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A highlight from HUGE HBAR NEWS! FEDNOW HEDERA DROPP - COINBASE CRYPTO REGULATIONS, ARGENTINA BITCOIN + COREUM
"Welcome back to the Thinking Crypto Podcast, your home for cryptocurrency news and interviews. If you are new here, please hit that subscribe button as well as the thumbs up button and leave a comment below. If you're listening on a podcast platform such as Spotify, Apple or Google, please leave a five star rating and review. It supports the podcast and it doesn't cost you anything. Well, folks, I want to start off by giving you some perspective about all markets and bad actors and good actors. You know, quite often we hear Gary Gensler say there's a lot of scammers and hucksters and whatever else in the crypto market, right? He's painting the whole industry and asset class with broad strokes. But we know that's a lie and he's just gaslighting, right? But if you look at all markets, there are bad actors there. For example, UBS, one of the largest banks to pay $1 .4 billion for fraud in mortgage backed securities. So great example that even a established, fully regulated industry still has fraud happening, JP Morgan and all these banks, Wells Fargo, they all get billions of dollars in fines almost every year because they're doing something shady. And that is because in civilization and humanity, there are bad people looking to do bad things. So it's not that the technology or the asset class is bad, but rather there needs to be proper regulations and we have to weed out the bad actors. Now one could argue it's not possible to weed out every bad actor because we don't know what's happening in the minds of people. We're not mind readers, but we at least have to have proper regulations. So when you see the likes of Gary Gensler and others who are anti -crypto, gaslighting and putting out sensationalized headlines, don't be dismayed and realize what's happening. They're trying to put out a narrative. And we know crypto is here to stay. There are a lot of folks building with the technology. Are there bad actors? Of course, just look at Sandbank -Meerfried, right? But Sandbank -Meerfried is crypto's Bernie Madoff. So you just see these things when you line up all markets, you see the bad actors and of course the good actors. So a great example here. Now folks, Michael Burry, the big short Michael Burry, apparently he is running some shorts here and it's at a market value of $1 .6 billion. Apparently he bought $890 million of the SPY puts, bought $740 million of the QQQ puts Now, we don't know what the expiration dates are on these. So we don't know what the timeline is here, but he's looking to short the stock market and we'll see how that works out because look, he was right with the 2008 mortgage backed security situation and everything that took place there. He was absolutely right, but he hasn't been right every time. And we'll see where this goes. But I think he's seeing something on the horizon that what many of us have been tracking, many analysts is that the stock market is retracing. I don't know if this is a move to all time highs. I honestly don't know. I took some profits recently because I'm like, I don't know. I'll walk away with some money on my stocks, but we'll see what happens. And, you know, as far as the stock market and we know Bitcoin and crypto has been correlated to it, you know, Bitcoin is at a pivotal moment right now. So one of analysts tweeted out sideways at $29K has run its course. So it's decision time for Bitcoin this week. Is our next significant move up or down? You all know. I'm hoping it's upwards. Right. I've been sharing a chart with you guys for over a year now where we've been following Bitcoin's retracement. You know, certainly it's going to be a roller coaster ride upwards, just like it was in 2019. Nothing goes up in a straight line. But boy, I hope there's another leg up that takes us to, you know, 40K plus. And that will be a nice retracement move, at which point I'll take some profits. But there's no guarantee of that. And right now, Bitcoin is still holding support here with this trend line. But boy, like I said, guys, I'm hoping for another move up. We'll see what the catalyst may be, maybe some bullish news, some other big player entered in the crypto market. But let's keep our eyes on this. Hopefully it's not a dump. All right, folks, we got some very huge Hedera HBAR news. You all know I hold HBAR in my portfolio. I am bullish on it. I continue to dollar cost average, you know, not financial advice. Please do your own research. So here's the headline. FedNow showcases DLT powered payment system as service provider. The United States Federal Reserve's instant payment system FedNow has added a company powered by the distributed ledger technology platform Hedera Hashgraph to its showcasing service providers. On August 14, FedNow's official website added DROPP, a micro payments platform built on Hedera to its FedNow service provider showcase section. The section aims to connect financial institutions and businesses with service providers that can help them innovate and implement instant payment products using the FedNow service. Folks, this is really huge. I mean, the Fed endorsing micro payments provider that is built on the Hedera blockchain. That is huge news. If you hold HBAR, remember, they don't necessarily have to be using the HBAR token, but we're talking about Metcalfe's law, network effects, right? The more building on a network, the more adoption, the more participants, the stronger the network becomes, the more valuable it also becomes. And of course, in this digital realm that we live in, in the token economy, the native token will increase in value, folks, because the tokens grease the blockchain, right, help to process and fund the blockchain. So this is huge news. I'm very, very bullish on HBAR. Once again, not financial advice. Please do your own research. According to the FedNow site, DROPP is a digital solution that was made so that merchants can accept payments at low cost. The company uses DLT and regulated banking tech to build its solution that allows merchants to accept payments without paying huge transaction fees. While the new updates seem like the Federal Reserve is warming up to the DLTs, the FedNow service also wrote on its website that materials are only presented as convenience to potential FedNow service participants. So huge news, folks. And remember, the folks who are part of the governing council for Hedera, their global governing council includes Boeing, Dell, Google, IBM, LG, ServiceNow, Standard Bank, much more huge, huge brands. This is one of the projects I think will come out of the whole speculation bubble and enter the utility phase and be one of the crypto blockchains that have lasting potential. So I'm very bullish on this. All right, let's move ahead. We got some updates here from Eric Balcones of Bloomberg around Cathie Wood's ARK Invest crypto ETFs. So he said new filing from ARK for a digital asset and blockchain thematic ETF will hold equities. So this is interesting. Cathie, we know she's trying to get a Bitcoin spot ETF. She's in line with BlackRock and the others, but they're also looking to build new ETFs, too. So here, Nate Geraci of the ETF store said, odd filing, given how saturated this space is. He's talking about the equity ETFs. Wonder if there is anything to read into here regarding ARK's confidence around spot Bitcoin approval, which if it happens, these blockchain ETFs would face an additional headwind in terms of competition. So maybe ARK is not that confident. So we shall see. Look, I think it's certainly almost guaranteed that BlackRock is going to get approved because of their record and because they pretty much run the world for the most part. But let's see what happens. There's no guarantees here, folks. And look, there could be a buy the rumor, sell the news event around these ETF approvals. So just be prepared for that. If an ETF is approved, that doesn't mean billions of dollars are coming in overnight. They have to set up the marketing, the structures. They have to get the RIA's onboarded, right? It doesn't happen overnight. They'll probably need a few months. If you look at the when the gold ETFs were approved, it didn't pump instantaneously. It pumped maybe like six months later the gold market. So something to keep in mind, folks, and, you know, know how to strategize. So I think there will be, once again, a buy the rumor, sell the news event. Now, quick word from our sponsor, and that is Uphold, which makes crypto investing easy. I've been using Uphold since twenty eighteen, one of my go to exchanges, so I can vouch for this platform. They have ten plus million users, two hundred and fifty plus crypto currencies, and they're available in one hundred and fifty countries. You can also trade precious metals and equities on this platform. If you'd like to learn more about Uphold, please visit the link in the description. All right, folks, let's move ahead because we got Jay Coward Clayton. Yes, former SEC chairman that I call a coward because he's the one who filed a lawsuit against Ripple and ran out the door the next day. He did not approve a Bitcoin spot ETF. And of course, we know he was doing some corruption in the back room with Bill Hinman and Ethereum to get them the free pass, nothing against Ethereum, but rather the SEC corruption, because guess what? These are the people who are supposed to have integrity. They're funded off our tax dollars and they're supposed to be stopping the bad guys, but they themselves are the bad guys doing fishy corruption in the back room, getting paid millions of dollars. So Jay, of course, making his biweekly appearance on CNBC Squawk Box this time, he was talking about Sandbag Refreed and of course, the Bitcoin spot ETF. And of course, the Joe Kernen, Becky Quick, Andrew Ross Sorkin and these folks failed to do their job. No questions about the Ripple ruling. Of course, there was no question when he came on the show, I think last week or the week before, because they're clearly and probably Jay doesn't want to answer anything and they're kowtowing to that. So it's pathetic. It is not how a journalist does their job trying to bury a story when the man who filed a lawsuit is sitting right in front of you. Right. And this ruling, we know how huge it is. Members of Congress are using it as a president to push their crypto bills through and much more so pathetic. Jay's a coward. And of course, he doesn't want to talk about it. Pathetic. They won't even ask him the question. It's not like they ask him the question. He's like, you know what? Good for Ripple, but I don't want to talk anymore. You know, it could have been that much. But guess what? No questions. Zero, zero questions. So, you know, there's a big cover up. There's a big Jay is just a coward. Like, don't even ask me that question. So screw Jay Clayton. He's a coward. Let's move ahead. Coinbase launches nonprofit to advance crypto legislation to stand with Crypto Alliance will prioritize supporting and advancing legislation in the US that supports the industry and investors. The stand with Crypto Alliance is something Coinbase obviously is trying to get going and they want you to participate and sign up. This is great, guys. We need need more of this, more advocacy, more education, more getting the word out there so that we can bring more folks together and unite against folks like Gary Gensler and corrupt bureaucrats and regulators like Gary Gensler. So the alliance is a 501 C for organization under the internal revenue service, meaning it is an exempt social welfare group. The current discussion around crypto policy in Washington, D .C., between centralized players and other big groups. Kara Calvert, Coinbase's head of US policy, said Monday during a Twitter Spaces event, but the stand with Crypto Alliance hopes to bring new voices into the picture. Here's a quote. The alliance completely embodies exactly what the crypto industry is all about. Calvert said it's all about decentralized efforts, decentralized power, decentralized access. And that's, I think, really what the stand with crypto movement is about. So this is great. I love it. I wish more crypto companies would unite and do this. And get the once again, the word out there. Education is a big key in D .C., getting our representatives educated about blockchain and crypto. We're seeing more and more bipartisan support for crypto. So our efforts are paying off, but we need to do more, of course. Now, folks, there's some interesting news coming out of Argentina. So pro Bitcoin candidate Triumph sees Bitcoin reach historic high against Argentinian peso. So we got a presidential candidate. I honestly don't know much about this person, but, you know, a lot of people are bullish on this because his name is Javier Mele, if I'm saying that right, won the country's primary presidential race. He's pro Bitcoin. And we know the folks there are dealing with insane inflation. Many have been moving to Bitcoin as a store of value, as well as stable coins. So hopefully, you know, some things could happen here where they can maybe make Bitcoin a legal tender, something along those lines like El Salvador. But there is something else happening in the mix here. So Mele's unexpected triumph is seen as a rejection of Argentina's entrenched political establishment. The pro Bitcoin candidate became anti establishment after proposing the dollarization of the economy and call for the abolishment of the central bank due to the country's economic woes. So they want to certainly use the US dollar over the Argentinian peso. And I don't blame them. So this could be a really big move. And once again, this guy's pro Bitcoin. So let's see where it goes. Moving ahead, new indictment alleges Sam Bankman -Fried gave more than $100 million to politicians. Bankman -Fried and his associates donated across party lines to various candidates and political action committees. Boy, look, I am not a conspiracy theorist, but man, this guy donated a lot of money and it's probably why he's been getting the easy path, right? Being able to stay at home in his parents' house. And obviously recently they were like, no, dude, you're trying to, you know, game the system. He released Caroline Ellison's diary. So witness tampering and all that. And they were like, all right, we're going to put you in jail. So that's a good thing. He's in jail. But look, there are some people saying he could have an Jeffrey Epstein situation, if you know what I mean. And that wouldn't surprise me, folks. This man has a lot of dirt on politicians. He made them all look like fools, right? And that's, I've often talked about it. Optics is a big thing in politics. It's narratives and optics. So right now he's not making a lot of people look good and they want him gone. As you can imagine, like get the hell out of here, whether it be in jail or you know what else. So it looks like they may try to bring back some of the campaigns, finance charges that had been previously dropped, but we shall see what happens. And hopefully, you know, he sits in jail for a long time because he committed the crime folks. He's the one that was committing fraud. He's the one that was okaying funds, leaving FTX and going to Alameda, which was his firm. They were trading that money and losing it. So straight up fraud, as I said earlier in the podcast, he's the Bernie Madoff of crypto. But let's hope justice is served here and we'll follow this as it continues. Now, here's some not so good news. Coindesk lays off 45 % of editorial staff as an eyes deal to sell company. Look, it's not so much that they laid people off, but it's in conjunction with what else has been happening with Digital Currency Group. So Digital Currency Group owns Grayscale, Coindesk, Genesis Trading and much more. And we all know what has been happening with the Genesis Trading and Gemini situation. So Barry Silbert and these guys, it's not looking good. And I would not be invested or involved in anything Digital Currency Group, guys. If you're holding Grayscale shares, just be careful. I don't know what's happening here with this whole parent group and they could be in big trouble. So especially with the Genesis Trading situation and who knows if there's going to be cross contamination, the fact that Genesis Trading is in a hole and they are going to have to pull money and sell Coindesk and all these things, it's just a mess. So I don't think these guys are running the business well. Once again, it doesn't have anything specific to do with the blockchains or the crypto currencies, but rather, you know, the risks that you take and how you run your business. So we shall see. Finally, guys, our partner, Quorium, and I highly recommend you check out this blockchain. It is a third generation blockchain. They announced here new wallet integration. Frontier is now supporting the Quorium mainnet, prioritizing security through real time fraud prevention. It says Frontier Wallet offers a swap aggregator and cross chain bridges, a key partner to manage Quorium assets effectively. So once again, guys, check out Quorium. They're doing some great things and they got a new wallet support here. And I personally hold a Quorium tokens, not financial advice. Please do your own research. As always, don't blindly invest because you hear me holding a token or somebody else, any influencer or any YouTube or a podcast or whatever it may be, always do your research. So definitely check out Quorium. They're doing some great things. All right, folks, that's the news. Let me know what you think. Leave your thoughts and comments below, hit the thumbs up button and leave a five star rating on the podcast platforms. And I'll talk to you all later. Bye.
