38 Burst results for "Anxiety"
Fresh update on "anxiety" discussed on Snap Judgment
"In the way that those moments of prayer did that time that time with God. They're chanting mixed with the sounds from outside. Backfiring cars, boomboxes. She felt like she'd entered a distant, peaceful planet. She didn't understand. She prayed you'd have the strength through this life. At dinner that night, Mary and her 12 new sisters gathered around that plywood, refectory table and stir caramel in said Praise be Jesus Christ and everybody there started clapping their hands and singing this We welcome Welcome, sister. We welcome welcome, sister. We welcome welcome sister from our home heart. Um, just as they had something to eat new sister who arrived and would continue to sing to eat one after me. You're listening to a special episode of snap judgment featuring the turning from a cocoa punch and I heart radio. When we return, Sister Mary starts a new life inside the Missionaries of Charity. Big announcement is coming. Stay too. History of the civil rights movement is heroic, full of daring actions and high stakes moments. It's cinematic, and it's got its charismatic lead actors, but it's also got these fascinating supporting characters. People working behind the scenes methodically. Bob Moses was such a person he just passed and on this week's United States of anxiety, we look back at his life. His impact on politics. Today. The United States of Anxiety live tomorrow evening at six on W.
The key to managing, moving through, and owning anxiety
"Are talking a lot about being vulnerable being Being true we've gone from a few years of you know i've got it. Ought toxic positively in these the ingold. Maybe they could tell you. Make a positive things in the automations of you know. They've got the place but gosh not not the place that they've had and so people have shifted to the vulnerability moves into movement. Entered definitely in we in that movement now so later just dive into though i think given the year we've all just had we had a crash course vulnerability. We've had to come face to face with this. A lot of student planet that way what. We have more forgiving of each other. We fought to be more allowing of things like working from home. And maybe having kids coming in and interrupt you work you know having technical glitches because you're working remotely in you know we're all just trying to get by so we've all gotten familiar with vulnerability and i. I've been fascinated by vulnerability as a topic. Because i think it's the one thing we all have in common yet. It's the one thing we all try so hard to hide behind on any lots of books from the eighties and nineties would like taught you how to be invulnerable and never show never show your weakness vulnerability being perceived as weakness on i for so long in my life as in my twenties. I believe that. If i was going to succeed i would have to suppress all sensitivity in all anxiety and be made of steel. In order to make gifts. I remember specifically reading a book called. If you have to cry go outside and that to me was just like the blueprint for you. Have to become this person if you're going to cope and it just was a rejection of allies naturally and a sensitive person in like having anxiety and i realized when my anxiety was so bad. I'm sure we'll talk about head that came one thing that kept it perpetuating for me. It was me trying so hard not to feed us. I'm trying not horrible. And it just kept me going and going and going and things only turned around for me when i was willing to say. Okay maybe i need to lean into this. Maybe my anxiety is trying to tell me like. Maybe i am a sensitive person. It doesn't mean. I'm a weak person and a maybe i am vulnerable here but actually since i was willing to all my vulnerability my life has opened up in ways. I never would have imagined. My career has taken off. Because i'm allowing myself to be i have It breaks down barriers. When you're yourself to be wonderful. I had better experiences professionally. People tend to think that professionalism invulnerability can't go together. They come on. It's not it doesn't mean you're going around crying while the time it just means you're bringing your most authentic self two to the four
Fresh update on "anxiety" discussed on The Manic Pixie Weirdo
"It was my talk about eagle. Oh my god it was my. Yeah my oh my goodness. That's so funny whoops. I would do the same thing i would. Totally did the same thing I think that it's really important to talk about like the suicidal in the depression. Part of it too because like i suffer from anxiety. Severe anxiety trauma depressed. I mean you name it all the things. I have all of them And i remember feeling very much like when you're in that depressive state like i just wanna go to sleep and not wake up and that you know but then there's a lot of anxiety around that too and i found myself going know i found myself going. Okay yeah but even if i did do that like the fear of even like not knowing what happens after that and then buying it just it cycles and cycles and cycles cycle head and then and it just becomes like this perpetual thing and one of the things that i learned while i was in treatment for All of the many things that i Have struggled with in my life was i was introduced to em dr and wonderful Well especially. Because i didn't know that trauma can like house itself physically in the body and not right of the reasons why i have like i had like aches and pains and tremors and just like and that sergeant feeling when i got really depressed just that like. I don't want to do anything. But i also like i. I know i need to do stuff. But i have no energy to do it And like the meditative part of it. I was introduced to a dbt. And what yeah. I love it Do you have any experience. Because that part that partying run a z bt group. Joan is to kind on. I did work as a clinician in a dole. Diagnosis day hospital. And i didn't get the full training i was. I called myself a substitute teacher for dbt a so. I then started doing some on my own. It was wonderful is it was the institute of living. It's famous possible i've yet. There's an arin when i was there. Yeah i used to call it the institute of living. Hell forgive me. I really did because it was. I worked the overnight. Shift actually was seven p. to seven a. How they protect the human to do that. I swear i used to just hang myself on the couch. Just so i would be sitting up. You know because it was awful long. You become a nocturnal animal. Oh my goodness yeah. But can i just say with ptsd. I try to tell people it. You yes you're reacting know the outcome changes to say. Can't you count to ten no. I actually can't count attend when i wanna react. That was your ex husband told. Both of us are out to ted before we speak. Yeah anyway it is a physical thing and because it is living in our body Your body is remembering so when people say like a..
Get Your To-Do List Done With Less Anxiety
"Today's listen might be the most helpful thing you'll hear all week so listen up. I found this very useful in you might to getting through to do list can be anxiety inducing. It could make you feel like. Oh man i got lots to do. Am i going to get it. All done can't even predict how much you can get done in a given week. So i'm gonna give you a strategy that has helped me so so much with my to do lists the first thing you need to do. Is you need to figure out how many hours a week are you working on your business. So i work fulltime on my business at work about ten hours a day the fifty hours a week then number might be different for you. You might be doing this part time. i'd be a side. Hustle might be twenty hours. Just figure out. How many hours are you working on your business every week. And if you don't know just track. How many hours you're working. This week wants to know that number. That's going to be a very key number. Why because it's going to really allow us to get what's important done in the time allotted so what i like to do is at the end of the week on friday afternoon when things are a little slow for me. I ride down my to do list for the entire next week. All the things i need to get done. I literally write them down in a legal pad. I then give my tasks all the little test. I iro dallas wrote down seventeen tasks. Okay i give each one a score. I give it a number a number from one to five five meaning. This is gonna take a lot of time. Approximately five hours to finish this one task. One being it's a quick thing. I could do it in an hour or less so i'll go down the line and give each one a score of an add up the score so like say for example first task is ranked a two and my second task is ranked the five and my third task ranked a three. That's ten points. Okay i can only use up twenty five points twenty five hours okay. So if i go overboard if i battalion my number and it's over twenty five. I have to choose something to cut. What is the least important thing on that list. I will have to move to the following
Fresh update on "anxiety" discussed on The Manic Pixie Weirdo
"Know why it's in the dsm and why it's in the dsm because it doesn't go away after time or minimize to the point of being livable. It it creeps into almost every part of your life Just to sort of answer one of those questions. Our ad mine is creeping in. But that was the end of my career. I always always always assess for trauma pretty early on because when we were writing our book and my trauma presented mostly ass anxious Depression has grown up. I thought because jones trauma is classic. She meets the full criteria from the person. Checking you out at trader. Joe's mean they not how joan joan is. It's like when you're nine months pregnant. Can't miss that no and mine was Subtle will it was just so Thing and and anyway. When i realized i had each the st. I got a kick out of it. Because now assessing all these clients that You know a couple of them. I used to tease them about you. Know any other promising like jane. Don't tell me i have. I have major depression. I'm like yeah a lot of people do but you might have trauma in their and that's why it's in the dsm because it causes anxiety depression insomnia it can even cause adhd symptoms absolute. All we're doing is reacting or janes case sloth not reacting at all the to mary interesting when you see because if somebody's violent and angry obviously that's the aggressive types with easy to identify him but boy hang out with that for a while and it took me for a while. We'd like to she ever answer you know does now. Where is she asks. Let's say one of another reason. I got held back in the day was my son was about three or four years old. He's running around and he he ran and grabbed my knees and said and he used to call me jane back down and he suggesting. Did you hear anything..
