18 Burst results for "Antionette"

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04:15 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Think many times we look at institutional table they historically have been here and they have this quarter power but there's also power collective interest power in community on the ground and it doesn't just have to be this institution has been around for decades. But when you think about even like, for instance, the black lives matter movement that began with a Hashtag that then led to uprisings in different parts of San was a part of that which then led to actual movement black lives and has led to an in black lives is not a moment. It's a movement. It's not just if you're only affiliated with the organization, but I want to recognize also those people in the organization doing work people in color change that also acculturated did the same thing that was like I wanNA create change particular at that time in the media industry. Now they're doing larger things like Many of the ideas that we see in many of the ships that we're seeing started as ideas and people saying enough is enough and I wanNA fight for justice and Equity Liberation and are working to do that. So no that we all like everyone listening as a designer have the power to affect outcomes and so think about what outcomes are you trying to effect and then create an or join efforts to actually get to that outcome right so you've been on a lot of huge stages we talked about the fact that you gave like a Ted. Talk. And you sat at a table of a lot of big companies organizations. And so you bring this perspective. They're not a Lotta people in this industry have being a black woman that has done this. What do you think is preventing black designers from becoming like those next leaders of design. So the reality is that. Positive and negative. That is all about who you know and. The thing about it is like, for instance, when you look at a lot of folks that are looking to hire people in organizations, they tend to focus on our own networks, it when you also when they also looked to promote, they tend to focus on the ones closest wet and we know historically. Black folks as well as indigenous communities. I WANNA highlight tend to tend to not really already be in a room. Abe Wars through Atlanta Tokenism. And then we tend to be looked over for different avenues and opportunities of being a part of it is also this bias a narrative that we have around as we stated earlier like what professionalism actually means of even down to what hair like how do you wear your hair you know? What type of mannerisms do you have and then you run into light respectability politics like what the? For instance when people talk about black they may seem like black monolith which is not. Bland. Some forms and you know as a black woman I've learned that. Would having a double historically underinvested identity of being black and a woman many people don't know what to do with me an intern when I am shattering the stereotypes, the narrative that they have and makes them very uncomfortable. And one of the biggest thing I have a grappa would have made me frustrated frame. You cry it's made me just infuriated is angry black woman narrative of that I always have to deal with that you know. Am I deserving a my space, all these things, and so for me, you know I ended up being in a situation wide created my own. And I want to be very, very, very conscious in very honest about the creation of I own is that. I did not come from. A quote unquote privileged background I came from a family that was in poverty goal of making nineteen thousand dollars a year when I decided to found creative reaction. Mike. My family when I was decided to outbid reaction without my family and I actually lost around seventy percent of our income. Wow..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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01:55 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Etc Jomo Tara, who for folks that are listed as episode two, twenty, five on the show. He's a data scientist and he's one of the founding members of the group believe. And like they put a survey together and like they use that to kind of guide the conversation around diversity of designers in those design industries. They've done what AIG has not done in that one they've defined. This is the design that we're talking about and to they've made sure that the numbers don't just speak to members of their guild. They're talking to people talking to practitioners everywhere so That's a great thing I. Love. The I think there just needs to be more data out there. Yeah. Certainly. You know. We're not trying to make for folks listen. We're not trying to make this like we're ragging on AIG. We wouldn't be this passionate about it. If we didn't care that, we want to see the industry change in meaningful and impactful ways. It's unfortunate that this organization. Even in its one hundred plus year tenure has not done more to really make that happen but. You know it's it is what it is. I say that to say even now in twenty twenty, there's ample opportunity for anybody to step out there and create their own organization or make their own survey and get the data like just because one group is doing it doesn't mean that you can't do it too I'm not necessarily saying reinvent the wheel but like. All the ain't round. You know what I'm saying and make your own table to me I was ongoing others make your own lake. In my case, I never thought that I would become a serial entrepreneur. But when I didn't see things I created it. And through the creation also collaborating with a lot of folks. To do job and get things done and so yeah, they it I.

