18 Burst results for "Ben Shahar"
"ben shahar" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock
"Forty eight hours in a day because you know sleep is important to and it just it just been workouts. He just Expect work did not work and you know in studied computer science. I can do you can do. I can make whatever no matter. The code did man is created a second list next to list. The i list. I called it. My you know my perfect list. The second list. I called my optimal list. Optimal means best given the m constraints of reality. That's the definition of optimal best given the constraints of reality so the was perfectly either was optimal or the was ideal. The other was good enough ending the good enough List i wrote all the things that i wanna do but what would be good enough. Yes so you know in a perfect world. I would do yoga two hours a day. Plus exercise ninety minutes. That's in a perfect world in good enough world now at orca three times a week you know forty minutes each time and then do yoga three times a week. Good enough seeing my friends. You know my my wife. And i we love hanging out with with friends with family. We would do just about every day. Perfect world in a good enough optimal world. You know we would see our friends. You know religiously once a week and if we have more time that's that that's great and on and on with work. Ideally i would work fourteen hours a day. I love my work. But then i wouldn't get to see friends family or or anyone so you know what's good enough well. Good enough is between six to eight hours a day and on for each time with my kid time with my wife and once i wrote that down once it was you know black on white. It became clear to me. What kind of life i could live. It became very cure. That i couldn't live the perfect life but it also became clear that i could live the optima. Live or a good enough live in good. Enough really is good enough and this is something again you speaking earlier about the moments you know. It sounds trivial atallah g embracing in accepting the fact. That good enough is good. Enough is Is important but to create this good enough list. We have to prioritize means meaning. We have to say no to many things which is easier said than done. The thing now is hard edge. Also as i was reading so in your book being happy talk a lot about this perfectionist versus optimist separation. And that really does hearken. Back to barry schwartz is work on the paradox of choice with people who want to be maximizing their choice versus satisfied with. This is more building.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock
"So let me ask you a question as a father know that you have three kids. How do you teach your kids as as an expert but also as a parent to embrace end make room for those uncomfortable emotions because as much as we're wired to happen also to kind of not want to keep them right well first and foremost by example and let me give you an example so You know we're going through this Very difficult period in Human history and you know. We're we're living it when with the lockdown and stress and anxiety probably all-time time high depression levels on the rise in word home. And we you know. The kids are not going to school. So we're together all the time and just a few days ago. We had 'em decided to have dinner together. An after dinner to watch a movie the hobbit together and no everyone was looking forward to. Its in come seven pm. And i'm really just feeding down not not feeling well feeding frustration and anxious and and so i tell my kids look. Daddy's not doing well on. Jim just really feeding down in. I need some alone time. I need some time to recover and dell went up to my room in wrote in my journal. Shed a few tears when into bed with With a book fell asleep earlier than i usually do in woke up the next morning not feeling great but but feeding better end of things for me in that experience one is. I gave myself permission to be human express my emotions whether to them weathering writing Whether through tears. And second noticing oughtn't i also told them that it's that. I'm giving myself the permission to be human and giving them the permission to be human because you know they know what i do not know that that that i do happiness In yet i'm also feeding down at times. And then he'd Levada said in one of her songs that it's okay not to be okay. Yeah.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock
"So we're really excited to be offering that you should check it out and we hope you join us so go to our website off the clock. Psych dot com to get promotion code on live events through practice L. here with debbie introduced an episode with happiness guru. Tall ben shahar..