Why 'How to Be Happier' With Professor Laurie Santos Is the Most Popular Course at Yale
"Guest is yale professor of psychology. Laurie santos. Laurie taught psychology. And the good life. I in spring two thousand eighteen in response to concerning levels student depression anxiety and stress on campus. It became the most popular class in. Yale's history next core. Sarah offered the course online calling at the science of wellbeing and to date over. Four hundred thousand people have taken the course laurie. Santa's has definitely hit a nerve. The good news is that we have a lot more control over our happiness levels than we might think. Laurie talks about the fact that happiness is like a leaky tire and happy. People know how to fill up the tire when it starts to deflate. It's not fixed. She says and there are many simple behaviors and practices. We can do to impact it. She talks about how we can put the science to work in our lives. Now here's laurie. Laurie santos it is so great to have you on untangled today. I'm so excited about this topic. Thanks for having me. Let's start with this question of and know you get asked this all the time. But why is this course. The most popular course at yale like what's happening in our world that this kind of course becomes the most popular course. Yeah i mean. I think it's just that students are voting with their feet. You know i mean what we see on college. Campuses cruzi outfit not specific yell. Lots of college campuses is that students are facing this mental health crisis over forty percent of college students naturally report being to punch in most of the time over sixty percents that you're over one really and over twelve percent stated they have seriously considered suicide in the last year right with more than ten percent right so i'd a want an answer to what they should be doing. Better in sam iodate society everything. Which hot isn't giving them great ideas about what they can do. Better as. I think they saw this. This idea of scientific which leads to they can't really went for it or numbers that we totally didn't expect was surreal on campus. To have over a thousand students. Shopping the class in trying to figure out where eventually we have to teach the course in concert hall so it was a little overwhelming. But i think they really want solutions. They don't like is culture films overwhelmed.
The Difference Between Taming and Treating your Mental Health
"Is a mental health epidemic but one in six adults use psychiatric medications. One in four americans will go on to develop a mental illness at some point in their lifetime. And why is all this happening. What's the problem what's actually going on. We'll we're treating mental health from name. It blame it team at approach. So what is this name. Somebody comes in and they're diagnosed with anxiety the name it. Then you say okay. We're gonna blame this. On your biochemistry in imbalance serotonin or dopamine. Then we're going to tame it with medication anti-anxiety medication let's say benzodiazepine. And that's really what it's doing it's taming it. It's re reducing the signal that your body is giving because anxiety and depression are signals signals. That something is going wrong and these medications or quieting those signals. Sometimes we do need to tame these things and sometimes it's really important to team that you can actually get to the root of it Efficaciously if somebody's in a place where they can't handle the treatment than teaming at makes a lot of ads. What is the solution. Now how do we move out of this epidemic so our solution is to really switch our focus and have its paradigm shift around mental health. Mental health is established when a person is able to feel whole we have certain human requirements certain needs and these need to be met in order to feel whole when these needs of a human are not met when chronic illness rises. We'll talk about what i mean by these needs as we go on. We need to start to focus on wellness promotion versus joe symptom management so for just treating anxiety with an anti anxiety medication. And that's really symptom management. Were not getting to the root of why was this person anxious in the first
Moving With the Absence of Judgment
"Giving talks over zoom. I had my first in person speaking engagement at a local unity church although it was over stimulating for me to be in a room filled with so many people in live music after such a long stretch of peaceful solitude. I somehow managed to maintain composure. And keep my cool. Transitioning back into social events is going to be a gradual exercise for me. I had one event this month. There are two next month and then half a dozen that involves some travel the month after that while some people have anxiety about businesses opening up again distance travel restrictions being lifted and facemasks no longer being a requirement in some areas. There are also many people who are excited to get back out there to socialize and mingle let's be gentle and understanding with one another check with someone if they are open to hugging before assuming that they are and honor. Everyone's comfort level prior to my talk on sunday. The minister said our life. Experience is directly affected by our mythology. This got me thinking about what a difference perspective can make when it comes to our ability to love everyone on the one hand a friend recently told me he believes in our human nature to judge others and that my entire premise of non judgment is therefore idealistic and unrealistic. Wife fight nature. Is my friends. Go to reasoning for humans being so selfish on the other hand. The dalai lama says that love is the absence of judgement. So what's in question is no longer whether or not we can love freely. It is suddenly a discussion about us. Judging compulsively it doesn't matter if loving or judging is in our inherent nature because we aren't concrete and nothing is permanent only fixed above all else it's ultimately in our nature to evolve like all beings so we are not limited restricted or confined by our past. We are shaped but what we decide to do. In the
How I Stopped Feeling Inadequate and Comparing Myself to Others by Vironika Tugaleva of Vironika.org
"I used to feel like a never be successful. Like never measure up to the accomplishments of the people around me right. After i first began coaching and speaking i spent much of my daily life comparing myself to people i consider successful and i never measured up. Go on website after website. Feeling my heart sink as i wondered. How will i ever be able to do this. How can i ever get people to listen to what i am saying. What if i'll always be. Nobody would if no one cares. What if i'm not good enough. The shame was overwhelming and so was the anxiety. After i quit my day job and became even worse i left my career of study. Mayfield either excelled academically and professionally to pursue a passion. That left me feeling inadequate and insignificant. I was too young too inexperienced to unguarded to unqualified. I wasn't slick enough sexy enough or well dressed enough. I was just me and for a while there. That was a painful reality. I fought these demons in my head secretly as i tried to share a message of love. I followed my constant sense of inadequacy as a coach as an author as a people helper back. Then i didn't see that as judging my work the same way i once judge my body i thought i'd made huge leaps and myself love journey and i had i wasn't on learning yet close to a year ago. I had an epiphany. I was invited to come on television my first ever appearance on tv to talk about my story and the love mindset. I wrote about my experiences at the time for now. Just summarize a story for you very simply. I'll terrified then. i had an epiphany. It was the kind of epiphany that felt good. But it didn't hit me hard. Some tiffany's make your eyes alight up and you know that they're changing your entire life. No this wasn't like that. This is the kind of tiffany that feels nice. Be don't realize his life changing until you look back and see that everything is different. was this. This is not about me. It's about the people i help. My job is not to be successful. My job is to serve. That is how i succeed. That little tiffany cleanse all work related anxiety out of my mind day by day as i reoriented my sense of purpose in the world
Q&A: Why Do I Still Crave Attention?
