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Craig Tiley - Australian Open Tournament Director and Tennis Australia CEO

The Functional Tennis Podcast

06:09 min | 2 years ago

Craig Tiley - Australian Open Tournament Director and Tennis Australia CEO

"Welcomed episode forty eight of the functional tennis podcast. This week we have the great pleasure of speaking to Craig tightly. Ceo of tennis. Australia and director of the Aussie Open. Craig tells us all about his coaching success in college tennis in the states and then move and Australia to work for tennis Australia and the different jobs. He's done there. We also talk about the challenges of the current Cova situation on looking at Grand Slams and the Aussie Open in twenty twenty one. He tells us the first time you met Roger Federer and we've to gray questions sent into a spire instagram fons. It's a great episode. Hope you enjoyed before we get started. Make sure to go over to our new. Instagram account called functional tennis podcast. And give us a follow shed into a podcast sponsors head. I've been using head rackets and says a kid I I had Agassi's ownby racket. Which absolutely loved. I've been using heads on and off really ever. Since but mainly used the radical tried to use the prestige. But I find a wasn't really couldn't always struggle on the double handed pack and with it the radical for me less a bit more room for errands bit more stable for me. So thank you guys. Okay let's talk the Craig. Hi Craig how are you good? Thanks for talking to you from the other side of the world. I. It's amazing top. You're on board. It's really big privilege. Heavy speaking here on. Yes well thank you very much couch to find that Albert. How you became the talk. Mind an tennis Australia and wound most of man in tennis anytime you speak to tennis player. They rave about what you've still not the OSCE open so can't wait to hear Beth dot before we get started. Let's talk a little bit about your early tennis career. I know you're very successful coach in the states head. Did you get involved agenda in the states or let me start out by saying it's always difficult to talk about these things in the context of the of the current climate that we ran and And having to isolate and Dual of things that we need to do to protect health system so so I apologize to beat but late to the call because as you would not which is handled. I in front of the screen on video conferences. But it's all good but Allsteel question out against the US. I was a young kid loved the game and I started later when he starred thirteen four. She was considered extremely nights. And I. I had aspirations to be a a great to be a tennis player and I loved it. I love training playing and was never realized that call and was fortunate. Enough to grow rails. That early enough This trying to make it through the twenties thirties. So one-sided centerstage Katie Myself and finished from military service on the obligations. I had to do in South Africa. Right got on the plane and went to Europe the tennis there and then an answer. GonNa go to the US and get an education. And I went with plans to stay four years and ended up staying for Dean so I think that's kind of be my modus operandi. Chris time they happened will strata was Kinda come for a few years. I being sixteen says I'm getting constant and helping and really enjoying you're making a statement wherever you go on your coach so you end up your coach successful coach at Illinois Your Coach Year Multiple Times. How did you move into coach? Well I think You when you have love the game. I'm made people in this report cost wooden and These many different career opportunities. You haven't you can be administering coaching and playing and officiating at it is. And it's such a global sports go to common language as the lines of the ten school. The highest the net that determine that commonality around the world his great battle. I did match my my love of the game with my desire to help people and those two things came. Together and I agree deal of personal fulfillment and professional satisfaction out of helping other than using vehicle for that. And when you love what you do You willing to constantly always improve and in the lookout for ways to get better and learn from others and and And I look back in hindsight down I think on on reflection and I think that because two things the desire to help people and the love of the game I was able to learn a lot and And we spoke to their slam today and I think that is one of the one of the most of being able to be lucky. Enough have had some success so the coaching side. I loved and I always did enjoyed like challenging the status quo and I enjoyed being told that things wouldn't happen. And when you star they wanted to physicist coaches ahead who was the famous Stuart Doyle from From the University of Arkansas was great to have stood for the team. We started the success and a period of thirteen years. We took a college program from no age of the best in the country for quite a few years and ended up having some many players that went on really well. Kevin Anderson from South Africa was one of the top five in the world recently. And so we've had. It's it's been divorced. Plays that success in fun to watch. The Program says the success that it did but it was. Secret is wakeup rewarding. Do the best you can do. People will treat them how you wanted to be treated because you always going to be decided runaway do on the way down and just look as hard as you can see because look for improved. Button could come. It's a long journey on a short June. I completely agree with you. The daily grind getting open put into hard work. But just getting back to you mentioned dodd. Some listeners here. We solicit snarled and they all know stuey dial of his great tennis abilities. What was he liked back in the day? All should say knows to you'll identify sanity mall. One thing that he did teach the ethics I'll never forget it. It's still resonates with me as what it takes to win a points and what it takes to be good and amount of effort and pain in the work. You've got to go through to do that and His attitude is competitive attitude on On improvement rubbed off. Funny Everyone Cussin' that's why everyone loved because by him and always say you is one of the few met. That's would be willing to go through the same pain himself To prove the others what it is versus telling you what to do.

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

05:04 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Was in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's now. I don't know a lot about her mom. I'm just beginning to learn a might. We question that stage as far as the beginning stage based on some of the things. She's telling me about mom. It may be moms a little further along than maybe the beginning of her disease but nonetheless there are things that we look for specifically in the beginning stages than we see things that progress into the mid mid stages as I call them and then in the light stages so the Alzheimer's Association divided up into several different categories. I just do beginning middle in early mid late three categories. Because it's easier for this. Little Brian to keep track of and so realizing the kind of dementia have are your loved. One has and where they are in that journey if they're just beginning the middle or in their late stages that will help answer the question of potentially. How long will they live? But as you know there's so many things that can happen that can change on jeopardy but what I wanted her to know more specifically than anything is that understanding the kind of dementia mom has understanding what to expect what those stages look like having that base knowledge will make the journey easier. And that's what I want for you and that's why do this show so arranged for her to call me back tomorrow. She was actually with her mom when I talked to her earlier in this. Call me tomorrow when your wife for MOM and We'll get into more detail but understanding that those various stages will definitely have a dramatic impact on the caregiving experience because it has an impact on who they are at that time what they can do and what they can't do and what they can do in the early stages of the disease is definitely greater than what they can do in the later stages of the disease so for our next several shows for next three shows. We're GONNA talk about early stage. Alzheimer's midstate Alzheimer's in late stage Alzheimer's. I'll be covering those in the show to help. You may be discerned where your loved when he is or may be where you are. Maybe you have to mention. You're wondering where you are in that process and then understanding. What is normal for those stages to help you prepare yourself if you're the one with dementia or you as the caregiver to ban little more ahead of the game to know this is coming in. I'm preparing myself mentally and physically and preparing my home in maybe making plans for the future sparseness in living memory care and why that's important so be sure to join me on our upcoming episodes of let's talk dementia. We posed a three to four episodes every week in their free. You can find them everywhere so check him out on itunes and on Youtube and everything is on our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org Pure so inclined to make a donation to keep our ministry floating especially during these times of quarantine Thank you very much for that. Now GonNA finish. The show is here. Look and I can tell. I was outside today with my sunglasses on because I can see right. Where my sunglasses were. That's just not a cute look. Is it so? If you're listening to this. You are spared that yea for you. Well I hope you guys have a great caregiving journey tune in every day but especially for the next three to learn about stages of dementia that is brought on because of Alzheimer's lessons miles on your caregiving journey by. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all made more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:12 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Well Hello Everybody and Carol Hal which let's talk dementia. You've chosen join me as I sit here. Recording this episode. I realize I've got readers around my neck in readers on my head. I've got readers all over my house yet. Do you think I know where they are when I need them? No and then I take my readers off and I can't find my regular classes. Do you guys have these problems? Will today I wanted to share with you. A question that came from Janna Smith Genesis. Caring for her Step Dad who was a hundred years. Old Amazing isn't it? I have a client who is one hundred seven I believe and she a couple years ago told me she was going to get married. I'm like hey go for it. Who Am I decided right? She did not get married but jam. This is asking about when it is time to move from traditional underclothing undergarments and in this case on boxer shorts for her Stepdad. In for changed him into depends right when it's time to make that move and and she was expressing her frustration because her dad. Whose name is John Utterly. That's yes John He Urinate Liver. Everything in all the woman does is wash because she washes underwear. She washes closing. She washes bedding. She washes sheets pillows. She washes chair covers. She washes stuff all the time and her big frustration that brought about the email and a phone conversation. We had came win in the midst of all of this washing and drying her dryer dies. You know sometimes you just reach your point. Don't you think it's interesting? How in our lives the great big things? We seem to manage. It's the minutia of the day. The little things that sometimes. We'll just put US ride over the edge in for her. She kind of reached that when she called me and she said how do I know when it is time for him to start using Thebenz and I said well the answer is now thank you for Calling Goodbye. And she just laughed. I'm like this. Is You know no big deal. Just make it happen. I remember when it was time for my momma to move from her underwear and panties into depends pull up type products. I was really concerned about that. Just like Janice was because my mama had her underwear sent from a store in Washington state and my mom live in South Carolina. She loved her unware issue. Talk about how the most wonderful thing she ever worn. Not Oh if we take these away in wicked Mama these pull ups which aren't pretty. They're just not now. They're better than they used to be. You can even get them in colors. But they're still not my mom's comfortable underwear. She is going to not be happy. Well I'm a couldn't care less. She just transitioned ride into as if it was nothing. I'm still sort of shocked about that. So I told Janice this very well may be the same type thing with John. I did read the mand her going ahead and removing from the house all of his boxer shorts two reasons for that one. John Won't find them and put them on into Janice won't just give up is just forget it. You can wear whatever you out to him. Frustrated with you because they're going to have any kind of like when you were potty training your kids you know you got rid of all the diapers so they had to use the bathroom in you had met help them learn. Because you've already got rid of all the diapers understand that. But I told her I town it's GonNa be as big of a deal as she thought whereas you're imagining it to be and you know what she since written feedback and he was fine with whatever. I can do that. That's fine and it does cut down on the number of loads of laundry. The poor woman cut do all the time and we have to think about things like that. I told her also consider the blue pads that you can put under them. While they're lying on the bed you can either put it directly underneath them in their absorb it or underneath the sheet to hold it in place in most places do that. I think directly underneath the sheet where it separates the sheep from the mattress. So then the only thing that you might have to wash would be the fitted sheet. You can get those blue pads are disposable where you can get the conduct you wash then again. Backed Washington bunch of stuff. That's not so much fun. Will they not do recommend is if you're buying pull ups for a male by the kind made for men because where the urine comes out in a male is in a different position than it is on a female like you didn't know this already but if you're going to buy who loves you might not think about it so with the mail that sticker up near the Front for female. It's thicker down near the bat because of where you're GONNA come out. It's just GonNa work better so by mail products for males female products for females. Neither the to show mix so she did that. You also wrote me that. She had another item. She wanted discusses in Emma's like happy to read it and she said John has a boo boo under his nose above his lip there that he picks at all the time and she cannot get it to heal up. She tried putting a band aid on it. She's tried doing everything she knows reminding John. Quit picking adequate picking at it. But you know she doesn't keep eyeballs on John. Twenty four seven in just as soon as she's not looking you know what he does sure enough. Yep He takes the scam right off of that boo boo and it's not very attractive. And it's kind of embarrassing. We go out in public. But what are you gonNA do about it? Well my bought for her. Is this get it checked? Let's make sure we don't have some ambition going on there that there is not something that we need to be treating that it needs some kind of medication or some action taken and if everything is okay they may be just back off a little bit. In every time John goes to pick on it remind him not to. But don't stop there. Take that next sentence to be something like Hey John how about we do this instead. So we've taken John's hands from picking on this thing on his lip. Now we're GONNA take those hands and do something different to keep his hands busy and take his mind off of his lip. She's not able to do that every time. And you have to recognize that you just have certain capabilities within yourself. There are things we can change in our world. There are things we cannot change. Are we learning that Moore so right now in the midst of Rana virus than ever before and it's true in caregiving so we have to kind of take a chill pill sometimes and choose our battles and so that was my advice from his? Janice and I would love to hear from you. I am offering free thirty minute. Phone consultations they don't cost you don a promise you they don't cost you a dime you just need to go to. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and Click on calendar events. I have put up some dates for the next week or two and you can click on the day and the time that works for you and you have instructions there to email me your phone number and I will call you at the day. On the day time you selected and we'll talk about what's going on in your caregiving world. Maybe you just want to share your frustration or maybe you have a question or maybe have a story just calm love having the conversations and Hey. I make that interaction too because you know what? I'm quarantined to. My husband always tired of looking at me. Well I want you guys to be very safe and I want you to win you what I want when you think about. You need to go out for something to think about this. Do I need it enough to risk my life than others? I don't care what it is unless it's medication and you can have that liver. Don't go out just don't you don't meet whatever it is that bad. My daughter and I had decided that for Easter Sunday. Since we can't be together she would cook a meal and I would cook too cook part of the meal. How could the other parts million we would leave it on each other's doorsteps so we have a regular Easter dinner? That meant I needed to go to the grocery store public today or tomorrow and get a ham which. Ps I do not eat but my son in law my daughter and my husband likes and I was going to go out just for the ham wasn't is just dumb. That is we do not need a ham bad enough to risk getting corona virus. Dying no especially for this girl. Don't even eat me so what I'm thinking about doing is placing my my monthly order groceries through the delivery service. I use INSTA- cart and if they have a Ham. I'll get the Ham if they don't have the ham carols not going to go out and buy one. I'm just not we don't do that. Spe- say don't spread what you've got and don't be in a place where you might get what someone else has in. Let's stop this whole situation in our world by being responsible all right. I hope you smile a lot. Hope in the process of all that's going on in our world you remember. You will come through this. We all will come through this in. Life's GONNA be different. Life will still be good. God still going to be with us at left. Us never will lessen since miles. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a vhf dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US Today. Peril howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols best selling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