"ben shahar" Discussed on Good Life Project
"Suddenly that not that perhaps he had or the disease that he experienced returns because it inevitably does and now he's lost because at least before he had the hope that once he makes then he'll be happy but he made it and again you realize that there is no there there you know the difference between sadness and depression is that depression is sadness without hope before he had hoped now he no longer has hope and he realizes that he cannot find happiness in this reality so he looks for answers outside of reality. What's outside of reality while it could be alcohol or drugs or the ultimate exit from reality which he suicide indices why we have so many very successful people happening an end to their lives or turning to drugs and alcohol because the model that they that they had the model that we're taught from a very young age just Disintegrated fell apart and there is no good alternative model. That is that is out there. F- for them to grasp on. Yeah the When i want to actually go into The what would a new model look like if we were to reimagine. What are they contributing factors to happiness. Let's talk about some of those things but before we get there. I think actually makes sense to ask esca more fundamental question which is when we talk about happiness. When are we actually talking about you. Know there are many definitions to happiness set. Some people have given up on trying to define it in there. They simply say well. It's like beauty you know you can't define it but you know it when you see it or you know when you experienced. I'm not of that school of thought. I think it is important to define happiness because once we define it can help us find it achieve it. There's a lovely line. The cheshire cat in alice in wonderland where she Asks the cheshire cat you know. Where should i go and he says well that depends on where you wanna get to. And then she says well. I don't know where i want to get to. And then he says well then it doesn't matter where you go so You know. I think it is important to know where we're going to define our path. So my definition of happiness comprises five elements the first element of happiness is spiritual wellbeing spiritual wellbeing very briefly can chorus come from religion. But it doesn't have to. It can come from a sense of meaning and purpose in life or from being present to whatever it is that we're experiencing to the miracle of existence so meaning and presents are the two elements off a spiritual life and physical wellbeing. The second element of happiness is about the regular physical exercise about movement about sleep about nutrition. Or s- these are important elements of happiness. Then there is intellectual wellbeing. You know the research showing that being curious asking questions learning constantly consistently doesn't just a make us happier. It also makes us healthier. In fact contribute to longevity being a lifelong learner aso that's intellectual wellbeing engaging with texts or with nature or with a work of art that's intellectual wellbeing then there is a relational wellbeing interpersonal relationships. Also relationship with oneself. The number one predictor of happiness is quality time we spend with people we care about and who care about us and finally the resume oceana wellbeing emotional wellbeing is about dealing with painfully motions. Sadness anger envy anxiety and also cultivating pleasurable emotions. Like joy like gratitude like love like excitement. So these five elements spiritual physical intellectual relational and emotional wellbeing that make up the acronym spire are the building blocks off happiness. Now it doesn't mean we need to have it all that would be overwhelming to even think about having it all but he doesn't mean that given that we are a system Whole system we can find in towards increasing levels of happiness through any one any and all of these five elements. So we can meditate. We can exercise or we can engage in learning or we can invest more in our relationships or express gratitude. I mean these are all powerful impactful ways of increasing levels of happiness especially if we practice them consistently and constantly so ritualized thing is of course important and want I want to dive into some of those in a bit more detail. Curiosity came to me as you're sharing that when you describe these five elements The second word in each one of the qualifiers is his wellbeing. Having spent some time with Some of the research on Happiness and money over time. It's been interesting to see that you know one of the big illusions was that you know. We thought that for every dollar earned you know there would be x percent more happiness and an event you that peaks out at a certain level of income. But what was interesting for me to see was. You're going to be much more familiar with the details of this research than i am but i do recall seeing a follow up wave research then looked at a vastly larger global data set and looked at the relationship between income and not just happiness but they broke out as a separate measure subjective wellbeing. They looked at them as two distinct and they found from my recollection is that there is this leveling off you know in the us. It was around seventy five thousand dollars a year in income. Simply that were. It didn't matter how much more you made happiness pretty much. Just flat line but subjective wellbeing continued in a linear relationship with everydollar. More that you made the data set stopped at around a quarter million dollars a year so they didn't go beyond that so i'm curious what you feel is the relationship between these things. Yes so the relationship between money and happiness is that money matters up to a certain point so that point is essentially what you feel like your basic needs are met whether it's for shelter for Food a force for education beyond that money doesn't make that much of a difference to your happiness levels unless you know how to spend it wisely mouse specifically. There are two.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
