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"beaton b. b" Discussed on Conscious Millionaire Show ~ Business Coaching and Mentoring 6 Days a Week
"Dot com. Send me a message. It can be a written message voicemail. It's all at the top of the page. It will come to my private email. Nobody else will see it. And i'll respond respond directly to you and now it's time for the conscious questions kind of what was one of the big successes you've had most importantly. How did he change your view about what you could achieve with your life. Yeah so last. Year launched a launch a product of event that generated just shy of one hundred fifty thousand and under a month. and congratulations. Thank you thank you. And before that you know i had come from working the corporate company i was in the waters of entrepreneurial for about two years. And you know. I was so used to putting time in and getting money out. Ride the sort of punch-card approach and this really shifted my mindset to see what was possible of when you put something out in the world where you create an experience that taps into what people are ultimately looking for you. You create an invaluable service right end and what we were doing again was tie into the pieces that i talked about before we created something that was shifting business in humanity in it was tapping into people's purpose and And people responded so it was. It was nominal changed my mind set on money. What are three nuggets that you could share. That would help every entrepreneur listening become more successful first and foremost. Don't stop learning Not just from books but from people people stories matter and people stories will shift your life in the way that you show up this number one. I talked about it before but empathy. It is the greatest game changer that you can implement an. It's the greatest game changer that you can do right now to change your business and the final piece this is. This is my favorite as mike every piece. It's stop trying to win over the haters. And there's a quote by scott strategy. Stop trying to win over the haters do not a jackass whisper and it's something that stuck with for a long time because when i first started my business i spent so much time on the people who disagreed and it was taken away from the people who got so much value out of what we were doing. That's right now. And that's what i say about conscious milliner. Either you wanna make a begin packed with your life and make big profits together or you don't and that's fine. I don't have a judgment about what you want for your life. That's what i teach it either. Interest you or it doesn't interest you you know for all of us. You're listening and i know one of the reasons you get up in the morning is that you want to find more clients. We only need more clients. That's the only way we can build our business. What's your number one marketing tip for getting the right leads forgetting or at least it's really.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Dateable Podcast
"Here's what's really important to me. I'm not gonna chase you. And i'm not interested in a relationship where we can't have these kinds of conversations. I'm interested in you. But i'm not interested in a relationship where i am constantly having to feel anxious or like. We can't talk about these things. Because this is a non negotiable for me and i think that kind of quality can only come when we've regulated ourself when we've dealt with that part of us that's fearful and panicking and spiraling out and making stories about them and what they're going on for them and they might not be emotionally regulated at her emotionally available. 'cause notice that that's where you went. I right yeah. No you totally turned it around. I love it. it's like now it's not about if someone is emotionally available or not. It's like tuning into your own emotions. And i love the just having the conversation and seeing at that stage where someone reacts so peanut gallery here. I some of our listeners. Saying that sounds great when you say it. But i'm afraid of saying that. Because i'm afraid of chasing them away. We hear this all the time. I'm afraid of seeing the truth and being honest and telling them my needs and boundaries. Because i it's so early on a relationship diet them to be scared when we say to that would we tell everyone who is freaking out right. Now they're like or it's like so hard to meet someone good. I met some are good. I don't want to like lose this opportunity. There's like this scarcity Yes yeah so a couple of things one if you are self regulating right if you see that moment where you start to panic. And maybe make stories about the other person or there's a concern about them. In those moments all we can do is regulate ourselves lead ourselves and and make clear the structure of the relationship that we're desiring and if we from a self regulated emotionally available emotionally open place have a conversation with somebody about the kind of structure that we need in a relationship to feel safe and they run good right good stop allowing ourselves..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"A more felt embodied depth oriented journey within our lives that actually allows us to slow down and cultivate this intuitive wisdom within us. And it's not a rational mind is an important but you know. Start to feel into the people that you're listening to and learning from. And i definitely went through that you know. There's a time in my career. Where i certainly was that guy you know like i just wanna be like whoever right like i wanna be like these people and so i thought it was all about just regurgitating what people were saying and practicing that and it wasn't because it wasn't embodied and we're moving into a space whereas therapy becomes more prominent person development becomes bigger and bigger and bigger industry That people are getting wiser and people are starting to look more closely and feel more closely for the depth behind the words within within the person which is exciting for me. i think amen brother amen. You know what. I think shifted 'cause much of this resonates with your mayo. No you. And i've had a similar experience in the industry it resonates with may because i did go through that journey of that trying to be someone not knowing who i am like out of my center then coming into my center. Healing the trauma repairing relationships with poss- friends having a great relationship. Now my parents reflects into who. I date Intimate relationships as well shift. It's amazing and one of the things on the alto. Because that's the work on the alto that really supported me with this change of more. Just really embodying integrating was i have weekly. Coaching calls with my tribe and asthma tribe built. And i'm sharing. And i'm getting to know them. And and like having these human conversations more and more it pushed me to just keep showing up more and more as may. Because i had now my people that i'm that i'm with and they say me is that people tour and it was so cold by will like politics community of growth. But he now own unique way and and i realized so many people a denying themselves with that opportunity to have these vulnerable or conversations and to have their crew to have their tribe this consumed by trying to building a business solar or or just trying to build that brand to be someone with significance. We know where that comes from. It was their their way of responding to lie for now younger. It's like hey. I'll do this to get significance. Love you know and to be seen heard and understood from mom or dad or birth and like the sooner we find this out the sooner we go to the shadow and do the work that you're sharing the sooner we get to get over that stuff and not come from force anymore but to come from power in our laugh and it's crazy because i remember turbulent like years ago hearing like it's meant to be like easy and floor is that there it's like you get to have the and i was like nah 'cause also used to always like pushing the voter up the hill like in order to shave at odds not always a thing that needs to be. You can be smart about it and let go of the boat. You're hanging on so you're right. Yeah i mean again. I think like in many ways we live in this like cult of specialness of needing to be special and we forget that many of our problems are so universal. I mean you. And i have lived really different lives. You know from what from what i know but some of our issues. Are they similar. Some of our lessons or while they similar and so we have forgotten this older wisdom that our healing was meant to happen together. Right are healing was meant to happen and community relationships were meant to be grown and nurtured in community. We weren't we weren't supposed to hide our marital problems away from people in our lives right. We were supposed to have community to help. Hold us when things got really challenging and tough right like my like. I said before my wife is a marriage marriage and family therapist and she's one of the best of them. She says that the research shows that couples go to therapy four years too late for years too late or years. What do you do right and people come in there so entrenched in these patterns that have just been destroying them and nobody right if you talk to their friends. They're like yeah. They seem pretty unhappy but they don't talk to us about it allows. I've been thinking that they've been broken out for a long time but we don't talk about it or they complain about it but do nothing right because there's not a container for that couple to work together. There's not a community for them to heal and grow together and so we there's a reemergence of that. It's starting to happen in our industry especially within the healing industry. You know many healing industries whether it's the alternative medicines or person development or therapies and. I think that's beautiful. I think that's needed. Yeah br i love. This conversation is such a powerful look into the importance of shadow. Work waking find you online and what do you have right. Now that the addicted to success audience should get onto. Yeah awesome Well first off. Thanks again for having me. It's been such a honor and pleasure to catch up with