08:55 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Caregivers this is Carol. Let's talk dementia. Well today I met the sewing machine. I got to thinking about dementia in something. That's been a an important part of my world because my mama made everything us. Three girls war all our clothes. I mean all our clothes. She made she even made my dad's leisure suits. Do you guys remember leisure suits from the nineteen seventies where she made him with that double stitching on the outside? She made our joy reason covered our furniture. And well. I got a little bit of that talent but boy nothing like what she could do. But today I am covering Or recovering some pillaged from my law. That just got. They didn't look so that in it made me think about all the times I would sit and watch moms sub and she would teach me how to so so a little bit going beard. You're listening to this year. That noise in the background. That's the sewing machines which are not static on telephone in. Mamma taught me how the so and I'm glad I think about her lot now is I'm working on this but there came a point. My Mama's journey of dementia that sewing frustrated her and so I would be there to help her on the frustration that she would experience and she could keep going in. We would accomplish projects the last project moment I ever made together was we made twenty eight poodle. Skirts for one of the choirs that I worked with I conducted choirs for those with dimension. We were doing a sock hop in all those ladies. Well they need a poodle skirts. And Mama helped me and I say helped. Kind of loosely. Because he kinda was more in the room than anything in this kind of point. Mama got to the point. She couldn't read the machine she could not remember the processes for threading sewing machine. She could not remember how to make the bobbin thread. Come up on top on on platform here to begin sewing. Mama couldn't do that anymore. She couldn't remember how to turn a pattern to make it fit on the fabric but if I decided to do a sewing project and acted as if Mama steel could do it and got her Bob to whatever level she could do so much enjoyed it and just hung out together and instead of me going. Mama's moved also at myself. I'll go no mom. I want you to stand over. May and watch me while I do this so I can learn when folks knew how to do what I was doing. Okay I I really didn't have to have mama there. But it sure was more fun having her there and then giving her the sense of having accomplished helping with the project. That was pretty big for Momma then. Every time we looked at the poodle skirts. Aca Go mom of you and I made those together. We did a good job did and we did to a good job. I really did get very sick of sewing on poodles. I'm GonNa tell you that with the Courting you know for the caller that came up to the waistband. Thought we'd never get all those silly skirts done. But it was a fun time with our loved ones with dementia. We know that they start. Losing INTEREST. In hobbies we see that early on in their dementia. Journey is sometimes even before they're ever diagnosed. One of the symptoms is mom's not participating E. N. filling the blind. Maybe it's playing cards with their friends. may be it sewing like with Mama. Maybe it's cooking. I don't know what was her hobby. What was the thing? She likes most ADO in. If you notice a change in that that they're clicking away from it it might be time to stop and go. Why are they pulling away from it in? Is it dementia meaning that they cannot process the thaw to make that activity happened any longer? And that's what happened with Mama but she would get excited about assisting me in different things and you know it was quite amazing every once in a while in that process of making all those listed poodle skirts mama would come up with something that would really help. And I'd be like certainly wasn't expecting that for Momma but theory was and she was able to help it was so meaningful for her and for me too but break your people into that experience if they liked to cook bring them into the kitchen and allow them to do the things they can do. I remember the last time was in the kitchen with me was in her group home which is just a home where six people lived. It was wonderful and so it had a kitchen just a house in a neighborhood of course education and I cooked on. Sundays is just something I've done for years and cooked for everybody else Sunday so I asked the staff. Can I cook on Sunday so I yeah so mama would get in there and she would help me I remember one time we were having Kiwok patties and I buy them already made their quite good from all of you have not had them. I recommend you do. Mama could not handle that whole process. Moma here is the baking pan. Here's the bots. Will you open the boxes up for me? As we were cooking for six people took several boxes and she was able to open the box or the boxes and took a little effort for Momma. She wasn't super quick at it but it got her ball inside. She opened the boxes in the signal. Here the scissors because it was still okay from scissors. Cut The plastic that holds these keen walkers out could cut it away and get the burgers out and she did now Mama. Could you put the Burgers on the baking sheet? And she did some was involved. Now I will tell you mom very much did not mind at all. Having Somebody Cook for her so she wasn't really thrilled about helping to cook so after she got that done. She's like I'll go sit in my chair. You can finish this project like Okay Mama. Whatever makes you happy and she did. She did not help any more. But get your folks involved whatever degree they can help in. Change your definition of help if you want to have something to allow them to empty the dishwasher. Get the knives out ahead of time. So nobody's GonNa get hurt and then don't get freaked out when the plates are where the Cup should be in the cups or where the dish the casserole dishes should be. Just let her go in and straighten it out because what you did was you. Allow them to participate in life to the -bility they were capable of. Doing you celebrate it and you went on with it because I got used for you. You don't do things right every down anyway. So don't expect them to go incorrect. Which you think needs to be corrected when they're not looking while they're taking a nap. Go in and fix whatever you think just has to be fixed. And if it doesn't have to be fixed just let alone this my thought for today. Now I got three pillars to make in their coming out. What pretty I will show you the Fabric here may get this that you can take a look. I've got one finished but have already could it on the late night and this is pretty fabric for one side in the NBA. Coordinating Fabric. Come back and I'm just excited about him. I'm here quarantine because this is the project I can do. You guys have a Great Day. Safe DAY BE HEALTHY. See on the next episode of. Let's talk. Dementia let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF f. dot org. They speak veteran. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. Www dot editor. Beth DOT COM and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's Talk Dementia Book and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

08:44 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Not processing those thoughts. So we're GONNA take that little bit of beauty That comes from the situation that we are all in in thankful for it but that does still leave the guilt that we feel the sadness we feel from not to see our loved ones. If I knew my mom was in a memory care community and I could not go see her and she was there. It would just drive me crazy all it really would. I am admitting that to you because I wanNA see my mom every day and I would be so lonely and sad not being able to see her now. Know How that feels because they can't go see. Mama 'cause she's in heaven and so it's a similar feeling. Yeah that you're missing your love one. But the guilt from that is your responsibility. Guilt comes from within if someone else's placing guilt on you. You've got to accept that guilt if they're trying to place guilt on you and you don't accept it then. They didn't win. Don't then don't hang around with those Taymor because they're not nice but don't accept that guilt. You're doing everything you can do and I know you are because you listen to this podcast or you watch the videos. You bought my books. You're reading your educating yourself. You're doing everything you can for your loved ones. That's what you're supposed to do. You know God calls us to do what we can do. He doesn't expect us to do what we can't do. I've always heard who guide calls. He equips now. He may not equip you before he calls you but when he calls you he will equip you and you've been called to caregiver and he will equip you to do that and right now your job is to make sure they're safe by keeping them in that quarantined environment which is a great thing in taking care of you. Let go of that guilt. It's not helping you in any way and it's hurting yourself and your loved one who nature here because you want to be as well as healthy these fossils win this quarantine lifted in light goes back to normal oath please. Lord let that be soon then you can go visit them and be at your best. Don't accept that guilt. Just just don't do it and the other thing you've got to remember is in the process of all of this all of this downtime where all having use it in ways that are beneficial for your health. Maybe it'll give you more time to get outside and go for a walk or or to ride your bike. That's what I like to do in a like to go to the pool. I'm just praying. Oh please Lord that they don't close my pool. I will be very sad about that but time to read time to talk time to saying time to write letters you got. I got a letter today for my friend was T. and brought back written in Green Eight. That is the hardest thing to read because it's in this light green ink but an actual handwritten letter who does that anymore will misstated and it was fun for me to get that to get that letter today. Take the time and write a letter to somebody not an email. We get those all the time week norm actually write a letter and drop it in the mailbox do things that are time consuming that you never have time to do now. You have time to do but don't use this time to lay upon yourself and accept guilt for not. Doing which can't do that's not smart so let's not do that. That would make as much sense as Being guilty for not being able to fly to the moon. You can't find them. You can't do that. I'll post above it so feeling guilty because you can't do it well that's not smart you also cannot visit your loved one. They're not going to let you in the building. Let's celebrate a thir taking care of everybody in that building and by protecting them by keeping all of us away. Let's celebrate that accept what it is? Look forward to changing. We can pray for our loved ones of where we do a lot of that so I got a prayer of the other day. If I can find it here let Sam will make a few clicking noise. I am in the process of becoming certified through the order of Saint Luke. It's a group to healing ministry and I very much like what they do Let me see Ya. I'm hoping I can find this prayer. That one of the priests wrote on his part of the order of Saint Louis Glitzy. Oh it's not there anyway. I just bearing much like here. It is here it is. I'm just GonNa read this to you. Maybe this will help you in the stress that you're feeling in this time in our lives time in our world and this time in your caregiving journey it's written by Father Nigel Mumford. And it's a prayer for the global cessation of cove in Nineteen Corona Virus Lou. Chapter Seven verse. Twenty one said Jesus had just thank. Your many people have diseases plugs in evil spirits in had given site Dominion Blind. So here's the prayer by father. Nigel Lord Hemmer Supineness Christ. Have mercy upon us. Lord have mercy upon us Lord we call upon you and your holy name to have mercy upon the Globe and all nations area we boldly pray that cove in nineteen would cease and desist in your blessed name. We pray for those who are at risk or have weakened immune systems we pray for those with respiratory issues. We pray for all medical workers and first responders we earnestly for the medical technicians working on a clinical breakthrough. We pray for those who are traveling and those who have been sneezed upon or call upon Lord Jesus all at our mustard seda faith that this will not continue to grow. Lord we believe in take onto believe by faith without doubt in the name of Jesus Christ by the POWER OF HIS CHRIST. Enda Corona Virus scudded nineteen cease and desist. Now no uncertain terms may each tiny cell of missed be super naturally taken cleaned and healed God the Father God the Son and God the Holy Spirit have mercy upon us and he'll us in your job most blessed name we pray. Thank you guys. Thank you Jesus. Thank you Holy Spirit. Thank you holy Trinity Hill us and make us whole especially like that part. That said May each tiny cell of missed be super naturally taken cleaned in. He'll that's pretty good. Thought there. Let's think about it that way. Don't take on guilt. It's not what you're supposed to. You're supposed to take on happiness. Joy Peace love kindness. All those things you can give to somebody else. A man don't hear name man write me back with your commands. Carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot Org. And if you're watching this on you to would you subscribe impressed light button? Thank you very much blessings and smiles on this day in this odd time in our world. Bye Bye let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. 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Let's Talk Dementia

