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A highlight from Finally End Phone Fear Forever! (Part 2)
"Welcome to Real Estate Coaching Radio, starring award -winning real estate coaches and number one international bestselling authors, Tim and Julie Harris. This is the number one daily radio show for realtors looking for a no BS, authentic, real time coaching experience. What's really working in today's market, how to generate more leads, make more money, and have more time for what you love in your life. And now your hosts, Tim and Julie Harris. We are back and Julie, I have to say the feedback we've gotten on this topic was, is fantastic. Yes. It seems that we might be onto something. For those of you who are willing to accept the fact that you might be a little reluctant to have actual conversations with people and maybe just maybe that reluctance is leading you to have results that you're not that proud of. Well, guess what? Continue listening because you're going to love part two. We're going to start digging into the specifics of not just the psychology of call reluctance, but also really I think what we could argue would be the very practical application of picking up the phone and having meaningful conversations. And this is part two. If you did not listen to part one, please go back and listen to part one now because I think it will make all these extra points that we'll be sharing with you guys today even more useful to all of you. And as always, thank you for listening to our podcast. Thank you for keeping this number on listen to daily podcast for real estate professionals in the United States. Our way of thanking you every single day is giving you the notes from today's show. The notes from today's show are down below. If you just if you're on YouTube or if you're on iTunes or Stitcher or Spotify or all the billions of places this podcast is listened to, open up the description and you'll see all of our notes there. And while you're there, also, you're going to see some links specifically. Look for the link to join Premier Coaching. It's the next natural step for all of you. You love this podcast. This is the part. You know, this is from all measures that number one listen to daily podcast real estate professionals at least the United States. If you love the podcast, which we know you do, because many of you listen every day, you will not believe the value you get in Premier Coaching. So scroll down below. Click the link to join Premier Coaching. Julie, let's roll in and talk about point number one. Yes, that's right. So again, this is part two yesterday. We got your head straight. So if you missed part one, then you know, you know what to do. So assuming that your mindset is adjusted for success, let's get to the real work of real estate, the work that leads to appointments to contracts and to closings. Point number one, this is the real work time guys, make a minimum number of contacts daily. Remember that a contact is a conversation with a decision making adult about real estate. That number of contacts should equal the number of transactions you need to do this year to meet or exceed your financial goals. For example, if you need 12 deals, you must make at least 12 contacts daily. As your skills increase, that number typically shrinks. Agents with prospecting skills who have overcome their call reluctance can usually set one appointment for about every 10 contacts or so, assuming that they're making contacts with the likely to most likely to list prospects and not just doing something like circle prospecting. Now what Julie just said, I hope you guys are breaking down what she's saying. So the first thing is, if you're a real estate treasure map, you're filling a blank business plan which you get as the first level of premier coaching, once you complete that, if you determine that you need Julie's example, 12 deals in order to, you know, earn enough money to have all your financial needs once and desires fulfilled, well, then you're going to have to make that number of contacts a day. Contact is a conversation with the decision making adult where you're, you know, essentially answering their question, maybe following up to answer a question, maybe you're just having a conversation over at Orange Theory, but you're going to ask for business. Now as you become more professional and prolific, what you're going to realize is the conversations are going to have to start focusing more on actual people who actually have their hands up in their air who are actually looking to transact. Now here's the magic of all this. When you're getting started, it's what Julie said, the number of contacts equals the number of transactions you want to do, but as you start becoming a listing agent, then the number of contacts you make per day, you can adjust that to be the number of listings you need at all times as far as whatever your, again, it's all part of the real estate treasure map which you get as a part of the first level in Premier Coaching, but one of the outputs of that or one of the results of completing it is you're going to know what your number of listings you need at all times, not just transactions but the number of listings because we want to gear you guys towards being listing agents. So let's say in your marketplace, if you had five listings at all times, you know pretty much like clockwork, three of them would be in contract at once, maybe only two let's say. Well, your average commission is $10 ,000, you're making $240 ,000 a year if you have five listings at all times. So you're going to start out by making more contacts, but once you build up to your magic number of listings, then what you're going to do is the number of contacts you're going to make per day has to be at least the number of listings you need at all times to immediately exceed your goals. We take a very numerical, drilled down, common sense, practical, no BS approach to all the coaching that we provide for you guys, so hopefully this will, frankly, make things a lot more clear and easy to understand and mostly apply in your business. That's right. It actually makes it far more predictable than most of you think, right? You actually can apply numbers and make that work. But isn't ultimately what we're working on here with these guys is that they don't have to wait around for the business to come to them and I'm reading your future points. They can actually go to where the business is. Like some of you have this, really it's bad information and really bad training around the idea that you're supposed to do marketing, branding, passive email marketing, passive SMS, all this other stuff, waiting for people to call you. You consider a win when you create a lead. That is not a win. Leads have no value. Pre -qualified motivated leads have value. Stop giving yourself a win in your head psychologically when it all is just a stinking lead. That is the biggest mistake and it's frankly bad training the agents have been taught and it's not just the last 10 years, it's really the last 30. You created a contact. You didn't create a lead. Yeah. Who cares? You're building your phone book. I mean, well, a lot of these guys don't know what phone books are, but I mean... Your contact database, your CRM, you're collecting names and numbers of people. That does not necessarily mean they're going to transact with you. We said this yesterday and we say it a lot and it is true and again, it's worth repeating because it's such, I think, different information for all of you. Your goal is not to have a ton of leads. That is an enormous mistake. Your goal is to have a handful of leads. Then those leads are all pre -qualified and primarily listing leads and they're ready to list their homes. Maybe the contracts are signed. Maybe they're going to sign the contract in the next 60 days. The point is, is your goal is not to have 20, 30, 40, 50 ,000 leads. Your goal is to have a few leads, mostly even our top producing agents, less than like 15. And when Julie and I are having a lead coaching call and we ask about their leads, if they're giving us a long list of leads or they're saying, well, you know, screenshotting their database with the number of like 42 million, with the number of leads they're dripping on, no, that person is not doing their job. Well, they didn't actually understand the question if they're doing that. Right. You don't know what a lead is. A lead is a pre -qualified, ideally using our scripts, buyer or seller, ideally a seller, who you know what their motivation, you know what their timeframe is, you know what their half to sell is, you know everything about them. That's a lead. Also, they know who you are. And there are tons and tons, millions and millions of people out there that are actually able to be called pre -qualified at that level to list their homes sometime in the next 12 months or less, ideally 90 days or less. You just have to be willing to have the real conversations. Stop burying your head in the sand thinking that a massive number of leads is somehow going to cure your lack of actual skill and your unwillingness to have these actual conversations. It is critically important that you move past the belief that this is a, you know, sort of mass numbers game. It is, of course, a contact sport. That's what real estate and mall sales is. But it's a contact sport that results in you having a pre -qualified lead. Be very clear about that. Which means you have to get over your call reluctance. And point number two, in part two, is to focus on the person you're speaking to more than you're focused on your thoughts and feelings about being on the phone. You're calling to be of service. Maya Angelou famously stated, they'll forget what you said, but remember how you made them feel. So be fascinated by them. Remove the words I, me, my, and mine as much as possible to avoid making it all about you. Ask more questions and make fewer statements. Resist interrupting and sounding anxious to get to the next question. I had someone message us on Instagram that basically said that we're in conflict when we say, because we do say both things. Our highest and truest purpose in this planet is to be of service to others, and at the same time, we will occasionally say the other truth, which is everyone's primary motivation is themselves. Everybody is mostly focused on themselves. Both of those things are true, and here's how they're both true. Because I do accept the fact that everyone, if you're focused on, and everyone is naturally this way. What's in it for me? How does this make me feel? You can't really move past that, and to think or to try to guilt people and to not, it's the Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged kind of thing, right? But to have people believe that their highest and truest purpose is not primarily the betterment of themselves is complete out of alignment with how, frankly, humans are actually wired. But have you to accept the fact that the way you better yourself is by being of service to others, and then those two motivations are in alignment. You guys get it? So if your highest and truest purpose is to take care of yourself, to make your life better, to take care of your family, really, that is where your primary focus always is, whether you go down and admit it or not. Okay, that is not in conflict with what society wants you to do, which is to be of service to other people, because by being of service to other people, you actually are improving your own lot in life. You're becoming the best version of you as a real estate professional, and a real estate professional is here to be of service to other people. Hopefully you guys now understand that, that our philosophies are in perfect alignment with how a lot of you guys already naturally think. That's right. So it comes down to reminding yourself, when you're over your call reluctance and you're on a real conversation with a real person, pay attention to what they're saying. Don't just ask the script questions, listen to their answers. So Julie also said something in that, and I want you guys to think about this. She said, without using these words, she said, remove personal pronouns when you're talking to people. Why? Everyone's favorite topic is themselves, remember what I just said. Everyone wants to talk about themselves. Everyone wants to have other people show interest in them.