you again just jam. I love this and yeah people want to find me They can go to instagram. At man talks on. Follow me there. you can go to my website. Connor being dot com Follow me there. And i think the biggest thing they're doing right now is i have an online community for hundreds of men from around the world. It's called the alliance and you guys get their own men's group they have weekly weekly caused with one. Another weekly call with me. We have a book club. We do monthly challenges. This month is finances which is a lot of fun meeting that. Money mindset is how is always a blast. I bring in resources and special gas and whatnot. And so that's my That's my joy right now. I'm really loving watching. How much is happening in there. So i would say i'd say check that out so good brother good now. If you were to deliver your lost thirty seconds speech to the world what would that lost. Thirty second sound like. Oh man to everybody. Tony answered this brendan answered this. Tony trip live online. His like any kind of gathered himself and then and then he just like he did the tiny thing. I'm sure he crashed is going to have to go. Listen to it. I think i think what i would say is lean into initiate tori experiences because initiate tori experiences are are always the experiences that lead us closer to who we are meant to be and it's where the older versions of us will inevitably die away and they're hard they are so hard. There's like the the initiator experiences i've had in my life at some points felt just crushing. But they have been the manifestation of blooming and blossoming. Who i am today. And and so i would just say you know go boldly into the initiator experiences in your life the moments that you wanna avoid and and smile when you can..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"Trusting themselves anymore. Yeah it's it's seems to be a really big one. I think it's it's because i think it's because of a few things. One the the self-help and person development industry has exploded right in the last couple of decades has just exploded and so you have a lot of people who lack training who lack integration. Who lack some things that are acting out of their shadow to try and prove something and hanging the shingle far too soon right so like in in therapy we always talk about not to share things too soon right that there actually is too soon to share something. Painful and that people have to earn our vulnerability riseborough brown says with the vulnerability. This same is true with your own personal credibility right. You have to earn some of that and so you know. We've we can very quickly adapt somebody else's message. We can speak the language right. I i see a lot of people speaking the language because it's easy to regurgitate but if it isn't any lower than our mind and our thoughts and it's not embedded into our emotional body spiritual body. It's not going to happen so in. I think it's important that that people understand the concept of spiritual bypassing which is really like the use of spiritual beliefs and practices as a tool to avoid dealing with the emotional wounds take unresolved pain rights so rather than saying. I'm going to do this hard thing. I'm gonna have this conversation. I'm gonna get uncomfortable. We then the ego attaching itself to these spiritual concepts and rhetoric and uses them as a means to help us avoid right which is super weird. And since you know but the ego is a. It's a sneaky sneaky. Little little trickster. Right it's jokers right. It's like alan watts. Talked a whole bunch about joker. The archetype of the joker. And that's one of the whole larry parts of you know we can go to a a seminar like that and have a little bit of like mahomet right the little popcorn moments and then we try to doubt that thing but we we haven't lived it or if we have an integrated instead of to embody as as as ourselves as are being and practice being that way in the world actually living that principle that that spiritual principle it's gonna cause all sorts of havoc right so we have to start to live these things actively in our relationship with our family with our friends because there are far too many teachers in the world that are saying the right things but not living them. And we don't need more of those when we all know that but we all know that and it can be challenging. Because it's like well when my ready and all those other types of things that can hear people sort of thinking about that. Might be coaches listening to this so yeah. Yeah absolutely absolutely jordan peterson. He's also canadian. He he said something a little while back. He said that most people are consumed by ideas. They have an integrated them hundred percent. That landed so hot in me. Because i took that as an opportunity to reflect with the myself what am i getting just sharing and not actually fully embodying and we're in a world where people can get paid for parity information like. It's it's on every corner the embodiment though is felt on a different frequency. You know and it's like you earned those stripes. I had tony robbins on the podcast and we had this conversation. He said joel. The ultimate is moss and he said. But you don't get mostra until you commit to at least a ten year minimum said then your name ring bells and industry but he said for the reasons of you being consistent and because your focus on getting results said no one can survive that long and scale if they're not properly getting results and i love that because it pushes you to really make sure that you're integrating what you need integrate to be able to be the ultimate level of inspiration which is showing others. What's possible through your own actions and not just sharing cognitive knowledge. you know. Yeah well. I think i think it comes back to really a little bit of the myth of separation title before but it. It actually brings to mind how we in our culture have over indexed. The rational mind right we. We have put the rational mind on such a high pedestal. And there's a great quote bernstein. Where's the the rational mind is faithful servant and intuitive mind is a sacred gift but we have created a culture that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift and so many of us have not tuned into this intuitive knowledge. Right this deeper form of intelligence that flows through all of us and and we have. We have forgotten the gift right and in psychology. Call it the ryder. An elephant right. The rider being the rational mind and the elephant being the intuitive body. And so we we have to. We have to embark on a journey of of being. Okay with not not falling into the trap of like the click bait personal development style. Right of some of this stuff takes time. You know if you've been abused and abandoned if you've experienced trauma if you've you know if you found yourself fallen down a path you're an dr the sole some of these things. Just take time and we need to let go of the like willy wonka golden ticket idea that we are going to hear somebody say the right thing and it's just going to magically liberate us from all of our woes and problems not gonna happen is is not going to happen and so we need.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"The difference like i was doing things in my workout where i would normally be completely gassed and all that i was doing it was just pushing myself as far as i could go without having to breathe through the mouth So that's been really powerful. Running is a little bit of a different story that takes a little bit longer but there are some long distance runners that have started to breathe only through their nose. Imagine that doing like an ultra marathon or running twenty six miles just in through your nose. The entire time powerful practice yes Mind over matter on that one. That's crazy. I mean it makes sense. Right biologically scientifically your becoming the most vio- your system your body. It's and that's what. It is is annoyed when we have moments at our through workshops or at our events when i pull someone up on stage and they're having this moment where we're going through transformation right through and sometimes some things come up in the shadow of the the trauma someone might have raped. Maybe someone has experienced sexual abuse domestic violence. Whatever it is right can get intense sometimes often remind them. Hey before we go further into this. Because sometimes i try to speak in why they're trying to say and i just say hey. See your hand here. Put your hand over your navel and breathed into your belly. And do that a few times and i get them to and are breathed as well and they're you know with the microphone next to the you can hear them. Bring the incan. You can tell by the second or third breath. That's the way more centered. It's like they've slowed that hot right down and caught up in their minds. Finally focused on the present. And i think that so often you can. Test this is was so heavily distracted through social media and wh what is bite sized content as flashing at us on al screen at five seconds. Fifteen second video is going going. Going going things spinning. We're gonna get going. Everyone's saying hustle your face off and all they saying so. There's this constant movement for with north presence and it's crazy how presence now has become this like that's like the buyer hack whereas back in the day when when the world was about lot a movie people were just naturally more present and and there's something to that so interesting human beings absolutely. I mean if you if you wanna meet the sort of visceral part of your shadow you can sit down and do you know. Intense breath work. You could do something like hof and take thirty forty breaths in and out through the mouth in rapid succession. And then hold all the air out right. And what's going to come up in your thoughts is the shadow. It's like that deep. Fear that anxiety that you feel in the body you'll start to meet those parts of you. That are there when you are trying to make change again your your brain and your nervous system intended pattern recognition machines right. So what they do. Is they recognize patterns and then they store those patterns right. We store those patterns in the nervous system in the body and the group called