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THE EMBC NETWORK
A highlight from Growing Up Together: Autism and Siblings Unite With Annie Treml
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The Aloönæ Show
A highlight from S13 E05: Randi's Upcoming Releases and YouTube Journey
"Hello, welcome to The Elone Show. I'm your host, John Mayelone. In this episode, don't have regulars, because reasons, unfortunately. Anyway, as for our guest, she is from Canada, not so well, but we'll find out eventually. She is an author and a YouTube host. Ladies and gentlemen, I give you, Randi -Leigh Braunslaff. Hello, I'm from Ontario, Canada, pretty close to the border of the States. Alright then, that's interesting. So, how is life? You know, good days and bad days, but life is pretty good overall. Ah, very good, very good. And have you been up too much recently? We went camping a couple weeks ago, and we went to the zoo this past weekend, enjoying summer as it comes to the end. Ah, alright then. So, for the new peeps, what do you do mainly, for a living? So, I mostly write books, and I host my own YouTube show. Okay. And with your YouTube show, how long have you been doing that for? About two years, there's over 150 episodes now. Alright then. And with your author work, how many books you have written or are currently writing so far? I probably should count one of these days, but over ten now. So, I have five that are for adults, and then I have some more for kids. Alright then, interesting. I like to cross genres because it makes life a little more entertaining. Okay, I like that. Are there any particular genres you prefer or like writing in? I really love writing in non -fiction. That's what I mostly write in. And then I really do like the kids' books just because it gets a little more fun after the heavy stuff. I can see that. What inspired you to become an author? I've always loved writing. I always said, even when I was like little, that I was going to write a book. And then in 2017, yeah, 2017 is when I published my first book. So, when that came, we were cleaning our basement. One of our grandparents had passed away. I can't remember if it was one of mine or one of my husband's, but we were cleaning the basement because of it. And I found a bunch of old stuff that I had written, old poems. I was like, oh, I don't want to throw these out, but I also don't want to keep them in my basement, so what do I do with them? And I turned them into my first book. I went, huh, I like this. And I kept going. Alright then. So, with your YouTube channel, how did that all start? Was it part of something or just built something along the way? So, I always said I was going to be a famous actor when I grew up. Well, clearly that hasn't happened yet. But I love talking to people. I love being on camera. It's all so much fun. And I love talking about mental health. A lot of what I write about is mental health. So, it just made a lot of sense to make it about mental health and to do it as a YouTube show. And that's because what I write about mostly, it kind of, again, it just all made sense. It all kind of goes together. Ah, very good. What should they teach in high school but they don't? Lots of things. How to think for yourself. So, probably because my kids are, one has graduated and one is about to graduate next year, I'm going to say how to rent your own apartment and really pay your bills on time and properly. Yes, I couldn't agree more. It's as far as I can go in agreeing something. Yep. What item has drastically improved your life? Heating pad. I'm using it right now and it is the most amazing thing ever. So, I have a lot of back issues and heat helps so much. Sweet. Makes sitting and writing for long periods of time a lot easier. It sure does. Have you ever had a paranormal experience? No one's asked me that. Off the top of my head, I'm going to say no, but I've never thought about it. I'm going to go with no. Okay. Sounds good, I guess. Well, I figure if I have to think too hard about it, then it couldn't have been that exciting if it did happen. So, must not have happened. Oh, well. There's always time, I guess. Exactly. You never know. Oh yes, indeed. What animal plant do you think should be renamed? Oh. Well, because I'm Canadian, I'm going to have to go with the Canadian goose because we already kind of renamed it here and it's a cobra chicken. Alright then. Have you heard of banana fricce? No. Well, do you want to try it someday? Depends what it is. It's a mix between this movie and a milkshake. Oh, okay. That sounds good. Yeah, I would try that. Okay. Yes, indeed. Nothing like twisting in there that's going to make me go ooh. Okay, fair enough. It sounds like it would taste good. What is something people are always surprised to learn about you? Um, that I was a Canadian kickboxing champion in 2015. Ah. Now that I didn't know about, that's a surprise to me. Exactly. That's why I had to go with that answer. That's a good point. Now, do you have any weird superstitions? Not Hmm. that I can think of. I want to have one. It sounds exciting to have one, but hmm. I don't think so. I think I'm boring. You can't be that bad. Maybe I just go with the flow enough that I don't need a superstition. Alright then. If your life was a meal, what kind of meal would it be? That's Hmm. a hard one. No one's ever asked me, but so a whole meal, not just a food, a whole meal. Okay, so I know what the dessert would be. The dessert would be ice cream because it's delicious and there is lots of fun in my life sometimes. The meal might be like spaghetti because it's really messy and it's delicious, but it's messy. And then I think the appetizer would be like a salad where it's like, you know, you should eat it because it's good for you. But do you really want to? You just want to get to dessert. Oh, that's a good point. Yeah. It's a nice three -course meal for the ups and the downs of life. Yes. Have you been on any interesting trips lately? Well, I mean, we did go camping. That was interesting at times. The most interesting thing that happened during the trip was, so my dog came with us. My dog is a lab. Well, we have three dogs, but the lab came with us and he was on a really long leash while we were at the campsite. And he runs around the car, scared of something, tail between his leg. I was like, what's going on? Oh, no. Is there an animal coming? And the back of the car was open. He jumps in and he's cowering. And then I noticed it's just a really big butterfly. And he was scared of the butterfly. Oh, dear. That's unfortunate. He's a big sucky baby. Yeah, I get that. If you could create your own job title, what would it be? Hmm. That's a good one. You've got some good questions nobody has ever asked and they're really making me think. So I usually just say author and YouTuber, but if I could come up with something else that's more creative, it could be like queen of the written word. Oh, queen of the spoken and written word, because then it incorporates both of them. Yes. And I'm a queen and can wear tiara. That speaks for itself, really. Right. Exactly. I love tiara. Yes, of course. What has improved your life quality so much? You wish you did it sooner. Hmm. Let's say the hot tub that we got, we bought a hot tub about a year and a half ago. And again, just because of like pain issues or whatever, it is just the quality of life is so much better after I've been in it because that I can move around again. So if I would have got it sooner, it would have made a bigger difference faster. Yes, absolutely. What was the worst hotel you have ever stayed at? Oh, I can picture in my head, but I can't remember what it was called, but it was just like a motel. Yeah, it was like, it wasn't a hotel. It was a motel and it was just really grungy. I'm trying to, it was years ago now and I can't even remember much about it, but I remember being fully disgusted by it and going, we need somewhere else. Oh, yeah. Uh, yeah, I can imagine right now is just, ugh, that's nasty. Exactly, that is totally the vibes. I feel it. Very tasty too, unfortunately. Yeah, it's all, it's all there. You just use your imagination. Yep, absolutely. If you had a tattoo right now, what would it be? Well, I have a few of them. Are you talking what I already have or something new? Well, whatever way goes, it works. Um, well, I don't know what new one I would get because I got two this year already. So I have a few tattoos. I have boxing gloves with autism pieces. I've got a butterfly with a semi -colon. Um, I've got a cross that my brother had, but this, oh, and I have drama masks, but this year I got, um, my kid, I got him to draw me the picture. It is of the cat I had, Diamond, because Diamond is a girl's best friend. And so it's a picture of the cat I had growing up and she's got little like, um, angel wings because she died and I was very sad. So I got a tattoo of her, um, on me and it's, it's definitely my favorite tattoo. Sweet. And it turned out amazingly, like the tattoo artist did it exactly how my kid drew it. And my kid did it exactly how she looked like all the different spots and everything on it is really good. Oh, that's nice. Yeah.
The Bitboy Crypto Podcast
A highlight from HUGE Move For Crypto! (Tether In Trouble?)
"Just makes you wonder. Now, Circle's getting all up in that coin bass. Coin bass. And guess who's got their hand heavily into coin bass? Black Rock. Who also some may think may have played a role in all that. Coinbase buys a minority stake in Circle and USD CoinExpands' reach to more blockchains. A novelty in the crypto world, Coinbase, oh, is said to acquire a minority stake in Circle Internet Financial, simultaneously dissolving their joint partnership with the center consortium to play a key role in the governance of USDC. Although the specific size of the stake has not been disclosed, this partnership demonstrates Coinbase's commitment to growth and diversification in the cryptocurrency market. Although blockchain specifics have not been officially released, Circle had already mentioned plans to add major chains such as Polkadot, Near, autism and cosmos to its list in 2023. Circle's strategic maneuvers go beyond its partnership with Coinbase. In the past year, Circle has sold shares raising $400 million from renowned asset managers. Such as BlackRock and Fidelity Investments, these established institutions have also entered the cryptocurrency world by seeking to issue spot Bitcoin ETFs. By assuming full responsibility for issuing and governing USDC, Circle is embracing a new era of autonomy and control. In the background of these changes is the evolving regulatory landscape, clarity for payment of stablecoins, Circle's acquisition of a major payment institution license in Singapore exemplifying the growing recognition and regulation of stablecoins.
The Maverick Paradox Podcast
A highlight from Authenticity and attachment
"In this episode I speak to Sangeetha Parthasarathy about the challenges faced by mavericks in fitting into the corporate world and how to navigate their uniqueness while still maintaining authenticity and attachment. We look at the dynamics of power and the ambivalence that mavericks may feel towards holding power within an organisation. Sangeetha shares her thoughts about the blurred lines between therapy and coaching and I express my concern about untrained coaching using therapeutic techniques and we look at how certain things work differently for neurodiverse individuals particularly those with autism emphasising the importance of being aware of functional freezing. This is an interesting conversation that looks at mavericks, belonging and othering on the nervous system and on the ability to lead. I create clear thinking and decisive leaders who can amplify their influence. Contact me to find out how I can help you or your organisation. And today our guest is Sangeetha Parthasarathy. How are you today? I'm doing great Judith and thank you so much for having me. No, you're welcome. Any time I talk about mavericks I'm going to be super excited. But before I can do that, tell me what piques your curiosity. The word maverick itself and paradox, like two of the things that I think define my whole life. And I also talk about paradoxes in my work and I have had the lived experience of being a maverick in pretty much any room that I've been in. You know, the round peg and square hole kind of thing. I think I sort of had that my whole life and as I've navigated through the world, therefore I have a natural inclination to find and connect with other mavericks. So that's one. And then the paradox, which is, you know, how do you kind of build and navigate career, family, et cetera, with this uniqueness, you know, what, you know, many aspects of uniqueness about yourself. Brilliant. What can I say? There's so much there to unpack. So let's start with where you ended. How does, so I define mavericks as willfully independent people. So how do mavericks fit into the corporate world in its entirety, bearing in mind, you know, the family interests, the curiosity levels, the conformity that's required in corporates. How do you put all that together? Wow. Okay. That's a big question. Oh my God. Yeah. I'm just going to, you know, yes. I feel, okay, so I'll start with a little bit about where I am and kind of what I do. I lived the corporate life for a really long time. And before that, I went to universities and college, you know, it's a very sort of, you do this, then you do this. And there was a point after which, you know, and now I don't, I'm corporate adjacent, if that makes sense. You know, so I work, I'm a nervous system coach and I work with people, not just in corporate, in various walks of life, some of whom tend to be corporate, you know, leaders, and I work and help support the nervous system. So I have a front seat view into this question, you know, like, how do you really navigate corporate life while being a Maverick? Because I see it from this vantage point of having supported nervous systems that are going through this journey. I think when we think about Mavericks, and this is again, there is a preferred level of uniqueness. And then there is, you know, a kind of uniqueness, or a way of being a Maverick that really challenges the status quo, right? So, you know, I want to, you know, one way to look at it is, when you're in the corporate world, I think there is a percentage where of us who might, for whom, it might be really hard to play within the boundaries, right? And then the middle piece, which is that we've found a way to coexist within rules and still not lose ourselves, right? But then there are the, and then the other piece, which is like the top, I don't know, 5 % or whatever, for whom there is a continuous challenge of status quo who actually go on to disrupt industries and, you know, I think, I don't know, I think of it as three buckets. I don't know if that makes sense. And then when you look at it from a nervous system standpoint, this is what's fascinating. And this gave me a new lens with which to understand my own Maverick nature, right? Which is that when you go into neuroscience, there are two things that are important for us to exist in relationship with others, you know, whether it's corporate or whether it's personal life or whether it's community, right? For an individual to feel fulfilled and safe and engaged and to feel like they belong, I think there's two things, right? One is authenticity, where this is me and I'm going to show up as me. And then the second need, and both of these are biological needs, right? So one of my nervous system based needs is attachment. Therefore, you know, do I feel accepted? Do I feel bonded to my peer group or, you know, this community or, you know, work, why being myself? And then we go through our whole life finding out that balance between authenticity and attachment. And then when one sort of challenges the other in a big way, then, you know, we sort of review this idea of how do I belong with it? How do I engage with it in a sense where I still feel like I belong versus, you know, not losing the authenticity or the core of what I bring? Does that make sense? Yeah, it does.
