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In The Gate #452 - An Auction at Home
"During this cove in nineteen shutdown. We've seen news programs originate from home. We've seen a full orchestra. Poll awful wonderful recording from their respective homes. But there's no way you could conduct a thoroughbred auction online right. I mean Cain Lynn canceled. Its April sale but wait an online sale. Really did happen. We'll explain how it was pulled off plus Santa. Anita officials are trying to get back to racing as some other tracks are doing. We'll go over the different options. They're considering on this edition of in the gate dates optimal way Roy. Silence this is in the gate. Espn's thoroughbred racing podcast. My name is Barry Abrams who can follow me on twitter at be. Abrams voice or on facebook. Barry Abrams voice. You can also get us on our youtube channel by searching in the gate. Podcast you can find us on. Stitcher soundcloud tune in the pink apple podcast APP and of course in the listen tab of the ESPN APP for the full in the gate experience. Subscribe now in the listen tab of the ESPN APP. And please take a minute to rate and review the show. Those reviews really help others find us. And maybe just. Maybe it'll help those members and America's best racing include us and the fan choice awards this November. They do have plenty of time to find us. You know well you give us good reviews. Then it's not our fault if we're not included in August of two thousand eighteen a percentage of ownership of philly named Atlanta the winner of the hamble. Tony the Kentucky. Derby of harness racing was sold online. It got us to wondering on this show about a year ago weather. A thoroughbred auction would ever be held online but our guests on that show trainer. Graham motion and bloodstock agent Brad Weis Board. Were skeptical of whether it would work. Well this covert nineteen shutdown has resulted in some things. You probably never thought you'd see huge convention centers turned into makeshift the NCAA basketball tournament abandoned the Masters Golf Tournament rescheduled for November. And the Kentucky Derby move to September maybe and then there's this authority bread auction in Australia happened online. The William English and son Easter yearling sale. Which usually takes place near Sydney happened on the Internet? This time buyers from different countries put in bids and while the average price of a yearling was off by eleven percent and the median price was down by around four percent. The fact the sale came off at all is certainly noteworthy here to tell us more about how it all worked. Is English Managing Director Mark? Webster whom we welcome for the first time here to win the gate. Let's start at the beginning. How early on did you get the idea that an in person auction might not be possible about three weeks ago? The restrictions here that have been dictated by government. Silly increasingly initially. We thought we'd rent out around a physical auction three weeks ago. But with less people on the grounds and the need to maintain social distancing so we engaged by security experts to help us understand how we could still auction with horses on the grounds and that would restrict movements of people around the facilities and literally a week before who would shoot around the option the government and all live auctions said that that made us recess very very quickly What heir options were close? We had some industry participants suggestion. We should postpone the salad run in July. With view. Perhaps by July the restrictions would be lifted that of course if we were to delay the sow. We'RE TALKING ABOUT SELLING DEALINGS. That really need to get into the training system so they can be competing. Come September October. We have not row racing season. They commenced selling them in July and not a lot of time to get them ready for racing in September October. We decided we had to really take the online option seriously. Thankfully here it unless either the last ten years we've been investing in digital technology and we have two solutions which we already used. Mortar supplement at auction business. One of them is an online bidding platform that we've been running now for nearly ten years whenever we run a physical auction with a lot of selling horses. We for ten years. We've been giving customers the option of bidding online and we would generally sell ten to fifteen percent on Lan anyhow with people that on at the sale and we also have I guess an Ebay style bidding platform as well but we can run entire auction using that whole with. Nice easy coal horses on the ground so we already have two of the solutions that we decided to use the online bidding platform and create. What we call a virtual auction and we had a week to pull it off when you say bidding online where any of those people sitting in the facility using their phones to bid on an APP or are these all people who were not on the grounds These people on the ground so we did have some clients. Beating from places like Kentucky so Marie Shida from Asian blood-soaked services was bidding from her home in Kentucky. Memory had been apps was dry and she'd inspected wholesome thumbs a few weeks before she elected to come out to Australia and put herself into quarantine. If two weeks and look at the horses on the farms ever fought days and then she flew back to Kentucky and did all had beating online from Kentucky in the middle of the not. Which was added Tom? So there are people like that people in Europe did the same in Japan beating from around the world in terms of on the grounds. He we weren't allowed to have you know a lot of clients. He Wear Hotel here. We've got a five star hotel as part of our auction sale facility so there were three and a half gish in the hotel that were allowed to sit in these. Prada rooms either looking this house or any of that deed usually two the oxygen but other than those three everyone else was off sought. What was the conversation like with your potential buyers and sellers when you posed the idea of an online auction? Well they're all disparate to sell their stock. You know. A yield is perishable autumn there any healing for so long and they they get older every day so you know there was some of our clients. That weren't happy about the idea and decided that they would withdraw in fact Leading of ended decided to withdraw sixty horses from the sale with a view that I thought I would be better place to sell them directly off the farm and have people come to the Psalm and bought them and a few other farms with true. They drafts purely because they're in quite remote. Locations around destroyed was very busy. Go FOOTBA to go to their farms and inspect him but the farms would more accessible. We've we have breeding region here in New South. Wales called the Hunter Valley which is a Beta like Kentucky. Either there Around Lexington Kentucky where? There's a large number of stars in one place and really die. Studs all stood together and invited buys together and inspect the whole on on the properties. And that way the buys at least had some idea of what that would beating on but But I tell you video take -nology and an online repository of information reports in x-rays and scoping reports all of that help facilitate his boss who and there were particular customers that did not get to see a whole physically at all. They had to buy purely off video information confirmation videos and veteran reports and did all editing and inspections remotely ballpark figure. What percentage of those buyers got to see horses in person on those stud farms and what percentage did not look at to put an exact figure on that you know I would side the had twenty percent of the buys might not have seen the horses at all some of my had. Somebody have a look at them. Full of them and others Another oh it's still too to really assess. I do know there. Somebody's that just did not travel at all from the UK and from Japan and had to make a judgment based of say services we provide you know nothing that if you look at twenty eight. When we ran normal sil- we average throughout and fifteen thousand two yielding. This year we average three hundred and ten thousand feeling so it didn't drop that as much as a lot of people had expected the clearance fried with not as strongly normally we would clear about eighty percent of an auction sitting at sixty six percent at the moment so the clearance did suffer but that was mainly due to the fact that there are some moms that still participated in missile. Even that I didn't have a lot of on-farm inspections and what we're doing we've structured these sales. There's a ran one which we've just held and we split it to also ran to on the streets of July and on the fifth of July old. I suppose is that jury from around one or they didn't sell in round one. They can be very often again. July five getting vase more time to go and have a look at them on the phone so we really had to change the way we work. It's about using technology but it's also around splitting style now and to effectively two rounds to move vendors more time at a second to sell Mark Webster the Managing Director for Australia's English and son bloodstock auctioneers joins us here on in the gate. Now I want to get back to the money in a minute. But once the shutdown occurred were there any veterinarians who would represent buyers? Were they allowed to inspect the horses? Yes the the veterinarians were still able to get around onto calms and inspect so they would do that. Physicals on firearms before the shutdown could A lot of the radiographic with which is basically the x ray images that are taken at the lakes and say that Cetera. I've been taking a couple of weeks ago. And so they were uploaded in into the repository here in Australia. We do a lot of presell. Scoping which is basically a review of a wholesome threat to to check its brazing whether there's going to be any limitations to it. Breathing capacity when rising for those skyping reports again would on on farm and they were actually done during the restricted period of restrictions. But here in Australia at the moment if he can still move about if it's for work related purposes and bits going out and assessing is still something that's possible now even with restrictions because it's a work related matter so the vets did a really good job in up letting all of this information into digital repository and that allowed other bits that are acting on behalf of buys all around the world to log in and see all of those reports online and And advice they cons which will says they you know. They recommended purchasing and others. I should have a look now. You mentioned the international nature of this sale. Do you think you had buyer's participate who might not have otherwise because of the time and expense of travelling to Australia with now. Everybody kind of on a level playing field being online identity. A lot of new boss. We certainly there was some there. Were some clients that haven't been active for a few years. Barry the Stri in bloodstock market has really been quite hot. The last few years a little In North America and difficult to get in seventy the values have increased quite a lot and so there there's some I guess we'll be called up some older clients that had had stepped down for two years. Some of them came back in. Because I thought there'd be buying opportunities so we did get a wider range of buys Registering for the south. I'll give you an example on the stats last year at the East We had a hundred seventy individual buys requoted on the shape the buying shape this she. We had a similar number but what was more interesting is we had four hundred buys register to be with credit approval. So the thing about asked. There's there's lots of systems at where people can can be but the system we've developed. He allocates I credit limit to buy side. That somebody that might be approved for a million dollars cannot be above that title million dollars out of the close this out of the system or lock them out and that is really important for us. I leading into the south. We could see we had four hundred buys approved and we could say the amount of credit that we had approved to buys to actually use throughout the style. And what I can say is that there was a Jila Lodge. Amanda Credit approved. That didn't get spin it. The sale and that is because we sort of ran out of horses all the horses that didn't sell a one that people just didn't have time to thoroughly inspect so there really was good demands from from around the world. Overall two hundred fourteen horses sold for a total of almost forty three million in. Us dollars and as we mentioned the average price was down eleven percent just under two hundred thousand in US dollars and the median price was down by four percent. Now you started to talk about those results. What do you make of these numbers numbers? They stack up compared to last year and since their original results were published. We've been able to sell another fifteen most show horses and generate a few more million Internet way still selling horses every day. He even over the Easter Holidays We've had clients coming in and we have a functional Lama. People can just click and make an offer and by a horse after the style as well so that is all happening. I think the results than of very well. We were expecting that the value of lots suck match up by fifty percent heading into the sil- and that didn't happen. You know you when you have a look at it. It's Dan about fifteen percent not fifty percent which is Quite remarkable. I think the KS. You know making it easy for people making it accessible. I think there's a lot of bloodsucking best. Is Out there around the world that saw they says bonding opportunity. The mockup would be depressed and registered for credit. And that's why the level of registrations with so on some of them I think would feel that they've bought a bog and others feel that they like very small discount but they happy with what they purchase and then might be some out there. They see the market. Just wasn't soft enough for them. They were bargain-hunting in the Balkans Wednesday to be had once this Cova. One thousand nine shutdown is over. I don't think horsemen and horse. Women will water replace in-person auctions with online auctions at least not all the time but is there a sector of the blood stock market that could be potentially handled online in the future? Of course there's a whole range of different bloodstock. We we run regular UH auction. So you're onto auctions. Amman way horses literally just uploaded online ebay stall auction where there's no can here involve the horses. It just listed people can beat over a period of five days on this way during that here in Australia now and with at this point the only ones in the world any thoroughbred okay news in the world that offering that style of auction. I said anything is scope for that in North America. I also I think the skype in North America for what we call a virtual auction which is where you still say auction era and the video. But you've got a digital platform that's county up the bids and managing credit approval and Making sure that there's Good security around that the bidding process and so we've got both of those systems and the quad came to help other opinion foams around the world to use technology. Where does the listening to this interview? Right now feel free to contact us. We we have English bloodstock. Which is our auctioneering but we also have another company called addicts technology which which. I also had shared that particular company and all I do is provide technology services that they're in a position to help other oceaneering around the world to do this and I really think everyone really needs to put in place measures so that one even during physical auction that can supplement it with technology and allow customers to be from around the world regular customers to have confidence in those auction houses. They don't always need to travel to be so so they can use it at every auction. And we've been doing that now for ten years. I do find it surprising that this other firms around the world still don't even have that ability when ugly. It's pretty straightforward. We have seen the future Mark Webster of English and son Bloodstock. Thank you so much for sharing this with us very interesting development here Chris. Thanks for your interest Berry. We've seen a few tracks be able to conduct racing without spectators of course during this corona virus shutdown. We'll Santa Anita soon be one of them after the break. We'll tell you how officials they are trying to make it happen. Welcome back to win. The Gate as of this recording only a handful of tracks in the United States have been able to conduct horse racing of any kind oaklawn Gulfstream despite the opposition of the vice mayor of Hallandale Beach. Where the track is located Tampa Fonterra Park in Nebraska Remington Park and Oklahoma and low Salam Mito sneer Anaheim California low? Sal has been running racist with no spectators. Both thoroughbreds and quarter horses have appeared in these races. Santa Anita had continued to run races for two weeks after most of the world shut down on March eleventh and Twelfth then on Friday March twenty seventh as preparations were being made to start the day's card the Los Angeles County Health Department abruptly stopped said Anita's racing operations. The Department allowed morning training to continue but racing in the afternoon then came a report last week. By the website horse racing nation that Santa Anita officials might try to transfer some of its race states to Los alamitos the article quoted a statement from the thoroughbred owners of California which said that Orange County where Los Alameda is located continues to treat both racing and training as an essential activity now. It appears that the low south scenario will not be happening so options are there for Santa Anita to try to get back up and running for that. We welcome back to win the Gate Art Wilson. Who writes about the sport for the Southern California News Group which includes the newspaper? The San Gabriel Valley Tribune. So what happened with the proposed transfer of dates from Santa Anita to Los Alamitos? Well you know Barry. I'm not quite sure who initiated those talks but in talking to Jack Liebau the vice president of Los Alamos He indicated to me that there were never any substantial talks that it never really got to the serious stage and There had been no substantial talks and there were none to be scheduled in the future and He told me that on the record and then also told me Any switch from the dates from Santa Anita too low. Sal was not going to happen and that's a direct quote and then of course. I talked to a few other people who gave me a little bit more that we're familiar with what was going on. But they wanted to speak off the record because they weren't authorized to speak about it first of all. I hope your social distancing from those I can hear in the background. What kind of racing is happening? Now at Los Al Right now you have the Quarter horse racing which You know they have that Friday through Sunday nights three nights a week and then once in a while they'll have like four and a half furlong races which have the like the very cheap claiming horses twenty five hundred dollars climbers now Saturday night. They added five. Eight hundred. Seventy Yard races for thoroughbreds. They're open to both thoroughbreds and quarter horses But in these five races on Saturday night there were only thoroughbreds. Who entered an eight hundred? Seventy yards is just a TAD shorter than four. And a half for long. You can have quarter horses and thoroughbreds racing against each other in a sanctioned race. As long as it's eight hundred seventy yards yes. Why wouldn't Dr? Edward allred the owner of low sal. Want these dates from Santa Anita. If he could get them with a chance for some found money well what one source told me and this was off the record but he said. I could use it. If I didn't name who was. There was basically to people who went off the record for two different reasons why this isn't going to happen. Number one is in the past. San Anita has tried to deny los Alamos racing dates. They have three meets a year. Los Alameda and they're usually anywhere from two weeks to three weeks in length and Santa Anita wants those dates. They don't think Los Alamos should have them. They don't have a turf course Blah Blah Blah. And so that's one the number the second reason is that And going back to the first reason berry is what the person told me is why would also? Alameda does want to do a favor to owners who were trying to take away dates from them. That's number one number. Two is Alameda is in the process of trying to just have self preservation. They don't want the spotlight coming down on them with the Orange County health board with the racing and so they're just trying to stay in the background. You know not too much spotlight or attention on them so they can continue their quarterhorse. Flash thoroughbred need at night a recent report on the blood horse website states that said Anita officials are as of this recording trying to arrange a meeting with La County health officials to convince them to allow racing to resume without spectators as of this recording. Where does that efforts stand? As far as I know the meeting is supposed to take place on Saturday this coming Saturday and Aidan Butler. Who was the acting? Head of strategy groups? California Racing Division has now been gone on record as saying. I'M NOT GONNA take no for an answer so Santa. Anita is continuing to press the La County Health Board to let them over you open wrestling the Alameda Health Board to let Golden Gate Reopen. But then I also read and I've also heard that the La County Health Board is holding firm that nothing's going to be held until may fifteenth at the earliest so. I think that the Saturday meeting is going to be key and personally. I'm not real optimistic. That the health boards going to give in. But we'll see anything can happen. I Guess Art Wilson of the Southern California newspaper Group joins us here on the gate Santa. Anita officials are arguing that it takes fewer people to pull off a race in the afternoon than it does to train horses in the morning which is still permitted if this meeting. We're talking about actually takes place. What chance do you think there is that the La County Health Department puts a ban on training rather than allowing racing very ups? The puzzling part about this all. Because I've heard that in the mornings there's at least a thousand people right around that number with the horses and when they have the afternoon racing there's about one tenth that many people so it doesn't make any sense to allow the training and then not allow the racing and Santa Anita Management has bent over backwards. Everyone's wearing masks their social distancing. They have hand sanitizers everywhere. So they're trying to show the county health board. Hey it doesn't make any sense to ban afternoon racing and allow the training to go on in the morning especially when the backstretch workers health plan and healthcare all depends on the live betting the money that is Game by the afternoon racing. That's all been shut off. And so the backstretch workers or they're in grave danger right now. Well let's step back for a minute here when you talk about those backstretch workers. How is the cove nineteenth situation at Santa Anita as of this recording? No one has tested positive. It's an Anita so the cloven nineteen virus and. That's another puzzling issue. You know I know that a worker I believe the backstretch worker at Belmont. Park dusted positive. A couple of weeks ago and died Santa Anita no one has tested positive for the virus and I also believe that no one up at Golden Gate. Fields has tested positive for the virus. So that's another puzzling aspect. I haven't talked to one person in the industry who doesn't believe strongly that some certain animal rights groups have played a big part in Santa Anita. Getting shut down. I can't even start to get into that. I have nothing substantive on which to go but I will ask this del. Mars beloved summer meat is scheduled to start on July eighteenth. Now we're still over three months away from that of course but the question is at what point before the start of the meat. Do you think decisions need to be made. Most importantly about whether trainers should crank up their horses to be ready to run their. Yeah that's a good question. I mean I was GONNA get in contact for a future column either this week or next week with Joe Harper out of Del. Mar and talk to him about that. I would think just off the cuff. At least a month six weeks where decision we would have to be made on that you know right now. Things are are looking a little bit better. As far as the whole country goes with this New York which was the epicentre. The numbers are starting to show a positive side. So I'm not sure really. I would have to ask Joe Harper that but certainly what you say bury the the horsemen need an to know. Hey we're GONNA ship there or not you know. And they have that ship and wind program from horses out of state a lot of times. Come in and you know. Get a bonus for if they haven't had their most recent race in California so that's kind of a another whole can of worms dealing with the del Mar situation. Well we are glad that you are safe and healthy art Wilson. Thank you so much for bringing us up to date here. The beat goes on as this shutdown continues at any time. You stay safe are thanks once again to Art Wilson at Demark Webster. At the time that we're recording this. No decision has been made about when to run the preakness or Belmont. We know the Kentucky Derby as a set for Labor Day weekend but could the other two racist. Keep the same spacing or not. It's really up to NBC. The triple crown broadcast partner and the issue really is Notre Dame football on the would be preakness day September nineteenth. They have an afternoon. Game Against Central Michigan could've shift later past nightfall if so then three weeks after that October tenth is clear for the Belmont stakes because Notre Dame that day already has a night game scheduled against the Stanford Cardinal and the breeders. Cup would still be four weeks away. So weird is it is to run the triple crown with changing leaves. The schedule works with. Just one little tweak. It's worth it to continue. The nearly szeswith centennial tradition of determining the best three year olds we seek. You can get us on our youtube channel by searching in the gate. 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Meet The Author - The Foretold Story - Katia Reed
"I sure ask a lot of questions and we'll talk about it on this episode of the mind. Dog tv podcast. Welcome i get another episode of the tv. Podcast i'm matt napa. Thanks for coming. It's great to have you here as always got another episode of meet the author We've been having quite a few authors on lately. I'm enjoying it. I hope you are too Getting a lot of good response from a bunch of different authors and different perspectives. That we we getting from different authors. Who approach writing differently. So if you're an aspiring author out there there's always something to learn he had just about every day on this program On that note. I keep threatening to slow down a little bit You know as you know if you follow a program. I do two shows a day currently seven days. A week and Booked up into january. Now and actually quite a few bookings deep into february march and april and hooked up with a couple of new Literary agents in pr people who are threatening to send hundreds of new authors. My which is a good thing because at some point do need to slow down and take a few days off here and there their course. They had a day off this week on thanksgiving. I hope you had a lovely holiday and had a lot to be thankful for We're going to meet our author of this episode In just a minute. But first i wanna talk a little bit about my sponsors than We have a couple of them tonight. Mybookie dot com is one of them my bookie My bookies casino options are as plentiful as its sportsbooks there twenty seven different table games such as blackjack and roulette and almost three hundred slot option seventy seven of which are three d can even play live table games. Video poker mybookie dot com is the most popular trusted brand in the online gambling community spoke. 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Maybe we'll get that straightened out so or you can just join us on one of the real The more popular networks like facebook or youtube and everything will be copacetic So that's my little rant for tonight. That i do. Hope you up Patronize our sponsors and The authors and and people we have on the show to their links will also be in the description. Let's get onto the show Catcher read is a highly creative multi artist with devesh ability and background in the arts. Her first novel the foretold storybook one part one is from a four part she series released in april of twenty twenty took a nineteen years to write the book which is Very different from a lot of the office. We've been speaking to In she started at age nine just eight nine which is also very different from some of the stories. We've been hearing lately ladies and gentlemen without further ado. Please open ears. Open your mind and help me. Welcome in kacha. Read to the mind. Dog tv podcast. Gotcha welcome how so. So it great. Thank you for coming. It's great to have you here Way from are you a new yorker. I was way where are you now. Oh okay wouldn't that. I promise we're not gonna play battleship and try and bomb you. I was just getting like a general area. United states are you okay. That's that's so. You're bracing for a snowstorm. I'm on the east coast to with So thank you for coming So as i mentioned You story is a little different from a lot of authors that we've been having on lately lately i've been talking to authors who Discovered they wanted to be authors later later in life after forty. Couple of them You knew right from you. Nine years old. How how did that come to you at as a nine year old girl what. What was the light bulb. That went off until i'm going to be an author. Well i've always had it in me. A young child. I would draw and write about ladies and create all kinds of In when i was nine conceived this amazing. Yes with kind of went along with my unusual life event with finance drums. Free for me seeing it And then from there. I discussed versing it mouth ears. In his life happens. I would create the story. And if you want to slow. Things are more bigger than what i ever use. It could be So the story they start again at the book is called the foretold story book one part one And it's a four part series. Were you did you intentionally do it as a four part series or it just became so big that you had to separate it or people already if separated in mostly harmless for movie. Did you write it as a script or you wrote it as a novel the novel. I have the forceful story and then the largest story is vital. Gordon's quests that is in the form again off. Motion picture movie scripts as well as on. The board hurts at board pro professional. What so have you have. You worked in film industry at all to to be able to have the Skill and knowledge to 'cause i've talked to authors who every every author wants their book to end up a movie but the idea of screenplays storyboards vision boys. Those kind of things are a little intimidating somebody Oh to a lot of people. I talked to Have you worked in film. I did a little bit late. We'll go on from best and see how they run things. I also learned a lot leading many books. By also there's lots of movies arising and studying them noxious movies for also video games and comic for anything. I can get my hands rise. Wow so you seem like a very happy person. 'cause you smiling happy as you or at appear to be. Oh well gratitude is important. Don't you think happiness in life so As often what people from all walks of life in the arts. And i know you're involved in other things other than writing. What kind of other Creative pursuits are you involved in well. Bright graphic design work. Which is fun. I also have a lot of my own face in like animated shorts filming in really school other stories that have yet to sow top eleven times when you are. You worried about the cia. Might be listening off people's and the hard way you know they don't wanna creatively lazy. Actually make your own stuff. So right. I understand that. Believe me from all walks of life we all. We talked to you know again. I talked to all kinds of creative people in the music industry but particularly people In music industry you can protect yourself in literature literary art you can protect yourself with a lot of copyright and and all that kind of stuff but People who are most upset about it. These days comedians with jokes these because comedians have no they have no recourse no way to protect themselves from that like you can't copyright a joke but you know i it right but you have to do it word for word and so if somebody can just change a word in the joke changes the you know. It's an it's an out on that. But i've i've mentioned that too that it is possible way about it right One of the things i talked to. I know musicians in particular hate Being put in a box and say but the idea when somebody comes up to see a musician or the first question is what kind of music do you play. And so they have to kind of describe it as going to put you in that corner. What kind of book is it. What kind of john. Ruth does this story fall into overhaul hurtful sci fi. Fantasy is where i was going with this okay so and but it does take place in new york city user out of the book theory technology. Grills with it. Wow so you're a futurist world wire. You make any bold predictions about the future in in in the book i do i. Yeah well you know if you think you do then you do. I think so. Yeah you know what. Some of the greatest innovations in technology and in in the world have been foretold in in science fiction that became science reality. Eventually were you a big Student of science did you study Technology and stuff in order to kind of get a grip on what might be coming down the road. I narrative for looking at. He's nine laws and movie. I also dream about many things to what was that. Pipe dream about many teams. Is that what you said. So so you're right from dreams your or your ideas coming from james. Wow that's that's the goal. That's that's a little unusual. That's the first time. I've heard that from an author usually the more platters strategy Had strategical. I guess the word i'm looking for At that's unusual sell talk to me about character development and And you know what your process is a do when you when you're creating characters for a fictional novel the base debased among people that you know people in your life or is it completely from your imagination making a people up as you go on artist always draw from inspiration of life in the people we need along. The way with china's healthy inspires our work though for new. Yes i'm i is inspired by the In life uniting. Kathy some very uneasy won't follow musings for yeah. It's just kind of inspired me race more and then some of it was hand from lysine in my or get the metaphor for whatever i wish to. Oh wow that that's an interesting statement there so the process don't when you when you working on a book do you have all the characters In line before we start writing. Is that how it works really. You know that's unusual. If 'cause i talked to a lot of authors lately especially and they take a lot of meticulous time in developing characters to the point where i'm going to get i'm gonna you know figure out. Even though it's not part of the story i'm going to Kind of create the back history of this character so kind of who who he or she is from the time they were young people and how they develop in how they became who they are. You don't do any of that kind of Planning and plotting i degree. I do a little bit by most. They just comes together on his own. Rather than trying to control it important rather just letting it flow naturally and then all the past elements of the equation. I think a lot of Sparring artist hearing. You say that are Or even Pro very successful to who've written many books here you say that and get a little bit jealous because it. It seems like that's a little that's a little easy. You can just sit down and make it happen where most of them have to kind of really do a lotta research torture themselves and beat themselves up to get the blank page not to step back over. Anybody know the price people pay for. So i i i agree with that one hundred percent you know. That's part of Part of the reason i started this podcast was originally. I started to create a movie. A documentary on somebody who who told me. I was living the dream when i was a musician. Buying amplifier off the guy. And you got. We got the talkative. What i did. I said i played in a band. He said oh. You live in a dream. And i laughed in space and i didn't mean to be rude. I just shocked by the moment you don't you don't know me. I'm not rich and famous and you know you don't know the life i live to to play for hours. A night on stage takes sixteen hours of work. A lotta time and sacrifices that people don't see and so i started doing documentary on it and just kind let people know. There is a in lots of sacrifices. Ask to be paid for everything that you do. When you're pursuing a dream So what what is the tall. It's taken on you. You seem like a a pretty young person. So i i can't imagine that that you know There's any too much to be bitter about in such a short time. A thousand knives. I would say a lot. I imagine from the time you were nine years old. When you started to kind of conceived this book a lot has changed in the world that especially if they some sci-fi stuff involved in technology and a lot of that is kind of changing quickly and change your Your whole approach to writing. The book is yes well like some of the technology that might have changed might have changed your ideas about what's possible in the future in in In what is already available. So you might have been kind of conceiving something that was different. Let's say you started before. They were a cellphone generation or or the ipad tablet generation and all that stuff and then that came along that might change the way You would kind of write the book about that piece of technology being in your In your story yes the staff not always some people you know they stick. They conceive story and i know of of several people. Who've just you know Started a piece of twelve creation. Whatever it is whether it was a book or music and then as time changing circumstances changed You would think they'd have to adapt. But now they stuck to their guns and put out the original story as came to them before all ashamed started having. It's just an interesting way a that cover again. Yeah i wanna see. If i can do this guy bomb a day go okay. It's closer for tolstoy. Now i wanna ask you about that Because this is kind of important when you're writing a book and you want it to be successful part of it you have to envision the cover right But marketing the book and following up and making sure to success. You know the cliche as you can't judge a book by its cover but we all do we all do we all do we. We've if you see a book whether it's online or in a bookstore which what's a bookstore. They sell books But it's a cover that makes you pick it up. How involved a you in that cover designs being graphic artist design design. It yourself a world you did. And how how how. Much time men and thought went into that ari five hours conceptually and everything. I mean you didn't think about it from nine years old and didn't know it would be so when you study right. You know you were writing a book you just thought you were keeping janelle something that i wanted to. I don't know. I just. I just didn't know it was going out later. What i deal with. Turn out the way. The this you know Remind me a little bit of the The feather the feather in virus company that the part about because it starts with a feather on a breeze just writing reading the braves wherever it takes it and it ends the same way that same feather still running on a breathe Is that you approach. Your art is kind of you know. Wh i'll just wait and see what the day presents me and go from there. Art wilson is us. Well i guess what drives me lefort of mason near mark no matter how big or small in buell's or whatever god's clean your view you got all these wonderful ideas if you might have selfish the oldies and not expressly and put it out there. So i just i were it is on me. Just do it. I get dad. You know i think A lot of people are unhappy. And and don't have any sense of legacy. I don't want you know they don't think about you. Know what is the meaning of my life. What's the purpose of my life. And you know. What am i here for when you when you think about legacy. That's what that's all about. It's really you know leaving a mark. Something to tell the world i was here for whatever however many years got gives you I don't think a lot of people think about that. Did you have a A spiritual upbringing like a faith-based faith based upbringing Well yes i. I can say that i experienced. I've experienced a lot of amazing out of this world as well for me. Play spot isn't really listen more than experience. He is very after right You know the more. I get that too. I mean there's more more and more like You know a lot of people when you say the word god cia away from it in today's world you know well on this show. People use words like the universe or higher power But because the word god creates us Image of the old man in the cloud the grandfather imaging the in the cloud. The oh man who lives in the sky type of thing and i think a lot of people so far i. I don't think it's necessary a religious point of view. But i do. I do agree with you. It's an experiential point of view and Knowing that there is something a bigger than us is important kind of For a lot of artists to kind of hold onto like without that. Would you have a purpose. Would you have creativity and your life. Pricing video is the same way. You know we spoke. I wrote this book took care of wrote itself his lawyer who wrote it. I wrote it inning. Middle end of this bus. Is you know life lessons. Stay on god. Metaphorically speaking the focus in real like there's no such thing as a writer and it's like he is whether you believe it or not. I feel real good explanation. I like that it looks. It looks like a pretty thick book. How many pages is it off. It looks like more than i was gonna say. It's pretty thick so yeah it is a pretty take. How long is it. Would you guess like you know if somebody if we take is it. Something people could read a couple of days if they people who have read it so means that it's hard to put down and get himself into the story so if it becomes a quicker to read. Yeah i guess it depends on the readers has to sit in. You know what. I need right well on book club. You know book tube. There are a lot of people who are Dedicated to the idea of getting a book and reading it in one sitting And so a book like that might intimidate them. Because you know that's a look psycho at least a day day investment or more straight through twenty five twenty five twenty six seven hours of reading straight through my might be that much So have you started the other books in the series yet. that'd be written them. Where where are you with that. You just have to be ready then. The next one is in editing. Right now i should be out. Hopefully this december. So if i see days now right. I can't believe it's december. Yes tuesday right december i. Yeah i can't believe this year's flying by the good part about that is twenty twenty s almost over. The bad news is not really going to change anything. Who when the count you know the months change and nothing seems to change all that dramatically. Why would we always assume that when the number changes things are going to be different. Twenty one twenty. Twenty one is going to be an extension of the time we're living in now It's just the the number will change the that's what you do. I only thinking it's never gonna i don. I don't think they've never going to change from day to day. From december thirty first two thousand twenty two january twenty twenty one. Pretty much the same thing. It's just another day exactly so you mentioned editing now. Are you self publishing these books or are you working with a established publisher They are being out with the health of the company of public companies off. I'm hiring mendham okay. Well we'll hire. We recommend to thank you for that. So was it a challenge Going through the whole process of self publishing We have a lot of an aspiring authors out. There and a lot of them are intimidated by that whole process. Making sure everything is Spec wise you know margins and all that kind of stuff or new to people self publishing was that a challenge for you or not. You just read books or ask a lot of questions. If you don't know how famous done it. You go with your business to learn how respond but so and you mentioned editing. Are you working with the professional editor or you. kind of. who's who's doing the editing. Yeah well that's where the podcast hosts does you be dvd. I read out. of course. i'm out association of wonderful. That assist was added. Okay well because it came up today. I had another author ron and we talked about Editing in the process of that and he he said to me a lot of people skimp on Because whatever you know we cost of having a a professional editor and you know somebody who's been in the publishing game for a long time. No see have there. They can be quite expensive but he said it's worth it to spend more on getting the best editor. You can get rather than in trying to cut corners on editing because the product is you. And you're putting your name on it and you want to be at the absolute best can and readers will appreciate Or the end result Have you d hear a lot of ba back from. Have you gotten a lot of feedback from the book and from people who've read it and giving you reviews in contacted you use the kind of all over the place but colossus leafy gabbay five stars. I'm lazy. I think that's pretty good. Yeah it definitely is pretty good getting engagement and getting people to leave a review at all is difficult. i know a lot of authors struggle with that A d do anything in particular to encourage that or or now. You gotta be betas advocate for your work. You believe in it enough and you have beef. You can't give up just because like You don't see a harvest right away. You're planning and planning ahead up by find. The hardest us from crop starts sprouting. You know because you were stuttering all speed reading the wording writing you would hackel you. You love metaphor is not you know you do out. So are you active on social media. I mean how much how much time and energy do you put in marketing. Your first book ally through. It's a humbling process. It handling. Because i appreciate it. And i don't feel so entitled right. Well good stuff. Yeah i hear that loud and clear is an audio book yet. I talked to my son my three. Well you know you. You don't necessarily have to do it yourself. People you have other people do form but yeah i. I hear that you know The reading itself Had in my opinion. I thought with kind of taking a backseat and not as many people were involved in reading. Because she social media and people live for the short word counseling and tweets and facebook memes and that kind of stuff but What i'm hearing is that book. Sales are really healthy right now. A lot more people reading than i thought which doesn't explain to me why audio books are so much so popular now because well tell me well because you don't have friends at least leave some friends. It's nice to have the pride reading while you're doing whatever you need to do like let's just say oh i gotta clean the house floor audience lesson you can listen to feel screener. That has been my position and i get shot down every time. I say that life is busy even in the pandemic when people lockdown they still find very busy and don't have time to sit and read a book. that's what i've been saying. But every authorized eighty two. They said no you. Don't you don't understand. You know more books published this year and more books was sold this year than any year. Previously i mean hardcover. Our actual print copy books as well as the the audio book. So i'm not sure that that explanation really really west. 'cause i've been running that explanation for a long time and get shot up. I mean i think because the technology and everything people allows the computer to be the worst boy then he leaves the bus but there is another argument out there something special about holding hands and splitting the phases about a ray of light in your eyes. You know what i mean so with the lot with lockdowns and everything were closing the business. I don't wanna call necessarily lockdowns but Where people taking precautions and check and businesses being closed. You missed out on or missing out on part of the author experience which is the book signing way. You get to actually meet your fans in person. They come in they tell you how much they love you working. They just throw lots of praise on you. And you sign an autograph for them That crossed your mind. That you're missing out on that because of my life and i live fly all the little I don't think the missing at all. I think so. Things come in time. But i think it's still a bit early for my book to view lights. His book and fat. I'm not sure about that. Most again talking to a lot of authors. That's in some of them. Hated by the way some of them hate that because a lot of authors are introverts by by nature right. That's why they become right because it's easier to write than it is to talk sometimes but so a lot of them hate it. But i think it's a very big part of the experience of Authorship and an exciting an exciting part for most people especially first time authors get out there and they get treated like a celebrity people. Line up to people waiting a wine to see you eos roy. No it's not even a outside. It's about those facts. And what are you doing this for us. South glory and or is it something bigger something more like i said it doesn't matter if only one st this thousand before this is a reading it they're gonna get something out of that. Means unfulfilling meister system. Life in leaving that mark everything else will come into the fray. But it's just like you have to find the holidays it s not. I haven't quite earned that mark yet that milestone where i will go out view of refining. I know think yet but when the time does i. Don't i understand exactly what he can wait. You coming from with that. And in part of me agrees with you but part of may disagrees in that Y- i understand you. Put it out there for a bigger purpose and the work during the workers in in itself a reward for a four. What you what you got into it you doing it and it paying off as you doing it but at some point and i i treat music same way in a lot of ways but at some point the applause is reassuring and to just to know that people appreciate your work and And and really value find the value in it that can be extremely rewarding and and can really boost your creativity a lot of times when you find out that your work actually means something to people and they can tell you. Look you in the eye. And say i really thank you for the work. You did hear it touch meanest very strongly and they can explain why that does something to you very positive heart. I've been in that position. So yes ballet so you do ballet to on awhile ago and metoo kidding advice lean is. Let's say the nutcracker you know everybody wants your leading star rule in you know when i first is the nutcracker years ago i started out as a any and all i had was inspecting onstage hopping around on the stick and having to help the nutcracker prince will athlete the nutcracker prince. Save me from the rat pool for my plane. Is he working. Ceo in works of fires and deals with the most one hundred eighty and then became a point where gossiping under stadium at without his highway. There were these principal answers from famous. Battling houses by forming that year. And i only the only study. And i used to go on yankees needs and i would learn the part of my headphones side. Can you hear me. i can hear you fine. Yes it was out of time. So i would. I didn't think i guess. Actually claire was never liked dark. Skin ballerinas not haina thing. I would just imagine the those the stays in the audience with people. And i'm in the park. Didn't have a costume. Arner no props to work with or dancers in one day. I got called in my ballet teacher rumors for all that and you was Apart from the state even thought that i might not have to perform at all and then at the time band spirit that was playing. He got hurt and i have disease apart and it was really really phenomenal. I'll never forgetting in at the end of it. There were flowers thrown in the midst of an applause was the most beautiful gift comes in years in a lot of hard seeking work and throwing up even when only for an nc her up with their under present in games and he will be warning for that in time. Those yeah offer any area of art whether you're like oh artist or or an offer or a doctor for crying out loud always up with reading the word. Great great attitude. Great words there and the way you delivered it was Very inspiring i say that the but do you realize edu realize. You're pretty atypical for for a young person in today's society. yes atypical. meaning that attitude of a have to earn it. I have to work hard. And i have to do it for a purpose in because most it's very common and i'm going to say most most young people today just think they are. They are Entitled to that starring role right off the bat. I don't have to you know why. Why should i work for it. I'm entitled to be and they. The goal is not necessarily the work. The goal is to fame or fortune or anything that comes with it so. I think you're atypical. In not having that attitude lock yeah. Atypical is not the typical Young person who has that kind of idea of being entitled or or actually embracing the idea that you need to work for something. That's not a typical thing in today's society. Atypical means not typical. I didn't know okay. Well i'm glad i could clear that up for so so Do you avenue long long term goals. Do you work on. Basically you know one day at a time type goals. I have very hardly dream right. It's so legally dream. But i don't care it's i'm looking for all well. We talk a little bit about entitlement. I think every person is entitled to a dream and and having something they wanted to achieve your that much were entitled to now getting there requires the work. But i think everybody's entitled to james so you will blushing there about Yeah you don't have to feel that's natural that's part of the human process in a as part of who we are So i'm an old guy. I'm if you haven't guessed that already a very old man And probably not going to live long enough to see the future that you write about anything. I got any predictions for the time. Span that i have left which is probably about twenty years. What can i expect from the future. Technology wave that's skins bumps or. Should i wait. I say space travel was will probably be very cool thing. And there'll be a really cool eight commonly everybody's finally implying most news. Yeah look it. I think is what do you have any beliefs on that because you know. I'm i'm shocked by some. After after conversations i've had with people i had very straight laced business people on here and then basically Sm you know. Having a conversation off the air and they they would mention things like The government has technology that aliens broad and they just holding back on using that stuff for space travel and stuff the have any beliefs in in that along those lines There is a space technology or the technology that is available within. Our government comes from extraterrestrial. I think a lot of only see if a movie is really dispassionately lynch. Well that's a. That's a pretty big rabbit hole because you know and again i do talk to even conspiracy theories on the show and i had a guy on clear month ago. Who was telling me about the life on mars. That was a radical by nuclear holocaust on mars. Ninety thousand i think ninety thousand years ago. Yeah ninety thousand years ago But and all those kinds of things but space travel has always. Because i grew up in the era went up. You know dating myself now. When the first moon missions were were happening in the apollo program and all that stuff so space travel was very appealing to me as a young man. Now if i was offered the chance i would. I don't think i would. I would go. We find you can rely on mars. Arctic again would be very expensive right so when when they talk about things like colonizing mars. That scares me. Like i wouldn't want to leave. You wouldn't wanna do it. But i think it's a possibility that it in your lifetime at least something like that might happen. It could very well. I mean if possible. Would i recommend it. I think earth is very life advice. Gravity free air gravity to i've had people on the program who did not believe gravity was real Back to the conspiracy theorists people. I had flat earth people People are believed to slack and they don't believe in gravity gravity is ally the delighted the big bay Whoever they are tells us don't ask. I'm a big fan. I'm a big fan of gravity when it comes to staying on the planet but so sci-fi as you think did you read a lot of sci-fi growing up. I read a couple. My very mindful always has acknowledged going era comic books and video games. Well it c- that a comic books can relate to but I'm sure the comic books. I read when i was young. Were very different from the comic books you you know today or even when you were a young girl. Yeah you know. I study blake the on the my old movies to the newest movie. Layoffs will study like the earliest video game for the latest one. Really the latest on this was off to. I believe in life starting with pencil and paper you will address zero and then you combine phonology with that well. That's pretty cool stuff. I don't think anybody draws. I'm very few people i see are drawing actually with pen and paper or pencil and paper anymore. Most of it happens on a tablet and a computer and yeah So with With that said do you see yourself writing anything. It's not sci-fi based in future or or non firefighting stuff. I got full burgess. Different kinds of things you write about the size fever matt romance is it. Don't don't write. Romance isn't enough for romance writers out there believe me. We don't need any more brilliant but for me. When i write i write about why. Why has it romantic. Moments is bad moments. Terrifying moments is mysterious moments. It's not a cool moment. When i do on write a story. I incorporate all new elements of way and it doesn't even have to be your romance these youthful. It could be another romance. Laurie of like friends or others close. Wow yeah so that. That's a good point. But you know i've talked to a lot of authors and a lot of young women especially want to they write lots of romance stuff and It's it's a genre that appeals only two women so people like me are always gonna say now we have. We have enough romance books. Let's have a some something more interesting How about nonfiction. Do you have any desire to ever kind of right anything. that's nonfiction. Like real world stuff. A when when you say you studied the golden era of films how far back we can talk if you like black and white movies. We're really my wife. Isn't that much i mean. Compared to you. She's she's old but she's younger than i am. And she can't stand me watching black and white movie. She's just doesn't get it like only so much simpler in you know. The role is fine. But you never really closer. Look at the spire. Holly did in. The music wasn't will the films obviously wrote on music and everything like that. I don't really fascinating compelling story with little effort in the audience slicer energy. How anything if you'll is now. Finally are you everything right and what what made them work. It's still the same thing that makes movies and books and everything worked itself suspension of disbelief because even in modern film if we if we get to analytical about it and try to analyze every frame every shot and what. They're doing why were watching it. It can take a lot of the joy of the story out of it and that's what it so. The same element of suspension of disbelief is what made some of those really silly looking black and white movies. Believable and engage -able at the time they were happening. Because you sit there and you you let for some. We have the ability just to kind of forget about what what that we know. This can't be real. Just get engaged with the story. And that's that's a you know a very fascinating part of the human human condition for me is that we willfully can hang up our reasoning and and just go along with this story So even i am apply. But i generally think the first time through i wanna not dissect them and then if you want to go back and watch it again in from a analytical point of view especially with film That that seems to be a better way to do it. But now if i watched films too many times i really chopped them apart and look for mistakes in them and and all that guys look for things that are inconsistent. That couldn't be just like you. Point them out So it's been quite a Interesting talk with is. I mentioned life right from the start. Your approach is different from a lot of people that i've talked to lately Not that different from everybody more. Most of the authors talked to first of all either were very sure they were going to be an author when they grew up. And you know we had always planned to be or they never planned to end. It happened as like a midlife crisis. Type of think you're can right in the middle. You started writing but didn't expect it to be a book and then had so many other creative Energies they they'd go along. Sr of this is just something you did in nineteen years to do all does that night. One thousand nine years include all four parts or is that just part one. I'll four hundred leading the largest story with gordon's class Years i spent time Developing matt that's the largest story that uses this book which is the frequency ran I did all. the artwork. Animations on concepts is developing all the a world in the universe that he cares leaving in a lot way news. Has you know. And they said when there wasn't a lot of opportunity for me. 