body keeps the school or where i know cock talks about. How we we store emotions in the body and that emotions are actually they produce repressed emotions produce more peptides which are part of amino acids and so the more the more repressed suppressed emotions that we have the more acidic we actually create within our body. And that's where a lot of information comes from right so a lot of people that have a lot of repressed trauma at a repressed emotions. They they have the manifestation of those experiences breath work can often. This is what wim hof has shown a lot of in his research when he's been hooked up to machines genes is that it actually alkalis is an rebalancing your your ph level in your body so it can help to reduce and that that coupled with the cold immersion therapy can help to reduce inflammation because it regulates the ph balance in your body. And so again you know we. We have a a physical level to the shadow. We have a mental level to the shadow of an emotional level to the shadow and we have a spiritual level to the shadow a huge rise of spiritual bypassing right now in our cultures and and that's a whole other ball of wax that i don't think well maybe will open up right now but now i know i know because i'm experiencing it sometimes in the field of coaching. You know one of the this actually really funny. I'm sure you've experienced to you. Have a sales call right or like a discovery call. You'd have a conversation with someone. Okay here's a program or whatever it may be and you get the message. The payment link doesn't seem to work okay. Cool that's good. Here's another one. Oh hey. I don't know what's going on with my cod. So it's going on next message. And i think the universe is just trying to tell me this right. We need to get on another coast. We can have a conversation about this because it's not the universe. Just try to try and say no. We're and here's the thing so i've had i mean this doesn't happen all the time and it's rare rare occasion right as with with us. You know everybody when i ended up having these conversations going. Let's have a look at this because this is one of the reasons that may be stopping you and blocking you from getting to that next level backing out in the loss. Second whatever may be in what i do but you need to believe in what you do i. I don't wanted more than you like. That's not a good place to be in. You've got to want it just as much as i want you to. And i've had many of this turnaround. conversations were initially. It was while the universe doesn't want to like some of my biggest breakthrough students. Yeah so good question sometimes like. Hey where's it coming from. Am i making this decision out of fear of from love and i think people do this in relationships through they go back to relationships in fear of being alone instead of like a minute. That's gonna work for me. I'm gonna move on or you know what i do. Want to make more effort in this relationship. Let's go back to it this time in love and it's man i don't know why i find myself in this conversation often with a lot of my clients in students. Are you finding this to that..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"What i'm least willing to or most scared to express. Relationships are so people in kind of play around with some of those pieces and start to uncover the things that they're hiding the things that they're avoiding. Those basic questions will start to point towards pieces of their shadow. It's it's a really good way of doing it. But yeah superman superman level. The way i feel like. I feel like he's kind of like the unhealthy version of what. Jesus held the standard like really tour. It's it's like wanted to do really good. No one and these had like his shadow that he didn't really interesting man. How you know. I resonate with the character of jesus wifi could walk in even just be ten percent of what he was. That'd be amazing things. So it's i think it is interesting to see what your resonating with to see. Okay why am i resonated with this and i like the questions that you also if you listen to this right now watching his right down right down those questions ask yourself as often. This is where the transformation begins is by going with self reflection writing it out making a mind body connection not just keeping up in your head but actually doing that expressing sharing and finding. I'm sure there's a lot of people in your space too. If you're into self development that openness off growth that would love to be a volley that would go back and forth on these kinds of conversations that reveals quite a lot. So i love that. You're sharing this kona. This is amazing. What quite or saying to people spout quite often that you think is complete. Bs i did. I did a mini episode. On my podcast about this i. It was just called like like the worst personal development. Saying i think. And i just i just tore apart some of them but i think the one that i the one that i probably dislike. The most is leap and the net will appear. I remember being at a at a personal development conference and some people love it because it's a great spiritual quote But for me. I think it gets sort of taught. Flooded it around a lot right and when people don't know what else to say let's just sleep and then that will appearance like well if you fundamentally believe in your core that when you leap you're gonna fall flat on your face. That's probably what's going to happen. And i remember being at a conference and seeing somebody tell this person to basically just leave their job they have kids to feed and this guy was just like this feel so responsible and they use this quote and it pissed me off so much you know because the person was looking for out there like walt but how does that work how much it's going to leave house. The next thing appear right. They just couldn't fathom now understand that sometimes. We don't know how things are going to unfold. You know that's true. We often don't in. Our brain is hard wired to help us avoid change. It's it's like an anti change agent and so sometimes we do have to sort of take these steps into the unknown but we have to condition. We have to train ourselves to embrace the unknown right if you have never embraced the unknown ever and you're terrified of it and you leap and quit your job. It's probably going to be a tough time. So that's that's the one. I just like most leap and the net will appear that solid it. Some people find it a bit tough to they'll like but i like inspiring you get critical about things in your life because that's important use critical thinking question things as well especially right now with everything that's going on. We're being told so many mixed messages. You know what. It's very confusing. And maybe it's designed to be that way. And i think right now it's really important to use critical thinking so a like like the shed this. What do you personally hope to achieve by fifty years owed so we can get understanding of where you're where you're headed. My work is is all about depth. That's all i'm interested in in. And i think there's a guy can i swear on your show. Is that okay. I don't know if i don't know if i want to drop it but you know There's a guy named john wiley. And he says you know. says f f going wide. Go deep and think for me. That's that's really it. I think fifty years ago when i'm fifty Fifty years it'd be pretty old but when i'm fifty I want to have an institution. And i wanted to have land. And that's part of what my wife and i are doing right now. She's a one of the top marriage and family therapists and we have started doing a lot of work together. And so i think when. I'm when i'm fifty will own property with an institution on it where people can come and do this type of depth work with us in person and you know he'll their past he'll the trauma he'll their abuse face. The shadow their inner critic in a really healthy way right in a way where their inner critic is working with them. Not just abusing them on a on a daily basis. Because i know what that's like. I've been in that position where minor critic abused me day all day long and it was horrible. It really really was terrible. So that's what life's gonna look at fifty. And i'll have a nice little home there and and i'm sure there'll be a dog run around and maybe a cat or two Have written a few books by then. I'll have written a few books. Yes i love. It meant the question. Also that that voice and ahead is it a coach. It is critical on the sidelines. Is it the spectator. Just observing and watching. It's the critic. I'm sure a lot of people can relate to that. I think the one thing. I would just say about the inner critic. Is that all the work that i've done that. Inner critic has an origin story and that origin stories usually tied to somebody who was critical of you. And so it's it's going to be connected to the unhealed wounds of the person who criticized you the most you know. Maybe it's a bully. Maybe it's a parent. Maybe it's a teacher. Maybe it's a coach but starting to uncover the origin story of your inner critic is going to be important so maybe just ask yourself that right. What was the people that are listening. And what was the origin story. My inner critic. Yup and what's interesting about that is if it's not serving us and we don't pay attention to it. We don't accept the fact that it's there to it to do the work and it will ultimately end up directing us into to replace that we don't really want to be our destiny right Absolutely absolutely right like when When we avoid things the things that really matter to us do not do well when avoided. And what should matter to you. And i always say this to a lot of amendment work with me is like if you don't know what your purpose in life is that you're paying your purpose for a little while right..