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"anita" Discussed on Design Matters with Debbie Millman
"I think now we are at this point where we've never been before in terms of awareness of the behaviors that are literally killing folks. Because of their identity. From the Ted audio collective, this is design matters with Debbie millman. For 17 years, Debbie millman has been talking with designers and other creative people about what they do, how they got to be who they are and what they're thinking about and working on. On this episode, Anita hill talks about what it will take to finally address sexual violence in our society. Leadership at this point, if they are not making robust measures, are part of the problem. 30 years ago Anita hill became a household name and a hero for many women when she told the world about how Supreme Court Justice clarence Thomas sexually harassed her at work. In the years since she has had a fruitful career as a law professor and as an author. Her latest book is resonating with a lot of people just as her testimony in front of the Senate did in 1991. The book is titled believing our 30 year journey to end gender violence, and we are going to talk about that and her extraordinary life here today. Professor Anita hill welcome to design matters. Oh, it's.
Derby winner Medina Spirit dies after workout
"The the three three year year old old colt colt collapsed collapsed and and died died after after a a workout workout at at Santa Santa Anita Anita and and California California in in a a statement statement trainer trainer Bob Bob Baffert Baffert said said the the horse horse had had a a heart heart attack attack an an official official cause cause of of death death has has not not been been determined determined Baffert's Baffert's horse horse won won the the derby derby in in may may and and after after the the race race in in the the spirit spirit are are derby derby horse horse had had been been tested tested positive positive for for twenty twenty one one Pico Pico grams grams of of betamethasone betamethasone that that is is a a legal legal medication medication that that is is not not allowed allowed on on race race day day Baffert Baffert was was suspended suspended by by Churchill Churchill Downs Downs and and barred barred from from entering entering horses horses in in the the next next two two derbies derbies and and banned banned from from racing racing in in New New York York the the Kentucky Kentucky horse horse racing racing commission commission has has been been investigating investigating the the case case Medina Medina spirit spirit had had five five wins wins in in ten ten career career starts starts I'm I'm a a Donahue Donahue the the three three year year old old colt colt collapsed collapsed and and died died after after a a workout workout at at Santa Santa Anita Anita and and California California in in a a statement statement trainer trainer Bob Bob Baffert Baffert said said the the horse horse had had a a heart heart attack attack an an official official cause cause of of death death has has not not been been determined determined Baffert's Baffert's horse horse won won the the derby derby in in may may and and after after the the race race the the the the spirit spirit or or derby derby horse horse had had been been tested tested positive positive for for twenty twenty
Why Investigating 2020 Voter Fraud Is About Saving Our Country
"And Mike, again, help my audience understand. You have led the charge in trying to bring a case to the Supreme Court. That would be signed by attorneys general from states around the country, what is the crux of this case that you're bringing? In other words, what is the crux of the case that you're hoping that the Supreme Court will look at? Okay, I would rather I'm not a lawyer. I would rather that everybody go to Frank speech dot com. You can view the whole case there. But it's stiff. There's a couple of things. If to explain it, there's 5 states that are getting that are definitely defendants. And that's your Wisconsin, Pennsylvania. Michigan, Arizona, and Georgia. And now all the states have standing. The evidence that's there now is not the evidence that was brought before them back last year. And last year when they said they didn't have standing, now they have standards, not one but two ways. They absolutely help with how to accept it on standing because every state's got standing. The attorneys generals know Anita I need everyone to know this. We brought the case other lawyers who grew up this case that we brought into these different attorneys general. We met with them. We showed them show them that the election fraud happened in their state, Eric. I bought their voter rolls. An Alabama had to pay 30 some $1000 out of my pocket to buy the voter rolls who bought who voted and then the voter rolls after. So then we went in. We canvass. We showed him it happened in their state. I'll give you an example, Alabama. We show it happen there. And I said, you guys need to look at this complaint. And get on board with us. We need to protect our country. This is about who are a Democrat or Republican thing. This is about saving our
"anita" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"The minority in that respect. I know that once they happened in go public that in a most emphasis especially that i know of that support is not there Lacking some place or another either. You don't have a family support or you don't have a colleague supporter you don't have your clients support or you don't have your supervisor supporter or you don't feel like you have the support of the society in large. And so i consider my self very privileged. Even though people probably saying well how can you think about yourself. In that way. I do because i know what all of those things met today to my survival and then to my ability to take that experience and see me on myself to z. Through those letters in those letters were apart of micro th to. I had so much going for me and part of that healing. That took place. Was i understanding that. I was not alone others down there and secondly that i had training that will allow me to make sense not only a experience but of the experiences of others as well and i decided that i was gonna use that training that i was gonna use the fact that i had a lot agree in that my job was to analyze things and analyze problems and come up with ways to think about them differently in top them differently to unpack and then rebuild for what i believe would be a better world for everyone when you think about designing a better world and using the law and and using that tool kit that you had that strikes me as feeling so hopeful and and i i will admit that is usually wear despite my sacred rage when i witness injustice or how frustrated i feel with broken systems believe in us and and i think that's what makes at times. It feels so painful. When you see us being failed. And i can't imagine what it was like to testify and then see clarence. Thomas be appointed as a justice to the supreme court anyway and then to watch the cavanaugh hearings in two thousand eighteen for all of us. We just kept saying it's history repeating itself. It's it's anita hill all over again. And i'm very curious. How in seeing it happen again decades apart you can point to you. You know the math the law and see a way forward first of all. I really can reach a conclusion that you know. I did not fail. In nineteen months that the years had taught me. And i seen enough action in change fact that the number of people complaining about sexual harassment doubled in the years following the hearing the fact that we had record numbers of women running for office in part because they believe that they needed better representation that they were not getting from male politicians. The fact that we did began this new conversation in a way of thinking and that really literally thousands of of students have gone through classes and studied under professors who have been teaching us differently about sexual harassment and assault the fact that we have this emerging concept called intersection analogy where takes into account race and gender together multiple oppressions that people experience to understand the enormity of problems of gender violence. I believe we were building and platform and while the out com my single failure to many people the fact that even a minority of people heard us and her that testimony and and they have gone on to respond to at through their own. Work was enough for me to know that the world has changed since nineteen ninety-one and.
"anita" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"Thank you so much for joining me on the show today. i'm. I'm so thrilled to have you here. And i just i have a million questions But i'm i'm trying to call my you know activists social change worker fan girl heart Looking at yuan's zoom. Right now and remember that i have. I have a formula. And there's a way i ask questions of people's well we will have a great conversation. I'm sure i'm really happy to be here in engaging with us so thank you hope that puts you a little bit. It does it does I mean there's so much going on in your life currently and obviously these sort of famous moments in in our national history that you have advocated through But i wanna go back even farther. If i may because so many of us know anita hill this incredible attorney this change worker this activist and i wonder i wonder who you were when you were a little girl. You know what what your life was like. When you're say. I don't know eight or ten years old. What were you always the sort of outspoken defender or you in a completely different kind of head. Space is a as a young child. Oh as a child. I really was pretty bookish out and i was a really want to be a scientist when i was growing up and thinking about what i wanted to do. run through all the different things that that young girls and at that time thought about oh a secretary or i could be a social worker and then i discovered science and math and i loved them both in the quick story about my decision to not go into science but to go into law came about my freshman year in college when i told my first visor that i wanted to be to major biology and my adviser said well you know scientists pretty hard as and i think you really should try something a little bit easier and not knowing that i could actually reject him entirely i did You know i sort of deferred because at Mariah i thought advisers knew what they were doing and when i think back on it i think first of all i did do something in wasn't easier going to law school and and i certainly had tried to have an impact on situations like mine but i would. I would hope that today some advisor would say you know science hard but you've got good scores. Got good grades. Let's make sure we know exactly what you need to be successful..
"anita" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"Today's incredible guests is a familiar name to anyone who follows politics or law. I'm thrilled to get to talk with. Anita hill activist professor and author. Anita is probably most well known for her incredibly brave testimony during the nineteen ninety one supreme court confirmation hearings of justice clarence thomas who she accused of sexual harassment but her presence in the fight against gender violence and sexual harassment has only strengthened since she is a leader of the movement and a fierce ally to women everywhere anita has written two books on the issue of gender violence and discrimination speaking truth to power and reimagining equality her third book believing are thirty year journey to end gender. Violence is coming out this year. I am so looking forward to speaking to anita about writing the book her thirty years of learning which is offering to us through the lens of her expertise and about where her fight has taken her for the past three decades. But most of all. I'm looking forward to learning more about anita hill the person behind the icon so without further. Ado let's get to it the brilliant anita hill. You all know how much i am. Obsessed one of the great loves of my life. My sweet dog maggie. And i love to advocate for the adopt. Don't shop lifestyle so it's probably no surprise to any of you. That maggie is a rescue dog with the.
Fighting for Food Sovereignty in Kenya and Uganda.