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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05:25 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"So when I saw how this all unfolded on twitter. I was like what is happening? What is going on? and. I and I'll be completely honest several people from a contacted me like what is this and I'm like, I'm not even a member anymore why talking to me about this I mean I know why they're talking to me about because I know both y'all. have been affiliated with the but like just to see it all happened the way it happened online especially at the same time when there's public unrest happening in the streets and you got companies that are stepping forward for black lives it was just such a weird mind fuck I mean I'm saying this as an observer like. I don't know if you ask me have talked since this incident have you talked to sensitive so we we have not talked Simpson's incident. Actually Ashton I really haven't talked I resigned in December. Like I said, I was the one initiated a message to her in April and she didn't respond and said, you know thank you I. Hope you're doing well as well. That's really all we've had, and which is very disheartening in itself because like I'm a Taurus. An. Instagram I'm a number eight, I'm a challenge but. It but I'm a Taurus right and so taurus. Don't notoriously let people in an on understand way we don't really let people in and when we do, we trust you for her the video to even say why have boy smells of Antoinette being I could tell you exactly what boys really. Talk One when I left in December when she? Just to be honest, blatantly excluded me from something that she told me that I was, and then I found out from other committee members that they were receiving the narrative that I wasn't showing up to meetings. You know I never received any invitations. So. Exactly what she's talking about and all yes she almost got real intimate late-night that Real Normandy like say. Okay she says she fully get could no one really has seen St. Louis Normandy Antoinette because. You let people I don't as I've grown I don't use a let people give me so upset. But the biggest thing that upsets me is when I trust someone and they break that trust and I I will admit I, cried. I cried a frustration and anger I cried because we were in the pandemic and I couldn't even just like get to DC to talk to her. You know it was and it was just like. Aig A has a history. Of over a century now of not centering. Black people. But one of the things I wanna say is just because we now have lack intimate is. Up Bidding, he's black. And actually is biracial just because we have in leadership doesn't mean that they have not had to play the game supremacy to get to what they are and so I don't WanNa say like because the reality is that we all have white supremacy tendencies within us. Yeah..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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04:19 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Hitting it easier for me to go. Yeah. Now I'm good and so it was it was partly personal not seeing alignment anymore, and then part of it was also just internal. erasure of not only my contribution contribution of others have been doing work. It also was Kinda internal in my opinion devaluing of particularly designers of color I was actually on the board when Timothy Bar Levin wrote his second. Article about. Being proponents of white supremacy. I was the one that presented that article to the board because I knew if I didn't, they would try to present in a narrative that wasn't the way it should have been received, and so I presented the article excite you also read this I agree with what he said let's have a conversation led to a lot of different internal conversations many different internal statements by ship saying that Oh we will make these changes and we will talk to these groups and we will do x. y. and Z. and it never happened I realized again that. was about talk and not about doing not about mitigating harm and I, started to question if people were doing this work for recognition versus actually doing the work for the improvement of our industry and so for me I decided it was best to leave in December with the video because. Hey. Why does let you attended wife Supremacy is the written word? No. And so I said I want right nothing you just don't hear me. Talk That I did and then you know I kinda laughed and was. Happy I had people reach out say if they could. They were conflicted they stay. I. Actually encourage people to stay if they felt that met with their purpose. Even, people again I. Think Internally Thought that was like so anti Aig I was like now if this like I did my top I'd almost ten years. I did my time but it doesn't mean you should stop if you feel this important to you and then. June. Happened and gas lighting campaigns against tonette happen and I shifted my mind from the longer. Okay. I'm detached to okay. No, they need divestment. Kind of where I'm at now and just kind of you know flesh out a little bit more of kind of what happened. So of course, as people know in June, this was when I think things started to kind of reach a fever pitch as it related to protest around the killing of George Floyd and really just around all of the the killings of black people at the hands of police and so what you started seeing was this really like increased amount of attention on uplifting and sharing black voices from a lot of organizations kind of giving these public pledges. A I was one of those organizations and. So. There was this very public discourse between you and AIG and several AIG chapter leaders and other title holders regarding basically them like stealing your words and your work and not giving you the attribution to say like this came from someone that has worked with our organization. Has the dust settled from all of that and if so, how do you feel now? I think has the dust settle and have they apologize? No. Okay. Have they reached out to me? No, not since it really hit ahead because folks don't know that before the Bernie, the new executive director of wrote his letter about what happened we actually have talked before he had already had his mind set in set by the time we talk and you know there were several times both repeated to each other you. Know you. Well. I. Don't know you which is true because we when I left in December, he started in January. So I actually did not engage with. Bernie at all and there was this narrative that's be that was being spread that apparently you know that we came up with this idea together back in two thousand sixteen, which was actually false..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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02:17 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"We also have sureau Miller, which was the nineties version and she wrote the nineteen ninety one article in work with, and I know she's still doing work now. Since. I've left a I G I have had less headaches. Arguably those last summer has brought some back. I have had less headaches I've had honestly more clarity and what was interesting is that I was already grappling with this question last fall before I resigned and I was on the National Board at the time if I would stay. And I know those late leaves this narrative within a I. Would some folks where they've seen the bank that you know I was leaving I was happy how things were going wrong i. wasn't happy about how things were going. For me part of it and I was actually starting to have this discussion with myself. My family my friends is that I wasn't see myself align would what the mission obey edgy was. Because I felt that with my work around equity designed social impact design, a I J wasn't released speaking to me and I was saying that even internally for years like, Hey, the only reason I'm here is because I've been here for so long you're actually not talking to me and my own career were I'm going so though the disconnect just on my own personal journey and path. And then I read this poem called the Bell Stand, which I recommend a reading at and within this poem, it talks about how this individual was able to get this beautifully crafted bill stand together in a certain amount of time and the king who he was creating for asked, how did you get it this way and he talked and the bell stand? Creator talked about how he focused on only that for and let everything else go because he at bills Dan was his purpose and I started to ask myself what is my personal and professional bail stand and realized that a I actually wasn't feeding into my belt Stan and so that Kinda made a decision to leave and then honestly they started doing bullshit..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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03:59 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Well, we'll just keep it going because it makes comfortable. I'm willing to sacrifice what I have for that like I said the years ago that I would be okay with whatever consequences come my way from being authentic. Guard. I've actually been happier because of it have we lost funding opportunities because I have literally told funders that they were part of the problem. Yes. Have we gained opportunities because I have been very authentic to our values and a staff subsequently feels that they can do the same yes and so it's understanding that no matter what decision you make whether you decide to be silenced whether you decide to play the game whether you decide to not play the game there's going to be positive or negative consequences either way and is really determining which one are you okay what and for me I think back to the Ancestors that I don't know because I don't know my ancestry and that bothers me so much. I had no idea who my assess is our period and I wonder if they sit and look at me and one have heartbreak because we there such a disconnect for my generation from there we don't even know who they are, but then also can do they look at me and say she is fighting the fight that we had to navigate and endure all this trauma in torture and pain, and she's fighting on behalf of us from our past as well as for the future generations. That is what I think about in. The like how I show up into clearly because as far as I know, I'm only going to live one life, and so my job is to sit here and try to make your life feel comfortable. So that idol shake the shake something right now what we need to be uncomfortable with being discount. Being in discomfort because usually where we grow and learn and discomfort does not mean being trauma could so I want to make sure that there's definitely some clarity on that but being uncomfortable and learning through that discomfort. I'm okay with that and I made that decision of the years ago speaking of decisions that you made a few years ago. Let's talk about the way. You were heavily involved with the I remember when I had you back on the show like you convince me to join because I had people on the show before and most of the experience that they talked about where they IGA. Usually at the chapter level were largely negative, and at the time you were the CO chair of diversity and inclusion task force. You were also the VP of the Saint Louis Chapter of Aig a and you were telling me like if you want to kind of change the. Game you can kind of do it from within by joining the task force, and so I joined Aig joined the task force. You know we both served on the task force together. But late, last year you left Aig and you gave a statement in a public video where you listed the reasons why and link to that video so people can check it out in case they they haven't seen it but I have to ask like what does life look like for you now on the other side of Aig Oh so okay I wanna make one quick correction just. So people notes I was the founding chair of I like to call the third iteration of the task force okay. And so that we have clarity because again, there's a history of eraser just in general in our society rate and I want to acknowledge that there was a task force in the nineties. There was a task force in the two thousands, and then I was the founding chair of the two thousand tents version of the task force until I want to definitely get recognition to the leaders that was doing the work. Even before I came and they they were doing the work and then they left right and what I'm almost our Baz another one Andrew Andrew Infotech you. Talked to Andrew Right. Yeah Andrew Baz..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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02:09 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Is the American spirits when you think of like family structure and individualism and work ethic and even communication aesthetics, etc. When you really start looking at examining just how much of that has been molded and shaped by just whiteness in general it's staggering. It's Nagara because like some of it I'll be completely honest. Some of these are traits that I pride myself on like, yeah I try to be on time and you know. And that's not to say that. Being on time and not being unorganized as is a black thing or whatever. But it's amazing. How much of that is sort of seeped into like this is what it means to be a professional in this country or something like that. So and. How do we like shatter that notion I who to actually define professionalism just like who gets defy professionalism perfectionism who gets to also define what success looks like. We need to acknowledge that we are upholding the systems that we are trying to change, and so I now have been viewed because I'm indifferent fellowship programs but people tend to look at me. It's like a Unicorn sometimes I think they look at me like an innocent ignorance but not an positive way because I come in and I'm like, I'm not playing a game on not co switching. I'm not doing any of these things that we've been taught to do and there's groups that I. Man would our live with? No you need the sausage making I'm like I'm not making this what they call a split. I'm like I'm not making sausage like I'm not doing that because I don't want you to sit there and think that I agree with this oppression I don't want you to sit here. That my silence means yes, and so I tend to be a person that will vocalise my opinion I know when I should take a step back and I'm continually working on that and at a certain point if I feel that there's like these stereotypes are narratives of being shared in his life..

