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Fresh update on "abby " discussed on The Bobby Bones Show
"Feel about this paul i i mean i really didn't mind. I wanted to do something nice and he let me sing on on stage with him. Repay you with lunch. I think if she wants to do something nice led her. Maybe you let her get you launch sometime as a gesture. Sounds like she wanted to. Yes she did want to don't think averages brokers you think no. I don't know adia thanks. I definitely don't make as much as him. I don't think either of us really know. But we of tell the so with that sense. I mean i know. Abby wanna do something nice so i would just definitely for sure either find a way to slipper some likly virtually or lebron god but i would like finally had some cash just like for me or i one day i'd be like hey abby. I'm going to make sure that. I get her something as well. But what did it puts you out to buy lunch for those guys know. Well that's what i was saying. I was like this is really not a big deal. Just take it enjoy. it's fine yeah yes and does more than just answer. Phones also works for me on the podcast network. A pair separately to prove podcast. She might be making more than you secretly falling all right. Thank you and what a great story about about the kidney transplant. And the kidney donation. That's what it's all about. That was me something good. What's happening friends. Thank you for listening. Thank you for calling us. Eight seven seven. Seventy seven bobby. That's our phone number. You can also call us when we're not on the air and leave us a voicemail. Eight seven seven. Seventy seven bobby. This isn't a coal from kentucky bari. Acting mayor and caitlyn kickoff radio in the mega knees challenge in. You guys are so cute by the way. I think she totally one. I'm just curious whose idea or talk. Videos washy one. Because she's way more of an athlete than i. She went down on one each. I did not. I did it too. Well everything's not challenge nicole and kentucky's just doing things together. She better than me and then and driving crazy. But it's a channel. And i don't know we just see stuff on online and do it. You talked to though yesterday with ronnie dunn from brooklyn. And he's like. I can't believe our songs going viral. Oh yes i saw that. It's everywhere ten million people are doing. The the brook's done what does that a remix like the sun goes down. Yeah and he's like. I can't believe it and So there you go. I'm gonna take. Talk mr bobby bones. All right time for the news. Let's go bobby's stories keith. Dalton and his crew of high school football referees say they were officiating a game when after the game they got locked inside the locker room. These football referees were trapped with the vending machine blocking the door because they made a call during the game that affected the game bowl so people locked him in the locker room. Oh my gosh. At first i thought it was an accident. We're saying people. Once the game ended dalton said he and his crew were inside. The locker room being evaluated their performance when the door was barricaded from the outside with a vending machine. We add push on the door three of us to at least get the door wedge so we could try to get out in response to these allegations the southwestern city school district which grove city falls under senate statement saying we continue to investigate this incident but he wants more to be done especially when it comes to the safety of him and his crew being a referee. My good scary at times yes especially on a higher level. People are betting money and stuff. I mean that's an extremely high level. This is high school. That i i would think they were safer in college. Pros l. really. Yes the eighth grade. Fourth grade fight you. I think the opposite. Like when you're up and you're really good at what you do. You're pretty protected. But when you're being a second eight year olds game. Parents are trying to fight umpires through So thought that story was interesting. Here's a story from w. t. j. in central pennsylvania and it's about a suspicious beeping package that was left out state. Police are investigating after a suspicious beeping. Package was left public park leading to the pennsylvania. State police hazardous device. Explosives unit in the park was evacuated. According to a police report at least found a box had a single smoke detector inside. But they're still investigating. And asking anyone with information to call evans berg state police so it kind of sounds like it's a ball feet deep. What i think is. Sometimes i get so upset at a smoke detectors that i cannot stop beeping even when i pull the battery out just don't in the garage or something and i don't know if that was meant to be suspicious or if someone threw it on the box and it was just out there because i will try. How does that think he beeping. When there is no power source to it's amazing. It's unbelievable we not use that to get to mars that some crazy technology will take that thing off the ceiling. And you're like it's two in the morning. Such gotta stop. This thing from beeping unplugged the square battery from it. Okay finally fleet so it could have just been that those things will keep on. Beeping scary though. Arianna guerande is the highest. Pay judge in the history of the voice. Earning about twenty five million dollars for a season paid more than the others. That have been there for a long time. That's the way the cookie crumbles baby always about what you can bring right now. Yeah she definitely brings a lot of star power. Also it depends on when you sign your contract. Because there were quarterbacks in the nfl that make more than other quarterbacks who are better than them. Because they're deal was signed a couple of years prior they're constantly new standards being set so i would imagine if she's making twenty five to thirty million and it's time for blake's new deal when it comes up and he's like. Hey i'm outta here unless you pay me around a monday money for. Blake timing to so all right. That's what's up. That's the news. Bobby's stories you guys catch any updates on the gabby petite vetted story. How do you say your last name. What is it. Petito story What was the last you saw. Well did they found remains. I saw that they They don't think that that guy. They found his abandoned mustang. A park with a note on it. They're no longer searching that park but they did search his parents house as all the fbi. Yeah ray went in and went crazy in that place. They escorted the parents out. Sat them in an fbi. Van why they righted their house Towed the mustang away and that was all they were saying. How is that dude gone. Well my prediction was probably How how is he did so missing. Those parents got know something right. They have to know. I mean he went home and told him what happened right and then they said hey. I don't know that he told him. I know that. I would have told them if if i did something. And we don't know that he did it. Do i feel like he probably did something. And i've been wrong many times. Yeah i mean. I feel like he's definitely yes i don't feel like i'm going to run home and tell my parents though. Because then they know and then they're in trouble if they don't share. That's i w move. Yeah i guess it just depends on your relationship with your and if you think they can help you or something. I don't know it's all just so tragic. But that's the latest right. That's all take him find him but they were not looking at where a park where they were originally looking that stories were just wild. I finally saw some of the tick-tock video where you see. The guy in.