"angelou" Discussed on Hay House Meditations
"Proposition that you are wanting to call into your life that you are wanting to affirm and that you are wanting to pass it. Okay? Doctor Maya Angelou also used to talk about the power of words late great ancestors, doctor Maya Angelou would say that even though we couldn't measure words yet and we couldn't measure the power of words yet, she firmly believed that one day we would have the technology to measure the power of words. And if anyone knew words, it was doctor Maya Angelou. So she would say that she didn't even want people cursing around her because she felt like the curses, the energy of the curse as it gets in it gets in the curtains and it gets in your plans. Energy can not be created or destroyed. It just is, words are energy. We are energy everything is energy. So it makes sense that the words that we speak over our lives and the words we speak over the lives of others are incredibly potent and powerful. The awesome thing is that as science is catching up with spirituality, we now know that neuroplasticity means that your brain, your mind is not fixed and in fact, you can use the words that you speak to rewrite the neuropathways to rewrite what you believe to be true about yourself, what you believe to be true about the world around you, what you believe to be true about other people. And this is important because the words that we speak create our thoughts and beliefs and our thoughts and beliefs create our lives. Yes. Yes, okay, good. So I've used positive affirmations for over 20 years in a myriad of different ways. And here is what I find when I find that they are not working. Very often on my international retreats that I am honored and blessed to lead. I will have a magical human like you come up to me and say, oh my goodness, abiola. I have been doing affirmations for X amount of years. And why am I not there yet? What is going on? So the first thing that's going on is that there is no there to be there yet. We are all splendid and divine. Magical and incredible works in progress that will keep on evolving. While we are here in this earth school. The second thing is that if you just are chanting affirmations without the power and the energy and the ignition of your own force, the ignition of your own emotions and feelings to set them on fire through your body, your brain's not gonna believe them. Watch. If I said, I am beautiful. I am smart. I am worthy and deserving. I am rich. My brain would be like, no, you're not. And that's what we often do, we're chanting, you know, I'm wealthy and abundant. Oh God, I gotta pay the bills again. I am filled with love. Oh, look at that jerk over there looking at me again. Life loves me.
"angelou" Discussed on The Garden Question
"They don't go by that moniker anymore. They're the national FFA organization now. It was a real opportunity for me to learn certainly but mostly to begin to come out of my very shy, very introverted shell and connect with people about things that I felt confident about. Horticulture gardening was a truly a life-changing thing for me because it allowed me to know that there was something that I could be good at. Through four age, the county horticulture judging coach was the owner of a small nursery and garden center that still exists today owned by their son now at the age of 14 after filling out a lot of paperwork and going through a lot of red tape because I was legally not old enough to work yet. They hired me at the garden center. I was a freshman in high school. I began working professionally in the horticulture industry at 14 years old. I would ride the bus, get out of school at three 30, be to the nursery by four and work from four to 6 when they closed. The nursery was just about 5 miles from my grandmother's house, either one of the owners or one of the girls who worked there would drop me off at my grandma's, and then my dad would pick me up on his way home from work as he was going by his mom's house. It was a network of people and this experience of kindness and generosity in the horticulture world that propelled me into what I have turned into a lifelong career. What is your most valuable garden mistake? Pampering, struggling plants. It took me a very long time to learn that some plants just aren't going to be happy. Whether it's your summer temperatures, your winter temperature fluctuations, Tennessee, where I am, where his own 7, it might be 73 one day in January and 48 hours later, it might be 13. That kills more plants than just about anything. I think one of the most valuable lessons I learned is not every plant is going to be happy and that's okay. Once you've dealt with it for two or three seasons and it has shown you that it's not going to be happy. There's an old quote by the poet Maya Angelou about people that says, when people show you who they are, believe them. And I think the same thing about plants. When a plant shows you who it is or what it wants, believe it. If it is not happy where it's growing, I might move it to a different home, maybe I had it in too much sun. I'll put it in a little more shade. Maybe I had it in a pocket of clay and I either did or I didn't realize that it was in that pocket of clay, but it's not happy there. Maybe I move it somewhere else, but I'm not moving it 17 times. I'm going to move it twice, maybe a third time. Sometimes the plants just outsmart me. I can't force something to grow where it isn't going to be happy. Once I learned that, it made my gardening life so much easier. And I will go to people's homes and still do a fair bit of consulting. I'll walk past something in person. We'll say, I have had that for 7 years. It has just done nothing but struggle. I look at them and say, then dig it up and throw it out.
"angelou" Discussed on Real Estate Coaching Radio
"Do a podcast like every even 30 days, you can kind of get out of touch. I like doing it daily. It is obviously more work daily, but our listeners might start out with a regular Monday market report where you're talking about what's happening in your real estate market, where the changes in trends, what are you seeing? Because at least then you have to do it every Monday. You have to earn the right to be subscribed to with a podcast by a podcast listener by doing it frequently. You have to earn the right by not just doing it frequently, but having something of value for them to want to listen to. And once you do that, it's interesting. Julie and I have podcasts that we listen to. Matter of fact, we have podcasts we listen to every day that are published every day when we go on our walks in the morning and we don't always listen to what the hell a person on the podcast is saying. Sometimes we just tune them out and she and I have some other conversation about something else while they're playing in the background. But it almost has become habitual for you and I list to comfort food. Yeah, basically, it's like mashed potatoes, right? It's like we listened to the same one or two podcasts every day, generally speaking at the same time. It's just become habitual for us as part of our day. Yes. And it's because why? It isn't for the content necessarily. It's because how they make us feel. And we're not, you know, we're not immune to emotion, right? Ultimately, we listen these podcasts because they make us feel a certain way. That's the reason that most people listen to your podcast. So go back to that Maya Angelou quote, the Julie read a second ago. They will long forget about what you told them, but they will never forget about how they made you feel. And that's incredibly important. That way you stop overanalyzing and over preparing for what you're going to be presenting for your podcast. Yes, so how do you choose a name? Why should somebody listen to you? Well, have I hyper focused topic, or an overarching theme? You can't be all over the place.
"angelou" Discussed on Accelerate Your Business Growth
"Thanks so much for joining me today, Casey. I'm honored to be here. Thank you so much for the warm intro. I was like, are you sure you got the right guy? But I guess that is me. I'm sure. You do our homework. Absolutely. So I'm so excited to be talking to you too, because I love this whole concept of the relationship, not the deal. It just so is in my frame of mind. So, yeah, you. Yeah, you for loving it. I love it. There we go. I know. So this will be mutual admiration society. But I want to start with the golden rule because we've all heard it, but I am curious how you define it for business and why you think it's so important to having a successful sales career. Yeah, you bet. So when we were three and four, most parents said, hey, treat your sister the way you want to be treated, treat. You got to be nice to your sister. Be nice to your brother. Be nice to your friends, please, and thank yous. You know, have a positive attitude. But yet when we become adults, it's in corporate America, it's okay to be rude to your assistant. It's okay to yell at marketing. It's okay to get mad at finance and savings, things. It's okay to flip people off down the road and do all these things because why not? There's no account. There's no accountability. And so I just like, you know, when you're just nice to people and you have that Maya Angelou moment, not what you said, why you said about how you make people feel when you leave the room. You're more memorable. You're more uncommon. I like to say. And to me, I think, you know, as I think about, this is an uncle RICO Napoleon Dynamite reference right there. As a college quarterback, if I enter my huddle with negativity or not a positive attitude or a non belief,
"angelou" Discussed on The Podcast On Podcasting
"Nice. That's right. Just because the sun was too bright and I'd have to find a play. I could do it going down the road, obviously. So I had to find a play. They were terrible. It was horrific. But looking back, we're proud of the fact that we just trudged on ahead, right? The topics, the content, they were really, really good, but if you were trying to watch it, it was painful. Yeah, it was. And the audio, of course, was mad too. But hopefully for your listeners, you know, it's an example of do it anyway because all of the gurus say that, right? Do it anyway. But now we know better. Until you are it, right? And we were being it. We were doing a podcast. We were doing a very consistent, it's just we had not yet thought of anything like Kanye said about background and branding and sound quality and we thought of it. We just didn't know how to pull it off when we were in two separate areas and she was on the road. But as Maya Angelou says, when you know better you do better, right? I like that. And for the people listening, they won't be able to see this, but if you notice, I wore your colors too. You love it. You did, the gray and the orange. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. You're welcome. I didn't do it on purpose, guys. Don't admit. Tanya, you didn't hear that, right? Nope. What? Next question. Power branding, say you realize it's true. Orange should be with us. Subliminally, I was like, oh, I need to wear this hat today. Exactly. And look at your orange glass. Anyone listening is so sad. They're like, what is he what kind of glasses yeah? I need to see that right now. Comb. I mean. And a branded coffee cup with the logo on it. I mean, everything around here, my purse is orange, everything around here is orange..
"angelou" Discussed on Build A Life After Loss Podcast
"Author Maya Angelou said, it's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself to forgive. Forgive everybody, I love that. I think I'm going to write that up and post it on my wall. Forgive everybody. For giving others who have wronged you intentionally or unintentionally, allows you to put the past in the past. And move forward without the personal burden of hatred and revenge and just that yuckiness that lives inside of us when there are people that we need to forgive. And it's really important for us to acknowledge and recognize that forgiveness is not about exonerating a perpetrator. It's not about letting someone off the hook. Forgiveness frees the victim. And if you've been the victim, again, whether it is intentional or unintentional of a hurt, it frees you to forgive. And forgiveness is not contingent on what the other person does. If they choose to say I'm sorry, okay, but if they choose not to, it's still frees you to forgive them. Forgiveness, however, does not include giving people free.
"angelou" Discussed on Career Relaunch
"My life, I didn't like where it was leading. One of my favorite quotes from Maya Angelou is when she said if the world puts you on a road you do not like if you look ahead and you don't like what you see. You don't like the destination you're being led to then you need to step off that road and build a new path. You might not know where that path is going, but the first step really is to take that leap and say, okay, I'm going into the unknown. And if I weigh all of those risks and uncertainties, it's still worth it. It may not work out, but in the end, it's worth doing something that's very scary and uncertain than to know that I will be stuck on a path that seems pretty clear in terms of what those limitations will be. And what was it about where that road was leading you that made you feel like you were traveling in the wrong direction? In France, especially in the working world there is still an expectation that you are able to do a certain job because you went to the right schools and you had the right credentials to be able to do it. And my role at Sel novo was taking me more into an area.
