21 Burst results for "Agoraphobia"

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Never Thought I'd Say This

Never Thought I'd Say This

03:46 min | 2 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Never Thought I'd Say This

"That's when i that's what happens online is like they. They walked up to me. And i yelled at me so i returned the favor. It is true gracious. I think but i. I am pleased with kidding back out in the world a little bit. But i don't like that there's so many other people around i like being outside. I don't like other people being outside. Is that normal. Well not normal. But i wish we could go back to that when it was like when it was just only a few of us that were like daring to like sort of mask up and go well. I will release drive their cars. 'cause i really. Oh yeah well. I was there. There was. I know people thought that that by people i mean therapists wondered halfway through but there are people right. Now that's debatable. Sometimes i think i'm just getting well i i already speak ill of therapist i i. I don't know that it was like a discussion among everybody. But i know that in like my therapy groups for awhile. Therapy people therapy people. There was a lot of discussion about whether agoraphobia would be on the rise during this. And what did the therapy by agree. Did they say yes. Yes and no. I showed yes or no. They couldn't really say. Oh yes. it's definitely agoraphobia. Because like you don't really develop agoraphobia. Unless something dramatic happens to you or a lot of the time. It's actually genetic and this definitely constituted a tron says. I would agree but it was. It was such a weird trauma that they were kind of like the study. So far have shown. It's not agoraphobia per se..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

05:35 min | 2 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"Anxiety convinces you that it would essentially be the end of the world or that. It would ruin things for you and i think that being responsible for other people's care in working full shifts at work with definitely tap into that fear of being just stuck not being able to get out of it and if you made a mistake that potentially there could be a risk to that so it taps into a lot of the things that are really at the core of panic disorder and agoraphobia. So i get it. I see why this would be a really high for you in one of the cool things about this If i if i may i don't wanna feel don't want you to think i'm being dismissive or anything like that but one of the cool things about this is that it sounds like you're basically at the top of your courage ladder. Courage ladder is what Some of us call a hierarchy. You know so working from the bottom for things that don't generate a lot of anxiety and eventually getting closer and closer and closer to your bigger goals things that you would like to be able to endure and not feel so anxious that you have to escape they up to avoid so this sounds like it's basically at the top of your hierarchy. There probably aren't too many things that are more intense than this for you so this is a challenging one. But that's bad ass because that means that you basically mastered or made significant progress on all of the other steps along the way which is super cool. So what can you do about it I i think that it could be helpful to communicate openly about your situation as much as possible and as much as you feel comfortable with you know. Obviously this is your own healthcare information so you don't like shouted from the rooftops and tell the entire world everybody that you work with and stuff like that that you're struggling with these things but in terms of working with the potential employer whether that's new or somebody you've worked with before he may be surprised. At how much flexibility and understanding as possible with just a little bit of self disclosure helping them understand the situation. Because you know it's the same kind of thing with family members or significant others if they're not aware of what you're going through their left to make guesses about your behavior in they may misinterpret it you know for instance in a workplace things like being late or things like taking a lot of breaks Various types of behaviors. That might be a little bit out of the norm. If the employer has no context about that they may think that you're just being you know just insubordinate for no reason or that you don't care much about the job that you're not taking it seriously. Whatever hopefully they don't hopefully they ask in their. You know they're good about that but you know if you can feel comfortable telling them a little bit about what's going on. That may help things out quite a bit. They also might be able to help you out too so they might be able to help you with ideas..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

04:05 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"Remember how it burned. So those things. They don't necessarily go away. But that doesn't mean christ isn't god's promises aren't real and that we are not walking in his freedom. What are some reasons you think that potentially resist moving towards freedom and you talked about one because it kind of feels comforting in a weird sort of way and i would say maybe because at least for me with with my ocd it's comforting in nat- it's uncomfortable to move forward in an area that i find uncomfortable that makes sense and so it feels more comforting in the moment to south protect or other go to my old behavior patterns and i think you hit on the words comfort. We have our boxes. We have our comfort zones. This is what we're used to. This is what we know. We've developed coping mechanisms and coping. Mechanisms are not the same thing is freedom necessarily We can have damaging coping mechanisms. But we are used to them. We know what to do. We know how to use them. And when it's time to step into freedom and do something different and maybe leave some of those things behind. it's uncomfortable it's uncomfortable to leave that little bit earlier control. We feel like we have it under control of the way. We're handling it or the way we're doing it or or as i said earlier it's become our identity. It's become how we identify ourselves. And i'm a huge advocate of knowing who we are in christ of knowing who who he says we are going into the bible and looking at who we are and replacing those things that we identify as sometimes there are maybe damaging to us with who he says we are and i think that makes a big difference. Yeah and i. I think to how we began this conversation with the sense of isolation or feeling we're alone i think sometimes we're afraid to get help because we can't fight this battle most likely alone. We're going to need help from our friends from our family probably from a mental health expert. And that can put us in a really vulnerable place because if we already feel like nobody else has like us. We're already judging our feelings and our challenges. It takes a lot of courage to step forward and to look another human being in the eye and say you know what this is. What i go through and this is this is how it presents in my life and i think sometimes that's really challenging and this why i'm struggling moving forward and i think we we as a culture in a society. We value having all our ducks in a row. And all the everything in our boxes and everything together and it's very hard for us to step up and say you know my my box is broken. My ducks are running around and other ladies and it came.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

03:30 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"Does that mean. Everything's great now and boom. It was all amazing and it went over like what. Let's talk about just the ongoing battle. Something nobody tells you and and it's been eleven years for me of walking in this new freedom with christ and but something nobody tells you is that you have taken on this identity. You know you at some part of you even if you hate them and this things -iety in these things that are happening it becomes part of who you are and so when you distribute away you kind of want to pull it back on like wait. I've i've lost my favorite shirt like our applause. If not my favorite shirt my company shirt you kind of have this identity crisis of who am i now without this and so it's very important and i have a student right now. He's walking through anxiety and she's identifying my anxiety and i keep telling her don't make it who you are you know. Don't make your so. You're an artist. You're a friend your daughter. Don't make this who you are. There's this tendency to want to do that because it takes over our lives so nobody tells you that when you nobody tells you that. It's very hard to to take that jacket off. It's a little exposing to do it. But you know. I say godfried me and he did and like i said people walk through different things. But there's still those times. When i like getting on a airplane when i had to say okay you know what this is over for me. God's taking care of this for me but there's still that mental component of remembering who. I am whose i am. And you know the victory that we walk in we can be freed of something and we can be delivered of something and we can be walking and freedom in christ but it's like anything else. Satan likes to come in and give us their thoughts. And we have those thoughts as human beings we have those temptations to go back to our old way of thinking and so it's really important that we recognize. There's times and that we see those moments when when we're tired when we're emotionally drained when when we've had something remind us of the past that it can creep up on us and says kind of important not to be hyper vigilant but to know what your thoughts like into in those moments recenter ourselves on christ and on what he's done and what he's given us and how he's how he holds us even in the hard times. Yeah and we've talked about this in previous episodes to there's actually. Our brain actually is constantly rewiring itself. So part of what you talked about. Jodi it is were rerouting are thought patterns and so those are thoughts will have a tendency to want to go down that stream that they're accustomed to but then we have to continually reroute them. When you're when you're reminding yourself that's not who i am are god's already helped me with this already passed this. You're in essence stopping the stream of that fearful thought and you're rerouting it to your new thought patterns and so that's why one i think it can feel so difficult to why why it can become habitual to kind of think a certain way and then three why it is in part whites and ongoing battle in the point is don't feel defeated when it's an ongoing battle that doesn't mean the war has been lost or the battle has been lost. It just means that's the way our brains work. I mean if we touch a hot stove. We're gonna.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