Episode 53 Part 1 Our Relationship with Planned Parenthood Ft Amanda Weber - burst 02
"Like two. You kind of have the two extreme perspectives. And so for you to be able to come together and be able to say like, okay, so this is what this is what I found through my journey and experience with this object matter. I think that's really really wonderful. Yeah, the interesting thing is, is I could absolutely argue both points. You know, I know the talking points of both sides so well. I was actually I would go speak at the capitol in Sacramento California on behalf of Planned Parenthood and speak to the news outlets and speak to the representatives and stuff there. And then later, I ended up being a kind of social media coordinator for Abby. So I was responding to people on her social media platforms and stuff. And helping her with her outreach, not because I was pro life or not because I was opposed to abortion. But I could very much respond as she would, because I knew exactly what the talking points and the important points were. And. Her stances and her things have very much changed over time. But at the time when I volunteered at Planned Parenthood, I am not gonna lie. I hated the pro life movement. I mean, vehemently hated the pro life movement, partially because Planned Parenthood kind of set that in my mind that these were the bad guys. These were the people trying to take our rights away, and they were trying to ruin my life and all this. So I had this very strong narrative in my mind of what these people were, but also because I had a personal experience. And this is something I haven't talked about publicly, but I had this personal experience where I found myself in an unplanned pregnancy shortly after my mom passed away. And I panicked and I didn't know what to do and I didn't want to have an abortion and I reached out to the pro life movement to the people that had been protesting at my clinic for all this time and saying, we love you and we care about you and will help you no matter what. And I reached out, and I said, look, this is a situation I'm in. And here I am, you know, playing Paradise court putting her tail between her legs, saying I need your help. And it seemed on the surface. It's okay, we're going to take you to the crisis pregnancy centers and we're going to help you, but it was really, we're going to give you diapers and formula and you can figure out the hell out on your own. And that was very disheartening because here I am a person that just lost her mom. I'm on my own. I have no money. I have nothing to speak up. I'm literally scraping by month month and they're going, well, we'll give you some diapers and formula. And I just had the worst taste in my mouth about the entire movement because I thought that that's what they were, you know, or these people that were love you and we're going to take you under our wing. Oh, no, you're too much trouble. You're too needy. You have too many needs. And Abby was the first person that I came across that wasn't like that that she very much when I end up getting pregnant with my son said, what
Fresh update on "abby " discussed on The Art of Fatherhood Podcast
"It wasn't even about a hug it was about are you're gonna make me dinner and like just like all right cool thing and then i was so tired. I realized that. I laid across my bed and i woke up at five o'clock this morning didn't realize that i was actually going to bed. I just. I thought i was just going to rest for a minute and then i woke up and i had to do you know do the dad morning thing make breakfast and take it a school in you know. I'll just learned patients for my kids man in. And that's that's the most important thing for me that i've learned from them parents especially dad's hearing this fan like okay like you said it was like awesome that you're clever cow but they come off like hey great dad feed did it makes. I'm hungry that what we have in for dinner. I mean i wasn't even home. I'm not lying. it was literally like two minutes abby. I missed you. We have them for dinner. Okay that's what we're doing here here here and yeah and you're all like ireland's make dinner but the same thing. I do the laundry in this household right as the my daughter's alike. Yeah where's my shirt. Have you done laundry recently. I did it friday for you guys. What's going to look at today's monday. And they're like why can't find. My favorite shirt might okay data. Rela will do laundry for you. Don't like that is to borrow that. One from you. Feel free service one more question before we get into disease magic bake off. There's a lot of things that people listening. This can probably use parental advice. But what is one big piece of advice you'd offer to new dads listen to this man knew dad's One of the things that. I wish i done better was to listen to my partner. You know like To to hear the things that she needed as well like because it's not just about dad's it's also about mom and and and the things that they need To to not. I don't think that back then. I was a great listener. Like i just didn't understand because being a parent is Is difficult i mean. It comes with a lot of joy but it's difficult when it when you come home to like balancing out family time and work especially if you're an entrepreneur you know even if you're a non fiber like most people at work nine to five jobs wake up in the morning feed their kids. They go to work. They come home..
"abby " Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Should eat the pizza when you got it. No you have to come back next week okay. That was your guilt. That was your doesn't what kind of what madness is this. And i may. If you were making yours is making fun of skull would have put a fake ass. Tim robinson sketch or something. it is. yeah that's hilarious. I'm touched to get the exclusive. yeah. I'm so proud of that life. Top comedy you know this next comic from the flappers acoustic duboc give it up for abbey fantastic. I didn't even start with. What's your name. What's abby rahm abby. Rahm what's that mean. There's a lot of different translations in in like some hindu people in india they say Means like pleasure or connection a gaba. Abby rome was a disciple of worship tanya. who's kind of like their original hari. Krishna okay yeah all right all right so it doesn't translate to anything although it. Yeah rama's god. I hope he's not like the. Who's the guy who started mormonism. Joseph smith yeah hope. He's not like the joseph smith of india because the story is is like you just showed up as a reincarnation christians in you know told. The story was blue. Nope sometimes they're blue in the stories like somebody shows up and it's like yeah india's fascinating. They got cool I think it would be challenging for me because growing up i believed everything And then i had to like get a little bit more discerning right like i'd read any book by anybody and as long as they said they were christian. I would believe anything they said. It's still that way. I feel like i've been burned enough. Yeah i mean like really out there. I'm telling you the story. It was in africa. I read this book and it was his guidance. I went into the ocean. And that's where the devil is and that's where they make ladies lingerie and i was like wait a minute. This isn't true and that's and it ruined me. Well how could you be lying in the name of god you and then you realize people are lying in the name of a of different things time and then i feel like india if i was more pure or maybe just more childlike. I could go and really enjoy it. But i'd be like go here and your name is written on a parchment from five hundred years ago with the date. You're going to be in india. And i now it'd be like all right this baloney did you watch the movie. Life of pi did that made me understand it a little bit more. Appreciate a little bit more. Which part the ending like ba ca. You and it's not true. Is that not your. They're like because it's like a lot mean for most of society. Most people did not read right so to pass things down has to be through stories. You have to make the story interesting enough to be passed down. And then it's like it's like a story that you pass down then you on packet right which also leaves room for people on packet and reorganize it however they like right that's right so that's how you see a lot of like kind of sensational stories. They might be not literally true word. There's just another way of understanding them where it's not even look past it or if tuneful yeah some other thing. Yeah and that's what. I'm just starting to even consider think about your other dimension or win the same space or on. Yeah interesting no. I know what you mean. I found the life of pi. When i saw i wasn't really ready for it. I should watch it again. I'm gonna watch it again. Because he's so. That i watched and i was like so. It was true was a tiger on the boat. Eager tiger represented the evil. Like the guy on the boat that killed the people at the end the twist is but also escaped was a tiger and thing like no. There wasn't a tiger. It was all people. I thought at the end though they go attack people. I got that at the end. Isn't there was a story that said like among tiger extra twist. They added on top of the fine. That's what it means. I the first twist where i was like. Oh i get it. It's a metaphor. The man was like a tiger. The man was tiger. Okay but then at the end they go like but there really was a tiger and it gives you one of those like hollywood staff they added. Maybe yeah. i don't know how can't wait for the sequel. I yes some truths are so big. They can only be told lies. That's that's one. I like and myth doesn't mean not true it means always true. It doesn't mean literally trip means the essence of it is always true Whether or not the facts of the story yeah may your soul. Well read like. I feel like sometimes i talked to people that are like spiritual nyc have like in the like to talk to me about this stuff and i'm like dude i'm like i'm like just starting like and sometimes i'll like meet people who aren't even hard christmas and they'll break down the books better than me like if i had a conversation with duncan trussell. You'd probably be breaking it down to me better than i know. Yeah and i'm like that's kind of embarrassing. You're still young man for me. All all the real hardcore like i'm going to read this and memorize it sort of stuff started when i was like. I don't know older than you. That's cool my timelines on certainly totally on point my comedic and spiritual timelines similar to yours and the more you even out in your career the more time you have to spend the on. I don't want to say better stuff again. Better stuff. Yeah it's nice it's like once you reach a cruising altitude in your career not that you can never fully relaxed but like you kind of like established and you're okay and you're totally there. And the more you stabilize the more you stabilize then you can go like okay. Let's let's think about something else. How did you get rid of your self doubt. Not the how you get rid of the ideas that voice that was like i can't see myself on boss sir. Like what did he do to change. That started picturing myself on a bus. Like literally just imagining it and and saying like yeah. Yeah and even in my mind. It's like the four agreements. Careful with your language and i'd be like yeah. I'm an actor. I'm a comedian. Yeah i'm my favorite comedian. Yeah like i'm one of the best. Comedians alive like just saying things like that other people but later to myself. So that's kind of like what i was talking to earlier. Like when i'm talking to people and they're like talking about their sad story. I can't be around that because all all contagious comedy cancer. It's it's like if you're not where you wanna be no matter what you're trying to do..