11:18 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Caregivers I'm Carol Hal. In this is let's talk dementia well in our last episode. I told you that we would talk about wellbeing naked. I didn't get into it in that episode. So we're going to cover that today. Well be naked is something we were experiencing the minute we were born right. We all came into this world without close and Somebody hit us on the bottom and we cried and life went on But as we age a little bit we soon discover that running around naked is just not accepted impolite company but it does happen with dementia. So let's talk about that a little bit and some stories and how you handle it. What your responses might be. We you got to recall that our folks with advancing dementia Are Losing the ability to know what is appropriate was inappropriate now that ability is is formed inhaled right here in the frontal lobe. That is the last part of the brain to develop on a male on a female it has fully developed somewhere around the age of eighteen for a male. It's not until the age of twenty one. Now that would explain. Why more teenage boys in early twenty year old boys get in trouble then their counterpart females. Why a twenty one year old or twenty year old or nineteen year old might drive down the main drag eighty five miles an hour and a female of the same age is going to be the speed limit. It truly is. This part of their brain is not fully developed for them to say you know if I drive. Eighty five miles an hour down that road One probably GONNA get caught by the police to could hurt somebody and in my daddy finds out. He's going to be my right. They're gonNA think that. The twenty the females go. Well that would just be done because the speed limit is forty five. I'm going to do the speed limit. We always knew that women think better than men Bentley. Yeah pretty much. That's my theory on it. But it is that that part of the brain not fully developed. So that's also the part of the brain that helps you know What is socially acceptable? And what is socially unacceptable things that you can say to your husband that you would never say to your priest or rabbi a preacher Jokes that you could tell that. Maybe we probably shouldn't be telling him anyway but you would certainly not tell him in Sunday school. That's all right here in the frontal lobe told you about frontal temporal lobe dementia. That is the disease that affects the Frontal Lobe. Temporal Lobe and those folks have very few filters left to know what's appropriate inappropriate. But because part of the brain is so drastically affected now with Alzheimer's that wryness effected also not as much as with frontal temporal lobe dementia. But still it is affected so we lose our filters I can tell you my sweet. Mama had a certain word. She liked to say a whole lot and She had to up and she liked to say that she never have said one of them. She would never have said but she said it and it landed on me not so well the one word up at you and guess what it is but that was not mama. Her filter was gone and she was losing that ability to. That's not a word that we should say. Although which she said she would give every time. I don't know the woman was funny But also knowing what to do not just what disabled what to do that's appropriate and inappropriate has taken all your clothes off and running through the house right. You just don't do that if there's other people in the house But our folks with dementia might not think I should put on road before I go out stark naked into the living room where there's company it makes me think of a story that I've told before you'll hear it again here but A friend of ours that his dad had dementia and I don't know what comedy had dementia. And he had gotten a shower and he got out of the shower and the sign said to the dad. Or grandad whichever. Now don't go out to we got all your private parts. Covered up in the sun went. I don't know to the closet or something to get a towel. And before he could turn around dad had walked out in he covered his private so he thought and he said Paul. I've covered up my privates and he had laid a wash cloth across his chest in the rest of glory. Just showing right. And they're said balls wive and children in their granddaddy with everything show except with a little bit. He had covered with the wash call where he had covered his quote privates on his chest. Yes so sometimes figuring out what's appropriate inappropriate to problem. But that's why that part of the brain is drastically affected so think about that McCain another reason votes might take their clothes off their itchy. They're uncomfortable remember. Have told you the fat pads disappear and they become less than the nerve endings are more sensitive. Because they're more topical and scratchy. Close just feel really Yucky and just gotTa get it off. This stuff feel good that is thrown away or donated pieces of clothing that were really pretty but they drove you. Bumpers crazy when you wore them in so for our folks with dimension. That is more of a problem. That's why you gotta be aware of soft clothing. Are you putting off closing on folks? I know a lady that after lunch in her last probably two months of life in her memory care community she would stand up finished Pusher Chair in stand up and start taking her clothes off starting with her pants in her depends. She pulled them all down in one swift movement. It was quite amazing. How agile she could be at that point in there. She would stay and she did it every day. I think what was going on this lady now. I don't know wish us full. She was tired. She was ready for a change so she did that. It was just a reaction to what was going on in herself. She didn't do it to draw attention to herself. Believe me not this woman. It wouldn't have been the case now. She did draw attention to herself. In fact the other residents would say baddies naked again. Betty's naked and it got to finally the staff we go okay. She's about finish. Let's help get her up. Get her to Aruba's we don't she's going to start streaking but why did she do it was? She didn't do it to irritate staff or to draw attention to herself. Her brings damaged and it was being drastically damaged day by day. She was in late stage. Alzheimer's you could not expect her to do. What is appropriate or acceptable because that frontal lobe of her Branko very I just miss my hair pointing to my or hidden But anyway accuracy that was Miss Betty. She she was a trip and I did love her in enjoy being with her but she would take her clothes off minute so I know a husband and wife who used to sing in assisted living and They Sang Gospel Music. He played the guitar. She saying. They were saying the song I saw the light I saw the light. I saw the light. No more in darkness but anyway they were saying in that and Up comes this may just running through the dining room where they were saying stark naked. Not a piece of anything on. The man blamed the guitar saying instead of saying and I saw the moon to write because he was being moved by. This Guy Looks Kinda funny but the guy did not do it for attention. He did not so getting angry at our folks because they're taking all their clothes off is just not to any good. They're not doing it for any reason. Besides either they can't think it through their closer uncomfortable. It's just something that's hey wonder what would happen if I took that off or via undone of took my pants off what would happen. They're not thinking it through so not. Don't be upset Upset with him which you say instead is well. It does look like you just took your panties off. You're standing hair without shirt on. Maybe we should go find your shirt. Would you like to have an APP? You just finished lunch. Maybe it's time for goodness. Let's just go on Dab your woman in let's get you rating. Let you take a nap. Maybe they're hungry. Maybe that's why they've done it. Maybe there that's the only way they can get attention. There's something going on. They're not happy about they. Take their clothes off. Maybe they're hungry. Maybe they're bored. Maybe they're in pain. Maybe they're thirsty. They are reacting to something. Your reaction needs to be able by. Golly you got your pants off now is there something I can do. Make you feel better would you? Would you like something to drink? Are a little bit hunger July some popcorn or would you like a nap. These kinds inquisitive questions that you can ask them to potentially sue. They can respond that. Yom Thirsty and they may not be able to respond and if they can't respond then you still want to kindly take him into the room. Get them redress kindly and maybe offer them something to drink. See if they joined it ask him. They need to go the bathroom in find out if that's what it was. There's generally something going on there responding to in if they're just uncomfortable they won't take off their clothes just uncomfortable and we'll take off their clothes. Just deal it you get them to bed. Let him lay down become to any no. We don't have to have close on time anyway if we're in the bed in we're comfortable naked. They may have slept naked every night of their wife in here. You WANNA put him to bed with their depends on in their pajamas. Top on their Pajama bottom on in socks on. And if they don't want they don't want it S. My Dad used to say one hundred years from now. Nobody's connote the difference. It's not gonNa Affect Life that much. So sometimes we just got a chill pill but we would really appreciate for those of you who do know better to keep your clothes on okay. You guys have a great day buses files. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint You. When you call inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed. You can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. 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Let's Talk Dementia

09:24 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi Carol how is let's Talk Dementia? I'm glad you're here today. Well today we're going to talk about a whole bunch close in other words. We're not going to be nudist right while you're with advanced dementia. Very well might decide to be a nudist one day. Yeah where are you GonNa do about that? We'll talk a little bit opposed to that. Makes it more interesting doesn't it? The question came across my desk out about a week ago. What do we do about our loved? Ones are Ellos who wear lots of layers of clothes. Well you know. There's a real simple answer for that and the answer is leave them alone. My Dad used to say have to think about what you're going to fight over because if one hundred years from now is not GonNa make any difference that maybe we don't need to fight over to argue ever spend too much time being concerned about it and our loved ones will wearing Sarah lay layers of clothes in my mind falls under that category Now I am all over making sure our loved ones. Look good if you spent much time around my momma you know that. I made sure she had her jewelry on. Her hair was done in her nails done in his shirt. Her shirt and pants match. And I hate it when I come to see her if they put the wrong shirt on with wrong pair of pants and it looked bad because one moment to look good however there is the comfort factor to take into account also which was a big moment for Carol. The first time I realize Momma did have a bra on. Oh my goodness I'm like why did you not put Moms Brown? My mom used to sleep in a Bra. She would not be uncomfortable. She would not be comfortable without her bra in. They said to me Miss Vera did not want her bra today. She said don't put it on and that happened more and more to got to the point. Mama could not stand wearing. Her Bra was very bothersome for her. So guess what we did. We quit wearing a bra but our folks with dementia well our seniors. Let's just say right now. Our seniors are on average colder than they were when they were sixty or forty definitely teenagers. As we age we do get colder easier in with dementia. That is true. The fat pads under your skin protect your nerves and they have an effect on how you perceive cold and Hot in in physical touch and pressure and pain as we age those fat heads disappear in the nerves or more sensitive so our response to cold is different thin what it might be for others in the room. So the answer to the question. What do you do about someone who wants to wear lots of layers of clothes? Is You respect that maybe help them pick out pretty layers of clothes? It's important to you but you respect that they wanna have on those layers clothes and I can tell you they're gonNa have on soft close. They'RE NOT GONNA won't scratchy stuff. That doesn't feel good. I remember one time walking down the hall of Memory Care Community and The staff was standing. Two staff members was standing with a gentleman and he had on a winter coat. I mean a big willie winter coat and was walking down the hall and they took him into his room. They were standing there at the edge of his room telling him to take that coat off. We're going to hand the closet. This is July. You do not need to be wearing a coat and he kept saying but I won't wear the coach will you don't need to? And they were determined to take it off of him and you know about Las. My mind over them dislike all. Don't look don't say anything Susan Your Business but what I wanted to say is what is it hurting. Four Freddie to wear this coat in the hallway. What is one problem with that in? There's not a problem with that. Who cares if ready to wear a coat in the hall in July zipped up and hood on leave the man alone it is his coat it is his body. Leave him alone. He's not hurting himself. He's not hurting anyone else in. Because it offends your senses. Well that's your problem. Not Freddie's problem. So don't make it Freddie's problem he's got enough to deal with right but they were determined to get that coat off him and put it in the closet and they did and of course ready wasn't happy and then they were irked. What good did that do? It did not do any good but then the question comes up. What do we do about the fact that they're turning our heat? We know up to eighty five degrees. And we're dying in here now then. That is a problem right because we can't have everybody in the house with their lungs out. While your loved ones over there all bundled up so then we go back to let workout layering. If they are not on their own layering. Their clothes help them layer. Their clothes may be in their room. If you could Have what you call it? A new ceramic heaters put it up high so they can't touch it where it might Warm the room a little bit in their area where they sit. Make sure they can't get near it votes because that's why haven't you ceramic heater electric heater. You don't do that so you have to keep it away. But we're there area might be more pleasant more comfortable for them. Keep blankets out key pillars out. Things I can snuggle up in and then you could always buy those boxes of clear boxes that goes over the rope Thermostat yeah you know you see them in businesses or churches are big buildings where they don't want the average Joe Messing with the thermostat and you got have a key to unlock it. Raise it and get in there and change. The thermostat will get one. Install it on your thermostat and make it non accessible for your loved one. But I'm telling you fuel load your loved one up with enough clothing distract them. Give them things to do. Keep them involved in. Live as much as you can. We're going to decrease the number of times go there to mess with the thermostat in if they can't get to the thermostat what they can't change it thinking they is. It is a simple thing but respect the fact that your loved ones are cold so if right now you were just freezing and shivering cold in I in you. You wanted to go put on a jacket and I told you. Don't go put on that jacket. You donate a jacket. Put THAT JACKET. Away Getaway. Go sit down. You know all those kinds of things we might would say it makes me mad at. You wouldn't be really hurt that you and I might make you really unhappy for a while when all you had to say was man you like. Call Liska. Get you jacket as put a jacket on you. You you say how that's better and it is better. Try to respond sensibly on your end in some towns that just is not hard. I mean is it is hard. It's not easy. It's like the last thing that comes to mind is the logical approach. Because we're just a wound up just had it we've had it take off the damn. Cow's don't say that would be nice but that's how you feel isn't it? Just let it be Ya. Just let it be breed. Let them wear fourteen coats if they want to. So it's OK tomorrow. The Sun's GonNa come out. Well we're living in this time where there is this. Fear of Corona virus of the Sun's GonNa come out but we might not have toilet paper. I don't know why I don't know why. Toilet papers distilling homemade. That'd be bad. Wouldn't we laugh a well? We'RE PRAYING FOR EVERYBODY. Who's sick no matter what the illnesses right? God takes care of all of the state he will blessings and smiles on your caregiving journey. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. f. dot org. They speak veteran. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. 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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:24 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi I'm Carol Jalan welcomed. Let's talk dementia. I'm glad that you're here today. 'cause today I'm going to do a little preachy. Oh yes I am. I had something to happen. That's just stayed on my mind. Well I'm GonNa tell all my friends at. Let's talk dementia about it. So I have regularly posted on facebook. My show Four days a week and I post inspiring. Things are funny things. You're not GonNa read a post where I've ever had political comment or controversial comments. It's not my job. It's not what I'm called to do to be controversial and guess what you either but I had posted a scripture A scripture from one of my prayer cards. Let me see. Can I find that very rare card? Here sonal read it to you exactly Here is when my heart is overwhelmed. Lead me to the rock. That is higher than I told. You guys have been going through some tough times with Passing and all the changes in my life. And it's it's just been tough and I posted that and I put a missing my Mama Verona I know you are too and Verona's my little sister she had earlier that day sent me a picture of mom in that. She was missing Mama so brought her into that conversation. Well I got a comment from someone. That was not nice it. It was just not nice and she was calling me out for having not tagged our other sister in that facebook post and she wrote. I'm sure she mentioned other sister. Is Missing Your Mama too and I wrote back. I'm sure she is but she ate on facebook. And yes I put ain't because she's not facebook. There was no need and tagging her because she never see it who do no good and it just turned into whole explosion of telling me how to grieve when someone is grieving. You are going to point your finger at them and correct. They're grieving. No you're not and if you do let me just tell you you're wrong don't do that. Grieving is hard work. You as a caregiver are grieving to a certain extent. It is a different grief. Then you will have after one passes but you're grieving did that. I know because day by day little by little you are losing your loved one involved in that. There's grief in doing things for them that you should never have to do. You should never have to claim. The bottom. End of your. They should be able to do that. Themselves scrape involved in that and as the dementia progresses the Greek changes evolves and increases in. The death comes the greatest different it. It's painful don't ever call someone out in their grief if you are watching this and you're not caregiving don't call out the person who is caregiving for not responding to live in the way you'd think they should cause honey. Todd you're not walking in their shoes. You do not know the grief burdened they are under. And if you don't know that you got no right Comu- when and this is true for all of us as we live in this planet on this planet in this world in interact with other people. You don't know what people are dealing with. You may look at someone and think man. That woman's got the best figuring. Her hair always looks good carries the newest purse. And she's got shoes with red cells. Which means you get the money right. She's got it going on. She makes six figures a year. She may go home and cry every night she may have disorders in her body that she wishes she didn't have. She may have dysfunctional families. We members may be terribly unhappy and putting on a good front. What she doesn't need from you is to be anything but loving. That's what we're called to do so that when we are down we will go to the rock that is higher than us. The God of our salvation but we can also pull on the strength of our friends and family but when they are cutting us down in sticking their fingers in our face telling us you're doing this wrong and you should do this and this is what I think about that. The Nets wrong. Don't do that other people in a few as my viewers or listeners. Doing that I'm disappointed in you. That's not who we are. That's not who we're called debate. It is just not we are to lift people up. We are to show them grace and mercy because we have been extended more grace in more mercy in more kindness more love than we'll ever be able to give out so. Why should we not be busy doing that? You got a long ways to go to catch up with what you've received so let's give it out. Will I unfolded and blocked everyone involved with that post? I do not need that kind of interaction in my world. I don't need that kind of heaviness in darkness landing on me. I need to fill up eight. I need to be fighting. The grief the stage going through the stages agreed not really fighting them but going through them but fighting the urge to stay in that grief. our pastor on our Ash Wednesday service taught by Jesus went into the Wilderness? But do you know what he did? He came out of the Wilderness. And I'm in an wilderness. Time I really am. I Miss My Mama. I miss being a daughter and I miss being her caregiver. Her really do. I miss other things that have changed in my life and I'm adjusting and adapting but I'm in a bit of a wilderness. You don't go to someone who's in a bit of a wilderness in reprimand him for being in the Wilderness. You just don't well. I told you I was gonNA preach and there's a preaching. I don't know who that's going to help today I hope it will help you. And I hope you'll never even know it helps you because I hope it will change someone's thought processes so that maybe they won't say to you. What maybe they could have saved if they had listened or or watch this episode. We gotTA BE GENTLE KIND PEOPLE. We gotTA show love and there are times. That's hard on. There's times we have to bite our tongue. But if you've got to bite your tongue in let's do that but if you are interacting with people who are consistently bringing you down think about the people you hang out with you can love them and pray for them but you don't have to let them interact with you in a way that is damaging to you and your mental health and your physical health and your wellbeing and that is also true of the people around you because when you're down you can bring them down in when you're down your loved one with dementia feels it so be careful about that. Anythi need stay off. Facebook might not be a bad idea. I post my show on facebook but I've just got to where that's all I do. Don't need negativity. I don't care who you want for. President don't care. I don't care why you don't want this win in why you do want that when I do not care all I care about is being uplifting and positive and blessing to those I made. I can't do that valve junk going. On facebook just can't blessings as miles on your caregiving journey. In your whole life. Go be a blessing in brings minds by Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot a. dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in Utah Than Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions short like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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Let's Talk Dementia