"Today we had the absolute pleasure of talking with Dr Tall. Ben. Shahar. It was a great and for me personally, really quite fascinating conversation with him on the practical science of happiness and what really matters in our lives i. one of the first things that Paul said, which is really going to stick with me is how important it is to accept all the aspects of our experience, the positive emotions, the negative emotions, the times where we're going through a really challenging experience like many people are these days. And the moments that we have naturally people where we can look at our own negative experiences, our own negative sensations, and particularly if you've done any kind of personal development work really gets sort of down ourselves for having that negative sensation and maybe naturally going. Wow, I, listened to all of these being well podcasts that I read all these books. Why am I not happy right now and his point was that there were only two types of people that don't experience negative emotions, sociopaths and people who are dead. So if you're experiencing negative emotion, hey, it's not such a bad thing that means you're not associate path and you're still alive and both of those are pretty great. and Tall on a great reflected toward the end on some of the research that suggests that people who pursue happiness and less happy than people who don't for some reason. And his point was that yes. If you focus on the outcome goal of happiness. Tough. Because happiness is a constant work in progress. So you're not necessarily going to experience that anything is happening. Or maybe it just feels like you're surface constantly pushing this boulder a hill only to have it rollback and smash in the face. But instead, if you focus on process goals, the little things like exercising or taking time for yourself or. Really. Taking in the rewarding experiences that we all naturally have in the course of a day. If you focus on doing those things, then happiness will almost naturally follow as a result. And I thought that that was a really nice clarification on a subject that often gets people kind of bogged down in minutia. So if you've been enjoying the podcast, we would really appreciate it if you would subscribe to it through the platform of your choice, leave a positive rating and review and hey, maybe even tell a friend about it. The best way to let people know about the podcast through word of mouth we've really been growing recently and personally I found it just incredibly gratifying to see that and I, really do deeply.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
"I think it's a great way to think about a tall and I'm I'm glad that you have a pragmatic viewpoint here, which I think is sometimes a lack of sight of these conversations. So moving toward the end, there is a final question that we like to ask everyone who comes on the show and I'm interested in your answer because of some of the personal sharing that you've done around maybe not having been so happy when you're going through some of these considerations around where you wanted your research and your work to land in your life. If you had the opportunity to go back in time. And Talk to yourself as a child as a young adult somebody who's going through these experiences what would you want to say to that person? actually thought about that. because. I thought about what how would my class be different? From twenty years ago meaning what would is because I teach things that are very personal research research. How would it be different than I? Think the main thing? That today and that is what I would tell myself whether as a fifteen year old or a, you know a thirty year old. Is. Think about expectations in more nuanced way. And what do I mean by that? So there's a lot of research in psychology. On the importance of having high expectations. And why because beliefs become self fulfilling prophecies if you believe in students the pygmalion effect, there will become more successful if you have hope Rick Snyder's theory, you're more likely to succeed as a business person or as an athlete. So having high expectations is connected to success. Now when I was younger, I also. Applied the very same lens to happiness whereas when he comes to happiness, it's different more nuanced would do I. Mean. So for example, if my expectation is that okay now I'm not happy but I'm going to study happiness and become an expert in happiness and my expectation is that I'll be happy all the time speaking about it near monistic sense..
"ben shahar" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
"All that said, we are truly so happy to welcome Dr Paul, Ben Shahar to the podcast today. So tall, thanks for joining us. How are you doing I'm doing great. Thank you for us. Thank you. Rick a real honor to be here. Great. Thank you so much. Yeah we'd love to start just by learning a bit more about your background you and your work, and specifically I mean you could've done a lot of great work a lot of great arenas. Why did these topics of happiness and maybe even positive psychology more broadly kind of draw your attention in the first place? Yes. I became interested in happiness because of my own unhappiness. I found myself in my second year at Harvard studying. Computer Science. doing very well condemning doing well in athletics so's playing squash. Doing, quite well, socially and yet being very unhappy. It didn't make any sense to me because you know as far as our concerned I'd checked all the boxes. and. because from outside things luke great from the inside there were far from its in our member just one day. Very cold. Boston. Morning going to my condemning adviser telling her that I'm switching majors. She said what to and I said well, I'm leaving computer science moving over to philosophy and psychology. and. She asked me why I said because I have two questions. First question. Why aren't I happy? Second Question. How can I become happier and it's with these two questions that I then went on to get my undergraduate degree as well as my graduate degrees all the time focusing on how can I help myself individuals. Couples families in organization increase their a levels of wellbeing that there was thirty years ago. neither a wonderful store and thank you for sharing it. I think that that question of like, why am I not happier is such a central driving one and I'm really glad that you've kind of organized. You're you're thinking around here. Till I I've got a couple of questions sort of in sequence. So the first one is, what do you mean by happiness? Yes. So happiness is is difficult to define many people have given up on trying to define it saying it's a little bit like beauty. You basically know it when you see it or experience it's And yet I think it is very important to define. It's because If we do defining, we know what we're looking for. So the way I define happiness today EH, draws on. The definition of Helen Keller who says the only definition of happiness that I can think of his happiness as wholeness W. H. wholeness. And I agree with that because I think what we need to do is look at the whole person wellbeing..
