you get points here with Chicago weird line. So that's a bit of a flag. But I'm going to take the bears plus 3 and 1/2. I just think they're the better team the Colts have not impressed me so far this year Bears are undefeated dead. Nick Foles, they keep the momentum going love it last game. I want to take a look at here the Arizona Cardinals and the Carolina Panthers this line to me makes absolutely no sense. If I just walked up to you as long as you like Panthers or the Cardinals every single person in the world would say the Cardinals cars are only favored here by a few of all three points. I don't get it makes no sense. Why would anyone in their right mind pick Carolina? That's why I'm picking Carolina. I'm taking the Panthers with the points plus three. I really just do not understand this line. I like Carolina though. I think they they somehow pull off the upset. Right? Those are my NFL picks this week. I want to talk to you guys right now about betonline.ag are exclusive wagering partner baseball playoffs right now NBA Finals, you got all the NFL games that online has all the odds Futures and props for you to bet on all you got to do is visit betonline.ag today and you can check out all the odds and up-to-date sports news and don't wage. At the sign up and take advantage of all the welcome back to sports bonuses here. But listen to this podcast if you use the promo code clns 5-0, you'll get a 50% Welcome bonus Thursdays at betonline.ag. Again. The promo code is CLS550 you put that in you get a 50% welcome bonus at betonline.ag and you're off I highly suggest it. We don't know how much longer sports are going to be around here. You know NBA baseball come to a close soon NFL completely up in the air go check out BetOnline AG today your online wagering experts before we go to real quick podcast NBA Finals man disappointing. So disappointing Miami was amazing to watch the Eastern Conference Finals how they just battled and played beautiful team basketball and just just guys who love playing the game. You can just see it these NBA Finals come around that come out pretty flat in game one now you got bam about of birth. No, Goran dragic Reach Out. And LeBron and Anthony Davis had just dominating they're just crashing the offensive boards. They're bigger than Miami and so far in this years. Miami has not put up a fight. It's super disappointing. Of course. This is the way LeBron wanting to get another title. Everyone's going to be like, oh, it's not a real tight. Oh, it's in the bubble. Miami was injured for most of the series. It's it's a shame. But Anthony Davis has been absolutely incredible phenomenon. I saw him back in December take it on Dallas, and he literally you didn't even like know he was out there incredible what he's done in these playoffs. It's like the old lady. It's fun to see so it looks like the Lakers going to win a title. It's a Kobe title. We'll give it a Kobe will be back next week here on the traffic Talk podcast with a guest. I'm going to get a guest for you guys. I got allergies haven't been crying. Don't worry. My nose is just a little nasal today. So we'll we'll fix that and we'll see you next week here on terrific talk on the C honest media Network. Enjoy the football today. Go check out betonline.ag. All right. See you both John. My name is Amin. Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom Tom, I'll be ready to go another night and I feel ready to go another night and touch down today. I consider myself off living not hard cast. Welcome back toward that. I'm your host Tom Anderson off, you know and and off.

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Revealing the priciest celeb homes ever purchased

Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

20:03 min | 11 months ago

Revealing the priciest celeb homes ever purchased

"It's a basic truth. People need each other. It's why Penn Fed credit unions I members joined together for a better financial future for eighty five years. We've been there for our members and communities and we're here for you today. We can help you bridge a financial gap. Save wisely. Make confident decisions with your money. We know we are always stronger and better together. That's why we hope you'll join. US membership is open to everyone. Apply today and NPR, dot org insured by NCUA. Bye. Bye. Love, a lower level I welcome to the show with Rob Shooter I'm rob shoots. You all the breaking stories today we have a very special show is all going to focus on celebrity real estate? Who paid what where they live at all the crazy crazy things they have in their luxurious homes, and so I can't think of anyone better than my friend Garrett. Who lives in a luxurious home yourself? Yes, in Westfield New Jersey, beautiful beautiful mansion mansion, where I paid hundreds of dollars. I have worked together for years on the Elvis to Rancho to jump in my friend. Let me. Kick it off with somebody. I used to work for, and I've actually been to this house. Jennifer Lopez pays twenty eight million. Pointed Jennifer starting point so they only get high as this goes. I thought we were starting the trailers. The poorest of this list Jennifer Lopez home at a state in Bel Air that she bought in two thousand sixteen. It is eight acres that she bought. For three point eight million. Now It is worth twenty eight million one point. It was on the market for forty million. Let me just a little bit about this highest fourteen thousand square foot mansion. Wow, building the dining forties, guests gabby bathrooms, Jennifer. She seems like a four and a half bathroom speed. Jenny from the block thirty rob. What you do is. A different battle every day. Just to get rid of a bathroom. By. You'd never have to clean. They make it a wine closet. WHO's seven bedrooms? That's what she has children. a-rod kids get it and a thirty seat theater little excessive, which is bigger than the cinema. I go to here in new. York on Chelsea and and we pay a lot will. You'll pay almost leave. US. All Right! Let's talk about Kim and Kanye West. Neither you nor I wanna live next to them, but their Mansion Rob Future cost twenty million dollars now, Kanye and Kim. They bought their Hidden Hills California Man's here for twenty million in twenty fourteen. You GotTa think twenty fourteen. has to go up from there right right? Allegedly spent an additional twenty million dollars and invasion was as expensive as the. White just not by a forty million I. wouldn't if I had to pay four hundred, twenty million to renovate I wouldn't buy the highest. Are you the type like when I? Get to look it up apartment? Rent, if the bathroom I'd have in the apartment bathroom very key very very very renovate I. Want to walk in with the to the kitchen kitchen. That's the other one to tell you. It's a three acres. Which you know you were saying about? Jennifer Lopez. She has the same She has about the same acreage, but didn't pay as much as Kim and Kanye, did eight bedroom property includes eight fireplaces so one for each room very nice, very thoughtful of them two pools now ruptured or to pools like one kid. I was GONNA, go hot and cold or one. So, Foot Kim forgotten. ofo Music lab I wonder who that's four. And of course a lot of closets. All cames lovely trinkets. Now this is currently valued at sixty million, so I'm not a one. I'm not good with money, but I would say that's a good investment. You put forty in, and it's worth sixty. Tell me. Who else is Okay Lady Gaga has snagged a California Mansion for about twenty three million dollars at six acres with an ocean view at Jim. This is what's special about Gaga's hires has a bowling alley very nice I? Don't take a bowler think of, but she probably does something like creative in that bowling alley. She has the bowling shoe have to. Dot Style. If you come to my house, I have a bowling alley and you scuff my. Yeah my you know, come to your house, I haven't been invited or when I come to. You do I have to take my shoes? Are you that sort person? Depends like if it's a rainy day rainy day, you're taking your shoes off. Do you actually say it? The frontal shoes off before you know, but then I silently judge if you walk around my head Wilson. I'm not rude because I invited you over I'm not going to be rude. Right off. The Bat I New York City I might be wrong here I live in the city. Not many people come to you. You beat people in the ball, but it's discussing if you don't take your shoes off when you live in a big city, the amount of dog. Animals. She's nine. It's my student. My, shoes coming off Hay auto thank you very much. Let me move a log Gwen Stafani. Thank you for the shoes. Thank you for. The shoes quenched default border state on the day. Her home is worth thirty five million. Now. This is hers. This is this is so she's I. Think is for sale right now because she's going to move him with Blake have a marriage date yet, but they will get married guess. They're used to own a house before her Jennifer Lopez. Love this that they it's sort of like. This. Club. Fraternity! Jessica Simpson has. Known worked for chess. Cher house is adorable, tiny little highs, beautiful flowers around the the the the front door, Very old-fashioned Ellen, too generous used to own it. Thankfully, it was all ellen's decorated which. You don't have to. Just move in. Love it okay. Let's talk about Gwen acquaintance. It has seven bedrooms and eleven bathrooms that big on bathroom the bathroom. Why why the appeal parties I know this is what else she has of. That's probably what it is although you beat them. This is what else is very special about this home. It has an affinity, Paul love good infant. That means it's one of those pools that looks like it never ends just drops off just drumming. Where does it begin then Kayano waterfall. It makes me very nervous. It has a playground for the kids. Has Tennis court I could do that and it has a chicken coop. A chicken chicken for Blake brakes, no. No not not for but Blake Blake country country boy, Ryan, that's why he has a very careful on the next one. He's a member of the IHEART families. Mr Ryan seacrest now he has. A house worth fourteen nine million dollars. Yes forty nine million dollars. We want in this dumb people don't make that a year. Ryan seacrest Barth. Is Hollywood hills home? We're just talking about her. Ellen Degeneres Allen's little secret here. Allen's a little bit of real estate mogul Allen Porsche. They do. This is a hobby. It's also given extraordinarily well for they any case, but they find little beautiful houses, maybe a little they renovate them, and then they sell them to their friends interest. What else does where I want nine bedrooms? Features over nine thousand square feet. But you can get lost while you'd think he has. A radio station in the House probably TV station of American idol sorting around. Yes, exactly where you have a pool. And a separate guesthouse very now if you stay over in a celebrity's house like this shooter, nine bedrooms right and you put in a guest house. Isn't that kind of like the I like you but I? Don't like you know for you to stay in my house. Nine bedrooms nine bedrooms. A Guest House today. I have a little gossip on Ryan Ryan. If you're listening, this is said we'd love in new. York City Rose Hatem. Bryant's had to move to new. York for the show with Kelly ratio rates through the roof. If you say something nice before you say something, mean helps so great show Ryan ratings through the roof. We love the show. Ryan had to relocate so I met somebody who knew his gardener, and he had a terrace and Ryan in New York City it's not a lot of privacy. You can see everybody and everything. He wanted some bushes. Put around his terrorist Bush. They couldn't they can. They can camouflage Brian Yes they can stop the privacy privacy, and what the is said was because of Ryan's height. He didn't need the biggest Bush. Nice little shrub. Little, from. Its two party. Right. We love. You, we love Asia. About twenty bucks the Home Depot. To little shrubs put them in A. Rupture to tell me about this guy because I know, you're a big sports enthusiasts monster. He does tell me everything. Tiger Woods Tiger Woods him. He has a he has many houses, but one in Florida. That's worth fifty four point. Four million dollars to you know at the point of we both know Tiger Woods makes a lot of money it makes. Is that the Disneyland? Castle inflammation? Has He owns? He owns Terrell's castle. Everybody leaves at night. Tiger Woods comes into the park lives his life full. Really, this is on Jupiter Florida. Say Yes, really fancy, which boasts one of the wealthiest zip codes in the country, the other being Tribeca New York and nine. Oh Two one! Oh No, that's why you should take your shoes off. It's very pricey real estate. Put Him back on I have. All right. So we're talking twelve acres that comes with a three point, five Acre Golf. Course that's we need for practice. What else does he? He's got a tennis court. Now why I get. You WanNa do something different, but why not just make a bigger golf course and get? That's true. He has an oxygen therapy very Michael Jackson now is this one of those like like a SPA like a? It's like his muscles due to be oxidized off. I think that's full Jim Culture. You know if you've seen him shirtless. He's been working out, so you gotta think he uses the Jim. Here's a wine cellar. ooh, this is the first time we're hearing wine cellar. Lady Gaga had. Game Room And a media room so two different things we're talking about a little. Knock hockey in one room and. Watch movies and the other then, too. Because you need one one for you and for your friend. Over the where are you going? I'm getting on the boat. Going to tiger woods reportedly put fifteen million of renovations into this has so we'd seems to me like you would think. Is the more expensive the homeless, the less you needed to renovate right, but that doesn't seem to be the case here on this list. Tom Cruise To be like a like a billion dollars seeing this high, so tom did his view with Oprah to Nancy's love with Katie home. This was the. and not the couch, so he went in studio and jumped on the couch. Then Oprah came to visit them in this house in Colorado pronouncing that right Colorado parents, the first one teller tolerate telluride. Tell you right. Colorado and it had snow there. He went out on a snowmobile with Oprah. She didn't like that and then Katie Baked cupcakes. The kitchen was a fabulous in. Our special I didn't work. Second! Why didn't Tell you about the highest. Oh, he has two hundred and ninety eight acres. Fall does a lot. To stay. He has his own forest. He has a riding stable. He has Raleigh Hills. He has a private Heli Pant and. X. Out the sound of music on the. Mission impossible on this. Incredible! It's a ten thousand square foot home, seven bedrooms, nine bathrooms, and he has a custom library told me likes to read Robert Anytime I have to get in my car to go get the mail or the newspaper from the front. I'm not into it. Not I need the male at my door. I don't need twenty minute ride. Don't get an email gotta think he's getting someone. Some? Okay. They said controversial. All Right Brad Pitt Angelina Jolie. They paid one married sixty seven million dollars for their chateau in the south of France now is this the Chateau? That's next to Clooney's it. No, he's. Don Countries God forbid. The out there. I thought they were. Betty countries in Europe is not one place lease. You know what Colorado was all right so this French chateau called Chateau built Bala better mill meadow. Von Miller Fred checks. They bought around two thousand and eight. For about sixty seven million dollars. You got. They got married. They got married at the Chateau. Do you think that's an omen? You got married in the House didn't work out well. It has an olive grove has a private lake. Garden. Move. It has three breadsticks. Pay Sixty seventy seven own olive garden. So it built in the seventeenth century. It has thirty five rooms. They still own this together. There's a lot of controversy after the divorce like had he split it well? This makes money for them. Because it has a vineyard, said they sell their own. Why and since the divorce had actually released two new bottles of wine, so it's a really fancy vineyard, we. We should get some where we're GONNA buy this week. There has to be somewhere. You, you find it. It's very expensive. You pay for it or I. Will who you're? Beyond say and Jay z they have houses everywhere all right but one of the houses that they have Los Angeles just like a lot of celebrities eighty eight million dollars. So here's what it has full SPA now. Do you think the SPA comes with people working in the spot for eight hundred million dollars? It better come with destiny's child in the kitchen. What else Kelly doing. She's giving massages. Today Media Room for outdoor swimming pool full one for everyone one for everyone and then. Mom. Dad comes over. The property also has a basketball court, fifteen car garage, fifteen and staff housing now. Do you think the fifteen car garage is now just one big closet, well, they. Think that. If. It's just horribly. Is the big toy room or blue? I? The number one on our list number one. Oprah Winfrey. Of course she ever. Acre in California estimated to be worth one hundred million dollars. In Montecito California also known as the Promised Land which means if the Lord came back this where he would. Remind! Magin? Gale has a guestroom. It'd be nice the guy over. Let me tell you about the highest. Yes, twenty three thousand square foot mansion, and it's estimated two hundred million sheep bought it for the rich. Get Richer. She paid fifty million dollars worth one hundred. Of course it is six bedrooms, fourteen bathrooms ten fireplaces to theaters. What indoors outdoors a wine cellar Abban? Pond Partridge in a pear tree everything you could ever league she. Dead. House at a teahouse. Walk would love a good. Time here we're GONNA take a quick break, but when we come back, we get into a naughtiest and nicest of the day. We'll be right back. It's a basic truth. People need each other. It's why Penn Fed credit unions. I members joined together for a better financial future for eighty five years. We've been there for our members and communities and we're here for you today we can help you bridge a financial gap. Save wisely and make confident decisions with your money. We know we are always stronger and better together. That's why we hope join. US membership is open to everyone. Apply today at Penn Pep dot org insured by NCUA. Welcome back to the not that I share with my friend Garrett. Yes, from elder show to. Nicest of the day. I thought you could do this one. I love this guy. I love this Guy Rupture Dwayne. The Rock Johnson so Dwayne the Rock, Johnson did something very cool of a couple years ago before his father just recently, who passed away, he bought his father a brand new house. He was doing a video, said the phone. My Dad great call just had to share this with you guys real quick. He began in video so about two three weeks ago. Call, my dad, said look. You're probably happy where you are but I want to do something for you want to buy a brand new home wherever you want it. That's crazy wherever you wanna live, you can live. That's why the Rock is nice. It's not only of the day, but always. Okay unnoticed of the day. And not just of the day following a real estate theme is Black China. She was sued by a former landlord for not paying rent. She owes seventy two thousand two former landlord who sued for unpaid rent and damages to to the home that she rented from him. It's a default judgment. What that means is the judge ruled for the landlord because she never responded to the suit. You are notice of the day. Pay. Pay The rent. He make money pay event. It's time for our moment of Rob. Guarantee on the show. We lied to be silly. Selves Lapa for a minute or a moment, we lost a little bit more serious than today's to rob comes from the wizard of Oz. That's right. There is no place like home I've traveled a lot. Really really lucky. I've done it often on other people's dying because I couldn't afford to travel right that I've had working for celebrities for years I would travel with them. And he always felt luxuriance to check into a great hotel and a fabulous city I always look forward to coming home. Make your home a place that you love investing your home investing you and altogether, there is no place like home. That's it for today. Show the thank you for listening to the Naughty, but show with Rob Garrett. You are always welcome my frame of you. This production of iheartradio and don't forget to subscribe on the iheartradio APP apple podcast wherever you listen and leave us a review. Have you left me review? Yes, five! Thank you very much. I remember altogether if you're going to be. GotTa. Be Nice take. 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215: Tommy Terrific's Can't Miss No Doubter NFL Picks

Terrific Talk with Tom Anderson

07:20 min | 7 months ago

215: Tommy Terrific's Can't Miss No Doubter NFL Picks

"Credit on my name's Tom Anderson paak. Okay, Norman Blake Blake, I feel ready to go another night and I feel ready to go another night and touch down today. I consider myself lucky house on the bricks. We don't do with it. Not odd can welcome back with it. I'm your host Tom Anderson paak, you know, they had a bath. All right. Today's special. Terrific Talk podcast is brought to you by BetOnline. Thank you for checking out the podcast whether you're listening on Spotify Hai tujhe. It's good to be with you. This is special podcast. We're doing today. We're doing some special NFL Primetime pics here on terrific talk. It is Sunday. I'm taping this right around 6:00. So we got the Sunday night kickoff coming in about 2 hours tonight from San Francisco. We got a big divisional game here. The Rams at the Niners took the spread here is the Rams are favored by 2 and 1/2 points 49ers just got absolutely embarrassed last week. Grappolo bench things are are not looking good. This is real like a must-win game to save the nine or seasoned feels like they're at home big division game against the Rams. I'm sorry. I think people have been sleeping on the Rams all season long. They're good on both sides of the ball. It looks like with Kubrick up back there moving the ball again on offense. I like the Rams tonight in this spot - 2 and 1/2 the Niners for you know, it's it's unbelievable. Every single season the team that loses in the Superbowl the next year that come back and they're just atrocious like you're expecting them to turn it around this happens every single time the team that loses they need to turn it around. It's always a disappointing season. A lot of times they missed the playoffs Niners, you know, it's been a tough start to their season cuz they've had so many injuries right off the bat. They're starting to get a little bit healthier, but something just seems a little off to me with the Niners. I like the way the Rams are playing so I'm going to take the ramps tonight - 2 and 1/2 on the road. That's my first prime-time pick here on terrific talk the other one back tomorrow night's game. We got two games Monday Night Football first up the Kansas City Chiefs taken on the Buffalo Bills in Buffalo. This games at 5:00 a weird time. So don't forget that's on tomorrow Chiefs are favored by Five Points here. I'm going to roll with the Chiefs. I like the Chiefs. I think they're coming off a weird game. I think Patrick Mahomes vs. Jaja Should be a good one. I think this is definitely going to be high scoring. I would take the over in this game. That's fifty six and half I go over. I think they're going to be a lot of points. Not a lot of Defense Le'Veon Bell in the Chiefs. Now. What a pickup unbelievable how he does. I like the Chiefs -5 though. I think they get it done tomorrow the other game. This is a good one the Cardinals and the Cowboys Dak Prescott going down. He's after the year last week a horrible horrible injury wage incomes Andy, Dalton. And a lot of people forget like Andy Dalton, he never won the big playoff game, but he was on those bangles teams that won ten games like consistently every single year off and he was a big part of that him and AJ Green he's got a ton of weapons here with the Dallas Cowboys. No, I don't think he's good as DAC, but I don't think the drop-off is going to be like crazy. I think they'll be competitive in this one Arizona me. It seems kind of like a night in 7898 kind of team. They're they're on their way, Marie looks he's going to be a special player, but they're not incredible. I like Dallas here coming off just an emotional week last week. I think they get it done Carlos repaired by a point, but I'm going to take the Cowboys plus one. So to recap my Primetime games here on terrific talk this week. I've got off the LA Rams on the road beating the Niners tonight then tomorrow I'm going to take the Chiefs on the road to beat the Buffalo Bills - 5 and then finally the Monday night game 8:15 taking the. Dallas Cowboys at home getting a point. I'm hoping to go three-and-out for you guys this week. That is the main goal here on terrific talk and then we get it going. We don't I mean it seems like every team think over data work is kind of like it's fine, but everything will work out. I'm very nervous at the NFL's going to get shot down. So we can't have that because we love our people with bad online as I mentioned the terrific Talk podcast is brought to you by our friends over at betonline.ag football's back. You might not be at a game this year, but you can still be in on the action at BetOnline bet on lines going the extra mile to make sure you can get in on everything imaginable this season from game spreads and totals to team player and coaching props. 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We'll see you. We'll see you next week here on terrific talk go follow me on Twitter at her home. Tom is the handle a terrific Talk podcast is the handle on Instagram and at terrific talk Tom, lotta a lot of nice tick tocks coming out of me lately. Go check out my Tik Tok. Terrific Talk t e Okay, Tom. All right. We'll see you next week. Enjoy the games have a good week. Both of the route of jog. My name is Mountain Home Guard Tom. Tom. Tom. Tom. Tom. Tom Tom. I feel ready to go another night. And I feel ready to go another night and shut off today. I consider myself lucky. Not hot. Welcome that did not have thought. I'm your host Tom Anderson paak.

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NPR News: 09-03-2020 6PM ET

NPR News Now

04:39 min | 8 months ago

NPR News: 09-03-2020 6PM ET

"Live from NPR news. I'm Jack. Speer stocks had their worst day since June today with the major indices, all sharply lower NPR's Jim Zarroli reports. The market was dragged down by a big drop in the tech sector. After days of record gains, the market suddenly reversed course the S. and P. Five hundred index ended the day down three and a half percent. The Nasdaq composite index plunged nearly five percent. It was a reversal of fortune for the market which has been hitting record highs for weeks on Wednesday the Dow ended the day above twenty nine thousand for the first time. Since February much of the recent gains have been led by superstar tech stocks such as apple and Amazon but. They were among the day's biggest losers shares of the electric car maker Tesla, which have seen phenomenal growth. This year, we're down nine percent Jim Zarroli NPR news looking at the numbers the Dow dropped eight, hundred, seven points. The Nasdaq fell five, hundred, Ninety, eight points Democratic presidential hopeful Joe Biden traveled Wisconsin today where he met with the family of Jacob Blake Blake is the black man who was shot in the back multiple times by Kenosha Wisconsin police officer by was also meeting with business figures, civic leaders, and others hoping to start a dialogue president trump traveled to Kenosha earlier this week but did not meet with members of Blake's family. Trump is holding a rally in Pennsylvania this evening. FACEBOOK says it will label post from politicians that claim victory before election results are final impure Shannon bond reports. The Social Media Network is under pressure to curb misinformation CEO. Mark Zuckerberg says he's worried about November's election including the possibility of civil unrest if it takes days or weeks to count votes. So facebook says it will put. On Post, attempting to de-legitimize the outcome pointing users to official results from news agency Reuters, the company has come under criticism for how Russian agency attempted to influence voters on its platform in two thousand sixteen. In this year's contentious election the company is under pressure to crack down on false inflammatory claims from users in the US including politicians like president trump facebook generally gives politicians latitude over what they can say, but it says they cannot make false claims about voting Shannon, von NPR, News San Francisco. Beating urging meeting of all thirty ambassadors Friday to discuss whether to take any collective action after the poisoning of Russian. Opposition activists, Alexia Vanni Teri Schultz reports the circumstances are different from two thousand eighteen with the line kicked out seven Russian diplomats for poisoning in the UK even though this attack did not take place on NATO territory many allies want to send a clear message they find it unacceptable and that they blame Moscow the twentieth eighteen poisoning of former Russian spy Sergei scruple and his daughter in the UK prompted the alliance to expel seven diplomats from Russia's mission to NATO. Reporter TERI Schultz this is NPR. Activists in Rochester New York or calling for the city police officers involved the death of a black man Daniel proved to be prosecuted. His family says prude was having a mental health issue when his brother called the police for help prove died after a confrontation with responding officers from member station W. X. I know eleven has more. Rochester police encountered a naked in distressed Daniel prude around three am on March twenty third when he began to struggle officers, put a hood over his head known as a spit suck. Then held him on the ground he stopped breathing and paramedics responded but proved died a week. Later, the release of police body camera footage of the incident Wednesday proves family has sparked jr Mr Pruitt new therapeutic intervention. Instead what he got was execution Reverend Louis. Stewart's spoke to a gathering outside Rochester City Hall. Thursday activists are calling for a disbanding of the Police Department prudes family plans to file a wrongful death lawsuit for NPR news. I'm Noel Evans in Rochester new? York this hour this heaven officers involved have been suspended. Food processing. Company Tyson says it's playing an opening medical connects at several of its US plants as it works to improve the health of its workers and better protect them from the corona virus. The Arkansas based company, which currently processes about twenty percent of the nation's beef pork and poultry says it plans to open the clinics and the plans in the works before the coronavirus hit this year Tyson joins a growing list of US companies that are putting medical clinics at or near their work sites. I'm Jack Speer NPR news.

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Amy Winehouse: Rehab, the Muse and a Rare Talent

DISGRACELAND

44:30 min | 2 years ago

Amy Winehouse: Rehab, the Muse and a Rare Talent

"Hey, it's that you're listening to disgrace land. You also knew that. So I know that you have discerning case in podcasts. And I want to recommend another one. It's a music documentary show from the great KCRW called loss notes in its second season music, journalist, Jessica hopper unearth. Some of the greatest music stories never told fans can learn about the pioneers, Suzanne shiong the woman behind David boies favorite rock band. Fanny and how powers two thousand six album league greatest may have saved one fans. Crazy fine loss notes. Wherever you listen to podcasts. Wanted to give you a quick heads up. The disgrace San live at Sinclair Cambridge mass on may tenth about sell out last. I checked there were less than fifty tickets lifts. So if you planning on attending, I sincerely hope you are head over to disgrace them pod dot com slash tour. Buyer tickets today disgrace him lives coming to Denver may twenty fifth to the gothic theatre. Tickets are moving in our vailable for purchase at disgrace land, pod dot com slash tour. Disgrace them will also be in San Francisco, June twenty-first, twenty thirty at comedy central's cluster fest appearing along with Amy Poehler, John Mullany roots my favorite murder, Courtney Burnett. Dan, band, girl, talk, Colin Jost, and many many others? This lineup is insane in the festival's can be a blast. So if you haven't already head over to disgrace land, pod dot com slash toward grab your tickets. And I'll see out there rock'n'roll. Scrapes land is a production of I heart radio, double Elvis media. Stories about Amy winus. She drinker wheat and alcohol. Brazenly hit on Prince Harry tied herself off to mainline more heroin than nineteen seventy six Keith Richards in tight herself to a boy named Blake who is the baddest of bad influences. Amy was also at times inspired most always musically speaking, at least inspiring in Amy wino- made great music that music. You heard at the top of the show that wasn't great music. That was a preset loop from my mellow. John called mellow Tango flash flash flash. Vk one I've played you that loop because I can't afford the license for sexy back by Justin Timberlake. And why would I play that specific slice of rapture inspired cheese? Could I afford it? Because that was the number one song in America on October twenty seven two thousand six and that was the day the Amy wino- us released back to. Black her smash second album and album that would skyrocket. Her superstardom. Make your an easy Merck for both the 'paparazzi and her demons a suffocating reality. That would kill the very thing inside of her the pushed to make music in the first place on this episode, a mellow ting electro cheese, a fleeting muse and Amy winus. I'm Jay Brennan. This screen. Eyes were open as she walked down the sidewalk, Jason Kim, Gordon square. But they were far away distant they may as well have been closed AB wine. I saw none of the chaos around her as she made her way down the London street from Holly arms, her local to her flat around the way, the cameras there flash the intrusive. Shouts for members of the 'paparazzi in their commands. Do this don't do that house reg when was last time he saw Blake. When are we getting new music to Amy it was white noise as disruptive as it was she could no longer. Register. She walked down the street and affect her thousand euros junkie stare. It wasn't difficult. She done her time the shooting gallery, even shoes off smack in even as she was drunk. She knew how to project the gays Amy would trigger self in thinking about something else music. Always she watch her voice as sound of it. Was a physical thing that could be tracked visually. Amy would a melody sometimes one of her own something she was working these days. It was usually a classic from the torch song from one of the jazz greats. She admired and studied Sarah von Tony Bennett. Amey would imagine that melody passing over her lips and rising up into the sky loading freely. Limitations cruel world, it would move with ease around the clouds from left to right linking and sliding imagine. Bars of some cosmic scale, a sonic manifestation of emotion. Welling up inside a heavily mascara vision board one of those transparent acetate sheets music school. Teachers place on old new foil projectors layered over the reality of the unwanted fame than complicated. Her world the same world, she tottered through alternately out of forage heels and bloody ballerina shoes. Simpler times school was out. Reality is in and it was a mind fuck of the highest order celebrity was a twenty four seven invasion. It scared away the muse before success. The muse was like desperate bar back last call just they're eager in easy. But after success, the muse became allusive every so often Amy would corner of amusing when she did she'd rapper tattooed fingers around his throat push his chin up in a way that gave her access to the part of the neck below the crux of the job just under the ear. She'd press her lips to his tight skin, and like vampire litter hot breath, penetrate, the moment, she could feel the muse giving into her sliding one hand to the small of her back palm her head with the other pressing the tips of his fingers to massage your scalp, gently while she moved her lips and tongue about his neck when the sweat started. She knew he was hers her heart would swell. She could feel ourselves smile. Aisling laughing swooning inside feeling that old feeling inspired. Celebrate Tori in need of a drink. She turned to the bar for quick pull on her pipe and then back to the muse he'd be gone. In his place. The lead of thousand Suns flashing popping interface lining, pushing your blood devotional ratcheting up or Zayed's backing into a corner leaving little room to think to create feel to love. So citing your songs across the sky was tactic defense mechanism away to block out the paparazzi in a way to stay rooted in creativity. Sometimes it worked most times it didn't today was working. So Amy was happy arise smile turning up. The ends of her lips as she walked on by. And the Camden summer air cooled or skin and the bustle of early evening was kicking in time for Amy that had home from the pub nighttime was not the right time. Not for Amy too much temptation to slippery slope wasn't always this way. Though. Amy wine was used to own Camden, nightlife and her own couldn't care less kind of way. Candid, nightlife itself was a different thing. Then as well. It was the epicenter of cool. The north west London neighborhood with its markets record stores and bookshops was home to a bar called the and the hosted a party on Monday nights called trash Earl Alkan visionary DJ host to lodge trash revolutionize the UK nightclub scene with John defying music, he spun and the performers he booked trash propelled, British club culture beyond tired Britpop. And it's where those two star crossed lovers electric. Tar in the big beat the slutty electron electric big finally said fuck it jumped in the sack together club's demise is too close in the rear view. But in years to come music nerds who write about this sort of thing? We'll come to recognize the trash was influential as not as it CBGB's velvet rope line studio fifty four in the early two thousands electric music was no longer lane. More precisely its offshoot electro clash was the height of cool. If you're one of those people who drum machines pre. Programmed retrigger drums, had quote, unquote, no soul. You're either old out of touch. If you were lucky enough to make it past the fashion police door to trash on the Monday night. What you found riding on the dance floor to the angular guitars and filthy beats the raptures house of jealous lovers LCD sound systems, losing my hedge was a sound of the new millennium in urging sexier rock and roll the embodiment soul. A gym dance course stone sauced sweaty sexy. Twentysomethings some of were about to write future pot. Trash was basically over hersal space liberties scruffy, London. Indie band that find rock and roll for large swath of British acts like the strokes kings of Leon white stripes, peaches and star making DJ on the make Mark Ronson all hung out at trash all artists whose influence is felt widely. Today's pop music as I write this the morning after the sixty first annual Grammy awards, Mark Ronson and Anthony Ross Mondo the touring Ivars to replace thirty liberties are busy sleeping off the high winning the Grammy award for best song for lady Gaga shallow. How's that for influence? Also in the crowded trash on the regular, Amy wine house. She could be seeing crushed up against the stage of early libertine performances at trash and trashes promiscuous air genre. Bending music programming can be heard on her Mark Ronson co-produce second album. And of course, trash is where she met Blake Blake fielder. There. Love was instant hot impassioned. And like most of what would come to define their future relationship illicit, Amy and Blake we're both seeing the people, but significant others could not significantly tamp down lust for one another. It was all consuming and for Amy inspiring. Blake was amused. The love he brought to the party was compelling the drugs brought to the party where another story entirely coke speed pills heroin and crack were all in play and they played against Amy's inspiration. Her demons always just touch below the surface where easily called into. Action to speed her descent into the grimy addictive underground that a new boyfriend traffic Blake fielder mover shaker drama, maker, roving gambler with the rambling tongue in the faraway is thief junkie the future, Mr. Amy line house. Who Tang clan? Shangri LA is salt and pepper. Donny Hathaway all ended up on the mix. The mix playing on repeat and Amy wine houses head these artists and more singed, Amy wine house, their musical influence on her was both obvious and subtle depending on who you were talking about. But the one trade they all shared the Amy picked up on. And never put down was their command voice say what you will about Wu Tang, the Shangri LA salt and pepper and Donny Hathaway who when they were doing their thing each ascended to the head of their respective packs, and it was because of the command their music specifically over their voices. Everyone was a top notch vocalist shirt a jazz singer as her hero. Tony Bennett said of her she saying the right way. He was right hearing that quote, it's easy to think that he's talking about her technique when we talk about vocal technique physicality God giving gifts figure heavy into the equation. But the other component emotion is just as important, but perhaps more crucial singer chooses to do with that Russian like an actor singers, make choices in no pop singer in modern history shows more wisely than Amy why? Now, she transported herself in order to connect the lyric. She say whether they were standards sung previously by jazz. Motown giants or whether they were written by her if they were written by her you can bet they were drawn from a place of deep experience, usually pay. She would thoroughly searched for an emotion before committing voice to song. And the result was a stunning command of our. Our instrument her voice as strong as Jimi. Hendrix commanders guitar Keith moon's over his kit or pick your conic analogy. Anyone else could matching but to make a great record takes more than just that command power technique. It takes something even more special. It takes a song. A hit song with lyrics that is hard wired for the singers heart where the singer is such a reliable narrator in the lyric despite its simplicity is compelling because of its authenticity. When lyric has that combination, simplicity authenticity, emotion point of view? It has the power to stop the world from spinning and make listeners say to themselves. And then sprint to the internet or record stores. Wherever people get their music to listen to it over and over and over again. And that's what Amy wine houses breakout. Single did with lyric. They try to make me go to rehab, and I said, no, no, no. Of course, you did look at you big Ronnie spector beehive black mascara for days tattoos skinny like a coke spoon teeth fucked up, and that's sexy English way. And no kidding. You said, no, no, no, you hearts to break bars diplo's charts to top and more and more songs to write for us about that son of a bitch who mess you up. What's his name that dude with the role of Fred Perry? Sleaze constantly looks either hung over wasted your muse. You say Blake. Amy wino- hit and her new husband Blake fielder was very much along for the ride though. The ride began over on road in the beginning Amien Blake had significant others. And when they seem to have finally committed to each other Blake Bill and went back to his girlfriend, Amy was heartbroken. But she was also inspired. She opened in a motion vein and porter heart out to Lear and undertake I wonder Blake inspired batch of songs is finally released Amy's first single rehab shot up the charts and both the UK and the states launching your second album. The Mark Ronson co produced back to black up charts. Amy took America by storm. I with the star turning performance on the late show at the Letterman where she in her. Excellent far backing band Brooklyn's dab kings announced her arrival Hari from their radio, or what was left of time two thousand seven along with the internet got fully behind the scene. And with Amy's arresting punk rock, by way of girl group. Good looks and quick wit the press and the tabloids were immediately treat, suddenly, Amy wine. House was everywhere before was all said and done back to black win five Grammy awards and become the second biggest selling album of all time of the UK and go on to sell a combined twelve million copies worldwide. But was success comes stress superstar stress. Amy wine house now responsibilities? An all she wanted to do is get back to life in Camden, lake drink get high which was Blake until was now preferred way of passing time right me songs, but she faced extensive touring performing Sahib. She'd already got tired of performing the reluctant popstar was thrust into the music industry getting sheen tasked wing audience through TV, appearances, interviews and photo shoots. Worst of all what came with all that was increase of interest from the tabloid press in the burgeoning ages social media, she was under more scrutiny than ever and stressed the fuck out about it. Amy was sometimes insecure about her looks her weight and even her talent. And when she felt insecure she got struck after fleeing a photo shoot in tears because she didn't she said feel pretty she managed to find some courage after a fortifying bottler three of champagne drinking through a workdays was the way she coped eating was something. Other people did her body suffered. She no longer filled out her form-fitting pinup girl dresses and sometimes joke that she used every eating disorder Ville with her as a means of maintaining or figure as your body gets smaller, and eventually frailer her hair got bigger her makeup more dramatic, she hoped that artifice would create some distance telegraph to her fans and detractors alike that what really mattered was the music success for Amy wine was not what she expected was problematic. Amy blamed many of your problems on her daddy issues. Mitch White House had not only left. Her mother, Janice when he was nine he also brought around to the house the woman he'd been having an affair with for most of ABC life beginning when she was just two years old. In fact, shoving his love life and rejection of them in their faces Amy craved her father's attention. She still looked up to him wanted his approval, but underlying that sense of abandonment and rejection were behavioral problems that she'd shown since she was a toddler she suffered from depression, and may have been bi-polar, and she was put on a mood stabilizing drug in temp to controller symptoms. Most often though, she took her anger out on herself. She began cutting age nine just little lines and cross adjutant marks so tiny could barely see them. They were there. They gave her a kind of release gave her a sense of control, however, fleeting as an adult. She still cut herself. It was something she in Blake had done. Separately as children now, the did it together romantic cut, cut cut, the little blood a little more blood. Then the shame and the scars she cut herself to punish yourself to punish Blake at the same time. She began to depend more and more on blink a man who could barely take care of himself to support her emotionally his care of her. Blake was her man, her amuse, her mess, a hardcore drug user, he brought heroin and crack into the relationship, but Amy wasn't some passive victim. She embraced his world of drugs wholeheartedly. When she was using drugs drinking, Amy lack self control. Then again, why should she control ourselves? She was aiming wino- you'd never knew which Amy we're going to get. She could be funny and flamboyant or fucked up and fidgety at the q awards in two thousand six where you to received yet another award of some kind Amy was there sitting in the audience. She got he has Bano droned on. He literally would not shut up Amy wanted a drink. She wanted to smoke and her feet hurt her hair ist, she wanted to leave Jesus Bano will you ever fucking shut up. She shouted it came out loud in her. Heaviest cockney accent heads turned people shushed von glared. She gives shit about pissing off Bajo, and she didn't mind making seen either. She wanted out award shows Werner thing for Amy a girl from Camden festivals were mortar taste at the wireless festival. She was in her element. She hit the VIP bar. She. Feeling right and short yellow halter. Dress peop- toast, the Littles mile high beehive in signature red lipstick. She looked around backstage to see who was worthy of her tension as cheesy began is set. Amy notice the A-List who are surrounding her the magnificent beyond say that smug little snob. Gwyneth Paltrow and the has been twins. Kate moss. Madonna, but Amy was an interest in any of them cheaters sights set on an unsuspecting inefficiently single, Royal Prince, Harry or prince hot ginge is he was dubbed the tabloids. He was captivating. All this rogue Laurie AB washed vibe to h two is he raised his hands to the anthem as did is doesn't or so bodyguards. Suddenly they're on high alert because Camden tattooed rose is rolling up on the prince, the crack addled songstress the Greek, Amy wine. I was herself was barreling. Right. Atom 'paparazzi swarmed around her she moved toward or how he sat at the side of the stage. She called he'd never met her any wasn't exactly planning on doing that. Now either. What was she doing? God. She was coming closer. Our it's me, Amy this point security rain down on her promptly apprehended. You're Prince Harry remained embarrassed play as she was dragged off by her handlers. And then by security. Sometimes Amy had things under control other times. She did not that was the case in the night. Amy been invited by a friend to production of Cinderella. The friend was starring prince charming by the time Amy arrive, she was feeling the fight rise up. She wanted to embarrass from just a little she wanted attention. She wanted to be funny to be loved. She wanted to disrupt to hurt. She wanted the glass slipper totter around into break to cut to wanna cheated the prince she needed to be syndrome. She was syndrome cinders, she screamed marry me prince charming. Little kids in the audience. Confused parents shocked that theater manager beside himself. Amy get up out of receives walking up and down the aisles trying to charge with minimal barris this manager approached a low voice ear said, please come with me miss. She pulled away we have a private VIP seating area. You'd be more comfortable, he continued politely. The fuck of coming with you a couple of security guards of to escort quarter out of the building. She said she needed to use the bathroom. I but that was just a ploy to hit the bar again. She wobbled toward the bathroom and then made a break to a small service bar in the hallway to the tuxedo, a bartender. She said I wanna vodka miss Winas wouldn't a glass of water be then that's what she hit him. The bartender in open headed smack right in his face, then a closed fist wallow then Amy attacks for real flailing arms and legs scratching kicking the bartender about twice her size. Tried. Restraining Amy nothing batons connected straight with his balls the full security team managed to get any under control her bodyguard promise. She'd reporter so police in the morning no-one had called the cops. But someone tipped off the press, and as she left theater the paparazzi was in full effect flash. Flash flash. An endless barrage of intrusive cameras in questions. Amy what happened when's the next record coming out? Is it ever coming out? Amy. Why are you so skinny what did you smoke tonight, Amy, whereas Blake is cheating on you? When are you going to rehab, Amy Amy Amy, Amy, Amy, Amy, she looked up for tangle hair on done, a mess? One shoe in her hand one lost her bare feet stepping unsteadily through the cold winter night. She had just one question for the theater manager the cops her husband, her father, her fans, the tabloid sleazy followed her one question, just who the fuck you. You think you are? We'll be right back after this word word word. Do you sell stuff online? Then you know, what a pain shipping can be. It's time consuming. It's expensive. It's a hassle until now. Introducing ship station, the fastest easiest and most affordable way to get your products to your customers, whether you sell stuff on Amazon Oetzi shop or your own website, which ship station, you can quickly ship all orders from one easy to use dashboard. Saving you a ton of time. There's even an easy to use mobile app. So you always have access plus you'll save money with ship stations deeply discounted rates from all the top carriers like USPS, UPS, FedEx and more. 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Lake fielder decided on one more drink right after he decided on one last line cope. And after that he decided that maybe another line was in order. And of course, then another drink then a line in that I drink and then in the more drink, then a lick of his index finger swipe across the top of the bathroom sink for what was left the blow then shot to dull the realization that he had no more cope. He exited the bathroom in Bob his head manically to the song from pulp lasting club speakers at ear-shattering volume. Name was Deborah, then he sucked his gums pulled out his empty Bill from sticky gene pocket right there in the dance floor impressed it into his nostrils inhaling hard but getting nothing back to the bar another shop and then a failed attempt to calling guy to nowhere and Jarvis cocker really needed a tone of the fuck down it never suited. You Blake was annoyed and coke and no cope the MacBeth. Was bumping the bars survived two world wars and even Typos but Blake is drinking, buddy. We're about to give the place run for its money in the open very unsavory chapter in their own lives. There were jacked up shouting at no one in particular and banging on the table. Most everyone tried knowing the crowd of the upmarket establishment was getting tired of their cocaine fueled who in bullshit stoned out of their minds and pissed that there was no more coke Blake and his friend were by all accounts, ready to blow their tops livewires hot mic spilled out bound the blow. They're scaring the customers that lasts the bar on affable impeccably dressed stepped up the cable inform them that it was time to pay up. Home when he escort a Blake and his boy to the door. The pair grabbed the bartender dragged him outside his suit jacket lakes, boy them to the ground. He and Blake then viciously kicked the man in the head is curled into a bloody fetal position one kick to the face the sound of cracking bone. The bartenders cheekbone busted a kick to his I this is socket shattered. A brutal kick to one side of his jaw and then to the other side of his face. And the bartender was barely conscious. When all was said and done after multiple surgeries, the bartender had have his face fitted with metal plates to make it look like a face again, his destroyed Izhak it was reconstructed with titanium mesh was used to hold his I in place his jaw once it was reattached to his skull was held together with a metal bolt not ten men down like Roger Moore, just one man. The two coked up idiots kick the shit out of for no good reason. And there's a name for that kind of beating an English criminal odds called an assault of grievous bodily harm with intent or GBH for short at snares Crown Court lake fielder was brought before the honorable judge David rat fourth who told Blake that is behavior was quote for to reduce cowardly, and I should not a disgrace. I'm quote, Blake incredibly said, but judge our right pissed at the time. The judge thought fielder was that explain shook his head in disbelief. Lake began to worry about the prospect of serious jail time. Within a few months. Blake was falling down and pulling Amy along with them every chance he got together hand in hand, they were spiraling worse. They were constantly in the news and tabloids they were busted for cannabis in Norway and Amy's embarrassing gig at the MTV European music awards did nothing for public image. Then as if all of it wasn't bad enough a video of Amy smoking crack surfaced on the internet as she was devastated and top that Blake tried to avoid jail for the beating by offering. The victim two hundred thousand pounds clam up like have been found out and been made for the bribe. The jig was up. There was no way around it was heading to jail for twenty seven months so before shipping off to prison. He decided it was time to lay low. He and Amy holed up in their place in Camden, where they drank smoked in snorted themselves into daily stupor, the Dell base of Tang in the streets bouncing constantly in the background cocaine ketamine ecstasy, Amy washed it all down with Stella red wine and vodka. She in Blake shut the world out because the world was dangerous people were fucking parasites. They alone would save each other. They had a stay together. They were all they had. The knocked of the door came out of nowhere. Amiably were sleep the knock San graduated full-on bang shouting, Amy and Blake stirred in the bed. Bang bang bang. Silence. Police opened up more sons more banging then one two three and finally one big bang the door miraculously held its own. And then the crowbars came a crack in the sound of iron rubbing up against concrete. Amy shot out of bed is from a nightmare. Blake. Her mouth was parched in her throat was sore. The police opened up Faulk Blake bleary-eyed, but instantly propelled by journal. Amy's husbands sprang up from the bed stumbled over empty bottles and overflowing ashtrays appeared to the curtains down in the street were dozens of police fleet of panda cars and a couple of paddy wagons, the cost of the door with their crowbars. Preceded a dig in tug at the sides of the door frame, Amy leap to the window panicking. Hyperventilating Blake graduate by the wrist. We gotta go now he shoved himself into his crumpled jeans, grab his hat phone and smokes nabbed. An extra t shirt that he would later on his next ease the sting from the long scratch marks angrily scored his flesh for cheeks chest Amy pulled on a skirt from the floor stepped into her filthy, ballet, slivers in tears. She pushed up her battered be have toppled over and pulled on her scalp. The hair extensions had torn away the hair temples or the Renou. Too large raw looking bald spots. Much of her hair was bro. And the towering hive now covered what it wants been healthy lustrous locks. Her arms legs were scratched bruised her eyeliner red down faces if she'd been left out for a week in the rain. Determined to penetrate, the apartment the police tossed side, the crowbars favor of a battering ram. There was one thing to do. Dirty crusty battled hungover and still hot the to manage to launch themselves down. The back stairs tweaked up. Bonnie and CLYDE the hauled off to a row behind the house. Inhale the cap. The heavy door finally cracked away off its frame and fell backward in the house boots. Trampled into the regal three story residents. The rooms would have been beautiful. If you've noted that the botched party scene, the empties, the trash the smell of it, even the season cops had to admit that it was pretty bleak. While the raid was really about the warrant for Blake's arrest for the bride. Police reasonably expected to find drugs, but Amy and Blake kit finish them off. And they poked around to the bottles boxes and ashtrays, the piles of clothes pumps of hair. The floor was sticky in the table tops were covered with variety of crack pipes at wads of crumple tin foil. But no actual trucks. Amy in Blake could made it to north London to the apartment of a friend and they're on the run and they had a hide. Meanwhile, they're paranoia was at full tilt had their friends sold them out to the paparazzi or worse. Call the cops was the flat bugged at cops already planted evidence. Amy and a bad feeling maybe they should move on get out away from their friends apartment, and she really a friend anyway, or was she just like the rest of the out to get her Blake fucker, the cash she looked at us when we ride like we're common criminals or not or Amy and Blake and who the fucker you. And who are you on the phone with just the who you calling and then the doors of the apartment broke in with? No warning, the police were enemies, friends, flat and seconds before Amy can react, they grabbed Blake and handcuffed him. Amy was beside herself crying violently and hanging onto Blake baby. I love you. Now, be fine. That's sort of. Thing was she wouldn't be fine. Not at all after Blake's arrest. Amy's publicist made a statement saying that Amy was recovering from exhaustion and asked that the public and the media respect her privacy like that was ever going to happen recovering from exhaustion also known as going to rehab with something that Amy badly needed her family, friends and record label urged her to enter facility in Essex to come off the drugs and booze alcohol was Amy's true, demon and seesawing on and off it increase the chance that she could die during detox Reitox the booze rather than what she smoked or snorted wrought the worst havoc on her tiny body. However her heavy cigarette smoking led to a diagnosis of emphysema in two thousand eight she was only twenty four years old alone. Rehab. Amy was desperate to see Blake while visits were prohibited. He managed to get to her one time he brought her a tiny package and later during one of her daily screenings, doc. Actors found heroin in her system did Blake bringer the drugs out of love or something else. He himself was a drug to her her protector her Souder her muse so much. So that when Blake was incarcerated Amy moved to a different rehab center, just to be close to but in two thousand eight at the insistence of both sets of their parents, Amy and Blake divorced lake sign the papers while he was still in jail and Amy headed out Saint Lucia quit heroin quick Blake once for all. Cross looking empathy in his is there is none of the normal condescension just seriousness and concern Amy's family listened intently while Amy's dot the strain of her latest overdose in the adjacent room. The doctor's words were no surprise she'll die if she has another overdose. You understand me Amy will die with the amount of cocaine crack heroin in alcoholics system, it's a miracle. She's not Nkhoma you get lucky this time. She's a petite girl. The message was clear Amy wine houses family needed to make their rockstar daughter. Go to rehab, an actually rehabilitate or she would be dead before twenty eighth birthday. No, no, no would not be an acceptable answer. So Amy chapters of in the priory clinic in London and made a go of it. It was made two thousand eleven and she needed to get ready for European shows happening that summer, but when she checked back, oh, she found herself. Uninspired and semi sobriety. Living clean was boring. There is no inspiration for new music playing. Her hits was also boring and utter drac no excitement, but the bills needed to be paid rehabbing cheap. So dates were booked, including her big comeback show. Bill grade. Amy reluctantly agreed. The money was too good. But she dreaded the thought of playing the shows now sober without Blake. She couldn't see her so up there prowling on about rehab and torched love without alcohol without her muse. The first show was a disaster with their anxiety through the roof beforehand. Amy took to a bottle of wine to commoners, she drank it fast, the entire bottle, and then another and by the time, she appeared on stage and front of two hundred thousand people she was legless so drunk that she was completely unable to perform the crowd booed, Amy stage. It's difficult to watch the video of this performance to see such a. A commanding artists completely out of control unable to do anything. Really? She can barely stand. Never mind saying she flirts with the backup singers who somehow maintain an air of professionalism in politely chase her away from their Mike's hoping to driver to her own to grab it with her spidery fingers unleash tortured voice into it. The voice that almost a quarter million people had turned up to see. But instead she just sits down on the drum riser and watches the show as if she's not even a part of it totally defeated spent when news hit of the show or lack thereof the rest of the tour was cancelled Amy headed home back to camp. Amy's feet hurt. If it wasn't the arches from the tight heels, and it was the souls from her near Solis ballerina shoes, she weaved away for the paparazzi glare their flashes. The annoyance of they're shouting. She tried hard to keep the song in her site. But the muse was gone. And so was the song her heart sunk she felt that Polaner chest in her mouth water slightly. She knew there was vodka the house. She drink tonight. The bell the pain tomorrow hit back on the wagon. But tonight tonight, she get fucked up for around some music, try to get something out to tape or at least on the paper. She while the stairs to replace leaving the soul sucking paparazzi behind the sidewalk vultures. She headed to the kitchen grad the vodka pop the top began pulling straight from the bottle, then she hit her bedroom. She wanted to play drums, get her blood and creative juices flowing. With the alcohol coursing veins and feeling hot. And restless hitting the sticks on the stretch. Skins would be a release. There were things she needed to do for heartbeat like the wings of bird cage trapped and there were calls tax. She needed to return her foam was somewhere. When living bodyguard complained about the noise, she traded, the sticks jazz brushes. She drank more vodka their the muse. It was back sorta she could sense it pulling on her heart. There was something she needed to write down or Qatar was somewhere she moved onto some wine she'd stashed away there is a song flowing through her. She could feel it. Now. The rhythm slower jazzy softer the beat was intoxicating. She could feel yourself slowing down. She could feel her exile. Drifting the pulse of our heart slowing to match the fading rhythm insider. She led to take down she stopped playing still here the slowing beat or maybe she could just feel it. Finally, she could feel something she was alive or so she thought the beat slowed down even more she put her hands to her heart calmer now slow so slow so slow. She slipped down to the floor off the drum stool to her knees. Leaning over to her bed to pull the down comforter off of it in onto or frail and now freezing body in once slow MO fell swoop. The beat sounded like it was under water now, she could see the notes floating around the room along with the feathers from the Russell comforter. They drifted slow slow slow through the lamp lay in time with drowning beat ever. So softly, she let herself fall further and further away from the muse until eventually she was gone. thousands of mourners with flowers candles, teddybears, bottles, southern comfort impacts of smokes somewhere. Pinup dresses some in sharp suits, most in tears stood in front of thirty. Camden place to pay their respects alone addicted and perhaps most damning uninspired there. Amy had left them. She also left them voice. Her incredible voice altogether to sue. Amy wine was dead. At twenty seven years old wish is a disgrace. I'm Jay Brennan. This disgraceful. 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"I Loved My Job, But Was Let Go Unexpectedly"

The Ken Coleman Show

32:11 min | 2 years ago

"I Loved My Job, But Was Let Go Unexpectedly"