08:58 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and SMILES IN THEIR DEMENTIA. Caregiving generally welcome to. Let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk to meantime Carol how your host and today we're GonNa talk about being fat. Yes we are and we're going to talk about a few Bible verses in quotes that have come to my mind lately that reflect directly applying the situations in my life and I thought you know it might help you in your life to join just maligning here and having a bit of a problem. We'll have had someone tell you you're fat. You look like you're pregnant. When is the baby due? Or you know your hair just looks awful or where did you get that pair of pants? Were they bad on you? Something just so hurtful and so inappropriate. I think we've all had that happen. And if you haven't will then yeah for you but if you're caregiving hold onto those pants that you've got on letter to Die. 'cause he's probably going to happen are folks with dementia are none for saying things that are inappropriate? And it's not necessarily that they're out to hurt you. They just say what comes to their mind. If they think you look like you put on a few pounds in this just gonNA come out and it may not land on. You may not feel so good when they say it but the question is how. Are you going to respond to those statements that are inappropriate or hurtful or offensive in some way other? Well you can be defensive. You can go well. I'm not fat but outlook as fast as you or my herlitz better than your hair or do you think these pants look bad. You should look in the mirror. What you've got on. You could say that anybody and there's really nobody on the planet you can say that too that the end result is going to be good is it and certainly not with your folks with dementia. Now if they don't have the demand don't have dementia and they say that to you then you really do have to wonder what's going on in their world that they think it's okay. Say these inappropriate things and you know what we don't know what's going on in our in other people's world we do good just to keep up with our own world. Forget keeping everybody else's straight so maybe just maybe we should ignore it from them. Maybe maybe we shouldn't. I'm not sure I don't want to hear those words to have to discern what my response would be to my person who does not have dementia but to my person who has dementia. You Might WanNa go. You know what you might be right. I should probably eat more sale reinstated. Donuts where do you think in see what their responses it would probably just cut the edge off or or the tension in the room might be less than just by agreeing? Yep I'll look wolf. Fatima should eat celery instead of donuts. And see what they say. And then you might say something like. What do you like on your salary? If you were to eat salary. What would you put on it? See what their response is. And if they don't have a good response say. Do you like peanut. Butter on celery. Have you ever tried putting peanut butter with raisins on your salary? Do you know what they call that. That's called ants on a log if you have peanut butter on a piece of salary. New Put Raisins isn't that NEAT. See Now we've taken the conversation from something that was offensive. Something that made you feel not so good or maybe even a little angry to the universal language in what told you is the universal language it is not it is food. We all relate to it and we used to version therapy to do that. We took him from one point. All the way to something different Wa- stealing knowledge in what they said. It's hard to do sometimes but it is something that I tell you over and over again for various reasons in here giving their things you need to practice in diversion. Therapy is one of them on the tape the last few days. I've had some emotions to deal with that. I have not been enjoying As you know my mom passed may thirty first and I think about her day my life and there are days that I do it. Wale and there are days when it just gets a hold of me more than what I wanted to my friend. Linda told me lead those feelings com. Let them wash over you in. Let them leave. And I've done well at that but the last few days have not done so well letting him leave. I kinda came to the realization. I'm no one's daughter That's a weird feeling. Obviously my whole life. I've been somebody's daughter and I am not anyone's daughter right now. I am not my Mama's caregiver and I love being honest caregiver There was never a thing that I did that. Mama did not affirm that I did not hear from her. Oh cookie you've got this you can. Do it have a good friend that I've recently met Michelle and showbiz eighty two years old. She's only one year older than my Momma and She has a way of a filling in sometimes on the emotions that I might would have gotten from Mama and today. She told me kid. Whatever it is you WanNa do you just do you? Just make it work saying. I just heard mom in that. Made me feel good but I wanted to read to you a quote from the Bible that I'm reading. I'm trying to think of the that. This gentleman took the Bible. Broke it up into a year and is price for America Bible. That's it and so you have old testament new tests Moore Song proverbs but there is a little prayer at the beginning of each day. I'll read you what it was for yesterday. I believe these are my Abysmal glasses for you guys. That are not seeing this but hearing hit the color on. These glasses is awful but anyway. Here's the prayer and it just really struck me now thank you it relates to caregiving to Lord. You told your first followers to have courage because you were with them. Help us to soak in that message tune to fill it in our buried bones. Remind us you've got this. You're in control. It'll be okay. I'm in Oman. Does that not speak to caregiving? Yes I think it does. And so a while back. I was given a package of today's prayer cards. Can you see that with the light on it? And they're just little four by six cards assists. Today's prayer on one side on the other side as today's prayer this was yesterday's God is within her. She will not fall. This was today. Faith can move mountains kind of where I am in this journey. Feeling that I need bolstered up and I know you do too in your caregiving journey. Have days where you think you got it going on in the days when you need bolstered up you can do this. God's got you. Faith can move. Mountains God is within her. She will not fall. You won't either but I'm here for you. Email me Carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot Org. We'll talk about what's going on in your world blessing since miles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth dot com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions. Be sure to like. Let's talk on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:38 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I'm Carol how will your host and today we're GonNa talk about talking something. We've done our whole life. Most of us a few exceptions. Obviously but we always communicate. We HAVE CONVERSATIONS WITH FOLKS. We tell them what we think they tell us. They think we either agree or disagree. And we have these conversations about life. Well conversations and communication become a problem with folks with dementia. This one I want to talk with you about today. Communicating with our loved ones is important. Everyone communicates in some way. Even when our folks become non verbal? They can no longer put sentences together are maybe even forget senses they may not can even get two or three words together But they still communicate and they will do that by their actions by their facial expressions. What they are doing with their body on you pay attention you can learn a lot about people you know this when someone comes home from work and they've had a bad day and they just got the look on their face you just know. They've had a bad day. They didn't have to come in and go. I've had a bad day. You can just tell by looking at them. Or if they're in pain you can tell that by looking at your loved ones so being aware of the bodily Of your of your bodily actions the movements of the body the movements of the face how the body is responding to that life situation can help you have an inkling of what might be going on your loved ones world. Well a great technique to employ also is to Pete back the question to your loved one. So for instance Mrs Smith might say. Are we going to have lunch now? She might have just walked out of the dining room when she said that. Are we going to have lunch so you want to say? Are you asking me with? We're going to have lunch. Are you hungry? You want to repeat that back to her now what you want. What you want to say is Miss Smith. We just had lunch. Don't you remember and let me warn you? The words don't you remember will come off of your lips when you're talking with someone who has dementia and you know they don't remember. But you have used that phrase over and over and over again or you'll remember when and you go into some story and then you're sitting there. Think they do not remember. Why did I do that? So my response to you is just let that go. Don't beat yourself up. Try not to say it but believe me. You're going to say this but instead a sign you should remember that we just a Mrs Smith. Good gracious no you say back to her. Whatever it is she said in the form of a question. So are you hungry? Are you telling me you would like something to eat to which she might say? Well no but I would like to take a nap. So now we've We've got a little deeper into what it is. She's wanting she's wanting to get your attention to get something she needs but maybe she tells you she does want to eat and maybe she just finished eating will. That's when you find a cracker or some popcorn or some kind of appropriate snack that she can have a little bit of taste of an is probably gonNA satisfy her. But you don't ever want to go. Oh Good Gracious. We just ate. Forget it and walk off and not acknowledge her question. Is there ever a time in your life when you feel okay about asking a question and being ignored you do not you want somebody to acknowledge that you are on this planet that you have a thought that you have a question? Somebody needs to acknowledge that in some way. They may not respond. How you want but you need. You Won't be knowledge your folks with dementia are still the same way. So you might say are you asking will eat again and you put your arm around her and you maybe walk her to her living room or into her apartment or to her bedroom wherever she's living in begin to have a conversation with her at this point we might want to start redirecting Mrs Smith. You Might WanNa say something like you know mismatch last night at my dinner at my house we had an start talking about dinner at Your House last night and how your husband just loves the Fried Chicken you fix in now. You've you've taken her away from her being hungry. We're going to start talking about some other topic that redirection. That works good too if they come up to want to do something on that. You can't do right then and I can tell you. My mom was very particular about her fingernails. She always wanted him look good and she would tap them when they started to get chip. Turn her nails and she felt like she needed manicure. Even wish couldn't get awards out that meant get my nails done right so someone might might say. Can we go get a manicure? Are we going to get a manicure? When am I going to get my haircut in those are very viable important? Things in you can respond with. I'm GonNa get it done but I'm busy. Take break chill out. I can only do so much or you can say. Gosh. That's a great idea. Way should get our nails done. Why do you think about if I make an appointment and we go tomorrow because I don't think we can get in there today? We can go tomorrow. Is that okay with you? And they're gonNA be acknowledged they understand that you understand what they want. They feel completed in that thought. And they're like okay. Tomorrow will be good now. Tomorrow's GONNA come in. You may not have that appointment. You might not can get the appointment you might not can take them a whole host of reasons. Why TOMORROW THAT APPOINTMENT WON'T HAPPEN? But one of the beauties of dementias. They're probably not gonNA remember that their ability to understand space and time where they are and in what time of the day of the week of the month of the year of their world. That they are in is all off kilter so tomorrow will come and they most likely are not going to go. You Know Carol told me yesterday. We're going to go for manicure. I better get ready for that. Probably not gonNA remember that. So that does work to your benefit so use that. But you don't WanNa say anything negative to them. I'm real good about saying to people when they are telling me life situations with their loved one. What's going on? They had this particular conversation many times. That conversation is with a sibling. Yes with siblings. Who are SORTA maybe a little bit involved in the care giving but not big Tom? Involved in the care giving and we have this conflict going on siblings in dementia. Care giving I get more phone calls about that. Oh my goodness that's probably my talk in my top two or three subjects that we have is siblings that In the issues going on there but what I will say those votes is. How did you leave that conversation? How did that conversation end what I have learned and I just got to tell you I think this but I know this? Don't practice it well but I know it in my head is that we need to leave conversations on a positive note if we leave a conversation in our world on a negative note that negative thoughts. GonNa stick in your brain. Let me give you an example Go through on Amazon and read the reviews people write about my books and often wish that there's this one I could take down because it's not a Nice Review. I'm like how can you read my book and I think it's wonderful wonderful in. There's a bunch of reviews about my book and they're all good except for this one woman who wrote something that I didn't think was nice. And that's what sticks in my head. It doesn't stick in my head all those nice things. Everybody else said. Just that one woman who wrote something. Well that's live. We have a way of dealing on the negative. You know there's a saying that one bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch will it? Sorta Kinda does because if we reach him that basket of apples and we pull out the one. That's bad we probably are not going to risk reaching in and getting one of the other two hundred fifty. Six that are in that basket. That are good way like no not doing that. All I got was a bad apple. And that's what they sell it. That stores bad apples will know there was just one bad apple. You Happen to get it so we want to leave our loved ones on positive notes. When we are communicating with them we want to say things up lifting and joyful and happy or silly independent on. If you've got my mom or not saying something inappropriate. Just make her giggle. And don't you think that's what's good will I do and I don't have one problem of saying something. Little bit inappropriate. If it made my Momma giggle because Momma dealt with paint she dealt with anxiety she was depression and if I could relieve any of. That are making her giggle where you can bet. That was top of my agenda for the day. That and getting hard els done 'cause she wanted them done. So what you want to do to and this is my one final tip for you is. Don't use diversion therapy to keep from doing something you should do. So if they say I need to go to the bathroom. We don't WANNA use diversion therapy. Because we don't want to have to fool with that that's going to bite your but later because then you've got all that cleaning up to do and if they say. I'm hungry. Don't say well we're going to eat at six o'clock in only four o'clock now. Don't do that. Just go ahead and give them a snack. It's much easier to solve a situation in the moment than to keep putting it off if you can some things we can't do. It's not like we can just stop our day and go get a manicure ride or go get the hair donor or whatever the situation might be. There's a million and one reasons you would use diversion they are. There are still times when we need to act right the end and help our loved ones. Whatever it is going on tomorrow. We're going to talk about what to do when your loved. One says things like your fat ugly. The happens to hope. You have a great Dane. I'll see you tomorrow. Blessings and smiles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor bad. You can find Miss Beth. Crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for peril. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