News, Traffic and Weather
Fresh update on "becky" discussed on News, Traffic and Weather
"Continuing resolution temporary that funding measure in one way shape or form it's summed up by one of the holdout votes who told one of our roosters outside of a house GOP meeting buckle up. For millions of Americans who work for the government including thousands of military families however not knowing if a paycheck would be coming next week was excruciating. ABC senior congressional correspondent Rachel Scott talked to some of those families. If Congress does not act four million government workers could lose pay nearly half are military troops and others who work the for Armed Forces. Bessie Pinchotty's husband works for the Air Force. I have no idea if my husband will get a paycheck. Also hanging in limbo TSA workers Becky Mancha works at Dallas Love Field Airport. We make sure that the public the traveling public safe to and from give them what they which deserve is their money. Austin Carrick's husband has been active duty in the Army for 21 years. I mean nothing to them but they expect my husband to go fight their wars. Their 11 year old daughter Melanie has Down syndrome and recently suffered a catastrophic stroke. She relies on several drugs to keep alive her which can cost around $300 a month. The question has really become What can we get rid of? Who can we borrow money from in order to do do what we need to keep her alive. Lawmakers will still collect checks from their $174 ,000 annual salary? I asked one of those Republican holdouts what he would say to those workers. We have to worry about all 330 million Americans not just isolated stories and specific individuals. Bottom line is we've got to cut our spending. This is the time to do it. If we don't do it now when are we gonna do it? That was ABC's Rachel Scott. As our went show to air they were still talking in Washington, but all signs pointed to a shutdown of the first thing Monday morning. The first The federal
Evangelism on SermonAudio
A highlight from Loving God First
"You are listening to Bible Direction for Life, the sermon podcast of Westside Baptist Church in Bremerton, Washington. We pray that the preaching and teaching you hear on this podcast connects the truth of the Bible to your life, that you would learn more about the triune God who made you and what he made you for. And now here's today's message. Well it's a great joy and privilege to be with you. The third thing I'm passionate about is donuts. Is it Sly's Donuts in Pozbo? Is that still there? Yeah? Okay. We used to call it the Farmacy, that's what we used to call it back in the day. Actually I'm not a big donut either, I'm just kidding, but I do remember the donut shop and there then there was one in Port Orchard that was really good. What was the name of that one? Do you remember just around, oh yeah, that's what it is now, right? But it was under a different name. How do we get on this topic anyways? It was me. All right. But it's a blessing to be here. I love being in the Northwest in the summertime. Thank you. This is a blessing from you to me. Just being here in the summertime, seeing the water is a refreshment. We have the dirt in Yucca Valley, but we don't have water. I tell people, it's like the beach, we have a lot of sand, we don't have water. And so it's just a blessing curling several of the curls around from, what is that, Tacoma into Gig Harbor and then coming around Port Orchard into Bremerton and just glancing over God's creation. That's just worth the trip right there, seeing something that I grew up with. And then this summer, actually March 20 years, that I've been a Christian. 20 years ago, last July, so just passed a couple of weeks ago, I came to faith in Christ in Stanwood, Washington, Warm Beach Christian Camp. Any of you familiar with that campground? All right, so 20 years ago, I went to that youth camp. I was 16, a month before my 17th birthday, and I had heard the gospel a thousand times. And I made a profession of faith when I was younger as a child. My dad's a first generation Christian. He wanted me to become a Christian naturally. He didn't put undue pressure upon me to become a follower of Christ, but I know he desired that for myself and my sister. And so went to the camp, heard the gospel, preached all week in cabin devotion. Somebody asked a question that I had heard a thousand times before. And that question is, if you were to die tonight, are you 100 % sure that you would die and go to heaven? And I knew that if God was good and if God was just that, I would die in my sins and go to hell. I knew I was living a double life. I knew that the wages of my sin was death, but I also knew the good news of the gospel. And it's that night that God melted me, humbled me, showed me my sin, my need for a savior. So this summer is special for me being up here because of March 20 years since I've been a follower of Jesus Christ. So I'm so grateful. Becky sends her love. She wished she could be here with us during this week. But as I mentioned to several of you, we have an older van with a lot of miles on it. And God spared our lives in the last road trip to Texas. So it was that balance of do we trust in the Lord driving to the northwest during the summer or is that tempting the Lord? And so after prayer and consideration, after seeing that even rental facilities don't have 12 passenger vans. So if something went wrong with our van, you can't even get a 12 passenger van. You can't fit two adults and seven kids into a tow truck either.
Mark Levin
Fresh update on "becky" discussed on Mark Levin
"Stand in solidarity with me and over 2 million other Patriots by joining AMAC today at amac .us slash mark, that's amac .us slash mark, the Association for Citizens. American Better for you, better for America, join them right away. I think you're going to love them, in fact I know you're going to love them. I did notice also over at premier collectibles mr. producer we love premier collectibles they do such a quality job with signed books and if you really want to go big time with this beautiful packaging they have the books are numbered they're limited in addition and once they're gone they're gone and we do this for two reasons number one because I you know all can't of come to book signings that would be crazy I'm glad those of you who can do always fun and I really appreciate it but this is for the rest of you who cannot that's number one number they are perfect Christmas Hanukkah gifts perfect birthday gifts or just to somebody you respect or love really what's better than giving them a Democrat Party America hates signed edition limited edition numbered edition when they're gone they're gone you won't find the Barnes & Noble you won't find anything at Barnes at least not most of them some of them but this is premier collectibles so mr. producer let's put that link up if you would and also now that's good enough that's enough that's enough for now I would say I did want to mention at the bookends in New Jersey they have some signed books to that are remaining if you look up their website in Ridgewood New Jersey well as they're not packaged in the you know in the form that a lot of people like but nonetheless they are there do as well we have any callers mr. producer who are worth taking now I say that because I can't control who calls into this program mostly we have great Patriots but sometimes people sneak through who should we go to knft Becky Tucson are in Arizona Becky how are you hi mark this is an honor first time thank you ever talking to you it's an honor book it was on I got your book unfortunately was on the bottom shelf at Walmart but it was there there were three I books well appreciate it I don't and I don't go to Barnes and Noble I don't go to Barnes and Noble because exactly the reason you were talking about earlier can't fair you take the number one book in America and stick it in the back and pretend it's doesn't exist and they have Barnes and Noble they specifically have you New York Times this best seller number one number two number three number four you couldn't find mine in the men's room or or the ladies room it's too bad really you're right well listen don't hang up I want to send you a signed edition thank you very very much so we'll need to get your address all number two who's left WHAS we love Louisville Kentucky. Jeff how are you buddy? I'm doing fine it's a pleasure to talk to you tonight mark thank you on my way to Key West I love Key West are you pleasure pleasure yeah yeah do you where do you what town live do you live in you're driving a Key West from where? I live in Louisville Kentucky. it's a long drive so it's a long drive so I'll be staying overnight yeah I love it there and by the way the restaurants along the way even before you get to Key West they got some really great restaurants on any of them? a few so I'll be going through Orlando, Ocala, work my way down once you get down there toward the end of the end of Florida but even 30 40 miles before you get to Key West keep an eye out for some of these restaurants they're actually quite good trust me about you know any specifically that I can well I don't remember names their my wife remembers their names but she's not broadcasting with me so I don't remember anyway go ahead right I'm sorry okay well the reason I was calling in I want to ask you so obviously we got the impeachment inquiry we know that you know even if they do impeach them in the house obviously the senate I live about two miles from McConnell he's worthless um so we know it probably won't go through yeah but let me say something while you're making up this point no president has ever been removed by the Senate three presidents have been impeached none of them have been removed by the Senate the impeachment process to me is more of a cleansing process it's the ability to get to the bottom of some of these things and to alert the American people to what's going on because we can't trust the media anymore for the democrats it is a way to try and destroy a president with whom they disagree which is an unconstitutional impeachment we know from that what from the framers what and some of the delegates to the state convention said that we're ratifying the Constitution but in this case with Joe Biden I spoke about it at length last night for about an hour I'll over the talk weekend about it on my Fox shows as well he said he should be a president who is impeached we have actually crossed the Rubicon even if you don't look at any of the financial issues with respect back to his violation of the public trust and more than that his attack on society from the Oval office Office on the southern border is violation of the Supreme Court order and in fact separation of powers he's seizing Congress's authority when it comes to student loans these are simple ones and for some reason they're not really talking about it on the House Oversight Committee so I'll keep talking about it till somebody talks about it anyway I interrupted you go right ahead well and also so let's say okay now Merrittless Garland obviously isn't going to
Evangelism on SermonAudio
A highlight from Your Godly Testimony
"You are listening to Bible Direction for Life, the sermon podcast of Westside Baptist Church in Bremerton, Washington. We pray that the preaching and teaching you hear on this podcast connects the truth of the Bible to your life, that you would learn more about the triune God who made you and what he made you for. And now here's today's message. All right, hope you had a blessed evening of rest. Thank you for the accommodations for our family, a very nice, warm home. We feel like it's a place that we can just rest at least for a few hours before we come before you and minister the word of God. And again, for those of you who were not here last night, you've been asking about Becky. She sends her love, wishing she could be here in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. I do have to admit that I prayed for rain this weekend, but I guess it wasn't God's will. We don't see a lot of rain in Yucca Valley, California. So I just want one afternoon. That's all I ask for, one afternoon of rain. So maybe God will give it to us later in the week. But I know Peter is praying probably for sunshine with all the kids ministry and the pavilions outside. So whose prayer does God answer? I'll leave it to you to decide. This is kind of rainy. Yeah. This is gloomy. All right. It's close. It's close. Almost rain. All right. Well, thanks for coming this morning. If you will take your Bibles and turn with me to Matthew chapter five. Matthew chapter five. And as you're turning to Matthew chapter five, let me once again remind you of what the essence of evangelism is. Last night, we began by establishing the fact that evangelism is God in Christ through the influence of his spirit, seeking and saving his sheep through his people. Evangelism is about God drawing, enlightening, regenerating and redeeming lost souls unto himself through the involvement and the participation of his people. So in this, we recognize first that salvation is entirely of God's grace and power. John 6 63, Jesus says, it's the spirit that quickens the flesh provides nothing. John 1 12 and 13, but as many as received him to them gave he that is God power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name, which were born, not of the blood, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God. And then we have Ephesians 2 8 9, for by grace, are you saved through faith and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God, not of works, lest any man should boast. So if others are to see the kingdom of God, they must be born again. They must be born of God. They must be born from above. That's first and foremost in understanding evangelism. Evangelism is all about God saving his people, okay? And then we have the second truth. Second, we recognize that God has ordained to use his people to be evangelistic witnesses in this world.
Tech Path Crypto
A highlight from 1200. Amazon Cancels Recession?Crypto Weekend Update
"Quite a bit more happening in the markets, and of course, a lot of what we're seeing could indicate that we are maybe exiting a recession or maybe the recession never happened. Today we're going to break all this down for you. There's a lot happening not only in the markets, but also how this may play out for crypto. My name is Paul Baron. Welcome back into Tech Path. Get into a couple of things here. Just as a reminder, if you guys would like to kind of front -run these opportunities, one of the tools we use, of course, is our Crypto Power Index. One of the things you can do is jump over there, join. It's very simple to use, and basically it gives you a full lineup of the top cryptocurrencies that we currently index. We're doing, I think, 43 right now on the token list. We'd get into Metaverse Gaming. You can also track retail investment sentiment, and it's a very unique measuring tool for how you guys can potentially look at this as a tool to get in and start to analyze projects a little bit deeper. We provide you, of course, the CPI dashboards, which you'll get a chance to see today. We'll show you some stuff there. Technical analysis, we drop those into our mastermind groups and also into our CPI memberships, and video analysis. That's usually of stuff that I do that is separate from what our YouTube channel is. So make sure and check that out. Just grab the link down below. I want to get into this first story today. And this one is cryptocurrencies navigating July's economic waves. Is there a soft lending scenario kind of playing out? And I think this is the question that everybody is asking right now, and a lot of people have said, okay, maybe there is an adjustment here. And even to a certain extent, when you look at, even my opinion, when we have kind of been analyzing these things over the past two years, is this year was a very significant one. And this summer, in fact, was the one that we were most concerned with. And now with what is going to be a little bit more of a flat position on the interest rate side of things, the question is, will we continue to see CPI and, you know, inflation drop? A couple of things from here. July cryptocurrency trends seem to mirror the larger economic sentiment surrounding the prospects of a soft landing in the economy. If incoming economic data continue to support the soft landing thesis, year -to -date rebound and major token valuations could continue, and you've got to remember that Bitcoin is up almost double since the beginning of the year. The Fed is basically saying no longer predicting a recession in their forecast. Now, I don't really like that when the Fed gets in here and starts predicting things, because the last time that happened was during the 2008 recession and it wasn't necessarily an on -point prediction. But the point is, is that there's many people that are looking into that. And then you have to look at the earnings and what has been happening in the traditional security side. I want to jump over to Squawk Box real quick and play this clip for you. Listen in. Thanks. We want to get over to Dom Chu. He's got a look at this morning's pre -market movers. And Dom, you're going to run us through some of the earnings? Yes. Yes, Becky, the two big ones, right? It's Apple and Amazon moving in opposite directions. So it's the two most consequential earnings reports of the season, arguably both in mega cap tech slash tech related. So we'll start with Apple. That stock is down by almost 2 % right now. So it's off the pre -market or after market lows, if you will. Those things, those shares now down 2%, a quarter million shares of volume. The iPhone and app services giant actually reported better than expected quarterly profits and revenues, but the revenues did slide for the third straight quarter. And the company did suggest that the trend could continue into this most current period driven by slowing sales of hardware products like the all important iPhone, also iPads, Mac computers and others. But in a brighter spot, Apple services business accelerated growth from the prior quarter. But on balance, we're talking about a down 2 % move given all of that. But the big influence on any outperformance that we see that Andrew pointed out in the S &P or the NASDAQ early on is going to be Amazon, which is up 9 % right now, nearly a million shares of pre -market volume. The e -commerce and cloud computing giant reported profits and revenues at both top estimates. For profits, it was the biggest beat since the fourth quarter of 2020, and it was driven in large part by cost -cutting efforts as well as better than expected growth at Amazon Web Services. Amazon also gave a more bullish current quarter revenue forecast as well. So Amazon up 9%. And we're going to end with a massive... All right. So as you can see, Amazon and Apple kind of going in different directions here. I was tweeting this out the other night here, but you can kind of see here, right here, Amazon operating reported income $77 .7 billion. This is 62 % above expectations. This is insane for them to be able to perform this way. And did they just cancel the recession? I mean, those are the kind of performance numbers, but at the same time, there's been some adjustment there in what Amazon has been doing from a fiscal standpoint that has made some of these performances be pretty significant. I was tweeting this out, just two no's from earnings. Amazon seems to think the bull run has begun and Apple is looking for a new way to screw up the iPhone with declining sales. This also shows the tail of the tape when it comes to pro NFT and not pro NFT. And of course that is Apple being against NFTs and really the evolution of the creator economy and what that might look like in gaming and all those kinds of things. And then you've got Amazon on the other hand that is starting to look at this as a viable opportunity, especially if you look at not only the gaming side of things for Amazon, but also the NFT marketplace that is brewing for Amazon. So I have a feeling that they are in position, and of course, Apple is in a position now where they're fighting against a lot more new devices and they've already got this pressure coming at them from the creator economy, which is really the lifeblood of their services business, which is the only thing that was up. So there's a lot there to kind of break down in terms of the future.