"Hey podcasters. Here's today. Really lock in on lens phone call who was on the path climbing the ladder and then life throws a curve ball. Boom. No job. Does. That mean, it's over how do we restart reboot? How do we redirect when life throws a detour our way that mortgage? Call starting right now. Live from Nashville music city USA, you're joining the conversation about who you are what you were born to do where you want to be and how you can get there. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven is the phone number. It's toll free case you didn't figure that out. And it is a simple decision. Just call Ken. I need some clarity Ken. I'm not question. Can I have no clue at all? Well, here's some good news. You actually have the answers. You have the answers. We have a simple construct here on the show it bears repeating from time to time. Here's what we believe that everybody was born with talent. What you do? Best and passion, what you loved into most. You're you're just born with talent passions, the creator of the universe. Just instilled them out of either there, and I know a lot of you have a hard time to finding those and getting clarity authors. But. Bizarre. But you have the answers, and it's my job to pull them out of you, maybe to help you uncover some junk in your head or some junk on your heart. That's covering these answers. So once we figure out what you do best in what you love to do most. We help you find that sweet spot. Right. Where you are supposed to be what is that? Will that is the place in our multiple careers within the sweet spot that could be wonderful fits for you. Or your dream job is waiting on you because you use. What you do? Best your talents that you can develop into skills to do what you love to do most. This is the work that makes you come alive when you're engaged in it. The results of that work matter deeply to you because we all long to make a difference. We all long to matter. We all long to do work that we feel wonderful about this. Is there for you? It's there they'd four four seven four seven two five seven seven. I'm to get to some emails right out of the gate. It we call it Kim. Electronic mail. Cans electric mail. Got mail. I'm gonna read to emails back to back an answer them both at the same time in actually I have had it seems like Madison I've had a steady flow of these subject lines. And here it is. It's how to handle the interview. For a new job while you're at a current job. And you don't feel like lion. Anybody love the hard on this. So let me just read too quick with one comes from Blake. He says, hey, can I was curious about your thoughts on transitioning from one job to another? How do you procure current employer when you need to go to an interview? And cat writes in how do you handle missing work for job interview? Should I just tell my current employer that I have an appointment or should? I take vacation time. Not sure what the best way to handle that is again, again, a love this because we're getting a lot of these emails, and I just it just occurred to me I need to answer them all in one fell swoop. I'll keep answering him. But if you need to listen to this go back to the podcast and listen on demand. Here's what you do. And can't really touched on one of them. Do I take vacation time or I just tell them. I have an appointment. I think it's a combination. Here's my preference. I believe the most honorable thing to do to be a good steward is to take vacation time. I mean, we're talking about an hour hour and a half or schedule the interview, I if the other potential employers will only schedule the interview at lunchtime or take your lunch hour. So I think it's a combination here. So if your employer gives you a lunch hour and most do, and they don't ask you to report anymore geo. Where'd you go to did you go to subway? Do you got to PF changs when your fancy was it say nobody asks you that? So that's your time that your employer is giving you need to be a steward of that. So if you can do an eleven o'clock interview or one PM interview in at your lunch hour, and you work through your normal launch. Our in thus you are doing what is asked of you. And you're being a good steward. You're being honest. And I'm fine with it. The point is you need to make the sacrifice. I think either give your lunch hour. Or you fill out vacation time. And you don't have to explain what you're doing. You say, hey, I submitted this because I've got to take care of something on a personal nature. And it's not right to do this on company time. That's honorable. You're not required. Tell them you're being a good steward. Now. I'm going to say this with a big giant asterik? Daveramsey says this all the time in our staff means I believe he's right? So I'm going to quote him. When your spirit has left the building. And you take your body with you. So if you are being a good steward, and you're saying, I don't belong here anymore, but I'm still going to be honest and full of integrity and not steal from my current employer by using their time what they're paying me for to get a job. Then you have nothing to be shamed of. So I think it's taking your lunch hour adjusting that launch hour you give the company you're normal amount of time or you fill out vacation time, you do that. And you just simply say I've got to take care of something. And it's not right to do this on company time, they're going to respect that. And if they don't they have a problem, but that's how you handle that do not lie. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven folks already standing by on the phones. Let's get to the phones. Let's go to Lynn online in Houston, Texas. Lynn, you're on the Ken Coleman show. Try Ken so nice apart. You today. We'll it's great to talk with you. How can I help? I was in the process of finding my sweet spot when I lost my job last Friday. Oh, no. And so now, I'm right on the verge of putting titled to what I wanna do. But once I get that. How long do I do I shoot for that as my next job or do? I just get something that's going to pay the bills. I have one month severance coming. And then what happens because the answer the answer. My question comes down to two things your financial situation. And then your ability are you qualified to step into that new role to whatever the answer is to those two questions going to let us know what we need to do next. I think I have an idea. But let's walk this out just for you. And everybody else in a similar situation. You got one month severance when the one month severance is done what kind of financial situation are you in? If you're not working for thirty to sixty days. Tight. How tight like fairy? I just started my baby step one. Okay. So here's what we know. You've got one month severance. So we've got that kind of a cushion and windy when does that start and win is it up? We'll give me some dates and by the. Okay. Great. So now individual we gotta have income. All right now before I moved forward on what we need to do next. I want you to understand that in this month of April. You're cutting everything you can you're not living on the same budget that you were living on am. I am I clear. Oh, yeah. It's our. Yeah. I mean, like I'm serious year eaten you're making one big pot. A sloppy Joe or spaghetti on a Sunday night. And you're eating on it until Thursday. I'm just telling you you got to cut the grocery budget way low. You've got to sell some stuff you got to get as much extra income right now as you can and tighten everything. And this is a mindset by doing this. It's going to help you save money. That you're going to need potentially. But it's also going to get you in this intense mindset. Okay. So that's what I want you to do. Now, you got one month to get a job. What is the sweet spot job? What do we think it is? If. Working with single moms. Using project management and organization skills. To help them. Since the fort creek services or guidance for single lumps care for their family. Got you. Now, do you know who is providing those services in Houston, Texas? I had a meeting with my single. Parents minister this morning, and and she she gave me a list of names, and I started making phone calls, and she's helping me make phone calls all getting in touch with fall. Awesome. Okay. So this is a dual-track. Okay. Because you've got some very transferable skills. The fact that you love details. You're good at details. You like project management? You're kind of get it done execution woman. My understanding this correctly. Absolutely, right. So that means that you can fit in just about anywhere any industry any company. So you should feel really confident right now because you have some transferable skills. We know that eventually you would love to be working in an organization, and it's probably a nonprofit ministry or a nonprofit or a government agency. That is serving single moms. Am I right? Right. So you can go after those right now, I think you've got talent. And I think that you've got enough qualifications to be able to step in there. Now, the question becomes have you detailed out what you need to make. So you've got a ballpark. This is the minimum amount that I can make an a new job. Do you know that number? Yeah. Great. You going to do some research real quick like as in today. Tomorrow the next day to figure out if those organizations that you have found, and if the jobs that they have available do they pay what you need to make that is really important that you find that out really quick. Do you understand not three weeks from now this week because here's ideal? What we know is that that's the eventual dream role for you, you get up every day and your loving on single moms, and you're giving your talent away single moms get on their feet, which by the way. Can I just say, that's amazing? I don't know that there's a personal planet. I love more than a single mom because they are heroes. Like wonder woman should have been a single mom. Did. I mean that should have been her character. It. So I love this. Now, we know that's where you want to get. But what we know is you will get there. But we also know you have one month Lanta job. What do you need to make? What's the number? Right at twenty thousand great good news. Not a big number. No. It's not, and you know, that should make you very confident. And here's why this is the hottest job economy in the history of America. We have more jobs available than there are people who are unemployed. So now's a great time. And you get to free resources that Ken Coleman dot com that you need to go get if you haven't gotten them one is my resume template and two is how to win the interview. And I want you to read them digest them. And do what I tell you to do. And I want you to start looking today. But I don't want you to start looking for anything. I want you to think. Okay. What's something that? I would at least enjoy if I had to do it for six months or a year. Okay. Okay. And you would at least joy it. And what I mean by that is you're looking at my talents is what I do best. So you're looking for project management roles, maybe administrative assistant roles that pay way more than twenty thousand. I'd love you to get something in a thirty five forty thousand dollar range until we really know what the lay the land looks like, but maybe you can step into one of these nonprofit or government agencies that helps single mom. You have to great options right now. One is good paying job that is at least something that I will enjoy because I'm using my talents to do it. And I know it temporary, and I can sleep easily keep paying off debt falon, Dave Ramsey's baby steps, and I know my target. That's what you need to do. So go do it. That's what you do. And and listen if you're somebody right now that goes, I just need to make minimum twenty thousand dollars. Would you get out there and go get a job because there's a lot of jobs that pay more at twenty thousand dollars, especially somebody like Lynn. Now's the perfect time. I don't know what you're waiting. Hey, folks, I've been talking about this a lot on the show. This Java Connie is crazy hot. There are more jobs available than there are people who are unemployed which means for you the person who wants a better job. It's time to move because the times never been better. Now, it starts by having a strategy and getting connected with my friends at ZipRecruiter is a good strategic decision. That's right, ZipRecruiter dot com slash kin. That's where you need to go to check them out. Here's why ZipRecruiter is so affective that four out of five employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. That's you. You're a quality candidate. They have powerful matching technology the second to nut. Now, if you are an employer, and you're looking for those qualified people this can change the game for us. Well, try ZipRecruiter. For a limited time for free. All you have to do is go to ZipRecruiter dot com slash kin. That's ZipRecruiter dot com slash kin. It's the smartest way to get high. Tired and the smartest way to hire. How many people out there need to learn something liberty university is the leader. They're the best at offering what you need over seven hundred degree programs, including even just that certification that you might need all the way up to a doctorate over seven hundred programs. 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The I get hired guide is how to write the perfect resume five ways to fix your resume and land the dream job. This is a game changer that will get you notice. It'll pull your resume out of the pile and get you call now, what do you do when you get the call? You get the opportunity to go in for an interview. That's why you need the second free get hired guide. How to win the interview five strategies on standing out and crushing your interview going to prepare you and help you perform both of free and available Ken Coleman dot com. That's Ken Coleman dot com. Go ahead. Get the guides and get hired. Thanks for joining the Ken Coleman show here on Sirius XM, eight four four seven four seven five seven seven is the number for you to get. We can talk about your life your career, and how to get where you want to be. Hey, one thing I want to point out our Facebook address, if you will has changed still just search Ken Coleman on Facebook and you'll see our page, but the new address by the way is Facebook dot com slash Ken Coleman show that makes a lot more sense. So that's why we did it. Facebook dot com slash Ken Coleman show free to go there like the page be a part of it putting out fresh content every morning and throughout the day. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven is the number for you to jump in. Well, we go to Blake who's on the line in Lexington Kentucky Blake here on the Ken Coleman show. Hey, Ken, thanks to you and your team for taking my call today. Well, I'm happy to how can I help? Hey, I just had a quick question me, and my fiancee, we're getting married a month, and we're on now, we're we're both on baby steps four or five and six Dave plan. She she's really enjoying when she's doing from occurs standpoint. We're both twenty five me on the other hand. I'm not and I'm looking to find out if the industry that I'm in is something I wanna be in. Or if it's just technically the company are worked for is something I don't wanna do or anything like that. So I am a insurance producer I work for a direct writer, so not a broker that the Ramsey solutions advises, and it's a great company and everything, but I think I've kind of been turned away just after listening to you and Dave show over the past year and a half because of not being a broker and the amount of permanent life insurance. Universal life insurance. We're kind of forced to sell to hit our incentives and. Certain things like that when trips and everything so I'm just trying to get a gauge on what you think I should do from that aspect. I guess trying to turn spit ball a little bit and figure something out. Gotcha. So let's look at what's going on is the major reason that you don't wanna be where you are. Now. The value disconnect because you you're you're forced to sell a product that you don't believe in. And you think it's a bad products on helping people that the major disconnect or is there also some leadership issues or difficult people or you board overwhelmed. Gimme all the factors that make you go. I don't want to go into work on Monday mornings. The two biggest things I think it's like I said, I think it's a great company the value. I don't believe in what I'm so on. And as a salesperson. You're never gonna that's good succeed in that aspect and another big reason is I think we're about three hours away from Omaha. And I think that is when me and my fiance talk about it. That's alternately where we wanna be oh, man I've been in. I've been in talks with in interviews with a bigger agency out of Omaha that would just do that the property and casualty side for goods, and it wouldn't it wouldn't be the life insurance stuff. But I'm just trying to figure out is sure it's your avenues that where you're supposed to be. You're asking me if I supposed to be selling insurance is that what you're saying? Yeah. I mean, I guess so I was my first job out of college. I don't nobody made majors insurance. It's something you kinda get into kind of get your feet wet out in the real world. And it's been it's been good to me. I love meeting people and trying to help people insurance is a very difficult field for people to understand and the most of the way. So what you enjoy it. You actually enjoy selling insurance a product that you know, is going to help people. Yeah. One is the helps people but for the past I get here. So I get that. I'm saying all right. Let's just have fun. This is super easy. All right. I'm gonna let you say. So I don't have to say. The offer comes in from Omaha this afternoon. And it's the right amount of money. There's a ladder of opportunity there. Good company. Good people. And you and your wife one of your eventual wife to be there, and you're not selling a product that you disagree with do you take it? Yes. Or no. I would I mean. Yeah. I would I would say, yes. The only caveat is. Like, I said, my my fiancee loves what she's doing out here? But doesn't think that she'll potentially get something like that back in Omaha? Jill I guess bad. There's there's a pencil for lateral move. She's in medical sales. So as you're Alexa, company she works for. Okay. Todd time our company time out. All right. We got the answer. I got the answer. The answer dancers. You don't know. Because you got to sit down and talk to your fiancee, you gotta talk to her about it. Right. She already have on some level. She knows about. Oh, yeah. All right. So here's the deal. Let's just say we stay in Lexington. Another very similar role selling a product or service that you believe in. Do you jumping mmediately offers today? I give it to you today. And you're not in Lexington Kentucky. I give you another role in another insurance company. Maybe you're a broker. Let's just let's fill in the blanks. What do you want to make you go? Oh my gosh. Kim out of there the door couldn't hit me fast enough. Yeah. Well, actually, I'm in Lexington. Nebraska. And now. Just this makes sense because all my board. Here says Lexington Kentucky, so forgive me. He doesn't. He doesn't. Buddy. I'm three hours away from Omaha play. Yeah. Blake Blake Blake. You're thinking way too hard, bro. Yeah. I know gosh, we get just say it if I give you an insurance job today that you're not selling the the life insurance junk that you don't believe in. But you're but you're an same. Equal a good company. Good people, you believe in the product your experience has been good to you. Do you take that job today or not? Yeah. I mean that that would be the answer for sure so start looking for stuff in your area. Yeah. And if it's not there you and your future wife, you're going to have to have a conversation. I've got a great opportunity to Omaha, and I believe that you can get in medical sales and Omaha Omaha is bigger than Lexington. Nebraska. Absolutely. So if you can sell medical devices in Lexington, Nebraska, I got news for you. She could sell it in Omaha Nebraska. So let's make this so complicated. I have tested you pushed you I have determined that you are fine with what you're doing. You're doing in the wrong place because you're forced to sell a product. You don't believe it. You're doing the right thing in the wrong place. So get into a better place. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven is the number. Let's go to Stephanie who's on the line in Alexandria, Louisiana. Stephanie you're on the Ken Coleman show. Hi, stephanie. How are you doing Keith? For taking my call. Sure. How could I help today? So I am basically I have a couple of choices in front of me. And I'm about to turn thirty. And so I'm kind of in that position feeling like, okay. I really need to know what I'm doing. I'm just feeling that pressure. So I did go to school like ten years ago. So I have about thirty thirty five hours under an education degree. And I also am going in on Thursday because I have been offered a caregiving position that I could work part time and move up to full time. And I also have just started a podcast good for you later. Oh, yeah. We'll take a podcast about I got to know it is mainly geared toward women. And then like us, I just want to chat with women about the Lord. And just kinda see what's up what's going on in their world. Or is this an interview podcast where your viewing other women locally? Okay. Good. Yeah. Good for you way to go. Yeah. I just wanted to interrupt for a moment to say wait ago because I want the best advice. I could give somebody who's thinking about a podcast is just to start it who who cares. What you know? Like just get it out there, and then fix it. You know, it just doesn't matter. It's just it. What let me ask you real quick question for the rest of our audience. What did it feel like when you actually launched it? Tell me what your emotions were. Oh, I mean, obviously nerves but excitement, and it really I felt fulfillment. And it you something. You did something that matter tenure. You did. So. Aren't yet? So let's stay on track. So what's your question for me? I've got I know where you are now. And I interrupted you just lost a podcast, which by the way, that is pretty much immaterial the rest of our conversation. You keep doing that Giner stale. What I'm saying, right? Right. So what what what are we asking about today? I guess main question is how do I know? I want to choose the right pass. But how do I know how to support the child in like a nine to five job or going back to school? I don't have children yet. But I do wanna foster. You know, like my married. I'm not married. I'm not married. Well, you're you're okay. I love I love your spirit, and all of your heart, and that's an awesome thing. And you hold that close in there's going to come a season when you will foster. So once you just leave it at there is the the mindset for you is Stephanie there is a season coming where I will foster period period. Leave it there you're worried about something you should not be worried about right now. You're thinking about the wrong stuff. The question is what is it that you really wanna do? You told me it started the phone call. You had a couple of decisions before you one of which is do you take this caregiver role? Or do you? Go back and finish your education agree. I don't all that stuff is fine. But I want to know why you really called me and the answer to that is what is it that you really wanted to? I really want to do the bucket. Well, good. Okay. But you can't do that time right now. So right. So then that changes everything so. Yeah. So how much money do you think you're going to need to make fast forward down five years from now in order to be able to support a child? What is that number for you? At least in between twelve to fifteen an hour. Okay. So you got to run that number. You don't even know what that number is. What's that? We're on a in a given year. What's twelve twelve dollars? Fifteen dollars an hour. What is that? I know eleven is like twenty one thousand. Okay, you're not going to be able to support a foster child and do you'll get paid by the state. So if that's what you wanna do only be a foster, then the state does provide money for that. Okay. But twenty one thousand dollars is just way too low for you. Okay. All right. Okay. So this is not fun for me Stephanie. But I've got to be really really honest with you know, I want you to be it's gonna be a while before you can make that kind of money as a podcast or. Oh, okay. All right. Just is. And and and let me tell you something the old, you know, how to make money as a podcast or so on a trick question. If you don't just tell them, right? Well, I've looked at up. I've done my research, but see answer. How do you make? Money's a podcast. I know the answer I want to hear you say it. I think that it's sponsorships and just getting out there. You know? It's just sponsorships like you got to have a big enough audience it sponsors are willing to pay. Right. And then here's the other thing. Just because you have an audience big enough to get an advertiser doesn't mean they stay with you. They come and they go because their product their message may not connect with your audience. They may be flash in the pan company that tries his advertise for a little bit. Then they're gone. It is a volatile situation. So I'm going to tell you you need to adjust your mindset that your podcast is a passion only. Okay. And what I mean by that is you have a day job. And that's your fun dream job that that if it goes somewhere and it takes off. Rock and roll we're excited. But I think it is healthy expectation for you to believe that that's going to provide the money that you need to make in the next three four five years now. Listen, okay. It could blow up, and I hope it does. But that's not your plan. Your plan is I'm gonna trust Ken, and I'm going to treat this like a hobby that I'm super passionate about that. I want to help women in my zip code, and if they start sharing it, and I started to develop a national audience, man. That's great awesome will adjust when we get there. But it is not your it is not going to supply your needs. You need a good fulltime job. And then you keep doing the podcast on the side. And I I think to the extent that you can figure out more about your voice, and what the messages, what need do you most want to solve for these women you need to answer that not right now, I'm not gonna put you on the spot. But you need to be able to say I am doing this podcast to do this. And phil. But the answer is how do I want to serve women that are listening? What problem I try to solve for them? Or what solution am I trying to provide? You had to be crystal clear or else is just going to be a bunch of conversations. You gotta know what moves your heart. Why do you want to help these women who do you specifically want to help? What what are what are they single the single moms? You know, you gotta know. And that's how you get traction. So go get the really good paying job. And then I would also consider what are some other ways that you can help that audience? Besides just podcasting. Maybe some blogging, maybe you consider doing a local event, you know, you're single you can get a good paying job and save up some money and really start to do some things and test them things all cash, and you don't get hurt. And you just begin to throw some things against the wall. All within the wall being I'm trying to help these specific women this specific what I opened up today's show by answering a couple of emails about a top. That we're getting more and more communication on from you. And that is how do I handle a job interview? You're telling me Ken to get a dream job. How do I do it without being dishonest? We address that at the top of the show. So how about a quote on honesty from Franklin Roosevelt? Good stuff confidence thrives on honesty honour on the sacredness of obligations on faithful protection and on unselfish performance without them. It cannot live these right? How can you be confident when don't live that way? So today's question are you living and working in these values with these values that Roosevelt laid out our time is almost up. But before I let you go. You matter you've got what it takes. Thank you so much for joining the conversation until next time. This is the Ken Coleman show Brisson. 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ANSWERS TO THE TOP 20 HEALTH AND FITNESS QUESTIONS

The Hero Up Podcast with Jim Simcoe

39:23 min | 2 years ago

ANSWERS TO THE TOP 20 HEALTH AND FITNESS QUESTIONS

"You're listening to a podcast with Jason Gallian thanks for being here. Today. Let's get rolling with the show. Everybody welcome to the hero podcast. This is Jim. Simcoe with like Eugene Bender. said that middle name again. Come on. Come on. We're sitting out on a beautiful Friday afternoon I. See you nice to see you and all your faces as you're listening. Thank you. I don't know I'm saying. Thank you. Yeah. So let's talk about how much prep Gabriel for this podcast would you say was one hundred percent zero percent and percents for this my entire life. I basically didn't tell him anything about it really other than texting you. Blake is a really nice new haircut as well which is estimates are mellow. You guys would love. We'll take. We'll take a picture and throw it out there couple announcement for before we get started. Today show is all about twenty health and fitness questions kind of apropos to our conversation earlier twenty health and fitness questions answered. But ask you these questions you'll answer them. Throw some impact our input into here it's largely this is largely, it'd be the Blake show. This also ties into this is this is actually the direction I've been hoping. For a long time now, pretty sure. It's going to be the here up show with Blake Bender and Jim pressures could be presented to be the Blake Blake Bender show with occasional guest. Yeah. I'm Jim till you get cut out until I complete edit your parts out. Nice. So first thing, first announcement this is kind of big. uh-huh. You're on instagram now just you on instagram let's talk about how did that happen what what Brian to that man so it was a big conversation yesterday during our class is that right? Oh Gotcha you and Eric Seamus. Yeah. So I'm on instagram. Now, I have been technically on instagram with a profile but. Really. My time was spent managing the gyms account and It's awesome three or not, and if you're not following fitness, you really should collaborate and stuff out there man it's really hard. It's it's weird to I had to learn to write from the perspective of Jim. Yeah Jim J. I am no not at more. Domer- version. Silje Denver's I had to write from the perspective of an inanimate object or a community, and it's a weird thing to try to. Understand. How to develop voice when you are representing inanimate object Yup But yeah. So I just felt as though I have more to add primarily in kind of fitness and wellness space in my own experiences and much of the things that I have to say it's not like super appropriate to go To be shared for the platform that my jim has which is helping. People find our business in Asia I get stuff and so this is going allow me to have more dialogue in probably more just share my personal experiences in my intentions to I. Don't know four or five times a week but put low post up and hopefully people enjoy. if you post any pictures of your cats and have any cats get, well, if you get cat specifically for instagram that be very upsetting that will that will be good. No not good. Not Good. You get cats just for instagram. My whole life is is becoming structured around instagram. Do you know that? One of my daughters has a an account she started for Instagram for one of our cats not the other one just one. Is that how does that feel I'm sure he doesn't care at all, but actually dogs don't have an instagram account yet. I'M Listening. To get strong probably making one is blank. Dude I think it's awesome I love the way right and I think it's awesome that you're doing this. I'm actually Mike. Right now Mike Bump. That was that was a wonder when they listened to that. Is it just like? No one's ever said. Yeah. Okay. So that's cool. So we will look at that and it's just is it just Blake Blake period bender there's a crazy number of Blake benders on Instagram it turns out. Doing the whole. Blake. Eugene Bender as instagram not happening. What are the chances? Not so not happening. Anyway. All right. Let's move on. Another thing is I recorded last week. A lot of people ask recently about how do I get a job? How do I? You know what am I doing around? So as you know, a lot of the coaching do round jobs. Career. Consulting Group Coaching Blah Blah? Blah so. I recorded a video free video on the website on how to land your dream job. So someone who actually does want to start a business, but they WANNA lend their dream job. It's on the website at Jimbo DOT com. You don't need to sign up I'm sorry Jim, simcoe DOT com forward slash dream job. You don't need to sign up it's on their check it out if you like it let me know if you don't like it don't tell me. So say, that's all right. That's how I go through life for repair So you're the expert in health and fitness. Let's get right into this. Let's do it. Let's do it. So I have twenty questions. We also have class starting in like thirty eight minutes. I'm frank. Are you working out? Yeah, you okay. I'm not. I. Have A friend coming to hang out with but what you have other friends besides what is actually kind of the Mike off Everybody my my buddy is I just met him but he works at Cirque du Soleil now he's a performer Berg. Me some shade I'm teaching his him. Some Shit. And she'll be good. Awesome. Let's get right into it then. So these are no particular order and I'm just going to rip through them rapid-fire yes. Let's go baby. So the first one. In terms of health and fitness how important is flexibility to health? How important is flexibility to health I? Think it is. One, bullet points on an entire spectrum of physical characteristics that are absolutely necessary. I think it is integral. If I'm pronouncing that correctly I don't know to one's ability to be healthy and pain free and if you can't stay healthy and pain-free than your ability to continued to do to. Be Physical and challenge ourselves in in ways that you enjoy is going to be really challenging for you. So if you neglect your flexibility or unit neglects. That facet of of your physicality. Then I think you are probably putting a shorter timespan on how long you get to enjoy those things for an and in a very real way PA. Interesting. What's funny is like so when I grew up in when I was in my twenties and thirties big focus was on strength it was all about strength making yourself stronger. You'll live longer. It's I mean that's still the case it's Yeah It's amazing. How much more flexibility has been prevalent into a lot of people especially during like the functional finished cross space are engaging in exercises that require a lot more flexibility so that you're doing if you're doing it barbell curl, for example, that doesn't really require a lot of flexibility. But if you're doing his biceps, even a front squat like you have to have flexibility in the shoulders at the risks at the hips at the ankles, all these different things right and. So. Because you know if you don't have it, then it sheds a lot light light on that I. Think People are figuring out they have to address those things. Yeah. Right on. Okay. Thoughts on diet translucent recent diet translate like Kito intermittent fasting no carbs, etc. what are what are what are your thoughts on those? Are there some common themes and then also what is what is it just a good sustainable way to approach? Diets and I hate the word diets down Trichet Shane which he whatever fueling yourself I'm GonNa Diet trends are probably going nowhere. It's helpful I think that they can be helpful because. Many of them many Diet trends whether you WANNA call it Kito or Paleo or or Venus or whatever. The case may be give people parameters around there. Eating that allow them to cut out a lot of the the crappy stuff that they were consuming otherwise. and. So oftentimes, it's addition by subtraction of them not eating a bunch of. Shitty. Highly processed sugary highly say shading foods The major food corporations. You know that the human brain has like highly addictive. Is highly addictive drawn towards crunchy salty sweet. Tangy all these. That like carbonation all that stuff that just makes your brain say, oh, man, I want more of that and It. If you're in a rhythm habit of eating those types of things, it's really hard to kind of break that mental pattern of getting drawn towards it and body self organizes itself to to reinforce those things. So the bacteria that your gut. start to feel like are are built upon consuming those foods as well, and those that got population is looking for more of that good stuff and so against send signals to your brain that you need more of that. So it's really addicting is saying however, if you can get into a habit where I think it is simple. This I don't have Super. I try to stay non dog matic when it comes to eating is I think it's really easy for people to get into that habit of eating dogmatically what do you mean by that? The, calling very strict pattern, a patterns saying this is the way you eat. This is the way you shouldn't eat saying that like I think it's more complex conversation than that like I for example, I eat food for a number of reasons I eat because it's comforting I, eat because it's an GIC. Sometimes if you're in a certain situation I, eat to fuel myself I eat to maintain a body image because I work in the fitness industry and the some you know level of that. That's Important I eat to make sure my cognition level stays stays high and there's been plenty of times where I've like I'm not usually the at the model example of at least for the majority of my life of necessarily eating the way I think everyone should eat but I just try to eat in a reasonable way relative to wet I wanNA have out of my and my relationship with food if that makes sense. Yeah. What's interesting about that? Which I think is really refreshing is that This is that most people when they defy most people in the health and fitness world when they define how they are why you eat the first thing they say is for fuel whether. Day. The first thing you said was for comfort, you comfort nostalgia fuel, then you've got to cognitive. Organizing the Maui. Goals they're like, sometimes like I'm feeling relatively good I want to socialize like if you have really if you have really constrictive food habits in eating patterns right it's easy to be socially isolated in that sense because for some era for so many people that eating is a social activity in it's like what you connect with people like how many people go out to to pizza and beer on the weekend or or like when you go home home for the holidays, your mom wants to make all of your favorite things to eat like that's a common way that people socialize and if you're like, oh. Actually doing this thing where I only eat lettuce and. And have some lemon squeezed into water at the end of the day right like it's just very socially isolated it doesn't allow you to connect with people on the regular level, and so I think that it's a car pulling you have to you have to do it with structure in like food absolutely is your fuel. You are the very cells that your body's made are made up of our comprised of the cells, the cells of the foods that you eat foods that your foods eat is if you're eating animal products. And so like all that shit matters. But I don't think that like normal persons or people should. Necessarily like you've food only as fuel but I think they should recognize that is one of the primaries are consuming fair enough. Love it I. Cool. All right build me a beach workout I've thirty minutes and no equipment what I do build you a beach workout. Yeah. So and I'm saying it's because it's summertime summertime. Yeah. I feel like a complete went sweatshirt and now. You're the. I'm asking. You can't see me. God Beach workout. Well, average person perfectly healthy I would. Probably I would probably say, why don't you do little jog down the beach. Take a dip swim out to a buoy assuming you're a good swimmer and back come inside play twenty minutes of beach volleyball and like I I mean my personal perspective is if you're in a setting where you know unless you, you're just trying to get your, you know three or four workouts in a week and you go to the beach and you get it done than than do your thing. But like I'm going to the beach, then I don't want people to be super focused on like I need to make this. Effective workouts plunged. I WanNa, make it fun active like if you're I guess that's the alarm going I. Love It. Okay. So next question kind of along those lines. What's simple? Training equipment can someone keep in their car? What I have but I mean, I'm curious to see like is there anything I mean you? You know you own gym now? So you're always working out here and you also full full blown house so like Normal Joe Schmoe what are some of the things they could keep in their car for like you know they have an hour and they're going to have for I have one The first thing that comes to mind that's GonNa Catch Gasoline Cook what you think it will out my suggestion would be one thing to have in your car with you I would think. Jump Rope, stupid IPHONE IPHONE Shit. You have what you have the entire phone, you have the entire library of of every exercise, every inventor. All Right I. Think it's such a it's such a really next level. It's. Going to mail this podcast, not going to this pretty good. It's such a silly idea that you need equipment in order to like be physically active or workout or whatever. Like I have been more productive. We have We've my wife and I have been in a house for last two years or so and and we don't have furniture in one of the rooms and I call that the handstand room It's also where I the dogs, follow me in there and then I make one lie on his back and I spin him around his legs. So those are the only two activities that take place but I get more shit done in that room than most people. In an entire like arsenal of expensive you know tank reinforced fitness equipment and the idea that you need a whole bunch of fancy equipment is just a cop out for not being creative or having like training literacy as I call. Your I have my car was that since you're asking. I have. Pair basketball shoes. Yeah. Basketball I have my workout stuff. Yeah. I have a towel. So if I go to the beach and I want to jump in. change clothes I have. Jump Rope. I have some bands to disobey. But I mean quite frankly i? I'm very minimalist when it comes to those things I think rather than requiring fancy equipment you know even having kettlebells awaits with things like that like I don't WanNa like that around him. No, no I never this is I. think that if you're creative and understand what you're doing then you really need very little I have I have this I used to have this fear that. I would go somewhere and some of Hey, you're playing basketball or hey, you WANNA play like we're playing golf ever. Never never happen. I'm also always athletic tire so I never liked czarnikow. Business stuff I am and I'm always I. I Never WanNa be like the guy who can't play something because he doesn't have stuff like right now if you're like, Hey, let's go play basketball I have all my stuff although we know how you feel about basketball me. Clearly. Ever but anyway, even our most recent sped I. Lost I. still great to work on it and we got any up even let's get through this podcast. Okay. Our. Next. Question. What's the most effective way to lose body fat? Any blanket rules. Some of these questions aren't just coming from either cook out of people who who submitting these. Mom Is that you mom? Hello, mom I hope you don't feel self conscious about your body, fat? No, it's not your mom. It's not my mom. He's top secret though Okay Sky Simpson has got question is suggestions from those the. Most effective way to lose body fat any blanket roll so I don't need like. Eat. Good food consistently. Got You don't don't. Take a cheat day or cheat weekend or cheat meal. You should enjoy what you're eating, but you should have structure around it. Is the first thing. Find, some physical activities that you enjoy doing and you can, and you can sustain doing on a regular basis. He's eating again people it's it's barbaric. You should see it. It's so like the best thing and And Resistance Training two to three days a week. If if you stick with those basic principles like move your body on a regular basis, do some resistance training and eat a quality diet in which you're not like you know going blowing it out once or twice a week I. Think you should have a healthy body composition. If you don't have a healthy body composition, then you need to evaluate if you're doing those three things. Sounds good. which you go to healthy. Crock, pot crock pot that's not one I was expecting. Pot into the best thing ever INSTA- pot and veggie register fry or you know veggies from the oven whatever that's called debt. Okay. So that brings up a question I mean you. Are. You. One of those people who think like do you have to get Veggie or veggies are you? Like, half that protein every single meal. You know I I think I was more oriented towards that for a long time. I meant. No thank you. I definitely think that as I was a little bit younger and a little bit more focused on getting stronger and things like that. That was a bigger priority to me but. I think that some of the tendencies that fitness culture puts out towards like. Protein protein protein, and that down your throat right really overshadows how important it is that you have a diverse in very plant based option that you're consuming and I I mean that is coming from a guy who does have a protein sources probably. Main, a primary component of every single meal but I try to have as diverse a diverse set of plant food whether it's going to be Broccoli which I wasn't always big fan of but I'm learning to like or peppers or onions or a lot of green stuff throw everything you got in there that that grows in the ground. Like cool. What can people do to prevent injury while working out? They can and. Seek out somebody who knows what they're doing. and made. But I don't know a single person. Yeah no one comes to mind Make sure that we're talking about working out specifically. Yeah. Okay. Sure Yeah I I'd say find find somebody who knows what they're doing that you trust in that. You kind of has like the results that you're looking for and figure out what they're doing and try to follow in their path If the person that you're talking to is broken and doesn't move very well, and all of those things I think that you're probably going to be in A. Rough spot trying to fall in their shoes because clearly the things that they've been doing is working for them right prioritize flexibility and movement quality with as much value as strength I. Think it's you know especially as a guy, who's you know grownup in the athletic fitness culture and things like that it's really easy to be focused oriented on being strong and muscular in that like you know definitely feeds the ego makes you feel good about yourself but. I want to also. Enjoy those things when I'm forty years old as opposed to when I'm just twenty years old and I seen, I've seen it very frequently where I've seen it enough that the person who's too focused on getting a strong as they can but doesn't allow their movement quality or their flexibility to match that they get injured they get broken or they're constantly kind of like feeling a little bit stiff and Achey, and it doesn't make the process fun or sustainable anymore. Okay. Sounds. What do you do when you feel like you've plateaued in your workout? or in your in your in the gym when you feel like you sort of hit a level and you're not really making any more gains. and. I don't mean like actual lifting pounded I mean shoot I almost. All right. Let's talk about here we go. I have been doing what I've been doing for ten years. I was a gym rat when by the time I was twelve thirteen years old already. And I m a natural athlete meaning. I'm not just not hands. I'm not enhancing myself with with anything pharmaceutically. Therefore. I'm not going to continue to get stronger at the rate I did from the ages of twenty, two, twenty, three. In for that reason I have hit plateaus in. What I do is I find other things that I'm not good at and I get excited about that I try to stay engage intellectually and be excited about what I'm doing and if I find myself like feeling stale in the process, it means that it's time for me to reorient myself and so just to give you examples of that, there's been times where I really enjoyed powerlifting or Olympic sow. Weightlifting again, I own across Egypt. So you can imagine, I've done a lot of that right now I'm enjoying rock climbing again, gymnastics strength training I'm trying to reclaim some of the flexibility limitations that I developed because I put so much emphasis in the split you did on on Internet pretty impressive phone does pretty impressive it's a little bit miserably link complimenting you but I got it's a little bit misleading because at my hits definitely went down. but I think that it's You. Know it really grinds gears Jim? Selma is. Known anybody cars but grinds Mike here sounds like it's bad. Is the idea that that people think that like that they're not completely an ownership of their lack of flexibility or that they're just naturally inflexible or that I'm strong I've gotten strong and that's why I'm not flexible. Those things can be. Had incongruence with one another and it's a cop out that you don't know what you're doing or you haven't gone down the path and learning how to address those things which I think that's a more powerful perspective because it means that you're not just at the whim of. Reality. Means that you can figure this shit out and learn it and I want to be able to squat four hundred pounds and do the splits. As I think you squad actually don't know. Right. Now I don't squad a whole lot because I like him you you had a maximum. So I've I've I've done Max's before my maximum is four twenty for example, which is not there's a lot of people out there who are like far better at that shish exercising myself a lot but it's a lot for a person who's skinny and tall and only does shit. You can't. You can't tell you can't believe in. So anyways, even shorter means like five, six, forty, two, five, four, five it's a shame. All right. That's perfect. Thank you for that. Tell me why and how you cross train because I know you I mean you. You more than anybody I think in a year it's funny think we're very similar in this aspect although you do it more at a bigger level than I do. You seem to do a Lotta Cross chanting what I mean by that is you work out here you go climbing you have friend Cirque du Soleil Coming, today? With you you go mountain biking you hike, you do all these different things. So how has that impacted your fitness? Would you recommend about that like like why are you doing early because you like it and that's it or is it like do you see that adding value to you as well I? So the way I view training is everything is an opportunity cost you only if I I view training the same way. that. In the same way that you you have limited time and financial resources, you have limited adaptive resources and potential and limited time that you can actually spend trying to build certain physical characteristics and it the activities that I, do now are a reflection of the things that I. Think is valuable in training. So for example, I spent a lot of time doing body weight or gymnastics strength training because it's kind of the antithesis of things that come natural to me as a person who's like long limb D-. Relatively explosive and spent a long time doing like fast strength it's slow it's controlled. It's methodical the movements much more complex. So it stimulates me intellectually I think that it's good for me to take on challenges that are like far more complex. To learn a lot more than the process and that to me, I rock climb because it disallows me from you know trying to add body weight to my frame which I've done before in order to get stronger. In actually negatively reinforces that it allows me to train not trained but just enjoy being active with my wife I. Try to do something a little bit longer and active on the weekend it's out in the Sun But at the expense of those things I'm not as strong in a traditional sense. I have been in the past If I were to do a cross fit style, you know lung burning as it's called I would. Be You know seventy percent of what I've been able to do at different times. But that's but I'm okay with that and those are things that I'm willing to give up because it's not that important to me to be able to You know do a certain workout in a certain time period because let's be honest I can still kick the bite of all my members and here because I'm doing the other things I've yeah give me a break. Because the you know I'm I've spent the time in in just by having a infrequent touch on those things I'm able kinda manages. So the way I spend my time physically is very much a reflection of what what is important to me and Yeah. So do you think of it? So this isn't a question, but you bring up something. So it 'cause it seems like you have. You have a pretty healthy attitude about S. so are you kind of like you think of all of this stuff? Has It all? It's all intertwined with first thing right and then it's all like. It's almost like an experiment and you're like, okay, I'm GonNa put this input now happens I'm going to take this input out and that's what that. Was and I'm going change this one you almost going into it with almost fresh eyes as opposed to. You're getting feedback and from the input that you're putting in and yeah, we just. Before, you said something about getting getting excited about going after your weaknesses. Yeah. Something along those and now you're saying you know you're. Everything is operatives. So it almost seems like you think of it at a much higher level than most people because most people I would think would think of is like I get to work because. Healthy. So I'm GonNa go to the gym five days a week. I'm not gonNA think about it knocks something out the you're looking at is a bigger picture embracing it into your whole life. Well, I mean I think first of all, that's absolutely correct and. That is probably what I enjoy about training or working out or exercise whatever you WANNA call it. More. So than than anything else is kind of the experimentation of it and I've learned I've learned to engage in that process, and that is like very much become a big part of like that's why in part I owned The gym is because I've been fascinated about those things as time has gone on I'm able to, for example, relate more to the people I serve. Now is twenty nine, almost thirty year old than I did as a twenty two year old because I have more responsibility in less time and I'm just doing that as a it's just a cool new challenge to take on is I get to understand how that constraint affects me from a physical sense but allows me to connect and relate as someone in the fitness industry I feel like it is my responsibility to. Paint an accurate picture and to think about those things much more in depth than the people that I serve. And that's quite frankly why a lot of people I think would wanNA come to myself or facility like myself is because you're outsourcing you don't have time to think about that like you have to be the best real estate agent or parent or whatever it is that you're supposed to be doing by I'm you're outsourcing that to me because I put it way more thought into that and understanding what those opportunity costs are. Do you think along those lines so Let's talk about this piecing and this is not necessarily question, but it's a question WanNa have a four bit so. When you first are open the gym. It was definitely more of a cross just strict cross fit. And recently, the programming has been. Way More towards functional fitness like the philosophy of functional fitness versus just sort of tried and you must be talking about the allegation or. Evolution evolution of it. Yeah. You know. This is something I really struggle with because. I think they're in I understand why it's the case but people need to. Create labels and and like try to find a way of defining what it is that you do much more. So than I find that to be useful because you know I I think there's probably a lot of other facilities that do similar stuff in have a similar perspective. There's also plenty of places that might call themselves functional fitness that do more like bootcamp style training or they do it's more. You know do a whole bunch of this and then run over there do a whole bunch of this and then run our to whole bunch of that The evolution I think is just a natural byproduct. Of sophisticated over time and and having a lot of opportunity to trial and error with a really broad group of people, and so we've just kind of like refined our practices in order to figure out what we find is the best combination of you have the most likely opportunity to to progress with the lowest likelihood of injuring yourself, and there's those two things are always going to be at odds. You can take really aggressive training and that probably gives you the highest likelihood of creating adaptation in progressing from physical sense. But on the flip side effects way more physical stress for Unit means that the likelihood of actually breaking down in in your body not tolerate tolerated goes up. So you have to figure out where do you sit on that spectrum? Am I really resilient person in my able to basically Take everything physically somebody throws at me and he just get better which usually as the twenty year old person who's really athletic who doesn't have a lot of life stress in their schedule can be like built around their out versus when you're forty, not only physically biologically are you not as as where you were twenty years ago but you also got a lot more on your plate. Okay. All right. That makes sense I like that How do you personally get the most out of each workout that you? Don't always. Right. Right but I try to but I drive trying to is there anything specific? I've noticed a couple of things myself recently that I've tried to do that I feel like I've got more stuff at you know. I've gotten more out of the work. I think in my my question is I'm saying probably the wrong way but like the it seems like you know you can turn your brain off, go to the gym and just work out and someone will tell you what to do and you know an hour later you're done. But then you have other workouts where you're like prepared going in feel mentally ready. Your where even tons dump but you're wearing the right clothes the right shoes for did like ready to go and you're in your early yeah you know I. I can definitely like kind of speech that idea i. AM. Not Perfect on this either because I also, if I'm here working out in the gym in my in my gym, then there might be somebody who comes in and I'm that people when they noted like all being here and I'll be in workout mood and I'll be like serious faced and sweating and breathing heavy and I try to give somebody like a quick hello or something like that. But people usually usually read the energy of like ham focused on me right now like you know be I'll be with you when. You As you shouldn't. Make goes for outside of the gym to see you on the streets and looking away. but I think for me going into the workout understanding what I WANNA get out of it. You know and maybe if you're not the one like I might go in not having a plan for the day. So making sure that I've created a plan for myself if you're going to a facility that offers that and has already done for you and knowing what you want to get out of it like maybe maybe today's a long day and you're just like man today's a win just because I'm here like I just want to come in here get something done. Be Safe move my body a little bit and have a few laughs friends. That's great. If alternatively you're you're thinking yourself like I'm really serious about XYZ goal and it's a strength goal and you WanNa back squad a certain amount, and you know that you need to progress progress through a certain series of of squatting sessions than you might need to be focused on that set of five at two thousand five's going to be really tough for me. I'm going to wrap my head around like how tough that's going to be in, put my best foot forward going into it with like knowing that known which want to get out of it, and then last thing is just getting really thorough warm up I. Think the last wise that's important. Just prepares you physiologically and mentally and transitions you from you know whatever work mode parent mode relaxing mode into it's time for me to focus myself and take inventory on how your body's feeling for the day and kind of get your brain connected to your body interesting I have noticed that What's cool about that is it it sounds like you put a lot more thought into the workouts on a regular basis general basis than a lot of I think people show up and. We know you know we know one guy who comes your all time death and shows up late and he's getting changed while workout people who get change while the work it's it's fine. It's fine but it's like I was like I know that I would never be able to do that. Yeah. Because I I need to like get into some kind of mental. Let me let me comment on that because I don't necessarily think like obviously I'd appreciate if you showed up time for sure but. I don't want in a car accident. I don't necessarily think that that's always wrong for that person because the individual that you're you're speaking of is basically able to from zero to one hundred and and he's able to like be fully engaged in it from what I can tell. In that works for him we do the thinking for him. We make sure that like you're doing what you should be doing in. That's effective and strategic and all that stuff but he's basically able to go into athlete mode right with Florida which and so I don't think that's necessarily a problem. There are people that do that same thing if you aren't very effective at it, and if that's you, then maybe you need to go through more methodical process by it's not always like that doesn't mean that's wrong. Yeah. Okay. Cool. Right on only a couple of questions Talking about that what about the importance of tracking workouts? I've evolved my thoughts on this over time I. do think if you are simply a person who working out and getting something in is a win and you're okay knowing that you're probably not going to progress at least from a quantifiable. This performance metrics improved this performance metrics improved. Running fast or whatever that whatever's important to you then it's not as important as long as you're able to have accountability like working hard and working thoughtfully But if you are somebody who does give a shit about that and you know then you look back on why you haven't progressed the way that you that you wanted to and you realize ao it's because instead of doing five tough working sets of such and such, you're doing working sets. It's all in the numbers in and it should steer you straight in the face of your you're serious about that and I'm not saying you should be. But if you're serious about performance progress, then you need to be quantifying it because quite simply like is the roadmap to what you've been doing, and that tells you how to progress from there. Okay. Makes Sense. What about supplements you take anything recommend anything I got a guy in Mexico Is My belief that. If you're taking supplements that you know your diet or life is deficient in something and if I pretty straightforward if you're not an athlete I, don't think you deserve to be taking supplements because you need to be eating whole foods and. Focusing on the basics getting some quality protein in lots of fruits and vegetables, and you know fiber and good quality fats and things like that. And if you're deficient in something which like Based upon the word supplement, it should be supplementary supplementary to those things. I think a lot of people are trying to take away protein or taking BCA's or whatever. The heck. It is kind of out of out and out of line, and they don't really have the pride priorities are the most important shit kind of stacked in their favor. So yeah, it makes sense. That's cool. That's interesting. So you have to earn the right to take supplements by get get your Diet Straight I. Yeah. Diet lifestyle those more important last question for you. Who's your favorite podcast? Co Host. Man Blake Bender for sure. Should have been something that you just got like you knew right? I was going ahead. As to what took that? So I'm to say you, but then I thought no, it's me it's I'm. Hey it's You love you too. I almost want shot up to big Rob Big, rob listen to our PODCAST, Robert Listen to it going cross country and he said it was awesome. He said I listened to sixty you guys really fantastic. So thank you for checking it out in a lot of comments recently. So thank you guys for listening is there's this really cool. Did you know I know more than one big rob? 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"I'm Worried About Age Discrimination"

The Ken Coleman Show

40:43 min | 1 year ago

"I'm Worried About Age Discrimination"