'cause you know i've bega. Yes he mike was needed. Who feel like narrative right I forget what is even asking you now when that so rudely happened so Where was i took. What was i talking about when that happened. I don't remember now. Does anybody who you're asking. I think it was about nineteen years. Oh and i was telling you. I did all i at least in developing right things and stuff. Yes oh yeah. I remember now what i wanted to ask you so you. You main protagonists the the the the subject the main character is a male so it's difficult to kind of Almost always almost exclusively the hero. The protagonist the main character in the story is the same gender as as the author almost exclusively when it went whenever i talk to office. Was that something difficult for you to kind of get into the mindset of had away i think is a male. That's that's interesting i again. You're very different from just about every other author. I've had on the showing with respect to abu from when you knew you wanted to be an ought to howard developed and how you how your path went and your approach to it is completely different than just about every other author i've had on so i i celebrate in that. I mean it's good to be different to be can. Have your own passed the. Consider yourself a trailblazer. I'm gonna go my own way. I i make up my own rules in life and don't necessarily play by the rules of the people said out for me i'll walk. I'm a real breaking all right. Well the url again is the foretold story. It's available that you want to hold up the book one more time so we were in and and look at this cover folks. Yeah let me put it right there. Very cool design Yet definitely you know what When you were nine. I'm guessing and this was probably guessing you say is kind of confidential but i'm guessing well trade towers was still part of that skyscraper landscape of new york city. When you were nine years old. I know yeah i'm cool. Yeah 'cause they're not part of that the landscape of new york city as you as you wrote that. So that's part of that that has definitely changed and And because it is part you know does take place in that skyscraper metropolis of the city. So that's one way. The book is changed from when it was conceived until now right law like i said life happens. The story happened to you. In a lot of ways in some again came into the king through the dreams and everything in the vision and then life unusual encounters and of those elements kind of made the recipe stirring the pot minds me of a john lennon quote. Life is what happens. Whoa you're busy making other plans And yeah the definitely i can. I can understand that and For a young person nineteen years is an eternity of for an old person. Nineteen years as a blink of an eye So it it just comes out that way. I appreciate your time here tonight. 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GSMC Football Podcast Episode 598: Reggie's Redemption
"Keep yourself in the loop of everything football under the golden state media concept's football podcast latest news on in the field be at College Football Ten sec twelve twelve ACC to the NFL with got you covered. Listen to golden state media concepts football podcast. Welcome to the G. S. M. C., football podcast are the GMC podcast network I am. One of two along with Bryce. who was to two and it is another week? Of Football. You know the football chronicles of this. You know the United States. We don't know just how come back, but we do know is trying his hardest and a lot of things going on, but first and foremost bryce. How are you doing man? How life? Bill well ride just. Doing what I do every day just trying to smile on here just like everybody else's. I feel that one hundred percent. It is. A. It's a weird time to be a football fan right now because there's just every other day, you just not share. If this is the right move, they'll a lot of the league. In different entities of football are doing. One of the one of the better moves that has occurred in recent time. Is Reggie Bush has been redeemed their redemption. It's been a long time coming as. If, you know me, you know. My favorite position in football are running backs and. Although running backs at this moment in time, their value has the Excuse me. Their value has depreciated. They have become. They have many tendencies tendencies to hold out for money, because they have no choice or else, they might run into situations where you know injuries, a not guaranteed money that can hurt people so a lot of running backs hold out, but. All that being said, I loved the position. It's my favorite position. And as being a saints Fan, one of the most iconic saints players to ever grace the football field. Was Reggie Bush. Because coming out of College Reggie Bush. Probably was the most electrifying player we've seen in the two thousand at least one of them. And his college highlight tape is one for the books. He might be one of the best the best. Highlight tapes I've ever seen. and. If. You don't know if you maybe a young or you weren't around. When this happened. He definitely got punished by the NCWA for taking receiving money gifts. Forms of. Took a lot of impermissible impermissible benefits during his time as a Trojan. And that caused USC, postseason, bands and other issues from For USC and then, of course, you know. They took away his Heisman, but for ten years. Ten years. He has been essentially cast. You know cast aside from USC legacy they can. They basically told him that he cannot be a part of anything that has to involve you see. And that was it for the last ten years until recently where he has been essentially brought back as it's not like the NC Double A. Change Their mind, right? It was the the ten year ban. Like it's A. You know it's the ten years that is requirement. And then they have the chance to either re up or not. I believe in. They definitely decided to say. You know you don't need to re up for one. The the punishment did not fit the crime. And in my opinion and To just was you took away? A legacy from Roman honestly, it's not like he did like he did steroids. It's not like he cheated. Didn't bet on Games as the guy who took money because his family was. You know not as well off as they are now. And you know he was just trying to. Do you know, make his family be all right at the end of the day. And I think a lot of people. Would look at this situation with twenty twenty viewpoint and I think it would go a lot differently, but. I guess today is a a mild celebration Reggie. Bush is in the good graces back in college, football and college football, but also UC, Bryce for the your, what are your thoughts? On Reggie Bush being redeemed back into the college football graces. Oh great man. Do I think he should have first place I believe. Rachel Bushes one of reasons why? USC became UFC during the area when USC was great. He was one of the he was the reason. Why cage one to go to USC after him because they be Reggie Bush player, probably one of the greatest college running backs ever play the game especially. ESI and it's just one of those things that I think you know. I'm glad he's back again. I'm going to raise them. You know and I'm sure you never know rigid. Bushnell can have input in a impact on the community of southern. California once again and Kane maybe help out, is obviously you? USC is not the greatest shade currently as a football program right now they're stuck mediocrity, but maybe being a Reggie Bush back could help trimming and get help with them around to Catholic everything and really you know them in project in the right direction that they need so they can be successful in the future while also appreciating finally. You know just just. You know accepting Reggie Bush back into the group. And everything I think. That's something that is really especially going on right now. This is big. Know Reggie is extremely happy. Because no, he picked that school. He had great timelessly when next championship a school and you know. Who wouldn't want to be. Average GMAC Trojan so. I'm glad they brought him back when they were using him back into their. Her University? It's it's insane to think. Think about the NC double a. and the the sanctions they put on USC and. Frankly Reggie Bush because the job salutes and done. They need to give him his heisman back because this is kind of. Its N-. What would really contribute. Why should somebody have to give up their heisman? Trophy For taking money, not for not for taking performance enhancing drugs not for. Something that is drastically seen as a societal bad right. This is not a situation where there's any violence don there was no cheating scandal? There was no gambling. There was no betting on games. There was no. You know no selling or things like that. This was about him being given. You know gifts benefits. Things that you know many other college players have received and have mentioned. They've received after the fact, right? And he got caught, he got hit with a penalty that I don't think anybody else has received ever since like this. This is really an unprecedented level of punishment given. Unfair like remember when Todd Gurley was selling jerseys, nor or was selling his argument, autographs on Jerseys. And incidentally, what didn't they suspend him a game or something like that? I don't really remember exactly I. Think so I know he had some. It was definitely a a conversational piece a few years before he he ended up going into the NFL but. I mean sure he's not selling his his autograph or anything like that, but I'm sure things like that still happens to the documents l.. Did it in his heyday. Still, does it now per se I would assume that he still doesn't now. And more power to them. I mean sure. Rule the rules, and if you are ruled purist. He should not be taking gifts money benefits. because. That's not a part of the NC Double A. Policy. But They act like this man shot somebody act like this man disgrace. The NC double aid. This is going on all the time. All the time. And, in fact, I just remembered of course James. Wiseman was the most recent victim of NC Double A. having very very harsh penalties to the point to where he doesn't WANNA play and More, he decided no I'm not doing that. This is it I'm done. For taking a monetary, you know a gift from somebody else granted is against the rules, but. Why is it like we have to punish the player to the point to where? It seems like they've created this humongous crime I. Don't understand it. Yeah and Julie always not been when it comes to Harris like this. They, they seem to always fail when you need them. Eric Nursing Galway's over yet. So? It's a it's a gigantic mess sometimes but. I'm glad Reggie, Bush is in the good. Of the USC, he can be once again reunited with the glory days, and you know help younger players and me on the sidelines of games. You know being practices via among. That team that area in that community, once again and not have to be shamed or essentially be. Taken away from them anymore because I don't think. USC Wanted Reggie Bush to be gone. But we're going to take our first. Break here and coming back. We're going to be talking about Miami. The dolphins. What can we expect from tour? That's coming up this the GS. Are you looking for help for your fantasy football team? Check out the GSM see fantasy football podcast. Get today's best advice on who to start who to sit, even who you should draft from sleeper pigs to read hotline. They got it all covered for you. That's GSM see. PODCASTS DOT com slash fantasy dash, football dash podcasts. We'll cover traditional the dynasty few PR even I impede leagues. When you need fantasy help, there's just one showed up. Don't forget to like them on facebook and follow them on twitter visit GS podcast dot com for more INFO. This is genius MC football podcast coming right back at once again. And we are getting into some. Rookie quarterback discussions one of the. Probably my top three favorite things to talk about when it comes to the NFL PROSPECTS NFL POTENTIAL And just what could happen the season and we're talking about to attack the lower today Bryce as. You know he'd suffered. He's been a little bit of an injury bug guy in recent time in his college career, but this one was more of a real freaky accident and not really something that naturally happened. On the on the football field, I would say and. Has Been rehabbing and he's been having success Oh. His path back from -nificant hip injuries into playing field. has yet to be completed, but. Has Been a case for months now he's ahead of the expectation, so he's doing very well, and at least one medical professional, working closely with him considers his recovery to be super human. He's been doing miraculously. Well, said Kevin wilco physical therapist. Who's been working with them in Birmingham? According to the citadel. Or a sentinel and the miraculous part is that he healed so well. The second part is. He's doing well to getting his strength back and usually. That takes a long time after something like this. So. Coming out of college we we knew a lot of things about to attack of a lower. One he's a hyper competitor like a lot of people talk about his competitive nature. He always wants to be the best version of himself, and always pushes himself and tries to get the best other people in that makes other people better. That's why a lot of people. say things like that I believe it was Mike to Rico it was somebody big I remember I was listening to when he was talking about how. He was working with. to attack of lower and he saw he heard stories about the dry or not to drive with the recruiting class that he was coming with, and he wanted his camp and you know he's a guy from. Hawaii. He's the guy he's kind of an outsider. With all these guys in the other, US states who are more tuned to. Actual US than Hawaii but. He's kind of unknown character at the beginning of camping by the end of it, everybody's like who is this kid and he's essentially taken over as far as the hype train and stuff like that. He got a few people. To basically change their their commits to go to Alabama because the just how the Gel with him and liked what he was able to bring to the table. And he has his affection way of bringing people together. So. With all that said. I think a healthy to is going to be a quality player in NFL thing, a lot of people would agree, but we won't know until it happens, but let's just say to is healthy and he gets to. It gets the nod start. What do you expect from Miami's offense? What do we expect from Brian Florez? And what do you think is the? Let's go with the floor in the ceiling. What do you think is Miami's floor this season? Oh well! Perspective I think. Okay. They won five games so I didn't go floor. Be Probably. Are Six games again this year But obviously being petty. Our probably be the floor this year for them. sealing lives I would think a playoff team. Unlike a number, one seed or anything like that, but like a wildcard team I think. I mean obviously we use a little bit more wide open, so never know how buffalo new. York does. They might be able to slide in yet, but for the most. Playoff team. And that's where I kind of I see them at obviously, he's going to depend on the quarterback play so obviously to is the I going into gate? One will will slow. No know obviously mining make the playoffs into a story. They won I mean for the most part that would really tell you okay to do the job if he stayed healthy to all the games. in etc, so you know. Miami is. They've made a lot of additions this this offseason. They've made a Lotta roster terminal. There's players is a lot of meshing that. This team is one of the team I like working at and think. You don't really know. Like you're, it's easy for people I feel like people say they did my took. Me! The easiest thing because you don't know necessarily. They're going to be a winning team. She don't think they're going to be a losing the either 'cause you think with a better than last year and they won five games, and now they have all this new tally. But you don't want to wait and say oh. Yeah! A playoff team because you all know how dollars talents gonNA come together. They still may have moved across there still not who's going to do so there's dishes this. You're kind of middle. I'll know where the game up so they're fluent. We can be very different in that regard and everything like that and you know I I think this all depends again of two starts. I. Know some people. Wonder if tool be succeed in Miami, because some people think he succeeded Alabama because in Alabama because will. He had four receivers who were probably going to go in the first round. This year next year. You know you have top running backs tight ends with the best offense winds, but Cooper gig where becks before him. Album who were as talented as tour? Putting up decent numbers, and now you've got a guy who actually was five star coming in. Great numbers and putting them positions like they always are anywhere championship, but always playing well, so I think in Miami out of their weapons I think they still have a very talented offensive skill cases. I think if they can protect up twenty. I feel like there's potential for the very successful moving forward. Right and just for clarification. It was A. It was not Mike to Rico, but it was a Trent dilfer. Who was the? Man Who's been working with to attack of lower recently and. I just think that Miami has a lot of things that they could do, but realistically I think that. Out of all the quarterbacks who have potential to have a really good year I think to might be the one who has the hardest chance. And let me let me say why that is. It's not like. You Know Justin, Herbert. Is Kinda coming into a scenario that only quarterback dream. He has the highest. Potential ceiling in my opinion to have a good year his first year. where? There are a lot of quality players around him. Already as you know Hunter Henry is a really really good tight in who just got franchise tagged, but he's one of the his franchise tag makes him the highest paid. Tied in in the League, currently, as far as on a per year basis. And then. You know they also have. A? Really really good bevy of receivers. They have so many receivers on their team. They all can do a whole lot, and of course they just. Got The best value running back. They just signed him as far as they resigned. Yet, Austin neck layer is is a guy that really can help. A young quarterback really do a lot because he is capable of. Catching the backfield making people miss do a whole bunch of things and their offensive line. Although Philip rivers had some problems last year, but I don't think a lot of it had to do with Often Ryan more of Philip rivers decision making was. At a weird weird weird state last year. So. That team has a lot of potential to be really really good. And I'm not saying that we should expect her to take them to the playoffs or anything I just think that he has high potential to be great. If he, you know he develops that sort of direction. To attack low on the other hand. Although the roster isn't as bad as we see. From. We already know their defense has really improved. Which is great? You know the Guy Calvin. Noy, they did. Get The cornerback Dallas in free agency, but as far as office offense really hasn't changed too much. Did sign devante Parker to another no to an extension during the regular season, and we know pressing Williams during the regular season before his injury was looking pretty good. And Art Wilson can can do some things, but. It is kind of left to be desired kind of front. As far as their offensive capabilities, we know they win. After they picked up to where they went and got some wineman. Help, you know, bring the. Bring a little bit of against security so to speak. And That definitely. Helps with your Miami Fan, but I wouldn't suspect that he is going to light it up and I think it's GonNa take a while. Yeah. I mean hey, that's. I mean obviously it's obviously possible on. You know. Really really never know sometimes. It you just you just got to see some times. With I'm sure there's people. Who thought certain players will do worse at their star. Better player seems thought players would do. Great and they did bad so. We really don't know. We can only go off what we will we've seen in how bigalow translate it will just have to see how really it all comes together when opening day comes for the season, and they go ahead and play right, but we're going to go ahead and get into another break, and we'll come back and talk about ot as or lack thereof, this is the GMC. Check out the show that's built on the. From UFC, two extreme cage, biding their fights covered. Check out the GSM. See 'em podcast. Get the latest news on past or upcoming fights. Join US as we've talked to about some of the biggest names in MMA past president future when it's the fight game, there's just one show checkout. GSM GMC PODCASTS DOT COM backslash Mame Dash podcast. Don't forget to leg them on facebook and follow them on twitter. Visit GSM. See podcast dot com for more INFO. Okay so next on the TSMC podcast. That is bald around. Bryce is still here with me and we're going to be talking about the lack of Ota's this year as you know corona viruses. Essentially. Locked down a lot of things that we never thought we would ever not see so one of those Ota's were not going to be having them league-wide across the board, but a lot of players are coming around to having their own versions of Ota's for example. Josh Allen organizes you know his own bills workouts amid. Pandemic so Some of the League's elders were around back near since the two thousand ten's, and when the lockout forced players to find new avenues, Rossi's in training. Nino Falcons quarterback. Matt Ryan was among one of them. He's relied on that experience to help. Guide them through this unusual season. Then you see him being able to have workouts with teammates, and you saw todd Gurley was able to make it out there for the first time after passing his physical and things like that. and. Josh Allen the bills starting quarterback. However wasn't old enough yet to drive back in two thousand eleven, and only it's only his second off season, the full full-time pro and is deathly not like the others so. Allen's approach has been much about building relationships as is about onfield work, and he began his quarantine in California's county where he even trading with you. Sam, Darnold and Colin and Where he was able to get some work with build rookie Zach Mas in Isaiah, hodges. So Of course, the real together occurred. Miami were Allen was nearly twenty skill players from the bills including Stefan dig so we saw the fun digs in him. Catching balls recently via social media, and they were gathered for about four days of quality time and extended weekend together including. Training at Pete For Martos renowned facility and dinner at the results you mentioned along ocean drive in hours of late night car games at the hotel, more workouts and golf at a country club. So you know there was worked play, but It? Was it something that's interesting to me because the be such a young guy to be able to organize. All this together bring his teammates out there his new teammates. He hasn't really gotten close with. But was able to do all these things. That midst. You know the pandemic. a lot of things going on social justice reform, but he was still able to get his team to. Focus on the task at hand, and what matters for the season because of the season is going to continue which it is. They still have to worry about trying to. Get to the play offs and trying to make a deep run at this thing, and they have a defense strong enough of course to really take them all the way in my opinion. And it's up for the offense to kind of pull their weight. Now I think at this point. The Bills Front Office I. Think a lot of bills. Fans are looking at Josh Allen like this is the year to showcase who you are going to be for us for now. Because! Like we see with Mitchell trubisky not to bring this as a Mitchell trubisky message here. But. We've kind of seen enough of the Mitchell trubisky experiment, right? I think a lot of people have. That's why you know Nick Foles, is there? And I'm not saying that. When the bills brought in? The rookie quarterback. During the draft to light a fire underneath Josh Allen. I don't mean to say that they're gonNA immediately move off Josh John. If this doesn't go, go well. Were they definitely needed you know a backup? And somebody preferably young that they can kinda into what they would like to see out of someone who could potentially start for them so. Josh Allen may see a little bit of a writing on the wall. It may make him feel a certain type of way that is pushing him to do more things like this early on in his career. and. I for one minute excited to see what the bills are capable of doing as you know, the bills are my AFC team to root for when it's all said and done so. Although my allegiance lays in the NFC south. I should just remind people. My allegiance lies with the black and gold. But when the black and gold or not playing? Its bills Mafia over here I. Just want I just want that to be clear. Though but Bryce, what do you feel about? Josh Allen Organizing all of this. How do you feel about? The bill's chances of you know. Make another run at this playoff thing. I have great chance to have won the best. They wanted US rosters in League update and I also think coaching staffs. I think one thing that They've done so well and. So well for them is there when the best adjustment second-half teams also in the League and you know. About Josh Allen is the writing on the wall. For me! Not necessarily I, because Jake kind of messed himself up the second because. I feel like it depends on. Obviously these bills. The bills when the AFC east make the playoffs. Petition Josh are. So. There'll be nothing. Debatable coming out of now like failed six ten on lending, Vashon, struggles in which you're saying is definitely true. Could they be thinking of moving off again because remember Josh Allen entering his third year. and. Creep in a little bit closer to the end his. Do you mean you gotta? Fifth year option or the extension. How much you pay him now? I think built me. You know unless Johnny EXE- huge jump. He will be needed. We don't think he's going to be paid like a top number. Top Five quarterback we. Sure about that's why I say I'm not it. We think I mean you know I. It is hard because you know every quarterback to come up with a contract. You say you are harder. They're thinking. Oh, you gotTA, make. Money Top Five money is one thing, but starter money is another, and let's keep in mind. At this point is not about how good you are, it's about. Normal in this position, and if you think that this guy's your franchise game for the time being, you have to pay him the money, you can't just let Josh Allen Walk. That's just not gonNA happen. It's the same thing happening with Dak Prescott. Is Not that deck. Deserve some somewhat of money and in my opinion. I think he does, but a lot of people don't think he does, but that's not the point the point is. He's going to get paid like a top-five guy. Because the stats he had back it up. into is just how the position is. If you don't like, it devalues the quarterback, and that's not GonNa Happen The quarterback is the most valuable position in all of sports so. That's just how the cookie crumbles in my opinion. Yeah I see your point. In. The see, but obviously. Josh Allen at least make the decision easier by playing well, it'd be struggles. We hit that point awesome. But, if he plays well, I'm sure Buffalo. Be like okay. We can talk it out. Probably give you a big deal will go there. Just like big Edie poor back nebulous. You leave a lot of quarterbacks coming up. The you know on deals I believe. The Allen so that also could determine how much Josh Allen get. It's A. Big Deal the Josh. Markets a big deal. Okay when the market the big deal. Josh is going to be like all right, so you see how much he got paid, and we players always go think they're the best, so they're like well, I you're. Not More than him. That's. That's how most people fight for their contracts. When everything is open source, and we all know who who gets what and WHO's getting what? You know people are going to you. See it all the time I. Remember when Michael Thomas got paid. What did Julio Go do? Give me more money. So, it just tends to tends to happen all the time, but we're gonNA take another break and coming out of it. We are going to talk more about the this corona virus specifically in one state that things are getting really really really really escalating. To a bad level. Check out this show built around the women of MMA, from the UFC to the extreme case fighting. We got the fights cover. The golden state media concepts women's a made podcast, the latest news of upcoming discussions of previous matches join us as we talked to. In about the biggest names in women's mixed martial arts past present and future. When it's the women's fight game, you know we're to listen to the golden state media concepts. Women's MMA podcast. Okay. You're back with the GMC. Football podcast and Bryce, are you aware that? The Corona virus is causing a lot of things happening amongst our our country, not just our country, our football. Our football is suffering. We don't know what's happening. We don't know who's playing. Everybody's catching it. Is looking bad and I. Think everybody I think if you're a reasonable right. If you if you understood what was actually happening here? A lot of people are the way we've handled it as the country as as a society. In America. Is that eventually? You'RE GONNA. Come across it. You maybe ace them dramatic. You may show symptoms, but until vaccine is shown, a lot of people are going to be exposed to the virus. Now that does not mean. You know we should go back to regular scheduled programing. It means that we need to be more careful and I think a lot of other states have reopened have moved faster than others and a lot of people may have gotten careless because of it and we may be moving too fast as nation. Multiple cowboys. Players Texans players have tested positive for covid nineteen recently. So. That means even pro bowl running back. Ezekiel Elliott, who remember a few months ago was with Dak Prescott at a party. You know at the very very beginning when the when the Cova stuff was getting really really unknown. We didn't know what was going on. It just didn't look good. and. According to this was all reported via IAN RAPOPORT IN NFL networks for Cerro. None of the players are believed to have been in the team celebrities and the cowboys in Texas team followed proper health protocols, but Elliot's agent told rap for the Dallas. Standard is feeling good. But the team however issued a statement that it could not provide information and do the federal and local privacy laws were unable to provide information regarding the personal health of any of their employees. What the cowboys released a statement and you players testing positive. Is Development, that was predicted by. The NFL NFL's chief medical officer. he said, we are fully expect to have positive cases that will arise. He said in May, and in a call of agents on Monday. NFL Players Association Medical Director Thom Mayer said that the current plan in places to test players for the corona virus about three times per week, isolating those who test positive of preserve reported and according to mayor. There's a ninety percent chance. Reliable saliva testing is available before players returned to facilities so. The NFL PA EXPECTS TO MAKE progress on overall protocol protocols going forward with the rough estimate of within thirty days according to the Players Union. and. The executive director. Dee, Maurice Smith and the schedule starts of training for most clubs is roughly six weeks away so. You know. Of course we heard previously von Miller tested positive and La Rams Center Brian Allen did in April. Of course, Sean Payton also tested positive while ago in know, most coaches have begun returning to facilities. No players have returned as NFL's virtual off season as stillman going down throughout the weeks. So. All that being said. How do we perceive football going forward? Because I think I'm not sure what this what this is going to mean for one game. Start to get involved right? because. This is my biggest thing. Brice here and listen to me. You feel me, she. Imagine this right. The Falcons are getting ready to play the forty niners. This is a big game. You Need Matt Ryan. To come play. Boom. Matt Ryan Test Positive for corona virus. What's GonNa Happen. You can't just let them play. You can't let Matt Ryan Play Right. You can't. So, what do we do you forfeit the game? You gotTA throw in Matt. Child is an asterix. You postponed the game. How do you? How do you handle this? Like what is the? What is the way? Like, what is the way because I? Really don't know. What is the way because if you're supposed to isolate players that contract corona virus right? There is no. You can't stop people from doing stuff when they're away from the facilities, right? You can't keep people away from going to nightclubs that are open in certain states. You can't keep people away from going to restaurants that are open in certain states. You know people are going to do what they want. Once you leave those facility doors. Right. You can't hold them prisoner per. Se and it's all about. The person the person how they conduct themselves outside. And you know most people think well. If you'RE GONNA, be safe, you know for the betterment of your money in the team and success. You would stay inside. You do your best to keep yourself away from potential contamination or again the virus. But as we've seen so far among people regular people in this country, it's just not happening. It's not going to happen. So. What what is the plan. What is the plan when somebody WHO's important to a team? And you have to keep them away. Even if they're a symptomatic, they're not showing symptoms tested positive. What do you do? What do you do? You can do with the protocol nicely. Really all you can do i. mean it depends on. How bad situation is you Matt Ryan? If he tested positive? And then he was able to get around all the teen and everybody the other team. Then you have to cancel a game, because was like well, don't know who got. But if it's like a step into the facility tested positive, alright Mac. Kate come any further. Then you'll be pretty much. Just go with tobacco back. It's funny because I believe Bruce Arians, said this, he said the coping nineteen see teams keeping three quarterbacks, just in case because you don't want, only have one onell on on Game Day only got to active. You only have to correct me roster, and then you have a guy who's league, and then you only want, quarterbacks will hurt your none. So that might also affected rosters. Somebody from a different position I have to have a job because of that, so it really just depends on what happens, you know it's hard to police, but I think they're just gonNA stick to whatever they have is the protocol. It just do what they can with it and hope for the best hopefully doesn't get too bad. 'cause I'm sure beats too bad and obviously they're going to have to change things. They may have to cancel linger, and they have to push back, but if they don't have any of that and I think that they're going to. Try to do everything they can. which they're trying to do currently to go four with the plan that was already said. Not Have to change too much and try to have everything. Operating the same way, so they can still make comparables money for the League and the players still get paid, and everybody can be safe, and then it doesn't get too bad while this pandemic still going on, and hopefully everything works out we just. We. Really have to see nanny. 'cause the thing about everything reports. There's definitely going to be some news about. Some players haven't nineteen when they can. Yeah and it's already happening now before people even report to camp, so just like how we just finished talking about Josh. Allen, having all these people how many of them have been tested since then right? We don't know and we'll never know unless you know. Get reported, or they reveal it or things like that, but. That's another thing. And we're going to continue talking about this as like football as a whole, not just the NFL coming up, but To close out of this in particular conversation, what? What is the? What's the game plan when it comes to all this stuff because we? What if somebody on Game Day who showed no signs of having? The virus gets tested before the game like this isn't like you know. A drug test where Iran happens like this is scheduled stuff. It will keep happening. Repeatedly. and. I feel like with NFL is planning to do with have covert test. Throughout you know weeks. Where throughout the week that doesn't affect games. So if they're gonNA, try and do it three times a week. They're probably going to try and do it. You know. I guess a Tuesday. Thursday. and Saturday or Friday or something like that? That doesn't affect games. 'cause they can't do it on game. Day. Right they just can't pause. I can't see them doing it then and if they do it on Game Day And somebody like at least a few people on the roster like I think if it gets to five, they have to think about what is the. What are you GonNa do about this because let's keep this in mind. We're only a few months removed from when the NBA lillies shutdown. Shutdown multiple like two games. Because of coronavirus. and. It was only a few players that tested positive. And they had to get everyone who was. Associated with the NBA. Tested, So I'm just I. Don't know, but. Say Quick break and we'll continue on. Tired of searching the vast jungle of podcasts. Listen close and here this out. There's a podcast network that covers just about everything that you've been searching. The golden state media concepts podcast network is here nothing less than our podcast list with endless hours of podcast covered search. News sports music fashion, looking entertainment, fantasy, football, and so much more so stop lurking around and go straight out to the golden state media concepts podcast network guaranteed to fill that podcast. Whatever it may be visit us at www dot. G S MC PODCAST DOT com follow us on facebook and twitter and download on itunes. soundcloud and Google play. Okay Bryson. We're still continuing this. This dilemma of the Covy nineteen virus that has taken the world by storm, but also really really causing a lot of friction within sports. Because we just don't know what's going to happen and I wanted to take this down a few levels because you not only have the Texans, Dallas, cowboys have had some problems. The University of Houston had to stop their their voluntary. Voluntary workouts recently. Because of the covert! They just had too many players show up positive that they could not. Continue to practice. And I don't know if it's just. The area of Texas alone is just having a really really hard time. With. A lot of new cases or things like that, but. I just have to imagine at even lower level like are we gonNA? See High School football this year. But I have to imagine you. Sports is going to be really really. How're you going to manage having youth sports? How's that even going to be regulated? Regulated because there's just no way you're going to get kids. Frequent testing every every. Third Day every second day. To also go for it either. Exactly like that's a lot of resources. For one and we don't even know it will. A lot of colleges are preparing to have you know classes back in the fall and people coming back to campus so. Depending on which state you're in, that seems to be what is going to happen. And, if that's the case, I would assume that high schools are preparing for. Kids to come back as well. But. I don't know about you sportsman because you really just don't know. The like travel. Let's say travel baseball, right? There's just no way you're going to have travel baseball. This year like. WHO's taking their kid? Across the across the southeast store, the Midwest or anything like that to play travel baseball. With this virus that is seemingly Kinda no one really knows anything Howard spreads. HOW FAST SPREADS! And how how common it is to spread amongst people? There are people that probably already have had the virus. That Can potentially even spread it again like there's no, there's no concrete science about this whole thing. We're all learning things on the fly. Nobody really knows anything, so maybe they're just gonNA play. because. You really don't know how it's going to affect anything but. I don't know. How does this affect the next recruiting class of college football? How does this affect? You know people senior seasons 'cause they like. It's very unlikely that let's say of high school. Football were to get canceled. Right, not happen. It's not like they're going to give them another year of highschool eligibility right I. Just don't see that happening. If, they graduate they graduate and they have to move on, but. You know we've already seen it with recent graduates right they. Like if they were playing basketball. They were probably done after the season. They were done the season like it was finished. Nothing else to go. You saw it on the college level of course in in college they can grant another year of. But in high school is just something. That's just not possible. I don't know I'm just really concerned because I. Don't know what you do of youth sports at this point. Not really what she can do. I mean the thing. Is You the from levels like? Thinking about. By School, they about seniors your Syria. You can't even play the sport. Love you, you're. You're trying to get into a good college looking for your senior maybe breakout year. You're making upward trend. You don't even have a chance to play now. How does that you would which you do? Basically now. Colleges that recruit you whatever sport you play, I, we'll be recruiting based off between four now what you did recently and that's going to change the narrow college game, and then you got the ball. Kid goes down. You know you like. I said you parents. Parents are not gonNA WANNA. Pay Money to get their kid in a sport, they coping. s just not gonNA happen. To you, sports around you don't know how many of these leagues are dependent upon the parent money and then making money from the word of a year. Now they have a year of will do. They go extinct now that they just stop operating i. mean all you see how it's affecting the College Lansing. There's some colleges are cutting. Programs and indifference or because? So obviously down from top to bottom so there's a lot of things here that. Could go very wrong for live clearing. It also, you know how many people could sit here. They know they're playing a sport, and then they have to take a longer time off the plane. That's where you don't know how you're going to be coming back. You haven't played. Outside of the pickup games or practices workouts. You're still not able to actually played, so you're having to ease yourself back in. May Twenty, twenty, one next to my actually can play it. Legitimate game I mean listen. Everything goes back nearly world or be relieved right now. You know there's a lot of things that people are going through. Like I said if they do. Not, we don't know if everything's can do if they do ring you know all the college students at the High School Mills. It's it that. In itself is. You'RE GONNA apple side if you're a parent if you're comfortable with. You don't want to send your kid off, and then he comes back homesick. You know in regardless of whatever sport you don't want him to practice or Galway's. Who Game? He back home sick. It's just something that's going to be. It's definitely going to affect things until. Things change now obviously depends on how you feel whenever the vaccines are mate, and maybe that's when people are GonNa, be like okay. We can start really going full I back operational, but until then. You know. It's it's going to be. You're kind going to be on eggshells with it. If you trust in you trust a okay I'm a trust whoever what they say. Is Everything and I'm GonNa while my kid or I'm going to allow them to go to this thing then okay, if you're not getting a lot of parents boom, so they listen. You're not doing it because I'm not taking that chance. Know going to be a lot of golf players come soon. As Golf is one of those sports where. You minimize the amount. You can really minimize the amount of potential. You know virus contact as. But on a more serious note from golf thing about how spring sports work in in academia right as far as timetables, especially in high school spring sports. So a lot of kids come after the New Year of course back to high school. and. That's still cold weather time, so that's about when the second wave is predicted to come about. That means you know basketball might have to be on pause. Soccer has to be on Pasta. No travel teams because you know soccer is a really really really. Interesting sport on how it's handling the youth where a lot of like high school soccer isn't. Nearly as Competitive as it could be. Because a lot of players who are really skillful, don't play on their high school teams. They play travel. They go to clubs like private clubs and do all that kind of stuff, but if they can't do that. What are they going to? What are they GONNA do? They won't be able to play sport. They may even be in school at that point because. A lot of universities. Are Considering. Doing stuff where they speed up their curriculum or not their curriculum, but you know they speed up their semesters as far as what they need to get done because they don't want a whole bunch of kids on the same campus second wave. So for College level down. Sports are going to suffer something that we've never seen before and I think. We've all been wondering. That house is going to happen, and we've all been worrying about the current. However, you gonNA, play football this season. Is Basketball going to finish the season? We haven't really thought we haven't thought about win. Win After all that is done when we see what the NFL college football looks like. In a few in a few months. How does everything else function sport? Wise wh? How do we get back to? A more. A more reasonable way of playing sports like we see now a lot of European teams like you know. The Premier League is starting back the League. You have fans and stands now in some places. And that's all well and good, but that's because they've done. Extraordinary job of trying to limit the spread of this virus to where they can do this. And they have an idea of how this works, but you also see in other countries where they limited the virus to a certain extent, but then they also have another outbreak in the next few weeks. Things like that. There's just no way of knowing. When you're in the clear without a vaccine, so I just. Wonder. When do when do we call it? Professional. When do we call it? These are kids. We're not gonNA. Put our kids in endanger like that. Yeah definitely man. We nearly got hope for the best man we've got a hope. Everything turns out where Linda. Just after reading see! Your agree all you can do is hope and you know. Just wait and see where that's just the worst part that's all. You really can't say because we're not experts on disease or Were not working for the CDC. We podcast about football, and that's what I love to do and continue to do, but we do live in a in a time of real uncertainty about just how this virus will impact the rest of our lives, but we're GONNA. Take our final break here and then we're gonNA. Get into some money. Talk as somebody just got paid this G. S. M. C.. This is your ultimate stop for everything sports, the golden state media, concepts or podcast should I say more from the NFL MLB the NBA to MMA. It's all in here. Golden State Media Concept's sports. PODCAST, listen BRYCE! It has. Come to my attention that a guy that. Brought you to a super bowl. Has Been Paid. An extended. Should I say 'cause? He was paid before, but now he's been extended three more years office. Three year deals six year deal total cows. Shanahan has made some money. In recent time he has been rewarded, and his contract places the last three years according to Adam Schefter so. You know it was signed previously in two thousand seventeen, and now here's a much more lucrative deal and. When he took over the forty niners, they had the worst roster in NFL enduring Shanahan's for season. He lost ten of his first eleven games, but then they traded for Jimmy Garoppolo. Bill one of the best teams in the NFL just three seasons, so they have an elite roster, a really really high quality coaching staff. Like coaching staff that could be head coaches. I don't know why they aren't but. It's crazy. College Shanahan is among some of the best coaches in our games. Andy Reid John Hayden You Know Bill Belichick who you name it. A whole bunch of these guys and he's much younger than a lot of the best coaches in the league. He's only forty. And he might end up having. A better career when it's all said and done so. We all know. About the twenty eight to three, we know how much that has continued to sort of tale him in haunt him among his career, but I'll be the first say. Maybe, we should be looking. How long are we going to keep letting Carl Shanahan take the full brunt of the twenty eighth to three is my question. Right because there's a lot of things. That necessarily. Was Not all his fault. And I think a lot of stuff especially last super bowl. Ended up coming back on him in a weird way I. don't think was necessarily reasonable. So. That he choked last year, right? Would you say that breaks? Law People will like he he. Is All often the plane on Staley game and it mattered most. When we look at it. There's a lot of things that he did not control right. So Jimmy Garoppolo making audibles. At the line of scrimmage. audibles out of run plays and goes to pass. He misses wide open people. He's like this you cannot. You cannot honestly look at last super. Bowl and be like you know what. Kyle Shanahan has to take the biggest brunt of this right I mean. Technically he will, because he's the head coach, and that's just Kinda what the job entails. And that's what happened to Dan Quinn. When Cows Shanahan was there as OC he took the brunt of all of it because he is head coach, he is the face. Leadership of that franchise outside of the quarterback in outside the GM, those are the top three people who take blame for big losses and big moments. Now Kyle. Shanahan is the head coach and there's no escaping. It and everybody already knows that he has a history. Of not finishing the job. When it is all said and done. So some people might look at it they. Are you sure we don't even know if he's? Is He a winner? Like one of those guys were it gets. He's really great. In the regular season. He'll have all the stats who look really good, but it's the a winner and I'd argue that that's hogwash because people used to do this to Andy Reid four years. Remember. Before. He won the super. Bowl Andy Reid was just caused. Shanahan. Andy Reid was his old cows, Shanahan and now look where he that he's one of the probably one of the best coaches in the last thirty years. He's going to go into the NFL Hall of fame, no doubt deservedly, so he was probably going to go before the Super Bowl Ring and now. Is basically a lock. But imagine if he doesn't win the Super Bowl right. It's like literally looking at a mirror between two coaches that one is this young who has history of not being able to finish. The job and maybe a little bit unfairly. Because he is young, he's not. He's not one hundred percent at fault at all of this stuff, but he has to take a lot of the brunt, but. You know the man did get paid and I. Don't think that's a problem. He's definitely still one of the better coaches in the NFL. Inner listen. is tailored that happens we. Have one thing that wasn't good on your resume Making that reminds people. Situation will stick with them. I think you know. You were in a long time. You know all those good teams on Philadelphia and not being able to get over the Hump and get. You can never wanted to be game. He says offers a mind in the playoffs doesn't work always lost decision have? Been Carson He the only way he can pass it is, he has to the point. Week back lose losing. KLOPP's fashions people are going to say he just does he can't. He can't get it done you just. There's just nothing to do with. Nut. And so you know he's GonNa. have to really know fight those. Neiman's off because that's just sleep working for recipes leader. and. You know. It's something that you know we I feel like the Fart some of the talented coaching, and we have really we shouldn't allow one bad moment to reflect entire person's career, because sometimes people have great careers. So why is if they have that moment? Potentially I now. That's just every moments relevant. If they don't race that that moment you know what I'm saying. And it's of those things where I thinking. Housing again. To be the best coach he can be. He still has one of the most talented will be. Ours are projected to be off again next year in being justice imperative, not broken sending to work. And you know obviously we know about simple. Hanko Chris will have to see that affects them, but you know I think. Stay the ship. Keep it going. And keep. Pushing forward. What they WANNA, do. You know him and Jonathan GonNa Great job building, nephew. You can't take that away from them because she always talk about what happened at the end, but the forty niners were. The. I think it was the super bowl year they win with one the knocking back for that three to four year span, they were basically kind of a relevant for the most part, and they really weren't doing too much and throw cash in there and got them back to prominence so. You know. You know I just think it's one of those things. Where became really sit there and Jason Too much, and you gotta let them continue to do historic. You don't even the head coach for three years nausea. was there you so? He's still going into games well and I think you know any re- what's happened over decades? Calcium has been three years. Give them a break here. I mean you look at it like this House for operate Remember we as a like. You know relating this back to basketball. Because for some reason, I want to make this a pseudo basketball DMC podcast so. Look how we treat harding right? Hard and has been a top five NBA player. Since being in Houston essentially. And people really really have I mean hard and brings a lot of it onto himself. Considering the style of play in how the rockets play in just kind of how they see themselves and how? You know everything kind of comes with them, but the fact that he hasn't gone to the finals yet. Is. People hold that against him. Really hard and I think a lot of it is unfair. Primarily because in situations where he was close. Is just a lot of fluky stuff. And you're going up against the warriors one of the best teams we've ever seen assembled. And I feel like. That is going to be held against him until you know until whenever like forever, we've people still say Barkley. Isn't as good because he didn't win a ring or late Charles. Bulky mentions that not winning a ring really does hurt, too. When you retire like you never really see how much hurt you until you retire. But hopefully you know cows Shanahan doesn't have to go through that and he'll get his. Andy Reid moment sooner rather than later. 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Standing On Solid Ground- Podcast #573