"angelou" Discussed on Revision Path
"So it's very clear can read each of those persons bio and have a better understanding of why we wanted to partner with them while we work with them a passion that they have for what they do and that was important to us as well to make sure that those were the voices that were elevating these stories. How has the project been received so far? It's been fantastic. I mean, we have had quite a bit of press around it, our inaugural partner in the effort was stars. The network. And they told with us stories of leadership, black leadership. So what we explored there was the journey and the pathway to how leaders are made in the black community. When it starts from childhood, those moments of affirmation where you're basically told or you've taught you've been taught things like I am somebody, you know. All the way through college where you maybe are a part of your first taste of being a part of a black student union or a fraternity or sorority all the way to the boardroom, where you could find yourself being the only person of color in an organization, but you have to kind of walk into the room with the same premise that Maya Angelou taught us, which is I come as one, but I stand as 10,000, right? So you have to bring your ancestral strength with you in order to be effective. So we explored this journey of leadership in partnership with stars because they have an amazing program called take the lead, which is all about creating space for black leadership and creators to emerge in the entertainment space. So it was a perfect alignment in that way for us to tell these stories together. Did you have a favorite story from the project? Yes, from this first, go round. I think one of my favorite stories was about a teacher in Philadelphia, who has taught her students a mantra called push through..
"angelou" Discussed on Legion of Skanks Podcast
"Video was shot to like like weird. I couldn't focus on. It's it's all over the place but she's just crazy hot when the very beginning when she shows up yes she's rolling around in bed in her underwear as a kid. This was going to get us. Going facts okay Then he putting to billy idol's fucking looking crazy every time they cut the billy idol. Wisey doing that. Fucking face snarling. Because billy never idols. Dude your car. I hate him now. you don't. I saw him live not long ago. He sucked yeah. I was excited. See him really coordinate bryan adams though awesome for the roof the hottest i think the hottest video of all time and i think they've probably done sexiest videos lists and it's probably up there christianson in that one dudes video game. Yeah i mean. That's it's a borderline porn. I kinda liked Alicia silverstone and alor. I remember that one. Yeah video for sure. I definitely have masturbated to that video in my life and also kind of fucked up because it was like they. Were sexualizing. live tyler and silverstone and it was her dad's video bizarre fucking. I make it. Sexier wasn't excuse. Excuse was like that she Not this one. it's not the one. This is the one that's just rom. And they did another. Remember thinking thinking. Elisa's orbison was so hot in that video and then like when she blew up and started making things like i never thought she was that age she also age really bad she bad but i mean i thought she age bed in those few years already like by the time she realized she was a little pouty teen fucking hot thing. Yeah this this was like yeah. They way over sexualize his daughter. Yes look like to the point where you're like what the fuck is going on. You're like this is your daughter. You know problem with this video. Yeah and the ideas that they got naked in a booth and gave the guy the pictures. Hey we're gonna paper or sly here. You go burn out. We don't care look at our every every guy until like nine hundred ninety eight just couldn't handle looking at they shake like all these people in this video the whole things. That can't even believe that too. Hot chicks are hanging out together. They're blown away by the whole concept. Oh my gosh. She's wearing lipstick. Yeah that was great. I mean this crazy dude this daughter. Oh by the way unleashing tyler. They have They make her do v. sexiest stuff in the video. She's the one of strips doggy. I'm getting furious right now for steven. Yeah yeah she's a dude. But ironically not even ironically the facts are. I think until about a year before this video. She thought todd rundgren was her father. Damn doggy tyler was hot back in the day. Holy shit who still pretty holy held this year. Like nineteen damn doggy. What happened these girls. Whatever these girls. This is what we're trying to grow up in fucking to hang out with. This was the fantasy then. It's weird they have heard. 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Oh fuck you bitch like just fucking accept the award or does just late to be like on the biggest stage receiving an award and then bitching about like what you're not giving this. Oh yeah i. I made fun of this. I think on mtv to on some things she says about. Maya angelou or something. I don't remember do. She was just so intense. Fucking up hot. She says my heart check man. I didn't prepare a speech. And i'm sorry but i'm glad that i didn't because i'm not going to do this like everybody else. Does it Because everybody that i should be thanking. I'm really sorry. But i have to use this time. See maya angelou said that we we as human beings at our best can only create opportunities. And i'm going to use this opportunity the way that i wanna use it why they cut out my joke about this on. Mtv to cousy called my angel monkey. No fight said why she brings her monkey angelo. I said why. Should i bring up my angelou at a music awards. Sure i appreciate her pancake syrup. And i loved her z. Jefferson so yes. They took that off. They didn't hear that. That was you know i remember that. Actually funny enough. That was early early. Smoking weed for me and i was trying to write for these things nervously and kurt. I think suggests he is like well. Smoke wego simone. Just the perspective change help right and it did but they didn't use any of it. Nothing no joke..
Why Do We Forget so Much of What Weve Read?
"I've been thinking about a conversation that we had about a tree grows in brooklyn. Do you recall this conversation. Do you said you loved. That book loved loved. Loved it. but you couldn't remember single thing about it. Yes so. I thought you might have forgotten the conversation about how i had forgotten but anyway my point is that it's a really interesting thing that people can read books that they absolutely love so much that they're like evangelical trying to get everyone to read this book and then when you ask that person oh well what's it about. There's this long pause because like me. They have no idea at all who the protagonists were the plot. Was it a tragedy. They just have this residue of emotion. That says i loved the experience of the book and it makes me think of that actually. I don't think he's actually my angelou quote. People may forget what you said but they'll never forget how you made them feel. I don't think my said that. But i do think it's an interesting question whether we may forget what is in a book but we don't forget how it made us feel. What do you think. There's a nice thought on this topic that resonated with me. pamela paul. who's the editor of the new york times book review. She says when. I'm reading a book that i even really like. I remember the physical object. The addition the cover says. I usually remember where i bought it. Or who gave it to me. Which to me is really lovely and important information. What i don't remember she rates. Is everything else. So what's in the. I don't think that this is uncommon. You have those kind of connections to books. I do sometimes remember the cover. Or even whether i took out like outside papery part it gets in the way so i often remember. Did i take the cover off of this one or did i not. I find that my memory does hang onto some things. Which honestly i find to be. Not that useful. Mostly i remember how i felt. I remember whether i liked it. Or whether i didn't like it. Maybe that's what i want to remember. Like when i'm reading it i want to know whether i'm going to want to look fondly back at this or recommended to stephen. It could just be functional.
"angelou" Discussed on A Desi Woman with Soniya Gokhale
"Noticing the emotional experience of your team of your employees and particularly for groups that are underrepresented that you're trying to do more diverse hiring for you know. I mean i'll say it in a somewhat. Crass manner doesn't matter how much you do on diversity if you're a crappy place to work you're still a crappy place to work. A lot of. This is kind of really addressing. The culture of the emotion underlying maya angelou. The nineteen seventies writer performer. You know of so much. Fame passed a few years ago..
"angelou" Discussed on Pop Culture Leftovers
"That's going to happen like the big paperwork that he showed and they're like oh that's parley track of like everything that they've said. Yeah it was real. Call back to the first episode to old school typed out paper with what they were saying on it. And he's reiterating the fact that basically like nothing has been free will. It's all been determined by by king this king and so i wanna look at that poem again. I talked about the poem by maya angelou and it says you may write me down in history with your bitter twisted lies. You may trod me in the dirt but still like to style rise so when you break that down you may write me down history with your bitter twisted lies. That sounds like everyone who's kind of like been manipulated and has had their free will taken away by tang and the creation of the and the next part reads you may trod me in the very dirt but still like dust. I'll rise so if you're the heroes in this story and you want your free will you can rise against the dictatorship of caring and get the yours or you can.
"angelou" Discussed on It’s All About Health & Fitness
"Doctors who say exactly. And you know, it's kind of in terms of interesting with that, you know, that whole thing of how are you treated as I often said that the person who greets you at that front desk, you go to the doctor's office, set the tone for the office and people had to realize you could have the best doctor in the world behind those doors, but if you didn't get past how horribly you were treated at that front desk, everything else just melted away by the time you got to the doctor. And not only are you unhappy, you're mad. And it's projected on him or her and the office. And if you're in a hospital, the hospital. So it was just kind of like a snowball effect kind of thing. So they had to seriously reevaluate even starting from when you first walk in that door. How are you treated? Absolutely. And it matters all the way across every single person you interact with during that experience. So you are a 100% right on that. And so you know who got it not to prolong this? Who got it first, I think. And who still gets it is a Cleveland clinic. They got it, and they get it. Yeah. And you can tell, when somebody gets it, it is so obvious. You know, as far as how you feel inside, because you know what? Maya Angelou love her, her quote about people will forget what you said and people will forget what you did, but they'll never forget how you made them feel. Exactly..