"Setting the pace on the pursuit of happiness. These these the Ken Coleman show where you discover what you were born to do and how to make it happen now. Helping you get unstuck and on the path to your dream job. Ken Coleman Live from Ramsey studios in Nashville. You're joining the conversation about who you are. Who Excuse me what you were born to do where you want to be. And how do you get off in other words so all about you being on purpose? Why does that matter? Is this the naked ambition? Is that what this is about? This is one of those super success shows on steroids where we tell you how great you are and how awesome you are no. We're not playing that game because this isn't about us. Living on purpose isn't about us. There is some responsibility there but we were created to fill unique role. That means we're needed and it means we was. We must do it for the benefit of others. It is our contribution. What is your unique contribution? This is what all of us long to answer and so we want to help you answer that. We're going to help you by giving you clarity on what you do best and what you love to do most. And how do those two intersect? What are all the jobs and career pass? That would allow you to be in that sweet spot to be in a state of flow where you use your greatest strengths and talents to do something that matters deeply to you. So you have the answers. I promise you do. And we're so grateful for those of you who listen and call in everyday eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven the number now for those of you who listen later meaning via podcast of the show. We do that every day. We take the daily live show and podcast it. We're grateful to you would love to subscribe and share share share if you're being encouraged and equipped by the show and you know others. That would be as well. It's a simple one. Click on that episode that you're listening to and share it with others. We appreciate it. We want to help as many men and women's possible get on purpose and do what they were created to do. This will make the world a much better place. We don't Need D. C. or any politician telling us about our future. It's all about what we are supposed to be doing. And we can create a better future. So let's get after eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven. We go to Blake because on the line in Lexington Kentucky Blake here on the Ken Coleman Show. Hey thanks to you and your team for taking my call today. Well I'm happy to how can I help I just had a quick question Me and my fiancee. We're getting married in a month. We're on no. We're we're both on baby steps. Four five and six of David Plan. She's really enjoying what she's doing from occurs standpoint. We're both twenty five Me On the other hand I'm not and I'm looking to find out if the industry that I'm in something I wanna be in or if it's just technically the company that I worked for US something I don't WanNa do or anything like that so I am a insurance producer I work for a direct writer so not a broker that the Ramsey solutions advises And it's a great company and everything but I think I've kind of been turned away Just after listening to you and Dave show or the past year and a half because of Not being a broker and the amount of permanent life insurance universal life insurance We're kind of forced to sell to hit our incentives and Certain things like that when trips and everything so. I'm just trying to get a gauge on what you think I should do from that aspect I guess trying to turn spitball a little bit and figure something out Gotcha. So let's look at what's going on is the major reason you don't. WanNa be where you are now the value disconnect because you? You're you're forced to sell a product that you don't believe in and you think it's a bad products on helping people that the major disconnect or is there also some leadership issues or difficult people or you board overwhelmed. GimMe all the factors that make. I don't want to go into work on Monday mornings The two biggest things I think it's Like I said I think it's a great company value. I don't believe in what I'm selling as a salesperson you're never gonna that's good Succeed in that aspect and another big reason is I think we're about three hours away from Omaha and I think that is when me and my fiance talk about it. That's ultimately where we want to be. Oh Man I've been in I've been in talks with Interviews with a bigger agency out of Omaha but that would just do the property and casualty side For and it wouldn't it wouldn't be the life insurance stuff but I'm just trying to figure out is insurance your avenues. That where you're supposed to be you're asking me. Am I supposed to be selling insurance? Is that what you're saying? Yeah I guess so I my first job out of college. I don't nobody majors insurance It's something you Kinda get into kind of. Get your feet wet on the real world And it's been good to me. I love meeting people and trying to help. People Insurance is a very difficult Feel for people to understand and the most so we enjoy it you actually enjoy selling insurance a product that you know is going to help people help people but for the past. I get here so I don't know I get that I'm saying all right. Let's just have fun? This is super easy. I'm GonNa let you say until I don't have to say the offer comes in from Omaha this afternoon and it's the right amount of money. There's a ladder of opportunity there. Good company good people and you and your wife one of your financial life WanNa be there and you're not selling a product that you disagree with do you take it. Yes or no I would I mean yeah I would. I would say yes. The only caveat is my fiance loves her. She's doing out here but doesn't think that she'll potentially get something like that Back in Omaha Bad there's there's a pencil allowed Movsesian medical sales so but you're the electric company. She works for okay. Tahoe company timeout. All right we got the answer. I got the answer. The answer is you don't know because you got to sit down and talk to your fiancee. You GotTa talk to her about it. She already have on some level. She knows about all right. So here's the deal. Let's say we stay in Lexington another very similar role. Sell a product or service that you believe in. Do you jump immediately today. I give it to you today. And you're not in Lexington Kentucky. I give you another role in another insurance company. Maybe you're a broker. Let's just let's fill in the blanks. What do you want to make you go? Oh my Gosh Kim out of there. The door couldn't hit me fast enough. Yeah well actually. I'm in Lexington Nebraska. So this makes sense because all my board here says Lexington Kentucky so forgive me Saric so my buddy. I'm three hours away from Oman Blake Blake Blake. You're thinking way too hard bro. Yeah I know. Gosh we just say it if I give you an insurance job today that you're not selling the the life insurance junk that you don't believe in but you're but you're an equal a good company. Good people you believe in the product. Your experience has been good to you. Do you take that job today or not. Yeah I mean that would be the answer for sure so start looking for stuff in your area. Yeah and if it's out there you and your future wife are going to have to have a conversation. I've got a great opportunity to Omaha and I believe that you can get in medical sales and Omaha Omaha bigger than Lexington Nebraska absolutely. So if you can sell medical devices in Lexington Nebraska I got news for you. She could sell it in Omaha Nebraska. So let's so complicated. I have tested. You pushed you. I have determined that you are fine with what you're doing. You're just doing in the wrong place because you're forced to sell a product. You don't believe it you doing the right thing in the wrong place so get into a better place coming up more of your calls. Don't go anywhere this is the Ken Coleman show. Hey folks we are all created to fill unique role that means that you are needed and it means that you must do it. I know that trying to land that dream job is not easy because I've been there. It's intimidating it's scary. There's a Lotta doubt but I can tell you it was worth it because there's nothing like the joy that comes from doing work that you know you put on this earth to do so if you're ready to get there too. I want you to Ken. Coleman Dot com there. You'RE GONNA find three free resources all designed to give you confidence and make your job search very effective the get hired guys include the resume guide the interview Guide and the interview. Follow up guide. The resume guys can help you. Fix Your resume flip. It looked like nobody else resume. And that's GonNa help you get noticed and land the interview. The interview guide walks you through the five strategies that help you stand out in the process and finally the interview followed. Guide gives you a time line and exactly what to do to follow up to continue to stand out post interview. You can. All three guides free at Ken. Coleman dot com go to Ken Coleman Dot Com and get hired showing you the way to work the matter so deeply to you. You'll just sit at the end of the day and say wow. I can't believe I get to do this. You know I paint that picture on purpose because I want somebody to go good grief. That sounds really great. Or if you're going my word I just don't know if that's possible I haven't said that ever in my life so there's a little mental painting for you and it's not a pipe dream so I don't care how many cynical nasty people that it's just not possible. You're just a working stiff. You're just pounded it out every forty hours a week. Just get the toys for the weekend. Drink a lot. You know you know if you drink enough on Friday night you'll forget the last five days this is this is essentially a lot of people do. I'm not judging anybody okay. We're not here to judge. I'm just simply saying if that's the recipe you want well wrong show but if you want to get to the end of your life and reminisce and not regret than you found the show for you all right eight four seven four seven two five seven seven. Let's go to bill. Who's on the line in Allentown Pennsylvania? Bill you're on the Ken Coleman show take and thanks for taking my call. Sure help well I I'm a new listener and I tuned in. Maybe just a week ago same time. My current employer posted a position that I've expressed an interest in I went to your site. Got The resume builder Senate in just yesterday. And today they called back and they want to set up an interview The reason I'm calling is the one of the. Hr folks mentioned that this position will require relocation and it is weighing on me heavily. I got a wife and two little girls at home and This position will double my salary. So Baby step two and I feel like I need to to make hay when the sun shining but I mean I'm going to be moving away from a place where I've lived my entire life. Okay got it. Well I appreciate the call. Appreciate the trust after listening for a week and I think this is a really clear cut decision. I don't think it's a pure money decision. It feels like a money decision and it feels like a family relationship decision. But it's actually you're new to the show so I'm just going to say this quickly and then we'll focus in on pushing you and let's see where your heart really is When you go through the process of interviewing for this I wanNA make sure that this is not a job that you are just talented at meaning. You're qualified for with your talent and your skills and your experience. I WanNa make sure that the idea of doing that. Forget where you're doing it but doing that role this new role. Will it give you some juice? Are you going to truly enjoy the work? Does it mean it's your end all be all and I don't expect it. It's your last position. We already know that it's going to double your salary. So that's big time love that but I wanted to make sure that you take this job because you have the talent for it and least fills enough of your passion bucket that it moves you closer down the line towards that dream scenario so that needs to be the ultimate decision. Not How much. Money relocate or stay. Does that make sense right now? Let's move to your specific situation. You've lived your whole life and Allentown Pennsylvania and I want you to name where the biggest anxiety comes from. If you're packing up and leaving tomorrow. Where is that hesitation or gut wrenching feeling that I can feel in your voice? Where's that coming from? Is it your wife's family your family both of your family's what's causing that anxiety? Well I did briefly live in Las Vegas. I went to school for Recreation Arc Management. Then you heard like that learning to fly like I wanted to be you know. I wanted to work at ski resort. Yeah Or do marketing for them And then I skied into a tree man and I could not offer seven months. Oh change and then I came home to Allentown and within the newspaper and started I was like oh well the newspapers hiring so I got a job at a newspaper and climbed up the ladder National accounts you know but I've been in like current media the last thirteen years. You know you know what I've done my entire professional life but it's not like what I was too for coming out of college but I feel like you know in my late thirties. I hadn't skills like I'm good at that at coaching people. And that's what this role is great. It's I'm stepping into management where I'm going to be responsible for. Like a hundred reps and a whole geographic area right but they want me to be there so. I can be closer to them. Okay well hold on a second hold on appreciate everything you're telling me but I don't know if you're trying to avoid it or you just went around the bend to get there what's causing you. What's the source of the anxiety of leaving allentown that you've been for such a long time? That's how you started the call. That's what this is about if I moved to take this job. That doubles my salary. It gives me an opportunity to do it. I really enjoyed a do can. Cause that's why you call. Do I stay or do I go? That's why you call and I'm asking you what's causing the anxiety. Is Your Family Hereford? I need to know the source of why you're so concerned about moving. It's like I'm I'm willing to do it. My wife's like you don't have the job yet. Don't don't you know what's what's what's yes. He's righty open to it. Open to it and So what's the source? It's the kids I mean. There's there's a kid learn to second grade. There's going to be a kid going into kindergarten. You know we were looking forward to this summer of you know them doing all their sports and okay. Great I gotta go down. No well if that's if it is them that you're worried about buddy. Let me free your soul. There's a little. They won't remember Allentown. They don't care if they were in tenth grade and seniors in the upcoming senior and they had entrenched in their school and friends. That's a different animal but a kindergarten and a second grader. A Dude we did that. I moved with a third grader and a kindergartner. And a preschooler okay. We moved five years ago. Nashville. All the Ki- the kids had never lived anywhere but Atlanta and my kids. I don't even know there's no issue at all so if it's a kid bill it's also about the kids in the sense that they have been used to me home. Get him off to the school like on the school bus. And then I'm I'm home every day. I mean I've traveled overnights like ten nights over the lower. You gotTa have the travel. I was going to be. It's GonNa be you know Monday through Thursday night. You know I'm gone. Okay now let me ask clutch. It'd be gone two three weeks a month doing that and I I have. Family ended up done that and they burnt out after so many years. But then now that's a real short and out getting managerial experience and onto a different as if it doesn't require all this exactly so the question is is this. Is it worth it for you to do that for a couple years? And you're going to be gone Monday through Thursday two to three weeks. Out of the Muncie. So you know. It's a couple of weeks not every week. So you have to sit down with your wife and you got to look at a calendar just for reference and look at the nights. You're gone what's IT GONNA be like for her. Can your heart handle it That's a very real question. My man this isn't about the kids about you. I think you're being very honest. I appreciate that. I traveled not quite that much but a lot for Ramsey solutions. The first three years and gone way more than I wanted to be but I knew it was going to come to an end. I if I stayed with it and I moved into this role that I'm in now. Where essentially anchored to this radio show which I love because I'm at home But if you can hang in there for a couple years and this thing boosts your income and allows you dictate the next step. Can Your heart handle it? That's the million dollar question. Can you personally see yourself being gone Monday through Thursday night two to three weeks of the month knowing that the other weeks you're there weekends you're there. I think you just have to wait and go. Is it worth it? The kids are going to be okay. You're already in their life. It's not like they're they're they're newborns. They who dad is kind of other than his voice or the way he kind of looks. So I I you got away this man you have to weigh the cost on your heart. I think it's worth it and I think your family can transition through it and be okay for a couple of years but I do agree with you that I've seen a lot of people. Just completely feel like their heart's been ripped out of their chest being on the road that much and I don't think that's good for anybody but for short season you guys can do it so can you. All right folks coming up more of your calls don't move. This is the Ken Coleman show. Hey folks it's Ken Coleman. Thank you so much for listening to the. Ken Coleman Show. If this podcast has helped you on your journey in any way would you take a minute to rate and write a review the more ratings and reviews we have the more easily others can find the show in the more people we can help along their journey? I can't wait to hear from you. Welcome back America. You're joining the conversation here on the Ken. Coleman show conversation about you specifically your purpose. Were you born to do now? Some of you know it and you haven't pursued it. Some of you know what you're doing it and you go boy. This is the juice so have you have no idea what it is going? I don't think it's possible to number one figured out and even if I could figure it out I can't do anything about it's too late. Let me just tell you something. You're wrong Gimme a chance to prove myself right for you on behalf of you. That's why we're here. We want to help you become you. Somebody out there needs to be you. That's what we do here on the Ken Coleman Show. We're going to look at what you do best talent and what you do what you love to do. The most that's passion so we use what we do. Best talent skills and strengths as tools. If you will to perform the work that makes us feel alive. That's passion. We do all of that because we were all created to do something to help others after all. It's not about us. It's about everybody else but we've got to be who we are. We can turn men and women on that we're GONNA have a different country. By the way the Snapshot Seventy percent of Americans disengaged at work. The number's eighty percent internationally. So don't feel bad. Say enough is enough. Here comes a radio show a bunch of men and women around the country listening calling in and doing something about it. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven is the number. Let's go to page. Who's on the Line in Louisville Kentucky Pager on the Ken Coleman Show? I can thank you for taking my call today. I'm GonNa ask thank you. I'M GONNA ask my question then I'll give you a little bit of background information so my question is basically. How do you tactfully? Go about asking why you weren't considered for a position in a way that's going to be productive and get a reply so I recently applied to a position at a company that I've always wanted to work for but it's really hard to get in the door and it rarely has opening in my area and I hadn't seen your template yet but my resumes basically flipped so that in I found a contact within the company to a very close friend and she the contact agreed that I founded call five and suited for the position and she was willing to go to bat for me. She emailed the hiring person. Go Up to my resume down to them and also gave me That HR contact email address. So I've followed up with. Hr twice. I never got a response of any kind. Might contact kept tabs on it too and a couple of weeks ago. She informed me that they were bringing in a candidate for a long interview. And if that didn't pan out would continue looking but that was a couple of weeks ago I haven't heard anything else So basically I'm assuming that they went with that candidate But I have never gotten a response at all and so I'm trying to find out what it was that I was lacking so that I can address those things before I apply again. 'cause when another position does open up. I fully intend to reapply good. Well I love your generosity here and I love your spirit. Now my question is why hasn't your personal contact. How come they aren't able to get an answer for you? Because they're in the building. I would think that that. Hr person or hiring manager is going to be able to tell them that feedback or be more comfortable with that than telling you. I don't know she did. Give me feedback along the way when I wasn't getting anything but it was very general like we're still coming through candidates things like that. They never gave her any direct information on. You know yes or no or you know why. I don't know if my wife was off the mark or what I don't have. How well do you know this person who submitted your resume for you? I actually haven't met her in person. The company is in a different state But we have conversed over email quite a bit as she asked me a lot of questions about what I do and how I got there. And but how'd you had a good background? Oh mind a friend of mine. Who used to work with her and they are still friends. She lives in the same Hoodie. Okay so here's okay. So here's what's going on. I know what you're trying to do but I just want to be very honest with you may not get what you want and I don't know that you can push much more. Because here's what's going on. You have asked for details. You have asked for for this contact. Who is a mutual friend? So you you in. This context have children rather you said crack. Can you find out why I didn't get it? Have you asked that question of this contact? I haven't yet and I was to but I wasn't sure if that was the best when I'm okay with that. I'm okay with that because that person is not directly on spot there she willing to submit your resume which is exactly how I teach it so good on you so I want to go to her and say hey. Listen zero pressure on this. I just want an answer because I want to learn and grow. I'm not gonNA object. I'M NOT GONNA do anything other than if there's something that is constructive that I can use to get better in another opportunity or in a future opportunity at this current company. Could you just I understand that? Hr is probably not going to get back to be mellow toys. Would you mind just getting some feedback? If there is anything negative all or something I can work on. Would you mind getting that for me? Low pressure okay but but it would really help me. And if you'd be willing I already. Oh you big time for civilian whereas they thank you and maybe send a gift card. How about that like Africa reason for lunch when I'm in town good we're going to show appreciation and we're going to lower the pressure bar and say here's why I'm asking. I don't WanNa be obnoxious. Like go in address all of the potential elephants in the emotions in the room. Take all the sting out of that and go that route do not email h Oregon. Because let me just tell you something. That's why I froze. I didn't think it would do me any good but I wasn't sure if I should go back to that contact because I may need her again. Didn't want to do before Before I had your advice so and yeah my. My intention is to Address it so I can be better prepared before the opportunity comes again. Thank you for your time. I greatly appreciate it absolutely. Thanks for the call and I love your spirit. I absolutely love where you were. Head is folks. This is great. I mean if you've got the guts in the Moxie and you can get an answer as to why you didn't get a job. It may not feel very good a promise. You it will do you some good eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven. Let's go to. Mike is on the line in New York. New York Mike. You're on the Ken Coleman show. Hey Ken very very nice to me on the show with you doing what you do. I'll thank you sir. How can help to the question that I have and we can go into details later Looking to decide if I should stay in the coffee industry which I've been in for about a decade or if I should be moving into the direction of ministry and or counseling and there's lots of impact with my story but Start there and see how you will. We only have about two and a half minutes and if we need to we can. We can talk tomorrow. but I think this is pretty straightforward based on what I'm hearing. Why Ministry and Counseling? Just Gimme the twenty second answer. Why is that even pulling at you? Because it's what I'm I'm built to do. It's why I even went into coffee. In the first place. Which was a relational component with people? There's an along to be an alongside or to be initia- shepherd of sorts there. I knew it as soon as you said. I knew. We're GONNA need two minutes. I knew it because somebody calls me with the ministry thing. It's here here's my answer. If you can't keep from doing it meaning no matter what you try to do. Mike Your heart just keeps popping backup going. You need to be in ministry and counseling form of that or whatever and you know your backstory. I've said this before. Out of great pain sometimes comes tremendous passion always but a lot and you answer the question better than I could ever led you into you. Just set it because what I was created to do so the answer is yes you should get out of the coffee business and yes only to move into that ministry role. You crave because your heart. Just keep saying Mike Mike and you know what you're supposed to do so now this is a question of how do you make the transition? And it's always the same answer. What qualifications are you going to need to step into that ministry role whether it's counseling or not if it's a ministry role what are the qualifications that you're going to need once you know the answer that? How long is it gonNA take to get qualified right based on your finances? How much have to spend how much time we're going to have to vote and that begins to put together a time line okay. It might be two years before I can fully step out of coffee. Maybe it's a lot sooner. Maybe financially you're in a situation where you can just go get that minister job and step right pin to it. But it's what do I have to do to get where I want to go? I have to do to get where I WANNA go. And that will inform how you step out of the coffee industry and into this ministry role so follow your heart. This is a no-brainer. Don't move. This is the Ken Coleman show. This is where America hangs out to talk about purpose figure purpose is and then if I do figure it out. How do I make it a reality? Well welcome to the Ken Coleman Show. That is why we're here taking Talkradio by storm. Because everybody's going what is this? Wait a second you're gonNA talk about Washington. Dc and its impact on my dream. No so you know what makes this fun is like it's come on come all we. We don't care what your political persuasion is. What we care about is what your purposes. So if you're looking for another show about somebody firing you up and getting you angry This is not it. If you're looking for a show that fires you up and get you on purpose. Now you have arrived because this is what we do. It's all about you. You created a unique role that means that you are needed. It also means that you must do it so now. It's not just feeling good about ourselves that we matter it's we better get about the business of mattering in other words. We WanNA do work that matters to us because we know the results are for others. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven. If you're stuck confused scared down defeated. This is the shows for you. We can help you. Let's get that Mount Everest clear so we can get our heads up looking up looking forward and they will come up with a path to get you up to the top of your Mount Everest. The American dream is alive in your dream. Job is closer than you think. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven John Online in Columbus Indiana John. You're on the Ken Coleman show. Thanks can fix taking my call absolutely sir. How can I help you Start giving you a little bit of background about myself. So I'm twenty nine years old at a CPA and He spent five years working as an augur for big four firm and announced a controller ship type role for a fortune. Five Hundred Company and Unfortunately I spend a lot of my time clean up some messes that have been made. And so I'm not real crazy about it and I'm just little confused as to where You know where I go for right now. I'm not sure if I should stay mad or what I've thought about doing some financial planning but I'm just not sure if I'm wired for that kind of thing to be in a sales position so okay well. Let's look at the evidence you just gave me the not sure if you should stay where you're at and be doing something else the CPA versus comptroller curious. How different those roles are and then second. Quick question is why initially get into being a CPA? What drove you into it? I honestly grew up trout college. Not really knowing what I wanted to do but I knew that I like numbers that I like the business environment So I I just thought well I can pretty much do anything business as long as I if I have A. Cpa Do seems. I've spent my career at default really just Taking life forever. It's taken me okay. All right so You love business though. Seems like you just realized you were good with numbers and you kind of like them. But it's not about just number seems like to me. Tell me this is true or false. You're good with numbers and you like numbers but you really would love numbers if the numbers were very strategic towards an outcome that you really like to see exactly. I think that's the starting point to a really big clue for you. Do you love the company that you're with? I love the people that I work with. My bosses are great and they really try and pave the way for me to set me up for success. I think that's probably pretty hard to find a lot of companies high. So let's just for a moment briefly. Let's just consider if you were doing something different in your current company and what I mean by different is specifically towards what we're talking about here? Where maybe you were in some type of a business solution role where your knowledge and skills around numbers made it exciting for you. If that position existed in your current company. Would you feel like you might be pretty fulfilled? Yeah I think I might. Is there anything else now that we get you thinking where you go this role here in this particular space? Now you've kind of described the role but what about the space? The industry is there. An industry that appeals to you or a service or a product that you have a tremendous connection to from value or interesting point as far as industry goes. I think my industry in the past or in the past I've dealt with most is manufacturing think that's pretty interesting and just seeing how things are made and everything are you in manufacturing now No okay well. Here's where we're at. I think we've got a good premise for you unless I'm missing something. Do you have another question for me because if not I've got a couple of action items for you go good all right so you you've resonating with what we're talking about the right. We're on the right track. I think so too so so for you. It's beginning to do some research within your current company or outside and I liked both because it's just a great exercise and you want to turn over every rock that you can right now and it is. How can I use my strength with numbers? And my problem solving skills to be strategic with fixes or launches that type of a sentence. And when you you write that down and then begin to go out and get answers to that. Well I could do that here in this type of role and then I would begin to combine the manufacturing space start looking into manufacturing space. You know what companies what products in manufacturing do you resonate with? There's a tie there's a connection there and that's all something needed pay attention to and so I think if you get the answers to those two big questions there a then you're out there looking and constantly turning over rocks do you need some qualifications that you don't currently have. I don't think so given your ability anytime you can take a numbers guy like you who is also good strategic fixes. That's pretty valuable. It's really valuable so I I really like where you're at. You're a strategic fixer or planner. Not An emergency fixture planning. You've been in the emergency mode and by the way that's GonNa make better as you shift over into more strategic worked so In the interim one last homework ask your superiors. Can you begin to be put more into strategic fixes in your current environment versus always cleaning up? Hey Is this possible? This is a strengthen. It's a little bit. I got a little juice about this kind of stuff versus always fixing an emergency could I saw internally and not necessarily be the lead. Fixer just asked that question. I think that's okay. And that could be a nice bridge for you occupationally experience and then just passion and emotion appreciate the call John. Eight four four seven four seven two five seven seven all right. Let's go to Anna. Who's on the line in Washington? Dc and. You're on the Ken Coleman show. Thanks for taking my call. I have I have two questions about your resume. Template I'm moving out of state so number one. I don't know anyone and then the second area is. I'm going to be applying to jobs for an encore career so I'm concerned about age discrimination. I wonder if you have suggestions as to how I can put my resume together to hopefully avoid that area. Okay and then. What was the second question? Here's a good about two minutes here so I want to answer both about the age discrimination. What can I do to prevent that from happening when I do my resume? Don't worry about that. My point is is. They're gonNA discriminate against you because your age can't lie about your age so my resume temple has nothing in there about your age. Gotcha so don't all my resume doesn't have anything in there about your age and if you put down you know you're most relevant work experience not going to be your entire work your anyway and so when they meet you if they think you're too old and they're not going to tell you that number one if they did they'd be just moron ick And number two you know. I don't think it's going to matter if you're the right fit so don't worry about it. Okay all right okay. All right that makes me feel better than I do about not knowing anyone to put at the top of the resume that you're going to have to work a little harder for. I've gotten that question and what you're going to have to do is have you identified the company that you want to work for. Yes okay so what you need to do is is you now have to start working your relationships relationships meaning most people we know this from data get jobs through acquaintances? So this is not only your coins. This is people outside of your close personal network this maybe some of the you went to school with thirty forty years ago This could be people on facebook that you know through just some small connection you have got to work really hard to find somebody who can at least vouch for you through somebody else. That's how that works. So he worked hard enough. You can okay and at least put relevant relationships down. Our time is almost up but before I let you go you matter and you do have what it takes. Thank you for joining the conversation until next time. This is the Ken Coleman. Show press on. Thanks for listening to the Ken Coleman. Show for more. You can find the show on demand wherever you listen to podcasts. And watched the show on Youtube. You can also find. Ken Across all social media by following at Ken. Coleman folks wanted to check out our other Ramsey network podcasts like Christie Rights Business Boutique Pan Christy Wright. And I help women. 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Guest: Leo Howard - Ex Is Bad at Sex

Don't Blame Me!

1:16:29 hr | 1 year ago

Guest: Leo Howard - Ex Is Bad at Sex

"Hello everybody welcome. Come back to another episode of. Don't blame me. Today are wonderful. Lovely guest is my twin. Leo Howard Beck Baby and you guys might have seen take talk with him recently. That's race racers and you might know him from Disney plus now Disney plus. I'm show called Freakish on Hulu. Speaking of Tik Tok and Freakish someone posted a tick Tock essentially that there was a chemical leak at like. They're like in their town and they were trapped in our high school. And I was like we got you covered the thought of our show that got canceled. Canceled ran its course after a second season for every show gets canceled. Everyone every show gets canceled. Still get DEB's if you'll be like what happened in the end that I was like I still get deals about on kicking at one of the characters got fired. I think between second and third season and I still get. DM's it's like. Hey what happened Eddie. GM's about like hey let's bring kicking it back. It's been six years literally six years. Everyone forgot also. How old were you like? How old is your character? Ed were you playing your own like same high school. I think we started when I was thirteen. Fourteen and then it went through high school so seventeen came back. You would be like say by the belts that that kind of thing if we come back as a grown adult saying did you see the. SNL thing was saved by the bell. It was They were all back and they were just miserable. You could tell they didn't want to be there wasn't wasn't SNL. Or Jimmy. Fallon Jimmy Fallon. Yeah so this is podcast. If you want to call for an upcoming episode the phone number is three one zero six nine four zero nine. Thanks seven six and if you're international or you can send us an audio message at Meghan podcasts at G. MOUTH DOT COM so basically my concern is me and my boyfriend are approaching our our one year anniversary and I love law. And he no he. He says that he does love me back. Also but I feel like he's Ashen or feel like you really slashing lately because he was so see who do a lot for me you know and now it just kind of I feel like I exhausted myself because I feel like I'm you know holding up the relationship but I fear is more lead than him at this point lakes he's been putting more Relation calling him texting. I like some of the little things could actually for me. At least a little thing matters and they make the bigger picture but for him. Little things aren't what he focuses on but either way it's just I'm feeling she should just do it for me and if he really loved love me what you know being that. He doesn't try but he doesn't try wolf and hard enough or long enough to be like satisfied and you can tell where I'm right right now so I just don't know how to approach it and say it's him and another thing that really bothers me. It was that I received the birthday and our birthday is on the same day or six months and I gave him a nice little letter and he didn't give me anything for six months and we didn't get anything for my birthday and it just kind of threw me off of this because has the person who really offer any very easy person but I would expect something like a letter at dinner anything I got so none of that and I just I don't know if I should be concerned about is still bobby he to this day which I don't know if it should or shouldn't do I have the right to still be a house about it but I'm still upset sad about it. Well thank you have an advisory board I do rely on no and yeah it would be. Hey Way I wanNA guess at. They're probably young right like high school. Ish Don't know maybe maybe God if he if he's older in high school. Yeah that's rough. Yeah it's a rough situation birthday present thing. I think like the six month thing like I don't think you really. I don't know I don't really know anyone who celebrates back those kinds of like milestones But like I think the birthday thing is weird and I do want to. What is excuse was doing yes? That's one of those things that I'm terrible at Birthdays holidays giving gifts in that sort of thing right in terms of like on people's birthdays and like giving gifts. I don't think now no I'm not good at saying that's not trail. No it's definitely actually true. And the fact that I'm it's not something that clicks in my brain and I think about ahead of time so it's like that day I'm like shit so but with certain people I have to. I have to make that effort now. You know that it's important to them and so like compromise on things and you realize that that's an important thing like if you're dating someone and that's important to them like you gotta suck it up. You gotta just do it. That's there I have a good excuse for because I think it's about being thoughtful and considerate. And if you don't thank you good at giving like oh someone's birthday anniversary to break your thoughtful and considerate and like like like presents for someone that you're dating not necessarily around like their birthday or something like your thoughtful inconsiderate and so I think it probably for her. It feels like he's not thoughtful. Consider it in those in between moments and then it gets to like that big moment of birthday. They're still nothing so I think also you're like it must feel frustrating for you because you're saying that the little the things matter to you and he sang. He thinks that the big things I would consider a birthday of big thing. So it's kind of like well. I thought if anything it was going to be there so I do. I wish I knew what his reasoning there was because if his reasoning is that he's broke I think like extol do stuff to make someone feel important and I think also six months dating and if if he doesn't get you a president because he's broke and you have that conversation about it and you can be like you know what like just a letter or flowers would have been nice and fine then I think that would have been like a teachable learning moment. Because 'cause it's like I probably like the first like celebration you've had together so I think again. Yeah learning curve there but I think now like a year in I just I wonder if your I don't i WanNa know what you want him to texture. I you want him to take the initiative and stuff like that. If you have been dating for longer longer I would say this is something that ebbs and flows and yeah but I think because it's pretty early on should still be pretty fresh a year and yeah and and I my gut tells me obviously I always prefacing. I don't know the whole situation because I don't but at the same time you can't you can't make people care more than they do and you're never gonNA convince someone to care more than they wanna care or more than they are able to to fit that into their lifestyle right so if you're not feeling valued and you're not feeling feeling and you never really did or maybe in the beginning and it fell off that quick. Then you have to respect yourself and you have to understand what value you bring to things and so you have to be A little harsh with that and say well. This is what I'm okay with. This is what I'm not and that's why I've always loved lead. My life is going. I don't I don't feel appreciate it so I'm just I'm not GonNa do this and I think also take into consideration if if you're someone who really likes doing things people I'm that person I love doing it for people I like doing my friends like dude shift. But there's some people where it's like. It's just not that important to them and there's also some people who like no I like they really want that. It can't be like a you doing doing all of this stuff in wanting him to do it. I don't want you to be doing all this stuff just because you want him to do it back. Let's take a step back and realize hey do I actually really wanna be going four and doing all of this uproar. My just doing it because I want him to then do it. Because I think at that point you'd have to be like okay. Cool had like a conversation with him and be super for honest. Because if you've had this conversation before and like nothing really has changed. I think you need to change your approach on how you have that conversation. which is you asked how to do that? And I think you just need to be like. Here's the thing I really like you. We've been dating for year I told you at the like when the birthday stuff happened like that really hurt and that really did suck and I feel like every time we've had this conversation. You've it's been like yes I'll get better and it works for a little bit and then it doesn't anymore. I'm just at this point. Where like if I don't I don't WanNa go out of my way to be the one texting you? I am calling you first and doing all that stuff. I'm GONNA take back and like if you really want to do this. I need to see from you that this is what's going to happen and I think you're at this point where like I'm not a fan of ultimatums but I think like you sound pretty fed. It's ready yeah and I think if he if he wants to be that then he can but also there's a certain thing of like some people are just. It doesn't matter how much you like each other. You're just like different in relationships and Darren what you speak different languages and relationships. There's also there's this thing that happens that I see a lot and I think it's a really unhealthy Flirting tactic or sort of a foundation for a relationship. And sometimes it's guys sometimes we initiated by girls. But there's a sort sort of thing where the more maybe secur- person in the relationship makes the other person feel like they can only get their validation from that person and so it sounds a little bit like Situation where she could be chasing that kind of allegation or chasing that kind of whenever he does actually approve or when he does reach out. It's like Oh my God it's like this drug high. Hi You feel so high and it's beautiful because you're getting it and then all of a sudden all those times where you don't get it kind of keeps you hooked until you get it again so you gotta break that chain if that's if that's what's going on on that's That's not a healthy Relationship it's not and I don't know if it is but it sounds like it could potentially be that yeah and I again he he obviously can't read your mind and I think the more that you've said you've been upfront and honest with him and he's like changed and then not really. I think at a certain point you have to realize like it's not the away you're communicating. It he just doesn't care enough to actually stick with it and change and you're right like he should be able to like hear what you're saying but I think both of you just need to manage energy Like manage expectations. But I think figure out if what you're asking for is something that does really matter to you or does it matter because he's not doing it it and then the same thing with him it was like he needs to figure out like okay cool. Is this a girl. I really care about and my willing to do these things for her without sacrificing. Do I mean because it's not knowing though no no but I'm saying if your text me twenty four seven when you leave the house can get in your car. You also have to realize if you're the one doing some sometimes times like if you're the one doing it all of the time like you're not giving someone the opportunity to kind of like let me show you. Let me text you. I let me do all of that stuff. But but it's because you can have a fear of rejection in your own relationship. It's like certain things that you like and you either like them and then if you're not doing them then yeah you have to go there and do that but then you can't resent them for not doing that. But I mean I think you have to have that last on his conversation with him ultimatum ish and then see from there because it just might be that like like you guys like each other but how you express love is super different. And if he can't get with that then no matter how much he cares about you you're never gonNA feel it. He does because he's not expressing it. In how you receive it I'll just imagine a man in a reclining chair she goes. Hey Babe How's Your Day Asia very hope to God that you you guys are in high school though or early early late teens early twenty S. Because if he's just like a twenty seven year old man who's just like Arbroath Arbroath like forgot your birthday and probably got a flip phone. He just doesn't text on it. You didn't have questions through ABC. Well that's of luck. Let let us know how it goes. I hope he's also dizzy. Not Gotten a replacement birthday. Actually move on dumping birthday thing was really i. I don't know life's too short birthday gift. Mott's got me this year and I've been on his ass being silly like can I have a different with them. I told him what I wanted instead. Months I I like to sign the order. That's how I operate if someone buys me a gift from close to them and they spent money on it or it and I don't want it I will tell them. I also think disagreements with people though I also think like when someone that you're dating I'm like Buf- by not asking me or my friends what I wanted and I told you that. What a week after my seizure? I would not wanNA bracelet. That vaguely looks like a medical. Id Bracelet it's a little triggering. It just looks like she had a strobe. Light the question so when you fall down alert rings and I was like no triggering. I want a small who hearing that. I can't get anything stuck in needs. needs to be clasped and back. So that's what I'm getting. I gotta get. Here's the kicker he tries out of resigned effort effort. That goes into it. Yeah this guy is not doesn't make effort them. It's not fun fun for anyone. Go onto the next one. Hello I'm twenty now I just out of their relationship We started dating so talking and that I feel very firm on like I just find myself and then we started talking again and he had a girlfriend but she likes shots from Michigan's awful and he hired and we started dating and when we turn fell into a relationship and I mean honestly our relationship issues like wor by fans and we do everything together and then we actually title on it He broke up with me because she decided that to find him fall and he can. I mean relationship. He kinda always had your issue and not in like like a physical as you didn't Alemi she would just from the small things from the salt. And that's my concern that I made and he like this huge day we have A. I know we're trying to push in your way but I always like back. I was like fought for all the work for two years. And then we started fighting and He just turned twenty one and he's been going out and partying a lot which I definitely don't like and he knows that and their local that Now that I mean she felt my friend I still love him I recently moved out out from the House that we were living in So I'm attorneys now again but like we're having hanging now in like a whole smoke and I saw what to do like yeah. Yeah in two years but I think long time But like I said like I still I want him to go Atika. The called never bothered me anyway. We don't have the IT's true. You guys are toxic as fuck for each other. Sounds like it. Yeah first of all just need to give you shit for him. Having a girlfriend dating her are and then you convincing him and tell she sucked so I made him break up. I got him to break up with her. It's Hella fucked up and I just want from the beginning. You've fucked your relationship with him like you guys. I don't. I'm sorry but true. This is the first time I've actually heard you go in on somebody you know. Listen on the PODCAST. uh-huh here you know but I just think like you fucked. You started this relationship on a basis of like that's manipulative ability and controlling. And then I don't not saying that he you ever deserved like him being really angry and lashing out at you but like you guys started this really fucking toxic doc sick and manipulative thing. And you're both doing it to each other and that doesn't mean either of you are like inherently bad people but this relationship has no footing. It has has no grounded all I love analogies. I'm an analogy person. It's like it's like check this. I like to build a house right okay. UPN Dacian but it Adam land right so if you build a house on sand or you build a house on stilts right. Yeah what happens when earthquake comes that house every time no matter how how you build the House Still Got Shit Foundation. You guys have shift foundation Yeah that that that bothered me for sure and then the other thing is to give you a little clarity. 'cause I'm actually like this as a person When there are deeper underlying issues whether it's in a relationship or things I find little things to get mad at and that's like my way of if dealing with me being unhappy so it sounds like he is at an age where like the world is kind of opened up in the world? He feels like he's not getting to see what he wants to experience things he wants to experience and he's taken it on you. So that's that's that's what that process is. But yeah you it. Sounds like you guys need a little breather and all all too was revisited in two years. That's disrespectful to you like you shouldn't say that I'm not a fan of being like. Hey I'm GONNA put a timeline on this six months. We're going to talk to get now. Just let it you. You gotta just. Yeah but also if he's angry with you and all of that kind of stuff in like he was pulling away. Excuse me and then you're you're and you're like like and I'm here I am. I'm fighting back when I'm fighting for our relationship you shouldn't have to fight to be with someone. If and then at that point like it makes sense to me why he's like. Yeah no I need some time and and some space because he probably like you said these little things that he was kind of done like that. Were aggravating him because of these deeper things and then finally when he wants to have this like I want to go find myself and do all of that which to also be fair you did at the beginning and broke up with him to go find yourself like it does seem like all of this. This is on your time line and your call and your terms and he doesn't really have a say in any of it and it's like if he wants to break up and open here. I am fighting for this relationship. The it sounds like you want to win him not necessarily date him like you have a it. Sounds like you're getting off on this power thing of being controlled. I got him to break up with his girlfriend girlfriend and then also like now even though I broke up with him and I was like I need to go find myself now when I'm ready. I'm going to date him but now he wants to. He wants he. We're fighting and I'm like no we can't can't be mad at me. I'm fighting for us. I don't WanNa break up and he's okay. I WANNA do my own thing and I wanna find myself and you're like no that's not fair. I don't want you to do that like do you. Even like him or do you just like also why did you call in. What kind of advice are you asking? You just gave me like a really shitty story about how what a terrible relationship is. What do I do? What are you? You're you're in it. You can handle your business. I think you also might like drama which I really relate to when I was like I was in a relationship that was easy. It was like this is boring but that was like that young mentality and then finally when it just kept blowing up in my face and I was like. Oh Wow you know what. Maybe this isn't as fun as like isn't like as fun as I think it is because ultimately end up blowing up in your fucking face and I think you need to take a step back and I think you need to be alone and you need to work on yourself and and figure yourself out to and you have to let him do that too. I just don't think that this is a good place for either of you to be also because I think like dating your friends can be great but at a certain point like if I ever dated my friends with benefits like yeah we treat each other like ship because like we were friends and we're also fucking and like it just seems you just too much of a handle in each other's lives. I think to have a healthy normal relationship at this point and I think it'd be done break up like this isn't your person I always think about. It felt like when I looked like they. Can you envision you telling your grandkids. This is how grandma and GRANDPA met. First of all I convinced Institu- dating before me was fucking psycho and then like do like it. Just it's not I will say my grandparents fucked up stories like that. So it's it's like I think the longer that you've introduced other low. Yeah they I just think that like this is the everything you've said about. This is toxic and no matter how much you love someone. You WanNA fight for a relationship. You should both be wanting to kind of work on that and like the fact that you were also kind of okay being like not like being like a verbal punching bag and having him just like take his anger out on you also to me speaks volumes for like maybe see you have some other shit. You need to work out. I'm not here to like and again as like if you if you came from like a single parent household or you came from like a angry household and my parents and stuff like that like that shit that we then like. Oh this is what love this is how I see it. It doesn't have that necessarily like it just happens and I I also feel like I can say that from personal experience that like sometimes like if we see love and a certain way growing up. We don't even realize that that's the kind of thing that we also validation. Consider love at that point that it just might be that you need to have that like year long break of just figuring your own shit out and realizing like hey the shit that I you did to get. This guy was really toxic and when he wanted to be out and I was like no. I'm fighting for you. That's also really toxic to and I think like if you care about him as much as you say that you do you should really want him to be happy but I do agree that the two year thing I think that's like a weird like no one's that's not GonNa Happen to. It's not like six six months or like. Hey we're gonNA talk and get in three months two years. I've never gonNa see you even if you have an intention of getting back together. I think putting a timeline on it. Yeah all it does. It allows both parties to not. He'll so whatever happens in the future is going to happen in so if you put a time line on it makes one person hang onto hope. Initially you gotta let things just kind of sit and let both people heal and if it happens it happens you know. Yeah Yeah I think you need to separate yourself and take a break because not break up anymore relationship. No no 'cause that's Karma like you're gonNA get some shit is it's going to happen to you and then you're going to be. Oh well fuck tuck. That sucks and also at the same time. I also think that like I'm not a fan of the phrase like how you get is how you lose them but at a certain point if you convince his hand like he's done like who's to say that someone else could commit some the same thing exactly like no it's clear and if you've got tendencies to do that sort of thing so you know it yeah. I think that you'll you'll probably end up missing a lot of really great guys if this kind of how you go about getting this guy. I think you'll miss a lot of like good eggs. Well best of luck. Please keep listening to podcasts. Sorry we roasted you But I think you need to hear it I'm gonNA next basically I'm I'm only group as me and three guys We're very very close. I know them all fence junior year of high school. I'm twenty three now But I got into a four year long relationship in the middle of it and that kind of separated for a little bit but basically a long time And when I met at first I started to have a crush on one. One of the kids But inordinate when I was in my relationship obviously now I'm single again and we all started getting really close and and They're my best friends in the world. basically closer with them than I am with my girlfriend The Long Story Short We send hooking up now about a year ago right when really ended basically And that's been great Except for I you know fucked around and develop feeling that I swore I wouldn't do And we're just really close He tends to open up to me more than he does with anyone. Anyone else. Even the other boys noticed that But I can't tell you because I'm a girl and easier to talk to or if it's you know 'cause there's something more there we just had a really good connection and I don't know what to do about it also. He lives about three hours away right now because he's in a program at school and you won't be home for another year and a half Permanently we only see him during breaks but every time he comes home. We continue the hook up and stuff or just kind of official friends with benefits at this point. my question is I don't know if I should say something because this is something really been affecting me Can they really really like him. but I don't risk ruining our friendship. I don't WanNa risk ruining the whole friend group and I don't know if it's even worse fame. Something something yeah. Until he comes home as he's done with school So I really need your help I don't know if I got everything in her. That'll make them but Any advice you could give me personally. I would really really cheap. I know it was English. Just sometimes words in that order makes oh so let me just see three friends. WHO's friends with for a long time childhood at a four year relationship she always kinda crush on one of the guys sleeping with him now and she likes him and wants to pursue a relationship? She scared that it's going to mess up their friendship which has already already been messed up so the answer is yes pursue it. Because you're already in it but also he lives far away in a six year like a six year program Eh. That whole language barrier English is my first language. He's in he's still like in school and program so she only it's he's him on break. Yeah he's three hours away. Yeah yeah well I mean I feel like you're not gonna like what I have to say I you've already ruined the friendship you've already you've already know an even I would say even if you have feelings for someone like you were saying while you're gonNA call it's like it's not like they for disconnect. Go Away like if you feelings for someone like they're no longer your friend there your crush and I think if those feelings don't continue like if they continue on there he's just a guy that you like. She had a crush on him but were they started on wall. She was with someone else told you. You're fucking while she was with someone else had had a crush even started the other dating. She said they started hooking up like almost immediately she broke up with other power breaking breaking for the other dude. He always always always always knew hanging with Blake Blake. His name's definitely I was GONNA say chat to technical also my ex's name Blaker chat data blake data. The jazz take. I love everyone I know has a job but so I I don't know I just think a you've already kind of ruined your friendship but also like I hate to to say this but unless I don't know I just think that like if he re and maybe maybe it's just you. Let's have to have that kind of conversation. But I think like you guys are right now. The epitome of friends with benefits and like got a perfect. You live three hours away. I I just think that if at a point of view maybe he really really really does like you. And he's like I just can't not I can't not hook up with you we have to hookup but a part of me also thinks that if he really did like like you and care about you there would have been a conversation before you guys just got together because it would have been like things happen then we have. Yeah but you mean you can give the straight guy perspective if this was. Would you hook up with a friend that you like actually really really really cared about without and just not not say anything and just be friends with bending all depends i. I is a massive gray area because it all depends on one what you like a pretty intuitive with other people. I know where they're at what they're looking for. If I can feel that this person is expecting something or wanted to. Yes there. There has to be conversation but that's being disingenuous and I'm not. I'm not being totally forthright with you right. I'm a big fan of huge communication saying. Hey this is I can feel that this is where you're at. This is where I'm at with this. How do we meet somewhere in the middle or just just opening up communication? However I've I've been in situations before where didn't really need a conversation because there just wasn't I didn't feel like anybody was expecting? You know what I mean. Yeah so it really just depends on the person it sounds like there needs to be a conversation this one specifically because there's a a lot of factors muddying the water and there's this whole unspoken thing of like four years of being in a relationship and then right after the relationship ended you went hooked up with this person so obviously those feelings were there so so it sounds and I'm sure they've had these conversations but obviously it's but what what's the solution might. Here's my thing is what's the solution. Either they pursue a relationship or they don't and they keep doing it and then eventually it's it's GonNa blow up in their face because it it always does so. There's really no solution in less. They want to try and pursue something or not. Yeah I think we're just a little distance and then where they're together It's yeah I think like whatever happens you like. You're not no matter what you say. You're not at risk of losing him. You already stopped him like that's something that have already been there like your friendships. Already like changed and I think like then you saying that you have feelings for him is not going to ruin the friendship like Nick. I think if anything was GONNA ruin the friendship the sleeping together any any guy that acts shocked to hear that after. You've been sleeping like you feelings feelings now. Obviously that's what we're trying to do like anytime you're just like having sex with someone like you're trying to fake what it would be to be in a relationship with them. You're like faking this kind of intimacy with someone. Even people that are super guarded. Like it's kind of Nice to feel close to someone that just just inside you is. I mean I was in the possession. Yeah sure sure we see that but I would also say that like you need to figure this out because you don't necessarily know that he's not hooking someone at school like you don't know any of these other factors chances are we probably is based on just three hours away. Just the odds of the thing. I think you need to say something because you have feelings for him and clearly. These feelings aren't going to go away so he's not the same page you need to. You need to stop sleeping together because it's GonNa fuck you up like you. I recommend the conversation. Start with say something because I'm giving up on you. It's really sad that I'll be the one. If you want me to hold me closer would be the next line. I have this conversation. I think like the sooner you do it the better i. I don't think you need to wait until you're in person. I think you can even like I would just do your phone tap and be like. Hey here's the thing I Don I think you probably know that like I had. I had a crush on you before. Whatever Josh and I started dating and I thought his name is Blake? Though we agreed blake his name was okay so okay so I think you know had feelings for you while and like Doc 'cause heels might be considering you as you just rebounding to him of being like oh she just got relationship. I'm her close friend who she wants to be close to like A. I'm just a rebound and then just say like could I have like do like these feelings. Haven't gone away and I like really like you and I've enjoyed like hooking up and this has been really fun. I just want to know where you're at because I'm at the point. Where like if you're not into me like that? I don't think that this is something that like. I feel good continuing on with because I don't WanNa ruin our friendship and I really want to preserve that and I think the more that we do this and if we're not on the same page I just think it's GonNa be really hard to like a for our friendship too big for us to maintain our friendship. I recommend a handwritten postcard from the city. That you're in right now. I think you should send it to them from three hours away handwriting. Like your answer written back to me. Oh God he's the letter in friends. I sleep you fell asleep. And let us know what he says. And don't don't put it off the more you put it off the more you're just gonNA GONNA be caught in your feels quick break right back. This podcast is sponsored by Duke Cannon country where stockings are hung with care and power tools and eggnog served spiked. I e Duke cannons highly rated grooming. 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Hinge brings people together one who goes to the other and ask them to be transparent transparent. Guys we've talked about this podcast a lot but I think we need to start from the beginning again. The the first episode I think is fantastic with Ben. And Lindsey and I'm going to level with you you guys. I go through like a wave of emotions. The first time when Ben started talking I was like I don't know if I like this guy I don't know if I'm them into him. Even though Ben was the ghost e I kind of was I with Lindsay then Lindsay started talking. And I was like Lindsey. I don't know I'm kind of siding with Ben. It is so riveting I feel like it's something thing I shouldn't even be listening to do it. I mean like it's so juicy I feel like am I allowed to be like eavesdropping on this conversation. But it's fantastic. We don't get enough love to the host. The hosts are also great and they call call everybody on their bullshit. My favorite line from that episode was they asked Ben if he was a fuck boy or a player and he said I keep busy and the hostess. Let's go. I'm sorry we gotta go back to that Yuki busy so yeah and I laughed heart. I keep busy. It's so good you will love it. I promise you at checkout hinges. podcast go stories stories on spotify or wherever you like to listen okay running back break. And we're getting to the rest of the calls high nagin unless and central gas as in listening since the first episode and I'm a huge fan So about my situation. Basically I started dating this guy and there are two issues So the first one is this sex and it's just not great and I don't know if I want to like stick around and make things better and he kind of seems like he hasn't really had a lot of experience so I feel bad for being you know a little little judge out this that he just seems like way too excited about just putting the penis in the vagina. And I'm like you gotta go down I yeah so yeah not great He's also like when he does go down on me not great following instructions. I try to get them. But then it's like take these two things and then he does the one thing about the other and then if I tell them to do the other stops during the first thing it's a little frustrating stating And then the second issue is moving a little quickly for me I'm not him literally two weeks ago. Oh and we're going to like this weekend which I think will be Super Fun. And but now. He's asking me if I want to go on his family trip to Hawaii for Christmas it's like November. I've known him for two weeks like obviously we would need to talk about this now if I were to go but I met you. He's two weeks ago dude. I don't even know if I like yet. Well okay I do like him. He's very Fun Personality and I like him a lot. Okay a little But Yeah I don't know I just need a little bit of help figuring out if this is something that I should try. Try to work out or just cut and run anyway. Any advice would be appreciated. No promises that also though have have you by dude I he. This is like the rest of this is my perfect. This is my hell this. This is a guy who sucks going. No new and also like extras fuck. Two weeks in like run run run. RUN RUN RUN. ooh I wonder if he's younger a younger than you. I feel like he might be I also going to say something controversial and feel free to like correct me has has the male in the room. I just feel like at like a wears it. It's a weird thing when someone has like an ego about sex when they're not experience if he's not doing what you're saying that he's not doing that and you're giving him instructions and he's just going no to to me. That's like maybe a moral question like to me that comes across like an ego thing of like non. I got this but like what is that such as like acting. If you're talking about being good at you're not good they're very true an- yeah but like I literally not having that. Was it for this conversation. They did anything no I don't I don't get the whole like I. There's a certain part of like I get guys who who look for me. I've gone down and who gets sucked but it wasn't like I like I don't know like I didn't care enough to correct them but like if you're caring enough took correct like why would you not listen or follow that as a guy like what -absolutely absolutely guidebook book of being like how do make me come and he's like this shit I'm improvise. She's been doing this for years and years and years. She knows what's going on. Yeah it's just weird to me since us this finger not doing do something completely. Listen Man. We're doing like listen. Listen Up yes pay attention and I think the part. That's like as much as I don't know I just think like the moving too fast thing and all of that stuff. I think that to me is a huge huge. Huge Red Flag. Can't on meet the family now. They're like that's that's that's like family knows about you. Know so yeah. It's make sure you're ready for that better Berg but I think it's even past making sure that your ready. I think you also have to think about how is it going to be relationship going to be perceived by his parents. If they're needing me a couple of weeks in what are they gonNA think of meat. Treat our relationship seriously. All of that kind of stuff. I just think that like I'm a big believer of being on the same page with people bowl and if you're not on the same page then it's just. I don't think it's worth it because someone's always going to get hurt or someone's always gonNa feel uncomfortable and like I just I think like at this point like he's moving so fast and if you like if I mean yes I think there's something pump the brakes saying like. Hey I really like you like I do want to kind of take things a little bit slower but for me. It's a massive turn off at that point because I also turn it into being like you don't know me that well like wire like why am I kind of being being to make this another acting Allen analogy. Why am I being cast as your girlfriend already when I have an audition like I'm in the process of this impostor syndrome essentially of being like? I'm suddenly now meeting your family and doing all of this kind of stuff and it doesn't if it were me I wouldn't necessarily feel like I'm at that place where I feel comfortable enough that that person like nose like this Shitty shitty stuff about me like I'm still on like I'm not far. I'm so cute like I don't I mean I always I mean it's it's one of those things that it feels like. I want to kind of no that worst solid. And we've been through something together and like we've made it to the point we've dealt with shit that like solid for me as as again as time goes on what I learned a huge about relationships and just not that doesn't mean romantically just relationships with people in general setting precedents in the beginning very important. You can't usually move backwards from boundaries right so it's really important to set boundaries in the beginning and you have to figure out what you're comfortable with and what you're not and where you wanna go that's what you owe to any kind of relationship. It's not fair to say. Well I don't really know what like figure it out. You have to figure out what your intention is with us right and if an NBA honest to it. So there's a huge thing I see with a lot of people where they're either. They're scared to they're just scared to make boundaries or or do things that are maybe or they get pushed into into doing things that they're not comfortable with when there's clear moments say. Hey this is the boundary. I'm comfortable with I don't want to do this do this. I don't want to do this. That's okay to say like it's okay as human being to say no. I don't want to do do that or I'm gonNA. I'm not GonNa do this or you know. And if it's the right person it's not going to affect your relationship at all and I will say the first relationship I've had like really clear great boundaries and was awesome when we first started dating. I was very much like I don't want to defend the relationship. I don't want to be like I was like I'm not ready for any of this kind of stuff and it got to a point then when I was ready for Roy or like saying I love you or anything like that. He very much. I mean if he got drunk you would always say he left me but it was like sweet like depressing but that's a precedence thing for me that I always tell myself like like if I have not said this sober. I won't know what I mean. He knew I wasn't ready for any of that stuff. And then by the time that like I wasn't calling me a specific perfect example of like what I mean by then it gets to a certain point. Where like for me? It was these things that I was like. Oh I really I wanna say I really want him to say it's no longer maybe like Shit Shit. What's if he says it? What the fuck am I gonNA say? There was no longer this panic and it was like a man wanting to quit and then when I was like wow this is great. Like you've been you've been at this level from like a couple like Weiland today and I like you. You waited for me to get there and I felt zero pressure at all. And that's an amazing relief blue and I think like this what he's doing right now unlike the inviting doing all of that kind of stuff. I also think again if I was in the situation. I'm like there's no way Camille and grow you found this with my. This is what you do. This doesn't make me feel special because this isn't like personalized to me. And also these like life moments and he's like life like markers of like meeting the family going on trips. They're not going anywhere they're going to happen eventually it just. They don't have to happen all at once. Immediately it's making all of these fantastic fantastic and great like four of your life decisions when things are going awesome and it's really hard to like it's you. It's hard to think about when it's not going well but if you make these plans for the future and all of us advance stuff when things are going really great. I just think it puts a lot of pressure on like a really new relationship to succeed. And then there's sort of an obligation of like again. This just feels like love bombing to me which is a term that usually is used in like abusive relationships. And I'm not saying that this was that's what this is all but it's like the overkill and doing all of this kind of stuff and like you're being showered with all of this kind of like extra sort of stuff that it becomes something that like that you kind of need and you hold onto and you seek even if it's not something you really wanted right off the beginning like you're being bombarded by all all that stuff and then it's just a lot like hold like I don't know like to hold up to of being like a lot of pressure to meet his family and all of this stuff that I also so think for again. Obviously this whole thing is from my perspective but like it just feels like not that you owe him something but it does. It feels like the relationship relationship stakes are so much higher because like there are these things that he's already like been like. I want you to come to this. I want you to do this. I want you to come to this. And you're while he must like me so much I really have after I can just as much as he likes me. No you know. We're not addressing the elephant in the room that he's battling down on her. Well I don't I don't like to I like to point the blame here mm-hmm because you're you're not good at something unless you're taught how to be good at something the big issues. He's not listening. Yeah that's the issue. It's not that he's not good at it because like you you just have to learn you have to like I'm just like you very rarely naturally. Yeah I can anything that if you start playing tennis usually you're you suck at it and tell someone that knows what they're doing is like. Hey do you this searches you gotta listen. I think it's worth a conversation for you to say like you gotTa tiptoe around these sorts of things. Because you don't want to make someone feel shitty you can get in someone's head. Yeah yeah both both ends though if I if I'm dating a girl and she's not good literally like hey you need to listen because this is not good would never do that exactly. I'm saying thing that I don't think that's appropriate in any circumstance. Unless there's a shitty things going on Blah Blah Blah a certain point if she if she asked him to be careful. You gotta tip toe a little bit. I think she already has been and I think that's what like when he's down there and being like okay a little more to the right a little bit putting your mind. It's him going. I'm not going to do. I'm going to do what I'm doing. He Deaf F- like are you screaming maybes not coordinated. Maybe just left is right. Maybe to do This yeah different from different angles. You just fixed it you need to remind right and left. Yeah no he's got to listen. I think if if I heard the conversation I would imagine it going something like hey not when there is no no. It's going to be after. I don't think I think you've got to separate the business and businesses career here but with better would you rather than before to prove yourself are after to be like. Hey think after after I think no wait correction of errors meeting. Oh my gosh I know I don't I don't think I don't think I don't think it can be near anytime that you guys have recently had sex. I think it's got to be the next day. Whatever you're at lunch? Hey I wouldn't in wanting to talk to you you about this right I think Oh yeah of course I'm always for in person With with all those kind of conversations because you gotta read people you gotTa do you miss this kind connection. Yeah so what would you Look I if she likes him. I like you. This is all good I want you to listen to me. This is it like. There's there's a couple of things that you could be doing it could. It's fine but it could be really good. So it's like you're beating around the Bush a little bit and you're not you're not you're not like dumb you suck at this so you need to get better because I know I mean. I assume she likes crush him. Yeah that's a shitty thing to hear on anyone like you suck like this is terrible that would break my heart. I've never told a girl that she was bad at giving no way. No I've never said you are bad. I tried to get exactly so I'd be I'd be like hey do this do this do this. Yeah someone don't listen fine. Whatever well then you could direct them to the podcast because we literally have a an two episodes where we basically gift tutorials royals? Would you would hate because you hate when I talk about specifics of like giving Ed you're like I can't listen to you talk like this. I do like that just like I guess hockey with someone and I just look over new in tyler. Both what do you say I remember. There was one time I go dude. This girl did this and she's who was the craziest thing you're like one hundred and there was uh-huh okay. Well now we have basically I got. We actually got a couple of reviews listeners. Who've been like I gave like took all your voice like my boyfriend says thank you? It was the best job was life. Yeah so if you ever need a girl who's not good at it you can just direct them to the boss. Yeah but I also think I want I want. Oh you listener to be to be. I mean not list our caller hopefully listening to I think you also need to figure out if and this kind of relates back took the other call when you're talking about the boyfriend in this situation if this like him coming on really strong and all that stuff is making you not super attracted to him and that's also kind of the sexes suffering and this is like your body's way of being like hey we're not into this guy because I've also very much been Nair and sometimes it's a little bit easier because like historical you know we're so used to hearing the conversation about like fuck boys and guys Ribaut and like you deal with this guys who are like our shit. Never call you back. There's also like a terrible breed of guy which I think is worse as the guy who is so extra in love Balmy and you're like this is so corny and cheesy the and I don't believe you and then it comes to being like. Oh but that's like if I don't want the fuck boy and then there's this guy who so nice there there is some there is a person nickname in the middle one. My friends and I call them. whipper nichols that's not roper. Nicholas was your whipper Nichols. There's another one. There's within poofs which are slightly more feminine whipper Nickel Bet in the relationship like very whipped. You know if it isn't that interesting at Harvard I know that from The per nickel. That's that's a whipper nickel. Okay especially something but I think that they're you walk down the Nicholas Nickleby show talk about these kinds. You've got nickel though. I'll write it down and you're GONNA get a little whipper nickel and I just think. Sometimes it can feel like doc. If you've been single you've been turning down you've been dealing with fuck boys. This is like why do I not like this because this is two extra there is the there's an in between between and so I think like the sex part could also be a reason why and that might be the reason why you're like well I can. I can stop dating him because of the sex I feel bad not dating him because like he likes me too much. Don't don't worry about that but I would also figure that out my own personal advice. I think it's too much and I would not be cool with this and I think there are some people who love this shit or Nichols but whipper Nicholas. Nicholson let him. I would say let him find a Weber Nickel and and you'll be able to date someone who's in the in between because idea nickel ones and it was like fuck this yeah. There's a lot of biology to to sex and like some people like fit together. Better as AH Blah Blah Blah but there's also there's a whole like game and build up to every part of it in that is really what over the he's GonNa stick if he's just sticking it right in you. That's what I'm saying like there's a whole like take that is literally everything buttercup. Yeah and also for Nichols are are known for not building building up. That's all of the guys who stuck it in dry except the guys were draw. I told you you can predict that way. It's happened several time. Multiple can rip your calls in the guys have stuck it in without like usually. It's because they're all drunk and they're like oh we're if not whipper nichols they're just drunk guys and they're dating. It wasn't all consensual and all of that stuff but they're not taking the time and then they ripped there. You can't get hard for six months. And then apparently it bleeds so much because all the blood has rushed. Cheer Boehner and you're bleeding everywhere. That will never happen to me. Good let's get a wet and ready good with your like all right. Oh you know coming. Yeah yeah I I don't know I think this is is kind of your body's way of telling you that your body projects him. Yeah under percent. Actually I know people afterwards where I'm like by for China did not like that like I. I don't feel like you're like the next year. I don't feel that doesn't feel. This is not what I want to be smelling a time. Well well give us an update. Let us know how it goes and question onto the next next. I'm actually calling back with at this'll advice if you could give me some that'd be great. You actually answered my question Jin episode Ms Cathy Dara about Me Wanting some advice on how to get over my My Baby Daddy. Even though I still have to deal with him as well many daddy not in that situation is all real not long gone. It's still hurt parts Especially 'cause you know he on medically onto a new relationships though that's fun And I see see them all the time and that's a whole different story many ways I wanted if I stopped since it was so easy for my to get into a new relationship I was wondering wondering what kind of advice you had for trying to get. Maybe not even into a relationship on how to get comfortable with kind of going out again. I do go out often with my friends And I'm not you know the type of girl that guy who wants to kind of go up and ask to do anything. I'm not really that person. I have really hot friends and they always get asked before I do. They're very skinny and pretty and and I don't see myself as that So I think not you know the first one. That guys are walking up to and acting. I don't really have a lot of self confidence and that I've tried David dating websites all different kinds of cool. Whatever but I haven't really found any like honest connections or Enough you know confidence in one single person Jason or comparability to order to go out with somebody And veges can be because I'm shy My accent I dated for it. All is not known for the last like that in eight years and he's the only person will the second person I stopped doing it but then he no only when doc memory because he's the only one that I had you know off and on for the longest time So I'm really comfortable with that so I think I'm you know kind of nervous on getting intimate with somebody else are Getting comfortable with the thaw even you know sleeping with somebody else or somebody else I am ready to move on but I'm just needed some advice on kind of ways you think that I could EGO boost my confidence or be more comfortable around guy than I'm trying to you know. Put myself out there and the best way for the best outcomes So if you have any advice for me that would be great and he and me some great advice. I four and I would love to hear your nice that she had the right. She's not pregnant anymore. No okay apparently we disagree on we. We know you may not think that what you thought I was saying is not so So so we're we're saying is that the call was going on she. She was talking about getting back today. And I got this really weird thing. I had a friend growing up That part of A single mother and dated a lot and had a lot of guys come into the House and the kids thought thought that the yeah a year take this guy for a year day. Discover a couple of months but kid had eight. Dad's yeah and it's just hard for a kid to adjust feel like figuring out parental figures right and so so there is a a part of me. That's like you got to do. What's best when you have a kid? This is how I look at it. The attention kinda changes from me to the kid like that's nuts when I when when that happens if it happens I feel like I'll it'll it'll be very different me. You know what I mean So there is a lot of factors to account. I believe in dating with a child and who you're exposing your child to being very careful that you are not exposing your child to someone that you don't know because you know how many years can mutates when did not know who they are so That's that's where I was going with that is I think you gotta be very careful situation and I you don't have the same doubt. No yeah and I also don't doubt that you won't be I think part of the reason why it's been harder for you to move on is because like because of that. I think because you have the at this point a lot of pressure and also. I think you're just like you've got your shit way more together than probably a lot of the people that you're dating giving she's had two she's GonNa situation so much more than like your peers in your friends all of that stuff that I think you probably are holding people to a much deserved higher your standard and I think like fins the pool one hundred percent and I think from there. I think you need to figure out like who cares if a kid you have sexual mates like you have needs like there's a point of like if you like figuring out what you need and what you want right now like. Do you want a boyfriend like do you need to hook up with someone. Do you need to like spend in time with like an adult. WHO's like sexually attracted to you and like you're not spending all of your time just like you need to have that self care time and that self care time can come in the fact of like feeling like I wanNA feel sexy? I WanNa feel vow I want. I want all of that and that has nothing to do with being a mom or being a kid. I just think that like if you're going going to be going out with like let's presumably your friends are like all like young and none of them are parents. I think like you also need to figure out if you WANNA hook up with someone or if you want to date someone because I think if you want to date someone. I think it's going to be pretty hard for you to go out with a group of your friends and if you're saying that you feel like pretty insecure around your friends. That's that's hard. That's so incredibly hard and I think that's not going to make it's not gonNa make you when you're going to meet someone you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to feel like Oh shit my friends are like I don't like this makes me feel kind of a shitty and it doesn't even necessarily mean that like your friends are cuter than you are. I think you just might have a complex about that. And I like those insecurities are being amplified so I think you need to put yourself in a position of if you wanted like if you want to get into a new relationship which I also think is totally fine and I think at that point. It's dating people who are older than you. I think it's dating APPS. I think it's like meeting potentially meeting people who are like other single parents or anything like that because if it is you're like forget how old you are but if you're like twenty two and you're going out to a bar with a bunch of other twenty two year olds sucks but yeah ah the some of the guys are probably going to pick the one who doesn't have a kid and like it totally sucks but it's just like based on the fact that like those people are self aware enough to know that like hey I can't handle that right now and they're getting blessing. You don't want to have that but I think it is going to be different for you. Also because you aren't going to be going out as often does your friends into more pressure on the individual nights and so I do the stuff that makes you have a good time and if you are aren't having fun going out with like let's say all of your friends you're all twenty two and everyone single and they're trying to guys if that makes you feel kind of Shitty don't use that as your one night off from being a mom like hang out with like a like two or we're three friends who don't make you necessarily feel secure. And maybe it's not so much about Finding that validation through like guys coming up and talking to you maybe you you just like have some fun girl time and build up your self confidence that way before you put that like. Hey I need this guy to make me feel more confident again. I had a or have a friend She's she's in her probably late thirties and her kid now is I think he's sixteen She had a pretty quick Affair with a guy that had some substance abuse problems Had this child and I look at her situation in. She has done the best job as being a single mother. She doesn't have a lot of money. She works really hard single. Go Mom or like fucking choosing room and she is in she rents but yeah but yeah. She raised this kid. She really didn't date date till the kid was I. I think he was eight or nine or ten in. She would never expose him to what she was doing like. Of course she needs and things like that right and then as time goes on she would date guys with other kids like all the guys is and she likes she really navigates it well of not. She's keeping the kid very separate from from her relationships until she gets to a point where she goes. Okay yeah he can understand the difference between you know this is someone that I want them to emulate. You know what I mean because you just kind of do have that responsibility of a man or woman like you when you bring someone around your kid. Kids impressionable misses. They're like sponges so they they will emulate who they're around so if you bring someone kind of Shitty into the household get might start emulating that so you gotta be. That's your job. It was apparent is to to control your surroundings and to create someone that you know is happy and you're proud of the most important thing in order to do that is to take take time for yourself because I think if you don't date and you don't put yourself out there and you just like wait. I think it's going to be. I don't know I don't think your individual needs they're being met because you have needs as like a woman and a mom and I think you also have to address like what you need as a woman. Because I think that's GonNa make I duNno. I think it'll make you sure you're already already a great mom but I think it'll make you a like an amazing mom and I think it's also going to help so you're not in another situation like you were with your Shitty Baby Daddy. I think like you can kind kind of take this as a really great opportunity to not get so like not be like completely immersed in someone's life right off the bat like you kind of have this built in like wall and buffer or of being like this has to go slow and Dayton all of that kind of stuff to figure that stuff out where we disagree because I don't think I don't think I would for a while date at all I I just I think like the zone. I don't I don't just saying for me. I I've thought about and I don't think I think I would purposely shut that side of me down for. Yeah while it's like I think that's it's just hard because I think like it's also again. It's also different like as a mom than a dad. I'd like a mom like literally your body's depleted. You've given this kid like everything like if he if her baby is moved on on with somebody else and everything like that like in you need to be happy like in you need to be happy and if being in a relationship and putting yourself there's going to be happy you'll be a better mom but if for you if you could if you had a kid and putting yourself out there wouldn't make you happy and you could beat Etro. It's just a level of where you need to be no judgment on what anyone needs or wants. John's is just about you. Have to figure out what it is that you personally need as long as the kid plays it which obviously it does. It's my turn your your mask before you put on somebody else sure. Yeah and the idea. Is that if obviously if you're happy in your life you're going to raise a much more well adjusted human. You take care of you you can take care of somebody else but if you're not taking care of you also seen situations where people look at getting their own and really just the hell with the you know what I mean. I also think. I think we're agreeing because I don't think that's taking care either if you're trying to get at your think if it's like a vendor of indicative sort of thing I don't think it's coming from your own happiness I think is coming from like I'm dealing shit and I'm like yes. They meet us a totally. Ah seeking happiness is going to be a really great thing for you but yeah I would say if you also if you have friends who are other single MOMS. I would definitely like as much as your friends who are not. Don't have kids all that's up there really great you as really different points in your lies and I think you also might feel a little bit of not that you don't love your kid but a little bit of resentment of like. Wow they have all of this kind of got the solution just over. Poke some holes in the condoms and all your friends houses shovel quick meager. Yeah sweet hued in Sweden Different Ages like the little verizon bars so but yeah I got I like her own on you. Just go. But even that like she's just she's she's now in a situation that she's in and she's taking ownership and she is doing sounds like she's doing the right thing. I'm just trying to deal with it and I am pretty sure we anytime. There's baby daddy advisors were pretty tough love ocean and it it makes me. There's no excuses for a no. There's one hundred percent and I think like I couldn't I couldn't I couldn't do it. I couldn't yeah not ever be involved in well not speaks volumes view versus a lot of these shows. Yeah okay so now. It's time you obviously does because you're a huge shop. It's now time for the time the time for things to happen time for. Don't blame me. No that's that's all I don't blame yourself. Never blame yourself unless it's your fault time for them so this is when listeners will their responses to yeah with their own advice. They give their own advice if they've been through something from previous episode that we've talked about getting on with the responses NCES. Yeah to our response other people's response the other guests for sure it's time for. Don't blame them. Don't blame me Melissa. And I guess I'm calling in and response to the episode with Claudia Jennings where Girls moving in about about the only nervous because all of relationships that ended in cheating kind of having that he's around that's going to happen next while over boyfriend was starting musician career and I just wanted to give some advise. I mean you guys give graded by side. I miss similar situation. I'm in my. I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend. Presser almost ten months and my relationships have gone cheated on brutally they just awful. There was like a close friend who was the worst So what I did with my friends. I basically when we started talking talking and decided to really if I told him straight up I was like look. I have eating problems as far as like thinking. Everyone eating on me And thinking that is just GonNa end that way. Because everyone I've been with has done that no matter what I've like done gun to kind of try to make sure that I see everything is always talking and I if that's something that I'm working on not having that idea of everyone but especially now that it might it's something that is going to affect our relationship Dolly no and he was very receptive and we're going images of the relationship now and whenever I have to say that I'm like Sam having a day where my brain telling me right like trust isn't really working out or that like I don't know there's something's going on and he'll sit there and reassure me and he's really a fantastic guide but I think like they said you'd be completely really openness that hey it's not you but it's the fact that this is all I know and I have to see something different for my grand realized that that's not housing housing go and hopefully in my parents and hopefully it'll be like mine were really receptive and kind kinda help you. He's doing work with you and got a lot better for me and I hope it's a lot better for you but that is open communication and let him know that you know this is what you're going nine there and see if we can do it with you Guy He will guy he will Chiampou through it that have fun in your relationships relationship. That's so citing go to shows and support him badly the best feeling I know someone dating also have fun while the podcast. I'm a great day. Everyone see very sweet sweet inca. Yeah I mean yeah I mean I just I also love just reiterate the advice we gave it on my guess. We're extra rate confirmation. Yeah it's full of confirmation. Yeah I think it's it's yeah it's it's it's very validating once you can like open up and also if you open up guy in your relationship sorry bitch like. I'm just going to keep doing me like that doesn't really happen. There's nothing bad happens from opening up someone being like. Hey I got cheated on like I need. I'm going to be a little skeptical about certain things. I'm just GonNa need reassurance like you would never just be like fuck you know. There's obviously yeah. If you kidding I'm GonNa make an effort or if you don't you're not gonNA make an exactly. There's there's nothing there's no no nothing bad's GonNa come from saying that there's no bad I mean maybe but at that point you'd be like wow you're a fucking terrible person actions. Speak Louder Than I mean in a few issues. And that's part of you having boundaries to that we talk about everybody dating musicians low rolls his eyes also is a musician. Uh I wouldn't classify I wouldn't say I'm a musician. Hey tell if you asked me what I do depends on the person I I say do they have your instagram. I mean obviously I'm not gonNA lie drivers. Yeah just out and just out meeting you do Either like property pretty manager or look at your face and they're like Nigeria face. You know why this is always like the worst off your resume or something I would have. I've seen you in. You're like I don't know. Tell me valid pretty true But guys everyone dating musicians titians crazy. Well that's it for episode Leo. Thanks for being on the always awesome fan on show she you know we love you. I love I love the show very much. Do I love coming on. I don't listen to it on talking. I'm sure it's good people attack it. Sign your when you talk to. That's you'll talk enough talk talk enough everybody. Should we also have a whole. We do get monthly episodes listening. You actually do that because you post the photos do do you follow in our podcast. INSTAGRAM account. He should follow it. Got It makes great edits and we got some video at two. Where can people check you out? property management Like my who is Leo on Instagram I don't really use twitter twitter. But it's Leo Howard. 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You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