"Thank you susan. Leonida for being on the breaking green ceilings podcast. Today we want to talk about the implications of free trade agreements. On african women specially from food sovereignty perspective. But i will start with our standard introductory question here on the podcast. Which is what role has nature played in your life and i can start with the anita or interest wondering for that first. The iba the videos descends to nature because he document shower penalties or by the social food at of a economic committee's report i'm raised from finding community and finding for so we actually directed me when we're producing Another thing i'd like to talk for example when you're relaxing use nature of that alexa eastern To league or whatever he thought we offer meaningless. Nfl but so you're connecting with a natural acid and of course that aspects appreciation mitch Your ruin susan lesser very interesting question but just to say that we alive because later is alive and if we look after it looks to us just the same and i think in the last two years we have seen exactly what nature can do when they tell you that you need one hundred million to get about for sitting as a boxy jam when mitch as playing to you realize the narrative changes as what we are we are leaving it and it's accommodating us. I don't know if we're being kind too for that's another story but
How Playing an Instrument Benefits Your Brain
"Did you know that every time musicians pick up their instruments. There are fireworks going off all over their brain on the outside. They may look calm and focused reading the music and making the precise and practice movement's required but inside their brains. There's a party going on. How do we know this well in the last few decades neuro scientists have made enormous breakthroughs in understanding how our brains work by monitoring them in real time with instruments like fm r. I n. p. e. t. skinner's when people are hooked up to these machines tasks such as reading or doing math problems each have corresponding areas of the brain where activity can be observed but when researchers got the participants to listen to music they saw fireworks multiple areas of their brains for lighting up at once as they process. The sound took it apart to understand elements like melody and rhythm and then put it all back together into unified musical experience and our brains. Do all this work in the split-second between when we i hear the music and when our foot starts to tap along but when scientists turned from observing the brains of music listeners to those of musicians the little backyard fireworks became jubilee. It turns out that while listening to music engages the brain in some pretty interesting activities. Playing music is the brain's equivalent of a full body workout. The neuroscientists on multiple areas of the brain light up simultaneously processing different information in intricate interrelated. An astonishingly fast sequences. But what is it about. Making music that sets the brain alight. The research is still fairly new but neuroscientists have a pretty good idea. Playing a musical instrument engages practically every area of the brain at once especially the visual auditory and motor courtesies and as with any other workout disciplined structured. Practice in playing music strengthens those brain functions allowing us to apply that strength to other
Anita Michalski of Hindenburg Systems on Why Recording Quality Audio Matters
"Getting good order from the get gir- before you even get into editing is going to be really important because if you get poor order and you need to rerecord that is a massive thing that will take a lot of time so just something to keep in mind the better quality of what goes into your podcast. The better quality. That's gonna come out so make sure you know your microphone. You know you might technique you're listening to yourself and you're wearing headphones. All of that is going to help you massively in the long run to get good quality stuff
Anita Michalski Tells Us About Hindenburg, a DAW Tool Made for Broadcast Radio and Podcasts
"Is a little bit different to some of the doors that you may already be familiar with One thing that really separates it is that it's not a dole made for music production. It's actually made specifically for cost and radio makers sir. It focused on spoken word. What that means is that it looks a little bit different. Doesn't have the typical tools that you may be familiar
Chrissy Teigen Talks Depression and Cancel Club
"Teigen is getting real about being a member of the cancel club. Founding member probably not wrote. I feel lost in need to find my place again. Anita snap out of this. I desperately want to communicate with you guys instead of pretending everything is okay. Cancel club is a fascinating thing. And i have learned a whole lot. There is no winning. I'm just tired of being sick with myself all day. Snooze in lami snooze in a okay you start buying what do you want to hear from the rich lady. I know you're gonna take. This is what i think. First of all. I'm going to take with me. we are both. We've set at a million times on the show. We are against cancel culture. I genuinely believe people make mistakes when they are different. People i think people go through seasons. They shed different qualities about themselves. I think she made a really bad mistake. I think she feels terrible about it. I don't think she gives herself any slack when she says i have crushing weight on me every day. I believe that's genuine. She's like damn chrissy. Like why did. I tweet something so stupid for this to come haunt me however many years later I will say though as well that she apologized. And some people forgiven her. Some people not forgiving her for her to come out and say this. I mean i read the whole article and i was a little stress. Because i'm like. I still don't have my full form opinion. i think in the old school pr scheme in hollywood. You make a mistake you gotta go away for a little bit. it's just unfortunately the ticket you're given. It's not pleasant. I'm sure it's very traumatizing. I'm sure she's not integrate mental state. And i think the normal chrissy pre tweets would be able to communicate that everyone would rally. I think unfortunately right now. The smartest thing for her to do is just take her medicine a little bit and just let us forget for four months and come
How to Make a Blueberry Grenita
"My first recipe is a blueberry gr- anita and it's really refreshing. This time of year is mentioned. You know with all the fresh blueberries. Four cups of fresh blueberries one teaspoon of freshly grated organic lemon peel a teaspoon freshly grated organic orange. Peel two teaspoons of fresh lemon juice and one cup of sugar or sweeteners. taste in a medium size saucepan. Combine the blueberries. Lemon peel orange peel and one cup of water. And then on high he bring this to a boil. Reduce the heat and simmer onto the blueberries are soft set. A fine stringer over the bowl. Strain the mixture pressing with a back of a large spoon. Stir the lemon juice into the puree. Show this pure. I in a saucepan. Combine the sugar and one cup of water over high heat bring to a boil reduce the heat and simmer until the sugar dissolves. So you're making a sugar syrup for about two to three minutes or going to continue then transfer this to a bowl and chill this also star this sugar syrup into the blueberry puree and poor this into a shallow pan freeze the blueberry mixture until ice crystals form around the edges of the pan about forty five to sixty minutes with a fork scrape the ice crystals from the edges and. Stir into the mixture. Freeze the mixture until it's fully frozen about one and a half hours starring several times to serve place this into tall glasses. Garnish with chris. Cookies fresh blueberries than fresh orange slices. It yields about one court
Cruel and Unusual Punishment: Pee Wee Gaskins Sues South Carolina
"That week. We go to columbia two of our younger children and anita go to the hearing. There's no one in the room except a judge and two state attorneys and peewee with the guards who have him. Handcuffed and pee wee presents his case and is suing the state of south carolina for one million dollars for neglecting. His hemorrhoids was worried and in pain and he was seeking relief. We were there in the courtroom. I expected five feet to one inch tall really pale. Skin really black. He walked in his arms were chained to his wife's he had on ankle chains. It sounded like that scene from the ebony screwed story the ghost of christmas past rallying his change coming in the courtroom and there were two marshals one on either side of him and they looked big and burly and he didn't even come up to their shoulders but they were so nervous with him and he was smiling. I know i'm the man. And you don't know what i'm gonna do next kind of thing. It was just really fascinating. And i was shot at. How smalley was in frail looking day was so obviously nervous. Hearing only lasted a few minutes. Peewee complained that the prison officials had failed to address this repeated complaints about hemorrhoids and their inattention to his medical condition amounted to cruel and unusual punishment. He requested the judge rule in his favor and award him. One million dollars as compensation for pain and
Pack Your Patience: 47 Million Expected to Travel Over Holiday
"Lot of people will be traveling by air over the Fourth of July weekend Travel is already at 85% of pre covid capacity. More than 3.5 million people are expected to travel by planes in the coming days. That is the most of course since the pandemic started classes Anita Vogel Tripoli says 47 million Americans are expected to travel this weekend and as people travel will be paying more for gas. The national average is 3 12 a gallon Nearly a dollar higher than a year ago, with the lowest prices in Louisiana, the highest in
Anita Diamant Talks Menstrual Justice
"Tough to be stranded without period products but the stigma around periods can be even tougher and neither diamond wants to help. You should put please everybody put in your bathroom. The one that you that guests use a container with pads and tampons even if nobody needs them it is a sign. It signals the fact that is an amenity. It's not a luxury that needs to be out just like toilet papers so and towels in your bathroom. Anita diamond is the author of many books. Her most recent out this may is called period end of sentence. A new chapter in the fight for menstrual justice the book shares its title with documentary film about a women's collective in rural india that makes and sells pads. The film won an oscar in two thousand nineteen when they announced that this movie had one. I jumped off the couch. Fist bump in the air they as the director said. I can't believe a movie about periods. Just want to ask. That's when anita got involved. The film's producers reached out to her. Because she's well known for her period positive attitude her nine hundred ninety seven bestselling novel. The red tent was named for the imagined retreat. The biblical matriarchs went to during their periods. We discussed the red tent in a live taping. Can we talk several years ago. Anita's fictionalized vision of ancient menstruation. Practices struck a chord with readers around the world now with period end of sentence. Anita is exploring contemporary menstrual justice activism globally and here in the united states.
A Feminist Guide to 'Carrie'
"Is hard to imagine a time when the name steven king wasn't synonymous with horror. The book that i put him on the map was nineteen seventy. four's carry which would also become his first novel to be adapted into a film. Cinematic adaptations of kings works are hit or miss to put it mildly but few have had the cultural significance and staying power of carey directed by brian depalma. One of the most significant american directors of the late twentieth century and also kind of sexist. The comedy stay tuned. Anita y'all i just read this shit. I didn't write it. It's fine all right The combination of carries narrative with diplomas directing style results in a film a fascinating contradictions. I'll veritas airland. You're so good. We can absolutely see the male gaze and things like diplomas love of leering at female bodies and slow motion and yet there are also a strong argument to be made for feminist readings of the film the anger that animates protagonist carry weight as her telekinesis powers wreak havoc on the people who oppressed her and ridiculed her and ostracized her for her entire life as felt righteous invalidating to so many girls and women who have helped cement carry status as a classic in the decade since its release the theme of the poll from which are patriots selected. Carry as a discussion topic was bad. Mothers and in the film her mother margaret as religious zealot who keeps carry living in ignorance of the most basic aspects of her own body and tries to make her feel deeply ashamed. Her desire to go to the prom have healthy relationships with other people her age meanwhile her classmates relentlessly ridicule her for her social awkwardness and inability to fit in. No wonder she wants to burn it. All down
Pepsi's Number Fever
"Victoria. And where nato angelo. Where a couple living in manila in the philippines. They had a pretty hot life. When i worked as a rickshaw driver and the whole family lived in a tin roof shack but they had a dream. Tim hoffa talks about this in his cautionary tales. Podcast and that dream is that they'll win a very unusual lottery. The lottery is called number fever in the lottery. Numbers are printed on the inside of bottle tops on bottles of pepsi. They sat down every night to wash numbers drawn on tv. If the number from your bottle top was drawn in one grand prize you could win a million pesos. That's equivalent to about forty thousand american dollars. That is a lot of money in the philippines in one thousand nine hundred to a life changing amount of money for victoria and anita if they were ever to win it but of course. It's just that one grand prize. What are the chances they would ever win. What was the number. The number was three four nine one evening. They are watching the television and the lottery. Juries held on the number comes up and it's three four nine. They can't believe it. Got forty thousand dollars a million pesos. They the children can go to college. Anita doesn't have to work as a rickshaw driver any more it would be like winning a million dollars in the us. Today but pepsi messed up and eight hundred thousand bottletops printed with the winning number three four nine so for victoria and horta the way i imagine. This is the run out onto the streets to celebrate and everybody else is on the streets and they're celebrating too because they all have the number three four nine on their bottle tops. So they're all going to be millionaires. Yeah well you'd think pepsi was on the hook for at least fifteen billion dollars
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Biden announces orders to 'curb the epidemic of gun violence'
"Center Executive actions on gun control issued by President Biden Thursday, president called Gun violence and epidemic at a public health crisis and said the second Amendment doesn't grant an absolute right to own a gun. The idea Is just bizarre to suggest that some of the things we're recommending are contrary to the Constitution, Biden introduced a Syriza's six gun control executive actions. They include tightening restrictions on ghost guns that can be put together at home with untraceable parts and no serial number. Another calls for categorizing pistols with arm brace modifications as rifles. He's also calling for red flag laws allowing family members or law enforcement to seek a court order barring certain people from purchasing God's Fox's Anita Vogel guy Well for two second human rights attorney and Indian host of the Gun Guy show on WNBC, says President Bynes executive orders are constitutional as of now if he tried to ban so called assault weapons. Through an executive order that would clearly be legislative. That's something only Congress can do. The president can't do that. But he predicts that might be the next
How Do Antimicrobial Products Get Approval from the EPA?