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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05:18 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Certain academic or professional pedigree to care about to care about what they're talking about, and one of the most pivotal are I guess inspirational Ted Talks for me what a Ted talk that essentially challenged how we approach creativity and it was a by Sirkin robins Robertson to and in the Ted talk he talked about how we tend to ask the question what does four plus four equal versus what equals eight and. When you look at what equals eight, usually the younger generation is at a what equals eight mindset and then adults and society in systems tend to push them towards conformity in regiment and status quo to have them shift that my set to what the sportplus four equal which. Raise. And so I'm a mom of black boys I briefly mentioned my brother you know and and he actually was a twin as well and so my younger sister like I think about how even in our education We literally how had them starting from colorful rugs and collaboration and connection all the things we say we want twenty-first-century workers. Now they have early on and then in our educational system, we are teaching them to straighten a rose in line, and then as time goes on the classroom starts to look like me more prison setups than they do of invoking creativity and so yeah for me the work is around you and supporting them in just honestly amplifying the knowledge and the greatness and the creativity and imagination that they already have because the ideas they have around possibilities. Will Get us actually to the space of Equity and liberation that once you had all of that should cattle ship it out of you? It's like you have to unlearn what you learned of status quo. Get back there where they're already there and how do we just support 'em yeah. I feel like we're seeing a lot of that from kind of I. Guess You could say established professionals right now in the design industry especially over this last month and a half or so a lot of this on learning of..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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03:57 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"LLC Timothy Heights and I co founded the conference a national conference as well as a podcast that was very like it was like a year it wasn't nowhere near the greatness organism. Okay and then we realize editing was the thing and it's like, Yeah No. Then we. Timothy Bar, Lemons came and joined the team and Timothy Bar eleven tonight created the fellowship and so what we decided to do this year was to transition fellowship because we ran it two years in partnership with support from Google Microsoft, adobe etc. We are now transitioning it to and design and is essentially looking at how do we support black lab nets and indigenous youth that are exploring careers of design for us It's not an assess trying to replace what's happening with project Osmosis are interactive interact project. You know they're doing great work. Is More West they are at the at least right now, that can't speak for future bride once threat like the college age were looking at, what is how do we provide them a year of support of mentor ship a year or support of honestly technology access because we actually do them a different of tools such as we've given a Microsoft services for the last two years sponsored by Microsoft Google have given him things etc, and also supporting them with doing their own social impact, an equity projects using their own craft. And so and design is now more. So like with designed capacity, it was kind of everyone in everything whereas with and designed specifically focusing on black lat, next indigenous creative youth, and helping them on their pipeline and the flip side of that in the future, we want to also work with institutions to really think about how they improve their cultures when it comes to also low and mid level promotion and thinking about retention of young creatives of versus you know recruitment which allow it if they're doing that, let's just say that. Group mess many of them only on pipeline and don't really think about the retention piece the promotion piece why don't we have more particularly people of Color in leadership and many of these desires petitions? Yeah. It sounds like there's a bit of a lap with and design and with creative reaction lab and that the focus is on youth. Why is that such a like a driving? Force for you like why the focus on Youth You know I've never had the question for. Thank you, March. Remember that never had that question part of it is what I stated before, which is really thinking about how do we support a shipping mindsets earlier another thing I truly one hundred percent believe in is that you'd have actually been behind a lot of the cultural shifts and changes in our society for years. They to me on the architects of change and we look at a lot of the uprisings is actually the young folks in leadership the. That are pushing it. But what happens is that the adults tend to come and coop what they have done and receive recognition for it. Also you know. You're about to get on my soapbox a little bit but it bothers me how we talk about the children, our future songs about it. Right? Like the Children Our Future and not recognize that they actually can be you know the actors of change and impact now and today and have them build that competency in that capacity for change earlier on bursaries waiting until they get into a certain age or..