"ben shahar" Discussed on Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
"Hello and welcome to being well I'm forrest Hanson if you're new to the podcast, this is where we explore the practical science of wellbeing and if you've listened to before welcome back. I'm joined today as usual by Dr Rick. Hansen. Rick is a clinical psychologist and a bestselling author who spent over thirty five years teaching people the key lessons from psychology and contemplative practice that lead to a good life. I'm also happy to say that he happens to be my dad. So Dad, how are you doing today I'm good and I have to say I'm really delighted by our guest he's legendary I was doing a little bows in advanced. Got Started. So I'm very very, very delighted to have this opportunity to talk with him today. Yeah. Same and day as you said, we have the pleasure of welcoming an absolute expert on positive psychology leadership and the pursuit of happiness and well-being altogether Dr Tall Ben Shahar Dr Bench Harris The bestselling author of six books.
"ben shahar" Discussed on The Viall Files
"Obviously, you're just kind of giving averages numbers, but for us. How do you determine in a relationship whether this doesn't work? Or we just have to face the gridlock and I'm I'm. What will you know because you're talking about money? Kids sacks an extended family, but in a dating situation and I guess I'm maybe more speaking terms of finding that person coming to the conclusion. This is the person I want to try to get to the gridlock. Point with you know the inevitable gridlock that you say is without exception. And using those cases, kids aren't involved. Money maybe plays US much smaller, but you have your own finances. Certainly, there's an extended family potential option dating situation. But! Yeah, how do you? How do you kind of kind of those determinations? Yeah I take a great question. First of all as I said at the beginning is no. Prescription for knowing. When should we go through this gridlock? Versus when should we just go our separate ways and the one thing to to accept that yet will will make mistakes and I'm sure. Many people have had relationships were. Yeah, they should have. They should have gone through that gridlock. That would have been a much better place today. There are other relationships that should have gone their separate ways ten years ago. So there is no hard and fast, or there are no hard and fast rules. well, this is. been really insightful to kind of put put a bow on this entire conversation you about things like eating right exercise meditation. What are things that we can all? Setting reasonable expectations, but are there any other best practices or things that you can share with us? About Happiness to especially given the Times that we're in the uncertainty that were in of. How do we? Give Ourselves Mar Hope Hotta we maker put ourselves in the best possible position to continue to try to improve the happiness. Be Feel on a daily basis. Yes so really. The first step the foundation I I see is the soil that is necessary for flourishing is what I've come to call giving our doves permission to be human. The permission to be humans is about accepting embracing. All our emotions bringing them in as I, said earlier as guests rather than rejecting them, because paradoxically it's when we allow in unhappiness that we increase the likelihood of happiness, so that's the first thing not fighting anxiety, not finding sadness accepting what does it mean to accept an embrace? It could mean to shed a tear. This is accepting rather than fighting our emotion. It could be to write about it in a lot of research by Janney Penny, Baker or Laura King in others on the power of of journaling, but when we ride about painful emotions. They're more likely to flow through US enhance will experience them more, and then to flow out of us in openness up to more pleasurable emotions. Talking about it whether it's with a therapist or whether it's with our best friend. At just talking about painfully motions is giving ourselves permission to be human, so that I would say the first step. The second step is I, mentioned this earlier physical exercise. Is Research showing that regular physical exercise? Contributes to our well being in the same way or the same ways that are most powerful psychiatric medications do. It releases norepinephrine Serotonin. Does these are the feel good chemicals? In in our brains so regular physical exercise you know at least. three times a week for thirty minutes each time of walking jogging playing ball doing interval training whatever it is. AM is critical for happiness because of the connection between mind and body. Third relationships the no big surprise. Relationships are the number one predictor of happiness, and the interesting thing is, and this is what all the research show. It actually doesn't matter what kind of relationships meaning. It could be a romantic relationship that you're cultivating. It could be relationships with close friends. It be working relationships where and their intimates it could be. It could be a extended family relationships. It doesn't matter as long as there is social support as not as long as you have people whom you spend time with you, talk to you. Open up with you know and are being known as a relationships number, one predictor ob happiness. Ideally, these relationships are real rather than virtual, however, even during these times when we it's difficult to to to meet any Iraq and hug at people. It's okay to have deep relationships on the phone or via via technology. Another very important element or contributor to happiness is, is gratitude expressing gratitude on a regular basis..