05:52 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"But there's this battle that happens in the mind and part of what i did. I had a wonderful wonderful counselor and he had me write down. He said. I want you to write down and keeping your pocket. What will get you through what you can pull out read when you are in a place and you start to feel that no panic grows up and so i don't know what he expected. I got my bible. And i started looking and i had a list of like ten by versus the i carried around newspaper in my pocket and i do want to say though. That's not a magic bullet. And i think sometimes we get upset with god because we want quote a bible verse in poof. Everything is better. It doesn't always work that way so we have to be careful that we don't treat god like a like a lucky charm or magic talisman that you know oh if i everything will be better but it does change the way your thoughts work and it changes your focus and it takes off of of you and what you're feeling and puts it onto god and i think that is huge. Yeah and i think i would mention to that to just talking about. Sometimes i think in in faith communities we can attribute to a spiritual cause and therefore spiritual solution and i i do think everything has spiritual component but god looks at us as a whole person and sometimes we have to deal with some of the external things weather like for you. There was passed. But i know like for my daughter. She has sensory issues and so until she dealt with the sensory issue. She was always on hyper alert from just too much stimulation and once she realised that and could put herself in places like bring earplugs to church and sit in the back and and kind of cope with some of those things that greatly reduced anxiety and so for each one of us. I think it'll be different. But as we seek christ. And i think and and just follow his lead. I think he will lead us towards therapy. And and people who can have insight into cr-. I would suggest christian counselor. So they can kind of navigate through the spiritual and emotional and the physical and help us make sense of it but i so i love that you that you mentioned that and i know you had mentioned something else i think is pretty common again when we were having a conversation and i don't remember what i said but you had mentioned something about how you judge yourself in that moment and so that your self judgment hindered you did and it's important to understand anxiety comes from a thousand different places and nobody's walk. Looks like anybody else's walk and my thing was because of what had happened to me. Because i was carted off in the ambulance i had i. The anxiety came out as this intense fear of becoming sick in a public place. And so i thought in my head that was the dumbest thing in the world..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

03:32 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"I could barely my room to go to the kitchen to make a sandwich. I was not going six hours away college. That was impossible. So i i basically everything that i defied with. It made me all the academics and the friends and the college and all those things. I had wrapped my life around. They were gone on and my friends moved on without me. They went to school. They did their thing and here. I am sitting at home struggling to walk out on the front porch. So i'd love to talk about that. Because i wonder how many of our listeners feel that way they are watching everybody else get on with their life move forward with things maybe even hard things in frightening things and maybe feeling like they can't so how did how did that feel well and no. It doesn't have to be as dramatic as not being able to walk out your front door. Either i mean we can feel that way and be perfectly functioning and still watch people you know in our jobs in our relationships who seem to quite outpace us or leave us behind. I honestly dealing with that when i look back now. What i see is when i look back. I don't see the h- the hard so much. Like i know i went through it. But there's this overarching remembrance. Of jesus being there this over our to even when i was alone when i think about me alone in my room in my big round pakistan chair crying and no wise just happening to me. There's this overarching failing. That jesus was there even when even though at the time i couldn't feel him that's what i have now is is what i look back and see and i think that's so so important because our feelings lie to us and my my daughter had said that when she was in her real and she shared on on this podcast she would sharon now but when she was really going through intense depression and anxiety. She said she couldn't hear outside her own thoughts. Let alone hear from god and so. She felt like something was wrong with her spiritually. Because when she doesn't have the peace and joy that she hears everybody talk about right and then to she can't hear him and you can't feel them and she had to recognize that our feelings do lie to ask but scripture promises us the moment we take a step towards god. That's games for a that. He is already moving towards us. And that's my own paraphrase of it but the guy god's faithfulness is not dependent on ours and he has so much more grace and love for us than we do so much more compassionate and understanding. And i think we think he's gonna just boom be done with us but i think he has so much more grace and gentleness for us and he does and you know there's this battle in the mind and in. I'm glad i want to back up a second to before we get forward. I'm glad you brought up depression anxiety because the two are they hold hands with each other. You know you are going through this walk in. You're watching everything passed you by and you do sync into this depression and sometimes sometimes that's physical. Sometimes it's mental but they do go hand in hand and we did not realize that was something that came out years later with me that i was also depressed in among the anxiety because they just meshed so well together that we really didn't see him until in hindsight we could see him..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

03:10 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"Down. What i didn't know is is you know if you shake coke bottle it's going to explode if you pack something into tight eventually. It's going to pop up. Then you had mentioned before how you had this. This fear of being a bother so i i would love to hear more about that. I had someone in my life. And i said i was blessed to have amazing aunts and my grandmother and my dad and my aunts and uncles were like my parents. You know they were like a whole series it appearance and we're close family. They had someone one person in my life. Who did make me feel like a bother. Like i was And it was looked up to you. And i respected and i wanted them to love me very much but they consistently made me feel less than and made me feel like and like i was a problem and so i picked. I didn't realize again you're twelve thirteen. You don't realize you're internalizing these things. And i did and i began to feel like i had to be perfect all the time. I could not mess up. I could not be a distraction. I could not the away from whatever they were doing in their life and so being at the beach and getting taken to the hospital carted off to hospital. My dad had take a day off work. He had to borrow my grandma car to come and get us. And that's a bother. And so i think at that point it was just a perfect storm of graduating. I was gonna move six hours. Away and pout. On top of all the things. I had packed down for you. Know eight years ten years. It delivered blew off with that ambulance ride. I think you know. I think a lot of us too. We do get really good at not feeling thinking that we're managing okay but kind of like you said just bobbled those feelings. Don't go away just because we ignore them or numbers from them or distract ourselves from from them. We just become less able to deal with them if were not aware of them and not processing them and we think we're fine and again like i said i took this great prod an- pride was a big thing with me and i can see that. Now pride was. I was proud of how mature i was. I was proud of you know everybody was complimenting me. I was proud of my grades. It was proud of my scholarship was proud of my school and so in a way. I'm sound odd. If you're sitting there listening. But i'm i'm blessed that i had that knocked out from under me in a way because suddenly i went. I mean this. This cost me almost everything at that. An eighteen year old can lose. Because i you know i had almost a full rides in my dream school. I had to give that up. Because i couldn't walk out my front door to get the mail. I couldn't answer the phone. i couldn't..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