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"Arguably some of the most important pieces the fact that he'd been struggling so much that he had tried to take his own life and vice versa. You know he knew everything about me except for these important parts. I've been struggling and so that. Put me on this path of starting to integrate. These pieces to start to understand. Like why is it. That i had been hiding all these parts of myself and i realized that it is because of its because of this belief this primary wound that we talk about in in the primary wound is that we don't belong in some ways the myth of separation the myth of separation that we are somehow separate or should be separate from our pain right or that we are that we should reject our sadness. We shouldn't feel that way right. I mean the amount of people are probably listening to this. Podcast heard those types of narratives growing up right. I mean i know. I heard them growing up as a young man right like don't cry suck it up. Be a man right. All that type of stuff is like all. That's telling you is like repress the shit out of your emotions right repress yourself still press yourself and it's those wounds this primary wound of not belonging that we need to come into contact with us that we need to learn how to start to work with and that working with it is in a in in a starting to accept it and it's starting to forgive ourselves four rejecting so many aspects of who we are and to start to forgive the people who may have wounded us along the way right. The parents the next door neighbor to the kids at school. The coaches whoever it is that has that has received pain in their life and passed it down into us through words through actions and so that. That's a little bit about about my story. And and where i think we all need to begin so much respect for you man. Thank you opening often being vulnerable being real. You know in the space that you and i are in. I think a lot of leaders yet to to to go through this process. You know i see. I see it. It's it's the image the mosque it's got to maintain a certain character or go to being certain posture. Rather it's exhausting. I did of many years. Even when i met you like i think it was about four is back maybe a four and a half i think was four four and a half. Yeah yeah yeah. Yeah and you and i look different. I know that like seeing in like we look different way. We talk different. We probably have different values than what we had back. Then like the things that we used to prioritize much of a priority anymore. I know that the follow is the lacks the titles like about that berry in an was for so long. You're so. I love that you're up you cheating on your was up before we met or was that after. That was before we met. Yeah right right all of that. All that jazz happened used before and it sort of put me on the path of of creating men talks in the first place and finding my mentor. Who trained me in in in this sort of art of working with shadow yet. I love this man. I feel like we we get to pay attention to what resonates with us. And one of the exercises. I do for shadow. Work is an and you may be familiar with it. Yourself to is getting those identify which movie character on tv. Shirk act of video game character. If you're into that that you resonate with the most. And i remember you know within myself it was always superman and it was this short off later on in life. I was mimicking is savior type complex and having my kryptonite As well yeah my achilles heel to certain and i just remember playing it out like that in my mind so many times and i've coached some people that feel this guilty or this shame shameful like feeling around resonating with doc evil characters and this is this is a shadow of minnesota can there. What's what would you say is your character. What movie actor. tv show character. Did you resonate with the most. When you're younger superman tattoo on my back from the day. I turned eighteen and i went and got i went and got the superman tattoo with the tribal coming out of a bad ass but like what a you know what a classic example of of a man with a shadow except for superman. His shadow is power. Which is exactly the way the works right. It's exactly the way it works. Superman is such a perfect example because what he's keeping hidden right. Clark kent is like the personality. And he's the he's the the sort of version of how he how superman how halal sees the world and he he perceives that he needs to hide this power that he has right and we do that as well. We hide our wounds because we don't think that they have any power but our wounds are a gateway to closeness right. Our wounds are gateway to closeness. And it's in many ways in many many ways intimacy which which is what we are all trying to get right like we are all trying to be closer to ourselves intimacy in. its root. Form is a greek word intimacy and it means innermost right. So intimacy happens with us first. We have to understand ourselves first before we understand another an intimacy happens not just in spite of the wound but actually through it and so we have to start to understand our wound after start to understand our pain and so i usually ask you a few questions. Like i usually ask them in first person because it's easier for people to start to hear this and so they can hear this as we as we talk about. What i tend to keep in the dark about myself is when i least want others to know about me is what i tend to blind myself to his emotions that i'm least comfortable with.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"And i'm gonna share what's been amplified for me during this time of isolation and to have a really dial up with people and then to start to Put in some stopgaps right some boundaries. Some some resources for for the couple and they can say. Hey you know what i my. My reactivity is getting triggered. I need to just pause and take a second right or There's my anger right or i'm feeling lonely right now. This has nothing to do with. You is actually just my loneliness the so when we can start to label the thing. That's actually happening. That's coming out of this isolation we can start to work on and then we can work as a unit together for the relationship rather than for the individual Because for a lot of couples where they get into a trap is the start to claim that other person's experience and this is how codependency is built so when you have two people developing their own sense of sovereignty within the relationship and prioritizing the relationship you build a healthy relationship. I think there's a great quote by francis weller where he says undeveloped sovereignty always leads to self abandonment. And it's such a beautiful quote because when we as individuals don't have our own sense of sovereignty and autonomy within our relationship we fall into codependent patterns and we bicker and we fight and we lose that intimacy and we lose that individuality. What would you say has been one of your big turning points within yourself. That shadow work that you do with others that you've also done with us. He would have had to have done that. I before then moving in as a leader in the space share with a moment. Maybe it's doc night of the soul. Maybe at some part of your journey web we can learn like wow kana khana. Has you know a great example work with you. Yeah so. I mean i was like the classic example like i really. I really truly was so it now. I think for a long time. I looked like i had a really great life at a good career. Great relationship You know i was traveling. The world had the motorcycle. And and i had checked all the boxes of what i thought it meant to be a successful man in our culture and society and that was the really like well manicured mask that i showed everyone in my life like really well manicured and behind. That was just like this disaster. That i felt like i had to hide from people. You know this version of me. That i hated that that felt completely out of control. That lied that was that she did. Who was unfaithful and relationships who was hurting the people that he loved Who was questioning his career who felt like a fraud and what he was doing and and really. I had been running from that part. I haven't told anybody about nobody knows lying cheating. Nobody knew what was going on. And finally all sort of came to this this this tipping point demarcation point where girlfriend found out i was cheating in this sort of hollywood esque style fashion and i left my career and i didn't want anybody to know i didn't want anybody to know i had so much pride in holding on hiding this part of me that i put all my stuff in storage and i lived out of the back of my car my two door coupe in a walmart parking lot for almost three weeks and i remember being being there. You know like waking up at chateau walmart and looking out the window and being like what. What the hell am i doing like. How did i get here. And who have i become that i'm that i'm hiding this part and i realized in that moment i like i remember very vividly one night. Just sort of laying in the back seat crunched up. I'm six foot two. And i had this to dr cooper. And i'm like smashed into the back seat of two-door coop. I remember really vividly laying there one night thinking how i could talk my way out of the situation. I got myself into and i knew that wasn't an option. And so then. I thought about continuing to hide all the things that i'd done and the path that that would lead me down and i realized that i had had a story up until that moment that told me. I told myself that things in my life were going to get better until i hit rock bottom and it came true. You know it really. It really came true. And i find that today a lot of people holding that story. They don't think that things are going to get better until they hit rock bottom so i decided that there wasn't really some big aha moment like people talk about. It was just that. I realize that if i kept going down that path was going to lead to self-destruction and i remember my mentor talking about suicide at the time. We had this mental health class and university and he said suicide is the ultimate form of self destruction. I think it's some quote. I don't i don't know it's actually attributed to but But he started in it. Like kat in my head and it rang in that moment because i was having some pretty dark thoughts and realize that going down that path was going to leave me further into self-destruction and so next packed up and i laughed and i started to talk to people in my life. I started to reveal my story so to reveal all the things that hidden and i started to realize through connecting with some of my friends and close family that they had been hiding a lot to a conversation with one of my best friends at the time and i laid everything out. I told him that. I'd been hiding a whole bunch of things and by the end of me sort of verbally getting it all out. He he was just in tears and he looked at me and he said thank you and and i was like. What are you thanking me for. And he said. I never thought. I would tell anyone this but i feel like you've given me permission to reveal this part of myself and he proceeded to tell me how a month and a half before he tried to hang himself you know. He tried to commit suicide. And i remember in that moment thinking like how is it that i know everything about you. I knew everything about this guy. I knew what he liked to drink. Tv shows you like to watch where he likes to eat everything except.