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Becky is a PhD student at Wheaton College studying New Testament with Esau McCauley. And her dissertation research is about emotions in the scriptures, specifically the Gospel of Luke. She writes and speaks on emotional, mental, and spiritual health in the church. She graduated from Northern Seminary where she studied with Dr. Scott McKnight, who is a friend of the show and has been on for a couple of times. And I know many of you have read his books. She actually also has written a book with Dr. Scott McKnight, a discipleship workbook, and it's called Following King Jesus. And she is also working on another project with him. She and her husband and their five kids and cat returned to the U .S. in 2020 after living in the Netherlands for eight years where she served as discipleship director at an international church. Today we're going to dig into some issues around emotional health in the church and specifically I'm going to be asking her about her perspective on what has gone on in recent days in the Southern Baptist Convention here in the United States. There are a lot of people around the world that have been watching this, both who are in the Christian community and outside of it. We've seen a lot of things on the news lately around women pastors. There's been a lot of, I would say, very emotionally unhealthy situations that people are trying to process in the aftermath of that. So we're going to ask her perspective on that and many other things around her research and how we can learn to move forward in a more emotionally healthy way in all of our spaces, whether it's our faith spaces, just regular neighborhood community spaces, government spaces, business, education, wherever we work and live and play and find our spiritual community. Becky has something to say to us around how to welcome the emotions that we have and what her research is showing her around how we can do that better together. So I am so excited to welcome for our first guest in this new series, Becky Castle Miller. Hello, Becky, and a very, very warm welcome to you to the A World of Difference podcast today. I'm so excited to be here, Laurie. Me too. I'm glad we're finally getting to meet. Yeah. There's so much we have in common, some mutual friends and just international experience and being women in the evangelical or post evangelical church. There's just a lot of crossover in our circles. And so I'm very excited about the things we're going to talk about today and hopeful that they can help us both be emotionally healthy, spiritually healthy about these conversations, but also find some calls to action where we can come together and really make a difference. But just right out the gate, a lot of people listening to this podcast are reeling from some of the things that we all watched, either. I mean, just even on regular news channels here in the United States and even globally, things being covered around the Southern Baptist Convention this week and a lot of nuance there for many of us. But I think for women to see that women pastors were used sort of as this sort of pawn, I guess, in a lot of ways to distract from abuse of women and men, but also to have what appears to be not an emotionally or psychologically or even physically safe place for women as they kind of took this backseat to a fight by these domineering men in our news feeds. And so I would just love for, first of all, to give you the opportunity to say, how do you feel as you have been watching this yourself? And do you have any things that, as you express how you feel, would be important for us to understand about how to kind of move forward? Yeah. Well, I think Beth Allison Barr had some really good commentary. So I would point people to her substack. She is formerly Southern Baptist, and so she's a little bit more connected to that world personally than I am. I've never been in a Southern Baptist church. I've been in many, many diverse churches and some kind of non -denominational, loosely Baptist, but never Southern Baptist. So it feels a little removed from me directly. So people like Beth Allison Barr are great to speak into that. One of my biggest concerns is Rick Warren's posturing of himself as this late convert to supporting women, but not really supporting vulnerable women. He put out a statement before the convention that he's changed his mind on women pastors, but I think he's still withholding eldership from women. And yet at the same time, he appointed a successor at Saddleback who has some pretty serious allegations of abusive leadership from his former church. And that has not been satisfactorily addressed. So there's a disconnect there between what Rick Warren says he wants to be as a champion for women, and yet he seems to be turning a blind eye or intentionally maybe even covering up abuse. So that's one concern I have about the stories coming out of the convention. I am glad that Barber won the presidency because he's a marginally better candidate than the other guy. But Barber has really been a lot of talk and not a ton of decisive action against abuse, and he is still against women in embracing their full ministry gifts. So it's like some small victories, but yet also it's been a platform for women to be demeaned publicly, like just to hear so many negative and critical things said about women in ministry. So I understand why a lot of women are leaving Southern Baptist churches, and I think that's actually a really healthy decision for those who make that choice. Yes, amen to that sister. Yeah, you know, having walked through abuse at the hands of Andy Wood, that is Rick Warren's successor, and at Saddleback, and, you know, being not the original whistleblower because there were two before me in the news last summer, but, you know, also knowing because I don't have an NDA, right, and my husband doesn't either, we refuse our NDA tied to severance and medical insurance. And so that's, you know, why I can speak, but I just personally know so many stories, and I know the stories that we told to the faux investigation at Saddleback last summer, and I say faux because a hiring agency is not a third -party investigation that just happens in a couple of days, you know, that needs months, it needs grace ministries, it needs a Wade Mullen, or it needs somebody with an expertise in, you know, something like an evangelical church with abuse allegations that are credible, and, you know, and their image management around that, you know, that's definitely something that's a specialty. And so when you're not willing to do the substantial work, I think that what I saw at Saddleback was, unfortunately, oddly consistent with what I've seen in Southern Baptist as a whole. I was a Southern Baptist for 45 years, right? I was a missionary kid all my life, and I married a missionary kid who was a Southern Baptist, too, and went to Southern Baptist University, went to Southern Baptist Seminary, worked as an IMB would at his previous church, Echo Church, before Saddleback, and walking through that, you know, multiple different types of abuse, you know, emotional abuse, physical, psychological, not physical, sorry, that does exist in the stories, but not mine. But I think that understanding emotional abuse, psychological abuse, spiritual abuse is a conversation to have in the church, but also in our society at large, and I think it's an opportunity for us to lead the way. And I think that it was not shocking that Saddleback was kicked out. I think that what is sad is that they were kicked out for women pastors and not for abuse, and therefore, Rick Warren and Andy Wood, you know, Andy being my abuser and Rick Warren being the one that covered up my abuse, and that of many others, are seen now as heroes and martyrs for the cause of women. And, you know, that was sort of disturbing to watch, even though I'm not a part of the Southern Baptist anymore. So I also, I love the work Beth Allison Barr is doing. I think many of us calling from the outside for women to be free, and also warning them about the places to go and silent complicity in bystanders and watching abuse happen to women over the years might be tempted to believe a Rick Warren or an Andy Wood if they start some new denomination or whatever happens in the wake of all this and whatever the point of all this was, to just be warned that there are some faux egalitarian spaces out there, and that's the conversation that's really going to be helpful, I think, going forward. I'd love for you to tell us more, though, about your research around emotions. We don't often talk about that, and I think what you're doing is really fascinating. You're doing research in the emotions of the Gospel of Luke. What led you to this particular era of study, and how is it relevant even to the conversation we're having right now? Yeah, I feel like I have dual interests in abuse and trauma and healing from those things and emotional health, and they're often viewed as two separate issues, but they overlap really significantly. They interweave with each other. Of course, they are different academic fields. You can do a dissertation in abuse. You can do a dissertation in trauma. You can do a dissertation in emotions, which is what I'm doing, but I'm hoping to bring those conversations together a little bit in my dissertation. I just finished my first year at Wheaton College in a PhD in New Testament, which is fantastic, and I really appreciate Wheaton supporting me in doing a multidisciplinary dissertation. So it is a New Testament project, but I'm leaning really heavily on some neuroscientific and psychological models of emotion, which is one thing that's been lacking in biblical studies is really the latest scientific research on emotion, so I'm excited to get to do that work. So I'm going to be taking some trauma and neuroscience classes in the counseling school and in the neuroscience department to supplement my New Testament work, and then I'm also hoping to bring in the impact of trauma and abuse on emotions. We'll see. It's only one dissertation, but I think those are really important aspects. When we look at emotion in the Gospels, we're looking at the emotions of an oppressed and traumatized people who are drawing on the history of oppressed and traumatized peoples over hundreds and thousands of years. So the emotions that Jesus' disciples learned from their culture are drawing from a culture of oppression, repeated you know, the slavery in Egypt and the Exodus, the Babylonian captivity, and release from that, and then in their current day, the occupation by the Romans. So I think we have to consider what impact trauma might be having on the emotions that they're constructing. When I did an analysis this past year on the emotions mentioned in the Gospel of Luke, I found 158 instances of emotion, and it depends how you categorize them, but so many of those instances were talking about fear. Jesus and angels are saying over and over again, don't be afraid. Don't be afraid. Well, why do they need to say don't be afraid? Perhaps it's because they're talking to people dealing with hypervigilance who are constantly feeling afraid in their bodies because they live in dangerous circumstances. So I think fear is a big component of gospel emotions. Jesus also talks about worry or anxiousness, and he talks about terror. So it's just a lot going on with fear -based emotions in the Gospel of Luke, and I think that the trauma of the people he's serving might have something to do with that. So that's one angle that I'm hoping to take, and we'll see where the rest of it goes. I think your work is so fascinating and so needed. I mean, you and I both spent time overseas, and so we understand in different cultures people express their emotions very differently. I was just in Abu Dhabi and Dubai earlier this year in March, and it's not the first time I've been to anywhere in North Africa in the Middle East, but we largely know that the way emotions are expressed in Middle Eastern culture versus white evangelical North American culture or even the Dutch, like very different expressions, right? And so we read sometimes things from the lens of maybe sitting in, I don't know, Wheaton, Illinois, right, with a bunch of white people around us reading it in a particular English translation, and we read things like sackcloth and ashes. Well, that's weird, you know, or with these like imprecatory Psalms that are just so full of like, wow, like, can we pray those things? Like, that's a lot. It's just, you know, we have books, you know, like Pete Scazzero's Emotionally Healthy Discipleship. We have all these things that are just, there's things that are happening right now, and the call to more lament, you know, the call to look back in our history and ask God to forgive us for our sins, not individually, but as a people. How have we been complicit? How are we currently complicit in abuse in the SBC, in racism, in what is, you know, started under racism because of, you know, enslaved peoples on forced labor camps, and how have those decisions, the root of that, produced the fruit of lording over and dominating people for the purpose of white male supremacy or patriarchy and things that are not helping any of us. So when we dig into emotional health as individuals, we have to look at it collectively too, and I think that our Western individualistic culture really makes it hard. We're very, we have a lot of blind spots if we only stay there. So the global church has really taught me so much about this. I'm so excited that you're studying under Esau McCauley. It's such a great opportunity for you. As you look into some of this area of emotional, mental, and spiritual health in the church, what are some common challenges that you find or misconceptions that you've come across, and maybe how could churches better address these issues? There's a lot of misunderstanding of emotion in just typical church conversation, and there's also a lack of knowledge of trauma, and those intersect again as well.
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"Las Vegas aces coach Becky hammon denied Wednesday that former aces player D Erika hamby was bullied on her team for being pregnant, saying any ill feelings between the two came from hamby being traded. Hammond, one of the league's marquee figures said at a news conference she did nothing to warrant discipline from the WNBA, which suspended her for two games without pay Tuesday after a months long investigation into hamby's allegations. A former player for the franchise during their days in San Antonio, Hammond guided the aces to their first WNBA title in her inaugural season with the team last year. I'm geffen cool ball.