02:52 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"World now. Can we talk a little about you mentioned you. The kid had on altogether. And i i think you mentioned perfectionism in there. And i can just imagine so you're eighteen. Everything's changing you're about to go to this huge life adjustment where you're pretty much going to stand on your own for the first time i did that. Perfectionism play apart. Do you think in what you experienced in kind of your meltdown. I guess i think in a way that it did because perfectionism in control. I don't think we realized how much those two things go together and for me it was very much about control and that perfectionism lived in in that control. They kind of just played nicely together or not nicely together but it came from the fact that when i was a kid when i was ten years old my parents split up and my mom. We didn't see her for. I mean probably a year Sporadically but like the shoe specific subsequent. Show up that kind of thing. And i did not realize what that did to me i. I don't think. I don't think we realized sometimes especially when we're young we kind of keep rolling with the punches and we don't really handle what's happening and so i actually. We figured out later. On in the when i was twelve i got to the point where i don't wanna go to school and i would hide to keep from going to school because i was utterly convinced. A tornado is gonna hit my school. Which kind of sounds like a randomly silly thing to think that. Not too many months before my mom. left we actually had the worst tornado outbreak at the time north carolina history. Not far from where i lived and so i linked to the two of them but eventually bat was that interestingly enough kind of faded away on its own but what i learned i was fortunate enough to be raised by my dad and my dad is an incredible man and he took on the job of raising my brother and me beautifully. I did not lack for support in my life but one of the things that means you that i learned much much much much later. That women don't do is when there's something for them to deal with. They go and they deal with by themselves. Kind of you know a lot of times. Not all men but my dad did and we'll come back it when it's all dealt with in their you know they're good. Well i saw my dad always be okay. I never saw the off the side dealing with things and so in my mind. You didn't do things you just kind of wished him down emission down man and so i can't being told from ten and eleven and twelve. They're our mature. I was so brave. I always headed altogether and i began to take pride in that in never falling apart in. Never letting.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

Faith Over Fear

03:41 min | 3 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Faith Over Fear

"Things -iety panic attacks and how in high school right after high school. I struggled to leave my house. And so gin. And i talk when i really wanted to do was share more of the story and let you know that if you're going through something like that who are her dealing with anxiety. You're dealing with that crippling fear. You're not alone. Because when i was walking that journey. I sincerely felt isolated. I feel alone. I felt like the only person that ever happened to. So what was that called specifically. I had what was called agoraphobia and literally translated it means fear of the marketplace. But it was. I could not leave my house. I was eighteen years old. I just graduated from high school. I had my dream college in my hip pocket with a scholarship. I was going where. I wanted to go doing what i wanted to do. Graduated from high school and the brakes got slammed. I my best friend. And i had gone to the beach and we both got food poisoning and we got carted off to the hospital in an ambulance which was kind of traumatic. When you're eighteen and away from home. When we got home she got better. And i didn't every time. I tried to leave the house to go to church to eat to go to the mailbox. I would get sick so took me to the doctor. They compare what was wrong and one night. My dad said okay. You know we're just going to go out to eat. Which is going to nipped in the bud and go out to eat and i got in the car and i lost. I hyper ventilating. Heart racing I ran back in the house..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on The Nix

The Nix

02:37 min | 9 months ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on The Nix

"Whether it's an agreed truth or personal truth is its own form of pockets fucking kudos. That's my snap right there. I mean that is just genius. That gospel i this show. it's disgusting. I am such gora phob. I not not a agoraphobia agoraphobia. It's like when you're afraid of out sort. I'm a gora phob training. Yes i'm afraid of gore and this shows very gory but it puts to a very kind of stripped Purpose and sort of a grant renewal just are death is our our freedom. It's the darkness. We deserved is a net. That i have here. I love the show so much. It could not have been more perfect for this year. It didn't get enough attention. Like i think i was the only person talking about the gospels far. I now did your dad. Did your crew ever wanted to pod over. Watch it because i really do feel like they would have. They watched remember. Yeah yeah walkabout show. That stuck with me and i will watch the entire thing. It's a point that's number three but he got for number two. I'm to my central park. So you talked about it now. Took me off central park by surprise because as we have talked about not about animation person. Mytalk over my dog who also has feelings among. But we're all used to that. But i ain't nelson to music all the time the it's smart. It was funny. It was so sweet. It's easy to go back to. I just i loved it. And i continue. It continues to be a thing of joy that i really have has really made me happy. So it's on my playlist at work. I'm sure all my coworkers are sick of it. And just don't give a shit. Yea i love it and it's not a coat kind of thing. I'm just so that you like. Yeah and i've forced many people to watch it. And you know i there's there's always a it has many quotes that you can throw easily and there's nothing like being able to tell your dog that they're toscano. It's one thing that apple. Tv did to you now. Basically prove its right to exist. So i did proceed to. Don't take it.

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The 'What About Bob?' Test

The Attention Collection

04:43 min | 11 months ago

The 'What About Bob?' Test

"Legend has it. There was a stone at the entrance. To apollo's temple in ancient greece and on this stone two words. No thyself is the legend true. I don't know the better question. Is it possible to know thyself. We've been exploring this question as humans for thousands of years through introspection and self examination through religion and mindfulness and therapy. But i tend to think it's not possible to know thyself at least not fully to bump into the borders and edges of who we are but i do believe it's possible to uncover more and more of yourself in the course of everyday life. I think one of the best ways to do this is through connection to other people. I think of the waste. Cs lewis describes the connection of friendship in his book. The four loves he says. Let's say you have. Three friends will call them. A b and c if a dies which dark turn then be loses not only a but as part in see the explains what it means. He says it each of my friends. There is something that only some other friend can fully bring out by myself. I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity in other words. What i spend focused time with my wife or one of my children or a family member a best friend one on one time. Which is the closest connection in the world. Because these are people i cared deeply about how even if i give them my full undivided attention. I will still be unable to experience them in their fullness. And why is that. Because i'm only experiencing the part of them that i draw out of them now. If we added another person into the mix someone else that they cared about they would change right in front of me because that person would draw out another part that i don't have access to another part that we don't connect on i'll take it further a while back. My wife threw a surprise birthday party. I had no idea was coming and she brought together. This group of my friends who don't have much experience around each other in a few days after one of my close friends somebody who knows me. Very well mentioned. He'd never seen me laugh that way before. And that i. I was confused as trying to like go back in time in revisit the night and then i remembered who was there and it made perfect sense. My friend larry was there sitting right next to me. And there isn't a person on the planet who makes me laugh like him and you can probably relate to this right you get around certain people and they bring out that other side of you. That element of mischief that twinkle in your eye you tend to get in trouble with that group or you have more fun with that group and it's not because you're being fake or putting on a show. They're pulling something out of you just by their presence. Because people bring out different elements of you elements you might not even know you possess until they arise getting around others is one of the best ways to figure out what you have kicking around inside. That's a wonderful thing. It's also a little scary because we might be surprised by what we find so this brings us to the. What about bob test but first a little context if you haven't seen the film what about bob is a comedy from the early nineties about an esteemed psychiatrist and the patient who follows him in his family on vacation. Bob is the stalker patient. Played by bill murray and when he meets with his new psychiatrist. Dr marvin played by richard dreyfuss. His introduction is direct keeps it real the simplest way to put it. I have problems. He goes on to describe. Ocd panic disorder with agoraphobia. Hypochondria multiple other phobias and a list of other struggles.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show