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"Of the time was scraping madoff ourselves and smearing it on others when when we're not doing the work within the subconscious and not had be shod on just before you the episode before and he was talking about this idea of just really taking ownership and taking responsibility and your life and a lot of people aunt practicing that being responsible for their emotions because he often hear people say like. You made me feel this. Will you made me show that or if you didn't do that i wouldn't show this year and i feel like that's a clear signal that while you've got some work today one hundred percent that is the shadow and action right. Well we are that's projection. Exactly what you're saying. You made me feel that way right. It's like you're you're projecting your emotional state on to somebody else and so we have to be able to take a step back and see and understand what the threat response is within our body right and so a lot of couples for example in relationship because again our shadow comes up around the people that are often close to us. A lot of couples will get into shame based conflicts cycles right and these the shame based conflicts like a will be a similar argument. That will happen over and over and over again like. Why can't you wash the forks. The way that. I want you to rinse the dishes. The way they need to do you know. I you need to take the garbage out of the whatever whatever the thing is right and when and when that happens we need to be able to take a step back and see what's physically happening within us otherwise we just get caught in the same loop and that's us projecting onto their person so we need to build identify. How do we get caught in the shame based cycles because for human beings emotional sham is like alcohol right shameless suppressants emotional suppression and for most people where they go wrong in. This whole space is that they can identify anger. They can identify sadness. They can identify rage and guilt and embarrassment and jealousy. But when you ask people really ask people what a shame feel like for you. A lot of people have no idea her. A lot of people have no clue what shame feels like in the body which shame sounds like in their thoughts and and so they might have a little inclination but the not able to identify as clearly as other emotions and shame is an incredibly important part of understanding the show because again the shadow has been built by these experiences in our childhood growing up when we were bullied growing up and we felt neglected by mom or dad or abandoned by one of them. we're told that we were too stupid or not good looking enough for to fat or whatever the case may be it was it was in those moments that the shadow was created and we felt shame in those experiences. And so how you start to get to know your shadow is you can look back at your past and you can look into your child at and this is where Something like internal family systems which is an incredibly powerful resource and tool can come into play and you can start to look into your childhood and say okay. Where did i feel. Shame as a child you know. Where did i feel neglected or embarrassed or abandoned and it'll give you really powerful insight into where where not only shame showed up but how it started to build some of the the origin stories of the the shadow cycles and shadow patterns that. You're probably seeing in your life like for example growing up as a kid. I heard a lot. You're not going to amount to anything. You're stupid not smart enough. And so i started to believe that so a big part of my perceived pretension potential intellectually started to get stored in the shadow. I didn't think that i was smart enough. And it started to manifest as like huge defensiveness. Whenever somebody would come close to questioning my intelligence i would get so reactive. Get so defensive and it took me a long time. I remember a girlfriend of mine. Years and years ago is like hey. Do you ever notice that if you think that i'm questioning how smart you are that you get really pissed off and i was like i had no idea like i didn't even know. And and then. I started to see this pattern showing up over and over again and it was because of the the experiences and whatnot abuse that i experienced as a child and so to witness that is incredibly powerful because we can start to sort of put the pieces together for what built our shadow. Yes yes. I love that. You refer to relationships as a great way to look at the shadow as well. Because i heard the saying. I don't know if this resonates with youtube. But i heard Some people are either a winder a mirror or daw. the window is kind of you. You kind of looking through it. You know quite seeing. What's there and you moving forward near as it reflects back to you and usually it's in a very uncomfortable experience but showing pots of you. That still a yet to be healed and the door. Is you move to the next chapter with that person. Yeah i love animals like it's cool right cornell and i'm sure within the work you do as well as a coach as a leader in the space that you say a lot of these people that are struggling big time in relationships now nor that you were talking about this commitment in relationship especially with men. Or how do we navigate this. Because i know this is probably a big thing. That might have come up around this time of covid people in each other's face as if have gone into together they've had to quarantine. There's some people that are struggling with business or maybe finances. So how do we navigate this relationship spice in a healthy way And communicate with each other like. Hey there's some work here that we get to. Yes so. I have been talking for the last few months about a very simple and yet powerful concept that people can bring into the life and it's the simple concept that relation equals amplification so whenever we isolate ourselves we amplify. What's already there right. So isolated for human beings is is can be one of the most spiritually liberating things but it can also be one of the most psychologically damaging experiences when it's not chosen right and so a lot of people right now are experiencing health crises or and in our sort of stock in these patterns because they have not chosen isolation right. they've been forced into isolation forced into their you know One bedroom apartments. Or you know whatever. The case may be stuck with their family seven days a week and they're trying to work from home and their kids are barging in the cat's walking across the keyboard in and they're just like oh my god like this is this is so frustrating. I didn't ask for this but isolation amplifies. What's already in existence. So if you are someone who has a lot of anger or who has a lot of sadness within them or who has just a beast of an inner critic and the inner critic in very integral part of the shadow right. What's going to happen is that it's going to amplify that part. And so what. A lot of couples have been experiencing. And we've seen this in the data rental. We've i mean in british columbia in canada I was reading an article. I think two months ago and i was talking about how domestic abuse had gone up in the province of bc by three hundred and twenty eight percent since cova had started. And and so what we're going to see on the other side of cova when when we are sort of may be able to go back to sense of normalcy. Is that this. This isolation has amplified reloaded couples where already experiencing right so a lot of couples are going to have their shame based conflict cycle. Start to show up. You know it's going to show the holes in their intimacy. It's going to show the the issues that are happening in the communication. So if we know this if we know that isolation is going to amplify what's already there maybe for some couples amplifying their sex life. It's amplifying their their healthy communication they're great boundaries. It's like their crushing it. But for a lot of people what it's bringing ford is challenges and the communication. If we know that this is going to happen what we can start to do is say. Hey we're probably going to be more on edge. Let's sit down and have a conversation about this upfront. what's been amplified for you..