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"And this is good inside. You know, I have three adult kids, and when I was a parent, I didn't know what their needs were. I had my own issues that had worked out for my own trauma and childhood. And then when my children showed issues, I naturally assumed it was something along with them. Rather than asking myself, what is it in the parenting environment that is not meeting their needs, and what can I do to bring myself into a more grounded and understanding place? I could actually meet their needs rather than demand that they need my expectations. It's a totally different way of counting. We'll be right back. If you're like most parents, I know, you're busy. The last thing we want after a long day is to plan dinner. Shop for ingredients and cook while trying to do a million other things at the same time. Just to put the food in front of your child and hear yuck. That's disgusting. Or I'm not eating that. So you can imagine how excited I was to meet the founders of little spoon. A one stop shop for healthy, easy meals for babies, toddlers, and kids, shipped right to your door. And I love that little spoon like good inside, empowers parents to take care of their kids and themselves. Little spoon gives parents the freedom to choose how they spend their time without sacrificing quality food. And they make it easy from purees to transition to table foods to big kid plates. They've thought of everything, so you don't have to. Get 50% off your first order at little spoon dot com. When you use the code good inside at checkout. So I recently sat down to talk with doctor Gabor mate. Someone whose work has
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"The Supreme Court says a transgender girl can run girls track in West Virginia. The Supreme Court will allow a 12 year old transgender girl in West Virginia to continue competing on her girl's sports teams in middle school while a lawsuit over a state band continues. The justices refused to disturb an appeals court order. They made it possible for Becky pepper Jackson to continue playing on her school's track and cross country teams, justices, Samuel Alito and clarence Thomas, would have allowed West Virginia to enforce its law against the girl. I'm Shelley Adler
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"But the number one thing, they like us. And they want us around. They like our company even. What they don't like is our agendas. And so what I would say is, teenagers want to be with and near us, they like that a lot less when every interaction is, where are you with your homework? What's going on with that teacher? Show me where things are with your college applications. Why aren't you working out hard? You know, you know the tryouts are coming. That's where they have a harder time with us. But to be just quiet, present. I wrote a piece years ago about being a potted plant parent, right? They just want you there. And I think it's easy for adults to not know this because it can feel very rejecting to have a teenager. But a genderless presence man, that is what they're really looking for. I love that. Agenda less presence. That is so good. Okay, two more questions. Biggest gap between the reality of adolescents as you've lived through it. And you're kind of clinical understanding about adolescents before you were in it. Oh man, they complained so much. I think that that was that was the part. When you're a clinician, you get doses and they're focused on a particular problem that is usually like for lack of a better word a real problem. As a mom, I just could not believe starting by about 34th grade that like 90% of what happens after school is like the rundown of indignities and injuries and insults. And that overwhelmingly just being like, oh man, that stinks. It works beautifully, it's all they need. But I didn't expect the volume of detailed accounting of the day and it's downsides. And also, back in, I think it's really important for us to say, how much I don't like it. It's actually very unpleasant because I'm very tired at that point in the day. And the reason I want to say that is, I feel like parents, we need to know that other parents too are in their homes. Feeling very not in the mood to hear the full grousing and the full catalog of the day's injustices. But that doesn't mean the kids don't get to do it, and that doesn't mean it's not a beautifully working system for them to dump all their emotional garbage of the day and for us to go oh man, that stinks I'm so sorry. Yeah. Oh, so de shaming. Okay, something apparent listening can do today. That's gonna make a difference in their relationship, even if their kid doesn't gratify the moment and say thank you, mom. Thank you, dad. That was so bonding. Put something simple apparent could you today with their teen? I think if you're raising a teenager, you've got to take really good care of yourself and I also think you need other sources of gratification. So I 12 year olds still think I'm funny, wants to go to the grocery store with me. We have a blast. I am very well aware that I am like on the clock. I'm stretching it already. And if all things go as they typically and healthily should, within the next 6 months, I am not going to be her favorite playmate. And I feel really grateful that I have a lot of other sources of activity, a lot of other sources of feeling valued and useful in the world. Because you're going to need that. I mean, by 13 or 14, your kid is not going to be the one who makes you feel good about yourself. That is so provocative and deep and so, so good. For our kids early years, often unconsciously. We can fill up on good feelings in ourselves through the way they need us through the way they depend on us through the way they lean into us when they're upset. And it can really be like, I feel very purposeful, I feel very impactful. This lights me up inside, look, look at this job I'm doing. There's like evidence. And that's really, I think, really helpful to think about when you have a team. Definitely really helpful to think about also before you have a teen of, okay, no judgment. What percentage of my good feelings about myself come from my kids? Just like, where am I in percentage? And if that's not a percentage that I think is good for me or will continue to work for me, what else could give me good feelings? What else do I like? And that is so important for a parent, no matter how old your kid is, but I love what you're saying, Lisa, when your kid is a teen, one of the best things you can do, yeah, for you, but for your relationship with them. Is really lean into more of figuring out those things for yourself, probably it helps you tolerate when they're melting down and being rude because you're not looking to them. To kind of fill you up in that moment. Ah, so good. Thanks for listening. To share a story or ask me a question, go to good inside dot com slash podcast. You could also write me at podcast at good inside dot com. Parenting is the hardest and most important job in the world. 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"All. Walk away after. Absolutely. Would we want to go back? Right? Or would we want to do it now? Right? I mean, I think if we can put it in those framings, I mean, I got off easy. No social media, college was easy to get into. You know, I mean, it felt really hard then and it was really hard then. Can you give us a little bit about that? I mean, technology is social media, neither of us grew up with this, not in those years. How can parents help their teens kind of like, I don't know, like minimize the downsides or talk about it in a way that it doesn't just explode. You don't understand. Any brilliant advice? Well, I've advised you. You'll decide. Okay, so you said something, I think, wildly important, just in the framing, which is minimize the downsides. So one of the things that I know to be true about social media is that there's probably not a kid on the planet for whom it is not simultaneously both good and bad. And you have to start from that understanding, because when we roll up on them, like, oh, your social media is terrible, like get away from your phone. You've already lost them, because they're like, you are making it clear you do not understand that this is where I have a lot of fun. This is where I had deep and meaningful connections with people I care about. This is a place where I'm creative. This is a place where I'm learning discourse at a level that is way above what we had as teenagers. So if you leave that piece out, you're already talking to the hand in some ways. So I think that the first thing we need to do is to recognize it has pros and cons and the nice thing about teenagers is they'll be the first to tell you that. Again, I quote a kid in my book. I love my phone and I hate my phone. So meet them there. So get a lot of information. One of the ways to do this, and one of the ways I think to not have the door slam in your face when you're trying to talk to your kid about social media. Is to remember that what it means to them, we really don't understand, we never used it like they use it, we were not teenagers with it, and no one wants advice from somebody who doesn't really get it, right? Like nobody does. And the analogy, the sounds kind of goofy, but it actually really works. If we come up to a teenager and say, I need to talk to you about your social media. We should imagine the equivalent would be them coming up to us and saying, I need to talk to you about your mortgage. Right? Because we'd be like, go away. What do you know about mortgages? And so instead of your teenager came up to you and said, do we have a mortgage? You say, well, yeah, we got a mortgage. And then they say, how does the mortgage work? And then we explain how the mortgage works. And they say, and what are we paying in terms of what is our current interest rate? And you give them all this information. And then if at the very end of that, they were to say, do you understand that I think the rights have been adjusted and you could refinance and save some money? We'd be like, okay, but at least we'd be open to it. Yes. So we need to do the flip around social media. Love that. So what is that? What's the start? Say, obviously, a lot of adults are on the ceiling about social media. How worried should we be? Like ask your kid that question. How were you? Like, what are the good parts? Like, ask them, what are the best parts of this? If suddenly phones just disappeared, what would you miss the most? How is it most useful to you? How does it serve you best? Go all the way down that road. And then say, what don't you like? Where is it not helping you? Where's a ruin in your mood? So that's how to have the conversation. And then you can say, is there anything you want to do differently is there any way I can help? With a teenager, that's where you're going to win. The other thing I will say is, do not let it mess with their sleep. And it's so basic and so important, and I would say if you do nothing else, try not to have a mess and the best way to do that is to not have it in their bedrooms when they're supposed to be sleeping. Okay, so I'm just thinking about parent who's like, my kids, nothing bad about it. Leave me alone. No, I don't have any problems with it. And you're thinking, oh, there's a gap in how we're seeing this because I see this. My kid, whatever it is, is spending so much time on there or I see how it affects their self esteem or I actually know about some really tricky conversations that happened on some of these apps that they maybe didn't get caught for, but could have. And it was not nice language. Like, how do you, how do you talk to parents about bridging this gap? When maybe they feel like, oh, I'm not in the best place with my teens, so I do get the hand, but there are active problems. So what do I do? What I will say is, give, it a real chance to work, to be super curious about what's working for you. Because what I find with teens is if you are earnestly curious and they see that like you really mean it, they are pretty open to saying, actually, yeah, like this isn't what's working. Or this is where I worry about it. So I would just say don't, even if you've had trouble with your kid around social media before, like, see if this new approach doesn't keep the door open a little bit. But it then gets into questions of like, we still have to regulate it. And we still have to make rules and they're not going to like all of our rules. So especially for your audience because I think it's a lot of families whose kids do not yet have it. Are getting near it is a great time for me to say to your audience. Out of the gate, do not let it in their rooms, right? And this was a rare moment where it was an advantage to be a psychologist parent having practiced for a while. Neither one of my daughters has ever had technology in their bedrooms. And the only way I was able to pull that off is that's where we started and they knew from the beginning that that was going to be the rule. Even during the daytime, even during the daytime, and the reason for that is it actually still undermines your ability to sleep in that space if you've been using technology in that space. And sleep is the hill to die on. And so what I would say, if your kid does not yet have access to digital technology, start there, and that alone, Becky goes so far. Goes so far. The other thing I would say for a younger families who are in the space of moving into digital technology. At the moment when your kid wants a phone, they want it so bad, right? They are desperate for it. And you will never be in a better negotiating position than in that moment. And there are kids like when you're there like I really need a phone, everybody's got a phone, and I really need this whatever just got it. You can basically say to them, all right, you can have a phone, you can touch it on the alternate Sundays when the moon is full, and they'll be like, that is fine. Just give you the phone. So the most important thing is to start enormously slow. And add on as your kid is demonstrating that they know what they're doing or that they're handling it well. The other thing I will say, so my 12 year old has a phone, which is younger than her sister got it. And the reason for that is I wanted her to be able to text her sister at college. Like they needed to have a channel for themselves. The phone she has, which is an iPhone because it's going to be her phone for a while. It has no browser, and it has no social media apps. She texts with her sister, she texts with her friends, and I think that's going to easily get her through 6th grade. Of course, a lot of this is regional. That's where it is in our community. I'm going to hold out as long as possible with that being basically a texting machine. So go slow, keep that out of kids rooms. Do all of that, and then the rest gets easier because you've really got some pretty tight rains on it. And you can loosen those rains as kids are demonstrating that they are handling that well. So, so helpful. A couple of final questions for you. Some maybe rapid fire. What do you think a teen would say? It's like the number one thing that parents kind of get wrong. About teens. I love that question. I would say the number one thing. Like, it's hard because I really, if there's so much, you could say,
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"Hey everyone, Lisa and I agree that helping our kids feel seen and heard is critical to their cooperation. And what I always tell parents is this. While our kids are younger, we can really build a foundation for connection and cooperation. Then yes, the teenage years of course will have its moments, but those years will be so much smoother because of the foundation you set. So good inside members, I highly recommend searching, listening in the member library for a step by step approach for connecting with your kid and increasing cooperation. And if this is resonating with you and you're curious to learn more about membership, follow the link in the show notes or head to good inside dot com. Can we role play something? Can you give me a teenage rant? Because I think one of the things that happens when you're a parent is you hear your kids say something and you have this instinct like I'm going to help them look on the bright side. I'm going to tell them an example where that's actually isn't true. And it's such well intentioned, like your gut is well intentioned. But it literally always inflames. But I feel like role playing it could be helpful. So you know teens rants. I love this so much. 'cause I truly love teenagers. And I love how they describe the world, right? And describe their own world. Okay. So, oh my God. You will not believe what happened today. So here I am in AP U.S. history and we were given a group project and I've got an a in that class. I worked so hard for this a in this class. And the group project the grade will actually affect our overall grade. And this kid Troy, who I have known since the 7th grade, he is one of the three people in our group, and he does not think he does nothing. He is going to be bossy and annoying and useless to us in this kid is going to destroy migrate. Sweetie, look, it just seems like you're focusing on the worst parts of your group. And I'm sure the other kids in the group will like really help you out. You don't get it, but I'm still the teenager. What's my grade? Oh, yeah, D minus one. D minor, D minus for what you said, but like a plus for intention. Totally. But I actually, I'm going to challenge it. Okay. You're going to challenge you great. We're all doing the best we can with the resources in that moment. And I know every single parent wants to do right by their kid. A 100% apparent. And we've been fed over and over this idea, I think a lot of us were parented this way. That when people are upset and distress, that our job is to pull them out of that hole. Or I always think about it as they're sitting on some bench of distress. I'm on the bench of I got the worst kid in my group, right? They're on the Troy and my group bench. And my job is to pull them off that bench and be like, look at this sunny bench. It's the at least I have Anna, right? Where? Our job is to sit on the bench with them. The part of distress that's the worst is being alone in it. That's actually the only, really impossible thing. And so in your example of like this, it sounds like nothing. You're like, did I even do anything? But I always feel like if I ask myself with my own kids, Becky, what's the equivalent of just sitting on the bench? And then I know I'll be like, oh, that stinks. Oh, you really wish Troy wasn't in your group. The one kid you didn't want. I feel like when you're starting this, I tell parents, just don't have the conversation without a pen, write down what they say, and then read it back to them. And I don't know, like, is that is that closer to an a? What do you think a teen wants to hear? So this is what I love about teens, like the very strongly opinionated. So you can not take notes and read them back to them that you will lose them right there. But you can do that with a younger kid. So don't do that. But I think, honestly, you said it, which is, and I was taught this by a 9th grader in New Jersey. What they mostly want to hear from you is like, oh man, that's stinks. That just stinks. And I will tell you 90% of my parental utterances at the end of the day are like, tell me more in a whole way, and that stinks. And that is all teenagers want. They're like, thank you. Thank you. Because here's the way we want