Fresh update on "abby " discussed on Slate's Culture Gabfest
"This great. Hbo show jean smart. Or i think it's great. I really liked it. What about this. Joan rivers stand up comic ended up keeping ted lonzo from sweeping probably was good for ted law so too and that was like one of the only signs that people are like watching things that are not just things that everybody's talking about not that hacks and get a lot of attention and good reviews it did. It just didn't quite have that like it's feeling. I have a question though about like what we think of as shows where i feel like the discourse so to speak on the shows that swept last night or not last night but abby emmys this year the consensus has been like. It's not necessarily that. They are the best shows out there but just the shows that the most people watch that god the most buzz like if that is the case for awards shows now like what. What are we really. What do we think that we really awarding like. Is it the fact that all these voters think these are the best shows or was it just. Oh i had the most fun watching this or just most people watch this. Does that make sense. Yeah totally i think. The problem there is that award shows have never awarded the best shows what were shows are four and in fact. I think the emmys have come like a pretty long way. I mean one of the things that's happening sort of in the last ten years or seven years or so. There was like this this couple year moment where they were sort of actually nominating a wide variety of things and it started to seem like oh like maybe emmy voters just like watch. Tv like people with decent taste. I wrote a bunch of pieces about that. Like oh these award. The nominees are not like the nominations are pretty good. Like these are not all dislike terrible network sitcoms and you know you act like the wire is not on television so you know what's interesting about award shows is never that the best thing the thing. That's actually good wins. It's more like what is the concatenation of things swirling around this awards. What do people think. What is buzzy. What do people think is supposed to be. Good what what sort of like passes as good. What's not super challenging. I mean that's the other thing is like you know. Barry jenkins adaptation of underground railroad Which had been on amazon was nominated for a lot of that was not seen by very many people. It was sort of not discussed very much. Because it's about slavery and it's very extremely well done and it can be sort of harrowing to watch and like a category for that and the oscars right like we have a mode for thinking about that about awarding things that might be that are very good and challenging but might be difficult to watch that we sort of. Don't quite have yet for tv so but it was nominated right like i think a little bit like a..
"abby " Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Am. I supposed to get home because you need twenty dollars to get on the ferry and you can't sneak onto the ferry and all my shit like i was like you can sneak onto the for. Yeah exactly and then i was like why did i do look. I'm such an idiot. Like i can't i couldn't have just had six instead of seven like why. What was i thinking right and my friend was leaving the bar on dude so i cannot board twenty dollars from you like. And he's like yeah. Of course so he lends me twenty dollars. Leaves them at the bar by myself. And i'm twenty dollars. And then i spend that twenty. Wow and i'm like you know. I'm sober enough to realize like fuck. Fuck myself over twice and i went outside and smoked a cigarette. And i'm like what the fuck was like. How what do. I have a problem like why did i. Why do i do this type of shit and then like this voice came in my head. That's i go back to the bar where people drink in like in like poulet where they order and makes people are drunk and they drop money sometimes inside. Go back to the bar. I sorta i down on the ground. There's a twenty dollar bill on the floor. Well fuck yes saved. And i bend over and i picked up the twenty. I get it by tom. I like straighten up. The bartender was there and he's like you need anything. I'm like y'all get a beer and a shot and i just spend it three times three times a one night abby. That's the obsessive thing. We're just you'll figure it out you'll get another twenty you'll you'll get a magical twenty on the ground and i spent it by the time you stood up. Yes as if to say. I had no other intention for this twenty. I never had another thought for twenty. Yes give me a shot. And i need to get home. Forget getting home yeah. It's miller time. Yeah holy shit. Yeah i know. Before i ever did a tried cocaine. That's like a heavy okay. I wanna hear that. That's heavy story but like in hindsight the crisp clarity yeah. It's like a great recognition of a problem and those early as just like but in hindsight. Yeah that's perfect example thinking yes you can't you can't stop and i know this is going to sound corny but like the way that i relate hardest to that as a box of oreos. Yeah just one more i. It's like yeah exactly. And i'm telling you abby i just like using food because it's a little less it's booze heads are talking about booze. Yeah i mean. Give me ten and i could walk you through it. The first one the first the first head of excitement is ooh tenorio. That's kind of as good as again. I'm glad i didn't get that marshmallow test when i was a kid. Just pick the little pieces off of course and then you don't get that second much rough. The first oreo is is as close as it gets to being. Good by oriole number three. You're not even enjoying a. You're starting to feel a little sick. Val said this to me. She was like sometimes think of my own body is a baby that i'm taking care of and it's like and your this weird kathy bates type character overfeeding. The baby and like how cruel that is and i was like. Oh my god. That's what i do. I'm just stuffing this poor baby. The soft baby body that has no control because the brain is in charge. And it's just like overfeeding and overfeeding and your case over drinking it over drinking it and kind of have to. That's like a way of splitting it into instead of going. It's me that wants the cookie. Goes like there's something that wants a cookie and then there's the body yep helps me have compassion for the body and go like maybe take it easy a little bit okay. So when did you do the cocaine. Oh never like crazy. I would do it like once a month but every time i do it was just just go hard. I only did that for a year and that was good. It accelerated my sobriety. I think it made shit get crazier. Yeah yeah and he just made. It made things a little clear right. Yeah what do you mean. I mean if i just drank. I wouldn't think i had problem. But if i drank and did coke then it's like i couldn't and then it became. They became like those wires. Cross where i can drink without doing coke coke but if i drink i'm going to do coke so i can't drink anymore interesting and then you wouldn't i'd still drink and then do coke but it just. It ruined drinking where i was like. Oh i can't drink yet and that's my whole night and i have been in the morning. Your i don't want to feel like shit all day tomorrow. Absolutely i remember my mom smoked in the seventy s and she was like i figure what why she told me this but she was like some people like to see. They only smoke when they drink. Drinking cigarettes are like so enjoyable together. Some of my hate to say this because we're talking about sobriety. But i remember the euphoria of nicotine and alcohol and carbon monoxide. There's the lightheadedness of that and being like. Wow this is the greatest thing in the world but then of course that's like five seconds and then the rest of the night is just kind of chasing that feeling next thing you know. You're coughing in the shower and it smells like a cigarette. And you're like this is insane but like the brain only really remembers the you fauria and it just chases that over and over and over but my mom was like but be careful because if you smoke when you drink then you'll drink just so you can smoke right which i was like. That's that's what addiction right and for me back to food. I said this. Emily gordon and she loved it for some reason. She quotes it. Sometimes so i guess. I had an impact on both of us. I would want chinese food. But i was sober so i knew chinese food wasn't like good for me. I'm talking about like garbage. Chinese food like really going so i would drink get chinese food and there was this weird awakening where it was like. Just get the chinese food right. You don't have to have nine mortiz than any if you want to eat like shit shit. Yeah just go ahead and do it and at least do it. A little more consciously and know what you're doing and experience it and get all bloated weird and be there for it instead of in the morning being like what the fuck was that. Okay so cocaine helped you realize you're sort of going down there on the wrong way. And that crazy euphoria feeling is that you just want to feel normal for a second. You just wanna feel how a healthy spiritual person feels normally like people who are addicted to cigarettes that basically all the addiction is. It's just a with is just you're always in a perpetual state of withdrawal from nicotine. The senate can you put that cigarette out. You start withdrawing from nicotine. Yeah so you smoke it and you think oh the cigarettes good is like no the cigarette you just get to feel how you felt before you became a smoker for a few minutes. Wow how now that it's gone. I'm like now. I get that satisfaction of a cigarette all day because all the cigarette does just remove the withdrawal symptoms..