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"To introduce to you. An incredible man who dives very very deep into the shadow of the abyss of your mindset. And i know that sounds very intense but trust me this much in that we get to work with and just seen kona over the many many as well. It's been about six years now. Just transforming unfold into this epic leader in the space and corner or not have spoken at events together out in santa monica california. Also know that he's he's a big hit out in in canada as well and has worked with so many men and women as well and just to really go in and find those pots within your mind. that so many people don't know how to go through a hiding avoiding and pretending to know that's their where there's just so much there for growth so excited for you to jam today with contemplating on this podcast connor. Thank you so much for joining us. New dictator success podcast man. Thank you so much for having me love that inter i feel like i feel like some some some bells and whatnot. We're about to go off right after that. I was so good. Well i think one of the reasons is because i love this topic. I'm excited to go here with you. I i know that you've involved yourself in this work for a long time on your website. It says the man who tried to escape his shadow. And it's so funny. Because i feel like that's the story for so many people like trying to run away from the shadow rather than going. Wait a minute something he yes. It may be scary and uncomfortable. But i'm going to go to it so to kick things off first things first. We know your transformational speaker coach. You run man. Talks as well epic event i spoke at your mantle event in santa monica california is is such different event to everything else. I loved the tone of it. And it open up some really awesome conversations around fidelity and also just really exploring yourself as a person that wants to date with relationship. Not just without this but also with yourself. What is it about this work in particular that you feel is really exciting and that just really fis you up about this work. Yeah so for me what. I really love about shadow. Work is that it is the path of integration. And it's the path of wholeness like the concept of the shah was actually created by carl young. For those of our listening that might not be familiar with it. and young is arguably one of the most famous Psychoanalysts psychologists in existence. And you know this this idea. He firmly believed that the shadow was like the bridge into our unconscious. Mind and that not only. Was it the bridge but it was the storehouse of all the different pieces of ourselves that that we avoid that we hide and so in turn. It's not only responsible for why we sabotage and how we siva taj. But it's also this beautiful half that can lead to a sense of wholeness and young has many quotes on that but basically he believed that. The past two wholeness through the shadow was through facing these darker parts of ourselves and we can even see this in things like mythology. So you look at like the hero's journey for example it has the shadow built into it right like when you go on the hero's journey you arc on on this call on this quest and And part of it is entering into a dark place entering into the cave entering into a pure reate in your life dark night of the soul. Whatever you wanna call it Where you meet these parts of yourself and so for me. I love it because it's about completion. It's about wholeness. It's about finding our strengthen our power and the last thing i want to say is that what peop- what most people don't know. Is that a lot of our potential is toward in the shadow. So if you've been trying to access potential for a long time in your life your somebody that's heard you have so much potential on your like where the heck is all that potential of people keep telling me that i have it's in your shadow and that's why you can't find it as bird in your unconscious mind. Yes yes. I believe it for sure. What tools modalities exercises do you utilize to go into this shadow. Cray transformation what are maybe two or three tools us. Yeah so there's a couple of things that people can start to look at one of them is projection and projection usually shows up in our relationship so a lot of a lot of the shadow is going to manifest with the people that are closest to us right so our partners usually take the brunt of our shadow right like in our intimate relationships and so we will project onto onto our partners will cast anger onto them. we'll project our insecurities onto them are in abilities are perceived in abilities and so one of the things that we can start to do is we can look for the things that we are actively projecting on to other people and we can hear that because we'll get a lot of pushback a lot of resistance oftentimes from our partner so that's one of the things that you can start to do. The second thing is to start to uncover and start to know your reactivity so reactivity is like the the neon sign that's pointing to the shadow if the neon sign pointing to the shadow and so starting to get to know your reactively because when you're reactivity is present you know that the shadow is in charge right like if you've ever heard people say like i lost it. What did you lose. You lost your consciousness right. You lost your conscious capacity to actually engage with your partner with your family member and so when you re activities in place your shadows in the driver's seat so we need to be very aware of that and there's a few different things that we kind of get into to unpack that reactively. Looks like yeah. I love the way that you broke that down. Feel people know when they do project. Into the space there's this knowingness that comes into play sometimes shortly after that slight I just did that thing. And then this shame and guilt that follows after it. So it's keeping us in the low frequency right does a court by a abraham maslow's right and he says if you only have a ham you tend to see every problem is a nail so we're kind of working with what we've got not just what we've got in conscious and we know that we worked on but also what we've got hang in the background so you're you're studying to reveal this to us and say hey there's something we can do here one hundred percent. I the thing that i always say to people that kind of jars them. A little bit is like your pain. Your darkness has its own intelligence. And it's all it's always trying to reveal itself constantly right. It just comes out in ways that are maybe unsavory right and so what we can do is use the power of reflection right and part of that is by creating little pauses in our interactions right so if you look got Man's search for meaning viktor frankl. He said between every stimulus and response there a pause and so whenever we feel that stimulus that causes us to feel reactive in our body. Right we feel anger starting to brew up with a us. We start to feel defensive or we wanna stonewall or shut down or we become contemptuous. We want to lash out at somebody. That's a sign that reactivity has been turned on in the body and in the mind right. Our nervous systems are the things that are priming us our nervous systems as the conduit for the shadow To be seen so we need to tune into that part but we need to be able to pause because if we can't pause can't pas and feel into like oh man. I'm becoming reactive on getting defensive. I know this pattern. We can't pause. We can't work with it right. Young said what we cannot from. We cannot heal right. Well we cannot separate from we cannot work with and so we have to create a little bit of space between us and the anger and the and the you know the the defensive since coming up and because without that we can't we can never work with it. Yeah powerful stuff. Men really really powerful. I have heard this analogy before i actually. I think you'd like it. It says that.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Richard Herring's Leicester Square Theatre Podcast
"Uh how can you sold so far in the run. Well declared taxman's listening about twelve the credit card machine. There's no way absolutely no way she team <hes> he's literally sitting here on a pile of that's right and it's made a lot of cash in hand going on the fat. I've not heard of that. A lot of free fringe are hopeful the free fringe people declaring declaring their money plus b._a._t. In their buckets which is the best caves cheddar caves or whole. We'll definitely wookey hole because i'm i'm a sitter south. Y i always push up in dorset dorset and i i haven't done in wookey. Held isn't worth to be honest say to you is working home. We always used to go to work cookie hole for. I don't know why but that was. That was where we've been disappointed in my own senator from cheddar better thank you. I have have to stand up for cheddar case because that's where did you have a pencil. The things you put on the top of pen pencil toppers pencil toppers from cheddar didn't really we have much because i was there. I didn't living in the caves. I worked in the case for a couple of summers nieces and did you more than you are this week. I was very impressed with them. Maybe on double tom if you had to on a sunday or bank holiday double time which is probably eight pounds in our yeah but it seemed like a fourteen it was unbelievable..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Richard Herring's Leicester Square Theatre Podcast
"Back in the late eighties and i did study drama there and i was there at the time when all the kind of art college people at damien hirst there and julian clary had michael mike course and so there was a lot of that kind of stuff going around and i was pretty sure i was going to be an actual presenter and the only thing that stopped doing that was the tie was really shit at it so then and i decided that i should get proper jobs fell into television and ended up with three my career being party on the creative side party on the business side and so ended up being someone. I hadn't really think about what you're going to do and i became a single mum when my kids were very young and the sole breadwinner so i kinda just kept going with my career and every time people were paying me to do share i'd be like well keep doing that and it was only really when i had that conversation did my first kind of open mic gig and i thought god i've spent my whole life not doing this thing i wanted to do when i was eighteen and i've just buried it and is that she the forty five might reinvent yourself and kind of study aromatherapy go and do whatever not that there's anything wrong with that iruma therapists in but the thought of doing something like this where you you jetson status for no status. I used to come to edinburgh a. and everybody wanted me to come to their shows wanted me to come to all the parties. No i'm kind of like and they're like kelly who managed to go yet from still being paid in company shares asked to being paid in in sort of beer tokens and dirty tenors brilliant life decision. Honestly i'd really recommend it kids growing up now. They still yeah they've grown up largely aided by me say yes. I've had to say i'm stuck. I've got young kids no escape now. I have to stay doing played the blind you've got a partner at the moment yes yeah i always think if you make it through these years to both at school your bloody legend most people jones and if they do they hate teach other their alchoholic but you know good luck to. You have a lovely time. I definitely tests your love. The other person i think if you get through the first the first i two or three two of them yeah yeah yeah worse right and then it's impossible you still like each other a bear the end it's is quite good. You'll learn more if you separate. I really like my kids because we gave up on the relationship quite early on. We're very sort of modern blended family. He's now with my kids primary teacher. I'm not better and everything's fine so yes there might get myself is about to be twenty two my daughter's nineteen my son's autistic zookeeper. Did you have that on your neck. I keep saying that side. You have had a mother of not stick zeki parental on the on the podcast and i'm glad i mentioned very glad judge. You didn't know what to say and then decided not to get ahead of that. Yeah i pay play my bloody cheese back for this. It's been a very tough couple of decades. Yeah yeah it is. They're all difficult these kids..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Richard Herring's Leicester Square Theatre Podcast