"Welcome anita peace. Thank you so much for coming on and giving us your experts perspective on this. I think the perspective that you have is unique. And i'm excited to have people here that so tell me a little bit about yourself in the short version of how you ended up in this particular role with the. Yeah well first of all. Thank you for having me So i am the director of the anti-microbials division in as opposite pesticide programs I started apa in two thousand four as a biologist in the fate affects division. Had a number of different Leadership management roles epa and. I started as the acting director antimicrobials division in twenty eighteen at had been there ever since. So i've been with the agency since two thousand four. It's been a great experience. That's great so you mentioned the word pesticides. And i actually this question before i said. No anti-microbials pesticide. Are we talking. When i think pesticide i think bug spray. You know that kind of thing so can you kind of explain how that's part of the the same division. Absolutely so pesticide program. We operate under a statue called the federal insecticide find decided democrat actor. Deborah and basically a fun guy and viruses are all considered as pests so normally most people associate pesticides with things that kill weeds in their garden or kill insects. But actually bacteria and viruses are also considered as s statute. So you anti-microbials. Division does regulate the registration in the scientific review of all. Upa registered antimicrobial parks. These include things like disinfectant sanitizer allies things us hospitals in addition to wood preservatives. Anti-fouling paints things that are found in a lotta household products. Use every single day. Like the paint on your walls the harpen on your feet the clothes. You're wearing all have antimicrobial. Products in them So they're found really a wide range of different
Kurt Becker's Stroll Through Racing History: Grindstone
"Only made six career starts but one of them resulted in a victory in the kentucky derby and burst onto the racing. Cd twenty five years ago this month with a win in the louisiana derby. His name was grindstone. A foal from the first crop of nineteen ninety kentucky derby winner dreidel rhinestones was owned and bred by lexington kentucky. Native william tian in the name of his overbrook farm center d wayne lukas grindstone raced twice as juvenile before undergoing surgery for a bone chip in a knee. But after a seven month layoff. He returned to the races with a runner-up relation allowance company at santa anita in february of nineteen ninety-six to start his three-year-old campaign. Despite having made just three career starts grindstone went to new orleans on march seventeen for the great three louisiana derby at a mile and a sixteen despite having nothing more than a maiden special weight victory to his name. Rhinestone was dispatched the two to one second choice behind local favorites arbs magic and it was arbs. Maverick stood and rhinestones way in the final furlong. Tony bentley had. The call takes me puts up. Magic hangs on the inside but it will be grindstone with the lead and sar magic. Grindstone when bill. Louisiana derby by war with terry daily with these victory that day grindstone was now part of discussions for the upcoming kentucky derby but he was lightly raced and no winner of the louisiana derby had won the kentucky. Derby splash gold. In nineteen twenty four grindstone stone would have one more prep race before heading to churchill downs. It would be the arkansas derby on april thirteen. It would be step up to a great two and a stretch out to a mile. An eight rhinestone would enter the starting gate as the eight to five favorite at once again. He would have to deal with the magic in the stretch. Terry wallace brings them home. Describe magic magic comes back. Takes at the magic of turn upset. Rhinestone was only eaten the neck that day but he would be heading to the kentucky derby with a lot of questions surrounding for one thing. Rhinestone had only made five career starts. No horse had won the kentucky. Derby on five starts or less since brokers tip in nineteen thirty-three for another. He wasn't even necessarily the best in these trainers d wayne. Lukas would be sending record. Five horses to the derby and lucas himself was reluctant to rank one above another. As for the rest of the lineup there was unbridled som- who would be the post time favorite. There was avenir from the west coast being trapped by a young trainer. By the name of bob baffert. There were skip away. Who had just set a stakes record in the bluegrass at keeneland. On the first saturday in may nineteen ninety-six. Rhinestone would have to overcome history. He would have to overcome highly talented and more experienced bows and he would have to make a furious. Run in the final furlong. But jockey jerry. Bailey had him in high gear. Dave johnson of abc sports with the goal of cracked late cabinet on the side of town. And here's optima to guide wasn't cabin on the inside was it baby. Mcquaid noted in the top urban grindstone and hit the wire together and it took five minutes for the placing judges to confirm the result of that photo. Finish but the winner of the one hundred twenty second run for the roses was grindstone. As one sports writer. Put it the kentucky. Derby distance is seventy nine thousand inches and by getting his nose in front of the wire grindstone had led only the final four but it was all that he needed five days later. Lucas announced that grindstone had been retired from racing. Following the discovery of another bone chip in the colts need may grindstone the first horse and seventy years to be retired immediately following win in the kentucky derby but he also has become the first horse in seventy two years to win both the louisiana derby and the kentucky derby he had won the first million dollar kentucky derby in history he had given lucas consecutive win and a triple crown race and he had made. Wt young kentucky derby winning owner and brief. I was never proud to stand next to mr young said lucas. Adding this is absolutely the happiest. I've ever been in my life. As a stallion grindstone would become the sire of belmont winter bird stone and the grand sire of classic winners mine that bird and summer bird following his stallion career in kentucky he would relocate to oregon and twenty ten where he would sire more stakes winners in the pacific northwest but the legacy of brian stone began twenty five years ago. This month with a win in the louisiana derby.
Open Water Swimming with Simon Murie
"Salmon. Really good to have you on the podcast list of all. Tell us how open water swimming began for you. Yes a my mouth. Was i High beau daiva sermon. Her as i was a kid used to cheese tightly diving my father was. He was a surf lifeguard from sydney and the night by came over here to the uk so he had a love of open water swimming and then my mammals. I love swimming in the thames. Eat so although the diving didn't work on may cheese. She posted with take me down the thames muslim holidays in our members sitting on the banks of the thames she'd have a radio times manip- picnic blanket and the radio radio full blasting all day. Sit next still with a couple of comex and would sort of sit there and go swimming in in the thames. Every sort of our next to the fishermen and this was in the nineteen seventies early nineteen eighty s when open water. Swimming was definitely not the sole the trendy thing it is now anyway. Something obviously sold of rubbed off there. So let's say it's down to both my mom and my dad that a soda had they sold of facination and interesting in open water swimming and i think the first significant swim that got my interest was the heliport in turkey which was made famous by lord byron swimming across it who actually swam it in honor of leandra who in greek mythology would swim across the halas bonds with laba hero hero on the european side at a cost of sesto us and she would hold out a torch which would then leander who was on the asian side in a causal obidos with swim across she would hold out the torch they would do their thing and then he later. That would swim back and then one night storm blew and heroes. Torch was extinguished and leander lost. His way and was drowned is body washed up underneath. Assess council and hero seeing his body through us. Help off the call cell and died alongside lander and that was the tragic love story of heroes leander and byron's recreated that swim and with a lieutenant colonel and head was the first person to swim the allison and i remember reading a poem. The byron did and also mining engineer at the time in northern nigeria on the border with nigeria and was remember reading a schoolboy but then i remember being up in this And a long way from any water and thinking was my passion in life really enjoy doing and our member. I loved swimming. And i always enjoy finding most bizarre places to swim and i remember reading that poem from byron and thinking you know what when i turned thirty. That's what i'm gonna do. And so when i did tend to that. That's what i did a win over to northwestern turkey and went to the town of genetically and managed to find pilots and get various permissions anita day military commission because the halas is also known as the dardanelles famous military campaign in world war. One and it's straight across from gallipoli. I needed military permission from the army but also the navy and also permission from the coast guard and the town council. It took me a week to get the permission and find the piler and about just over now to swim it so that token balance of time with hassle and everything and made me think there must be other people out there who want to do these fantastic swims around the world. But don't wanna deal the admin. Don't wanna deal the organization and safety support not was all so that was my love of of motor swimming blossom then but also the idea behind what i do today which swimming track which is taking allowing these fantastic swim. So that's where the idea came from far across a telephone digit. How how many well the nearest point. It's it's just kilometer across from europe to asia but if you're headed out from those castles kill it. The here is one of the council's as which was i- falsify during the dolphin those campaign in world war one. You started out from there. You would quickly be washed out into the mediterranean. So you've got to start off a lot higher up to start off at the town of bat and get pushed down as you swim across. You've moved down with a current toward the mediterranean but also towards the ancient city of troy. And you end up naeway. Troy is and you get washed down so you in effect. You're probably swimming three and a half kilometers but the journey you've got one is about five kilometers per year. Probably doing an effective swim of three and a half kilometers across you to judge a lot of boats and things like that on the way. Well funnily enough the day. I did it back in two thousand a managed to find his pilots and get the commissions and stuff but the pilot doors did site me. You might have the permissions but we still going to be going off at four o'clock in the morning when the coast guard. Don't start. They shifted six so we started very early in the morning and literally i remember waiting off the coast and the pilot just waiting there as quickly looked up and down the hellas. Ponto about anals to see if there's a break in the traffic and when there was a break in the traffic he gave me the signal as all standing on the shoal and basically told me to swim swim. It's a very busy botero. This is the same traffic that goes towards crimea and into the black sea and he stumble says all those boats. They're going through this very narrow waterway. So yes we had to get a move on when we saw break in the traffic having having done this you then. There are other people out there who would like to do this without the hospital organization. So that's really how swim track begun it. Yes i think so. And i i was passionate about going to play season. Sorta discovering them by swimming. I think what i loved also was this idea of arriving at a landmass under your own steam and looking back and seeing wave arrived from so to speak. I think arriving somewhere. And you've powered yourself. There makes you appreciate somewhere in a way. The somebody say who's arrived by ferry or by bokang possibly do it similar to say hiking up snowdon. Those who've hiked up snowden and those who arrived on the train i think appreciate the summit into totally different ways and i think the same is when you swim from ireland's weiland immersed yourself in the medium of getting there. I think you appreciate way. 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"anita" Discussed on The Emotional Happiness Podcast with That Anita Live
"And cute and so people come up to means homey likely you'll beautiful while you have a great tape head on my Gosh spirit and that's been kind of like really and So one of my experiences ways. I was at historic con. Okay and I was shopping at a store. One of my favorite stores. 'CAUSE so Bohemian. And I got this outfit there. Her and Natalie will be really happy but I mostly. She's the owner and so She asked me. This isn't a winner. Mind you so I was wearing a beanie and she said I love your spirit and you wear my close. Oh well I would like for you to be a model model my clothing I thought she was kidding. And and I said you know I'm a little older than you might think and you probably want the young girls with hair and I did this. I have no hair. And she said I want real people so that started and I did a modeling session with a few of her outfits Am Yeah my company. The other day we had a big company party thing I was asked to be interviewed and about my employment there which has been twenty two years That that was fun too so now you I'm here and I got behind the computers. So is this. This is crazy how my life is changing coming here after this you know. So how do Louis bottle up this positivist even in time of trouble in trauma. How do we bottle that up in in teacher to others I mean I can't say because I didn't plan to feel this way about it. I didn't plan to act this way about it. It it really is just me and I even if I wanted to. I probably couldn't be boohooing about it. You Know I. I've never been that pity party person. I've always been what people think I'm a survivor. And how many times in Malaya's what seven months uh-huh I've heard how strong I am. I literally said I am going to tattoo strong across my forehead. Because that's what I hear from everybody. You got this girl. You're you're so strong here. The strongest person. I know you're GONNA kill it so I think that's just I'm just being me when they give you those labels. What does that mean to you? Oh strong labels I mean I. I already knew that so but I just didn't expect to hear that during this time name you know and and it just it's like wow okay then I've got to live up to that. I can start crying now because I'm going to disappoint my fat club so I just had to stay strong but the truth is that it really hasn't been all that bad the time that it takes to do the chemo and the doctors not not. That's what's annoying series annoying I just want to have time. I have a million things on my plate. I had already so to add all this. That was my biggest problem. So but the actual the side effects They discomforts to pain. Yeah was there Eh. But it wasn't horrible. They really wasn't so if you WANNA look at it like you know Yeah you you know when you get a cold your your nose hurts. Your throat hurts okay. This is just something else. Don't think of cancer. The word cancer is so scary. So just look at. What's really happening? Okay so I have pain here. Okay Sam nauseated. There okay so I've got to go to the bathroom five times here. You know. Just do it. But don't dwell on it consultant Less speak into talk about people's fear for a second because personal experience to friends that were diagnosed with cancer one month of home. WHOA WHOA OF LEUKEMIA? Neither of them accepted all sought any medical attention. Yeah why yeah feared. That's my that's my assessment of it but they just accepted accepted. The diagnosis told the doctor that gave him the diagnosis. They would just One Toe didn't tell the truth. I said well I'm going to go home where my family can help take care of me And then the other one just outright honestly told the doctor look I'm going don't do all of that so let's figure out how to make me comfortable through these last year. All my gosh. Well of course there have been moments that I've been afraid and mostly because I have three kids and a grandson and I wanna see them and rescue dogs. We'll have four and my mother's eighty five with Alzheimer's so I take care of her. So my fear is who's going to do all that I want to continue living. So why do I need to do. the the medical doctors. Of course you know talked about Chemo and this not which is a norm but I had also a tremendous amount of people offering all these different alternatives. And the only reason I appreciate it all that I totally appreciate it but there were so many opinions in so many you know it just thoughts of try this try that I didn't have time to study all of that and then decide you know. Different cancers require different treatments achievements and everyone's chiming in with what they know because her friend or coworker CETERA I just didn't have time to study. All of it. Mine was very aggressive off when I found out it was staged three and great three so I needed to do something quickly And that's why I went with the Chemo. Would you say to someone home has received a diagnosis but has decided not to pursue any type of treatment. Get your paperwork in order. Get your stuff together because you know I love how you just accept. Whatever is in his role with it? You didn't launch into telling them No. That's not the way you should try and hold onto life. You should try in chooser treatment. Ah There are people who love you you except if that's the decision if that's what they did and then do we have got to do I. Personally I'm sort of OCD. Oh CD and I've got all my stuff did my files and everything archive so for me. I have some say photo books that I haven't done and yet because of trips that I've taken in. That's my plan but I've been busy so I worry at night like okay. I need to finish this photo books just in case because I cannot leave anything hanging so but that's my biggest fear if I'm going to go to go before I have everything lined up so my thought to someone who's made that decision and I can respect that they don't want to go through all that then whatever. I got him in order for a one K.. Retirement behind your your life insurance for your kids get it all in order then uh-huh and I've got mine in order just accept. What else can you do really? What else can you do? I did not expect this. Because is that tried to change their mind not try to as some say. Educate them on other alternative. I'm guessing when they made that decision already done. They've already talked to their loved ones. They've already we search and they've already made that decision for their own reasons so of course if it's someone I love and no I might know you got but if it's you know decided than than than get your stuff straight so that you don't know who's going to go through your stuff rate so get it all straight and clean up and don't leave that burden to someone else. That's that's my. That's my advice. That's my advice. What are you most looking forward to disliked in general? Oh my gosh will travel for one And I love to and I want to see other countries other cultures other people other foods routes and my plan really was to India and Africa. And all this stuff it really was. Yeah and then because I work from home I can go anywhere. Take my little laptop up and Blah Blah so I was listening to go and live. You know three months six months there and then this happened so now I'm stuck in Jimmy. Ah for for a while having to take care of this but as soon as it's done my daughters and I have a plan that We're going to go probably to Peru. Oh there's a huge mountain there the you can hike and at the top of this mountain there. Are these capsules that are hanging on the side of the mountain. And that's your hotel L. Room and that's the restaurant and you can see the mountains so we're gonNA hike it and then stay there and that's going to be your little adventure.