10:58 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"I'm glad you've chosen to join me today if you haven't done so if you're watching this on youtube or any any media that will allow you to leave A kind word of review thumbs up or subscribe Greib. Then I would ask you to please do that. If you're listening on the podcast and you can do that on I tunes also so the more people that know about us the more people we can help and we presently are in eighty three countries. I need to check and see. We've hit eighty four yet. My goal is one hundred countries and I have no clue why but it just sounds good to me ah but as I said I am Traveling this caregiving journey with you. That's my Mama in the picture here for those on the video and a Momma passed away in May may of last year but we are caregiving my husband and I for my brother-in-law Ernie who has PTSD and dementia about on Agent Orange Orange from having been in Vietnam his journeys just been interesting the last few days and it makes me think. Think of things to talk to you about and Don't Ah share with you here. You go so today. We went to visit Arnie because yesterday Ernie fail again and he keeps forgetting that he can no longer walk and he really cannot but he forgets that he gets up and he falls in he hit his head and of course then a trip to the emergency room was in order. Because that's what we do when we hit our head we go make sure everything's Okay and and it was but Ernie is fixating on numbers. You guys had this happen with your loved. One there will be something the thing on their mind and they will fixate on that thing and it may be the same thing for several days or even several weeks or may change every day. Maybe something different. Ernie Ernie has always been very interested in numbers. I hadn't even thought about it too. My daughter reminded me today that she would ask how many people in this city. How many police police officers do they have? What color their cars? How many of the cars are white? How many cars are blue and just numbers? Numbers numbers have always been important to him. Well since cinches dementia has taken a turn in it did so because of urinary tract infection that we still don't have cleared up but numbers are just driving him crazy and therefore here for our SORTA Kinda driving us a little bit longer to because he will point at something in the room and he'll go you know how much that weighs. No Ernie. How much does it weigh? One hundred and sixty seven pounds. Everything's in the one forty two one sixty range no matter what it is and he said to me or do you know how John Les now. Ernie I'M GONNA guess she way hundred but in sixty two and he said in. This is how I know. I Love Ernie he said you a hundred and forty two right Carol. My goal my entire adult life. Life has been to a hundred and forty so yeah that made me feel pretty happy as yes Ernie. iway hundred forty two and he'll say my wheelchair one hundred sixty eight. It's heavy. I tried picking it up. Upped numbers numbers numbers. They are all in his brain. I wonder if one day they came in weighed him and they said him. Ernie you weigh one hundred sixty seven pounds which is about right and that's kind of what got it started for him but he can't get his mind off of it now you can say to him Ernie. No that will chair. Chair does not way hundred sixty seven pounds and Dow that. CD Player does not one hundred forty eight pounds. Because that's the other big thing in his life is just CD players. His best buddy in the world It does a CD player doesn't weigh about three pounds in your crazy. quit talking about numbers. You're driving his bankers talking about numbers. Now you can do. That is is not gonNa work real good for you but you can do that but what we want to do. Instead is just acknowledge what he's saying so when he says the CD player one hundred and forty two pounds on like that. That's pretty cool. I did not know a CD player way that much. Do you like your CD player. What kind of music do you like while Ernie's always gonNa tell you? He likes Wanda Jackson. HOPE HE S. I had never heard of until recently. But she is Country Artists from years. Back guess like maybe the fifties and he loves. CBS wanted Jason Music. And he'll say I like wanted Jackson. Well let's listen to one Jackson so we'll get one to Jackson to playing and maybe for two or three minutes. Arnie will quit talking about numbers. Or maybe not. Maybe he's going to keep talking about them and if he does you either going to have to leave the room and not have have that conversation because you feel like you're in might explode and you're worn out or you're just GonNa have that conversation in whatever form you decide to take it and you you can say something about numbers like I went to the grocery store and had to weigh my bananas. Might how much do you think my bananas Wade and get him to talking about something else. Besides his wheelchair and his how much he weighs in how much you buy you know rob his world of numbers. So it's very interesting but what we are. Learning learning to is as we visit with. Ernie Is Our visits. Need to be a little shorter than we had planned for them to be Because 'cause it's very exhausting for my husband It's very emotional. Time for my husband as you understand and I do too. Because he is watching his brother decline very rapidly rapidly and sustain for long visit Jaaz wipes Michael Ow in when he comes home while he's not locked on to be with. You know what I mean and so I'm like maybe maybe we need to have shorter visits more often in that helps Ernie to and then you've got to eyeballs laying on early more times rather than a long visit for fewer days. So we've kind of adjusted things there have also made it. My mission to go with my husband is many times as I can for a couple reasons one when my sweet mama was going through her journey my husband with the every day and there were times when I couldn't could go when he went by himself to visit my mom because he loved her and so I am returning that favorite for my husband. Go with him as he visits Ernie but having someone one else that Michael can talk to while while he's visiting Ernie is a relief for him so we can talk about some things have different conversations that might spark a train of thought for Ernie in. That's been good one thing. I did today for Ernie as I have discovered that he is getting his wheelchair and going down the hall. Now I gotTa Tell You stop operate here in Italian if dementia not the craziest thing on the planet. I don't know what is when Ernie was in memory no in assisted living and he had some dementia but but nothing really that affected life. Much at all. Very early stages He sat in his room all day. Long he got out to go to breakfast lunch and dinner and he never left his room. Okay we moved him to memory care now where his dementia has progressed. Quite a lot and we would like for him to stay in his rhyme in sit in his wheelchair. You're listening to his music. But Oh no now he has to get out and push that wheelchair all over the community and uh they get to go find him Yesterday we found him laying in the bed ahead in someone else's room. Yup that will that happens a lot in memory care. That's okay. We're not worried about it. And today he was way down another hall in memory care and that's okay because he was still again the safe locked building but but I'm thinking I wish he would just stay in his room like he used to do but it is a constant change with Ernie Arne way we never know what to expect with him. But we're trying to deal with. But what I did for him today because he is leaving his room and then not able to find find his room his name is not on the door and there's nothing to go. This is our newsroom except for the room number which someday he remembers and some days he he doesn't know how that goes outside his door. I posted oh seven or eight. Five seven pitchers just a small pictures from Ernie's pass in. There's pictures of Ernie when he was I don't know maybe middle school pictures of him with his mom on pictures of him with his brother pitchers of our daughter when she was eighteen months months old because he can relate to that Pictures of him with his Ford fairlane from the nineteen sixties that he can relate to so when he comes bindi any sees that door he sees that those pictures. I'm hoping he'll go. Oh that's me. That's my Mama and maybe he'll go in that door rather other than the door down the hall as somebody else in. But we don't freak out about those things folks that's what memory cares for. It is not unusual to find people sleeping together. Do not even know each other. They just happen being the same time. It's bad it's okay. Don't get upset about it. Just don't let it go. There are other things in your world. You need to be more concerned about than that life is interesting. This dementia caregiving journey is always changing involving in. Just about the time thing you think life has settled out. We're going to ride this way for a little bit. You get the phone call. That tells you Ernie fail and he's in the hospital. You just never know and I know you understand that but I hope that with this show you get tips that Either make you giggle with me or at me and I'm happy for whichever way That goes as long as you get ling but something that will help you in your caregiving journey as you realize what you're dealing with. You're not the only one on the planet dealing with that. There's lots of us out there right along with you so hope you have a great day in comeback tomorrow lessons and smiles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about about benefits for the veteran the spouse better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located aided on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell them carol CINCI thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like. Let's let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles oils and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:12 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Your host and thank you for joining me today. As I told you on yesterday's episode we are going to about what to do when problems arise in assisted living or memory care community. Well there's one thing I can assure you it's you're GONNA have. Problems is just the way of life life you know scripture says were two or three are gathered together God is in their midst. I have lots of versions of that verse as they two or three gather together. There's always food well. So that sorta true in where two three people together you're probably gonNA have a problem. Arise that happens in your home with people you love so you know is going to happen in a group setting. We've got a lot of different people from a lot of different backgrounds and employees doing a lot of different jobs hard jobs so you can expect how you respond to. It is going to be key now. This has not been my forte. Over the years I have had a tendency to want to get really riled. How up over some situations and in my defense some of those situations needed somebody get really Riled up about what was going on But when you start messing around with the people that we love and not giving them the care they deserve or something's happening we sometimes might not thank is clearly Before we speak I just made. That's me I'm learning day by day to take a breath in she'll but the big a big thing I want you to learn from today's show is when this happens when you have a big problem. A big instance comes up or maybe it's just a little something or you've I've got a question is how to handle it. In the first thing I would recommend you do is email the people in charge now. You can speak to them in person if you're in the community and you see it in their somebody that can address it right away if it's resolved great But if if it is not resolved immediately mmediately even if you contacted someone Howard recommend a paper trail. Let's email first of all the director of the entire community even if the directors probably not be Hands on involved in sobbing this problem or or addressing this issue that director needs to know it's going on because that employee works for the director and the director needs to know and then you want to write whoever's in charge of the assisted living or memory care left and in most communities there is director for each of those segments if it's regarding nursing are mad information or doctors visits then Dan you're gonNA email those two people and the director of nursing for your community so having that paper trail and it gives them an opportunity to write right back and add to that paper trail in it's also an accountability method. So that if you later still have an issue you can site well They said this person said that employees said on this date they would do Xyz and if somebody said we didn't say that we never told you that you can go hold on. Here's the email and you can take a look. This is what I was told so. That's a good thing to have that paper trail trail. I can tell you when Ernie just moved into his memory. Care Community and Let's see that was on Thursday and on Saturday Saturday we had an issue wasn't Ernie's fault wasn't the community's fault his arm suite mate. He has a setup where you go into the front door of the apartment. He's in and there's this little sitting area in the bathroom that is shared by two residents and then there are two totally separate bitch bitch rooms so the individual in the other bedroom would use that same front common area in the same bathroom but they have separate bedrooms will that John Gentlemen was very unhappy. That Ernie was there and he was by Lynch and he swung at my husband and he swung at Ernie and all good is what all went John was just had to be written down. Husband told me my eyes are like holy cow. That was no fun and I said let's email everybody involved so they know this happened. Fortunately the guy continued with his rant ranting and raving out in the dining room so staff so is that was good too. Well we emailed the folks on on Saturday. Oh I don't know three o'clock four o'clock in within an hour. We had emails back on my goodness. We Apologize Jaws. We will be taking care of this. You'll hear from US tomorrow. That would have been Sunday on Sunday. They called and said we just moved your Or Ernie brother-in-law off to a private room until Monday. When we can sit down and figure out what we're going to do we get the rest of the staff in for the week? But they moved him to a safe room and of Course didn't Abar Costatini at all because this is something they needed to do on Monday when we arrived there like okay. We're moving to another exact same room on the other hall where the roommates are very kind gentle individuals. You won't have to deal with now. None of that would have happened. Had We not quickly contacted acted management. told him what was going on. Because see people can't fix what they don't know and they can't fix what they don't know you're upset about even if they know it's going on judge they may assume you're okay with it you know Letting them know you're not is the first stepping point the first stepping stone to resolving having a problem. Now I'm just going to tell you my history of working without sin communities which is over ten years now. That method doesn't always work. I have worked with executive of directors who would tell you anything and everything to make you happy. One certain individual comes to mind. Just what absolutely talk. Walk the talk but never walk the walk. He would tell me. You're absolutely right. We're GONNA do this. We're GONNA fix that. You'RE GONNA expect to see this Blah Blah Blah and never for did a blind thing. Then what do you do well. There's this thing called the company that owns that community in. That's when you contact them. Oh Oh yes you say I was told. XYZ right here in this email from this individual and it's been a week two weeks whatever amount of time you think is appropriate area. And they've done nothing and I'm not happy and I paid this much a month and I want this resolved hits are GonNa roll now. Make sure or this is something that's worth fighting for. You don't WanNa make people mad who are caring for your loved one but when we're talking about safety or we're talking about lack of care or or we're talking about medications important things you need to stand up for now if we're talking about Let's see they didn't brush heads Ed's teeth this morning something happened. They normally brushed ads. Teas are you really going to work. It worked up because they miss brush. Dad's teeth one day. Well you know. Let that one rod awed if every day continually they don't Brush Dad's teeth is something you need to address. So you gotTa Kinda way what's important to speak up about in what you need to. Maybe just put on the backburner watch that's been carols challenged because I just WanNa go in and fix everything every day. Make everything perfect. I don't know what world I think. I live in cassette. Don't what happened in my own house. Hey I am sitting here looking at myself recording. This and I'm seeing what you're seeing if you're watching it on video if you're listening to me on the podcast you're very fortunate because I'm seeing hair sticking up. I can't do this reverse right. They are what. What is that hair? Right they're sticking up say life is not always what you want it to be. We can't Fix Everything but there are things in our world in our loved ones world when we are paying for care that we should expect especially the care care that we're paying for so I can tell you my brother-in-law his mom is in a community that we are not thrilled with but she is probably in her last day. So we're just staying calm in letting her be rather than moving her sweet lady. I just love her. She's always been so sweet to me and he would go in in her room had not been cleaned for weeks and he knew because he was monitoring what he saw on the floor in it never changed and he told the staff I pay to have. My mom's is ruined cleaned every week. It's part of what I pay for and it's not been cleaning weeks. That's the kind of thing you gotta speak up about. You got to make sure that you get what you pay for. Don't fight the little things but pay attention document. Take pictures of things that are going on in the room may be that you don't like don't take pictures other people the community. That's against the law. Don't do that In the document with the appropriate people in the community. What you're saying that's upsetting you? The documentations important and executive director now knows you've got it in writing in that puts a little fire under their rear into and that's a good thing well out Out that gives you some help as you navigate that assisted living memory care skilled nursing setting or even Rehab But remember it's all run by people by Human Beings and we are all flawed. We're not perfect. Never have day where we did everything right in neither do the folks in in those communities that they keep in mind is they're hard-working gotthard jobs. They're not getting paid a truckload to do it. I'm just going to tell you so coming. Keep that Monto. Well hope you have a good day. I hope you love what makes you hope you make him. giggle tune lessons miles a by. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors. I National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in the F.. Dot Org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the bed or encor both editor bed. You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written and making sure it represents cents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. 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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:51 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Here's your host bestselling author. Carol I caregivers welcome to. Let's talk. Dementia I am Carol. How will your host? And we'll talk about foster care. Do you think this was a show about dementia. Am I totally confused. Well no not really had a very interesting conversation last week with a lady who. I won't tell you her name but a little bit. What about her story and it has just stuck with me and I thought you know this is something that I should share? She on call regarding her dad. Who is living being on his own and having some memory issues and been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Some very valid concerns about his safety in driving wink and in keeping appointments arriving at appointments five hours. Early you know all those things that start to happen with dementia. That kind of scare US Asas family members and we think ooh this is not safe anymore. I don't know that this is true but I think sometimes the females in the family worry more about at their parents and maybe the males duty I guess true. I don't know I just I listen to her talk and I hear myself in my story in lots of ways in what she's telling In touch my heart. Her Dad said to her. All you and your sister trying to do is move me to foster care will l. ever heard it got lots of things when we want to move our loved ones from their home to a community where they'd be geared of cared for but foster care. I had not heard of that one before. It just made me Giggle but the reason I tell you that is your loved. One may be protesting the move live to a group living situation whether it be a Assisted living in memory care or a wonderful group home. I do love group homes. You know where there's like five or six people in the home being well cared for. They may be protesting that because they have a vision in their head or a pitcher in their ahead of what that is like based on the last time they saw it in the last time they saw it was probably nineteen fifty or sixty or even the seventies Even the eighties folks but that is not what we have going on today and she said this lady that I talked with Satish I just really want dad to move to an assisted living. And we're going to start this week. Going in touring and But I don't ever getting a move and I said the first thing you have to help dad realize is not that he needs to move. We're not gonNA try to convince him of that what we're going to show him instead is retirement matt living in a wonderful exclusive high-end community. I don't care what do you choose. That's what the words were going to use. And when he goes and sees what assisted living is today will. He's going to be shocked. Because I can tell you. Even in the eighties assisted. Living was not something something we heard a very much in if we did it was not what it is today I remember before I ever started in this industry three bag in the early eighties visiting skilled nursing communities. And that's pretty much all there was and all the people were lying up. Just he's in their wheelchairs sort of not their drooling Curled in the fetal position. And you walk down the hall mess. What she saw will that is the vision or that is the picture that so many of our folks have in their head? There is nobody that says you know. I just think I wanNA move to that. Sign me up. No No. They don't do that. They're like whatever happens. You keep me out of that. I'll stay home. They don't have in their head. The picture of a one bedroom fully furnished apartment Martin with all their favorite things in a maid and a Butler initiative and a driver right inactivity stranger. They don't think that so. That's what we want them to seen. In a total of the best way to what not the best way but several ways to do it and one of them is just take that for lunch. One day we're going to a new place you're GONNA WANNA have launched their offering free lunch and I'm all for a free lunch. Dad What do you think take him get him in there. Let him see this beautiful community in if all you do is have have launched. Then you've got dad's foot in the door and then maybe you can talk to him in I in the car on the way home because he's not GonNa remember later in the afternoon. That's a wonderful wonderful retirement community where people live and then maybe go to another one in let him have lunch there with you save. There's one that he seems to respond more positively to than others that he has more of a reaction to than others And then at some point go back and May Have data look at an apartment now. If Dad's able to help make that decision having look at the apartment see what he thinks. If that's not able to make that decision and you're GonNa make it on your own then arrange warning where someone's GonNa Come Take Dad and take him out fishing or take him out to do whatever it is. Dad Likes to do if it was does your Mama I would say. We don't take her shopping but most been probably. Don't WanNa go do that but to get that out of the house for three or four hours and you're going to have a team aim of really good people and a truck or two and you're going to move at least the essentials from Dad's home straight DADS assisted living apartment. His bad his favorite uh-huh his favorite chair has favorite pitchers. Favorite blanket is TV that pitcher. That's hung above the TV the picture of his wife. The pitchers children whatever. It is that when dad walks into his house now he thinks this is home. You won't at least some of those things in this new assisted living apartment. Then take that back for lunch. Dallas about their. They're offering free lunch again and after lunch maybe he can play Bingo or whatever why you've finished setting up that apartment then you'd say dad come down here on the show you something. This is where you're going to stay for a few nights because we're all going out of town in we can't be here to take care of you just a little worried. What about you so I want you to love me enough just to stay here for a few nights? And then when we get back will come see In he might protests. Yes that yeah but you will work around it but thanking God. He's only there for a few nights will lay on him in a way that he's likely to to be accepting of that idea. Now if you take Dan go. Hey Dad here's your new apartment. You're gonNA live here forever because you can't live by yourself. I don't want to live by yourself. Okay so you next week think. Well that's not gonNa feel good anybody so don't be crazy and do that but tell dad you know you're going to be gone for a few days. I think we had a client that we told her her that family came up with this. That there was Talks Mold in her house and they were going to have it fixed in. She couldn't be there while they were cleaning ed maker sick and so they had arranged for her to stay in this wonderful apartment poly about a week while they fixed it in that worked so you think well what happens in a week AAC when the toxic malls supposed to be done or what happens after three or four days when we're supposed to be back from vacation well one of the beauties of dementias we don't have a good the perception of time and space a week really doesn't mean anything to us a week may feel like In two months or a week may I feel like a day so we don't understand that concept anymore time so if they say to you well can I move back to my house when no mom there. You had taught Simone Your House. They're trying to get it out or I've I'm going to be leaving in just a couple of days to go on a trip nap. You tell your votes. You're leaving to go on a trip that that might be a good time to leave and go on a trip. I'm just saying especially the first couple of days May Be at least twenty four forty eight hours give your. I loved one a chance to settle in there before he's sworn back in now their communities to stay stay gone a week. No you don't not when you first move a man if you taking it all help. It don't do that. They do need to see your face and know that you're still alive. You still love him. And everything's GonNa be okay but have your story straight in your brain about about why they are there and how long they have to stay in stick with that story it will work. I've told you before about the lady who moved in and her. The whole family just decorated her one bedroom. Apartments is just really really pretty and we were so excited I walked in with her and her boys For them to show her the apartment and she said this is pretty. This is pretty look there. You've got to pitch remain cutch collar husbands night. And then she sat down in her recliner. She said well this is my recliner and in her son Simone. This is your new apartment. You're going to live here. And she said you guys sit down and when they sit down she said. I hope you all rot inhale because I am not staying here wail we all about dropped. RT It was like holy cow. We so we're not expecting that because she was so receptive how gorgeous apartment was in all her pretty stuff in there. She was not happy but you know she lived there very happily. It took her three or four four days to figure out it was okay and she wasn't mad at anybody and To forget the whole episode and she became very easy to get along with and and Excited to live there. She also thought I was the Mayor of Charlotte North Carolina and. I did not proceed to dissuade her that I was happy to be. The mayor was for several years. Then all all of a sudden I was no longer the mayor. I don't know what happened that I lost that position in her brain so anyway I'm glad to know that this lady that I was talking about early early will not be moving. Her Dad foster care but potentially tune assisted living. If you're looking for an assisted living calming let me tell you I know of some good ones in your part of the world. I don't charge charge you to help you are not. Don't call me but you can email me email me carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org in when you email now may give me your phone number now. Call you and we'll make some plans together. You'll be glad we talked. Blessings and smiles by bio. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www you've dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to in you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran and despacito veteran or both editor bed. You can find Miss Beth. Crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol House Let's Talk Dementia to learn more about dementia. We we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more or smiles. Thanks for joining us today. 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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