"Emergency questions book. There are some sheets of stickers that you get by both books on their own or you can get those go process right not coming home and pro getting getting this free gift from me to you. We'll be making a collection for scope after the show as usual. If you feel you would like to give some money to charity in return for the program. Please feel free but don't feel you have to. It's quite hard to find the buckets as well so it's fun game but you can give the money to me again. I'm very happy to sign programs and say hello after the show if you are interested in that sort of thing and sell fees and things like that nobody we could do selfies yourself literally. Nobody can do them. Even at this late stage in a selfie history. No one knows how to do and no one does them the first time right no one. I challenge if you can do it. I'll give you a thousand times. Actually i've got someone gave me a big bunch of fake fifty independents whoever that was thank you very much for me to throw the next snoop cook game fake re-translates but i think he's still might do. There's five thousand pounds of fake fifty minutes. It's quite useful. Thank you anyway. Let's crack on my next. Guest is probably best known for her guest appearance appearance on huxtable radio. That's right the whole of hawks have heard this person if they had the most pretentious people in the world and ah listen to the radio ironically. We've been kelly pizza. Hello how you doing. My friends won't and if you need windy with more water good good good work. Yes required quiet. I imagine i've got through the whole of that drink. Have you hold.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Richard Herring's Leicester Square Theatre Podcast
"A lot of people do like comedy the jacksons lane comedy. Is that extra extra thing to give you. The push studying academically in order to do it is a sword yeah. Certainly comedy causes a brilliant and they're really valuable but i think yet as a a degree yeah. It's just did a degree in history and just comedy instead of doing the degree but that's but no one was sitting to thank god because because i wouldn't give him any <hes> m._i._s._a.'s. That's why that's why. I ended up being a comedian what you've done some german television. The vision is there. Is this doing act and do the show. I'm just interested in called the i need you. She has a schmidt inanimate and yeah what's that show schmidt and <hes> it was kind of like a sort of letterman style show. This was when i was a student goes mad so i was doing. I was doing straight entertaining wallow still a student and then i got there was this guy called rotor who ran the cologne comedy festival and <hes> and he'd seen me in a video or something like that would have video and then he just got in touch and said you want to do this t._v. Show and i used to do this trick where you bang the nail in your head when it and so they flee out there when i was still scored essentially and went out there did this so it didn't talk so it was just they had this was is in a garage and they were talking in german. The garage door went up on a bang. The nail him twice put out wave garage door came down and i flew home with a nice nice check. This is as you said someone. You website that you're you're. You're the shooter's staff at the college so slight resented the vet. You're earning more money than yeah yeah yeah. No they will rule. I suppose sort of struggling performance artists who went really making anything in actually getting gigs staple five go ahead mike. That's what you need to do some money. It's great. There's a great flavor georgia georgia act on on his website which from again anything from the ninety s or maybe the early two thousand got up on your website. Which is well worth watching. Let me ask you a couple of quick questions for you. Rush off to prepare yes. This is your problem with your lease on something like ninety minutes as on plants and then about another ninety minutes starting up ruffled a so i'm gonna ask this. I've been asking everyone this if you could have one item from any art gallery or museum and you could take home and keep it in the art gallery or museum in the world is their painting or an artifact. You would like to own <hes> well. No there i would like are. There's the benches in the tape modern okay. I really like those. I'm i'm. I'm a philistine when it comes to brought my brother is a painter and we we kind of we don't meet click opinion so upset to him before i'll really like graphics in the lateran kind of thing and so when he was he said to me once you have any picasso what would you what would you have and i said i would if money money went an issue i would rather have really good poster of picasso exhibition than an actual picasso because a lot of all that and he was serious when i go to art galleries are more interested in all of the floor and inches and the lights on the the the handrails tighten up again so and there's these benches which which is still there but remember they were oak and they slightly curved like that and then they got slots in them in the slots were filled with a very slightly and soft resin okay so that when you sat on them there was a little bit of give looked beautiful lots warmer delos kind of thing where they just escaped. Hey pat back when they're chopping. Those just hang around live. Anyone works there and has knows if there's one of those can send george one. I think that that's realistic because what you could get one of those. I.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on Richard Herring's Leicester Square Theatre Podcast
"All the time and how ridiculous that people make a living doing stuff but you know when someone finds that niche thing they can do we went to see the amazing but i'm with my kids and that's a guy literally just using surface tension on soap to make to make over sumer pretty fantastic living. He was sending a lot of merchandise and selling out to three hundred people a day so he's make you know presumably a millionaire on the back of being able to blow on. It really does feel like this is so nice that i'm doing. I mean i really do love during the sheriff doesn't feel like a job and i think as a comedian. You look other comedians. Sometimes i can understand how they got there. They did that's when you do something. Someone's going to cook with suffering hotel. Yeah come on you. Get five minutes <hes> so the the imagine it's always stays the skill and imagination and that is that d._i._y. Talented wasn't and understanding things into so. You've got all these skills that bring it together but i just i just love. How would someone in the middle ages failed if if you told him i mean they'd be amazed when you be king because you you're the king and queen uh-huh and i was going to ask you you you've done. You've taught degree in comedy as well as i did. Yes said earlier did very briefly you to teaching on there was a degree comedy university and it was it was awful. It was just because you can't and so i went in there and basically i what it was it was run by guy who wasn't a stand up and thought that all the students should be doing is in writing stand up and doing stand up and i went in there saying no that's what anyone can do so this is an environment where they should be doing everything they should be doing sketches and cartoons lanes and making films and doing silence stuff and counting and really being experimental because that's when i went to brighton this degree in visual and performing arts which which was just so proud and you could do anything and that's you know that environment when you can play that's that's where you should be doing that and then off the back of that. That's when you start honing his stuff afterwards afterwards and working out what's sellable and so he was trying to do stuff that was sellable and and it was open so i ended up saying to them you've got to you've just got to get out there and do it and and so i got very disenfranchised with the and then on the last day because i talked to them a lot about what what are you waiting leads. We're gonna go to the pub every night and have dinner with this is insane so on the last hour i bought a great big tray of eggs in an a little post booker said we're not doing any comedy tonight. Okay i'm gonna take your house cooking and i started them out to do pretty good omelette and then they all lined up and they all made omelettes and we just had blitz and these little cards with so these the sort of affirmations on the unwritten right it's like well with you can't make an omelet outbreak in any eggs nuts and then left so it's good but that's what you ought to be honest. That's what we need to be taught. One wants to you know just when he was in his is lost year when i started doing some sort of a weird thing to try and go a lot of people do like comedy the jacksons lane comedy. Is that extra extra thing to give you. The push studying academically in order to do it is a sword yeah. Certainly comedy causes a brilliant and they're really valuable but i think yet as a a degree yeah. It's just did a degree in history and just comedy instead of doing the degree.