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"Yes Taken us here in the studio by store with national up put her in a chair I just moved here yes to what okay where I got a new life not the one I plan but a new life not so what did you feel physically Might well I have breast cancer view is that a washing the women who do not get mammograms regular basis what I see year because cancer can escalate really fast and before you know it it's yes because I'm actually like I just go so I was moved in but I and I found that out and I just had to spend the rest you know the rest of the year really are we get the news and I had just come back from vacation and I was in asked me of my doctor had called in the technician had called his son so I had called and I said no visayas had right now and then I took a deep breath and I said Okay give it to me and dogs I didn't pick up the phone and cried anybody I didn't want the pity party then I just wrote a tax and I know that seems very impersonal but I wanted to lighten I will keep you updated with what I know but this is what happened and your day we'll talk later about it and what was the response thank the number one reason he and my grandson why moved here and within the hour the rest of the day and he hugged me and he cried and so of course I cry too but a bomb on me while we were talking off camera and I do on Wednesday you have search I do I do and didn't work so yeah so that the idea for surgery bill and so from there will come up with a new plan but for now all what is the hardest part of this experience the time that it takes to be a outdoors riding my bicycle it's taking my dogs ability that's what makes me seriously or the hiking trails are but I do know other clinics all the hospitals and all the technicians ah the support and the love and I way was so overwhelming I didn't know what to do with it it was such hours and the fruit baskets and the cars amid shawls and everything they came about it not about how Saad I was or how scared I was because you're not and I wanted to tell him thank you later so health big technician read doctor every nurse I've taken a photo with them because they're part words and you know the the big stuffed animals than we watched our favorite TV show together signed to me like really sweet and kind and their job is having someone else who doesn't know me have to smell me and my staff to use the bathroom and finally I think the fifth day I was feeling better and I know that too but the first thing all of your tongue it's all of the great things just spend time with my family which I've been doing I've loved every minute of it but so people come up to means homey like Leila's beautiful while you have a great experiences ways I was at historic con okay and I was shopping at a and so she asked me this isn't a winner mind you so I was wearing a beanie and I said you know I'm a little older than you might think and you probably want did modeling session with a few of her outfits am that was fun too so now you I'm here and I after this you know so how do in teacher to others I mean I can't say because I even if I wanted to I probably couldn't be boohooing about it uh-huh I've heard how strong I am I literally said I am going to tattoo strong so I think that's just I'm just being me when they give you those name you know and and it just like wow okay then I've got to live up to that hasn't been all that bad the time that it takes to do.
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"A Oh my a survivor. Somebody who has just yes Taken us here in the studio by store with national up put her in a chair. Mike said you're going to do this interview because I okay. Okay let's start from the top K one just moved here yes to what. Okay where where did you find out that you had been diagnosed with breast cancer. Two weeks after moving here I came here for a new life and I I got a new life not the one I plan but a new life. No physical ailments Yes but just very recent and and they just went fast and so the whole thing started fast and here I am. So what did you feel physically At well I have breast cancer and so A little change political change to my breast size and and texture et Cetera and son discoloring so for the view. Is that a washing. The women who do not get mammograms regular basis. What would you say to get it twice a year twice a year? They say once a eight years all you need but if you really read on the medical articles they say twice a year because cancer can escalate really fast and before you know it. It's spread and mine is very aggressive so twice a year Wayne. You found out you'd only been here two weeks will you even completely moved in yet Yes because I'm actually like I just go so I was moved in but I was also traveling. I had a trip to New York for my birthday. Added a trip to Florida for something else and I I was going going going which I always do. but yes I was moved in and I found that out and I just had to spend the rest. You know the rest of the year really early from October to December Getting tasked all kinds of tasks his first reaction You know they say you always remember what you were doing where you were. Are we get the news and I had just come back from vacation and I was in my kitchen making breakfast and I got the phone call from the director of the Department Department of Women in the hospital to let me know what happened and when he asked me of my daughter had called if the technician had called it sounds so I had called and I said No. No no no. I knew it was bad news because he was calling so I said wait. Stop for a minute. I'm not ready to change my life just yet give me a second. Let me enjoy my life buys. I know it right now and then I took a deep breath and I said okay. Give it to me and already knew what he was going to say. First Person You told I personally I told I am. This is probably very unorthodox. I didn't pick up the phone and cried anybody. I didn't want the pity party party. I didn't want the sympathy. I didn't want the worry so I just finished making breakfast for my mother who I take care of and fed my dogs and then I just wrote a tax and I know that seems very impersonal. But I wanted to lighten the news a little bit by doing it about impersonal casual way and I just said to everybody you know you're getting this and mass I will keep you updated with what I know but this is what happened and and I don't like to talk about medical things. I don't expect you to so. Please don't worry please. Don't get upset police on start calling. Just go about your day. We'll talk later about it. And what was the response. Thank you because you are the one that is vibrantly living life everybody else almost show once they got it totally freaked out well. My son lives here in Virginia. And he's really the number one reason he and my grandson who I moved here and within the hour our He came over with flowers and a card and in tears and I thought no and he stayed with me the rest of the day and he hugged me and he cried and so of course I cry too but Yeah I just didn't want to trouble anybody with it but I am. That's why I did it as I did. I mean you drop a bomb on me while we were talking off camera and I do because I can't believe you you're so call your so vibrant in the moment to know that on Wednesday you have search I do I do and Yes and after surgery. I will have radiation for six weeks. Wchs daily at the hospital I've gone through Chemo for six months. Didn't work so yeah. So the the idea for surgery he is to remove the tumor and steady it. A group of Goof of doctors will study to see what it is why didn't respond. And what is made off in what they need to do. Bill and so From there will come up with a new plan but for now all I know is most likely at the very minimum. I will have another year of surgery surgery with a new Keel medicine. That's what I know. What is the hardest part of this experience that time that it takes to be a a doctor at the hospital at the clinic technician? That's what makes me mad. I'm not kidding. I Outdoors riding my bicycle. It's taking my dog for a hike going on hikes. Travelling and playing racket ball I was stuck in these clinics in these facilities. That's what makes me mad is seriously Asking I see so you know my my little motto became well. I don't know where the nearest dog park is or the racket ball court is or the hiking trails are but I do know other clinics all the hospitals and all the technicians in this area. So that's what angers me what has been the easiest part. Oh my gosh. So the support and the love and I and I'm here because I didn't expect that I mean of course I expected my friends have family but the amount the amount they came. My way was so overwhelming I didn't know what to do with it. It was such a fulltime job to respond to everybody and have to to keep people at bay because they all wanted to convince it and all the flowers and the fruit baskets and the cars and the shawls and everything they came it was just so overwhelmingly beautiful that I decided. I wanted to write a scrapbook. Put a scrapbook together. Write a journal about it. Not About how Saad I was or how scared I was. Because you're not exactly it was about. I wanted to document everything I was getting from everybody because I wanted to read it later and I wanted to tell him thank you later so health big scrapbooks. Okay Oh my gosh. I've got a box because it's not just notes about what everyone said to me. It's also photos. Every technician technician read doctor every nurse. I've taken a photo with them because they're part of my journey and I was hospitalized for a week during Valentine's so my son spend Valentine's with me dress and a shirt with red hearts and you know the the big stuffed animals than we watched our favorite TV show together and I went back two days after I left the hospital and I brought these beautiful flowers following chance for all the nurses because they'd been so kind signed to me like really sweet and kind and their job is so nasty. You know. I'm an engineer. I work with computers and and having to smell my own gunk I. It was nasty and having someone else who doesn't know me have to smell me and my staff and just stand there and be okay with it and you know I was there for five days. I lost about ten or so pounds and I didn't get out of that bed except to use the bathroom and finally I think the fifth day I was feeling better and I know that because I woke up and has a god. Something stinks in here. What is it and I realized it was me you know and I needed to shower and I knew then I was feeling better? I just met you but the first thing all of your tongue is all of the great things. This experience has brought into your life. Yes it's it's funny. It's crazy funny because again I came here for a new life which is all about my family. Just just spend time with my family which I've been doing I've loved every minute of it But since then you know I don't have hair and had beautiful long hair. Her and I thought that's what made me. You know sexy and beautiful.