"They didn't do me with open arms. Todd back to another episode of zen parenting radio. This podcast number. Five hundred and seventy two What happened in may of nineteen seventy two. I was born and what else happened. In may of seventy two sweetie happened in may but in nineteen seventy-two joe biden was elected to senate for the first time yes and the joe biden had a good weekend and we watched some stuff on saturday. Sure did on saturday. We watch some stuff from thursday to saturday on today's show. Can you give us a snippet nip at snippets. I do remember snippets. Okay anyway today. We're going to talk about standing on solid ground. I couldn't decide if we should call rebuilding a foundation having a foundation or standing on solid ground. But there's something that i like about solid ground But first sweetie does these. Zen parenting moments send parenting moment. Yup i know but if there's multiple i have to say moments through your right and she just three week. Monday wednesday friday. It might go back to two times a week but for now. It's monday wednesday. Friday and we pick one to for me to read and this one. I'm reading is a recording. Monday is called small axe from today actually from today. We're recording on monday. But i saw the first quote. Is the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. What will your verse be. That's from john. Keating from dead poets society so up to quote from whitman on me. Oh life of the questions of these recurring of the endless trains of the faithless of cities filled with a foolish good amid these me. all life. answer that you are here. At life and identity the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse verse. Be there we go so i'm gonna read this. It's a short and sweet. This cathy's words on then pending moment on the most difficult days a small act of kindness can bring some light to the dark when we wake up too bad news or anxious about work knowing that there is something we can do to shift our thoughts even from moment can help us get out of bed. If we grab a coffee we can tip the barista an extra dollar. If we find a spider in the house we can catch him or her. You put him sweetie catch catch catch. They and gently. Release them outside. You do that quite often. Don't you sweetie i do. I catch catch spiders. If we find some trag- while walking we can put it in the garbage. If there is someone who is always kind or we can send them a quick text to say. Thanks or i love you. Small acts the believe that we have some control over how we see ourselves and the world decision to act in a way we hope others will act to be the person who we would want who we would most want to spend time with when we choose to act in loving ways on the most difficult days it gives us a sense of power. We can't control the world but we can choose our choices when we are searching for something. Good we can remember. We have the power to create good. We can be what we want to see. You can choose your choices. You can't choose your choice of that sentence. That's one of my favorite sentence. What was your inspiration for this. It seems like a very simple yet. Powerful message. I you know again like many of these. I wrote it awhile back and i. It's you know it's very Basic kind of like what. I call the. Abc's of self awareness. which like. I said i love the sentence. You can choose your choices That we can't always choose what's going to be going on in the world. You can't always choose what the weather's going to be. You can't choose. Maybe what someone else is going to say or do but you can choose your choices and so if you you know it's interesting because i read the first paragraph and i'm like that's not how i feel today i actually feel very like the world. There's some sun out. Like not only did i feel very good. Feel very good about this election. I also it's seventy degrees in chicago today november. We just got it. Sounds like there's really good news about a vaccine from pfizer that's ninety percent effective And i people like oh. But it's not i understand. Yeah good information. And so i but on not everyday feels this light and I wouldn't even say it feels like it's just lighter than we've been historically in the last year or two or four or five And so basically. When we have that day we wake up and we and it feels heavier. We know we have more to do or the work continues. We can decide how we are going to interact with that day and we can do little things again. That's why call it. Small acts that can then create a ripple effect not only in us but in other people so it's just a really basic reminder. We forget we kind like take our negatively and go out in the world and just spew it on people and what if we did the opposite. What's your subtitle for. either. I think for this. Then parenting moment. What we what we tend to forget. This is a perfect example. Yeah yeah we know we know this already but we get really What's the word we give really caught up in. I'm feeling pain so everybody's going to experience it from me. We do that to our partner. We do that to our kids. We do that to the world. We do that to the person behind the counter. The waiter the waitress and we just decide that we're in a bad mood so they're going to everybody else is going to catch it. Yeah that's the lens that we see the world through because that's what's inside the bus in that moment right and what if we chose our choices instead. What if we said yeah you know well especially for having a good day share that with everybody like i'm feeling i'm texting up a storm today. I'm like hello everybody like i'm doing good But even when days are not great we can make choices that actually end up making us spiel better so Just a small reminder all right so where we going today. So let's talk about standing on solid ground and what that means because i've had so many good conversations in the last week not only with my own children and you but just with friends and acquaintances. I've read so many things this week and and one of the things that my daughter said the other day when we're driving home. We went to michigan last week. We basically ran away when he'll from the election I know there's nowhere to run really. I'd just felt like. I really wanted to be somewhere. In space. different space Had still had a lot of sixteen. Ptsd and i just really wanted to be somewhere. That i felt different and So you know when we were driving back from michigan on friday one of my daughters we were talking about. The things looked good will have a have the final tally yet. But i'm things were looking good and she said i just so look forward to having kind of a different foundation because she and i were both agreeing that we're still going to be activists you know it's not like because the election is one. There's nothing else to do. There's still a lot to speak up about. We've still got a big race in georgia. That i think everybody. Can you know play a role in somehow. We still got a lot to do as far as race relations stomach. Just you know systemic racism and women's rights. And i could go on and on right and she's like instead of feeling like we're screaming into an ocean where nothing's happening and my example was where i feel like. I'm just like adam march or a protester doing talk and i'm just in quicksand like i'm trying to save myself while i'm trying to help others. We now feel like we're on solid ground and solid ground is like okay from this place. I think i can do even better work. I think i can speak up even more like this is not the time to say we're done. It's time to say okay. We've got some some a base in the base is having a leader and a co leader. You know a president and vice president who stand for if not if not anything else. Normalcy decency civility desire for unity. A desire to be a president and vice president for all people regardless of who was voted for. And that feels like okay. I can do great work from this place. Feel it before we go onto the foundational kind of just want to like pick apart. The idea of the helplessness feeling in our lives for whatever reason and the idea of screaming at the ocean is such an interesting one. Because it is an interesting idea of if you've i've screen screams at the ocean. Ice screamed to lake michigan. And i've done it actually as a vehicle just to get some stuff out but there is like this helplessness. That goes on with the idea of screaming at something so big like thing. You're doing now. What i've said i even said that the guys what i'm coaching like go to the lake. And just scream at it. It can handle whatever you give to it but this is something different. There's a helplessness. Because you're giving all of your might to screaming at this loud ocean and you just feel like not it's not making any impact because of the fastness of the ocean side. I just want to pause and just you know maybe just think about what that feeling feels like. When for whatever reason whatever's going on in our lives maybe it's the election maybe it's something else when we feel so powerless and how we manage that And i don't have a question for you in this moment. But i just of feel like before we get to the the good part of now now i can scream from the ocean or you know just turn around and and make an impact. I'm just more like just settling into that. Feeling of helplessness and powerlessness is so uncomfortable. Yeah you know. I remember the first time i really felt it Where it was such a pit in my stomach was at the women's march for years ago. you know. Obviously we went by all of us. We went down to chicago to march for the women's march. And i remember feeling my gosh. You're so many people here and there's so many people at dc and it was such a movement and you know we did it and it felt so good and it did make an impact in a bigger picture meaning like it was a piece of a puzzle that we had to put together. But the truth is you go home. And then it's over in the same person. So president. And i felt like that was the first time i was like. Oh this was a big deal and it kinda. It didn't fall flat by any means but it didn't really you're still in the quicksand right. I'm still in the quicksand. I remember a bunch of people. Texting are are you. What are you you know. The person hasn't even taken office yet. Like what are you marching against. And it was the awareness of we knew what was coming and that we had a we knew what this person was capable of a knock capable of just because of the history and character of this individual and we were able to unfortunately see this. Play out over four years but there was you know. It's that my angelou quote that we talk about all the time you know when someone tells you who they are the first time believe them. You know this idea that were like no no. Let's let this person with no character and and no sense of right and wrong and who has heard a lot of people and who you know who has been saying things to us on our tv screen. This is who i am and we're like no no. Let's see what he can do like i. It was crazy making to me. But i also feel like now in hindsight all those things are pieces their pieces of a bigger picture there. Nothing goes from zero to sixty or something. Somethings do like cars. And but what i mean is like in life. Most of the time things are incrementally like you don't wake up one day with a good idea and then have a success at the end of the day like you know you wake up with a good idea and you have to do little things over time and so it can feel like screaming in the ocean. like jaycee said which i think was a good analogy but sometimes you scream into the ocean in a lifeboat goes by. And you're like wait. A second person heard me. You know it's like tom. Hanks laying out on where you think. The same thing us like tom. Hanks laying out on that. You know his slabs made up raff. Yeah after losing wilson and then all the sudden the ship goes by. And you weren't expecting it. You felt like it was over and it's not and you know. I remember right after the election. Todd and i did a show called The grass grows through and it was our way of saying that right now we feel like we have a huge slab of concrete obstacles. Were put in the way truth. And love and justice they grow through. I want them to see wilson but he's he's proud to so that's the scene of the raft after he lose. I wanna hear him. Say wilson no such great music world art wilson at makes me cry every time. It's the strings like. I don't know what instrument that is. It reminds me a loss. The finale of loss. And it's such a mood setter and it's funny when i watched this movie. And now we're talking about castaway i i understood. He was sad from my head. But i did not understand what wilson truly represent it until. I saw the movie a few more times. And what is that. What does that mean to you. It was everything was his companion. it was his existence. Who is he without wilson. And you know what i. I watched him. All right soccer balls or volleyballs gone big deal like wasn't that crass about it but Yeah well it's also the release of. I don't know if i can do this. He'd been carrying for four years. We're going to do this. And we're gonna get over the wave and wilson we're gonna we're gonna do this together. And then he got over the wave and he lost wilson and now it's like i felt like he was apologizing to kelly for leaving. I think he was apologizing for the people that he didn't show up for. He was apologizing to himself for. Maybe letting go like. It was like a cathartic we hadn't seen him do that. Since he got on the island he hadn't been able to talk about redid. This show a couple weeks ago about stress stressors and how our body needs to relieve our stressors. He he had a few you see in his body and that was what was needed. And you know what on that. Note of castaway and wilson relating this to the election. But for those of you who you know. Obviously if you if you're feeling good about the election I'm saying that. That way. Because i was reading articles today about you. Know the count the final count and how there are seventy one million people who may be who voted for someone else. Now i think that seventy one million there are people who are maybe maybe they voted for the other guy but they're okay with buying being president. I think it's got a little bit of a different feel as one or the other. There's a whole spectrum differences. Someone may say well. Just what republican. Yeah but i trust. Joe biden. Like i i do believe i think that's very different than last time where it was a little more of a severe shift to where i think this was and i could be wrong but there still are millions of people who maybe are not happy with this outcome and i get that but for you know for those of you that are In your feeling a sense of relief you know that we have taken a lot of hits for four years and sometimes we talked about last week about sometimes i even forget. Some of the most significant hits. We've taken where i've been like. Oh yeah you know the muslim ban. And then you know brad kavanagh and then you know flynn and then the muller report and the and i'm like oh my god like breathe and we've been taking those hits one after another after another so the release of these stressors with the awareness. Were still in the middle of covid. We have not changed administration's yet we still of things to come. We're still struggling with things in education and our kids not in school. So those things remain plus. It's going take a while to unwind all these things. Like i have been not necessarily by choice having to go to bed at like nine o'clock for the past three nights i'm exhausted and i don't. I don't need anyone to feel sorry for me or anything. I just realizing how tired my body is. I think you're our bodies have regardless of who you what side of the aisle you reside on. I think that we've all stored certain things that our body for the last four years and those things need to come out. Yes and they come out and it's not like okay the election's over i had a celebration or i had a good cry. Okay good i'm done it. That's not the way it works like this is going to be just like things build up. Things need to incrementally release and You know we can't all be in a movie like tom. Hanks having his. I cry about wilson or todd always loves you know good will hunting where you know. There's one cathartic moment that's not really how human beings to release. Yeah i mean that is truly a release but that doesn't mean it's over just like we think we because that's how we believe grief is is that grief is like i one good cry and then i can go back to work the next annual for me. I have this image of a river and the river. The going downstream is kinda your energy of life and we put these blocks or these boulders or these rocks in the river to block our energy and some people might say well. The boulders are baggage from our parents or trauma that happened to us. or whatever. And there's some really big boulders and there's really some small ones but they're all of them are disrupting the flow of the river so like the good will hunting. I think matt damon's character removed. A big big boulder doesn't mean all the boulders are gone and then but to your point. I think it's more accessible for us to remove the smaller rocks than wait for this big rock to be removed from the river. A little bit of both that even the big rock things are getting through a big hole now. But there's all these other spaces it's not so that's a good analogy of sometimes it's pebbles and sometimes it's big accident. Sometimes you remove a huge boulder but there's still a lot backed up in other areas so it's like the i guess the goal is of regardless of how you see this. Is that gentle with yourself that if you like you know one of my daughters i had gone through something pretty significant about a month ago and so she was having You know dealing with grief pretty significant grief and trauma and i said. Don't be surprised if in two weeks all the sudden this comes up again and don't be surprised if you're exhausted and your body is working through this in ways that you don't understand and that you feel like one thing last week. That was weird for me. In the midst of everything is i was starving and i couldn't get and i kept like really figuring out the no because sometimes i couldn't eat because i was so nervous last week about results and then i would go to eat and i just couldn't get full and that to me was interesting like i couldn't i couldn't take it. I couldn't feel it was never done for me. Well i experience that same things sometimes now with you but some of that and i'm kind of making light of it is because i'm pesca terry near vegetarian. If we had a steak or a burger it'd be but that's the one kind of crappy side effect of being a pesky -tarian vegetarian is. It's hard to. It's harder to get full. It's you can't you can't i think for you. I think that. I it's almost been like twenty years for me so i don't feel that way all the time. I can get pretty darn full on a burrito. How about all the rice. I put in my burrito so by the way. This is kathy preorder bowl. It's the worst. It's the worst. It order ever white rice extra black beans cheese lettuce lettuce and then i get The salsa on inside of. Because i don't like all the like the crunchy things in the salsa and then i also get their. Oh this is like a little tip. I get their salad dressing. Meaning aaa salad dressing. And then i put that on the top or like in that and that's my burrito. It's pretty darn good reminds me of this block only gets all the number three like the chefs salad pleased with the oil and vinegar on the side and the apple pie alamo sheriff apple mode but i'd like the pie heated and i don't want the ice cream on top. I wanted on this. I like strawberry instead of vanilla if you have it if not the no ice cream just whip cream but only if it's real it's out of the can then nothing not even the pie. Not just the pie. Then that heated sweetie. You're not as bad as sally i. I'm close. i don't think there's any order. My girls sometimes clap for me. If i just order something without any special instructions how out of ten orders. How many times does that happen. One out of ten. Yeah yeah there's always special instructions and not special instructions like being annoying to the wait staff. I don't think that it's usually just one or two things. Like like. I said with the breed i forgot i have guacamole but i put it on the side because you can't on the side is a very big thing for it's a very big name for me and i. It's just better that way. So i like it the way i like it. I know i- maintenance that's actually what he says. I'm not saying you're right. And i know well with food. It's it's if you don't have like being a I don't even know if i'm a picky eater. I just know what i want to eat. Could i eat the burrito with the with the guatemalan shirt. But then i'd have to squeeze it off and like you know spoon it off and why not just get it the way you want it so you can enjoy your meal and the point is is when i eat that burrito todd I am full. So i don't need to be full but last week during the election while we were bottomless pit. I just couldn't get full one night. We we got dinner because he obviously everything was closed down restaurants and stuff but we got some dinner and then it like ten o'clock. I'm like i gotta like cook a pizza or something. I was like empty. And i think that it was just. I felt empty and afraid. So let me go. Play one more clip. I do not think you're high maintenance. But i just think this is funny because this is the high maintenance part in when harry met sally who ingrid bergman now. She's low maintenance maintenance. There are two kinds of women. High maintenance and low maintenance is low maintenance elim definitely which one of my worst kind your high maintenance but you think you low maintenance. Don't see that you don't see that. I'll begin with house style but i don't want the regular addressing i'll have the balsamic vinegar and oil but on the side and then the salmon with a mustard sauce but i want the muscles on the side on the side is a very big thing for you. I just wanted the way i want. I know i- maintenance we go. I said like if the way. I like it. And sally says one at the way i want it to difference. There is no different and i think that As a woman standing in her foundation. I would say if you would like to call that high maintenance and not just utah but anybody go ahead but then you go ahead and just enjoy things you don't really enjoy. I prefer to say this is who i am. This is what i like. And i see no problem in that. Now there's a lesson they're standing your power and astro you and here's the thing when if someone in waitstaff says we can't do that. I'm like that's fine. Sometimes they say you have to pay more for that. That's fine like the thing is is. I don't have a problem. i don't feel entitled to anything. What i feel is the right to ask making a request. And oftentimes. they'll say oh. We can't take the green pepper out because it's already in the mix. I'm like okay. That's fine just leave it in or sorry. Guacamole is fifty extra find. That's fine. I don't i i will pay for. What makes the job more difficult for people. Because i understand that is an exchange of energy so entitlement is i think i deserve this just because i am who i am and you work harder to give to me and i think like you know standing in your power just being who you are is asking for what you want with the expectation that you may have to You know give or take more to make that happen. 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Okay because i keep taking you down this these tangents sorry about that. Oh it's okay. I don't mind going everywhere else So one thing that. I you know on sunday morning. I woke up and started this. You know soliloquy with todd. While i was still lying in bed because what i realized through this experience of the last four years or four and a half years. Because i think. I've said this before on the show i was exhausted before trump won like i was exhausted from the lack of civility and decency. And how things were and how people were okay. With these norms being broken. I was exhausted before the two thousand sixteen election so once the two thousand sixteen election you know once we got the results and then we had to go through the last four years. I know i'm not alone. We were all like. Wow and i don't mean exhausted like give up. I mean like overwhelmed by it. I knew that i was going to stand up. But i didn't know how that was going to look and i think what i realized after the election was that i know there is more that you and i could have done meaning that there's always more right but i feel really good about it. Not good about anything. We put out there like this is not about looking for feedback from you guys but internally i feel good about that i became clear about who i am and what i believe in i think i used to straddle the fence a lot more before this experience. I think i used to really not want to piss people off and walk both sides and wanna make people feel comfortable in my presence and allow myself to be a chameleon so other people could be comfortable. And i think what has changed. Is that while. I still want people be comfortable in my presence because i feel like i can be accepting and understanding and i'll always listen. I'm very clear about who i am and what i believe and i still read and learn and listen to other perspectives but i know what matters. I know those bottom line things equality truth Justice rights for all people You know listening to other people's stories and learning from their stories. You know systemic racism. And you know. I've learned so much in the last year about myself and what i used to think and what i know now you know. I have listened to other people's stories about maybe why they voted for trump. And i hear them. But i also think that the experience that i've had is people's again my perspective people's loves her out of order. You know using david brooks is Information about what develops character and people are. Some people are willing to get certain needs. Met even though there's no character or truth or justice or equality but as long as they get needs met down on the continuum they're fine with those things and that is kind of just putting in order. What you believe is most important. And while i don't look at any politician in think this person's perfect that were never gonna find that everybody that doesn't exist even with obama as much as i love him and it was great eight years. Obviously there were challenges. It's out about finding a perfect person. It's about what order are these things go in and if we're going to decide the truth doesn't matter if we're going to decide that making up things is okay as long as we get our way. If we're going to decide that you know calling people names and that you know shouting down others and and being willing to harm somebody by what we're tweeting we're okay with that. Then that's a problem. So i feel like maybe an easy way of explaining. This idea is one of my friends. Got on a group chat. And he's like. I had not been much of an advocate for himself for equality for all these things. And he's like i'm embarrassed about it and like there's a part of me that wanted to save him from himself and my mother theresa quote which is if you want to change the world. Go home in love your family Which is wonderful quote. And i feel like it's a both and like if the best thing you can do is go home and raise your children and the best way that you can make an impact that will make an impact and can you also question why you're not standing free quality right more. Overtly yes so. It's a both end but i find myself personally. Trying to hero. These guys and protect them from the south. And i also project some of my own inadequacies friends share. Because i do feel proud in the way. I showed up in the last four years about fighting for equality. There's a million other things that i could have done that. I chose not to do so. It's just you know once again. It's always about the both. And and i just wanted to frame it that way as maybe moving in a continuing the conversation. Yeah i hear that you and i kind of discussed that is that. It's i think that the way that we kind of assess ourselves. Because as i said at the beginning it's not like this is all over things. It's not like okay. How do i assess this and you know we won and it's done. We're still moving on. We're still. they're still things to do. But i think that right now could take a moment and say. How do i feel like i showed up in the last four years and i think showing up is not just a part of it is the activism. Like one thing on tuesday night. We kind of weren't sure how this was going to go down and I think a lot of you felt the same way and my daughters and i were kind of getting emotionally prepared for the fact that it may not go down in the way we wanted to and and one thing that we chote we said in the midst of our uncertainty and fear was no matter what we're activists for life like. This is not over. Like i'm an activist for life and whatever that looks like if that's you know writing about things if that's talking about it on the show if that showing up at marches if that's being a good listener a good therapist like i am going to speak up as i always have is a social worker but now it's much more. I'm not writing the fence as much as i used to is. Basically what i you know. And so we are activists for life. And that's a good thing to know and i think when we look back anybody listening like how do you feel about how you manage these years and not just about maybe going to a march but did you maintain a sense of stability. Did you maintain us. And i don't mean stability like you didn't lose your job. I mean like internal. You're still able to leave some light at the end of the tunnel or speak to people with some kindness and continue to see some good in the world. When i would add is did. Did you look at it the situation with clarity or did you bury your head in the sand. And there's a part of me that sometimes acted with clarity and advocated for what i think i believe in and there's other times we're absolutely buried my head in the sand. So that's the questioning that. I wanna continue to cultivate in myself. That's a lot what i've learned about. Systemic racism is that there are times it all of us want to bury our heads in the sand. And then i you know speak with african american women who are like. Oh we don't have that luxury We don't get to do that. Because this is literally our survival or native american women or latino women or you know different communities. Who are like. We don't get to just go on and say well. I'm privileged enough. That i'll be fine no matter what and that's the awareness of that's compassion having understanding and going beyond compassion realizing that this becomes cliche but intel. We're all free until we all have a sense of groundedness are any of us free because it can be taken away. We what i've experienced in the last four or five years. Is that nothing certain. So you have to wake up every day and have a decision about how you are going to live like. I knew that before from having health scares or loss or pain. Or you know where you're like. Wow nothing is guaranteed. So i'm gonna live in the present and that's a very mindful way to live and then there's the expanded view of that is even in our own country. Our democracy is not as much as that's what we're built on. We have watched how it's not always guaranteed and it doesn't you know we thought. Oh this could never happen and it did and it did and then it did happen over and over again so we have to be willing to be active. Participants will and it's interesting because this is kind of similar to the discussion that you and i had. I don't walk on sunday or whenever that was it's once again. It's a both end because like is your voice being heard and can you understand that people evolve at their own pace right. That's important and it's really really tricky because my ego is like what i'm doing this fighting for equality gender gender equality race quality. Why are you right. And all of a sudden my ego gets in the way while you know it's just very nuance like. Can i be okay with a friend of mine. Who wants to an. I'm not thinking about anybody specifically but not evolve for in a way that i think human nature ought to evolve or not participate or not notice or be curious about what's going on or to just lay back on the privilege. Well i don't really need to worry about this. Therefore it's non it's nothing to worry about and that's not true and worry i don't like that word because again worry does pretend to be necessary. It's not always needed but it is. It's about sitting around worrying about it. It's recognizing what's going on. It's paying attention. There's mindfulness you can use mindfulness. Also to notice what a reality is. you know. it's not just about mindfulness. Is not just about sitting in the lotus position and being peaceful. That's that's part of it but paying attention is also like this is happening. This is a real thing that we need to speak up about. And and i think that you're right is. That was a good thing that we rob bell said. That on his podcast. Awhile ago years ago and tottenham really latched onto that language. Because like todd said i can get very judgmental about people. People you know friends acquaintances people. I see who don't say anything who pretend things aren't happening and say things like. Oh well politics things are on both sides and they get very flippant about. I've i've they have too many things going on in their life to worry and while i understand that because we all have times where we have to just focus on our own business right. You and i have had times over the last four years where we've had to put down anything that maybe resembles activism so we can take care of our own and there is a reality that well and we had the conversation where some of our teaching some of our teachers. It's all about mindfulness self awareness. And that's it's kind of hard to get to step to without steph want to step one is self awareness. Mindfulness but if you stop there are no let me use an. I statement if i stopped there than i am not being the person that i was put here to be like tattoo. I did all these shows about spiritual bypassing and about how sometimes when it comes to what's going on in the world especially injustice. We can jump over what's really happening in. Just say well. I'm just a mindful peaceful person and love and light and goodness always prevails. and there's a light at the end of the tunnel. All things i believe in. But there's this jumping over the truth and reality of the moment. Is that part of the reason that i like talking about. Standing on solid ground or building. A foundation is part of that foundation. Is the truth of the moment and that you can believe in love and light and light at the end of the tunnel. But if you're jumping to that without the realization. Like i'll go back to what you said self-awareness is i step one phase one. It's what we always have to go back to where you have to be curious about. Why do and say what you do. But it's not just because it's interesting because you're so interesting. It's because once you do that then you can have clarity about what you need to do next. It's like if you stop it. Step one nothing changes like so many people come into my office or talk to me on the phone now on zoom and they'll tell me all about who they are. They'll tell me there any graham number. They'll tell me why they do what they do. They'll tell me about their childhood. But then they keep repeating the same patterns. So i'm interested in who you are but if all you're going to do is tell me about who you are but you're not going to change anything you're not gonna put anything new into practice that doesn't change the world. So that's why self-awareness is only the peace and even though tonight why we make that the centerpiece of parenting is. Nothing happens until that happens. I mean things can happen but they may not happen in the best. Healthiest way doesn't last. It doesn't last it. There's things that go sideways. Unless you're doing your own work on yourself first and i make a judgment that sometimes i just stop at the self awareness piece. No you don't know. Of course i do. Sometimes where i stopped there like this time maybe yeah. That's i'm not saying that late. Who i am but you know it's just very easy for me to spiritual spiritual by everything you know. The universe was created thirteen point eight billion years ago. We're gonna die anyways. Who cares nothing matters like that's that's all like can we just love one another like all all true statements but if i just of throw a hand up in the air and stop there then my my judgment of this world we live in is we are here. As human beings to evolve ourselves evolve each other support. Each other. And i think a lot of times i stop with self and now i think you know i just google buddhist activism like have of buddhist. I think of some guy or girl who just sits at a mountaintop and lotus. And there's something called buddhist activism like all right. How are you going to take all the mindfulness that you just cultivated and active from that place without attachment to the outcome. And just do it because it's the right thing to do right like you can everybody. We can walk around and be like. Wow i feel so peaceful inside and that's fantastic but howard then you sharing that and connecting with people based on that and how are you supporting your children and learning that. And how are you going out into the world and practicing that when you're meeting people and how are you utilizing that inner peacefulness to make something better and it's not and then the next phase is then. How do you learn from other people where you can continue to evolve. Because you're never done like you can get to a peaceful place and then maybe the next your your meditation practices horrible like you wake up and you're doing your meditation and you're like wow i'm just making lists and i'm just talking thinking about goals and it wasn't that peaceful and so how can i do different things than to if it'd be talked to people connect to people go out there and help people And then that'll help me find peace like it's not this is life and self awareness and connection is a on going practice and it is. I think that one thing that we love as i don't know if it's just our country or just human beings is we love like here's what i need to and here's how i get success. We like this linear continuum. Where it's like you know. Oh i need to get my kid in the best preschool and then the best high school and then the best college and then they get a job and then get married and they kids and then everyone's happy and we all know that that's not the way that life works like one of my Did we do sailboats. Did we talk about sailboats. On this. I don't remember one of the zen parenting moment that i shared. I think it was last week last monday. It was called sailboats. In it's about how author barbara brown taylor talked about how life is not like a straight path. Life is not like a zero to sixty or from like driving a car from one space to another t. I think she used a train. That was taking a train from one station to the other. It's more like a sailboat. Set out onto the ocean and you go out with a plan and a goal but you come back with a story because when you're on the ocean anything can happen. It's not one way there's not a road there's not stop lights you're out in the middle of it and that's what we're doing right now is that we can have a plan and hopefully we have good tools and good navigation equipment and good a good team on the boat and hopefully we have a good sale and good weather the all those are all wonderful things but we can't account for everything and so we have to wake up every day and realized they were. We have to do our work and that we have to stay open to new ideas and that we have to show up for other and also appreciate being on that boat. Which is just the idea that i get to be on. The sailboat is amazing. And you know like you know my head's tingling right now because the challenge that we've all experienced and we're continuing to experience it can feel overwhelming. And then you have victories big and small and you're like wow. This is what it means to be alive. Well back to where we started. John keating the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. Now when i was talking about. You know if. I stop at self awareness or if i stop at just negotiating my own relationship with myself and i don't try to support others changed the world make it a better place they quote would be the powerful play goes on and you get to look at yourself but contribute averse to me says. Do she'll lying with that. So that's kind of where i am and that do something is usually a creative act of some kind and You know in art artistic act and again artistic just means developing something that comes from you personally and that can be a way of communicating or the way you dance or the way you talk or the podcast that you put on Or the you know the the shop that you open the store that you opened the restaurant you have the the catering business you know. All of us have all this. What do we do with what we have inside of us. How do we put it out there. And do we take what we have inside of us and dump it on people in a negative way like i feel a lot of pain. So you're gonna feel a lot of pain. Which is what i believe. Our current leader Forty five does is. I feel pain in their for. I'm gonna create pain for other people and he may use different words but that's really what it is and or are we like. Yeah i do feel pain. Because i do but i'm going to be curious about and be self aware about it and do my best with the tools that i have and then show up in that way in the world. That's the verse that i would like to contribute like you know when it comes to the end like then parenting radio you know. What are your dad. Todd and i have decided by parenting radio is that this is for our girls because when our girls are older and they have their own children Maybe even past that. When you and i are not here our kids will have this now. They'll be like wow. We got a lot of mom and dad to listen to now. If in that time other people enjoy the show. Get something out of it. We get to support you. We get to meet you. We get to learn about you. Get to be inspired by. That's just icing. But when we started the show it was for us for our relationship so we could talk and it was for girls and so if the if what. I contribute if the verse that i contributed to help girls continue to go on like the mother theresa. That's wonderful but if that verse that we contribute also helps other people. More supported amazing. Oh but this is what you know will keep in mind when captain as gold or basement. And and sit in front of microphones for us. It's not much effort if any like we enjoy doing this and you know. I'm not about to get on a tangent of what the differences differences between work and play but if if we can do some things that make us come alive doing this. Podcast makes kathy. And i come alive so anybody. Who's listening to this figure out. What makes you come alive and do that instead of doing the things that you think you should do and it may not be your work. I feel like we're going back in time here to like you know understanding the difference between the you know a passionate experience and a work experience. You don't have to have one passion. You can have many different passions and only ending news that word just things you enjoy things. You're curious about do it. It may not result in you being famous. It may not even result in money. But did it feel good to do it. Did you feel like this is enjoyable. Like i get as much joy guys are gonna be like whatever out of watching butter. Cocoons become butterflies like watching caterpillars joy out of feeding my rabbit. I joy out of presenting in front of people. I get joy out of Going for walks listening to podcasts. About movies that i love and so i'm going to do those things. Not all of them are going to pay me money. I'd like to have a goat todd. Todd it's not on board with the goat. No better go. Go go go go. No i'm not bored with the goat or chicken or turkey or whatever else you got cooking i would like i don't wanna chicken. You always offer me the chicken chicken. I would like a goat. I would like to have an paca in the backyard. And you're like you would never take care of them. And i'm like are you kidding. You would totally take care of. I just don't want to you. Don't have to do anything at all. You will be so in love with that. Alpaca and goat you will you didn't get a rabbit and who sits with the rabbit more than anybody. I'm not saying anything. All i'm saying is that rabbit. Loves me more than anybody. Well point taken and the fish. I have no relationship with ned. The head fish ned. I'm the one thing that makes me come. Alive is Obviously this podcast in coaching guys. but this men's group so i do want to promote something tomorrow night. The men's group is doing a workshop and the title of it is the missing link of leadership. Oh interesting can you guess what it is empathy. It's exactly right. Nice so empathy in your family empathy in your community empathy in your job. If there's any men out there listening we would love for you to join us. Go to try men's group dot org and sign up for the workshop. It's going to be off the hook. Well there are many things that make me come alive many of which i already stated but one thing that i really love is writing right so you know i have a book coming out but not 'til later into twenty twenty one so for now if you enjoy this show and you like hearing what we talk about go to's then purging radio dot com and you'll see at the top it says then parenting moment. Click here to subscribe. just subscribe. because you'll get a free You know essay that. I write on monday wednesday. Friday just comes to your inbox You don't have to do. It's free you don't pay for anything you don't have to do anything. There's no you just read it. And i started sharing them because i felt like everything that was in my email was kind of like negative or scary or something i had to do. So this is a way to maybe inspire you So that's what i love to do. and then to other things before. He talked about avid Detroit has a separation divorce support group tonight and thursday every thursday. There's an intentional movement. Tuffy training my friend charlie rogers and it's It's an exercise class. But it's an intentional one. That's pretty awesome. So there's any guys out there that interested in that that's also a tribe men's group that org. Can i offer one more thing. One thing that. I wrote down for today that i didn't get to sakes we just kinda went in. Different places is right now. Now that we've got we're standing on solid ground many of us feel like we are and we're rebuilding this foundation. Bring some beauty to it Plant some flowers. And i know it's winter and i and i mean plant some flowers metaphorically i mean it like for those of you who are in warm climates. Really plant some flowers or maybe plant a tree or something but for those of you who are in colder climates. Plant some ideas you know. Start some new things. Do get back to your knitting. Get back to your drawing. Get back to things that if you weren't doing them already that you love like plant some flowers for yourself so we can fill the world backup with beauty because it's felt a little scorched earth lately and we need literally meaning because of hurricanes and fires and also because of emotions and leadership and we need to bring some beauty back and we all need to play a role in that we can't just look at one leader and say they need to bring the beauty back. We all need to bring it back on my vision board in my bedroom. I have this quote that i wanted to end with. And i love it and i looked at it every day for the last four years. I never took it down and it says saying while filled with our dreams and our troubles sing boom. That's it jeremy craft. He's a bald headed beauty painting remodeling throughout the chicago area. Six three oh nine five. Six eight thousand nine hundred Go to avid code. Dot net and Oh you know what. I have talk at nazareth tonight. It's free go to parenting radio dot com and go to events and it's a free virtual discussion tonight. I thought it was during the day noon. So if you're listening in morning morning listening. Anytime before noon. Central today on tuesday november tenth. You can go to and it's free it's dealing with. Uncertainty is on the events page. Pr all right. Guys keep trucking. Thanks for listening everyone. Remember to subscribe to the podcast. You never miss an episode and feel free to leave a five star review on itunes. It helps people find us. Also subscribe and review our pop. 