"angelou" Discussed on WSB-AM
"Suspected teen murderers. Residents along Sir Winston Court tell Channel two action news. They had no idea they were living near possible killers were very good news. They were. Yes, ma'am. Yes, sir. Several weapons were also taken from the home. Police say Jacquizz Williams and Ronald Hyson had been on the run since the March murder of another teen in south Georgia and the Atlanta based CDC reports more than 300 cases of heart inflammation. Among younger covid vaccine recipients. CDCs Independent Advisory Committee will meet next week to go over the cases. While they will talk about the latest research end safety data at the meetings, they likely won't recommend any changes to Covid 19 vaccination protocol. Mark Mayfield reports. Those 300 cases are out of more than 20 million young people who Have received the vaccine as employers struggle to find workers to fill open positions. Mark Hamrick with bankrate dot com says would be employees hold the power, he says they could hold out for bigger salaries or better job. He also expects growth this year to be the best in decades. Unemployment rate is now below six per, said it could be headed into the 4% range by the end of the year. Georgia's unemployment rate already stands at 4.1% Carnival Cruise Line says a cyberattack may have compromised private information from passengers and crew, including social secure Syrian passport numbers, Carnival spokesman says those affected have been notified. Carnival, which is based in Miami, also divulged. It was hit twice last year with RANSOMWARE attacks, reporter Jackie Quinn says the hack includes Carnival Princess and Holland America Cruise is Nielsen finds about a quarter of all TV viewership is now through a streaming service. Streaming services have grown rapidly in recent years due in parts of the pandemic and people needing entertainment alternatives while staying at home reporter Matt Matt Johnson says networking Cable TV still account for about 64% of all time spent watching television in the U. S. Mint celebrates women on the quarter poet and author Maya Angelou. Sally Ride who was America's first woman in space and a revered Cherokee Nation leader are among female Trailblazers who will appear on the U. S quarters soon. The New American Women Quarters Program celebrates women's accomplishments and contributions to the country's development and history reporter Monica Rick says the Mint will issue up to five new designs a year for the next four years. All of Fort Mac is now either sold or under Contract. Tyler Perry has reached a deal to buy another 40 acres of property on the old base south of Atlanta. To turn it into an entertainment and shopping district will be open to the public but will be separate from his studios on the property megachurch. Pastor T. D. Jakes has also bought 95 acres to build his own affordable housing project on site. The Braves bats stay hot against the Cardinals. Why did the.
"angelou" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM
"Tracy. Like what do you free like, just trying to get some kind of forum to have a date? For this party on this time I did that toe have you all here so high, And also some of you haven't seen on that, James Not even know when the last time I saw you. I have no idea what was mostly, I don't think I've seen this scene. All of you since Marilyn like history parties. Oh, my. It's been a while. It's gonna work. Wow. Well, uh And so I was super curious. And I was thinking about this. Like, if not for my parties, Would you be celebrating Black History month, mostly as a result of having a kid like one of the best things. About black history month with her is that she has black history month programs she went to after centuries school and the Black History month program at her school was always so popping like it's just going to. That was a lot of communities kind of everybody is there We all go eat after, and it's just like a really, really, really good experience. Still interesting because I really do think it's like It's almost like a kid holiday in that way, because, like not since I was in school I had to do like a black history month report I had to, like memorizing Maya Angelou poem or something like that. I wasn't really I wasn't really out here, you know. Doing a black history? No, it was just like enduring black history month, if anything and being pissed off that is only 28 days, 29 every leap year. Yeah, I feel similar and like, and I've never really done anything to celebrate it. Even besides, like buying some, like Black History month pair of Kyrie Irving's Basketball shoes, Uh, which I have right behind me. But but the only time I really feel engaged with black history month is like when I feel like You may be threatened somehow, or somebody's like talking about black history month or like somebody is like trying to, like, Take it away that I'm like, Wait, wait. Hold on, which would like what do you mean? I feel like that's when I'm like. No, This is like Something sacred. You defending it because it's about our ability to exist in white spaces on I think what I liked about the parties is like it wasn't about white people at all, like, not even a little bit..
"angelou" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM
"When you're a parent of small Children. At some point, you come across a Barbie Children's book. She's white. She's blonde. She's skinny, and she's spending time with her friends going from poolside, two parties to the mall. Nothing wrong with that life if you have it, But the makers of Barbie have been criticized for years because their product doesn't reflect the range of how girls look. Or what they can grow up to be. Now. This explains why the company has been marketing different kinds of dolls. The most recent item in this collection is the figure of the poet Maya Angelou. Here on the pulse of this new day, You may have the grace to look up and out and into your sister's eyes. But all of the late black poet is now available. Wearing a full length print dress. She is holding a copy of I Know Why The Caged Bird sings, which is their most famous book. One of our colleagues at morning Edition has two nieces who are big Barbie fans. Their names are cherish, and Morgan and they're all in E one of you right into. So don't be good dog for me For a lot of girls. It seems the doll was available for preorder last week, and it sold out online in two days. Lisa McKnight is the head of Barbie and dolls at Mattel. That's a company that makes them You know, we're leading into Black history month. And I think also the build up to the inauguration just really helped make this particular doll incredibly timely. Ah, yes. The inauguration, Maya Angelou once read a poem at an inauguration for President Clinton in 1993. This week, Another black woman, Amanda Gorman, read a poem for Joe Biden's inauguration. When day comes, we step out of the shade of flame and unafraid the new dawn balloons as we free it for there was always light. If on Lee were brave enough to see it if on Lee were brave enough To be it. Gorman took many viewers breath away with her words and also truth be told. With that red headband and mustard coat. Lisa McKnight of Mattel was watching and saw an opportunity. Oh, my goodness. I was texting with my team saying we've got to reach out to Amanda Gorman. What can we do to celebrate an honor Her She's just such a point of inspiration and really, amazingly talented young woman and quite the role model. She says. The company would like to see if Amanda Gorman could become a doll like my Angelou. Thank.
"angelou" Discussed on MyTalk 107.1
"What? Yes, yes, that. What's in that envelope? Is it something he's like? I would like you to do this first. Yeah. Yeah. Orders of the president. I'm not joking on knowing Bernie he probably was his mail that he needed to drop off after the inauguration. He's like, I'm going to go to the D. C. I gotta go to the D. C. Kinko's I got and I gotta walk in there. I'm gonna walk there because I don't want to use my car. So can we hurry this up by Okay. I really do think it was his mail I Oh, God. And like I said, And then I just him his body language, The folding of the arms with those big mittens and the whole the just the whole image and every like, like collections in the Meet Everyone there means we're like cold s. Oh, it's so great today. I mean cold bare put him like behind his desk. I saw him on the Titanic put up people put him people put him in the dining room of the Titanic. Next to Leo. People put him on the people put him on the bench next to Forrest Gump. My spirit was just the picture that says in quotes. This could have been an email and seriously this whole thing could have been any of this. That's right. We don't need no damn meeting. So American Amanda Gorman 22 years old. She made history yesterday by being the youngest inaugural poet. Um and, you know, speaking of Bernie's mittens, there was something visual about this extraordinary young lady that you probably did not know. But Gayle King New. Here's a story that she told during the live broadcast yesterday. Listen to this. Um Maya did Bill Clinton's address and a gourmand? Obviously, she's referring Tomo My Angelou, who did who was the poet for Bill Clinton's inaugural reached out to Amanda to say, because she had brought myrrh her coat that she wore that day and said, I'd like to get a coat for you to carry on the tradition. She said. I've already picked up my coat. It's yellow. It's my favorite color number said. Well, what else could I do? And she said, I don't know. Oprah got her the earrings that she's wearing. And on her hand, she has a ring that's shaped like a caged bird as a tribute to my I know why the caged bird sings. So when I was looking at her, I was looking at the hearings in the ring. It's a very sweet now. Now they're bonded for life, the two of them, but it was a very sweet moment between the two My Angelou is a big inspiration to Amanda. And if you the front of that story was a little cut off Oprah bought wanted to give as a gift to Maya. The coat Maya war at Clint's inauguration. So, like I said, the beginning of Allie was a little confusing. So Oprah reached out to Ms Gorman and said, I would like to carry this tradition on May I buy you a coat? You heard Gael say that And it was It was a beautiful coat. Beautiful, beautiful yellow. And or picked the coat and then boom over gave her the the earrings and the ring for Cage. The Why I know why the caged Bird sings. Obviously one of Maya's most famous works, so I thought that was beautiful. I thought that was Saturno. She was extra. She was extraordinary. And as the day went on, I was watching her social media. Feeds explode. Every time every time I clicked on, Amanda had gained another 100,000 followers and I'm not joking. I was keeping an eye. Last night to not another, but 75,000. She was as the day went on. She was becoming more and more of a sensation. So buying her books too. Which is great. Yeah, so it was and That's awesome. Yeah, I was just She's beautiful. My goodness. And we were laughing. Um, I had a meeting. Uh, at Rosedale yesterday. We were all laughing about what we were doing a 22 and we got the giggles because we're like here Here is this Amanda Gorman 22 years old pulled laureate speaking it. Speaking of Inauguration, Jennet and my friend Jen and I, We both go girl We were eating, bro. Sted gas station chicken and barely paying our electric bill and going on dates just so we could eat, hoping, hoping that the date would buy our food. And here is this 22 year old. She's up there in Washington D c. I said Yeah, well, there we go. But that's your twenties. Yeah, Yeah, She is extraordinary. You're right and share a lot of 22 year olds. Now we're still doing what we were doing. So, Yeah, so don't feel like a loser. Don't know that for a few minutes. Yeah, but like you should make you you should make some knock off Bernie mittens that would they would sell girl You should make some snuck off one's like they do with Oscar. Like they do with Oscar dresses where designers make knockoffs the day after you should make some Bernie mittens giant giant Bernie Mittens. It's so funny because I saw those my thought. Wow. Yeah,.