Recipes for Success
Artist Carmel Behan Is Embracing the Labels of Sensitivity and Neurodiversity
"Being sensitive is probably one of my favourite things about me. But there still would obviously be occasions where I'm like, oh, which I wasn't so sensitive. But that's just a hangover from youth, I think. Yeah. It's what you were saying earlier. It's about being able to kind of recognise it and realise you're sort of in that like reaction mode. And like, that's what therapy can do is like that extra understanding of who you are and why you act, not necessarily that there's something wrong with how you're acting. But it's just like understanding it. And you're mentioning there about the ADHD and autism diagnosis, like how I suppose most people have heard of both of those. But if you could maybe explain a little bit about like what they are and also like, how does that impact you and how you show up in the world? Oh, gosh, I'm definitely not in authority on either of them. ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is the official name. I don't really like the official name. I don't think of it as an attention disorder as such. But look, that's a whole different story. So I think a lot of us are familiar with ADHD. A lot of people of my generation anyway, will be more familiar as a young boys kind of thing where, you know, you have a hyper child running around. And I even worked in a business that was about ADHD. And I remember doing a lot of the quizzes and things and thinking, Oh, God, I can't finish this. I can't do this. And I have said before in you know, I wasn't not well, great at sitting in chairs, I was about to say I wasn't, I wasn't getting up out of my chair. But in a lot of women or female presenting people, it's often that hyperactivity of ADHD is internal in your brain. And a lot of women are diagnosed with anxiety and not ADHD. They're diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder or something like that. So I spent a lot a lot of the time thinking, Oh, my God, I have anxiety, which yeah, you know, I was anxious, because I was, I had a lot going on or that kind of thing. But it was only during the pandemic where this is going to sound totally baffling, when I got onto TikTok, and I started following people in America that had ADHD and have been diagnosed. And I was like, Oh, those women are they think the same as me, or the sounds that they're constantly not able to filter out, or the sensitivity to the light, or, you know, I spent a lot of my life wondering how everybody could just filter out that person across the room with a spoon making noise, silly things like that. And you're like, Oh, you're so sensitive, you're so, this kind of thing. But um, yeah, well, I went and finally looked into getting testing done on it. And the be like, I definitely have this. And the autism was probably a bit of a surprise, but I knew that the ADHD wasn't enough to, to kind of describe what what I was having to filter out in daily life to kind of, you know, function as one else would. And I, it was, it was interesting. And it kind of explained a lot of the sensitivity that I have to textures, to noises, to all that kind of things that I had been dealing with. And that was burning me out, kind of, in my mid 30s, I kind of hit a, which happens to a lot of women, because women are better at masking. So they're not diagnosed in school as easy and things like that. And it kind of hits right with a lot of women, it can hit them in their 30s or late 20s, depending on their support needs. And that's when they start finally realizing that, you know, this just isn't just anxiety and stuff like that. So there's been a lot of kind of, you know, self discovering and things with those diagnosis and a lot of learning a lot of
The Breakdown
A highlight from Worldcoin Iris Scanning Shut Down in Kenya
"Welcome back to The Breakdown, with me, NLW. It's a daily podcast on macro, Bitcoin, and the big picture power shifts remaking our world. What's going on, guys? It is Saturday, August 5th, and that means it's time for the weekly recap. Before we get into that, however, if you are enjoying The Breakdown, please go subscribe to it, give it a rating, give it a review, or if you want to dive deeper into the conversation, come join us on the Breakers Discord. You can find the link in the show notes or go to bit .ly slash breakdown pod. All right, friends. Happy weekend. Today, we are doing a full on grab bag. We are going to touch on a bunch of different topics, some updates from stories from earlier in the week or last week, some things we haven't had a chance to cover yet. And where we start is with the latest in Worldcoin, and to kick it off, a quote from Maya Zahavi. On Wednesday, she tweeted the most predictable blowback against crypto colonialism. No government would allow its citizens to risk their biometric data to a company that has shown no remorse in blitz collecting data. So far, France, Germany and Kenya are investigating Worldcoin. Now Maya was far from the only person talking about this. The same day, Mohamed Hersey, the former chairman at the Kenyan Tourism Federation, wrote a foreign firm can just walk in and set up office in Kenya and start harvesting iris scans. The iris is the only unique identity a human has, so with a small token, Kenyans are falling over each other to allow their iris to be scanned. And we think it's just a cool, harmless thing. It's the duty of the state to interrogate such firms, so the desperate Kenyans are not duped into something they hardly understand. Cabinet Secretary, you need to step in. Personal data should be a security concern, and the state must be convinced that it is a good clean thing. These chaps can't just walk in and start scanning the iris of gullible Kenyans. So indeed, Worldcoin operations have been suspended in Kenya. The nation's Ministry of the Interior said in a Facebook post on Wednesday that and how the harvesters intend to use the data. The Ministry added that it was, quote, Now, prior to the shutdown, Kenya's Minister for the Digital Economy, Eliudawalo, defended Worldcoin's practices in a television appearance. He stated that Kenya's data protection regulations may need an overhaul, but that Worldcoin were acting within the law. Of course, since the very early days of Worldcoin before the formal launch, critics had raised concerns that the project would be taking advantage of citizens in Africa and across the global south. Kenya has been one of the largest markets for signups. In December, Worldcoin boasted that over a quarter of a million people in the capital of Nairobi had handed over their eyeball scans to one of the 45 orbs in the city. At launch, Worldcoin claimed to have two million users, primarily made up of residents of the global south. Alfred Matua, the Kenyan Secretary for Foreign and Diaspora Affairs, said, Now, outside of Kenya, several European regulators have also opened investigations into Worldcoin, primarily on data privacy grounds. Last week, the UK's Information Commission's Office, which regulates personal data, said that it would be making further inquiries into the project, but had not yet opened an investigation. It noted that organizations, quote, Now, although investigations into Worldcoin are more widespread, Kenya is the first nation to take the step of shutting down operations within their borders. Kenya's Capital Markets Authority also issued a cautionary statement on Wednesday, stating that neither the project nor the tokens were regulated. The statement warned of, quote, That said, the CMA said it was willing to work with Worldcoin through its regulatory sandbox. Now, Worldcoin said it would pause Kenyan operations in a statement, but appeared to be more concerned with crowd control after one location was shut down by police earlier this week. They said, Now, separately on Wednesday, Reuters reported that Worldcoin intends to allow governments and corporations to use its iris scanning based ID technology. This, of course, raised further concerns regarding the organization's data privacy policies and longer term intentions. Ricardo Masierra, the general manager for Europe at Tools for Humanity, explained, Boy, I got to tell you guys, it is very hard to keep up the normal level of breakdown. objectivity when it comes to this, not because of any big belief that anyone who's at Worldcoin believes anything other than exactly what they're saying, but more because the combination of biometrics and around and find out thinking just seems really, really dangerous. Moving on to our next topic, Coinbase announced a strong earnings beat for the second quarter. The company exceeded analyst revenue estimates by 12 .7%. Now, of course, revenue contracted for the quarter, falling by about 18 % compared to Q1, but estimates had called for a 22 % collapse in revenue. Losses were also significantly less bad than expected, coming in at 42 cents per share compared to analyst estimates of 76 cents per share. This is the sixth straight loss -making quarter for Coinbase, however, the company appears to have stemmed the worst of the bleeding. During the second quarter of last year, for example, Coinbase chalked up a loss of almost $5 per share. Now, the big story was the shift in business model that has taken place during this bear market. Trading volumes on Coinbase continued to collapse. Volume fell by more than a third to hit $92 billion for the quarter after holding steady in Q1. Interest income also fell by 16 .5 % to reach $201 million. This line item is primarily driven by earnings from an interest sharing agreement on USDC stablecoin holdings, which brought in $151 million for the quarter. However, revenue from blockchain staking services increased by 18 % for the quarter and now stands at $87 .6 million. Quarterly staking -related revenue has increased by almost 30 % compared to last year. In fact, for the first time, Coinbase brought in more revenue from subscriptions and services than it did from trading fees. That means that in aggregate, staking services, custodial fees, earned interest, and subscriptions made a larger contribution to the bottom line than the exchange. There's also the potential for a major tailwind to hit the relatively small custodian arm of the business should BlackRock be successful in its ETF application. Remember, Coinbase will be custody -ing all of the Bitcoin held on behalf of the BlackRock ETF. CEO Brian Armstrong heralded the quarter as a success, but foreshadowed that there was still more work to do, stating that, Q2 was a strong quarter for Coinbase as we executed well and showed resilience in a challenging environment. We've cut costs, are operating efficiently, and remain well positioned to build the future of the crypto economy and help drive regulatory clarity. Coinbase shares were up over 10 % in aftermarket trading following the release of earnings. Continuing on to a super weird one. Zach Guzman, the founder of Coinage Media, writes, I don't think I've seen this before. The New York Times just submitted a letter to the court in Sam Bankman -Fried's case about why he was fined to share Carolyn Ellison's diary entries with them and why the judge shouldn't revoke bail and detain him now. So what's going on is that the New York Times has submitted a filing in SPF's criminal case arguing that the court should defend First Amendment rights related to free speech. You will undoubtedly remember that Sam recently came under fire after leaking parts of Carolyn Ellison's journal to the newspaper as part of a story. Ellison was of course the Alameda Research CEO at the time of the FTX collapse and is a material witness in the case. Following that, prosecutors had asked for Sam's bail to be revoked and for the court to issue a gag order, thus preventing him from making public statements or communicating with journalists about the case. Their concern was that Sam had been attempting to intimidate Caroline by releasing her private writings to journalists and would be likely to make further attempts to manipulate public opinion via the media as his trial date approached. Despite those specific concerns, the judge issued a broad gag order rather than one that restricted Sam's communication only in relation to interfering with the trial. This is what provoked the response from the New York Times. After the gag order was issued last week, they wrote a letter to the judge addressing freedom of the press issues. They argued that the public had a right to know details in the case and should not be restricted by the court without due consideration of free speech issues. Their letter claimed that the gag order, quote, However, in a filing late on Thursday, the DOJ reiterated their position that Sam had gone way beyond making, quote, They stated that, quote, Prosecutors pointed out that SBF had created a, quote, What is clear, regardless of whether the defendant was the first source for stories regarding Ellison, is that the defendant, rather than deny his guilt as he correctly now says it is his right to do, shared materials with the press obviously designed to intimidate, harass, and embarrass someone he knows is slated to testify against him and provoke an emotional response and color a potential juror's view of that witness. The DOJ also noted a bizarre fixation with the comments of current FTX CEO John J. Ray III, who took over the firm after bankruptcy. They wrote, In all the years of bail revocation hearings I did, never did anyone or any organization claim a First Amendment right to facilitate witness intimidation. And for good reason. That's not how the First Amendment works. Autism Capital summed up, Not because they feel bad, but because they don't want to scare off their pipeline of juicy leads from other suckers. And now they have to deal with the backlash of the optics of defending SBF. I don't know, man. It seems pretty hard to me to be in the New York Times seat here and actually trying to defend this, especially as the prosecution revealed that there had been something like over a hundred calls between Sam and New York Times reporters. As the prosecution said, that's not just Sam making comment to the effect that he's not guilty. That's an intentional strategy carried out by press, with the press's complicity because they get a juicy story. Now certainly the New York Times is well within its rights to take advantage of a defendant who wants to talk that much. But the idea that that somehow justifies leaking someone's personal journal and trying to pass it off as an essential and material to the case is just ridiculous. Speaking of ridiculous, lastly today, Ilya Dutch Liechtenstein and his wife, Heather Rosilcon Morgan, entered guilty pleas on Thursday in relation to the 2016 Bitfinex hack. Liechtenstein pled guilty to one charge of conspiracy to commit money laundering and, in admitting to the prosecution's facts in the case, identified himself as the Bitfinex hacker for the first time. Liechtenstein had only been charged in relation to the money laundering, not the hack itself, leading some to speculate whether there was an additional unknown person that carried out the hack. Prosecutors said, The stash of nearly 120 ,000 Bitcoin was worth around $70 million at the time of the hack, but swelled to a value of over $4 .5 billion over the years since. This made the Bitfinex seizure the largest ever recovery of stolen cryptocurrency when law enforcement arrested the pair in February of this year. 94 ,000 Bitcoin are known to be recovered from the heist. Liechtenstein faces a maximum sentence of 20 years in prison, but his assistance in recovering additional funds since his arrest could mitigate that penalty substantially. Now Liechtenstein's wife, Heather, aka Razzle -Kahn, an amateur rapper, also pled guilty to charges of conspiracy to commit money laundering and defrauding the U .S. government. The self -proclaimed Crocodile of Wall Street faces a maximum sentence of five years in prison for her role in the crime. Cleanup year continues, and good lord, we can't get through it fast enough. That is going to do it for today's episode. Thank you for hanging out and listening. Until next time, be safe and take care of each other.