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"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

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05:17 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"Yeah. Yes and you know it's a team and I will be honest I don't remember the year. I want to say it was maybe two years ago I was speaking at harbour, is black and design conference we were actually together. When we were like one of the select nonprofits because we are not prop mostly what they were for profit or accent nonprofit organization, and we wanted US elect groups that people were kind of doing a hacker thon to help us improve and it was so surprising to the group we were working with that. Essentially I was the only. full-time team member and I wasn't even paid yet for my job and they were like wait. So you all have done all this and it's just volunteers. Y-. Yeah I literally just to paid for reaction lab in two thousand, late two, thousand, seventeen, fulltime summer, two, thousand eighteen, and now we've gone from essentially one and a half team members to about to open applications hopefully for four new staff members in addition to the fact that we also have three full time in office or part time and six fulltime Americorps vistas as well as summer sow. So it's we have grown a lot in a little bit of time that we've had and we've always been able to do a lot more even with the little bit of staff. Yeah can you? Can you talk a little bit about like the staff like how did you build a team to help? Support, all of this I will say you know there's there's positives and negatives in the way that we approach the team. So and that's me being completely vulnerable and transparent because I'm a first time entrepreneur and learning while doing, and so we are quote unquote, a younger team which again as part of our mission focusing on youth anyway. But I will say that majority of our team members are based in the Saint Louis area there's intention of keeping headquartered here..

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05:56 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"This is not going to happen and so we. decided to focus on black and Latte next you in thinking about, they will be the ones that'd be able to do this work in a long haul to to honestly shift mindsets earlier, and so that has been our focus for the last three years and I couldn't be happier that we made that decision. It was the right decision and that been also led to US pioneering new former creative problem solving called Equity Center community design that is now being used around the world and I am not exaggerating we literally have phone calls for people in. Fiji? And really looking at how do we bring the positives of the design field, which is around action doing testing prototyping movement, and also the positives of the diversity equity inclusion field, which is around consciousness-raising also built like I said, reflecting on your biopsies reflecting on your privileges and also thinking about who's in the room, how identity show up in the space as well as history healing power dynamics. Until we merged that into a framework of equity, Senate, community design, and so the best curriculum and that is also something we open source for others to youth within our own communities. Wow. Worldwide that is awesome. That is really really awesome. What sort of new endeavors are on the horizon for creative reaction that I feel like This pandemic a lot of companies are either pivoting two different models or they are now discovering new ways of connecting with customers and clients. Yeah. I will say it's been interesting because last summer we actually decided to explore whether it's virtual engagement looked like. So maybe we knew something coming I don't know but we we started to explore that in part of it was because again with our free up the framework in the field. Guide that we created around our work extending worldwide we kept receiving messages from folks saying I WANNA learn as I wanNA bring this to a young leaders. I want to do this in my work environment, but you only do work domestically, which I will be very honest. Does attention -ality about doing work in the United States particularly with us we have not changed model that will remain consistent because we believe that we should not. Be going into other people's communities that we don't have any knowledge of that. Honestly have this colonization sabre complexity mindset. We we completely shatter that we even support it, and so our work with us is one hundred percent united. States and we also recognize that again to get to echo society it is not going to be just a worker critic reaction to work of a lot of people, a lot of institutions and so we. Decided to explore virtual did research on it for about six months, and then the pandemic Kinda rose up and so we look essentially rolled out some things we were looking at two. So we wrote our redesign owners in action webinar series, which so far has already had two thousand attendees with these Webinar series also Surprisingly, we released one that was just going to be a one off called..