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"Get your free copy at that Amita live dot com slash ample. And we're back with Jamila talking about tools for success, a chorus stone. And we're back with Jamila kept talking about tools for success. The cornerstone program out of her it takes to nonprofit that covers five Onis, which is a large area here in the DMV. So we chose to not focus on one area 'cause they're single parents everywhere. Yes. But you're growing I mean, it's good because taking on one county year one you're not taking on too much that you can handle at one time. But to your growing willing to service the entire DC metro area. Yes in not just one county as opposed to another because they all have issues and problems. They all have people in need. Yes. Now, let's move into some other programs. Sure. Because earlier you mentioned. The program that is based on the six pillars. Yes. Our position for greatness youth program. So that was birth out of the need to be more intentional in strategic about. How we deliver our services prior to forming the program we had workshops here. We had workshops there. We partnered, but it wasn't consistent. And we didn't have our own group of young people. We didn't have our own group. So we say, let's just make it a program, and we focused on all of those workshops that we've been hosting throughout the area, and we just put it under one umbrella. So we focused on anti bullying collagen career, readiness financial literacy community service leadership in youth. Entrepreneurship and this is come over six years of what we've experienced from our young people what they need what we hear our parents talking about. Because at the end of the day, we have to deliver in service our population in this our young people in our parents. So also do. Wanna make a note that this program is not just for single parents. It is strictly our scholarship that focus is geared toward single paneth. Everything else we do is open to everyone every young person who wants the support in that capacity the youth. Entrepreneurship piece came two years ago as far as under our program because the started finding a whole bunch of young people who wanted to get into business for themselves. And we said, okay, let's give him an opportunity to showcase it. So with our annual vet called poetry emotion. And we've been doing that in partnership with vicious performing arts for the past five years. It's a fashion show fuse poetry. It's all youth in in our second year, we introduce vendors with our young entrepreneurs. So they were selling cookies and lemonade. Ing cakes jury that they made in their art work. It has just grown from there. And a lot of our young people got their start in business at that event. And they've just gone onto a mazing. Things fifteen example. So his name is fat. Daddy. We call him fat. Daddy o. Oh, it's all that daddy's country lemonade. His name is Ron Cape June. Ron Brown junior his mom, and I are good friends. We met on social media doing service work. He has some of the best lemonade around. And I'm not just saying that because I'm fan, but it's really good. But he's built his business from I think it was three lemonades at our very first event. He now has seventeen flavors. You can find him all around the DNV. They had an event today imam does 'paparazzi in his sister wanted to do some things. So it really is a family affair and we've watched him grow. He connected with another community organization to actually officially launch it. Meaning he has vowed his articles of formation he's legitimate. And I'm just excited for him. So was that that allows us to do what we do and say, you know, what there's a need. So did you think participating in poetry poetry show? That was his built his self esteem to be able to go forward to continue to develop his business. Yes. According to mom. Yes. Oh, how old is? He he is ten now. Yeah. So we had our so that was our second one. So that would have been he would have been what seven eight when he first launched it. And even mom said that your event was his very first event. So he's gotten he he's very outgoing. And that was never a problem for him. But he does his own sales. He'll charge your car. They'll tell you how much it is. He won't tell you though, or how to make. But he's very good at what he does very good. Yes. So if people are watching this, and they want to know, how do they get involved? What are some of the ways that the community can get involved to help? It takes two. They could volunteer were always looking for workshop facilitator. So if your skill set is career readiness matter of fact, we have someone who's doing the virtual session for career readiness and how to prepare an interview etiquette. If you are financially savvy wanna teach our young people how to manage their money. And when they go to college don't get the credit card, and you know, if you are in business, you should
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"Fourth grade, which is unique about our program. All the way to college age twenty six and we literally have provided a scholarship at every level over the past seven years and we've awarded nineteen scholarships so far so that's all I knew I wanted to do when we launched was the scholarship. It was our lawyer who filled in the other objectives, which is mentoring. And so the six pillars that you're talking about falls under our position for greatness youth program. So that's not the mission of the organization, but we bring the mission to life through this program. So this program is. Strictly gear for fifth through ninth grade students a lot of us forget about that. First major transition, which is from elementary school to middle school fifth through ninth grade. Yes for but initially it's the two scholarship the twos for success scholarship where you give away. Is it backpacks? Full of. Yes. So we actually get the list school supply list. We shot we deliver it to the family. They may need uniforms. If it's college students you need books. Right. So we send a check to the college of the name of the student put it on their books. We add it two years ago sports at academe at registration fees, because we all know that grades are not enough. We have to create well rounded students, though, we pay for football. We pay for soccer, we pay for band because we want them to get that extra experience. And if they're already struggling providing food, then that's a luxury to participate in anything extracurricular. So we're hoping to. Relieve the financial burden of our single parents. How does a student qualify for twos? For success? They must live on our service area. And we are servicing in Toronto. Prince George's Baltimore City Baltimore County. And we add a Montgomery County last year. They must have to. They must have a two point five GPA or the equivalent. That's a huge area. It is eventually will service all of Maryland DC in Virginia. But it's being strategic in zooming accounting each years what we try to do. So that we don't have overcapacity, and there's a huge need. They were unable to Baltimore County. Yes. Baltimore city. Yes. Prince George's, Anna, Rondo and Montgomery, Montgomery, five county five counties. Yes. So we're we're really excited about my Gumri county because we just made a connection last week and they're going to start to share our sues for success scholarship. So that we can start to support those students in that capacity as well. And we'll look in the future for other ways that we can support them. So in addition to the GPA the service area, they must also the family must also be a single parent household, and they must meet our income requirements and our income requirements are those that either receive free and reduced lunch or the qualify for free. Reduced. Budget? We follow the department of agricultural schedule is a simple copy paste from their website into our scholarship application. In. They have to write an essay two point five two point five now. It's pretty decent student that has to have a two point five. I don't know if I had to. Two point five because when you're going through struggles in a home. Single-parent multiple children. There's a lot of distractions. What led the organization to require a two point five to be eligible for the program? There are a lot of scholarships that are three point three point two three point seven four point. Oh, we want to we're serving an underserved population. Okay. Personal experience. My son made on a row for the very first time in middle school. And he wasn't allowed to have me come as the parent to share in that achievement. It was only students who were on the principles on a row who had straight A's that's not fair. So we have to understand the disparity between the school system in the students and how they're treated how they're how they're celebrated. So we wanted to focus on the underserved population. So we want to bring highlight the fact that yet they may have this two point five, but there may. Be something in causing them to struggle. What is that struggle? What is the wrap around service that we can provide to help into excel in that all of our students are at two point five they are higher than that. But they come from a single parent home. So maybe it's the financial piece that is the the reason why they need the support. And we have seen our young people grow from two point five if they were at that level in increasing it through some of the wraparound services that were able to provide and simply them knowing that we're there to support them because we do more than just give them money. We've been the graduations birthday parties in we get invited to to volleyball games and basketball games because we want to be a part of your family and your now part of our family. So that's the extension. That's the reach up in the reach back that we provide through our services with that would be right back to delve into how you can get in contact with Jamila Kim. So that you can see if you qualify for those services. What if I told you that you could stop the negative tape from playing inside your head? What if with seven simple steps, you could leave the pain of the past behind and live every day as your true authentic self? It is possible. And you can do it. The evil seven simple steps to beat emotional baggage. How to become hold healed healthy and happy shares. How to resolve emotional baggage? 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"Welcome to that any the live talk show dedicated to providing personal development by providing emotional healing through sharing you create a happy life today at talk with Jamila, Kip who's personal struggles as a single parent led to the birth of own nonprofit called it takes two founded on the six pillars of anti bullying financial literacy college and career, readiness youth, entrepreneurship community service and leadership as you may have guessed by now it takes to help school age children become prepared any quips for the future. Welcome Jamila, Kip. Thank you so much needed for having me today. Appreciate it. Thank you for coming out. So tell me what struggles as a single parent led you to take on the even bigger struggle of studying nonprofit, sure. So when it was time to send my son to kindergarten, and he's now fourteen he'll be fifteen in may. I couldn't afford to buy school supplies and food for the week. I was able to do it with some assistance from family in France. Now, you working fulltime job fulltime job. Yes. Day in and day out day in and day out nine five and five. Employed as a at the time, I was doing customer service, and I've been in the customer service industry for over fifteen years now, so you know, in an organization while we're the most important part of an organization, we're also kinda lease pain. Right as well. I'm so it was a struggle in like, I said, I was able to get it done with some assistance from friends and family, but it was at that time that got laid it on my heart that although you're struggling with this one thing you're going to help others who were struggling as well. And you know, your pain becomes your perp. It does it does. But almost talk myself out of it. I actually sat on the vision for two years before I did anything because an addition to working full-time being a mom. I son was in football running track in an started going back to school as well online. I was like, okay. Well, how do I fit now during this time period? How did God continue because a lot of people struggle with what their purpose is what am I supposed to do? What am I put here for? How did it continuously come back to you time after time it kept nagging on me, you know, when you're supposed to do something. And it's like do it. Do it. Do it. Do it just kept coming back in different ways and always had that feeling of wanting to give back in. That's just my servant's spirit that I have innately. So we just kept coming back. And then it finally just fell into place when my son's track coach at the time who's a lawyer. I shared the vision with her, and she helped us to get everything started, you know, at no cost it was pro Bono. And she found our paperwork. She helped to really structure get the business out of my head and put it on paper. So while it was a while it was a little bit. It was difficult getting it done. It was also in a way easy getting it done because you didn't have to find the good lawyer, right? God provide at one four you have -solutely. You didn't have to come up with the money for it. Because she saw the vision and provided the services pro Bono. Yes. So all of that is a part of your purpose unfolding. Yes. In where you know. Is the it's difficult to treasure the road. But at the same time the rule continues on absolutely his so it's the timing. And I'll tell any of my clients, it is a timing thing. God will drop the vision. But I believe in timing as well. So when it happened it was supposed to happen. I just took the leap of faith. And he's like, okay. I've given you this now is your turn is time for you to be obedient. So once I said, yes, that's when things started to fall in place. And we celebrate it seven years as past February seven years seven years. Yes. In service to students in families. And was there ever a time? When you were starting it that you just wanted to give. Yes. But was that land because it was overwhelming at first. And then I didn't quite know what I was doing. Although I'm educated now, I have a masters in nonprofit in association management. But when I started at it was like, okay, here's his vision. What am I supposed to do with it? Now, I have these raise my hand. Call to action now people are depending on me to show up. It was. Gary. And when people always say do it scared. So I started out by doing scared with the education with the experience. But the people that were brought in in our path to get things launched it helped to overcome it and being transparent, which is what I always am couple years ago actually fell into about a depression because I was giving giving giving giving giving we do the work that we do we have to make sure we are fulfilling ourselves in. You can't give from an empty Cup. Right. I was empty. So I got to a point where I was just like I don't know that I want to do this anymore. But I got over myself with there was there one thing within developing the nonprofit that was that biggest brick wall for you. It was the support or the lack there of an out. So anyone that had a list of ten people who are new we're going to support next to their name. I wrote down how they were going to support when we officially launched. No one showed up. But it was at that point that I had to quickly learn that this is not for everybody. This journey is not meant for everyone. So it was getting over that initial shock of not getting that level of support. Macgyver has brought us every single person that we have needed for this vision to grow so step-by-step, the lawyer showed up got all your paperwork done. What was the next up? The next step was actually putting it in motion finding your board. And at that time. I had no idea what that was about. I didn't know who they were supposed to be all I knew that we had a vision, and we need people to help get this vision. Because as a nonprofit, no one owns a nonprofit. So we have a governing body, which is the border directors. So I did go with my trust circle. But I was about my trust circle. They were all church members. But one was in HR the other one don't with young people in counseling in their innocence. And the other was in the school system. So I said perfect this. Who we need to get started. Six pillars that you started. With it started with one started with our twelve later that scholarship is a lot. It is it is it started strictly with our tools for success scholarship, which is a water to students that live in single parent homes in those scholarships pay for school supplies books. Uniforms academic in sports, registration fees, as well grades grades through fourth
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"That? That's going through having an abortion. Well. It's a challenge every day. And I know what I've done mostly was trying to think about it. But to get into a space and right? You know, sometimes I write to her because I know today, she's my angel. And so look at it from that perspective like that child may not be hit with you. But you know, where that child is. And that child is watching out for you. So to just get into space talk about it and to not internalize it not compartmentalize it in and put it somewhere in shelf or put it up there where it's out of your reach you need to deal with it. And the reason that I am still shedding tears because I did that I put it away. And so my coming out was in the book, which was literally like, I said, maybe like three months ago four months ago today. And so I had to do that in order to get to a space where accurate forgive me ACA. Forgive me for the choice with the decision that I made I always push making a decision but sometime. The decisions that we make are not necessarily ones that we can live with. And so we're making a decision make sure that you pray about it. I the one thing that I did not do with this. And like I said before our prayed about prison are prayed about a lot of things in the past. But I haven't asked about that. Because I went with self what happened to the faith that said that he would provide that he would make everything work that he would be the hill that he will help you. And I didn't even go to him for that. I made that decision on my own. And so I think that's another reason that I beat myself up so much about it. But that's just where I'm at with it. But you just have to make peace with yourself. Make peace with yourself and make peace with God make peace with yourself and make peace with your creator forgiveness is a hailing emotion it secures you from the inside out and is never about the other person. No matter what someone did to you. Or what happened to you? It's up to you to make the decision to he. He'll for yourself fine Kiana on Instagram at the forgiveness expert. I'm your host fish shoulda. Check out that ended live dot com for where and went to see on a sold. Owed.