Not Another Anxiety Show

03:57 min | 1 year ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show

"To say the people that you know the wonderful clients and people that is sometimes innocently get stuck in this cycle tend to be. Creative thinkers are. Gone kind like some of the kindest people I've ever had the pleasure speaking with you know just. Just. Really. Really really. Amazing. And I think people aren't know. We don't feel that way. We're in the midst of anxiety. We feel so like shamed and vulnerable and like sometimes like a shell of who we were and. It's like, Aww, man just if only they could sorta see themselves the way we can see them in. That's where that piece of self compassion comes because we can sorta learn to see ourselves the way others do riot like that application of compassion. Exactly it dies. It grows it grows over time it crust yet. The million dollar question on Probably many people's mind is do you ever feel anxious now? Yeah so I love this question. Still on the panic agoraphobia, I can't wash the dishes because there were knives in their days no no like a firm no I don't remember the last clinic attack or anything like that. However anxiety Yes Because I'm human, right? Yes. I was definitely nervous to start this morning i. feel like I label in a little differently sometimes, they'll say. Can feeling anxious or perhaps it's I've been out in a very stimulating environment for long-term zone spilling over aroused and it'd be nice to take a break or I'm nervous or you know it's just And it, and there isn't as far as getting kind of caught in that. Eichel. I. Just. Don't see it happening. I think you can relate to this. You know like that experiential learning our nervous system additive. And just like I like the analogy of riding a bike. It's like riding a bike. Oh, there you are. Okay. You know and it's in it's second nature after enough repetition and it's so it's like you can't unlearn what you've learned experience right like when you experience learn ride a bike you just have that feel you have that skill you have yes, you it is. It's additive and it's and that's the same thing here. I think is like it's just you can't unlearn what you've learned you know and it's like I'm still continuing to learn for sure regarding being human whether it's anxious or other things but anxiety or other things. But like I imagine we'll be learning till the day I die. But yeah, I think it's just that experiential learning and that's where the benefit of like. Actually getting on the bike versus reading about learning how to ride a bike comes in because that experiential learning is like. That's just where it's up like that is really where attack is like once you have that experiential learning of like I know how to work with anxiety when it comes up when you know that and can trust that and know what it looks like in your body like of course, there's not the same fear there because the fear is from, I'm not gonNA know how to work with this is going to overwhelm me I can't do this. So it's Like one that is eliminated it's hard to feel. It's really hard to feel afraid of it in in the same way ever again. Yes. which in turn like doesn't really create a breeding you know right foundation for avoidance strategies and things like that. So just it looks very different. It's like the same it feels very similar to Oh wow I was really grumpy about that and wonder what story I was telling myself you know and.

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show

Not Another Anxiety Show

05:18 min | 1 year ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show

"Hey guys. Welcome . to not another anxiety show I'm your host. . Kelly Walker, , and joining me today is guest Lisa. . Manning highly suck I Kelly. . Thank you so much for taking time to hop on the show today yet. . Thank you for inviting me in that. . Really excited about this. . Now. . Do you mind if I share a little bit more about you with our audience before we get started on a police do think. . Perfect. . Lisa, , manning is a certified coach and digital nomad who is currently traveling around the Oregon coast. . She is an Army combat veteran and champion for removing barriers to a mental health care. . Prior to her bag balm lifestyle Lisa had a history of anxiety panic agoraphobia an OCD. . After moving pasture struggle, , she went back to school to earn her graduate degree in. . Psychology. . Lisa now works as a coach to help others move past their anxiety panic in phobias using evidence based cognitive behavioral approaches such as mindfulness based stress, , reduction, , and acceptance, and , commitment therapy. . You can find Lisa at panic and phobia coach dot com or newly on instagram. . Score panic. . Underscore phobia underscore coach. . Hopefully, , I said that right because I am also instagram. . I know. . Yes. . Thank you. . I am also new to the INSTAGRAM. . So still still figuring things out here. . Yes, , me too and I just love it because <hes> I was really resistant to the change and I like it better than the other platforms I've used before. . It's fun right I mean you can do polls and questions and really it's just a nice way to interact with people it is. . And I was telling you totally stole one of your memes about <hes> lavender a few weeks. . That's such a good one, , and so drew I would have done anything any magic crystal rock anything to get rid of it. . He. . Space right even if it meant bathing in lavender. . Exactly. . I must've had all those tiny diffusers around the house doing Eucalyptus lavender <hes> like to in the bedroom for in the kitchen it was does yeah essential oils look you. . Lava rocks lamps. . Oh. . God and I mean I love essential oils but me too I had on. . Eucalyptus. . Eucalyptus I had the house and my husband's like I'm getting like daily Migraines. . We can't do this. . Anymore. . Sharona. . Exactly. . Yeah. . So you mentioned that at its worst <hes>, , you would have done almost anything to make anxiety go away and I. . Totally I'm with you on that I used to say listen I will just give up one of my kidneys means I don't have to struggle with anxiety like you can have it for free really I felt like I'll do just about anything <hes> do you mind sort of telling us a little bit about what anxiety did look like at its worst for you? ? Yeah <hes>. . So, , looking back I had. . Anxiety but didn't knows anxiety for most of my life. . <hes>. . Then I had my first panic attack in my early twenties and I think we all remember our first panic attack him when we think we're gonNA, , another side of it. . Yes. . Yes. . And <hes> from that point on it was Kinda like became this mission to discover what was wrong with me. . And when they kept telling me, , it was anxiety I'd say, , no I am anxious because there's something wrong with me and you cannot figure it out you know and that's that's anxiety inducing and so. . You know that that mission defined what was wrong with me that tensely join about life <hes> off and on anxiety and panic attacks. . Culminated in <hes> what I call my dark year of the homebound soul. . That's a good name. . Mesfin homebound ranks. . Can. . You say it one more time for us. . Dark Year of the homebound soul. . Yeah that's Quite, , an accurate picture I'd say at least from my experience too. . Yeah, , exactly. It . just happened <hes>. . You know it it happened quickly and also slowly where my world began to shrink as I avoided and avoid it. . Yeah, , I'm really like <hes>. . It was now not driving on freeways now I'm not driving now I'm not leaving the house now I'm not leaving my bedroom you know and it just kinda shrink and shrink until I. . Really just wasn't getting out of that. . And <hes> I mean it was really just five ten panic attacks day even while just laying in bed <hes> intrusive thoughts de personalization. . Nightmares I try and give myself a break and take a nap and I'd have a nightmare and wake up panicking again and it was just. . <hes> is fears of losing touch with reality and. . You know just all of the anxiety and panic. .