Fresh update on "abby " discussed on Just Between Us
"From history. Least likely self help guru. I want to say that. I love anyone who comes on this show with an expertise in something obscure i love when it's like this person knows everything about you. Know bacteria or this person knows everything. About edgar allan poe or this person knows everything about chimps. I want experts in things that it's like sort of a little bit like why. Well i totally agree. But i have to put my foot down and we can never have an expert bacteria on this show. Why because i know more about it. God got harry dangerous for me. I don't i can't know where the bacteria is. I can't know what they're like. I can't know what they do. I have to remain ignorant of that. Okay sorry i just said it said it me net. We should get someone who like knows the history of clorox wipes bam no. I was gonna say what you get someone who knows a lot about nineties fashion or maybe just a therapist. Who's like here's why your inner child needs nourishing. Yeah either of those two options We're also going to be discussing traveling later in the show. is it important. is it a personality trait. Whatever our thoughts on it. Thanks some people on instagram. Think it is but first we have to answer a listener's question so you know what that means. Head fashionable international and abby. Virginia whatever jinya heavy episode our guest also from virginia. This means something. I'm just not sure. I don't know what going. Hey gabby and alison abby from virginia. I love your podcast and listening to you guys so much. I always feel like i relate to both of you from gabby squareness to allison's mental health awareness. Listening to you guys has helped me through so much and learning about myself. My question today is specifically for gabby. Even though i allison still picked it so pretty cool but i would love alvin advice to some of the mental health. Parts of it. I recently got back together with my partner. We had been taking a break due to some mental health issues and just spending time getting ourselves together but stayed in touch during that time. And i told them that. I want to be poly-amorous but i'm not sure what level or what my boundaries are yet for some context. I'm bisexual pan. sexual woman. She her and my partner is queer. And non binary they them. We definitely have the privilege of passing as a straight couple by how we present ourselves but our relationship is super gay during our time apart. I spent some time dating and experimenting with poly-amorous and found that. I love it when we had the conversation of. If we were ready to get back together i told my partner this and they were super supportive. They have been in a relationship in the past. May issue is that. I do not know what level of poly-amorous i want to do. And what my boundaries are. I love the idea of dating together. That i have for sure want to do but i'm not sure. What level of dating separately i want. I know i could not have multiple serious partners myself. I don't have the energy for that. But i liked the idea of casual partners. Gabby could you share some of your story with poly-amorous how you set boundaries and give some advice. Her newbie and i would love advice on how to stay on top of our mental health together during this transition. Not sure if you want this is great. If you wanna do this as a listener question or just topics i am happy either way just writing. It out already helped me so much. Love you guys abby. That's really sweet. Thank you for producing the show for us. I appreciate it. Okay well well. I was in relationships in high school and college. Where i didn't know the word poly-amorous. I didn't know that was a thing. I thought it was like some defect or flaw in myself. But i always whenever i had boyfriends. I would always be like if you wanted to see other people like that would be fine and they would go so break up. And i was like no and they would be like so i could just like what are you talking about and i like is this a trick and i was like. It's not a trick like ira if you wanted to like. Go like if you wanted to see people other than me but likes to be boyfriend girlfriend. That's fine. I did not know that was the thing i that's just how i felt. And so they were like okay and to me actually kind of reminded me of the fifties where you would go on dates. But you had your steady or whatever. So i think we kind of weirdly regressed back to like this This other type of monogamy. I think like our parents may have actually understood polly emery and some ways so but then my boyfriend in college was like okay. I see what you mean. Lie to you. And i was like no and he was like so date other people but lie and i was like no tell me the truth and so i had a lot of problems with people still not understanding that i was like this is chill so they would like okay great so and what i wanted was just to know about it and that's different comfort level right so then. I met comedian. Mike kaplan who was the first person ever heard you use the word polly emory and he was like i have usually have like a girlfriend and then i hook up with other people and i was like that thing. That's a word. And then i mean look. This is a stereotype but as a bisexual it had been super helpful to me. Because if i a lot of times would i was dating sis. Men and i would want to figure out my bisexuality Hook up with women date women. And so i was able to do that. In some instances the people. I dated were uncomfortable with that. And in some instances they were comfortable with it and some instances they were a little too comfortable with it. The way that my poly-amorous operates today is not the way it operated in the very beginning like everything changed. As i had more experience and i got to understand myself more and understand what i what i was interested in or what i wanted. I've been in relationships. Where would we dated together now. A lot of these relationships where people who started out as monogamous and weren't necessarily were like all give paalea try because if you but we're necessarily polly on their own time and that for a couple of them one it sort of ended up being very exhausting for him and in one instance by x. was like in a constant state of turmoil. Like whenever i dated was just hysterically crying so obviously not super sexy like i would go on dates. That person would be sobbing at home. I'd be like you know what. I gotta go home and deal with this so i think you know. People have different levels of comfort and you really have to get into the weeds about it. Like one of my exes. And i had a full google doc with rules like we would fill it out with like different roles that we had for each other with which was like. Please use a condom with other people. You know please like shower when you get home like certain you know. Don't hook up with people that i know things like that. Which seems kind of like homework and it is and so. I mean it's changed a lot over time like then i dated. I dated someone who arguably was perfect for me and a lot of ways because we were exactly the same. We dated hooked up with other people. There was almost no jealousy we were. It was a lot of conversion which is when you feel joy when your partner hooks up with someone else or you feel happy for them. I'm so it's kind of the opposite of jealousy. It could also be that you're like turned on by them doing it. Whatever we dated other people it was like he could just go out and do what he wanted. And i'd be like that's amazing. I have some movies. I want to catch up on like it was very there was no drama about it was super cash. So that's the only person i've ever dated. Where i think we were like one hundred percent compatible in that regard but it just like i had situations where i've had a boyfriend girlfriend where