to think about it from their standpoint. They got the group assignment in class. And they did not scream, throw themselves on the floor, look at Troy and scowl. In fact, they almost certainly walked over to Troy and were like, okay, what's your cell phone number? Let's see if we can find a time to work together this weekend. They were awesome. They were crushed it. They did everything we would ever want. And the thing that allowed them to do it was the knowledge that they were going to come home and be like, you are not even going to believe what went down in AP U.S. history today. So when they're bringing it, they're not bringing it like I'm bringing it because I have this problem I want your help with. Sometimes they are. And we can get to when that's happening. They are usually bringing it in the form of I have held myself together all day and been the solid, gracious citizen you want me to be at school all day. And I just am bursting to tell you this. And I need to discharge it as much as anything else. And a solid ohm, man, that stinks is usually like, boom, the end of the sentence, job done. I love that so much to remember when your kid comes home. I got trying my group, and also the lunch was disgusting today at school. Why don't they ever give us anything good to eat? And to almost hold on to like a different image of your kid, walking around, getting Troy's number, walking to lunch, probably going like this. But then eating and moving on, that probably happened. Right? Because we get locked into this one version of our kid in front of us. And then we think that's going to be them forever. We actually think my kid's going to be the 40 year old. We fast forward their lives. I often feel like, especially when you're younger, you're like my kids to sociopathic and be in jail. How did I get there? But when their teams too and your explanation for all the parents listening, your kid needs to let out steam to you, so they can function and perform and be the version of themselves that can adapt the other moments when they're exploring the world. Absolutely. And I don't know if you had this experience in working on your book, but I did with this one Becky. The section where I'm sort of thinking some of this through about the fact that we very rarely with teenagers in our own homes get a very good picture of their overall mental functioning. Because they are more vulnerable at home. They are more likely to express concerns. They are more likely to fall apart and we should not generalize that to think that that's what's happening and I would say like usually like a huge, massive majority of the time. The fact that they can lose it at home or fall apart at home or we be or kind of all over the map at home is what allows them to be the sturdy solid, reasonable human beings. They are under conditions that are actually quite difficult. I think that Becky, if you or I were to try to do a teenager's day by third period, we'd be like, I'm out. I'm done. I'm not putting up with one more adult who's telling me what to do, or I can not stand that kid who is sitting next to me and I can't take it. They put up with a huge amount. I love that. A simple but right on perspective. It's hard to be a teenager. And I think sometimes parents are like, it's not hard to be a parent of a teenager. No, that's also hard. They're just both hard. It's hard to be a parent of a teen. It's hard to be a teen. And probably just saying that to your teen once in a while is probably builds some connection capital. It's really hard to be 16. Just, you know, I know that's true. That's
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"The first play is you let the kid talk. You let them talk and talk and talk. And I love your tornado and algae. It can only go so far. I always say it can only go so far and how it's such an act of love. And if you think about yourself, like I always think, imagine I went to a party, right? There was some big party, like everyone I knew. And I was just like, in a mood. And I was going around to everyone. You know, my husband was there too, just being like, you're the worst. I hate you. I hope awful things happen to you in your life. I don't know. If my husband did pick me up and carry me to a room and sit with me. And just be like, look, something's going on, but I'm not going to, I'm not going to let this thing destroy the world around you, because you're not going to feel good about it. It's not because I'm embarrassed, because I know you. This doesn't feel good to you. I'm going to sit with you and we're going to be in the smaller room as a container. It's not done because we're mad at our kids. It's done because we're on the same team and we're still protecting our kids. Absolutely. And one of the beauties of adolescence is based on a whole lot of language. And so I think about the toddler version of containment and the adolescent version and containment meaning like helping kids get things back under control. So teenagers will talk and one of the studies I detail in the book that I need the reminder as a parent is that the act of expressing one's emotions actually confers its own relief. You know, we do neurological studies where we put electrodes on people's skin to check emotional arousal or we look at the activity of the amygdala in real time and their brain to check emotional arousal. And when we ask people, we've put photos in front of them of distressing things in natural disasters, things like that. And half of them we say tell us what it feels like to look at this photo and half of them we say tell us the facts of the photo, no one is responding. They're in a machine. They're alone. But the mere act of saying, I feel really anxious. I feel really upset. I feel really worried or whatever it is the kid is feeling. We see from these objective physiological markers actually brings their distress down. So I think for us as parents, so step number one, fake or actually be a steady presence. Step number two, can you double click step number one, so for parents like, okay, I'm gonna do that. But do I say certain words? What words? What is it just do I take a deep breath and say something to myself to call my own body? Let's just give them one thing like a steady presence. Maybe we each could mean what, what are two different ways to be a steady presence? Okay, so I mean, I think a lot of it is like manage your face, right? Because the thing is about our kids. I don't know if your kids are doing this with you yet, but they will pick up my mood before I have picked up my mood. They'll be like, what's going on? And then I'll realize that I'm holding my face in a way that I wasn't even conscious of, but that they're aware of. So I would say first thing you do is think like, can you put a calm reassuring look on your face? Like, that would be the, so I would have you start. And it may involve taking some breaths. Maybe rubbing their back, right? I mean, language is probably not going to be your best friend here. You probably are going to do this almost entirely non verbally. And one of the analogies I've played with at times is, you know, if your kid is flooding, you need to be an emotional sandbag. Right. So like whatever sandbag looks like to you, that's you in that moment. Great. So I love that. And I agree. Our kids feel our intention more than our words. Sometimes words can put our intention into action. So I think another option, I just find there's something about saying to a kid when they're really upset. Like, I believe you and I'm here. I see the tornado, I believe it's real. And I am that container. I'm here. So, you know, I think that's great. Check your face and maybe if you want language or what do I say, I need that sometimes too, just try that. I believe you. And I'm here. So simple. Yeah. I love that. I love that. Okay, so then step number two is let the kid talk. Just let him talk. I mean, just listen, listen, listen, listen. And it feels like nothing. It feels inadequate. And what I love is when you try it and make space for it, you get reinforced in doing it again, 'cause kid is like, oh, thank you so much. And then you're done and you're like, that's it. That's all it took. So when you say, listen, because presence is an action, it feels like nothing, but I always say that to myself, Becky presence is an action. And I feel like what you're insinuating when he says less is more. Hundred percent. A 100%. But I also, let's just go deeper on this idea of presence while listening. So one of the strategies I offer in the book is something that I find I need, especially when a kid is upset and I'm moving into activating, want to give advice, sometimes just shut it down mode, to be honest, is to think about what really to listen means and what it means is what I use as the idea of I pretend that I'm an editor. And that the kids rant or meltdown or whatever is my reporter reading me their article of their distress. And my job is when they get to the end of the article, I have to produce the headline. So I am distilling. I am not adding. I am getting the essential meat of it back to them. And what you say Becky about, like, they sense our intention. If you are listening so hard because you have to come up with a headline at the end of that article, they will sense that, right? They can tell, oh, she's really listening. She's not waiting for me to pause just to tell me what to do. She is actually actually listening. And I will tell you, I very rarely get to a good headline. Like I very rarely, I'll tell you the one time I did a really good job. And it's in the book because I think it's helpful to have an example. But mostly I don't, or I blow it. But it doesn't matter because like you're saying they consent that you are all in on paying attention. So I'll give you a good example. My older daughter was a high school sophomore. When the
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"Kids are going to feel upset and left out in less than feelings for the rest of their lives. I just know this is a fact because I feel that still is adults, right? The feelings are part of human existence and how we react to the feelings. How we learn to cope with the feelings. That's where it's at. That's where it all hinges. It's where it all hinges. And I will say, so I have a daughter who's 19 and a daughter who was 12. And so I've done, I'm on both ends of adolescence actually as a mother myself. And I will say there is such value in having seen what intense adolescent emotionality looks like in your own home. And I will tell you Becky, my kids are great. They're doing great. They're sturdy fabulous kids. I'm really lucky and I know it. But that experience of seeing the full strength of a teenage emotion. I can hold two things in mind at the same time. One is, that is harrowing. That is terrifying when that is so intense. Even if it turns out an hour later, the kid doesn't even remember what it was that made her so upset. And then side by side with by that thinking, okay, I'm a psychologist, I've seen a lot. I know that this is actually not grounds for concern, but I've had moments on my own parenting, where I have thought if I did not know this is standard fair, I would be terrified right now. Like what? If it's like, give us some examples. This is part of adolescence. It's hard, it's gonna be tricky, and it's part of it. Absolutely. So one of those stories I tell in the book is about a friend who I had lunch with, who I see her shortly after Christmas, and she's like, oh my gosh, I almost called you. And what she goes on to describe is that her daughter who has just turned 13 had meltdown after meltdown through the holidays, over things that were even to the girl herself small. She didn't get what she wanted from the grandparents and that wasn't the issue she just felt bad about not wanting it. She was really sorry to see Christmas getting put away. And the kids responds was that she was doubled over sobbing. Doubled over. And even as she was doubled over sobbing, the kid was saying, I feel crazy. I feel like I do not know what's happening, because that kid could hold two things in mind. Like, one, I am overreacting, and two, I can not stop. And so I was so glad my friend brought it up because I could say, okay, what you are describing as really outrageous is it feels in the moment. That standard fair, especially the kid was 13, 13 is a wildly dysregulated time in emotional development. And so having that awareness that the distress even at that volume is not necessarily grounds for concern, what the kid does next is what we want to pay attention to. That was, thankfully, reassuring to my friend, but that's the kind of stuff I'm talking about. The parents were like, what is this? And how were you do I need to be? So I imagine apparently listening to this right and I'll be like, oh, okay. That's your leaving. And then I feel like a lot of them have this question. Lisa, so when that happens, what should I do? What should I do in that moment with my kid? Okay. I think the first thing we have to do is to serve as a steady presence, even if that means we have to fake it. I really mean that. And I'm not a big believer in faking it. But here's the thing. When your kid is up, freaked out, it is very easy as a parent to meet them right there. Yes. And here is why either we want to try to be steady or we want to pretend is the worst study outwardly. Because the first thing that's going to happen and I use this analogy all the time and this comes up in your work all the time, right? If we think about toddlers, they fall down and scrape their knee, they look at their knee and then the next thing they look at is your face. Okay, so the adolescent equivalent of that is the kid has doubled over sobbing over Christmas gifts. And they are really, really alarmed by it. They are looking at what's happening, and then they're going to look at your face. Yeah. And if you are on the ceiling, the experience for that 13 year old, so I, you know, I'm 52, right? So if you're on the ceiling, the experience of that is, okay, I thought this was a 13 year old sized problem, but the 52 year old is freaked out. This is a 52 year old sized problem. This is terrifying to me. So part of what we are doing is with our composure. Helping keep it down to size. So that is the first thing you do. And it can be really hard. I'm curious to say the second and third is, I mean, I actually think for everyone listening like that first thing, I don't know, I feel like it's probably like 95% of the thing. And it's also like, whatever the other 5% probably doesn't matter that much if we can't kind of work toward at least that first step. And I always think about things visually, too. And it is a teen, a toddler, an adult, to adult relationship. When one person is so diss regulated, they're feelings are greater than their ability to cope with those feelings in the moment. It's like a tornado, right? And if you picture a tornado, like a spiral in a big glass container, the tornado can only go so far. And you're like, oh, those are tornado, but it's contained literally. If you picture a tornado without a glass container, you're like, oh, that's not a safe in my house. And when we're steady, when we're faking steady, when we're saying, okay, doctor d'Orsay is a normal, this is a normal. My kid's good. Nothing's wrong with me or my kid. We are the container for a kid's tornado. When we and I've been there too, I know Lisa's been there. We all add our tornado to our kids tornado, and we always will, and just hope to do it a little bit less over time. But when we had our tornado, do a kids tornado. Of course the tornado gets bigger. It's not even our fault it's just like, that's like, I don't know, it's like physics or whether. It's just like it's just what happens. Yep. And it is hard. And yes, I have absolutely been there as a parent. I have absolutely thought like, okay, if I can't keep it together with all of my training and knowledge, I can't imagine what this feels like for other families in their homes, right? I mean, it's such a good thing to have your own children if you're helping people with their children. And so I just agree with everything you're saying. And I also agree like if you could get that the steady presence right, that container right, it probably doesn't matter much what happens next. Though I do, I do in the book and I do try to be incredibly concrete in the last two chapters of let me give you ten strategies for helping kids express emotions. Let me give you ten tribes for helping them get things back under control. So I do really try to equip parents with, I call them a playbook, playbook for playbook 5, right? Like chapters four and 5. And usually