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From Agoraphobia to Full Time Travel: Lessons Learned Along the Way with Lisa Manning

Not Another Anxiety Show

05:18 min | 1 year ago

From Agoraphobia to Full Time Travel: Lessons Learned Along the Way with Lisa Manning

"Hey guys. Welcome to not another anxiety show I'm your host. Kelly Walker, and joining me today is guest Lisa. Manning highly suck I Kelly. Thank you so much for taking time to hop on the show today yet. Thank you for inviting me in that. Really excited about this. Now. Do you mind if I share a little bit more about you with our audience before we get started on a police do think. Perfect. Lisa, manning is a certified coach and digital nomad who is currently traveling around the Oregon coast. She is an Army combat veteran and champion for removing barriers to a mental health care. Prior to her bag balm lifestyle Lisa had a history of anxiety panic agoraphobia an OCD. After moving pasture struggle, she went back to school to earn her graduate degree in. Psychology. Lisa now works as a coach to help others move past their anxiety panic in phobias using evidence based cognitive behavioral approaches such as mindfulness based stress, reduction, and acceptance, and commitment therapy. You can find Lisa at panic and phobia coach dot com or newly on instagram. Score panic. Underscore phobia underscore coach. Hopefully, I said that right because I am also instagram. I know. Yes. Thank you. I am also new to the INSTAGRAM. So still still figuring things out here. Yes, me too and I just love it because I was really resistant to the change and I like it better than the other platforms I've used before. It's fun right I mean you can do polls and questions and really it's just a nice way to interact with people it is. And I was telling you totally stole one of your memes about lavender a few weeks. That's such a good one, and so drew I would have done anything any magic crystal rock anything to get rid of it. He. Space right even if it meant bathing in lavender. Exactly. I must've had all those tiny diffusers around the house doing Eucalyptus lavender like to in the bedroom for in the kitchen it was does yeah essential oils look you. Lava rocks lamps. Oh. God and I mean I love essential oils but me too I had on. Eucalyptus. Eucalyptus I had the house and my husband's like I'm getting like daily Migraines. We can't do this. Anymore. Sharona. Exactly. Yeah. So you mentioned that at its worst you would have done almost anything to make anxiety go away and I. Totally I'm with you on that I used to say listen I will just give up one of my kidneys means I don't have to struggle with anxiety like you can have it for free really I felt like I'll do just about anything do you mind sort of telling us a little bit about what anxiety did look like at its worst for you? Yeah So, looking back I had. Anxiety but didn't knows anxiety for most of my life. Then I had my first panic attack in my early twenties and I think we all remember our first panic attack him when we think we're gonNA, another side of it. Yes. Yes. And from that point on it was Kinda like became this mission to discover what was wrong with me. And when they kept telling me, it was anxiety I'd say, no I am anxious because there's something wrong with me and you cannot figure it out you know and that's that's anxiety inducing and so. You know that that mission defined what was wrong with me that tensely join about life off and on anxiety and panic attacks. Culminated in what I call my dark year of the homebound soul. That's a good name. Mesfin homebound ranks. Can. You say it one more time for us. Dark Year of the homebound soul. Yeah that's Quite, an accurate picture I'd say at least from my experience too. Yeah, exactly. It just happened You know it it happened quickly and also slowly where my world began to shrink as I avoided and avoid it. Yeah, I'm really like It was now not driving on freeways now I'm not driving now I'm not leaving the house now I'm not leaving my bedroom you know and it just kinda shrink and shrink until I. Really just wasn't getting out of that. And I mean it was really just five ten panic attacks day even while just laying in bed intrusive thoughts de personalization. Nightmares I try and give myself a break and take a nap and I'd have a nightmare and wake up panicking again and it was just. is fears of losing touch with reality and. You know just all of the anxiety and panic.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show

Not Another Anxiety Show

05:16 min | 1 year ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Not Another Anxiety Show

"Hey guys. Welcome to not another anxiety show I'm your host. Kelly Walker, and joining me today is guest Lisa. Manning highly suck I Kelly. Thank you so much for taking time to hop on the show today yet. Thank you for inviting me in that. Really excited about this. Now. Do you mind if I share a little bit more about you with our audience before we get started on a police do think. Perfect. Lisa, manning is a certified coach and digital nomad who is currently traveling around the Oregon coast. She is an Army combat veteran and champion for removing barriers to a mental health care. Prior to her bag balm lifestyle Lisa had a history of anxiety panic agoraphobia an OCD. After moving pasture struggle, she went back to school to earn her graduate degree in. Psychology. Lisa now works as a coach to help others move past their anxiety panic in phobias using evidence based cognitive behavioral approaches such as mindfulness based stress, reduction, and acceptance, and commitment therapy. You can find Lisa at panic and phobia coach dot com or newly on instagram. Score panic. Underscore phobia underscore coach. Hopefully, I said that right because I am also instagram. I know. Yes. Thank you. I am also new to the INSTAGRAM. So still still figuring things out here. Yes, me too and I just love it because I was really resistant to the change and I like it better than the other platforms I've used before. It's fun right I mean you can do polls and questions and really it's just a nice way to interact with people it is. And I was telling you totally stole one of your memes about lavender a few weeks. That's such a good one, and so drew I would have done anything any magic crystal rock anything to get rid of it. He. Space right even if it meant bathing in lavender. Exactly. I must've had all those tiny diffusers around the house doing Eucalyptus lavender like to in the bedroom for in the kitchen it was does yeah essential oils look you. Lava rocks lamps. Oh. God and I mean I love essential oils but me too I had on. Eucalyptus. Eucalyptus I had the house and my husband's like I'm getting like daily Migraines. We can't do this. Anymore. Sharona. Exactly..

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on The Dream Detective

The Dream Detective

05:20 min | 1 year ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on The Dream Detective

"Backed down or left, it was humiliating so they had basically exit out the flight response and you need off the urge events of responses. So we restored her flight response that wasn't paired with shame and humiliation. Those are a lot of things we did but the the saxophone was the main thing. I love it. It's moving towards the positive thoughts. Good love energy and moving away from the past the trauma fear and the pain exactly and you know that's working well enough when she doesn't pick fights anymore and she's not usurped by the sneakers and she's not, you know angry all the time and she didn't have the agoraphobia the agoraphobia just dissipated as well, you know, because she was playing saxophone, you know, she was going out to do that. So she thought I loved it. That's so great. And there is a relatively new term out there called ghosting meaning to people are getting to know each other often in a dating context wage. And then one of them suddenly drops off, in fact you touched on this earlier you mentioned ghosting. So one of them drops off with no further contact or explanation to the other person and I've heard five people people they'll do this even more when they like someone above and beyond what they might normally feel so they might do it to complete strangers who they aren't really that invested in but I have heard from some people that song Do it with somebody who is kind of their dream mate, and I'm curious how you see this through an attachment lens or what insights you might have about ghosting. Sure. Well, first of all, I talked earlier about the young woman that got engaged and then hit a certain level of intimacy and without her understanding why it triggered a ton of fear and projection that her partner was home safe and all of that. I think that can happen. It's it's like we the way we encode memory a lot of times has to do with arousal. So the nervous system recognized is a certain depth of intimacy and then that itself can be a trigger if when you were trying to be close to your parents and they were scarier unsafe then the people aren't usually near the connection like she came to me and said can I do a session because she said I know my partner's a good guy. I know want to marry this man, but I am freaked out. I'm so scared..

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How Does Agoraphobia Work?

BrainStuff

07:02 min | 1 year ago

How Does Agoraphobia Work?