i've had liam multiple girlfriends like any changes like you. Just try trial and error. Basically like obviously at a certain point is similar to you. Abby from virginia was like this is a lot to have multiple multiple actual partners. This is very stressful. I my days are being taken up to my to my social calendars just to full and So my partner now who We're both mao came into it. Also polly. there's people that i meet up with our. I talked to but i'm like very open and honest like my my profile on On dating apps like i am non monogamous. I have a partner. Please do not talk to me if you are not okay with this and then we have our own rules like we have our own be home by certain time or my whole journey. This this is an. I'm talking about this spans a decade. Like it's not something that i figured out in a year or in two years. It's taken a long time and it might completely change multiple times. I mean there's there's no set thing where you go. This is my boundary because things change also like you might think something is fine and then it happens and then you're like i actually didn't like that But the thing with that is that you can't then jumped to like blame your partner right. You have to be working on it as something that is within yourself so if your partner does something that was previously okay you go actually. That didn't really feel that good to me. You have to approach it with them in the by being like. Hey like i noticed was okay and you didn't do anything wrong. I just realized now that i don't really like it and it's tough. I have friends who are polly. Who they believed was it would be fine if the person dated someone else and then like you know they got into a second relationship and the first person i actually now seeing this in practice. I don't feel good about it. And that person had to dump the second person. Yeah i guess that's my question like if your partner does something and then you realize that that you don't like it like is it the expectation that that partner would then change the rules of what you'd already agreed on like how it's tough it's tough you have to real. You have to talk about it and it could be a case of like. I just feel weird about this and i need you to reassure me or i just feel weird about this and we need to talk it out. it's frustrating. I get frustrated all the time. I don't like when the rules change. But i also know that that can happen you know. Everyone has their thing. I don't like i. I'd mouth doesn't care about any of my access. I don't like now. I don't like mailboxes. But i am suspicious of them. In what way. I don't like them but i guess i'm wondering when you realize that you don't like something is it because the fear is that maui leak leave you for them in that you won't be the primary partner anymore like no well. I've gone to a place where we're we're very very secure like i. We sort of are like where am i going. What am i gonna do. Where am i going to go but you have to like. Make sure that you can't just that polly emery is not just. I go off and do what i want like you. You have to talk to each other. you'll have to like you know. I have a date tonight and i have to be like. I'm going on a date like a few days in advance. I was like. I have a day on friday and it just like you know it depends on how everybody feels what's going on. And who's the priority right. Like if i was like oh i have a date tonight but then like at like five you know. Knock on wood. Whatever but like at five. Pm mouthed gets the flu and is like oh. my god. I'm throwing up. I'm so sick. I'm not gonna be like why out of date. I'm going to be like. Hey sorry my primary partner needs me like you have. It's building priorities. And making sure that the second person or third person or fourth president understands that they are not top of the food chain for me. Some people are our relationship anarchy. Some people are so low poly which is just they have everybody's kind of on the same level and there's no primary partner i happen to have a primary and then and then other situations so you might have a completely different abbey. You might have a completely different idea of what you want you. Might you might end up being like actually. I'm most comfortable if we were like in a threat bowl or i most comfortable if we were both dating this person and even that can cause a little bit of problems right like what if you and the other person go out to dinner in that first year primer you know or you're all equal right. There's no primary but two people go out to dinner. One person's like i'm sad and jealous. I feel like it's a constant conversation and so i think you just have to come at it with like. Nobody's ideally nobody's intention is to hurt the other person. Nobody's intentions are malicious. Nobody's intentions like if your partner does something in you're like oh that actually made me feel icky like you have to come at it as like i understand. You did not do this to hurt me. Your partner has to see that your intention isn't to like control them and ruin their life. You have to come out at. We're like everybody is assumed to have good intentions. That's kind of been the key for me. What advice would you have for abby in terms of like how do you even start to figure out. What is the right way for you to go about it. Do try all different things at once. Do try once. They got a time. Like how do you start that exploration. I think try day. Maybe try dating together but i also think like apps are pretty harmless like if you are on an app and you start talking to someone. I usually will start by like we'll have a little bit of banter. And then i'll start off say. Hey i don't know if you read my profile mice in do you have questions about my situation and then the person will either be like no. I'm good or they'll be like. I do actually have questions and then you know it depends on it. Depends on what your partner wants to know. So i think like starting slow or starting with like just talking to other people like oh. I'm just like having a flirty. Dm or like whatever and then see how the partner feels about it. See how you feel about it. There might be a thing. Where like sometimes i'll like ba- flirting and then it'll be like actually just wanna hang out with now like it's not like a free for all. I don't think you should do everything at once i think. And depending on what your partner wants to know you can run stuff by them like. Hey i've been talking to this person. would you think about that. I want to see like if my legs someone. i'm like. Show me pictures. I wanna see like mel is like. I don't want to know anything about them. Oh really yeah so. It's very different whereas like the guy that i was dating in two thousand seventeen wanted to know everything so you can have different rules for per person and different people have different levels like over the last summer when i was seeing that other person that person was like. Oh i would come over and like hang out malik. I have no problem mao was like over my dead body. So you know people have different. People have different levels of cover. I think like you guys should start slow. Even though you both have experienced in it. I think you should start by talking to people talking to other people and then see. How do you feel that. I'm talking to this person and setting up rules to that you know. I had a rule in the initially with the person. I was talking to last summer where it was like. I'm not going to respond to texts from this person while we're while we're in bed about to go to sleep like wall. Were you know if you and i are laying in bed together napping or anything like that. I'm not gonna respond. I'm and i was just like a personal rule. Also you know if they texted. I would either say i can't talk right now or i would say Or ignore it. Because.