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"We very rarely with teenagers in our own homes get a very good picture of their overall mental functioning. Because they are more vulnerable at home. They are more likely to express concerns. They are more likely to fall apart and we should not generalize that to think that that's what's happening. And I would say like usually like a huge, massive majority of the time, the fact that they can lose it at home or fall apart at home or be weepy or kind of all over the map at home is what allows them to be the sturdy solid, reasonable human beings, they are under conditions that are actually quite difficult. Doctor Lisa des Moore now has three books on teenagers and all of my Friends with older kids have told me that they are required reading. She's the author of untangled and under pressure and now she's written a book for teens of all genders, the emotional lives of teenagers, raising, connected, capable, and compassionate adolescents. It really wasn't planning on writing another book. I was sort of taking a little bit of a breather. But the combined effects of teenager suffering as they did through the pandemic, and then also the cultural understanding of what makes for a mental health and how we help kids with distress, becoming a bit off course in my mind. I really felt like it was time for me to try to lay out what we know from the academic and clinical side about what healthy development looks like and what actually the place of distress in our lives is, which is actually very important part of our lives. And to try to offer reassurance to parents that there's so much they can do in their own homes to care for their kids. I'm doctor Becky, and this is good inside. We'll be back in a minute. Here's something I know about you. You're the kind of parent who puts time and thoughtfulness into your decisions about your family. Here's something else I know. Sometimes it's hard to find products and brands that are in line with our parenting values. This is one of the reasons I'm excited to introduce you to cerebellum. The food for babies and toddlers with 16 key nutrients that nourish a growing brain. Cerebellar organic, non GMO recipes, include vegetables as the main ingredient, and offer nutrients that are matched to your child's developmental stage. Oh, and there's also this. Cerebelli is clean label project certified, meaning they've been rigorously tested for over 400 heavy metals and toxins. Use the code good inside for 20% off your first order and get an additional 15% off when you sign up for subscribe and save at cerebellum dot com. So mental health and teens. I feel like this has been a headline everywhere. The statistics, right? So just mental health. How do you think about that term? What is mental health? So really the book centers on a definition that I, the way I describe it, that you're a clinical psychologist, I think you know it's how we all think about it together, is that mental health is actually not about feeling good. And this is a huge issue because I think that equation has emerged in our culture. Rather, it's about having feelings that make sense in the context you're in, and then most importantly, being able to handle those feelings well in ways that give relief and do no harm. So there's a lot of room for distress in how we talk and think about mental health. Let's just jump right into an example there. I'm just going to paint a picture and maybe could you respond from the feeling good standpoint? Here's what a parent would think a kid should look like. And from a mental health as defined by doctor Lisa demore standpoint, here's what it would look like. Okay, so my kid gets cut from varsity soccer. My kid is in a lot of really difficult classes is not doing as well as they might like. A couple of different start dating people. They feel like nobody likes me. Actually, I feel like I don't look as old as the other kid. Okay. I'm going to stop? Yeah. Give me the fork in the road because I always think our framework determines how we feel what we do. And I think you're talking about a big framework shift. So let's lay those two things out. Sure. And I mean, what I love what you just described. I mean, you just describe a week in the life of a teenager, right? Like everything you're describing is like right down the middle of the road of what families are living with. And so let me just zoom us out a little and then zoom lens back in. Everything you're describing is going to upset a kid getting cut, struggling academically, feeling like they're a little bit on the out of what's happening on the social scene. And all of those things are going to foster distress. There's no getting around that. And what you said about the headlines. I think that part of what parents are up against right now is that in a lot of the headlines around the adolescent mental health crisis, which is real. There's no meaningful distinction made between adolescents being in distress and adolescents having a mental health crisis. And so what I am up against in my clinical work is parents who are living with a kid who's having that crappy week, right? That week that is completely garden variety, seeing tons of distress and thinking, do we have a major mental health concern because my kid isn't so much distress. So that is what's scary. Okay, so to go to your idea of like, okay, let's. Where's the fork in the road? Yeah. If your kid gets cut from a team, as they do, we should fully expect they will be upset about that, right? They will be, you know, it has vast implications sometimes for kids. And it's very, very distressing. The presence of distress is actually not something that you or I Becky become alarmed by. In fact, this was the real fork in the road. It's evidence that the kid works perfectly, right? It's evidence of their mental health. Yes. Okay, we're the road forks is what happens next. Okay. So does the kid who is sad about getting cut from the team or mad about getting up from the team, go listen to angry or sad songs to kind of catalyze those feelings and have them out a little bit. Talk to their good friends about what happened and get some support, maybe cry, crying is a great way to express distress that does no harm and gives relief. Me to go for Ron, maybe then resolve to figure out how they're not going to have this happen next year, or what else they're going to put in that place. Okay, so that's as good as it gets. Those are the outcomes we're looking for. Where we become concerned, and there are places, right? It's not like all this is okay. Where have we become concerned if the kid is like, I am so upset I'm going to get super high to deal with this and I'm going to stay high all week until the feeling dies down. Or I'm going to get on social media and be really crummy to the kids about the kids who made the team. Or I am going to hop on my video game and be there for a week so that I don't have to think about this and cut out all other aspects of my lives. My life, then we're like, okay, so the kid is getting relief, you know, trashing people on social media is coping, you know, getting high as coping, hiding in video games is coping, but it's relief that comes at a cost. And so what we're looking for is coping that is not costly, as long as your kid is coping in ways that are not costly, that's as good as it gets. That's adolescents that it's absolute best. The distress is a done deal. So this lines up with something I think about a lot about feelings and reactions to feelings. And often when we see our kids really upset, we're like, oh no, my kid is my kid's really sad or my kid feels so left out or my kid feels less than the other kids. Our
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
"becky" Discussed on Good Inside with Dr. Becky
"That come to mind for me. Okay. That's not how we talk to people in this house. Look, I know you're a good kid. And I know you can find another way to ask me for that. So I'm just going to pause because it's not like I expect this child to say, wow, thank you for seeing me in this way. And that feels so warm. And yes, actually, I'm sorry, can you please get me water? And I'm going to start speaking that way all the time. That's not going to happen. Let's just put that out there. Exactly. Right. But there are a lot of messages, I think, with this. Number one, you're holding a boundary that you feel is important in your own home. Number two, it's not just forcing a kid. I actually think this is a better way even to respond to our own kids and say, you know, you have to say, please, and thank you, 'cause then we're just slapping on surface level manners. Instead of doing what I think probably is more powerful even for them, changing over time, which is naming something that's not okay. Seeing them as a good kid under this rude behavior. And then giving a different set of expectations, you know, to kind of bring that good inside to the outside and how you make a request. And you're actually doing all of that. I feel like you're respecting yourself, you're maintaining to your own kids, the level of expectations you have. And I would argue as a bonus, I think you're giving something powerful to this other child, right? And I think there's a lot of extensions of that, right? So you have a kid at your house, you're always knocking down towers and your kids, stop knocking down my towers, and she's like, I don't care. Something like that. Again, I think step one is us embodying our authority in setting a boundary. I'm not going to let you continue to knock over towers. And honestly, I wouldn't let my kid continue to knock over your towers if you didn't like it either. So it seems like you want to knock things down. I'm going to stand between you and my child. And if you want to build your own block tower and knock it down over and over, you can do that to this side. And again, it's like, I am stepping in first. I am protecting both kids. I always feel like when we think about protecting kids, we think about protecting the kid who's quote the victim. I always think the kid who's the seeming aggressor also needs protection from feeling like a bad kid. So I'm protecting everyone. So before we go further, tell me your thoughts about that and maybe especially Anne. Tell me what it would be like for you to embody your authority in that way. We don't talk to people that way. I'm not going to let you do that. Yeah, I like that idea and I feel like I have done that in some of the instances where she's sort of modeled violent behavior or violent play in front of my little one. I haven't thought about doing it in some of the simpler things like manners and things like that. I think where I do get nervous is when it comes back to the parents and what gets said when they go home because we're so play that out. It's very close. She goes home and what's the worry because knowing playing out our worries are important because they then are worries when they don't play them out, just dictate what we do, right? So let's differentiate.
WorkLife with Adam Grant
"becky" Discussed on WorkLife with Adam Grant
"I've learned a ton of life lessons from playing sports, from watching sports, and from covering sports in my career as a journalist. I've also pulled my hamstring like 300 times, but that's another story. In every episode of good sport, I'm digging into a big question from the world of sports that feels like it has something larger to teach us. Like, what's the secret of a talent hotbed? Those places that seem to produce star athlete actor star athlete. Or what I'll do with my time, now that I'm aging out of my sport. I'm not taking up golfing. I'll tell you that, but I am trying to find the next thing. Ultimately, this show is my argument to you that we can use sports as a lens to understand something bigger about the world around us. And ourselves. Stick around after this episode for a taste of the new season, or listen right now. You can find good sport wherever you get your podcasts. Hey everyone, it's Adam grant. Welcome back to rethinking. My podcast on the science of what makes us tick. I'm an organizational psychologist, and I'm taking you inside the minds of fascinating people to explore new thoughts and new ways of thinking. My guest today is Becky Kennedy. She's a clinical psychologist and founder of good inside, a global parenting community. You might know her as doctor Becky on Instagram, where her videos have helped millions of parents think differently about how they interact with their kids. She's been called the millennial parenting whisper, and even though I'm a gen xer, as a dad to three kids, I've found her wisdom enormously helpful. Hey, Becky. Hi, Adam. What does it feel like to be the millennial parenting whisperer? Oh boy, you know, it's not a title, I think about at all, except when people, you know, kind of bring it up. You know, I guess what it feels like to be able to think about parenting and relationships and to have kind of some reach in doing that. And watch it resonate and hear people's stories, that feels super inspiring. And I truly feel so honored to be part of so many parents journeys. So that's what it feels like. Well, you've been a big part of mine, as well as many, many others. How did you land on this path? I have always found people and kind of relationships and systems to be just endlessly fascinating. And in college, when I realized you could make a career out of getting to know people and understanding their relationships and understanding the systems, they operate in, I realized that's what I wanted to do. So after I got my PhD from Columbia and clinical psychology, I then realized in working with kids and adults that I kind of like doing this kind of combination of both work that while I was doing child work, I found myself most drawn to the parent sessions I was having and kept thinking that, yes, children being in therapy can be so important. And I felt like, wow, if I can make a little bit of impact with the parents of this kid I was seeing, well, the kid is with the parents for all the minutes of their day and are just with me for 45 minutes in a week. And I think I'm really drawn to impact and found that I could have a lot of impact working with parents and looking at what they were doing as kind of the leaders or CEOs of their house. And then after I graduated, I did a lot of parenting work. I ran parenting groups and I just never ran out of energy for working with parents or thinking about these topics. I used to come home after a full day of private practice and seeing then parents maybe in some type of parent group. And I'd want to talk to my husband all about it at like 10 p.m. and he was always like, wow, that sounds really interesting, but maybe you want to write these thoughts down or something. You seem to have a lot to say. And so I did. I started writing, and then one day I realized, you know, I don't know if these thoughts just live in my computer. Let me put them out there, but led to Instagram and then two years later or two and a half years later, leads to me. Talking to you on your amazing podcast. Well, I think when you first came on my radar, it was articulating something that I have said for years. In many conversations, you really expressed this idea that it was not the job of parents to make their children happy. And a lot of people were shocked by that. And my reaction was, yes. Tell me more. Yeah, there's two things that are pinging in my brain when you say that. So our job not being to make our kids happy, but it also makes me think maybe we can start with, well, what is a parent's job? Because I feel like you and I have a lot of overlap here in that we both think about people. We both think about systems and we go think about leaders. Maybe I operate in the family home more and you operate in the workplace more with those ideas. But I think we both agree that as a leader, if you don't have clarity in what your job is, you can not do your job well. And it's actually an absurd thing to think about anyone. Going to their first day in the office and being told, hey, do your job well, but you don't have a job description. You'd be like, I can't do my job well if I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing. And also I need to know what those other people are doing. So I know what not to do. And so maybe we can start there where I think a lot about family jobs. It's often what I talk about first with parents that they seem into my private practice because one of the reasons they're frustrated, right? Actually the main reason they're frustrated. It's not because their kids aren't behaving well. They think it's because of that. But they're frustrated because they don't have clarity and what they're supposed to do in the moments when their kid is struggling. And as soon as you have clarity, you feel better. We think we need to kind of watch our kids behavior change to feel better, but we actually immediately feel better when we have clarity on our role. And so when I think about a parent's job, I think about two main buckets of things. And they go hand in hand. They actually work in tandem together, even though they're often described in kind of an oppositional way. So the first part of a parent's job is boundaries, right? And that really answers a kid's question. Am I safe? And a boundary to me is it's a decision we make. And it's a limit we set. And I think most parents, we think we are setting boundaries when we're not. So boundaries don't require a kid to do anything, right? So a boundary would be saying, hey, I'm not going to let you jump on that table. It's dangerous. Oh, you're having a hard time. Okay, no problem. I'm going to come over and by the time I get to you, you're not off the table. I will take you off the table. A boundary is not get off the table, get off the table, get off the table, right, which I'm sure me and you both say to our own kids all the time. But that's not doing the job of setting boundaries. So that's half of our job. And the other half of our job is validation, which is really seeing your kids emotional experience as real, even if you don't understand it, and even if it doesn't mirror your own experience. So that job always goes hand in hand with boundaries because if anyone here listening, if your kids are like my kids, when I take them off the table, they don't say to me, oh, thank you for being such a sturdy leader. I'm so lucky to have you as my mom. They cry, or they say you're the worst or, you know, they struggle at which point I can do the other part of my job, which is saying some version of, oh, you really wanted to jump there. I know I told you you could jump on the floor and it's not as much fun. So you're really frustrated. That doesn't mean I'm letting them on the table. It just means I'm doing both parts of my job. And you can see in that job description, none of that is about making my kid happy. If it was making my kid happy, I'd let them jump on the glass table, you know, or, I don't know, I'd say to them, you can't jump on the table, but you can have an ice cream sundae right now or something like random to kind of keep them happy. And what happens then is
The Dan Bongino Show
Dan Bongino's Plea to Liberals: Do Not Move to Florida
"If you are a liberal moon bat nutjob nutcase loser imbecile Please please hold on I'm a little old It's just gonna take a second Jim you guys vouch for me I am in fact getting on a knee here There is a folks at Fox nation You can see this I'm on a knee Becky Please God don't come down here Please I am begging you to not come down here Please whatever what do I need to do If I had enough of do I need to send you a check to stay where you are please do not come down here Listen it's a free country I can't force it I'm not a liberal tyrant I can't force you to stay where you are But because of what you guys have done destroying the country in your place is creating massive public security problems crime crises a border problem nationally because you refuse to enforce a border of fentanyl crisis and immigration crisis and inflation crisis a budget crisis a pension crisis is in the cities and the states you run Please do not come down here I am begging you from the great state of Florida I am sure I speak for 51.56% of the residents down here and probably Texas too likely more but I'm underselling it in the interest of being factually accurate Please don't come down here We don't want you I know this is hard to hear Set it on the podcast this morning and I'll say it again here We do not want you
The Garden Question
"becky" Discussed on The Garden Question
"Writings and reviews are always appreciated. Becky, what is the great Georgia pollinator census? The great Georgia pollinator census is a citizen science initiative headed by UGA extension where citizens across the state on two days every year, August 19th and August 20th this year, count, pollinators that are in their pollinator gardens. What's the goal of the census? We actually have three goals for the census and it actually, even though the census takes place on two days a year, it is a year long project. Our first goal is to help Georgians create sustainable pollinator habitat to support pollinators. Oftentimes, we have people maybe move in our area from other parts of the country and don't realize that we have a summer drought every year. We get really hot and humid in the middle of the summer and we get a lot of disease issues. We want to help people choose plants that are sustainable, don't need a lot of care and support our pollinators. So that's one goal. The second goal is to increase our entomological literacy as Georgians and all that really means is we want people to learn more about the insects that visit their gardens, not only pollinators that other beneficials that hang out in pollinator gardens. So they can see that these insects are very helpful for them in their gardening efforts and nothing to be nervous about. As I told one teacher, I would love it if people would go from oh, it's a bug to look at the tarsal claw on that bee. That is the second goal and honestly it's my favorite. And of course, the third goal is to generate useful pollinator population data that researchers can use to do things like track pollinator trends over time. We have researchers using the information generated from the census for pollination, economic valuations. Those are our three goals for the census. What has been learned so far with the previous censuses? This will be our fourth statewide census or even bigger than that.