"ben shahar" Discussed on The Viall Files
"And. And unfortunately, it's true and the mindsets. Which I think he's. The healthier mindset is what Mahatma Gandhi would talk about you know his autobiography. The subtitle is my. Patients with truth. Not Might Finding Truth not my arrival at truth, not my truth, it's my experiments with truth and living alive of experiments I. think that's a healthy approach. Experiments means we go in not knowing if this is right or wrong, we try, and we make mistakes and we learn from them. Yeah, so so so that's one area, but there's another very important area. And that for me, I'm on a say in the context of my relationships was was a game changer? So David Sh- Norwich is a relationship, a psychologist and Thanks to him I must say Well I've my my relationships. Many people over there relationships that are long term relationships to him and one of his main ideas, and he talks about it in his book called passionate marriage, and it's for any long-term relationship before. He talks about the following idea. He says that many people. Believe that the PA. To healthy relationships that were partners need to do for one another in order to to to be together to to flourish together is to validate one another. In other words, validation is the key element of relationships, so if I'm with the partner who loves me unconditionally always says how amazing in Great Im and I do the same. For her or him then will be a happy relationship. That unfortunately turns out turns out not to be the case that is not what sustains relationships validation. What does sustain relationship. It's the idea and again I'm quoting him here. Off No wing and being known. Of knowing and being known. In other words, the more I know of my partner and I I mean really know. Their strengthened their weaknesses. The more my partner knows me. My strength and my weakness are fantasies. Our fears out. The things were were proud of the things. We cherish the things we are We're anxious about the more we know them. In the more they know us more likely. This relationship is to flourish why because knowing and being known is all about intimacy. Intimacy is the key to flourishing. Intimacy is the key to to passion as well, and he brings it up in the context of. Relationships of people who've been together for a long time and the relationship after five ten thirty years is better than it was at the beginning. Even when the you know, the initial biological excitement may not be there. They're still passionate about one another. And they still enjoy a great relationship, a great sacks and great friendship. And the foundation again is knowing and being known now knowing being known means genuinely honestly knowing and being known. It's not trying to prove myself. It's not trying to get validation for the fact. That I'm correct, but rather opening up its expressing rather than impressing. Yeah that makes a ton of sense. You do such a good job of articulating it and of think to myself. And I've alluded to this when people ask me about my dating life for being single and. You know. I've been told and I. You know I pro-. I am a complicated person I. Find My sometimes confused myself about myself and. I think. You know for me, the happiest ever was someone was someone I didn't even really have an actual like we weren't. We never call ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but it was a person that made me feel. Like she got me you know that that I could be my truest self around. I didn't feel like I regularly had to explain to her my point of view in fact, it's like she already knew in vice versa, and that was. I've never felt that sense or ever before, and it would something I think for for what I've really been trying to obtain and. It's. It's nice to hear you. Put in those contacts because. Yeah we. We don't talk about that enough. In fact when you when you talk about you know understanding each other, we obviously talk about love languages, but sometimes I feel like love languages hearing. You say this out loud kind of. Gets confused with this validation. Like how do I validate someone well? What your love language! A gift so here's the present right now. We're in love or like I like I like quality time while hang out with you and I. Guess We'll be happy. You give me a gaffe doll. Hang Out, and now everything's perfect, but clearly you know hearing you that it makes so much sense why that's sometimes not as simple. When you were talking. I was thinking about the song lucky to be in love with my best friend. No by Jason Colby. which is one of my favorite all-time songs? And I think this is, this is nick what you were alluding to in and I couldn't agree more because you want someone. Who is a best friend, a best friend you know in your being known the sees intimacy. Yeah now, needless say you need the other elements you know you need to edit the attraction. You need the At similar values but Ultimately basically it's about being best friends hard. Why do you think So many of us. Don't find that in the relationships that we find ourselves in is because we're just not aware of that concept, because we're putting a value on other things too much because I feel like this idea that you say with your best friend or simply just with someone that you feel like just really gets you I. I feel like unfortunately. It's probably not the norm. I'm sure a lot of people have that but I feel like a lot of people don't have that in their relationships. Yeah 'cause I I think very often. We enter term relationships for For the wrong reasons. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not against less than and primal F physical passion. I think there are great over here. Or wherever they are. They are not what will lead to a lasting and an happy long term relationship. Now if someone chooses just to enter such relationships and you know. That, that's fine and that you know they can do it Syrian you know. There is the initial last and than bats over, and then they look for the next relationship, and that's fine, however, if someone is looking for something to last beyond their honeymoon phase than other venues have to come into play the values of of a of a bff. So, funny, because we always talk about friend zones, and then the people we want to date. And how do we somehow? Combine the two it's. It's it's. Quite quite fascinating. Best friend privileges I guess is the way to go. Do you find a an in your studies that is it better to be best friends first, and then a relationship, or does ideally kind of happens altogether. I think the roles, but but let me share a study which which which I find very interesting, I must say a little bit troubling. So when they looked act. They compare aired an arranged marriage. To love marriages. Are Still Cultures Today where you know the parents. Tell you basing your going to her or you her or him. Whether you like it or not, because our families like each other. So, they looked at such relationships and compared them to love relationships and on average again. This is average. This is by by knowing captures all such relationships, but on average love relationships start pretty high and in terms of love and passion, happiness and overtime. They go down. Now if they do survive, you know the four to seven year a slump. They very often begin to go up again, and however in general they you know they go down whereas with arranged marriages on average again, not not all of them, but on average they start pretty low, and they go up. As you get to know one another, and you and you work on the relationship once again I go back to what I spoke about earlier. When it comes to love relationship, most people believe that the most important work is finding the right partner. So they put in the effort looking for finding. You know seeping through. Until, they find you know the the one right partner. Whereas the the the right way to look at it is that the hard work begins after you commit. Yeah and arranged in arranged relationships. The hard work does begin when you when you get together, know they're not sir. There's nothing illusion..