"I don't have a therapist yet. Currently looking for a trauma therapist. My parents divorced when i was six. My mom's boyfriend molested me at age. Nine she didn't believe me for a long time. My dad came back quote as friends to help him get up alcohol. I think i was about twelve at thirteen. I was raped by my boyfriend in field. I started running away from home. My dad left because he couldn't handle me running away. I started doing drugs and being promiscuous. I stopped at seventeen in got with my now husband. I have cheated and have six kids. But here's the thing. I still feel the need to be wanted by other people liked. What sam forty. I have twenty year olds my. Dm's wanting me to be there. Cougar actually want people to want me. My husband chose me affection. Don't get me wrong. But i would like someone else. Allies the time to. I can get where my fucked up past 'cause my bipolar depression anxiety. Ptsd but to be like this. What the heck. Thank you for listening. So good question. I think there will be elements of this that resonate with a lot of people here So thank you for asking it. I'm glad that you're looking for therapist. You mentioned that you're looking for a trauma therapist which is really important because not everybody does specialize in trauma work so really good instincts there to be looking for trauma based therapist Also just want to say that. I feel for you. You know. i'm. I'm sorry that you've been through so much you didn't deserve it. You're not responsible for it. And i'm glad that you're here that you're alive and able to ask this question both for yourself and for anybody else that benefits from hearing what i say to you. So thank you for that. And as i said. I'm glad that you're here. This is sort of a complex layered question. I think there's a few important threads to tease apart here. First off Let's talk about desire versus action right. Because i think it's one hundred percent absolutely totally normal to have attraction to people other than your partner that you committed to that could be romantic sexual or otherwise But i think that this is something that society and movies and Maybe our own sort of internalize. Jealousy tells us that we're not supposed to do that. We're supposed to somehow turn this off completely when we commit to being with another person romantically and you know people are different. There are certainly some people where the romantic or sexual interests and other people really fades or dwindles or basically goes away when they commit to somebody. But that's not the case for everybody and there's nothing wrong with that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having Feelings right what you do about. Those feelings is a different story right. You're allowed to have whatever private thoughts you want. You know you can enjoy whatever kind of attention you might run into in daily life But you need to make a choice about how you engage with that with those thoughts with desires without attention. Whatever it might be you need to make a choice about what you do about that. How you engage with that. Are you going to be actively drawing in that attention playing into it. You know actively flirting are you allowed to talk about attractions with your partner with other people. What are you gonna do about that.
What Are Defense Mechanisms?
"Defense mechanisms are psychological strategies to protect a person from anxiety uncomfortable feelings or thoughts. They are typically unconscious. I hate that word. I can't say it so what that means is you may be doing them or someone else that like. They're doing these things to kind of reduce anxiety or an uncomfortable feeling or emotion and they may not really realize they're doing it or they might realize that they're doing it but not understand. Why so what i found is that after learning about defense mechanisms and really diving. Deep into them. I started to be able to be more self aware when i was using them and then think like like i just did that. Why did i do that. Why is that making me feel uncomfortable so it is super interesting and and hopefully you start to recognize these things in your everyday life after listening to this episode so i will start with the more adaptive defense mechanisms meaning that they are healthier defense mechanisms to us. I will just go down the list here. So these are the ones that i was trained to code so number one is affiliation so when someone deals with emotional issues by reaching out to others for help or support so when you reach out to someone else for emotional support or for advice whatever it might be your attachment needs are also being met and you are improving your ability to cope with whatever is going on and if you can think of a time where you were going through something and you talked to someone about it you probably notice that as soon as you verbalize what you were going through to someone else that you're close to That you have a secure attachment relationship with but you instantly felt better. I know that. That's the case for me. Like for example when i was struggling with postpartum anxiety a soon as i verbalize it to my family and to my husband what was going on. I instantly felt better like okay. It's out in the open. I'm okay second. High adoptive defense mechanism is altruism. So you have an emotional issue or a stressor and you deal with that by fulfilling the needs of others this one for some reason just reading that makes me think about moms so in altruism there also might be a direct reward for the person that is doing the altruistic behavior. So you're doing things for other people but there may be self interest there as well so if somebody went through something really difficult in their life. Let's say addiction And then they recover part of what they would do to continue to feel good about the addiction or things that a struggle with would be to say become an addictions counselor. So that's an example of
Raven Founder Believes Fixing Mistakes is a Team Effort
"Let's flip the script a little bit. Tell me about a mistake. Made and how you and your team responded to so this is one of these things that specifically talk about. We've all made mistakes of varying degrees. And i can think of of cases where we've accidentally deployed wrong pieces of software or deleting a node where we shouldn't wear we intended to upgrade a single pod or or something like that the amazing thing whenever we have sort of one of these issues that comes up. I love a jumping in whether it's a discord room or slack all or whatever or you know back when we could over the shoulder. The team is just vicgory focused on solving the problem. In a non-judgmental way. And then we we. After the fact we do failure causes inquiry where we go through what happened and in and realizing we're part of system here in it's not the individuals it is the system. You know the when you when you mess up you know your your heart starts beating you feel that that anxiety but you've got a whole bunch of people who were there with you trying to help the system backup and then support you as we all learned from it and try to make the system more robust so that that doesn't happen again unlike what she said there about the system. We're a system. Were not an individual. So how do we fix the system. That's a good. It's a good way to scope it when you have to have hard conversations or no retro on an
How Do You Feel About Freedom Day? With Shelley Treacher
"Shelly. Thanks for joining us today. we wanted to talk to you about freedom day as it's been cooled while the restrictions lift everything's going back to normal and i guess the big question is you know. There's a lot of excitement around freedom day but a low of also feeling not excited and more kind of anxious and worried uncomfortable. Why is that. What's worrying about freedom honestly. I think it's really normal response to a very abnormal situation with still in an abnormal situation. I mean coming out of long. Isolation caused by terrifying deadly threats on other systems is still going to be triggered. One reason we might feel like this is because we've got used to being on god and it might take a while to come out with the body's threats like response to calm down and to get back to normal because we've been vigilant for so long and on top of that it's also possible that some of us have developed social anxiety after being isolated from others for so long so we might have a natural inclination to just wanna stay indoors and you know some of us might have here of being seen having relied on food to cope with the pandemic and coping with the pandemic might also have caused us to block off our feelings. I think. Also one thing that i'm definitely experiencing i don't know if it's the same view both but i feel novus as kind of lifting lockdown and you know mosques no longer being required and i feel very much like is the outside world actually safe. Do you feel like. That's a coleman fear and how do we deal with. Yeah i see this all the time. I mean people go from one extreme to the other. Some people have really kind of in. Denial probably blase about the risks. But a lot of my clients are saying or. I'm not really sure this is happening. All of a sudden and is a bit of a shock. So i think probably the best thing to do is to take it slowly and to check things of change. Things are different now and it's going to take a physiological systems time to catch up with that but we need to check the news tech health things have changed and check what the actual risks are now. Because they've changed. It's been a massive journey from beginning to end this million so far and we kinda need to examine exactly what we're terrified of now because it might be stuck in a year and a half ago the also it's worth mentioning light. You can still do the safety things that he made. You feel secure like i'm going to continue wearing mosques et cetera at least for the foreseeable yes hundred percent to be on his stephen dislike having this conversation an hearing all the things you talking about. Shelly i was just getting bit. Novice abou- circus. I think the way that i've dealt with Freedom day and everything is just total. Denial you know thinking that. I'm just gonna stand. A fat is fine. I'm not going to go out. Because i can work from home. I'm not going to go out to a workplace. I'm not gonna go out an go together ings yet. I'm just gonna keep wearing my mosque. Yeah it's It's a bit of a scary time. Isn't it and yes. So i will still be wearing mosque I think for me phase around the social stuff is interesting. You mentioned around this ocean anxieties because of things do this. Whole pandemic in sums of different friends approaching the whole thing very differently so i've been incredibly cautious. My whole family's been incredibly cool shit like going way beyond the government guidelines and then seeing like one of my best friends being Not cautious and not not breaking the rules but certainly being relaxed around everything.