Amanda Gorman makes history as youngest inaugural poet
"It's interesting that Democrats choose to honor poets and Republicans aren't really into that. That aspect of the inauguration. I think it's really Really beautiful the way poets have been able to stitch together an American collective narrative through their poems. You know, in the past democratic inaugurations, I've remember my Angelou. Marry Angelo reciting that poem, and I think that was the first time that I was moved really internally moved by hearing her words and then, obviously Elizabeth Alexander. So I'm looking forward to today. I think s so many of us feel a five relief but also cautiously optimistic. I mean, we we do know that there are domestic terrorists of sort of threatened to ruin this day, so I think a lot of people want to get to 12 o'clock. And they want to get sort of. They want to savor the day but also get through the day. So it feels like a new administration is on followed footing. And here's maybe where the poetry and prose meat a little bit as reported in USA Today this morning. Amanda Gorman told the AP that she was not given specific instructions on what to write for the inaugural poem, but that she was encouraged to emphasize unity and hope. Over quote, denigrating anyone or declaring Ding Dong. The witch is dead over the departure of President Donald Trump. She's calling her inaugural poem The Hill we climb. Woman says she has been given five minutes to read. I believe the My Angelo poem also was five minutes prior to what she called the Confederate insurrection on January 6th. She had only written about 3.5 minutes worth, she told the AP. She said That day gave me a second wave of energy to finish the poem, adding that she will not refer directly to January 6 but will touch upon it. She said the capital mob did not upend the poem she had been working on because They didn't surprise her and quote the poem isn't blind. It isn't turning your back to the evidence of discord and division. So some
22-Year-Old Los Angeles Poet to Perform at Inauguration
"Old L a poet Amanda Gorman was asked to write a poem and recited at Joe Biden's inauguration tomorrow. But you probably don't know that Gorman, who became the nation's first national youth poet laureate a few years ago shares Personal connection with the president elect. Like Biden, who spoken openly about having studied as a child, Gorman has had to overcome a childhood speech impediment. She had difficulty saying certain letters of the alphabet. The letter R was especially tough, which caused her to have to constantly self edit. I don't want to say girls can change the world, but I cannot say Many of the letters in that statement, so I'd say things like young woman can shape the globe. Gorman says her inauguration poem was partly inspired by the insurrection of the U. S Capitol earlier this month. Here's a preview of that poem, which is called the Hill We Climb Allow Democracy can be periodically delayed. It can never be permanently defeated. In this truth in this faith we trust for while we have our eyes on the future history has its eyes on us. And when she steps to the microphone tomorrow, Gorman will continue a tradition that includes luminaries such as Robert Frost in Maya Angelou, who is one of her personal heroes, and crowds could soon
Christina Anstead reveals new Maya Angelou-inspired back tattoo amid split from husband Ant: ‘Still I Rise’
"Hollywood is going through some drastic changes. You guys take a look at crecy. The fed's new inc. Her tattoo runs down her spine It's inspired by my angela. Maya angelou poem that says still i rise. Now clearly she's been through it This comes after her split. From and and said i love the look of this hat tattoo. I think it chic. I love the message. I think it goes good. I think it works with what she's going through right now. Oh there's not get hot photo. Yeah i i agree with you. I love the tattoo. I love the message. I love the background of it. I just always say when you're going through a life change especially break-up do not make a permanent decision until a year later but it is still i rise and we could you reference to anything in life. Are you gonna want arrived and this. This is this justice conservative side that he pretends he does not have he. He hates plastic surgery. He doesn't like that too. He loves to be extremely proper. I agree with justin. I joan. I really wanna be cooler than i am. I just ironically do not love tattoo and especially not on a woman. I just don't know why like. I don't like their cool. I you know. Everyone's you know free to express themselves. However they want to. She's obviously stunning. It looks great. She got a hop back. I just don't i don't know does nothing for me. I've never wanted to be like today's the day that like. I'm gonna inc myself up with something.
"angelou" Discussed on WJR 760
"And it will be better tomorrow as we're reminded again and again by the late Dr Maya Angelou. Meanwhile, I suspect we would get the same thought. From a guy who was in the thick of things in Washington yesterday. Basically locked down in the House gallery in the U. S. Capitol under siege. And a guy who joined us already this week, Congressman Tim Walberg is back to talk about the experience, Congressman A Good morning. Welcome back. Are you there? Cause I don't hear him. Really Well, you know, you know. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Start from the beginning because we didn't hear you at all. If I had taken myself off Mute s, I would have coughed it cost in here. I didn't feel fine, but it's you know, I'm almost feel like Paul W. In bed last night 33 a m. I guess this morning 3 A.m. and then now up How do you I don't know how you do this, but, uh, we're glad to be with you this morning. Yeah, it was. It was. It was a terrible day yesterday for part of it. It was a great day for other parts of it. We We started out doing the things that Constitution requires Electoral college counting of votes. Getting into debates about objections to certain of the state's votes on then everything broke out crazy, but I'll go to the end we we went back into session and completed. Task of counting the votes yesterday. And I think that was a demonstration to the world as well as to, uh, sadly, the people that chose to use their First Amendment liberties In a way that we don't do in the United States and cause destruction and death. And a lot of pain and frustration in the process, But in the end America came through and I'm glad to be part of it. And I'm glad we did show the world that even though there was a momentary blip You got back to doing what you were supposed to do. You were not prevented from doing What you were supposed to do, and you you accomplished what you set out to do in the There's been a lot of confusion this year between what's a protest and what's a riot, and I blame Much of the mainstream media for forgetting the word riot and thinking that everything was a quiet to protest. They right away. Thought of even the quiet protest is being a riot. But when you cross a line As people did you are then writing and it's not right anywhere, but especially in the United States Capitol so there should be no confusion. All of that should be pretty clear to people. And and we move on from there, and that's what we're doing. We will have in the president's own word who called for peace early in the morning this morning. And said, they'll be in orderly transition of power. Which is good to hear him say, because that's what people Needed to hear all along as difficult loss, as it might have been, and with all of the allegations that are still raw, and who knows what went on and where, but the bottom line is We stand for democracy. Around the world we did yesterday morning at this time, and we do this morning at this time. Well said Well said. We are a republic Republican form of democracy. That means we're constitutional democracy. We're not just a democracy that says majority wins, that we've taken great consideration to make sure that we all have a say we don't have an opportunity. And the rights of the majority as well as the minorities are protected. And what we saw yesterday. Um I think was the culmination of a lot of emotions that went on. And maybe some rabble roses assed well. But in the end in the end, um We move forward, and I was delighted this morning to hear that the president said there will be orderly transmission. Uh, the transition transition. You see, you know, you said in the beginning. I don't know how you do this. I didn't know what you were talking about the first but I know what you're talking about. How do you get two hours? Three hours of sleep. Come on the air and makes sense. I'm not sure I do make sense. But I understand how difficult this is for you. Hey, e. I appreciate that. Let me ask you before we leave. Um uh, since I don't have an opportunity to was speak to too many people who were there. Locked down in the chambers. What was it like from your standpoint? Well, it started out much like what you'd hear on a state of the Union address in recent years, you'd hear a demonstration noise going on somewhere in the capital, and normally it's 2030. People that are demonstrating are doing a sit down that type of thing and Banging drums or whatever. And you hear that, But this could began to get closer and closer and we were going on with our debate. Constitutional Abate said. It was over their chambers. We were in ours. And all of a sudden the sergeant at arms and the Capitol. Police began telling us various reports. We we recess for short periods of times, went back into the bait. And then all of sudden they came and said, Listen, we want you to pull your gas mask out for underneath your chairs. And have them in your lap already. And if we ask you to get to the floor, get the floor because there is some protection with the backs of our seats..
A Conversation With Dr. Maya Angelou
"With the release of her book. A song long up to heaven a song. I like to do at a song long enough to have enough. I said many times. Maya has been one of my greatest teachers. I am so blessed to have her in my life. She is the one. I often look to for strength for wisdom for comfort and courage and also just to talk you know everytime we on the we're not talking about courage and with sometimes we just laugh a lot anyway. The sheer power of her words and insights have moved and inspired me. And i know millions of you. Maya says at a song flung up to heaven is the sixth and final in the series of books about her remarkable life which she began with. I know why cage heard sing the first book of dr angelo's bestselling autobiographical series was. I know why the caged bird sings. It made her literary star. Stayed on the new york times bestseller lists for two years. It is brutally honest account of her painful childhood and how she rose above being raped by her mother's boyfriend when she was just eight. And the six years of self-imposed silence follows next. She wrote gathered together in my name about her struggle to make ends meet as a single mother at age. Sixteen working as a cook. a dancer. a madam even a prostitute next in singing and swinging getting married like christmas. Maya takes on her journey into show business touring europe as a singer and dancer walnut phone informative and millions read the heart of a woman. Were maya takes us through one of the most fascinating periods of her life from her debut at the apollo theater to her first meeting with malcolm x. to the joys and challenges of raising a teenage son then in all god's children need traveling shoes she follows her heart to africa in search of her roots where she teaches at the university of ghana and works as a journalist alongside malcolm x. world now poet author actress activist. Dr maya angelou has risen to greatness time and time again is more phenomenal phenomenal phenomenal woman than ever. Please welcome my dear friend. Dr maya angelou do want to talk about something. Other than and wisdom shrink in hope. What is seventy four wheel like. It's so wonderful. It is so good. I thought the fifties were hunt. Until i reach the sixty the sixties out there. They're out there who. Then when i reached the seventies mount no the seventies you want to reach the seventies. everybody's stay alive reach this because do you feel age you know. This is a society that so puts age and ageing. And we're so concerned about it. Is there a point where you say. Oh yes. I'm now an older woman. No there are some things that have not escaped. Me team has not. Ecstasy has not satisfaction has not disappointment has not fear has not courage has not so there are some things which have not escaped me. So that keeps you young If you start thinking that you know it and nobody can tell you anything. You found the one way and you can tell others faults. It's already over. it's already too late. You have become old at eighteen at twenty five when you think you know everything but when you know a do a lot you've been around a long time and you've paid attention like you so interesting though because people say to me when you call her up and you talk to her. Does she talk like she talks when she's and it is true many times i call them my and like just the other day he says on the morning. I'm sitting in my kitchen table and she just starts a conversation. Let me get a pencil. write this down. She's talking and then she are you there baby go. Yes so tell me. What is this significant of a song flung up heaven It comes from the third verse in the nba by pauline's dunbar. And i'd love to say please. That may i the first. I says i know what the caged bird fields on me when the sun is bright on upland slopes when the wind blows saw through the springing grass and the river. Floats like a sheet glass when the first bird sings and the first bird oaths and the same perfume from its chalice steals. I know but the caged bird field.