"abby " Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Show description of this pete read book and he'll explain it to you even though he hasn't finished it. Yeah yeah. I'll read the first two thirds of a book and then start immediately. Tried to get all my friends to read it. The big joe cabbies you work out. I just got this treadmill. I've been using it every day for three weeks. And i'm already telling people like you don't work out like i'm immediately a nonsmoker. The i don't have a cigarette. I never smoked. But i start telling people shouldn't smoke obsolete even though you just stop smoking what was your sobriety like. We'll get back to the story. i'll never. I'll never forget the story. Perfect your but we can. We can give it a my the best thing. I got sober twenty three. I got sober wall work in the door at the comedy store. Which is the darkest place and being sober in that environment like being newly sober to am sitting at the back door. I went to coke. Heads are talking in your ear like it was quite the task but it was. I mean it's for sure. The hands down the best decision. I ever made slowly like i before. I got sober. Had this almost like vision of myself of like what i could be like. I just briefly sought. And i was like i wanna be like dat person and so i've just stumbled was like event. You had a moment where you remember. Yeah i was sitting. Yeah it was like a vision. I know what happened. Where acting class. Okay so you're in acting class. You got like a little visit from highest self. Yeah yeah just tell me every whispered in my ear. And i just kind of tuned out of the class and i just started just envisioning it just this kind of low resolution vision of like what i could be you know and i realized what i could do anything like i could see. You know what triggered it nothing. Nothing just like i was just it was almost like i was in this acting class thinking about maybe getting better. I've only keep my dumb did a three week acting intensive and that's it and it's better than a lot of the actors crushing myself included. You know what i mean like. It's okay you can't like it's okay. People are talking their way through those acting challenges. And i'm like you're acting right. I know it's a disappointment but that. Yeah that's you're on the way that's sort of what it is yeah But yeah it was in this class in. Just the idea was just like oh what if i just got better at this and then i just started seeing. These roadblocks smoke a pack of cigarettes. A day well. Gosh i get rid of that. In the mike i fact i drink like every night and like and then i just like what would that be like and then like what if i did this and then i just like the vision just like almost like a manic like i was just like oh i could like i can do anything in my life just like this crazy idea and then that was like the first sort sorta seed in then i i dunno i later mean. It took me a from that moment to getting sober as like a year. Just trying it on my own and just kind of stumbling forward. But i've always like taking step back stumbled forward. Just gone in that general direction. Side to side moving forward. And then yes so was the best thing ever so you saw them not just as like good things to do for yourself which is not a compelling narrative right. It'd be good if you stop drinking. Every night and smoking cigarettes you saw them as like impediments to be coming this best version of yourself. Yeah and that. That's a beautiful vision. That's like i want that and now there's like these roadblocks and that's a better story. Yeah let's move these so we can get there instead of let's move these so we can be a good boy when tell our doctor that we don't smoke not a good story for five seconds. Something yeah and you and you saw. Yeah and you were visited by. Yeah i love that i mean. I've done the hypnosis things where they're like. Hang out with your best self. you know. They're always putting in some garden. It's like there you are and you're fifty. What is your best self say to you when you're twenty whatever or thirty and they tell you this stuff like don't worry everybody kind of has similar things. Don't worry what he so worried about. Like it's gonna be okay and self love. I mean that was a that was a game changer. For me i forget what book it was in but it was. Somebody was looking at like a beautiful house and they were like. Oh i could never live in a beautiful house like that and the voice in their head said. Don't worry you won't and it was like right. Lesson was until you go. I could be a house like that and i. I haven't told this for a while on the podcast. But i remember mine was. I was backstage. I was doing best week ever live. Which was this college tour. And i realized. I recognized that whenever i thought of having my own show. There was this huge chorus of voices. That are like that's not for you. That's for somebody else. I literally couldn't picture myself on the side of a bus because like advertising shot. Yeah it's why we crashing. But that's why we did that. Like you have to be able to see yourself on a bus. So girlfriend bought a bus ad. And what i was trying to say was like somebody in that case her needs to believe in you. But it's best if it's you. So that's what like visualization is and. That's what sort of like vision. Boards never done that staff but in that moment it was powerful enough to go like no. I'm going to start picturing myself on the side of but because let's be honest sort of embarrassing it's a little grotesque little gauche. The egg should be on the side of a bus. But it's like. Are you doing it abby yet or are you do it. Yeah and you had that moment. Yeah you were visited by your future self and exactly and so you said you. I love that image that you were going criss cross. You're still moving up. Yea the slowest possible falling shore. All the time still inching inching forward. You just tried to go on your own sober. Try last rankings over. I tried it for like a year on and off until i eventually started a program in the obsession was removed and i've continued to the obsession. Yeah it was gone. I don't know like. I was like that was like my first realization of like i tried my absolute hardest top my willpower fighting tooth and nail to not have that drink on certain nights and i went to a meeting and for whatever reason i just. I just hit me all the sudden. I'm like it's gone really gone. No that couldn't have been me. Because i tried my best. So maybe maybe who knows who cares. I also think like it doesn't matter what i believe like. You mean it was something else you know something else. Something lifted it from yes something greater than me. Remove that obsession woes like a gift that was given going to the meeting. And what was it. Somebody's share. that really touched you or just by virtue of admitting that you needed help yet. I think is admitting needed how walking showing up being there everything just hearing people talk and realizing it can be gone and then i don't i don't know what what what was it about getting. What made you realize like. I think i'm an alcoholic. Not just i like to have a whiskey ginger at night all i mean so many times i mean just embarrassing myself doing coke till the next day get into trunk puking just being a moron i remember before early on my first experience realizing around like oh i might not have control over this like i was having was living on vancouver island i was at a bar mink hoover had like one hundred dollars to my name i drink. I spent all one hundred dollars at the bar. And i'm like shall am. I supposed to get home because you need twenty dollars to get on the ferry and you can't sneak onto the ferry and all my shit like i was like you can sneak onto the for..
Fresh update on "abby " discussed on At The Races With Steve Byk
"Tend to think he tends to wanna wanna rate him a little bit more but Yeah that'll be good showdown you know. I was just looking at the early entries. I was trying to find somebody from off the pace. They can get involved. You know that track to tends to play towards trying to be Maybe vanek. I haven't looked at the the numbers or anything coming in. I do like he. He always seems to be closing at the end. You never quite never quite get there. Although he did in the would But hey kindergarten news. I mean full for that team so Yeah we'll say it should be an interesting race. See that's that's for sure. Well it takes a little bit of the headline But not You know the you still got. You still got Plenty of star. Power so turns Gazillion in to get a feel eight there and then nine now the derby all right Let's let's conduct a little bit of a review and recirculated your your woodbine charting and I assume you were listening in To renting greer. I mean that that was that was as abby craziest story. I i cannot. I mean yes there are obscure outfits as small outfits that that jump up win races. And i love reporting on them and bring the connections on i. I don't i can't think of one in recent memory. A race of this magnitude yet that that was a great interview. And how can we not pool for you. Know a father son operations family operation and Honestly i'd like to hear more of those stories you know with the small guys like when the little guys win you know just You know because they're putting in the exact same work sometimes even more so Trying to run their own operation with limited to tell and don't get the stock that that some of the quote unquote bit boys get and the actress to great great story all around..