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Tory kittles lorraine tucson. Lisa appear in adam. Goldberg watch the mayor of the new. Cbs original series the equalizer sunday at eight seven central on cbs. Have some fun pop. Some corn and let's start our show all right. Hello paul dickson bitches. Welcome to dig while girls sitting here with the baddest bitch. I'm harriet winslow. And i am. Phyllis wheatley this is three. It is indeed. Thank you for coming back on our second black history month. Nobody's fucking celebrating black. Assuming you're still deep in the pandemic. So at this point i watch cartoons and drag race and i am not caught up on drag race but it is so good this season i've i i love it like i know the first two episodes. I just gagged the entire time. It was incredible. There haven't fun over there so black accents this week is going into an eleven-year-old named heart. Wilson was from pearland texas. And he's the owner candles from the heart and made candle comp name So here's the funny thing about this. This was a company that he decided to start as a way to raise money to the he could attend his dream. School howard university so fair league. He took a trip to howard when he was six years old. And say oh my home for a meager. This and i'm like when. I was six years old if i happen to be on that campus or any other campus. That matter i would have simply been begging for a ride home. I would've been wondering by rabbi. Has anything to do with me. I would have been able so let me. I wanted to go to hillman. And i wanted to go real bad so i understand. I understand. I do some early last year. He was perusing the youtube and things and stop people making money online inside lawn candles. They figure out how to figure out how to make candles parents helping on. And since then he's been selling them on ed see All kinds of different sense like guava fresca adds great cruel here plan and kashmir pun is an honor of awareness month so first of all gag because young art. Wilson has already sold a bachelor these candles to the new orleans. Pelicans actors and writers from shows like queen sugar assistance and how to get away with murder. Purchase the candles. They got candles in stores from chicago in texas. So i bought for some of these kids. Take money everything. Because how can you tell me. Your baby is selling candles to go to howard and not expect me to buy inventory. I'm going to a solid for awhile. Yes payroll and i love to see it. How q a dance. That kids have to sell candles to pay tuition but not sheep girls better. I mean i just love it. He'll definitely i believe. Have the meetings at least financially to get there with the way these yeah. I mean. he's only eleven so he has some time to save up. Hey you know he's the one who like se. Get you with the with the last minute checkout anxiety because they wanted me like. Hey there's another twenty five girls with this same item in their car right now honey. So it's time to decide. What are you gonna do. Are you for left. So what will you do. I was literally me earlier by friends thing that she just put out with. Marian their their activation packets of i went edgy and it was like there are six remain in the store and twenty people have it in the car and when i tell you i focused on checking out like we have to do it right now. I cannot hesitate. I have stress place or do you right as he does. They drive up doing zayed's some i will include a link in description if you guys wanna ask the court Otherwise you can just look them up candles from the heart and go. Show them some love and I know that we have a lot of howard. Alum that listened to the show. So you're you're saying me. And howard pleased that. They can handle that all by themselves. So congratulations young man okay. So this week in our pop culture segment hot tops. One bottom in miami which is also name of my upcoming lifetime by up. Don't i'm not gonna do to switch you. Speaking of lifetime we spoke. I believe last week about spinderella and her open letter to after their lifetime movie came out and spin said that you know she wasn't in the producer's chair the way that she should have been disappointment and so on and so forth. Apparently salt Herself our soil. As i usually call her base to have like a reality show on i want to say vh1 because who else would really exploit the girls. While many other people could honestly on beige on oxygen we ziegler. They had a show. And i don't remember what the fuck it was really a bow feel like they were like. Oh we're going to go on to oregon arena. Do like a show broccoli. Saceur was i sick. It was some shit like that. But all i really remember is that pepe always say pronounce name like that. So that's why i say our name anyway. So salt told people magazine. I reached out to spinderella. Feel like this is very unfortunate. We've come to a crossroads where we have to be. The decided to agree to disagree. I definitely am open and peppers open. We've talked about in. Our hearts open have always been open to spinderella sars. The public is concerned. I'm really happy about the people who know that they don't know everything which i love. There is a delightful same line. So then said they're six sides to every story which is where she lost means but we just hope that we can come to some sort of resolution the future you never know. You never know what god is doing so. She says that she reached out to spend. I don't know if that's before after the movie was produced and released it. Sounds like sounds guy. Sounds like after a stint. Apparently pap a claim that the movie was more focused on salt and pepper relationship and friendship in college and growing up together more so than whatever the fuck else. Which sounds like the way that i would expect them to. I'm surprised age addresses at all. I mean the movie definitely ended with salt and pepper. The group performing underage. You can act like it was about college if you want to know not so i mean you could just say listen. We don't really get along with that bitch too much. And so when it came time to make conversation nobody made it a priority if fully gives me saw and pepper were in a room with whom the fuck ever over at lifetime and the girls were talking about producing it and maybe saw it was like oh and then spin and someone across cables like yeah budget we just feel like doing it needs and they just went along with it and it was that i would not really honesty gives me like. Do we really need to pay spinderella to like you know. Come on you guys. I've ever just like yeah. Sure whatever find well. God bless the children Just a fresh two weeks guy. I really about light skinned dominican singer. Danny lay her newest record. Well apparently she may have put both of her yellow bone fee in her mouth. Fish taste too early because as this past sunday ms. Daniela has reported on her is that she's officially single. While the baby is doing some sort of tick tock sweepstakes where he goes going date with somebody who now what is that nigga doing. I have no idea. It's comes with a challenge and everything and my god. The challenges like my god. The challenges like jesus and surreal week. Fuck like everything. And it's like it's one thing when the babies you know. Some of the some of the sixteen year olds are organically coming up with whatever their challenges. And sometimes i'm like. Oh this is fine. That's cute and other times. I'm like i don't understand what is happening. But there's a lot of you motherfucking fifty year old bastards. That are out here. Trying to cut challenges so that you can sell. And i am exhausted. Tired when jennifer lopez tried to start the loved on casa thing challenge. I said leave us alone. Like why are we you old beautiful woman go. How dare you not. Even as i'm not gonna act like i don't see the marketing behind it. You know. i understand why it's done but faulk like happy. Let the girls decide. Let one it's spine anyhow so yeah. Apparently the children are are. They're all over to any lays his dany layer it. Who cares. they're all over. Danny's all over danny's pages and things mostly like Guess yellow donate. What do you want us to take to which she finally responded and says something like those to me. Goddamn something. I'm paraphrasing y'all You know coming her on behind that terrible terrible song that she had the nerve. How even if it came out and she just teased it. But just go ahead and act like you never happened. Just act like you have selectively amvest not a part of this election because wow was that terrible not just because of the message but because of the production vocal mixing direct everything about it was p your waist and i just want you to forget about that the same way. The baby is already forgotten about you. This gives me that. The baby's momma called him for that song thing and it was like typically. I don't give a fuck where you need to do right. I'm going to tell you that you can't see her. You can call her. Tired elite sean number okay. Too many people got mad at her for. That is what. I'm guessing. But i hope you don't think that just because he broke up with this light skinned allegedly light skinned person. Means that what he won't cook right he could just go get another one. Same shade of you know that light skinned may have made a public relations a little hot for the baby. So much time must like the live timetable. Set to saad pappa. There was one particular white person over on the baby's team that was like let's talk about this girl and in this nigga you know he probably ready to cheat in peace anyway so we were like no problem. Smooth our How how are you running a valentine's day dating competition. How is that even happening. Is it as loom day. Please don't tell me he's taking somebody to a restaurant right now. Please don't tell me to this. Tiktok is a hashtag masterpiece this morning. Best reenactment of this tick. Tock gets flown out for a date with baby on valentine's day hashtag masterpiece challenge choosing the winner friday. So you can so you can board a spirit flight. To wherever debate is it and spin two days and one day in fact was tasked a motor. They'll let us leave one night and then she is on the first spirit. Beco- sweetheart let me give you the reality. That was very sweet and cute. Well she just tried to do is interested in possibly participating in the masterpiece towns you will board a spirit airlines flight. You will be flown the fuck out to wherever the fuck Baby is probably in fort. Lauderdale florida somewhere. All right land okay. You will spend one lunch. And i'm here to repeat one line with baby possibly at like a jr crickets something like a california pizza kitchen. After that you will get a bag. A bag of the baby swag okay with the cd and probably a signed poster and inter somewhere and you will get on the smoothest ride. I back to your hometown that evening. Okay so participants own damn risk and however the fat girl to night we. You'll get a selfie. But i want you to know that you will be at pk with that nigger and sixteen others at the largest table that they have available and you will see him colombo longer than one and a half hour flying home girl. Are you gonna stay for a lot of if you want. Somebody could send you your leg but like a weekend. Get it out of your mind. It's sad one night. I think you know know you're getting on a plane out of whatever. Major airport is closest to you. You may spend one night in hartsfield atlanta hartsfield jackson. You might spend one airport if you miss your from the pk. Yes you may spend one. I in whatever city. If you don't make your plane. I'm here to let you know the truth. Bats it God bless the baby's baby mama. I'm sure that it hard group chat. Is i know that shit is on fire base while if i could be on zoom call tackling one percent definitely dan. Do you have friends like who who. Okay all right. Doc telling all of these motherfucking people. Yes to everything that they say everything they do everything they express just because you get access to some free hookah you get behind the belva wrote y'all bitches nissar be honest with your friends because this is like this. This how they get into this and then their stock plummets. You act like you don't know them like be honest with your friends Hip hop hip hop party promoter. Little bow is apparently shown interest in a change in occupation. Finally he tweeted now. I know this might sound crazy but he will. After i jot my last album i will focus on tv and film and joining the wwe. What haven't you already chapter last album suck the ww homes. I know you bush in a look it up. Because i know you are. This is the first time i said out there. It's been a lifelong childhood dream to wrestle in the. Wwe guy you are bullshit. Oh my he continues me and ray mysterious versus whoever at wwe for the tag team. Titles now on one end you know. It's great to see him. Showing initiative in something that isn't rap music or pandemic parties. However the first thing i thought of when i when i read this was like isn't bow like three foot to i don't know how like i don't I haven't watched wrestling since it was like like freshly became. Wwe i think maybe just a bit before then is when i stopped watching. I'm like. I'm talking about dwayne. Johnson was still up there in his. You know. His draws doing the eyebrow thing like her old ages ago. So i haven't watched it in a while so i don't think that everybody that you don't need to be you know fucking nba height. Or whatever. I don't know that that has anything to do with anything so but i just i thought like isn't powell kind of you know small and who maybe that doesn't matter and also acting and writing a lot of that other stuff so i just don't i don't think it is acting like a lot of it is fake but you do have to be able to sell it. And balboa just doesn't just look about. Well i don't think he can sell pro wrestler to me and i haven't wrestling since hulk hogan so there you go like it's all about character and you know they've got like Wrestlers may root for you got like villains and all that kind of stuff. So it's like how would you fit in. But i also think about like the maze. I remember watching the real world yet. When the ms was mike on the same season of coral literal music television legend. My god coral wherever you are girl. God bless you daily did a laugher. Tv wow what a queen in an icon but anyway separate. I remember that white man being on the roh worlds and obsessing with wrestling and talk to how badly he wants to be in the wwf and all this other shit and playing around with and he's legit a professional wrestler now. So i mean that's true that did actually happen. So maybe there's a place for that. Also mike looked like a wrestler. He looked like the kind of white boy who would want to be a wrestler. Bowel looks like he's majoring in our history. Oh so it's just not the same. Graffiti artists. like notice. Thing is the build of someone who's majoring in art history. Oh god no. I didn't mean anything about him. I oh god no. He would never decide to major in anything in his life. Yeah right young man. God bless you all of your endeavors again. I feel like the w. w. e. thing is super random but i don't watch wrestling anymore like i said and i know that it's like in terms of people who are professional wrestler is. It's very different now out like when i was washing. If they've got all kinds of different types of people who are pro wrestlers in different characters and aesthetics and stuff. I just feel like like most. Wwe fans would be like if she does not get the fuck it was like. I don't know where. Where would you. I don't know i i don't know either and i can't even pretend like i'll watch about curiosity. 'cause i deeply don't care but it sounds like you probably already have some kind of special coming up with the wwe anyway and this is just the way out it. Maybe they might be able to get him in somewhere. And again i would not be mattis. Anything is better than japan parties. Check it so sweet shows. I don't watch. While the not is apparently about to combat or the like this indicated episodes reruns are supposed to come back to viacom networks. Each one in stuff this week and they're going to be producing episodes while now in the near future. Apparently this is after nick. Cannon apologized profusely to the jewish community after making anti semitic comments last year. Also he also probably celebrated hannukah last year. Rosh hashanah girls. Because i tell you he look like nick. Cannon got elbow deep intuit's culture and was like no my ems and my man. I don't even remember what he's saying. But i do remember being deeply problematic so it was like a lot of the typical like conspiracy theory. Jewish tap conversation is not even something that's almost exclusive to nick cannon. He was just repeating. Ran like a lot of around admires. Yeah have said and he. You know Bear the brunt of a lot of that stuff because he is in business. I mean he hosts fucking Like not one of those talent. Shows that even america's got talent or one of the. I think it's america's got talent. I think he was also hosting the masked singer but just got replaced by because he tested positive for covid era But then the wild out show like he's got like white money right so he pissed off way too. Many caucasians why so many jewish people and the girls were like nah but like. I said he won the apology to aware and Mtv entertainment group's spokesperson said. Nick has not only apologized to take responsibility for his comments but he has also worked educate himself and others through engagement with jewish leaders and on his platforms. Those efforts are of the utmost importance. And that's why we have invited him to rejoin our team. So this is interesting. Because like nichols even at one point when he was like ten toes downstairs by saying he was like i will sue you bitches for awhile. Now give my say y'all gonna route without me and all this other stuff and now they've made them ends but what's interesting about his knees like a lot of people when people are like. Yeah good for for nick cool and then a lot of other people are like oh you sold out and you know got back in bed with the white man to did all that you know. People like hotel really him. Yeah who are like super behind. Why he were saying are kind of disappointed they. He apologized and did work to try and figure out where he may have been wrong. In how dare you better yourself. Bright so so people are salty about it while other people are like. Oh you know good for him and then there are. People like me who were like this affects. Everybody right like the one thing about walter tonight. Although i haven't watched against since maybe maybe college has hasn't been on that long. Oh my has. I feel that was when i was in college and talk about back cat williams and she used to be on water now like early early but whenever like initial run of the show is when i was watching it but i love that there are so many There's some young talent that gets to sort of use that as a platform and they sort of like like reach their hands out a lot of the people on instagram and youtube and tiktok combined and all that stuff to be a part of it. So i i like the fact that it's sorta has operated as a springboard for for young talent And at least it will continue to be produced under the person who had the initial vision for it. I mean yeah. If these people feel like he's made enough of a men's for him to have his show beckmann that's fine. I wasn't watching. Wow now anyway so this affects me like you said not at all. I don't know how the jewish community is about it. But i hope everybody p like i'm not gonna pretend to speak for them. I hope everybody is at ease. The exactly so exact. Say there is something ski though the thought of like you know expelling this man from while out and then continuing to do it and make a ton of funny especially this still called nick. Cannon's wild and out like that's just very awkward. Who's gonna i mean. And i think it was probably effect that you know. Spend some time. Everybody's cooled off. Nick as the that they would expect him to do and both sides realize that the money is nice. They're wiling out was popular for viacom. So i'm not shocked that some time has passed and everybody was like. Let's get back to making a lot of money together. Yeah ultimately they're like nicholas got in front of his negro community and told them that he was wrong. So guess we can continue to make money together because as long as those black folk though. We don't like that ship. He talking it out and again. I don't know. I feel like if i asked the first juice person. See about what they faked her will ask me. They'll be like nick. Cannon got podcast. I really don't know who is even if they are even like super aware of it but also not gonna try to tell the battlefield like right. God bless everybody speaking of drama in production a over in the same place. Tv is said they are halting production on the family hustle. The and tiny friends and family television show following these allegations of sexual abuse and coercion and assault bob. The hands of both c. I n. Tiny we spoke. I believe it was last week about these allegations that started Let came from one of tiny's ex friends. I who has since been compiling all of these messages. She's been getting from people that claim a had really fucked up experiences of oh coercion assaults all kinds of stuff that really nobody stories mirror. One another So yeah. mtv went ahead and said are via tois. Whoever viacom went ahead and said none thanks. No thank you go ahead figure that out away from me here. Lisa bloom right on time. You counter out your the full sucks to be swept right on. And she's apparently. Remember sending at least one of these accusers. Of course and i don't really know what to make of this shit yet but i do imagine that the bottom of it will be gotten to at some point because this does not sound like a swept under the rug acid people making accusations towards both of them and i truly do believe that there are people who like in terms of the types of stories that these people are sending into this girl. Sabrina i honestly do believe that. There are a lot of people that do this. By the focus specifically women and feel like it is. There's nothing wrong with it. I mean like you just because someone like agrees to come back to your place or your hotel agrees do drugs with you or drink with the or whatever does it mean say anyway you know what i mean like if you especially if you're someone of like i started level of fame or whatever in many cases peer pressure and shit like that. Don't even know if you're pressure is the right thing but it's like that's a real thing and and motherfuckers know that again. I don't know the truth about anything. We behind i and his wife but i do believe that there are a lot of mother fuckers. Who do this or they're just like. Oh yeah come back to such and such you look good we wanna do whatever whatever and then get them in these situations drugs were of course. They go along with this stuff because they are. Just you know. Excited are feel flattered or whatever to be around someone that they recognize whatever but like if people are getting if people are in a situation where they're getting fucked up the the point where they can't consent to anything but that's not it's it doesn't matter that the agreed to be there. It doesn't matter that they agreed to drink that or start bad or smoke that or do whatever like i feel like there are a lot of people who feel like like some other people who don't understand why bill cosby's locked up But again as far as this particular story with this particular capo. I do imagine that we will be hearing more about it in the near future. But i just want motherfucker understand like you know. I hope not to trigger anyone but like you don't have to be violent or forceful with some wine in order for it to count as like or such or coercion or coercion is a big problem. Like this is the wages sway. I mean the thing is like we we. We desperately need real and detailed and like nationwide in depth conversations about consent and what constitutes consent and different circumstances under which consent might be altered or no longer valid or whatever else like we desperately need that but also with all the education in the world. Some people are still going to be fucking gross. So i just i don i mean it looks like this is going to go places and now the lisa bloom has signed on. We may actually seeing. I'm just saying start seeing real evidence and stuff like i kinda thought if no lawyers picked up any of these girls cases or anything like that that even just kind of fizzle out but it looks like that might not be the case we know half stays on the black blogs. This blue was leading the shade room and she got a loan telephone. Let me and we'll see what comes out. Yikes last story here. I have is about a young rapper by the name of lucy vert who changed his name until now maybe he's changed his name to little universe since apparently this negative a good idea to implants four million dollar pink diamonds in the middle of his got. Damn forehead. I want you to believe and understand that i'm reading to you. They this motherfucker said that he's been paying off this iraq that sits between ten and eleven carrots since twenty seventeen. Why twenty four million dollars on a stone simply to have some psycho put it in the middle of his fucking head like vision from fucking mardell. Cinemax lines. i don't understand why we're doing this. What like then. They really even. He really didn't want to be staving. Why would you do this. And i like when i i saw this very much. Like the squidward mean where he son bane he looks at. I've very much was. I okay as you know. Waiting through the filth to look for stories from. I oppose this nigga which she deleted there is blood like gushing from the wound their back the whatever it was bleeding all over the place at one point and he claimed that if he didn't get it like if he didn't get a take out or something that he could die but then deleted this shade posted. A new thing where there was no blood and he said. Okay we good i just wanna understand what nevermind we go from. My dad never met we good. How did you come back from net. Why what is why. Why would you spend twenty four million dollars on a on a piece of rock first of all for every place for play for anything or a watch on your wrist for bangle on your ankle. Like for your living room coffee table like for whatever the fuck but again girl. I'm not going to count little unique various coins. What you decided in your money but you decided also to plant it in the middle of the face that god gave you for what for why and it's bleeding all over the places like i i. It was like you know what. I don't understand a lot of the girls. Do they. put diamonds in their t. May do you know they. Tattoo like their tongues and do all kinds of as your body. It's yours so fine. So i looked at this and i was like wow yet. The you know hip hop getting to new heights. The trap trends are are you know surpassing my understanding of reality so here. I'm just here. I'm just here fine but you are now looking like final destination. All over the goddamn plays bleeding and shared it with us talking about you might die but then okay we good no girl call me back because this nigga talk about some taking me as i am. I love me for who. I am these weird cryptic close. Who are you nigga. Rose cords not making are you. Are you preparing like some sort of a rebellion for the arrival of the diamonds. What the fuck. What is low us. Evert know that we don't nothing literally not anything. Not one thing if you had to spend twenty four million dollars on a stone then i'm gonna need you to not be the type person who has to make a payment plan on it either sue if you can't wire twenty four million dollars or however very rich people move money. I don't know. I know it's not cash app. If you can't do that then you have no business spending twenty four million dollars when tom rock for that is the single dumbest thing you could've taken that money and invested back in the neighborhood. You grew up in end changed. Everybody's life you know that. I thought of all of those things but i was like you know something again. A part of this rich rat nigga say that i don't know anything about is spending insane amounts of money and stuff like that and don't get me wrong like i love diamonds and shit like that bus downs and all that like anybody. The cows like. Hello i'm not goofy but twenty four fucking million dollars and then you take the rock and put it between your browse. What planet is. This is the darkest time does not make you bleed. Of course it's gonna make you bleed any posting in a showing it to us like we supposed to be like shocks. That blood is gushing from your goddamn forehead after you decided to take this fucking stone and have some somebody surgically implanted in the middle of your fucking head. What i just. Yanni role models now applies now. The plight has removed his goal to fully commit to being kirk franklin and save some hip hop salt because they need like a support group are someone to like. Gather around these by. There's md. like all right okay. What are we going to do lose. Evert get out of your head and let somebody so their backs. Their way these dreads. Do you want him or not like right. Now let's talk about whether or not you want to like. I don't think body. But just so i'm so confused i'm so i don't understand why because it just and you won't because it just does not make sense. All there is to correct you cannot make. They make sense out of nonsense. My sister book award that day. That is a powerful like you have to. I needed it throughout all twenty twenty every day or twenty twenty. I needed that word and it carries on to this very moment. What do you do when you go home to your mama's house. Oh and you have this shit embedded in the middle of your damn pay. I'm trying to think of what exactly my mother would say. If i came with a diamond of any price assialov acute punch it right on down to party stadiums honestly feel like my mother would just clasp our hands together and look at the ground for a solid five minutes before speaking. They're gonna know what she would say to me. They're going to have questions and honestly they should. Because what the fuck have you done to yesterday's phase. Why am for what reason and why did we need to know how much it costs. Why were we involved at. Aw there is that. Let's say for the hot tops this week for move on. Of course you know that we've got to get into kids periods so song it so as he is no louis. Vitton took place this past sunday as it does annually on sundays and surprises team with tom. Brady and at one now last to cover here but you know only in a short amount of time so less cuffed chris. Pratt led the tampa bay buccaneers to a staggering win against the kansas city chiefs. Again this path sunday where they played football against one another on artificial grass. There was a lot of running calisthenics and throwing a of football. So what happened. Was that Tom brady is a mutant and alongside people like the gronk that is not not ease mus sidekick from the emperor's new but actually a football after they play the game of football together and they want ed against the chiefs who i believe probably can look towards out. No indigenous ancestors may be for an answer as to why they didn't go the long way. Why the fuck are they called. Yeah anytime. I have not changed that. Yeah it's a good question feels a little it is it definitely So yeah they threw a lot of things. And the kansas city chiefs saami fumbles and and they dropped the ball and many times and tyreek hill and The goal line for every are. There's there's so their four four round four parts segments ford portion and by the fourth one the game was over her and the bucks which is short for buccaneers. Had more points than the other team. Thirty one. I believe to be exact Which they get in an air command of points between numbers like three or seven or five or we knows and then so they won and there are so running and attempts and most valuable players and passing yards. Also tom brady has won seven super bowls. Which is a lot more which means that he also has seven super bowl rings jewelry when you get jewelry and so there are rumors that Chris chris pratt prototype is going to be playing with them again and grow gronk. Whose first name is robert and The tampa bay reason is very excited and boston is apparently not although more more people in boxing watch gay men in tampa bay focused. Tim was there. Mistreat spread gerona and rejoicing. So you're welcome. That has been a recap of the super bowl. Leave high also fun sidebar Friday saturday sunday performed at half time. and it half end my mom. Text me this man. Who's this man singing. Of course. I wasn't looking at it when i told her that is the weekend. I said he's pop singer. I don't care for his voice too much to which she responded. Okay so they're kids. Momma texas the same thing who is this. No she said is he black. Also in the name of black history. Two words jasmine sullivan. Yes yes even though. They made her perform with that white man. That was very wrong but jasmine and yes to her. So that's been kid very sports shorts also. Welcome you're welcome sir. Not a problem. I i wanted to get your take on. Patrick mahomes performance What about it. What did you think about patrick. Mahomes performance for his team quite abysmal. To be honest with you. And my god your momma does not need to be cape in for you all wide out in the oh and I don't really care too much about what you did or how you did it. Do what i will say is that you know. Better luck next time and also that is an interesting name and playing professional. Football is as blessing and many people. Don't get the opportunity. So god bless him and and his life if he lost are one or whichever one you did okay and what do you think about Brady and gronk being back on the same team. How would you compare the super bowl performance or their performance all season to the last time they both played on the same team. And i'm sure you know remarkable obviously. Don't be silly so Quite remarkable joy to see to be honest If felt a taste maga- but at the same time you know you gotta respect athleticism and so for that. It was very Nostalgic and people enjoyed likely that accepts. People that didn't so Really quite a sport. Tastic spectacle is say quite remarkable performance in sync with the without the j. c. chaz. I'm surprised to hear you say that given that brady and trump. Our friends and brady had a mega in his locker. Yeah i said it tasted. It's a taste. I mean i. I have literally called him. Trump brady on the program before so i'm aware of that. Okay i will say though that in terms of the the art of Running on these grass. That's not real and catching a ball and kicking the ball and running into people you know. Okay gotta respect where it's do i. I suppose you do. Thanks for any other questions now. I can't think of anything else. I would like to hear you explain about that game. I mean you're literally all welcome. I do this for you guys unum saying so that you're not gonna when someone asks you at the water cooler about what's going on in sports your saw incredibly welcome I'm here whenever you deem even not gonna do this every week and yeah go Whoever your favorite team is and i hope that they have a better season When football is on again 'cause they probably weren't the buccaneers kaz kazakina bodies favourite except people who live in tampa So but that's fine. Well girl he might as well call me. Dick's sporting good on that note. We can just go ahead and take it right on to a smooth break. Yes sir indeed and back so guys listen we all chew gum be honest. We all do. I do it quite a lot. Maybe too much but not all is created equal some might come and fancy packaging but they only cover up your bad breath which is the start others are loaded with sugar that can wreck havoc on your teeth. Luckily the oral care experts at have made a gum stands out from the pack. 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While i'm talking and i can see it reflected in her glasses although she's listening she kinda gets distracted and to make matters worse i feel like she only sort of perks up when i start crying or if i start talking about some traumatic shit which makes me feel like. I'm boring her. Otherwise i don't know how to bring it up because she's a good therapist and she's an older black woman and i understand she might be going through it right now with the hospitalization of her relative at the same time it makes me feel shitty. The i don't have undivided attention in the one space. I go to be listened to. How do i talk to her about this. Thanks for your help george. I mean again. I don't know if this is just some lame ass. Broken record staff honestly feel like a lot. Y'all maybe get a little too in your head about things are conversations. You need to have stuff to address because honestly like this. This person's cousin you know like like they're specifically connected to you to do a job and so you're allowed to say how you feel about the job they're doing you know and if you're still getting a help or you know you are being heard and moments of it while you know great. I guess you can say that. She's not completely ignoring you. But you deserve to feel like in that our our however much time you have a lot at intercession that you're being heard fully. You know what i mean like so. I think that that it should just be something that you have a talk with them about. You know what. I mean like like my my therapist. I've been seeing at least for years. I wouldn't be surprised if it's longer than that now but by talks about when i started going to therapy hair so i've seen her for years and this lady had two babies like back to back within like the first maybe year and a half or so. Now she has two very young babies and sometimes have sessions even late at night sometimes so why obsessions and caves alike. That's cute and all but guess. What now is the time for ravioli and have to shuffle around and like be listening to me while she's trying to sue these literal toddlers and baby you know And so like sometimes. It's like it feels like like distracted because i know that other stuff going on other things going on but she ourself makes the effort to be like technology and to try to do something about it so that she can get back to giving the her undivided attention as users playing candy crush with the baby. You know what i mean. You know surfing around. And i don't know what you know georgia's therapist is doing specifically on the computer that he's at but i understand wanting to just have are needing to have that full focused from someone who's who's supposed to be helping you deal with your share and i feel like it's something that you can address the same way. I would not have a problem addressing to my therapist if she never address it herself if it was like a habit of her just like cake and it with the baby and not hearing what i'm saying or something like that or even just feeling like schneider when i'm saying i wouldn't have a problem addressing it because although we are close in the sense that she literally knows all of my goddamn business and helps to pull me up out of the garbage when i'm feeling like shit. We have that level of closeness. She's not my friend she's my doctor and her for the relationship that we have so we have an understanding that i am permitted to say how i feel about that relationship and she's not going to be like how dare you inhale like you have the right to just be like. Here's how i feel. I don't feel like i'm getting you know the adequate help a result our attention that i feel like i'm supposed to be getting for whatever the freeze and don't be afraid. Salam tighten up. You feel like they needed. Yeah i mean literally exactly that therapists are just people. They host to be more evolved people than the rest of us but they are still just human. They are subject to fucking up or being insensitive or anything else that anybody else might do. The difference is in how they're supposed to handle it. Because if you're therapist is worth a damn you should be able to say this to her. And she responded in a professional and adult and mature way about it. Like if you think that if you talk to your therapist she's going catch an attitude which you than that. Then there's a real problem with your if that's what she actually does because because she of all people like my therapist knows me like nobody else on this earth does and it's really weird because i've got a very close friendships and yet this woman. Just get she just. It's it is a very unique relationship. So if i'm feeling uncomfortable in it in the place where i go to talk about everything else. That makes me uncomfortable. I have to be able to address that. And she literally taught me to be the kinda bitch to address that it exactly like their therapists girl is e leona able to take it. They have gone to school for a very very long time. Three thousand our house supervisor. Supervise therapy work so that they can have these kinds of conversations friend dna us if there's anybody that you should not feel to Concern to confront about something. It is your their best. Although don't get me wrong. I get it even with me. Maybe not so much like anything with her performance but there are things that i was just not comfortable talking to her about period. Yeah yeah so like you to something. I get that it's not right. It's not always the easiest to just pour your heart out may from every angle with your therapist and stuff like that again girl like this. Isn't you know america's not just hand new mental health care say 'cause the arise but it's especially if you got melanin france right. Listen i mean go ahead and speak to your therapist. And if you're if they're if they're the like if they're an actual therapist and worth the money that you're banks they will have like the ideal reaction to you. Say what it is that you're saying like her said if your therapist has an attitude with you. I think that's a real problem. They probably shouldn't be fair. Peiser probably not like maybe too much going on in her personal life or her to serve as a therapist and that's fine but she understand that and take our time to herself because ultimately she's not doing you a favor here yes and even if it was free therapy she still has an obligation to behave professionally. Mail on exactly good luck. Yes as you have this conversation. Let's move on. Our next letter comes from fee. Fieger says i don't know how to tell my absolute best friend that i cannot make it to her wedding. Wonder why you bet to find out. My own wedding was this past december. Twenty twenty and my best friend was there for me in an unbelievable way. She helped me prepare and sort out thing i needed. I had traveled from the uk to nigeria because the wedding happened in our home country where she currently resides and as soon as i arrived in nigeria. She began to help me with every fitting every prep in every meeting. She helped with single thing including things that were going wrong. Are failing instance majoring in weddings. Last week. a lot happened. I cannot even explain how helpful and supportive she was. I got covert after the wedding. Which i was definitely gonna ask but yeah i got covid after the wedding and had to remain in isolation in nigeria until i tested negative before i got to travel back to the uk and this took time off of the days. I put aside to travel to nigeria again for her wedding. That means that at this moment i have exhausted all of my holiday time and another trip. Outside of the uk will mean. I cannot get my passport till twenty twenty three right now. I am supposed to get it in cimber of this year and her wedding is in july. I feel so so horrible about this. Particularly because i know no one can be there for her the way i can be just like nobody could have been there for me at my wedding. The way she was we help each other ever thing we hope and everything and we are completely selfless in our relationship and we often go the extra mile and do extra things for each other if reverse was the case i would understand her circumstances and be okay with her not coming to my wedding but she is typically not as understanding as i am one time she got upset with me because i couldn't fly down to nigeria for her law school graduation. It makes no sense for me to travel in jeopardize my uk citizenship. My lawyers have advised against it since. I have waited ten years to receive it. Please please advise me. On how i can break the news to her amp breaker heart and also how can i get over the guilt. I feel thanks fi fi. Yup a lot on sometimes. I'm here to tell you that my life is an absolute shambles. And i don't know left from right so let's start there. Let's say y'all know who y'all asking for advice to very human people. So so what do you do about your fucking citizenship. All right let me just mental rolodex. Like i mean. Here's the thing like when this started. I assumed that it was going to be some really shallow silly reason. Like even like the dry us or you don't like her husband fiance or whatever. I don't really know what you supposed to do yet in like. I don't know this is like you really stuck in like a tough situation here because twenty twenty three got damn you know what i mean like. We already been waiting for life in general so i mean i feel like the only thing that you can really do and this moment is talk to your friend about it and be realistic I feel like it's issue going to be upset if you're going to be disappointed. Fuck yes like. How can she be your best friends. She's fucking getting married literally. Everyone wants their best friend. It'd be at their wedding or whatever this evening you go down to the courthouse. You'll bff probably be there either. D like that. In itself is a bummer. Plus the fact that i brought joe as treasure planet took puckett ascott. Like is she going to be bummed. Hell yes like. I don't know what the compromise could be if there was one iago have to try and get really really creative. Because i don't know really you know. I mean i feel like the best case scenario would be that you tell her and that she's bummed but understands and that y'all try to plan something to do in replacement of that. Y'all do some you know some like separate friends wedding addition that would probably be in like a tracy oliver written film or something fun like something out do like off to the side in replacement of whatever you. I don't know because you know how. This one sucks. And i totally get like sometimes like i just said in your head about conversation that i feel like our dealt needs to be as difficult as you expect that they would be but this is a conversation that's gonna suck it's going to suck for us definitely going to talk to her. But i don't know what you could do if somebody else has any ideas. I hope that they can shoot them to you as soon as possible. But this is something that you're going to have to to understand and contend with is to be bummed about it and if she decides that your ass is on ice for a bit. But i think that's something you have to take with the with the way things fall i guess but right i mean are to do this. It kind of feels like this is a risk. Everybody took because y'all participated in a week long wedding in the middle of the pandemic. So thank you for bringing it back to that. Remember that part of it. It just kind of seems like all you have to do is like you're choosing to not. I mean you are choosing because you could decide to delay your passport by another two years. But i don't know that that's a reasonable thing to expect somebody to choose. Also you k- passport over nigerian passport. I don't know if there's a real benefit i don't because i don't know about the uk laws or whatever So i don't really understand why you want a uk passport but also It it clearly matters a lot to you. You've been waiting a decade for it. So i would say to her. Hey girl so The has this rule about how long you can be out of the country In a given year. When you're waiting on your passport. And because i caught covert after the wedding had to stay in. Nigeria have used up all my time and so i don't have two weeks to come to nigeria to help you with your wedding. I think you just have to lay it out as a this is the law and so because we had my week long wedding. I caught cove. It and And so i used up all my time. Like i kinda feel like this. Maybe she didn't know that there was only a certain amount of time. You could be out of the country but then again if the best friend it probably came up at some point over the past decade so i just think if it was me i would just lay it out there in like in a factual manner like that and if she don't naturally come to the conclusion i'll bring her there during the course of the conversation but i mean it's either that or she's gonna ask you to delay by two years and then you have to ask yourself. Is that really worth it again. I don't know your rights for wanting this passport right. I was gonna say like you bring up a good point in the fact that i don't really know either you like i don't know the significance of one passport over the other or any of that stuff works so i don't really. I'm just basing this off of you. Saying i've been waiting a decade for this and affect. It's twenty three is not exactly around the corner But yeah maybe she it. Would it would be a thing where it would be like girl then pushed it back the fuck you talking about like i you know had a whole cutting so america waiting for you bits like what are you talking about so i don't yeah i don't really know like if it is something that is unreasonable. If feels like it might be but again like if it is something that can away. I guess you got to like way. That should out because again say maybe the wedding situation to wake me. Maybe steps could have been you know but so many people having their wedding anyway so many right exactly so. Don't think i'm singling you out. But yeah a week's worth the festivities. I would have been shocked if you didn't catch kovic so i'm not surprised by that. I would just say you know this was. This was the gamble that we took in. Fortunately it did not work out in our favor and so this is where i'm at right now and if it's like you need a uk passport to work or some shit then okay but if it's something else then you might really have to decide like is this delaying for another eighteen to twenty four months to be there for my best friends wedding assuming that she's not american so this is not her starter marriage and you know you might wanna be. I wanna be there for this one because she plans on really making it work vazza a good point. So do you. How much do you believe. Do you believe in these two only match nonni. She's gonna be over garlic. There's no way that she's not going to be pissed. How past who. She's more pissed that you are in the government at all of that in the conversation. It's definitely tell her sooner than later. Do not wear this wedding in. July girl is february. Needs her before yes talking about. Hurry up and say so lance best of luck to you. Let us know how that goes. I am deeply curious and our last letter. This week comes from andrea. Who says i left my husband in two thousand nineteen after seventeen years together and that was something i had been trying to do for a long time. I refuse to give them in another ounce of my energy. And i told myself i was going to use my singleness to focus on me in heal from the mess i endured for my whole adult life with that man fast forward ten months a man walked into my store and we locked eyes immediately. I tried to ignore the energy. I fell but i know he fell to two because by the time he left he had my number. It was a gamble because you know we were both wearing a mask and that could win in the wrong direction. What the terry mcmillan talking. But it did. We spend weeks talking on the phone getting to know each other. And it's so amazing. How in tune we are after weeks. Went back to say like that. After a few weeks went by we decided we wanted to see each other in person again and certified everything we've said to each other yoga. I began to gush about this anthem assistant. But she said you doing too much and you are not healed yet. Well i know. I'm not completely healed. But that's a process that could take literal years. What i do know is my old man is not my new man halo. This new man has been everything. I wanted plus more so i could never confused too. Well i didn't think a man like him was possible to find where i live. Equality and nicholas around here guaranteed. I'd never been in a relationship again. My question is do. You think is possible to start a new healthy relationship while healing from a long-term tumultuous relationship love you both andrea. Okay so follow me because camera. I don't know exactly where i'm going. But i feel like i'm gonna get better okay now. I hate whistler's black red regardless. I think that they're just one of the most pointless things you could eat. Now if i was eating shape eight every day for seventeen years and then someone gave me a twizzlers instead of shit too. I would probably be like this is the is rate the flavor like this is such a decadent tree like i would be probably over the moon when i ate something that typically i would find vile because i was dealing with shit for the majority of my god damn life so anything at this point is probably gonna be mind blowing so i just want you to consider what i'm talking about in this situation here. Everybody always in early situations in his honeymoon phase and stuff like that. Everyone always thinks that that person they're infatuated with is the most amazing person that they fell from the sky and landed into your lap and they were brought there by way of guide made in your to souls together or whatever the fuck and then that wears off and you find out who each other actually is and you realize we work together we win or you know so i would say it's it's realistic to be like. It may take many more years for me to completely heal from past relationship. But in the meantime you know mom i need some love. I just asked you to be honest and be real with yourself and the fact that this nigga is fully a rebound and that is okay you like. That's that is a normal thing. It happens to lots of us is okay have your time have your good time. I just don't put a single got damaged basket. I'm talking about zero. Okay have your fine wash. The net flicks shitter. Don't watch whatever. Fuck is on the netflix shit. And then go back to wherever fuck it is you came from and thank god that you have someone in your space during peter pan. Who can you know. Yeah who can trae that sort of with you are through zoom or facetime wherever the fuck. Y'all communicate you know. But i agree with your sister saying god bless her. Be safe out here in streets. Which feelings bitch like not after seventeen years of of whatever neck right seventeen years of a ridiculous abusive absurd whatever else relationship and all this and she did put in a little. Ps as she isn't there but that they haven't gotten to this yet. Okay which makes me park. Which honestly makes me sad which is sister even more 'cause if you're in therapy right now and y'all having gotten to this yet that means you working through some very real shit the okay like this gives me. She's still in the origin so and understand sister really do and i think right now like if you said like i do get the the urge for companionship especially during the pandemic. Because it's fucking awful out here right now. Sucks really bad out here right now but but you have some really important healing to do and so you have to be honest with yourself right now. 'cause kyrie is right like you definitely should not be investing no real feelings into this. You definitely should not be. Put no eggs in the basket. You know per se when it comes to this man but by the tone of your letter. I think you already fallen for him. And i just don't want you to take a bite you get a snickers when it's related to us loose you just brought it full circle and this is why we do share best system because twizzlers is slightly flavored. Plastic now really is sweet class. And you can. You can do better the sweep lasting and if he is really a snickers of negative then he'll still be a snickers of a nigga when you went through your shit a man that won't change because the truth on today if you're worried about losing him then he's not the man for you because the man for you will understand that you need a lot of very real very deep time to yourself right now. And so if he's not okay with that maybe you need to be okay with him just being dick and you know somebody to lay up and watch ninety day fiance's wit and that's that you know but if you to be religious of again don't don't say to yourself a lack of handle that they in no problem. If you can't handle and everybody is gonna be a problem. Got to be honest harsh synonymous you might want to pull out of composition. Books are making some diagrams. Enough pros and cons. Do love lists same same. I suggest you invest in some paper start some chart open that no pat on your phone even absolutely a list about this man in be real which itself about your emotions and the things you are going through and yeah take your time since you said seventeen years in that mayors year and then you have this man ten months later sweet my sweet summit romar now girl please do not do it. You are still that person that was married for seventeen like you still in the front lawn you have. It really left the property yet girl. You just sort of stepped out of this life that you've been you like give yourself a little time to just be you and to like reevaluate everything that you want. Don't want can tolerate angoor tolerate all of those other things before you start investing into another relationship. I'll give how much fun you're having grow halfon which you and lag reestablishing that and getting all of that together. Learning all of the lessons completing all of that shape that you you know you learned from this past relationship before we go start investing in time and some other because what you don't want is the end up in a situation where you fall on your phase and end up heartbroken with his new nega ten months after whatever after seventeen years with somebody that you case. Dan like just nothing wrong with having fun in dating and being cute and washed ninety day. Fiance's love after lock cook. But just take your fucking time. Please do and take care of yourself because you already did a major thing in leaving this relationship and you have a therapist so like remember that girl who said i'm gonna take this time in my singleness to focus on me and work through my trauma. Remember that girl. Remember that girl because she had she she had the right idea and horn. You may be talking right now but and just like you said a second ago like you can do that work and come out on the other side of that and be like oh this nigga still here right there being a fucking team right there. If he's a peach peach. So how can i assist. They're good luck to you in your relationship that or in what you decide to do about this relationship that wraps up the questions for this week in yours to ask the et gmail.com and we'll be right back hayaal. There's a thousand reasons. Why protecting your home matters to you. for me first and foremost because of these packages that are supposed to be delivered and every now and then they used to come up missing something. That deeply irritated me. And that's why. I invested in a ring system ring security products for every corner of your home inside and out and best of all you can see it all in one simple app so with rain. 