How to Give Visitors a Wow! Experience
"Priscilla rice and I'm coming to you from Live Oak recording studio in Berkeley, California, and I'm joined on the phone today by the founder and the chief Visionary officer of BNI. Dr. Ivan misner. Hello, How are you? And where are you this week? I am in addition to many recorded visits all around the world. I am Live this week June for a regional compact. In event, so I'm in Canada this week. That sounds all right. Now also this week I have a guest this is his fifth visit to as a guest to be an iPod cast and his name is Mark Applebaum. Mark has been would be and I for over 15 years. He's been a director consultant for more than five years. He's long and successful chapters in the b&i Utah and North Region Marx married to his amazing life. He says Tiffany for almost twenty years with two children Ryan and Tom Jenna and one of the things that Mark loves to do is to teach chapter members how to give visitors a wow experience. I can't think of anything better than that. Welcome back Mark mm contest. Thank you so much. I've it's great to be back. What's good to have you here? And you want to start by talking about making visitors female wanted so the floors your home. Well, thank you, you know a little background of where my y about this topic came up his growing up. I grew up back east in New York and my dad owned a pet store or at the time when I was growing up and I worked for my dad for many years and my dad was the world to me and he struggled a lot financially. So if a customer ever left his store, but happy it really affects his livelihood. So I was did my best to if a customer wasn't having a positive experience at least have them leads as happy as possible and you know in vni every visitor is not only a potential customer to be an eye, but it's a potential customer for ourselves. It's a their potential referral partners for ourselves more could lead us to potential customers or referral Partners. So how we treat our visitors. It's just imperative. So this podcast, you know, if you're a visitor host. It's not just meant for the visitor house out there. It's really meant for every single member to take on the mindset of a visit. Post because we all play a role in that visitor experience and it's in the future success of our chapter know let me just add one thing to you real quick. I know if you know this, but when I started back we didn't have visitor hosts. One of the things I said was that if you invited a visitor you had to be there host and honestly that didn't work as well. So because not everybody's created equal as a host wage and we did create visitor host. But that was my initial concept with b and I was that everybody had to be a host especially the person that invited them and I love the story to share in in givors gained about the visitor you sent to a chapter who ended up going to a different chapter who's the chapter that actually designed to visit our house program. That's either story. So everyone listening think about the region your chapters in and the amount of chapters you have in your region and just here in the Utah North Region. We have fifty three chapters and just in the Salt Lake area we have over 2,000 chapter wage. So depending on what what a visitor does they really in a twenty-mile radius twenty-minute radius. They have a wide variety of of chapters to choose from. So if you if the for the people if you take a moment and think about your chapter and the culture that it has now imagine for a moment every chapter in your region met at the same time the same day in the same location as all the other chapters sure that's not possible. But imagine it was for a moment. Yeah, I would a visitor choose your chapter over all the other ones and you know, it really comes down to what the poet Maya Angelou says best people will forget what you said people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel. Yes, what a visitor feel welcomed and important. They're more likely to want more of that and yep. That's why we all play a role in that positive experience. Whether you're the visitor host or not your contribution to your chapter and that in your involvement with how the visitor enters the room and Enterprise is in call and and welcoming them really makes such a difference. So a few examples of ideas that members and chapters can take on that could be very beneficial to them. The first is off when the visitor is already registered in BNI connect. The leadership team will receive an email saying so-and-so is registered to to visit on this particular day. Right? Well, the idea would be that the president of the chapter soon after getting that email sends a personal email to that visitor and also on that email they copy on the email other members in the chapter that are complementary to the visitor and then purpose of all that is 1 to let the visitor know how excited they are to meet them to to give them any instructions. They they may need to you know, show up but yep. To really let the visitor know that these other members could be great power Partners together with that visitor and so a great success story. I'd like to share is about three years ago as a director. One of my roles was placing visitors helping visitors find Chapters and I was working with one professional and his business was custom mens clothing and because of his schedule I took it into three different chapters and the third chapter he went to the president at the time Steve level who's the business attorney in the chapter was phenomenal at doing this and so he sent this personal email to this month custom clothing gentleman, and he see see the financial adviser and the family law attorney on on the email who both of them also replied to the custom clothing gentleman saying Thursday, we looks so we look forward to meeting you we too could use help with their own wardrobe and that visitor ended up visiting and a couple of weeks later. He ended wage. Joining and a couple of weeks later. I called them to say to figure out why he picked that chapter over the other two and in his words. He said that that chapter had an unfair Advantage because without one month then, you know connected to the members before they even met them that he wanted to join a group and three years later. He still a member of the group
A Short Reading for Self-Reflection With the Work of Maya Angelou.
"Everyone who other week here we go. Last week so busy for me I don't know what it was like for you all, but I want to give a big shout out to the women for sobriety people who put on this incredible gathering last weekend their annual conference and I was lucky enough to participate as one of their keynote speakers as well as sit on a panel and talking about ref- with two friends of mine one very new ginger rather and Veronica Valley it was such a great experience, and if you all haven't yet looked into women for sobriety, I highly suggest it. As I approached what to do for the podcast today. I recognize that I probably need a little bit of a break. A little time to slow down. And I thought I might try what some of my friends have been suggesting in. That is to do a little bit of like. Meditative. Reading for you all. I thought I'd combine it with some of the things that I've been. Doing for myself, and that is reading some poetry and some essays around what we're going through right now as a nation and I'm using that reading time that downtime that introspection time to get closer to my honesty about. My racism how I look at myself how I've looked at the world have looked at others into come closer to that honest relationship with myself so that I can speak honestly with you, and other people and I kept coming back to my Angelou. She has always been a voice in my head, while I shouldn't say always I probably didn't know about her until she. told me about her, but like many of us her soothing tone, her wise words have truly worked their way into the fabric of my life so today. Sit Back, relax. And, I thought I'd two of her most famous poems to you? The first is caged bird. A free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the current ends and dips his wing in the or orange sunrays. And dares to claim the sky, but a bird that stocks down his narrow cage can sell them see through his bars of rage. His wings are clipped. His feet are tied, so he opens his throat to sing. The caged bird sings with a fearful trail of things unknown, but longed for still, and his tune is heard on the distant. For the cage bird sings. A freedom. The free thinks of another breeze. And the trade winds soft through the citing trees and the fat worms waiting on the dawn bright lawn. Any names the sky is owned. But a cage bird stands on the grave of dreams. His shadow shouts on a nightmare scream. His wings are clipped and his feet are tied. So he opens his throat to sing. The caged bird sings with a fearful trail of things unknown, but longed for still. And his tune is heard on the distant hill. For the cage bird sings, afrita. The second poem I chose is still I rise I hope I do it justice? I am not a black woman, but I do empathize with the pain that I hear and the strength that I know that comes from this poem. You may write me down in history with your bitter twisted lies. You may trod me in the very dirt. But, still like dust I rise. Does my sassine is upset you. Why are you beset with gloom? 'CAUSE, I walk like I've got oil wells pumping in my living. Just like moons, and just like sons with the certainty of tides, just like hopes springing high. Still I rise. Did you want to see me? Broken bowed head and lowered is shoulders falling down like tears drops weakened by my sofa cries. Does. My harness offend you, don't you? Take it awful hard cause. I laugh like I've got gold mines. Digging in my own backyard. You may shoot me with your words. You may cut me with your eyes. You may kill me with your hateful nece, but still like air I rise.