"abby " Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Love what you just said. Have you read the book four agreements. Yes i just got the audio book. And i've been listening to it over and over again trying to like really grasp it and understand it and that's kind of what it's all about to like. It's like you're born like dislike. You're born light. You're born this happy being and then society conditions you two and there's just so many agreements on a day to day it's like oh you suck it this and then you agree to. It's like bone that's locked in now and it's like trying to d program that and figure out who i am and stuff and it also demystify is reality like it's i was at a party. Last night was a lovely party. But we're having like kind of show biz discussion. Yes like a show biz discussion. And when i'm doing that. I like to go. Oh my god this is what the infinite undulating savage insane gorgeous frac deal of eternal is doing. Its thing this conversation because when you get locked into those conversations and they're good conversation. I'm not saying they're bad. Let's say we're talking about how head lassos a good show. Even now as we're speaking there are blue. Hindu gods infusing practical like it's happening and this is just what we're seeing. This is the channel that are receivers tuned to so. I'm looking at abbey on this couch so we can talk about farts dick's or whatever the fuck but like there's something i know you know it's really just under this. There's like fucking thing itself. Yeah like to ghostbusters. Guns hitting each other point where they hit each other and that's reality and if we zoom into that reality there's just sitting on the couch going so would you get into but like if you zoom out you and i make myself laugh all the time. So what i'm saying is those agreements that society makes you make makes you deeper. And deeper into into the illusion. Yes and you forget that you are. I like the mantra. I'm a point of sacrificial fire. Held within the fiery will of god right because that's similar to the two blasts of the ghostbusters go. You're like you're a spark flying from the to ghostbusters guns flying into each other. You're you're a spark of that. Your whole world is just a spark of two blasts of infinity rubbing up again rich other but in that spark there's a whole lot of bullshit school. Yeah where this boys don't pierce their left ear that or they're right here. That means you're gay. There's all this bullshit. The super bowl and pepsi presents doritos as like your future like xbox live and twitch in its and all of that gets you go into a contract with that and the more you get deeper into it the more you forget and to demystify it. We could just say that you're floating in infinity that you're floating in outer space that you're floating in iraq that no one knows what the fuck is going on here. Is that what we're saying. Yeah it's like it's almost. It's so overwhelming that we have these like this this illusion just so we don't just completely just drift off into. That's right wondering that's right. Yeah so that's impart the service of it. It's nice to go for a walk. You can get an ice cream. Yeah it is and valid. I have days where we go. No deep thoughts today because we do it so much. Let's just. Let's just enjoy the the orchard. Let's not worry who planted that sort of thing right but then. I think that gets overdone. Would you agree. It gets overdone to get where you're like. Of course there's nothing going on because you feel like a visitor here right. Yeah sometimes you've got to clock in and shut those thoughts off. Just be like all right. I gotta just kind of do my thing and then the other times you just wanna think about the world right. It's so crazy. Because i like i completely shut that part of my brain in my life off forever was just like like i just want to do comedy workout. Be a white american guy you know and now i'm just like i'm done with this. I'm how old are you. I'm thirty that's about right. Yeah yeah you did it. Yeah cove it. The lockdown really helped helped perspective. Yeah take the pause pause and reevaluate who were you. That was a spiritual experience for everybody whether they use spiritual language or not because you vanished. Abby roberto didn't exist pete. holmes didn't exist. Because pete holmes is a relationship pete. Holmes is an idea that is only affirmed by other people going european homes. And that's the same with you. Yeah and then when you're alone and you can't be in relationship with other people you're just you're just awareness and then and how many of us went like. Why am i. Flying to south dakota for four days and i'm bear in making like this much money after expenses and you're like why am i doing that all the time saying there isn't a time for that but i'm forty two so many people were like when this is over. I think i'm going to make my own bread. People's are making their own breads probably so many dad ship. Yeah like wait a minute life. My dad would make the best homemade bread. of course he did. Yeah the best he has. He has a starter grind we in the whole the whole deal and that's life what we're realizing is i'm preaching so much we're having our needs met as if the point of life is what happens after your needs are met yet but there's all of this art of like chop wood and carry water. Make bread you realize on a hike. It's not about getting to the destination it's about. The hike and spirituality is so much about being like spirituality is doing the dishes but now i have a dishwasher and then he started letting machine wash your dishes and then you're like well what do i do and it's like go on instagram. And like and wonder why we're depressed. We've completely lost so needs are so mad. They're selling thousand times over already and we're realizing the point of life isn't just meeting your needs how you meet your needs. And this goes back to the amish. It's not what you see. It's how you see it's like what do you see when you see what you see now. What you're looking at. We think it's what we're looking at a suicide squad and there was like slow motion. You're gonna forget it it's about converting and changing and plugging into a new way of seeing a lot of that comes from making goddamn bread..
"abby " Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Doing and all that information is just available. This is going to be kind of dorky example. But when i started submitting cartoons to the new yorker away that anyone could go. And that's like sort of like a weird see grip you the time of the cartoon meeting. You just go to the desk and say i'm here for the cartoon meeting really it's like your scientology story so you can just walk in and be like hi. I'm cartoonist. And i sorta. I don't tell when the meeting isn't stuff because i don't want them to be ended but clearly yet with all the tv shows what comedians are vagrants. That hang out in the same location yet. And you figure that out. i'll. I'll just do that on the show. What did you think you were like going to plug. What was the fantasy that they were gonna love you and that you just probably probably ask you to go up tonight. Wasn't like that. Yeah it was like it would be like. Oh you're comedian. Hey you wanna go up like that. I didn't realize how impossible it is again. We give it a shot. And then i was like i was like i got an awesome five minutes. I'll probably kill good three months and you couldn't have had a good five minutes. I thought it was good though. It's so crazy better. Get comedy like the worst. I think i am yeah. That's how it works. I always remember. I opened for jim gaffe again and i was three years in and you think three years is forever. I mean if you thought three months three years. I'm for real for real and i was still in chicago and i emailed him. I was like i really wanna to get on conan and he wrote back the nicest way to put it. He was like yeah. I remember when. I was three years. And i i really really wanted to be on. Tv too right like he made it about him. He was like absolutely kicking down the door and he was like well. You don't realize you'll get better and better and like it'll happen when it's supposed to happen but like he conceded the point is like me to r- also when i was not ready. I thought i was ready. So what he's saying absolutely he didn't say it. That way said it nicely. I've always wanted things like two months before. I deserve it just so i can just like enjoy a little more just two months just just like right before i deserve it back a little bit. Well we may not new faces. Yeah how was that. How many times have you audition for new faces. That was my fifth year before time because they didn't do it last year but yeah so yeah years about five years. Yeah yeah okay. I think i said the Robin chan did it. And i'm trying to think of some other new faces have done it anyway I am i forgetting his name. Peter kim peter anyway. Everybody had similar stories. I was one to three year. I didn't get a call back then. Booked at the baxter. The third year. Like i tried to really hard but i try to wrong way. This is real inside baseball but like you did for your set which was fantastic. By the way thank you. It was so fantastic but it was so great. And i was like well. That's all everybody set was a real just for left set. I wanna just for laughs. Said is a good late night. Set is get to like what's unique about you as quickly as possible and the third year. When i didn't even get the callback. I was just doing a joke. About subway. right is trying to kill just trying to be like. I'm a killer. And i didn't kill down ten thirty at the comic strip in new york and it was just like it was bad it was bad anyway. So you're fantastic and i immediately immediately jumped out because of your youth you were. You were raised on the thing. And i'm sure you've talked about it. A billion who cannot stop so much not someone not really no no no. I couldn't be more interested. yeah. I didn't even talk about it on stage until like a couple years ago. Is that right. Yeah we'll just try and be like i would just i didn't