The Charlie Kirk Show
Charlie Breaks Down RFK Jr.'s Bid for the Democratic Nomination
"Talk about how this is going to impact the Democrat primary, which I find to be very interesting. Whether Biden ends up being the nominee or attempts to be the nominee, he's going to have a challenge. He's going to have a challenge from a Kennedy, not just the chakra woman, the yoga, the crystal person, the B one with the universe, the gnostic hermeticist, whatever thing, you know, just sit and meditate and get to a higher plane of existence. Okay, great. That's Marianne Williamson. She's trying to become president not going to happen. By the way, Marianne Williamson's welcome on this program any time. Mister Kennedy is welcome on this program. In fact, we're trying to book him. I would love to have Joe Biden on the show as well. Anybody running for the presidency is welcome on this show. You'll get uninterrupted time to talk, and then we'll ask you, tough questions. And so Bobby Kennedy junior, by the way, we don't even know if they're going to hold debates, but this will at least create noise in the Democrat primary. And noise is helpful, actually, because currently the Democrat party is a Chicago style stalinist machine. It's like the Borg resistance is futile. You can not defect. You can not challenge. You can not question. That's all Robert F. Kennedy Jr. does is question. He's made a career out of it. He says, why is it that way? Why can't I sue? What if so many kids have autism? Can't ask that question. Your anti science, if you ask why, now one in 34 kids have autism. Okay, well, maybe it's the vaccine. Maybe it's not, but what other explanation do you have? We diagnose it better. And that's not the only thing he talks about, by the way. He talks about the deep state of doctor the unelected bureaucrats. It's not the only, it's not the only thing that is part of his political repertoire. Robert F. Kennedy Jr. is one of the most articulate and thoughtful political activists going after the administrative state in the fourth branch of government. And I would say this right here, I would vote for Robert F. Kennedy Jr. for president over Mitt Romney any day.
ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes
Caller: 'Autistic' Is Not a Way to Describe Donald Trump
"Actually just pick up my daughter who has autism, so I was running a little bit hot with respect to the use of that language. And I want to send too much time on it, but I'm reflected as well. I thought it was a kind of an outlier with respect to an adjective. That's not just a daughter. I don't think she's anything like Donald Trump. No, that's what I thought. I thought exactly what you thought. And that is, I think, even more offensive. In my estimation, I just don't get it. Right. And one other point I wanted to ask you about is you mentioned that and I voted for Donald Trump twice, I kind of moved away from his camp, but when you say he's not a rhino, do you think the Republicans are in any way, shape, or form, kind of responsible for this bloated budget problem that we currently have. I'm just curious because it seems like the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about. A 1000% Andrew, and this goes back multiple administrations. I would go back to George W. Bush, and they would they spent money like they were drunk Democrats. And nobody wants to address us. And I'll tell you something else at Andrew, we talk about the investigations into Biden and Hillary and Obama. They've been investigating for 5 years the Republicans have 5 years, and we've got nothing out of that. Absolutely nothing.
The Charlie Kirk Show
Detransitioning and Finding God With Oli London
"Want to make sure you had an opportunity to tell one part of your story that you mentioned that I was saving for later in our conversation. You said you found God. Why was that transformational in your process regarding your struggle with your gender identity? So it was something that I really needed and I got to a point, you know, for most of these people have mental health struggles that are changing their gender that are non binary, you know, many of them and firstly doctors should have a duty of care, you know, they should be looking at these factors. We're seeing many kids that have autism, many kids that have depression or suicidal tendencies. They are being diagnosed with gender dysphoria and being medically transitioned. So, you know, I suffered with depression, I suffered with body dysmorphia for most of my life. I've managed to overcome that now, but really going to church helped me overcome that because I was so lost, I was like a lost sheep alone in the wilderness, which is what many of these kids are the transitioning. They're welcomed into this cult, this trans girl, and then suddenly they're outcasts. So I was very confused I was very lost and just going to church gave me solace. It gave me meaning in life. And I've been missing that meaning my whole life. You know, I've been struggling with identity, but it was almost in reflection and narcissistic pursuits. I just wanted to look a certain way. I wanted to change every single detail about me, and I realized, you know, God made me and God makes all of us way done. So exactly. So why on earth should I or anybody be trying to change that? Instead, it should focus on what's inside and also focus on kindness as I've learned from many of the stories with Jesus, you know, when he went to cleanse the leper
THE EMBC NETWORK
"autism" Discussed on THE EMBC NETWORK
"What would Jimmy you said something earlier on in the show about you like consistency? You like things a certain way. I mean you would think that I'm listening to you right now and I already are. You would think that someone with an expertise will instead that's your snap. That's what you need and therefore you need to have some level of the same pace everything because that's what makes you. And actually that leads me to my question the next question is that what makes Jimmy nice and just living happy and good. What doesn't obviously is everything that is disrupted. And I can see that clearly from the discussion we had so far. So I'm listening to you for about 40 minutes and I'm getting your pitch. I get you. And you would think that people around you that know you more probably would, again, maybe I'm wrong. But at least based on what I'm hearing, you know, there is you and your visio autism and you are dealing with it, you are successful at this point. You're doing a lot of good stuff. But the stuff that makes you happy, the stuff that makes you take and do good things, and the stuff that actually gets you upset. And it is not difficult to see it. You are expressive, you are talking. It's not like you're not telling people what you feel. So you think that people would understand that and work with you accordingly and it's not even like a courtly meaning that they have to be specifically changing the treatment. You deal with hurricane as hurricane. You deal with Jimmy as Jimmy, and we do what everybody according to, who they are and their personality. And we can address a quarterly as we meet a lot of people in our lives, right? And so you've gone through this. I want to just jump a little forward. I just need to change the time. You've gone through this difficult times originally, but then you've grown that and you've taken it to the road, then you started working out and I'm not sure I'm assuming you still do, right? Yeah. Yeah, good. Good. So then you work in and then you decide to start your own company. And so I wanted to go to that item. The idea that you started your own. So first of all, congratulations for that, because a lot of people are afraid to do that. And it's difficult, and it's scary. And most people are afraid because of the risk and so on and so forth. But you took that leap. And you did it, and you did it within the realm of your expertise or at least your experience, and what you want to achieve with it. Now, it's funny because you have the name of crazy fitness guy. So what was what made you start crazy fitness guy? Well, what made me start it was I felt like there needs to be a. Way to support people in artisan community that wasn't just autism. Because now I'm going to just name a few names. I'm not going to, I'm not passion them. I'm just naming some my for instance, you got the autism autism speaks, I do not like no one in artisan community likes them because they, for years, and they still do, if you know where to look, their mission was to hear autism. No, that's only ever going to just bash, but the other companies like as autism parenting magazine, I mean, they're great resources. I mean, autism Panama cuisine is a great resource. I don't hate the name. I mean. And then there's autism society. But my point being is that the authors and community, what I've learned over the ages of being autistic myself is that people we want to be more than just autism, we want them to. I'm going to speak from my point of view is that I don't like the programs with the world special or like best, for instance, best buddy is special education I don't like that word. Special Olympics. Et cetera now not bashing any of this programs. But someone who has similar. Traits like I do we'll see that in the negative light because since I well, what makes special Olympics special? And I just don't like those words because it's like, well, you're different. Nothing that's special about special education. That yeah, like my school district did a crapload of a crappy job of handling special education. Remember they came with the blocks as a kid. You put the blocks in the correct pole. Well, my school, I think they forgot how to play with blocks because they were trying to shove a square peg in a round hole. It just doesn't freaking fit. And so they just put off, it's kind of like a Rudolph the red nose reindeer movie. They put all the misfit toys and one island because no one wants to play with them. That didn't sound right, but my point being is that my school show to everybody in the special education classes. Well, one size fits all. Now it clearly does not, because with me, I, not to sound demoralized into anyone, but I was at a higher reading level than a lack of a better word than everyone else in my class. Everyone, I don't know what other levels there were. I'm just using as an example. And at the time when I was in 7th grade, I was reading all the Harry Potter books. I might not know everything word for word, but I knew other words and when I didn't know a word, I believe Google was around at the time. And so I might have Googled the word. Or I might ask my parents, I would ask my special education teacher, but I wear them cover the cover. I read them all 7 books and 7th grade. Well, I actually technically, yeah, I think sounds great. I think the sense book was that in some grade. And.
The Eric Metaxas Show
Filmmaker Allen Wolf Discusses Autism and 'The Sound of Violet'
"20% of autistic people have synesthesia. So explain this again because this is just amazing. When you look us up, it's completely fascinating, but basically what's happening is there's just some wiring in the brain. That's a little different. And people with synesthesia experience it in different ways. He looks at colors. He hears sounds. Other people associate colors with numbers. They see automatic numbers in their heads. Other people can be the opposite. They will, they will confuse colors with feelings. I've talked to friends about this, and I'm not joking. I've always associated the number 8 with green. Why? I don't know why. Maybe it's because the first gift I ever got was an $8 bill. No, that can't be it. Seriously, I don't know why, but I have always, you know, there are these bizarre. I mean, we're talking about we're fearfully and wonderfully made. I mean, crazy stuff. But so the name of the young woman who begins in the story as a prostitute and ends up as a non prostitute, and that's your only spoiler alerts there, but. Well, yeah. Who knows what happens? Who knows? Who knows? Where what do we know? What do we know? Only the father knows. Even Jesus doesn't know only the father. But the title of this movie is the sound of violet and violet is in fact the name of this young woman of her. Exactly. Yes, violet like the color. And you know, I think in some ways, Sean, his character is unconditional love toward her. And in some ways, violet represents all of us, where we're all of us are broken in different ways. We're all looking for love and different ways. And he pursues her with his love, it's transformative. But also her love is transformative to him because he's always had trouble connecting with others, picking up social cues. So for the first time that each finds someone that is actually interested in the other and that relationship is what the film is all about.
The Eric Metaxas Show
Filmmaker Allen Wolf Makes Some Noise About 'The Sound of Violet'
"As you know, a lot of times on this program, I have guests who are dear Friends, this is not one of those occasions, Alan welcome. Dear enemies, maybe that's I've had it with you. I've had it with you. I think this interview is over. You're one of those, you're one of those friends. I can only think of one or two other people offhand who as soon as I am talking to you, I just get stupid and silly and I can't stop joking and laughing. And I want to apologize to my audience in advance because this is a very serious conversation. We're here to talk about your film the sound picture. The motion picture. The motion picture, the sound of violet, you've been on the program to talk about it before, but the headline now is that this film that you wrote and directed, I can't believe it is out in digital Blu-ray, like right? Yeah, everywhere. You can stream it. You can get on Blu-ray DVD. Finally. So for people who don't know about the sound of violet because even I who I'm doing this program forget everything, like all the details because you've been on here. But so tell my audience, what is this film? The sound of why is it called the sound of violet? Great question. It is a romantic comedy about a man who thinks he found his perfect soulmate, but his autism and trusting nature keep him from realizing she's actually a prostitute. What? Yes. And she's just looking for her golden ticket out of her trapped life. Honestly, I just want to say, this is such a brilliant concept. I don't know if I've said that to you in the past, but what a great idea. What a great concept. Because what we call on the spectrum, he doesn't realize that this woman who ends up, of course, being lovely, it's a kind of a whole beautiful story. But that she is only showing him interest because this is what she does for a living. And you manage to make a beautiful romantic comedy out of this that deals with the issue of autism, sex trafficking. People who know you well know you're not that sharp of a cookie. So this has to be God who gave you who can use this idea
The Charlie Kirk Show
What You See As Common Sense Is Not So Common to the Rest of the World
"I serve in Afghanistan, and they had tea boys, the men would rape these young boys for pleasure. It wasn't just some of them. They were their sex slaves. It's part of their culture. It's disgusting, and there's nothing we could do about it. The idea that we find that repulsive means that you are the inheritor of a moral tradition that is worthy of preserving. The Greeks, the Romans, the Afghans, the Egyptians, the mesopotamians, the sumerians, the Aztecs, the mines, the incans, some parts of Native Americans, would exploit young boys and young children. The idea that adults will protect kids is a rare idea. Now that's not to say that we're the only country that does that, of course not. But Europe is an inheritor of that same Christian tradition. Do you think children are protected in the Middle East? Of course not. I just use an example here of Afghanistan. How about female genital mutilation? That's widespread in the Islamic and the Arab world. You think that children are treated well in China, of course not. The idea that the adult that the strong use their power to protect the weak, that is not common sense. And this is one of the great man, it is so unbelievably short sighted, and that we're going to go about changing it if there's one thing I could change. It's to get westerners to realize that what you think is common sense is not so common and it's not sensical to the rest of the world.
The Charlie Kirk Show
Who Qualifies As a Groomer?
"Emails us, Charlie, I started calling local teachers groomers in my local school district. It did not go over well. They asked, for examples, we got in a fighting match anyway. Can you give me some examples of what is grooming and where does it come from? Love your show. I'm trying to get my high schooler involved with turning point USA. Okay, so yeah, I'm going to show you an example here of something and I got to give you a fair warning. This is not a topic that we are lightly, but it is something that happened. I want to get the exact specifics though. I want to get out all the facts a 100% correct before I play this tape. So first, what is grooming? So there are three types of people in the world. And there's more than that, but in this particular category, there are infants, there are protectors of infants, and there are predators. Those are the three types of people. So you could go into one of those three categories. Now, in the west, because we do have a Christian inheritance in the west. Now you might not like that. You might be an atheist. You might be secular, you might be anti Christian, but the values the norms and the customs that are baked into western tradition and western law is thanks to a robust Christian influence. That Christian influence has certain customs that we just kind of believe are standard. For example, the rich having some sort of obligation to give money charitably to the poor. That is not a custom found in every culture. It's not normal human behavior. It is inherited from a Christian tradition. How about this idea this magical idea of natural rights? We take the natural rights doctrine for granted as if every culture accustomed can come towards it. The 11th and 12th century was full. Of legal scholars that were steeped in Christian tradition that were pouring over the scriptures that came to verse after verse talking about human equality,
The Charlie Kirk Show
What Really Happened in Genesis?