Companies Recruit for Talent on the Autism Spectrum
"Works. Employees can wear noise, canceling headphones and take breaks in a quiet room or lights are dim. To reduce sensory overload, Friedman says. The most important accommodation companies can make it to change the way they interview applicants on the spectrum. For a person with autism, The 1st 15 or 30. Seconds of an interaction are by far their worst. They're high anxiety about meeting a new person trying to interpret interpersonal queues trying to plan out a conversation to have with that person and those 1st 15 seconds. That's when The other person, a job interview or say, is making their first and lasting impression about exactly hiring managers aren't taking the time to go past that 1st 30 seconds and understand the skills, the talents and the capabilities that exist within those individuals. There are complexities that are inherently inside. These very large data sets at the global accounting firm Ernst and Young. They've scrapped the traditional interview process for applicants with autism. They've replaced it with a series of problem solving challenges. And so if I can ask you all to come up testing, aptitude, creativity and teamwork, I think for this offer people like you know, in a demonstration last year in Chicago before the pandemic required, they work from home. Four current Ernst and Young employees on the autism spectrum were given millions of lines of data to quickly analyze and explain how they presented to a client. If we find that there are areas we can loop back over to this step Ernst and Young has used this technique to hire dozens of employees with autism who work around the world and feels like artificial intelligence, Blockchain technology and cyber security. Is this about corporate responsibility, doing the right thing being altruistic? Make no mistake about it. This is absolutely a business imperative, and it makes great sense from a business perspective. Kelly Greer, Ernst and Young's US chairwoman, says the employees they've hired have saved the company millions of dollars by looking at problems in a different way. And creating algorithms to shortcut and automate processes. That is
What Is the U.S. Doing to Help Cuba?
"Get to it with our first topic. Which is actually about the historic protests in cuba where thousands of people took to the streets all across the country amid an economic crisis in food shortages exacerbated by the corona virus pandemic. In the last few days we've seen the government in cuba restrict internet access and block most social media sites. Although from what i read. Twitter is still like bobbin in cuba because the government uses twitter and also there were reports of over one hundred people who have been arrested or missing and that actually is. According to amnesty international and at least one person has died in clashes with police on wednesday. The president of cuba miguel diaz canal announce that they would lift restrictions to allow travelers to bring food and medicine into cuba from abroad. There is also an admission by him saying that his government could have done better with these protests that was interesting meanwhile back in the united states i feel like a comic book like meanwhile back at the white house on thursday president joe biden call. Cuba quote failed state and condemn their government's actions. We also know that the us has a role in this as there has been a decades old. I mean more than sixty years trade embargo by the united states against cuba which essentially prevents any business between the countries didn't back to nineteen sixty two k. So this has become an american tradition. Now the embargo just what it is. Yeah right you know what i'm saying. So but then the other thing is during the trump administration and this is what i find interesting. There were more sanctions put on cuba under trump and flight and remittances from family members in the us to cuba were even further restricted by the bynum ministrations. Pretty much has done. Nothing since biden has come into office. Nothing's really changed when it comes to cuba which you would think by now you know if we all remember obama he was like. Let's lift the embargo. You know what i mean. It was like you're in that administration. Joe right but according to the vitamin administration. They said that they are reviewing these policies but they've yet to reverse. Any of them are fabulous intern. Sarah her shandor spoke with an i guests. She has been on. Itt before seventy nine three goes who is a correspondent for political and somebody is of cuban-american descent and she has been reporting on cuba. This week and sabrina talked about the government's suppressive tactics like cutting internet access. And what cubans are hoping for so. Let's listen connecting for people has been a difficult. There's friends that. I haven't heard from in days that i know went out for the protests in there is that frustration anxiety about were. They beat in where they arrested. Are they missing an. It's hard to connect with people at this moment but a lot of people feel a level of frustration and desperation. That i had not heard before i mean. People have been tired of the dictatorship in cuba. But i will actually say from my perspective. Who was born and raised in cuba has been in exile in the united states for the majority of her life at this point. She's ninety one and she is optimistic. That change can happen. I mean her attitude about this is it can't stay this way forever and that these human rights can be violated forever. People can't be going hungry in dying on the streets from the pandemic without access to a hospital without access to medicine let it cannot continue that way indefinitely so that if it doesn't happen this time it has to happen at some point
Q&A: How to Deal With Relationship Separation Anxiety
"My partner goes away a few weeks at a time two three times a year and i join him partway through but when away. I get crippling anxiety about how he feels that he will have decided to leave me while away etc. Since spending the last year cooped up together this is now even spread to win. He is out without me. I must note that. I came to the realization that this is affected me in relationships so like i said shortened. Sweet good question. Oh there's one line and says i know these feelings are irrational in that it's unsustainable for me to keep getting sucked into make believe situations some questions. Do you have tips and managing this. And should i talked to my partner about the issues. I have so very good question. Thank you an awesome job giving you a little little golf. Clap here awesome job. Getting yourself into some therapy. I know it's not always easy to take that leap. We all come from different backgrounds with different attitudes toward therapy different limitations. So i'm always super proud to hear somebody you know finally does that. So good job. What you're describing here is fairly common issue. I've even answered some similar questions on the podcast before. And i think that a lot of people do experience this to different extents know for some people it's just uneasiness for some people it's full blown anxiety for some people. It really really really interferes with a relationship where they can't let things be in intensity and even fights and things like that so it is a common issue but it's on a spectrum. Everybody kind of sit somewhere else on that spectrum. I also understand how this could be. Totally exacerbated made worse by spending so much time together during cove it. It's you know. Obviously there are good elements to that you get to spend a lot of time together. Presumably you like each other. So that's a good thing but you do get used to a certain routine in a certain sense of security with that. I think that one of the things that this type of anxiety that you're describing often leads to is checking behaviors so by checking. I mean things that are attempts to resolve your sort of internal sense of tension so you kind of have this like build up of uneasiness of tension things -iety and you wanna do something to resolve that right so in other situations may be like if you take somebody who has obsessive compulsive disorder. They might have ritualistic behavior. That is an attempt to decrease that internal sensings eighty and it may be something related or unrelated. I mean not be very logical. But they're just trying to do something to ease that a little bit. It's not a sustainable thing. It doesn't help in the long but in those moments it's like what else can they do. They don't wanna sit with this nasty. Feeling this this frightful thing that's going on inside their body
How Anxiety Affects Our Body and Minds With Dr. Dain Heer
"Most of our listeners. Reach out to a nanga. And i i would say almost every day worried about the sensations that they're feeling in their bodies when they start to get anxious or when they feel an anxiety attack coming on or maybe they just have a sour stomach or heart palpitations nausea and the list goes on and on but it is the number one concern that we hear from our listeners. That what what do i do in it sends them to the er and causes all of this health. Things id and so. As i was reading the book reading body whispering. I was like oh. Who does this belong to is probably a place i want to start with with damon. Talk but certainly take us where you wanna go well. It's an interesting time. We're living in as we all know. and what i found about those who experiencing dieting is the huge majority of them meaning over ninety percent. Okay probably over ninety nine percent somewhere in the ninety nine percent range Tend to be highly sensitive highly aware individuals who have never been given a reference point for that much awareness. Nobody's ever told them and you know and they're the ones that are that are these oftentimes these sweet creatures or at least. They started like as as he's really sweet creatures who just wanted everybody to build better wanted everybody to be healed and such a high level of emotional sensitivity that the it seems like an overwhelming to be aware and nobody else is talking about it from this place that it's actually an awareness. Awareness is actually a capacity and so if we just turn the turn the spotlight here in the lighthouse just a little bit well that also applies to our bodies and we have a lot of people having a lot of stuff going on with their bodies right now and and it's an interesting thing because a lot of it seems a lot of it is. There's a lot of fear which is one of the things that if you if you take. Fear fear crazing dieting. But if you take that in amp up a stepper tour ten then becomes bordering on paranoia. Which is a high state of anxiety. And what that. That's one of the things if you look at what that does to our bodies physiologically or me etc. I'm dr at many. Other people discussing those aspects of it. So i won't. I'll just acknowledge that it's there what that then creates is. Is this sort of ramping up. Because anytime like if you think about it this way if you've got one of those degree wake up in a great mood. Everything is working. everything looks beautiful and everything looks possible. And you're like wow. This is so cool but if you wake up one of those mornings where you got the snooze alarm twenty seven times you don't want to get out of bed got massive anxiety. Everything seemed grew that lens. And so there's probably many but at least two conversations going on right here. One is that people's level of sensitivity is not just mental physical.