"Doesn't it seem like some people aren't afraid of anything? But you know what those people? They're phonies because they're scared of chainsaw clowns just like everybody else. They're just better at hiding it. Everybody has fears. But not everybody has a phobia medically recognized. Phobias are different from normal fear in that they provoke a very intense reaction they're unreasonable or unwarranted for instance being intensely afraid of guy with a shotgun in a ski mass while that kind of makes sense but being intensely afraid of balloons doesn't so much and finally they can interfere with a person's ability to live their life but there are other anxiety disorders that while very real and potentially very disruptive of a person's life are far more insidiously. Vague and Agoraphobia is one of them according to the DSM. Five every year one point seven percent of adolescents and adults will be diagnosed with agoraphobia. So what is it well? A lot of people have heard the term and have a vague idea of what it means but a lot of these ideas are wrong or at least they don't tell the whole story so for instance some things that a Gora phobia are not are a fear of crowds a fear of wide open spaces or a fear of being outside though all of these may be a manifestation of actual agoraphobia. Agoraphobia is actually a broader complaint that will often include some or all of the fears previously listed so for some general layperson definitions to help. You get the gist of it here. We go agoraphobia. Is A type of anxiety disorder in which you fear and often avoid places or situations that might cause you to panic and make you feel trapped helpless or embarrassed. That's from the Mayo. Clinic OR AGORAPHOBIA. Is An intense fear and anxiety of being in places where it is hard to escape or where help might not be available. Agoraphobia usually involves fear of crowds bridges or of being outside alone. That's from the National Library of medicine at the National Institutes of health. One More AGORAPHOBIA is a fear of being in situations where scape might be difficult or help wouldn't be available if things go wrong. That's from the National Health Service in the UK so really agoraphobia is more broadly the fear of being trapped in a vulnerable situation especially when exacerbated by an existing predisposition to panic disorder. Very often the person with agoraphobia specifically dreads experiencing a panic attack or other panicked like symptoms in a situation where such inexperienced would be especially inopportune according to the DSM five and this is the latest edition of the professional diagnostic handbook for mental health professionals. According to that to meet the diagnostic criteria for a goer phobia. You must have quote market fear. Orange Zaidi about two or more of the following scenarios standing in line or being in a crowd being outside of the home alone using public transportation being an open spaces or being an enclosed spaces so the DSM five reports that the person with a Gore phobia fears or voids these situations because of thoughts that escape and might be difficult or might not be available in the event of developing panic like symptoms or other incapacitating or embarrassing symptoms. What physically happens is the following according to the US National Library of medicine these symptoms. Show up when you're experiencing agoraphobia chest. Pain or discomfort choking or shortness of breath dizziness or fainting nausea rapid heartbeat sweating and trembling also according to the DSM five. You can only meet the criteria for diagnosis. If you always are almost always have the fear response to these situations. You actively avoid these situations or require the help of a companion. The level of fear you feel is disproportionate to the threat represented. This condition lasts for six months or more the fear anxiety or avoidance causes coat clinically significant distress or prevents you from living a normally functional life and the suite of symptoms. You experience is not better grouped under another diagnosis for example if your fear only occurs because you fear people's reactions to perceived flaws in your physical appearance this might be a body dismore disorder instead of general agoraphobia. So if you have intense persistent debilitating fear. That you'll begin to have a panic attack or another embarrassing or incapacitating episode while you're stuck in a place or situation you can't get out of or where you can't find help. You might have a Gore phobia. We'll that's a long one and this can have some really serious consequences for example more than one in three people with Gora Phobia are completely homebound and unable to work and sometimes people inappropriately self medicate with the abuse of drugs and alcohol. Agoraphobia often develops out of an existing panic disorder for example if a person experiences a panic attack in particular type of place say for example like an airplane or an elevator. He or she might start to avoid ever being in that situation again over time. This can develop into full blown agoraphobia. Something like Agoraphobia can sometimes be difficult to accurately diagnose since it's associated with something like panic disorder and because the functional symptoms may resemble those of problems with different causes for example may dread and avoid flying an airplane because of a Gora Phobia or maybe simply because you feared death by plane crash. The situational phobia is outwardly similar. But it happens for very different. Reasons are all right. So maybe you're wondering if I've got a Gora Phobia. How do I treat it? Well the most common treatment responses are a combination of cognitive behavioral. Therapy an antidepressant medication. Cognitive behavioral therapy is basically a common form of psychotherapy where the therapist helps the patient talk through thought processes and common behaviors and then replaces those bad thoughts and behavior patterns with better ones antidepressant. Medication could also include drugs. Such as selective Serotonin reuptake inhibitors or s our eyes or Serotonin Neuro. Epinephrine reuptake inhibitors. So if you or someone you know are suffering from agoura phobia. There's help out there. All you have to do is seek it out.

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Fighting Youth and Teen Suicide with Kendra Fisher