"Somebody said Charlie, I really enjoyed your conversation on genesis. Can you do more of it? How do you believe genesis applies to our times today? And so I just want to preface this by saying I'm by no means a biblical scholar. I do not speak biblical Hebrew, but I do study the word and I love it and I'm actually spending a lot of time going deep into the Torah, which means teacher through mixture of commentaries, rabbi teachings, Dennis prager's rational Bible is terrific. And then applying it to today, because what is the Torah or what is the Bible have to teach us today and the answer is quite a lot. So to answer the question is one take on the kind of beginning of the Torah of genesis, which is genesis one through 11. So genesis one through 11 is very unique. It's a genesis one through 11. You could argue is the ultimate issues. Portion of genesis. Not to say that ultimate issues are not part of genesis 12 through. I think genesis goes to 50, right? Genesis 50 chapters on a second. Genesis 12 through 50. But it gets very historical, very literal starting in genesis 12, and it's just abruptly says God spoke to Abram, do this, do that. Leave your father's home, take saraya's your wife, you know, one thing after the other after gets very literal and the genealogy begins. But genesis one through 11, at times can seem somewhat abstract in the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. That's very literal, but then it gets to the Garden of Eden and Cain and Abel, and the sons of Noah and then no way a covenant. And then out of nowhere, if you read the Bible and I encourage you guys to read the Bible in one year, you could do that with my wife's ministry, Bible in three 6 5 dot com that is Bible in three 6 5 dot com. You read genesis 9, all kind of flows, God's coming with Noah, and you read genesis ten, which is the table of nations, which is kind of this lineage. And then you read genesis 11, it kind of comes out of nowhere. So in genesis 11, it says now the whole world had one language and a common speech as people moved eastward, they found a place in China and settled there. Now this is not about the Jews. Or the people of the sons of no, the Jews don't really exist as a people yet. They have not been given that covenant Abraham or Abram has not yet existed. So it's kind of this one off story. And it's a very interesting story. It's the story of the people of Babel.
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Parenting Autistic Children David Grant MBE - burst 2
"This episode will be doing things a little bit differently, though, as I'll be interviewing my husband, yes, fellow broadcast a vocal coach and leadership coach and campaigner David grant. As we talk about our own experiences of raising four neurodivergent children, welcome to the show David. Wow, nice to be here, Gary. So for those people that don't know about our family, could you just give us a rundown of our kids? Okay, we have four children our eldest olive is an actor. Our and olive is 27. Next in line is Thailand, who is 20 and also an actor. Next in line is Arlo, who is 16 and at school. And next is in line is Nathan, who is 12. And supposed to be at school, but currently not in school. Yes, okay, so you just had a little bit of a hint towards their not in school. That's been a familiar experience for us with three out of the four children. Because you've named all of their ages in their names and stuff. But what about their diagnoses? Just run me by some of the diagnosis that our children have got. Okay, I will, but because this is like a pick and mix at which point I'm bound to forget some. Would you jump in if I forget any? Yes. Because you know them as well as I do. Olive, has a disparity. And ADHD, Thailand is on the autism spectrum. And Arlo, third is on the autism spectrum. And Nathan. Now I got a minute rewind rewind back up back up. Arlo is autistic and has ADHD. Of course, yes, I forgot all of it as a whole a whole suit of what coterie. Yeah, these disabilities, they're traveling gangs, don't they? And has ADHD. Nathan a 12 year old has ADHD DMDD. Probably dyslexia. Even though they're still working on a diagnosis, and yeah, we have, you know, at some point, if anybody does disability bingo, we jump up and say house. Yeah, well, it's interesting you say disability because I don't really think of them as being disabilities. I think of them as being just different. I don't think of them as there are any disabilities in the light of the fact that the world is so unaccepting. That's very true. I think that one of the things with an invisible disability so it's called is that, you know, if we what we have done in our family is to recognize that the reason why it's called a disability is because some people find it more challenging to do things that neurotypical people take for granted. On the other hand, without children, it's also proven to be a different ability, because so many of them are able in ways in so many ways that they might not otherwise be able. You know, the gifted in ways that they might otherwise not be gifted. They're different and see the world in ways that absolutely challenge a neurotypical vision of the world. Yeah, and that's what we love about them. So tell me what it was like when all of these diagnoses that you've just mentioned there started to pop up. How did that come about and what were your feelings? Well, it's interesting. I've spoken to so many parents because we run parent groups. And I spoke to so many parents about the initial diagnosis and the reactions have been very, very many in varied, you know, for some people, it's a bit of a shock for some people it's almost like a disappointment for others. It's a surprise for others. It's an explanation. And I would say for us, well, certainly for me, it was in part an explanation. And also, in part, a sort of a wake-up call that said to me, this journey isn't going to be anything that you might have imagined. It is going to be. We don't know what it's going to be, but what we do know is that it's going to, it's going to plow its own field and chart its own course when we first got the diagnosis of our second and third Thailand and Arlo, the ones who are now 2016, which we got the autism diagnosis on the same day. Tai was 7. Aloe was three. What was that like for you? I have to be honest. And there was absolutely no sort of like heightened emotion connected to it, concern or disappointment or what was there was, okay, I need to now discover what this means. What this means for them, what this means for us and how it makes things different. Is it going to make things different if it does? How is it going to make things different? Because it didn't change them in any way. They got in the car. You got given the diagnosis and then they just got in the car and they were still Tyler and Arlo, weren't they? They had to change. But with that bit of paper yeah, it didn't change them one dot. One shot. One bit. But what it did change was my awareness of who they were. What it did change is my awareness that they may see the world a different way. And I didn't know what that was going to be, because there are only 7 and three, but what I did know was that the carnage journey that you can prescribe and chart out and say that the raising of a child is likely to fall within these parameters. There may be anywhere from track a to track B but the train is going to run along these tracks in some way. That went completely out of the way. I didn't realize at the time just how far out of the window it was going to go. But I did think, okay, this changes things. And one of the, I mean, some people might call it exciting with the benefit of hindsight, but at the time slightly sort of slightly nerve wracking things was having no idea of what it meant was going to change as they grew and as they developed. And as they began to inhabit the fullness of their personhood and understand the fullness of their identities, what was going to change. Well, we didn't know. And I think that, you know, there's a saying that everyone to see person probably knows, which is even if you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person. And even with just having two children on the spectrum in the family, the presentation is so entirely different. Yeah, they are. If somebody said to me, when we got the diagnosis, this is what autism looked like. And used one of them as in illustration. It would have completely excluded the other. Because the other one wouldn't have got a diagnosis based on that. It's very, very good point. So you've talked about what it was like to kind of grow in your knowledge of them and who they might become and to understand them a little. But what about parenting? Have you changed as a parent? This was 2009 if I remember. So we've had a good few years since. Have you changed as a parent? As a parent, I am unrecognizable from the parent I was in 2009. Now let's be really honest about this. Anybody who has raised a child will say, well, yes, of course, the parent you are to a 16 year old and the same parent you are to three year old. So there's the natural evolution of your relationship that happens as your child grows and matures. But there's also, I think that certainly for me having children on the spectrum, it meant that I needed to really abandon everything I thought I knew about parenting. It meant that I had to discover and develop a bespoke style of parenting that fitted specifically the child that was in front of me rather than having a general sort of one size fits all approach because it absolutely didn't fit. And really, it's not to my credit that I think that I was quite resistant to that because of the way they don't fit the one size fits all. Then it's obviously because I'm not implementing the one size fits all with enough figure. So I need to I need to just retrain and double down on the one size fits all and it will work and the fact is it was never going to work. And it kind of I would say out of the two of us, I was you were the hair when it came to realizing that we needed to adapt and adopt a new parenting style and we need it to be fluid and I was very much the tortoise. There was a kind of rigidity of no this is how you do it. And you know, I think that with regard to parenting, having children on the autism spectrum has taught me and continues to teach me is teaching me to be a parent, I would otherwise never have been. And I think that had I never have been, I would have missed a lot. There's a lot of their growing up that I got by constantly having to reassess and reappraise and recognize who they are now. You know, not living on who they were last year or last week, even. You know, who are they now? Who are they today? And who do they need me to be today? Yeah. So you talked about the fact that it took you a little bit longer to describe yourself as the tortoise. So how was that then? Well, I made the tool to seem like St. Louis Hamilton. We got the diagnosis in 2009. Up until about 2012, I thought there's something wrong with these kids because they're really not getting my style of parenting. About 2012, I began to realize there was something wrong with me because I wasn't being the parent they needed me to be. And then I was all at sea. I think I took a little while to actually work out. If I've got autistic kids, I need to learn, it's not me teaching them and then learning how to be. It's actually me learning and I think that I think that when I kind of was humble enough to recognize that I didn't actually know, you know, sometimes you don't know what you don't know. But when you've got autistic children and they need you to be a parent, you have to learn what you don't know. You have to realize what you don't know and it is certainly in my case. I think I learned a lot from watching you, but I also learned a lot from realizing that I couldn't be you and I couldn't just be you the deeper voice that I actually had to change me. I couldn't just ape behavior that I saw it with someone else. I had to change the way my outlook and gosh, I would say that you're saying how long did it take to be? Well, the diagnosis arrived 13 years ago. And I consider myself still to be under construction, and a work in progress, because the dads that I was 5 years ago that they needed me to be 5 years ago isn't the dad they need me to be now. Because they've changed. Yeah. You talked a little bit there about you said this lovely phrase bespoke parenting. So just give me some examples of what you have bespoke. Bespoken. Okay, it's interesting because with, I was 16 year old, there was a rigidity of actions that isn't always, so it wasn't just a rigidity of thinking. So with Arlo, we have certain things. I am my face is a stress toy. I actually, I mean, I know I look like this, but you know, I think I would look about maybe 15 years younger, if not for all. All that has to excuse my face. And they always squeeze my face and there are certain things that we do. There are certain actions that we do. There are certain little dances we do. There are certain words that we say. I don't even understand your communication. I mean, you two are like a whole, you're like a double act. I know. It's all part of my being father to Arlo, is that we have loads of unspoken communication. That revolve around movement and actions and dances and laughing at the same thing that other people don't understand what's going on. I've had to learn that I've had to enter into our lives world and learn how that world works. On a practical thing, although loves to have drives, they want to have a drive once a day. It's part of a de stressor towards the end of the day. Some people read or watch TV or they're too young to have a drink, they go on a drive. They sit in the car and listening to music and we drive and 40 minutes later, half an hour, 40 minutes later, we arrive back home and they're in a different head space to the one they were when we left. And that's an important thing. So whatever the schedule will have my day. If I'm at home or if I'm coming home, I know I need to be out for that drive for Allah because that's an important part of parenting are there. And it's an interesting thing that to me, it's not even I don't even think of it as a chore or a stress. It's just part of being a dad. It's part of being their dad. Yeah. Because I actually think that, you know, speaking of bespoke parenting, I could quite probably be a rubbish dad to every other child in the world, but I've learned how to be the dad that the children I have need. Yeah. And that is bespoke. It is also humor. You have loads of humor, I would say, with Arlo. Yeah, yeah, we are a lot. Mostly at me, but often at all because Arlo is really funny at all that has learned to laugh at themselves in a way that they couldn't when they were younger. You know, in the early teens, they could not laugh at themselves because I think they felt such a level of low self worth and such a lack of confidence that to laugh with them at themselves would have been perceived to be laughing at them. And one of the ways that I can see that their confidence is growing and their belief that they have a place in the world is growing. Is for how much they laugh at themselves, how much of their humor is directed inwards. Yeah. I agree with you on that. Okay, so that's Arlo, who's our 16 year old. What about Tyler and katana is very different? What have you had to change very different? In your parenting of time and what's changed there for them? I think in my parenting style and what's changed is to listen to time. It's to really listen is to not be so ready to give advice, not be so ready to give an answer because even sometimes when ty says. I need to know what to do. I know that what will happen is that I'll be giving answers. And they'll be saying no, those aren't the answers. That's really bad advice. What I should be doing is this. So it's almost like they're using me as a sounding board. A classic example is when we run our way up to Holly oaks for their final audition. Time is one of the members of the cast of Holly oaks down. And it was their final audition and they were absolutely wrapped with nerves. And we're driving along the M1. And they're almost crying with us. And I thought this isn't good for them. It's really isn't good. And I said, you know what? I want you to know you don't have to do this. We can turn the car around and we can go back, and they said, so that's the worst thing you could have said. You can't say that. This is what you're supposed to say. I told you what they wanted to hear. And you know, it's a completely different kind of relationship to all that. And how we connect and how we relate is to share time together. Yes. And that's the wonderful thing we're tie. I mean, tiles say there's a box set that I've been watching and I really want you to watch it. So I'll sit and watch. And you know, maybe in the course of an hour, we'll say three or four sentences, but time. That's together time. That's valuable time. That's been our time. And you know, it'll be, I'll get a text with have a listen to this music or I'll send them some music. And tire listens and goes, yeah, I like this. I really like this. And then he'll put that on his playlist and that'll be and that will be a connection to the communication because what tie really loves. One of the things that I love is that feeling of being part of my heritage and my dad played this for me or my dad told me about this. And then what ty does then is to do the same for me. So I know you're like this. Have you heard of such and such? And it'll be somebody that I liked when I was 20 years old or something. And then