The Dan Bongino Show
Charlie Gasparino: Elon Musk Is Really Good at Disrupting
"Charlie he said you know I saw a CNBC I was watching earlier Cheating a little bit and Becky quit I was going to say you want to get a cheating I know Just did someone slipped in a cut and said hey check this out Even Becky quick over there noticed what he said Elon in his letter to the board where he said quote I will reconsider my position Now that's obviously not an idle threat He knows that's going to go public He's got enough issues going on with the SEC He has leverage here Charlie It's not like he's some weak need little child I mean he has 9.2% of the company right now He liquidates his holdings I mean he suffers a little bit too It's kind of like the problem we have with China and their holdings of us right now But he's got leverage I mean he sells a lot of these executives are paid in options and warrants and all kinds of things They can do some real damage here Yeah and by the way he sells this My guess is that Tesla shares will go up Tesla shares the Tesla people don't like this I think he spread too thin anyway So I mean he might be on the back end if he sells these shares His Twitter stake Listen this is the 5th inning Anybody that says they know what he's doing They don't know him I don't know if he knows what he's doing other than being a disruptor And that's what he's really good at If you followed his career which I have I never met the guy before I haven't sat down and smoked the joint with him unlike Joe Rogan But I'm telling you that if you follow him what he's really good at is disrupting Now he made $200 billion disrupting the electric car vehicle market He's still disrupting And what's fascinating about him is you would think he's totally woke right Electric vehicle is wokeness He comes out and says listen electric vehicles are good for certain people and that not for the masses We can't stop drilling I mean this is Elon Musk That's why the left is so scared
SI Media Podcast
"becky" Discussed on SI Media Podcast
"Off with WWE superstar Becky Lynch one of the more popular wrestlers out there. She was outstanding, talking about her return to the ring after having a baby. What it's like being married to a fellow WWE superstar big match at Survivor Series and you never know with wrestling, but according to begging she really does not like her opponent for Survivor Series Charlotte Flair had some harsh things to say about her. So if you're a wrestling fan you'll be into that following. Becky Lynch, we have Kevin Clark from the wringer SI media podcast regular to talk about a bunch of NFL stories Aaron Rodgers, Bill Belichick, the chiefs, Manning cast, a lot of NFL topics with Kevin Clark after Becky Lynch and then train of thoughts with salad. If you follow me on Instagram, you'll get the back story on a joke that was made over the weekend on my Instagram with Sal and then we talked about some other things, the jokic play and suspension and this week's curb your enthusiasm, a couple of other topics in train of thoughts. So that's the show. Before we get to it last week, Al Michaels was on this podcast. So if you did not listen to that, check that out, Al was great feedback has been tremendous. A lot of feedback on that pod. Everyone really enjoyed the conversation with Alzheimer check that out. Chris long two weeks ago, Steve levy, Jeff Garland three weeks ago. All the archives subscribe to the SI media podcast and if you could give us a review on Apple, that helps. All right, first up, Becky Lynch. Followed by Kevin Clark, followed by train of thoughts on this episode of the SI media podcast. All right, joining me now, very excited first time on the SI media podcast, one of the most popular figures in the WWE, the man, Becky Lynch, Becky, thank you for coming on the podcast. How are you? Oh, pleasure. I'm good. How are you doing? I'm doing well. And I know this is a busy time for the WWE with one of the signature events Survivor Series coming up on Sunday, November 21st on peacock. You have a match against Charlotte Flair, which we'll get into..
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
Kristen Bell and Jackie Tohn Discuss Their Amazon Prime Preschool Series Do, Re & Mi
"I'm so excited to talk about how this even relate to your show because one of the probably most popular videos on my instagram actually has to do with when our kids are in really tricky moments. How everyone's like. Well what do i say. What do i do. And they feel are tone and are kind of connection and even they feel song way before they process words that we have to get their body back to a place of feeling safe. So i i always end up making up songs with my own kids and that idea for parents have. Oh i don't need to get the script right but maybe even song can help me. Regulate itself is is so powerful knocking off out there. I mean that was the impetus for this show is knowing how important music is. It's the reason why we all know. What baby mozart is. Why they say oh. Put it on your belly. It in music changes. Your brain can put you in a different mood. It can grow the neuro plasticity of your brain like there are studies that tell us that kids get better at math than that. Their social skills when they're exposed to music music education the goal. Jackie had this idea with our friend. Michael they brought it over to my living room as a guinea pig. Tester for my kids. Like hey. They looked at my little girl. They were like you like these images. You respond to these songs. And i said what are you doing. They were like well. We're trying to develop a kids show because music. Education is being cut in all public schools right now and my kids go to public school and i was like i. I want them to get as much music education as possible. Because i wouldn't be here without a music. Education sincerely would not have become an actor. It's how i discovered acting. And i have such a profound respect for it and developing the show. It's jackie labels it a sneak. Teach which i love that term. It's an original animated series in. It's it's entertaining but it's also teaching your kids music theory and emotional lesson a musical genre. All in one and like some of my greatest mom moments are when like my kids are begging us. My phone and i need to succumb to that. But i've found a puzzle game where they have to spell and i handed to them with like a sly smile face knowing they're getting educated and the apps that go along with dorian me will be that because they will be able to make music and they will be growing their brains which is really
Crime Glasses
A highlight from Introducing Crime Glasses: A True Crime Book Club Podcast
"Reader. Crime glasses is your true crime book club podcast. Every month we'll be selecting a new true crime book to read using it as a guide to talk about the cases that shocked us. The underlying issues and the moments that had us closing the book desperate for a breather. And if reading is just not your thing, that's okay, I still welcome you to listen to the weekly episodes because I will give you all of the case details so you won't miss out. Also, I can't promise that you won't find yourself in a cozy nook devouring every page after. We will read everything from true crime classics like the Ted Bundy focus the stranger beside me by Ann rule to more recent favorites like we keep the dead close by Becky Cooper, which details the author search for the killer of Jane Brighton, a Harvard student who was murdered in her off campus
AP News Radio
Pakistan Urges for an 'Inclusive' Political Settlement With Taliban
"Pakistan's urging a settlement ahead for Afghanistan Pakistan's foreign minister says an inclusive political settlement is the best way forward for peace and stability in Afghanistan following the Taliban takeover he says Pakistan fully supports efforts in that direction according to a foreign ministry statement the minister made the remarks during the phone call with his Russian counterpart the ministers expected to leave port was Becky stone on a visit during which he will also travel to other neighboring states including Iran to discuss Afghan developments I'm Charles the last month
Short Wave
UN Climate Change Report: It's Not Too Late to Control Global Warming
"Becky. The main thing. I took away from the big. Un climate report last week was that climate change is accelerating which is really scary. Because it makes it feel like we're running out of time to control the speed and severity of global warming. Yeah totally and we can put some terrifying numbers behind that scary feeling right so the earth is already almost two degrees. Fahrenheit hotter than it wasn't late eighteen hundreds The rate of warming since nineteen seventy is the fastest in two thousand years. The same goes for sea level rise. It's accelerated since the nineteen seventies ex but the science also makes it clear that it is not too late to control global warming. So we're living through a really exciting moment because everything that humans do now when it comes to climate change will have impacts for the rest of our lives. But why is that like. Why should this moment feel exciting. Instead of dreadful to be clear it can feel both ways like a good climate therapist. Okay go on yes. But here's the case for why it's exciting so the earth is on track for catastrophic warming right now so if humans don't cut greenhouse gases quickly we could see five six even seven feet of sea level rise on average by the end of the century but the flip side of that is that if humans do basically stop burning oil and gas and coal this decade next decade. Then that doesn't happen and yeah that's going to be really really hard. But under that scenario sea levels rise a lot more slowly and they max out at maybe a foot which is a huge difference. Right if we're thinking about kids who are in elementary school right now. In coastal cities all around the world. We'd be saving them from life changing sea level rise this same goes for other impacts from climate change. You know if adults alive today can manage to virtually stop burning fossil fuels in the next twenty years or so. Life looks a lot less polluted a lot less dangerous for kids. Who are alive today.
Smart Podcast, Trashy Books: Reviews, Interviews, and Discussion About All the Romance Novels You Love to Read
"becky" Discussed on Smart Podcast, Trashy Books: Reviews, Interviews, and Discussion About All the Romance Novels You Love to Read
"Never go to the post office again. I am so excited to bring you this interview. Let's get started with my conversation with becky chambers. My name is becky chambers. I empty science fiction author. I'm best known for my wayfair series The most recent which is the galaxy and the ground within. I've also just recently had a brand new novella come out it's called a psalm for the wild built. It's the of my monk and robot books. I am based in northern california. And i'm happy to be here. I have to tell you. First congrats on the release of the psalm for the wild built. What will readers find in this book. And i asked because i tried to explain my husband. What would i was reading. I had the hardest time. Just describing the completeness of this book it is first of all it is wonderful. Thank you so much for releasing it into the world. How do you describe this book. Because i am terrible at it. If it makes you feel any better. I do find this to be a difficult one with my shoulders and real quick so as all the while builds is a solar punk science fantasy that takes place on a secondary world. It's little moon called panga and in this world. Humans have achieved a harmonious existence..
ESPN Radio
Becky Hammon Hopes It Becomes Normal for Women to Get NBA Coaching Jobs
"Becky Hammond today hire me on merit not to check a box. She said She can't wait for the time when it's normal for women to interview for a head coaching position in the N B. A and the gender is not the story. Then. Do you think that that will ever happen for Becky Hammond? Yes, I do, because she's that good. And you're not Pops top assistant right for the For this for this long of a stretch if you can't coach and Nancy Lieberman is a dear friend of mine I've known for years she's based in here in Dallas, Texas, where I live. Nancy Lieberman is just a remarkable basketball player in a basketball mind. And when you ask her about Becky Hammon man, she won't shut up. So Becky Hammond, I agree with her also gave on it should be on merit, and it will be on mayor when it comes to Becky Hammond. And, Yeah, I completely agree with her, and at some point, she's going to get a shot and it will be on merit. Not just because she's a
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
Getting Your Kid to Stop Doing an Annoying Behavior Like Spitting
"What about spitting is fun for a child to me. The most fun thing about spitting for a child is a child watching his parents. Get very upset now. This doesn't make your child coldhearted. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with him. In fact watching apparent get very upset and trying to stop you from doing something you are currently doing is actually something that makes a child feel very independent right because none of us ever know who we are as much as when we're doing something that we know someone else doesn't approve of it makes us feel like wow i really am i own person and our kids are trying to figure out. Essentially their separate identity now. This idea is going to be key in helping us. Kind of get your child out of spitting as a way of forming his separate identity. Because we want your child to figure out who he is. We just don't want him to do that. Through the act of spitting. We have to take away the part of this action. That's about this dynamic between the two of you. And the quickest way we can do that is actually turning the trying to shut down the behavior into you joining the behavior. I know that sounds odd. So i'll walk through exactly what this would look like. And why yes. I am recommending. You join your son in spitting as the best way to reduce the spitting. Here's why when you say to your son something like this. Hey you know what. I'm feeling this morning. I'm feeling like i've just all this energy in my mouth. And i wanna spit spit. Spit spit spit. I feel like you feel like that to. Let's go to the spitting room together now. Your son is going to look at you and think what is my mom talking about right. Play call and go with it when he looks confused. Yeah you know this bathroom. I've just decided is the spitting rem. I don't know if you know this about me. But sometimes i go in there and just spit spit spit. Just get it all out. I'm thinking we can do it together. And bring your son in there and then start spitting into the toilet so much more so much more. Don't you have any spitting you. I feel like you've spent new to. Why don't we do it together. Spit spit spit. And now instead of this activity being a source of tension between the two of you this is actually a moment of connection and silliness. Now what's going to happen over. Time to the spitting is it becomes less enticing and your son will figure out which we want him to figure out other ways to define his
Arizona's Evening News
COVID-19 Delta Variant Runs Rampant in the U.S.