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06:00 min | 9 months ago

"antionette" Discussed on Revision Path

"CO founder and Co Director of Design Plus Diversity Llc I have to say I've been really excited just to have you back on the show I think over the years since I've done revision path. You've probably been one of the top if not the most requested guest to have on the show and I had been telling people like well, I talked to Internet back in twenty fourteen but I think now given just the state of the world and everything else that's happened in the design industry and with your career since then it's good to have this update but we you talked to me before anything given like really popped off like you. You know that foresight. So. Yeah. I'm excited to be back and also very thankful and humble that you saw something even back then before everything can happen. So thank you. Oh, thank you. How are you holding up during time I? Mean this pandemic I feel like is turned everyone's world upside down it did and it didn't at the same time. So I'm pretty sure my husband is actually happier now. They're making happen. It was interesting. Last fall. I did I start to do the study of how much travel Abbas doing and I actually was traveling over one hundred days a year it was actually more around one hundred and twenty on average and my husband made his Christmas wish was for me to be home for a year. I kept telling him that is never ever going to happen. I apologize to everyone for unfortunately maybe unwillingly being part of the reason, the pandemic is keeping people home maybe my husband puts up in an air to be like. It's been good for me personally because I'm home more with my husband and my son's professionally was where some challenges where a credit reaction out, we lost majority of our clients and then due to the Katina's murder of black people within the United States. It actually increased our clients and so you know it's been Eban flow my answer to most folks usually as that, I'm survive in an thriving..

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02:39 min | 9 months ago

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Talking to Kids About Race

Therapy for Black Girls

08:45 min | 1 year ago

Talking to Kids About Race

"Thank you so much for joining us today Dr Palmer. Oh It's my pleasure. Yes I'm excited to have you so you are the author of a new book called. Daddy why am I brown and I know that this is a conversation you know I would say probably over the past year. We've seen lots of conversations about parents talking to their kids about race. And so I think that your book will be nice for kind of adds to their home library to really be able to have some of these conversations but I want to start with hearing. Is there such a thing as a child being too young to start talking about race? You know that that's a tricky thing with hope that you could shelter kids from oppressive nature of race and all that stuff but the reality is is that if your child is going to be out in the world you're going to go to preschool. They're going to walk with you to a store. They're going to be able to understand what's around them. Then they're going to encounter race. They're going to encounter their own race. You know there's a lot of research out there that shows that these encounters happen as early as three or four years old so acting that it's better to prepare tunes and help him get the united of what's going on prior to that. I encounter so that they could better navigated. Because the way you navigate that encounter experience with racism racism. All of that and be profoundly important away this. You're able to cope your life. We know like you're saying that like some of the research indicates at kids have some of these experiences as early as three are they typically negative experiences or is it more like kids realizing like all of our skin looks different. You know it very much depends. I don't know if there's a a more often case at this point but I think that the way that the racial identity models were built cross has a racial identity model. That's kind of the beginning of that. But before that even France non this idea of on a finding yourself as the other is what we talked about as encounter experienced. I don't think that finding yourself as other ever really feels good when you think the same as everyone else I think that that that's something. You have to contend with because that otherness At the very core of that otherness is ally right so not gonNa feel good to be told that you're something different when really our skin color and the differences that are visible. They're skinny they're not really important to who we are. You know intellectually spiritually are person. Are Senator Self our not about necessarily those external Trees and she typical when we are placed into context where racism important. It is this kind of thing that we will be treated differently. So I think that kids can kind of be ushered into this idea of simply for blackbeard's you can be ushered into blackness in a really positive way but you're still being ushered into context the whole question and there's no way to to change that without changing the oppression It's not there. Shelter your kid from that because they're gonNA be walking on the street and stuff happened so. I think that what we do as elders to children we prepare them as much as possible and give them the tools so he can navigate any of these experiences. Antionette is always struggled because I am a parent and so you know it. It does feel like a very fine balance between like helping them to just be proud of themselves as young black boys and also like one. Isa Shelter them but knowing that you really can't because they exist in the world and so how do you kind of assess like what is appropriate? Talk with them about about the realities of the world at a certain age. People like to talk about meeting people where they are and I think that that is the way to do it with children You'RE NOT GONNA you're not gonNA come to a kindergarten class and be like. Let me explain you the duality of identity in an to person hood in you know you're not gonna go into like you know critical in that way because they haven't learned the foundations to and understand it but she can't talk about. You know what happens when people say mean things to what happens when people talk about describe you what. What did you do when you describe it other people you know like when you're talking about someone in the Pre k? Age Group were kindergarten. Age will come out on a mental. Would colors me would appreciate letters mean. How do you print letters? How do you figure out the days of the week so I think that you bring it to their space and talk about some of the basic the most basic parts of it? You help them to understand you. Don't push some pass at you know you don't have to you. Don't have to come up with their opinion of what race means you don't have to have the fully indoctrinated into like the the joy of blackness. But she should have them understand that. Like for instance people will call you black. Your skin is not black. Your skin is brown and is various shades of Brown so though that's confusing for them to use the wrong color when you're being taught he's colors. Here's one of the reasons why you see what I'm saying there Yeah so really like you're talking about like really developmentally thinking about like what other kinds of things they're learning and how you can kinda couch it in in some of those same things. It doesn't have to really be about well. You know as adults. We're talking about our Russian in privileged in those things like kids. Don't have to get all of the scarier parts of it all early. Some of it is just like how do you just begin to talk about your hair in your color? And where you're from. I think that that's another piece of it. Is always like linking you talk about the race stuff but to link it to you know ethnicity in culture and help children understand that a different things and the mean different things. You should take different meaning and so you thought his. Take more of a proactive approach. As opposed to waiting for the first you know maybe negative racial experienced to happen. You don't wait for children to encounter bad things generally like you. Don't take your child out and let them play in the front yard without telling them how to deal with sidewalk in the street. The boundary of the grass and people coming by. He tells them you know. Don't talk to strangers lapasset sidewalk there. Don't run in this area. The Iraq you know you give them that early warning so that they have at least some sort of conception of being cautious hand and thinking about their surroundings so they can begin to understand again. I think that this is where show with 'cause you're right like I really enjoyed that analogy because that does help me think about it differently. I think where I struggle is like introducing like almost this paranoia that of course I experience right as apparent in like an adult in the world but like not necessarily introducing debts. Kids too young. I guess the question to ask. Is it really paranoia? So I grew up in a predominantly white and Asian area of San Diego and I was one of two black kids through black kids. Asthma time. Most of my life as a K. Through twelve kid and I encountered racism very early and some of it was not even direct. Like there wasn't necessarily someone drop an imbalance towards me. It might just be that wikileaks. Wanted to and you know there was no different except for the skin color and I didn't understand what was going on. You know I didn't always understand what was happening in those spaces in having an idea that hey you know this might be going on. They might be making the wrong kinds of judgments when they might not understand things correctly. Might help to get through some of those spaces again. It's not necessarily teaching kids the scariest parts of this. But it's about the same way you tell kids. Hey you know if your brother your sister issue that doesn't mean that you get back and here's the reasons why in here's how you deal with like the concept of you. Don't talk about the concept of forgiveness but you you do talk about you know. You can't stay mad. You know you have to do things to repair your relationship with your kids and between peers and things like that new. Find those ways in the language at the child can understand so that they can be to again start to develop unhealthy ways to deal with things that will affect them for us. Our lives