07:52 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Unless you chosen to join me on another episode of Talk Dementia Well. This show is being released on December. Twenty two thirds. I bet you can guess what we're GONNA talk about. Well what I hope to do on this episode is just to give you a few last minute tips. That might help. Make your Christmas business a better time. You know what you're not going to have is you're not GonNa have Norman Rockwell Christmas. You know how I know that because they don't exist ask no one's ever had a Norman Rockwell Christmas including Norman Rockwell. Speaking of did you know. Norman Rockwell had Alzheimer's. He sure did so his family understands what you're going through in. So do I said let's talk about a few things that you can do. That might make that day before before the day of the day after whenever it is you're GonNa get your whole family together or maybe he's GonNa be a very small Christmas but what you can do to make that more successful and specifically we're gonNA talk about not eating too much and scotch tape. What not eating too much scotch tape? Well well too much is what we're going to talk about too much food too. Much Scotch tape so too much food. You know the holidays you know. They're all around how much we can eat how much we can drink. I don't drink at all so it's kind of boring for me But all those things that we put in our body but the Snuggie a plan for us we shouldn't do that. We've talked about that in abundance in the past but I want to remind you not to load up. Your dog wants play. If you take their plate you just pilot up with the. It's going to being very overwhelming for them. I don't care if they really do love. Every single item on the plate. Their brain is having a hard time comprehending and processing all all that food in one spot and all those colors all that. Wha what do I do with it. So let's take a colored plate preferably coloured plate that has divided sections in it the way when you use the spoon and you scoop it up and you hit the edge of that divided section. It helps to get the vote on the spooner on the fork. It works well. But we're only GONNA put two maybe three items on the plate depending where they are in their journey. And we'RE NOT GONNA put more than may be a half cup of that item on the plight light. We're not loading up with this huge big serving of Turkey and dressing members. Also all that stuff but just a little bit of two or three things now. That doesn't doesn't mean they can't have refills in that. Those refills can't be the same thing or different things that's fine but just don't overwhelm them with too much. The alright what about too much scotch tape. What did that have to do anything? Well we always WANNA set our loved ones up for success. Isn't that what you wanted. Wanted Your Life. You don't want folks putting you in positions where you're GONNA fail. You ought to be successful in great and everything you do. And that's what we want for. Our loved ones wants the more successful. They feel the better. They're gonNA feel the better. You'RE GONNA fail. You see how this is a winning proposition. So what what we WANNA do is we'll before we present them with their wrapped gift go head rapid. That's just normal. That feels good to them. But don't love that little jewel up with Scotch tape on every single angle image. That's just a frustration. Waiting to happen what I would do was when you fall down those edges put one piece of metal. Those in pieces may a flap in the wind. But we don't care because that gives a great place for them to grab holding tire and outcomes the president in. Yeah they were successful but if you tape every every day on and they can't get it open then all of a sudden they can't even open president. How frustrating is that? And that's how they're gonNA feel so. Don't do that. Okay I did. Another too much is noise. Let's not have too much noise in the house. Heat that to a minimum Family member that noise is amplified many times. Sometimes it's just irritating. I can tell you my momma with us. We were too damn loud so keep that in mind and another another thing of to his to tire. Make sure that you don't allow your window get too tired because if that happens as probably your fault you might should've in in her active or intercede there to allow them opportunity to rest now if they refused arrests. There's nothing you can do about that. Then it's not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. But you want to allow that opportunity for maybe a quiet time for even just half hour for them just to chill out maybe in the back bedroom And maybe just maybe you you want to sit beside them or have somebody sit beside him so they won't feel alone now if there had you're having this event at their assisted living or In the at the House that live live in and they can go to their ruined. Seems comfortable to them. They may be fine by themselves. But if you hold them over you know over the river through the woods to somebody else's house and you put them in around that they're not used to by themselves and you leave them at might not be comfortable so keep that in mind. All we want to do is to come through this with a memorable double experience. It's not going to be perfect. MIND WON'T BE YOURS WON'T Bay and I know this because my never has been in either as yours in neither will mine and neither will yours is just it goes. You'll look back on it and think they're saying she might could've done should have done. Didn't do wish you hadn't done whatever but what we we can do is our best. That's all we can do this. What life is about is offering to everybody? We made our best in when we do that. The Lord looks down on this and blesses US forgiving of our best for being his hands in vape salt light even to those people with dementia. Like my sleep Mama. This is Mama Emma. I love that picture of her. I think it's a really good one and I just prompted there so you could say it. I'll be missing her. This Christmas. It will be My first I Christmas not being with Mama and I'm a little bit irritated her for not being here while not gonNa cry cried on you too many times a hope you're Christmases this. Mrs Just absolutely fabulous out. The food tastes so good. I hope it settles on your belly and I hope you get the very biscuit that I can think of that. You could get from someone on this earth. That's a smile from your loved one blessings on your day. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. WWW dot N.. F. DOT RG. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. It looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's it's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell them Carrollton. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. 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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:08 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Well hello caregivers in welcome back to. Let's talk dementia today. We're GONNA talk about the cure for everything. It most of the time to get the cure for everything or to find doubt the answer. You have to send somebody thirty nine ninety five in your credit card number or they want you to sign up to get something every month and it's only gonNa cost you eighty nine ninety five a month. What a deal that is? I going to give you the answer for free and the cure for everything is something that I have harped on so many times you're going to go not again but recently in the AARP magazine. I believe it's this month's issue see owners to get the AARP magazine just won't let you know that. But my husband he he has in here as it passes on the good stuff to mate but they had an article called the cure for everything so on that formation from for today's show is taken and some of it from that article the cure for everything. WanNa guess what it is. If you've listened minium I shows are watched. Many of my shows than you know the cure for everything is getting rid rid of inflammation inflammation. y'All go kill us. It's not a good thing. Now you've got to know there are times. Inflammation is a good thing in your body but it's a temporary. Everything is not a long lasting it is not a chronic condition in wind becomes a chronic condition. That's when we have problems the most common trick. The most common common trigger for most health issues that go on in our bodies is low grade inflammation so a study was done in Boston where they They conducted did it with ten thousand people. In thirty nine countries. The average age was sixty one they were looking to see if anti inflammatory drugs could lower the right of heart disease and he did it worked but they also found out it reduced lung cancer mortality sent more than seventy seven percent and reports of Gout and arthritis fail by reducing losing inflammation. Now this is big news yaw. I've told you that. Inflammation has a direct impact on the brain. The connection between inflammation and Alzheimer's is very strong. If we don't want inflammation in our body so as I said influence is all information is not bad. No inflammation as a result On inflammation as a result of an injury or Something that has happened to your body. That's causing you body to respond with an inflammatory process. That is temporary wary. That is good. Your body is doing its job to fight into repair but chronic inflammation is the problem. It is a slow slow forming process in the body and it causes misfiring the immune system. So this is not good. Keeps your body in a high state of alert and damaged healthy sales in will. Does that sound oh good you. It doesn't sound good to me. It can attack the inflammation can attack the lining of your arteries your intestines. Your River your brain. I mean just everything and it can lead to dementia. This should not surprise you. Because that's what I'm talking about. Diabetes Cancer Heart Disease Arthritis Pression Yup. None of those are good things and the thing is heart disease. Arthritis depression lead to dementia can lead to dementia. It's it's a bad thing we've got to get this under control. The main calls of inflammation in our world is lifestyle. And we've talked about this. A big blue zone proponent and of their their steps for reducing This process of inflammation your body. Following their steps will work greatly. The the older you are the more likely you are to have it formation your body but that's just because you've had more years to be around toxins in stress and alcohol and make bad food choices the not exercise all of that is build up in your body of increase inflammation somewhere. And you've got to stop this folks. You've gotTA decide. I'm going to be proactive. This is not not happening in my world. That's where I am. That's why I am eating healthy. I've always well not always but for the last eight healthy but boy I really am now now. I want to do a little plug right here for A company come misfits market M. I. S. F. I. T. S. market. And if you're interested interested in order from them email me and I will give you a coupon code Where you can get twenty five percents off? I believe my aunt Carol at let's talk. DEMENTIA DOT dot. Org But misfits market for twenty two dollars plus shipping since May a box of enough organic vegetables for a week. And it's wonderful. It's delivered right to my door when I first started doing it. I did not get to choose the vegetables. Suicide like Christmas. For maslow's kind of fun to see what I get but but now I do get to choose the vegetables so I'm not getting Jalapenos so don't do that. I got beats last time and the verdict is out on those. I don't like beets but I'm willing to try them again again. But I'm getting these organic healthy good for me vegetables. Not The junk that you're probably eating so check on misfits mark but do write me. Let me get you that coupon coupon code so making those choices avoiding foods that are high in sugar. I know it's Christmastime Ryan as record this This will go out sometime the week before Christmas. There's parties people were bringing junk to your office stacked up it's free. Oh you gotta do is get up and put it in your mouth. You know a moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips. That's true but a moment on the lips are several moments on the lips. If you're just doing it once it's not won't be a problem but if you're continually nearly disgorging on all of this stuff that is so prevalent in our world right now with sugar in processed food in alcohol. It's IT'S GONNA cause a lot of issues in your body with inflammation and that inflammation is not going to give you a good whale. Good way so what you WANNA do is to eat. Those foods that are in close close to the natural form is what the good Lord up above made them. And that's why like misfits market is just fun. I got Bok Choy. I like Bok Choy. I had never cooked it now. I have really do like it. Bok Choy is crews cruciferous cruciferous vegetables and leafy green vegetables all in one pretty NEAT NEAT. What's the health benefits there? And this week I had a pomegranate. I've had pomegranate before. But I've never worked with one. It was super easy in. I enjoyed having so we. I want to exercise every day. Get Out and get your little movement and do something that you enjoy don't go. I'm going to go jogging when you know you can't dog and you hate the job. Go out for a walk. Walk go for exercise in the pool. A ride your bike. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing do some yoga some relaxation and breathing ditch the stress? That person that is driving you crazy at work. You GotTa do something to get away from them and if you've got to change jobs for your health it's time right that resignation Asian ladder making these changes all at the same time score. Javi bonker. So don't do that. But start with those changes as you make those changes in UC your body. Start feeling better than you'll be more equipped to handle exerciser. It started maintain it into learn to relax into handle that crazy person at work. So you're gonNA feel better. That's what I want for you. I want you to feel better because if you feel better you can't be a better caregiver and I love my people with dementia so my needs to take care of them. Blessings and smiles us. Let's dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a vf dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com? She visit mazing at looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and hd the imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight hundred three eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol Century thanks for joining us today for peril howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions and be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:08 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Well hello caregivers in welcome back to. Let's talk dementia today. We're GONNA talk about the cure for everything. It most of the time to get the cure for everything or to find doubt the answer you have to send somebody thirty nine ninety five in your credit card number and or they want you to sign up to get something every month and it's only gonNa cost you eighty nine ninety five a month. What a deal that is? I going to give you the answer for free and the cure for everything is something that I have harped on so many times you're going to go not again but recently in the AARP magazine. I believe. It's this month's issue see. I'm not old enough to get the AARP magazine just won't let you know that. But my husband he he has in here as it passes on the good stuff to mate but they had an article called the cure for everything so on that formation from for today's show is taken and some of it from that article the cure for everything. WanNa guess what it is. If you've listened minium I shows are watched. Many of my shows than you know the cure for everything is getting rid rid of inflammation inflammation. y'All go kill us. It's not a good thing. Now you've got to know there are times. Inflammation is a good thing in your body but it's a temporary. Everything is not a long lasting it is not a chronic condition in when it becomes a chronic condition. That's when we have problems the most common trick. The most common common trigger for most health issues that go on in our bodies is low grade inflammation so a study was done in Boston where they They conducted did it with ten thousand people. In thirty nine countries. The average age was sixty one they were looking to see if anti inflammatory drugs could lower the right of heart disease and he did it worked but they also found out it reduced lung cancer mortality sent more than seventy seven percent and reports of Gout and arthritis fail by reducing losing inflammation. Now this is big news yaw. I've told you that. Inflammation has a direct impact on the brain. The connection between inflammation and Alzheimer's is very strong. If we don't want inflammation in our body so as I said influence is all information is not bad. No inflammation as a result On inflammation as a result of an injury or Something that has happened to your body. That's causing you body to respond with an inflammatory process. That is temporary wary. That is good. Your body is doing its job to fight into repair but chronic inflammation is the problem. It is a slow slow forming process in the body we and it causes misfiring the immune system so this is not good. Keeps your body in a high state of alert and damaged healthy sales in will. Does that sound oh good you. It doesn't sound good to me. It can attack the inflammation can attack the lining of your arteries your intestines. Your River your brain. I mean just everything and it can lead to dementia. This should not surprise you. Because that's what I'm talking back. At least a diabetes cancer heart disease arthritis pression. Yup none of those are good things and the thing is heart disease. Arthritis depression lead to dementia can lead to dementia. It's it's a bad thing we've got to get this under control. The main calls of inflammation in our world is lifestyle. And we've talked about this. A big blue zone proponent and of their their steps for reducing This process of inflammation your body. Following their steps will work greatly. The the older you are the more likely you are to have it formation your body but that's just because you've had more years to be around toxins in stress and alcohol and make bad food choices the not exercise all of that is build up in your body of increase inflammation somewhere. And you've got to stop this folks. You've gotTA decide. I'm going to be proactive. This is not not happening in my world. That's where I am. That's why I am eating healthy. I've always well not always but for the last eight healthy but boy I really am now now. I want to do a little plug right here for A company come misfits market. Mis F. I. T. S. market. And if you're interested interested in order from them email me and I will give you a coupon code Where you can get twenty five percents off? I believe my aunt Carol at let's talk. DEMENTIA DOT dot. Org But misfits market for twenty two dollars plus shipping since May a box of enough organic vegetables for a week. And it's wonderful. It's delivered right to my door when I first started doing it. I did not get to choose the vegetables. Suicide like Christmas. For maslow's kind of fun to see what I get but but now I do get to choose the vegetables so I'm not getting Jalapenos so don't do that. I got beats last time and the verdict is out on those. I don't like beets but I'm willing to try them again again. But I'm getting these organic healthy good for me vegetables. Not The junk that you're probably eating so check on misfits market but do write me. Let me get you that coupon coupon code so making those choices avoiding foods that are high in sugar. I know it's Christmastime Ryan as record this This will go out sometime the week before Christmas. There's parties people were bringing junk to your office stacked up it's free. Oh you gotta do is get up and put it in your mouth. You know a moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips. That's true but a moment on the lips are several moments on the lips. If you're just doing it once it's not won't be a problem but if you're continually nearly disgorging on all of this stuff that is so prevalent in our world right now with sugar in processed food in alcohol. It's IT'S GONNA cause a lot of issues in your body with inflammation and that inflammation is not going to argue goodwill. Good way so what you WANNA do is to eat. Those foods that are in close close to the natural form is what the good Lord up above made them. And that's why like misfits market is just fun. I got Bok Choy. I like Bok Choy. I had never cooked it now. I have really do like it. Bok Choy is crews cruciferous cruciferous vegetables and leafy green vegetables. All in one pretty neat eight watts. A health benefits there and this week I had a pomegranate. I've had pomegranate before. But I've never worked with one. It was super easy in. I enjoyed having so we. I want to exercise every day. Get Out and get your little movement and do something that you enjoy don't go. I'm going to go jogging when you know you can't dog and you hate the job. Go out for a walk. Walk go for exercise in the pool. A ride your bike. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing do some yoga relaxing and breathing ditch the stress? That person that is driving you crazy at work. You GotTa do something to get away from them and if you've got to change jobs for your health it's time right that resignation Asian ladder making these changes all at the same time score. Javi bonker. So don't do that. But start with those changes as you make those changes in UC your body. Start feeling better than you'll be more equipped to handle exerciser. It started maintain it into learn to relax into handle that crazy person at work. So you're gonNA feel better. That's what I want for you. I want you to feel better because if you feel better you can't be a better caregiver and I love my people with dementia so my needs to take care of them. Blessings and smiles us. Let's dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a vf dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com? She visit mazing at looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and hd the imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight hundred three eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol Century thanks for joining us today for peril howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions and be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