Alyssa Milano: Sorry Not Sorry

08:27 min | 1 year ago

Fighting Youth and Teen Suicide with Kendra Fisher

"We are facing an increasing crisis of teen and youth suicide in America and it is especially affecting young girls. Today's episode is a difficult one Kendra Fisher former elite ice hockey player and mental health. Activist and advocate helps me dig into the roots of the problem and what we can do to turn it around years ago. When faced with the opportunity to realize her dream of goaltending for team Canada Kendra was diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder coupled with severe panic attacks depression and agoraphobia forcing her to leave the national program in order to seek help to learn how to live with what had become a crippling disease. She now dedicates her life to helping. Young people get help for their mental illnesses. We turn now to a nationwide tragedy suicide new report from the Centers for disease. Control SAYS IT IS GROWING. Rapidly has been on the rise for more than a decade but nation suicide rate is at its highest point since one thousand nine hundred twelve year old accomplice allegedly harassed. Szechuan included that. You should drink bleach and die. No one likes you and you should go kill yourself. Sedgwick jumped off a near her home. After writing friends nine year old McKenzie atoms last week from other says the fourth grader was the target of Constant Racial Thompson? Name calling I was diagnosed with mental illness and I had no idea where to go so it was actually out at a team. Canada camping in Calgary and leading up to it in the weeks before I'd been to the doctors I've been to the hospital emergency room. I had no idea what was wrong with me. I felt like I was having a heart attack. I felt like it was gonNA Faint. Couldn't breathe swallow and and everybody told me it was fine. I love hockey and I love everything. It's given me both my hockey career. Also it would have had a shelf life and now. I'm in this position where I've learned so much about myself and I've met so many incredible people because of the journey I've been on and hopefully I can be a part of something that might stop somebody else. I'm Kendra Fisher and I'm fighting for the lives of those living with mental illness. Sorry not sorry so I mean. We've got a tough topic today but really before we dive in a love for you to give my listeners. A bit of information about your background. And how did mental health especially in girls become one of your causes? My background is hockey. I mean everything about my background is hockey. I grew up like so many Canadians. Just really wanting to have that red and White Jersey. That had my name on the back and I wanted to play for team Canada. I wanted to go to the Olympics and everything in my life through. My teens really suggests that I was going to be successful in that. I was carded member of team. Canada's National Hockey Program and sometime after high school I just got to a place where symptomatically and not knowing what. It was without a diagnosis. I was off. I just I felt sick all the time I felt like I was making trips to the emergency room constantly. Feeling like I was having a heart attack feeling like I couldn't breathe and it got to a place where unfortunately the perfect storm kind of hit. When I was out at my tryouts for team Canada in ninety nine and I was out at the camp and I just couldn't hide it anymore. It couldn't hide the battle that I was having every single day I grew up in in the greatest. You know possible situation. I had a great family. I had great friends. I was in a small town and I had a dream and my dream was. I wanted to play for team Canada. I wanted to play in the Olympics. That was that was what I knew. That was everything I worked for and I was well on my weight that I went to the coaches and I tried to explain to them what was going on and quite honestly their response to me was what it helps to know. What already made the team? They knew they wanted to select me that year. And I was finally get that chance to live my dream and it's obviously been one of the hugest moments of my life but not for anything I WANNA remember. Kazan's there was no at that point. What I eventually learned was a severe panic. Disorder and AGORAPHOBIA. Ocd clinical depression had literally taken over my life. And I spent the next five years unable to leave my apartment. Valey participating in my diagnosis just kind of scraping by and doing the bare minimum to survive and after five years I realized that just didn't see the point anymore and at that point I knew I had to make a decision and somehow I found it in me to start fighting and I learned everything I could about mental illness and the system and how it works and what supports are available when I really kind of became at the risk of sounding unhealthy obsessed with my own recovery and I got to a place where. I live very comfortably with my diagnosis. It doesn't mean it's gone. I live with it every day but now I live with it as a professional speaker and travel the world helping others learn how to cope and manage. I also work as a firefighter. I managed to go back and play for team. Canada's inline hockey team and it's really just kind of become a journey that I'm so passionate about because I understand how hopeless it feels but more importantly I understand how hard it is to find hope and defined real help and support and understanding about mental illness. And I just want to be a part of that. Narrative does mental illness. Run in your family. Yes yes and no I mean. I've always done this whole. Why did it happen to me and I think we always look for the answers because if we could find the answers we can fix the problem? Certainly on my on my Dad's side of the family. There's some depression but it wasn't so prevalent that I ever knew about. It wasn't something that I was ever made aware of. It didn't show itself to me until I actually understood what I was dealing with. And you said that you're now living comfortably with your mental illness. What does that mean? I'm fully functioning. It doesn't affect my day to day life in a way. It did in the way. It did kind of earlier on in my diagnosis. I got to a place where I just have an incredible system of support set up around me and I have all of my tools and strategies in place and I'm very quick to identify when I'm not doing well and I've also given others the permission to hold me accountable when they see I'm not doing well and in doing so. It allows me to really react quickly and now. I mean I would challenge that on my worst days of anxiety. I'm at worst as a panic on my worst days of depression doesn't affect me any longer than it would affect somebody getting a bad cold or the you know the stomach flu. It's it's a couple of days of really having to focus on what's brought me back to that place and making sure that I am doing all of the things that I know. Keep me healthy and usually I can rectify it. Just by changing those behaviors. I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder. But I think it's so hard that when we're in the middle of it to do the things that we know will make us feel better right like I know that going out and being in my garden digging in the dirt or taking a hike or taking a yoga class. I know that these are the things that will make me feel better and yet it's so hard to break out of it. Do you have any advice for me? Yeah absolutely with love and affection. Not as an not an onerous way. But I think that we forget to practice the things that keep us healthy when we're doing well We get to this place where we let life kind of takeover and that you know that pace of just going and when we're good we don't feel the need to necessarily revert back to that self care in those things that we know keep us healthy feel like so many people only practice crisis response and I think that it's time that people learn education and prevention are really the way to manage things crisis response is really you know. You're too far already.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on WTRH

WTRH

11:06 min | 1 year ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on WTRH

"With fear a long long time and wishing it would be gone and I have come a long way yeah I would leave my home before and I'm not that bad anymore but still I battle it every day as a Christian and a believer wow so you struggled with agoraphobia so many tears yeah yeah okay okay so when was the first time that you knew I mean there there's there's a fear of if you have some was playing a trick on you like my brother who would hide behind a door and then all of a sudden pop out and go boo okay that is normal fear when we're surprised we don't expect it and a slight it god gave us the capacity to have fear and there's a reason why we have it but I'm I know that's not what you're talking about you're talking about something that is excessive beyond the norm so help me no how old were you when this kind of fear took hold of the I started from there since I was I can remember eight right well and what was that you're related to I don't know there was so much going on in the home I guess it was fear of the only known normalcy no I don't know I can't I just like I just felt afraid of everything you know everything you know my dad would hit my mom you know only things are going on in the homes that were you know like yeah I lean in control you know I couldn't speak or you know or what it was a home where you just didn't speak unless you're asked the question are you know a and being a one man to because I am female you know that Manal what is the one that could speak or do whatever back not me I just had to obey and listen and be quiet well okay so it's like from early on it's like you're afraid of everything but what that means is there was no when you said no normalcy that is a great way to say it it's like if it's like life is unpredictable you don't know what I would watch I would watch TV and walks like like make room for Daddy year father's nose or something like that and then get in my house that was not like that and I couldn't understand the difference is there was total opposites is what it was but it wasn't anything like father knows best obviously fought your father did not know best because you had an art nurturing on on on the television you see a nurturing dad but instead your dad was fila I had to be perfect and the US and how successful were you at being perfect is not good at all well nobody's perfect the only person who's ever perfect was Jesus Christ himself when he was here on earth but you're saying the expectation toward you let's see here has to be perfect and yet that's unattainable and this is so helpful for you to describe so so I understand you said between eight and ten that's kind of when this excessive fear started so can you remember a scenario at the earliest scenario where you had this huge fear I want to say that watching I guess people died here he said that were happening around me and people workers dying and I mean it was so chaotic it will just life growing up with your souls chaotic in one always anger always physical abuse always a sexual abuse all we are where we live you know all it was that game so you know like gunfire around you know stuff like that and people are dying in all over here you know I was always afraid to go out of my house zero you know I always felt like I had to get off hi either get out there this constant fear everywhere to when you said people were dying it was that they died of natural causes or are cancer if you're talking about due to violent acts is that right yes yes well well that's the that is absolutely extreme so what happened to you when you were a teenager what was that like for you just trying to escape my home for the abuse so I ran away you know there's a lot of sexual abuse verbal abuse physical abuse so I ran away a lot in order lived in the street you know slept in cars and you know but been out there it was still scary you knowledge I felt like I was always hiding but at the same time trying to hide it like not let no one no you know in I've been shot at you know and so you know just running and trying to skate and I was there in that sometimes I am trying to run at the state you know so were you encountering gangs yourself yes were you in a gang yes and obviously typically when there's a gang there's not just your gang there is an opposing gang is that correct yes yeah so your life at times could have been on the line the cause of that yes did you join the gang for a place of safety like a sense of family yes did you have a choice about being in the gang well I think that now in hindsight I would say yes but at that time I didn't feel like it I live in their area so I had to you know yeah yep there money traction and kind well I just kind of wanna take you now and cuddle you and and protect you and yet I know as much as I desire that the lord is the one who can literally be the healer for you and yet that doesn't remit that doesn't mean your memories are gone please know how I hurt for you to have even grow up experiencing that where was your mom in office there she was there but she was also I mean to the woman she was also obedient you know when the I didn't feel like she was the protector in any way because she couldn't even protect her cell you know so not even protect me yeah yeah a lot of people don't know that that they don't they're not aware at the head multiple conversations I'm gonna be very candid with you with my well with all say relatives is that why didn't mother protect us and I would say he I didn't know how you know it's it's like blaming her when she stripped of her capacity even not knowing how to do this at all I I and unfortunately let me just ask have you had anger toward your mom because she didn't protect you I did at first but you know for a while but god help me do that I worked DOT process said I understand that she did the best she could with what she knew at the time one on one does she did the best that she could however you know that she did still you know they hurt you're now and I thought I did think about you know sometimes you know well I'm I'm very impressed with what you've just said the normal the norm is anger goes for the non offending parent because the assumption is.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on WTRH