Silk & Sonder CEO Meha Agrawal on Finding Joy in Debugging
"Did you build this to scale efficiently from day. One or you finding this as you grow as paul grandma always says you know build things that don't scale 'cause that means people want your products so it really depends like i think there are. There's constant opportunity for higher performance higher efficiency higher optimization of code so we continue to make that trade off but i think you want to apply a baseline level of thoughtfulness. An excellence upfront without being perfect. So you can minimize pivots. Along the way having been burned in the past with trying to compile code and breaking all the time and then having to debug i actually didn't find joy in debugging and so dot lingering anxiety from those days has forced me to apply a lot of thoughtfulness up front to try to get to eighty percent product market fit for all of our futures and then and then go right and then you can tweak it as you go. So it's it's kind of a delicate dance. But i think i. I don't think we're at a point where we're ready to scale everything efficiently but we try to apply that leads on retesting this in the right way in a lean way but also optimizing for success so that we don't have to be drowning leader
People Across Florida Are Marching in Solidarity With Cuba
"I think this is the beginning of a a movement in which Cubans have said enough is enough. Cubans have reached a breaking point inside the Communist island and right here in Florida, Scott hunger, health, anxiety and anger spilling over into one another, opening the floodgates of a decades long oppression and emotion. Protests and rallies have popped up all over Florida and support of Cuba and its people. Here's reporter Alexa Lorenzo. This is something that was spontaneous. We've never seen that Dr Luis Martinez Fernandez was born in Havana, a history professor now at U. C. F. He knows well, what's playing out on the island. What the government does is it unleashes these violent fanatics to beat up Cubans who are basically asking for a universal right to protest piece. Fully the communist government has arrested hundreds of protesters restricted Internet access in Cuba, showing you the dictatorship that has dominated for decades. But the question is what's next here? And what is the U. S government doing about it? Where all these people that promise about human rights? Meanwhile, 90 miles from our coastline, human rights get trampled on every day. That's why Cuban Americans in Florida like Alberto Sarmiento are protesting. His father and grandparents fled for freedom, and he wants American politicians to do more to protect the people on the island. We need action in Cuba. Now. U. S. Senator Marco Rubio, a Cuban American has been a staunch opponent of the Cuban government, taking to social media and writing a letter to President Joe Biden, giving him six steps to take a horrific bloodbath is what awaits if action is not taken something like that does not happen. Senator Rubio also tweeting images of that show Cuban military and police. Barging into homes and detaining
Eyes Are the Window - burst 1
"Uh eyes are the windows of the soul. Have you heard the cliche. The eyes are the window of the soul. When i look into your eyes. What would the glare same to me. Could you look into my eyes and see what you need to see you. Can you tell my motions. What i know how you truly feel about the same. It was said. William shakespeare who i spoke in poem about how you can determine the lights and wall of a person whom you barely even know. According to william shakespeare i is are the windows to the saw. This means that we can know about one soul. Only by reading the is deeply and can evaluate his temperament a personality. Because through the eyes man's feelings and thoughts are clearly reflected. The soul is a driver and equal spirit. Part of a human being which is regarded as immortal. An is are the organs of the visual system. According to williams shakespeare our is show the truth no matter what face we put on in any situation the best way to get to know someone is to look them in their eyes and notice what they disclose about their mental state. He had originally obtained the scripture from the king. James bible verses matthew six twenty two and twenty four. The word soul has several meanings which is states a person's moral or emotional nature or sense of identity. The question is can you determine a person's identity are you able to tell them matter of someone's heart throughout time people have been able to harden their hearts and emotions because of reasons unknown and willingness to deter from others. Who have wrong then. I can respect. What william shakespeare written because in fact during his time the nature of humans were more subtle than what we have now even as the biblical speaks and theological terms of scholars who ciphered scrolls that were written by the disciples who wrote based upon what they have seen. Can you think of something you have seen that was embedded in the eyes of a person you once knew and loved. Did it affect their actions or the total opposite of the meaning of immortality. Was there a long lasting mental effect change of attitude or even yet anger with anxiety without hesitation to rectify. Something was there an escape of the moment and you tried to raise it out of your mind completely. I want you to one day. Look into a person's is open and then close your minds. Do you bring into the present things you already know. Are you able to say in fact this theory is true. Can you relate to the bible verses even though god said the holy spirit will lead and guide you to all truth meaning meaning in life. You're leading not that of someone else's you can share a moment with the person without trying to analyze what can be done to or about a person. What can you say to them if they ask. Did you look into my eyes. Tell me what do you see. And what if they told you truthfully all she said was completely wrong. So again i ask you. Did you close the window that was open or did you choose to go through the open window to create more of an issue for them matthew. Five twenty nine. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell Explanation to lift purposely kosher is to people so you can live an honest life. According to the bible mark twenty eight twenty five in his eyes were open. His sight was restored and he saw everything. Clearly example. wrongfully looking about a person can blind the fact of something special about a person. Judging without something someone else may have seen even as you learn to learn about a person by knowing them you can see as to his how his eyes are open and sight was restored by not judging and reasons being formed without prejudice. When you see a person down and out what you think of esa first impression are you quick to judge or your is just playing tricks on you. There are reasons for things most could not understand or care to ask. And i ask you again are the is the window to the soul and the answer to the question. Both shakespeare and the bible is yes. Reasons being yes your own soul that determines if you are back biting judging and jumping to the conclusion you're right about things you don't even know so when you say someone who thinks they are right about the actual color of a person's is just think about what you've seen and then look around outside to see if you're jumping into the wrong person side.