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"Get your free copy at that Benita live dot com slash people. And we're back with Cuiaba going through her emotional rollercoaster story of. Living life in a major metropolitan area. Because what she went through is not a loner story is not a one of a kind story. But we are here today to make sure that as the view is watching as you are here. You learn and we all. Do better is when you learn better, you do better. Now, you mentioned earlier that forgiveness is not a switch that you flip in walkaway from. But it's something that has to be managed on a regular basis. How did you get to a place of forgiveness for everything that you've been through? That place was actually behind bars when I was in a sale looking at the fifteen thirty years that I was supposed to be sent his with. I was upset and I was angry with God. Because I did everything that my grandmother told me to do if I prayed to God, then he would answer me if I got on my knees, if I cried out to him that he will make everything. Alright. And in that moment of being angry with him. There was a quiet voice in my ear because I was upset. I was just screaming like you left me. You left me? And that voice it I didn't leave you you left me. And so you have a lot of reflection time especially in prison where there's nowhere to go. And so I just started the really think about it. Because when I heard you left me, I'm trying to figure out what do you mean that I left you, and I had left from serving the life that he wanted me to serve going and going. Opposite direction. And so it had started to look at everything for an example, being the alternative lifestyle was a choice that I may because I really didn't like men and it was because of my dad not because they weren't interested in me. It was because I didn't have that relationship that I wanted with my father, and then I looked at. Okay. Well, I blamed my father for this. And then I blame my father for that. And I blamed him for all of these other things people have actions. But how we react is. What matters. Yes. And so if I continue to react to his actions, then I'm no better than he is. I'm no better than the next person. And so what I had to do is realize that I had to let that go. So that I could move on. I had to understand that they were not actions because of what he did. Yes. People do things all the time. Somebody might hit your car that doesn't mean you haul off and hit them when they get out the car. No you understand. An accident. And I believe truly in my heart that it was not my father's plan to be distant or separate out of my life. But I've happens, and I had to realize that for every action that he outplayed that I had to make my own reaction, and it could not be want to get back at him. And so from learning that I had to I forgive myself because I was the one who chose to do the things that I know I chose to pick up the drugs, I chose to be particular technique or activity that you did that helped you get to a place of forgiveness. So when I look back at it now, and the tools that I used to help other women and men as I you got to reveal it. And that's what I did. When it when I was in that sale. I was thinking about everything that I had gone through. And then you have to get to a stage where you have to release it in my releasing was okay, God, I'm sorry. I'm sorry for being upset with you. I'm sorry for the decisions that I made. So it's an mittens you have to mid. In order for you to release it. And then I had to regain my confidence. Because how many of us have been in any type of relationship or situation ship? I like to call it sometime that you feel that your lack in that area. And that you can't go on if you've been in a relationship where somebody's broken your heart. Now, you're frayed to actually love again. So you have to regain confidence all over again in that area to know that hey, I am where the being love. And there is that person that's out there for me. So it's revealing releasing every gaining your confidence. How do you help people do that? So we go through a series of steps, and I talked to people, and they want to tell me everything that's happening today. And when I listened to them, I'm like, okay. So we need to go back there. Okay. Because that's typically were everything begins. There was a person that I was talking to dealing with her. She was in a domestic violence relationship. And I'm straight straightforward. I told her, you know, you come to me because you want help and I want to be that person for you. But there are some things that you're going to have to do you're gonna have to make the decision the conscious. And that's what forgiveness is actually making a decision deciding today that you will no longer being that stuck place. And so I told her I said within your relationship there are several things that can happen. You can continue to be in this relationship and be abused. You can either be so upset that something happens. And that you abuse them. Then you can be in a situation where you're going to jail because of it then you can be in a situation where you die. Which person enough forget the other situation. It can be the one that you walk away and you're moving towards new life. What person do you wanna play in this row? She says she wasn't ready. And so this like I said going back to it. It's a decision. So the first thing that we have to do in any place in any measure of this is to decide because I can talk to you all day long about what happened back then was happening right now. But if you have not made the conscious decision say, I'm moving forward. There's no where we can go. So that's the number one thing that told that I give somebody to make that conscious decision to be ready. You have to be ready get yourself, and I go back to looking at everything that happened to me. I was mentally concentrated before. I had even met the bar. Okay. Hold on break that down. Tell us what that means, mentally and concentrate is the place that you put yourself in the mindset that you put yourself in the lack mindset. I'm not worthy. I am. I'm not beautiful. You know, when I look in the mirror. Oh, I don't like the way my body looks. You put yourself in that place. Why not say, oh, I am beautiful. Oh, I'm going to change the way that my body looks. That's changing your mindset, giving you a new spirit a new life. It's like a putting on putting on an anointing on your face. Right. I go back to church because I am faith-based. When you go to church, you don't walk into church sometimes with the anointing on. No. Once you get into it. You start walking in it. Because if we did we wouldn't eat thirty to forty five minutes appraising, worship, we got into guest. You to get into that place. Right. You have to walk into their hair. And then as long as you continue continuously do it, then anointing will come. Okay. So now, let's get into blessed hand. Yes. Your latest book. Yes. This latest. Note that I just came out with one it's a mental health Cohen. It's not that easy. Stop telling me to get over it. That's a book collaboration that launched last month. Okay. A pathway to forgiveness. Yes. Blessed hands tell us what is what does this book about? So that book is merely six situations in my life that I had had to overcome f forgive myself in and one of those stories which stood out which is standing out strong to me today. It's called heaven's angel. And that is a story about an abortion it I hadn't why is standing out to me day. It's because all my travel here. It was literally the same direction. Like when I got to the area the facility of where we are. Now. I'm like, I remember the street. I remember the street, and it was taking me back to that place. You see on television where people, and this is something that I'm still working through you see on the television. Where people have the signs saying, you know, don't kill the baby you're going to hell this third. And so in that story, I share how I made the conscious decision to aboard and child and within that it was not just because I didn't want it. I just gone through a C section didn't wait with me. And my husband, we didn't wait. And you know, then it ended up having to we got pregnant, and so I was faced with challenges of not having a healthy child or me, not you know, being because everything wasn't healed properly yet. And so and I had dealt with postpartum depression. So I was already in this place. And I I really didn't want to be a mother. I love my. Done. But I didn't want to be a mother and to hear that I'm going to have to do this all over again. And the way that the surgery and everything I was just like I can't do this again. And so I made that decision. And when I did I went in I wasn't far loan. So I was able to take a pill, and they said that I would have to come back, and I was really upset about having to come back to deal with this all over again. It's a lot just to get there that point and that point in time, and so I had to come back. And when I came back, they told me that the baby was still there. I could still carry to term, but it will be deformed. Because partial of her brain was gone, and I say her because I know it was a her. I don't care what anybody says, I knew my son was a son, and I know that she was a sheet. So it just brought back memories of that. And I'm still working with forgiving myself in the book is the first time that I've shared it that book came out actually, January two thousand nineteen and so I had I had to release it. I'm continuing to release it. But the biggest part of me is that I bought it. Somebody's destiny. And so I think that's the part that hurts so much. But okay. 'cause that can take me to a whole 'nother place. Okay. What advice would you give somebody that's going through that?
"anita" Discussed on The Emotional Happiness Podcast with That Anita Live
"Club. List? It was like it. Okay. So down in Hampton rose. There's this place called rainbow cactus, which is so much fun. I love that place. And they have a drag shows a couple times a week. And that's what we were there for my best friend wanted to go and see the show. And that's where she told her friends to come in meet us there. So it was like a group of us there. Okay. Then that's how we met. I just remembered. She smelled really good. The first time I met her. Did you ever figure out what this? Well, she liked to lay on the Cologne. Pretty heavy. I did come to know that later on. Yes. Which one of words, though, I don't remember good. That's probably a good thing. Yeah. Well, okay. So we go to the club on me hanging out. It was good time. We had a lot of we had some drinks watching the show. We enjoyed ourselves big time. And then a couple months later, we saw each other gin had a party at my house. Of course, because that's what I did. And and she was one of those people who spent the night next day. She was still there. She was the only one there, and I was like, hey, this is the first time we had ever actually been alone. And I was like, hey, how're you doing? You're still here because I just assumed everyone else was gone, and we ended up spending the whole day together. We went to breakfast we went to the mall just like to goof off walk around. We went to the movies like we just hung out all day long. Did you ever feel any point looking back on that decision? she made that there was some intention there. Ooh. You know? That's a good question. I don't know. I never thought that you mentioned. In this lovely book. That you knew are you felt like. You were coming off as the one who was being intentional. But to me reading through it. It wasn't you that was plotting. It wasn't you that was on. You know, you're not the first person to say that to me. But at the time, it seemed like it just we just kind of fell into each other. Because the king at the kickback exactly we hung out the kick bed. We were playing a vir pawn looking. Playing. 'cause if it wasn't explained in the book, I would not know what it was because I wanted to make sure a kickback is like a casual party, but you don't want to call it a party 'cause it's really just people come in hang out. You know, you maybe make some dreams play some games. It's not like a an official is just kinda like coming out at my house. And if it turns into, you know, drinking music, then that's fun. You know, it's not like a planned thing. So we've met yes, we have spent the whole day together we are now in item. And I'd that in quickly. Yes. Okay. And you are under the impression that you were going to the hub grew just for regular regular girls night out in. What has that's what I was told. I was told that well, mahogany again, she lives up here. So she lives in in Maryland. So she came down to Virginia. And she's like, oh, I just miss you. I just wanna see my favorite couple. I wanna hang out with guys for the weekend. I'm like, okay. Great. So she comes down. And my sister wants to go out and my other best friend cookie wants to go out. And I'm like, oh, this is great. And I'm thinking my wife, or at the time, my girlfriend was gonna come with us. And she's like, oh, no, you guys have fun. This is you know, I'll go hang out with my friends, you hang out with your friends, and that was weird because we pretty much did everything together to give I still wasn't like from this day there. Anyway, I mean, we spent every day every single day together. And then I was really you're not going to go. I want you to go. You know, it's kind of sad. But I was like, okay, fine, fine fine. So we get there. And the the manager was being. Kinda weird. She was like outside looking for something like what she doing why she at the door. And when we went in they wanted to see immediately in our whole party wasn't there. That was another thing that that was weird. They never do that. So I'm like, oh, okay. So we're walking around cookies in front of me. Mahogany is behind me. And then cookie turns around with her cell phone, and I'm like, what are you doing? How you taking a picture what are you doing? But she has the light in my face and everything and then I look to the right of her order left of her. And I see my uncle aunt, my mom step. Mom, my brothers and sisters. I'm just like what is going on people from out of town people from out of town people that lived in North Carolina DC, Maryland, mostly Maryland, the majority of them were for male, and they came down and eating my co workers were there. We had the whole section. Yep. And she proposed and I said, yes, 'cause you know paint. Cotton candy, clouds. Of course, I was gonna say yes, this was quick. A was we together I would have been if I drove from North Carolina put a proposal on a date of the marriage. You go to the court house. You too. All of a sudden it was leading. I know everybody were going to be a wedding. But no couldn't wait for one morning and decide you go onto the Kotto. We did we went to the courthouse. It was a day. We both didn't have to go to work. It was like one of those liberal leave days because the city was flooded out the whole city was flooded out. So we were in bed now. It's like, oh, we should just it was are inversely. It was our first anniversary. I said we should just go to the courthouse. We have been joking about it. And she's like, yeah. Let's do it. So we get up. We get dressed goes to the courthouse. But that wasn't the drama. I don't think I put the drama in their the drama came when she accidentally changed her status on Facebook and said that she married me. And she thought that I had to approve it before anybody could see it. But that's not how it works. So. Had like two hundred and fifty people in common. Probably everyone found out on Facebook that we got married good. That was not how was supposed to happen. Everybody was bad guy drama. Yeah. I was an accident. That was not supposed to have reading the. Gone house yet big elaborate proposal, and then the marriage is the quota. Yep. We did because it became overwhelming. It was like too much. I was getting stressed out. And I was like, you know, we don't need all that. Let's just get married.