we'll connect on that level, but it's a very, very different communication to our lows, but it's just as deep and it's just as valid, but it's entirely different. And if I was to switch and relate to time, like I do to other and relate to other, like I do to tie it, I would be completely disconnected from a couple of meltdowns going on there for sure. Yes. So you and I have run a parent support group. It has over a 180 parents, families, and we work with the families and with the children. That's been running for very long while. And over lockdown, you have run your weekly meeting online every single week for those parents. And I've been absolutely amazed and marvel at you and your consistency and the way that you love those parents is just wonderful. I love them too, by the way. But I love watching you talk to it to them. If there's parents of autistic children listening today or families of autistic children. What advice would you have? You know those parents when they join our group. What do they most need to hear? I think what most autistic superior will most parents of autistic children that join our group and need to hear is that they're not alone on this journey. I don't think that most people need parenting advice. Occasionally people will ask, look, this is a situation how would you approach this situation and ask the group? But generally, I mean, we're talking about super parents, parents who sacrifice everything and are willing to sacrifice everything. And by that, I'm not talking about money or material I'm talking about themselves. They're hopes aspirations, dreams, whatever they expected for themselves later on in life is just like that all of that gets put into a margin. That gets parked and everything is focused on the needs of their children. So what they need to hear generally is you're not alone on this journey. We've all walked this journey and so when you say something that to somebody else who isn't on this journey may sound outrageous about how you feel about what you're going through about how challenging or difficult or impossible you feel, how inadequate you feel to the task, it's fine to say it here because we've all felt it and we've all expressed it. And the other thing is having a space in your life where you can describe without having to explain, I think that so much energy is spent and wasted and exhausted by people feeling as though they have to explain their children. They have to explain their situation. They stand with a teacher. People say, wow, your child's your child's not that at all. Your child's like this. And they go, well, no, you don't know the whole picture. There is a different person at home to the one in school or the one not in school because they refuse to go into school. Or the one not sleeping because they're refused to go to bed or whatever. Just having a space where you can describe, but you don't have to explain because everybody else who is listening to you gets it. So is your advice that people link up with other parents? I think it's really important to do that. I think it's so important to do that because I think that in Albert Einstein said, if you measure the fish by how well it climbed a tree, you would think it was stupid. And quite often, all we get in terms of a metric for our own children is the yardstick of a kind of neurotypical world. And if the neurotypical world is the tree, our children may be the fastest swimmer in the ocean, but they're not going to climb the tree. So yes, I think it's really important to link up with other parents who are walking the same walk. Others who are in the same situation others who will be able to listen to you and not just sympathize and not just empathize but experientially understand. Yeah. No, I know for many of our families that we support theirs. There's quite a high percentage of their children and young people and we see this in the adults as well autistic adults might be struggling with their mental health, what have you learned about coming alongside our children in their mental health crises? Wow. I think I've learned more than anything that there's no quick fix. There are no easy answers and presents is everything. And that there's no guarantee that if you do a and B, you're going to get C that two and two are going to act a four. But what I do know is this that our children, even when they, we sometimes become The Rock against which they bash. And we feel bashed, but we're the only rocks they've got. And so the thing that I think is how important it is to be there and to listen and when possible to talk them down and when necessary to talk them up and also more than anything to also come alongside others so that we guard our own mental health. Because it's impossible to carry somebody if you're limping. You know, it's really so much harder. And yeah, our children's mental health is such a big deal. It's such a big deal. And it can turn on a sixpence. Everything can be going well. And then one thing, real or imagined, one thing can completely trans the picture. And so I think that most parents I know with autistic children live as such are a level of hyper vigilance that, if anything, yeah, do what you do and be there the way that you're there. But please remember your own mental health, remember your own need for support, remember your own need to be heard. Yeah, and to find voice. Just moving on to, I guess that thing of school and the workplace, how well or not well, our things set up for allowing our neurodivergent people to thrive. Wow. That's really interesting. It's an interesting question because the question in itself is it presupposes that any advanced society would recognize that there is more than one way of seeing the world and there is more than one way of thinking and therefore. An advanced society like ours would set things up that everybody, whatever that, not just the well-being of whether the neurological situation would be able to say, yeah, there's a space for me. There's a place for me. There's an opening for me. There's an acceptance of me. People are making the allowances I need made so that I can thrive, not just so that I can fit in and limp along, but so that I can thrive. But that doesn't really exist in any way like the number that it should. The number of employers who I think employers should be made to have a number of people who are on the autism spectrum, a number of people who have just had a neurodivergent. I think it's really important we get away from this cookie cutter one size fits all everyone has to look the same and replicate one another's strengths in order to fit in. And yeah, I suppose my answer so far suggests that I don't think that nearly enough is done. I don't think the nearly enough is being done. There's so much talent and there's so much ability there's so much intuition and knowledge and just being wasted being sidelined being overlooked being ignored. And if it wasn't overlooked, how much richer we'd be, the companies that actively seek out people on the spectrum because they have an attention to detail perhaps that others don't have or they have a skill set that I was specially interested, which means that they know their stuff almost as much as a PhD student would know just because they're taught themselves that kind of auto didactic skills that so many autistic people have, if only there was a recognition that these aren't just skills that come from a hobby. These are skills that become so deeply engraved. So knowledge based and so worthwhile that their valuable if we could find and be made to find ways to fully utilize the gifts and the talents that we have from people on the autism spectrum, the world would be a much richer place because so many of the things that enrich the modern world were devised or created developed or initiated by people on the autism spectrum. Yeah, which is exactly what all too kind of trying to do. That's absolutely you've just given their remit basically their davids. And we know that for Thailand, their workplace at hollyoaks has they've made all those kinds of adjustments four Thailand. So there is some good practice happening out there, isn't there, but there is. But probably not enough. And I do want to also about people even disclosing that they are artistic before they can even get to the needs that I might have. It is this sense of disclosure. How do we change perceptions out there, David? Gosh, I think that we change perceptions by I think drawing a line that delineates between our understanding of terminology and understanding that the term different and the term normal shouldn't actually be the opposite of one another. That your normal isn't my normal. And the your differences could complement my differences. The fact is that we've created an environment where two often people who are different in any way feel as though they have to underplay or deny their differences and create some kind of fake fake normal that fits with other people. And I don't think that that I don't think that that's right and I don't think it helps. But I can understand why. You know, somebody walked into a typical edition and started by saying, I'm autistic. They don't know they don't know the reaction they're going to get. They don't know whether the person sitting opposite is going to get, you know, yeah, fine. You almost want to go in and say, could you just tell me what you think is autistic looks like? Hear what they say and then
Dear Dyslexic Podcast
A highlight from Episode 54 life as a neurodivergent parent with Autumn OConnor and Tammy McGown
"Hello everyone, and welcome to the Dear Dyslexic podcast series. I'm your host, Shaye Wiesel. Before we get started, I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the lands on which I live and work, the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation, and to pay my respects to disability clearinghouse on education and training. ADCET is a national resource that aims to promote discussion, dissemination of information and advice that informs educators, disability practitioners and students with disabilities on inclusive education, teaching and support within the Australian higher education and vocational education training sector. Thanks ADCET for your ongoing support. I'm super excited to be bringing to you this special edition that podcast was live from our 2021 living successfully with dyslexia conference. At the conference, I had the privilege of speaking to three wonderful women who are all very neuro diverse about how they manage day to day in the workplace. My guests included Autumn O 'Connor, who's the executive editor of teaching and education at Be Your Best Academy. Tammy McGower, who is a disability consultant in her own business square hole training and consulting. Ari Becka Flower, a lecturer in the department of psychology and counseling at La Trobe University. I really hope you enjoy this conversation about neuro diversity in the workplace and the ups and downs that we manage with day to day. Well, hello everybody and welcome to another episode of the Dear Dyslexic podcast series. Today I was thinking I was hoping to have a really interesting discussion around parenting and neuro diversity and not just because I've become a parent or maybe because I've become a parent that I wanted to talk about this topic and to hear other people's perspectives about how they manage day to day when they're a neuro diverse parent. So welcome Autumn and Tammy to the show this afternoon. Hello, thank you for having us. As I mentioned, I was super excited to talk to you both because we've had some really great conversations around neuro diversity in the workplace. And it got me thinking about how we manage as parents and Autumn and I are both new parents to the scene. Autumn's baby is only a few months older than my daughter. And Tammy, you've now got adult children. So we've got both ends of the spectrum here today. That's right. I think I'm representing the crying side of fertility in this conversation. And I was, I myself have had challenges day to day managing around being dyslexic and having a baby, which I didn't really think I would, but I really wanted to get other people's perspectives on how they manage. And what are some of the things that help you day to day. But before we get started, Autumn, would you like to introduce yourself to those who haven't heard from you before? Because you've been on my show a couple of times now. Okay. Well, I always get a bit stuck in these sorts of introductions. I'm not sure exactly how much to share. But I am currently working at Be Your Best Academy as the executive editor. And what we do is we develop professional and personal development courses for neurodivergent adults. And I'm also the founder of Aspie Rebels, which is a psychosocial group for autistics in Melbourne. As Shay said, I am a new mum. My son has just turned one, which was an unexpected event in itself. We weren't expecting or wanting children. And there he appeared. But I love him all the same. So that's my sort of introduction to, well, being me and this. Thank you, Autumn. That's a great introduction. It is. And it's very true and authentic. So thank you. And Tammy, welcome. We haven't had an opportunity to do a podcast before. So I'm really pleased that you could join Autumn and I for this conversation today. Thank you so much for inviting me. I've been looking forward to catching up with you both. Okay. I just spoke right over you. Sorry, Shay. I guess that's probably a fair introduction into who I am. So I'm Tammy. I am a late diagnosed autistic ADHD and dyslexic. And I also have dyscalculia auditory processing disorder and chronic pain conditions. And I interrupt people because I have trouble guessing when they're going to speak or not. I have four adult children, three birth children and one stepchild. And so I've been doing the parenting thing now. My oldest is 28 and I got married this year, which was whoa and wonderful. Very, very excited to be increasing the members of our family. That's one of the cool things about having children is that you get to increase your family every time someone starts dating somebody. So that's pretty cool. No, no, I haven't talked about work. Okay. So I have a 15 year history in the care of foster care and a long time now in disability. And I am a disability advocate and an independent contractor. And I have to say that you look way too young to have a child that's 28. Thank you so much. It's because I've had my hair dyed and I don't mind your listeners knowing that because I was taken into surgery four weeks ago and the nurse asked my husband if he'd be waiting for his mother in the waiting room. So I decided that aging gracefully was not going to be a thing. So I started going great at 21 and I'm now 48 and going backwards in trying to pretend it's not. Well, I just got my head last weekend and the week before Ava and I were both sick in bed and I just had a meltdown. I was under the covers crying because I'd been waiting for so long after lockdown to get my hair dyed and cut. And I was just like, this is the tipping point. Well, you've got a haircut too by the looks of it. So you're looking lovely. Thank you. So hopefully the audience will forgive me today because I'm really tired, even though Ava is sleeping through the night at the moment. I don't know if my body's trying to catch up on eight months of no sleep. So if I'm a little bit jumbled, please forgive me because I feel like I'm on the top of my game today. And I think that's maybe one of the on top of that, having a neuro diversity or divergence or whatever word people would like to use. So Autumn, what have you found as a new mum, juggling work and motherhood and everything else? Well, I actually find like, yes, it's difficult, but for me, I cope because of my partner. And I'm really thankful to my partner. He has the role of stay at home dad while I work. And he also has a tendency to be really nurturing and caring towards me generally, even before I we had children. So when I get overwhelmed, he helps me through that. And I think that's one year old and having even prior to that, a baby that goes through sleep regressions, it's really intense. And he manages my overwhelm and my intensity and also our kids. And I think part of it as well that makes it actually also really cool is that I work from home. So while I have a home office and my son is not really allowed to see me while I'm working, because we close the door, I do take my lunches with the family. And whenever I pop out to make a cup of tea, I sort of sneak a little baby cuddle or I get a little chat when I sort of want to talk a bit about, I guess, how I feel my neurodiversity makes me a better mother. And maybe Tammy has similar thoughts and maybe you as well, Shay. But I feel like because I had a difficult childhood with my neurodiversities, I want to put forth the best possible experience for my son. And I've noticed already that he has some autistic traits. And while I don't really believe in early childhood diagnoses, I have noticed some things that really are quite significant that really couldn't be anything other than autism. But instead of making him feel wrong for having these reactions and interests, I try to remain sort of curious and supportive of him. So, for example, one of the things that does is when he gets really emotional, he bangs his head against the wall. And he does it to self -soothe and he does it quite aggressively. So instead of telling him off or trying to physically stop him, I help put words to the experience. So, for example, I might say things like, honey, I know you want to hit your head. Does that help to get the