WTRH

11:08 min | 1 year ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on WTRH

"I'm calling struggling with fear a long long time and wishing it would be gone and I have come a long way and I would leave my home before and I'm not that bad anymore but still I battle it every day as a Christian and a believer wow so you struggled with agoraphobia so many gas okay okay so when was the first time that you knew I mean there there's there's a fear of if you have some was playing a trick on you like my brother who would hide behind a door and then all of a sudden pop out and go boo okay that is normal fear when we're surprised we don't expect it and it's just like me it god gave us the capacity to have fear and there's a reason why we have it but I'm I know that's not what you're talking about you're talking about something that is excessive beyond the norm so help me no how old were you when this kind of fear took hold of the I started going there since I was can remember eight right well and what was that you're related to I don't know there was so much going on in the home I guess it was fear of the only known normalcy no I don't know I can't I just like I just felt afraid of everything now everything channel my dad would hit my mom you know only things are going on in the homes that were you know like you get lean and control you know I couldn't speak or you know or what it was a home where you just didn't speak unless you're asked the question are you know a and being a one man to because I am female you know them Manal what is the one that could speak or do whatever back not me I just had to obey and listen and be quiet okay so it's like from early on it's like you're afraid of everything but what that means is there was no when you said no normalcy that is a great way to say it it's like if it's like life is unpredictable you don't know all I would watch I would watch TV and walks like like to make room for Daddy year father's nose or something like that and then get in my house that was not like that and I couldn't understand the difference is there was total opposites is what it was but it wasn't anything like father knows best obviously fought your father did not know best because you had an art nurturing on on on the television you see a nurturing dad but instead your dad was fila I had to be perfect and the and how successful were you at being perfect is not good at all well nobody's perfect the only person who's ever perfect was Jesus Christ himself when he was here on earth but you're saying the expectation toward you let's see here has to be perfect and yet that's unattainable and this is so helpful for you to describe so so I understand you said between eight and ten that's kind of when this excessive fear started so can you remember a scenario at the earliest scenario where you had this huge fear I want to say that watching I guess people dying here he said that were happening around me and people workers dying and I mean it was so chaotic it will just life growing up with your souls chaotic always anger already physical abuse always a sexual abuse all we are where we lived in all it was that game so you know like gunfire ring you know stuff like that and or dying in all over here you know I was always afraid to go out of my house zero you know I always felt like I had to get off hi either get out there this constant fear everywhere to when you said people were dying it wasn't they died of natural causes or are cancer it you're talking about due to violent acts is that right yes yes well well that's the that is absolutely extreme so what happened to you when you were a teenager what was that like for you just trying to get my home for the abuse so I ran away you know there's a lot of sexual abuse verbal abuse physical abuse so I ran away a lot in order lived in the street you know slept in cars and you know but been out there it was still scary you knowledge I felt like I was always Heidi but at the same time trying to hide it like not let no one no you know in I've been shot at you know and so you know just running and trying to stay and I was there in that from time right now trying to read that the state you know so were you encountering gangs yourself yes were you in a gang yes and obviously typically when there's a gang there's not just your gang there are is an opposing gang is that correct yes yeah so your life at times could have been on the line because of that yes did you join the gang for place of safety like a sense of family yes did you have a choice about being in the gang our well I think that now in hindsight I would say yes but at that time I didn't feel like it I live in their area so I had to you know yeah yep there money traction and kind well I just kind of wanna take you now and cuddle you and and protect you and yet I know as much as I desire that the lord is the one who can literally be the healer for you and yet that doesn't remain that doesn't mean your memories are gone please know how I hurt for you to have to even grow up experiencing that we're richer mom and all there he was there but she was also I mean to the woman she was also obedient you know when the the I didn't feel like she was a protector in any way because she couldn't even protect her cell you know so not even protect me yeah a lot of people don't know that that they don't they're not aware at the head multiple conversations I'm gonna be very candid with you with my well with all say relatives is that why didn't mother protect us and I would say she I didn't know how you know it's it's like blaming her when she stripped of her capacity even not knowing how to do this at all a man I I and unfortunately let me just ask have you had anger toward your mom because she didn't protect you I did at first but you know for a while but god help me through that I worked that process that I understand that she did the best she could with what she knew at the time one on one does she did the best that she could however you know that she did still you know they hurt you're now and I thought I did think about you know sometimes you know well I'm I'm very impressed with what you've just said the normal the norm is anger goes for the non offending parent because the assumption is.

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"agoraphobia" Discussed on Duncan Trussell Family Hour

Duncan Trussell Family Hour

03:10 min | 2 years ago

"agoraphobia" Discussed on Duncan Trussell Family Hour

"Scattered around all the way to like a version of you that like I dunno is like incredibly obsessed with his Avs or some shit. The like never ever got into like art at all. There could be some being some super hyper version of you. That's like come home come home in the way, that it's calling is by sending ideas backwards through time in every time you get an epiphany or that desire to help desire to make yourself better. You're actually getting a telegram from the future perfected version of yourself. Yeah. Hey, I'm up here over here. This way come over here, man. That's that you know, again, agnostic schism, listen, I love, but that that's what's that's what's great about agnosio is that you can talk. You can think about all the shit and explore it and get your mind have your mind blown by. You know, like, whoa. What the fuck? It's great work. Great being like, you know, rigidly locked into some sort of ideology that you're basically encaged by you know, we're almost at the top of the pyramid here. And because we have elevated you to this situation of man God. Do you have anything you want to say to the people before we put a obsidian dagger in your chest and offer your heart? Yes on God. And then well, I will haunt everyone. I'll I'll do my very best to try to haunt everyone some way. So maybe maybe scientists, you know, keep an eye out for haunting z- that'll be me. No, I don't know. I always say the same fucking thing, which is just like. I think if you can do something good for somebody every day or try to or even if it's just once a week on any level on any scale, even if it's just tweeting something nice to somebody. If that's all you're, you know, you have access to let's say, you're total agoraphobia or whatever just just if there's someone out there that you're that you're fan of or that you're or that you think kindly of even if it's even if it's just someone you know in real life. I don't know just do something. Nice for people. If you can think if everyone did more of that, not only does it make you feel better. But it also sends good energy out into the world. And the people that receive that kindness. They'll cycle it back in other direct. It'll go back into the cycle of kindness. I just think there's too much right now, we have so much fucking disconnection from from humanity, and from empathy and an emotions because we're all just looking at these screen. And texts, and it's like you read the text in the tone that you perceive it to be written in its could be completely different tone. And it could be you know, there's just all of that going on. And I don't know if you can if you're hearing this like just go out and helping lady across the street just don't know. I mean, no seriously like if you see a loose dog like like, stop your car try to save it from getting hit. Or if ever there's an opportunity that presents itself for you to do something to to make a positive impact in in the world..

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