"anita" Discussed on The Emotional Happiness Podcast with That Anita Live
"Get your free copy. At that, Anita live dot com slash ample. Our in studio with the amazing auto MacKenzie. She was sharing her story of tragedy and trial. Right now, though. You. I mean, your videos that you post for motivation on social media go through the roof. Everybody loves them. Thank you. And the comments are furious. People are impacted by what you're sharing. Do you feel that that love coming back to you when you post those videos, and you get thousands of us? It's hard. It's hard to say because I started off in this journey saying that if I can just change one person's life in just the unknown ripples involved with that then I'm satisfied, but also competitive so. All right. So this is supposed to be doing with. This is supposed to be saying. So when you put metrics involves it just gives you this place of like. Competition, and it's not really a competition. So the the places where I get the biggest nuggets or when people leave comments and they're saying how they're personally affected by it. Because while you get thousands of us, there's very few people that actually reach out to you and actually have a personal conversation. And it's those people that I really really cherished. Because like I mean, I appreciate everyone for giving me time because that's my thing time. How do you? Choose your topics. I live life, and it's amazing. How just on a weekly basis things come up and everything is just shown up at the right time in my life. I can't lie. It's just. Okay. Let's go with it. Yeah. Says simple you were talking about like what my last post was. This is the perfect example, my last two posts so a couple of weeks ago is just in this place where I had to do video, and it didn't really want to do one. I'm just like, oh my goodness. Why am I doing this like in the sea of just so many people delivering content? Why am I doing this? 'cause who is actually hearing this who's benefiting from it. And it certainly said I'm busy like there's plenty of things I could be doing with my time. And so I mean video just encourage myself to be truthful, and it said, you know. Who who am I in a sea of many like, I am me? And I I recognize my worth my gifts now. So I have to realize to the extent that I can share that. And encourage people to do the same. Then it's worth it. And when we start talking about, you know, talents and gifts like outside of like. Yeah. It was a neuroscience major. But I was also a student athlete like I played volleyball. Me your jersey. They did you know the year after my husband passed, I'm still in this dark place and trying to figure out who I am. And I'm surrounded by people that are celebrating like the things that led me to those accomplishments, and it was really an awesome thing. And then so like the day I post my video Colgate alum reaches out to me is like did you see this article? And I was just like, oh, no I didn't. And I was just like number one. I'm not really history. Like, I feel a little dated now. But for black history month, you know, there was an article about me, and you know, what I had done athletically at Colgate. So it was just like the timing of it all and it's not something I share a lot. But it's huge in my life. The people that were part of my life at that time, then continue to pour in like my team showed up in a big way. You know, decades later after I lose my husband. They were right there. And I was just like, wow. Wow. So in so being down and feeling like I'm against all odds. Like, those are some of the things that happen on the court. Like you look at the scoreboard. You know, how you're feeling you see the other team like I was at least drawing from a familiar place of feeling down in new that I could still make it. So. Do you have a go back and watch your videos to see whether or not how'd that motivational moment affects you. In real time. I look at it. But I haven't gone back into 'cause I guess this is Ben. Maybe actually a year, videos and. I know I've grown a ton. I I've grown a ton in the past several years. So my writing my speaking, my interactions me being more comfortable in my own skin being able to share without like breaking down knowing that is gonna be okay. Like you start off at a point where you're talking about. It's going to be okay. But it's not really, okay. Right. Right. And then you're just like in a place where you're like. Okay. So yeah, what does this optics that you've talked about and you pass videos? Oh my goodness. I think the biggest thing that I just recently realized was, you know, one of my tagline is, you know, I hope that we all find their urgency to live this life. According to a dream some purpose. And I've realized that that's a whole big mouthful. But like what does it mean? What does it mean? How do you apply the Calcio? And so I've mentioned that I work in medicine. See change happen. All the time when it personally affected me, it came true in a very different way. I'm a different provider because of this like those walls that I had up in caring for those people like I have no choice, but to have more compassionate in those scenarios or have a sense of like. More ability to relate and so. When I say purpose intention like purpose intention in time. You never know when those changes are going to happen. And so if you dig deep down, and you find your purpose 'cause they all believe we all have one we may have several. But like, I believe that our gifts are tied in with those. And Sophie realized that you know, we can define time. You know, sixty seconds in a minute, sixty minutes in an hour. But what's the time of our life? We we don't know like we know the average life expectancy in clearly my husband left before way before his time. So we would define his time. Yeah. That's an excellent point. We would define us his time. And so I believe that got has a plan for me. And I don't know the time I have to complete that. So every day going to be very intentional of my time efforts. And I'm going to. The most I can do each twenty four hours. That's why I do so much. Like, let's go are you following?
"anita" Discussed on The Emotional Happiness Podcast with That Anita Live
"Yes. Don't give me that look like every time. Don't kim. Then look because. That's a lot of money, especially in this area with the cost of living is really high, correct? Yeah. In the in the DMV, the DC Maryland Virginia area where the cost of living is the average house here is about three hundred four hundred thousand dollars. Yes. Average. The median income in this area is somewhere between eighty and ninety K. Yes. Six months of living. This business is a lot of money. It's a lot of money. Yeah. But what I what I generally say, you know, that's kind of the target goal. You're not you have to start someplace I was hoping to start small, you know, even if you have maybe one two, and then really as you start progressing in your in your employment. Sometimes you get raises and sometimes people increase their lifestyle when hit that raise something up hit and do all of that. Maybe you can capture some of that raise and directed towards your cash. Reserve not all of it. But let go at this grocery shopping and get a personal chef. Yeah. All of that. Exactly. Yeah. Before you upgrade on that to see how much that's going to be. And then maybe say I'm disciplined enough to carve off a little bit of that and start saving and put aside of cash reserve. But as you can see we have an expert in the Bill bills in we're going to see in just a few minutes what she can do with the person that stubborn with their finances. Like me. What if I told you that you could stop the negative tape from playing inside your head? What if with seven simple steps, you leave a pain of the past behind and live every day as your true authentic self? It is possible. And you can do it. The evil seven simple steps to beat emotional baggage. How to become hold healed healthy and happy shares. How to resolve emotional baggage? And feel free to live true to your own personality spirit and character transform negative thinking into positive thinking and become equipped to boldly face your pass and resolve emotional pain. Get your free copy at that meat alive dot com slash equal. It would with the lesson dairy. I can see Pam SAM's. Yes. Talking about personal finances. Now, let's say people who are like we call brianna and TI call them paper chasers. Yes. And they are all about trying to achieve that higher standard of living. So they're constantly earning money, but the also constantly spending. What they earn correctness ni- mostly they're attached to that higher. Life living that they've envisioned for themselves. What do you? What are the reasons that we how do you break? What are the reasons I say so emotionally attached to what they're trying to achieve versus planning where they are whether they are. Yeah. Exactly. And it goes back to that conversation that we had at the beginning is how did you grow up with money because if you saw your parents doing the same thing really trying to keep up with the Joneses? So to speak. Then more than likely, that's what you were going to do when you get your own money and your own house on your own family. So how you do with that when you were growing up or so it that that's that emotional attachment or if you saw your parents arguing all the time about money or lack of money then in your household. You're going to let that occur and you're going to be really frugal. I mean, but in a time period where we have tala payers Steve Harvey's. Oprah's that say, you know, you have to keep trying. Yes, don't ever give up and you had to take risk, correct? But however, you on that side of the coin take risk, but then on this side of the coin plan for a rainy day because you wanna you wanna threw everything at that, which you're trying to achieve. Yes. All right. Exactly. In your financial plan is really looking at what you what lifestyle you want to lead. And then, you know, really be realistic on can I cheat that but also realistic. About exactly what that is to you. And if that's where you want to throw caution to the wind say, okay, this is what I'm planning, but I'm going to take risk and upgrading my lifestyle or taking a particular position. Then you'll have a little bit of that cushion that we talked about. So you can go ahead and take some risk a little bit of risk as well. But you also want to have kind of a game plan that will keep down of that slow and steady, and then you can also kind of take your risk on this. I always tell it's kind of when you're investing always call it the racehorse workhorse, okay scenario, so you'll have a workhorse, which you know, out in the field ploughed consistent movements of what they need to do. And then you're racehorse would be more of your speckled who've investing or that taking that risk. And then that's that's a small portion. But you're kinda bit Neil yourself there. But it's more of a race type thing. But if you can if it goes fast, and it goes. Fast. Then you have that opportunity, but you don't wanna use their racehorse in the workhorse racehorse for the workhorse situation now. So you always wanna make sure you have both running at the same time. What emotions a what reasons do we continue to make bad decisions without money. Well, a lot of it is really how you're affected by how you grew up. That's one some of it is really about lifestyle choices. So we get a motion about and we get attached to things and accumulating things, and we get really attached in motion Lee to it. And so we throw caution to the wind and way, we're spending a lot of money. Sometimes you're so fearful because you did lack of money the to grow up with that. You don't want to spend a dime, and you really emotional about that. So I see that a lot is that people are scared to even spend money on there. Theirselves. I said you have plenty of money, you know, to us. But because of that emotion that they grew up with that hurt that still there. They don't wanna spend anything because all of my friends that are married the spenders of merit to savers. Yes. And it is funny to watch. It is. It is. No, we're at chick. Fillet? You Anita aware. Yesterday. You can eat chick.