Pushing Your Limits: Finding A Balance While Working Towards Goals
"If you really want to run this bitch then it's like you're gonna have to be ultra hardcore. And that's where i you know somebody that doesn't have kids. It's like well. The sort of softening of everybody doesn't really mad at me. I know who ends up running things as people that are hard core that are determined that are aggressive like Just is what it is so if you don't want that and you wanna throw shade at that won't matter like the people that figure that out are going to run the companies. They're just they're gonna take over. And but i weep for other people because the process what i think the meaning of life is is to take your potential and turn it into meaningful skill set. And when you do that to do that. I should say you have to force yourself into an adaptation response and the adaptation response takes a ton of pressure. Yeah it's really stressful. Like i have waves going in between. I literally can't handle this. I literally can't work this much like on. This is half killing me. Like i can't handle this. And i'll have a day of that and then i'll have like seven days of this is awesome. I'm on top. The world figured out a whole bunch of problems. This is a breeze. I got this. I could do this forever and then something will come up and be like this. Isn't this insane way to live. I can't do this anymore. There's going to kill me. I'm going to die early. And then i'll go like right back into the owner. I've got this on top of the world. it's exhausting. I'm i think what i'm influenced by isn't just isn't just like stature power but i'm really intrigued to see what can happen if i take advantage of all the opportunity on given in try my hardest that something like how far can i go just as me and i'm really curious to see how far i can go. So that's what's that's what makes me curious and i think that started with. I think lots of people have that. But at that started with oh. I got rid of an autoimmune condition. Like a serious one that i was supposed to have for life if i can do that. What else can i do like. How fit can i get. How rich can i be like how well known. Ideally how many children. But we'll see that's that's on the back burner. That's a complicated mess up there with with the other goals. But i'm just really curious about how where i can get to that. That is the question that sits at the center of my life. Legitimately the reason that i didn't retire when i exited. My last company was. Because i wanted to see. How far can. I go like how much knowing what i know now. Right rather than lamenting that. I didn't know this stuff in my teens or twenties. Now that i know it like. How far can i take this. How big of a thing can i build. How many lives can i
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Good so good to be with you again this week. Hey shan today's episode is in response to following question from our private facebook group. Do you think there's a general way to clear anxiety. That's applicable for everyone or do you think everyone is different. And there's different ways that were for other people. Great question really good question. Yeah there are a variety of practices that can come anxiety for everyone as we show on the podcast but the experience of anxiety isn't the same for everyone so learning about how i mind. Body tight walks gives us individual insights to our unique triggers. An challenges differ responses to anxiety. How the mind tons over with anxiety and abroad a variety of ways. We can support ourselves. With lifestyle adjustments attrition an emotional support and there are lot of insights from ir veda on anxiety and the different mind and body types which we talk about quite often that are so incredibly helpful. Anxiety is almost epidemic in the modern higher-tech world and those. It's a long standing problem. It's increasing globally during the coronavirus pandemic it's also increasing globally for our young ones who have been raised with screens. And so we just really have to be vigilant here. Let's dig into ir vega well. Everybody teaches that we will have a unique body and mind makeup adoc so different mind types response to stress and anxiety in different ways but as we've discussed before to teach his anxieties seen largely as a voter disorder butter disturbance in arabic medicine. So vata is that air and ether body type really light airy if they're all which makes very creative mind very adaptable. Mind a very funny mind. Some really wonderful qualities come with it but it's also mind that's easily disturbed blown around on grounded. And when there's lack of those earth and fire under on water elements in the body and in the mind we feel untethered and the mind can suffer greatly when his in that state and the challenge we have is whatever our body or mind type might be that we have from the beginning of our life. Anyone can become law to disturbed and technology. Scrolling will the electromagnetic frequencies. We have around us this expectation to be on all the time available all the time. All these things are lot disturbing. Long commutes travel people that travel internationally change in their body. Quote these kinds of things all affect that water energy increase it and increases on groundedness increases stress an increases the likelihood that we're going to suffer with anxiety and also as we age we take on more of the bata disorders. Or more of a. I guess it wouldn't be only disorders but do you find that true as well. Yeah i rated teaches that we have different stages of life and water increases as we passed the age of fifty voter increases in the body Sometimes it's totally kits a mock off the more grounded of the other motor elmo which you can see in you know. Abundant hair shiny is smooth. Skin will that energy and stamina. That's there but sometimes it's also with children that there is a lot of voter because they're not settled in themselves yet and they can be changeable in temperament and movement and task around so but to can also be there when we're young but in terms of life stages is generally told the childhood is offer stage. The earth and water stage middle years are hitter the is of achieving and career. I'm during those years and then asked fifty is moldova stage of life so we do need greater protection from the energy increasing in that stage of life but also well-managed voter. This is something that we have to really understand is. There's no good or bad here. Yeah it's not that will mind type is bad at one. Stage of life is bad. It's about appreciating what's good and beneficial to us in those life stages and how we can support plus side of those doshi time so voter is wise. It's witty lots is detached quite a sage stage of life those audio years when butter is properly managed. That can be very wise and introspective time of life
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Today's Society slayer podcast is sponsored by better help. Our stress and anxiety interfering with your happiness. have been considering seeing a therapist, but you're not sure where to start. Better help will assess your counseling needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. So you start getting the support you need online in under twenty four hours. Special offer for anxiety slayer listeners, you get ten percent off your first month at better help dot com for slash slayer. That's better. Help H. E.. L. P. DOT COM. Slash slayer. In this week's PODCAST, we're talking about how we can resent our anxiety..
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"This week were talking about how to calm morning anxiety as many a lesser facing returning to work or have children who are returning to school or heading off to. . College. . High Nanga. . How are you today Haitian? ? I'm good. . Thank you. . So good to be with you again to talk about a subject that we really haven't addressed in quite some time, but , we're getting a lot of questions about. . So let's dive right into how we can help ourselves when we suffer with morning and diabetes when I suffered with anxiety my youth late teens early twenties morning anxiety became. . A. . Real thing for me. . It was very debilitating and I would wake up every morning feeling. . Extremely. . Shaky and nauseous and found it really hard to step into my day. . What are some of the symptoms of morning anxiety? ? Symptoms of winning Zaire often the same as the symptoms of general anxiety in my experience with the addition of nausea and loss of appetite. . That's particularly common with morning anxiety. . But otherwise, , the usual symptoms, , rapid heartbeat, , tight chest, , shortness of breath physical tension, , muscle tension, , the body, , a strong feelings of anxiety or sense of dread about facing the day ahead and feeling confused mentally overwhelmed like everything's just too much to face. . And thankfully, , and we have lots of suggestions for how to make that better. . But before we go there, , let's talk about some of the causes of morning anxiety. . It's usually caused by the same factors also contribute to Jim rulings anxiety combined with that stress an overwhelm of facing a new day, , and then also there's the natural increase in stress hormones that can happen for us first thing in the morning. . I remember. . Being much more anxious when I had a workplace that I traveled to than than, , I, , do now having my own business. . Everything that needed to be done before going and then becoming a mom and. . Adding in caring for my daughter and getting ready and getting off to work and all of the things that come at us we have so many things that we juggle. . So it's no wonder that we can have these feelings of discomfort in the morning. . It's other things that can also cause issues in the morning. . Low Blood Sugar If you drink alcohol the night before. . The anticipatory anxiety can come sometimes before a big day at work or Big Day at school in the negative self-talk those gremlins and our brain can get assault up and then of course, , negative news and TV. . Film anything that's coming through your screens that is agitating. . All contribute. . And then this, , the fact that the transition from being asleep to being awake is quite a strong transition for the body certainly for somebody that's suffering with anxiety <hes> we go from you know being not really conscious of what's going on around us too often. . Waking up with an alarm clock or a sudden jolt and kind of sitting out and thinking Oh this is what I have to deal with I. . If you're already suffering anxiety that stuff can really hit you in domino effect unruly stack up course strong stress response strong anxiety response in the body. . The good news is this is something that can be very much supported unchanged. . I think that <hes> alarm clocks are really. . Not. . Okay. . Yeah me too truly. . I'm grateful for the alarm clocks that play soothing music or wound do something that will help you transition from sleep to being awake Ursus loud buzzers and and things that jolt you away. . They just 'cause a sense of anxiety on hearing them, , which is why so many people throw them across the room or hit snooze if there's a way that you can figure out how to get up without that jolt with a little bit more softness and sweetness. .
"anxiety" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show
"But the freedom to just say like, you don't necessarily mean to be this like warrior every second and to gauge this about whether or not you sit through the movie or drive, thirty miles or whatever the thing is that your facing that moment it freed me up to let the anxiety common. Go and. It sounds so kind of. Oh, if wishy washy, but I created a little wiggle room. It creates ace, and it's the tightness that would get me like the tightness of I feel anxious and it still happens. I have to remind myself this weekend the day you called, and we haven't even talked this by the way because I've been so busy, but I had sort of sweaty anxious day, and it wasn't that bad. It was just one of those days where it was like, a, you know, a lot to do and I felt really rigid and tight and whatever and I didn't leave a ton of room until afterward. Why do I feel like this? And it was like oh. Everything my body's tight, I'm feeling overwhelmed, and this and this. I mean because really when we are rigid when it's a it's a really good way to explain why it doesn't work to be so rigid with our benchmarks. I need to go five miles today. Six miles tomorrow because there's a tightness there right with that rigidity. There's a tightness that perpetuates the anxiety that kind of feeds it, so that's why it can't feel really irresponsible. But that's why kind of letting up a little and moving toward not necessarily making it all about anxiety. Like, okay, I'm going to go to the movies to challenge my anxiety..