1:42:33 hr | 1 year ago

Live from JFl 2019

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How old is she tenure ten double digit double? Did you like it you like talking to your aunt on the phone is not the worst know your audience is not the worst when you're on calls for your mom and you're like I don't fucking care. I'm GONNA swear because they're we're here. You think I'm going to change the show you guys like swearing a little bit sometimes know what's your favorite swearing your mom says okay. Oh someone getting no my key said double digging. You hooked to his mother and his sister. He went double digging. Good God in heaven. That was amazing. This is your laugh Noah. Are you addicted. Will you be like me you. Do you want to be a comedian. Maybe that's good for you. You could do anything you want. What's what's the number two plan? Maybe a comedian maybe sportscaster look. Those are funny guys right. They can be funny now. Wow you're not gonNA in a follow double digging with sports casting. Let me do this real quick. I hate this. I hit that these are up here. Anybody have any questions for me me before we start my favorite swear word. I'm a fan of saying like what the Shit I. I like saying anything. That's like a little bit unexpected. You know what I'm saying. What the what's your favorites all right the person who asks what's Your Fav- fuck your family wait? I take it back. That's my favorite yeah. You can't really beat fuck. I'm from Boston. We put an h in the word. Fuck FAC flack Yo Bro and we still say retarded. I'm not saying it's right. They love it anybody from Boston. You love it. You love it father. You're rich added. You're talking to your priest. You don't care I our first guest has what's known no in show business. I WANNA teach some terms. It's called hard out that means they have to be out at a certain time and they mean it so you guys ready for the first guest we can talk. Thank you so much for coming. It really made me feel good like a good old double decker start clapping from S._N._l.. For Fred Arniston everybody Fred came here. Get in here. Get in. I feel bad. I don't mean it like goodhart out. It's just that I've got a show afterwards. That's all that it is that way. I didn't want everyone. Nobody does this. Show no nothing like that. I'm happy to be here. You're in Dan and here. We are your invested. That was really funny. You saying that like the way that you started was like don't worry. I'm not going to tease you yep. It's always like a fear like in the audience. Don't make right spectacle please. Don't have you ever been talked to by a comedian in the crowd. It's a nightmare with luck. I haven't but it seems like a nightmare I have when I moved to New York and I was unemployed but I was trying to be a comedian. I went to a lot of shows and I'd sit in the front of big OAF. People will be like what are you know. It's not going to go to say that it's my favorite onion headline. Oh God the actors actors are coming into the audience. It's bad news and that good. No one likes it. No one likes it. No The lady has a bit where he goes you ever go to a small play which I love that feeling where you go like what if you came to this and it was just like four seats and may eh except I'm not acknowledging you. I'm wearing a vest and I have a pipe and I go like growing up in Kearney. It's so scary it's terrify yeah. How do you want to the? I hate the setup. I know it sounds sucks. You know what the problem is more that there's a row but it's not bad. It's not bad it's like we started a journey and we lost three friends like it was going pretty well and now it's just me and you hoping not to eat each other like we had to eat in honor of them. Ludicrous phones on a scale of one million yeah. You're in a set with me and you have to eat me my my body yeah how like how much of a nightmare for you is that for you fred. I think that it would be well after you're dead because because if that desperate of a situation you're gonNA wait my hunger as an animal would take over there would be no like I feel bad. It would be like back as an animal need to stay alive. I need right and I think by then you will have been dead. Can you wait though don't have an expiration is eighth. You GotTa look on my foot. Maybe I mean also I think fresh might be too much for me. You don't want me to go. Hey Fred feel so alive so I don't want it to be also. Maybe there's something to like your body being sort of cured by the sun's some sort of like yeah role cooking well. That's why they used to do wakes. Did you know that no awake is to see if they wake up. That's what science alliance used to be. We don't know we think he's dead and then sometime and they're like Oh. Thank God we didn't Gary Condit awake because sometimes they woke up. They're going to say they're going to Comedians in the future are GonNa Make Fun of us for all the things that we don't know either so you've got this real cavalier attitude about now. I know we were all laughing about how dumb those people were but they're going to do the same thing to us yes they are. I completely agree because when I watched like blazing saddles or something I'm like that's. That's not how it's done anymore. In Ten twenty years people are going to be watching what we do and be like that we don't do that. Do Wake up in whatever happened to those two yeah. We were discussing backstage that neither of us do political stuff something that I love doing with you is acting like I know what I'm talking about. Yes because I feel like I don't have to follow the news to get into it with people I can just be like trowel Khatri. Did you see yeah you see. There's no accountability. There's no accountability. The whole thing is just it's when you start in the middle. If someone who walk in right now and it seemed like a political discussion that's great I I think we could fool people because if you're in the middle of it right if you can make it sound and and if they if listen the moment that we can change that is that awareness that voters will turn that around because none of them by the way they're not representing anyone any the major and that's not even that and that number this is as the number from twenty seventeen and if we if everyone in the room was nodding along. It's like Whoa they're getting really pedic. That's how I feel. A lot of people are doing in politics. There's always one person in the group is like I don't like being dinners where when he gets really serious when it gets really serious and political and there's kind of ends with everyone. Do you know that like it at that frequency where all you can do this quietly and thanks for having us over. This is a real the double decking. Oh no no I know I know I was listening to watch S._N._l.. On on the Youtube Yeah used to be live to be stabilized. No it's not live though well live okay that shows not live and Lorne michaels doesn't exist. It's not real it's not real. It couldn't be live they refuse to the Improv. Is improviser like now they wrote. Oh Yeah I'm like really the the scene in the barbershop where nothing they had to write it out. He wrote that they wrote that I couldn't do it. No one can do it. What do you do before when you were doing Saturday night live? What did you eat and drink and do to get ready to be on the diarrhea diarrhea inducing sensation of live television before like when the was yeah empty tag? You're about to start you got to perform. <hes> what do I would have little snacks so that I wasn't completely out of food but I didn't like to have be filled with food because that's just a weird weird feeling yeah but and this is going to sound like me trying to sound interesting I would sometimes right before the show have a little bit of coffee and end does off a little bit. I know what you're talking. I'm not saying full map a little little sip of coffee. Yep just breathe get on the couch for a second in just sort of like almost it's almost falling asleep. I did that before this show. You know what I mean. Yeah I went up to my room. I was like I have an hour nap or I could kinda. Now Yeah those work. They work and yeah just go like it's Ok p you ever try it. You're trying to fall asleep and you go. This is still rest. That happens on a plane yeah the plane. It's very I think I'm sleeping right. It doesn't count you can't remember but that's yeah that's kind of what I used to eat and then after the show was done by the way Canadian made show in a way way right Lorne michaels yes. Yes I mean if he was real <hes> you you can claim a figment is from anywhere at you but it's a Canadian figment. How about this? Don't you think the city is very like it's a it's unanimous that everyone just loves the the city Montreal. It's one of those places like clarify Montreal yeah. No one's like no one's like well. I don't know this is just one of those. Oh you have to go yeah. No people love it. It's close France yeah. It's insane as soon as I walked into the hotel. I thought they were being cute by vice speaking French so I was like oh they're really getting into this. They're really they're really doing it up and I was like Oh. No they really this is like the first language that they will right. There's a locker room on this floor and I went in to urinate and there was a man in a towel and I forgot that they speak French here so I- mouth tie because it was dead quiet in the locker rooms and then he bonjour which when you mouth that looks like this no that's too much that's too much. That's not what he was saying he did he mimed salad tossing and it happened. Do you eat as I was thinking about this today. No one eight now. I feel like everybody eats house. Yeah I mean I'm sorry but everybody does it. It's like all that was missing to get a nation nation of people to was videos of other people eating out yeah yeah okay. It's right there yeah yeah that's changed since the eighteen hundreds like just like a wake right the same principle. I don't think my dad's generation was eating ass now. They weren't I think back then it was was just just straight with meat and potato in potatoes. Yeah Joan go yeah to the other. I think there's a lot of bathrobes in the seventies. bathrobes were popular bathrobe era and guns with Pearl Pearl Handle handguns cigarettes shag carpets put if you look someone's but at a seventies orgy they're like what the fuck is wrong with you. Wait till the two thousand thousands and now you can meet a couple from Utah and they're like I love getting in there. Yeah Yeah Clap. If you eat asser about really WanNa know oh I'm wrong or your lying. What is it five o'clock? This is Montreal. They'll eat your ass at a strip club here. That was a spattering. I bet those are the same numbers as the seventies anyway one time you were. I I liked the low I I don't. I'm not a fan of when people in interviews are so good at it aren't that when they are too who good at it when they feel the low coming and they're just tone about stories and when you know that like that's sort of it's like I'm good at this and I'm and Hannah God Danner we're going and we turn and and they're to dog owners. Not Kidding one one one not exact you know I aw I always. I always feel that. I don't have any stories like that. Do you have any stories. I don't have any stories where I'm like. I opened the elevator. It's Ray Liotta. I don't either and I don't have that delivery of like this is exciting. This is our realize you're gonNA love this show and I'm so confident I and we were saying millennials to mullany references but he has that great bit about how when you're young you tell the full version of stories and when you're older you tell the short yeah sure and you're like that's true. Now you just say I got mugged in Amsterdam. Yeah what is the long version of that. Oh and in the nineties I was in a band and we toured record in Europe and we were in Amsterdam and then during the day just walking around in the main plaza a guy turned around because I was walking and it's during the day and it's crowded and a guy turned around to me and smiled which was very sort of middle of the day middle of the day crowded and he smiled in a way that disarming any said Hi. Do you speak English. Oh no and I I walked right into him and then he had a knife. How big is name Terminator Two this this? That's that's not a knife. That's a that's a trial. Is this for audio. Is this for audio. Oh Oh that's clicks for the length of the night it works. It actually works you don't understand but in auto the number of clicks what I did was I drew this and this yep you know as opposed to bayonet which is like you know little pocket knives or like that's but anyway this is more like this anyway so he did that and it was it was terrifying very scary and very he was so good at it just by smiling you sort of drew me. I don't like that. It's a betrayal obvious yeah. It's a mugging but don't be friendly about it. No give me the false hope of a new friend in a foreign land yeah showing owing me a knife collection yeah no and so he had like this right at my stomach and he pointed it at Yeah Yeah I was very scary and then I in a panic just Doug Doug. Were there people around people around but it's just happened so fast. They're so good at it. Though they know how to make the moment you know we should honor the criminals of the world because it is a craft and they you know and we've had mugging so much in our lives. When are we going to turn around and go The cops and all that so and the cops that's their whole their whole day is like I have a workday today to avoid the police Yep. I've gotta find ever know where they are. They're just Roman roaming now also they don't have the uniforms on the other side of what we call that undercover in the states yeah the guy that doesn't know what candidate sandwiches. You know what I'm talking about. Subway sandwich cold cuts sliced me not always called you guys. Don't WanNa talk about Bungee or Bungee. You should understand. I'm so sorry that happened to you know we have to count our blessings because number one. I'm still alive Yup the Amsterdam more importantly than that Amsterdam thrives as a safe and beautiful city and I wanted to talk to you guys about this you gotta come to Amsterdam. Damn please bridges boats restaurants. Did you like restaurants. Do you like to Oh my God well. How about some Italian Italian food how about food from Surinam from there there are Chinese restaurants there Japanese restaurants? You are the king you're the king. Do you want to be honest. Do you want to sing a song and I'll fall. What is it called Rolling Rolling Hills Rolling Hills? This is off our new album role. It's a song called rolling hills the album called yeah redden and it's and you you might picture sure some of you have grown up around hills and stuff so that from childhood memory of hills when you're a kid they seem so big. Is that a mountain and then but then as you turn older you go you know what it's actually a hill rolling Rolling Hills Rolling Hills Rolling sales rolling yeah rolling rolling hills and then speeds feeds up Rolling Hills Rolling Hills Rolling Rolling Hills Rolling Hills Hills Rolling Hills Hills Hills Rolling here. That's it simple simple yeah. It was pretty good. I like that very much. The I like that. Do you WanNa follow me. What is this on call? No what is this anything you want. What did you have breakfast? Jonah Blank donuts donuts had have you ever in. It's like I could pay from crazy sprinkle on top but when you're doing inside into it I love this song then they'd have holes the pantyhose they say when they don't until they sell the holes driving <unk> winning and you take off your pants. You're saying laying on the road to Dan and I know what you're hinting at. I know what you're hinting out with. The donuts and I'll do it for everyone because I never get sick because I I love the fans. UH MARRIAGE MAY WANNA do do ooh. I only do crusty that. It's an essence oppression fred. Thank you for doing this. Got Everything you gotta go everything that was on the sheet yeah. Would you say keep crispy because that's how we end. I keep it crispy and and keep it even more crispy and Dan. I'm very happy to see him loving out you and hopefully I'll see you release. I'm so touched that you did it. Would you give it up for Fred. Are Hilarious Fred armistead the please take a thank thank you you're awesome. Freddie Arms Freddie beyond arms. I play it cool but that's a dream. Come true to sing silly songs with Fred we vallon. I watch those videos over and over and over so that I was pretending that it was not a big deal. That was really fun. You guys are awesome. I'm so happy that you're here. Let's just bring out the next guest it's Alonzo and get in there. Come mm-hmm around man. Thank you hello low. Everyone give yeah one more time. The what's up here here big man. It's nice to look at it. I would another comic yes. You're a tall man. Comics Hammocks end right about here like Oh. You're so big your giant but you've yeah yeah we could take down. Some goats living goats yeah. I think thanks so just eat them. Eat some fucking goats. I'm up for that my first thought when I see you is would you pick me up and you know how little people sometimes we like. We cracked my back yeah. You know I that's never happened. You're heavy yeah. I can't do that what you were if you were like a little skinny guy. Maybe yeah even be a little weird. No I'm saying we'll do it in private. That's not weird at all. I'm saying won't close the doors and take off her clothes. Yeah Ah Jake won't do any Brad. Williams jokes Radwa yeah notice brands becoming a prop here at the fest. I know Brad Williams. He's a dwarf Brad Williams Little Guy Very Funny Dwarf. I'm seeing too many people use him in their jokes and I'm like you know I understand. He's got his own thing. It's a little bit easy. It's too easy I was doing the roast battle and he was there and I thought of about a thousand dwarf funny. The got us our if you want to use them yeah right. If you have I said what's he going to beat me up. No I know I love that guy that guy I love of do I love him to. How tall are you? I'm six three six three. So how many Brad's is that two and a half. I'm just getting you guys backed away so fast fast. It is funny how they get nervous. They do get nervous again. I'm not gonNA say what's He gonNA do. I actually think Brad could do some serious damage. Oh It'd be hilarious. You know what I mean like to get your ass whipped by dwarf would just be funny. I think that would be a great story that you'd had no matter how painful it was started. Some Shit would adore who knew I wouldn't be surprised as if he took out nunchucks and like knew what to do with them yeah he might. I feel that way about Brad. He seems like he collects stuff that you buy in the back of Ninja magazines. What what you're you're in New York right so I was okay so I grew up in New York? I don't know if they still have it but they used to have these random Chinese <unk> souvenir stores. You could buy any weapon you saw in a Kung Fu movie yeah it was ridiculous you by noon Chuck's and stars and they were like real. Oh and I was like twelve and I was like I can buy that and we're like yeah yeah deadly. Thank you for not doing the accent. No I wouldn't it's too early. You guys haven't started drinking yet. I'm in roast modes offensive thing and you guys are like we've had coffee. I remember remember that we would my parents would buy them for as we had Ninja Stars we had the size and we had wooden us at noon. Shirks Chuck's nunchucks. I've heard noon chucker well. That's the that's that might be real name. I call them Michelangelo's. What is your shirt main? Why is Nike <hes>? I don't know this people all ask me about this shirts. Yeah it is a Nike Shirt and it's got sin but it looks redacting and not looking yeah. It has a Nike swoosh swoosh and there's nothing so. I don't know if you're supposed to write your name in it or do you know what it might be might be like this year's N._B._A.. Free Agency when no one knew anyone was gonna play right so you just buy shirts and wait to see who your team gets and then just fill it it out yeah. I remember some Nike is let you customize it. You can write a little thing on the band and I tried to get it to say Adidas and it just didn't the website was like yeah. We saw that coming yeah you. You weren't the first one I wonder if the first person who did it how far up the chain which child Soldat and said No. I'm not so in it on yeah. I said it I said I spent thousands of dollars a year at Nike. I can make fun of yeah. That is one of the things I don't mean to get a little too real but that is one of the things I know what they're good with capper Nak right right yeah so they've done some good things and we're all like we know how you make them guys yeah so. How do we reconcile with that? You know I'm I'm okay with it. What am I supposed to say on? That is so funny but it's this this. This is the thing like I can't keep up with how much shit I'm supposed to boycott yeah. You know what I mean like like I. I don't even know no day to day like who did what that I'm supposed to hate you for having done that or not. Do Business with you for having done that site. You know if if you told me that Nike has done some bad shit like yeah okay but I'm not going to stop wearing night like like apple has done some bad right right but you guys know bring up all the time. There was that N._p._R.. Story where they exposed the conditions in Changjiang am I saying that right where they make them and their terrible rebel but then they found out the journals embellish some of the facts but right throughout the whole story and that was just because we're like WANNA keep using my ipad yeah yeah you got an IPAD iphone itis. I'd like am I supposed to throw all that away and start over you know and then and then I do that a and we find out and androids done some foul shit and then I'm like well son of a bitch right. I didn't have to learn a new operating system. There's no tom rise of phones here say so I don't. I don't know so yeah so I I wear Nike Shit. You know also by big gas feet. You know what I mean. They make big ass shoes. We make shoes with basketball player. We got some big shoes. I'm like I like that. That's why I fucked with Lulu suppose we're in. Tom McCann's yeah look. They don't even know what those are Thom mcan yeah that's old that reference. That's why I thought it would work in that joke and like it would be fun that we remembered Tom Mackenzie. It's yeah they gotta be some brothers. In here. Why people now meme this black people here like pro procurement of a pro kids yeah pro CADs throw kids in the seventies? You had kids and yet pro kids. They were a step above was it for better librarians right cats. Were never cool. Kids weren't but pro kids. Were okay through anyone in here. You're old enough to remember pro kids. Oh Jeff Raza's here. Thank you man. He can make it meaner. You WanNa get you WANNA get up here and be mean. You're welcome. If you want Jeff Ross get up here and beaming all right. This show is not mean enough. I'm doing mean Shit I can can. I say we've been doing the Rose Jeff Ross. Everybody thanks man. Have you done any of the roasts no but jeff has there you go so you did that is what comedy is that is burned smoked a cigar. A CIGAR IS FUCK DOC everybody. That's what a cigar is. Children here mean Pete. I know well. They gotta learn from someone. They probably made your nikes now. They're Canadian. How old are you guys ten Ngelo? You look three and six. I've been roasted kids in a while. Let them have it. What a nice surprise? Yeah no I I can co host. The show would be back around. Oh good. I'm having so much what I was gonna say was doing the rose feels like I don't know it's like extra. Schism of Nastiness CENA's instead. He's invited me so next year next season. I'm going to do roast battle. I think would be next season. I'll be ready. I'm going to train yeah. Get ready to talk shit about people so I feel somewhat honored to be invited by the master and I like main Pete. He thought idea yeah yeah. Eh Yeah so you're doing maenpaeae. We're talking shit. You're talking shit to Blake Griffin. I was enjoying that yeah. I'm roasting him tonight. Let him have it. Yeah Anita a huge oven beata for Pete's fans who don't know just for Pinos off the cup. Your podcast fans might not know but pete has a rarely we seen alter ego called mean P that I've been inviting to the Rose Masters invitational tournament here and he just sort of appears every now and then as mean Pete. That's there's something about it. It's not healthy to have all that mean talent and just leave it like my mom. My mom doesn't say any mean shit like let it out. Let it out I rented it is Cathartic. Every night I walk home feeling lighter and and I will say there's not one person mean Pitas ever made fun that he's not friends with that. He doesn't admire so it can also. That's the whole thing what roasting write US affectionate. Oh you love them and then you trash him. You're roasting blake it griffin tonight. Do you want to give a preview or yeah. I could tell him if you see them. Okay is he here. I don't want him to get my now. He's not here he is he here like you wouldn't inspired booking six ten ginger zee here out here. He's hiding behind inbred Williams. Oh my God year funny you so funny. Let me see what I got. I don't follow sports but it is a dream to roast them. I've always wanted to roast an orange Banana Roldan poops. Where is it? Oh here's wrong. File wrong file here. We we go here. We go. You guys can help if you got any blake has big Dick Energy and I don't mean that anatomically. I'm Roast Battle Blake Griffin on comedy central last year and he got me good really <hes> he looked at my bald audet he said it looks like we both got fucked over by the clippers. I was going to say like you look like an action star that let himself go you. You look like Vin donuts. I'm using now one tonight. Vin donuts the fat in the let's see I'm good at Rosedale. I'm just going back up. Why am I here? Why don't white crime? He invited you to be mean and he's destroying join you. Oh what do Blake Griffin and Kathy Griffin have in common. They both have red hair. They're both trying to be funny and both of them. Will it never ever win an N._B._A.. Championship well Blake Griffin if you don't know he was traded to Detroit so now he's the worst city the worst shooter in the world's most violent city. I kind of fucked up but you get it. I liked it and he's a black man with freckles. He looks like the product up to one of Morgan Freeman early sexual assaults. Keep that key hot. That's hot delivered at last. Stop stops it. I'll say I'll say come tonight. I got nine more that that is the only need three bean. I mean Pete. I don't know like main P. It feels your sweetheart but when I saw you on stage you'll go there. You go see your manager in this room. It killed me. Oh Yeah Yeah I roast him whenever I do the award show because I have a great killed the you said he was sitting alone yeah yeah it was by manager sits alone because he's trying to recruit another client client last year last year. He signed a guy named Leclerc. I don't even know what clicks lasting he. He's a black Kid kid light skin six foot six right beautiful and it's like there's nothing worse than watching your agent. Sign a younger better looking version of you. That is no no quicker. Sign your career's over initiate. A Son Bitch sent me to Saudi Arabia. Your manager did yeah today. What what what what I needed to work? No I went. I went to Saudi Arabia to our comedy. It was very interesting because this was this was the first thing they tell you everything. You can't say right so it's no politics no religion no no sex like no race no real no alcohol no Jews though cursing however they were okay with the word nigger and I was like wait a minute wait all those rules but that one slips through yeah there was a black M._c. and he's like manny niggers. I was like wait am no. You can't allow that word to be okay over there so but yeah it was it was aw it was comedy in a culture that doesn't know comedy. Is that what it was so that that's what made it weird they it was a room like this and and you know it's five hundred seats and we got about sixty people there and maybe twenty of them had seen a comedy show in the United States and the others were. We're just kinda like well. It's a ten it's a show. Let's see what they do so we had to figure out how to make them laugh. You know them not knowing what you know. It's just one guy on stage and they really didn't know what it was so it was a fun challenge to to do it but it was definitely finally a weird gig. Did they like I. I always get a late day liked the attempt okay because I mean in some jokes. They didn't get or you know we didn't. I didn't obviously I couldn't do any of my material like I've looked at their list and I was like what air goes the act so I would. I was joking with them. I mean they didn't know who Brad Williams was. They didn't know who I know. It's okay because I did do a Michael Jordan joke and they thought I was him which made that one worked so much better. I'm wearing your shoes. There you go but these these kids here like we had full families there right so you had mom and the three kids and dad had we're at the show and you like this is even weirder now because it's eleven o'clock at night and you have like a six and an eight year old and I was like horrible. Parents are worldwide worldwide. You know what I said. They laughed when I said that they understood what I was saying. That was a joke so the money to pay well. I'm guessing that's why I went yeah yeah. We're why do you I mean come on Jeff. Did you wear the traditional outfit Yeah Nike's Nikes in jeans. I wore traditional black shit. No they and I learned about some things about the clothing right so to burqas. I didn't know this we see every all the women wearing black berkers but if you have if you have more money more color was added to the burqas so you see some people they were and then we went to the mall and if I don't know if you guys have been to the Middle East but if you go to Middle East normally when they take you to the mall it's super high end designer Prada and Louis Vitton but we went to like the target level mall you know like the ordinary mall and there was a Victoria secret they quit there and I was like this. The weirdest shit like like okay maybe they're wearing this under the burqas but to think that they're shopping and I wanted to see who went into Victoria's secret and then I thought about how creepy would that shit be for me to just be standing outside of Victoria secret waiting to see who's going in. I'm like that that has asked to violate some law so business must be good because if you're wearing a burqa and you go for your secret you don't have to wait for a dressing room. That's true that's true rod with you. You're wearing your own curtain. Yeah I get. I loved it. Let's bring out the next comedian media. I don't want to run out of time. We'll just move down but obviously you're gonNA stay clapper Alonzo Boden. Who's GonNa say thank you this obviously yeah just move down? Just stop knocking over Shit. We're going to bring out the next comedian unbeliev- I was listening to his music on spotify on the way here he was killing me. Give it up for the very funny Chris Fleming. Everybody Crafts <music>. What a Sweetie Chris? What's up everybody? I it sounds sounds like you might not know Chris Fleming as crisp as one of the funniest people in the world. He's unbelievable based on the tepid response when you announce me well or maybe they just resent me. I didn't I well. We were talking about this backstage. I wasn't sure how popular you are. I'm not saying that to be funny. I'm finding myself to be quite popular. Among among women who owned lizards and don't you have like a big like a queer following. Oh big big time yes yeah. How did that happen? Oh I couldn't explain how that happened. I I have a lot of a lot of <hes> <hes> kids oh yeah. How do you think he got a big queer following? Wouldn't it be great if they had an answer like if they just broke up analytics and said well amongst the queer community immunity but you do you have a lot of you and I both performed at Lesley College in Boston. Oh yeah remember I watched you in that thing where we were talking about. About like catskills comedy Jeff You should leave. No no no please gets worse. You're going to want take up. This is not a college I know but but they do I love what you do. You bring a lot of positivity to it. Thank you where fabulous fabulous big boots and wild staff and you perform these incredible songs like I love your song. About what is it rabb school. <hes> the Grad student shuffle the grass chef yeah tell would you mind telling the people some of the steps of the Grad student Scheffel so it's it's like the cha-cha slide but as for Grad students so it's like stanton okay walk walk home with radishes stand tall and look mindful. Even though you're addicted to porn call yourself a community organizer I even though you're not on speaking terms with your roommates and there's a lot of saucy dance moves that I can't do from this perch to position in right now. What are your physical? Didn't you start in Boston I did I think it's so interesting that I look at my my hometown as not necessarily a place accommodating mandating to such a wild act. You know what I mean yeah. I have a lot of the comedy studio. It was the only way I would get swirling around the clock if I went anywhere. Where did you say swirly sore elite yeah like when you get your head stuck in a toilet and flush see? I didn't know that okay really. I've never been swirly okay. I was big as a child yeah. It's something that was big. At ridell high. I think are swirlies thing well. I played Eugene in production of grease and it really it really radicalized sized every parent every parent in the audience they were so it glorifies and celebrates and encourages bullying Greece and in every time I would get punched I would do a car willed parents would just be voracious. They'd be like yes really them. Yeah oh I didn't know I don't know Greece well enough to know that sorry I should stop talking about Greece so much. It's like all I think about. Do you love Grease Yeah. What I love is the ending Danny Zuko Sees Hot Sandy at the fair and he has he has a break with reality and his and his reaction his primal urges are so extreme they almost read as grief? I I hate to be stereotypical but this is the whitest Shit I've ever had no idea what about right. It's just Jeff. Can you help me at all. Can you play a translator. You know all the songs go grease lining. I've heard grease lightning. That's helped me more. Tell me more on prom who that the dogs exactly heard who let the dogs out. What's been a little different? What's the name of that song goes like who let the dogs down own? What is that so? What is the name of the dogs out does that song? I think it's called her when y if you want I could do a different episode Pete. I come back on another night if you'd prefer for not to have you represent the black community but black people in musical theater go ahead you mean like the Whizz Ha Yeah we've done that yeah we took the wizard of Oz and made it coolest shit speak. That's what we do bubbling brown brown sugar and stuff like that like we yeah there. There is black musical theater. You gotta get the fuck out of Boston. I don't know why <music> reese Greece. I am not like I remembered a John. Travolta did the movie that's the extent I got no disrespect to what you do but that conversation conversation. I'm sitting between the two I don't do grease. I mean I'm not in Greece I just I just what I just watch it sometimes on planes. I'm going to have to watch it. Yeah I mean you can disrespect my appreciation of grace. Oh No it's fine. It's you and I love you. You just you got a great talent vibe and I've you know no doubt. Thank you yeah you do you. Do you like a cool guy. I'm very cool all right about where it's going okay. Have you ever bought statement. No but have you ever been around a conversation where people talking and you like. I know you're talking about something <hes> but I have no idea what it is. I have no eh this has been going on what has been kind of just traversing through my subconscious is what happened to all. These MIC stands yeah. I tossed them aggressively aggressively at the beginning this hunk Rome. I don't know if you were at the award show. This room is not good for my extents. How did that happen what happened? I set the Mike Down. They told me to set the MIC on the table and you know 'cause I opened with a hand held Mike and then there's a podium and I said it on a table and it fell off and I said is there any way to Mike and like no technician nothing. Nobody reacted they would just like no just leave the shit on the floor four and I was like I was like can we get a Mike stand and they were all looking at me. Like what is this. Mike stand you speak of you know in in a room full of stand up comics. Nobody thought like Oh. We should probably have a stand for that thing. Maybe they were the walkers. You know the walkers for their Walker. That sounds like something out of folklore yes. Have you see that no one's you were. I stopped wearing my badge because I didn't like what it was. It changed my personality. The power went to my. I was saying things like what's up buddy. I've also been unable to sleep here because I it's like the shining this hotel in that but instead of like the ghosts of the past. It's just a lot of Male W._N._B._A.. Agents that I'm abso- like a lot of guys who are wearing jeans and blazers which is the universal reversal uniform of someone who's trying but failing to have an affair so I've just been kind of tossing around wound with that in my psyche so I'm a little Jew GonNa sign already atom good okay I you and I was saying backstage. A similar bit that when ever me and valor invited to another couple's house to play aboard Gal Kilmer I call him Val. He's a friend yeah. He's a friend know my wife we go to couples. Come over and play cards against humanity. You're PLO this is so boring. Are they trying to fuck us right well. It's a very I hate. It's a very conspiracy vibe. Yes they've planned this. It's a very refilling your drink. Every five say like Oh get lose. It's worse than merit. It's worse than poly-amorous yeah. It's much worse well that is why because you say what is the line you said the opening line of chorus the opening day about about your own just because it's kind of a botched depeche mode song that I made with with logic but it's just because I have bad doesn't mean that I'm Paul the cameras a- and there's some really good dancing that again I'm restricted to new definitely look like a guy who went to an orgy by himself the hours of sleep tonight. I'm GONNA get them. It's going to be tossing and turning ooh Hannibal Lecter. It's so funny I after the rose. Everybody goes backstage and I'm watching everyone. That got roasted go. Can I have that for themselves. Oh Oh yeah so if it's if it's an act of violence like a line of someone's like attacking you that should become your property right absolutely. I think that if it hurts your feelings it's yours yeah exactly. I'm not gonNA use that though you don't have to. I don't want to because I'm going to I'm going to try and move on from I bet so I can keep going when I was listening to your stuff and this is gonna sound like a restaurant but you seem like a big fan of weird Al Right SURPRI. I love where I just don't. I'm not very well versed with weird. AL's back catalogue. Do you think if you listen to him more it would affect what you do like as like as a comic. There are certain comics. I don't WanNA listen because I'll start doing them. Do you think if you were to listen to weird al You'd start working in his style or something right. I don't think it's that necessarily I mean possibly a lot. None of my musical comedy is like none of it rhymes with. It's very a rhythmic right botch. That's Kinda the joke part of the yeah yeah making me laugh every time it was. It was almost like stand up to music right because I started doing that when I was tired cutting jeff out of this I'm sorry I'm just surprised okay just excited about your your biggest fans in the front. which is like you? Your posture keeps getting these tanner every time I look at mine standing up and waving just for a second wait who yeah both of you. Oh we're identical. Wow I need my goodness well. We Are you familiar earlier with my with my work okay wonderful. Are you yeah. That's most of your flam heads. Most of my fan base looks very much like me. It always looks kind of like a war parker meet up. I did a double take. When you walked out I was like do people look like yeah? Are you also a Chris Fleming Fan. Wow <hes> I love it but you're a weird Al Fan right now now the way I don rickles I mean what assumes I'm love Don rickles than I do. I'm respectful unlike you. Your dicta weird shit was I it dead. I'm kidding around. I Love Weird al I just don't Perte music. No you're more like Bo right. We you don't have to say you're like anybody but you're more in the see myself as a stevie nicks figure favorite you like stand back stand and Baxter Prince came into her apartment or Condo and like the middle of the night and made that simpler yeah on her honeymoon or maybe maybe I dreamt that I don't know and then she used the prince's Dildo I would love to be prince anything you do as a story you you could just go in someone's apartment make Toast Nadi that and moon walkout people. It'd be like my life was never the same. It was pre-printed post prints from from that time. Would you ever use the toaster again. If princess came in the middle of night made toast. I think that toaster goes into a glass case yeah how you laminate absolutely not you got prints. I regret to inform you got prints you go. That's what Michael mcshea I say shades J. Michael J. Like walgreens claus coming out Michael Cheik. He told that story that he was at a party you jeff. You must have a story like he was at a party with Jack Nicholson. Does anyone remember who else it was. Who is it oh? I thought you knew it was like Jack. Nicholson is in somebody else. These really really famous people and everyone was paying attention to them and then prince walked in and no one gave a talk about them and we were like you got prints. Yeah you were Prince. He's like one time I was at a nightclub and prince was in his own V._I._p.. Section by himself like twenty feet from the general public and everybody who would the club had just stare at them and that was his whole night that becomes the show. If Princess insys sitting alone in a roped off area your time he came over my house and may toast prints we should we got the last comic Arba then we'll all talk about God and weird stuff. Is that cool yeah we'll bring out the last count and she is so funny. She's here right. Oh yeah okay. She gave it up. I'm blown away by this community. One of the funniest people I've ever seen give it up for SAM J everybody say here. They played bad to the bone for you SAM. That was nice of them. Do you guys know salmon is killing it. She's a writer on S._N._l.. One of the writers is this true. Samuel run at one of the raiders one of my favorite sketches of all time jeopardy is that true I the one with Champ Nick Chadwick Bozeman yeah so that was the second one. I don't know how many there was a lot of them. There's been a lot of them. There was a Tom Hanks. Okay J. Tucker writing those before other J. J. in France. It's Shea Shea butter. I think his last name's Campbell that ruins that I don't WanNa get too serious but because you're here and I watch you do your said you did my show with me. You were one of the guests on Pete Holmes terms and friends and you just destroyed and I was watching you and I just it's a serious question so forgive me. But how do you go about writing your material because it really sounds sounds like you're just hanging out with friends and I don't understand how you do it. Don't be that Guy Pete. I'm that Guy I wanNA know your process. Are you writing do you just improvise is yeah right right and then I just keep it breezy yeah okay. I'M GONNA. I'm GONNA kill myself. I regret regret this very much. It's okay I'll I'll give the immediate I right and then I just try to you know remember. It should feel like when I'm having a conversation with friends because that's one of my funniest funniest. Just try to keep it cash. I don't try to override things so that I can just kind of play around. That's what that's what I'm really struck by. I know you're a big or or at least I think I heard that you're a big patrice fan. You remind me of the trees I'm not a big fail really always bring him up <hes> I I saw elephant in the room and I thought it was really great but I didn't really watch him before that and once people started making the comparison so much had no interest in watching more of it right just haven't but I believe he's like I watched elephant in the room and I was like Holy Shit. That wasn't like I'm not I couldn't tell you anything off. Mr P might not win those right. I understand that's last week ever. I liked him on. We'll cover. That's why I asked you your process because he was one of those guys is it reminds me. I just don't know where this is coming from. Just seem so natural Balzac brew the mets and you thought you N._F._l.. Awkward before Sam you are a lesbian yeah yeah yeah what's going on there. You know you made a weird. I'm in love and Shit. I guess you know I got a girl. I'm doing it. I'm trying to be somebody girl. You're seeing somebody love whatever that was worth. Thanks we'll because we're both I know you were married. I hope it's not weird to bring it out. Both in the wars club. She talks about onstage sabotaging her really really funny stuff about it. I'm always curious how much the comedy of it got in the way like when you were doing those bids <unk> bids. How did your partner feel about that was out part of the problem or was he okay with it? I don't know at the time when I said reading about divorce. She was kind of like not a part of life. I mean I've done. I did bits about her. I don't think the comedy was the problem. The problem was that we didn't like each other very much. And when did that show itself. Maybe like six months into the marriage. I was like Oh. I don't like her and I don't think she likes me and so we probably shouldn't be doing this. was there a moment no it was just like you can see when someone like. You're absolutely look at you discuss but they don't. I know that you know they're. They're looking like that. It was just like I would catch her looking at me like all and I was like she hates me. I'm sure of it but I hated her too so don't feel bad for me. The I don't like you either. This is shared sentiment so it was a quick marriage it was we got married really okay man. Why are you doing we got we got married quick? You know we did it. Lesbian style men February married in June in you know shut the fuck up Chris just crunching those the bro I mean I was in Spain one solstice. I don't know man that was in a space. I was thirty three didn't they. Guy was gonNA ever meet anyone. You know this job Kinda gets to you and I was like I don't WanNa die alone and I was like she suitable. That's surprising to me the whole the I don't WanNa die alone thing so being lesbian. It's the same because I get like I meet women and they have that thing in. Do you want you want to die alone. I don't really give a shit but women. It seems to be a thing so regardless of orientation this thing what guys look about think about the big picture like I think I don't give a shit by Diallo and you're just assuming like I'm walking dead and who cares if I'm I'm not with anybody so when I think about my you're going to be like shitting on yourself and Shit Bro. You're GONNA be old and you're GonNa want someone to clean your shit and care. You AIN'T GONNA WANNA be laying in your own shit in pairs in this shitty of a person to find somebody so now I'm alone in my shit in my pants and that's okay with me Sam honestly I'm a black man my mid fifties. I got like ten years left right so you better hurry up and find somebody saying so at this point. When I'm like fuck it I'll just go got nieces and nephews and told them to top line and my will is blank whoever steps up when I'm old they just WanNa fill their name my shit? Do you have this instinct. Whenever I get sick I want like I almost feel like I want to go out in the woods D- N._B._A.? Alone like when I when I look vehicle I throw up in the yard. It depends on the type of sick. There is some sick way. I like when a retreat yeah I don't WanNa. I don't want people to see my dog like a dog. I think dogs knew that which is also said they go down and they don't want to Alonzo your big. I get that yeah I get that I just I just never land for like a look you you want to hang with me when I'm pissing and shitting on myself. I'm GonNa need somebody somebody you kind of missed out best years but we're on the list is someone to clean my shit and Piss in the motivation to get married third third now Alonzo. You're good looking successful. Missile man never thought about it. I thought about it. There was one time I almost got married and then in retrospect. I'm so glad I didn't I'm. I really kinda relieved that you weren't like. I really wish I had no no no Julie Shuli time here. I've had enough. I've had enough phenomenal women in my life to know it's me. That's good. You know what I'm saying like I. I can't say it was them. It's like noticed. This one is great. What's the common denominator? Oh you know so you wh- what do you do absolutely appeal. What are the blind spots? The law like you were talking about the long term plan. I never think of that that I never think of like what's it going to be like to be with this person for a long time. I because my mind just doesn't work that way. You're in this. This is what happens to me. I'm like okay. If I'm in a relationship like now oh shit. What am I supposed to do do like you were talking about being married and going out on card night and playing you know yeah or game yeah friend and Shit? I'm like I can't I I'm not going to do. I don't know what I'm supposed to do in that role so we're hanging out and we're having a good time and everything's cool. I'm fine with that but now when you want to define it but then I'm suddenly like Oh shit. What are the rules now? What am I supposed to do you know and then the other thing is I'm a road comic like this? This is that's how I work and women want want you around and I tell them. Look you know you. This guy is going to be home at six o'clock. I'm GonNa be home Tuesday. Ran and I tell women I mean that's my life and they're like Oh. It's okay 'cause when I meet them. Usually I'm not on the road and then I go to work and then they're like Holy Shit. You're never here and I'm like yeah. I I told you that like that's my life works. I wasn't I wasn't carrying the way you said well. I told you that well no because this. I'm sorry I love you you you shouldn't have you fucked it up like a vampire this no this is what it it's really weird. Women are meet women. I Love Professional. Women women doing something with their life this and that right so you got your life. I got my my life. Then we get together and suddenly you're like well. What are we doing Wednesday? What are we doing Thursday and I'm like what the fuck did you do Wednesday before you met me like I got shit to do yeah on Wednesday so it's nothing against you? You're a bad boyfriend a horrible you WANNA get ice go here. You got your own ice cream without me allowed T._C._p.. Why are you asking me this Shit Chat Sam? I will tell you this S._X.. Did you do before Turkey jerky there in the room. I <music> out. I know where what I'm good. I'm good as a break from your reality right like we can go on trips. I travel. I do all kinds of on that and I'm known for gifts. They're like like I had one girlfriend. She said he ain't shit but he gets really good gift here Richard Gere No. He's always clothing. I'm a break from reality that will we'll get you nice shit. You want to be the bachelor your him your fun in a helicopter I am I'm fantastic and a helicopter and then unwanted just Tuesday and they wanna win binge stranger things. You're like. I gotta be in Boise. Yeah Shit. What is your blind spot Chris in love in my blindspot blind spot yeah not Bad Boyfriend you're writing shit in their blood on the wall. Well that was just a hypothetical. I haven't actually done that and I did. I trick you by saying I wasn't GonNa Make Fun of it and I Apologize Yeah. I relate to that. You feel things but you don't know why or how to articulate them yeah. Do you feel like you were raised is to not be comfortable with your emotions. Oh Yeah Yeah I remember my parents once we're like I was like Oh. I'm feeling incredibly ably anxious to this terrible thing and then ten minutes later she was like Chris. Are you feeling better and it's like Oh yeah yeah yeah one of those types of things and that's how I and that's how I think about emotions too. Are you working on it or are you in there. No no no no. I'm not I am not going to go into therapy to thirty five. Why I read the Bruce Springsteen did that okay? Are you also going to work on a dock with hooks picking up bales of Hay. I thought that was funny like a working class. Somebody's shaking her ahead. No I'm like Jesus Christ. This is my audience and Jesus no no Sir if I had said in New Jersey would it have got you there yet describing a longshoremen's duties yeah no that was my yes privileged. I am that hey right springsteen's things more about hauling ass over like like the Tappan Zee Bridge. That's more about what he's things like his songs. The VIBE is more like we're going to get that sweet ass over the Tax Gladys Knight some Shit Sam welcome to this podcast. You should have been here for the Greeks portion. I didn't realize how the my interests were. Were very white. You're on but I was with you on like I I know springsteen and I know Tappan Quincy Bridge so I was following this one okay but that Greece shit was out unforgivable yeah. I don't know what God unforgivable completely lost on me ear on News Zack Alpha q's Youtube show called between two honk as well. It works <music> works. Are you seeing anybody if that's not too personal Chris. No no I am yeah yeah ooh. We've been together for about nine years. Oh really yeah okay thank you. That's how you have relationship issues if you've been with someone for nine years at what point are you going to consider this a relationship relationship. I won't put him. I I consider it a right relationship. I just I just have to work in progress. I get I think yeah yeah what is what do they do. <hes> works at Planned Parenthood Los Angeles in the sex education to possess candidate they're like are there issues with that down down there yeah well. That's awesome good for you. What about you Sam anything any advice for the people that are dating now I don't? I'm still blind that yeah I don't. I don't know everybody's broken. You know what are you GonNa do. I'm I'm broken. Do you think that's why you're funny. I don't I don't want to believe that I wouldn't hope I can be a fixed funny person and were you bullied period. I got bullied in the ninth grade for like a for like my freshman year high school. I went to a new school and I believe a new school because your boss I'm from Boston and I went to Stoughton high and I got yeah and you don't again. I'm not trying to be a therapist but you don't think that made you sharper being bullied. I mean no because it was like I don't think so. No I think it was like my family and Shit like AH GRANDMA had eleven kids so I have a bunch of cousins and we were just always at each other's like I didn't get bullied because I wasn't sharp. I was just like going through some shit and I didn't have the energy to fight back. My mom had just died and like these kids were being mean and I just didn't have the energy for it right so they were getting away with it just because I was like Kinda out of fight right I could your grandmother had eleven kids with different partners. Don't ask my grandma's business. It has nothing to do with you quality at a story nor take away from it. That's fair. That's fair. That's fair. Uh I just wanted to picture woman. I want to know the word. I want to have her on. We were all close D._A.. l. e. grow up close and they were funny and therefore your family's it's funny I think yes. I like that Jeff. What about you? Did your grandmother have out of wedlock children. I've been in a relationship for about seven months and I'm hoping to dial on. We hear a secret Sweetie Pie. I have to think your sweet with with your partner. I think I am I try to be a good boyfriend and you no but I'm also like Alonzo single in my fifties so it's a conundrum of somebody really GonNa go the distance or am I going to keep doing what I'm doing. Not What if you date them for seven months and still call yourself single. I meant not married with family. You know so yeah it's tricky. It's it's tricky. I have a real question for you yeah because some people when they do the roasts myself included sometimes you go home and you you need to replay it and you ask people like was that too much much was that to this was that to that. Do you ever do that with your partner. Do you ever go home and go like did they seem to get it or were. They okay with it. Yeah I mean we all we all go over. Were thing and I'm I'm I second. Guess myself a lot less than I used to yeah. Last night. I did a joke about Howie Mandel who runs the festival and I it went over well but I still sort of walked out on. Maybe I shouldn't have done that about the person who ran the festival before. Oh yeah well the you know it's a fairly innocent joke but it brings up an ugly subject and that Howie Mandel who who's been very supportive has been coming to my shows every night so he's in the audience last night and and and of course I don't know if I should be getting all this right now. But there was a fucking Jeff I did see Howie Mandel screaming your name at the moon late last night with a fist or something that's been in public knowledge Joe Bear who used to run this festival got me to he was forced out <hes> he ran this festival for decades and and and then and suddenly Howie Mandel and his partners running the festival and I wanted to acknowledge that he was at my show and I said it's so nice that Howie Mandel is now in charge of the festival I think I think it's great that we have a Germaphobe running the festival who doesn't like to be touched because the last guy was kind of Hansie the great. That's an interesting phenomenon. Don't you feel better having done it again and it works again and you're like I guess it's Okay Okay and how he left so but to answer your question yeah I mean you know I never want to hurt people's feelings. That's never the goal I only rothe the ones yes I love and I really do mean that volunteers people who asked to be part of the show what I bring people on stage it's because they raise their Dan. I don't bully people out of the audience and if people point to someone in the audience ago Rose my wife Roast my husband I'll never do it. They should rose them. Yeah half points selves raise their hand. I see what you're I find you to be a hard person to Roseville donuts but like what we're going to say it again tonight. Let's see if it works. What is it good Jeff Ross Roast? I can't I mean on one hand. You seem easy but I feel like everything's been touched. What's your favorite? I've a small Dick. I don't know if that's really been out there kind of took the power out of that one ha ha you just eight mile yourself. You told me what's wrong with you. See I think I'm an easy target. Because how would you roast yourself. I look like Bruce Willis if he drowned. You got down one why we hosting me. We should be roasted. These kids come up here ready for crying out loud. He wanted to be roasted by Jeff Rouse. Come on up you can come up if you want Noah and and you can tell if you want. It's up to you just a bad idea. Sam I be like it'll be okay nice to meet you know thanks for being on the show. Please sign an N._D._A.. Release Delaney and this is also Delaney. Come on in how you doing welcome welcome you WANNA go right down down to the mean demanded a cancer the cancer patient keep going till the airfields colder over here. Come over here. What's your name? Noah Noah and Laney said that sarcastically around faces Swiss everybody can see. Can you guys brother or sister or you dating brother and sister. Does it bother view that she's much cuter than you know the lady no do you Miss Walter Matthau chasing you off his lawn. I get it the linear you ever embarrassed about. How dumb your brothers yeah? All right guys are awesome. I can't believe you did it. What there you are now dister knowing your legend Buddy? You're a legend alleged Delaney. Your alleged thank you. I can't believe that I was great. Guys thank you. I get nervous every any time I'm like there's nothing he can say and you found it. They get their cool kids in the front row with their trust for laugh show with their parents. That's the coolest I'm into. It got a thick skin. We got the White Lucas Brothers got thick skin and that's important to go through life. You can be able to take a joke. You can pretty much go through anything. That's true you need. Thick skin. Jeff has a thick arteries in bit man. Let's talk about God. What do you think happens when you die jeff? I think you you know here's the honest truth is this. I stopped believing about ten years ago like I used to pray. I remember I wanted to be on a Letterman David Letterman so bad I prayed under the marquee and I got it and I was like I think this might have worked and then I did really well and I on the show. This is like nineteen ninety five and I actually thought wow like praying worked. I prayed for it. I got it and then over time I realized no I got it. I pray to myself F- I pulled myself up and then I used to always pray before planes took off one time I was on Donald Trump's plan about ten years ago. Go doing a GIG. He hired me to perform it. More Largo paid me a lot of money. He was just some like billionaire guy who had no political sort of leanings and I was like Oh great gig and the flight was so bumpy I remember praying that we weren't going to die landing back at the airport like vividly remember praying and after that is sort of preying on every takeoff and touchdown touchdown I would ever do and sometimes at night and then over time it occurred to me that I was is making these things happen from for myself and that maybe God is not what I grew up to think it was and then now I think of it as as an honest I don't know because recently I had a very turbulent flight and didn't know what to do with my mind and I did sort of said if there's a God I'm praying to you right now so it was like a backup so I don't firmly believe God loves that I don't the logic says it can possibly be no. I think arsene judging me. I think it's beautiful. I think you said something thing really profound. First of all I love. I'm not judging your answer. I'm just saying praying to yourself. You know that Christian word for his the in dwelling of God the Holy Spirit that means the peace of God in you. That's also a concept in Judaism so you are in my opinion. You are sort of praying to yourself when I would get on planes I used to say I hope it doesn't crash cash or I would pray that it didn't crash but then and I don't mean to be too dark here. Obviously people on planes crashed. Were praying so that's that can't be how it works right. It's not just wish fulfillment fullfillment so now when I get on a plane I don't want anybody out. I step on it and I go. I'm grateful for the eternal moment. I'm grateful for this. It's not crashing right now now and and even it's a huge test but trying to be present even when you're afraid instead of going outside of yourself you know I quote this on the podcasts podcast all the time. I forget the reference but it's it's an ancient Texan says knock upon yourself as unto a door and what you reveal to yourself shelby shown. I think that's some fucking doc in deep mystical shit when you realize that it's not God's somewhere else sometime else just granting wishes which is what we've made them into Santa Claus as a deity. It's what's looking at your eyes right now. It's what's making your heartbeat so it's making you breathe while you're sleeping. It's the molecules that are moving even in your corpse life and being cannot not be stopped so I applaud what you've done and you've grown and I'm proud of you. Thank you pete and just can I add something to like. I take it further in my life. I heard Sam mention that she lost her mom. When she was in high hey school I think that what you said and I lost both my parents in high school five years apart or in in those years of my life fourteen and nineteen and for me success and personal relationships and all the things that I'm fortunate enough to be happy about the things that make me happy have to make me happy? I've never had even ability to make my parents proud that was gone so early that I had to essence prey to myself lift myself up by my boot straps. If that's who my own laundry make my own money ain't cereal for dinner if I wanted to or had to write and I also might not have been a comedian so I'm also in an odd perverted way grateful the hardships and the pain that I went through because I really do love my life and I love giving back to my I love making people laugh and whatever ever good comes of that another great point I think our psychology feeds into our view of God a lot of us model our idea of a deity based on our psychology often with our parents who are trying to earn it and that's why a lot of Christianity a lot of different fates get confused and ethics where I'm like. Can I be a good person and I think that's fine but I'm like who is being a good person and when you quiet down your mind and you're still you can see that you are something that is always good. Always I loved. It's not a transactional daddy. Daddy picked me up. Pick me up. It's you are and you can never be separated. I like to say you're not loved by God. You are God's love you can also just say you're not loved by the mystery you are the mystery you're at home here. You're not a stranger fucking beautiful and you don't have to earn it and that's what I can't. I can't say that had enough to hear you say it makes me makes me happy I again. I don't mean to Grade People's answers. I get excited about this stuff kind of miracles competion. I will be on one hundred Thousand Dollar Pyramid and the Pyramids are true God given Gift A._B._C.. You see eight o'clock on Sunday tomorrow. My mom is going to watch it. Yeah Jeff wanted to do it because his ancestors made the set. It is a good show. It was fine right Sam do you. Do you have any thoughts on just simply after you die. We don't not to get too deep. Do you think something happens or I don't know I think flipflop on it. You know what I mean. I think it's definitely think about a lot but it sounds like nothing. I don't know apart me believes in reincarnation a little bit yeah like it seems weirdly. The thing that makes the most sense right because it's like we don't have any understanding of how it starts or ends and you would you do feel like spiritual energy a you know that that's <music> bigger than your body and it's weird thing like all the spirits and just in one place like was you know dancing around or whatever indicate what happens but it does seem to me like maybe just keeps tapping you again. We make God that's like us instead of the other way around instead of making our God like what we see right yes so like heaven like Heaven and Hell for me always kind of lived in those same terms of like that's how man equates thing. That's right need good. We need bad. We need punishment judgment. We want judgment but it's like if God someone's the bigger than why would they need. Why would they be satisfied in the same ways that we are satisfied or look for those same thing? Why would God make something to torture right? That's weird game. Deploy even why would he need that pay off right like to feel the satisfaction asshole eared. It's like why why hi what do we what is God. What is what is religious schoolteacher? Why would God do how do they want a little kid and I'm not I didn't go to a lot of religious school and I went to Hebrew school? These kids didn't sign up for this shit. You should get this is heavy man. Yeah I know how to priests and so on this explained earthquakes and cancer. Are they teaching humanity a lesson or is it punishment. I don't think so anybody that saying that is doing what we're talking about. Now which is projecting our own our own anger in our own fear onto onto God but what I like about what Sam said is when you look at nature regenerating rating itself like a tree doesn't die shit falls off and grows more trees. That's when I see an a universe that is like living so it's like maybe died and then like you in a tree and then you do like a cycle of life as a tree but see that's non duality. It's the idea that we think we're we're in the world but we are the world. Let's sing it. No you know what I'm saying but the Christian aspect of often is like you're walking through it like a test when you are it. It's I think it's helpful to think of us all underwater. I know we gotta go. Are we out of time. Is there show after this. How long do we have five minutes Shit Yep? I One more thing I what you said. It's funny when some people say nothing happens when you die. I think it's funny that Buddhists and Hindus would be like that's wishful thinking it is the goal of a Buddhist is to achieve nothing and the idea is that you get reincarnated until you work off your Carmen realized that you are light and then you you can go to nothing so the people that I think is really funny. The thought that somebody could be like you dine at something and you die and you wake up and your baby and you're like fuck yeah. I think that's why babies are crying. I believe Sydney Lane all your spirit. What's that like? I believe stuff hangs on like I don't know you can feel it sometimes like Oh this. Is You feel like you've been in that situation before. That's right you. Have it and I do believe that lake. You're working out your Karma. I believe I I'm into that. We are out of time so you guys I have two and a half minutes each so Chris. Do you have any thoughts. I'll yeah I mean this very quickly. I think symbolic I I do think that when you die I do have the concept of Heaven Hell. I think thing it's like you have a moment to look back. When you're dying you think like either positively or negatively about everything that you've done also when you were talking about gratitude gratitude I've been trying to be? I pray compulsively and so I've been trying. I've been doing this thing which I also google than it is unfortunately the symptom of cognitive disorder but I I also I think like hotel rooms or rental cars a lot after I use them which I don't see a problem with that well I guess sympathy for objects is the is the issue there or can be. There's some I understand how that can yet but I do over but I I've been trying to be a lot more grateful about everything and I find that it's funny Richard. You're not a podcast without him says that if you can allow any object if you can completely say yes to a rock or a tree or a flower it will convert you. That's the Christian russian-language where it will enlighten you which is why the greatest sermon that the Buddha ever gave was holding up a flower and he just saying just allow it because behind our thoughts behind your fear of your compulsion and is something that understands its connection to all things and I think you should keep thanking your hotel room great. No I'm going to just a yeah. I can't stop Alonzo. I'm sorry I wish we could keep going but you got anything for well. Real quick wanting when I'd I hope someone cleans the Piss and shit up that the and I'm not worried about airplanes because I was an airplane mechanic. I know exactly how they fly. Is that right yeah. I know exactly elite. I'll never forget how it works so that's not a miracle to me yeah. <hes> I believe in that you realize I I don't think science but I believe that there's a spiritual connection some sort of energy that I feel connected to other people I feel I'm at my personally at my most spiritual. All when I'm creative that's the the highest form of me or anything I can do and more and more I I don't really think about but after death but more and more I think it is nothing because I was raised in Lutheran Church and a Christian Church and taught that you know good evil God judge in the sky thing and in and I it's hard to shake belief that you raised with even though I consciously don't WanNa believe that but it's ingrained so much as a child so and letting go go of that. I'm like well what it doesn't matter because right. Now it's good. I live like you talked about gratitude. You know I'm in recovery. I've been a recovery along time I found and comedy in recovery and so so I'm grateful I tell you I live a dream. I never had I never imagined any of this possible in my life and I live it every day. Okay so when I take it on from that point it's humbling how ridiculously good my life is and the people I get to work. I worked with the funniest people in the world. I get to do stuff like this like you know. Be Honest which Mama crackhead right that's where I bottomed so the idea being here doing this that didn't occur to like what you hidden a pipe alone in a room and I could be in Montreal doing comedy like like this life never occurred to me you know so I know all of this life to that connection with other people who helped me find him become who I am so I believe in the spirituality of connection between people that's. What were you gonNA say sample size when he was doing crack? You look like he was a strong oddly enough. I was a drug addict who worked out. It was Alexi energy that so so that's my spiritual thing so the thought the thought of after death I'm like man. I'm lucky to have this. That's right can't be thinking that's the difference between I hope this plane crash and I'm grateful for the eternal moment right on crispy. Would you guys say keep it crispy on the way down. That's just how we end. 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Sports! Lions Lag, Pistons Sputter