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Apparently you know. Dc did their thing which they have been stumbling in holland for the past games now. But we'll see sharon. Oh and He's batman yes batman. Ncaa man there you go so those movies have mostly been awful. They're they did like some shit with those old. Is emma gm those classic monsters like frankenstein and and the wolfman invisible man. They did like wine with the mummy and tom cruise. It was awful. And i think there is trying to cross all of those movies together. At some point they are doing it with like godzilla and king kong. Oh thank you. I got a movie that came out. Well not the first one. But like the one that came out with aaron taylor johnson and i want to say like twenty fourteen was actually a really good godzilla movie The sequel not so much and then that kong movie that had same oh jackson and it was all over the place but it was pretty so like but again it's all in an effort to make a whole bunch movie and i feel a money and i feel like they're doing the same thing now with hanna. Barbera cartoons like tom and jerry movie. That's supposed to come out this move this year. That's like half atta mation. Half live action like awesome. Who framed roger. Rabbit with. ''chloe grace moretz and i forgot who else is in it and it looks genuinely terrible like it looked awful and i think. I think that they're doing the same thing with like they're going to try. And probably i don't know mesh that shit with like space jam movie coming out and probably the flint style like girl star like everything that need for you to take shape from the fucking sixties and eighties and then jammed. All the fuck together became and goes to the goddamn movies so slow down. I'm like fug are at least make fucking movies. Good at like one thing. I feel like a lot of y'all are missing out on. That marvel did much like the person that we just spoke to in in the latter section. You taking time trying to rush to your avengers. And that's not what the fuck is okay. They took their time with several films to establish what the fuck was going on so by the time they did this crossover. Big jam packed all star thing. It was exciting because we knew who all of these mother fuckers were. Most of them were and had experience. Y'all just trying to throw all of this shit to the wall doesn't matter if it's written well directed well shot anything and then it's like. Hey guess what. We got twelve more girl. We didn't want to see the first. I just want some of you all to think about that moving on. I think that frito lay and shaggy. Oh the entire world and specifically jamaica an apology and ashton kutcher and kunis on if you saw that she does commercial that aired for the super bowl that was basically like ashton kutcher Confronting his real life wife about like who as some she does or something and then they go into this caucasian version of shaggy's featuring real life blackout shaggy. It is the most crane i wanted to. Pluck is out of minehead. My god like no that. They gave shaggy bankrolls for this. It's a super bowl commercial right but really this is what we're doing and i don't even eat. She does like that. I'm gonna fuck which are flaming hot or not. I don't even really fuck. She does like that. Have it really sends like high school college. Whatever but i do enjoy thereto. And i will eat a funding and they're all under the same umbrella and so honestly i feel like someone needs to come up to the table and answer for whatever the fuck that was because i know it was a white person's idea and i know that they all came together with dollar signs in front of this black man who got knows when the last time shaggy has been in jamaica. But that's neither here. Nor there i feel like so many jamaicans. I feel like the whole caribbean and allies and the people who the movie brighton hair in the airport and everybody who has ever enjoy that song in its original era. I feel like you owe an apology. Because of that commercial was one of the worst things that i have ever seen in my thirty three years. My god and i know that like a lot of the commercials for the super bowl arc range. They're all just like look at this famous person that we got in a commercial to advertise like whatever. The fuck michelin tires. Or whatever is like look. You know what ed share in his pretending to buy fine. But this is what we're doing that seventies so reggae. Fuck yeah. I didn't see that commercial and you're better off not having sue and the girls are going to put it in your mentioned they want you to ignore it every time because let me tell you something even as a black american queen yourself who may not even have ever been to jamaica. You will also be fucking disgusting. I want you to know that you do not ever need to laugh at in your life ever shit is horrible. Horrible horrible of bismuth violent and disgusting last but not least again. I don't have children so before parents. Y'all come at me. i don't care like i'm not going to see it anyway. Let's be honest. I was thinking back to my upbringing. And i just want to encourage all. Maybe if you are doing this to consider not comparing your children there appears. Please don't be that parent that's like. Why can't you be like your cousins such and such or such and such as down the block. Who's on the honor roll. Why can't you be such and such an end. Play varsity football like such and such as please. Don't be that person because it really does not help your kids at all. I don't really know why you think might and all it does is just make them feel like shit and build this sort of awkward relationship between someone that they may be friends with or related to. Its it's really. It helps absolutely when. And i feel like a lot of y'all probably do it. Not thinking are realizing how fucking pointless and harmful it can be so. I just want to say again because nothing but a yorkie to my name right and hoping to keep it that way violently. So yeah but i just want to say like it really doesn't help can't think of how that ever affected me. Besides making me feel like shit. And then he'd be feel like my cousins. I just wanted to run around and listen to vulgar music with and be bad that they were better than me. And i was the by the bad. Yeah you know what i mean. And that affects you into your whole hood and it can affect the way that you relate to people on all kinds of stuff. It just does nobody any good. Well thank you necessarily to relatable. It's like what are you doing like it. Didn't i hope we look back and see how that didn't help. Okay never helped anyone. It never anyone. Nobody like with the parties wants to do with. he's going and studier fucking cousins like day to day routine. And why can't i be here. I don't know how come y'all can't be her parents and you can never say that could never say that. Because i wouldn't be alive today to do this. Goddamn for you. I could never say that back. But i can never ever say that shit bay but it's the real goddamn acri bates. Why can't you be. Then what did they do in different over there. Let's disguised okay. Well yeah real quick. I wanna talk this week about this. Why boy who got killed behind some dumb shit so you. You've seen these prank videos on youtube. Bright where these kids pull pranks on random strangers and they get lots and lots of us. i think most aren't yet a right first of all as soon as i heard about them immediately i was like. Don't show me this. Because i hate pranks always have. I am the only person i know who was a kid and thought april's full day was childish. I was young to take that little baby. Dumb shit the fuck away. I'd never fucked april fools day. I do not because how you don deliberately trick me and then laugh at my reaction. I don't find mirth or glee or joy in that i don't i hate pranks so from the very beginning i said don't show me no because that's just piss me off and after a couple of people died behind prank videos youtube officially banned them. I think a couple years ago. Okay so most of the prank videos you know the ones that are really popular. Specially you just kind of assume everybody is in on it and acting for the sake of the video however it was just a matter of time before somebody got popped for real behind a because what youtube pet specifically band is the violent ones. The ones that are like to rob somebody or having a gun. Yeah not just any prank. Of course not this probably fifteen percent of all you content right right but the ones where somebody could think. Hey my life is in danger. And i'm going to kill you because of it. Utah gobert very smartly ban. Those however twenty year old timothy wilkes and his friend Decided to go for it anyway. Don't know if they did for the graham for the talk for the tube not really sure which platform they planned to a host this footage on but he and his friend approached a group of people outside of a trampoline park in nashville tennessee and they were holding a very large knives pretending like they were going to this group of people and in return one of the men who was in that group who did not know it was a prank open fired and murdered that motherfucker straight like that and and said to the police. I had no idea that this was supposed to be a prank. I thought my life was in danger and the lives of my friends was in danger. And so i did with the fuck i had to as vet twenty-three-year-old has not been arrested. And honestly i wouldn't be surprised if he wasn't and i hope that those of you who think that is cute to do stupid shit for clicks or views or subscribers or whatever else i really hope you take a second thought before you do something so dumb as roll up on a group of people you do not know with deadly weapons and your hands and expect anything other than your swift murder like you almost have to be a young white boy to think that this was something you could get away with not ever not one day in my whole negga life. Have i ever thought. Let me take a butcher knife and run up on a group of strangers. And pretend like i'm arrived them. Why would i do some stupid shit like that. If they hadn't shot you why would you have expected their response to be. When they found out it was a prank with as opposed to be like ha ha where they supposed to say what. I don't know what you're thinking. I mean this young man has passed away really. Don't know though what you or your friend could have possibly been thinking. I don't know what circumstance you thought was going to come from this situation and speaking of people who could not foresee their circumstances. Also wanna talk real quick about tessa. Cabrera aka gorilla glue girl. Oh i have not read about this year. I've only heard about like mice their headline. Yeah so tessa. Who i believe lives in. Yeah she's definitely from louisiana. Accent gives it away but when i first saw her video i tried really hard not to watch it because she was very clearly wearing like some gray blue contacts. And you know have feel about those are due But when i finally did break down and watch this video she was saying how she has had her hair in the same pony tail for a month and that is because when she laid her ponytail. She used a setting spray. Like a lot of the girls. Do to get that super. Slick look to do cute designs. Which are edges or whatever else however normally when we do that we use a styling gel or one of the got to be products has got to be big baby that got to be freezing spray. It will lay anything. You can lay a whole fucking week with this spray. It is incredible and it is formulated for the hair. Meaning if you wanna lay a week at six. Am and go enjoy your day. Come home gently remove it. Take a shower and go to bed. You can do that. Because it's smith for that task however had ran out of her guts to be spray and so she grabbed a can of guerrilla logo my sluggish. She did not why. Y'all are common history. Is this script without that. She could lay her hair real quick with gorilla gorilla glue but the heavy duty spray adhesive. What does on all manners of materials like metal and would struggle. Luke could reconstruct a splintered tree. The laura gorilla glue is for your fucking hair. This is very obvious when you look at the impact isn't she isn't she's not okay. Test test said that she turned to the internet because she did not know what else to do. The internet made it very clear that she was in a dire emergency and needed idiot. Medical care because again. This happened a month ago. She says she has tried to wash it over fifteen times. She is consulted family and friends move away. Meanwhile she thought she could. She thought she could do her hair with gorilla. Glue come home wash it out and that would be dead so she has been dealing with this situation for a month. Yes over month at this point finally went to the er the good doctors and nurses at the er told her. I was going to take them twenty hours to remove this from her head with a you know horrible process of using acetone and saline water and. She asked if she can be released to do it herself at home probably for multiple reasons number one. I mean number one being the cost of staying in the hospital for twenty hours right plus whatever pain meds and anything else you know. They throw all that kinda shit onto a hospital. Bill saline. So you go scoop better also because right exactly and they sent her home with some acetone pads and because she asked lloyd also personally. I would not want to spend time in in a hospital. If i did not have to right now given covet so all of that is true however since glue has been luxuriating on her scout for over a month. It's really past the point of a diy situation. And i'm sure the people at the hospital were so busy that they were like. Oh somebody wanna to go home. Okay go get down. i'm sorry normally. We would argue about it but we have things to do Very fast them past they. Toss them pass because As they did and so she tried to you know she posted another video assist. They're trying to help her with these acetone pads at home and she was literally fringing in pain from the acetone. Yeah touching her. Which pro which says to me. Something else is going on. Probably some kind of infection or chemical burners. something and sister needs to make her way back to the hospital. And and we might need a call anesthesiologist to put her under or to give her a local anesthetic. Something so that the rain is sue long enough for them to get that out of her head or at least to loosen it up because she said that it is. It's literally like cement on her head. And i believe that the gorilla glue formula is like water activated so every time she put water on it. Just increase the bond of the glue. Oh girl more beggarly glue is your dna. Now think it's you together. She said on this radio show interview that she wanted to see with radio. Toronto of all the places. I just knew it was going to be somebody more ratchet than that toronto radio and she said oh my god it is so first of all. Her hair is so bonded to her scalp and it has such a layer on it that she can't even put clippers to it to shave it all off but also she still interested in saving her hair. And i just feel like at this point. You need to be worried about saving your scalp your head girl because you might have to be worried about skin grafts at this point and god only knows what thirty plus days of that shit being on your scalp is doing to your body. Had to out a statement gorilla glue said we are so sorry to hear about this trend in time and this is crazy because our product is not for use in our on here and label says explicitly do not swallow or get in is getting clothing because here from skin we make the connection this is great yes teary fucking this is crazy and they said straight up this for your arts and crafts okay. This is for putting the bumper back on your mom's car when you took it out and you weren't supposed to and then this is again. A symbol would france. Like this is not this is this is not for your hair. And it's very explicitly and clearly not for the body and then they ended with glad to see you went to the doctor. Good luck leave them the fuck out of it. Tmz girl literally got so girl. I'll know what the fuck you want us to say. We are ready to put it on the packages. Like this is why we always have these dumb ass things. Directions that tell you to do shit clearly should not do because nigga suggest third luck right now this is it right now and even at her own video. She admits that she used this product because she ran out of the other one and she just thought oh gloom glue. Okay gorilla glue. There's some stuff like in makeup and hair and stuff that i've seen that like uses home stuff that to me already is like i'm seeing people use like sharpies and they're making you know i'm not supposed to do that either. The put like these like glue sticks to cover when they want to do even that be like. Oh even when i watch it. I'm laying. what but that's like elmer's glue right. A lot of people put elmer's glue in their hair. Whatever that she does also nontoxic so yet washes right out because ultimately is for kids miss supposed to. Are you supposed to roman little like no but if you use it to lay down your browse said that you could draw fake browse. You're going to be okay at the end of the night because you're not deep throat in a big users shape. That motherfuckers used to build their baby a tree house. Yeah the thing that all the dirty white people used to give themselves fucking dreadlocks spiky hair and shit when we was in high school when i realized why boys was using. Elmer's glue to do that shit. Literally glue never been more disgusted but that made more sense than gorilla. Glue it actually. Why would you do this. Why would you. What and i. I have empathy for her because she appears to be like when her sister was trying to take it out with acetone she appeared to be in a great deal of pain. I'd imagine i don't want to suffer. I don't want to have long term health consequences or anything like that. She has started a gofundme me. She racked up over ten thousand dollars. Already on the gopher me on kerns She's allegedly. You know talking to a lawyer about potentially maybe soon gorilla glue which for because it doesn't explicitly say hair on the. Can i tell you that gorilla glue attorney will kick that got. Their courtroom with file is they. Were love trial really not making sense to me. However i don't even really care about that part i just don't know how a grown woman because if you think tesco is just some goofy teenager gen z. Doing something for tiktok. I imagine she is forty years old. You are lying in my jessica is a mother. I believe of multiple children. Tessa allegedly has a daycare call. Texaco's little angels on so cute man is adorable name. If you think. I'm dropping my baby off at the house of somebody who thought that she could just spray gorilla glue in her hair right. Quick i hate. I advocate pain but like it is absurd. It is absurd. There's just no way an adult would. Nobody would expect a reasonable adult in their sound. Mind to do this nobody. Nobody says in fact. She's talking about you saying she thought about trying to like save her hair or whatever like girl way. Why like you. God blessings if if it grows back at some point you need to be making sure like figuring out how to save the head that you scan on it you need to be trying to avoid getting skin grafts. Wow i cannot believe this. Not what i expected this. I really hope that you know. Thanks to all of her supporters ongo fund me. She is able to get the medical care that she needs deer and that she has a swift and complete recovery. 'cause it does sound like hill but i also really don't know what a grown asks woman was thinking i don't i don't know what you're grown ass was thinking when you did this because an extra three seconds of thought would've said you know what a laid ponytail is not work this like and she had to froehlich losey had to have had the foresight to put gloves on. Because anybody who has ever laid a ponytail knows that you can't do it without putting your hands on the hair you can't you simply will not get that clean as she had and don't get me wrong. The pintail cuba but she had to have had the foresight to put gloves on. Because otherwise you would have mangled joe fucking hands so if you had to put gloves on to apply had to then this it was not rinse out when you came home at the end of the night. And that's my final question. Where in the hell was going that you need to japan until be gorilla glue chartres. Where in the hell was you go in. And how did you not have no other hair products that could have substituted no jail no less jam run out and grab something no it and who knows. Maybe she had to leave in the next twenty minutes and she needed to get that ponytail together. I really don't know what making this decision just like young timothy who ran up on somebody with a butcher knife and and found out what was what that day sister has found out that when gorilla glue says strong adhesive heavy duty used for building cars and spaceships. Do not allow to come into contact with skin When you put it on your hair you're automatically letting it come into contact with your skin especially when you are brushing it into your scalp real facts. I was afraid of guerrilla. Grew when i was should dad. My dad had racks in the back room of our house. They have like it's tools and stuff on it and in the same. Those spacey had like these little things gorilla glue sometimes there because that's same room that are deep freezer. I wanted like a popsicle. Or whatever dumps like. It'd be back there and i would always look at that. Should be terrified of it because i was always if i had this fear that if i ever open to of gorilla glue my hands will be stuck together for the rest is just from i never. I was legit afraid of what i was a child. Yes and i get that. I was a nerd of a kid. Who literally would read anything. Read anything but you don't even have to read the small print on the back of the gorilla glue cannon. No is not something to fuck wit and tessa canoed it. She didn't grab that by accident. She didn't think it was gorilla snot which is another hair holding gel type product. Which yes. I have never used it. Because it's called gorilla. Snot and the words lasting. Yes it's a disgusting word. And i literally will not buy the product. I don't care how good it is because of the nastiest name but she did not mix up those two products that gorilla snot. Don't even come a spray. i don't think she doing. It's green did it on purpose and now here. We are with the whole internet tearing each other apart behind the story and people trying to find the balance between when you hear the details it is extremely funny and also. I hope you are okay. They're really donato really. Don't understand how your ponytail meant that much. But i hope you haven't. I hope it is something that you can look back on and laugh one day. Yeah because i truly don't want you to think that i don't give a fuck about your wellbeing the actually giving me. I don't know what i thought you are about to talk about. But it was not a grown woman guerrilla gluing. So i truly and the point that you made about the hospital like of course. He's talking about two things. I've probably got cabinet already versus paying you fifty thousand dollars here like yeah so i do hope that she came running. If hurt so much that your sister can't do it at home then they need. You need some very strong drugs that you cannot get down to the cvs and you're right like what. What do you have some kind of infection. Whatever which is going to do about put some teetering. Becca sodas in make it probably me and then my work. But should you gotta get it out to o'hare thurs. You have to get it off my chest. No friend yeah. Yeah so let let this week's lesson beaches think about it and then think once more. Just think about it like timothy tesco's shoulda done think about it once and then think about it once more. Yeah that whole pranking shit. Like girl foolish unfortunate unfortunate ending. I've never understood why these pranks that y'all be pulling on like random unsuspecting people. You don't have a production. You don't have anybody you know you. And then the pranks that you're doing is not like oh. I accidentally dropped a hundred dollar or something. Like whatever random dumb harmless shit that we'd be on ellen y'all like actually running up on strangers and like making them feel like their lives are endangered that it's not it's not funny. I remember there was once of video on like fucking show. America's funniest home be one of them shows blends where somebody was doing like a halloween prank. Where they are like sitting in a in a chair and immune cells to take the chair of the scarecrow. I think i'll know will find video. But this blackmail walked to the door for the tree shit or whatever and jumped out the chair like to scare him or whatever and got punched speier dead in the middle of their fucking face and he immediately was like all shit like that. Show your bed. What the fuck are you excited to do. Die like exactly. Maybe i'll stop playing games with people and stop playing games. Which ourselves right if you're gonna do that pranks you do it with your your your sibling or your lover like all the other annoying crank channel. One that's how you lady texaco in her. First video said. I ran out of my got to be sprayed so i grabbed the gorilla. Goo don't do this job. Big big state. I just wonder who is this. Cautionary tale for not a single one of us was in danger of doing this. Who who is it for. When i tell you i would have used that ninety. Nine cent charge. Oh alma ahead for my ponytail. Before i grabbed the gorilla glue. I wouldn't just had a ponytail. That wasn't fucking laid. I would have just stayed home and been like k. Make it to wherever. I need this slick asproni tale like but it's not about me clearly test because a different person and she made different choices choices that i am certain she regrets so were right back. Like where were you going. Why was it. Vat vital vitual. Like i have nothing but this fucking super at he said that is built that is used to build communities. Like i have nothing else but dammit a fucking laid ponytail is vital. There's nothing less they can happen like. What was that important. I'm pretty sure you could build a brick wall with gorilla glue. It is an absurd product and it bills itself as such. It's needed girl like some people need to stick together and stay that way. That's why that glue so stick together and stay that way. That's why you're seeing. Stay that way girl. God bless if you wanna help look up argo me and help. Yeah and that is just about all. I guy i have to have conversations with god after this because i did a lot of laughing. You're not the only one the thing is you're just now hearing about this. All at once rest of us have been hearing about it for like the past five days and enthralled monday go when that tell you she trends every day i literally scooped up this information to come. Do this podcast day. Like right on the end of it. I saw a headline about gorilla glue girl. And i thought to myself as i picked up my macbook what focus of. I need to do to become literally hours ago. And now you know. And oh my. Gosh no wouldn't be shocked. If she used her lashes. Shit no more. Either girls be using same black glue that you used to lay tracks to apply their fucking lashes. Stop they tell you not put that shit on your eyes for a reason they tell you not to let it come into contact with your skin for a reason. Got to be a life hack. Sometimes it's best to go but the tried and true especially when they outright tell you do not put this on or in or near your person us being a ventilated area. Y'all same hose that mix them monja and bleach and wonder why you stop people. It's not even like like how people don't realize i cue. Tips are technically not supposed to go in. Your ear. allegedly allegedly right but they that's that but who is confused about the power of gorilla glue. Nobody i didn't nobody. Not if she cut it out talking about. Don't do it. Y'all as if there was a poll for like as if somebody was thinking about it. Oh no you just keep testing your prayers as she recovers. I definitely hope this. You can't afford the bill because a doctor got to do that or even better. If somebody just can do it for her for free that would be even better if she can get like the drugs and the help that she needs because this is a very sad merry hilarious until you think about the pain situation that she put herself in right. It's funny and yet. I would never want to happen to me or anyone and i don't want her to suffer but i just can't fathom why you thought that ponytail was worth it. Maybe you need to ask yourself some hard hard question. And that's it for me and this week's episode read so well Check us out at. This is the re dot com. Follow us on social media at this is the read you can find our merch shop. The re dot com any news for you this week. I have nothing. I have nothing like the pansy is driving. Everybody get get seen and harry. I'm done. I'm just going to walk. My dog could figure out why we're here. Because this is all right you guys nazis forty. It's okay. i'm tested. I'm sorry. I really hope that it works out for you And on that note we will see you nick's next week.
Part 2:Frank Mirahmadi, Johnny D
"Sirius Xm ports presents with Steve. Aw horse racing and been covering ater. This is the way who was stupid. We're back our two at the races at Santa Anita Frank Mira Monte Steve Beck and joining us now johnny from Philadelphia of course from Bluebell Beautiful Blue Bell Pennsylvania. Where the party? The probably the has a die down yet. Has the the super bowl. Parting Wayne wasn't a party. We weren't in it. Well I I did some lucky I watched it. I did see I. I did see that feature on the chiefs bar in South Philly that you see that story. That's been a popular place. We had a Saint Saint Louis Blues But but I get I get. There's all kinds of bars. Yeah Yeah there was a I think Charles is Charlie's Bar Charles. I think it's Charlie's and the he he won a ton of money. Fifty years ago he bet the chiefs over the vikings and part of the the GIG was part of the winnings went to opening the bar and the bar was all decorated rated with chief memorabilia and his son has gone on with it and There was a whole thing that they had a big private party last night. I guess for meal has been in their. They're very funny story. What do I know about James the city? I've never even been to Kansas. Here's here's the question. Jiang let me ask you this. Good Morning Johnny. Deal ask you this quick question. What's the real story on Philly fans and Andy Reid? Steve's he's happy for him. How do you guys really you feel over there? What's the true sentiment? I think I think generally most people are happy for them and they were rooting for him. Talk too many friends of mine. who were you know the deserves it? He's been around long enough. You know here he he was he. It was a good coach we won. We were lots of games with them. We want divisions we won NFC titles and we lost the Super Bowl But you certainly fest here and there's no. There's no doubt about the coach and he's the players coach so he was always popular with the players so he was incredibly popular here with families. What and I heard you guys talking? Earlier descriptions prescriptions. Pretty good. You Know He. He wore out his welcome. Or maybe this this he maybe this place just got maybe wanted. This place got tired of him. Maybe he got tired of this place. Whatever happened in his last couple years year he was very rude? The thought of your plan and and rock with the media and of course I know the media can be rough back but he would after gaines he would not say much. He wouldn't get specific about anything he would say Well they asked about something that happened in the game. He'd say well that's on me. I gotta put the players in a better position to win We're going to work on that. He never you know he didn't give above himself and to me for these fans for me as a fan. I put a lot of time to watch your games and and and talking about the team and following everything that's happening and you come up here with. I gotTa do a better job five weeks in a row when the hell are you going to do a better job you know. That's why I know the Philly fans are tough. So that's what I was wondering if we're not the just just one quick question site interrupt you but it's part of your rooting for Andy Reid. The fact that the forty niners or not some love fest in the city city of brotherly love. I don't think we okay over forty nine. I'm happy that in that regard for Andy Reid because because I was wondering how old fans would feel about it now. I think for the most part this tent was happy. But he's not he's not belong Like you know this city Dick Dick for meal went to Super Bowl loss. The Eagles of course later and one the rams Andy Reid Law Super Volt Eagles and then walmart the chiefs but nick for meal. Is This Day idolize in the city. He's still he's still endorses product. Guys Been Gone for forty years. He still is doing commercials. And so it makes it makes me think of those those loud Caused behind the center from Mr Moore Ski. I can say I have to cover my ears just thinking about that screaming and the Polish rifle the web courses in the area so my point is this town is filled with dedicated robbing sports fan fan. And if you give everything you have to then they will open their arms and they will love you players players who give everything they have love this town or have chips on their shoulder. Or whatever they don't like the sound so Steve Carlton Greg Luzinski just edge many example. I can think there. There's a guy who's a home run hitter for all time. One of the greatest of all time he was saying they just the he played the game and that was just him come to learn as an adult. That's just the way he was but what's his city doesn't respond to that. It looks like you don't care and if you don't give everything you have you will hear about nice. You know a lot more than that you were telling me stories When we walked in here right before the Breeders Cup that we could have just pulled up into section section end upstairs and pulled up a couple of seats and gone on for the rest of the day? I love your stories and I've told you I love the way you right. It's very passionate and it's It's good stuff you frank here come with it now. What have you done for us lately wondering earlier as you were talking about Steve? I wonder how much that cost him. I hope you're not expecting get something from me. Uh I'm just GONNA get my vow pack in the mail. That's what's coming foul great reference breath Johnny. Our conversation leading in regarding the as we wrap up super bowl coverage the The chiefs were the right. Push and you know I I was I was trying to get I envision. Once once it became clear clear the chiefs were going to win and I I had had that part in the bag then I was. When it became thirty one twenty I had a path to fifty eight and That that included you know the niners getting the ball back with. What was it the minute and change and then going down and getting a garbage touchdown on and putting that Point total at fifty eight. which is what I was after? Yeah the Salvadoran alone. You weren't alone. I the reports are you and the general public. We're not pleased with not getting over that number. Well I think the total ended up three or even fifty two and a half it. It went down as kickoff approach later in the afternoon right Sunday morning. Starting to drop Saturday night and Sunday morning and Yeah Yeah there were people paying attention that your earlier referenced. The fourth and twenty six was interesting and in fact we were texting back and forth. our good pal. Bill Swartz We I was at the game with him and his partner and in the play happened right in front of us the catch was right in front of us. Four hundred twenty six to keeping Eagles alive and it did and we were so excited in the car will say I'm going to name a worse for twenty six and he days right. That's right and I want a couple of races. Yeah fortunately twenty six but That that force twenty six is a lot more important than this twenty but when I said that to you because you were the first person I shot it to when I saw that and realizing the game was going to end on that I eh just of all the crazy things of all the potential you know down and yards that you could have had for for it to be fourth worth in twenty-six and referencing harkening back the to read an Eagle Eagle Them. I just thought it was. I just thought it was. It's crazy. I thought that was the nuttiest thing. Yeah and incredibly weird yes. I agree if what if it would have mattered. If it was a plane it would have mattered. I would've felt even I would've been like freaked out but suggest the end of the game. I've I walked plus I was almost asleep so without that. This is my first time. I've been on the West Coast for Super Bowl and I recommend it strongly really how about everything. How about a world series? When you're you know I can't do good point? DVR My DVR is on. And I have in the morning when I get up even like Monday night. Football Thursday night. I can't watch the end of those games The second half like yeah. Watch the second half so I have to get up in the morning. I have to go straight downstairs. I can't look at anything I can't. The hope is going to pop up. It's happened to me. I know you know out the big great game. I want to see it so I go straight down hit the DVR and and go through the commercials pretty easily. So that's another bonus. That's Great Jiji terrar- I. I was a little upset when I had trouble sleeping I threw my back out badly and I also real pain during the Super Bowl Watching insecure and I just went completely out in sympathy. And you had. He's I'm trying to move brief speed. Falter I I I I I did see yeah. I did see where some people were aghast. I guess I miss the show. I actually watched the first half here at a party. We have and then went home during the show. So there you go perfect I read the recap it was It was great it was it was a good show. I mean there were some people that were gas but I wasn't but I I watched the Bruno Mars. Let's the best that she's he's seen but Our good friend will Schwartz. Sent me a text this morning because we were at a super bowl at the rose bowl That's out flew out to meet me in California. We rented an RV and we super bowl and camped out and watch the game and he sent me a clip of the halftime show. Michael Jackson and he was. It was amazing Lever Mason. That was only twenty seven years ago. Time flies yeah. Yeah but it was. It was a gorgeous beautiful day and I was working in that. It's funny I was working in the first box. You're sitting in that time and I Day called in sick all the way to the only way to the game on the barbecue and when I came back on Wednesday racing Wednesday my boss Jane Gulfstream came out and said were you the Super Bowl. Yeah I was. She said neck in cold sick. Make sure you're not on television. uh-huh cameraman we need to take it for my my brother and and so I was. I wouldn't end this silly south philly scouts mode trying to get trying to take it from someone And One person I I asked was Diane Diane Shannon loved Diana Kennett. How could you not the actors? Of course how many Diane cannons. Ah Her performance in heaven can wait. Which is my number one movie ever as Mrs Farnsworth as good as it gets it in fact the famous thing this is when they asked Mrs Farnsworth orange what the relationship was like? She says very very close very very special. That'd be let's in fact one very very stellar runs in New York and I called called him a few times my girlfriend Jennifer and I. I'll have to ever see her if I just say very very close she'll either very very special or very very stellar. It's part of our conversation station. That scene screen. That was fantastic. But that is too funny. You just went up to Diane Cannon. We were out. You know people going into the stadium. She didn't want that's perfect. She wants a quick transaction. Move on he's not looking for Chitchat. Attack Right in front of me. I said Cannon tickets testing still laugh about that you know they say in sales ask for the business there. You go perfect but apparently there was a cameraman. Who knows zero Dan on and and I run the TV tastic? That's great of the guy who's at the dodger game and was saying because they were prosecuting him for murder. But your attention ascension Harney found footage of him at the dodgers game and it was from the Larry David From curb your enthusiasm they actually they at the game filming and he told his lawyer that was at the ball game. They were filming something worse than what were they. Film Larry Day he went to. He went to production company. Got The footage and sure enough footage at the time the crime was committed. Was this guy that I think there's an hour that it's called. How about that well and and you know you bring up Super Bowl ticket stories you gotta tell everybody live? Some listeners have heard this story maybe twice but frank hasn't heard it so it's it it's it's going to be worth telling Well his mother wanted to go to the Super Bowl in the worst way in Johnny Johnny letter down. I the Oh I don't remember years it was It was probably redskins. I won't say redskins dolphins in the in the Rose Bowl fourteen. Seven many moons ago. That's a long time ago result. Is Johnny solstice turn. Yeah Yeah so so I go I go out to Santa Anita in the morning. It's super bowl Sunday. And I'm standing on the rail. It's which defense which is still there from from caucus corner down to the GATT. I'm standing along the fence and a train from New York Joe Trillo bottle was in California. He brought a string out a couple of horses and And he walked up to me and I had met him earlier. Oh you're through bobby. Frankel introduced us. This is Joe. You know we talking Glaspie and he came up to the fake there next to me and this is super bowl Sunday morning he said to me what's wrong kid. I said I was a kid back. Then she said I said I said my Mike my Mother's visiting me from Philadelphia and the only thing she wanted to do with the super bowl and I I'm gonNA let her down. I don't have any tickets. I'm not gonNA spend a million dollars. Just gotTa tell her can't go so only the racetrack. Could this happen. He reaches into his pocket and takes out a small stack as he peels off. Take your mom to the game. Wow I mean I was always the racetrack. This only thing that can happen and always the racetrack tastic a score. That was Johnny. That's one thousand. Nine hundred eighty three three that can be right. Washington Miami in in the Rose Bowl rose bowl. That's got the teams right. Did I get the final score right. No twenty seven seventeen. Oh what was it. Didn't they. Fourteen seven game early in their life for some reason. I don't know why I remember that it's a bad memory. If it's that far off in the Rhodus Oh the memorial go back to nineteen seventy. Three Miami sat math right Miami Fourteen on seven and that was that was that on a moral. When when was that a real moral most of the stuff I know about those teams are based on Madden Games? That I've played I believe that was a fluke skorts. Oh fourteen seven because he had the over. It was a out Michael's once said. This was the best on Monday night. Football Jay prevalent actually put me on the phone. The only time I've spoken Al Michaels one day because he knows how much I love about Michael's you put him on the phone but my favorite of all the many references to over unders in his day the best one was it was some blowout probably like thirty eight. Nothing in the total was forty and a half in a field goal right at the end and and I'll goes this game isn't over and many of you out there understand uh-huh and I had a chance so so J. One day was at dinner and he called and said I'm here with Al Michaels and he put him on the phone and I express them how much I love. The way said certain things and he appreciated that and promised to add it in because he hid in that particular one about many of you understand what I'm saying he can use that in. The wild news is going to do it that season and that was his way of letting me know that here. You got to tell you I really enjoy your call thank you. I'm glad you've got a great gate. Great Coach and Trevor. And I'm far too many things from from so many hints from past announcers and and that you're constantly critiquing yourself. That's really the only way. Did you get better. Only look at what you're doing and analyze it and say this works. This doesn't work and and sometimes you have the other people's opinion not the ones that people you trust for. What do you think it? s what do you think of that. And he and they'll give you advice and sometimes it's good most of the time it's good but anyway I just I. I was a little upset when you went to the when you move from from AAA to the big league. I was a little upset because I knew we were going to say goodbye to the the multi race caller person my heart. I'm glad you enjoy them while they were around ten I certainly had a lot of fun. That's got me into the game. So I'm I'M I. I know the fans like that stuff. I probably think that they didn't enjoy when like snuggle. Pushed me to against the feared what I I did. I was. I kept snuggle for the BLUEGRASS. Downs audience in Paducah Kentucky. He didn't make it anywhere or else they had to throw him. In at one point Jack King Straem and a lot of fun with those. Yeah they put up so many meaningless meaningless graphics but that was the interesting comparison of. What's do super bowls comparing I guess it it was the jeep. Fifty and and the announcers were Jack Book. Who is the big racing fan by the way the press box del Mar.? He's come to racist to all the time and And now a songs now calling again Joe Buck. UH-HUH I'm a big fan of Joe Joe. Buck takes a lot of criticism. But you know. I think that that's always the case when you're in the spotlight so maybe it's not even that much criticism but I've seen things and people taking shots at him. But I love Joe Bucks delivery. I think it's very clear I liked the way he enunciates and I like what he does. And he's very strong DOC and It's a pleasure to know that he's the son of of an absolute icon. Because Jack's voice was so distinct and the and the the drawback that I have a job to stay next next cowboy right. How about? How about those Eagle Cowboy Games Games during the scab days? Those were some real special treats by the way I was how we fan as a kid. And I know that's GonNa nauseate both you but when I was a little kid. Don't worry that that ended when they fired. Tom Landry so but when I was a kid I love the cowboys. Roger Staubach that whole believe me we had some you. A front runner unbelievable believable. What I look I was watching? TV They had stars on their helmet. Who had Roman Gabriel here? And you and your I mean how do you how do you grow up in La and not be Rams Fan. I just wasn't around. Let me tell you this yet. Merlin Olsen we used to go to this place and you know some of you know you know. I'm a Germaphobe. So imagine this at like like eight eight nine ten part we we lived in Beverly Hills there was a place called Pico baths near La brea and Pico and it was it it was a very convenient ride to Hollywood park from there and and my dad would go there and hang out with his friends and get like a Turkish massage. Whatever it was in fact my friend? Brian calls it the sugar. Of course herb freed. May God addresses. Seoul was in the clothing business and probably some he got a kick out of my eating habits being so terrible and he used to tell me when Seattle slew comes here. I'm GonNa put you on his back. I believed him that I was actually in a right. If I'm not even kidding I really did. I'm ten years old. And he said don't worry when he comes here let me know when he's here and we'll take take care of them. We'll tell this for well. He knew the way I would. He couldn't believe how bad my eating habits which by the way they haven't improved since and he made a deal with me. I told him the cowboys. We're we're GONNA come to to play the rams and he said I'll tell you what I'll get you fifty yard line tickets. But here's what you have to do. You have to eat breakfast. Every morning and has two eggs. I hated eggs. Eggs the eggs and a cup of coffee ten years old eleven maybe twelve just me whatever whatever it was it was right around there so I said you gotta be kidding me but I'll do it so I started eating scrambled eggs and I hated them. And so what I was doing is I was killing the taste of of that with like Weber's red which is the equivalent of wonder bread which isn't very healthy. Sonam eating eating all this bred to kill the taste of the eggs after whatever number of days it was I called him on the phone. My mom my mom call Mr freed. This is frankie eighty. I don't want the tickets. This guy laugh so it was just unbelievable. He laughed and laughed and he gave. He gave me the tickets but we used to go there. We used to watch the NFL today with you are looking live at musburger on these little tiny black and white. TV's but the problem was if I didn't go to pico baths. I was oftentimes left home. He wasn't gonNA come pick me up side of torture through this thing. But you're men walking around going into the pool AMAC. I'm not jumping in. That pool. Slept through the whole thing. uh-huh sandals the share some horrified updates from early on and And it just showed how much I didn't like it. Would I used to tell something that I don't. I'm Karen not coming. And and and once in a while he'd come back from me because he felt bad but man I would just sit there and listen to these guys it would never end the NFL. Today would come on. I'm like when do we get out of here. And then we finally get. We were always there for the first set of changes in our to post with Harry Henson so I thought I was able to learn how to recite all of his deal fast forward to the game so he gives me the tickets. I go to the game. I bet five dollars on the cowboys I remember this. I wore a blue shirt in the ram section fifty. I think I went in there. The rams blew him out. Stock threw four interceptions. It was the worst day ever for me and later on of course that year Hollywood Henderson is slam. I'm Don King as they took the rams out twenty eight nothing and they went on but But when they fired Tom Landry. I was done with them so I certainly understand. There's no love between Eagle Fans and cowboy events and I'm not in Cowboy Fan Department anymore wants Tom. Landry was out I was out to but that was a great team. That thirty five thirty one loss to the steelers in the Super Bowl it was the only guy in North America who had plus three and a half every. That was the big black Sunday. We're VEGAS GOT middled. Not me I the cowboys plus three point five. Thank you Jackie Smith. I wonder how many fans the cowboys warsame they fired Garrett they may again I think they they they they got a net positive. I think I should. I should why we got games coming up at. Yeah well the the play on the field. I I've said this earlier on our conversations Patrick Mahomes uh-huh just He's really something he's really a player. I don't get to enjoy for a long time He he's not going to be young forever. Yeah I know how that works. So let's let's let's revel in his in his incredible athletic ability and Anything it seemed like a good citizen to which is very polished. Yeah very important Fine young man. He appears to be a fine young man. Uh anyone who who thought the forty niners would win a like me. But we're afraid of the homes definitely afraid of my own which I I was It was an interesting game because as you said earlier Stephen Mahomes off. It looked like the forty niners did a great great job of keeping him contained in the pocket they kind of kept Kim from scrambling except for a few times. He got outside. He's able to do stuff outfield southfield. But the difference I think between the quarterbacks was the my home seemed to relish the pressure and the competition I think hit. He did not back down. He was having a rough time at all. But the most of rougher time he had the stronger came back and it it seemed like the other side rapport was struggling a little bit with the pass rush and getting hit and now they're dealing with different receivers understood and the one party. Get out the game that I kind of I think Young Shanahan learned a great deal in this game so you had you had the venerable old coach on the other side of the twenty seven years in the League finally get the Super Bowl. And you've got this forty year old son of a fellow coach on the other side and you know meeting and I think Shanahan learned quite a bit in this game I don't know why you actually texted back and forth. But I don't know why he stopped running the ball when they got up and they had the lead It seemed like I know Kansas City was jamming the. But you know you've got you gotta keep doing what you're good at. And they were running their physical running team and he got away from that for. Jen started throwing the ball little too much. It was predictable Anyway long story short it was very. I enjoyed the game earn much except the money but others. I mean looks like the forty niners were home and then and then suddenly it just came unraveled album. That's the chiefs minus ten and a half and that was a prophet available out there in those people. There are some people out there with crazy glue and tape to put those tickets back together. I want you to mattress Mac. We all know in Long i-i In the horse. I can't remember course popular or oh come on Steve Outside and please read that name out loud. You see that you see here there in Iran jeans jeans the genes. There's a clock. Oh run happy. We're happy and Luke Belair the champagne toast. It should have never had a taste of luke. They'll say it ten times a day. I should probably get a Luke Belair bottle. It's good but anyway Bob Mattress Mack. He bet a million on the forty nine now after after his baseball and football and he's the greatest marketing guy that ever lived which is very word possible double. Here's the thing you know. Let it be known that that that the general public may not understand the Houston Astros stuff was strictly hedged. And I would I would guess and I cannot confirm this but I would guess that he was actually better off financially with with the result result happening with the Houston. Astros not winning the world series this year. Even though there's no chance he wasn't rooting for them. He was rooting for them with everything he had. But in also in the case as to the Super Bowl He didn't really have an overwhelmingly strong opinion. He thought it was a coin. Toss he was getting plus twenty but also keeping this in mind. which was? There's a better line than he had gotten anywhere else but he was running a promotion again. leading up to the Super Bowl whereby the so this was really part of a hedge edged too so it's easy to take shots and believe me if I could ever truly start service that gave out my sports picks with my true heart and like you can't like alter thing if I could start a nine hundred number right now. With my true sports sports picks and people go against them and it was genuine. There would be people paying any number to dial that number because it is amazing. How difficult it is to pick out of two teams who is going to win a game and I think that's the reason that that betters who bet a lot of games get clobbered anyway because forget about beating the they're less than fifty two percent to begin with so it is really astonishing some some some people and and there are others too that are very successful and other areas of their life but when it comes to actually picking a game it's a IT'S A? It's a tough thing and I almost thought I actually thought going into this that when the Kansas City opened his one I thought it was almost a reverse psychology line to get the public and people thinking that can first of all one really doesn't mean much anyway because it's just one point but I just think that the role of favourite is defined in in making it that and I thought San Francisco is definitely the right side in this game because of my theory that defense wins championships and And I thought that their defense would be and I thought Garoppolo if you thought of it this way going into of the game with him only having eight pass attempts against Green Bay. He's not going. It's almost like it's the whole thing about the NFL in general. Don't believe what you just. I just saw the following week a week later. And in this case I thought he wasn't getting the appropriate respect For what he would be able to do and he's certainly through some good passes isn't they ran some tremendous place but then when it counted. It's so hard to finish it up. And they didn't do it and it was actually a very dull and poor performance. It's in the fourth quarter by the forty niners but before then it just if you