"ben shahar" Discussed on The Viall Files
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"ben shahar" Discussed on Untangle
"Welcome to untangle the podcast five-star app meditation studio and muse the brain sensing headband that gives gives you feedback on your meditation practice. I'm patricia carcass co-founder of meditation studio and your host on untangle along with my co-host news. Founder are l. garton this month. We're focusing on happiness. What is it. How do you invite more of it into your life. You you will be surprised to learn that. It's not exactly what you think. Join us each week this month as we explore this topic together if you have a feedback questions ideas or stories to share about happiness email us at founders at meditation studio dot com now here's arielle up to kick off hour month of happiness. There are two ways to live our life one way to live our lives as if nothing the miracle the other way to our life is as if everything is a miracle welcome to untangle over the next four episode what's going to focus on the subject of happiness what happiness is how it's generated in the brain how to find it and have find more of in your own life rush for today in this. I look at happiness. We have happiness expert towel. Ben shahar tells author and lecturer in positive psychology organizational sign. He actually taught what's the most popular course in harvard's history housed of psychology teaching stressed out driven student some of the forgotten tools to succeed in.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Experts on Expert with Dax Shepard
"Welcome welcome welcome to armchair experts expert on experts. I'm dax shepard. That's you are and you're monica padma today. Hey we have a very very fun and interesting guest. He was a lecturer at harvard university and a writer in the areas of positive psychology and leadership leadership. He taught to the largest classes in harvard university's history positive psychology and the psychology of leadership. His name is tall ben shahar and and he has some real tips to getting into action on being happy. He's written the joy of leadership as well as choose the life you want the mindful way eighty two happiness and being happy is latest book shortcuts to happiness life-changing lessons from my barber should be checked out by everyone he had so many wonderful awful things to say and i wish i had taken his class made me really feel regret about not going to harvard and taking his class. I wasn't even regretting not going harvard but then when i found out about his class and i was like i should've should've that yeah. I didn't do it well. He brought his class here virtual right so we now pass john. You please enjoy tall ben shahar. We are supported by the very delicious very good for you vital farms. I love the farms. They're just the best eggs in the dance dance orange joe. It's delicious and tasty now. I've been talking about vital farms for a while so you know these. These are great eggs. They cook better. They looked better but even more importantly. When you choose vital farms your dollars go towards good that extends way beyond. Just what's in your fridge edge. It's good for the hands. Vital farms hands are pasteurize unlike that bullshit cage free hands who are crammed in indoor warehouse vital farms hence spend their days on pastures tons sounds of space and sunshine but farms has built a network of family farmers but paying them fairly and on time these farmers can farm the right way without giving into the pressure of factory farming. It's environmentally friendly. The hands a rotated from pasture to pasture so that the land can regenerate on its own and most importantly. It's darn good for you buydell title farms. Let's nature put all the good stuff inside the eggs so you get to put that good stuff in your body and they're delicious. You see vital. Farms isn't just trying to make eggs better. They're actually trying to make the world a little bit better starting with what senior refrigerator vital farms pasteurize eggs look for us in the black carton at the grocery store or.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"Welcome welcome welcome to armchair experts expert on experts. I'm dax shepard. That's you are and you're monica padma today. Hey we have a very very fun and interesting guest. He was a lecturer at harvard university and a writer in the areas of positive psychology and leadership leadership. He taught to the largest classes in harvard university's history positive psychology and the psychology of leadership. His name is tall ben shahar and and he has some real tips to getting into action on being happy. He's written the joy of leadership as well as choose the life you want the mindful way eighty two happiness and being happy is latest book shortcuts to happiness life-changing lessons from my barber should be checked out by everyone he had so many wonderful awful things to say and i wish i had taken his class made me really feel regret about not going to harvard and taking his class. I wasn't even regretting not going harvard but then when i found out about his class and i was like i should've i should've that yeah. I didn't do it well. He