11:13 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Did you see my little dog. Just leave the room. I guess she's she's bored. I don't know well today. I WanNa talk to you about how things are not always what they seem recently. We've been doing a lot of talking about preventing Alzheimer's and thought we'd just take a little break from that talk about life so today the kind of a weird day. It's been up. Call it a a weepy Mama Day. We'd be Mama morning. I heard the song on the gaither either vocal channel which I love the gaither vocal band. I listen to their music a lot of times. And this trio of women. I don't know who they were saying. The song angels in the Roane and it was talking about a man who is passing and he was saying to his family. Look don't you see there are angels in the room. Well it took me back very quickly to May thirty first When my mom passed and It was sad for me and it's still is obviously. I think about that day and I think about her passing and how beautiful and and wonderful in and full of the Holy Spirit that day was but in my heart when I think about it is painful and I don't know that it's something I'll ever get over were and I don't really think I want to. I want to always have that strong connection to my Mama and I know I will but when you see me out in public I'm always smiling. I'm always have a makeup looks much better than it looks right now. 'cause well I've been crying. You might not know in passing what has gone on in my life for the last. Thirteen years Tom In watching Mama go from being vibrant working woman who could outsail anybody in the store no matter what the product making me. Oh so happy. Every time she knocked on my door bringing me Sonic Cherry lime AIDS with extra Jerry's because she knows she knew that's what I liked to becoming becoming a woman who when she looked at me did not know who I was. You know how hard that is. If you're not there yet in your journey your loved one and sticks around long enough. You're going to experience that in. It's painful it hurts so when you see me out in public you would have no clue of that. It just makes me think about there are people in our world. Well let me just back that up. Everybody we literally everybody we meet is dealing with something that we don't know about. We don't know if they're caregivers we don't know if they have been abandoned Brandin if they have been abused maybe they are in a very stressful and awful life situation where they're being physically mentally l. e. sexually financially whatever kind of abuse they're receiving maybe they're being bullied at school. Maybe they're different for whatever reason and they're being made to feel less than maybe the morning. Maybe they're grieving. Maybe they've lost a job maybe they've they've lost their home. They've lost their income. Maybe they've lost their mama their daddy their husband their wife their sibling their best friend. You just don't know and so what I want to say to you today. Is Bill aware of that. You are not the only person person in the world who is dealing with tough times Thanksgiving's coming Christmas around the corner. Those are extremely difficult times for many many people. The suicide rate is higher between now in the first of the year that any other time of the year because holidays are hard. It's hard being around family. Sometimes that may not be accepting of you for whatever reason. It's hard being around families that don't understand your grief that don't acknowledge it. And maybe maybe you're not acknowledging it and their own world. It's hard sometimes to pull up your big girl panties and keep going for the day. But I want you to know that when you're meeting up with these people and you're realizing that everything is not what it appears to be that behind that or in front of that. In addition to that we need to bring smiles miles. We need to bring hope. We need to bring words of encouragement. We need to let folks know we are there for them. I have a friend who who donates to our company monthly and. I'm so thankful for all of you. Folks who donate to our ministry so that we can keep paying for these podcasts in these videos that you you watch her cards make me so happy. There's nothing profound. It's just. She took a moment to ride. Why in tell me what's going on in her world and into thanked me for helping her in her journey but just hearing from her that that touch in my world just means a lot it to me? I was riding her today. Thanking her for that people's lives are not all what they seem and I know in her world. She's dealt with a lot of great from the passing of her sister. People deal with a lot. Look at this picture. What do you see? You should see an owl and this picture was actually taken after. I had spoken. Okay one night in North Carolina back in October and the lady I was with went. Look there is an al I wear wear is the out. It had flown right over over. My head landed in the tree and she cut that pitcher. Isn't it incredible. I think it is absolutely a gorgeous pitcher but look at the purple in the background. You know that's not what you think it is to me. It looked like maybe purple flowers in the background. Purple something in the tree. But it's the dark night sky. See Things aren't what they appear to be. We see one thing but what actually might be could could be something totally different. You know you have to think about that. Think about that when it comes to your loved one. What they are experiencing is probably not what you think they are experiencing? What they are seeing is certainly not what you're seeing? Their vision has changed so much what they are wishing for in hoping for and desirous of. I don't think we can begin to imagine and the stress that they feel from not being able to to participate in life. We don't have a clue I can teach you about it. I can try to help you understand but I don't know and you no no one knows because the people who do know can't tell us about it but it's got to be it's just got to be a very agonizing using thing to be in a room full of people and not be able to participate in life with him. That's what your loved ones kind of feel like Thanksgiving and Christmas may be New Year's and whenever ever whenever you get the family together they want to be a part of the world. They want to be able to participate. They look like they should be able to man up until January of this year. Mamma died in May up into January. Viewer visit mom. You might not even guess just by looking king at her that she had advanced age. Alzheimer's would be leaving us in five months. Things are not what they seem but she was dealing with a lot in. She was confused a lot and she was frustrated law and she even had pain. Things are not what they seem and being aware of that. Uh when you're taking care of your loved one is important but helping your friends to be aware of that as they interact with you. That's SORTA Kinda maybe a little bit your responsibility because until you've care give in a in a specific situation especially dementia Asia. Then you don't understand it if your friends have not been through that caregiving experience. They don't know what you're going through so maybe just a little word from you. That says I'm having a weepy. Mama morning I feel like Poo Poo and it's messed my makeup all up an adult. Need you to solve anything for me right now. Yeah if you could just put your arms around me all I cry. Well that would mean a lot to me. I've told my husband husband that US if a Stark Ryan you don't have to fix its use after all me and as my friend Linda Tommy. She's a carol when those moments come let them come. Let them wash over you and feel you but let them leave GotTa let them leave today. See Her read. It makes my my face and I just put on my makeup on award well. I hope that you've got some words of wisdom from me today with my arterial itself and for you folks who don't have this video form in you're listening to maybe you can go to our website and pull up this this video and see that beautiful picture how it is quite something up. You have a good day. Blesses miles per by. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a v F dot Org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor editor Beth Dot Com. She is at mazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com Tom and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight fine I they are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell them carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon Azzawi. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. 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"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