Daily Detroit

17:08 min | 1 year ago

Sports! Lions Lag, Pistons Sputter

"Happy Friday after Thanksgiving November. Twenty nine th twenty nine thousand nine. It's the holiday weekend and it's metro so of course. Today's Daily Detroit is all about sports. jair stays I'm coming to you from the road so I apologize for the slightly different sounding audio up. I I talk a bit about the lions loss than spend Gustafsen Fletcher sharp cover the Pistons and of course you know. We will be back to stories around town more on Monday morning but for now. Let's let's just get to it. Let's at the table by saying I'm a homer and I am alliance Fan but Thursday's twenty four twenty loss against the bears was another another example. That this whole Matt Patricia Bob. Quinn era seeming seeming to be a coaching and general managing mistake. In my opinion I sat there as we lost yet at another lead in. Thought we got rid of Bob Caldwell. Who didn't win enough with two playoff appearances for this? Now I'm not saying call was any sort of Messiah area but but hindsight is twenty twenty and he seems to have been a much better coach than people gave him. Credit for a big bright spot was third. String undrafted quarterback David Bluff. WHO's wikipedia page? After throwing seventy five yard touchdown as his first career completion was temporarily changed to quote owner of the Chicago. Bears Unquote and and a photo of a goat was added. I'm I'm all for that Elias. Sports says that this is the second longest touchdown by quarterback on his first career completion since since that big. NFL Merger back in nineteen seventy. So he say this next thing just because I'm just not into paranormal stuff but I wonder if the curse of Bobby Lane was Suppo- that was supposed to go years ago was a fifty year curse after all but on that final year we went zero and sixteen. I just can't help but wonder if somehow it has kept going it wasn't expectedly painful losses drops the lions two three eight and one good for bottom of the basement of both the NFC north and the firm knowledge that we will not be in the playoffs this year as we are the first NFC deem to be officially eliminated which gets me into larger point between the Tigers the lions the red wings and the Pistons. Look our sports in town stink right now. This is a city with few things that hold us together across our boundaries and we also have some of the greatest sports fans in the country and we really deserve and we need better. But I'll be honest. I am at a total of how to get there over to flesh. Fan despite coming off two lopsided victories in a row the Detroit Pistons are now six and eleven including a woeful one and eight on on the road. There's now concern among the fans that their playoff hopes are already in jeopardy unless they make some moves and we're talking specifically at trade raid. We'll talk all about that with our NBA correspondent Fletcher Sharp And I should also notice note before we get into this that we recorded the segment on Wednesday is day that was before the Pistons traveling to Charlotte. They also host the Hornets on Friday. Night with all that said Fletcher. Hydro Man I'm all right all right. So as I mentioned the the Pistons are kind of surprising a lot of people in the basketball world. who expected them maybe to be a little more competitive early on what's wrong with the team So far here early in the season where do they need help well to start they were missing Blake Griffin which most of their offense. It's kind of free form But Still Senate around getting the bottom Blake Griffin lent him create. So when your main guy who's supposed to be there to create for you is not there. You're not some issues. Also Derrick rose trying to trying to find himself coming off an injury he was on. He was on minute rotation reduction same as Blake Blake like finally came back. So it's kind of you know difficult to gauge. Exactly how they were going to do with them. As of late their main issue is really been that they. They don't have the defensive to defend properly against the team to tax they can score a lot of teams where the problem comes when they're missing shots. They're getting beat in the fast fast-break however as mentioned before one of the bright spots is Andre Drummond while people want to get rid of him he has been steadily putting up an historic orrick year. So meanwhile as you mentioned Blake Griffin's Now back in action and everything but more recently. They've Lost Reggie Jackson to a back injury. How much is that hurt It depends you ask. Some people would say that it matters some people say it doesn't I attend to go along the lines of those. It doesn't matter so much because I don't really think he's much of a plus a he tends to hog the ball whenever he's whenever he's having a good shooting night in the also tends to Audubon when he's not. I think the Pistons Work Best when they let Blake Griffin create. Reggie Jackson kind of doesn't really allow that because he wants to keep the ball. I will say whoever they've been replacing him with though never really seemed to work. The only plus site is Bruce Brown who they drafted as a shooting. Guard out of Miami last year is getting some rotation as a larger point guard which is helpful. 'cause it's helpful to have people who can handle the ball just the one plus US otherwise people would only wanNA Trade Reggie Jackson and I guess he can't really be traded if he's hurt so no one can see him play so I think it gets. It hurts their but otherwise I don't really think Reggie Jackson much of an asset for the same or so. Let's let's move on then to speculation that the Pistons may need to make some trade. What what has dwayne Casey the head coach said about that and and who might they be looking to You know us as I have not asked wing case to this question. Listen because I'm afraid dazzling case question because it seemed a little early personally the asking about trades. I know the season is maybe like about fifteen games in. But I think there's still some time to recover Blake Griffin's back still a minute restriction but he's back to being able to be competent. So that's going to help your offense. I think they really the main issue. They're having right now though. If we're trying to look they play things to replace is a backup center. Backup big man so blake. It's in foul trouble or Andreessen foul trouble. If you're GonNa Start Marquee Morris Then that kind of creates a hole there and right now as I've said before I'm fine makers not getting it done. And while I think Christian would is a better option a Christian would is still still learning the Pistons Scheme so all the points that he scoring or coming really off of catching from three or getting rebounds putting it back up but when it comes down to run a play with him he does not know what he's doing he's just going where people are going to go and not really knowing what to do which is amazing that whenever he's in there for a short amount of time he still putting up points like the last game I went to this. Friday Christian would really only played the fourth quarter but he came in in the fourth quarter scored nine points five rebounds two blocks and just like one quarter of time so so like would he knows what he's doing. He's producing the problem as is like you don't really want to put someone in. That doesn't know what they're doing early on in the game because that could really cost Ashti Wardha games kind of being blown out or something. Whether you're winning you're losing you can afford that. I think we're GONNA look to trade for some look trade for somebody tried to look for a big man who can help there. Maybe look for a wing defender who can also who can score but also play some defense because as someone pointed on twitter. A last chance Lazarus Jackson Pistons reporter Blake Griffin when during his time in Detroit has never really had a wing attack and play defense. The best thing he's had was the other Morris Brother Marcus Morris and I don't really think Marcus was more of a wing. I think really think he would fit that mold too much so if they could get someone who kind of like Tobias Harris in the past except Tobias Harris who actually wanted wanted to have the ball versus Tobias Harris. Who just happened to have the box? He was the most talented that would really help the team a lot. You give you give some wing scoring next to Blake. You give someone who can give the ball Andrea so he can give back him someone who can attack off the dribble Lucan arts coming into his own which is great but you still really don't want him trying to beat you to the to the rim. You want him kind of still shooting shooting so someone who could kind of I don't WanNa say someone like someone like Carmelo Anthony but not criminal anthony. You know what I mean someone who could take the ball score themselves when a game gets too late take over the game sort of but like not still play within the system but that's going to be allowed to ask a lot of people thinking they they should try to trade Andre Drummond for that Which I think it'd be a big mistake because he's doing a lot for the team? A lot of people say Blake Griffin's should be traded. What do you think of that? I don't know what to do with his team featured him you come from 'cause A lot of people's numbers go up on Blake's on the court. I know some people's numbers go down like an old luke's numbers. This season have a bit down on Blake Spin on the court. But I feel like if you get rid of him to the point of trying to get them. That's kind of a waste of a of money the anti but no I mean back back to drum and a lot of people a lot of people are saying they want to get him because it'll like his effort anything it was sort. If you get rid of him I don't know where they're going. Where the rebound during the come from trump because no one else rebounds on the same which is why drumming can average like seventeen eighteen rebounds a game? It's because other team gets kind of like. When Ben Wallace played for the Oh four zero three or for Pistons from that Area Safer Rasheed? No one else really rebounded and that was okay. 'cause Ben would grabbed fifteen rebounds but you get the first year without Ben Wallace. The Pistons had a hard tim rebounding. 'cause they're like Oh we can't run in transition because there's no one here to grab the rebound so I I really feel like they should get someone establish make sure when they really want they do that. And there's known in the market That's GonNa Fetch. That's going to be able to give what they want for Andre Drummond rate right now at least right so speaking of Ben Wallace in You know the Pistons Thousands of yesteryear. We just passed the fifteen year anniversary of the infamous malice at the palace and understand. You are actually at that game pletcher. Yeah it was my first ever pistons game with my father. Oh we nor- we normally even normally went to lions games. I went to one Pistons game with my stepfather's that Fathers Fraternity Omega Saifi and like this one actually also featured a player going into the stands will mentally back when Bison daily played. I remember I ah remember. He liked made a block. Threw the ball court just around the clock and like he walked towards the edge. This the court said high fiving fans like he just didn't care and there's at least like five seconds left on the clock and I was like what's happening what what's going on this is this. Is this normal. What do you remember from the malice at the palace night? Though asked I tell people this and they don't believe me. I have to bring up my friend. WHO's also there? I actually was in the lower bowl like about thirty rose. Twenty twenty twenty five thirty rose from the scores table so in runner tests left over the scores table. He was running like in our direction. when I remember most about it was everything seeming. Surreal in like we ever remember a hard foul he put in. Ben Ben Push them and all of that happened and just watching it. You're kind of like all right. Well this looks almost like a play like this can't be actually real bright and I remember looking up and seeing the Beer Cup get like as Ford hit runner test in my head. We're all like Oh my God like that actually happened and my biggest most break memory was a NBA dunk champion in two thousand. Four hundred Don champion Fred. Jones in Indiana Pacers. I remember him hopping in the stands trying to fight someone after watching Stephen Jackson. Throw some haymakers remember Ben whilst brother like just completely picking him up throwing him down Fred Jones disappeared. He disappeared. Good three minutes Beaten up and just like I. It stunned me. I remember runner tasks when he left when he got into his A. D. Locker Room. Stephen Jackson said that Ronald Jesuits or we get in trouble. I remember leaving the Palace of my father like will this even be on. TV like this seems like it's going to be forgotten about and I got home literally every channel SPN Fox sports it's CNN MS album or like this happened in Auburn Hills. It was it was just crazy to see like I was there. I literally saw this with my own eyes. Almost they're yeah as a kid. I almost threw a cup. My father grabbed me and he was like we. Don't we don't do that you. And that was it. Young Fletcher learns about the vitality Galaxy of The modern news media and the Internet. I really wish I hadn't done it because I would've gotten a nice collectible cup out of it but since I had to drop the COP entirely the Lost Out in a nice little memory that night. Yeah absolutely all right. Let's shift gears really quick little bit of soccer news involving a local club Lavonia city Fletcher. What happened there? They they participated in the US. Open Cup yeah so the. US Open cut for those. Who Don't know is probably one of the best sports tournaments in the US? It's one of the few chances centers promotion relegation that allows an amateur teams to play against professional teams before they have the. US Open Cup proper. which is the actual tournament? They have the qualification rounds where a local leagues teams from Other nationally didn't qualify through the League. They get a chance to play through playing games gonNA play against each other to see you qualifies so this year. They cut the qualification round. Short at the third round so gover won their third round games would be qualified for the actual tournament. Ornament Michigan has had a few qualifiers over the years if at Detroit city of C.. ANC and Arbor Lansing United back when they were saying Atlantic night for the one year that they were around and etc but they haven't had a US Open US Open Cup qualifier from the qualification round. In a very very long time. I think like the early eighties late Seventies. So you say when we went to Louisiana play against the Louisiana crew who are a forgot which league. They're part of it but I do know that they have uh major league backing. So they're they're like a feeder group to a major league team. I forgot which one do but They law lunacy. Lost in a heartbreaking one a One nothing in our late D K. I don't know too much about the city. I do know that. They are very active on twitter. They very much want you to tweet re tweet and share everything they post. They are so far well respected within the community A lot of people seem to be let down that they lost. Livonia is big soccer community. I know this from back when I was you. You know coming up playing Travel soccer a lot of the And high school soccer as well. A lot of the clubs in Livonia were very good. I know that They are going to get all the. Es L. Season they might potentially be switching to a bigger league. We don't know I'll when I know I'll be sure to let everyone else know. But yeah unfortunate for them for them to lose so so the US Open in Cup next round. They're only be one Michigan team to represent the state and let me Detroit City of see as ASEAN Arbor would have qualified but because they switch leagues There's a rule in the US. Open COP if you switched from one league to another no matter how well you did you're not eligible for the Cup so arbor switched from NPS sell to the US l.. Leak to you are now eligible to play sad. So everyone can refer Detroit city to represent the state super. Well all right finally Fletcher. Before we let you go. What's what's this about like some kind of six degrees of separation from people magazine's sexiest man alive while the Pistons Game? Friday Atlanta Hawks. Yeah I got to meet one of my journalism. Idols Andre Aldridge who worked for NBA TV. Currently does some play by play for the Hawks. The following night Andre Aldridge went it back to Atlanta to cover a hawks game where he met Egypt's Alba and they relate. They talked ten interview. Talked about a bunch of stuff asked him about some soccer trick questions so like wow. I got the need someone who knows my name got to chat with them for a little bit and he promptly went and met this guy and and right after. I said that my girlfriend was like he's in your sixties separation. You know you have one degree separation of him. I mean just album I was like wow that made my day. You know that boom so yeah. That's pretty cool. You did you get to meet yourself are no no. I got to meet Dominique Wilkins. Oh that's cool yeah. He He he got to learn my name and then promptly forgot it then it might editor introduced him to me and then he didn't remember that he met me ten minutes ago. So I'm coming up. In the world could Ari Fleischer. Well thanks so much. It's for catching us up on all this important sports information and and More trivial brushes with fame. We appreciate it and enjoy your Thanksgiving break. Thank thank you guys as well and we're done today I hope you enjoyed your Turkey or tofurkey or whatever ever you had that you all had a happy Thanksgiving small business. Saturday is well tomorrow so go shop local. I'm Jerry stays or back at it on Monday. Morning cavill wonderful weekend to care of each other. We'll see you around Detroit.

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The KiddChris Show

1:00:54 hr | 7 months ago

Big Feets

"What's it like to drive the Volvo xc ninety plug in hybrid. The thrill of four hundred horsepower t eight twin engine. The joy of impromptu road transit. And Serenity Of Electric Power Impure ECO mode. Visit DMV Volvo retailer today to experience the XY ninety recharge plug in hybrid for yourself. About Blake is he's always accusing me of being homosexual, but he's the one to hang out with me. Let him do it. Yeah. I'd say all that stuff is to. He'll hold me down and do all that stuff. Next forcible kissed. Let's make it. The Kid Chris Show What a welcome to it it's a kid Chris show every day at about Lebanon distinct post up online for you spread it around. We need to love always. Okay. It's never to the point where we're like, okay, we get enough love spread this shit around also tonight kid Chris, dot TV We'll get into some important stuff up there when I go live from club Chris I, call it seven pm eastern time, and always by the next day, the show is posted up on kid Chris Dot. TV. In case you missed it by encourage you to watch it live. All that stuff helps out as we build this little empire here. Okay. So Kid Chris Dot TV it's a two DS DOT TV tonight seven PM Eastern live from club Chris Alright. Attacks the media. Go to Johnny, Johnny. Welcome to KB wire. Thanks so much for calling. Wow. Costed read. What? Music Music today. Johnny Five, obviously the monster or the the muscle machine. When I only lost? No so We'll see what happens today they play again at noon, and then by eight o'clock, we should have our answer back's against the wall. was. All Day yesterday house getting tweets I. You Watch it. No. I don't have all day to sit in front of the TV to watch a baseball game. Guys throw a ball, wouldn't it be saved? Doesn't As you watch that game, you're like one runs going to win this game right Oh by the time it was. The eleventh any. Yeah like well, somebody hurry up and hit a ball two times. The reds had somebody at third base with one out we couldn't do it. All you had to do was sacrifice a bunt down first base line get him in the meets got all the answers all the dirty skipper. Skipper. Skipper meet. Yeah. The skipper, for Gilligan's island put them on an island and. Yeah, it was interesting watching our. Refreshing my browser yes. That's all I did. I. Didn't. I didn't turn it on I check my phone and it was middle of the thirteenth yeah and I no score yet. Yeah and and you know how many people probably said well, thank God we're not allowed to go to these games I I would you be stuck there all day all day. All Day. So yeah that was. Not. A good thing and you know honestly it's like, do you wish You grew up around here. Do you wish like today instead of just dickey with our our emotions just lose it today. Yet. Kind of. Fan You you you've course you want him to win today for that. But I'm not from here I don't have the the letdown. Every year offbeat has as a Cincinnati Sports Fan. Yeah. You get excited every year for the reds for the bengals they do. Well, you're like, Oh, this is going to be the time they get into the playoffs. She's like, Oh, this could be it, and then when it all just starts playing out, you're like here we go here get back that bad girl. One I say yesterday we working out a deal fitness I said. Trevor Bauer is having a record setting game. I said what would be more? Cincinnati Reds Liz. Car Accident on the way to the game. Was Praise all my God Trevor Bauer is just dealing. Curse it out they but he's played today. No who's pitching he's going to sit down town. He's going to sit down and just go don't even. Don't even dress up just just where your suit. Saturday just sitting there car. Let's do it on the radio. Go Back Day. Let's do it on seven hundred wwl devils. Yeah. Right. Have on the background. Get worked. Clean up your laptop, your desktop on your laptop in and be a quick game today at your. Yeah. They may even go three innings May. Could try well, we'll say obviously, it is Kinda. Cool though that it's already we're not the weight. I'd say I do like the fact that it's two out of three writer toback day. We don't have to wait seven days like you know football I gotta get to Sunday. Then, there's that what's the down for Sunday with the mingle plane. Yes. So it WHO's the worst? Of All Time The bengals are favored in this game they were favored in the last game. Did they know aisher? Let I. Think they were favorite against the Eagles and they I don't think they were not. Happy. But This is the game. Now, we're going to watch this go. Okay. Daleus the Jacksonville, that is it Oh, I didn't even did I. Did I swear she sleeps with another guy. I am not. The last time. This is this is a quote. Richard. Skinner put it on twitter a quote from offensive line coach. Jim Turner Bobby Heart. I think bobbies playing the best football. I've seen him play in his career right now I think mentally he's in a great place like if you watch his side of his whatever Blah Blah I am not worried about bobby heart. Are. You kidding me because he's got pay check all these guys paychecks. I'm not worried I'M GONNA come on here and not rock the boat by God. What the? Hell. I get the whole. It's all lies. This is politics. This fake news, it's one hundred percent can see. They're laughing face they're cutting the money these quotes. Injuries these guys really suffered a paper cuts in their thoughts counting the money. The symbols on. People's. What I paid they assembled other guy. What symbols Hey A. Three. Biggest. Brian here. Scarce to death good morning viruses taken over our lives. Kentucky's got the highest level of cases in the past two days that we've seen since March bars. The. Alcohol restrictions and. Maybe that's the case some will tell you because Kentucky's doing more testing than they have at any point makes this but while remains to be seen. The good news is is an issue as being talked about now Labor Day Spike, there was not in Hamilton County Talk Hamilton County you know where? We are. There was no labour day spike. Health Commissioner has no. Significant increase from kids going back to school. Right. So he was pleased with that. When he did his briefing yesterday said that you know the masks, the social distancing requirements that are, in fact, certainly are working and people are following the guidelines as far as he can tell, just by looking at the numbers, there were about five hundred new cases total in Hamilton County in in the past week and said while those are a little bit elevated they're really not out of line with the amount of testing that they're doing and with what they've seen the last several weeks. So yeah, no Labor Day Spike. That's. A good three four weeks later now and. Didn't happen and no spike in Hamilton where everybody gathered to watch fireworks and it didn't happen. Yeah. You'll the Kentucky speedway hype be hitting you. GUYS UP FOR EVERY YEAR Oh. No. Yeah, we're GONNA have to do something out there for them. The help that place out you know with the you saying that Hamilton County everybody's excited you know we. Had A good having a good run they're just like our sports here once you go. Look pretty good thing circle the drain. So now we're GONNA get. Carsick Spike. Might be correct. Are those who predict is the weather gets colder and people get back inside that will be the case. Know the bars are facing tough time already. Closing, at ten o'clock, and if they lose their outdoor areas is the weather turns colder they're wondering if they can survive the winter. So we'll be watching today. The governor of Ohio has given some indications that he may be ready to relax that alcohol curfew a little bit. You know he may say that Kobe doesn't hit until after eleven o'clock. Hitting at ten o'clock when he's been ordering alcohol. Stopping Surf. That is. We're going to look back at this when it's finally over and there's only three slept on the planet. We're going to be like, what? What? What was with the bars? What are we doing? Yeah you gotTa pick a time I. Guess you know whoever came up with two thirty is the hour the bars had to close and usually somebody had the decided time and you just have to pick it and stick with it. So, school buses out that the smash into and kill children at two thirty. It's safe to grow the drive home from the bar wondered how they came. and. The Governor Briefs Today at two o'clock. So maybe that changes Indiana has gone back to full capacity and their bars and restaurants. Yeah. You have to wear a mask if you go in but they are allowed to handle bigger crowds now they've relaxed their standards Kentucky went to a little bit later alcohol curfew. So there's some pressure on Ohio because of the surrounding states and the disadvantage of puts the Ohio bars and restaurants add if if they don't change our Kentucky full capacity yet or no, they are not okay and they are not but they can serve a little bit later and You know as long as you got an outdoor area, you can you. Can. GET AROUND THAT START? No hieaux. To, Seventy Five at Kentucky and Indiana by the. Just, follow the plan you. To seventy four. Well. Thank you Brian Combs here. Well, he's from seven hundred WWL WS newsroom here. Yeah I honestly I. Now he turn on the news and like a channel nine. Now, they actually put a segment on the news a make you feel good segment and even the graphic changes to like a blue I don't when it goes back to corona. Endanger again, people are catching on. We're only here to scare people. It's Crowbar in a few good segment and have a blue graphic. Ooh, every likes blue. All right back to crowd of rag. You'RE GONNA die your kids go to school and they're gonNa die come home zombies and kill you. Everything. It's over your dead. Who Do you do it for the holidays well, coming up next, we're going to tell you a story about how you can shop safely. You know get the best wrapping paper. It's so funny watching it go back and forth with the everything's fine. Don't know you're going to die and then when there's any hope at all like, Hey, we're looking good with a vaccine on its way coming up next a reason why the vaccine is really good light you on fire take. Oh Great Thinking about how I going to explain to the audience who the Guy Phone is. And I don't know if we if there's anything that we play currently that has him on it from the history with the show but I can tell you there was one time he did a bit where you wanted to break his girlfriend on the radio. Talking as the Macho Man. The greatest ever it was pretty funny. Yeah. It was very awkward and then the L. That each other and then his mom called in and yelled at the Girlfr- remember that there was a family affair. Mom. Did. He Yell at her as the Macho, man? Yes, he broke. Out Yet. Do you remember break up with your girlfriend on our show in the macho man's voice yeah. I do remember he played a cherry. My Mom. That's right. That's right. And your mom. I believe when you're fighting with your girlfriend on the air, your mom called in and yelled enter as well. Right? It's a real healthy relationship. Could for your mom having your back. Yeah. So, spasms a Dick. Hewitt. Now spans used to be an intern of ours back in the day wanted to get in the radio and I appreciate when We always take turns the head like a hunger to be on the radio stuff like well, why why have anybody here if they didn't want to be a good one because he was always available for stuff? Yeah he was always ideas very. So at one point, he wanted to work out a show in Cleveland and he went for the job and they said Yeah we're GONNA WE'RE GONNA go look at other things and I was like I. Don't think that's right. So I dropped an email. And made it happen. Correct. Yes. Yeah and he was there for a long time and did get fired from that job. He left that job to up his career. He wanted to go work on the show in Florida one show in Florida in be an executive producer. And I said I think I could reach out and get a good name for. Yeah. So I did that Bert Kreischer health that to. To to yeah and then he got Something happened there I I hear two different stories so that's what I was like Oh here we go fired I. Know but but you you got a fight over doing stand up comedy or something, and then you pulled some crowd I dunno. To just. Certainly me out of stuff. And then Opportunity to go to the. In Florida and he called me about it. And I said, we'll just take the job. But don't go across to do show and start trashing the old show. Just don't do. You don't read the line just come on just go there get a job. He did that and everybody was happy with that I spoke to a gentleman. He's work here Bubba the love sponge. Okay. He liked he likes Baz to John was great. Then spasm off to do his own show which just a perfect ladder, right? Yeah. That's where you exactly you hope to go. You went to do nights at a at another station. In Florida, I don't know where it was. You know trailer park who knows anyhow he was working there and he got cove. Which? They fired him because of the the covert cuts which I understand and that kind of socks puts them in a tough spot. When he call me and be like a you show me semi like phone bits where he just like cursing out a caller and hey, is it okay if I just put this on the air Man. That's Just Yelling F. I know because I've done all that yeah, and I can tell you I've I've sacrifice on the cross it lost jobs and thought back now I'm not going to do that again. So they asked me I'll tell them hey, don't do that I did that and it didn't work out well. Point I asked you. If I could do something you said if you think it's funny I, don't do it. It's true. If you think it's Hilarious, it's probably not gonna it's GonNa get you in trouble. It's a truth. So. I. Also like nowadays you live by the philosophy used to be where it's like, why want to do this bit on the air and then you go to prepare for it and it gets shot and you get pissed off at start screaming stuff he honest is gone. What was he yelling about? What they were going to do so they realize yeah, it's true. Nobody knew what we had planned. So we shoot it who cares. Laugh so So he got cove and cut, and that's fine whatever. and now he has an opportunity for a job in. Somewhere in a trailer park in in. Pennsylvania somehow okay. So. He hit me up and he goes, Hey, look a Go in for this job. I taught to the program director. Asked me WHO's a bigger. Dick Bubba or kid Chris and he said, Oh kid crisis we yeah when I said yes, you did. Our that's what you texted me. Well. My to say about you know what? Take it like you and then then you to ask the bigger. Chris or Bubba the love sponge and I said, well, you, they're both guys who are their hard work for their work with. Out For you what did I do to the made it hard to work for? Nothing you're early out normal. Normal. Yeah. But I did it for those guys. It was I mean you when he has worked for us we say do something stupid. I was. Saying, get well, then that's on him right? I never force anybody to do anything or. anybody I mean it was always your family. It would call an insult themselves screaming at each other and all that stuff. I like video. HOMOEROTIC stocks for us to do Weird Addison change. Anything to be. Doing so well if you're so. You just have to be able to take a beating. It's all. Right, but we never forcing anybody to do something that. None, of US would do. Teasing the whole. And in the end when you leave, if you have an opportunity I am they're the help. Right and you have. Had you got me exactly as Eddie the jobs that I got you. After you left did any of those other hosts help you along? No father told me a little bit. Okay. Everybody that I have worked with you have by far the best relationship to have. Exactly. So he goes marching this new show to stay she goes. Yeah. Yeah he I'm here but kick Chris Dick. You can say seven Nice. Got Good hair you gotta go with that with that coach pc answer. What you just like you know what? All. The best. Wish him all the best. You know he's a great guy. Hard workers passionate. Yeah. Very passionate way your statement should should be kid Chris is a a a a family man always has been before even had his own family. This show is a family. Okay. Everybody that has moved on from that show has flourished in. I looked forward to doing that here in Harrisburg Reverend Hell, trailer? Park, he's going to. FM Station. That's what you should've said. Okay next I'm going to get fired from this job eventually. So the next time they asked those sites don't you'd ever been fired for anything other than you. You know with whoever on that other show You've had a pretty good run because you've moved up without. Doing something stupid on the air. Yeah more lateral moves. Yeah. It's not moving up in a company just from different companies, different position, but moving up in your career, it's what you got. Now, why am I even helping them out with this? I'm a Dick Remember. Why did they don't know why that other station didn't like him No I asked. Chris I. said he would do you guys do to the people in Harrisburg? Anyway I've never even heard of this show. I don't even know Harrison. River near. Maybe. That's why they're mad. I didn't stop by. The fact that anybody's hiring right now. Amazed that is amazing. Gift that is. A gift use especially in a Mark I. You know what Harrisburg is as far as you know radio rancor whatever that they're already okay with that that don't even hiring dude that is awesome. Good for them too. Yeah now I've WHO's a long I have a lot of decisions we gotta make. A, move my family from Florida to Harrisburg. You'll be single. I. Don't want to be a Dick talk you out and it so. That's not my nature. All right well, good luck with that, and if any other ways of trashing, me could get you work to have that brother. Absolutely. I make sure to. Ever, higher. Later ass. Amy The former intern does go out and trash me to get work. Now she loves if she wants to trash call your, she'll call me yourself and leave a voicemail or something she's A. Potential. Employers or whatever who's this Douche disallow? Look I. don't even know who you are. Yeah you hit me up. He goes. What did you do them like where that is what is what is isn't that the capital Pennsylvania I don't know yet don't know don't care. And he's a Dick. Why? Who are you, dude? You have to know me if you know. Calming. Hang, up on, you improve you that I'M A. I don't know who that is don't hope he gets that Gig you know. But whatever at the tough move I know I know from Florida Plan the phone. Yeah. Oh. Yeah. He's got. A wife or whatever he's got going on he's got kids. He's gotTa move to Harrisburg. And telling your family. Go into Harrisburg. Warm weather to the beaches of Harris. Pennsylvania. What do you think? Takes good about Pennsylvania One corner of Pennsylvania. That's good. You want to go through some of the guys from last say here's. The they go down and the whittled through to pick the best jokes is the best of the night is okay. The best jokes from the night guys that make millions and millions of dollars. 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Well, they're Jimmy Kimmel's we're back and they're not even putting any of the Jimmy Kimmel jokes and it's probably Bts. On Yeah. He was crying all the way through I had to go back to work. By the way. Here's some new music. Are you ready? To get everybody excited. Lives. visit safe to say that bad wolves is like I like a wedding cover band. Beth wedding cover band. Just like I. Don't want ride anything new. Yeah. Right. But just make it's just take guns roses the catalogue is. So guns and roses we'll have to covers right now on the chart exactly restored als patients. which is good and then they're like. Ban He were getting paid right. All right. We'll go ahead. Got Our charts GONNA look exactly the same songs from twenty five years. De Dead Guy Doing. One right at a bad we wish was dead doing. Love the cartoons man. Some favorites I love watching Scooby Doo. I would watch scooby Doo just for the guest. Stars. Because they'd always have like somebody like Don, knotts or Jonathan winters or somebody on their. Culture like connor comedian coming on shaggy scooby come walk it in like school. Against the Harlem globetrotters. The guys, the fancy basketball tricks. I wish they'd update that and do new Scooby Doo movies. You tune in for the Chris Rock. Episode. I I would shaggy become walking in. School like it's Chris Rock. Put a black guy on scuba do not a bad globe drama. Forget about scooby stack that does Scuba crack? A stupid fool used to work across the hall I don't. Remember Him Kid Kid Chris. Chris show. Yeah Phone number is five what three, eight, one, three, seven, nine, seven, nine. I look at the clock and I see that it's time. Sports with. He is here segment is in the house. Sake still has his Jersey. Get off. Got Up I'll tell you. Something right now. I'm as mad as Trevor Bauer yesterday. I'm as mad as Trevor Bauer yesterday I'm only here because I won't get fined I I'm only here because I won't get fined burst in third one out. Yeah. Do you not but when it was clear that one run was GONNA win that game. Double steal in the seventh. Playing for for Frederick. Played for Frederick Funeral Home Way back when yeah yeah I WANNA. Opponent now we buried our opponents. We had sat jacket said that on the back. You're avoiding the question what why did they not bud? All they needed was a run. The pitchy was flawless. All they handled Trevor Bauer I mean he had the royal rump after the game. I mean, his third word was the F bomb I would have to. Look. At everybody else that law groom. But like what is your problem I? Bet you his hotel room was torn apart last night. ALPO. Zone. I bet you bet you even hijacked the bus on the way back to the hotel said boys were taking a ride around Atlanta for about twelve hours law now he's. Sitting. The pine watching the boys. Tonight that has that fever treating you. Feeling. Good. Winter go home today boys. That's it. And Ian Anderson. If he wasn't thinking about leaving, then he's thinking about leaving bell you know out they they read more scoring opportunities than I had to call Prom in nineteen, seventy six. Okay That's that's the actually had last night. They had the they had trouble they had they had possibly they couldn't cash in and the first sixth seventh eleventh, Twelfth and Thirteenth. Now if you do that, you don't deserve to win. You know. I mean with with that that I mean the first thing they had a couple of guys on all you do is get a base hit I mean just get a run on MACs freed and with Bauer steal it stands up after this with they blow it today does that coach fired because? He's not going anywhere. I know. Manager. Yes. No. No the Mandurah no David Bell's not going anywhere. I'll help him pack. Just going to sit there and wait for another row rock and roll action in Goodyear Arizona and hopefully twenty, twenty one it'll be a little bit better. How's it? How's that going to happen? When anybody? Who's The star is GonNa Bailing on his team? Well, we'll see what happens. The marlins upset the cubs when at San Diego the dodgers down the brewers American league the Yankees took four hours and fifty minutes God longest the longest nine inning game and big league history tend to nine, the Indians or out. So how are they feeling and Cleveland Right now? Not Good. The debate was a mess. The are out the browns are two. It was a Tobago Holy Cow to throw it in. What are you talking about aligning? I'm trying to give trying to let you listeners know that I'm I. I have a real well rounded like ability to watch everything on TV I watched the debate watch a little reality shows sports. I'm just not watching ESPN and sports all the time when they. Get a little culture every. So often it all these time watching love island I'm watching TV with all this stuff on TV dancing with the stars should mix it together. Next to be debate just have a bunch pitcher storm balls Adam. The raise dump Toronto. So the ray sweep they'll face the Yankees in the division series. Next weekend the astro swept the twins. That's Minnesota's eighteenth straight postseason loss get astros ooh cheaters win dusty Baker happy for him. bengals Jaguars Sunday at PBS six thousand fans in the stands the action right here on the home of the hits one to. Be An NBA finals. Do they win against. Yes you think. So yes, they're beating Jacksonville that guy with the Porno Mustache immense you. You'd say what you want men's shoe you want if they lose. That's it. That's it. That's it. Like what do you mean? That's it. That's it for the season. With three doesn't only they got Baltimore at a few in. Tennessee coming up. Maybe. Maybe Tennessee default will still be sick. Oh, three and one. That's maybe the rest of the legal say we're done given the win. What do you think you'll bozo of Bengals win Sunday. Here he said, no. Yes. You. Have, to listen to me I told you. All Day Long I don't have to your your. Sad. Salad. Happy. The reds are playing again now CB moral they're not playing more. I'm I'm calling in sick or is there going to be a big question mark in the seat? VERITY IS There already is yesterday NBA Finals Game One ad thirty four points at the Anthony Davis to you over there. Lebron James twenty-five Lakers beat the heat one, six, thousand, nine, hundred, eighty, game, two, tomorrow night. So after if the reds flush. Today, and then the bengals flush the Sunday what are we talking about during the segment from now on SEC Cooking. Food Network Guy Fieri. Ghazi ban. Chop. Shop I, like all those shows sock I can't make a grilled cheese sandwich, but I watch the food network good for you. Yeah. Yeah. You're. Right. She can't do it either. Kidding. Love, you honey. It's sports with. The segment right there. This all-sports memory every day at this time he comes in joy. Schools. Happy Lakes I'm happy on the outside devastated Indian side I got the fever. Think you're going to be hospitalized if the reds lose today. How I'm not coming in next week long game was that twelve twelve noon and the neuner by one o'clock. By one o'clock, you'll be done. Yeah. Think. So I the ones out of there say you put you put up a performance like that with your? Stud. What are you? What are you know? There's? GotTa come up big. Real big. On his head I appreciate it. Anytime having Thursday everybody. Cool out there. Today in school play. Cool. Dry Say who? To Survey Stope W. E. B. N. The other day we were talking about that that Guy Jason Alexander Thomas, got into an altercation with on attack. Now he's in the news, he was talking about when he was in that movie pretty woman. And he said for the longest time like women in in real life. Didn't like him because of that. Yeah. They would come up and like him and spit on them and stuff like. Forgetting the fact that it's a movie. That's that's the side. I think you did a good job. Exactly. Wrestling they say that's when you pull that kind of stuff. You know like Rowdy Roddy. Piper you sow stories about working in like A. Puerto Rico stuff and those people they would have have security to walk these guys to their hotels at all. It's because people tried to stab them. And Roddy Piper would run to the ring and slap fans in the face. That's a bad guy. That's how you sell the hell exactly greatest. He'll ever. The facchetti hit Jimmy superfly Snuka with coconut. That's right right there. You see a guy that does go last summer. That's a tough negotiator. Got Some. Got Some vote for the right hand to like. A, pineapple. In other words? LEGENDARY RACISM? Yes. Hundred percent remember he came out and block face yes. It gets bad news. Brown. Yes. He painted half his body black. It made no sense whatsoever, but he did it. It was just like you know what? This is pure racism. And we're GONNA do it. That's right. Rowdy Roddy Piper. Judah paid half your body blocked. Off. You're never gonNA have those days back you can't. Obviously. Go out there and tell them. Bad News Brown. was always the thing. If you go on Youtube you could type end there's a classic Promo from a guy by the name of Greg, the Hammer Valentine. Talking. About is a bad news for. Dog type that in. Oh I can't even say what he says this was natural television. You're like going back. Then you didn't it was on tape yeah. Well it also if you look further. Guy Says Greg the hammer is a bad guy in stuffy says is some a-hole stuff so I mean he's playing the role of a whole you know right but again, people get confused they go. Well, you're allowing it to happen that means you're in a no, it's a character he's playing the role of bad guy saying these horrible things about someone who is loved the Junkyard Dog. But instead people go I. Don't know I heard when I heard that it's bad and you're erasing shut off if you just typed in racism wrestling, you would probably see this promos from the seventies pop up you would be on youtube longer than yesterday's redskins. Time. We just sat here and listen to meet complain about his wife and his marriage go ahead me. Do you want to start off with how? You had some time off. Your feet wouldn't fit into week board and you yourself in front of all your wife's friends. Listen. Let's first of all. You can't talk about front of Thomas. He's Eddie. By yesterday it was one of those moments where. I always used to get made fun of my feet because they are just they're flat. They're wide size thirteen and they don't fit in a lot of things. So my brain, you know what? I could probably food in a normal week board with normal fee, but I didn't know what different size. Like sir, well, they do. But some of these, my feet are still wide. So I swear to God it was like the stepsister Cinderella trying to wedge their feet to that glass slipper. It was terrible. It was your wife yelling at you because. She was Lube up as far as drinking does she was good to get. Yes plus you. Five he ruins everything is big feet so The Guy, the guy that was helping me out God. Bless it was like. You guys. GonNa. Need on so. They reigned dawn soap on my feet to this lynn them in there, and then my toes wouldn't go through. So they're code under. This law this poor guy. This guy was like going with his face trying to pluck twenty. Two. A. Voting there. It was so bad. It was. So I was reading like we're doing. Fine it's fine. So then Guerrillas? Sorry. I'm in the water floating in a miserable at this point I? Don't even want to do this. My feet are turning purple because it's the findings are so titled. I get drug for about. Seven or eight times and I'm like. Get it. Think it's okay. So. Now why wait just use your big? Go Barefoot. So now the process is reversed, I, couldn't get them in I sure as hell can't get him back out. So. They're sitting there going. Meanwhile there's another guy waiting to go just like earn. The US the rest of the bottle of dogs to try pot my feet out. There's two guys on the back of the board up flow. He's got the suit. They, finally, get the wake. Like yeah. Okay. You go sit down over there now. Okay. He didn't know anybody there but it was his wife's frail. Yeah. The rest the rest of the trip of the boat ride I'm just writing and. Everybody has seventy great time. Cheered everybody else saw. At your feet. I swear to Christ. You anywhere have just been my mom used to call them. Flintstone. Feeding your mouth. Your parents hated no. There was no corrective surgery for feeding. Did you kick yourself into. Ask. Them? Back. To being in High School of course. Always when I this show is built on that. You always something happens in your life and you just go. Back, to high school feeling of tunnel when my dad would take shoe shopping and trying to get shoes on my feet because I just remember him going with Christ. Go You. And your feet would be like the crunched up their fight. I'll deal with all. So I'd get home with shoes that were two sizes too small. My mom would be like Robert. Even sitting on your feet. You. GotTa break them in Yeah. That was just one of those days I don't want to be here anymore. Dawn Oh. My God. It was like I was the fat guy getting pulled out of a house. Why did you take shots? That Jim Thing A. Time when I was on that dizzy. Cruise, we went around the the waterslide thing around the ship, and then when you land, there's somebody there to help you get out and stuff and I was like rocket back and forth. We are. We are all sorts lines to everybody. On this cruise cruises fat guy couldn't get out of the pool. Credible are turned. We're waiting. So I've tried to. A. Life everything everything in life. That's why I don't go anywhere because I high school was horrible. Do I WANNA get thrusted back that just by walking into? Do I walked in to get my flu shot yesterday at Walgreens and I haven't been anywhere in so long that I caught myself talking to myself out loud. We say she'd get that for the kids at home and I'm like hell my talking. Loud. I Be Out of the House. I'd be okay with that. The South Park Pandemic has last I. Didn't get a chance to see it because. all elite wrestling was on. So I didn't watch I fell asleep during that I've been I've been beat lately so I'm able to stay up nine o'clock hits. Shit Nightclub Chrissy. Stay. Awake we had. Over at eight o'clock. Okay. So I'll be okay with at eight o'clock I'll get done and then I'll watch another episode of twenty four with my wife and I go to bed. Season are you on with that five? There's four more after this so. We'll be good though we'll go to a night. I never saw that show and if you never have it holds up today still. have. Flip phones, which is weird that they moved into the season five trails now now I hope you loved your trade. Yeah. Yeah. So it's so that's the only part of this you watch it. This is a little dated, but I never saw that show when it was new and I'm glad because I couldn't after show ends I'm like I don't want to think about people had to wait a week for the new one. That when he bid, just go on, keep going. Tonight, also is. Jets broncos. On. The NFL Network of course celebrity family feud. Family feud tonight and Joe Mikhail's on their Joel. McHale was a friend of the show for a while and then what happened I don't know. The only thing that he was on our show all the time when we were afternoons at Philadelphia, he would call in from the west coast all the time. And then when we moved the mornings, he would get up early to call in because he just started getting into comedy stand up, stand up comedy and he was doing one of his first shows at Philadelphia. So he would call a couple times a week leading up to it. And the last time I spoke to him was right before the big show that morning and he wanted me to come out. And at the last minute my wife and I decided just to stay home and he never talked to me again after that. But why would he care? We did all the work leading up to it right. I don't know maybe he's the guy that just gets all butthurt about I. Don't I don't get it. I've never I love Joe Mikhail still do but I get bummed out one I see him I go man we were there. We comment his desk at the soup. And Talk to him. Now, he's a big slab obviously, and maybe that's what it is. Maybe he's like I don't need to talk to those people I. Don't think he's like that I hope he's not like I don't know I don't I don't know what's going on when's the last time you talked to him? It's been over ten years. So it was that talk it was because. It was going into Philly I would say within that time, he could probably have evolved to that or there might be people around him saying like you don't need to do more radio anymore come on I. Don't know how Comedians are a lot of them. Don't think they need to do I know yeah. We deal with guys that come in Like D. L. Yooglie for instance, was coming here to Cincinnati to do a show recently. And there were like, Hey, we want to have them come on and promote the show. I'm like fine I would love to have you know call him because you know he may be nervous about coming into the studio. Cronin right. He didn't even want to call. And then like what can we tape it at four in the afternoon? No. Do a morning show he could roll over in call. I that's what I'm saying like guys like Bert Kreischer doing very well for himself. Well show up whenever come into the studio all the time he'll stay if he's here the whole week, he'll come in every day if we want him to. And that guy gets it but some people just don't I don't know. I whatever. But. I don't know what's Oba. Joel I Miss Joel I would love to have him on the show again. Him Don't worry about him. He's done. I'm GonNa, cut him corona aside Joel you go blake from sales formerly of sales, but he stopped selling for a radio show because he went to jail due to a drug abuse rob the bank and jumped in a cab stop selling radio start buying drugs. I. Blake. Forty eight degrees. Let me see we got twenty, six, thirty, our time and temperature brought to you by my boy diamond Dave Genesis diamonds. You Call David Cooper diamond, Dave like. That's an inside joke we got. All right. So Blake likes to come on and talk about your noticed. He was like I'm going to come on the show. We can talk about these chapters book about you. Okay. That'd be kind of fun to reminisce horrible things in my life. Have you noticed? He is taking a segment that he came up with and now has turned to where it's about him. Right? It's trying to wedge himself. He tried to. This'll be good to have you talk about. Your shows your stuff to your show to pass a horrible life at high school and so it will explain to people why you are the way you are now just go. Okay that's ended east turn it into all about him. It's not about shut up. Shut your mouth hey? Chris fired you both, both of your fans will be disappointed. Anyway. Onto, what we were talking about. Like. Let's go through. Let's listen to the voice mail. I forget the play, the voice mail you left Thomas Right. This is a private voicemail him Peronist call? ME. Becky. Tucker, mother. You're an unbelievable. You really are. This is after Blake Last year he hurt he must have hurt you talking trash of him on the podcast how dare you criticize me I was you just can't this person to talk ME, as a person but you WANNA. Talk about my performance as a radio personality meanwhile, you or a bad swamp I robbed a bank before my life right I did something. The only thing you did was right token. Your winter thing on the back of Kid Chris don't. Go me back. I like you just dilated guy call me back. I didn't married with people don't answer when I call you you answer. And checklist of things. Eve accomplishes Librado your bag. Well you really half ass that one. He did Robbie. Yeah I caught a bank so actually. Thanked me so. Call. Now, you got me all flustered any meat what have you done? He gets back to record. Listening. Yourself a radio personality. You never you never shown up yet. Personnel are usually in-studio. Concern. Is Glorified caller that has some bit about Chris together talking about writing on coat. About even on the coat-tails with me. You're waiting you're on hold you're ping you. You're a listener that happens to know my email. Congratulations. You know the number to the radio. Like five or six other people who listen to the show. Now you have my permission to talk. You know what? That's enough. L., to here his bit about Chris we we're on the clock here. Let's go. meet. Listening, running out of time. A RADIO PERSONALITY The debate I was told a chance to. Meet shut up. Man. Back to the debate, passionate certainly. Go ahead with. Me First of all the laws of the Challenger space shuttle was more success than you are. Nothing. Funny Joke. Where I wanNA talk about asking you to. Quit I WANNA talk. To you and in the book having to do with your social anxiety. Okay. Now you've I'm sure told all your wizards and sweaty arms about how you don't appreciate your picture being taken with things. Does it I WanNa talk about back in the day. When you used to drink you, you didn't have as much of a problem taking pictures with people used to do what's called going falls that. Hanging brain and That was a long time ago. You take a picture with people. It'd be like everybody put your hands up. Heads up. And, meanwhile, you're apple bag was hanging out. That's right. Someone will come up at a bar. Go ahead. Can I get a picture Makara? And I I would have like shirt lingerie. Yeah. I would pull as walking over to get a picture I, pull my stuff out and then right everybody put your hands up. Yeah. And in the picture be with my balls out, it'd be. Somebody would just go. All right. Thanks look at the phone afterwards ago. He's got. Gum. That was my base. And you would say, put your hands up they did that the thing that people do. With arbs. Theories of San Antonio and I don't know what happened to the pitcher yeah. I remember when you yes. Girls School teacher and she said I delete I'm a schoolteacher. Good when you would do that, would you flip your your your your gear upside down? No. It was just the just the apple bag. It wasn't the helmet or anything. Thanks. Independent. Bag above the the unit. That was a case. Hang out of the you wouldn't hang it out of the elastic. No, no Zipper Zippered I. No, it was zipper. Wearing jeans or something yes or shorts at the time George probably would just pull out the apple bag and yeah, you could see it perfectly. But they've never take a second to like a line that whole thing now. Because on so I would just be walking over. A longer shirt on wherever I would just pull out all of it and then Tuck in the helmet and then got get a picture and nobody knew it was aired. So it's time to put an arms up and take the picture, and then I just put stuff at back in and go back to the bar. Great Bit Louder. Bit Era Apple Bag. Thinking that goes into that. Well listen. I. WanNa. Have Fun too. I get it man. So. Going balls out. I mean I haven't been anywhere to get a picture. Yeah. Yeah. We need to bring those days back I. Don't know it's just hard now because there's a there's a lot of awning that is hanging over the. Talks. To. Rain. Annual can we do it in your your Christmas card you're going to put. Out The. Dude. Real. Subtle new while you're wearing a sweater with a turtleneck. Sweater with a deer on it and I'm sitting in the park with my kids. Over the park bench. Kicking it. Stop over the line. Honey. Not. Here What what's On the phone actually Blake Blake if you think about it quits now, what's funny about that Blake is he's interrupting a flow that's going on unlike some other people that do that. Yeah Thomas Yards. Nothing. It was funny. Yeah. So. Would get drunk Chris and you would pull your bag out your brain. Like what level of drunk were you were you Chrissy Adrian Sober Yeah I've done it. That's. When we we used to do it, we will be handled. A lot of. Comets. Played. Anyway. Chris. What we were saying about the. Thomas. Out. Of always worked but now factor back then there wasn't. Regular like just going out and having a few it was just. Excited to have a family or anything I barely drink. Now I haven't drank. It's been over a week. No I you know I mean like just having a drink at home. Close but be drunk man I can't even tell you up scared to get drunk now I don't know why. The. Last Time I. saw him drug as what he threw up in a lawn chair, the old boss probably the last time. He David Get up and move. Ahead and throw up and finish my conversation pitchers are the best. Play even if I happened to Blake. Pro Old program director had a big party at his house right and it got so bad to the point where they just gave me a bottle of grey goose and I sat in a lawn chair in the middle of the lawn by myself. There's just me sitting there alone with a bottle of vodka. So good. Yup. Through Bolivar. Revolver. This I. Wish. That TACO food truck. Already it was a big party and at that party. His wife and hip Dave just kept asking me to show my balls everybody. That's right. Yeah. More. So the wife. Of that either the neighbor. Everybody would just run over I'm sitting in my chair joining my vodka. Hey, we want to see your ball his let me drink man. That's like that's like his control with dummy. Out. I remember the time you put it in a fry basket. Betty couldn't do it Wipe Egg Dimond Baskets own. We at this place we can't say where it looked like the Plato Fun. Fact. Shooting. It was a big basket that they brought the food, the fries out in and I don't know what happened was could your balls fill that thing and I was like oh? Yeah. Yeah became a discussion and then my wife helped me stuff them in. A strong Mary absolutely. We're not talking old school. This is fairly recent. Last cut three years. Places since closed is it? Remember. It's closed. Now we can't WANNA McKay Yup. You're eric and finding food. The MOST SALTY SNACK AFTER These fries are delicious. Your sack is an instant famous by now I have no idea. It's. Everywhere you think I should have. Twitter page. Yeah Well. INSTAGRAM is about picture. So maybe I don't know there's there's already a bit where people go around to like A. Nation's Capitol's very famous places in a hangar ball sack out. That's Make it a Pumpkin this. Holiday balls. Blake. Can I go now man or? Are you going to call me later. What do you want me to call you? Failure to call me whenever are doing club Kristen, right? Yes. Don't call please Albakov. No people get upset and just watch the numbers plummet when you call in. Now, that's not true that true. Yes. You Suck. Okay. By black I love you guys. Show Pillow. Chris. What's it like to drive the Volvo xc ninety plug in hybrid? The thrill of a four hundred horsepower t eight twin engine. The joy of impromptu road tramps. And Serenity. Of. Electric Power Pure Eco. Mode. 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Just a Horse Girl and an Alien Conspiracy Theorist