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"antionette" Discussed on Angela Yee's Lip Service

Angela Yee's Lip Service

02:22 min | 1 year ago

"antionette" Discussed on Angela Yee's Lip Service

"A comment in my legs like Oh look and you're like oh I didn't see you were like you never replied so she went through a period of time. When you guys just didn't talk to each other like had a falling out we invite a lot especially when we were writing the book each day? And then we're friends. The next minute. So no no grudges so when she first started dating which she first got married we had this blow out and I was like. Up Shade. At I'm Pat. Don't don't call me back. Five minutes later lead our culture and her husband was like wait. You just cross out you WanNa talk to her bike yes I think. We don't hold grudges with people outside of our twenty entity because we've grown accustomed to all right. Just let me go. Yeah like deal with it later. We used to I and then get along after twenty minutes. You know 'cause we we asked like we were here and she was getting angry. So I like her but says skid off my mark. I'm like look what you did to me too bad so have you. Oh better. We were in no but he they would like the neighborhood twins so everyone in flatbush so we were like it was because I wanted to see a tweet with the twins so it's like ball now wrong ones your point when and now we really appreciate this was really fun. And I'm sure we'll have you back again double Dalmatia. You'll get this book only as Chaser Antoinette. Thank you so much appreciate you guys. At goes toys GONNA turn. The Queensland is a powerful consciousness raising love story that confronts the staggering human toll of racism and a life shattering price of violence from universal pictures and make re..

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"antionette" Discussed on Angela Yee's Lip Service