pick the forty niners you just figure. How easy was this? And the next thing you know you're blown out it's just really crazy How that worked out but keep in mind? The one thing I wanted to say about MAC is I have a lot of personal experience with him dating back to when we met a long time ago and and and look. He's a marketing genius beyond beyond. And he's done that and built an empire in the furniture business based upon understanding standing advertising and promotion. And right now he is very and this is. This is a perfect. He's a perfect example. Where it's easy to take shots and people look if you look at twitter and you see the people making comments about him etcetera etcetera? But here's the thing he's like. If you look like Yahoo News the talk about famous wager mattress. Mac that helps in a lot of ways Lazim and you just never know one day. There might be a mattress mack casino. And you know it'll probably be well furnished if it happens you But I don't know how this promotion. She went this week but I know he's sold a lot of furniture with people that would end up having the forty niners. I'm so glad you explained all the stuff behind it because that the region for my comment I gave you multiple choice. He's either greatest market. Ever come on or were you know handicapper. So that's why the choices during I'm glad you explained promotion because that's an important part of that question by the way speaking of sports wagering anyone who's good at picking the NBA NBA. I want to salute them from this press box right now because the NBA to me stands for nothing but aggravation. Well let speaking speaking of aggravating Johnny. Let's let's get a couple of quick beat the host of information in and I I got three. I got three chalky picks home and any anytime. I tried to get adventurous I I sort of regretted. They ran a lot of seconds and thirds but Always Fun always fun to be the host on beat the the host well. I think you've got you've got all three of the of the Chalk Day you've got those right But again those racist we stepped Out It was. It was tough it was all very challenging this weekend because the tono amount that that a player could picked every winner with five dollar win wage or any choice in ten races on one horse and and raises was three hundred and two dollars. That was the perfect score. If you will Steve You had twenty minutes and looking at the total that goes to Was the high so far to the season and also got Kevin McCartan his total was two hundred dollars and fifty cents. He gets the one thousand dollars prize. John Ericsson second before dollars. You got seven fifty additional and Stephen stanks sixty he wants fifty. He gets to fifty in prize money. And this is the second time Kevin McFarland has won a weekly beat the hosts it's prize. And that is that's a solid achievement. I really had brought to him because that is not an easy thing to do especially in space five weeks to the win. Two of these products is absolutely an outstanding performance looking at the cumulative totals for players this year Ruben genevieve's knowing front. Four hundred seventy seven fifty but Kevin macfarland posing on four fifty one and I looked at the leader Ruben. His He's averaging ninety five fifty in earnings for weeks to get his four seventy seven fifty and I've also took taking a look at the at the winners nurse. The weekly the races in the weekly winners. And it's interesting because you know. Every week is different A- as we said the the the weekly totals have gone. And this is a five dollar win wager. In each of ten races first week was one forty six. Then one eighty eight to sixty eight to sixty six fifty and then trio too. So it's been on a steady climb Except for one week record to sixty eight to sixty six but still growing and the percentages of the winning total like that that is the perfect score. The percentage of that perfect score that the winner has all the first week was seventy three percent the second week of seventy three percent sixty two percent and then seventy one percent and sixty six percent when you when you look at beat the host and you say what does it take to win. Well I don't know if I can tell you what the exact number because winners weekly winners have won with one. Oh Oh seven fifty one thirty eight fifty one sixty seven fifty one ninety fifty and two hundred fifty. So I can't tell you a number number one I can tell you it's going to be a roughly between sixty five and seventy three percent. It's going to be in that range so that's could you have to aim for of of whatever whatever the total is so. Let's see if that trend continues. I think that's interesting. Because while the winner total have increased each week. The percentage is. It's because they're picking the same. Roughly the same percentage of the total every week but the total grown so so the winters have grown. But it's been about the same percentage you can see much time on my hands. Well and and I send you the five totals and it caught my eye that that they were had increased increased five weeks in a row and then later then you sent me the percentage thing back and I got a theory as to why the number is growing and Johnny. You've got the access. Yes I'm sure to to prior years but it'll considering that this contest focuses on Gulfstream and Santa Anita week after week so you I'm going to assume that as the seasons season starts here December Twenty Sixth December twenty eighth this year. The serious racing starts around around the same time January first in south Florida. I'm my guess. Is that with with more regular starts. And as the meats are are you know getting into their their continuity the players are Y- basically getting a better and better handle As to where where they should be betting and and who they should be playing that makes perfect sense. And then you and I had a conversation a couple of weeks ago about we're talking talking about how the How many favorites winning how short the prices were and that was both Gulfstream and Santa Anita and I think we we agreed that? Look the same. The winning favourite percentages high is around forty percent. You know grab one the fifty percent. Grab onto your hat. Because it's going down and and I think as the we talked about how the horses migrate from other racing. Circuits from New York from Kentucky. You know where they come to Florida. Yeah you're going to see them. Settle in and start. There's going to be upset because The abundance purposing costume really seems the large fields so freezing in general wait. Wait wait happens. You're going to see upset and I think they were getting taste evatt. Now we're in. We're in the meat of these meetings now on that topic Johnny. Let's hit J. J. IS GONNA join US next. We're GONNA the do the roads at the Derby recaps with Jay but Your impressions of the weekend racing. What how? How did you view view the three year olds and what else caught your eye? Well I'll tell you one thing hit and I'm sure Franks aware of this Racing history history was made. Saturday was at Saturday Saturday. Santa Anita with obviously BAFFERT's three thousand career win in fittingly. The Bob Lewis Snake couldn't be more than be more well done but the real racing history it was back with first time receiving a trophy. Steve Vicks big moment ring thousand winters but his first time receiving the trophy for feedback. So I I feel the strong group in Santa Anita felt that Steve has been giving us so much coverage on the radio last year that he should be there for this this great moment and it was a great moment in sanitize history. He couldn't you couldn't have scripted it. I mean it was bizarre heath at Bedford I. I was with Baffert on a Thursday morning after the show. And you know he was talking about you know hitting three thousand and of course he and I had that extensive conversation station at University of Arizona December. And I. You know when we'll have baffert tomorrow but I'm not going to spend a tremendous amount of time talking. You know his his career history just because we did that in December with Arizona. But he did say that. With the body and Jill were in Tennessee. Oh Tennessee see and he was he was it was bothering him that they were not going to be here for Saturday but his brother has rather hair. PA and son. Taylor was on hand. Sir I johnny. I assume you saw the picture. I we're really well. I I There was a very tall Ex Football player next to me actually in those photographs in the winter circle and I didn't realize who it was until I heard someone say. Call Him by his. There's well known initials. AC Alcoa countless frequent attender the vehicle to drive. But I'm up. I guess be way news very friendly with with be Wayne and Be Weighing son-in-law was on hand but Going back to. US's Wayne Hughes actually invited me to the winner's circle for Jimmy Creeds. Victory in the Malibu years ago this would have been around somewhere around two thousand twelve or thirteen. I was walking in there and I talked to my new him. From the days of the training races at the fairgrounds he was out there in the mornings mornings frequently watching his horses work and I I saw merlene acid. You'RE GONNA win the Malibu today with Jimmy crease. And if we take a picture I said listen I gotta face radio. Don't tell me that because I'll be there. He says you be there and standing right next to him and that winter. That's great he. He's The guy who loves the game was was nice enough to share that moment with me as is a fan way before it ever called the rates that senator. That was very nice special. You also talked about one of the another rate as we used to call them racing rarity there have when we did the Santa Anita Publicity the Sanity Yearbook. Chris guided had many different names We used to put it together and there was a little piece in there that was racing rarities and it. was you know the last time a race finish in the exact post position order so we run all the run all all these racer so one through. I forget what it was eight or nine or whatever the size of was and that was a racing rarity well that that three consecutive winners read by Ellen points actually you guys talked about it earlier touched on it. That is absolutely an amazing. That's an incredible credible achievements that are small breeder. What was it two of them were right? Yup I have that right to do I mean that is just amazing. Just amazing but As far as I was concerned I mean we start winning. Two three year olds mode now. It's Great Super Bowl ends and you can turn your all your attention toward the racing. The three year olds are starting to You know find their way. I make it a habit not to get too crazy about anything too early. 'cause easily races are very and they don't have a lot of effect because these are kind of made up of horses who are doing it now But I want the ones that are going to do it then so I think that the the the months passed between now and then are very important. And you'll have horses moving into the picture who are moving into top form and and growing and maturing these guys right now are still. I think you know finding a way. Better example is You know his go off. You had to like many things like the pure talent that the source added but at the same Hi Green he was an issue. That's your interpretation of what was going on with his head and I'm wondering because I haven't read any recaps of that. They discussed this and and again he won easily. So it's all positive but there are probably some things and I know jail touch on that as well. But what were your thoughts about him and the greenness. Well Oh and I think part of it is when you know. He didn't like being inside. He was in a tough spot now to his credit. He did get out of that. Tough spot patented kick it in but he overpowered the pretty much. The water gets deeper. Then when he took the lead in the stretch We Wanna say he's Green Lean He didn't change lead until very late. he he drifted in. which you out you know? Why is it is it? A salvage thing is he's ducking away from the crowd is just the way. Here's rick working so many reasons. Why will do what he has got to decide? What my what I'm trying to get at is you can't do do that when you know? You're you're facing the best those those annex. Even though he was running he was still running. But that's GONNA get going to catch up with you unless you straighten your game and he's had a few races now so it's not like this is first rate so the second rate he's he's been around the block he's got he's got to quit doing that. Stuff tremendous talent But so I'm a little the bare thousand words Again one of the BAFFERT's I don't think he's the best backer. One of the backwards. I think the best fabric right now by pick one. I would pick the doll as the most promising along with the the biggest upside. I know it's early for him. But that's that's how it goes you know he's got the most room to improve Thou work did what he needed to do. He ran the workman like he just. He wasn't one of those things where he drew off. Yeah the room and he just kinda gradually got there which is fine yeah. Nobody's GONNA catch him. You know he just kind of and as Steve pointed out you know you can. I think it was about four hundred twenty four Yup. Yeah and and that's certainly but but there there's not brilliance. It's there I think that'll kind of where I'm going is not really. There's not eye popping doesn't mean he's not going to move forward it's just there's not that high popping where you go. Wow you know what we have here. And I don't think that was the case with his wall either because I think the feeling was for me maybe this is. This is a really talented horse. But you gotta knock that stuff off you know and Yeah I think he he also needs to go away. Go Go away go away. Go Away to make. Kids fell down the road bell road. I'm not going to jump on the field. Because that's shocking. OCOEE was not you know and Monday morning quarterback you know he had trouble his peers. Definite trouble made a big run to get back in the race and then understandably understandably flattened out. Give him give him some props but I my overall comment that these all take place and we may have a different horse. We in all these different prints by the time. We're we're closing in We're going to narrow it down pretty well so I'm not I'm not wrong with any of these But you know I'm anxious to see what come well. We've got the one of the big names back next week. Independence Hall and Mike. Trump is very pleased with how he settled in. They talked about maybe going arisen star which is the first of the fifty point opportunities. But they're going to stay home for the Sam Davis You've got the names now. Starting to fill in the blanks. The some some of the asmussen plans Getting locked in for the southwest I noticed I see that As well that Blamed Right Is headed to the risen. Resume Star with Ano- door and of course we're waiting for the sand the Senti I always. I always stress vicinity because Jay. It pleases J nobody to no end that Vincent. Yes that a guy from New York Is Able to say San the center you know. It's funny recently storm. mm-hmm the court. Recently I was producing a commercial and the guy who did the voiceover called it. The San Vicente come on seriously I mean I haven't heard that version of this. Let's not get too fancy. He redid it but we had a good laugh. He's a big Fan Dan of Of the game so it's not like he's just out of nowhere but he had happened to do that. Voice over in Suffolk and now I know why we pay the voiceover guy but Yeah he came with Vicente. This is the name that I presume a question I could ask you because pesonality I could pretend to know. Yeah Yeah Larry Comas who showed me One of the ways that he found out have have the pronunciations of words and things he had an they would go to and I thought that was incredibly interesting and But the word the name that sticks with me is only or what you only are unique. I've called her own but it could be uni. I hope it's unique joining the British firm for university. Your that's true. That probably answers it. So it's unique. Thanks for that correction post-racial corrections. They WANNA my favorite things at least months later. But I know you could be. Yeah when he sounded good and it could be. The point is my point is I don't know I guess the only person who knows in this case is the owner right the loony. I Uni where did you come from. It was unique high. I can tell you that much. The high school Near Westwood growing competing high school cool but good question. We want to be wary. Seven on the Amazon. Fine the show all or nothing going to recap the Philadelphia. Eagles Eagles are featured on that show. I don't know if you've ever seen that. No no thank you thank you. They follow a team throughout the season. Beginning you mentioned Chin this very cool very cool well. The seventh is what that's this week at the end of the week coming up from the well I'll be in Vegas for NHCD. Yeah well that sounds like an on-demand opportunity about what you're not. It's not like they're spoiler. You know how exactly I was there. I was there for the ending. Ron Nicoletti next week for beat the host. Brian Nicoletti are host to beat next week may be Gulfstream. And if you WANNA play vetoes and take your shot. Iran Nicoletti Go to express that dot com open account and beat. The host is free to register for. Are you play sign up for beat the host. And you're expected to make a dollar Y Glyn wager on one horse in each of ten racist. We've he's got two thousand dollars in weekly prizes to the top players and also we've got a key motives scoring that we're keeping throughout throughout the season We're about five weeks in the books. We've got four go so if you're going to get into that cumulative mix you're starting April but it's not impossible If YOU'RE A Kevin McFarland type player you could move right up the ladder quickly so go to express that sign up for beat the host and try and pop rotten Nicoletti. Anyone who beats those automatically qualifies for a Ah shot at the beat the host championship. And that's another twenty five thousand dollars so do today we're open. Its the DOT com. We're all you're always open. Johnny operators standing by exactly call. Now this is the time when you're supposed to say but wait there's more now host bonuses. The there was. There was a horse that ran at Monmouth Park last year. Debut doing as seen on TV. Those guys nice source. That's a nice horse. Kelly brain those guys that that that sold items on TV just like the commercials and Anita one of them neither as seen on TV nor chance at neither one of them showed up for the holy bull after being after expecting them to show up. So I guess I don't have to waiting for the for the founder or what they're doing. I don't know just giving a different aspect. Steve I know you know you like to keep track of this but you not thirty three people out of sweet those competition. I'm surprised actually. Wow down to eighty four players. There's a there's a three thousand dollar bonus to anyone who can with all nine hosts and we're down to eighty four players with four weeks ago. Cool all right well. Then then. Then we're sort of tracking toward the you know maybe a dozen or so that That go into the last into the final weekend With a chance chance and they'll split the that three thousand if if there's three winters they each get a thousand etc so well done. I'm surprised that I knocked that many out because really the the one that I regret. I don't regret the only selection I made that I was sorry about was Picking roadster over midcourt. That was just stupid those just plain stupid dope and I I and I sure why that I just sort of I because I knew midcourt was going to get that but then then roadster ended up going favorites. I'm out. I'm glad you mentioned that because I don't WanNa very strange that John. I'll give you a good angle. John White morning line favorite. That don't go favored never win. They win often. Didn't quite the way around Sadie if John when John White makes a horse to favorite and the public fights him I'll go with John Wayne in that match and I and I can i. Can we document that. Because I've noticed it like in other words and there's some kind of close it's a two versus a five to two and let's just say it gets flip-flop you'll find that You might be better off just sticking with the morning line odds maker and again the morning lime oddsmaker isn't giving his pick. He's giving you his assessment of WHO. He thinks favored but In that circumstance and that was another another example of it where they fought the morning line. And you know keep him here. So you've got to think about about you gotta try to understand. This is just a side note. What about morning lines in general if you know the morning line maker and this case you know John y you know that he has done the necessary research to come up with what he feels is going to happen? Happened and in this in that case of the rematch between roadster and Midcourt they had met at del Mar and midcourt bloom away. They're meeting again. I don't think John Why doesn't know that. This is hall of Famer Bob Baffert on a card that is going to be a very big one with. He's going to have had winners that day. He knows this because he's assembling this morning line in after the fact late in the day he knows it's happening yet he still didn't make roadster the favorite in that. There's something to be said for that. Because he's telling what he knows that but he still oh thanks to public screen and make midcourt the favorite and in that case what I read it as saying that. We're midcourt is the superior animal that it wasn't a fluke that day and it turned out to be true it doesn't there's always work out that way but I've actually noticed in the last couple of months sometimes because John such a perfectionist. He wants every morning line favorite to favorite in fact for him. It's better if they go favored. But then if they win because his his his whole thing of rating himself is based on the percentage of accurate favorites identified. But that's a good angle. If you're debating late you know. There are things to put into consideration as you're making your decision to make a bet and That's one to keep in mind that Like it he probably has the speaking of beat the host one of the host. You gotTa beat. We beat the morning line maker. Maybe when they make 'em favorite over his horse they get schooled. Johnny honey I appreciate it and and Frank John John White but are most successful host. So far this season he served as host We we three. I believe it was and he has the highest winning total. So far doesn't surprise me. That does more homework than anyone I can imagine in doing where he's trying to get it. Perfectly Johnny Yeah. If you get if you get a chance off the air can get Frank Mir money to be a host. Maybe next year's myself all right we. You'll be one of the hosts next year. My last handicapping seminar here would quickly went to the Pegasus. I wish we could delete that video because I was. I was pitching a shutout and it wasn't the kind that was coming from the mount. A I'm game. If you need me. If you want to keep the players players involved sure bring it up Johnny Dean everybody. Xp Jenny Johnny Will Talk To you from Vegas. Yeah yeah that's a good trip loved. Wish I could make well come on. Let's go jump Jeff aboard but we'll take a break we're about the fifteen into our three. J. Preben will join US next Frank Mirror. Mati CPAC formerly of the green sheet if you want to go back into his past performance plants wow longtime ago. Wow was that was that was was he working for the he was writing and hand. He's already San Gabriel Valley newspaper. The green sheet was right in the middle of the you'd pull out J. Princeton sites. We always laugh about that love it. Well jail. Tell you about it next. He's going to give us the road to the Derby we update which He wrote up the watches. The replays of all the three year old races and gives basically the extended chart style. Comments meant that are just great and that includes for horses that were up the track and into the J. will hint to you what they. What their aptitude? You'd be down the road going back to surf. Turning back to sprints there's lots of lots of insight to be gleaned off the road to the the Derby reports Jay Prevent and I think we'll take J. right through the end of the show with frank. It's been a little bit of a different Monday. 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We're going to bring in a big time friend of the show and friend of US personally J. prevalent and I told you before the break think that Jay used to write for the green sheet which you had to meticulously pull out of the Daily News When I was a youngster and I've known J. for some time my I work on television in the industry was in one thousand nine hundred ninety seven or ninety eight one of those two years? Jay was working right here at Santa Anita the shows that were I believe on Fox sports channels or one of those local affiliates and I filled in for J j Kind of took me through and train me on what to do and how to say things and how to get the really how to ask questions a good part of his advice. Remember what my first guest on that show. When I was filling in for Jay it was Jack Caraba who is a tremendous interview and he was recently a guest on With with Quigley as well. He's just a guy that will he'll help you. Maybe you I need some stories. Just send it to Jack but Much respect for Jay Primm and who also participated on the Friday night shows here at Santa Anita years back where they would Talk about the big racist coming up and many many winners given out by Mr Ferman and on this show is well Jay. Good morning guys right. So are you doing pizza for breakfast. I actually brought pizza for Steve. I even brought my toaster though joke. It's so and I saw because I wanted him to put the pizza and I don't I don't believe people's fingerprints should be on one's food so I brought a ziplock pizza from vetoes as well as Santino. I was disappointed disappointed not to have some Valentine's in the fridge but the winds were so ridiculous that The toaster pizza remain in the vehicle right now but I actually actually told Steve I was making him breakfast for the show and I'm here a lot longer than I expected. I thought I was here for like ten minutes. That's not the way we work I I know I know a good thing when I see it the J.. We had a morning here I that was surreal with with these winds yet found like it. was following hollering along with the satellite. The trees got knocked down and and They had to cancel training. So hopefully it'll just be a one off and we've back at it tomorrow morning but Safety First Yeah I this was. This was an odd. I was so looking forward to you. You know being down at clockers corner With the line restored and save it for tomorrow. We'll have baffert sheriffs and Mandela ideally and the J. Just a I think a great start to February. It really felt like after last week as you and I discussed discussed the the other day in the twenty nineteen in the rear view mirror and the attention really turns to the classic trail and and we had a very good representation in Florida. New York and California Saturday kind of sensory overload trying to follow not only those things but there were so many the other good steaks on the undercard of those of those days as well but yeah it was a lot of fun to see those three preferences you had. The weather's in New York Holy Blue and Florida. And then the Robert Louis out here at Santa Anita. I did my correspondence analysis of all three of those races. And they're all up the D.. The R F dot Com. So you can see what I thought of the performances of all the horses and who I think moving forward or who I think might You can take a powder on the derby trail uh-huh well it seems that consensus at least in terms of figures the buyer from Tis the law. And the way in which he basically Lee put the Kentucky difficulties behind him It seems to be the place to start the performance everybody Still talking about certainly only the most dynamic performance is like you mentioned. He got a buyer figure of one hundred. which was his career? Best and right up there among the best of this crop is produced produced so far The the good thing about it is that he bounced back from that subpar race in the Kentucky Jockey Club I thought the second horse of the also ran. Well you know the Knox though Steve. We've seen something. tis The law in his three in in his last three races. Now that I think is something that needs to be corrected by the time it gets to be potentially and that is he just doesn't appear to like being on on the inside He had an outside perfect stocking trip in the champagne and look terrific. He was wrangled back to get outside decide on Saturday and ran great but when he was inside the other day he didn't look like he liked it down there and he certainly didn't appear to run his best. Ah I think that's obvious in the Kentucky Jockey Club now was it because he was inside on the Kentucky Jockey Club was it because it was under the lights Churchill downs off track with his other potential factors and maybe just throw a clunker that day but he was ridden the other day with the obvious intent to stay outside died and I thought it was actually weird that after going into the first turn in about the three paths. That Franco allowed the horse to go down to the rail and he was in danger of getting trapped trapped again as they turned into the backstretch and he was just lucky that other than htay in the end it was a pretty empty field and he was able to wrangle back and get outside and he looked terrific after that but that would be my only quibble with him right now because everything else does obviously very talented. And he's this is champagne was terrific and this ridic but boy if he were to draw inside the Derby That would concern me just on what I've seen in his in his three races So hopefully there's time for him to learn to not be intimidated down there Or for his connections to feel comfortable comfortable that he's not intimidated down there. But that's the one thing about him that I'd be concerned about this but there's a lot more to like than to than the you know. Pick out here. Because he's very talented. One thing that I for those that say to themselves Al's Oh well the Barclay tag and he make the yes and all you have to do is go back to funny cide where Barkley ended up changing the bit and giving him a much more comfortable bed a leather or rubber bit. That was easier on his mouth. They they discovered ultimately ultimately that he had a tender mouth and they needed to make that adjustment and yes Barclay tag fully capable of doing what's necessary cassagnet forgotten more than most people please not a concern exactly exactly and really making his presence felt on the at the races. Fantastic Jim Hill. Show something special. I was GonNa ask you about what you thought torments this weekend. What did I think kingpins performance? The Guy hit seven home runs against this. The Eight there you go Toledo B- Tomato kind of was getting some notice obviously they're gonNA they're gonNA have to regroup I guess with him and Jay won't we're on that topic and before we talk about the other two perhaps Some thoughts about what went on in the swail earlier on on the card with green light. Go come back and mischievous Alex actually performing quite nicely. He ran a dynamic namic race I saw the foul stuff that My colleagues Mardi McGee and Mike Welch produced yesterday Coming out of the two races and specifically in regards to Mr Does Alex it sounds like John. Service is of the opinion that they know what he is is which is a a really really good sprinter and they're not inclined to try and go down to the Derby trailing tournament to a mile and a quarter kinda horse I thought the other horses that that were you know. Well regarded going into the race had slightly compromised trips But they certainly can improve off of that but nobody was beating the winner that was just he was just too fast for them. Going seven eighths and now the other ones will get a chance when they stretch out Hopefully we'll see them next to the Fountain of youth for weeks exactly green light go on titled as well untitled The acquisition for Kassian Kassian Barber Didn't get off to a good start that immediately compromised him and green light. Go kind of gotten on track late and Jimmy using it strictly as a launch pad for the three year old season. Let's go up to New York before we talk California and I I know Jay you you pulled out The adjective stagger fest A little bit Down the stretch From what I understand the track was plenty deep but still FIG came back a little soft some thoughts about what we saw in. The weather's right so this is where I think help you because even though the track was obviously deepen tiring when you do the variant for the day that accounts for that when when a final figures produced and the weather's got an eighty six which is a significant cut below. What's going to be needed? Moving on Max Player the points in in his favor that he runs his though. It doesn't matter how far races he's GonNa be just fine Going out to mile. Obviously we're only a mile today so going out to allow a quarter mile and a half. That's not going to That's not going to get this way. The the concern is that just as figs are are not anything to get excited about yet. you know an eighty six for him and obviously the other is getting even lesser asser figures. This race for for me was the the weakest of the three on Saturday. The other thing about Max players that he was ridden a- as though he resented the kickback could see going into the first turney was not comfortable and Dylan Davis got onto the outside. They were willing to give up the ground loss just to keep them away from from the kickback And that's something you can get away with when you're running in a race where you only need in eighty six to win party. It's not something that you're going to be able to get away with when you need to be faster. So you know it was only his third start He's got a right to get better of but this group on the whole to me is is a cut. Boil what You know the division leaders. Is there any allowance to be made for these sophomores running nine furlongs at this time of year and that with added maturity and and you know added Added Opportunity. You know they they might go forward. I mean this is the sort of falls into that rumson category. You know where where we you know. We wonder about. You know horses at that stage of careers going nine panels right and you know for instance shots who won the rams and was second in this race the other day so he's had that experience going that far but so for instance he got an eighty two on On Saturday and the thing I like about his race is that. He got tackled by several several different horses along the way and he fought them off with the exception of the winner but I was kind of underwhelmed by his REMINGTON. And I just think you need to be taking a step forward at this point your point. Yeah there's certainly the possibility that running at these distances now that was gonna wake them up better for what they're going to be asked to do in the coming three months but I'd rather take a faster horse at a mile and a sixteenth right right now than the horse is significantly slower the mile. Nate that this at this point They're just not you know I I think you know. For instance if If the random island eight the other day I think you've seen an equally dynamic performance and you just didn't really by the eye test on the weather's I was lacking for me well and that that gets us to the inbetween race. Between the you know the impressive visual will of of Tis the law backed up by a strong FIG and here at Santa Anita we watched the still still undefeated thousand words do what he seems to do which is run at a steady clip and assuming that has the distances stretch out. He'll he'll be able to continue to plug along he. He's a different kind of baffert three year old ways. It's much more of a grinder. He's not a brilliant kind of horse But he's obviously proven in this race and then in his previous start in Los Alamos futurity that he's really tough to get past and one of the things I noticed about the race the other day and I also noticed when he ran in the Los Alamos futurity is that even if there was a horse. It looks like they're making a run at them not only in the race that even. Maybe you get to the wire. You're thinking oh well you know that horse galloped out better but you've watched the Gallup out he stays in front. He's extremely competitive horse. He does not want to let another horse get past him. And even on the Gallup out the other day nobody. Nobody went by them. So that's kind of his style. He's a grinder. He's a fighter his six or in the low nineties. That's what he's done. Got a ninety one in the previous race and ninety two in this one so he needs to get better better but he's obviously the kind of that. If you get in a dogfight with it's GonNa take something to to go by him The others in the race I thought Royal Act ran and a good race considering it was his first. TRY ON DIRT after a couple of races on grass He gave up some ground the whole way going wide but he he kept plugging away and I thought it was an encouraging effort. One you you seem to in order to move on the the one which I want to talk about a little more there is high-velocity who who finished third in a lot of times after races over the winner gets a lot of people are like. Oh my God what a great right. That was a lot of cases it was just merely you were on the best horse. The ride on high-velocity was fantastic. And if you get a chance yes I want people to go back and watch the way Joel. Rosario rode this horse going into the first. Turn these sitting as quietly as you could possibly sit on a horse. So much natural steve that he hit the top and you could tell Rosario was just trying to nurse him along. Make sure you didn't go too fast too soon. He was so dead yet still on that horse and as a result I thought he said moderate fractions. You wasn't going too fast. I thought he gave him every possible support. Chance to succeed going a mile and a sixteenth and he just wasn't good enough Shipping at town might be in his benefit. Neil perhaps going to oaklawn will be in the cards for him next time but looking at him down the line my thought is if he couldn't beat that field with the way. The race unfolded Saturday. Just don't see him being better against at longer distances in a in a hotter paced race but I I really call people's attention just it's subtle but I just thought it was the way Presario rode. That horse was so good and it just it just didn't matter the horse. It just wasn't good enough but my God. He's just sat so still and gave him every possible. Chance to win. That race baffert said afterward that that The the effort the spot Jay that popped in his head for high-velocity For when the nine furlong for a long tricalm's he said was sunland. He said I think this horse could that horse could win at sunland right well. That's ruminating right. Yes I mean but of course you know it's still good for the resume and it's a six hundred thousand dollars. Six hundred thousand might be eliminating to eight hundred thousand there you go. Yeah Well this was This was a I thought for a thousand words for him to sit and part of the reason he he sits so comfortably in that pocket is because that's as fast as he's going to go but at the same time he as opposed Jada Tis the law there there. He sat eating dirt with horses abreast of him and to up in front of him and he was very very comfortable in inflated lady in France Hands Very much though any any split horses at the top of the lane to to to go after the leaders and eventually win the race. I mean that's the mark of the Horse. Who is we saw? Just in the way he he finished the race off this time and last time in the way he galloped out he just a fighter. He's not going to back down from challenge. He's not going to be intimidated being inside or having to go between horses and those are things that are that are in his favor but he just needs to be as as we progress over. The next few months probably needs to be a little bit faster in terms of his his performances but in terms of his competitive nature He's he's right. Yeah can we can we have you touched for a moment on Bob Lewis themself and maybe your experiences in covering him and and team baffled and such together and course he had horses with Lucas and others to but what are your recollections of Mr Lewis. I just wanted to all time. Great People I've dealt with Franken in the sport e and his wife. Beverly both had a great passion for racing Won a couple of Kentucky. Derbies obviously silver charm with baffert right but also charismatic. With Lucas both horses won the Derby and preakness and and then failed to to win the Belmont stakes in the case as the charismatic dramatically. So but that's so many other terrific horses over the years even Serena's song for instance and they were just And and Lewis not only with the stuff that he did for for racing but he did a lot of stuff for Jeff Lukas specifically when he was seriously injured Louis was on the board of one of the local hospitals here and it was Rehab Center. That jeff needed to go to. There was just a lot done behind the scenes in that regard which I remember from back in those days So not only the top horses he had but he. He did a lot of stuff for people in racing behind the scenes to classy and always wanted to the desk for the sport. Let just thought very very highly nice I I i. I don't know where I was at the time but Somebody somebody called the BAFFERT. They they said Robert and his head picked up and he said the only person that calls me router is Bob Lewis and used to call them Robert now. Does this keep Jay. Does this keep thous words on the Mackenzie Mackenzie track stay. I mean he's so far is you know he's he's had the same kind of story. ARC is the McKenzie. We'll just have to see you know. Hopefully in his can you see can make it all the way to the Kentucky Derby not have a knock down down drag out battle in crap that ends up costing both of them Their best chances at the Kentucky Derby McKinsey McKinsey in Baltimore they just they both were There the middle part of the three years were compromised by the battle that they had them prior to get Derby. Well and You know it's funny for Frank Invoked Calf Wayne and badge of silver Earlier today off the air and When you when you mentioned that J. it also makes me with the Fountain of Youth not far off now makes me think of the read. The footnotes seconded June. Yeah that was one of them me. Read read the footnotes. He'll still got onto the derby that year for Rick violent and but he both those horses were never really the same. They were just absolutely crushed from that the from that range that that race I remember that they just absolutely went at it And and just it was just too much too soon for both. I just knocked them out. Agreed Bobby Frankel ruined that. Kathleen Badge is silver showdown with peace rules that year so much for that showdown werner versus Baffert In fact the daily racing form had the story and J road it about that did the which was Ronnie Werner and Bob Baffert Hooking up and that was a nice little You know rivalry going on in the press box the team Werner Chad check snyder and all them. When I got up the morning to drive to work on the day had calf Wayne shaving cream on my car that was that was fun and came up to the press box and had a couple of words? Chad took a look at his. I and I realized that's about all I should do. And maybe WANNA back off the line makers were lining up and it wasn't a matter of what the line was. It was going to be a matter of what the time of about was going to be. Conor McGregor situation was talking to last long leaving so I took a look at him and I said this doesn't look like a good rivalry ethic I'll uh Except where I stand in this matchup funny Jay. We're probably not going to talk on Friday. It's a light week anyway but An important horse go coming up to another race. And that's the same Davis at Tampa Independence Hall and all system seem go for team trump. Better Right Marty. McGee is that horse worked over the weekend. So you saw that Martin Keown set it up there for us so we'll be on site coverage From him at Uh Sam Davis and they've got a really good undercard That day as well I think I think got stormies. Running in the making I started again the grass as for older fillies and mirrors on the under card ice. But you know there's a there's a non points scoring race. That is very significant. This coming weekend Stephen. That's the sand. The sentate take a yes on Sunday at Santa Anita Storm the court who is going to be making his first start since winning the Breeders Cup juvenile and burning the divisional eclipse award vis-a-vis that victory he's GonNa make his first start as a three year old and the San besetting site. Speaking of Bob Lewis. That was the same. The Senate was the first start as a three year old for silver charm. That's kind of an old school way to do things to come back and seven eighths race and then and then stretch out to turns. That's the way it really Stevens used used to do. It and Charlie Wittingham used to do it I did. It was silver Charleston. Peter is GonNa do it with storing the court and he'll come back there and then move on from that so couple uh races this weekend. Certainly worth keeping an eye on well and Jay Beyond the road to the to the Derby Conversation Conversation with frank here and given how much sort of a press box press box chatter conversation. We've been having this morning morning. I years perked up when I heard about the green sheet and I figured that had to be early early days for you on the STOMP that yeah. That was my first job was at the the Daily News Los Angeles. That's my first job out of college and back then all. The local newspapers sold an on-track racing. edition the La Times. Did the Pasadena Star News did back. Then the Herald Examiner was in existence. Eh terrific racing section And and the paper. I was at wanted to do that as well. And so they had a little four-page wrap from the outside of the paper at the track but they'd also put it inside the paper as frank was saying if you were a home subscriber. You really had kind of hunting for it. But it was in there there. is part of the sports section and it was a four page wrap with articles and consensus box charts from the previous day's races. So that was that that was the the old They call it the racing green. Who was part of the Daily News is the sports section back then by the way speaking of first jobs my first job job delivering the Herald examiner? We lived in Westwood between my fifth and sixth grade. Years and I delivered the Herald Examiner. I was making fifty dollars a month and I remember. We're getting a bonus for outstanding accuracy and I got a five dollar bonus when the guy came to my house to pay me. Give me an extra five and I was remember this guy at one zero five. Three Five Wilshire Boulevard. That would leave. He was the end of a hallway and at Christmas. He would either lead me one or two dollars an envelope because he asked me to please slide. The paper under his door was always like one or two dollars very crisp one or two dollars. Those were the days no surprised prized my Breakfast of choice back then at the Dell Capri Hotel on the corner of West home in Wiltshire near my where my route was Oreos in grape soda. Wouldn't shock anybody buddy. Who knows you know to Jay it? You and I are with Jay notably Jay and I are the exact same age. You're fifty one. Oh so you're you're so you're younger than us by a margin I thought you were. I thought you were older. I don't blame you know. I thought you were like fifty sixty seven that not not not not not significantly Jay. Who was who was in this press? Box of renown that Ah from an earlier generation that we're legends that you know that was exciting for you to sit Close by well I mean and back then and still to this day. The the undisputed King of handicapping and knowledge and the Oracle is Jeff Siegel. I mean. He was the the. The boss applaud that and he's still unbelievably good He's just an incredibly gifted handicapper. But I mean like I was saying earlier all the different newspapers had reporters and a lot of them had a racing reporter and a handicappers. Well so for instance the Herald Examiner Hammerhead Gordon Jones Jerry enemies she the La Times had. Uh You're buying Abbott and Bob Hiebert. We're we're still will around then The he was getting long in the tooth. But there was a gentleman named Ernie Mason who was handicapper for the Pasadena Star News. His wife name was Louise Heard Louis. Lucky Louise So those does I mean those are some of the people from back. When I first started out this is this is in the early eighties after I got out of college And it it was. It was a pretty dynamic situation back then because we're just so many people in the press box Bobby Frankel would hang out in the press box all the time that he would sit in the second umbrella at Santa Anita just opine on the different horses and riders and it was very educational to listen to his insights. You might be like hanging out up there. I can tell you that in the eighties at the clubhouse entrance by far the most vocal in promoting their paper was the gentleman and selling the Pasadena Star News. I picture him right now. I could easily. You could put a lineup of fifty people and I. I'll tell you who that guy was used to say Pasadena Star. That guy was loud and effective in his sales will get your attention on the way in here. And I've been getting the Star News free. You know on the on the in the hotel every morning and I got the Sunday. Sometimes they won't give you a Sunday edition but they. They did this Sunday yesterday. And the Star News is running is running. Agate they're running owning entries and and and charts and they've got a guy you know covering and wrote the whole Saturday card up so I I know people are of a mind mind Jay. The all the newspapers aren't covering anymore but I I will start. News is always done on a good job covering racing. They're they're now owned by. There's there's a newspaper group. It owns a lot of papers in southern California And Art Wilson is the lead right or for them but they also picked up Columnists who might be based with a different paper but also to share the content and It was it was nice to see you know someone like Mark Wicker for instance at the track on on Saturday. You bikes all different kinds of sports. And you get a guy like that out there. WHO's one of the absolute best columnists in the country And having him way in and you know he he got it. In terms of the story of the day that day for General Sports columnist rounded was which was leased searing winning with Midcourt and the whole connection to Kobe Bryant and Kobe's back and least hearing silks or are the same colors as the Lakers and I was just a perfect kind of story for a columnist. Like that to to to do and it's nice to have a guy who is interested enough in racing to to come out and and do it when it's not as beat Jay. How much how much occasion did you have? I don't know if I've ever asked you this to deal with Jim. Murray or shared shared some of your other sports coverage. Well he you know. He loved racing. you know quite a bit And you know. Unfortunately I didn't know him as well as I wish I had. I I was. I was in a company several times obviously over the years but I was actually more intimidated by him and I shouldn't have done because he was very nice guy but he was just sort of. You Know God like I think you could make the argument. He was the greatest sports columnist ever. And he it was. I felt it almost intimidated by because of his his talent. Not Because of his persona amuse certainly gracious person that way but his His second his wife that at the time Later in his in his before his passing and later when I knew him was Windham Wyndham McCoy. Murray who actually is now in fact Mary to the trainer David Hoffman and she has kept Jim. Murray's legacy going with a charity that I always support It it offers scholarships for students at several journalism scholarship. Sports Journalism Scholarships for students at several colleges around the country including Jim Murray's Alma Mater Saint Bonaventure And so it was actually more through her that I felt like I got to know him later in in his in his career And unfortunately you might remember. The last story ever wrote was on the Pacific Classic. That was that was in nineteen ninety. Eight Adum. Are The free house. One that was the last. Pc of wrote he passed away the next day I had her. I was aware that I didn't realize the I didn't realize it was the last thing ever wrote. That's amazing it a- and certainly fair to put Jim Murray in in the Red Smith Granny Rice argument as As great a sports columnist number you just wonder where people like. Where does he come up with? These words just Telling ability to tell the story he was unreal. One one of the things I love when I got the college was going to the library. A colgate and you know they. They have all the periodical. They've all the newspapers from from around the country. And so I mean growing up Hartford area the Hartford current and we had we had good right. Claire B and. There's some good very good writers. Riders in fact Jim Murray was from was from heart. Grew up in Hartford He was Hartford Native But Jim Murray. It was one of those columnists. I'm as a kid you know that I love to read and I can only imagine what it was like You know and and you know to work nearby and and and I remember I grew up in you know in the in California so I mean I I had read him for years ears right getting the La Times at home and reading his column for some time as a kid. I mean I I so then the be there like I said it was it was it was almost you know intimidating because having read in for so long. You're like you know I I can't compete with this time. Now has a gentleman named Arash Markazi who just took over and he won the Jim Murray. And the Alan Malam would things at USC as a kid you know grown and then all of a sudden now. He's in this position like it's hard for him to wake up and look and say wait a minute. I'm actually writing. I used to read here and I actually have and he knows with it comes a great amount of responsibility. And you mentioned Alabama. Who is the press box? Stand Linda after he obviously was around a lot of the day the Herald Examiner columnist was another general sports cars general sports columnist from back then. I love racing into the trap. All loved he was very kind to me in one thousand nine hundred four. He wrote me up in the notes on a scorecard from Hollywood closing race calls by the way I was just corrected by my girlfriend about fifty. One I'm fifty two. which was like? That's fantastic well. This was fantastic. I can't thank Frank Miramichi nearly enough for spending the full three hours with us today. Everybody enjoyed it because I've already heard from people Jay. Thanks for closing out the morning with this as well. Great Guy Good Getting the other night better. Jay Berman. Everybody D. R. F. Primin and we'll catch up with Jay probably now next week because we've got the NHCD stuff off and so we'll save it for The following week and frank will save the final closing. I WANNA thank. Johnny is well but give everybody a couple of a couple of uh-huh pizza joints that when they come to. La when you come to La. Here's what you have to go. You have to have vetoes. There are three locations. There's one in downtown one on one in Santa Monica. It's an excellent excellent New Jersey slice. If you like a real training sin pizza you get the politics on Santino in at Santino on Whitman. Two doors north of Ventura Boulevard. But make sure you get the Neapolitan. My personal favorite pizza is in Manhattan. Beach Valentino's the Sicilian pizza. There and I've been on the east coast now for years. The Best West Square Pizza I've ever had Valentino's And it's my official favorite foods. Go you can't get a better push. Then that from Frank Vermoti Frank. This worked out. I just wanted to combine and have it backwards of you and it turned out to be quite a fun experience. And I'm honored that you kept me on board. We will be with you tomorrow the archive and everything will be up a little bit later. Cases got a couple of appointments after the show. We'll be back here tomorrow. And hopefully there won't be you know Santa Ana and and any other kind of wins. You had to see it to believe in if you weren't driving around at that time you wouldn't believe it happened. Talk Tomorrow. Races with Steve Vic on Sirius X._M.. Radio develop by horsemen burst. BILLS DOT COM is a cost effective time to the environment friendly.