Wells Adams and Brandi Cyrus's show

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Just a Horse Girl and an Alien Conspiracy Theorist

"Just come back from a run and a kill a kill to fly with my eyeball so live at that now with my eyeball death by what a bitch way to go out for a fly. Well killed you lashes bing. Bang boom what. You're gonna do hello that we needed to do a podcast with my friend brand away really only you are. that's cool. I just got back from iran. You are outdoors a lot and in nature and stuff has this. Perhaps you where a fly has flown into your eyeball and then you're you kill it with your eyeball And then you have to go fishing for a for the corpse of a dead fly on your cornea. I have context to my context. It's catch it which is pretty nice because the contact only goes over like the colored par and a lot of times. It's like deep in the recesses of the you know. Yeah it's really not the best. What's worse though catching it with your eyeball or swallowing it. Catching with your eyeball. I think because disgusted ingested a fly. What happens to everyone when they die. They void their bowels. It's a fact. look it up. So what's happening here is and i assume it happens to all animals even insects so the fly does flies into your i. It starts to suffocating. Do the mucus the tears in your eye and the you know the eyelid going up and down trying to figure out what's going on so then it shits itself in your eyeballs. You got flash it in your i. It's the worst. I was on a run. If someone was watching me. They would have thought that. I got shot by a sniper in the bushes. I went down like a sack of potatoes. And i didn't know what to do and i was just like. Oh so then. I have my phone with me so i'm using my phone looks away. That looked like i was trying to take some like the weirdest thing ever. I had this thing straight up to my fuck. And i and i can see this dead fly in there and then how do i get out now. Use my dirty ass fingers. Do i get a stick. That's probably dirty to john q. Ships with me. So what did you do. I ended up using my fucking nail. And i went in there and i fished her out and by doing that. I think scratch. Something's now my. I just hurts or my eyeballs allergic to fly shit which is definitely still in there. Yeah it's fly shit in your mouth really that much better. I don't know. I guess like the question is would you rather have human shit in your mouth or in your eye from a tough one hard hitting questions. Here online handier. Hey why can't answer. Would you rather have human shit in your eyeball or in your mouth. Answer the poll on the instagram. God and so bad. Here's the thing you get human. The fact that i'm breaking this down is fucked up but whatever because if you get human shit in your mouth that's gross. Nothing probably will happen to you. So gut's won't get shit. You won't get sick. You know what you will get what. That's how you get pink guy. That's what i'm saying. I'm saying like i know you're going to get pink eye and to be honest with you i would rather i would even if i were to get sick from my mouth. That's like what a day's worth of throwing up but pink guy is like three days. No one wants to get close. Because you've become so fucking contagious. Your toxic monster. Everyone everyone knows. You have shitting your. Yeah exactly so. I'm going with shit my mouth. Oh how are we this. Desperate khandan is this is as good as the show is gonna get and it's probably true how it all downhill from here. By the way. I was asking that on my instagram. And the whole like it's all downhill from here. Thing is always confused. Me and i did a poll. We talk about this. But i saw it on your instagram. What do you think when someone says it's all downhill from here. What does that mean to you. When i hear that i feel like it means it can get. Everything's going to get easier. Downhill is so much easier. That's what i said on instagram. But the thing is it's all downhill from here. Means it's gonna get worse. Yeah but people don't people don't say it's all uphill from here now the dow they say it's all downhill from here so anyways second pull for the why of tears out there. It's all downhill from here. Is that mean. I got human shit my eyeball or it's all downhill from here. Is that human ship my mouth. What does it mean. There's a song called that when like email rock was in pete wentz is banned new glory glory and friends with guitar player in this band aid. Drop he. should i call well. I was gonna say shy. Call them and ask them what the song means. Yeah causes our all those the exact same. Yeah they do. I couldn't even really hear any of those lyrics could you s. right. I mean no offense your friend but like new found glory in lincoln aid to all those bands sound the same. Listen to me. yeah well. He's not the singer so i don't think he would be that offended. Yeah and also a bunch of money so whatever whatever so good anyways back home now. Can you tell us anything from your travels. I don't think so. i think. I don't think i was just hanging out albuquerque Just hanging out hanging out in the kirk as they call it down there. The gulf of kirk do they know. I don't know maybe they do. They should if they don't they should. The real question is were you part of the whole kaitlyn. Bristowe april fools prank. There were so many people on the group text. I couldn't i didn't really go through to see who is on it on their little offended. Actually because i talked to her about it. And i should have been like you know what fuck you man. Because i'm friends with jason. What guests not honestly. I hate april fools but it felt really good to be part of that prank because it was pretty epic so everyone has an out. There doesn't know we're talking about caitlin april fooled. Jason bhai. this was such a long con- dude. Like kinda twisted. She sent him a new the night before. Okay and then the next day on april fools. She had like thirty of his friends. Text him at the same time being like. Did you mean to post that. Which made him think that he accidentally posted the nude of caitlin which is a great prank by the way fun. Really good dude. Everyone in the kirk. I'm sure was freaking out about it. Everybody really liked got creative with their texts. Yeah i know he posted a button to them. And i was not very creative at all because i was riding my horse i don alarm set to remind me and i was like literally cantering around in my arm up. And i'm like shit alec pull up and like one-handed. I send the a real quick like your instagram story. I know and then and then she filmed the entire thing and he was angry rightfully so yeah freaking out but also i mean he just post the picture now like vikes next year on april fools to be like april fools. Here's the picture all right now. It'll be so bad anyways. I was telling her about the april fools prank. That was played on me. And if i told you that story. I don't know i think i have but i'll tell it again because it is a pretty good one okay so this was back in college. I was like casually dating this girl. We weren't like boyfriend girlfriend. Is college a call ship. Get in this is when i was playing rugby and this is so far back. I mean cell. Phone service is spotty now but like go back to two thousand and five okay and just tried to remember those days so i was traveling for a rugby game and we are like driving back from like georgia or alabama. I can't remember who we were playing. We had a huge van for the team. And so i'm driving with twenty guys in a van. And i got a text message from the girl at the time that i was dating and she wrote. Hey listen when you get back. We really need to talk about something. And so i'm thinking that. Hey you know. I don't want to date you anymore or you know or like this or whatever. I'm just like okay. Well can you give me like a vibe as to like we talk about and she goes. I wanted to do this in person. But you know. I'm late. And i went and took a pregnancy test my heart sinks holy shit and of course i'm like my life is her my college career is over no way and so of course. I'm telling i'm showing the phone to like my close friends the team and they're everyone just like holy shit dude. Your life is over no offence to anyone who's ever gotten pregnant and wanted pregnancy to be fair. I was actually mistake true story. No great great like we're the joy of our parents lies so i text her back and i'm like okay. We really need to talk. And so we pulled over at a Like a gas station. Or whatever. And i call her and i have no service. Nothing right. No service time. Who needed talk when you talk right now. We go through like forty five minutes stretch of like no service right and i'm losing my mind. Forty-five minutes of pure hell like. I've seen my life and before my eyes and can't believe it all my teammates carswell couldn't wear them them and finally we get back like in the city. Limits and cell phone reception comes back on and she of course had like right after i was like will hold on to talk. Had been like april and that was the last time i ever spoke to that woman. Honestly that's warranted likes. That's pretty bad. That's a horrible joke to play horrible tuition shell or yeah. We got a mere. You think it might be me. Go for it pros and hose. You're listening to your favorite thing. Podcast with brand aid. Don't forget come area sleekly. aren't you guys. You've heard me talk about neutral vitamins. A lot. I was just reminiscing today. Actually i vividly remember about halfway through quarantine. I chopped my hair off last year. I've been taking my neutral vitamins. 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I mean it's been a long time. Everyone wearing masks. You have to wear a mask to get in the door but then once you get in there definitely not everyone's wearing them people are quote unquote drinking. So yeah. what's it like. It was something. I was limited capacity. So it wasn't like you know like body to body like fully packed or anything so it was definitely a different club vibe but i went out to support our boy who was. Dj -ing oh my precious. Little little baloch hours transitions good transition. Badr editions i think he went to dj school. And i tell yeah. He acts like i was impressed. I'll he started out really strong. Did a couple transitions. Whereas about and i was like look at lake like we are going from like hitting space bar on the kaitlyn bristowe tour to make transitions using tractor and jiang like he was getting it Lakes music choices are very different than mine. So you know blake blake likes. Blake likes But the girls were loving it. They were loving it. Lotta bachelor people were there. I don't know how that works. They seemed all travel in a group. Have you noticed this deadheads here. It heads jimmy buffett's version of it which we call bachelorette bachelor fans that travel. No i mean actual contestants. Oh i thought it was a dylan. Who had tweeted like bachelor. Producers must be loving the fact everyone's hanging out or something like that and i didn't really know what that sure. They're all friends. But i really feel like they like they really. Pr these opportunities of like. Let's all go to nashville and be seen and get our instagram engagement popping for sure for sure but everybody was super nice couple of them. I've met before klay was there. I've seen klay bunch chris. Bukowski always a nice guy and then a bunch of newbies spencer and who was the other new. Oh jason jason was there and symbolic ways. The most bro name of any bachelor guy. Ever bro s gap And also chris That was used to be the crystal. Was there the goose that one. Yes the goose was loose on the town and so it was quite it was quite the crew kelsey. We're was there. I think she just moved to nashville. She's also super sweet. Does the second time i've met hers. Well she's really nice so everyone had a great time blake integrate show and it felt good him saying that if felt good to be back in a club or did can i ask you this. Do you have any t for us. Was anyone fucking hugging. Chat was at stagecoach. Two thousand nineteen over. No i only one can only hope it was very tame. Actually everybody was drinking but like they were playing limbo. Which i don't really get that. Do you know that's the thing people do this often. Were they get drunk in there to party and club and all of a sudden circling limbo. Have you noticed this liquid. They tried to go underneath the bar. Limbo under is they're talking about. Yeah yeah and in. This instance like somebody had like a really long scarf that they were like holding people were holding. It definitely wasn't kelsey. I don't think it was bachelor. Girls i think it was fans that were doing it with the guys and literally every single one eight one three. They're like one girl was like had like two drinks one in each hand and she was like trying to like you know be impressive. Whatever and she literally fell legs spread wide open. Both drinks going everywhere to laugh. But you have okay so then for k. I've a lot of questions about this. And i love the fact that you've got the inside info at i don't one. What club was this like. What was it kid rock. Please tell me it was oh now it was. You know the dream hotel. They have a club in the basement. Like underneath of it called dirty little secret. And that's what we were. God it okay speaking. Ill speaking of secrets. What did you find out. I know someone who is violent with kelsey kelsey. Kelsey kelsey kelsey josh. I i really kelsey was just doing her own thing. She had a very cool headed together. It was her birthday and her sister. She's a twin sister. Her sister was there to maybe she was like the mpg because her sister was there. I don't know but she wasn't flirt with anybody. She was there to hang. Because you know this is going to be important information for me to have paired us. Uh-huh yeah because i mean i could definitely see kelsey going. She wasn't flirting with anybody there. So maybe she's been talking to somebody else on instagram. Not that wasn't there. I'm telling you know were no. There was no energy there with her. And anybody else. Don't believe it. You know who. I do things going to paradise for sure. I mean i don't i don't know this for sure. I'm just speculating kelly. She's paradise ready. She is paradise ready which was like posting on her story about like. I didn't really notice that. She lost a bunch of way. Because i thought she looked great on her on the season she was on. But i guess everyone's saying she's gotten really skinny and she looks great. And i'm like you're going to paradise aren't you. All signs. point to paradise is happening this year. Nelia and i think this is going to be one of the best seasons ever because they're so much talent to choose from And by talent. I mean people with no talent other than they look amazing on television. Oh yeah it's going to be good. I mean i don't know why they wouldn't have it if they can have the bachelor and the bachelorette and they do paradise the same way where they quarantine everybody before and test everybody and then you know. Npr paradise they really. They always just stay in one location. So i i would think of all of the shows that would be the easiest one to pull off. Yeah anyway. that's where. I've been good for you kid. I'm jealousy you. We should do some favorite things bro. Okay bra you got. Some things are now. Okay give me some. I don't know if the plural. I haven't thought that far but i do have one thing. What are you got this new. Hbo max series called made for love. Have you seen it. No tell me all about it though. I was hoping you'd cenex. I'm very curious to hear your take. So you have to go watch made for love. Comedy drama sci-fi what what will what. Okay yes. i know. it's not reality show. Oh i thought it was like a dating reality. Got it okay. A young woman on the run of ten years in a suffocating marriage to a tech billionaire suddenly realizes that her husband has implanted a revolution a revolutionary monitoring device in her brain that allows him to track remove made for love. Whoa dude so allama pretty good. It's pretty good okay. I don't know what the theme is these days with love and technology. It's like you know we just watched the one which i loved. It was also kind of like that situation. But this is like taking a whole 'nother level okay. And so here's what's interesting about. The show is it is like very much trying to be a comedy but it's very dark. She's like killing people and then they're laughing about it and it's like the the comedic. Timing of everything is very interesting. that's why i'm curious to watch it. It's chris melodic. She was in palm springs which we talked about. I was okay. Yes i couldn't remember. I was like i feel like i've seen her before but she but i didn't know where and i i don't know i don't know i shouldn't say not to me that much but she's really really good at episode of black mirror in modern love. She's a little bit of like the new. It girl i feel like oh i going to see that. It is a little black mirisch. The way it's set in the future. And billy magnusson the guy the lead guy wherever he plays this like tech billionaire. They live in like this compound that apparently they haven't left the compound for ten years and they have like a dolphin swimming in their pool and the where the sci-fi stuff comes in is like it anywhere in the world that they wanna like transport to they can like snap their fingers in all of a sudden. They're they're even though they don't leave the compound that crazy stuff like that. Look right off the bat. The first episode opens with her escaping the compound issues like soaking wet and in this like a fancy dress escaping. And you're like what. And then they then they go back and forth between showing you like the escape now and like and like what her life was prior in the compound right so it's like constant back and forth and basically like they've been married for ten years but what this guy's working on is this microchip that you put in like couples put in their brains like both of them do and it's basically like you can read at each like entire every thought the way he spends. It is like to souls but one mind kind of thing like you and you're gonna like solve love because so you and your partner will be unlike one wavelength yet psycho just thinking about when you have sex with somebody because sometimes you having sex somebody. He started thinking of like other shit. You know or like an if they knew the things that you thinking about murders. This is an endless endless reasons why this is not a good idea. And so he's talking about this and and she has she's like having an oh shit moment where like. she thinks. she's like already miserable and wants to leave and then they announced it like this is happening very soon and shit she escapes and then like in the first episode. You you find out that he's already put the fucking chip in her brain so when she escapes he knows exactly where she isn't exactly what she's doing and thinking and blah blah blah and so that talent it starts. I really like it a lot. There's only i. It must be coming out weekly because there's only three episodes out. So that's gonna bummer. But it's a really good very cool. I'm into that. I'm gonna watch the app. We're like super late on this. And i feel bad i really like it. It's a show called for all mankind. Have you heard that one. Yes it on apple. Yes came out in two thousand nineteen some of the late on it but Whatever here's the the tag in an alternate version of nineteen sixty nine. The soviet union bates the united states to the moon and the space race continues on for decades with still grander challenges and goals for all mankind. So you know who's in joachim in the first season of altered carbon. Did you watch that show now. I didn't oh good. I love the first season of alter car. And i absolutely loved. I thought it was amazing. Anyways that's where i first met him but he was also in the killing. That one we talked about this on net flicks. he was robocop and a new one. He's in new suicides. What like he's like everywhere and he's the lead in the show but there's a lot of other big names anyways it's really cool because how crazy and how different our world would have been if we didn't win the space race of the moon. Yeah for all mankind. I really really like it. Okay thing on the apple plus train. Have you seen cherry. No but i've been seeing how it's a popular one. I have not watched it yet. But it's i was watching previous last night and that one came up and it definitely seems. Seems like something you would love. I think we need to watch that. This guy no. It just seems really heavy. I know does sound really good war vet has. Ptsd is what the kind of vibe is. Here's the tag cherry driss from college dropout to army medic in iraq anchored only by his true love. Emily but after returning from the war with ptsd his life spirals into drugs and crime as he struggles to find his place in the world. It's tom holland. This is such a good thing for him to do because he's just like the funny spider man guy and right pivoting over like this like very serious role is. We're probably going to see that. He's like a really good actor and not just like a silly five six. You know just like quick update on the challenge subway. It'll us the he's gonna make it to the final guys and i'm just the biggest. Cd families. and. I know a lot of people out there. Think that cds asshole and he's a burn bridges left and right and you know what you may be right but see t. Is phenomenal television. Every interview he does. I'm like fuck you so good at this. I need to be more like c. T. in the interview booth and he's just good and you know what he's played his way. He's an old fucking dog. That's learn some new tricks. And he's played is way it looks like he's playing it into the final because he's a man without a partner right now and it looks like there's probably only gonna be one playoff left to go and he can't get in it because he got no partner. Sad that big tease gone. She was amazing. T here's what you gotta do girl because your social game is so amazing. Everyone loves you. But here's the thing your not in good enough shape and that's no shake against you because you're a tiny little thing you just do a little bit of cardio a little bit of weightlifting and who whom i talk. But i'm just saying like a little bit of that before the next one. Sky's the limit for you big tease. All i'm saying sky is the limit. Loved you an amazing character on reality. Tv challenge some good. I do think the why of tears also loved the challenge. Yes they do. I get a lot of people riding a message sent messages saying hey quit hating on wells when he does the challenge recaps because we love it. No i know. I don't know if you're watching hell's kitchen but now it's phenomenal. I saw some wire tier being like you still think declins gonna make to the end. Yeah i do think that goes to the end all right he. Of course he declan is going to win this thing. No ifs ands or buts and you know what. It doesn't even matter if he wins it because he's going to win the show because guess what declan to get. He's going to get some food network show about his ass traveling around ireland or scotland or the funky is trying out or something. He's like the anti board dana scotland. 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I guess the best part of this company for me is that i don't have to go anywhere to buy condoms because even though i'm thirty three i just get embarrassed. Like who wants to stand in the condom. I'll you know what i'm saying. So i am all about skin. You guys got to check this out. Discover a new level of intimacy if you will and visit skin dot com to learn more like trying to do like a sexy like a phone sex operator voice there. This is my sexy phone operator. Voice pleasure is an endless exploration learn more at skin dot com the pretty good. Yeah choose to feel everything. Try with your partner to feel what all the fuss is about. Shop skin condoms on amazon dot com spelled s. k. y. n. Did you watch the premiere of manifest note. Because i was gone so i came back and we watched last night. I came back. All the stuff is like in the queue. We watched hell's kitchen. We walked challenge so yes. Manifest is up the bris is up next dory debris you're off the bris aren't you. Why are we calling it bristles cell. Because that's how it spelled stupid and annoyed by how debris spelled okay and okay okay. I was a little nervous. That manifest was gonna come back and not be as good as it's been. I was wrong so good season premieres great. I loved it only complaint. I have you know how they do like when they have their callings new. Uc like a not a flashback. Because it's not in the past but they have these like flashes of something all of a sudden the calling flashes have gotten very fake looking okay. So they've lost. Cgi budget some go or part of me. Feels like they actually upped it and it just looks really bad because they're trying too hard. Yeah that's kind of how i feel but aside from that loved it. I don't want to ruin anything for yourself. Wait till you've watched it but like so happy. Manifest is back freaking love. That show still need answers about the flight about flight. Eight to eight now. Of course we all do. I know that allow you will think i'm crazy. Alien conspiracy theorist and i am and i was in the kirk and i was really hoping i was going to see some alien. Feel like new. Mexico is like where aliens hang out or whatever you know normal. What's going on. But so i went down like a like a rabbit hole of ufo stuff. And i watched a documentary. That's on prime called close encounters of the fifth kind. And you gotta watch great. I can you gonna watch great documentary. You know who narrates hill ari gold. Jeremy piven is about this guy named steven greer. Who was a doctor back in the day and then he started being contacted by aliens. I know this sounds crazy but like he seems like a pretty normal guy and he's figured out how to communicate with aliens. There's all these different stages like close encounter of the first kind is hearing radio signal for malian close encounter of the second kind is seeing one third kind is like interacting with fourth kind. Is you know it's like there's all these different steps crying. I don't even own fucking fifth. Kind is like the one where you'd like. You're able to converse with them stuff stuff. He's like figure out a way to fucking like call and these aliens and i know this sounds crazy. But it's like a lot of these people like hanging out in the desert with him and they are like meditating and stuff like opening up their shock. Res- to like the aliens out of this sounds crazy but they have footage of it and all of a sudden you shop in the night sky. And he's got a laser and he pointed at it and it'll fuck and move around and you're like holy shit did it. It doesn't look like a minute. what do i know. But it doesn't seem like it's faked and even got a lot of footage of them feeling presence of like an alien coming down and they'll vic crazy like blurry picture of the alien right behind them and stuff anyways close encounters of the fifth kind is if you are into aliens. You've gotta watch it. He's also a straight up consultant for the government about this stuff because the government's now is just like yeah. It's real we don't want to tell you but it is rican real so good. Check the terrifies me. It shouldn't and i'll tell you why his whole thing is that the aliens are not scary or aggressive at all Actually complete opposite opposite. They want like peace and stuff and so like a lot of the stuff that they do is they'll fuck with nuclear bomb sites like be elect. Turn them all off. Because they're scared that we're gonna kill it. It's really interesting. And that's like his whole meditation thing is all about showing love affection and being positive and stuff. And that's what these aliens they really by with because they're more of a positive being the negative one very interesting. Yeah so anyways to. I'm telling you go check it out and like the things like the government it's all about how the government of course wants to weaponize all this stuff and they're not really smart enough to do it and gotta go check it out. My dad would love that. Oh it's rattled. Blood alley go talim. The last one is via regulars. I just started watching it last night with sarah but it looks pretty cool period piece patricia. Of course loves this. That's what i call erica. Sarah loves a period piece. Okay all about period piece set in victorian london. The series follows a gang of troubled street teens who are manipulated into solving crimes for the sinister dr watson and his mysterious business partner the elusive sherlock holmes. The irregular in this world. Sherlock holmes is not a great guy and that's a twist on it and all these kids orphan kids and stuff. I'm really early on it. It's on netflix. Just came out a couple of days ago. It's pretty interesting. So if you're like period piece patricia. You might like this deal. Sarah loves it last night. We were watching him. Like this is cool. We're into it okay. I was strolling around tiktok. And i saw this and i thought this was really funny for some reason. You are strolling around tectonics. Aka wasting hours of your life through true. I got this for you. okay yes. She's a horse girl. Crazy horse asshole. You don't have any. I'm full on her horse. She's a owners euro horse girl. Horse girls are a thing though. Yeah especially there's a whole horse girl. I guess club on tiktok. Like horse videos on tiktok. I believe it for sure. I got a book wreck. Ooh good book correct. I will say this. I did finish the gray man very good and also they almost got me with. This is the series now. It was really hard for me. Not to fall down the ripped through the series thing and i did know strong and went pivoted over to something new but the gray man. Very good. can't wait for the movie. Snow crash is a book. I just started reading and i got a lot of tears telling me they're like listen. If you're a fan of ready player one you need to read snow crash okay. Ready player one is kind of a rip off of snow crash. Ause like okay. Here's the synopsis in reality hero. Protagonist which the what's his name. Which i think is really cool it is. You're all right. So who is the hero protagonist in this thing. And so he. He's got weird. It's unreal fucking name. It's like a fake name that he's created and so his name is hero. Hero-protagonist in reality hero protagonist delivers pizza for uncle. Enzo coaster nasa pizza inc but in the metaverse he's a warrior prince plunging headlong into the 'nigma of new computer virus. That striking down. Hackers everywhere erases along the neon-lit streets on a search and destroy mission for the shadowy virtual villain threatening to bring about info pacalypse snow crash. It's similar to ready player. One the fact that there is a real world that people are living in and then everyone is escaping into this in this one. it's called the metaverse instead of in ready player. One it's called The well yeah but like ready player. One is obviously dives headfirst into cult classics of the eighties whereas this is a lot darker and deals with it. Seems like a lot of drug use and like the underbelly of the internet. Snow crash is a drug that you can take while you're in the metaverse and it's like a virus and i'm really early in on it but it's it seems really fucking cool very dark gritty version of ready player one. I'm here for it. So okay. Snow crash by a neil stevenson early. But i'm like. I think it was the one that we talk about you reading that instead of watching it or did you already watch the show. The one yeah watch the first couple of episodes. I didn't see the end of the book. I think there's a book and remember you. I think you mentioned wanting to read the book to see. Oh yeah he'll is different. You gotta get on that too. You can read to sister. But i've already seen the show. It's different. I really unless i'm on an airplane. I really don't have time to read. It's my plane. Hobby got it glean a lot flying the denver on friday so go. Why are you going to the mile high city. Because i love it there. Okay the dealer. I'm a big fan of lake street dive. I think i played for you. Oh that song being a woman which i think he liked a lot and And they're just awesome but on a playlist of mind something from back in two thousand fourteen showed up and and love this and so this is kind of before i had discovered them. It's a song called bad self portraits. And just so freaking related life like a take. Fix them now. don't bother. i'm takin landscape. Jake jake very well adams. It's so good. I've taken landscapes uptake. Bad fortress of a lonely woman. It's so good. I mean i'm not lonely but i got a really nice camera and i just take shetty picture. Oh my go. i've no idea what i'm doing. did you ever get into kishi bashi. Now i remember we played a bunch of kishi. Bashi back in my Lightning hundred days but this song popped up the other day and also like ooh. I love this. This is song called honey body. What you do. Latin jesus off. I think i know what's happening brand i. I'm what getting ready for summer because it's starting to get nice here now. We're on the precipice of la very true but we're like almost in like pool days. Sarah reconfiguring the backyard right now. I'm getting into summer mixes and that's what that key see. Bakshi tune was all about me. Being ole we're going to be sitting by the pool the jimmy buffett. Margarita machine is going to be coming out all day hells. yeah. I need one of those. You do need all right. Well free one your birthday. I'll buy you one coming up actually made twenty six. That's right that's right after mine. Are you a taurus gemini. Taurus what i thought. Yeah you're gemini zor your taste. The dish is also a tourist. Or she is that's why her and i are secondary soulmates right. I want you to tell her that. I have come up with a term called secondary soul mates and she's my secondary so she'll probably like that's genius. Winning to make the television channel rate. Toddle would watch that or tell your dad. That's a good song title as well or your sister or your sisters. Or your fucking. Tell cyrus secondary soulmate. Seems like a good title for something. Can we one final poll or the why of tears this week. What is it. my hair is very long. I can't decide if i should shopper off or keep it long and let it grow. I need answers. Why can't you just chop a little bit off. I'm an all or nothing kind of gal. Short skirt long inbetween legislating. What you guys think chopper off for summer or let it grow and keep it long. I just don't know decisions patriots. Polls here which burger place deserves a spot at usc. I forgot we did this. Okay we went with five guys shake shack water burger and in and out five guys won by a landslide. It's the best canal was second shake shack was third and water burner was dead last. I don't forget tomorrow. We have a live patriot fan for all tier two members. That's a rod grandpa members five. Pm pacific time eight pm. Eastern will post a link in patriotic. Then for everyone to come out and exciting. I was told to tell you guys for all you. That are erotic grandpa's if they don't include their address you won't get merch. And then also because i complained about the producers not giving us the last name some people don't walker last names read so to stream on the process and it'd be fair to everyone it's just hitting a first name and last initial. I still don't like that but whatever whatever you guys want. I think that's fair okay. Brad d rodney grandpa's here. I shaved my chest hair and waxed my boss for so yes. We go shut my headphones off. No you must listen to it. 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Sensory Prediction Error Signals in the Neocortex with Blake Richards - #331

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Sensory Prediction Error Signals in the Neocortex with Blake Richards - #331