Angela Yee's Lip Service

12:00 min | 1 year ago

"antionette" Discussed on Angela Yee's Lip Service

"Can see the twins five minutes apart and it's all about business advice vice from women because you guys are both successful in your own right so before we get to the fun talk yes. Let's just give everybody a little bit of background on who you guys are what you've done and then we're going to delve into assume relationship experiences. Okay cool so. She's a long winded wants to I'll go first I'm an entrepreneur. When you're I started my career in media in radio so back in the day at hot ninety seven and built up the digital department for Ms Communications and then and I went to go work for Russell? Simmons Iran his digital company made it profitable. Got It to a place where we can sell it. We sold it when we sold it. He partnered with me. He gave me the capital capital to start my creative and technology agency call narrative and we want a bunch of awards are kind of a mass tons of clients like under armor. Samsung cody fragrances. Showtime won a bunch of awards. And then we'll packer bought the agency from us about two years ago. Nice Nice. Congratulations NATO. All so quick and then 'cause I joke she always says I'm long winded so I tried to watch. I'll be shorter okay. So I started in production as a production assistant works my way through producer. I say I was like what the horror of daytime I've been on everyday time show. Well I worked at Monte Williams uh-huh Tyra Banks Rachel Ray neighbor. I want to Emmys Doing the tire show that I switched over to the entertainment side. Works for Martha Stewart and ran ran her branded entertainment division now work at CBS VP of Brennan. Entertainment there So we are on AH shorter but is amazing just so Yang known to see how they became onto entrepreneurs and at a young age just knowing what it is that they want to zoo. And how close you guys. Are we call each other are built in and it's so true because you see how they finish each other's sentences and no they say the same things at the same time sometimes so so you know we're not lying so let me ask you this. Have you ever not like somebody like that. The other one has dated and been lying eh probably too much because she has horrible taste in men. I go for the bag. I just say answering that. So we know who's Oh yes. Sr so handsome that has really bad taste guys like they're nice and cute and cool but they're just not ready for commitment and she just tends to go towards bat so I feel super protective of her when she starts dating them because I want better for her probably I want for myself and to see her continuously you getting into these bad relationships where they're not about it it makes me sad. How do you know somebody's not ready for commitment when they don't show up when they're supposed to show up uh-huh okay. That'll do I think that's a big big sign. And then to when they're in and out and what I mean by that is they're all about got in on like Monday and then by Saturday or like two weeks later so like the lack of consistency And I feel like I am able to see it probably before her Kazaam in it so it was. She's on the outskirts but then I probably need to handle her little bit more with kid gloves because we're so close just like are you crazy like what's wrong with. She's harsh. I come to aggressive probably because once I was dating a guy and we used to throw a party at two Oh five Christie on the lower east aside and the shoes you should not be dating him. They're all these crazy rumors about him. I'm like whatever he came to pick me up from the party. We shared a car back then. She jumped in the the car and followed his apartment. He dropped me off and I didn't know she was following me. He dropped me off to go park in the garage and I see her and my cousin coming out and dragging the car away. We don't mess around with C.. Right though at that kind of be she was Yeah Yeah you know. It's interesting because sometimes more somebody tries to make you stay away from somebody and tell you someone's no good for me for you. The more you try to prove them wrong and you have to learn at your own pace so you have to be done it for yourself. You can't listen to everybody. I agree you know how sometimes somebody tries to tell you no girl. He's no good he's this and we can see it but you're in and you're like I gotta prove that wrong wrong and I have to make it work and I felt like sometimes I messed up a relationship with the person because if that's what they had their mindset on either they're going to hide it from from you or they're going to start looking at you different like wow. I love this person. If she's not going to understand this Kinda just like you start separating yourself from your friend instead of the Guy Yeah raise. You're not as open with Aisin. If we were friends I might have stopped because you know that friend when they keep data in the wrong guy I or the guys cheating and you tell them and then they don't do anything about it so then you stop telling them because I like that you know what it is. You're going to be mad. Let me so then. We're going to have strife so I might as well not even that is so true because there's people that you like. Listen she know what it is. I heard these stories. I know these things. I'm not even go by the saying anything. 'CAUSE YOU'RE NOT GONNA do nothing anyway you WanNa stay with you gotta tell them. I think I was still telling them after. You've told someone one like five time right and they don't know anything about it especially when it's somebody you tell them and then they go back to the guy and they don't they stay with them but then they tell them that you told them last night. Man Alice Alice. Gather at a lot of girls. Do that like yeah. It's like they confront the guy but I don't think they look at it like oh well let me tell them my friend confront at the guy but then there's also like now he hates you but you still with him and now he hates your friend right. Suzanne can't hang out altogether but he's only hating your friend for looking out for you. which is so stupid right but still yeah like listen that many circumstances that we've had where you tell somebody something and then they confront the guy and now you're both hate the girl they told right? That's why when I have relationship problems I don't even sell anybody because I'm GonNa stay. Keep starting to keeping this guy just going. Where's your release abandoning somebody? No I have a best friend who also stays in beverly show so the to in other words so that's my release that it messes up your relationship because it's like now you can't even go to your friend and talk to your frank as you low Keita's judging your friend like I feel like if you can't come like you gotta let people live their own lives to care. Yeah Yeah that doesn't make you don't care but you you like you can't you can't stop them from getting hurt. Ever what the situation is but I think imagine if she kept coming to me and complaining eating or being sad and say that after while I'm like you can't keep complaining to me I should and especially if you feel like it's Oh we got two. Okay thank you I was reading straight up on the raw sense. Akilah we work. What makes me think of? So we're going to flash back to win. Snoop Dogg. Did that. I Post Right. I'm sorry I thought about Gucci Mane which everyone wants us but you forgot. She was worthwhile Gucci on Drugs Cheating Gucci and Jail Gucci publicity with other Women Gucci. This is a writer who knew what she signed up for. So what are you. Think about being a writer like that being with somebody who does all of those things you but you stay because sometimes sometimes I feel like people act like. That's a women's responsibility. I have to forgive all of that and then they have to do that for us. It's so true men will be out being a writer. You taking the you. Are you taking a chance you. You're gambling because he may change or he may not right and I also think there's a fine line could be a writer but if it disrespects you Over and over and over again you've richer limit like I get if you've been with someone for like five years and you find out there cheating. You're you've had this relationship and you don't don't WanNa let it go so you want to figure out a way to make it work but if someone is doing that ship all the time he's never going to mistake at that point lifestyle Eh. Do you care about me and more often than not. Let's be clear like we hear these stories They stayed and worked it out but I think more often than not it doesn't work. I ever heard a story. Sorry where someone continuously does that and are like I think you have to do something I think if you do it for a couple of years and then one day you get up and and leave right. Then it's like men have to feel they have to feel that level of loss you leave then if it's really meant to be he'll come back but I do like I'm not GonNa say I agree with new PYJAMA. I understand why a man could look at a woman and be like I've been through all this stuff for her. She loves me so that therefore let me change my ways. Whatever after a certain age and stuff like that he went to like the guy he went to jail l. or he was broke and she still stood by and then when he got out she supposedly brought him a car so I can see in that instance? Being being the man and Dan she really loved me because I did all this shit to her so. I don't think that that means you should go all your door. Go through that. I know what you want to go to. You pointed out. Sometimes they have this big defining moment or this moment of change. Change where you wake up and you're like well wait. She has been there for me. And she's I ride or die but you how long. What if they never have that? What's your expiration date? The Laura you're gonNA wait or by that time the woman my feel like well you this long to notice that I was a good woman for you is like fuck you now right and and that's usually how I ended up happening but I think some woman get used to it and that becomes the new right and that's the problem that's what love is love is you treated me like Shit and I'm supposed to still be right and guys make you feel like I'm supposed to you're supposed to stay through all of that. You're not right or die one hundred percent I tell you right. They say I'm not ready to die. Shaken Jala Right. 'cause I don't think the guys like for me. I feel like if you keep on fucking up and disrespected me. I'm out like I just can't do that to myself. Is just like a kid right if a kid keeps Gona owner school and getting in trouble and then you put the kid on punishment but he keeps doing it. You have to change the environment and change the situation. Otherwise it's going to keep happening is cheating being a dealbreaker. You think I it depends i. Don't I think I'd rather a one night stand cheat. Just jaw shaw. Having released with someone that you're talking to you're having just sleep with them on my own own exact. Yeah a one night stand opposed to one time one person no. This can't be an ongoing thing but if it happened like one one said he happened to do it. I would be open to but I'll tell you I'd rather have two or three one night stands in like a two or three year relationship because that means as you're connected you're emotionally connected with someone else so then that means we have changed just because if you're that connected to somebody else then that's taken away from our connects. Exactly exactly US too busy putting should be going into us. Yep into that so back in a connection. It's sex doesn't compares. Bears will fool on relationship when they had sex. 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"antionette" Discussed on Conversations