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Okay I mean even really fun and everybody had their own camps but we were in this. You're in the desert I it was. The day before we all got tested, that was like a requirement K. sending your test. You know whatever if you're not feeling good dot com and then I was with my little quarantine friends that I've been gorging with so. We shared a escape trailer and kneels. Desperate to know SEM I. Don't know. It's just called a scam. Okay. No it's like technically an actual trailer scam, but is it like a? It's so cute. One of those like Trailer thingies. The. Okay. Yes. Cute. kind of it's like the those those silver that's airstream yet say one of those. Little tiny one and then when. Those Seem. Like he was groups they're like. Oh. Really. Yeah. That's. Cool. So we'd tote it out there and then it was hot. I don't. I was confused why we're Mojave. It's like it's like a metaphor for hot. Like it's like the Muhammad here was you were like scampering. I didn't realize can't. Did somebody say skating Ding Dong I didn't choose luggage but it was really fun. We hiked to not height but we. went to their sandwich, their sand dunes out there. There's like it looks like the Middle East is just sand. And that's called Kelsey and dunes, and then we went into these caves. These lavas have like. Bad Shit like four wheeling are. Like snowboarding on San. took their decks without like skateboard wheels do they. And do they they? It was fun. Yeah. It was tight like they were just. Like skating down the side of the Dune, it was really cool. It was really good friends. Really Cool. They're really cool. They sound like tight. Pretty tight. Lipped. Better say let. Yeah. So we did that have been to the Mojave. No Yeah name is city probably been there name desert. Not. Going, Death Valley, I'm driven through it on away to of city. Okay, Sin City. Hi Guys I'm Neal Brennan. Since it was so funny I don't know why we are driving out there. This area with no, it's not. It's like exit for Era Alien. Jerky. So cheesy and I like aliens I like Jerky. I'm Neil and Bianca. Would you do I Well, I did show Saturday cool where I did shows Sarasota Place Sarah near here. near my house on Pico and like Barrington or one of the streets like Pinko and Sepulveda's whatever. It's a they've figured out a way to say. I guess it is technically a production. Like a TV show. and. It's thirty people. And In basically like a yard. And you can hear the train chop I mean, it's just choppers the kid there are a bunch of. Like. Twenty, year olds. Next door being straight blake loud. Would they don't care? They don't give a shit. And then I didn't even see there was there was a stairway that they were sitting on. That you like the audience can see and then apparently did a photo shoot at some point during my show. Was it good? Yes the show was good and it was it was good because when the circumstances should like that. It almost can't go well. So if it goes well, it's like it's like, wow, really nobody expects spark in anything right and then the second show James played came in saying that he had but he It is the the it kept shorting out told the guys like, Hey, what kind of stuff do you have a keyboard? Yeah we're all set and then you get there and it's like A. Sense. Keyboard with and there's just do on it because it was super dewey on Saturday like foggy and doing on the west side searches do we? Plan, and the the keyboard shorted out every song. But the good thing like he had the same feeling I ended, which is is more fun. Yeah it's way more fun than. Doing, a thousand seater 'cause then you have to do well everything. Yeah. But this is like, let's figure it out this. It's part of the fun is like Oh right you have a lot of leeway these days. If Shit work, it's like it's grown up what we're GONNA do its current what are you? Is There I. Hope they're like that with the vaccines come on Corona. That's but that's our our reaction to Jeffrey toobin like come on I. Don't it seems like circumstantial the Jeffrey toobin things. On Zoom call apparently he thought he was off camera and he. Either his dick was out. Either his dick was out or he adjusted or something, and it was on camera. On a professional by on camera I mean on zoom. Let's. He was doing a a live chat on CNN and like now just was on his call. Yeah I'm I'm suspending myself if What he did is prosper suspension. May We all? We are all different too. And then of course I voted it's my civic duty. Did you mail in? While I was trying to drop off but I couldn't really you know fake ones. Yeah. Everyone thinks California is such. A Blue State doesn't even matter if you vote it's so weird here. You know we're really progressive, but if you look at all those. Viral racist videos, a lot of them come from California. Neighborhood based LIKE SF Berkeley La 's isn't And now we have the ballot boxes. Yeah. The thing of like there's one American this fucking. One hundred there's every neighborhoods a different. That's like who'd how who do you appeal to you get one group you lose the other you yeah. Like. There's no, there is no one. It's not monolithic. It's not even close to model know if Black Varna monolith than. White people are not Latino. LA- tanks aren't tanks. We've got about a month left and we can I love liftings see now in my everyday life yes. So So voted and of course, acting Neal had a hell of a week. What Steve Burns movie came out the. Opening Act came out and got. It Got Like an eighty two on rotten tomatoes shadow. Pretty good where to go. Swear to get. Opening. Opening Act to eighty two percent really. Yeah. Oh Steve sent me the review I was like stop reading the reviews yet. He's like we finally got whatever about eighty two. Yeah. You know the problem is here is me of my audience score ninety four isn't that good I'm surprised. Is it that good? It was Just I have a low bar for a bunch of movies of the bunch of Comedians in it. I'm sure it'll be. I didn't. How the audience scores. User rating sixty two no no. That's that's critics of. Number known about UC user rating. That's the number of people who. Okay Oh yeah. Usually A- like something can be really funny but not necessarily have a really high score. It's not like a comedy. Really it's more like a coming of age type thing. So. Evil Booker Ono of what? I'm an evil it's an it's the Improv Pittsburgh Improv. So that was a huge. There was a premier on Friday. Now they had a thing in the parking lot at the store that I maybe Saturday. No. Friday I went for like twenty minutes June Jerusalem. Yeah. Bird was there was there Vince Vaughn was there and. Peter Billingsley WHO's Vince partner? Who was who's The kid from Christmas story? Yeah the grownup kid and but the odd thing about Pete is he just was in that Challenger documentary I was GonNa say wasn't he in? Yeah. So he was telling me about that. Just how because he kept saying? No. and. Then they were finally then he was like, all right. Let me look it up and and he he he said he left the interview like fucked up why? Because he'd never spoken about before Oh. Wow. Really. Yeah. So he came home and he's like. To his wife and he's like, yeah, I. I guess I was repressing. But the thing about seeing being he had go on the today, show the day after God and the told me was that That's interesting. is they were if she did well, they were going to send. Kit. Up No they said that, oh I didn't hear that. This could be they opening for. Lots of regular people. Think why would you send a kid to space? That I don't know why they send the teacher. The teacher thing I said to him though who really? Looks up to their teachers like there's sweet but I never. Looked like a teacher can do it than anyone I. I don't know it just didn't seem maybe you didn't connect with your teacher's maybe I didn't. Believe it. So that was my that's my that was my you know my soft week that's the personal week and So let's get. Let's talk about the earth. Down Seventy thousand new cove on Friday we're for breaking records were breaking records day day over day records were break. We're back the problem with covid stats stats where they go. You know the top one percent of humans. The top one percent of Americans have seventy percent of the wealth and you're supposed to be mad but you're more just like, oh, that doesn't mean anything to me. I don't I like I hear what you're saying but it's to. WHO WHAT THE SCALES OFF? Yeah. That's how I feel with they go. This is the most cases we've had in a day since July and I go when was that? I don't know when July was because I don't have any sense of time at all or. Even, going to the store going to the comedy store and then doing standup you it doesn't feel that long ago but it was an eight or nine months ago. I haven't been to the store since. I believe February I know I have, but it's weird I don't know it's kind of I feel like I. Put Away a lot of my pre beginning and pre quarantine and right at the beginning quarantine memories because it was. So it's so fucked up feeling it's really hard to process. I don't like thinking about it for some reason. There's something. Sad about it. There are times where I'll be watching watching. On. Sixty minutes last night and. And like if. You. You Ticklish for crying I was ticklish for crying like if you had like just poked me, I would've started crying. There's something so. Inhumane about the way things are now. that. You shouldn't do this. This isn't this is not a good. Not Good for people. This starts when people say things like the world coming it feels like maybe. Wouldn't be how could it be? I mean, I don't ever think I knew a girl named January she was acting class. It was so funny as yours really religious and it was two thousand eleven. Like the two thousand eleven and of November it's like what you how are you are your holidays? A good girl, the world's going to end, but I'm good because twenty, twenty, twenty, twelve. And I was like. I mean that's Conspiracy what we have they should all if you come the conspiracy, you half to email me and apology you. Gender Gender, January January. January Thomas I didn't see you're listening. To January I know oh no, you don't know this January but I just remember Like the world's going to end but I'm okay. How are you? Like I? Can January what if it was them now that we're here to ending in a month what he did, what are you GonNa do Bianca now? Not I would just I don't know Scott Island. In piece. Okay break. Go. Can't you will? You'd have to book for I mean you'd have to book a flight. Yes. It you'd have to who knows that the airlines are staying open when your loved. One about it. It's like. Why would an airline stay open if the world's can add but if the world ends I, mean there's it's hard to say what you're going to do because everything falls apart. You know that's the fun of it. Why. This is going to stay open. Yeah everyone just GonNa be like fuck it. They're going to be open they're not going to be closely they'll be looted. They'll be they'll be open for looting and even lootings not going to be what do you hoarding? What's the linen won't be the good stuff well. We're not GONNA be on the gravity food food dummies will get TV like I'm a living up. These last years? Names would be really good at the means would be fantastic. Thing. yes. So they don't. It's not good and. Even. But it's not that different like I saw. At the show, every most everybody who are masks again. And It's not that different it's like. Well, what do people make it work? That's what I mean. It doesn't feel like a different world. It just feels like. I. Don't there's got to be better for it's like being in a room. Where there's Somebody farted don't says anything where everyone's just kind of like this is different and I'm. You but. I wish we didn't have to do it like this. I don't know. It's upset I know it's upsetting. It's upsetting it's upsetting also. Can I think for Americans. We Think, oh, we're going to go escape I'm GONNA leave this country we love telling people either to leave our country. Behave in our countries or leave. About that really it ends even. Thought. Or leave. I'm leaving. You know what I mean. Are you get out of my role? So obsessed with this shit, will they? Is it's the Americans. Have a flatter. Notion about the rest of the world but America. And then there's just dragons on either side of us don't realize how hard is actually to travel through countries. We don't because we can. We have a we have we don't really need visas for many places but so for us, it's like I'm Gonna I'm getting out of here and now everyone else's spiking and they damn sure don't want us. Well now now it's going to be tied soon I mean it's no it's never gonna be tied with America. We're the country, no Harlequin. How could it be? Like we're talking. Doing like thirty thirty grand a day. Yeah they had this week got wild in France France England Spain Spain. Spain never really had it under control. At the thin it a little bit thought they were down like two thousand a day. There's a good chance of driven name-driven Mike when I was going a million cases. Now, they're doing numbers. They had a down. They had way read. Okay. Had it like? None for As skews them long, and then they they had. They basically had it early like they were bad early and then from like late April they they've started popping off when I was going what I was known Linda. August. Yeah. Trying to logistically figure out how to get see my cousin's wedding. I was looking at the Cova cases and stuff and a lot of places have it. Like under one hundred at throughout the summer. Up until recently. So it's because it's because people have to be endorsed. It's easier when you can go doors but Americans are too. We have more problems dumb and outer. It's stubborn though I was talking to my friends. Do you think it's better to have had because I feel like Europe had the summer off of Corona? For the most part. Is. It. Is it better to have the summer off and now go back into it or at least in California? We've had we've just been stuck in. Yeah I. Don't. I have the same thought which is. Is it. Better to have it like, is it better to have loved and lost? I is it is it's better to have. Never opened. Opened, and then then you have to close, you have to close again I feel like for us it's better to just stay like this mental health. What do you even call this? I don't know. It's it's everywhere else is like soft opened its it seems everywhere else is a friends and family, but you can come in. Like winking. Drinking. Age is actually like fifteen. Just take. What you mean here your every now I mean most places in America New York was stringent and California stringent everywhere else has been like I'm talking about California. Better experience like never really get that freedom. I feel like it's better. Mental Health. Wise because how sad to just go have to go back I don't know Yo Yo is it. We're. We're GONNA open up for. The summer. But were closing back up. September one. Or October whatever like May I don't know that seems okay but murders would be high. Murders have been weirdly high. But Anyhow The. The. I don't philosophically I. Do Not Know I. do because I've three where for you would you rather? Have had a bike comedy store open regular shows just. Still in quarantine, but a little more freedom. More than we've had there is freedom of dirtbag. That's the great thing about the really is being a dirtbag. I went paddle boarding in those see in. A, there's no virus there. We'll. That's what I mean. There's no. Yeah there was no. If you are dumb or think that it's a conspiracy against because liberals love putting people inside that were known for it. We love closing businesses down and making people go. That's our fucking thing is father than ends Asians? Yes. American countries of our love of Parades and seven parties and whatever are gay parades and so. Yes, I do not I that's a coin. Toss to me, I. Don't know what what would have been better. We'll see. I texted Jimmy car- about it. I was like wire this number's going up and we said Something like well, they're stupid people everywhere something like there's just. You know what are you GonNa do if people are inside and they will not. No one really took it seriously. No well, no one. Sorry I feel like no one anywhere Asia took it. You should always craze. Asia took it seriously because they had merged and SARS. and Africa tickets because they already have. And slips. Africa. Africa. The reason why they're not spiking is because of the Ebola virus they had some. Already, apparently Senegal is killing it. In a good way. So they're not spiking everyone thought they would spike and it's so funny how much We talk, we don't actively together talk but. We regard African healthcare system it said, they have nothing these doctors. Shaman noses. Yeah and they're fine. I mean comparatively how great yeah. Well. That's yeah. So no one in American. seriously. And for the most part. I feel like the Bay did I feel like California did I feel like New. York did because they had to near was dying. Yeah but. I feel like a lot of places somebody who was saying there were some well I by the way I got to go to Florida Lean. Sunday. To win. Will then I gotta go to Portland. How we gone? Well, no, I'm trying to get around answering. No I'm just being like. Well. Traveling. Well Halloween GonNA. Go. it's seven days. Days we'll either do whatever we'll. Just like so you're going to Florida Florida. Why because I? We shoot a commercial. Okay and the person is in Florida cool. To the people apparently and then we gotta go to Portland. Okay and shoot their 'cause. There's at least one person there. But if you look at the numbers Oregon is slogans bone-dry covid. Hopefully will change things get their. Hopefully. So I'm a little. You see the plane thing where the the the the way it's the air goes in planes. It's kind of you can be next to a person and it's kind of six feet because the air all gets pushed down. So interesting. Apparently. They're not doing the middle seat thing anymore except for Delta. Yeah I don't I mean. You know. dolly a good just kept challenged. Great. No go back. To. The right to the right to the rent. badmouth. Yeah. Yeah. Experts say there's The airline people said, there's no risk. Schmil. Did. Do a study. 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Sorry like it's weird because I think trump's more entertaining I'd rather watch trump's trend Senate trump star I've said he's a winter babies. No, he's not a he's a star. If the only thing he made money at was licensing is fucking brand. And the brand is him bullshitting and looking like a cartoon rich guy. Yeah but. Biden's townhall got more readings. Says something won't people. 'cause I would. Building about how trump is the? Is the crazy how you have like a crazy girlfriend every once in a while. Rogan the JUG and and I and I think I saw maybe rocker somebody do it instead they stopped but. Yeah he's just we tried it. It was too crazy. That's how people feel they like the people that were. It was smart people or read intelligent people who thought maybe he had a point. Maybe points like it was corrupt. It was crooked Hillary I mean I don't think she's that corrupt but. The. Swamp all that Shit. Yeah. He's like a man of the people. He's not a man of the people, but he seemed like it. People try to didn't work. So go on your way. Yeah, goodbye. That's it. Thank you. Goodbye you free service, but it's I don't think someone like him. We'll happen for a while. I think everyone's just to he's like the type of person I, know everyone is giving a dating metaphor but. Did you ever meet someone and you realize. Oh I could've dated you years younger not based on their age based on you're. Standing of people that happens all the time it's like you don't have your shit together like I with just date a hot surfer dude who sleeps on his friend's couch we can say only all night party glance camping scam. Can't. BE But it's just I did that in college already just I don't. I don't know how I'm supposed to. Find. Value in any that's trump is it is fun for people to be. P- to watch a guy be petty. And you got vengeful and they just go look man. Like seventy right. I it's just not that good luck. Yeah. It was fun for a while and then you. I can't I can't do it anymore. I like the the what you claimed you were about could a worked, but that's not who he is. He did a good job pretending. and. and. Yet he we got Dick Byrne Yeah. We got like our Bruce. Trajkovic bones are bruce could thank you though for the humping. Misrepresent. Ice Cube had crazy. had a wild week. You have any Did you catch him? On my list what do you make of it? Will the weirdest part was that the? That he didn't say he worked with them. Is that they outed him. For working with them, that was the only part we'll have come down with trump or something he did tweet up and not know before this. He did he tweeted them. I never folk with trump and then he tweeted that was like wild. Yeah last year and then well, probably going to be here but. The four weeds too much this. Yeah. Yeah like He. He did tweet that he was. He was pro trump. Down some some very. I'm definitely not pro-trump I'm pro over helps out you know, yes, check with Black America but. This. All just reminded me 'cause now people calling me the looks like. He looks like An. He looks like A. An Asian. Shut up already has a spiritual guru sometime. But like a stat. Like a statue of one. He looks like a drawing. Of like painting, you'd see in a in Mumbai. Okay. Mumbai Gonzi and you'd be like who's that I'll that's like Chris crash leader Yeah Chris Cash. Let's see about. Yeah he I think the problem is one. It it's that weird argument you made on. Likable don't have actual representatives so. it's they can't say no. Celebrity step in people go to celebrities to speak on behalf of black people whereas is keeps just a dude trying a lot of money he'd like executive producers movies. Directly fucking direct feed for co-wrote. Friday's like a real filmmaker. Yes. So I don't know why we're going to him to. Make a contract black America. The thing is the Congressional Black Caucus said they were never reached out to. So? They was trump value is stone bigger. Than anything. That's ultimately he couldn't any star that comes. Everyone that saw connie news crazy. Like, what I really liked that guy. Okay just whoever. It's anybody that will step forward. Is Is. Is What They're who therefore I just don't. He's he'll just take any he. He takes white supremacist. He does anybody anyone who likes him. He's too much of an artist ago. You like me but I can't I can't. Like can you? It's the same way you he's never laughed. By the way that's Al Franken's observation I set it on the pile against somebody says Al Franken he's never laughed and he would never go. This is wrong. You're wrong and I cannot take your support skillet. Fantastic yeah. It's like the cute on where he Can't say no to to the problems. So not it's not that he should say note ice cube it's just or if they is, should I say no to him would. The. Weird thing is so ice cube has a plan but I don't think ice cube has a group. That he's standing up for and he I don't think he's been duly appointed in any way. So trump goes. Here's what. We're GONNA do for black people. But meanwhile he's just going. Here's what I do for you. and Cuba's I I liked this mother. And it's like, but what does he do also? Get it in writing. Doesn't really hold up his end of the bargain a lot of the types of what the fuck are. You even talking about the weird thing to me is, why do you think let's just forget is key per second and the contract with Black America Trump hasn't fulfilled a lot of. Campaign promises to fight. His. contract. With. Whites with fit. So he hasn't been built his contract with Pat Proud whites to the fullest your wall the idea. None of it right. He hasn't fulfilled taxes, but that wasn't for that wasn't for them and that didn't really benefit them. So his contract with proud whites has not been fulfilled we. Want, you'd like why would you? He's absolutely full of shit take vices just like he doesn't get anything that he doesn't even have a full cabinet. So what do you? What is he? What do you if you really want something done? Yes. Biden people like let's talk after the election. And it's like not good who are he's not that's not his thing. Right and Not The contract America isn't his no. Thing I don't think he's even on their website like nothing. I'd also like say I don't think he doesn't. He's absolutely right yeah. Ice Cubes absolutely right but the idea. will please stop googling because it's too crazy. And it's not helpful. It's It's. Will. Z's. By the way we sell wills desktop the other day. It was a crime scene. Me nauseous. Crime Scene Seasick and. I would suggest before you hire someone. It part of the interview should be Lemme see your desk. So you're saying you wouldn't have hired will looking back. That's me. I'm not saying that I'm saying we'd love you when I saw the desktop. It was like it was like a murder. It was. It was like a scene out of seven. Okay. How hot does she have to be? For her to have a really fucking messy that those kind of like that it was like. Yeah. Like how long could I stay with? The one I don't care, but it does Over the house. The girls I've messed with an had messy houses I remember. Do. You know what I mean. It definitely made an impact much. I love to go like it doesn't matter. It matters running on a pile of clothes I mean that's bad up on a vial of clothes like you're messing around next. It's my fault. What's wrong with you? I love close. As a messy girl I'm like you know are you messy? Oh? Yeah. Yeah. So For it don't worry. Don't worry about it. Their Places in my right. So yes. So I'm not wrong but the the somehow that he. Is Speaking in any way for all black people is I. Don't think is true and. Anymore, than Connie is or any more than Steve Harvey is or anybody anymore even reverend al or anybody that's kind of appointed. Even as out, he's the most out liar those because at least you yes ice cube is saying hey. Like none of these motherfuckers care about us. So why am I? Why am I why don't have? Blind loyalty to the Democrats. fucked up. But it just feels a bit lake you it's weird. My takeaway was if I don't understand why Republicans and Conservatives court. Also have this unspoken sort of like courting of racism because. Black folks are also really religious as well, and they are more conservative and traditionalist in a lot of pockets of communities like in the south and stuff like that like I. If. There wasn't a huge arrays. Racism like I feel like they court that as a As. One of their things that identify you as a right wing Republican conservative it's. Racist undertones to that. Shit you know it used to be undertones now is just tones just tones but I'm just saying that historically, if you really want to strengthen your party, why wouldn't you also go for? A huge population that loves that the love the same God have similar traditions and there's been a big thing now where where. The tanks are being with tanks. Because they don't their their pro life a lot. There are like very religious and Latino. There's but they don't. They're not really like they don't really like. White Evangelical stuff. And they've had Latin evangelical is like. Weird pockets. It's not it doesn't line up, but Latif is being welcomed more with open arms to the Republican Conservative Party. Then yes. They have to be the type of tanks who are anti immigration, which is another contradiction. Yeah. That is actually weird. That's the that's where the the the conflict or maybe they have to be into immigration but then a lot of black communities are traditionalist. They are really conservative they are very religious. Yes they they don't Republicans don't believe in a social safety net. so that you lose Shillo by WHO right they're not like they're looking for the Dole, they just believe in being compassionate to people but more white people are on course just. So I'm like what is. Ice Keeps shooting. At the black. Paternity stats. Meaning they're more way more white absentee does than black absentee that way more there's way more marriages. Not Not even not even just numbers because bill statistically there are more white absentee fathers. Percentage Wise. than. Black. which which is not. The best it's just the best in terms of like. Study. Not. At all, what the stereotype is I, read that there was before. Was that supervises policy that kind of aimed to break up black family law. That wouldn't allow black men in the home of receiving. Welfare. Wouldn't allow a man to be in the house. Before. Then the percentage of black folks getting married was something like seventy five. percent like it was so such a anti. Welfare there was a man there. I think it's like if there's a man in the house, you can't receive as many benefits as if he's not well young men, a man will give you so many. Sony. Many headache. Acts like government housing and her mom had a boyfriend and I remember she wasn't black Latin but he had to leave he did like go out the window. When Something like that? Yeah, he can't. He can't be here I don't think it will people game I just don't think he'd be here I. Know What you mean I we're saying that the statistics are don't watch why but I was talking to my I saw my nephew. The funny thing is my nephews. fucking old also. Your final thirty one or two I mean that's so I bring him, does it no. It's like closer to. And now so I bring them to a show I brought him to my chicken place in Highland Park and then I and they're like how this is your nephew what are you doing in La and he's like? It's like, oh, he's a businessman. He's on a business trip. That's what he's alive, but it's like Oh. Little Guy. Here where are you saying? The suite at the yeah. So yes. But he was saying that like we he was saying family members of ours voted Republican and he was saying why he's like. Better for the stock market and like it's not better for the stock market. Republicans are worse for the Stock Market Since nineteen. Eighty eight. So what are you talking about? What did he say? He knew he doesn't vote. He's like of course not but I couldn't tell. X number, but that's well this. No. If you're against if against abortion I get voting Republican and you're against if you think that black people are gonNA. Eat up all your taxes, your tax when he's all going blind people on. Welfare. And you're against abortion fine. That's fine. They get voting Republican but. Any other reasons, fuck out here it's not better financially for the country. No but I, actually understand voting Republican if you're rich. I mean, rich liberals are insane I'm like Kudos you guys don't get enough but if you read in million dollars. Why. Not Give to wind up be liberal when I give to liberal causes the because most people aren't like that they're you know but. I think what happened with liberals I know that that are liberal and rich like the guy from shark tank rockabilly nail. Is Liberal enrich and. and he because he. Like what why would I horde the money right but that's also mindset and not everybody who is rich has a mindset of give away I. Have Enough a lot of yarn like while it becomes the game that they have to win. Right? It's a game that they have to continuously when letting cheap very very. Mindful. Extremely rich people you know. So I just think. I'm going to be honest there was a party that was shitty but I let's say as someone like let's say with my waitressing money. We paid almost little taxes. I. Think Most I think most people in the service industry would vote for that party because it if they were pro choice and lower taxes. Yes I think a lot of people would. Discreetly, vote because it benefited Ringo's economic I agree I think yes. I do agree with you I get. This raises another question that we probably talked about before like what's the right tax rate? Then we raise another question. Why so many? What do we need? What really do you want your taxes to go to because most of our taxes go to defense security? Yes. Lease wherever that would I would bet that would end up shaking out. I had this is very tangential. tweet night tonight it's something occurred to me last night and I kept thinking like, am I wrong? So you get arrested. You, have the the Miranda Rights Guarantee You A. Yeah. If you cannot afford a lawyer will provide what whatever yeah. There's no such thing for Madison. Yeah it's fucking. So fucked up. That and then everyone's like well, those lawyers suck. It's like okay and he's like. Someone Guide one was like. Anything government provides is shitty and I go how about the military. So. Lawyers are bad right Public. Schools are bad. Government employees in the in the deep state or bad. So they all suck except for the military explained that how that happened but let's be honest. The military does kind of suck. Are you talking about winning wars? No no no I. mean a lot like military grade is not a good grade of something military of the Ford F one fifty, it's not a military grade. Cheapest and the. Most Bang for your buck. Ashley. A lot of their the VA hospital has a lot of issues a lot of the services mental health services on bases are, but they say that's a different that somehow not the proud. which part of the military because you're right the VA is considered by everyone to suck right. So are the guns great. What's great about it? Is it the barracks? Is it the Humvees, the bombs? Or the bombs as Shitty as the va or is that a different? A might go off. Point, which is. The the American military's WanNa war, in. Since Hitler. We do. Shit we're on. Willis Assaneh. I'm saying like since World War Two. We just to tie. Well. To It's like this is stupid. We don't want this island. One is fighting us for like the north is chill. The South is just like, no, we are not under. I'm talking about. Afghanistan. You outside of. Iraq Afghanistan. Y- give okay you want Grenada that's all. That's you. So take this should to the Korea. We one. Korea it's not so like where are we? Yeah which part of the military is great. That's where people's. It was A. People it Kinda shorted people's brain where I was like. So wait a minute. So the and you could tell people, I got a couple of people trying to argue, and then they realize like. Oh. Oh. Yeah. This is a bad. We shouldn't. You shouldn't be guaranteed a right to a lawyer and then so lawyers had something. So your time is valueless compared to a to a doctor. The doctor's time is so valuable a lawyer. Give it away. Yeah. Why don't we have you know like a public defender type thing. For. For Medicine. I mean. There's I. It's all bullshit. Reasonable wants a public defender. So no one wants like whatever named become a public Dr? No, one would. Take public doctor that's what I'm saying they're going. Public defender, they're going to be always under litigation I mean you can. You can especially if you get convicted with the public, there's so many ways to be like he didn't add like ineffective counsel I. But then again, I watched forensic files, uh nightly basis and a lot of the Aha moments come from public defenders. I refused that the narrative. Rude. Overwhelmed and Not Saying Saint Great. That it's like good and. What I'm saying they're there. Why is that in place back? Why are you guaranteed right to counsel but now guaranteed Medical Council know for sure. Will you can? They'll pay you but you'll. They'll hound you for the rest of your life. If you get if a homeless person gets. Goes to the hospital. They the hospital eats it. They can't. Yes. But they'll try to charge the person. Yeah they try they try and then by the way we all pay for it we pay for it but we paid for the public defenders well. Right. So what I'm saying is put a real system in so that you don't have to be homeless. To us it's just a it's. It's the it to me. It's the best thought I've ever had about. That were like Oh. Yeah. That's I just shows where we value what parts of our lives. So just think it's entrenched. It's like how we've done things. Well, no I mean like we have so much honor and like freedom you have the right to justice in one sense the when something slowly killing you or academic Jeffrey Toobin. Jerk. Stable. And on another. In the same vein, we'd really don't care if if you're unhealthy. which is also GonNa take away your life as well. You know we don't really course but now you're on Neil's fat shaming site. Oh Neal how dare you do not get me on that NBA Ratings are down. They were really down for the champion for the finals. Really. An yeah like fifty percent. The. NFL ratings are sky high. They're not. They're sky high relative. The NBA they're lower than they were last year really there in the like like. They tend to I'm not saying they're not winning like the NBA won its timeslot no meaning like I thought tens of millions of people watching NBA and NFL. My no that's but that's lower from last year. That's lower. That's not normal. It's normal. It's just a little bit lower. It's not massive thirteen percents when I read interesting. So the question is. Obviously. The you know the the the name is. Go. Woke go broke. Get it. But. But if there's something if there's something to. If I'M A fan. I understand that as as a black man they have to be. they have to be Kinda straightened about about. Civil Rights. Don't kill us in the stuff that they're absolutely right to do if I'm a fan. AM I. Not right to be like massive can bomber. You know that's where I'm like sympathetic to both sides because I see I've course I the NBA sympathetic to the this is a bummer side because it's a, it's a luxury be like this is such a bummer for my basketball. Yeah. But they WANNA watch they just WANNA want it's mindless entertainment. Yeah. It'd be like if actors kept going like and by the way. Every actor had a social message on their shirt. You'd be like, I, don't know man this is I thought this was the office I think it feels that extreme because they never do it but I don't think it's that I didn't seem like it took away that much I mean I don't think it took. This goes to the other thing of what how many Americans are I don't think it doesn't take away from you urine. You're mine experience because I. I have black lives matter stenciled over everything I see. So it's it's an APP download your brain you poured into your ear. It's you see every detail you see George Foot so. butyric normal people I don't want to think about. I don't know. I don't know if I. You think that some white guy in fucking Wisconsin wants to think when he earns on the basketball game wants to think about Civil Rights injustices and no no I don't think that that's not what I meant. I meant that I don't know how sympathetic I am to that being an inconvenience for them. I don't I don't I'm not saying I'm but I understand it. That's the I'm not take the word sympathy. Okay. Do. You not get there they're. Now having now that now the Thing that kind of wash the whole argument away apparently with Republicans ratings were only down one percent for the NBA. Yeah, everybody likes so. Ratings Shirley down one percent and. So. It's kind of A. Fake argument but it got me thinking about. WHAT WILL How much can? How much can white people take like if there's how much of a of a quote unquote black, agenda. Do Ken White people take. What even taking a Lotta Shit right enough. People. Readily. ZILLION. So if lottery will take what they've taken as long as they have, it's just It's. No. No you're mistaken I'm talking about business is. Let me just finish. So I'm just saying that it only feels uncomfortable right now because change feels uncomfortable and that was in escape for a lot of people away from all the problems a lot of white people so. Now that it's like you see you see bill protest now you see it on. in your sports and you see in politics and it doesn't feel like you get a break I understand that overwhelming feeling but I think people are going to be fine I mean corona felt like we were going to die and we're all fine. You know in terms of mentally were find I think it's just GonNa are CR-. I think people just get numb to it like everything else. They're going to be the question I was getting to was what if it does hurt the business who's been the NBA? What if it likes? So trayvon Roy sent me a text today that the Warner Brothers hired a black woman to be the state chairman or the biggest job. that a black. Man Ever had in in entertainment I mean more or less. So then which raises the. Obama question of how black and she go. How black and she go before Warner Brothers isn't going to be like, yes keep burning our money. For Passion projects that for fourteen percent of the population. Do. You know what I mean like at what point do you have to go? There's GonNa be there's like a collision on its way but your your framing it like people who are just finally I mean power now let's fund passion projects that really only if you want to see I mean. But why do you think so I don't but I think that's the point of having blind people in charge. I think it's just having a little bit more representation but I don't think Hollywood's there's A. Reputation if you're not going to use it to. Forward your your races because that was the rap Obama is that they I know black I got became president didn't really four and it was like a waste I I know what you mean. But what I'm saying is these passion projects I'm not sure this is so theoretical almost like whatever but. If, we're going to play in this world I. Don't think the passion projects are going to out outweigh or. Out ratio the actual wool. Makers what how, why would the? Assumption when you get a black president. No. Not Back. Pleasant. Let's just say this or black black head of. which is a rap on Barack Obama is. That he didn't do enough for by people, right? Yes. which I think is. I think that's a fair criticism. No. Yeah. Like there are black business especially women black female owned businesses were thriving under Bush. Now Obama. So do you mean trumper Bush? I mean. Bush. Yeah that okay. So So the point is the point of having a black person in power is that you? You like you're more blacks shit. We'll get green lit more. Yeah for sure. But I don't think it's I. Don't get this. Why why are you wasting our money? Why are you burning? The idea is. That If you get a black person in charge. They'll do like I said they'll. They'll gripe black stuff. At. What point if if a lot of them don't work, what can she do? I. Think we have a fundamental disagree disagreement about what when a black person is in charge I think you're you think they'll do the same thing. A white person will do and I just don't think that in this country prison gets in charge and they held their friends they WANNA make money they pander to white people. The white person doesn't come in charge in like make a bunch of black movies I. Think you don't realize that black still remember what country they're in I don't think the whole office is GonNa Turn Black I. Don't think it's a black wave at warner brothers. So remember that just because that black woman is head of something doesn't mean she doesn't forget. I mean Jackie. Lacey's the DA. Could. So I'm just anger is a class. So is it just about that job I I? I don't want to know we're just I don't want you to believe that I'm like. Well, you know what's GonNa? Happen here she's going to be and it's going to fail. That's not I'm obviously a lot of white people do the I. I had trayvon where he said. that. Moore he was joking with, he was like We'll have our Mel Gibson. where he'll be able to a black bras will be able to get away with doing shit now when there's more people that and it was like. Mel Gibson is the White Michael Jackson. The reason why people fuck with Mel Gibson is because he's a fucking. Generational worldwide movie star who is an earner? Any earned a lot of people a shitload them in the same way the same reason Michael Jackson got like. You're I mean whatever It's fine. Just get in the recording booth I think it comes down to money I. Don't I believe that people are naturally biased toward their group. But I think it has way more to do I just wonder. I, almost feel bad for the one, but it's really hard position to it is but I think a good leader, you have the balance. So obviously, she's not going to go in there and make a bunch of passion for because they don't earn anybody but maybe earned some like little awards on on the on the trailers I'm just saying that. I don't think she's going to go in because look look at trump he's pandering to really one side. People rich people. Like I mean conservative Republican White Rich Poor. But that's that's why he's about I mean is that it doesn't provide it doesn't you don't come out literally a good leader. So going just to once I, just over representing one faction doesn't make you a good leader. So I don't think this person is gonNA. Don't think they're just you know the movie industry they don't take that many risks they seems like they do. So I. Think it's it's. Yeah. So it's I do so oh. Yes. Fundamentally I think she's probably going to have if we're talking about it, she probably has a lot of fucking or shoulders to not fuck this up. You know yeah, of course. So I don't know how much she's going to be like the Black Mel Gibson. She probably doesn't even feel like she could doesn't want to focus. Body. That's the that's the that's why I almost pity because it's like, Oh, you can't win but the difference is the environment right now is more it's it's favorable to her as opposed. It was not yes it is favorable like what's this? Kid. This Muslim from Kenya GonNa do you know Wasn't that favorable because? Once trump people were like. Ham. It was favorable because no one can really make a huge complaint against Roma. Who the Bible people, right they made tons of compliance B did. But literally like no one sounds like which holds water Tan Suit Yeah There it was nonsense. But what I'm saying like. I'm talking about more. Is it about just having a black person in that position? And not have the content change. It's about having a pipeline. Possibilities for individual by people and not a pipeline where we're to be able to. We're GONNA be able to take it home. We're like. We're the. Shoot there on the weekends for free like there's not there's not going to be. It's like, no, I'll make corporate officer and. I just wonder all like if what's going to happen? When this stuff hurts the bottom line. When if if the end to the NBA point, what will happen if? You. Like. Woke movies and I woke movies don't do especially well anyway let's think about it. We're going in under the assumption. She's only GonNa make a bunch of. But I'm talking about Obama I'm talking about Obama the. Woman's name is channing Dungy. I believe think about this before all this you haven't. Naked chose. Cavern ICK. Now many people were cut I'm never going to buy nikes again, their sales are fine fine. You know yeah that's a whole. That's all I'm just saying he definitely chose before be before it was okay before we're safe for companies and they know where they weren't gonNA lose money. Nike deeply backed. But I don't know that made them I. Think it hurt them for a quarter probably heard them for a second but I think they're probably fine. You know what there are but I'm saying there's like lots of. What happens if those projects don't you know what I mean it's like the that's the thing about black hist that I think is is Effective is the tone. It's Some things does. Some people think it's Radical some people and just like you watch it, it just seems like a family show. I mean, it just seems like a family show with the Calloway's. So. Yeah. I'm just very interested. I'm just very interested in this because it is. It is with everyone getting. We deserve this. We deserve this. It's the you know what it is. It's the. Gal gadoe. Playing Cleopatra Thing. Did you see that and of course I saw that I want to talking about? The Gal Gadoe it's so that is like should play who are the female movies because if I'm putting up one hundred, million dollars. Who Can I expect? Who's GonNa give me a bang for my buck I mean they just someone maybe isn't in a white Israeli I'm paying one hundred, million dollars get me somebody Zoe Saldana. She's been in tons of French and it was green and blue in those movies. Never been herself. She's never by herself. Stood up. Ben On a poster and Shit ripped Colombiana. Name. But what what I'm not saying she's wasn't ever on a poster I'm saying. What do you mean Colombiana? Yeah. How much do you think Colombiana made probably nothing it made nothing. Of, it made fucking nothing. It didn't I promise you the be able to make Colombiana. Wish they put somebody else in the movie. Oh. Columbia came up sixty three million as close to one hundred. Twenty six percent it was great. So. What I'm saying and by the way that were they came out in two thousand eleven. So So it didn't even. We'll type in box office come in Columbia South Carolina came up. So that's how well Colombiana did. So. What I'm saying is what choice do these money people have? Yeah. That's the thing it's like I don't. It's cool. The put wanting you all put the money up. And you can put it whoever and you can put. Who would they put in it but they are doing there are like box office smashes that have black people in them I don t that's don't mistake I'm. Black Panther Goals Horse of course. Yes. I'm not saying why would we? That's what I'm saying I'm saying if you have to they just go down a list they don't even see for sure I get that hey, we have to bank on. The Role that does that number they on average Oh the can we get her? They don't it's like, yes Scarlett Johansson okay. Right I've never I don't care. Movie But the problem is the specific thing. The unique thing about film and TV industries that it is. Completely, a money making thing and it's it's a complete business and but it also is a weird sort of. It's a reflection of the pop culture and population what's going on in society to so they have this weird thing you know at Unilever they're just. Putting out products what sells more of that what doesn't take off? They don't have to think about that shit whereas in arts you kind of have to do both so more that's what I'm saying it's more now than ever. Yeah for no one gala fuck that Spartacus was. Kirk Douglas was like you know the real smart kids was the. More, you know. No. No. But I'm saying now there's Not Going to. He loves going. So I'm. Not. As a person who wine? They remake Shit is proven properties to let's remake it. Can we get who can open movies? Yeah Gal gadoe. Scarlet. Angelina Jolie. Demi Moore usually even now you know what I mean. Female Movie Stars Highest paid in two. Thousand Nineteen not. Be. So Meryl Streep to old. Emily Blunt. She's not people aren't going to be stoked. Nicole Kidman Not Stoked Ellen peyot. TV. Elizabeth Moths Moss TV. Violet Davis. Could have you have to be that kind of Cleopatra? If she has a young dodger. So ever Gara that's. What is so Angelina Jolie? There's my great friend Gal Gadot. Melissa McCarthy not right. Meryl. Streep too old. Emily. Blunt too old emily to white Nicole Kidman widest butter. yet. So this is where you go. Okay. Who should we put in it? I mean, the million dollars in it you have a million dollars in this. It's a gamble. Who are you betting on? This is where we well they shot. No. No, but. But you were saying it's cultural and you have to play Paul her that's part of it. You that's not didn't make fucking industrial make tons of money they tried to do what they did. They did the money part. So what I'm saying is to people arguing get so you're saying just. It's either put Viola Davis in it or don't make it. No I'm I'm saying that. There are a lot of I understand this if these big budget movies obviously there all the. I get that they're a little stuck. It's you get stuck because it's hard to take a chance on someone that Gal Gadot was a chance for wonder woman wasn't If we did this about wonder woman, she would not be on your list and she made it. So Gal Gadot have as we did the list before that when they were casting if we had a million dollars in wonder woman and we. We would not agree on Gal. Gadot, all she wouldn't even make the list. So totally somehow someone took a risk. So at some point, they take risks. So yes, but what I'm saying is based on population. There's more people that are that are. Find Gal Gadoe the that beauty standard. It's just into like the psychology worldwide psychologically and beauty standards Gal gadoe is considered more beautiful more countries. So. If you're making the list then. Viola Davis. Their. Different values the old older lady you know what I mean totally agree but what I'm saying is Marvel has a thing set up where they can put her in the thing they damn sure they tested the Fox for. My mistake. Yes there's there's a racist system massive risk in risk and it paid off and I'm sure there's a girl or is a black, a black brown or Egyptian. Whatever woman that is is hot as Gal Gadoe that you know I'm just saying there are they're taking risks in other places. Why not? If it's basically just on face symmetry bone structure and being attractive I mean everyone's attractive all different shades. So I just think I get what you mean though I'm not sitting here ringling twenty nine out and you'll like, yeah, she's white she's going to appeal to more people whatever I get totally get it and that's what I'm talking about with the. Intentions thing versus commerce. Where it's the good intentions versus commerce it's like. Would wonder woman be as popular with this mythical Egyptian when you're about like. Maybe, but may maybe not and and so if I'm a financier. Like let's go with the maybe the maybe not what's the safer option but the problem on this at the thing is wonder woman is white she was waiting the comics. So. So so what I'm saying now. Neil is. Marks. From casting so If. If now, the I just feel like the public opinion like we want more. We want any more accurate like people do. Yes and with with Black Panther white people aren't the one. So we that's a lot of younger white people do yeah. The different generations are so much more but even we in America's insane find that I'm saying there's a lot of people who if you're GonNa make me. fucking a white lady like for sure. But you know after like Panthera remember they went around to different countries and they interviewed them about like Oh. This is the first black. Casts Major Casteel Bobo and especially in the Asian countries a lot of them were like didn't you don't you don't really see like beautiful black women on TV like this like I. This is the first time I saw black women were so beautiful and I was like Oh this is great. I mean obviously weird translation of like. Chinese and Korean people but It's like, yeah, people were exposed to it. If you're always exposed to there's plenty of beautiful women who can match up to Gal Gadot and maybe can pull off being Egyptian I just think I don't. But if I'm just the finance thing, it's just the investor thing like we're. Thinking risk. Someone took a yes. But it's a smaller risk than if they'd put in. LUPITA. Because she's white in a fucking racist on racist earth science dating in. Smaller, risk Gal Gadot win it on on racist Earth Russia's. Bachelor and the where the tension is racist. Earth. And the best of the best of intentions Fisher but they're. Deger risk bigger payoff. It depends on what you WANNA do. BEEN BUT NOT NECESSARILY BIGGER IS BIGGER PAYOFF In when something is a black cat like right now when things do good and it's good quality and then. It's a black cast. People are way more you have oh, it was just a good movie. Pay Off and then you have and you did that good thing. Black people pay off. That's. Is. What of like star of the week? Yes. But it's a real the avengers. That's real money. The event. Blind man that's pretty good money. The avengers is fun. But I mean it's like. Double that. I looking after it and it was like park the new world or some shit. One point three, billion for drastic. Veterans is two point seven. AVENGERS ONE POINT Two point seven, it's to it's double. The events is what I'm saying is. Big Risk Big reward they. It's just. fucking. They want their money back. How much One For sure injured. But I think vendors is the top of the top of the top did venom that wasn't gained eight twenty, right so captain marvel did one point one. Right up man what the fuck who what I'm saying I'm saying what the fuck is. The main one point one ally know why you said that that's it was crazy I. thought that too. But you know we're only comparing the Renou we comply compare the black castle things to the top top top I'm not whereas I'm no no, I'm not. Going to be the avengers I'm not talking about what I'm talking about is if it's a tent pole movie. And I'm esther. Van Them destroyed by the way and all in China eight. Eight, eight, hundred, fifty, six, million. Yeah, I just. I didn't say no everybody's nobody likes. Nobody likes to. If your much money. It's also that the other thought that I had we not getting the help should we wanted to? Just started thinking about the adventure now but what I'm saying is it's interesting. The. Your where you say wonder wonder woman's White. Cleopatra's right. Okay. But what I'm saying Because of the spider verse, Spiderman can be black now. Or as long as. As long as it's Cleopatra and the good paying. I know what I'm saying because you have to ease white people into it and that was also a cartoon that's what I'm saying. How about cartoon is this? Okay. Why? As usual okay I can accept it. Up to a light skin, maybe they seemed like Latino La- tanks. Tanks Vinke Yes. So So. So yet so I'm I'm. I know that what people want is fair. And I also know that if I'm a financial guy. I Want my money back. When you go to the Casino, you don't bet on what's morally right. You Bet on this shit it's GonNa get your money back in. It's a receiver sort of yet finance. They just want you know. So so what I'm saying is Give people a break. On the path. They're the. Cut Columbus Columbia. I will say Columbia made more money than I. Thought I was it wasn't that bad. Hi Guys. Neil Bredon here with. And you know we forbid casting we use A. Platform called anchor an APP called anger which Bianca I do as. Anchor Nights. So, it's like I've said before it's fair it's you can see they get you ads and then you can see how much money you're making off of each add each episode there is a there's a tab on there that literally just says money. it's very simple if you have a if you have a very linear mind like uncle nail. You. Who knew love a a button that they've wanted says episode money and analytics. 