frustration out? And then I wait for him to respond. So, from a very young age, we've taught my son baby sign language, which to a large degree really is just Australian sign language, and he uses it. And he also has his own little babbly words that he uses. And for those listening who are parents, you get to know the babbles your child makes and what they mean. And so he has a certain intonation, inflection of certain words when he's trying to say them, which, of course, he doesn't say them like English, but he says a baby version. And so then he will respond. And I listen to him. And then I might say something like, you know, it's okay to calm yourself using head banging, but maybe we should try the couch cushion because then it won't hurt you. And I find that every time we do things like that, where he has a sort of reaction, and I listen to him and we talk, we get closer. And one of the things I've noticed with that is that he now only rarely bangs his head on the wall. He comes to me. So, if he's very twice against the wall, and then he'll crawl or walk over to me and he does the sign language for pain and sad, and then he asks for a hug. And then I hug him. And it seems to just shift that reaction or sensory experience that he's been having. And similarly, when he's really overwhelmed with sensory stuff, I can hold him really tightly and that will help calm him down. And I sort of think that even though it's really difficult to, in many ways, to be with him while I have my own neurodiverse issues, I try to find a way to work with what I'm experiencing and with what he's experiencing by putting words to it and making it a learning experience and making it something that can build self -awareness. Thank you for listening to this podcast. The DHUB is our digital learning space where you can access our first Australian e -learning courses for those working and supporting dyslexic employees, as well as webisodes, online courses, communities of practice, and much, much more. So head to the DHUB today and start your learning journey. dhub .dyslexic .com. Because you've been diagnosed with autism, it enables you to mother in a different way compared to dyslexia is generally genetic. So my dad, if he'd known he was dyslexic when I was growing up, I might've been supported in different ways. And because you know that you have autism and dyslexia, that you're already in tune to how you can be helping your son if he does develop either those neurodiversities, which I think is really special. And I think it might help as generations go on that if parents already know that they're neurodiverse, that their way of approaching parenting might be really different to how we were raised because we didn't, our parents didn't know. And so the strategies you're putting in place already that you probably missed out on as a young child growing up, we're extremely beneficial and the impact of the neurodiversity might be a lot different. Does that make sense? It does to me. What do you think Tammy? I absolutely agree. One of the regrets that I have in life is that I wasn't diagnosed until my children were late teenagers or young adults. And so I didn't have that full understanding of myself and my abilities and my growing up. And you know, my father's dyslexic, my brother's dyslexic. They were both athletic and struggled with spelling and reading. Whereas I loved to sit in the corner with a good book and I was the opposite of athletic. So it's one of the many reasons why I got missed out on as a young girl growing up with our diagnostic systems in Australia. I always knew that I had a big issue with numbers. I couldn't learn my timetables. I couldn't remember things other people remembered. But because I could write and I seem to speak well, and I seem to listen well, I think I learned some skills as a young child about passing way before I ever understood what that was. I found out really, we started our journey in my family with my middle child being diagnosed as autistic first. And then as often happens with neurodivergence, everything after that got put back to him being autistic. And so I was fighting the system really from day one, the battle to have the diagnostic process for autism and ADHD, and then going privately to explore vision impairment, hearing impairment, and dyslexia, because I didn't believe that just being autistic was the whole sum of everything that was happening. And I was right. And so he had weekly tutoring that I paid for. I was a single mum. So again, in a different situation, my ex -husband left when my oldest was five and my youngest was still a baby. And he moved six hours away. So I was very much on my own and again, not understanding my own neurodivergence. And so I really relate to what Autumn has been talking about around the connecting and communicating and that unique bonding that we do to try and meet our children where they are. That was certainly how I stumbled through parenting. One of my children is still not formally with diagnosed dyslexia, and I'm confident that they are dyslexic. But now we have to go through the NDIS system because they're already a young adult. I'm not sure if that answers the question. I think it was more a comment. But Autumn did ask you if it was a question. I'm lucky I've already pre -apologized for my brain functioning 100 % today. How do you think that being diagnosed later in life, did that then change the way you parented? Or did that influence how you parented? How you parent? Look, I think it did change in the sense of we're all on the same playing field now. I tried hard to find that balance between being helicopter mum, knowing that my kids and myself were different from other people and allowing them to have freedom. I tried not to push too hard on academic side. I mean, parenting is super hard, isn't it? And I know that while I tried to be supportive and while I tried to make sure that we had all of the supports that we could have in place with the diagnoses that we had with my children at the time, that if we'd had more information and more resources, definitely there might have been better outcomes for the kids as far as their immediate after school opportunities, as far as employment, etc. We really just muddled our way through as a very confused household, I think. They'd asked me for help with homework. I'd have no idea because of my own spiky skill set. Some of the kids were way better at maths than I was. I was better at research than they were. A couple of them love reading. A couple of them found it so hard. I think that they would feel that they missed out on a lot of opportunities. I'm just hoping that when your kids are primary school age, that we will have been able to create enough of a social movement for dyslexia and learning disorders to be properly recognized and actually funded and resourced so that families can get early diagnosis and can have access to services. I was in a position of case managing my own family when I was near a between the kindies and the schools and the high schools and the different support agencies and the tutors and the kids. I'd love for it to be a lot easier for you both as your children grow into young people and then adults. It would be nice. I don't know how much of a change we'll make. The movement is happening, I think, particularly in primary schools at the moment. I do worry that when Ava gets into primary school, I know that probably by grade four, I won't be able to help her with any maths anymore. My partner said, oh, we have to just start learning maths. I was like, oh, God, learning maths. Oh, please. Just one plus two oranges, three oranges. But as soon as there's an orange and an apple and a banana and there's a train going at 500 kilometres an hour and what is X? It's like, I don't know. I'm so glad my partner can do that. You've lost me after you had the apple. That's probably an experience that all three of us have had, even though we don't all have the same neurodivergent diagnoses, is that we have been aware that we're struggling for as long as we can remember. We know that we're really good at some things and really, really not coping with other things. We know that pressure of everybody around us to just try harder. You could do this if you just applied yourself. You're so good at these other things. Why can't you be better at those things? I think that that's something that we don't want to put on our children. I tried not to. I guess we have that understanding that it's not as simple as just we can learn it. I can look at something every single day and I can try the singing it, writing it, et cetera. I'm still only remember two phone numbers and only because they haven't changed for 13 years. I have no idea what my kids' phone numbers are. I forget my ATM code most of the time. I was never going to be able to learn maths to help the kids. But what I could do was pay someone who knew what they were doing and beg people to help. I guess that was my way of managing not being able to support them with those types of things through schooling. Something that I've noticed when you were talking, Tammy, is from the question of getting diagnosed late. I was diagnosed late with my autism. You said you kind of remember the word you used. I'm going to use squished because I can't remember the word you used. But kind of squished through things. Just trying to get things done while not knowing who you really were. Then when you knew who you were, you were able to interconnect situations more and become, I guess, a more organized, more connected parent. I kind of reflect on that. I think, although I don't know if I'm a good enough mother, but I do think that because I'm more confident in myself and my diagnosis, so it's not so fresh that I'm not sure who I am, and it's not to the point that I don't know who I am at all because I know there's something wrong but I don't know what it is, but I'm actually quite confident with my diagnosis that I find it easier to relate to my son. I can see when I do see things that I'm a bit autistic. I can see the amusing side of it and I can see how I might be able to make it a better experience for him because I feel confident in myself from that space. I think that that's sort of an important distinction. Of course, everybody who's becoming a parent isn't necessarily in that perfect sense of being confidently in their diagnosis. Some of them might be undiagnosed. Some of them might get it later. Some of them might still be in that kind of frantic finding out that you are a certain diagnosis and what does that mean and a bit all upheaval. But I do think that I am a better parent now than I would ever have been three years ago or even 10 years ago just because I have a better understanding of who I am with my autistic dyslexic identity. Do you kind of feel like that might be the case for you too? Do you have less expectations? Sorry Tammy. No, no you're good you go Shay. This one says you have less expectations on yourself because I know now like I know I'm really disorganized and I'm probably going to forget something. So part of me now like I have a bag specifically packed for Ava so that I know that I won't forget things. So I'm putting strategies in place like that but I also know that that means that I'm really flexible. So it's okay if Ava doesn't go down at a certain time or if something happens or you know I have to go see my mum because she's had a bad day or something. So I think that being dyslexic has always made me really flexible and adaptable and so I think that's really helped in having a calm home environment where we're not too too stressed or anxious about things which I think like 10 years ago I would have been really different and even though I worry about you know what happens if Ava is dyslexic how do we manage it or she's wriggled so much is she ADHD or you know I'm already trying to label her and I shouldn't be doing that but I think in that sense it has helped to know where I need help and where I know I can manage really well. Yeah I was just reflecting back on what you're both saying and I think that even though I wasn't diagnosed I was of course still neurodivergent and so I did squish my way through things including parenting and I developed my own coping strategies my own way of doing things so that I could manage the household and the children on my own and then I had to adapt again when I fell in love and partnered up with a single dad and he had the opposite way of doing everything that I did and that was a challenge trying to do joint parenting and all of that after I'd been so independent but I think one of the reasons why it was so difficult for one of my children to be diagnosed was because I had unconsciously created a very autistic friendly environment because I was creating a home that was comfortable for me and communication that was comfortable for me and so it was really only the non -autistic and non -neurodivergent family members that were impacted by our family life and our lifestyle not the autistic ones. I kept everything very simple I read every parenting book that I could find for every single stage of development because I had no idea what I was doing and I didn't have any friends with children because I was such a young parent and I was fairly isolated so you know I did things that horrify my friends who are much younger than me with young children now like color coding the children's socks and underwear so and limiting to only having one week's worth of clothes for all the children so that I knew exactly whose clothes were in the wash and whose clothes weren't and whose socks belonged to who.
Leading Saints Podcast
"autism" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast
"Well, and the thing about it too is if you have a leader and what they may be very verbal, very vocal about being autistic and they may be serving in a leadership position. And in that case, if you have felt hurt by them and you're going to them to talk to them, it's so great for them to understand, oh, it's a learning experience from both angles because they're saying, I didn't know that that was a hurtful approach. I can change my approach. So it allows the leader an opportunity for growth. And it also allows the individual whose communicating an opportunity for understanding. And so it's kind of a win win on both sides in that case. But it doesn't mean it always works like that. It often doesn't. And it is tricky, and it is. There are heart feelings. It does happen. And I think that's just something that we have to be aware of, and I think sometimes before I had autistic children of my own, I didn't actually know what autism could look like. I didn't even know what some of those traits could be, which is why I am very passionate about when you talk about autism, you need to be specific about your individual child's needs or your own individual needs. I'm autistic and here's what it means for me. This is what it looks like. So if I throw something out that seems a little unkind, it's because I only know how to speak straightforward and direct. And I haven't learned how to soften my edges. It doesn't mean that I'm trying to verbally assault you. But I just or to throw you off or to cause hurt to you, it just may mean I haven't learned how to do that yet..
Leading Saints Podcast
"autism" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast
"Study president ehlers quorum, being a bishop where high levels of empathy of emotional intelligence or I feel like we default to them, whether it's right or wrong, but we sort of want the bishop who's like, or the elders corn president who picks up like, oh, you know, rather so and so, it was just often, I'm gonna go sit by him and engage there and see if I can pick up on those things or an individual may feel like I need a bishop. Like, I'm going through a hard time. I need a bishop who's extremely empathetic. You can really just embrace me and help me through this emotionally and not somebody who's very logical and whatnot. And you mentioned earlier that autism doesn't mean they're not empathetic, but I'm just curious in those roles where we really need an empathetic person. How would they respond in that role? So I would say, if I really stopped to think about it, and I hope this isn't offensive, but sometimes people are called to lead in specific positions because there are more or less, well, I actually have to backtrack on what I'm about to say. I was going to say, sometimes it's more for the person that's serving in that calling. They have lessons to learn. But I don't know that that's necessarily how I feel if I really, if I really step back and think about it, it's okay for us to make a few adjustments ourselves although when we are in places of real need, I do know that we need more empathy than non empathy. Right. And so that can be a little bit tricky to navigate and many, many years ago. I had a bishop who stood up and gave a talk in sacrament meeting. I think he offended half of the of the congregation. 'cause I was at the time in the relief society presidency there. I was one of the counselors and I had so many people come talk to me and I just said, you can dwell on it. If you would like to, and you can also let it go. If you would like to. So what do you want to do with this information? And I actually, I'm a little irreverent sometimes. I thought it was so funny. Because it was really off the wall. And maybe that was me being geared up to have kids that were that are autistic to actually let things go. I think we have to learn how to, I always say to my kids, drop it like it's hot. Because you can't hold on to that. You just can't hold on to that..