Conversations

04:41 min | 2 years ago

"antionette" Discussed on Conversations

"So anyway, he said you take what timber we need to service needs. So they went in, and they started taking the timber, and then that sort of funded the first part of the operation, and then with the help of hand dependent handed he took on they went in and tucked on all the undergrowth, and then they cut down the saplings. And then they cut the big trees. And then they logged it, then they failed it they have to burn out the stumps. And they did that for the first twelve acres in the Doug the. Furrows and my father went ahead and dug the holes with a Matic, and my wonderful mother who was game for anything came behind him and planted the first six of Cain on those first twelve acres by hand. I with your mama Torres Strait Islander she wasn't. She was half. Danish him that was from Denmark, and I was either Antionette health and said and her father was from salon. Are you ready for this? We more royalty. He should have been very my TR. He was the nephew of the maharani of salon the time, and he'd come out to a strata as jeweler. But it was the lure of the gold. Know, It it was was it it was. was a bit of a Wheeler dealer, and it was the gold that attracted him. So anyway, he when mommy was eighteen is she was married by proxy to the amount around his nephew. And she wouldn't go review used. She said, don't speak the language or anything about the culture or tradition. I'm not going anywhere. She might have regretted that issue is putting the cane stores in that. She didn't he said, you you hand you servants come union, bathing donkey's milk. She's a I don't than donkeys book. I'm not going to happen. How did she meet your dad when grandma had mummy grandfather used knocker in the house bolted from the outside? And there was a little multi farmer who lived up the road, and he used to hear screaming during the day when grandfather went out, and so he went down one day and said, I'm here, and I'm going to help you and he let her out and helped her escape. So she. I went back to her family, and eventually she left. She went to dial one, and she must have been such a strong woman. I don't know if she married him or she lived with him. But with a Japanese gentlemen, and the reason she did that was so that when she was seen with him and the child they would look like a family unit. I mean what what a heroin. What a hero. This was her sacrifice for her child. So anyway one day. Mommy was standing at the front gate and grandmother came out and have brittle. Danish way said to Ivy. You see that man across the road. And it was a man standing across the street wearing a white suit the white Panama Brown, shoes and a gold fog that possess uniform. That was my grandfather her father, the child's father grandmother said to have a good look at him because at your real father the child was four she thought that was in the house. So anyway, he came everyday and started handing sweeties over and toys and eventually he decided he wanted to. She MRs Johnson, he was having a so he took grandmother to court, and what are the courts do in those in those days. I mean, she was this little mixed race child who have no rights really, they weren't really interested in her story. So they said to her with whom do you want to live? Do you want to live with your daddy with your mummy? Well, cushy said daddy because he was the one he was giving us stuff everyday over the fence. So she went with grandpa. Father lived with him. And he. Oh, when I think of just horrendous after some time, he realized that he was incapable of looking after this this child, so he put her in one of those gray buildings in an orphanage. So she grew up your mom grew up in. And then she said she was sixteen and she was taught to do samplers so clean wash to do all that domestic stuff and at sixteen. She was put out to service, and eventually she found her way to dial one wish she decided she was going to set up a business as a as a dressmaker shoes. Very good seamstress, my mother, and it was wild..

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"antionette" Discussed on MacBreak Weekly

MacBreak Weekly

01:38 min | 3 years ago

"antionette" Discussed on MacBreak Weekly

"Yeah that that's something day they still sound like they're ten yeah if only wanted to for for the opportunities for mischief skulduggery or actual illegal stuff i would like to record that to actual audiotape and then leave that someplace secure yeah i i wouldn't i wouldn't i wouldn't trust like a phone app the simply sends it to a server let's say you have a pick of the week mr antionette go yes i do we mentioned the beloved salsa goyen earlier in the show and i actually already had it's my pick of the week a boot camp a three day boot camp of scripting that he's hosting in atlanta in october at sea last year they did like a conference called the masters of automation this is the command d masters masters of automation downhome scripting bootcamp october fifteenth seventeenth in carter's ville georgia so this is really really special this is he and another a almost similar equipped expert will just again these two guys are going to spend three days teaching a limited number students all about scripting on the mac this is like if if like psoriatic newton had a three day conference on on calculus like this is the guy who was pretty much responsible for scripting on a on the mac and the first day is introductory stuff the second day is advanced stuff and then the third day is here's practical stuff for applying all the stuff that you've done and it's going to be very very hands on and very very not.

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