Let's Talk Dementia

09:33 min | 2 years ago

"beth dot" Discussed on Let's Talk Dementia

"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome back to. Let's talk dementia. I appear on how will your host thank you for joining me. In Our last episode we talked about the importance of civil things to help. Help reduce our chances of Alzheimer's in today I WanNa talk to you about the importance of sleep now. I told you that I had been having a hard time staying asleep in. That's it's not good. We need several hours of uninterrupted sleep. which I couldn't seem to get but I wanNA talk about Tim steps that you can do to increase your chances of getting healthy beneficial productive as well? I'll tell you as what in just a little bit how productive your brain can be Sleep for you and for your Elo. Cruiser L. O.. Niece has sleet to believe me. The first thing you can do is to maintain a schedule that allows for seven to nine hours of sleep in in the best way that you can do that is by not needing to set an alarm clock while you say I got to get up and get going but if you are going to bed at the exact exact same time every night and getting up at the exact same time. Every morning your brain will begin to adjust to that and I read that and I thought Um I don't know if I believe that or not till I started paying attention to it and my brain is waking me up somewhere between six and six fifteen which bad way. I am not entirely happy. I ride rather have ten o'clock. Don't be good and the other thing you WanNa do when you do get up to go the bathroom. I'm in the middle of the night like I'm good at doing is. Don't open your eyes all the way. Don't flip on the light unless you're going to go into the bathroom. They may be. You need just a little night. Light light put out or some things that keep you from having to put on the full overhead light. Because when you do in the light gets into your brain it resets your circadian Acadian Rhythm in your brain and that's what helps you stay on track for going to sleep and waking up so we don't want to wake up your brain okay. We want to keep everything dark working in his quiet as we. Can You WANNA stop caffeine by two o'clock now. have it. Had Caffeine like forever and thirty six days. So that's not an issue issue for me but you need to remember that if at Caffeine the half-life of caffeine is about six to eight hours so if you have caffeine at two o'clock in the afternoon in the half life of it is Eight o'clock then by Tiller clock half of the effect that caffeine is still in your body. It might be keeping you from going to sleep so think about that when you are discerning when you should stop having Pepsi Cola which. ps I know offense to Pepsi. But you don't need to be having it all is so bad for your body so keep that in mind. Avoid alcohol within three hours of your bedtime now. A lot of us will think. Oh I'll have a glass of wine to help me sleepy. Help me get sleepy and that okay. That might work but give yourself about three hours before you go to sleep That so the alcohol has time to bend to be digested and won't have a major effect on your ability to sleep peacefully because you can't have an issue with that exercising. Yeah you kind of heard this before from exercising during the day will help be sleep better at night but you also don't want to exercise like right before bedtime when it gets you really away. You don't WanNa do that so make sure you you avoid exercising. I think it's three to four hours before bedtime. Get Sunlight in the morning so my husband and I we get up while it's still dark with this dead gone time change. I don't know why we changed the time fall forward known. Yeah spring forward fall back. I don't know why we do that. Mass but now when we get up it's dark so we're getting outside justice. The Sun is coming up if you are outside when the sun is coming up or when the sun is going down it does help reduce depression but being outside when the sun is coming up So for about thirty minutes will help to set the the Circadian Rhythm and it turns off off Melatonin so being outside. We'll stop the release of Melatonin. You're Brian make you more effective and more awake for your day and make you more ready for sleep at night. Keeping your room. Cool between sixty five and seventy five degrees is important. I've had the heck with time getting my husband and go with that one Erin and I'm like did you turn the air down. Did you turn the air down. I told you Menopausal I get hot. I don't like to sweat avoid blue light at nighttime. What is blue light will that you tell your television your screens your phone your IPAD? Whatever it is that you're looking at all those darn hours Avoid avoid that Brooke Elise right before bedtime. Give yourself an hour so out there. I have a little thing that pops up on my phone that tells me how many hours a week spent on. Oh my phone is distressing. I was up was up. Twenty seven percent this past week. What did I do on my phone? I don't know how about doing a little meditation meditation before bedtime prayer before bedtime being thankful spending some time to be thankful spending time breathing being member that five five ten five talked about five Bresciano. Hold it five second count to ten to let it out. Hold it for vice again. I said it wrong to begin with not vibrates in. It's one breath in that you hope for five seconds one breath in how I go. Tell you this it's count the five when you're breathing. Okay breathe in one two three four five hold it for five against breath out for count of ten hold it for five seconds out boy. I had a hard time explaining that. But this puts your brain in the mood for sleep as does rating rating will make you so sleepy and get tested for sleep. Apnea they say seventy percent the people with sleep apnea go on diagnosed. That's not a good thing. You're GONNA have terribly difficult time getting useful restorative sleep if you have sleep apnea in an ask your doctor after about supplements for sleep as I mentioned earlier dough tears breathe is good for sleeping. I take Melatonin ten. Milligrams I'm not telling you to do that. I'm just telling you I take Melatonin. Melatonin ten milligrams in it does help me. Lock also take magnesium now magnesium. We'll help you sleep. Check with your doctor before you take anything okay. A y'all got that. Don't come back and say you told me to take it because I did not but magnesium. I started taking it because I'm Vegan While I'm piscotty cheering because I do eat some on fish. And so sometimes you need to supplement with magnesium but magnesium is good for reducing migraines and. It's good to help you sleep in that kind of neat and you see baby oil before I go to sleep just to help with that process so those are just a few things that you can do to help. Get good restorative sleep in talked about being productive sleep and it's productive to sleep because when you get in that good sound sleep as we've talked about vote for your Automatic vacuum your brains Roomba comes on and claims your brain in. You need that so we've got to do all those things that Brian controls every bit of your body. Everybody your body answers to your brain and your brain answers to in response to every bit of your body so we got to keep the brain right healthy in the body healthy and one of the things we can do to keep the brain healthy is good quality sleep argue. Thank you fill in sleepy. I feel a nap in my future. Have a good day blessings and smiles. Let's dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell. I'm Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review review on I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia..

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