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"So we're going to give some examples statements that have a think about what is it for you challenges you driving course pursue you see anxiety around driving some example hey would be an opening statement light even though i feel anxious before driving i love nick set myself and i really recommend you download our chart anxiety sled come forward slash t you can see hatata there and you can see the tapping points that and sit with this before you set out on a journey think about what's uncomfortable to tap through the points takes a nice deep breath a new find that you feel more relaxed will capable of making the journey a more resourceful that's always what if tea brings up from as you feel more results for more able to cope and instead of feeling anxiety focused you start feeling focused on how you can walk around things and how you can handle them another statement would be even though i struggled driving in lots of traffic i love and accept myself or even though i worry that i'll have an anxiety attack while driving i love and accept myself yeah that's a really great use of if t because you can tap away the worry about having an excited which is such an amazing thing to to have the anxiety that it might escalate usually of tapping tap through the sequence and concern about having a potential anxiety attack does it's so liberating and we did create a mini course a while back called overcome your fear of driving and if you wanna check that out you'll get a guided the t tapping session for feeling safe and calm behind the wheel as well as our step by step tapping approach to feeling safe before you set out to drive and you can get that at things id slayer dot com forward slash store.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Welcome to the anxiety slayer series our mission is to assist you with creating more peace and tranquillity in your life during ziobro release exercises and support of tools created to slay your anxiety today's anxiety slayer podcast is brought to you by the exiled slayer academy we've been offering a free podcast for almost nine years help anyone suffering with things iety find relief now we're helping you go deeper by providing stepbystep support and how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming zayed's visit the anxiety celier academy and get your free exiled slayers starter course eddings layer that teachable dot com welcome back twins iety slayer i'm shannon vander leak here today with my wonderful friend partner anonymous severe we come together weekly from canton leila to share exiled slayers sessions with you an answer listener questions from our inbox facebook page together we share a powerful collection of techniques to reducing zayed's and this week we're talking about some messages we've received from our listeners who are slaying their exile eighty and especially a lovely letter that we received from longtime listener that i'll share with you now i'm now using the magnesium powder box lower remedies and do eft tapping in addition i love the tone of your voices when both of you communicate it's at night when i lay down to hear your podcast before going to sleep because i read somewhere that the last thing you here before he go to sleep you can have it in your conscious state is you relax and so i recall the lessons i learned in your podcasts and refresh my memory often each night maybe listening to one or two podcasts before i go to sleep.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"This episode of anxiety slayer is brought to you by comforting weight is your anxiety keeping you up at night try the calming effects of a weighted blanket from comfortingly these luxury weighted blankets were designed specifically to feel like a fluffy comforter you love while providing extra week to soothe in calm you joining the night comforting weights customers find they fall asleep faster and sleeper save ten dollars off your order at comforting dot com using the coupon code anxiety slayer welcome back to be slayer welcome back nanga shed so good to be with you again this week for another episode we are talking about the importance of grounding rings it relief in how you can get started today feeling ungrounded and anxiety go handinhand symptoms of anxiety that are related to feeling grounded include feeling unsettled looping thoughts feeling disconnected from our surroundings and from others and having trouble concentrating a non guide love if you share a little background on why this happens with things iety according to ira veda i is based on the theory of five intimates of will to fire and ethan but go into three key buddy times the most grounded buddy type is cold coffee and it's made up of volta the heavier elements the next one up the pitta buddy type pizza dough show is made of water fire and the creative beautiful if ariel voter is the lighter buddy time which is made of the elements.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Welcome to the anxiety slayer series our mission is to assist you with creating more peace and tranquillity in your life the rings iety release exercises and support of tools created to slay your anxiety today's iety slayer podcast is brought to you by the anxiety slayer academy we've been offering a free podcast for almost nine years to help anyone suffering with anxiety find relief and now we're helping you go deeper by providing stepbystep support on how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety welcome back to exile slayer i'm shannon vander leak here today with clinical counselor and author sharon selby sharon is a registered clinical counselor and it's her passion to support children teens and families struggling with things iety for the last twenty years she's accumulated over ten thousand clinical hours working with children and families experiencing diverse challenges and has a broad range of experience to draw on sharon is also the author of surfing the worry imps wave in engaging indepth children's book that teaches all about anxiety in how to overpower it our intention today is to give parents a lot of valuable content about how you can support your anxious child welcome to anxiety slayer sharon thank you so much for having me it's a pleasure to have you join us today i'd like to dive right in with our first question and it's a big one how on earth can we help change our children's negative thoughts which create all of the sings iety that they suffer that is a big question and definitely one of the key points with anxiety i think the first part is to really help our children understand that all our thoughts are not real so when we're younger we do think all our thought surreal and then that also gets perpetuated by the characters disneyland or the different kinds of holiday celebrations that we might celebrate that have characters associated with them and so as children a little bit older they start to differentiate between reality and fancy that usually happens around age seven and if we can help children to realize all their thoughts are not real and so then we have some specific tools we teach them.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Welcome to the anxiety slayers series our mission is to assist you with creating more peace and tranquillity in your life during ziobro release exercises and support of tools created to slay your anxiety today's podcast is brought to you by the anxiety slayer academy we've been offering a free podcast or almost nine years to help anyone suffering with things iety find relief now we're helping you go deeper by providing stepbystep support and how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety is it the anxiety slayer academy and get your free anxiety slayer starter course adding zayed's slayer dot teachable dot com welcome back twins iety slayer i'm shannon bander league here today with my wonderful friend co host nanga severe we come together weekly from kent in leila to share anxiety slayer sessions with you an answer listener questions from our inbox in facebook age group together we share a powerful collection of techniques to reducing zayed's and this week we're talking about how to get unstuck in free yourself from these web welcome back inaugur patient so good to be with you again and to be addressing another listener question about just feeling stuck in inside and not really knowing how to to free themselves yeah i think executives web is a great way of describing experience because we can fill so tangled up bound up and confused buying zeitoun sometimes it feels like you just get a leg free or a wing free and then another if you get stuck his such a confusing experience and i like that we're going to begin by talking about facing zayed with awareness is with awareness comes everything else all the answers that that we really need you shared a really good example once upon a time with me about facings iety is facing up to a bully.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Today's podcast is brought to you by the anxiety celier academy we've been offering a free podcast for over eight years to help anyone suffering with things iety find relief now we're helping you go deeper by providing stepbystep support and how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety visit the anxiety slayer academy and get your free anxiety slayer started course eddings iety slayer teachable dot com welcome back to slayer i'm showing bander league here with my new friend michelle michelle shell font is that how i say your name michelle nailed it grew my nail right on michelle is a therapist is speaker and author and has a practice in nashville tennessee where she helps people relieve their emotional pain such things iety depression codependency and relationship issues she created and teaches a transformational process called the adult chair that helps people uncover incorrect limiting beliefs and false stories that keep them stuck i can't wait to earn more about the adult chair her podcast also titled the adult share is in its third year and has been an avenue to share her message through interviews and conversations around stress anxiety depression codependency self love getting unstuck and so much more welcome michelle thank you so much and thanks.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Welcome to the anxiety slayer series our mission is to assist you with creating more peace and tranquillity in your life brings id release exercises in support of tools created to slay your anxiety today's anxieties layer podcast is brought to you by the anxieties layer academy we've been offering a free podcast for over eight years to help anyone suffering with anxiety find relief now we're helping you go deeper by providing stepbystep support and how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety visit the anxieties lear academy and get your free anxieties layer started course and anxiety slayer that teachable dot com welcome back to anxiety slayer i'm shan bandra leak here with my wonderful friend and co host unongo severe we come together weekly to sharing zaidi's layer sessions with you an answer listener questions from our in box and facebook age together we share a powerful collection of techniques to reducing zaidi with over three hundred eighty podcasts online courses and guided relaxation albums hyon onga it's great to be with you today for another episode of anxiety slayer hey shan today will be discussing how to support a teen suffering with things i eddie and the very first thing that we wanted to bring forward is that it's important that a suffering teen has some good solid supportive information so that they don't make up the stories that that we often hear about anxiety in and mental health.