brought his class here virtual right so we now pass synon- you please enjoy tall ben shahar. We are supported by the very delicious very good for you vital farms. I love the farms. They're just the best eggs in the biz. They got that dance dance orange joe. It's delicious and tasty now. I've been talking about vital farms for a while so you know these. These are great eggs. They cook better. They looked better but even more importantly. When you choose vital farms your dollars go towards good that extends way beyond. Just what's in your fridge edge. It's good for the hands. Vital farms hands are pasteurize unlike that bullshit cage free hands who are crammed in indoor warehouse vital farms hence spend their days on pastures tons sounds of space and sunshine but affirms has built a network of family farmers but paying them fairly and on time these farmers can farm the right way without giving into the pressure of factory farming. It's environmentally friendly. The hands a rotated from pasture to pasture so that the land can regenerate on its own and most importantly. It's darn good for you buydell title farms. Let's nature put all the good stuff inside the eggs so you get to put that good stuff in your body and they're delicious. You see vital. Farms isn't just trying to make eggs better. They're actually trying to make the world a little bit better starting with what senior refrigerator vital farms pasteurize eggs look for us in the black carton at the grocery store or.
"ben shahar" Discussed on Nutrition Rounds Podcast
"Thank you Danielle So-so so <hes> access to my work is on my website how Ben Shahar Dot Com and there is a link there to my books and also to a new program that I recently launched who the happiness studies academy. It's a year long certificate program which I'm very excited about not I poured my my heart and mind into it and the number of the students from all over the world. It's an online program are certainly contributing getting a great deal to my pleasure and meaning in life so who who could join the happiness academy. Who is your your typical student? It just sounds like I if I was not studying for three board exams. I would join I. I just think it's it's so amazing I mean just speaking to for an hour is unbelievably wonderful experience so so kind of explain who listening should join is someone looking for happiness or you know what kind of so many of my students are there because they want to increase their own levels of happiness and their many who use it for their work and when I say with the work that we have doctors there understand the you know the the mind body connection in how important increasing well-being is and we have teachers and coaches and therapists and business people so there's really no profile to the student because happiness transcends the professions Russians it also transcends cultures. We have students literally from all over the world which which makes it very exciting in its online program and we also provide many opportunities for people who are interested to to meeting person so we have conferences at all over the world. Wow that's unbelievable and how is the course is structured. Is it like <hes> lectures you watch online. Has It kind of work yes end so when there is a weekly lecture which is prerecorded recorded so you can watch it anytime <hes> and then we have the live webinars where I get to meet the students online and this is every other week and then there are also forced exercises that students participated in in work they do on their own or soaring small groups it you can invest all your timing it or you can invest is the minimum is around three hours a week and then they're also as I mentioned in for me. This is a very exciting part of the happiness studies academy we have conferences in meetings for students and alums so will we create of friends who together bring more happiness to to the world the work you're doing tell is just so special. You are the favourite person I've ever had on this podcast because the work you're doing is so amazing for the whole world. I have to ask you this is I'm asking you for the audience but I'm also asking for me are you. Do you do any public speaking anywhere coming up. Can we find that on your website. I would love to see you give a talk any other conferences things that are open to anyone to register for. Is that something we can find on your website sure yes and <hes> if I can give a plug for <hes> one of my labours conferences in experiences in the world embodies the world happiness summit and the world happiness summit is offering the it's. It's once a year. It's a mad <hes> if it's in Miami and meets in March twelve but if you look up world happiness summit you will find it in there. I speak there every year would miss it for the world and you have a the leading speakers researchers practitioners and academics from around the world and the atmosphere there is wonderful and it's a real fuel real inspiration ration- just to attend those those three days well. Thank you so much for everything that you've given the world what you've given us for the last hour because it's really eve just given us small easy tools and ways to bring..