I'm a Feminist But with Mae Martin and Charlotte Ritchie
"I'm a feminist but I have discovered different places. Resume calls in my plant where? The lighting is optimal a different times of Day. So at four. Pm I sit in the downstairs bedroom on the floor by the bay window and I look like a fucking movie star. I'm a feminist. But the only thing that I'm watching that's keeping my attention right now. In the end times is like really problematic erotic thrillers from Ninety S so Michael. Douglas Basic Instincts. Things like that. That when they don't hold up but managed to get fatal attraction yet. Fatal attraction came a spider kissed. The girls can. I recommend the hand that rocks the cradle. Love it love it. I'm way ahead of you to listen. I'm not saying it's a feminist peace. I'm saying this global epidemic and it could be the end of the world so yeah okay. Nine Ninety S- thrillers. We'll messages about strong women. All the women are like nymphomaniac murderer. It's a fantasy and also where all headed to be honest if we're in quarantine for four months which I will not be an infant maniac murderous. It's the only place to go. Yeah I'm a feminist bots. If I ever in my life suspect we will be quarantined again. I will immediately move into my plant on free rent someone who can blow dry hair and teach yoga and ideally a daily candidates. Who are applying. It'll be paid for all the services that have full free rent. I will make them breakfast wherever they want. It'll be a full length of lockdown deal for them. I will be looking for candidates who ideally also can do excellent liquid eyeliner and eyelashes. I'll do it. That's ideal for the zoom. We you say do. It may be skilled enough. No Go. Is his hunger free rent. Subsidies will you better stop upskilling? Okay I'm GonNA practice the eyeliner. I think I could blow job pretty pretty good. Okay listen I mean you're GONNA end up looking like Justin Bieber but listen? I would take anything at the moment. My skin is so dry. Oh that's right you. You can massage you. Went to school. Time registered shiatsu massage. Thank you so much for coming on out there. Yeah I've never done it. I hate it. I did two years full-time Monday to Friday. It costs six thousand dollars. I've never done it since well. Listen if for whatever reason. Your flat situation doesn't work out. Steve's gone to live in the country with friends okay. So there is a possible opening their. This is good to know if my room it becomes an infant maniac. Murderer can relocate. I'm going to need to be guaranteed your not an infant motor. WanNa move in. Can't promise if you WanNa join my house old. I'm feminist but my mom has just got into stock trading and I feel bad that I don't a I really don't trust her with the family's money like supportive a new passion I but I'm like why now and also if you read about it like she's free styling does she gambled your inheritance away daily. Yes possible yeah. Yeah you know what she might make some serious delta. There do think buy low sell hot. Why are you asking me? I'm infamy motorists. I'm a feminist part. I am secretly incredibly jealous and a little bit annoyed by the amount of lovely feminists who I see every day on instagram. Live who are somehow coping with the so well and somehow don't seem to have jobs anymore. I'm trying to get my whole life online and I'm melting down every other day. I'm somehow they have time to bake fresh banana. Bread love the UKULELE and make Origami animals. Want that for myself. Oh that will reading the entire works of Angelou. I would love that. When will this day come for me? I so stressed so busy so much. The up and down. If I tried to make banana bread it would be made from my tears and I would definitely burn it and destroy it and throw it on the ground. Say What's the point of anything anyway on the feminist? I've been watching well not that. This isn't feminist by just been watching shitloads porn really so much and then also went on Chat Roulette. If you've been on that chat room it's just brand and people in the world and it's mostly just guys wanking but it's just a close up of went on it just to our some guys want anybody said Oh my God. Your mom from feel-good well no I don't put my face. Oh just between my life no. I'm joking term my camera. I just turn my camera off so I'm just a black screen and they know someone's watching and they like it. Look I did it like once just no. I'm not judging. I'm just understanding. I couldn't walk out what you dig. So the roulette for them is. They don't know who's watching and the roulette for us. You don't know what you're watching you and sometimes you get like minded people so it's just some weird lonely girl being trying to find some decks and you match up and and then like minded people some if it's a weird lonely wishing to see an erect penis. You then turn your camera and go. Hey I mean I'm not doing this all the time but yeah maybe I'll meet my spouse. We'll both be looking for the same thing. You story for your grandchildren who you will only be able to talk to on a scream in the apocalypse anyway. Yeah exactly you'll never meet your grandchildren. I mean helping sequestered at birth. This is a sad story. Joking scallops humor everybody. Breathe breathe in and out breathe
Michaela Haas on Turning Bad Breaks into Breakthroughs
"Michaela. It is so great to have you on untangle today. Thank you so much for being here. Thanks for having me. I've been looking forward to this awesome so I loved your book bouncing forward. Yeah and the subtitle of the book is transforming bad. Breaks into breakthroughs and this just stirred up so much for me because so much of your work is about resilience and forgiveness and use the term post traumatic growth verses post traumatic stress for example. And I really WANNA help our our listeners. Understand why resilience is so important and why some of US fall apart while others of US thrive based on your stories exactly. That's really the question. That has intrigued me for a very very long time. And I as a journalist I meet a lot of people who've been through traumatic experiences and I always wondered why some people were able to deal with it better or heal from it. And even thrive while others fell apart so this question became deeply personal when I got severely ill in my twenties and I was actually bedridden for about eight months and it was pretty scary because the doctors didn't know what was wrong with me and if I would ever get better and I was Nodar Cillian and I did fall apart. So this really sparked the personal part of the journey to see well other people have been through things much worse than what I've experienced. So are there things I can learn to become more resilient? Are there things that I can use to nourish myself when I'm down and the book bouncing forward is really the result of this because I got to speak to? People Admire like Maya Angelou who actually gave the book it's titled. She talks about bouncing forward going. Beyond what the Naysayer said or people like temple grandin the autistic pioneer or a paralyzed surfer called Jesse Bill. Our and I asked them all the same questions. What helped you. How did you make it through? And in the course of this research I came across this amazing new science of Post Traumatic Growth. And of course everybody has heard of post traumatic stress but much to my surprise. I learned today is really a lot of information about how we cannot only heal from traumatic experiences and challenges but even use them to grow and so this is what really fascinates me and this is why I wrote bouncing forward to share this research with anybody who experiences challenges in life and who doesn't right. Doesn't I think you have a statistic in your book that eighty nine percent of US experience at least one traumatic event in our life and with post traumatic growth. Is there sort of a depth of experience or negative experience that you have that makes it almost impossible to come back or in your research? Have you found any differences between how bad experience actually is in how easy or hard it is to come back thing one of the things? I've most surprising is that it is not what happened to us. That determines how severe trauma is I've interviewed a chapter about. My friend Coco Schumann. Who WAS AN AUSCHWITZ? Maya Angelou was abused and raped as an eight year old. So I've come to understand that there is nothing that we cannot heal from now. Of course it doesn't mean that it doesn't leave scars and actually what determines if can heal from a trauma isn't so much what happens to us that how much support we get. How much incharge feel how much control they can take situation? How safe we feel how much we lost in very very much. Our mindset. 'cause. I'm I've been a practicing Buddhist for more than twenty years now and what actually got me into Buddhism was mine counters with Tibetan refugees in Asia. And they had traumatic life stories. They've often witnessed family members being killed or tortured or they've been in prison or they've been tortured and even when some psychologists were surprised to find that only one of nine hundred refugees they interviewed was diagnosed with Ptsd and all the others had found ways through that practice of compassion and meditation and Mindfulness to work through their pain and work through their suffering. And this is where I think the idea of post traumatic growth is so helpful because as soon as we can find any purpose in while we go through then we actually have a much much better chance of healing from it and this is something that no matter what our specific traumas children set. The fundamental question is not if we encounter suffering because we all do but how we work with suffering so that leads to awakening the hard in going beyond the habitual views and actions to perpetuate suffering. So this is really the core. A founding forward. Yeah it's a really. It's a complicated idea. I mean it seems simple on the one hand and complicated on the other because looking back at your story so your bedridden with an undetectable illness at the time for eight months. And you're struggling with that. Is it because you didn't have the tools yet to become more resilient or to accept this as an opportunity I mean? Is there any way to wall? Were inside the opportunity to look at the gift of that without getting too sort of Wu about that because these experiences are horrible. I met a few people who were able to do it on the spot but I think there are rare. Most people need at least a few years or several years too with some distance to look back and see it as a growing experience and I think one of the worst things you can say to somebody who's in the midst of it things like. Oh it's GonNa get better or who knows what it's good for people. Hey these phrases and that's really not what poster medic growth means and actually the only way we can grow as to allow struggle but one thing I can say that helped me and that I think helps anybody who's going through a tough time is mindfulness meditation. Because I think that we have no choice but to learn to stay present and running away as tempting as it is or drinking. The pain away or taking painkillers or whatever particular styles of avoiding it. It just never works. None of these methods works. So mindfulness meditation is now you so widely in the army and businesses in trauma therapy and I founded crucial now. I head already started meditating before I became ill but I had to realize that I was more like a good weather meditators. I use it to make myself feel good and I had to learn to go deeper with that and to stay present even when the going gets tough even when there is physical pain even when there is emotional pain to stay present and rushy Bernie glassman because also In bouncing forward is well if you think about it. We're always in the present moment anyway. We can't be anywhere else. It's just a matter of allowing ourselves to actually be there and be present with whatever happens. Of course it's a practice at work on for the rest of my life. Yeah I think we all will and I think a lot of people who have experienced trauma. Let's say yet in their lies. Don't really understand that. These practices that you cultivate pre trauma are going to be important for anything that you deal with in life. And how do you inspire people to really understand that these practices will be your if you will forgetting through things? Yes obviously you want to practice meditation or other. Resources full resilience. Ideally practice them when the sun is shining so that we have them at our disposal when the going gets tough and one of the things. I find most encouraging. Is that actually in the mindfulness tradition that I trained in we can use happiness and pain to transform ourselves to open a hard to become more compassionate rather than closing down to sharing was really going on. We don't have to wait for trauma to start but it's useful to prepare ourselves because most of us not only experienced one trauma in life but five to six actually and it's not just the war in Iraq that can be traumatic but a divorce can be traumatic and illness can be traumatic surgery. A car crash thinks that happened to pretty much all of us and I think if it was up to me resilience would be taught in schools. Mindfulness Meditation would be taught in schools because kids learn about it if they applied. They grow up so much stronger because resilience is like a muscle if we work at it. If we train in it then we become strong and we become more resilient and the earlier we start or if we have daily practice the more useful it will be to us when we do encounter a severe challenge or