"The delta varying it is more contagious K to ours. Peter Seymour joins us live from the news centre. Becky Valley Wise hospitals in Arizona have 12 Covid 19 patients Right now. We had one patient in the hospital 3.5 weeks ago that had covid 19 disease, so Certainly starting to see an increase again. Dr. Michael White and former CDC director Richard Bessler hope the slight surge doesn't mean worse things to come. If everyone were to get vaccinated with this vaccine, there'll be less virus spreading around less likelihood that there would be very in submerging that we would need a new vaccine for like a booster shot. Public health leaders and hospitals are still measuring The Delta variance mark in Arizona as coronavirus cases and hospitalizations remain steady. But Los Angeles County reports a spike of 3000 cases in the past three days. So who needs to be concerned any area where there's a lower rate of vaccination you're going to see spread, and it's going to vary by neighborhood here in New Jersey, where I am my community 76% of adults are fully vaccinated the next town over its 44% health leaders in L. A county. He blamed the unvaccinated who catch the delta variant in the valley. Dr. White believes that variant is making his dozen covid 19 patients sicker just here. Over the last few days, we're starting to see people that are presenting that are more acutely ill needing more intensive care. Last month, the unvaccinated made up 92% of Arizona's coronavirus cases. Dr White calls this all the more reason to take your covid 19 shots where we are now within the Covid 19 pandemic isn't a lot better place than we
1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"becky" Discussed on 1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"For listening. All right, back for one more thing. This week, my thinking outside the box a little bit. Touch on some different topics with Becky. Obviously, the massages and the cryotherapy we talked about Pilates yoga, all that stuff and it helps you become a better, a better athlete, be better in shape. You can compete better physically. So just take care of your body's, you know, think about what you're doing, you know, it's about the gym first and foremost, but what you do outside of the gym is sometimes just as important about what you do in the gym. So taking care of yourself, learning when back off a little bit, make sure you're getting enough sleep, you know, you're eating right. You're doing your stretches, your warmups, your prehab, your rehab, even up to game day. And with Becky and doctor Todd, you know, if they have anybody on sight, you're in the middle of game day. You know, something you always tweak and shit. Nobody goes to a competition and finishes the day feeling good. We're all we're all banged up. I mean, if you go through and you don't feel like you pulled something or tweaks on something, you probably weren't trying hard enough. So people like Becky, you know, they're there to help you so definitely take, you know, take you, even if it's just talking to them. You know, a lot of times you'll see people working on somebody they'll be talking to somebody else about stuff they can do. So just keep that in mind when you're training with strong man. It's not about hitting the maxes in the gym all the time. Sometimes there's a little more to it and that makes the secret some of the best athletes probably aren't going to want to openly tell you. But they definitely find that I so you can tell guys that are doing that kind of stuff. So. But until next time, once again, thanks for listening. If you listen on iTunes, I always ask you, please go right. Comment, respond, all that good stuff. So until next time, Godzilla out..
1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"becky" Discussed on 1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"To have a problem. And let us, you know, let the strongman community or even just the strength community in general show you a way to kind of help get through that. Absolutely. And it's definitely something I see progressing and happening even more and it's one of the reasons why I'm successful and what I do with and for athletes is I would never be someone who says, you can't do your sport anymore. It's more I can't, okay, I don't think I'm the solvent. I can't solve your problem. But this is what I think the problem might be. And I have made sure here, I know who the best is in everything. This is the orthopedic surgeon. I want you to see. This is the chiropractor. I want you to see this is the physical therapist I want you to see. I know all the best. So I make sure that the team that takes care of my clients here is as good as the team I just worked with at world strongest man. That's pretty cool. That's also for people in that area of people get to see you advocating for them and that department is and you being such an excellent resource is really something. I hope everybody takes advantage of there. I know I would. But my name behind a product unless I can show you why I believe in it. And that product can be a person. It could be a product itself. It doesn't matter. Yeah, that's truly awesome. I think we pretty much covered it. Everything we wanted to cover wanted to thank you for coming on and sharing this time with us and telling your story. My pleasure. Thanks for asking, guys. Yeah, and how can people get in touch with you if they are so inclined? By the end of July, I will have a website, body whisper institute dot com. And you can find me on social media, Becky Wilson body whisperer or Instagram on Facebook, but not Becky Wilson. Nice. To find. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And Becky Wilson massage, I pop up very easily. Nice. Yeah, definitely. Anybody looking to have your services or possibly even learn to learn what you do and pass it on to the next the next year for the massage therapist and physios and stuff I get. So we definitely we definitely wish you the best with all that. Thank you so much, guys. You guys have a great night. Thank you. You too. Thank you, Becky. All right, that was a fun talk with Becky. Definitely wanted to thank her for coming on the show. It really means a lot to us. To bring someone on like that, the knowledge they have and it's great to see her doing so well now after struggling for so long and being involved in a sport here that she loves in the athletes that she loves. It's amazing. It's just pretty cool to see the way we feel about her is just regular every day. Athletes, you know, and some of these pros feel the same way. They respect she gets for her thing and her whole team her and bear, and doctor Todd, they're just really great to see them doing so well like that. Also, just wanted to thank Nick and Kevin at cranberry cryotherapy for all they've done for me for recovery. And for the little commercial they did, I do have a code for them..
1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"becky" Discussed on 1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"In the Arnold. Wow. So you don't have anything to give to him then. Oh, no, no. He knows it. But, you know, it's really, I don't think enough people talk about the value of the relationships that we build and you never know where those relationships are going to take you or what you can do to help another person or another person can do to help you. So this community has been amazing in showing me heartfelt gratitude and genuine love and it's really made a difference in me and how I am as a person and with my family and I'm eternally grateful. For the things that come back and the more you can give out, that's why the moment world's strongest man said to me, we want you, but we need you to bring a second therapist. In that moment, two things happened. One of my bucket list dreams came true, and then I got to turn around and make another person's bucket list dream come true. There's nothing better. There's nothing better. The fact that I was able to pay attention and know who the good people who are out there and immediately bring them along. Yeah, that give and take of, you know, just good good juju is kind of, I think it goes hand in hand, most of the time with strong man. So we're probably pretty lucky to be involved in it. The fact that you're a super nice person makes it really easy. For everybody to do super nice things for you too. So I hope you don't kiss me off. I'm great. I'm cooking fat. I was raised in Pittsburgh, come on now. Yeah, we got to talk about that. So we're trying to bring your hopefully by the end of the podcast. We have you dropped a few. So if you keep talking to me, it'll start coming out a little bit. I know. I said I said, it's okay, Darren. We'll just have you talk to her for like 5 minutes and she'll be ins and everything. Left and right. We just talked about just going downtown and stuff like that. Mom Moore's the car. But it's funny, the first time they said, the first time I met you, like you said, it's four years ago today. I was actually intimidated to come up and talk to you and I got on your table. But even just for me, being new in the sport and I kept hearing about Becky Becky Becky Becky, how good she is and then you from Pittsburgh, well, I got to go talk to her. And it was like, you just have like a presence about you, both you and doctor Todd. You have two of the nicest people. And you probably get you give the best hugs and strongman I would say. You know, you can't go you can't walk by Becky without getting to bed hard. Sure..
1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"becky" Discussed on 1 MORE STRONG-CAST with GODZOLA
"Go behind the scenes of world's strongest man 2021 and get a little hands on with Becky Wilson maclean. Stay tuned. All right, welcome to this episode of one more strong castle with Godzilla. This week,.
Squawk Pod
Warren Buffett & Charlie Munger: Taking the High Road
"Warren buffett. And charlie munger have been business partners more than five decades. We were sort of made for each other. We've never had an argument in this whole time. We are strong minded in that time. The pair have built berkshires. Unique portfolio companies brands like the nsf. Railway geico duracell see's candies and basically left them alone. The way to get a good partner was to be a good partner and these are very effective ideas and they just work so fabulously well and they worked so well at berkshire. I caught up with squawk box. Anchor becky quick. Hi how are you. I'm good how are you over. Zoom about the buffett. Munger magic neither one of them ever really wanted to work for bosses or have a boss or work in corporate culture. They both said that they wouldn't survive it. They'd get fired. And i think that's why berkshire is the way that it is. They like to let people have their autonomy. They like to let the. They've got more than sixty businesses that they own outright and they let the managers run those businesses for a company that is now one of the ten biggest companies in the world by market capitalization. It's an incredibly decentralized organization. I mean there's twenty five people at the headquarters in omaha which by the way they don't even have a building that they run their corporate headquarters out of they. They lease a couple of floors from somebody else. And that's where the whole thing's run run from. If i were to tell you the details of this you'd think it was a scam. You know that. I'm going to tell you about one of the ten largest companies in the world. That's run out of these. Two floors in our mohammed. Twenty five people Okay yeah where. Where's the bridge that you want to sell me on top of that right.
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"becky" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM
"Becky Lynn. Here is our top story about Phoenix Suns run to the championship tonight about dinnertime. Everybody in Phoenix will be hungry for an NBA title. And there's a lot of really good players on this team. So you have that additional hunger that sort of matches the fan base because obviously the sons have never won either. Ktrs Peter same or is live again at Phoenix Suns Arena. Well, Becky this playoff season. The sons are 12 and four and they have lost two games in a row just three times since January. To say they are hot is an understatement. But Luke Lipinski with 98 7 FM Arizona Sports station tells our Mike Broom head. The sons must still win fast. If Milwaukee goes out there and wins tonight that allows them to rest Yonas some more and when you start to get two games 345 in the series, there's bigger breaks between the games. So there is some pressure on the sun tonight to take care of business. I think they will. Bucks superstar Yannis onto the Campo is questionable For tonight. The sons are all healthy and guess who's playing at halftime tonight. It's going to be young M. C and he lives in Scottsdale, at least for the last 15 years. And he's the latest local talent to perform at halftime during the Sun's incredible playoff front tip off at six Live at Phoenix Suns Arena, Peter Sam or to to our news and our state is about to get a huge economic boost, thanks to the Sun's making it to the NBA Finals. Ktrs Griselda. Latino joins us live from the news center with more as you. Economics professor Dennis Hoffman believes the biggest impact to our state's economy will come from the exposure on our state will get from this. And given the international participation of players in the NBA. Now this is an exposure the Cascades across the planet, he believes that could lead to more people wanting to visit, move or do business here. Valley economists Ella Pollack agrees. People tend to pick up things from watching TV. They like the area. They like What they see They like what they hear. Live in the news centre. I'm Griselda City. No okay to our news. And if you are heading into downtown Phoenix, you can expect a lot of traffic delays this afternoon, thinks police sergeant and Justice says with the sons and the D backs playing tonight. I really encourage you to plan ahead encourage people to utilize public transportation. The light role is available, as well as rideshare app or designated drivers just to help with you know that the congestion downtown justice encourages fans to also look at what bags or items can be brought into the arenas. You don't want to get caught downtown and Not be able to take that bag into the arena. All right, Let's check traffic. Here's Larry Lewis in the Valley Chevy dealers Traffic Center. Yeah, back England and to add on to that we're seeing a closure. Already. Jackson Street is closed due to the ball game tonight Down at Phoenix Suns Arena to Jackson's closed in between Central and third Street. It's not a heavily traveled area, but it's going to take one of your alternates away. So if you're trying to get through that area, get with Lincoln. Maybe even Van Buren. Of course, you're going to see a lot of extra traffic on Jefferson and Washington, Of course, seventh Street and Central as well. Now we're all Also dealing with a few crashes out there, including Bell Road at 19th Avenue in the North Valley. Baseline at Seventh Avenue. You've gotta crash another wreck 27th Avenue, North Thomas and watch for a collision just in. Looks like this is going to be Glendale right around 95th Avenue. This report sponsored by Amoco transmissions and Total Car care. Don't Lose your cool this summer. Get an A C tune up for only 89 18 this and am CO Arizona dot com for your special offer.
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
The Problem With Praise
"Today. we'll be talking about praise. Praises actually kind of a tricky controversial topic because on the surface it seems like well. What's wrong with praise isn't praised gray. Who doesn't like praise where we're going to do here is look a little deeper because when our kids are younger what they're actually learning is how to generate good feelings about themselves. They're learning do good feelings about myself. Live in other people and those people deliver those feelings to me through praise and external validation or do good feelings live inside me. Can i generate those feelings myself in my mind. We really want to help our kids. Look in we want them to see the. They have good feelings about themselves. Even if nobody is commenting on what they're doing this is what leads to stable sense of self and self confidence rather than a sense of self or self confidence. That's actually dependent on approval of other people. Now let's be real. It always feels good to get approval or to get praise. There's no way around that. What i think we can imagine is a gap between how good. I'm able to feel in the absence of praise verses. How good. I feel in the presence of praise for our own mental health. We want the gap to be small not large. Here's what this would look like in real life. Let's say i'm working in an office. And i do a work project. I'm leaving the office. And i want to be able to say to myself. I know i worked really hard. I have my own evaluation of what i did. I know i'm proud of the product. I feel pretty good leaving the office today. Now let's fast forward a few hours. And i get an email from my boss. An email says while becky great job of course that feels good. That would feel good to anyone. But what's key is how good i felt before i got that email versus how good i felt after i got that email. We don't want that difference to be massive