"ben shahar" Discussed on Nutrition Rounds Podcast
"Hello hello and today on nutrition rounds. We are with Dr Tol Bench Har- he's an author and a lecturer he has taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University's history positive psychology in the psychology of leadership he consults and lectures all around the world to executives multinational corporations general public and at risk populations in topics topics such as leadership happiness education innovation ethic self esteem resilience goal setting and mindfulness his books have been translated to more than twenty five languages and have appeared as bestsellers around the world. I have personally we read two of his books. He's just an outstanding author an unbelievable brilliant mind and thought leader in positive psychology. I would recommend every single one of his books for you all to read. If you're looking for something new he's also an entrepreneur. He's the CO founder and chief learning officer of multiple different projects. He is an athlete he actually won the U._S.. Inter collegiate in Israeli national squash ship in ships and he continues to exercise through through swimming dancing and yoga today and he actually obtained his Ph in organizational behavior at the a loss of psychology from Harvard so welcome Dr All Ben Shahar. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you Danielle great to be here so so today I want to discuss the science of happiness. You've done so much work in this field I read a lot of your writing and two of your box and they've greatly improved my life and they've actually really been. I've used a lot of different tools from your writing in order to help my patients implement more happiness in their lives <hes>.
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"ben shahar" Discussed on Our Friend From Israel
"On this episode of our friend from Israel, tell bench car is part professor part motivational speaker delivering spirited lectures, and of course called ause it of psychology. People want to learn how to be happy. We're told this is the most popular class at the Cambridge popular class at Harvard University is and how to live a happy and fulfilling life tall bencher har- is famous for teaching a class called positive psychology. The most popular course in the history of Harvard in it. He teaches the secret to living a happy life. It's no wonder that at its peak close to one thousand students would pack into his lecture hall twice a week to hear his words of wisdom. Positive psychology is not just about, let's all feel good. It's about focusing on what works and helping our most difficult challenges. An expert and happiness tile has written several bestselling books and frequently appears on television to talk about his research. Tell Ben Shahar. Students have signed up for your class and introductory economics. Why do you think it is so popular and important? I guess more people want to be happy than wanna be rich when they leave, are they happier? The reason why the the classes popular is because the students are telling their friends, the roommates I'm actually better off as a result of this class. On today's episode tol reveal several ways that we can teach ourselves to be happy in our everyday life plus find out why he quit playing squash to become a professor and hear about the happiness project. He's working on. That's open to everyone not just students at harbor. Stay tuned. Welcome to our friend from Israel. A podcast brought to you by from the grapevine dot com. I'm your host Benyamin Cohen and each week we'll have a conversation with an intriguing Isreaeli though. Come from all walks of life, actors, artists, athletes, academics, archaeologists, and other newsmakers. In today's episode, we chat with the professor of happiness tol Ben Shahar. Yes. I know being there. Today we are joined by professor towel bench Shahar, welcome to the show. Thank you. Great to be here. Thank you so much for joining us today. So one thing people who may have heard about you. One thing they may have heard is that you created the most popular course in Harvard's history. How did that come about? Was it always that popular from day one, the white Cam about it actually started as a small seminar where I had eight students at two of them dropped out, which with with six broken ego, must admit the following year the class grew and bites. Third year it became the largest course at Harvard with the close to nine hundred students. And the reason why became a bigger overtime was was word of mouth. You know, students were telling their their friends, the roommates that this is a classic actually changed their lives for the better. And I must say, this is this is what I was. Thinking about when I created this class. So I thought about what cost would I have wanted to take when I was an undergraduate at Harvard, what lessons would I've wanted to learn? So I took the research from psychology is field than from positive psychology in particular, which was a new any emerging field and and credit class, which which helps students of fine, more happiness weather while they were in college or hopefully for the rest of their lives. How did you great all that homework for students? Well, so here's the thing. If the students weren't happy, they failed. Not just kidding. So. The way we rated it was just like any other class, you know. So we had a teaching assistance who were working with the students in small sections as well as grading papers and grading their final exams. So in that respect, it was it was it just like any other class in the in the psychology department? The focus was was happiness, personal, interpersonal, organizational, in even national level happiness. I'm glad you brought them for those people who don't know. Can you explain what is positive psychology? Sure. So positive psychology is simply the science of happiness. It's about applying the scientific method doing research, whether it's a basic research lab or researcher in school, or a company or family at looking at the conditions that would lead to a to a happier life. So what practices want to what mindsets. Would lead people to to be happier and also to be more resilient meaning also to be able to better deal with difficult