Graham Brown: How To Influence, Engage, And Create Change Through Storytelling
"In my leadership in the exponential era book one of the storytelling techniques. That I teach in workshops and I share it in the book is the three box. Transformation story inspired somewhat by Charles Dickinson Christmas cow. But I want to go into that just now because Christmas is already passed but just know that there are three boxes and this is how you can tell a story. A good example is when I came to Singapore and I moved to Singapore from Japan two years ago. I could have told people what I was doing there. People ask me. What are you doing here? Graham why are you in Singapore? I'm Ron and tell them what my job ause. I told him what I was going to build you see. I told them that. I came to Singapore to build podcast studio and a podcast business and that Saturday after I moved to Singapore. I put the call out linked in and said I'm going to build a podcast. Judea if you WANNA come along and help me build this and up the acoustic tiles and put in the wiring. Setup the microphones Akon pay with anything apart from kindness memories. Good Times a beer. And a whole bunch of people turned up owning youtube people in Singapore at the time but twelve people turned up to help me build the studio. And that's the point. That's the power of story if I said to somebody when they asked me. What are you doing unless said Yeah I do podcasts. It's a missed opportunity. Robin tell people what you do. Tell them what you're going to build. When you tell stories about you business you can break it down like that. Break it down to three boxes past present future. Let's have a look at those. It's very simple. If you want to tell people about you'll business why you hear what you're selling. Break it down into the three boxes. And if you WANNA go deeper into this cycle the exponential leadership book which is free by the way you can go and get a xl dot org. But I give a plug at the end of this podcast anyway. So you don't forget it for now past present future past. Where have you come from? What is the mindset that brought you here and what is the mindset? Also that holds people back present. What is the shape of the business that you all today and future? What is the shape of the business that you want to become now? You may think this may work for for example. The startup she does is a fantastic sales tool for start of but also works with multi billion dollar enterprises a great example of this. I've seen Tony Fernandez. Who is the CEO of Airasia when he talks about the future of the quote Unquote Airline? He doesn't talk about in the context of we're an allied. He uses the equivalent of the three bucks technique which is passed all is the mindset. That's holding his back. Well the mindset. That's holding AirAsia. Back is we're in allied. We sow tickets. We sell seats and yet if they want to grow they can't go on with that mindset they have to change it they have to even sell competitive tickets. They have to sell whole bunch of other different services ancillary services everything from music to food president. What's the shape of the business that we all today was the structure in which we need to innovate well? We're an ally but yet we have this ecosystem of partners we have venture fund that's funding these policies future. What's the shape of the business that we want to become? We doesn't talk about becoming a better airline. He talks about becoming a digital to travel platform. So maybe you hear Tony Fernandez Talk. He tells the story of Airasia. Tudo which is the journey from being an Anna sold tickets to a digital travel platform. Because you know the problem is this is that the future doesn't belong to the airline that flies the most plane but the travel company that solves the most problems unless what it's about storytelling is about sharing the journey of you and your business why you hear and what you're trying to get to and you can use storytelling everywhere. You can use it when you sell when you post on social media. Notice the difference between just telling people is what we do or just telling people were doing this now or telling people we just on this the difference from that to telling story about it you'll engagements on social media will increase significantly unlike. Weiss this podcast. I've shared stories with. I could just have told you that. Storytelling is a powerful tool and here are three things that you need to know. But then it's not about that like Maya Angelou. The author once wrote people. Soon forget what you told them but over? S- remember how you made them feel so that my name's Graham Brown signing of hopefully I gave you some insights into the world of
Oprah and Tracee Ellis Ross: Your Life in Focus
"All my goodness look at this. This isn't a room this is beyond a room. Riina thank you for all the way to Dell oh I would fly to Dallas for you. I'd fly to the move. This is actually very first time together. One on one a GAL has dreamed. Well it has been so really meaningful and delightful to watch you from afar. Just flourish just your flourishing and flourishing into everything. It means to be a woman who is completely full as I've been talking earlier full and filled with life to herself. And you say that you're living in abundant you call it juicy life and juicy enjoyable life. What does it look like to you? Well it's interesting. I feel like as I've gotten older I've become more myself and the more I am myself. The more my life looks like me and it's not the same as anybody else's and so it's been this process of first coming to know myself then accept myself. I love myself not on every day. Be kind to myself. Even when I don't feel like I want to be and then ask myself all those questions of what I what I really want from my life talking about. Yes and it's such an intimate journey that has taken time like even after I've discovered the things I like the things I wanna do my dreams who I am then the courage to actually walk towards those things is in and of itself. Its own journey. So I've been watching you from afar and I've seen you do lots of things you the first black woman ever opened the tedtalk. That was incredible. That was one of the one of the scariest things I've ever done. That was but that was fantastic. I like that very much. I thought you were in your power but the thing I loved so much that makes my eyes water. Is that speech that you didn't glamour in two thousand seventeen and you said something at that speech that reminded me of a moment that my Angelou church with me years ago. She said when she was in a really downtime and that she was with someone who said remember God loves you and she said God loves me and the realization of that God here all the title is but you don't realize and you had one of those moments so everybody with that was for us so we walk around. Like I'm doing what I WANNA do. I'm living laugh. I'm Mike Makeup Dreams Happen. I'm putting one foot in front of the other. I'm making it all go. And then you have these moments which actually came journaling. I had broken up with somebody. We'd been broken up with each other for quite some time and somehow I was having a ton of anxiety about telling him again when a repeat had been broken up for some time I had anxiety about telling him I wanted to date other people. What is that? What is that and these are the moments that I say to myself like? What is that like the kind of question like what is running me right now like. What is this dialogue? I'm having where did it come from? Is this some tape? That's mine. Is this a cultural tape? Is this me thinking I have to ask permission of somebody to live my own life and in my journaling I wrote. My Life is mine and it just I mean I say it and it takes my breath away because one doesn't realize really particularly as a woman particularly as a black and Brown woman in this culture. In the swirl of Patriarchy and racism and sexism and all of these things these things that are sort of giving us a map that is not necessarily our own that we can actually make choices for ourselves that are not just externally for ourselves but that actually match that very quiet voice inside our hearts and it launched me into honestly the life. I'm living right now really. So did y'all hear that my life is mine. My Life Mine. I just take a minute. Take a deep breath because the echoes crazy. Are you used arena? Talking here. Seventy thousand feet was a lot of its arena talking. We're arena dog. It's just a little intimate conversation. Yes but when that realization hit you in my life is I would think that that would bring tears to your eyes and that would be. The kind of that would be like Whoa. It brought tears to my eyes also begged a lot of questions where the places where. I'm not living my own life. And so many of the epiphany moments that occur are met with grief and tears and my own judgment and then even when you have a moment like that even when I had this moment of naming those words and holding them and hearing them then also didn't just do it right away everywhere people and you know his moments. It's interesting when I did that. Speech I was terrified to do it. I felt like I needed another three days. I knew it was too long. Didn't have time to cut it down and I kept saying to myself. You are enough just as you are even if you think it should be different you get to show up just as the speeches and that works. This is fine but I was also terrified because I felt like there were such important things going on in the world and I felt like this was not an important thing to talk about the fact that Your Life Is Yours. And empowering other people do the same which it is really the only talk about important. Most important didn't even dawn on me. Then then afterwards I had a lot of shame about having revealed something so vulnerable and then it took me about two years to realize how revolutionary the thought is particularly for a woman. Yes that we know you can applaud for that. That's all of us to actually live in your own life. You know in the seventies speaking of living your own life and what bottling for other women is in the seventies for me. It was very tyler Moore. Mary Mary Richards was on TV. She was a single woman. She was a heroin but she was a fictional character. And in twenty twenty. I know you realizes that a lot of single ladies point to you as an example of what being an unmarried woman could and should look like and I imagine. That's not a role that you ever thought you'd be playing which I like. Many of us was taught to grow up dreaming of my wedding not of my life and I spent many years of my went to the choir and also waiting to be chosen. Well here's the thing I'm the chooser and I can choose to get married if I want to. But in the meantime I am choice. Family single happily gloriously single and. I do wish there were more examples and one of the reasons. I'm okay talking about it and by the way my life is mind. That speech really was geared towards that I was like you know at the time was forty five years old and single and I had just pushed out my fifth kid on television. The irony of that in that context so many people ask the question. Have you ever thought about having children like I mean my child gave my life meaning? I'm like are you saying my life is not meaningful and because of the structure that we live in. It is so easy for me to feel undermined with all the accomplishment that I've had and my accomplishments I don't mean the Walker stuff I mean like I take the garbage out before it stinks like I eat food. That's good for me. I get my sleep. I show up for my friends. And that makes life very meaningful and somehow the rug gets pulled out so quickly when people put me in the you should be married why are why aren't you married yet. Like what's wrong with you. Well you know I got that until my fifties so you got a while to go. I only have three years but people might keep asking me and I don't mind if people keep asking me because every time they asked me. It's an opportunity for me to change the narrative and expand the story of what we can be who we are as
Oprah Winfrey donates more than $1 million to United Negro College Fund
"Oprah Winfrey shocked attendees at a North Carolina fundraiser yesterday by announcing a donation of more than one million dollars to the United Negro college fund the former talk show host made the surprise announcement at the Charlotte seventy Emmanuel Maya Angelou women who Lee
Britain plans for opt-out organ donation scheme to save lives
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