"beaton b. b" Discussed on The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
"I can try for the kid from little big league or something to make the people at ESPN, fifteen hundred twin cities, happy. Well, I do want to please these people. Minnesota has been very good to us as as have been some of their longtime columnists. So I want to make a public announcement now that is super rare for the media gas bag. That is Dan Levitan. Well, I was wrong about Kirk cousins. Whoa. Minnesota's soak. They saying it's like every fifteen years. Oh, admit he's wrong, and he's doing it for you to sank it in twin cities. Strap it on. Kirk cousins is going to be perfect. There is a bit of a pioneer right? Because he just got in that violent sport, the dorky quarterback of the Vikings and we can say this, right? Some of these guys are a little bit dorky. Andrew luck is dorky. Right? It's is Kirk cousins. Dorky can. Am I saying that even of course you can have you seen how the main grills steaks on social media? I believe he wants to raise his child with an English accent. Do you know what he's doing though? What he trademarked here? Do you guys know what he trademark? No. Yeah, I do what you've like. That man. Goosebumps co-sponsors from God's the highest praise. You can get. He vikes that high vite that he vikes it. I'm sorry, I stepped on your joke. Yeah, he's a bit dorky. I would say ally manning falls in that in that same category is going to work well with those with those skill guys. He he performed as gain them did. I mean, yes based, well, everyone did Sam Bradford, did those those skill guys and that defense. I think we could say right without knowing what the patriots defense is, but assuming it's going to do what it does every year that the Vikings, the second most balanced team in the sport now because Jacksonville's lopsided, right. Green Bay is certainly lopsided. I mean, it's one guy, right? Right. People don't. The saints would be balanced in their defense. You sing in Minnesota. We all know their defense is good. We're all going to say their is top five in the league. When you think of defenses, you think of Jacksonville, you think of them that it's it's a violent defense. That yesterday and that's not Garoppolo. Garoppolo didn't get all that money being turnover machine like, he's that messy, Minnesota. Does that you and then on top of that, they're skilled guys, you can make the argument or the best outside of Pittsburgh there. So now you put Kirk cousins in that, and you ask him to sort of be more than a game manager Beaton b. b. Alex Smith who makes some more of the long plays. And now you give him those skill guys. You got to fight that. Like that's. And so he's a, he's a dorky pioneer and we all know Minnesota's. Good, right. We know this, we know Minnesota's good. We know Jacksonville will go as far as quarterback like we know Jacksonville is going to is going to be a rampage. Yes, we know the Vikings are good. We know Jacksonville's good..
"beaton b. b" Discussed on The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
"I can try for the kid from little big league or something to make the people at ESPN, fifteen hundred twin cities, happy. Well, I do want to please these people. Minnesota has been very good to us as as have been some of their longtime columnists. So I want to make a public announcement now that is super rare for the media gas bag. That is Dan Levitan. I was wrong about Kirk cousins. Whoa. Minnesota's soaked. They saying it's like every fifteen years. Oh, admit he's wrong, and he's doing it for you today. Thank it in twin cities. Strap it on. Kirk cousins is going to be perfect. There is a bit of a pioneer right? Because he just got in that violent sport, the dorky quarterback of the Vikings and we can say this, right? Some of these guys are a little bit dorky. Andrew luck is dorky. Right? It's is Kirk cousins. Dorky can. Am I saying that even of course you can have you seen how the main grills steaks on social media? I believe he wants to raise his child with an English accent. Do you know what he's doing? What he trademarked here? Do you guys know what he trademark? No, yeah, I do what you like that man. Goosebumps goosebumps fronts to God's the highest praise you can get. He vikes that high fight that he vikes it. I'm sorry, I stepped on your joke. Yeah, he's a bit dorky I would say ally manning falls in that in that same who's going to work well with those with those skill guys, he he performed as keenum. Did I mean yes based? Well, everyone did Sam Bradford, did those those skill guys and that defense. I think we could say right without knowing what the patriots defense is, but assuming it's going to do what it does every year that the Vikings, the second most balanced team sport now because Jacksonville's lopsided, right. Green Bay, certainly, lopsided. I mean, it's one guy, right, right. But people don't. The saints would be balanced in their defense. You sing in Minnesota. We all know their defense is good. We're all going to say their defenses top five in the league. When you think of defenses, you think of Jacksonville, you think of them that it's it's a violent defense. That yesterday and that's not Garoppolo. Garoppolo didn't get all that money being turnover machine like, he's that busy Minnesota. Does that you and then on top of that, their skill guys, you can make the argument or the best outside of Pittsburgh there. So now you put Kirk cousins in that, and you ask him to sort of be more than a game manager Beaton b. b. Alex Smith who makes some more of the long plays. And now you give him those skill guys. You gotta fight that. Like that's. And so he's a, he's a dorky pioneer and we all know Minnesota's. Good, right. We know this, we know Minnesota's good. We know Jacksonville will go as far as quarterback like we know Jacksonville is going to is going to be a rampage. Yes. You know the Vikings are good. We know Jacksonville's good..
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"Repeat the chicago cubs in delaware which prides itself on being first ratify the constitution now offers legal betting on pro sports and other states aren't far behind but what regulations we put in places at giant gamble raising questions about new revenue streams max fitch a match fixing and point shaving scandals not to mention public health issues this hour on point the long and the short game of sports betting you can join us on air online do you agree with supreme court's decision and what are the odds of sports betting becoming legalized in your state you can join us anytime on at unpleasant radio dot org or on twitter and facebook at on point radio and by the way the phillies beat the cubs yesterday the governor one is bet joining me now from new york is andrew beaton sports writer for the wall street journal he's been writing about sports betting and you can link to his article headlined supreme court ruling opens door to sports betting.
Fox sets Disney deal vote for July 10
"Mainly because of a slower buildup in inventories gross domestic product was trimmed to an annual two point two percent pace from two point three percent separately the us added one hundred seventy eight thousand private sector jobs in may according to payrolls processor adp the figures come in advance of friday's may employment report from the labor department twentyfirst century fox shareholders will vote july tenth on the company's proposed asset sale to walt disney that potentially gives comcast about six weeks to submit its own bid for the assets which include film studios in cable networks comcast said last week it was in advanced stages of preparing a cash offer that would top disney's fifty two point four billion dollar all stock deal for fox's entertainment assets coming up donald trump's pressure on nfl owners to crack down on player behavior during the national anthem this is what's news from the wall street journal welcome back national football league team owners recently voted to change league rules regarding player behavior during the national anthem and it appears that president donald trump was the prime influence behind the new anthem rules mr trump's criticism of players kneeling during the anthem protests social injustice helped ignite a firestorm and ultimately pressured owners to change the rules let's find out more about this from andrew beaton who covers the nfl and college sports for the wall street journal andrew how do we know this of that trump applied pressure to change the rules well we've seen the pressure he's put on throughout the last year so he's talked about it at rallies he's talked about it on twitter he's talked about it when he had opportunity to talk about it but in these depositions from a grievance colin kaepernick filed against the league in thirty two teams where they deposed the owners we were able to review some of those.