Leading Saints Podcast
"autism" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast
"Think that's probably a good place to be. And for us today, here's why. What you're talking about, you use the word C and I think that's perfect. When we see, we know, but autism can be an invisible disability, something we don't see and we don't understand. And so often, my daughter and even my son, they've been the weird kids. You know, they're just, they're really weird, or that was really awkward, or wow, that was harsh, or, wow, I went away and my feelings were hurt, but the interesting part is that's never the intention of my children. When I talk to them, and I explain, I'll say, you know, I had a conversation with so and so, and seems like you might have hurt this person's feelings. They're like, what? What are you talking about? And so that becomes kind of socially confusing for them. As individuals, because they're not aware, they're black and white nature can cause hurt feelings. That's tricky. That's really tricky. Because they either end up confused or offended or both when you're trying to sort of build that bridge between the social accused that you picked up and that they miss and they're just confused. Like, what are you talking about? You live in a different reality than me. So here's what I like to do when we're in situations like that or to prevent situations like that. I usually pull aside a leader or a teacher or someone that is over my child in an adult capacity within the church. And I pull them aside and I explain my child is autistic, but not only that, let me tell you what that means specifically for them. And I tell them what to look for and what they might see or not see things to notice, pay attention to, like my son, he has anxiety, but it shows up in the form of silence. He doesn't, which is different from my daughter. His anxiety, he's quiet and he'll just be off by himself alone. Because it's so uncomfortable for him. And an unknown social setting, whereas for my daughter, she really wants to.
Leading Saints Podcast
"autism" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast
"And two is that they've actually like Asperger's is no longer a is no longer a term used in the DSM-V, which is like the mental health manual, which is where people will say, hey, insurance, or insurance, we'll look and say, is it in the DSM-V? Okay, we'll cover it. But if it's not, they won't. So, but Asperger's used to be its own diagnosis. But now it's been smushed under the autism umbrella. And some people were really unhappy with that. But so what's the history with the term Asperger's? As I've interviewed other people, I've known that it's becoming less and less of a term. It is becoming less and less of a term. And you know, I don't know the total extent of the history, but I do know that in 2013, they decided to get rid of that term altogether and just and just take Asperger's and say, this is actually autism. And we're going to put this under level one autism spectrum disorder. Specifically in the past when somebody was diagnosed with Asperger's, they were much more of an independent individual, right? It wasn't like an extreme diagnosis, right? Yeah, yeah, that's exactly right. And that would be my children. I mean, my oldest daughter is autistic and she's in college. So I mean, I've had to do a couple emergency drives to Utah. But she's surviving. She said adulting is hard, and I said, yes, it is. And off I went to go visit. So where's the intersection between the spectrum and our faith tradition and going to church and callings and assignments and activities? And I mean, where do we begin to understand this from a leadership standpoint in the church? That is such a great question. Because autism is a spectrum. I think it's kind of challenging to give it one specific direction. So I think first and foremost, what we need to do is take autism on an individual basis. And I think we need to better understand what autism is for each individual that we come across who is autistic. And I think once we understand their needs, then we're better able to show up and support them in the ways that are most meaningful to them. And so like if I'm talking about my daughter and by the way, she gave me permission to talk about her. She said, good luck, mom. And she's 19. And she has told us my husband and I that she has never actually felt the spirit because she thinks about information in black and white terms. And so feeling the spirit is abstract for her. She doesn't really understand so. She would come home, growing up and going to church. She would come home and say, I'm so frustrated. They said I would just know because the spirit would tell me I would feel that warm feeling well, I don't feel anything. I don't understand what they're talking about. And honestly, as a mom, initially, I thought, well, maybe she just hasn't heard it in the right way. That was kind of what I thought. And so I tried all these different methods of how do I, how do I teach this to her? And the reality is, for her, she may not fill the spirit. That just may be something that is always abstract to her..
The Eric Metaxas Show
Allen Wolf's 'The Sound of Violet' Sounds Like a Joke, But It's Not
"Books I'm talking to the filmmaker Alan wolf, Alan wolf is also my friend and the film is the sound of violet. Okay, for folks just tuning in, Alan, you're the director, the producer you wrote this. It's been a long journey. Give people the 22nd pitch. What is this film about? This film is a romantic comedy about a man who thinks he found his perfect soulmate, but his autism keeps him from realizing that she's actually a prostitute. And she's looking for a ticket out of her trapped life. No seriously. We're on the air, please. Honestly, but because I know you have known you for so long and because of your sense of humor, it sounds like the kind of thing that you would say as a joke. But obviously, this is really, but it's an amazing thing that you were able to pull this off.
The Eric Metaxas Show
Director Allen Wolf Discusses His New Film 'The Sound of Violet'
"They're very few people. That cracked me up instantly. And I hate it because I have no control over myself. I just get like a goofy idiot. Alan wolf, who is my friend, is one of those people. He's a filmmaker. He's got a film coming out this week, Alan wolf, welcome to the program. Thanks for having me, great to be here. I'm gonna try to have a substantive conversation with you and not just get really stupid and jokey because that's what happens. How many years I've known you for like 25 years? Yes. Yes, more than the age of my kids, my marriage, a long time. Well, way before that. Way, way before that. I think I knew you before I was married. Yeah. That's true. So for a quarter of a century and you're a filmmaker and you have a film coming out, this Friday. This Friday, my Friends. I can't believe it. I want everyone to get all these facts. So my friend Alan wolf, tell us the film is the sound of violet. What is this film? This film is a romantic comedy about a man who thinks he found his perfect soulmate, but his autism keeps him from realizing that she's actually a prostitute. Looking for a dead sounds like something you would make up as a joke. But it's actually true. That is the truth. He doesn't realize that she's looking for a ticket out of her chop life, but the movie has an anti trafficking message as part of it as well. It's been called a more serious take on pretty woman, but yeah, it just feels like you allow your crying. Okay, so it's called the sound of violet and no joke folks. This is the premise of it is that the protagonist, what is his name in the sound of violet Shawn? Okay, Sean is what we say on the spectrum, but it's not just Asperger's. He actually has functional autism. Yes, that's correct. Asperger's usually means they're at the high functioning part of the spectrum and that's him. He's high functioning. Okay. So this protagonist because he doesn't pick up like a lot of people if they have autism or aspergers, they don't pick up social clues. So he does not pick up that this woman, this young woman actually is a prostitute.
The Naked Parent podcast
"autism" Discussed on The Naked Parent podcast
"Learning to let go of things. I hold stuff that's awesome. I do too doesn't benefit me. Maybe ever really appreciate how you've highlighted the epilepsy. Along with the autism. Do you have any kind of final guidance. That either is in line with what we talked about or something else that you'd like to share with the parents out there. I think i would tell parents when our kids were born. We don't know. I mean my is typically developing. She's works in marketing very successful university graduate of my kids. I had the same expectations. But i think that you have to look towards that as it changes. You don't always have absolute control over it. And i think we as parents sometimes we beat ourselves up over. Oh i'm not doing enough. All i'm you know i need to do more. I need to do more and while that sometimes true. Sometimes you know it's like that saying you know that saying that people say behind every successful child is an involved parent while sometimes it's an involved parent behind kit child who doesn't develop as typically who doesn't make the progress and. I don't think that we can lay blame as a teacher. I try to always remember that no matter what the parents are doing. They're trying. They're doing what they believe is best. I think you gave us a lot of wisdom today. I know that i gained from talking with you. And i appreciate you taking the time to talk with us. Share your story. I appreciate the invite. And i hope that we can connect down the road and stay connected because this is easier together than alone absolutely. I do believe that you know they'll be. There are times when you know. I'm sure people in the community feel frustrated by others in the community. But you know there. There is support out there. Thanks beverly thank you so much. I appreciate you tip by. This concludes our show for today and might to personally thank you for spending the time with us on a topic near and dear to our hearts if you'd like to be part of the naked parent nation and help us reach those parents. That are struggling and overwhelmed. There's no better way to help them. By subscribing rating and reviewing the show on items i tunes highlights the show's based on these metrics and the more the show gets highlighted. The more opportunities people will have to be introduced to the show where they can hear that message of hope or that tip that can change everything so follow the lincoln our show notes and we hope to have you back here tomorrow where we'll do it again from the team. Here at the naked parent podcast. We wish you the life you've always dreamed up and then some so long..
Dad Hard With A Podcast
"autism" Discussed on Dad Hard With A Podcast
"That sucks every single day triggers. When you do that you're going. Grows a person. So i i want to share the message and put that put that content out there because there could be out there. That's going through the same thing you're going to do. In their in their day suck and may they may want to do something negative to themselves to their life but that they hear a video that turns her found upside down. You know you might have. Just save somebody. And that's why i go. I go live everyday. I don't care about shaggy beer. i don't care what i look like. It's not about that it's not about me. It's about showing up for or people. Yes yes serve others and continue to be an advocate for your daughter and to help people dead that going to do the same or similar things whether it's autism or whether it's some other mechanism that that that child is going through you know what i mean like that's helpful. You're the positive. I go back to the positive energy that you have the positivist you approach it with is phenomenal because you get it from the moment you start right from the moment you start speaking. You can see. And feel and absorb this positive positivity that you're you're coming with and it's phenomenal it's educational but also inspirational because it's positive it's fantastic dude. This has been excuse my french again but his that podcast is fucking awesome. You are your urine incredible human. Being the way that you've approached this fatherhood experienced that's unique to to most but it is your every day. It is the only that you know. This is the father experience you know. And that's what we have to do. Is dad's right..
Dad Hard With A Podcast
"autism" Discussed on Dad Hard With A Podcast
"That you know. Hey we need help and your answers are not good enough. Took too long yes. Five years is is a very very very longtime autism is something i assume you're born with correct. There's different things that go around. As far as i know you know. The science research really hasn't pinpointed that they're always doing research for like you know we're gonna research this for ten years and then you gotta wait another ten years and you gotta wait another tenure as like they really don't know but you know i had the ball with my education so i have a good sense it for me. One thing that really stands out to me. A lot of our kids have heavy metals heavy metals in your system heavy metals for autistic kids. What happens is like you know you got your left to right side of your brain right here in the middle is out free space man as like we're supposed to drain as all the way to read before eighteen years. It's like dreamworld. That's blocked heavy mental block that so what i have learned is that heavy metals or blocking space for our kids in different. Parts of the brain are now starting to function. And they're not supposed to coach it until you're adult adult so a lot of these different behaviors emotions that you see from our kids at a young age. Those doors aren't supposed to open up until later in life so those heavy metals are sourcing the brain to to start to come alive vince faucet. They're not supposed to in. So that's what. I've learned a lot in in by eating real well doing stuff that you know. We're we're working on getting metals out and things like that to to help us out. So when you're talking about heavy metals would what is. What does that mean an i am. I guess i am like you were in the beginning of this process. Like i don't really know that much. So and i'm sure you know like most people don't know that much when when you say heavy metals what what does that mean like having metals like the bloodstream..
Mastering Finland
"autism" Discussed on Mastering Finland
"Which is not true. But i think this is like the best way that you can remain approach it. And it's very good that you are educating people because people should know about it now it would be sort of you know normal thing that people have heard about it because there's more and more children with autism born and it's not any more you know A taboo or something that that children with autism would be hidden away as such however finland is still quite low population country which means that there are not as many children with autism as therapy appropriately in other countries. Why poppulation is higher. So that is something that definitely make defense. Yeah the only other the which is not to mention a make missing the long way of own. He's on the months leaving the city weekday longer than for us because one year one year of shipping hatched and she can have access to speak to against therapies on. Also that repulse was going to the eight and issue have renewed every year. It'd be at six months for five percent of the eleventh justice. The screen upset fill log. Wait is the long before. I also on his was limited. How much for me and for me. Because i was a very active hearings he was iran's new was just into we go tell you. Don't worry on young. So if you just pats on weight you may even week long but everything else but some of the deep providers but the the the here my one of my worry we have your name upsets you you you know. So that's how much was calling the my minute. You a lot you. That was would be as up to us as how much shine to find supposed to my child so i was not be that with ages did he wants to see down on ford because i knew time was of the essence of the message. Soon on supposedly say develop means awfully of the eventually found therapies almost a year. She had done lots of that if she wasn't back.
Diary of a Nation
"autism" Discussed on Diary of a Nation
"Draw them close and that metaphor exactly lines up with our parenting styles. You know joe looks. At jack and doesn't see vulnerabilities. He sees potential. He sees possibility great. He sees the other day. He had them pumping gas in town. I thought oh my god the whole place you know. Or or he's sending the boys up on the roof to hang christmas lights. Jack's going up there with him with the rest of them he is very much pusher. You can do this. We'll get you a debit card jack. Jack's working now. Joe was the first one that you'd be like okay. Every saturday would go to the bank. We deposit your check and we have to work on your signature. Life skills just really really emphasizes that he can do it. And i talk a lot about autism grief. And i say a father's autism grief is inward. It's it's dark. It's something they visit. I think joe visits when everyone else goes to sleep. And he's kind of down on the couch with the dog. A mother's grief is wild and colorful and it fills the room and it takes up. Space in so aligning those two recovery sort of healing processes. It's been a journey for both of us because we just both come in at so differently but seventeen years. I think we're beginning to acknowledge the gifts we each bring. What has jack's autism taught your other four children about humanity. I think they've only known it in as a big part of their lives. It's not a secret in our house. We talk about autism frequently even to the point of saying jack. I don't remember dates the way you do. That's your autism brain working which is beautiful mine is. My wiring is different. I think they've really learned how to listen to people. I think because jack One of his vulnerabilities is that he takes quite a while to respond. Sometimes words are not his friends. I liken them to a bunch of butterflies that are swirling around and he has to take a moment and pluck them out and be able to line them up and so my kids although we are allowed group. They've learned to make space for that. And i think it's translated outside of Our walls they make space for other people. You know Jack is in a special school right here in amherst. He got out in sixth grade and that was really difficult for all of us and a couple years ago..