"Welcome to the PODCAST. I'm your host Sam Charrington this week on the podcast. I'm happy to share. Just a few of the nearly twenty interviews are recorded earlier this month at the thirty third annual Noor Rips Conference if you've been waiting for the TUOMO pendulum to swing from workflow and deployment back over to a and M. Research. This is your time. We've got got some great interviews in store for you over the upcoming weeks before we move on. I want to send a huge thanks to our friends at Shell for the support of the podcast in a sponsorship of this nervous series Shell has been an early adopter of a wide variety of technologies to support use cases across retail trading thing new energies refineries exploration and many more and is doing some really interesting things. But don't take it from me Microsoft. CEO Sachin Cadila recently noted that what's happening at Sella's pretty amazing. They have a very deliberate strategy of using AI right across their operation from drilling operations. John's to safety last year the company established a shell dot. Ai Residency Program. A two year fulltime program which allows data scientists is an AA engineers to gain experience working on a variety of AI projects across all sell businesses. If you're in a position to take advantage of an opportunity like this I'd encourage you to hit pause now and head over to sell dot. Ai to learn more once again that sell dot ai and now onto the show art. Everyone here in Vancouver for Europe's and I am with Blake. Richards Blake Blake is an assistant professor in the school of Computer Science and the Montreal neurological institute at McGill University as well as a core faculty member at et Mula and you've also got an affiliation with far yes. I'm a candidate C.. For a chair and a member of C far's learning machines and brands program. Fantastic fantastic passing. Well Blake welcome to the PODCAST. Thank you very much for having me. Also you are doing a talk here on sensory prediction error signals in the neo cortex yes Let's just jump right into that. What's the talk about sure? So a lot of people have postulated for a long time that our brains and in particular. The NEO CORTEX the region concerned with higher order thought or functions if you will is effectively. An unsupervised unsupervised learning machine. It is there to make predictions about incoming stimuli and that it would use. WHO's this differences between those predictions and the actual data that receives in order to learn about the structure of the world and develop a good internal model? And although Oh there have been many computational studies that have postulated this and this idea has also informed artificial intelligence a great deal. The fact act is that there isn't a lot of direct evidence for it in the brain. There are a few initial studies but myself and my collaborators Joel's Albert Virga York University Yatra Banjo also at Milan University. Molly AL and Tim Lily. Crap at Google deep mind. We put together a proposal to the the Allen Brain Institute a couple of years ago to run some experiments to explicitly look for some of the sorts of prediction dictionary signals. That these kinds of models of unsupervised learning in the brain predict would be there so the institute has been running a series of studies. Doing doing what's called two photon calcium imaging and mice is basically a way to record the activity of many hundreds of neurons at once as well as their dendritic processes in a live animal. And so we've got recordings of the brains of mice primary visual cortex. Well we expose them to new stimuli that follow particular statistical patterns which we then violate occasionally and we have found evidence for very clear sure and really strong responses to those violations of the expected stimulus and additionally there are some interesting kind of breakdowns in terms of where those signals appear in the critical circuit. And also ask some interesting data in terms of the way that it seems to be something that the animals actually learn over multiple exposures to the stimuli See your conditioning mice to expect some kind of response then you kind of take a left. Turn when they're expecting right so to speak and and you're observing. What's going on in their brains as a result and so that's not what you've found is what so what we've found is we've Zam? I'm in two different types of stimuli. One which is where you've got a consistent visual flow in in the screen as it were so there's these bricks that kind of drift left across the screen in a particular direction and they're always consistent in that movement and then occasionally some of the bricks will start moving in the different direction than the expected one or like pretty clearly. You notice it when you watch the stimuli yourself very much so And for those stimuli. We see a massive response. In a particular part of the neoclassical micro circuit the cells. Go nuts in response to the stimulus and this seems seems to happen right off the bat with no training so that suggests that this particular type of violation of expected stimuli is something that the circuit is hardwired wired to detect but we also have another set of stimuli where we present basically these random patches of edges That are all sampled from where the orientation of the edges are all sampled from a particular distribution and then occasionally violate that expectation by sampling. I'm from a different distribution for the orientations and when we present these stimulated the animal at I don't see any responses to the unexpected head orientations but over multiple recording sessions. We start to see huge responses to the unexpected annotations. So what's interesting about this. This is suggests that the circuit is able to learn as it were to be surprised particular types of stimuli and it might at the same time be a hard coded to respond to particular other types of violations. We hypothesize that this might have to do with the evolutionary purpose. This of most visual cortex one of which would obviously be to help the mouse avoid predators. And so it's very important that you detect violations of visual flow in your visual field if you're trying to avoid predators because that's something you want to avoid potential. You WanNa see that Hawk flying above or right exactly but for the other type Stimuli where that we're showing them where it's these oriented edges. That can violate these patterns. What's interesting is that they don't show that response right away but they learn to show it and so that what is some evidence that they're neo? CORTEX is in fact a sort of generative model that can learn the data distribution over time and learn to he surprised when data doesn't actually adhere to that distribution in the first case where you've got more of a stark difference in the visual pattern. Turn do they become desensitized to it over time. We don't actually see any evidence for desensitization which is interesting The signal continues to be very robust over three different days of recording sessions and each session is an hour long so even after many repute exposures of this stay still seem to signal this very strongly which again suggests that for that particular type of stimulus. This is a hard wired component which is very consistent with the evolutionary right. Like if you got desensitized to hawks probably be a bad thing if you're and so there was another element of this work ERC or at least one that you haven't gone into this level of detail yet but is talking about the hierarchical nature of inference in these kits. Is that kind of an ancillary result or is that core to the model that you've developed to understand the stuff yeah so The thing that I mentioned is that what's is interesting. Is that that second type of surprise signal that we see that the animals learned to be surprised to the orientation of edges in that occur in an expected elected way we actually see that signal not in the neurons themselves but in the dendritic trees of the neurons and in particular part of the dendritic trees that is the area drives being like the fingers that we see in our nerve. Yes that's right exactly. All those little branches is that comes out of the Dan right out of the neurons. Those are done rights and those are the sites of synoptic inputs to real neurons but real oh pyramidal neurons in the neo cortex which is a particular type of neuron comprises seventy five to eighty percent of the neurons in the CORTEX in. It's the kind of key the information Presence Cell type in this circuit these cells have a one unique dendritic. Nick process called the April damned right which they send up a vessel yet April okay and they kind of like the tree because what they do is they send it up to the top the surface the brain almost like what the trunk of a tree does the leaves up to the sunlight but in this case they ended up to the surface of the brain and what they receive at this location occasion are the top down in puts so higher order information from other parts of the brain and our data suggests so that is he's actually where we see those surprise signals that are learned and from some of the brain or in this structure overall in this dendritic structure. That is up at the top of the brain and what that data suggests and some of our other analyses suggest is that this surprise signal. Is this you know. Oh that violated my expectations signal that the animals learn is being driven by top down inputs. So that suggests that the entire model model that they have for the world that they're learning is a hierarchical model where it's actually the higher order parts of the network. If you will for machine machine learning people you can think of it. As the upper layers of the network that are actually detecting the violation of the expected statistics and then they are communicating that back down the hierarchy hierarchy to the lower layers of the network. Is there a relationship between this. Hierarchical nature of inference that you've observed and The idea spiking neural nets where a signal become significant after a certain a number of times for lack of a scientist. Sure you know where there's like a build up of the signal and it crosses some threshold potentially attention. I mean we do find that the surprise response that we see in this circuit takes around three hundred milliseconds tends to appear after the initial surprising stimulus and to put that in perspective. That's a pretty long time. Usually it takes around fifty milliseconds things are so for visual stimuli to get individual cortex so then this is the second case as opposed to. This is the second place where the animals learn this signal. That's right yeah and what that suggests is that there's a whole build up of activity. There's additional stuff going on. Before the surprising thank stimulus gets noticed by the circuit as it were now that might be a build up of spikes but it also might just be because it has to. The information has to be propagated up the hierarchy and then back down the hierarchy and each synoptic step takes an extra ten milliseconds kind of thing so it suggests that there's potentially a fairly large hierarchy or very recurrent circuits that are responsible for calculating this surprise signal. Are you distinguishing languishing or able to distinguish in your work. Something akin to learning versus realizing you're paying attention to or other things that may be happening so it's an interesting question The question of whether or not they're just paying more attention to it. We try to get up by measuring a variety of behavioral signals including safe for example the dilation of their pupils. And we don't have of any evidence to suggest that they are more attentive when we see these signals there people. dilation is no different from the other times that it occurred. We didn't see the signal we also look at their running speed and we don't see any change in their running speed so it suggests that it's a treadmill a treadmill right so it doesn't suggest that they're not like back I don't know just like Kinda wigged out and they respond differently in this drives the response instead. There seems to be some kind of build the calculation that implies learning but the you may have just answered this is the amplitude of the response the same as the in the first case. It's not surprised it's just a new right so the amplitude is the same. As in the first case where where we have that violation of visual flow. Okay but it's in a different part of the circuit in the first case. It's actually the cell bodies that are Signaling this particular type of cell body and that suggests that in that first case that's a calculation that's happening potentially locally within the circuit Whereas in the second case this is as I said the signal is in these rights that are receiving information from higher up the quarter hierarchy hierarchy So suggesting that it's something that's part of the hierarchical calculations rather than a local calculation. Now that you've made this discovery like what's next in this line research. What does that tell you? So an example of the kind of thing that this tells us and you know obviously one of the things we're interested in is just understanding the brain and so You know this is evidence that indeed the brain has a hierarchical the predictive model agenda model as it were and next steps will be trying to understand how this genitive model works. More fully explore for stimulus space. Understand the tight the role of different cell types in modulators in this model etc but As well one of the other things things that were very interested in is using the lessons that we gain from neurobiology to inform new machine learning designs. So one of the things that we're interested in Exploring further is developing new unsupervised learning models based on some of what we learn here and there are a few different avenues that were interested in exploring this way so one is. We think it's a little bit too complicated to go into. I think here but they've got to at least try. Okay so there is another type of cell in the circuit that is responsible for sending inhibitory signals to these done rights where we see these surprise responses and we have been trying Rak our brains about okay so what is happening in the circuit. Why would it learned this surprise and we wondered if one of the reasons it might learn the surprises because there were changes changes in this other cell? Type that were inhibiting the denv rights and in particular. What we've started to get interested in is that there might actually connection with these results with a class of unsupervised learning models known as contrasted? Predictive coding so contrasted predictive. Coding is one approach to doing these sorts of next frame prediction models. And what they do in contrast predictive. Coding is technically. They're trying in to maximize the mutual information between a higher order context variable and incoming stimuli but the way that they do this is basically they compare a top down prediction from high up up the hierarchy with the data and then they compare that much to the extent to which the prediction matches other data samples from the same distribution but not the appropriate frame. These are called negative samples and from a machine learning perspective. This has all sorts of advantages but one of the things that we got from euroscience perspective is what if is potentially a happening in the circuit is basically that this other cell type that normally inhibits. He's done rights is having to actually learn that. This is no longer a sort of negative sample. And so so we're we're starting to build a male models where what we do is we take sort of contrast of predictive approach but we have alternative circuits that are learning the data distribution for the negative samples and using that to compare the positive samples and this has potential central interesting applications for online learning. Because you could do this now in a totally online manorial todd is yes without having to store previous examples pulls or anything like that which might be interesting for kind of later extensions of this work to edge computing in the field old kind of applications. Is this related to Like the concept of forgetfulness in a sense Thinking of like forget gates and things like like that that come up in conversations in the past right. That's interesting I mean it's not directly related. There have been people who have postulated that these other types of cells that I mentioned these. These inhibitory sells might be involved in something like forget gate's output gates and that's possible we're exploring here in particular is the idea that these cells are as it were you can think of it more like again scenario and so the idea is is that you're gonNA generate predictions from higher from up in your higher up in your hierarchy and then what you want to do to train your predictions is you want to not only have the data that you're trying to predict but also some negative samples that are going to try to fool your predictions as it were and so then what you WanNa do. Is You want to train trained simultaneously your predictions to get better at differentiating. The true data from the false data that you're generating but you also want to train that fall. allstate generator to generate better data. That's began edgy. That's right so we're thinking of this as more like That these inhibitory cells are actually trying to produce false stimuli to fool the predictive system and then the predictive systems job is to try to learn. Learned that this is false. And what's reality is kind of amazing to relate although the machinery to go into again to a single cell relation als but this is my work yes quite quite. Is there an element of what's interesting here. That in kind of traditional national inference. If that makes any sense like that you have only positive signal here. You've got kind of both positive and negative signal. Oh that's right and that's serves a really useful purpose for training and this is part of the reason that contrasted predictive. Coding works well in contrasting the positive samples to the negative samples. You can end up doing a lot better at capturing more interesting distributions in in your predictive system the well so there's a variety of reasons. One reason is there are these. He's the classic predictive models in neuroscience and also some of the predictive models in machine. Learning what you do. Is You generate a prediction. You compare impair the prediction to your incoming date up and you take the difference. And then that difference is your era signal and you can pass that the backup the hierarchy in order to do more training of your prediction this. These are called data predictive coding models. And it's based on a particular theory from some guys is named Rowan. Ballard that goes back to nineteen ninety nine but which a lot of neuroscientists are interested in and a few machine. Learning People David Cox's group at IBM has built the pregnant. which is basically a stocked? Predictive coding system and these systems can do interesting things and they can do frame prediction but arguably arguably there are some difficulties with frame as in an image yes story so like you've got a movie and you're you feed in a bunch of frames of the movie and then the job of the system is to predict predict the next frame of the movie and do do you mentioned that To say that that's one of the things that they're good at or that's one of the things that they're better at the other will visit was designed to do predictive coding models got. But there's a slight problem with them. which is that you you have this situation? Where if you've got a so if you have a universal probability distribution over your data these models can work very well but once you have complicated multi modal distributions? It starts to break down a little bit and the reason is that if you think about it this way okay okay. So let's say I make. I have a complicated multi modal data distribution. I make a prediction. And I get I make a prediction that that it's going to be on a particular you're mode and then I got data from another mode and what I'm GonNa do then in these standard systems is I'm going to try to reduce the difference between my prediction in reality. But what that's going to do is that's going to bring me off the original mode that I predicted into some inbetween space. That might actually have very a low probability. So that's not actually what I want to do instead. What I want to understand is that I just sampled from the wrong mode? They're effectively and I should have been predicting the other mode for that data so potentially what you want. Is You want to be able to contrast your predictions to not not only the incoming data you get but to all the other negative data distributions from the data that you have received to know basically whether or not the problem was that you were in fact predicting a wrong part of the data as opposed to simply just not the right piece of data and so By actually doing this contrast of thing you can you can end up doing a much better job of making predictions with complicated probability distributions than you can with a standard kind of just like take the difference in London on that model. Does that also imply that. It's better when the distributions itself are shifting or themselves are shifting as opposed to static distributions attention. That's an interesting question Russian I think that the Now obviously you have to be able to deal with shifting distributions doing movie prediction because necessarily early distribution frame distributed according to a conditional probability distribution based on the other frames and. That's what you're trying to learn. I think there's the other interesting unquestioned though which is if you have a shifting dynamics so the way in which frames depend on past frames changes over time. Can you learn that. I am not sure that some of these standard systems could deal with that that might be required additional machinery for such networks. It works it's also an interesting question as to whether or not animals can do that because arguably I mean probably animals could but but generally test for that. Well Mel. Yeah you see the funny thing is that because generally our world though it can be changing though the actual kind of distributions bution of data that we receive are hardly stationary. The dynamics in the world are relatively stationary so objects tend to move in consistent ways. And you know it's not like the laws of physics occasionally switch on us right and so as a result It's not clear that the brain has to be able to deal with shifting dynamics necessarily but at the same clearly like things will happen in certain types of movies that are unexpected in real world but kind of expect them yes and we can get used get used to them right. That's right and so that's why I was about to correct myself as even though it seems like maybe animals don't have have to deal with that. Our own intuition would be that we seem to be able to deal with that because like let's say we play video game where the laws of physics are indeed a bit different and over time we will get used to that video game and we will kind of understand Amex so this gets back to the idea that you know. And this is a discussion that we have in the sort of of neuro I intersection a lot. It's how much is hard coded. How much is an eight? And what can we learn. And what can we not learn. And even though a It is like in deniable that evolution endows us with a massive structure to help us understand the world a lot aww are poorer facilities also seem to be learnable and tuna bowl and so even something as simple as kind of being able to predict what stimuli you're gonNA receive in the near future our data for example suggest that that's something to nibble and it's possible that also the dynamics of these of the world oldies for our models can have going back to the this particular research in the hierarchical inference result in some of these other results. How close closer you to having an implementation of that in machine learning world so? It's something that we're working on. And I've got a couple of students who are. I'm trying to build these systems where the negative examples are being learned by an additional network. That's doing the Off Distribution Estimation And I think that you know. We've made some progress on that we're still probably a ways away from it. Were in the grand scheme of things. A small academic GLOB compared to the big L. outfits in industry and stuff like that so it'll probably take us longer could take them even just because of the compute resources that we have to compete for. But I think that you know hopefully within the year we'll have a working model of the basic thing and we'll be able to say whether or not this actually works well in practice or it's just a bad idea. You know separating this is particular result with negative examples from the the concept of hierarchical instance like how well is that idea been explored. I've got to imagine that there are examples of that or you know prior research into that idea or is that novel in some way. I think it's actually reasonably novel. I haven't gotten a lot of stuff this way for predictive predictive models. Obviously there's a lot of work now in training adversarial systems where you generate sort of negative data that you have to discriminate discriminate from positive data. And that's just across amount of tons of stuff but using this specifically to do You know the predictions time-series I haven't seen yet but you know I can't keep on top of all literature and so I as I say this I'm I'm sure someone's publishing exactly this talk happening right. That's right so what are are some of the other things that you're alive is working on so Another area that we're really interested in is the use of memory systems for reinforcement learning and and this is again motivated by the neuroscience literature so one systems like attention or so attention and memory. Are you know kind of intimately related plated. But let's maybe keep it simple for a moment and just focus on Classical memory systems. And what I mean by that is To give you a sense. So the Region of the brain that is typically associated with what we call episodic memories is the hippocampus episodic memories just referred to actual wool memories of events from your life where you say stuff that happens as acts occurred in this location with these people there at this time time and that depends on this brain region the hippocampus we know that from decades of neurology. Research people who have their hippocampus campus damaged can't form new episodic memories with the idea and applying reinforcement learning is if in addition to remembering a kind of a current cumulative reward. I can remember stuff that I did and stuff. That happened. Should be able to converge faster at a some kind kind of yes right. So what's interesting is in the neuroscience field. There's been more and more evidence suggesting that the hippocampus is involved in reinforcement learning in animals and indeed the hippocampus makes direct projections to some of the core circuits in a region called the Basal Ganglia. That seem to be key reinforcement. Learning and and various theoreticians have posted that the hippocampus in providing this sort of episodic record could be used for bootstrapping reinforcement learning morning basically does the hippocampus predict or does it just serve up experiences just memory or is there some inference in there too. That's a great question. So the original proposal which was made by Peter Diane and Matt Langdale back in the mid two thousands was that it just just provides you with a record of explicit trajectories that you've done through the state space basically okay and they posted that by taking an explicit correct trajectories. You've done then you can just rely upon like okay. Well I did this last time and I got something okay so I can just do it again. They showed that this could speed up reinforcement learning in the kind of early phases or just after a change occurs but subsequent work in neuroscience has suggested that the hippocampus is really key for in fact making predictions and making inferences and doing immagination. Kind of doing forward roll outs. Let's in in your mind and so I think that how do you test for that The way that they test for this You know there's there's a bunch of different ways but fundamentally what you do. Is You record from the hippocampus. Well an animal or person doing something and you train a decoder odor to take hippocampal activity and say what the person was looking at or where the animal was in the environment. And then you can show that when when you then put the person back in this task or the animal back in this environment and you have them go round. And you're recording from their hippocampus there will be moments where you're decoder says. Oh what's actually happening right now. Is that the person looking a few frames ahead in the in the cements or the animal is down down the hallway to the right kind of thing and so that suggests that the activity in the hippocampus is basically following a forward trajectory through the roll will through space or time which is pretty cool? Yeah I totally and so there's it also other evidence suggesting that the representations in the campus themselves are in fact predictive there's within reinforcement learning. This is another contribution. The tradition from Peter. Diane there's a particular type of representation. Cult successor representations accents or successor. That's right and they're her away of representing state space. That allows you to do one. Shot adaptation to changes in the reward function. And what's the way they do. That is basically they pull out the transition dynamics from the MVP expectation for your value calculation or rather pulls the reward of the expectation. And that means that now. When you Redo your reward calculations you don't need to worry about averages which which speeds things up and so so anyway? What's interesting is Kim Stock and felled him. Sam Gershman showed in the paper I guess by the two years ago or one year ago now that the representations in the hippocampus seem to adhere in many ways to successor representation Type Dynamics and and predictions and so what's interesting is successor. Representations are basically a way of representing the environment and a predictive manner. Because how they do this is they represent each state according to the expected future occupancy of that state from your current state. So you're saying that there is evidence that fundamentally the hippocampus isn't just a snapshot of scenes but it's an inherently predictive representation of this scene kind of happened in this thing kind of resulted from whatever action you took right. So so what's interesting is that that's that's roughly right. But I would rephrase it slightly. I would say that it looks like the hippocampus is not just a record of what you've seen done but it is a record that is encoded coated in a manner that also predict what you are going to now do in the future. It's like taking your past to predict your future at a very high level representation Asian of the environment and in this the successor was a successor successor representation. That's kind of the machine learning approximate of that or analog. That's right that okay so this accessible representation has just an idea from machine learning. And what's interesting is that it seems to predict a lot. A lot of data and hippocampus now is the hippocampus actually successor representation sharp. I don't know but I think the core idea that part of what the hippocampus is doing in is providing a sort of predictive map for the environment and something that would also allow you to do leave and more so that it's not just like functionally predicting but it's representational predict that's right it's representational. That's pretty cool and so My lab is working on a variety of implementations of reinforcement spent learning that takes advantage of these sorts of systems to then do much faster adaptation to changes in the environment. Okay so in particular what we're building because what's interesting rate is you've got so this is a representation had been developed previously and machine learning. But then there's a variety of interesting questions in terms of well. Okay okay what if now you are. Explicitly storing different memories of different successor representations for different contexts. And furthermore. What if you can use use? Those memories of different successor representations for different environments in order to sort of load up your predictions for any new context. I think that this should be able to help you to do reinforcement learning much more rapidly and we have some initial data showing that that is indeed the case So it's kind of broadly. The ideas that we want to take the lessons that we're learning about how memory systems in the brain work and use those to inform. Perform design of new are L. Systems. That are better at adapting to changes in the environment. Interesting interesting. Sounds like it's still a little early or do you have an implementation so so we do have them in -implementation in toy tasks that works really well and can basically detailing task a specific thing or just toy tasks toy tasks meaning Just you know all the standard kind of stuff so grid world's Atari Games asserts of some very simple tasks right. Yeah and what we find is that you know. In in in very simple tasks. This approach of storing multiple different successor representations for different contexts and also utilizing. What we call a sort of evolutionary initialisation where we learn sort of average successor representation across contexts that we used to initially is all the memories combining these two ideas India's leads to our L. Systems? That can do very rapid. Just Kinda like one shot at up to changes in the environment which is cool? But we need to see it as Jacob utilize or step two step changes to the reward function criticizes too and also changes to the task. So so if you drop the agent in a new task or within a given task if you move where the rewards are located or change the reward function in any way that that it can adopt quickly to this changes to the reward function inherent to kind of your typical Atari game or is it so so. That's yeah so typically we do this I should say when we look at changes to the reward function. We're doing this in little environments that we've made ethically weekly. It's like foraging tosks where the agent has to go through a little maze to find rewards what we do is we change where the rewards are located okay and if you just take his hand during the war in is located doesn't necessarily dictate a new reward functioned as it William correctly. Well it does because the reward function is typically defined as okay you know for any particular state action pair. You'RE GONNA get a particular reward and so if you change the location the reward now the state action pair that gets you. Reward is different than the one guy was previous and if you there are variety of different ways to do this so it should be said that this result in and of itself is not super exciting. Other people have sean ways to adapt to changes in the reward function. But we're hoping is that we'll be able to show early days as we scale up. That will be able to show that in more complicated environments as you change the context and you drop the agent down into the different contexts. They will always be able to adopt very rapidly by using these sorts of predictive memories to guide their updates. Okay yeah I thought you were talking about like structural changes the reward function as opposed to kind of parameter parameter changes to the reward ocassion. That's right because that's what. The successful representation is good dealing with got it. You can update its parameters to the reward function in one shot quickly with just a single multiple kit of calculation. 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The ones that you've known for years and years and years closed because they come and go apparently and so the person that's coming on the show today I. Have Known since I was in second grade. And she lived with Sophia and I in the infamous three one. This woman's name. The woman, the myth, the legend, the sex, the goddess, the woman, with the vagina that keeps on giving no, it doesn't avoid from Kidding Ladies and Gentlemen Daddy Gang, Lauren macmullan. Thank you thank you. I already feel like a member of the daddy gang as you were giving me that Intro I got a nice little. DM, offering me five hundred dollars for a picture of my foot. Oh my God route of a fucking clause. It's like of course, of course you did. The men know who you are. It's like fi pictures up the household. Then we'll be asking you for nudes. Bech Oh God. No God here. You come well. Thank you for having me. I have to say I'm definitely a little nervous. No, you have nothing to worry about I know it's like nerve wracking coming on a show and I appreciate you coming on aside from being nervous aside from getting. Your beautiful toes. How are you feeling? I'm on the up and up I was pretty on well earlier. I do not know on. Yeah speaking of Unwell. I should get royalties on bang. Yeah, literally larger, and I have been saying unwell for years and years, and it used to be a saying. We re really started hard core like college. It was like zero to unwell. How are you right now and I'm fucking on well I hear fitting that like your job. We're not down here just like shooting the Shit and your basement. Basement after remember like Oh. Yeah, people are like listening to this right just a couple of people just like you know you. Close Powells Yeah Yeah. Just a few close pals. anyways. We had some amazing times when we were younger I. Think every single person listening to this podcast has a lauren has a best friend that you've known your whole life and I figured with everything going on. This is the perfect person to have on is really my first guest. Obviously I dave on last week. But you are, you've known me and I think that the theme kind of throughout the past few weeks has been like actually being able to show every side of myself. And there's I. Don't know anyone other than my parents that know me as well then you learn so I think the question I get asked. A lot is like. How are you friends with Alex Oh? Oh. WHAT THE FUCK FUCK! Yeah, when she always like standing on tables and screaming and like hooking up with millions of people like dragging along for the adventure. Okay, yeah, what do you tell them Lauren? Those things do happen, but that's not like who you are completely like. You're very real person, obviously best friend. And we do have those moments I. think those moments have really come across a lot in the past episodes. So I'm like really happy now that the world's getting to see you. Hi, you, Lauren. They know that was kind of really cute No doubt such good times Lauren. I'M GONNA. Ask you a few questions at the gang had but to quickly give everyone listening some background on how the hell? We all even came to live together because I. Don't know if you've ever told that. That Lauren Studying Barn and I were planning on living together. Then we wanted to get a three bedroom, so we needed a third roommate, and so we found Sophia at random for that third roommate spot so like Sophia, our friendship we had this insane, dynamic, crazy, amazing friendship at the time, but we also didn't even know each other four months into moving into the three one. We started colored Daddy, so I've only know now Sophian total for three years, and so I think that's where. We were learning about each other well, starting one of the biggest shows on the Internet I know how that was for me, so I'm assuming that was pretty wild for you to learn. Yeah, I mean absolutely. There's no denying the fact that it took me a bit of adjusting to get used to this new dynamic. You were my childhood best friend, and so was the random roommate. And To see the two of you connect instantly and your friendship grow so quickly and publicly. Yes! It was it was hard. It was weird trying to find. Like A. Balance of making sure it wasn't always about the show and trying to find time for just the three of us to just hang out and it not be about Sophea and I. Call Her Daddy. I think though the one thing that did really help was call. Her Daddy was never an option for me I, never not that I didn't want to write I could never be a part of it. I was a fulltime teacher, so yes I couldn't do that and be honest. Sex podcast. Right I think that's important to mention. You were doing teach for America. You're now going. You're a student now. Learn literally as at Columbia University. She's getting her masters like. You literally have had a complete different career. I think it's important to stress. That I'm probably pretty similar to a lot of people listening to this podcast. And when we moved in, you were too yeah. Caller Daddy didn't exist when we all moved into the three zero one no to put it in perspective, I was making the most money out of all of us. You were making what remaking sixty. No fifty five. Omayyad okay LARN was making fifty five thousand a year at her teaching job teaching job. I think feel was making like fifty fifty two, and then at the magazine, I was making forty thousand dollars a year, and then I went onto unemployment jacks, obviously not the case now. No, not the case now. On you. Drinks on me forever now I. Got You the three? Oh one early days of us all moving in definitely loud I think all of our degenerate asides to flourish and thrive, and at the end of the day that place we had so much fucking fun like we just always had plans I would come home, and it's like all right well, guys, what are you doing? Let's fucking drink. Let's get wild I will never forget so and we kind of Brent mentioned it on an earlier episode, but it was like okay Alexander unemployment checks. You literally have to pay rent I had thirteen hundred dollars worth of rent every month that I had to pay I was making three hundred dollars. Where this? Every two weeks from unemployment checks so I was making six hundred dollars from unemployment. How was I going to make the thirteen hundred fucking rent? Oh no issue seeking arrangements motherfuckers, so we get on seeking arrangement. Who Make this whole profile? Blake Blake I was Blake I was literally changed your memo name paint. Name everything I was Blake and Blake was my name and I was ready to go, and so literally in the three zero one. We came up with what we were calling the seeking arrangement scam, and basically we would get into situations on you out out. Yes, thank you. Thank you and the goal was like I. Never wanted to do anything these men. It was just to go get drinks or dinner, and by the end of the night. Get enough cash so I could make rent. We were all huddled around the computer like sitting on car one chair. He looks good or like Oh, he's not to be Yelich. Ooh, like he could Kinda work, and so I end of the day like I obviously fucking ask my parents for the money, but it was like we were just down for the craziest weirdest shit to do, and it was not anything so I remember like one of the first I went on a little shitting bricks I'm like what the fuck is this guy going to kill me like what's going to happen every single time we win Larne in Sofia came as my body. We were in the background chilling literally they would. would be at the bar in Sofia Loren would be standing at the bar. You guys would make a joke of it where all black they'd be standing at the bars I'd go i. have my drink I get paid, and then we go raid half the time I would go spend the fucking money before I could even spend it on rent the one time I me and Sophia. This is like one of the first one and we're like guys guys. You're saying guys, guys. Guys don't worry. I'm just going to talk to him me and Sophia look over and you're making our with. Sixty year old male, no sixty dollars a thirty year, old and I actually. because. He also was like. Oh, by the way I've rooftop and. We? Needed a rooftop to hang out on Tanna so I'm over there and I'm like Oh, my God! We like LOCI. Do I know he would not hot? It was not not, but that was because you were pouring literally drinks down my throat, and at that point I was like anyone looks hot right now, and also any type of money so I can pay my. Oh, yes, so I would like be at the bar like Oh. Can you send some shots over to the blonde girl back Hornets trying to get me fucked up and I'm like it A. A good level of fucked up like we would pre-game before it, but then I would get so fucked up on like. Is this like low key? The fucking off of my life? It's like no Alex is you're seeking arrangements? Guy was like you know those people over there. They're staring. We had to do you remember that we saw warranty and I the protocol where I would secretly tax them towards the end of the day and be like come interrupt and pretend that you're just casually running into me, so the two of you would come up to the fuck. Like Oh my God, so Pia and Warren, and I look at him and I'd be like Oh. My God these are like my really close. He's like Oh. My God is in your name Blake and then like on my name. Is Blake Alexandra? Biff you were asking. We came up with this whole scheme and I think in hindsight. Now I'm like what the fuck was I doing, but it was fun. It's an experience you tell your children. No, no, you tell anyone pat, and I'm telling on the national podcast, but we did crazy. Just Fun Shit like that, which now in hindsight. Hindsight I really want everyone to be careful and like I. don't even know if you should be on that site, but it was fun being. Do make sure you bring roommates with you to lurk in the background. Yes, thank you. They always made sure I got home. Safe and nothing really ever happened. It didn't happen too often, but for while I was really good on Brent, and it was okay. Okay, so in the spirit of everyone wanting to know like what was it like living with Sophia and I people. WanNa know like. Did you and I ever get in a fight? From during living together Oh was I and you. The way that you're looking at right now. Lawrence is literally like Oh bitch. I've been waiting. For this one like I never brought it up, but White House my time what? So you know I, like was so bad with my Ki-. Like our building, you had us like a physical key to get into the building and like a physical key to get into our apartment. Awful you're like annoying I. Will US twenty four seven. Be Like? Hi, Keith. I'm sorry like locked out. So I'm coming back from going out. It's like two three am, and so if he has out of town and I, call you and Mike Hey. Alex I'm locked out so sorry I'm so annoying Can You you coming home? Like can I come meet you get your key like yeah. Yeah, yeah, like I'm having sex real quick. Just give me a second and like call me back. Like Oh okay like that's fair like I'm I'm annoying like I gotta wait this one out. And like thirty minutes pass I'm like all right like come on. Up Come you me all night. Goes. Dan. Silent. Sn and how how was that sex? Was it worth it? Was Awful. Guys Daddy Gang. I had been eyeing this guy in new. York City who literally in the Bar, highest guy in the bar I was like this is the man I I actually used I told you guys like a really long time ago. How to pick up a Guy Bar? I have this napkin trick that I. Always write my name and my number on Kim and I go up to A. A guy and I'll be like. Do with this what you want. And then I handed to him and I walk away and I remember using it on this guy, and it was like the most perfectly played out situation. He was so hot he took it. He texted me we met up. We hung out a couple of times. Finally. Go to have sex with this guy. It was after like multiple like. All of us putting in work. And Listen I've said in the past small digs for the win, but none of this situation. This guy's Dick was the smallest. Penis I've ever seen again. I'm not trying to shame peanuts, but it was so fucking small, and I didn't know what he wanted me to do that. Little baby carry on a fucking like baby carrot carrot carrot babycare at shriveled up level. and. I go to have sex with him, and he just was giving off big energy, so it was more of just like a shock and I literally felt nothing I felt like I was being penetrated by whiffs of air, and I was trying to have multiple sex with him that night because I was trying to. Excuses. I was trying to convince myself. It'll grow. To it'll grow. The sex ended up being awful I really liked him, but like not only was he small. That's fine, but he did not know how to have sex like he'd literally was. One of those guys Kinda like belly, bellyflop on you and Kinda like rubs up and down I'm like. Is it even in like I? Don't know so meanwhile. So laron stuck out on the streets of New York. City while. Alex is having small Dick Sex and so I'm like okay I'm not. I'm not gonNA sleep like all on the street. Right was out of town at the time, but I knew the code he had a little more little step up a code to get into his building so I knew the coast I'm like okay I'm GonNa. Get into a building and I'm going to bang on the door like his roommates have to wake up and have to answer. They did not cussing. And I have no idea why, but there was a random mattress so sketchy looking back at it. There was a random mattress in his hallway. So I slept on a random ass mattress in a hallway of his apartment building. And waited until it was seven. Am I'm like she has to be awake now and I was like all right. Now I don't feel like I'm call. Call Call Call Call you so like. So sorry like. Soon. You arrive like we do not speak. I am passive aggressive. Irene you're giving me. And I was like no trust me. Are You WANNA fuck? It ended all because I know the worst of my life. Not Worth it tried to all right, I'm exhausted. I slept on a mattress in a hallway. I'M GONNA try to get some sleep. Like thirty minutes later, I wake up two screams. Screams and I'm like what wouldn't. The world is happening. And I realize you're having sex and I'm like. Are you serious? This guy is back last night. All night wasn't enough. But it wasn't the same guy he was a different guy. Really bad and I go that I was kiss. I listen in my defense. I had. This caper, thin wall, okay, yeah, so in a three one literally the walls of this place. They were all like flex wall so like if one of us was masturbating like I remember like so feel aren't and I would always jokingly be like Kay. I'm going to masturbate everyone. Go put headphones in. If one of US was masturbating. It was like okay. Why isn't everyone? We're just GONNA like. Each Other Massoud. Literally I remember like when Sophia Hotter ex-boyfriend and she would be like in a fight with him. In the kitchen or even our rooms. Route. We're forward. Like didn't WanNa hear, but you sort everything. Yeah, so this is during the time that I had broken up with my long term boyfriend slim shady. Slim Shady, and and I think that everyone can relate listening to this, you know. Give me a little been out here like when you when you go, and you have an awful awful awful hookup. It makes you miss your ex. Because when you you have an ex, you know sex with them. You're comfortable with them so when I had small Dick. Sex with this bitch boy. I was so depressed from that hookup and slimmed shot was in town. And you know this bitch never misses a beat I was like it will make me forget the pain, not even the pain I wish I was painted fucking anything I made me realize. Have Slim Shady over use them for his check and get him out so slim shady trots on over three zero one which. is remarks of our apartment. It was the first time he ever saw where we were living. We had no furniture at the time. The biggest downgrade because mind you when I was living with my old like Slim Shady Lauren Kinda like half lived with us. I squatted Lauren full-blown squad. So every time he was away on the Road Lauren had his full schedule printed printed and would come on the days. He was at away games, so we were living his luck as plays in slim shady's plays, and when he and I broke up. It was a little bit of a little bit of a downgrade you could say. An absolute fucking shit hole compared to what we we're living in and I remember. When he came over, he was like you literally live in a closet I'm like bitch fucked me, so he comes over and we have sex in the morning. Oh, that's the night that you're. You broke the window or your window. In the morning it was eight am yeah, it was number two. My head did go through the window. At me for something, we'd realize yes and then. I think that with the loudest sex we had ever had. The whole situation was quite a. Quite a quite an interesting situation you know when you leave a Dick appointment that you genuinely are like I, feel disgusting like that appeanas made me realize like I'd never won. You know when you sleep on a random mattress. You wake up in the morning like I feel gusting I say okay, but to be fair at that is the one the one time like I did not come through as a good roommate. That pretty top notch pretty top. K, thank you so the biggest question that I saw from the daddy gang for you. Is. Did you see the divorce between Alex and Sophia coming before they did. Can, I like honestly like. Am I going to get sued now? No I think I think we'll. We can obviously edited out, but tell you can. What would your actual answer be? It was a ticking time bomb. Oh, okay, you want. Like Oh to be on your. Fucking Shit, show Oh. Okay, can you actually that's really? Interesting like I. Remember a few instances like really specifically where you guys were in a situation and you definitely tried to hide stuff at times like make it little better. I got something you like. That's something you do try to like. Yeah, that's the bad yeah. But you call you called me, and you're like I cannot believe what is happening right now like this is crazy and I was literally like Holy Shit that's bad. You kind of can't come back from some of those things like they were there and they happened and yeah. I think like. Knowing you're the only person that was witnessing some. I did confide in you at times and I know what you're saying like. There were certain situations where. I felt like I couldn't tell my parents because I knew what my parents were going to say. It's like a boyfriend like you don't tell you your parents. Your worst fights with your boyfriend. Because then your parents are like you cannot go back to him. 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Communicate with men when we stop talking specifically or when I'm in a fight with them the neutral third party. Yes, so there have been many occasions when Switzerland. Yes, you are Switzerland Bichir, a beautiful little Switzerland. The point of this daddy gang is. Lauren would basically be able to at times. Reach out to one of my ex-boyfriends for me if I was, let's say trying to put out feelers. Trashing the watt has the waters see if he hates my guts, did a little pulse check Kohl's pulse bitch? Okay, it was basically we made sure that throughout my relationships, larne would happen. This sounds fucking. Nut Long would have enough of A. A relationship with these men so that she could slide in on the later to the point where like I needed to have previous Texan conversations with them who we could plan for the break. Yeah, so that like when I eventually send this like feeler test. It's not like the first on my name. Popping up phones not gonNA. Come off to them like always lauren trying to fuck. No No, no, no so I. I think there's so many situations obviously with specific boyfriends that we've gone through, and like you've been top notch, a+ Wing woman to the fucking death catch restaurant Here's a situation. You're already norm going with I. DO Warren is with me at catch three Martinez then we'll fucking tits out for the boys that night feeling myself, Lawrence looking amazing. We're looking hot. We're looking fresh and flirty, and of course the last thing. Thing we WANNA do is talk to one fucking man at the bar. No, let's text one of my accident because why not because we set the scene for you as we've been preparing for this for two years, we're ready for battle, so I'm sitting at catch with Lauren and I'm Laurin. I have like a really really good thing for us to do tonight and I'm like I really think we need to taxed Fabio. Done I'm in like. Fob Michigan Yeah. I'm I've been in a serious relationship and like. I don't play games like this, so you enjoy this. Yeah, this is like a thrill for me. I'm like Oh, I can meddle in someone else's life, and like not fuck up my own great. Go Myself. Yeah, so Loren gets to wake up the next morning and like she doesn't puck herself over, so she just helped me myself outlet for me to get my crazy. Okay, so so we're sitting. Catch and I'm like Lauren. This is like such a good time. Let's text I'm just saying Fabio because like I don't know what else can call him. So I'm like Warren what what is a way. We can figure out a way to him. So this is also a step of the plan. You have to figure out a text to send this person that's coming from my best friend to my ex-boyfriend. What the fuck. I need needs to be a question like I can't just like hey. How are you doing? No Larne go fuck yourself, so it's like we tried it. We sit there and another drinking. It starts to come Saturday. It's midnight like what could I need from him in New York City on a midnight on a Saturday drugs. We're like this is so perfect. Drugs now mind you. We need drugs. No, but that's the only logical explanation other than a booty call at twelve o'clock on. What else can I ask him about? This guy that I had been dating was known for having this one drug dealer that was like the best guy in New York City this motherfucker. We called him superman. Triggered that I didn't even okay. That's not the same superman fears dating. That's ironic. So this guy suit me and the reason we called him. Superman was because this drug dealer was the classiest motherfucking Jerry piece suit. Literally the man would show up in a beamer and a three piece you and a briefcase. Motherfucker was stunting around the city all right. I hate likings at that, so we're like Oh my God. Let's text him and ask him for suit man's phone number, yeah! Perfect ever not enough not enough for Alex that night I was a little more fucking buzzed up by the time. We were like getting the tax to add visual. We usually get this motherfucker locked and loaded and remembering who the fuck he was missing. You really wanted to do a reaction like what would seem my face. What emotion without a out of you so naturally? Like what are you fucking talking about? Alex? Did you send him a picture of your? No, the first option was a warren. It's been so long. It's been two years since we've spoken to Mr Fob Fabrio. Why don't you send him a picture and be joking like hey? It's Laren and send a picture like this is if you don't remember. What picture did you have me? Send of myself dotting. The picture was very strategically picked. The picture is Lauren is in the front and me and fob Yo are behind her making no, they were not making out. They were like licking and sucky. Each Other's facie sparking in the middle I. Think is hands down your pants. After getting fingered mid photo I mean the details don't need to fucking discuss the point is. Is that this picture? We looked so fucking in love and so what I did. Did is my psychotic. Ask like we're going to crop it just enough like take off our foreheads. You're in the picture full-frontal I'm in the background making Bobbio. We cropped the photo enough that it looks like Lauren's like half ass, trying to make sure that the bad memories getting cropped out, but clearly we're leaving in the fact that we're trying to trigger him. What is what is this memory? How does it make you feel now? All of your public, Alex? You stupid bitch like what the? The, fuck! Are you up to now? I want you all? Sit for a minute and think about this? Because it is is fucking brilliant when you think this is coming from Marin. The most stable normal nice girl always had a good relationship with Fabio that they could even fuck and hang out if I wasn't there like I. Trust the this bitch so much, and she's just like a top notch Golden Star Student K.. Then you're sending a picture that is going to warrant some type of. Of Emotional response. There's bolt with a very rational tax. Yes, Hey, what's your drug dealers number very rational. Okay, so the thing is, is that I? Don't have we don't have time to wait around sending a picture like this is going to one of two emotions. We have two options here options. He's either going to one a fucking say go fuck yourself seeing that bitches space I would rather die than engage in this conversation, or it's going to bring back emotions to bring back to feel. Like oh I remember the way her tongue slid I. Remember the way that Pussy feels like I. Remember it all and I want it and so the point was I. Wanted Lauryn to send all of this just. Is All I wanted just to see how he was feeling. Because then I would know if I could re-engage and start having sex with men again. I didn't have a body in New York. I was looking to re-engage and he was a prime prospect, so lawrence ends the fucking tax. Where like taking shots were like he's not going to answer. He's not going to answer. He answers positive up the asshole. Fabio comes through with hey. Lauren Haha Yeah, of course I remember like mother fucker. Being so nice night Hendron. If you're that nice to meet. How much can you hate you? Exactly the Lord and I remember literally we're sitting I catch. We're like we're like. And listen if anyone's GonNa, fuck message. Execute literally tell us like never boyfriends or like never reach out to her. Giving them? The literally Lauren's one doing it. I didn't do anything Lauren did it. I do wake up these instances and I'm like what? What did I just involved myself? I know I know. Sometimes Take Lawrence Phone Oh. My Gosh I forgot about that. You would hate my phone and you would text him psycho things, and then you delete all the messages and I would wake up like angry and like rear tax him and I'm like Alex what. What what is it going on that so weird like I? Literally the there is a couple of times in my lifetime more than a couple of times that I would take a little too much advantage of Lawrence relationship with these men that was a small face. Luckily you quickly learn that I. It was involving Youtube. Yeah, I, think also something to be said, and I've a lot of conversations with my mother about this one but like. There is a huge difference between a you're you're my best wing woman? My wing man for very long time has been milk hunter, and I think that the dynamic between the two of us there was one relationship I was in that mill. Punter specifically got really fucking involved in you to became one literally became one like it got the person dating you and Milton. Yes, literally like that is how bad it was and. And I know that sounds like no, that's not a thing. No, no, it was a thing like I would hear them on the phone and they'd be like so should we say this? And like? Should we send him this? Pick them we literally, and it sounds so crazy to me now for a while I think we had such a especially in college. It was so fun dating these guys and being able to. have my male best friend. And I liked come together, and I would give the female side, and he'd give me the male side, and we'd create this concoction of the perfect dating situation and I'm saying it now and I'm like no, that's actually psychotic could not okay in the head. Goes but it got addicting. Because we would see every time we would send the tax. We would get exactly what we wanted back and it was like we had this like machine that we would turn out this fucking content and I feel like that's almost how I started the show. It was like I had this playbook. That I was living by and then slowly throughout time I was like. Okay wait. That's a good way to play everything by the playbook. There is nothing like offscreen us, and so I think that's where I had to really take a step back and be like bitch. You need to get into therapy. But I was like hold on. That's not real life. That's not real life and I think at times like we mill punter and I were almost both too toxic together on call her daddy. We've always like told you guys. Games are good to a certain extent throughout my entire life I've been learning to refine the Games I. Think at times you can get so sucked into playing games, and it can get fucking out of Control Oh. Yeah, it can out of control. Yes, but you gotta realize it and you. Know when to not play as many games, and I think that that's imperative in order to making the games work. If you play too many games all the fucking time, then just like one big fat fucking game you need a relationship to. We really yeah sometimes. Forget I, know you do so I would encourage you all having a wing woman is key and it just you can read the situation without actually doing it yourself and we always say don't fucking text him fucking block his ass well. You can block asked, but then you cannot fucking. Exit. It's kind of beautiful Roman. Is that you? Oh, yes, definitely you Roman because you literally just lasted so fucking long and the guy down the street trying to poke his wife. He didn't last so long because guess what he didn't use Roman fucking swipes. You guys know the drill every man listening to this or any female that's listening and you're like I. Wish my vagina her I wish. Wish my boyfriend could last longer and fuck me longer Roman. fucking swipes you swipe a little swipe on your Dick all right. There clinically proven to help you last longer. They're easy. They're fast acting and they don't require a prescription there. An unmarked packaging saul you fucking little. 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I'm trying to figure out my way and figure out how having to podcast with new. People and on my own but I. Think like maybe you could explain to anyone. Was this experience like for you is? What did you expect from the PODCASTING Yeah, no I was definitely thinking. I would walk down here. We'd have some. We'd have some drinks and leg. Just go, and no. That was not the case at all. It's this is fucking hard. I give you props. Yeah, you have to tell a story and you have to like act that story and it's kind of exhausting. Yeah, we podcasting and everyone in podcasting makes it sound so easy until you get in front of microphone, it's like a very very challenging dynamic and I know it sounds simple, but it's it's not. It's kind of exhausting. No, yeah, and I'm pretty tired, but I have a midterm on Tuesday. You're like I'm actually so done with this thing. He's having me I, need to go to school now. It's been real good by getting. So. Everyone before get into the last segment of the show. I think that it's really important to reiterate and continue the conversation that I opened with for last week's episode right now. The world has a huge opportunity for positive change. And by continuously bringing it up, helps echo the idea that this is not just a phase. This is continuous work that needs to be done. Yeah, I completely agree with you. I feel like at this point. A lot of people have hopefully done those like tangible acts like making donations attending protests, calling representative signing petitions, but I think a lot of people at this point are feeling like what's next. What's now and how do we keep it going? Yeah, and Larne and I've been like kind of having conversations about it and I. Think we both agree. I think it's engaging in having the really difficult conversations, especially with people that don't see eye to eye with and in order to have those conversations. We need to obviously understand how we got here and how? This is truly a systemic problem. It's not the burden of people of color to teach us, and I think a great place for us to gain this like insight that we all need that we're looking for is through. There's documentaries that learn and I were looking up and we've watched. That are on the Internet right now. One of them is called thirteenth. It's on Netflix. Just made free for the public. You can go onto youtube and watch it, and then by the same director. The movie Selma has also been made free for the public. Yes and other things that I watched. That have been really insightful when they see us and then time the Khalif browder story. They're both also on that flex. Young guys so I just I. Encourage you I'm going to do the same that we continue to just keep educating ourselves do the work. Keep persistent in this black lives matter movement. Don't let this I down. Okay I love you all, thank. You can get the queue you eat. The. At! Christians of Owais. Of looking complaints every single guy of idea. No bitch literally please stop because you go from like a five to a one real fucking quick, but it seems like all the women like this show, and why am I? A little bit were team. Fuck Female Oh because I have a fucking vagina, so every guy that's listening to this and you're like Bej. You are so fucking. Bus It when you do that. I. I. Don't give a Fuck K.. I would suck the fucking. Tip Off of your Dick and do seconds. Go Fuck Yourself. Okay, anyways. We're GONNA. Get into questions of the week. I know all my silent suffers out there I'm really sorry. Just fucking plow through this with me. Okay? I'm sorry I have to do it. I have to do it. It's like a tick. Okay I'M GONNA. Read this question, and I don't even need to fucking comment while I'm going to comment on everything, but I'm going to read this and I think everyone that is new to this podcast. If you're listening to this, please listen the fuck up. Og. Daddy hangers will know this, but I think it's really important to reiterate this a daddy you. A member wrote in and said. I JUST WANNA say. Needs to listen the fuck up y'all. Everybody needs to listen to a call. Her Daddy has been saying in a previous podcast. You said to never get a man something for his birthday. Unless y'all are dating or married well. I've been talking to a man for seven months now and we are not about to date because we both are in college. His parents know about me and he's even told me he loved me, but when I tried to send him cookies for his birthday, he ghosted me. Never Send Shit unless y'all are buck and engaged. I took the. Moving on I should have listened to the father. Ashby, go. On Lea- man. the dumb bitches that gave them presents. Just knock it the fuck off I. Don't Know How many times I have to say. If you are stressing about a guys, fucking, birthday or Christmas or Valentine's Day, or whatever the fucking holiday, you think warrants a gift for this motherfucker. Knock it the fuck off. You're whole. He is a penis. Until you have a ring on your finger, there's no fucking faces involved. Okay people ladies. Especially men get freaked the fuck out if you show up at his fuck imports like Jeremy got you. Have you procedure air me. He's like Bitch Buck. You okay, then all of a sudden. All the other bitches are gonNA. Look way more fucking attractive than your asshole. I swear to God there something about gifts and men, but not even being like I have a special gift for you for your birthday Jeremy, and then like it's a blowjob. No, you don't even let him know that. You know the day that he came out of the vagina okay. Hi, Father. I. Love you in the podcast so much daddy gang forever fucking pitch. You might have already touched upon this and other episode. I need help when the guy I'm hooking up with goes down on me. He mostly focuses on everywhere, but the it, but when he is gone on my Lynch, it feels so amazing, but it just never last long. How do I tell him to stay on that without shattering his ego? Please help me father. We have to all keep in mind. Every man on this podcast is going to be like fuck you, but it's the truth. Men are little fragile pieces of Shit Okay I was GonNa say glass, which it sounds way better. Men are fragile pieces of Shit and you have to make sure you you cradle them, and you nurture them especially when it comes to any issues in the bedroom that you're. You're having a man's penis is way smaller than his actual penis. Okay, because it's in his brain if he thinks that he's not pleasing you, his penis literally invert into his belly button. He loses all hope. So. How do we go about this? If he is hitting a specific spot with his tongue right in that moment, I'll usually literally just say like Fuck Babe. Keep doing that and sometimes what? What I do is I will lightly clench my legs, and but and body when he's doing something down there that like Oh fuck. Yes, that feels good. If men cents a change in your body like if you tense up a little bit, they usually will. If they're not that fucking stupid, they usually will get the hint and they'll keep going with that because there. You're basically giving them your body. Body is reinforcing something they just did and like a dog. It's like yes, boy, good boil! You're doing so great, and then hopefully he'll get the fucking hint, and he'll zero in on the clay, and if he doesn't Kinda like we tell men like to shove her fucking head down and suck the Dick like make her fuck and force feed on your penis. We never said that. Did we watched? Just. Pushed, his head up towards the Clinton and be like up here up here. Good boy up here like get it right. Jared get it fucking tight Bruno. God okay. This is a question actually. I feel like a reoccurring question that I've seen throughout and I know I've kind of answered this before, but I want everyone to listen because it has to do with sexting. We're all out there. sexting little fucking horse okay. Hey Alex so I have been sexting with this guy that I'm talking to an a couple of times now. I've fallen asleep during the conversation to be clear. We've been sexting at like two am. And he takes twenty minutes to respond sometimes because he's at work, so it's not like I'm falling asleep because I'm uninterested anyways in the morning when I open his message. What is the best way to respond? Should I make a comment about how hot dirty sexy is or is the moment over, and I should just be like hey, good morning. Thanks in advance of the PODCAST daddy game. All Right Hello Daddy. As we know here on, call her. Daddy sexting is such a delicate dance. If the person you are sexting does not respond in a timely manner. You need to just end it. It's over. You're in a time window and it's very difficult if that motherfucker is even twenty minutes. That's a long fucking time to wait for another sex to come back so. If they send you something and you wake up the next day. This is how I personally go about it. You acknowledge him, so he doesn't feel weird, but then you give him the out. I think that's one of my favorites. So like Damn Not mad about waking up to that I can't wait to see you next. I'm so Horny Babe and then you send A. A, follow up tax. The double taxed right away changing the subject. To what are you up to today? You want to a lot of times. I like to acknowledge him He doesn't feel weird, so he doesn't feel like okay. That bitch did not think that was hard or like Oh. This is awkward, but then you give you both and how it's a new day the. It's a new day. The Birds Chirping you're one with the Lord, so switch up the subject I used to be. She was the Abreu mom guys function of beauty. 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Take a four question quiz to customize it for your hair function of beauty dot com slash daddy. Take your four part quiz and you're GonNa get twenty percent off your first order. Hi Daddy. How do I tell my friend that I think she's being used? My friend has been seeing this guy and I'm not sure how serious it is, but lately I've noticed that she's always driving him around. Out of her way to pick him up, even though his car works just fine bailed on our plans pays for literally everything. His bar tabs groceries parking tickets I even checked out her and there's nothing from him. Bitch, you're on your ship. I've only been at her place for less than a week and she's hung out with him more than I have with her. Even though I'm leaving in a couple of days, I don't know if it's my place to even bring this upper how I should since I've literally been the third wheel. Oh Hello friend let's be friends. Hey Girl This is tough. I mean I, think anytime if I've learned anything about friends and getting involved with boyfriends and guys. I personally think that it's better to stay out of. It again though I don't know, you didn't clarify if this is like your best best friend I think that you can bring it up once and maybe ask usually I would do it. Maybe in a joking way. It also depends like what kind of girl this is you could. Do does he ever pay for anything like Holy Shit, you're literally his sugar, mama and kind of make a joke about it, but kind of also look a little job and see her reaction if she's like I know, but the Dick is just so good i. don't give a fuck then. That's a good sign. It's like Oh, well. At least she fucking knows and that's hurt decision. She's an adult, but if she gets defensive and is like what the fuck are you talking about? Like relaxed Atta, my business, then I think you need to leave it when girls are whip guys especially in the. The early stages, if they are super hyper, focused on that relationship, and they're like all the fuck in it, sometimes no matter what you say, it literally will go in one ear, and out the other of your friend, because they are literally mesmerized by the fucking Dick it's just the thing mesmerized by the Dick and your fucking mouth is not addict so like she's not fucking listening to us, we are the Dick is the main goal and you're on the fuck inside so sometimes as much as it sucks. Just chill out and way, and she'll hopefully come to our senses, but it kind of. Sucks it's like what the fuck where are you? Why are you not around like I? Lost my friend. Bitch Trust me. I get it fucking sucks, but sometimes it's worst to get involved because then you become the enemy as opposed to just waiting it out and letting her come to her senses. High father how much texting is too much texting? I've been talking to this guy for a month and we haven't hung out in person yet. We plan to a couple of weeks, but I'm not sure how much to text emery, not text him. And how much time should I give him between tax? This guy sends me good morning and good night tax, and pretty sure he's done to fuck but I don't WanNa seem to clinging. This is an amazing question. I think I need way more details, obviously to get into detail for each specific situation, but this is my favorite technique. If you're talking to a new guy, I think it's really or new girl I. Think it's really important that you space it out and you have very sporadic texting I have gone through. Many trial runs with human beings. Okay, and I think the best thing is. Everybody loves. You've had that one person that you get texting. Buddy and you guys go crazy. You're back and forth. You're in it to win it and it's like addicting, and you're like Holy Shit. Person is so fun to tax, but regardless of that connection like I've had it with guys where I'm so compatible. Eventually there's an end date on that eventually you almost over talk too much shit, and then it kind of fades out. My favorite thing to do is right off the bat I pick a very spaced out balance and what I mean by that is like you have to be careful to not overdo it, but to also confuse them healthy. Yes, it is I think it's good to disappear sometimes for like. Like a whole day, and then slide in later that night, and have a pretty detailed fun, upbeat conversation, but then what I usually do is, I will end it by having him. Send like whatever text he's GonNa, send and I won't answer him. Pretend you fell asleep then it's in your core to text him the next day, but what the goal is is, you should be sporadic, enough and entertaining enough. Enough in those spurts of conversations that he double text you the next day being like. Hey, what's up like once? It's like one o'clock to o'clock and he's still hasn't heard from you. Hopefully, he's like. Where's this bitch? I WanNa talk to her and then answer right away when he text you I. Don't think that you should be waiting hours to answer if you're at your phone answer, but just be cautious. Cautious about like the big chunk conversations space them out enough and Ma sometimes and sometimes I think it's good to like. Leave them on red, not in a petty way, but just of like a there's nothing to say to that all text you later kind of thing if I sent a text that doesn't warrant a response. I have a lot of respect for guy that will just leave me on red. Gets my vagina feeling some type of way. Guys I think I think that's it for this week. Make sure you guys go follow me on social media on call her daddy instagram and twitter, and then also my personal Alexandra Cooper also. If you guys want, make sure you go fall Lauren who is on today. Life, Or life is about weird right. To make sure you guys go fall Lauren. Her instagram is Laron. L. A. R. E. N. The number four. Life L. Y. F. E. I. Know have a conversation with her about that. I actually retract everything that was just said on the podcast. Why the fuck is that? Her instagram handle Okay I. Love You guys so much. I will see you fuckers next.