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Molo to what i've been speaking about with you and with your listeners um it's one we're experiencing an epidemic of anxiety i think the statistics are that over the course of a lifetime in the mirror one out of three people yes sprints anxiety now if one has three people became mysteriously ill the center for disease control would be worth more over time the find the course the problem here is that we have accepted this elm we run round trend the treated medicaid without first asking why so i ask why and with the conclusion i have come to is if we have become addicted to seek uncertainty and that is unachievable then it induces fear so you see we end up live in life is though life for a chess match pictures of congestion sitting bag deliberating calculating you move afraid of making a mistake should i shouldn't die and that's how people are living lives now the fear of make no mistake equals anxiety the need to know the future in advance as assured earlier with the story about the woman contemplating divorce creates anxiety so in in a way it isn't our fault i would hit imagined that living under the old newton's determined is them and separation would create an epidemic of anxiety and depression so regrettably people in my profession therapies are trained to believe that the best they can do is manage it in that's an awful it's an awful era we could do bids and manage yes we can we can overcome it we can transcended once you learn to become the master of your thinking and not subject to the thoughts that set up this destructive energy you can overcome it i've had tremendous success who countless numbers of people so one this knepper damage in a small also we've been living by the wrong gang platt to if we learn to see uncertainty as era ally and that uncertainty kim than in crete wonder and creativity and spontaneity the end anxieties falls by the wayside and you have an entirely different experience of life and thirdly you can learn to negotiate and become the master of you thinking whereby the old clots that they're telling you.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Today's anxiety celier podcast is brought to you by the anxiety celier academy we've in offering a free podcast for over eight years to help anyone suffering with anxiety find relief now we're helping you go deeper by providing stepbystep support and how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety get your free anxieties slayers starter course at anxiety slayer dot teachable dot com welcome back to anxieties lear i'm shan vander leak here with my wonderful friend and business partner unongo severe we come together weekly on skype to sharing zaidi's later sessions with you an answer listener questions for our in box in facebook page together we enjoy sharing a powerful collection of techniques to reducing zaidi and today we're going to be addressing a listener question about physical sensations that can lead to how things id thoughts welcome back in nanga tieshan it's so good to be with you again in this new here happy new year f you need to you so we'll start today with the listener question that came in and it goes like this high anxiety slayer i wanted to thank you for this podcast you guys had helped me so much over the years i'm still on main zaidi's layer journey unlike anything there are ups and downs however a lot more ups these days i'd love for you guys to talk around physical sensations which can lead to healthy society which is my biggest problem thanks again so much you've changed my life grateful that this person is feeling better most days but boy i am glad to be talking about how things icty thoughts physical sensations that lead to healthy society thoughts because it's something that if if i were to put something at the top of my anxiety list that would be what i experience as well on occasion dna is soon.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Lost and so out of control but this podcast today is about tuning in in listening to our body in mind in making space for learning more about ourselves and and what we want you might feel that you need to get more peace to feel more peaceful when we allow space for polls instead of trying to push through when we try and push through with focused on not wanting to fill what we don't one and trying to do what we feel we need to do in in my experience that can become quite brutal i'm very taxing on your nerves so just creating that space to say okay i am suffering there is pain in may there's disturbance in may with anxiety with what i'm going through how can i just allow space to pause and regroup and loko what are might need than the year ahead the months ahead to help me support myself more and this is where we can review you how we feel about anxiety very often we feel that anxieties an invisible enemy aware under attack but it sin inside state anxieties within us i think just reframing mountain looking at anxieties a messenger and anxiety may be bringing us a hint that this something deep within us that wants to be nourished or heard that really is a different way of looking at anxiety that softens the edges and allow space for some selfreflection on healing and the the acceptance pieces well to accept what's going on in to know that we have the tools and resources and support we need to care for ourselves to actually put ourselves at the front of the line yeah is something that again is is when expectations coming we expect that we should coq we fill the others expect that we should cope others may well be expecting that we should be coping doing more failing differently but really that snow a reasonable expectation is still a healthy expectations so it is about just really softening the edges and looking into a selves and seeing how can i support myself more in the year ahead and we cannot knowledge and accept i don't like the situation and i don't like how it feels but when we fight tip anxiety pushes back home and resistance causes persistence it just makes the situation.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Today's anxiety slayer podcast is brought to you by the anxiety celier academy we've been offering a free podcast for over eight years now to help anyone suffering with anxiety find relief and now we're helping you go deeper by providing step by step support and how you can get the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety get your free anxiety celier starter course at anxiety slayer that teachable dot com welcome back to anxiety slayer i'm shan vander leak here today with my wonderful friend partner and cohost analogous severe we come together weekly on skype to sharing zaidi's slayer sessions with you and enjoy answering listener questions from our in boxing facebook page together we share a powerful collection of techniques to reduce anxiety and today we want to wish you a very happy new year we're going to be talking about whether or not you're anxiety has a message for you and before we begin welcome mananga i shan't happy new year to you and you too i'm glad we're talking about this because i think often we wonder what is the message that anxiety has for us and doesn't really have one i think anyone who's been listening to anxiety slave for awhile knows 900 big fans of new year's resolutions especially for those already suffering with stress and anxiety where resolutions can increase as stressed by raising expectations when we're already struggling so instead for the new year we're recommending sitting in intention a direction for the year ahead to deepen selfunderstanding and self compassion i love this so much because this is an alternative to trying to push through and make things happen and as we often do when we're suffering with anxiety we can feel so.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"And then to kind of bring it all back around two no matter how you're feeling about these holiday events and no matter what transpired before you to be grateful to be grateful for family and friends and to be grateful that you do have food on your table a roof over your head and the resources that you need to be as comfortable as you can be in a situation that might not be your your natural comfort level but by doing all of these things that we've mentioned today you shoe are setting yourself up for a much better experience and to tie it all up with gratitude feels like the right place to bring in that fifth tips for slaying hearings id over the holidays thank you for listening to anxiety slayer we wish you the happiest of holidays and hope that this podcast has been supportive inside slayer has been offering a free podcast for more than six years now we want to help you go deeper by providing step by step support on getting the best experience from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety are you ready to take action against jeering zaidi enroll in the anxiety slayer academy now and you can get started today visit anxiety slayer dot com forward slash support.
"anxiety" Discussed on Anxiety Slayer
"Welcome to the anxiety slayer series our mission is to assist you with creating more peace and tranquility in your life during id release exercises in support of tools created to slay your anxiety today's anxiety slayer podcast is brought to you by the anxiety slayer academy we've been offering a free podcast for over seven years now to help anyone suffering with anxiety find relief now he want to help you go deeper by providing step support and how to get the best experience you can from our favorite tools and techniques for overcoming anxiety learn more at anxiety slayer dot com forward slash support welcome back to inside these lear i'm shan dander league here with my wonderful friend and business partner anongos severe and we come together weekly on skype to sharing zaidi's slayer sessions with you we like to answer listener questions from our in box and facebook page and we often mix up a potent blend of coaching iwr vadis storytelling guided relex ations efc tapping and so much more and today we wanted to record just a short podcast about how you can support yourself during the holidays and were titling it five tips for slaying earings eighty over the holidays that we know that you'll find supportive and helpful welcome back in nanga nation i'm so glad were together today to talk about this very important reminder but how we can survive the holidays which i know sounds a little bit dramatic.