"anita" Discussed on The Emotional Happiness Podcast with That Anita Live
"Get your free copy at that Amita live dot com slash ample. And we're back. We're sitting with professor oh twenty five. Yeah. H R veteran. Lisa anderson. She schooling us on the best ways to handle toxic nece in new work environment. Yes. Both from the employee perspective and manager because we're all responsible, absolutely culture. Absolutely. So what are some of the top three ways that everybody from any perspective manager or employees? Kin. Make the work environment pleasurable, so number one. And again, just from what I've seen over my career NS the easiest said than done, but I'm going to say it. Try to avoi- engaging in the office politics. Oh my goodness. It's. Just try. It was something the best the only way they're going to get ahead, but non times out of ten is disruptive. And is so easy to get sucked. In even if you try to stay out of a so easy to get sucked in. But once the politics star happening as an employee. Sometimes you're not even you want to set a boundary and try not to go there. But usually a lot of the conflict that I see in the workplace. Unfortunately, there's a lot of he says she said there's a lot of oh, I don't like her don't like him, or we all we're we're Facebook friends. Now, I'm made because you know, something has happened. And so you had a party and you invited everybody else from office. But me, yes. Yes. And then there's the the drama. So and then sometimes you have a manager. That's like watching the whole thing is like I don't wanna get involved as drama, you know, and and so and then escalates. Yes to the point that it becomes very disruptive. And then it is sometimes it gets to the point point where performance is then lacking. And so, and then we are addressing a whole nother issue. Right. Instead of you know, we could've nipped in the bud early on. So if you feel you know, that you are in a situation where that is happening to you try to engage early with your manager or or HR and try to get some advice on how to navigate the land. Mine. Land-mine later because you step you're too. Sometimes it's just the whole thing. Yeah. So so that's one thing. I lot of that a lot of issues come around that office politics. Yes. It does. It's a, you know, I tell people, you know, can we just come to work do our job and go home. Sometimes that is just not the case. So so that's the first thing if you can out of office politics, if you can try not to get sucked it, and if you feel yourself like important, try to go to someone that's trusted where you can get some advice on how to stay. I don't want to be involved in that, you know, I wanna stay over here. You know? And if that's not your manager that you can go to see if you can find someone within HR could even be a mentor that you can run a situation by to get some advice on how to handle. So that's number one number two. If you're a manager you have to address issues early and not wait. Well, okay. 'cause if you don't address them early it just adds to the toxic workplace because non times ten the issues not gonna go away. Just because we look the other way. Right. So address the issue early. And if you're not comfortable address. In issue early. This is one big thing. I like to say a lot of managers don't come to HR because they're like, oh, I don't want HR involve, and what that means is you can just come to us for advice. We don't have to come sit in a meeting with you with your employees. We're there to even advise you on how to handle it. And it may not even be tough for HR to come in feeling as well. If I go to HR, I got the document everything that's the one thing. Well, come to us early before we even get to that point. Right. It may be just even for you to have a conversation with someone and you're not documenting it. Whatever asked me for my paper. The stigma. We have right now, we do documentation come to us early. You know before it gets out of hand because you come to late, then we are asking you. Okay. How long it's been going on six months. What have we done? Oh, not you haven't had any compass. Then we're like, okay. Well, where are we? We're trying to assess the situation at that point. So if you can't if you see things going into a direction, you know, trying to engage early before. So don't play office politics as a manager address. Stay on the pulse. Yes. Your culture in your environment. Absolutely. And then the third thing because we are human beings. We can't expect people to set it off. Okay. When they come into the workplace, right stuff. Life happens stuff is going on in people's personal lives. So and they and yes, they bring it to work sometimes. So if you see someone that is struggling, yes, right? Oh, you see a difference or change in behavior have some compassion and reach out to the person manager, or at least let notify us so HR we can reach out and to see if we can be supportive to the individual to the employees because sometimes that's all it takes is making us aware if we're not aware, and if you're not comfortable in doing then let us reach out and just say, hey, how can we support you? And like I said earlier, you know, there's so many different resources that we can connect an individual with to try to get some. Assistance because we don't want our employees struggling, right? Yeah. So it does negatively affect if you have one employee that's top in even if you have some medium wins and some low ones once you don't address what's going on the negativity. That's going on in the office it brings everything else down. Yes. Absolutely. So again, just being aware, you know, and if you especially someone that's on your team if your manager, but even a worker, right? We talked about the cues we work side by side. Right. And so we we sometimes we're talking we're sharing and sometimes we notice our co worker soccer's different win the school called the upset because then shall. Yeah. And yeah, here you when you're at home. Well, your in the office which husband calls because he can't find his black Penn little shoot. I can hear you in office. When you sit Nova there in you're you're talking to your co-worker, not realizing that you're in an open work environment. And you're having this conversation about whether you and your husband arguing because you and your wife arguing right because your five year old wants a cellphone everybody in school has a cell phone, and I have a cell phone. Yes. So for you to then think that there's any level of privacy. Right. When you discuss it in an open environment. Yes. That it's that's unrealistic to think that you're going to have that privacy. Absolutely. I mean, and so again relationships happen, right? Co workers, and you colleagues, and you know, you built in relationships this drama in HR because it is it is why start your own. Leadership in career coaching company. Yes. Because I'm in HR, and I've seen so many things and I see split particularly women leaders struggling oh. And of course, there's a little bit of of me too in this because as I've moved up the corporate ladder, you know, I know what things that I wish I had you know, when I was coming up the corporate ladder. So I just have a passion from women managers, you know, to again, try to find their voice in this environment this corporate environment. Sometimes we're the only female on teen through. You may be the only minority very wanna team on executive team. I've been there. I've been the only female in minority in in a rural Fulham in. How did you find your voice and had that courage to speak up and let your voice? Be known as I just have a passion for that. I work with women on executive presence leadership presence. How do you show up in a room? You know, how do you present yourself because you say something when you walk in the room before you even open your mouth, right? So I just have that passion of working. How does a female leader be assertive? Yes. Not aggressive. Yes. And not get that, be nickname. Yes. Yes. Unfortunately, we sometimes we do get the bad rep, you know, a male can act the same way in the workplace, and we'll be rewarded. V rewarded for that? Right. Let's see. But when women show that, you know, hey, I know my stuff. Hey, I'm in can contribute to this conversation, and no must up can contribute value to this conversation. And when we speak of sometimes everybody's like oh. But sometimes we do have to be a little to be hurt. Because sometimes we're looked over very much. So yes, yes. And so you put idea on the table, and then, you know, everybody kind of brushes by and then Bobby says the same idea and everybody's like, oh, yeah. Thank you, Bobby. I'm glad you agree with me. Put that ideal on the table ten minutes ago. Now, let's let's talk about that. Right. But it takes courage to to do that. You know, some women leaders will retreat because they're not being hurt. It will push back. And because they're like, okay. No one's listening. Anyway. So why should I even try to you know? So them how I value. I do bring knowledge to the table. And so I just I you know, I know how Affeldt in situations like that. And so if I can help somebody. As they're going up their own career ladder. And so that takes some self reflection some suffo- wear nece, right? And so that's what I coach on, you know. Whatever, you know, everybody's not the same. You can't do this cookie cutter thing, it's whatever authentic to you. And your personality. You know, my personality is like really, I just sit that ten minutes ago. Right. But everybody's not like that, you know. And so it has to feel genuine and offense for them as the feel are thin -tic and genuine for you. Yes. You spend so much time at work. Everyone deserves to enjoy not only where you do it. But what you do pursue your passion. And do your part to make your office, enjoyable Lisa has given us a wealth of information to expand out to box for everyday living to reach out to Lisa find on Instagram at positively in pursuit. I'm Anita your host these should've check out that any live dot com for where in win to see our next up. Owed.
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"Sir. Welcome folks, another episode of that Anita live. I'm anita. Your host here today with me in studio is the clinical director of national pike health center in Maryland, co host of the on account radio show broadcasting on W O L be ten ten AM in Baltimore. She's the author of the bestselling book letters for you earned a b s and psychology for Morgan state. Go bears. Go. She is a mess w of social work from the university of Maryland law. These initials how many degrees? MSE J best a masters of science in criminal Justice. From Kaplan university qualified John qualified, welcome. I see a Ragsdale to the show. Thank you so much. I'm so excited and happy to be here. Thank you very much for coming on driver for way, other side states, go hang out. So what made you go into mental health in the first place. You know, I didn't wanna do it. When I got outta high school. I was I wanna do a career where I'm gonna make some good money. I went to Morgan, and I'm gonna this engineer. I just wanted to graduate from school making six figures and just wanted to build things make things work. And that's but I knew I was supposed to middle health always felt like mental health and pay any money. So I was kind of running from that calling and I got to this one math class. And I was always good at mad, and I just cannot understand it took calculus, and they were like, well, we want you to find a limit to Infinity, and as I could not figure it out. I mean, I spent hours and hours and tutoring. I stayed up all night. And I was just like, okay, Lloyd here you been there done that. I feel like he literally shut my brain down when it came down to this man class after that, I went and had a honest conversation with my adviser, I switched my major over this. Ecology? I graduated with no issues once got obedient. Once you got obedience got. Got. So was there anything once you got into Minto? Yes. Switch over the psychology. Was there anything that you begin to learn that made you reconsider? Oh, boy, not necessarily a psychology. I think what I got to my masters. I definitely wanted to reconsider wanted to run because when you get to the root and the level and the nature of people's hurt. And we really see the core of what drives behavior often times. It's so much easier to just turn a blind eye on walkaway. Because once you know, you're responsible and accountable in things that's easy to judge. You can no longer. Just judge those things quite so easily. You kind of develop empathy and sympathy for people that sometimes other people don't have empathy and sympathy from any almost kind of puts you in that same category. What you do empathize with the other side, you know, so it's kind of like the balancing act. Balancing act, so how long have you been in the mental health professionals have been in the midst of healthy mystique approximately says two thousand eight our had to say so a little over two routing years. Mark. And I started off on a very direct care level as I continue to progress through. Academically to rise up. I guess the food chains chain. So to say I started off at the literally very ground level doing. I started off as a PRP, which is a psychiatric rehabilitation worker. They worked wreck in conjunction with their. They do a lot of community based work with now break down for us and put it in say, everyday lane was your street terms is that funny is at bipolar Russian. So is all of that for young people for children and adolescents. It can be anybody with any type of mental health issue. You the apparent and say, you know, what my child has extreme anger issues. They have poor social skills, and that is a council like myself can come along, and we can work with them when those skills but in real life situations. I take them out for group of kids, and as usual, some type of conflict will happen in the moment when I see the conflict arise, you know. You can give them step by step ways to handle the conflict without fighting or without being verbally aggressive without being Cheyenne, quiet. You know, you literally can model enroll play in the moment with children, I know some adults and he's so. We do you know, I've done that. With the does the adult level looks like helping parenting skills connected them to resources in the community, helping to allow applications that a lot of adults take for granted that they can do some people challenge with that is you know, I was blessed very early on in my career to be able to help work with all types of individuals to get them to that next level. And that next step before they need to be, but yeah, absolutely, right. It's it's a lot. And you see a lot in view where you base where new C ally. Like, for instance, what was something we had have been in the area just within the last couple of days where a hospital in Maryland. Walk the lady out in a wheelchair to a bus stop and nothing but her hospital gown and left her there at the bus stop blessedly, though. There was someone that works in the mental health