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Dale, Deserts, and Dodgeball: Breaking Down 'The Bachelorette' E2 With Nora Princiotti

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Dale, Deserts, and Dodgeball: Breaking Down 'The Bachelorette' E2 With Nora Princiotti

"I'm sitting here. I. Made a toast and there was the longest awkward silence. And I just sat here and was embarrassed to like. Almost like. Does anybody want to spend time with me great question Claire, Does Anybody WanNa to spend time with you. I can't wait to answer that ask some more questions about and by Clare and so much more on this very juicy episode of the Bachelorette. Let's batch. No matter what you're watching pizzas the perfect companion to an end with your favorite movie or show. Now, it's easier and better than ever with the new. Tastes maker from pizza. Hut You got a large pizza topped your way up to three toppings for just ten dollars. Can Get contact list where available at Pizza Dot com no one out pieces, the hut additional charge for Pan and stuff crust a price higher in some locations limited time. Availability contact list curbside, delivery areas, charges, and minimums vary delivery charge not tip one day you love him one day you don't constantly changing your mind then United Airlines has something for you. They will eliminate a change vs on all than the US or between the US and Mexico or the Caribbean United is also offering complimentary same-day standby starting on January first. Now, you could change your mind on love and travel to note elimination of change fees doesn't include basic economy tickets. Wasn't about Sir Party. I'm Juliet Lemon joined today by my colleague, one of the Co host the NFL show. Any Hello Nora. Hello. Juliet. I'm so thrilled to be here. Thank you so much for joining me or in week to the bachelorette season. How does that compare to week two of the NFL season free? What's what are the vibes like? It's actually you know it's it's really similar. It's when you start to readjust from some of those week one lies you see a lot of is onscreen and week one. There's a lot of things that trick you and then week to you start going okay. What's real? What's fake? Let's got let's figure it out and that's how I felt about this episode. It was really good typically at the second week is usually the best episode of the season like. The island like fancy sweets, but I like when there's more. More people like more subs talk about and there was. A lot though these manner like fairly unremarkable but there was just like a lot to get into and what a week from Clare, really truly like some spectacular Clare Moments and. It was so interesting because I will I hate to be a hater but I'll be very honest with you. I was not a huge clarify going into this because she ended nine single. No. The reason. So when she'd been a contestant she and she's very different for me so I try to sort of be clear eyed about. My evaluation because of that but the way that she wears her heart on her sleeve can be very compelling in certain moments. But in other moments, particularly when the of power is different, right when she's fighting, there's all these other women and there's one guy it makes me cringe sometimes and I was really pleasantly surprised in week one that having her in the decider role I was so much. More comfortable with all of her feelings being just out there all the time, and then we to was kind of interesting from that perspective right? Because there were some moments when I felt like she was a little bit overboard with the vulnerability. But then there were also moments when the pendulum swung back the other way and I was like, okay. Maybe this is how you'll figure out what you want. I don't know you do you but it's it's been a journey. We've gotten a lot of Clare. We've seen as you said, Vulnerable Clare which I have to admit makes me uncomfortable. We're going to get a lot more into it, but I would say we've also seen Horny Clare which really came through this week. And we've also seen like Bossy Clare and we've also seen like in control class. She's the the girls got range you know and I don't know if I've used that properly another thing on the Internet years ago I'm using it here today and whatever. I mean just say the you nailed it. Thank you. She's got a lot of dimension to her and she's just wacky. That's the only way I can really put it i. also find like her gowns to be like just so utterly baffling it's so funny like you were coming off season the bachelor where there was a lot of like pageant women i. just feel it Clare like stole someone's pageant closet and she's just like ready to be congeniality four as like the best friend or somebody like that. It's really weird to me is. So I mean there's a lot of, let's call spade here. There's a Lotta Cleveland and there's a lot of glitter. So what's going on however if we're gonNA talk about Wardrobe Choices There is more ankle on this season through. Weeks they were always on I wonder what Jason's angles we're GONNA get there and we get to his date. I will just say the other like glaring wardrobe. There's two other glaring wardrobe things we need to hit one. Clare, really owning be like tank top and mid rise shorts with like pleats. It's a real palm springs. Look it looks good. It's also looked like many women I try to pull off at. I now like never try. It's like it's just like too much. But the along at your legs with heels while wearing shorts is like something she's just she's gone for and she looks good or bad. It's just like such an obvious like choice it's very deliberate and never two is just like Dale. Did you spend all of quarantine watching mad men and then just trying to dress like don draper when he goes to California or is on a weekend because he just is wearing like a rat pack look all the time and I think it's Like those shirts with the little callers. Hurts yes I liked he wore an olive green wine which I love like I think there are some men who rock neutrals by which I mean. They just wear black all the time and that works. But then when the guys who know when to pull off navy went to pull off and olive green like I'm. I'm here for that. My thought I thought he looked great in that one. Then the second one where it was like true don draper with the different colors and the stripes I was like I think. There was a third run at the end that was navy with a white stripe. Yeah as like okay. So he just looked up palm springs like learned that Frank Sinatra and his cohort went there and sides dress. ABC also happens to be very Andre. Bar It was a lot and that actually one more wardrobe note, and then against the episode Chris Harrison his closer like too big and it's like weirdly like. It's making him look both like smaller stature they think he is actually is an. Older. Weird. Weird, looker him. This week I was just like very confused I. wondered if like it was a, they didn't have the right clothes I. Don't know it just didn't fit properly. Is it possible that tailoring is harder in the era of corona virus because you can't get close to people? If. That was a problem. Clare would not have these form fitting gowns that are like just hurt her curves and her breasts a very conspicuous way. It's just like we get it. You look at okay. Okay it's like so much ankle. So much cleavage. It's just a lot. You know we're GONNA talk more about bodies a little bit later I? Just want to say, I, was dismayed by the nudity day stripping day. It's just like I can't believe this, but we'll get there. Let Union. Oh my God. My problem is not with Claire. It's just it's not. We'll talk about it. Let's begin with just probably like one of the most instantly iconic lines. Now of all time in the history of the bachelorette Clare declaring to everybody does anybody want to spend time with me? I died I absolutely died how I've been sitting on the couch. Oh, fallen off. So. Funny. I think I. said out loud to myself. What is going on right now? So. This is on the first group dates where it was kind of a Dutch auction with some kind of weird love language something. I don't know it was very is very weak one but may quarantine and when they get to what Chris Harrison called the after party, which I thought was really weird. Usually they usually call the a cocktail party but I guess because they're not like moving around, they called it the after party I don't really know. Clare like enters as the lead does she sits down in the middle. She gives a toast and then crickets which probably happens more often than you think but production opted to show it. They showed no one saying anything or like trying to do that can I steal you for a minute and that's what prompts her to ask this question and it was just so clare it was so funny and I just absolutely died I mean I I will. Use It as a sound effect for a very long time, and then then she ultimately goes off and starts talking to all the guys and they'd have to apologize to her but. To your point earlier kind of power that I enjoyed. Yeah. So I thought it was strange that she was already talking to Bennett and then just sort of reverse course and said you know and I need to be in the moment and I'm not present in this conversation and I need to go speak my mind and then comes back in. And I think like I like decisive Clare. So even if it's a little bit odd I felt like I, was rooting for her in in that moment but I also didn't quite know. How I would respond in if I were one of the guys there because it just didn't seem like that big of a deal, we'll who's who is supposed to be in control that moment and I don't WanNa get too deep into this is this is just it's hard to really litigate but just sort of like do you want the woman we issues the lead to be like, okay. Let's go talk first or trying to think like on the bachelor wins a male lead. Usually. I think he asked to speak to someone in then they interrupt or whatever and. Wasn't sure like because it was the Bachelorette, the expectation is bad. We'll take the lead and so she is the one who's at the center of the show. The guys are supposed to like, Steal Her my Source Aka Rachel Lindsay says that usually the guys are just like Oliver you to get the time or whatever, and that was really weird but there has been some production machinations there to make it seem like the no one wants to talk to her because they do do seem into her they tell you to do anything. It's also the the rules about when you're supposed to go for it, and when you aren't can be very arbitrary right like later in the show there was. Many controversy over Blake Blake Moins who came back after losing and that wasn't that was a no go. Yeah. You never really know when she become a stickler for the rules. This is the woman who stuck over to Juan Pablo's room which I support though he shamed her about afterwards but like good for her and so good for blink was going for it. Right. So I never there's not a ton of consistency. So I kind of as much as I was like I like Clare speaking her mind here. I, kind of felt I felt a little bad for the men in that moment just being like I don't know what you're supposed to expect here like it's fine to just sit there for ten seconds also. Awkwardness is a part of dating. It's like I don't care if you're doing it on reality television that's just going to happen sometimes, it doesn't necessarily mean it's bad. That is true and that's the funny thing about Claire is that I think that Clare like vocalized. Think or feel so many women think or feel but they don't usually say it and like I commend her for saying the things that she does and I'm also just like this is like weirdly like the most unrealistic part of the show to me is how she's so declared with how she's feeling like there's something intensely like unfunded and also like unsexy about that like when she's just like unloading Dal and speaks to how conservative I. Just met this man does way to beat force like exploring your deep sadness. is on the way you're supposed to start malheur quarantine I don't get it. I know we're supposed to like let your walls down, but it's a lot. Well. It's funny because. I'm so I'm going to be so it was. A Brandon who just didn't know anything about her? Yeah. We'll come back to that one as well. Right and that was like. Incredibly awkward and I loved that she sent him home. I. Thought that was that was my peak decisive Clare my secondary decisive Clare was that doesn't anybody WanNa hang out with me and I just wasn't quite sure how to feel about that. But. That was that was particularly egregious that he just knew nothing and couldn't seem to string a sentence together. But at the same time, like you are actually kind of supposed to do some of that when you get to know someone like you pretend, you don't know things that you actually do know and you see how people wanna represent themselves and how they want to talk about their experiences that like maybe you know it from dating profile or someone's linked dinner from a mutual friend or whatever. But like in the real world. You let them say it in their own words even if you technically, no no. The specs. Clear I feel like she just wants to bypass all of that and like. Here my deepest insecurities let's go at again. I'm having so much trouble placing whether that is. Cool and actually Kinda bad ass or if it makes me so uncomfortable and I can't handle it. I think it's both but it is. Let's just talk about. Brandon. Now that you brought about brandon also has an instantly iconic moment where he's on camera he's miked up and he's trying to whisper to a WHO knows. Can. We talk about that like very quietly in Clare is like asking him to recite everything he knows about her from Google like she's basically says to him you didn't Google me like not only does she want everyone to watch Pablo season which I do not get why do you want everyone to watch this man treat you like dirt like why do you want them to be privy to that relationship like I would actually be excited if I were Claire in one of these guys was not familiar with that 'cause like totally able to come to the clean slate. So that was super weird and then she was basically like Google Bitch. and. He he did it and he had it in his response was instead of being like Oh Clara wanted to get to know you based on who you are in real life or Os Clare. So excited for the journey of learning who you are all he can say is but you're so beautiful and then whisper can we not talk about that that the had been a weird edit because like? What the fuck that didn't make any sense it was so funny. He seemed no, he genuinely seemed like he was malfunctioning something was going. I think he thought it was good at like he's a really good looking guy. He probably just thought it was going to go really well, and then all of a sudden. It started to go very very badly so poorly, and he seemed to the funny thing is I think because of the conversations that we've seen Clare respond really positively to like you've got to be able to pivot to something. Right? They like. You you're she said that people have been talking about being passionate or whatever. It's not like. Those are laundry lists of facts about her right like we don't know who's winning Clare Bingo or the Clare Quiz or whatever, but he just goes. It seems like he dove into his bag and what he came up with was I'm here to find love and I know you feel it too and it. was so terrible. It was so crazy like just the most generic. I don't know what to say. So I'm just going to like play Bachelor Mad libs here anti the Bachelor Mad libs and he said I felt like there's moments. There were no moments we would've seen it. If there were moments like that. She was like well I don't feel that it was just it was so funny I mean that was just that's the kind of interaction that you're like give us paradise as soon as possible so that we can have more brandon and like see what happens with this absolute like psycho he he is. Handsome. But in like to be a very creepy way, it's almost too much symmetry too much tanning too much everything I was just there's not there's not much that was very real about brandon aside from the fact that he had no sentences he could speak. Well, I feel like those two things go together array because you're saying that he felt like he knew she felt something to. That was completely nonsensical. They had not spent time together. So there's something. So jarring about seeing someone represent themselves in a way that. So divorced from reality that we've all watched. Yeah and yeah I it made him seem like an alien it was not a good show. Really. Did we want to go back to the first group date though because there was like so many things that also made me cringe and I was like I don't know how I feel about Clare. The date began with the guys running back to their rooms and having to get like a gift for Clare based on the things that they they brought with them on this journey of the Bachelorette and it reminded me of summer camp. Did you go to camp? Nora? Yes I did I went to Horseback Riding Camp Oh President Do Dutch auctions at horseback riding camp. No, but I know I, know what you're talking about I. also think the Dutch auction is probably an offensive term. So I'm sorry to be using it I don't I don't know what else to call it however what it was. Was it. Everyone had to go back to their bunk and like fill a pillowcase crap like mad Liz markers like flashlight whatever you brought your minimum amount of possessions because you're at frigging summer camped, and then there would be like someone who was like you know like a caller and they'd be like five dollars for it. Fake money. That's visible. Reminded me of business super like camp rainy day activity, and so the gifts were I believe that Riley, brought a baseball because he had played baseball. And decided to give away this lucky ball that was super weird and. Also he'd written don't complain just figure it out on the baseball, which is like the least sexy romantic. Thing that you could possibly especially for someone like Clare who has issues about like men shutting down and hiding their feelings inside like don't complain just figure it out. It was the most like Yikes. That's the motto of the Royal Family in England and they're known for being like emotionally repressed people so. Very, tough. Very tough. Then, there was Ivan who brought the chess piece which pretty good. That's gotta be the Best Gift Right I didn't think it was the best gift but I thought it was near the top chester sexy like the sexy thing I'm into person who thinks no I. Alerted man who just takes the time to play chess after dinner is very attractive, right? Yeah. What was your top gift mytalk gift was Ben just giving her the t shirt lake. That's just very boyfriend. Cute like that's a cute thing to do and I it's not too loaded. It's she can actually wear it. I think it's Swede and Clare seems to care a lot about. Presents and have some anxiety about what's going on with people when she's not with them and that's like a nice keep saying that she can just sort of have him with her all the time I would have been with you. However, he referred to it as a nightgown. He's like you can wear it as a nightgown and it's like, okay, is it nine hundred and fifty seven? What year old should be wearing this shirt of yours man do have a boy I don't know how to identify. Clearly male pajamas. To be honest I don't really know either I just think I would have preferred him said like you can sleep it or I don't know. I just don't really invoke the braised nightgown once again, not sexy could've could've cute thing you know smells like him and. Me that kind of thing but like. Took a bridge too far. Really triggering for Juliette. Ben Though I'm into bed. Yeah. I would like to see I would like to see more of I. Felt that way about Ivan to like. He just has a good vibe, but we haven't seen a lot of him and he does seem maybe I'm just reading too much into the chest thing but he seems really smart an Arrow nautical engineer I believe he lives in Texas so he might work at NASA for remember all my Gosh. Well, okay. Pocket that away because we'll get, we'll come back toward the end of this conversation. I. Just I, just thought that the gift thing was super weird and then it was followed up by having to like basically just feel each other up while wearing a blindfold in the hill kind of like. Because they did. Okay. So they did there's five love languages I think they did words of affirmation they didn't gift-giving. They did physical touch. And then they just kind of stopped. They just stopped like the whole point of the thing is quality time. So I guess that one doesn't and then There was a fifth love language and I can't remember what it is, but we'll just stopped so. The day ended because Christoph like head home and get ready for the after party. It was just very. It was very strange Chris Harrison performance in my opinion, it was a high amount Chris Harrison like more than we've gotten a lot of episodes generally but just. was very strange. Yes. So then the less love language was physical attach which like. Is that a love language me like you have it or you don't as a couple in my opinion I mean. As you know perhaps it develops but. Who define these love language is one of my questions I've always been very confused by. People who say they know their love languages really clearly because my response is always like mine are all of them. All of these things are good things like you want me to. You want me to pick joining one just I want physical touch unless I am sleepy and Grumpy, and then I just want you to leave me alone like maybe give me a president. Clare's. Physical touch was also matched by her whispering a lot and like talking in a baby boy's and that made me incredibly uncomfortable. Particularly, it's funny because Dale does it back to her and we've had so much Dale Clare Time but they say, yes. So breathlessly, like back and forth at it oh it really speaking of. Has a clear love language, which is like words of affirmation if we have to I, feel like as much as she was feeling that touching situation which. Treasury, you WanNa touch them, and we get it. You're really into jail. He's very handsome. WHO WOULDN'T WANNA. Touch him. He also did something really smart I thought which was that he put because he's so tall and he put her hands on the back of his neck, which is like the like that's such a clear way to know how. Tall and shaking Manley he is and I thought that was smart on his part although I just thought that whole situation was uncomfortable in strange I was waiting for it to be over. Because of their voices, please speak in this way babe baby voice doesn't play like ever. So yeah, it was no especially on TV that made me so uncomfortable I couldn't. It was happy. It was over. Thank goodness and. And then, of course that gave way the cocktail party I'll never forget to anyone spend time with me but. What else from this date stand out to you because? For these guys I find very hard to keep straight I can't remember who is who a few them like Blake and Yosef, and then because he's a keeper, but I'm not even sure who else was notable for this. So I was surprised that in a positive way I really I I'm curious to get to know I then a little bit better I think he seems really cool and intriguing in a negative way I was surprised. She seems to like Riley so much. I found him incredibly annoying on this date. Okay. So glad you brought him up. He is like the inverse of Dale to me both athletes both like chatty, but he just lacks the leg the calm soothing swagger of Dale, and there's like a confidence in like humbleness to Dale that Riley very much lax and I don't think you'd be able to identify that if Dale were and also the picture. That's a fantastic point like he. He just can't. He can't sort of float above the fray whereas Joseph was starting to get upset Riley was the one who is like don't speak for me. You can't speak for me and that. Whole. I think that that was happening as I was still processing like, why did that make her so upset what exactly are we navigating right now but the fact that he responded to that just immediately by being so. Annoyed at the wrong person like Yosef is clearly. It seems like he's being set up to be A. And he doesn't. Particularly, appealing more on that but it's just like why is that where you're devoting your energy right now like this doesn't have to be the biggest deal in the world and you're going to make it that way. If you are really mad about him, saying, let me speak for the group like it just none of that had to be such a big deal. It was just it was ridiculous Clare obviously is a flair for the dramatic. Well, Yosef is obviously national and it seems like Tyler see was right about him I. Agree with you. It's just cleared don't engage, but she just likes to point just like she just likes to eat dramatic I'm like pointing a lot like Clare Right now, you can't see it. 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Here's our problem with the dodge date before I say that is specifically the problem is the had the guys strip until they were nude and do this strike you as problematic or not desired for you as a viewer in. Anyway. When they actually were full nude I was like an obviously you know it's it's blacked out like. We know we're not seeing anything, but I wasn't a huge I wasn't I did not respond positively to that I didn't care about I didn't care about the should be call them banana hammocks or what was yes. Sure. Jock strap. Strap like the layer above. I don't know that it did a lot for me in a positive way but I didn't care that was that to me still fell in the category of silliness. Once all of a sudden they'd finished the game and she was like. Take it off, and they're all standing there next to each other extensively fully naked they work except for like shoes they were wearing socks though once again so much ankle I just didn't I, didn't understand. Really. The thing that was strange to me was that when they were asked to do that none of them even took a beat like they just did it and no one was like seriously you want us to. Take off these I would have met. One Guy said no, and she was like, that's okay. My problem with it was that they would never have women do this like ever and women did do it. It would be absolutely gross manipulative abusive like rape he it's it's like not okay and so I support if you're comfortable being naked and you wanna be naked and everyone else around us. Okay. With it like I support that I support body positivity, but I think that like. According this double standard and? In just to be clear like those things still apply to the man like you know maybe that they were uncomfortable or you know more than the one of them were was and he didn't WanNa do it but like he felt like he had to if it was women in that position, it would be completely unacceptable absolutely scandalous and like they're just a huge outcry and I think the people I don't think I'll be alone and feeling this way and so the double. Standard, of objecting men's bodies like that and put it in asking bend be in that position really bothered me because I would I would not accept it for women, and so I think it's just it's just not not necessary. Also felt it was a very notable that without Fred Willard who recently died and I loved his comedy. So very sad about that. This is what they resorted to. This is the kind of thing that Fred Willard used to be called in four like. The team events whether it was just weird stuff and without Fred. Willard. We end up with this like a gag gone too far, and clearly they wanted some kind of like stripping because they wouldn't have done the colored banana expert this not like the always the intend to whatever and I was like this is so childish stupid and I know that we're talking about the Bachelorette. So like drawing these lines very murky, but this was just like too far for me, I. was just like major grown. I can't believe doing miss. It didn't accomplish anything and it also if someone is going to be naked on television, they should opt into that and like we as we're watching, it should be able to see the opt in process and that's going to happen and that was very much missing. Yes. That's a great way of putting it. I will say see my clare really enjoyed it as after the competition she requested to hug all the naked guys. So. Something that I've been hearing a lot and that my friends and I have been talking a lot about is just At this point you know a lot of people have been in quarantine not seeing other people for a long time and I do think that it is palpable out in the universe that. People are not doing great with that. And I think clear might be one of them. She certainly brings it up a lot how much she just craved physical attach and hugs and like her loneliness and like. I think to your point many people can relate I do think that she is like a weird way like a voice of the people voice of the common woman where it just like I feel civil low and I just want to get married and I just want to. Hug abundant naked. DICKS press up against me like I. Just that's kind of what it comes down to and It was just really something to behold. The whole thing was like just so bizarre, it did feel like. I don't know if everyone's comfortable with this all participants now and Kim sent his important and I hope that no and violated. It was just like an all time. Weird moment on the Bachelorette they were just all air. Can have these moments maybe you know what? Now. I'm thinking out loud here I think this would actually be incredibly creepy to. Make, them strip one on one. I'm sure they would be more into that. They don't have to like we don't have to have six other people just standing around awkwardly while leg. You Rub the small of a naked man's back clare like. Very uncomfortable also, we're the hot tub episodes in Nary Hattab too hot for hot to find what about a plunge pool I mean I don't know what's wrong with these things even just a regular pool like the water will do such a great job of it's like it's like a blurring thing you guys can be. Very, physical and will know what's going on but there will be a nice level of like respectful distance I also I also feel like. Clare should hold office hours like they should turn these like they're now called after parties they should turn the after parties into like just a yearbook time with Clare sort of like user time on her calendar as we do now in quarantine if you work in the corporate company, it's like Oh just throw some time on your calendar, throw some time unclarity calendar and she can just wait for you by the pool and you just. Hang out the pool for thirty minutes. So frigging hot in palm springs letter get out in between to let her fingers like on shrivels like raisin fingers, fingers, and I. Think we've solved this problem she st everyone basically naked. So. It was just it was a lot. I couldn't believe it, and then the thing that was then like what the fuck is going on here was when Blake before he snuck over was castigated doing an it m which in the moment we talked to the camera holding his penis still naked he was just like. Just like what is going on, give this man a towel giving me his clothes back and I was like. Withholding their clothes like what? What's that? So the other thing that then Blake did was that and this continued when he went to get more time with her, it seemed like he was really into using the word balls. ADS like. To represent confidence like just St- we don't need this pun, and it's especially when everyone's been naked all day like it started making me so uncomfortable. Just say like Chutzpah like savvy I don't know something. Look it up in the store is because I just needed a break from a mostly naked like Harry Canadian man just saying balls into the camera over and over like Clare Wants. Like. They were having what was supposed to be a romantic touching conversation or whatever, and he just kept saying like, I, just really wanted to show you that I have some balls after today. It's like please stop. I. Hate this so much. We got it man you can cut it out there. Yeah he was he was too much. I did not care Blake. Because he tried to kiss her and she straight up projects him and like Clare Rejecting Kiss is not something I was I saw come in I mean who would have thunk? It also cleared having so much respect for the rules of this dodgeball game that like she didn't want to disrespect other men by giving him time and letting him kiss her just like this was a made up game. There are no real rules that was very strange very pious of her and I was just Talking about, I could not think of another example in the history of the show when. In the moment not like aftermath drama, but in the moment. Elite was like. You have to respect the rules and you can't have extra time with me right now like when does that have been and particularly Clare? Super Weird Super Weird. One thing about it though is you could see in that moment. To relish attention like absolutely loves it. She clearly is basks in. All the guys focusing on her and I think that she also loves feeling the power and it's kind of fun to see a woman like she was like get enough on the power of it all but. It's just disarming. Clare's the Bachelorette is not something I knew I needed and I said this last week like I could not do a full season of this. It's just like it was a lot is episode as coming fast and furious, and so many emotions and. I understand like therapy speak is like really these days I understand that like a like kind of using the terms it was formerly only like really heard between union therapists has used the national lexicon which I largely support just like a lot and not really what I watched the Bachelorette for. So it's just been such an experience and Kinda surprising I. Don't know what I was expecting from Clare Season and certainly not a quarantine season, but this is. Nothing I could have predicted especially her turning down a kiss that was just not not in the scouting report as they say here, sport. That was great. That was fantastic. What? It is it becomes really jarring when she's interacting with someone because I think a lot of the you know this is a gendered thing I. Think a lot of the men adopt the language of therapy and are more comfortable with it. Then contestants would have been however many years ago, but occasionally like. Jason's one on one I. Think is a good example of this show be interacting with someone who maybe isn't as comfortable using that type of language and thinking in that way and seeing it as a positive and you see the chasm between fluency and that and a lack thereof, and it's almost as if they're. Like they're on different planets that to me is when that comes through superstrong. One of these people has had so much practice is doing this and one of these people has just been like, no, no, no, no. No I can't ever do this and there are so far apart. So glad you brought up Jason's date I'd like to dig in their my my biggest shock of the episode. And I might have to eat my words that seems like a WHO get. Rough I think I liked Jason. Brandon voice I think Jason. Stranded ways. K.. Whisper. I was impressed. So here's my top question I studied hard kept doing a Lotta pausing was jason wearing socks I don't think he was I think he was wearing those like sneaker eve vary like light fabric. Sneakers that are now. Yes. Indeed has makes a lot of them too. I think they were. They're very like cinched up and I. Think some some guys wear them without socks. And I don't think he was wearing socks i. also think he was wearing joggers he because he was wearing joggers and he was wearing I think they're ultra boosts. Question. For yelped the disdain in your voice is that because of the way it looks without socks or because you're thinking about smelly feet, it's both although socks would have made that weirder because if we had if we had a sock coming out of those shoes and then we had the gap between the visible ankle and the the. Of the jogger like how many how many different levels are we working with here? I mostly thinking about sweaty feet again it is so hot there I, just don't understand how they're. Doing anything That outfit I think when we originally saw it, they started panning from the top and I felt like everything was okay and then all of a sudden we got to the ankle and it was just oh boy. Just. Just not good. Where do you stand on joggers in general I like them I, chaired Seltzer for manner both. For both I'm a huge supporter of the Lululemon Align joggers Oh, the superior jogger and the only Jogger I own. But I think very highly of them. I haven't got pair for all navy. Love it love day only be active wear great stuff very cheap as well. Always. I. Love It L. So I have a tricky time. I'm not that particular about most things joggers. Based on Jason. Exactly, those are my two. joggers have to fit me very precisely. So that's that's why I'm tired of and saying about those, Andrea. Lemon, I'm happy for you. A jogger that works is great. Yeah. Of course, due to clear a joggers are not joggers or not like formal wear. They're not like even casual date where like don't wear joggers on a date where More. Here's the thing I talked to myself into Jason I'm pretty sure I'm going to have to regret it next week seems like he gets agro but here's here's what I liked about Jason this week. Number One. I like the Jason. is just sort of like. Fuck it mode already he very much is just like I'm just doing me. He reminds me of like a character that like. That would be friends with another character played by Wilson, I don't even know exactly what you mean by that but I just imagined him hanging out Owen, Wilson Austin or something like a campfire something like that. Well you know you know what? He's a former offensive linemen and that is I'm stereotyping here but that is a position on a football team where. It's a group of five guys and they're big and jolly and they hang out and they crack jokes and that's the personality that you would associate with that and he's I think he's slimmed down a lot since playing bands. What did he signed was like two, hundred, eighty five when he was playing. Like three hundred, he weighed like three hundred and fifty pounds. I mean that also explains perhaps while he wants to where joggers to show off his new slim physique because I feel joggers are one for like kind of a slender stature and not not exclusively but it can show that off I ask you to look up his playing career. Was He good he? So he didn't none of these guys. Actually played NFL Games. However, you have to be a pretty good football player to be in multiple camps, but I feel like we're talking about we're talking about James Football career. We've talked about Dell. I gotTA. Shout easy. Who was the most successful NFL like Cam Star of. Guys. Yes. So he was on hard knocks and that was why just bring it back to the NASA thing if Ivan does have connections there one of the best things that easy did on hard knocks that season with the Texans was visited NASA and this was twenty fifteen and he got so upset that Pluto had been demoted from planet status. And he was just like they're visiting these astronauts and he just kept like. He was so many questions and he was so upset about Pluto. So but easy easy was like a really good. High School football player in Texas and then he went to am and he was a pretty successful receiver at am. L.. E. L., they would have overlapped and then he was on. The Texans practice squad for two years so that if we're ranking easy was the most successful at F. L. Player of these guys. Dale was really. Like a very talented athlete who actually only played a college football for one year, he played basketball before. and. So then he tried to convert to a receiver and it seemed like it didn't really work out but he was really really really like he would have been if he'd been more successful college player, he would have tested among the best receivers at the combine his ear but he just he you know it's hard to learn that much in a couple of seasons. I think I recall from preseason of this show that Jason has one of the Lowest Wunderlich scores of the history of the test. Can you explain what that test is? So the wonder like is it's a sort of mental acuity test that is given to football prospects, but it is considered to be pretty unfair and actually kind of useless. It becomes legend in some cases like Ryan Fitzpatrick apparently scored. People, used to say that he scored a perfect score on his Wunderlich and was like the only player to do that. That's apparently not true because he knows he left one question blank and the way the Wunderlich works is it's fifty questions and it's timed. So it's about how many you got right and also how many you complete and if he left one blank, it's not possible idiotic perfect score but the wonder like we can't hold Jason's wonder like against him because then then by the transit of property, we are not rooting for Lamar Jackson and we always refer Lamar Jackson. So. I just want to know what? It is the second lowest score of the NFL. It's really not good. Nonetheless I enjoy Jason's date. It was like a I kind of thought that he was being a good sport. He clearly is not like a meditative new age kind of Guy I. Mean I don't Wanna I don't WanNa stereotype in too much is just the vibes and I'm getting him I don't think that he is really. I don't think he has the emotional intelligence that Dale has displayed so far. Also. Yeah. Couldn't quite understand what happened to Jason has passed with his parents divorced. That was so scarring Brim. But you know I can't really my parents are still married and I personally have not been divorced. So I don't I don't know that's like I just thought that he was trying to meet Claire on this emotional level that he clearly does not go to very frequently. So he wants some points for me that way and I also will admit that at first glance before I did a lot of pausing zooming in I thought he was wearing socks so I was excited about that. Pretty sure he wasn't. Yeah. The SOX's major. Credit him for kind of jumping in to the extent that he can, and this is in some ways unfair because people should be able to process. Tough eggs that are happened in that have happened in their lives however, they want to especially if they're going to have to do it on tv but I do feel kind of like if you're going to allude to it you to say what it was like my parents got divorced when I was really little and like that's very easy for me to talk about and is not supercharged traumatic. So my reaction was like there's gotta be something else going on here. There's nothing going on and he was just trying to come up with something to say or he's just like. Not Nice to women and he knows it but didn't want to say that he's had a lot of like our or maybe women have been nice to him. But I felt like he had like right on the mill problems and so he was like just like searching for somebody to say and it wasn't that deep. In. This is all he could go with I. think that's more likely than he was covering something up i. like there's no there there. I really that's that's interesting I bought it way more than you did I was like this must be really really bad. I can't think of what it would be. I was trying to trying to figure it out I. Mean I I. Hope it's not nothing terrible but he did not seem super comfortable just exchanging information in that way he did seem like he was he seems like a really fun Guy Lake the amount of coaxing to just get him to say anything I found a little bit like I. Just don't I don't see this for Clare and like. I think we all watched these shows with a little bit of like what I like this person and of course, it seems like he would be really fun at a party I don't. Kind of the I three days later and or CNN incredible. But. Yeah, I just thought this was like. A needed dose of like a fun. Guy Dodgers someone who wanted to be Super Rochelle is Clare and also like. The only thing missing from their date was drugs that would have been a lot more fun. If they tripping in the desert while like burning stuff, you know that was like a subtext to me. That was clearly missing they should have been in Joshua Tree apartment palm springs I'm like, Iowa, or something or some other kind of like hallucinogenic but. Alas. They're on television could do that. Do you hope to drink lots into drinking this season a fair amount which like what else do you do and covid anyway? Although I think I shot that we saw clare she was drinking green juice out of a wine glass. Yes i. think that's correct. Probably Room Service right? Haven't you had that experience where you order something from room service and it comes in like the only glass they had available to them. That's a good call. Good call. I will say speaking of green juice in terms of injecting some fun and silliness into. Declare episodes that do seem like they're going to be dominated by a lot of feelings conversation. I am rooting so hard for a Bennett easy bromance like that scene where easy what into his sweet and it was supposedly nicer than everybody else's I was like I want to watch I want to watch these to get to know each other like I loved that. I kind of liked Bennett to I want he's clearly not the one not I mean, yeah. We know who the one is but. I enjoy Bennett also find it very attractive. I was a he's coddling a hot Clark Kent with his glasses on in the beginning of that. So I was just like, okay. This is a good luck kind of look a glasses model actually. He's also kind of he's like nerdy bending. They initially tried to play him as like Super Super Suave James can't pull that off. He's like Dorky he's attractive I really I like him too I wish that his time with Claire had been interrupted by her needing to go speak her mind about doesn't anybody want to hang out with me? Because I wanted to see if they were even going to be able to have a conversation because he did start off with something that was like so tell me about you or I forget what it was, but it was it was. There was a little bit of cringe at the beginning of that but I'm rooting for Bennett I like him I like him to. Learn about Claire is that if you WANNA be there if you want to be her lover, he got to be her friend in that means talking about how you feel that moment all the time it, which is just an incredible drag but fair enough I mean exhausting. Hope that they find happiness together. The final cocktail party, the rose ceremony cutoff clearly now, we can see that this which we did not air on site that poed is the culmination of the second cocktail party is Yo- safe confronting her you can tell from the dress it's the same one where she just does the the reason I'm still single because I wouldn't settle for Med like you which is just so funny Claire It reminds me of all the Bachelorette's. Of One who could have been scripted like unreal or something like that, and it's I. Thank you glare. Thanks for all. You're doing for us right now on our time of need the entertainment. She gave the rose to Blake to make up for the fact that she nagged him the day before and I guess that was nice. But just serve stringing him along but did you watch normal people nora now? Well, okay. Well, I'm just GONNA say that there's a man on it named Paul Meskel as a character named Connell who was wearing a chain for the whole show, and that chain got its own following and its own instagram account called cardinals chain. Dale, he debuted a chain at the cocktail party and I was wondering how true I was wondering if he watched people because there are reminded me a lot of chain. I wish I could reciprocate. Absolutely positive that this is an incredible take Juliet even though I did not watch his show great I did notice the chain because those shirts that he's been wearing. Of. Show it off. Fashion, remains mystifying through the end of the episode. He doesn't that I just WANNA know he doesn't look bad but it's such a choice to dress like a rat pack mad men chain wearing manned and twenty twenty in this Kobe season where like clearly ordered close online it was just like home in April being like, well, what can I order for myself? That? When I go the Bachelorette I'm GONNA look fresh to death and this is where he landed like I. I would love I wish that everyone had done like a media diary of like what they were watching like probably unfortunately, what video games they were playing I, guess that's probably a thing for this crop of gentlemen. During Kovic because that would tell me so much. But we're seeing right now like if I if I had the chance to talk to these guys, it'd be way more interested in knowing what they were doing it at three months before being in palm springs then like the three weeks that they were with Clare because I just feel it would tell me a lot. I want everyone. This is a note to everyone out there chronicle what you are doing, what you're reading, what you're watching this absolutely insane because it's going to have an outside you. I'm fucking connel's chain everywhere. In grotto, it's fantastic. Thanks I also on a more serious kind of note I notice a lot in the veto when Claire is talking about Dell and you together. A lot of different audio levels, lot of pickups and Franken topping there a lot of things being stitched together so It's it's very clear. I. I appreciate it though I'm happy I'm glad they didn't try to like make it sound like she wasn't ending up del since we all know about it. Right. Yeah, and then you know it'll give us time to explore important questions like. How? Split up closet space so that he can hang all of his shirts. and. If he owns other types of clothing that too, and she can she can store her shoes under his pants because even if they are hanging, they are shorter because of all of the ankle no God. Couple ship. Sure. Yeah. Of course a lot I mean, you watch house hunters you know that's a big consideration where the woman issues go in relation to the man's clothes I mean that's that's a staple of how centers of every single episode. Dale Dylan, Clare on other reality shows would be great going forward I'd love to know. More about what it's like to be clear. We're getting a lot I also like a she's just she's really something she's one of a kind. Do you like how much they're bringing up her age and she's bringing up her age I I go back and forth because they think that is that's totally a thing that women think about and worrying about whatever. But sometimes I'm like, okay, we got it like you're thirty nine. You're also stunning and in this position where you literally have a bunch of men fighting over you like you're fine it's fine. It's all going to be Fine Clare I. Think it's like. I think though she names many her insecurities and like many of the like a lot of the hurt she felt I think it's evident that her deepest insecurity as her age is about being thirty nine. And So I think in some ways, it's like. Honest about who this person is and also it's honest about not only the bachelorette portrays. Women and like at what age should be like settling down but I think it is a reflection of lake society. So I don't like necessarily like it. But in a weird way, I think it is a very honest portrayal of ageism that single women face. So I don't know what do you think? She needs to go read about Comma Harris and her husband Doug again. No I love. One of my celebrity crushes. So Clare get on port. Well I. Think it's an interesting question according to bring up because. I don't know if you follow back Kufr in on. Instagram do yeah. BECCA. Freezing process and I think that's very cool. Sheena did banner pump roles with a lot of drama and she talked about it a lot in. A way that I don't think it's completely realistic but nonetheless, I think people like women's talk about that more. So I think it's really cool that Becca is showing that off especially she's like fresh off a break-up that everyone knows about rights like right there's like a lot of. A lot there and so I think that's kind of cool. So I'm torn on the Clare Age thing I don't feel like it's exploited. The way that Colton virginity was as like in the marketing of the show in the same way but she just she happens to bring it up a lot at least as far as we are seeing. Yeah. No, it's. It's coming from her at least as much as it's coming from the the framing of the shell maybe the reason that I respond to it, that way is just because. I. Wish the world were different in the context of what it's like. It makes sense but sometimes. Sometimes. She'll bring it up and I'll just think I don't think the guy you know whoever she's talking to think I don't think he was thinking about that. Clare like you don't. I'm sure he wasn't. I don't think that these guys are sitting down and be like shut. The clock is ticking for Clare we gotTA figure out this is GonNa work or not. Highly. Doubt that they are highly highly doubt. This will probably don't care. It's probably way more off putting to like have this window into her every feeling is to like her age like probably a way bigger burden to like Oh. This is how she's feeling like Oh she's thirty nine and I'm twenty eight or whatever or not Arizona vacuum. It's just it's a it's a weird thing I will say like as we're talking. I-, General Skeptical, and critical of the way that many of the women from the Bachelor and the Bachelorette like go on to like have podcast and to do like instagram Promo or whatever. But I do think in a in a very narrow sense like with people like Becka Kuprin and and some others you do get to see them a slightly fuller people as a result of the second career that comes along with it and so like though they are like introduced you as like. Women who are dying to get married or like searching the one they then go on to have like a second life as a fuller human that kind of undercut that in in a positive way. So there's plenty to be skeptical and cynical and dismissive about, but there are positives to. Yeah. But that makes sense I wonder what what will be in the future for for Clare she and it's just very hard to have small dose of Clare. I wish her and Dale the best of luck and I'm looking forward to seeing her fight with Yo safe next week I. think there were. They've given. We're seeing a lot of what's in the PROMOS for Clare Season. So can have that much time left. You know I think we might be like halfway Blair yeah. We're waiting for. You can't wait to see how that plays out north. Thank you so much for joining me for this excellent episode of the Bachelorette. I'll be back on Thursday talking more about this silly show Nora you can find on the radio dot com and the ringer NFL show for stellar football analysis like she gave us on this episode today. So please check it out and thanks so much for listening.

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FTM Top Surgery

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FTM Top Surgery

"Ever wondered what motivates people to get plastic surgery. Did they regret it. What can we learn from the stories of plastic surgery patients. We're here to explore those questions and get some of the answers with my guest. Blake on the plastic surgeon podcasts. However my friends welcome back thanks to our listeners. For the amazing feedback. We have had so much fun so far and look forward to more of your insights and suggestions please rate and review us. An apple podcast helps get you more amazing content other plastic surgeon podcasts. We listened to real plastic surgery stories of triumph and pain from real patients and providers to further understand the motivations a why it would restore life under the knife. I'm dr jefferson is my guest. Today is awesome. Blake blake underwent gender affirming top surgery transitioning from female to male with me. We here to talk to you about your journey. How are we came to know. Each other. the procedure you underwent and how it affected you blake so blake. where are you from. I'm from snohomish. Washington is that where you were born and raised. Yes during your childhood transitioning became something that you thought of is that right. Yeah by knew what looking back. What really hit me it was about. Kindergarten is when i knew that i was trans. How did you know it really. My most vivid memory was when i was a kid and i was on the playground out at recess and they all the girls were cheering for boys and i was like well. Why are they jarring for me. I'm playing with them. How did you know that transgender was. The thing or gender was at that age. I didn't know what trans was at that age. I just knew. I didn't feel like a girl and i didn't identify with the rest of the girls that were my age in. Did you find yourself trying to dress differently or be differently in kindergarten. Davos on another vivid memory is like my grandparents supported me and they would buy me boy clothes and my mom would get him set at them constantly. How did they know you like boys clothes because when lab take me shopping for like school clothes or something. That's all i would want. What are your mom. Say about it. She would logistic get discouraged like no. You need to be wearing girl's clothes or you should wear this or you should wear that and it's like no don't want to. It's not what i wanted harder than make you feel when your mom said that. I didn't really understand it at the time but it just made me feel sad you living with your grandparents now living with my mom and my dad and i'm an only child where your grandparents in town or were they far away the they've just living monroe which is about twenty minutes from snohomish how often with they see you I don't know at least a few times a month. Probably a misconception but you often feel people from an older generation are more likely to be supportive of something like that. Why do you think your grandparents were supported. My grandma's definitely a person of the sixties so she definitely was more supportive and open minded about different people per se. Did anyone talk to you about gender at that around that age or up as an issue. Now i never came up as an issue i might. I don't think my parents even heard the word trans until i came out later. And then during your education. When did you start learning by gender until high school in how did elementary middle school treat you elementary. I wasn't so much of an issue. Knew that i was tomboy. So that's just too. I was middle. School was definitely hard. Because i started experimenting was sexuality and a little bit of gender more but definitely i didn't like still realize it until about thirteen so middle school at thirteen is when everything hit the fan and when you see were experimenting with sexuality. What do you mean by that. Did you have other partners. At that age i Had my first girlfriend that like what thirteen or something at the middle school age. So i would. That's when i realized i was gay but the gender thing was like in the background. Still so you were presenting as a girl and then you were quote unquote dating a girl that age. Yeah in where she also was. She also gay or lesbian. How did she know she was like that. Honestly i don't know we just kinda like i didn't know until like i had feelings for her until like talking about that kind of stuff. How did that pop up. just i just. I don't know. I started seeing things on tv. And i was like i'm gay. I like this girl. Was it a show or a moment in tv that you saw that made you understand. Learn about it started with glee. I think with a lot of people. My age glee was the first major television show that had visibly people on it and then are you dated this girl for a little bit of time. Yeah probably midway through high school so from seventh grade to with my sophomore year and people in your school nor you were with her. Yeah would they say saana surprisingly accepting. I don't know if it's just me. I'm one of those people that doesn't tolerate a lot of crafts. They didn't mess with me. Aren't but not a lot came up. I mean it did occasionally where people would store to try and bully me. But it's just never was an issue for me and were you dressing more quote unquote like thomas at this age or where you dressing more of a traditional female role. I was more traditional female seventh and eighth grade and then my freshman year is when transitioning came up. How did you learn the transgender ism. If you will is a thing I that's when. I got my first phone at the time and i could start doing my own research and then the internet you started looking up gender or did you start doing i Really came up in. Like anime is what i started looking at is japanese cartoons. Yeah okay on like gay people on gender in that kind of stuff. And because i really was a huge anime fan at the time i used to watch dragon. Ball z a concentrate. Yeah i was into martone. Yu-gi-oh oh yeah. I don't know who tell ya transgender people on show not necessarily trans people. I mean you could probably pick some out but The gender neutral thing is what really started to strike me on the androgen. On what i'm okay. This like character called haku was a boy but looks really really feminine But they didn't present it as a gender thing in did that person have partners relations of the same gender or that was never thing that was never an issue. It just that person was extreme. Land-route join us. Then what where did you go from there. I started The jenner came up more. This was twenty eleven twenty twelve and sell more like gender issues. Were starting to come up in the media. And so i just started looking at all that stuff and i was like all this is making sense to me. How is your mom responding towards this. I kept it very private at the time. So i didn't really see it much. I hid it from her grandparents or anybody else in your family. Now know who you just my friends at school. Our responding to this Most of them very very well The ones that weren't i figured out really weren't my friends Not so well. And i ended up distancing myself from them. When did you. is in high highschool. You decided you were transgenders incorrect. It came out the beginning of my sophomore year. When you say you came out with his that me. I started telling people that i was trae. Who did you tell. I i told my best brand at the time. And what is your friend. Say should didn't really know what to say at first. But she was like. I mean if this what what you want want that school. Were you going in therapy or anything. Like that during this half No my mom. When i came out as gay in middle school. My mom tried sending me to therapy. I refused regular therapy or conversion therapy. It was regular therapy but what the goal conversion in mind in. Why don't you go to it. I didn't want to talk to anybody at the time. inland the therapist that she sent me to was her choosing. And it was an older guy that i knew had no idea about Bt issues out of christian origin he was like out of a christian related organization at. I just asked everything about. It was red flags for me. Do you meet with them where you just researched him now. I met with them probably ten times. Oh you did yeah just to be loyal or nicer submits now because my mom made me not make sense it. How tell me how those interactions one. 'cause a lot of people go through that. I was really tense. I mean i really didn't talk much. I just answered basic questions. But i wouldn't give him like any information about myself. What would he tell you he just. He was so closed off. He didn't really know what to do. Besides prion he kept like asking questions about. Why did i feel this way and stuff like that. And i just wouldn't answer. Indeed you try redirecting you not telling you that maybe you're incorrect or where you're thinking is wrong. not really. because i wouldn't let it get there mean. I knew better. I knew what i knew. What the goal in mind was so. I just refuse to let it get that way. How do you stop therapy. My mom's new. The was any point anymore so she just let me stop going. You came out to your friends in high school. When did you tell you. Mom told her. December sixteenth twenty thirteen specific. How do you tell her. i told are pretty much forcefully after she went through my phone and found some conversations with brands and pretty much forced me to come out. How did that go bad. What happened I was pretty much cornered in in the living room of my childhood home. And i had diab. Tell her that. I was drowns. Wife out this way felt this way my whole life. Even though she ignored all of the signs that there was no denying. What did she say she said. No you can't be this way you've never you've never been a boy and all these kinds of things but it was like i tried explaining to her and pointing out memories in my life that i even told her I think it was third grade. I mentioned to her. That i felt like a boy and i remember that day and she doesn't and i think she blocks it out of her mind would he. She say after your conversation in your living She originally said that it's okay. We'll get through this. But then her actions following that disproved or actions She basically didn't talk to me for a couple months after that. You know living in the same home basically nothing will happen and then just everything was hard after that i. Our relationship didn't improve until two years ago we're happened. Two years ago that improved. I think it has enough time passed and she realized that you know this is my only child. And i'm gonna love him if he's a man or not. Did you have a conversation or did is just finally. Aw i got finally thawed Because things were so tense. I didn't let her into my personal life. A lot I mean things gradually improved but like personal relationships never mended until that point so transitioning is a spectrum right. People do it differently in different ways when you when your mom learned about it. Is that when you started presenting socially as a male I think that's when she likes started looking into it. I started presenting pretty much right after it came out Fully like socially transitioning in for people that don't know can you tell us what socially transitioning means being that. I started telling people might pronounce where he him. And i defied as male and at that point is when i changed. My name is blake in d. c. Start addressing started by more boy clothes Email close if you will. Yeah it would you mom call you. Blake or now now and she still doesn't today. Who started calling you blake. I my friends in how the school respond to digital him or what happened with that. I didn't really go far into taking the effort to tell my teachers. Because i care But i made an effort to tell my friends and classmates to refer to me as he him and blake. Wouldn't they say I didn't get much pushback. There are just like okay in other than socially transitioning. Did you start anything else now. When the ice thawed with your with your mom. Where did she take from there. How did how did things get better. I think she she never really had a conversation about it as we still really haven't i think she just said it's not about me and this is a you are and i just have to love you for who you are. She said that in less words over the years would were your grandparents ain't during all this. They knew they didn't have a lot to say an and didn't want to make a rift in the relationship with my mom either so they did the best they could just step back and do the least the and then when. Everything's really boiled over. When i came out my grandma decided. She's gasping ram. Did you have other family members who knew now my family's very small was your dad. Involved in your is yeah. He's still in my life but he's pretty much has gone along with. My mom has said the entire time. So now Mountaineering twenty everybody's comfortable with correct. Yeah after you socially transitioned. When did you decide you were gonna medically transition. I decided immediately. That i was gonna medically transition one before. I even come out but the issue was is. I knew my mom and my dad weren't going to be supportive and They actually made a condition with me. That i couldn't even cut my hair until i was eighteen years old. And so definitely couldn't take rounds or medically transition at that point. So i didn't take our until i was twenty hard you Start medically transitioning. I did a lot of research on our on endocrinologists in our area and found one that was taking new patients. Do they make you go through counselling before you started hormone. Yeah and that was one thing that i actually did through high school without my mom knowing is on when i would work i would save my input royer and luckily there was a therapist in the area that was doing like an algebra not grant I forget what the name of it even is but each session last ten dollars and it was. I was able to go see her talk to her and do like the old fashioned way. I mean you can call it the old fashioned way on you had to get a letter for a recommendation and all kinds of stuff Before transitioning so. I did that and then i took. I forget what it's even called. But it's basically the gender evaluation tests and that's how i got a letter of recommendation before going to the endocrinologist. Very easy opening her. Her name is actually. Dr larry cooper at the polyclinic seattle. Do you drove from bellingham to seattle from some mr to seattle when you start hormones at twenty. What were you doing was your. What were you in college. Were you working redone. Yeah it was a fulltime working college student and So i worked at the local op. Doing feed store work and then fulltime college set ever community college. Were you studying nuclear medicine. That's cool what he wanted to be a nuclear medicine. What does that mean so. Nuclear medicine is the opposite of x ray so we give people radio tracers it through their iv's allege like most common one nuclear medicine as a heart scan. So like i give an ivy It's called technician. Ninety nine am sesame goes to the heart and then we detect the radiation coming out of the patient and calm maters. How did you learn about that. I was originally interested and ultrasound. But then i started looking at all. Imaging and nuclear medicine was interesting thing. That's cool when did you decide. Surgery was for you. blake When i decided that working out was to painful with a binder when did you start binding. I started finding in two thousand thirteen so branded for seven years. How did you. Why did you start. As i was very uncomfortable with my chest however you uncomfortable. This having breast tissue and tavern female shape was uncomfortable. And then you started looking into surgery after your after you did the hormones in your twenties correct is sorta looking at surgeons. When i came out how did you hear about me in this process. I'm just looked in the area. Because i knew i didn't really wanna travel in just looking. I've looked for a long time. How did you tell your mom that you wanted surgery. I told her that. I was uncomfortable with my body and i can't live us anymore. How did she respond to you being on hormones in your physique your voice here everything changing just pretty silent about it. She didn't Really react until you know about two years in about a year ago that i started really looking male and Now show light. Tell me that i'm handsome. And things like that and that's nice to hear But definitely took her awhile. What was the final thing that made you decide to book your concept and start the process for surgery That i just was starting to physically get unhealthy and depression That i wasn't trading myself right because of the destroyer and discomfort research. Some doctors ran across my name right. What made you wanna see me out of everybody else. Goes a few people in the seattle area. Do this You're definitely were listed with the most experienced emmaus positive feedback. Do you wash the surgeries life. Yeah that help you make your decision. Yeah i've definitely kind of a medical nerds. i watch all the surgeries. that's cool. So you watch my snaps and you see how we do. Think it to the different kinds of operations we can do for chest reconstruction right where there is something called the anchor approach where you basically assist female reduction of done more aggressively. There's something called a keyhole. Regis make a small incision underneath the nipple take tissue out and then there's the most invasive a double incision a double incision is making decisions on each side. I remove the from the body. Remove the tissue leipold sculptor more male physique and put it back together in this procedure. The nipple is re transplanted is called an auto transplant under on the body to create more male physique so we talked with different options during your concept. How did that go. It went well. I was trying to convince myself at the time that i was eligible for keyhole definitely wasn't i had too much tissue for too much fold and Once i accepted that i had to get double incision surgery at it clicked in my head pretty well after that. So why were you thinking. Keyholders double season. Because i didn't want the double incision scars and Being very obvious like to the public. If i were to take measured offer something was it hard to accept that you would lose on implicit sation with the dublin. Because that's one of the things that happens with that operation. Now it wasn't. And i see a lot of people that are concerned about that and get kind of detached about that but i never was too concerned about. That doesn't bother me now. After the console you went home. You talk to your mom about it. Not really now. Were you doing everything and paying for it with the other work you were doing or was she helping you with it. I'm thankfully on my parents insurance. So that as how for everything when you told her you really wanted surgery. How did she respond. Blake at this point. When i went through the console that i was in the process scheduling and everything. She was supportive at this point. Did you wanna come to the console to learn herself or not really narrowly. Why do you think so. I was just the In her mind just to consult on. This is a piece of the process. How do you feel when you book surgery. I've felt really good was going through your mind that you were going to make this Permanent change in your body does really good question. Because i honestly i was like okay. This is part of my process. And i didn't like the at that point in time and it wasn't a huge moment for me which i think is a little strange looking back now but it's just a phase. Ah surgery was approaching in the night before what was going through. I had never had major surgery. Saw is like oh my god. What if something goes wrong then. We did your surgery. We ended up doing double in such session. Chest reconstruction with free nepal graph. You are part of our docu series. Reformed it how And then you went home the same day. How did you feel that day. After the surgery was done. I felt really good that it was done i am. I just was really focused on healing at that point in getting to know you a little bit blake. I know you're more of a private person. But you happy to share with others. You'd agree to be part of our tv series to share your experience. What made you want to agree to that Coming from such a small town. I was fortunate that people were pretty accepting and progressive. I guess progressive on Learning new things about people and that people are different and trans people really. Aren't that different from any other person. But i i have plenty of friends and now people in other places that aren't and Don't have that acceptance. And i would rather those people become people out learn about it and become accepting and learn that. It's not different. How was it different. I mean i had do become a male the physically and socially but i'm no different than any other male. How do you feel now after surgery. I feel much more confident and just happy with myself. And i don't opt to stress that i have to wear a binder for eight hours a day again in that my back in my ribs are gonna hurt. How did the scars make you feel when you see them in the mirror. At first it was a little jarring because this is not exactly not what i wanted but that only lasted for about a week and then after that i was like well these are now and it shows what i went through when you see not what i wanted. You mean that type of operation or the look of the chest. What do you mean by that. The look the past mainly Because i adjust the because they were so dark up i mean. There's only a week old scars. I took a lot outta me to look at him. What did you make what what thoughts went through your mind when you look at them. As like the first thing i was like people are going to know. I'm trans when they look at my chest. But then i was like now not really not a lot of people will immediately associate it with that. Why do you care if people know you're transgender. Because of the stigma that has has been around being transgender. For so long i mean when Burst jenner caitlyn jenner Came out a lot of bad media reaction. And that was how i thought i would be treated at i By like any media or things like that are just the public in general. But now i see the not immediately drew. You mean example. The bad stigma that you think is associated with transgender people That no matter. The comments icy are no matter. How many hormones you take all the surgeries you're you do you'll never be the gender gender like you'll never be a man or you'll never be a woman you see the. How does it make you feel. This makes me feel sad The the matter you even though you see somebody went through such a great process that you would deny somebody that in somebody else's mind. What are you doing now with your life up to a fulltime called student working through my internship ready to graduate in five months. Oh you're doing it so. Your internship is a nuclear medicine are you. Do they pay you for that. That's just something you do part of your educating bits and unpaid internship in are you working any jobs right now. yeah. I work for attract on weekends. Oh what do you do there. It's like a home improvement feed store that's cool and then you have your horse tad right. Yeah tell us about ted. Ted is of big goofball. He's a seventeen hand pain that i show in western pleasure. That's awesome what's next in life my friend Justice to get out a covert in start working. Are you in any relationships right now. Yeah do you have a girlfriend. I have my partner is non binary. Okay that's cool in. How did you find them. I approached him one night after one. Other shows drag bar acquire here in town. How long ago was that. That was a year ago now in how things been going. We've it's good. We have a good relationship. They actually had some work done by you. Also that's a that's awesome. Where do you see your future heading you staying with your mom right now. Do you have your own place. I am living at home right now. after graduation and getting a job first thing going to move out. Are you going to stay in. Snohomish county In a state. Probably awesome so blake. You've read a tremendous journey. If there was one thing you could share with other people who are going through this. That would have been good for you to hear. What would that be. The probably the best thing is that you have to live with yourself and you can't even if you have a small family like mine where you're Your basically your immediate family all you have. You can't let their opinion affect you because you have to go to bed every night with yourself and if you're not happy with yourself than what are you for. Are you happy now blake yes. That's awesome thank you so much for being my guest today blake. Your story is so strong. So powerful. When i think about it really helps me see how an individual persons will determination guides them through difficult difficulties and sometimes a lack of support at home. I think you being. Us made you so great today and helps else helped. Create the life that you have in the life you're going to have. I have learned a lot. I neu- ordeal will teach our listeners. How in what to expect as they go down their own plastic surgery journey. I appreciate your time and honored to have you as a good patient. I would say my friend blake. Thanks for listening to the plastic surgeon. Podcast and please rate in reviews on apple podcasts for more amazing content for life surgeries on snapchat and my adventures throughout the we catch up on all social media at real doctor seattle. See you next time dan.

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