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So they were like they were like it's for your safety meanwhile, they didn't want them protesting. If they wanted to protest. Palestinians I bet they would have been. One we. Even as covert anyway It's silly. Foul Cheeses. Insane. So. Asked so. I don't know who we own apology do I guess Netanyahu and Nelson Rabin Society NAVA GAL wrong about that. Thing so we're we're sorry. I made some numbers is. Amazing. Ones an amazing purchase? K. When you brush your teeth. Yeah. You lied you leave the Faucet on yes I run my I put my hand under it and you feel bad. But My. Guess who got the airport thing with the center. that sucks my 'cause they don't ever work well, the he I have. I here's what I learned. Sorry in this in this journey. That those things are battery. Operated even in the the sensors I, don't know no but if Either one I understand why they break they break and then no one there's no one. No one knows just pull the batteries out. Like I can just pull the batteries out other people. Can't because they don't work in the you know how the remote stops working well as a batteries Galore and you have to. Like that Either don't work or they won't turn off because they just but I've had it for probably a month and nothing bad has happened and it's good. Yeah it's way better. It's I. Just don't think what if you just walked by it does it turn out you have to like get it's under the Faucet. Here's a faucet right honey and the centers down here. Are. The ball. So. Yeah you. And then it just like service for five seconds. I'll send you. So that's a great dumper that's actually I wanted to tell you about it not really done purchase. It's a great purchase and I made a truly dump hasn't arrived yet. It. is a risk band. That It's. Part of it's an alarm. That shocks you. You you're GONNA shot collar. I did. Basically. I got a shock collar for my wrist and it does. The control. Well, that's. Meantime interrupt me I wanna I swear to God I want I've wanted to have one onstage. Line so that if I wasn't smiling or moving. Someone could shock me and I would smile and move that sick I don't think it's sticking on its trade needed smiling. Now, but it wouldn't. It would look natural because I'm more. It's Funnier if you're still you WANNA smile you're not assigning. But they don't know and also. The only reason I'm not as finally comic is because forget because you did y'all caller because I didn't have my my Buzzy Buzzy we'll. Do you, WanNa. Be a smiley hoffy going. Hey. I'm not gonNA talk like this. But if I do grounds, my jokes with the smile work better than my jokes with my resting Dick face I don't know as an audience member I like you being a little be like it. Won't be able to get that good at it. Okay. I'm like what kind of work whenever I see myself like there's a picture of me today from the store I didn't want say anything it's my birthday and don't be don't be my God I. Knew I think. Is Your I don't care. Don't care. No. Okay but just. A will thank you. That's all I want I disease something. Last week. Ordered ISM thing and I was like an bringing on Monday, and then we can do on an. I ordered it though, but it's but I just looked I looked. So I looked. So there's for me on the comedy store. I just looked more dour than I. Feel even in the comedy story documentary looked more Dour I look like I have a a headache a lot at the time, and I don't WanNa look like that plan. The. Vice. Shocked Myself it's your first. My Own Tiger dead. I'm tired Doubting Myself I. Love that photo of you. Yeah. It's just too grim. Yeah. It's like all dark. It's it's his. fucking. I'm telling the truth. Genes. So can we? Can we do your birthday again next? Because a waiter you leaving. And we'll do it again I'm just going to drop it off doing it was going to. Do it again you. Still so Delicious you say, interesting. Yeah I knew. Of You, I want to say that video the guy, the Cougar chasing the guy in the hike. That fucking move. But that move that. was doing it like snake thing God. Damn. That was like just eat me. I cannot deal with an animal near that's. Done I would've been like what I've never seen. Thought it was like a Cheetah I. Yeah. What was think it my? Oh I thought it was I didn't I thought it was like someone caught an alien animal on film. It scared me came on. Mount Line Yeah in Utah. I mean fleet spider thing. When he goes like. Here. What are you going to do? I know. Run. Take a Barack pickup rock I. that's what I thought. Get a big fucking rock. And like one of those rocks you could yeah, you could you got one shot if he comes for you. Chance Yeah oh MOM'S SPAGHETTI NOT SPAGHETTI It's fine. We're talking to the same. Never it's you're asking will to find a section of the video live the floppy never going to happen. Okay. so did. You know that is pure tear tear terrifying and another reason why don't hike. Just in. Thank you. Thank you mountain lion for reminding me why I'll never go hiking. Let's do some emails. Well, hell. L.. S. T. E.. Heart. Last night. High Neil Banks will links I spent some time doing this shit with different versions of it. In case, one of them could prove useful this guy send art. Wilson this guy sent in art. That is so great. Oh my it's unbelievable. Oh. Guy Made claymation bigger. Oh my God. In case, I don't know how to send them in a way that would make you fear. It's a virus send the. Now that I have these three D models, I can change them to a different setting arrangement. Hit Me up if you have any ideas that you like to see done. Originally had chocolate ice cream in the composition but change it last minute upon hearing neil say that he'd choose vanilla ice cream chocolate anyway. So. Good. I would like to point out with my left arm is yeah. We're talking about really I mean, my boobs could be a little bigger. You know what? I can't say that but I agree a little bit and maybe my hand down. I don't know what you're afraid of who your hand on what am I? You'll starve don't. Don't hurt me. Help will truly great and that may be the new artwork for the It's so good because it's kind of scary yet it's interesting. What what is this? It's so guy's name Whore High Holy Shit. Skirl scarlet. Whore. Hey Miranda Lucas very go whore hey, Lucas. It's so interesting. It's it's excellent. And it it proves that. Obsessed human beings are like it's so cannot say enough great things about the thing that took you five hours to make of us and we did nothing and now we get that like I mean my boobs boobs, boobs. But the face it's So we did it I don't know much. Sir Go on. It'll be the new art. How much I think you're blonde until I, look at your face. And when I saw them like he's not want. That case. If you've ever been No goodbye. So. That got whore. Hey, did it or hey, you've got mail Bianca. Longtime Niilo fight and day one feeler are as teen L. E. recently a girl I was with. A girl I was starting to like a girl. I was really starting to like got some controversial braids put in. She's tanks of light complexion in her late twenties and is very anti-trump only knowing her for a little over three months. I wasn't comfortable expressing my concern especially when her friends and family encourage the braids and saw nothing wrong it was such a turnoff for me. Our conversations eventually fell flat and we stopped talking altogether like neal's has said preparations appropriation she's no Adele and has definitely earned a flagrant or higher. So question is, how would you go about telling someone? You barely barely getting to know that they're the they've appropriated another culture or is it worth the trouble how neil might feel might and what bay? Faiek. Yeah. PS BACK in January. The story of the pleasure meeting beyond. Can You? Meeting, Bianca before show in the or and I must say no amount of podcast lighting poorly choosing Youtube thumbnails or. Or social media posts will do her justice. She is more than easy on the. Very sweet and later provided great service during the show for me and my friends and I appreciate you four stars on Yelp Yay. Yay. Own Beautiful I got. Yeah. I'm trying to think of a similar thing where people have. been like you thought everything was good and she's like boy please are like black Blau blaming to every white girl does it a little bit well no to the point where it made you feel like I don't know if you're around people. Oh. Oh Ya okay. But that's I mean all girls do some shit like that where you're like, okay. Hey, girls junior president of gay men doing precious with that's correct. So you've got I think it's it's you have to say something and it's not worth the trouble off like you either what's it like you're going go attack someone being like you're. Like. hearding and yeah I I don't like it. It's one of those them things where let's say he gets around a bunch of white people and they're like I don't think a black person's GonNa Confront. About about braids. Braids if your tanks, I've really braids are. Fine. Right. I mean look just do whatever the fuck you want really but if he said a light I. Would one. that. Doesn't mean she's not probably. Don't know for sure. I'm just saying that appearance wise might look a little. Yeah unlv why do you have corn rows? Corn was on white women look like MTV spring break. Did she have corn us? I'm just saying, yeah. No I mean what is Salt Lake she needed to hear. So I'm saying, let's say corn. Rose. I. Don't know I got I'll say something Virgil I don't especially care when or why won't has braids I like I just go. She just got off vacation I duNNo. It's mostly. For you to care and I'm not saying, you can't care I just most people who care. Most. Men don't care. I'm surprised this guy did yeah. Same. These. Why is what? I find that strange but cool. This is some stay out of it just like that's not your fibro. But it's all our fight. If we can't. Have Cleopatra. Yes so We're ruling that you should have not said. Don't any also ended. It also ruined your conversations which is hilarious. Yeah. There was never conversation too but you know what get you was never meant to be goodbye. You got me. Hey, Neil. Hey, again, Neil and banks. Thanks for answering my question a while back about the line between opening up and free therapy and relationships and further record. Yes. Those things did happen. Don't have any idea what you're talking about but I'll take your word for that. They happened I had a scenario recently, I gotta be honest guys the letters don't make that big impact on our lives. Don't think about it again happened to answer them happy to use them as jumping whites never think about him once we're done. I had a scenario recently that made me question that this topic more as I said in my previous email I work in public health and ended up working enough with the previous email and ended up working pretty much all the time on a Saturday night. I was doing some work and looking at reports for a process that I and a team of people have been working on improving for a long time. The numbers were looking excellent. So I sent three of those that I'm closest to on the. team a picture of the numbers and told them how good they were. I was excited and wanted to share the following day. I. Got a wall of texts from the only female that I texted who told me that I was putting a lot of emotional Labor into her by sending a nine pm text about work. She guests that I had a long day and wanted to reach out to her and have our normal banter I. Don't know if it is important but there has been semi confusing vibes. But I'm staying away from it for several reasons nothing remotely sexual has occurred but some vibes for sure. The. Vibes, vibes. With this Z. and Y.. The other two that I sent it to both man just sent a quick tax saying they were great numbers and that was it. I truly wasn't looking for a long conversations with any of them. I apologize are in a sense just decided to not contact that person about work outside of work hours. Should I have handled it differently or do you have any insights on what happened great job? You do this at the New Yorker you're getting suspended not to I, don't. fucking. Dick head? Yeah. No she's weird. Who would be like aim like this a lot of emotional labor. Divisional. No. Those are the people who don't like. Their those are the. When someone's doing light crowd work and they like stay don't don't don't pick on me. Very Guard, but I think she would I feel like she's been he's been doing crowd work with this woman and it's been going well, and they have a vibe because if there really is of I. Why you wouldn't say that to someone who contact you outside. You'd be like, Yo what's up or side family I'm taking a negative want her in that she just didn't want it then. I. Didn't WanNa Saturday night I'm GonNa. Something is fishy about this. Yeah you vibes with someone at work. You're more than happy if they takes you about some worksheet a little bit like at nine pm right on Saturday yeah. Yeah just be like cool like is that your home ear whatever the VIBE I Something you think you're you think. He's great. Feeler is great something. There's something wrong. This time I'm more trump about. Where I Stand. This man I tell Stan stand back and stand. By I think the 's Ger my initial this is what I so. Gross and we've all. got. East. So. I just think you know there might not be vibes there might not be your might be imagining vibes all I think the bigger issue is. Don't. Email people on a Saturday night about the numbers the email no wasn't even. Email don't task about the numbers now matter how good the numbers are. You, look like the king fucking. You look like. An Alderman from Dork city. Is What you look like he was just waiting to. Look at the numbers these are. Off New. EMOJI party. EMOJI. Sent. With No I think A. And I'm sorry like you your feeler but. I. You know I've been in situations where you're nice somebody and the guy thinks there's vibes. And there's a thing whereas if she said that to him, that means doesn't want to hear from you when she doesn't absolutely have to hear from you. That means there's no fucking vibes I'm on your side now. Yeah. I. In fact I want this guy to stop. Do. Not. Ever get no. Combat. I'm putting. On probation for one month. Shut. Just don't tax people the numbers on Saturday night. That's like Sunday morning if you want to them Sunday morning and start with I'm still hung over from what wild And then back off the girl and if it if nothing comes from, there was never an also group text it. Yeah. Group Tax Gupta. Script Texas and. No need to respond F Y? Yeah. A good. Yes. Our emojis only Lizzo goodbye you've got mail banks. MY FAVORITE WELL-ADJUSTED LA- tanks Banks, thanks, tanks. Letting spinks. Michael. spinks. Recent listen to the on a huge fan of Neil stand up comedy writing. So if If you were hoping to snag the Super Coveted Eighteen to twenty four. South Asian female demographic I. Got Some Great News for you. I'm a twenty four year law student finishing up my final year through zoom still paying that price though element kill me I recently listened to the episode Neil Bianca Fall in love and really resonated with me I'm the only child of immigrant parents. WHO had a super volatile marriage, but to religious and cultural reasons would never even consider getting divorced. Stop me if you've heard this one. Although my home was very filled with love. It was also fueled a lot of anger and over exposing child to adult problems. Predictably, my dating history has been straight are filled. A straight Narcisse Phil Dumpster fire during Covid I started going to therapy trying to work through a lot of these shitty patterns I was raised with like the idea that I have to quote earn loved ones when he ravin be inherently worthy of honestly so far therapy has helped I know I am still very young and moving to New York soon, where the opportunities for funding love are endless Jesus Christ. Somebody wants thirteen going on thirty. And also and also bleak maybe. But I also wondering if you share some of the lessons you've learned from dating, growing out of trying to change toxic people and maybe what you wish you'd known a little earlier. Thanks for the great content for this. NPR. binks is link the skin pair routine plays you've got on my your forbid. I'm forbidding it I'm forbid any. Sanctions. Almaz as my my girlfriend boulevard does a podcast called naked beauty I'd say all my skincare care routine on my episode Golota. So we don't go out. So don't you dare I would never blessed lessons. So many lessons I came to A. Conclusion last night that you may go how why did you just come to that conclusion? The attachment styles. Yes I am. I am. Avoidance. If you can believe it. They're feeling your of I'm avoiding secure because you're always like I don't think it is secure. You're like your you're all three at different times. But what are you the most I'm avoided at first and then secure I'm avoidance. Feel like you're avoiding. There's an anxious to be perfectly honest. I. I'm avoid anxious and the and avoidance dismissive. Meaning I think it's dismissive or it's the one is smug and one is. I'm that like. People think I'm avoiding dismissive got like independent and I'm like I. And then the other one I'm a little bit. Like. There's a part of me that tries to I want them. To love me. Yeah. So there's like a that's like a narcissistic. That's weird. Anxious narcisse avoidance attachment. Yeah there it didn't fit one thing. No, it's you're you're like to kind of. So it's also what I'm what I am at first is different what I am one were dating. I I'm. Fine Avoidance Getaway. I'm Deborah Cox. Supposed to be here. A wall. How how did you? Know She. wrote and then I walked. When the road ended. No, she's hearts hilarious. Dismissive avoidance is and then fearful avoid are the two types. That you were. Yeah And then there's preoccupied i. feel like I'm reoccupied more fearful it but last like just like d don't gotta do all this like blitz just hang don't do all the bells and whistles like I. Just I get a lot of anxious attachment. Yeah. But essentially want to drink my bathwater but that's the I read somewhere that most. Relationships are anxious. And avoid anxious people looking for avoiding people and it's just constant like, yeah. What happens is is that if you can calm an anxious person down, I can do but I can't tell you I I mean I've told multiple dude like you're gonNA scare me off. It's too much like there's not. It's like these anxious people they think it's a train they gotta catch like chill there's no rush there's no rush rushing but then eventually we're cool I'm secure, which is not good because most people aren't secure and to secure people don't leave each other for the most part unless one does so. There's a lot of people that with secured. It exploits a lot of their fucked up problems. It's like. Are You mad at me or you do this? It's like nothing's wrong. You're making it up the exacerbating my thing it's just it's. Just a feedback loop where you make everything worse than they make your thing worse they don't really make my thing worse. I'm eventually you have to kill. When he did? Break up was martyrdom. She said. How do you into like toxic people? Dude. I there comes a time in every weird break-up where I realize like. Oh, you are going to take so many you're my titties will be less buoyant, time your functioning, and then I'm GonNa have put so much in you. I'm either going to put so much in you and then deal with like consolation prize of a person and to say nothing what they're dealing with via your titties go ahead. Of Consolation Prize there is no. Thank. You call it a project or The very point. But then also if you let them go then I felt resentful I like fucking upgraded. You you motherfucker. and. Then again, what woman doesn't think they upgraded? No, I don't think that they think that because they like helped you redecorate I'm I have specifically for some fucking reason and I know it's me obviously gotten. People. WHO Deny either mental health situation, and then with me, I'm really supportive and it just gets dumped on me dumped like a fucking emotional dumpsite so. then. I helped him through and they're just not fucking just very UN appreciative unsupportive back just like too much. So I would say the moment it feels really unfair the moment the. The relationship is the balances off and not becomes this like the status quo of your relationship bounce because it's never gonna get better than ever GonNa. Leave do most relationships don't once there's a point where. You Sense. Something like a foul wind blowing. Pointing overturn I don't think that you I. I've never been in a relationship that. Every break up I have I look back and go this should happen a year ago. This should have happened a long time ago and I can almost tell you the moment it should've happened the problem is i. have a thing in me where I like a S-. I. Just it's I think I don't think it's a good thing but I love a fucking not a scorched earth where we can be homeys. But I love a scorched love Earth where so I kind of have in the past even though I know that that prisons fucked up and that's this isn't good and they've shown me. Bad Behavior. I want the I want it to be fully done I. Don't like Oh. This is battling balance like I've overstayed. I've over tried to make it work was would you tell the twenty five? That's what I'm saying this girl is. Just fucking go. That's the what I wish I'd done. So that's every time. Okay. So we're saying the same thing because that's that feels personal your that feels like a personal preference. Bee heads not good. Blank blank advice would be like the first. When it feels broken. It's broken. Yeah. Don't you're not fix? Your might it's pottery by it's like you might be able to like put it back together but never, but not it's not going to be the same. No it's never going to be the same as always a fucking time because every time I've. Like left it, and then you just date someone else and it's like it's Oggi's easier. This is if you Maybe, some people might be the toxic person. Here's a test. If you leave somebody that you thought Oh, this wasn't a good match and then the next person, it's also not easier. It's fucking you like if the next person was easy and it was it was balanced and Chilin healthy then you then maybe it was the other person but if you keep getting in the same situations. Be. Yeah. And if you're going to every I would. I mean. There a lot of people in the wrong of course, but that's all I issue but Stir bacchus do them beauty podcast? Save it. Yeah just fucking cut out. Your two cats. Never, watched it too old cut out. Jesse Uncle Joey. Joey that Shit you've got that was that one very good a hailing bianca longtime fan listener and all that. So on a few episodes, I've noticed Bianca refer to a man she wants had an entanglement with who while they were never an official thing. He's clearly the one guy who made a serious impact on her sexually. Based on how she has vaguely described, he appears to be a rare friends with Benny's situation, a sea of otherwise committed relationships last series dating and yet. He is the benchmark Penis for which all other men before and after are compared to. Now through I don't care about the widen. It ever go anywhere part because it just be like that sometimes what I'm curious about. Are. Few. Things quote. Nope not quote question. Is it the Dick or the man by this? I mean we all have our quote best love or maybe a few people that come to mind in my experience as a fake sociologist and willingly single man people's best are generally attached to more than a simple physical chemistry. There's a huge part. That's a huge part, but it's a it's rare. You meet someone who's like Oh. My best fog ever was this one night stand add because there are obviously more at work than simple magnetism and the parts fitting, right? So do you guys feel You can have one without the other. Can someone be completely disconnected from the partner on an emotional level? You'd still be their best lover whatever less creepy word works for that. For My God's makes me blush for my situation. Zero. percent connected outside of sex. Yeah. That's this guy's off this. This guy I reject his whole premise. Yeah go ahead, which is not you talk because. Like I would never want anyone views very active but I remember thinking actively like no one will ever meet this person. This is this is my secret guy for reasons I won't say on here but no personality wise absolutely did if fine fine I can hang out with a balloon so fine like it was a fine connection sexual us. So one hundred percent. Connected that it's I. Almost think you know how autistic wanted? One thing and other things have to suffer I. think if you're so fucking sexually compatible, it's like what I mean if you if he was. Mentally compatible with he'd ruin my life. Did I ever tell you about the growing new? Dated A guy. And she specifically dated and because he had asked Burgers it can make or having orgasm in like twenty seconds. And and she was telling me this. It was like you know if a guy said this, he'd be in jail. Make. fucking this this girl is aspirational. Like, okay. I'm calling I'm running a girl guy guys say grocer things they just don't say. Outside very. Locker Room Talk I don't but the thing about locker room talk is there's I feel like we've discussed this guys don't talk about sex that much with other guys because we don't want to get caught and blow our sexual opportunity with that person I, may be yeah that's my theory about it but then again, you don't seem like a locker room top guy. Gets dressed and take a shower. Yeah I. Don't say a word. Documents use my Dick in early you don't love male bodies so I feel like you're in out. Answer. Can You You know you don't I think part of it is. Not being connected so Cynical what you're doing that you're just purely you have this. You have chemistry and a lot of the chemistry is like I don't respect you I don't like you and yet I'm. I. I like revile you in some way and that is what's great about it. I, think that's a guy thing I respect that there were people that I've had. With and a great, and there are people that are like secret people that have great chemistry with, and there are just regular people I had people that I dated that I great chemistry with. That like girlfriends and Shit I, just think it's more of a guy thing to have a I would never fucking day you you kind of like trashy but I will fuck this shit out of you sort of thing I mean that sounds like women's just go asper go ahead. No, my this person I totally respect just personality wise we were not compatible. One particular crazy person who I liked in some ways, a lot of ways, and then she was so embarrassing. In, other ways that that's what it was. and was said. bonkers well, that's why guys had restraining orders against her bonkers. Before No. Because I, feel like even Brad. Pitt has a bunch of ugly girls in his body count. Has. Every? No. I'm obviously winona Ryder Gross. No I mean once I wanNA. Peak City Jennifer Aniston. No I mean. Even, the hottest guy is fucked whatever your. Guy. Yeah Brad. Pitt. Was You know we'd he was? Somewhere? What he could get, she'll kill wheat listen I. Yes but I don't. But I don't think that I don't think that there is a direct I don't think that. Meaning makes it better or lack of many? Makes it better? I? Think it just is. And Liking someone or respecting someone are doesn't help the weird. The thing you're attracted to. Yeah. It just there like two different. Brain centers. Or whatever part of it I think Dick Dick spaces stakes. Stick. Centers. Goodbye? got. Mail. SNL Nail Banks. I totally agree with Neil's take on marriage and on scheduling sexes from woman. Loving, someone is simply promising to try hard in it is no guarantee of a lifelong commitment no. One can fully predict what they will want or how they will feel especially when one of you becomes disinterested sex instead of getting married wake up each look each other and ask, are we still doing it? Planning sex is and I would say wake up at seven just to make it more official. Planning. Sexist. The first step in having honest healthy conversations about it doesn't have to be on the calendar just put it out there. Are We fucking tonight it is. It's one of my favorite R. Kelly songs. It is helpful to working around personal schedules periods and allows you to prepare for sex or masturbation that night I'm also with you on that. I'll go a step further and say I'm all in for Post. SWOT analysis I don't know what that stands for. Will look that up honey. A Swat. Analysis. One Analysis A. Compilation of your company's strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats cool. swot analysis strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. which not only provides the opportunity for better sex with your current partner, but allows you to mentally create aggregate data for future partners. This this this bitch is bringing a real business mindset. I feel like you would get to me anyone who feels this dialogue as an interrogation and not in the best interest of your partner in your sex isn't worth it. I wants her name, but it's Sarah. Unity with his girl I love I'm I'm fly Ground Mirror I don't have to I'm just GonNa wake up seven am he's still doing this in do Swat Swat? Team. She in Swat team. The Yeah I just wanted to remind people my feeling about this I of course agree with it and I don't think that there's anything wrong. And she makes a good point about. Women will say like I'm going to be on my period. Sometimes. Women will say, if you like say, Hey, do you wanna go out Friday whatever and sometimes will go I'm going to be on my period. So, that is technically scheduling it's canceling sex. There's no. Why I don't know how many people like, Hey, you wanna go Freddie period? No, they don't. They don't go your first of all. I don't like your tone, and I don't like that it was all caps. And it was all of course, everyone knows all caps. And it was one of those off brand fonts that people are starting. Good I like it. I haven't I don't like. Me Just. applegate now I mean, the fuck yourself why with your with your non apple, phone so Y- I think that scheduling sex an adult thing and I think marriage is a silly. It's outdated silly thing and. Why should be there's penalties and why get the wall I wish our lady, the lyson mandated by the loss. It's like I said, it's a license to fuck. But the only thing I don't like about your scheduling sex is that because I asked you I, said, okay. If she was like, Hey, I'm feeling bad today or something or I don't feel like doing it anymore. There's consequences. If she canceled on me. If she's like I, don't I'm not in the mood nobody Kansas on I'm getting I would no I would. I like that I would if it were Neil, you save she did it ahead of time I said I okay. Okay. Through our cancellation. Or. Give. Fifty Bucks. Two hours because if you if I've we lived together. Yeah. Then I have to make a plan to what masturbate you don't need a plan to. schedule. This team, the toilet that's mine high school. High School I. I gotTa go to the toilet. John. Where do you don't worry about it but it's not the toilet. And Bring, the toilet. Do you guys have a toilet years trash or the toilet? It eventually goes in the toilet, but that's not where I do it kid. Sorry goes on the toilet and you're the tea I make for your. Be. Team Goodbye Haney Bianca I really appreciate your honesty and was one of I. Get year an unbiased opinion on some of the inhabited me recently twenty six year old guy from Mexico that's been in the US for just over a year. Now a few months ago during lockdown I started texting on instagram with this cute girl from the city I used to live in. It's important to note that I never met her. But we move in the same circles and. As time went on, I really started to fall for for a few months. We text each other even more severe I know plans to move back in the near future. But since I really liked her I decided to be very open straightforward with her so I wrote her a hand. Written letter with everything that was on my mind no and mailed it to her despite the looks of this shitty email I can actually read these letter. My idea was if she doesn't like it, then fuck it. I'll just forget about this whole thing after receiving the letter she tells me she loves it and our conversation turns a bit more intense all caps. It's then that I decided, I should go and meet her. So both to flight made a reservation at my favorite restaurant in town for dinner. Dear penthouse after a few after months. After a month the day the flight arrives and Murphy's. Law. Kicks. into. Action. It's a long fucking. It's long and it'd be August. Got Add honey. And this is our two of the podcast. I I saw the link. Basically He. Basically the guy like. Couldn't sleep sleep on the plane. His AIRBNB wasn't ready. Isn't isn't data. Event, he went and had dinner with her he kinda crash but there's no diarrhea or anything like it's just he just kind of didn't he lost five then the next day she message saying that she felt just weird the first day and then she felt like I had some sort of expectations while she was just checking out what's up which sounds like. Bullshit to me I can take rejection I know well, it's part of it, and that's you just don't like someone. That's fine. It just kind of pissed me off after having been opened a letter and I mean flown to another country to see her she plays it off like wait for I didn't realize the first another country this it was this Mexican. Ninety. He. How dare she? She should've been thankful that a man from America came to check look at. Every single one of my friends who heard the story tell me she's just a bitch and She's not. She's a fushing. You know. What do I did they get? No, we skip something. The flight who said to come here she? No one said he pitched it. She said she liked the attention. But you can't. There's no substitute for being in the same room somebody. And whether he crashed or not I. Don't think she when she saw you. We've all been a place where you see someone and he goes nope, the person you're supposed to. Hook up with its tender or or instagram or. Back in the old days, we'd write love letters. She just you can read all you want. Just nothing there I didn't I think I missed. The awesome feel it and as much as this guy thinks he's accepting the risk he's not no. It's essentially you. It's a first date. It's a long. Way To go about it you the mistake he made was thinking. that. The love letter just. Too Far Away, it's Cova don't be doing that. Also there's some dudes go to the toilet masturbate. That's what you do. Find the nearest porta-john. Some guys have these at first. They have this is an anxious attached or. They have fantasies about how things will go and they. They really marry themselves these fantasies in these expectations and he didn't play give any room for play that Hey Look at me and be like. He assumed the best in. You can never send the best assume the worse it seems you're looking like you plan a bunch of Shit while you're there. So it isn't a waste, and then hopefully you see her again and that happen now he's upset she yeah. You just you you you. You took a chance. You took a risk on a Black Cleopatra as we call us. What we call taking a risk as she you. Black Cleopatra. and. Clear Black. Drop. And you and you lost you lost one hundred million dollars and cannot read despite blood by one hundred dollars you've got mail. Okay Hey, Neil and young. Fan of the podcast and you guys seem very rational. So I thought you could help me out with the situation currently in the process of deciding whether it's a good idea to stop being friends with my former college roommate of two years and best friend at the time we just graduated. She has a lot of great qualities. Makes me laugh a lot but I started to notice are toxic but I started to notice how toxic her friendship was while I was living with her. My anxiety got progressively worse and I was picking up her personality traits that I don't exactly want to see in myself. She's very confrontational and strongly opinionated even on stupid things like what I put on a Bagel. which couldn't be more different than myself. I'm also gay and a few times when she was drunk she has said some very homophobic things to me, but she never seemed to remember what she said the next day the French probably shouldn't shouldn't continue but. We have the same friends and in her eyes relationship was going fine. I'm not sure how to go about telling someone I am close with that I don't want to be in their life anymore or if I should even do that at all because it would make things really difficult socially. I don't WanNa, make her angry but. Or Sad, but it feels inevitable any and all advices needed. Love you guys cut it cut it get it cut cut. Cut Cut. Cut It. To Cody. your practice to why you need to do. It's over. Is a waiver here. You have to cut it. You just have to cut its over. Here's the thing you don't have to. You can. You can do the the the. The I, don't know the. The there I feel like there's a good way in a battery to do this. You can tell her straight up. Be Real. Be Honest. Or do you just not like just do the play slow fade I whatever you whatever you prefer but. Her feelings it's like you can see you don't live together anymore. You're not in college anymore fade I also these read. Faded and. People have to accept a certain amount of potential rejection in the world. It's just it's the guy, the guy from Mexico. Yeah the. Yet. He's got it figured out and like and this give. Your friendship and then these friendships don't last the. The thing of like you're lucky of two good friends. Your whole life is true. It's you take it from someone who's old as fuck you just. Wouldn't lasted that phrase when allows the long? If it weren't true, it's true and it's not. A tragedy, you reserve the right to deny services to anyone. And you don't owe. Anything because you happen to be assigned to the same rumor dorm or whatever. However you became roommates, it's all happened stance and. and. Cut It. Cut The thing is people don't realize you know relationships are one thing and we go for really stable relationships. A- goal let's get something stable. But if you compared friendships to relationships, the friendships are extremely insecure relationships because they're mostly good. There's very few fights and when there's anything wrong, it's like she seemed weird today she mad at me because it's not that kind of connection. So the problem is that everyone is so scared to rumble a friendship because it's just you bank it we're friends. Yeah. Some people have low by green decided already. Sign made. So we gotta be friends. Yeah and then and there's such a low bar friends could be you know I see her once a year or ICU every day so The problem is though this. Learn how to do this now and I don't think you should make a habit out of this because there are people who do too quick. And her know how quick you do it to people I've faded and I've confronted how quick though like you give people some You're not like an NFL yeah. Answer. No, I yeah. I've done that faded and there have been times where I've said to people. I'm like I gotta say I talked about a couple of like where you where I straight up broke up with somebody. Yeah. Yeah. So There you have to bring over there but. I. Do go. Stir can be you can go what will probably happen is in friendships I feel like someone fades the other person asks about it. Nationwide. Of Do I say why? Is it worth it. I don't think you know I don't. Expect you to do by telling them that the tacit. Agreement, as you're going to change when I tell you. Yeah, that's. You exactly nailed it on the head. That's why sometimes I don't believe in having conversations with people I. Absolutely Great Cups. I don't believe in it at breakup I don't unless. If it's if it's if it's specific. If dating someone the next day you're like you're out no, but I don't I think you break up and you just say it's me I'm weird I'm fucking you know I'm dismissive. Style doesn't tach and stuff you have to. But you have to also know there's some people who don't know. There's some people like anal. Maybe this is like you know people now I think people no, I don't think they like admitting it. No for sure. No one likes admit. But some people like you know you're you know more than a lot of people you'll be like not I didn't like that because that is this like you're. You're more silverware and a lot of people in terms of like, Hey, this is I've I've gotten know who I am. So I realize what does work what doesn't work? What is me trip in? What is actually no matter how many times we try this? It isn't gonNA work. So so let's stop trying to make that fit. You know all those not everybody does I think you're better off just putting it on yourself though. Because saying. Not. Why I don't WanNa, we've run into anymore because you don't like gay people. 'cause you say homophobic like there's no point in. Your just she's GonNa be walking on eggshells and trying to overcome now. Fuck it like cut it. Also you if you if you do feel this bad then social, you could be like hey. Are you sorry that wasn't a gay boys. I just mean seem like, Hey, girl hey girl hey girl how are you? Earl girl? And just be cool. You don't need she's not going to. Corner. No or I won't be I mean sounds like she'll get drunk and say, Hey, you gay bitch goodbye say something awful. Homophobic you've got halen. Banks Neil I made you the comedy Sir last year in December after you by the way you were in episode three of the comedy store wide and then cut to a single of you know they didn't swear to God. Allows, are you serious coverage on you waiting tables? I said, do not feel seen court. Hi Neal and banks Neil I comedy our last year in December after did you said I said Hi and loved the podcast you said Hi back then look down at your phone which. That absolutely souring guy add my attachment. Might it's phone. Oh it's bones. I like your analogy about meeting famous person. It's like pulling up next to a competent red light and trying to be normal I. Guess my question is what's cool to do around you and what's not I listened to every week I listen every week and it makes a person feel familiar with you and I wanted to start chatting joking around that's probably not what you want. So what's cool and what's not Vancouver and we have celebrities walking around and I could care less. You've are elated that these are good looking people can fake emotions memorize lines which puts in per which puts it perfectly in my mind in your case, you've got an amazing body of work. Tell me about it and I think fans want to chat with you because you're interesting. Funny how but how does neil feel about fans chatting him up and what does pinky thinking about the fan boy lots of love. Ben In Vancouver. Ben. I. Think all you can do is just give me an Atta boy burt and be on your way out of Boy Atta Boy Bert. I feel like I've told the have I told the story fucking Shit. Really. Store ACA. Burt. Reynolds did the voiceover for grand theft auto three. Wow he didn't like five, five thousand lines of dialogue. Some unbearable. Five hundred twenty, nine, hundred just a lot. So he's in in a booth all day. And he's like sweating and a shirts open. And and. The guys who do. The Rock Star guys are like kind of British like sort of blokes who made it billion dollars? So like you. Anything need. And Amber it's like Yeah, fell. Every once in a while, just give me that aboard Burt Oh. Now. That was that and like you know out of boy. Like you know just let me know I'm doing good. And so that became like they were just like. All right. Bert. But that's all. Absolutely real story. Boy. So that's all like let's just make that a new RCN LA or a different RCN LA. Bird you see beyond person Atta, boy, Atta, boy, banks, Savings Atta boy banks Atta boy. Bird. and. And Adeboye avoid bird. and. Live your life There's not. I don't sometimes I have good conversations with people that are like fans. You're not afraid. You don't have a friendly face. No, that's wrong until I get my shocker. Do. So you're now you're there and then no no unfriendly then. Oh those early nineties yeah? Smiling. So. rainless. Smiling Yeah So just give us an right I'm not saying I'd never have good conversations with fans. You have better conversations with women. 'cause you're slightly attracted to them. Even. Though. They're they're you know they're not trying to fuck you they're just trying to chat. Yet they're not. So. If they were like, I'm not trying to fuck you at all going to have a conversation that you're. In no way. AM I. Ever GonNa try fuck you right now I just want to talk to you for a second I wears my phone. Where's that Pesky phone? It's phones yet you got twenty seconds. That's funny. I mean the thing that I don't ever talked about this. The reason Dave is so good as Rick James. Yeah. because. There's eighty women there. There's all. Background. Women Fay in like scantily clad. As a guy. Dave's not fucking any of them but he wants. To be better. Because they're there yeah and I've had and I've asked like, let's call them will Smith would you are you better when there's female actors and he goes absolutely like there's just a thing in men if there's a lot of women there you just GonNa be better now if all those women said Will Noggin. He's gotTa, go back to. Know Guys Act a little goofy or they act a little like. I've heard in on commercials. that. NBA Commercials, if you're dealing with a one of the, you know the all star team. View they'll give you two or three dunks. In, the commercial you get three dunks I'm giving you three and then I'm not Dunkin anymore. Why because? They're not because they don't want fuck up their career. They don't WanNa get injured. Yeah. Hurt your it doesn't hurt, but it's just like strain in your restaurant and your knees Strang strange right like. By the way baskets or nine feet on. So it's like W. Jump ramp or something or Basket. They used planes trampling. Not, they. Jump Jump Ramp of course so but I've heard stories of guys doing their last Dunk A. Beautiful woman shows up and they're like. You let me get one more dunk. Like guys are just different I, just love how no matter what no matter how famous no matter. Green if they had fucking. Hot women come to UN negotiations like people would be just effects guys. She'd be like I don. I worry is, will they be more as? The jury was only women. And have had to be under thirty five. Yeah I. Don't know if I know lawyers better better but. The whole thing would feel a little more like. Ten be rap battle. It'd be a fucking Nicanor presents court. So just Atta boy banks out boy bird goodbye and some some some and don't like the story about if you've got no. Hey, girls. Hey, guys. Kurla Stinks LSD whatever I'm. I'm one for one for one on writing, and I hope this makes the cut to. There's an observation and thought I've had for years in the seventy pride that you've touched on a few times you've called this factory settings in regards to things like banks, Bay area shoutouts, and other instances brought up on the PODCAST I. Don't blame people for having some. Pride regarding things like. Where born and live their race or sometimes even their job, but I can't help but find myself wanting to ask them. Yeah. Cool. But what else I guess them having zero input into some of these factors just rubs me the wrong way I also understand. That not everyone can be exceptional infielder creative etcetera or maybe it's simply feel part a group as well. We'd love to hear any of your thoughts are elaborate elaborations how All right. So this guy. Was One for one. Let's make it one for to Bianca. We don't have to take this shit. Not, a good letter. We're that's the end of the show we're getting out on a dud and blame the guy. For. Two. and. That's what that's what this whole theme of this episode. Read sometimes. Sometimes, you're going to take a risk and you're going to lose your right in some ways. We don't pick it. You dare compare black into this letter you Black Cleopatra Yourself as a Black Cleopatra. Risk you put one hundred million dollars into the right thing. Morally. He. lost. Your Dad's. You lost that money you inherited. Gambling on mildly known black actress right is you're like. Now. Yeah, it doesn't even. Bomb too many times. He's. We don't have to take this ship everyone and you knew that coming in. And now the podcast is over Bianca's really hitting her stride Atlassian. She's never laughed like this on a podcast. And now. Goodbye the song.