Diary of a Nation
"autism" Discussed on Diary of a Nation
"Hysterectomies peri menopausal rage Hormones raising teenagers at the same time. Our hormones are skyrocketing through our beans. So i think as i move forward and right more and more. I'm looking to expand kind of the topics to maybe in caps elite. Some of those secret kind of hidden mysteries. That are really very common to us. All i think i'm in peri menopause right now. I know when i sleep. I can tell moodier and i really need to regulate that but i have two daughters and now you have five children your second child jack. He was born on mother's day and at age two. He was diagnosed with autism. The very next day you wrote that you found out you were pregnant with your daughter. Your fourth child. What were you thinking the moment the doctor told you that jack has autism. You're bringing me right back so he was a little under two. I wanna say something but close you know. There had been a lot leading up to that. We lived in buffalo new york at the time We had trouble getting appointments. You know this was seventeen sixteen to seventeen years ago. So we're kind of on the cusp of this bubble of autism. That since burst if you will where became so much more prevalent. I just knew in my bones of something wasn't right reno. I had a son who was a year older. Exactly thirteen months. And i would say to myself. Well i mean joey. Year was doing pappy cake by this time. Or he was putting on my shoes and shuffling around or doing peekaboo and jackson none of that so i certainly was prepared going into the doctor's office but i definitely details at stand out for me. It was a really tiny stuffy room and the doctor was really kind and quiet really an operation mode and you know jacket. That point was like a whirlwind. He couldn't we couldn't keep him still. We couldn't keep him in a room. We couldn't keep him in a chair the moment before the doctor actually said sort of the sentence you know i think this is autism spectrum disorder. Jack had banged his shin on a metal filing cabinet and he just dissolved the floor screaming and wouldn't let me touch them. I couldn't gather him. He just became like a ball of fury. And it wasn't the first time. And i'll never forget the doctor said you know he doesn't seek you out for comfort. Does he. and it was really the definitive for me and as a mother you know To hear it verbalised was very powerful but also hundred percent the truth. That's so sad. Is mother to hear that. And and i do wanna fast forward and say you know Not much changed in the landscape jacket. Jack doesn't seek people out for comfort in many ways but just this week he seventeen he came in and i was sitting in my office and he draped himself over the window seat and he said i love you and he said i have never seen that before and then he said you should say thank you now. So that is jack you know it was huge. It was huge. It is a reminder that the i do come that we get there and and were autism..
Diary of a Nation
"autism" Discussed on Diary of a Nation
"That's terribly inappropriate or rude You know at the end of the day. We want people to like our children. That is just the bald fact of motherhood and <hes> while i don't sort of cater to that It's in my mind that i need to. I need to give him the ability to be his best self. So you've written two memoirs you're a blogger at post and the today show and you run the boston marathon. But what other goals do you have for yourself. Well i have a book proposal out now to cover autism in puberty. So we'll see. If that gets any traction and i haven't heard back yet anybody it's so interesting you ask me that. Though we have the peleton bike. I don't use it. I'm not a cyclist. But i did download the pelivan app for running and i love it. Love it and one guy. That i you one coach matt wilbur said. If you don't have goals for yourself the world will tell you what you want. And i just really took that with me that it's time to put some things on the calendar. Were out of cova now. The world is opening up in so last week i ran a ten mile race. That was one of my goals. Great job which was fun. I know your daughter's runner so this is nothing compared to the world do what's more than i do. I felt good with it. Michael also is to start expanding maybe beyond autism. A little bit as i write a writing is something that absolutely lights me up inside. It is a part of me now. I've logged every monday for the past nine years every single monday. I have a new post. And i don't know who i would be without that. That place to put my energy my thoughts so you know but in two years god willing my subject might walk right out the door and live so close right but you know as i continue to discover and explore. It's like well. we talked about earlier. The so many women's issues that go underground There's so many parenting issues that we don't wanna touch When when the ugly side of of motherhood is is Is where we're living right. I wanna explore that in so That's kind of my my short term goal. I read scary. Mommy and those are some really well written subjects and their raw. I want to see the raw side of it. All i know social media gave all of us the opportunity to be our shiny bright cells and i work really hard not to give into that on my pages. I mean i'll post a happy thing if there is a happy thing. I don't shy away from being vulnerable. You know last summer my youngest son can be. He's a he's a. He's a force right my henry in. He's a great kid but he's a lot he's a lot from. The moment is open in the morning until they go to sleep at night. You know and he had a kindle or a nook and he drove me so crazy that i slammed on the counter shattered and i was heartbroken and i thought you know anna posted about that because i refuse to believe i'm alone i think at the end of the day that sort of circles back to the purpose of any advocacy work. Do any writing i do. I refuse to believe. I'm alone in this. These are universal feelings. Yes in that time and time again or the messages i. That's the feedback. I get if feels so good to now.
Diary of a Nation
"autism" Discussed on Diary of a Nation
"He announced to me today this afternoon. You will drop me off at walgreens. I will buy some things with my debit card. And i will walk over to tablet and you know of course. I was nervous because what if the debit card didn't work. What if He doesn't ever look where he's going somebody back some you know. A new driver backs into him What if somebody really misunderstands him. In the middle of the store. And then i had to think this is what all the work has been for. It is leading up to this point in a million points in the future for him to stretch himself just a little bit and he did great. He bought advil. I don't know why and lifesavers so allowed. Musk has announced that. He's on the autism spectrum. How does that sit with you to see public figures. I mean i think it's great. I think there's a little bit of autism in all of us to be honest. We just don't have the full gamut for a diagnosis so sort of thinking that in myself to like. I think everyone concedes some behaviors in themselves that also can present as autism except that autism. Little more obviously more challenging. Yeah well you know I had a teacher a preschool teacher. Wants say to me. Everybody stems you know. Maybe you run a million miles. Maybe you have to chew gum to calm your nervous system. We all have the tools that we used to cope autism. Just has you know if it's like a jar marbles. I say you know. We plucked a couple of marbles out. I'm a little bit rigid. My one son is a little bit literal. Jack just took the whole jar for himself. How greedy that's true. So yeah i mean he. I just have to remember when. I am want that crystal ball so badly it will unfold and do have anxiety or do you just try to live in the moment..
Diary of a Nation
"autism" Discussed on Diary of a Nation
"I've encountered through my journey alongside autism have applied to myself to each one of my children. Sure it's really been kinda groundbreaking for us as a family. He continues to sort of struggle or have different kinds of vulnerabilities. He is seventeen emotionally. he's probably ten. And so his body and spirit and brainer not exactly lined up right now maturity wise that makes sense to right and so we. He longs to do certain things he sees his eighteen year. Old brother do. And that is you know i. i always say autism. Is you know death by a thousand paper cuts. It's nothing big. There's no big gash note being sort of. There's no like a lot of blood but every once in a while there's just the sting and And driving right now is one of them for him because his older brother as license. And then my third son. Charley today is starting to drive with an adult. You know. and then congratulations congratulations. Try scary for the parents. Of all the things i never imagined. It was waiting for a teenagers. Gotta to be top ten of the top. Five of parenting hurdles. Yeah i said to. Jack how will you feel if slash wen. Charlie gets his license before you he said i will. I will feel jealous but he will take me places. That's a good reaction. It is very positive reactionary. Good so you met your husband when you both worked at knows pizzeria in new york. And what are the odds that you'd fall in love with someone who has a last name that similar to your first name so joe is a cook and i was a server. We sit waitress back then. I don't think he's stayed anymore. Said that back then. I was one as well and so. He was just so cute dark-haired guy but quiet quiet guy so he invited me to his house for dinner and this is almost embarrassing to admit. But i didn't know his last name until i got there i mean. Yeah well you don't really need to know ling knew where he lived. And i don't know so we got there and he told me he's less than the first thing i said is i could never marry you. Because carrie l. like who's to think or what would that be and so you know three years later four years later there. We are your husband's a dentist. He owns dovetailed dental associates. Here in amherst. And i know from being a patient of his that he has a wonderful bedside manner and the way you write about him in your memoirs it makes me realize that he's every bit as compassionate as a father and a husband. What would he say about being a father to a son with autism. That's a great question. I've never liked posed that to him. Exactly i heard one time for an occupation from an occupational therapist. That father's job is to sort of push the ducks out of the nest. That chicks at the nest and the mother's job is to draw them close and that metaphor exactly lines up with our parenting styles. You know joe looks. At jack and doesn't see vulnerabilities. He sees potential. He sees possibility great. He sees the other day..
Diary of a Nation
"autism" Discussed on Diary of a Nation
"I wanna say eighteen months or something but close you know. There had been a lot leading up to that. We lived in buffalo new york at the time We had trouble getting appointments. You know this was seventeen. Sixteen seventeen years ago so we are kind of on the cost of this bubble of autism. That since burst if you will where became so much more prevalent. I just knew in my bones of something wasn't right reno. I had a son who was a year older. Exactly thirteen months. And i would say to myself. Well i mean joey. Year was doing pappy cake by this time. Or he was putting on my shoes and shuffling around or doing peekaboo and jackson none of that so i certainly was prepared going into the doctor's office but i definitely details at stand out for me. It was a really tiny stuffy room and the doctor was really kind and quiet really an operation mode and you know jacket. That point was like a whirlwind. He couldn't we couldn't keep him still. We couldn't keep him in a room. We couldn't keep him in a chair the moment before the doctor actually said sort of the sentence you know i think this is autism spectrum disorder. Jack had banged his shin on a metal filing cabinet and he just dissolved the floor screaming and wouldn't let me touch them. I couldn't gather him. He just became like a ball of fury. And it wasn't the first time. And i'll never forget the doctor said you know he doesn't seek you out for comfort does he. And it was really the definitive moment for me and as a mother you know To hear it verbalised was very powerful but also a hundred percent the truth. That's so sad. Is mother to hear that..
The Children's Hour
"autism" Discussed on The Children's Hour
"Turn. It was small. After afternoon of coding dom fans and so cry excludes so the phone frog so calling on they will carling car known is seen to sounds pleasant footba listening and the smoking skin from food two small boys cone stove. I service the two of the two is now fun. Music frozen boys did in the towering illinois twilight make and docking spot shows. A boy sounds body. Loved out of a stall. first song of his happiness and song is har- to the darkness and sadness school and so assist phone call. They will carling on calling off. Seen the chew.
Optimism Vaccine
"autism" Discussed on Optimism Vaccine
"But you know i'm gonna. I'm reclusive star. Don't want to be in the limelight. So here's just like this fourteen year old girl and your dog. Just just shoot. Shoot some stuff away. And that's exactly what she does. She's i wouldn't even described as reclusive because she's not she's constantly in the public constantly talking about shit constantly. Go you know. I just i just want to be able to go to the grocery store ha so you don't give a fuck about any of this. It's all bullshit to you. It doesn't matter but you are right in saying that she she takes ziegler kinda like shoves her out there right. Yeah launch all your arrows at this this child and this isn't even the first time this happened because this would have been back in twenty fifteen shoulda music video channel but it was the one after chandelier whatever that was last or simply elastic heart. Yeah shiloh buff during his. I'm not gonna take a bath phase of life which i'm sure that was great for everyone and ziglar and they're in like a dome like cage and they kind of have a cage fight and people were like. This is pedophilia see. Didn't really say much. And then there's but there's interviews entertainment tonight with baddies ziglar explaining that it's actually two aspects of sia subconscious wrestling with one another and the male represents her father who could not escape drug addiction. And all this shit is just like fed to her to to take all the garbage. That should be being heaped on to see a and she's a child she's a child. Yeah it's just. I know there's a there's a lot of like you know. See a did this. She said this going around. But i wanted to try to back up some of my sources here. According to slate dot com c. was on australian. Talk show called the project where to discussing music and she says that maddie ziegler had a hard time on the set portraying an autistic person because she did not want to feel like she was making fun of somebody with autism but zia encouraged her to keep going with her direction. That's why we have this. fundamentally misguided awful performance. It's all his fault. She just truly believed in her bullshit project as artist and it is all the worse for it yet. What she took seven years to make this thing again. This wasn't like a fly by night. I guess i'll make a movie. I'm a rich person. She has been she she wrote it. She said that she originally tried to cast an actual autistic actress but the autistic actress was uncomfortable onset. So it didn't work out..