really really want people knowing about it. Then i tried talking about onstage bomb. And and then i finally couple years ago started talking about it on stage and it's kinda like open up a lot of stuff. Isn't that fantastic by the. So how long have you been doing commie. Ten years now. I was going to say dude. Ten years is like when i was like maybe i will talk about my divorce on stage and my faith growing religious. All of this stuff and canal. Ten years was like Let's talk about the fact that i was sort of arranged marriage. Just flirting with the staff that at the beginning you resist for a number of reasons yet. Maybe too personnel. Or you're worried that it's like gimmicky or something. What what was the hesitancy for you. It would be like. It's too personal. I just and still trying to make sense of it all and it's just like i want to jump in. Kostanic is like the conclusion. Yeah sometimes i mean if i came up with a joke that smashed. I would do it for sure but it's just like i just couldn't couldn't kill would jokes and also just it wasn't like what i was passionate about like i just wanted to talk about and that's just i was more interested in talking about whatever and it wasn't until i just like grew up and became more mature kind of sorta got rid of resentments too because i would try it would bomb because i'd come at it and sort such resentful of course angle but now i come at a much more fun angle and it's like people are more receptive towards it. I'm going to do the same thing. I i had an idea about a show about my parents and then i was like and i kept hanging it up and work on it and it would just bum me out and i just put it away for months and months and months maybe a year then come back to it and it only really sort of clicked. I'm still not quite ready to do it. But the more. I like forgive is a strong word because they didn't do anything like you know like horrible right but like forgive meaning love them for who. They are better way to put it. The more i was able to love them for who they are. I could write the the pilot like funding like it would be funnier instead of like. And then this fucking idiot he looks just like a revenge peas and like look the if the thesis of the show is. I just wanna prove that my childhood was fucking weirder than yours. Then that's an ugly place. Yeah and this is why though. I'm still holding out though like you're if they made a tv show about your life or if they made a tv show about my parents. There's always the risk of t. v. affiliation which is like take frazier for example. I'm almost done blabbing inborn whenever. There's a complicated dad like. He's from a different generation. Yup he says sissies and he drinks beer and all that sort of stuff at the end of the pilot. he's going to say to frazier. I'm so sorry son. I'm sorry. I'm not exactly what you imagined but i love you and i'm like pull fucking shit dude that's just and even the frazier's of brilliant perfect pilot but like i sometimes bristle at the end if they did that with like. I don't even know your story yet. There'd be a temptation to have your dad cutting celery for a smoothie or whatever and be like you know abby. I know this might seem a little bit weird. But we're all just doing our best Like it just feels unearned or canned and like seinfeld. The parents are kooky. But there's always something kind of lovable. I'm always like. Can't you just make them not lovable at all other times. I did a better job at that. They weren't very level. Do you understand what i'm saying absolutely. Tv vacation they give to tie it up and and make them redeemable in some way and if you met my parents you'd like i love them. They're great but they're not redeemable. They're not going to be a moment where they go like you know we. I'm sorry i said you have a girl's name he's never gonna..
Lizzie Borden, Axe Murderer, Maybe
"The incident. Nicky what do we need to know about what happens on the night that are on the day that andrew and abby are all i guess hacked to death is the is the right way to put it. Yes the day they are axe murdered. Well i mean we know we have a pretty clear timeline of what happened actually Because it happens in a short window of time when they're alone so abby was the first to be killed And she was struck in the back of the head and then hacked sawmilling seventeen times like it was a pretty vicious brutal murder And then it's like. I think an hour an hour and a half later when her husband andrew comes home and then he is hacked as well and there are people in the house when this is happening. So the made is there though. She is supposedly up on the third floor. Taking a nap and lizzie. Bordon is there. She said you know some people say she's in the barn for a while she comes back. It's an unclear. It's unclear where everyone is During this but the maids as the she hears lizzy say come. You know my father is dead and then the police are called and they do kind of shoddy investigation and it goes from there. She's arrested The murders happened on fourth So she's arrested about a week later and then we get to the trial and the trial. Is i suppose not that big of a surprise. A sensation is covered breathlessly. Not just in the town and not just even in boston. But it's let's pick up national attention. You know described to us kelly. Why what is it. That's appealing about this trial. And what are the narratives that emerge particularly as we said they start to tilt a little bit in lizzy favor. Yeah so there's so much about this. That i think would not happen if the family were not wealthy. This was related to like as being like the titanic of its moment. What seems a little suspect me. But if you think about like the exorbitant amount of wealth and how tragedy gets connected about people sometimes have like an insatiable appetite to want to know what happens to rich people. And why and so. And so lizzie gets caught up in this now. She is supported by her community. The women's temperance group comes to her aid. They protest by her side saying that she could not have committed this crime and it really becomes sort of this. Well you can't even say a. He said she said moment because her father. And some of the can't really say you know what happens so it becomes her story versus everybody else versus the evidence of the
Why Relationships Fail With Abby Medcalf
"Do you think is the real reason relationships fail so 'cause i really talk about this a lot. I you know i've been. I've been working with couples all these years like thirty five years now. 'cause i'm old and i have to say so. Everyone comes in usually the same thing. We don't communicate with. They say over and over again. We're not communicating. We need help communicating. It's here and really. The communication is failing because of a different problem which is competition and we compete with our partners. All the time and this isn't really just in love relationships but that's what we'll talk about right now it is. We compete all the time you know. It's your turn to put away the dishes. I took sally the baseball on monday. So you have to take jack piano on friday. You spent money on this thing. So i get to spend money on that thing. We divide all the time. We do this sort of thing and what happens. Is we end up on opposite sides from our partners because right we're in competition for resources in the relationship money time all those things in that jealousy that happens i see it all the time and it's not even just a couples who have children it's all over Were i think with kids. It's more about time and with couples with our kids. It's more about money But sometimes it's time kill and there's this a subtle. Will you out with your friends all weekend. You know when is my time you know. There's this jealousy. There's this not liking when the other person is doing. Well actually not liking. When someone's doing while i had belie is that if you really love percent then you want the best for the other person you do but if you think it means loss for you you don't so if you're going to be lost for you just because i say it shouldn't
Dr Abby Medcalf Says the Real Problem in Relationships Is Competition
"Really enjoyed your ten tad ex talk in part because we both know that everyone who comes to our office arrives believing that communication is the big problem in their relationship. But you say there is a bigger problem. Tell me about that you know so. I have the same same as you. Everyone comes in. Our problem is we. Don't communicate and number one we both know. You're you're communicating all the time. Why you like it or not. So that's you might not like what you're communicating but you're communicating. that's number one but number two. The real problem is competition and we learned this from a young age. We saw our own parents do it and we say things like it's your turn to put away the dishes. I took jack to piano practice on monday. It's your turn. You have to take sophie to baseball on friday. We use spent money on this on going to spend money on this. There is so much. Tit for tat. There is so much keeping score watching. What our partners are doing or not doing comparing it to what we're doing. Which of course is always always much more always better and living in that place so when that happens of course you're treating it it is it's a competition and in any competition son. One side has to win and one side has to lose. And we don't wanna lose so you're literally setting your partner up failure literally want them to fail on some level because for in your head. It means you'll get
"abby " Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"They weren't a drawing class. My second grader and the teacher at one point said you know you wanna draw baseball cap if you want this character to be boy or you can draw pigtails if you wanted to be. A girl and a student raised their hand. I don't know the students under the student raised their hand and went. Is it okay. Our picture is non binary and the two and it was like not a stopdown not in anything they all know what non binary means and i was like. Oh yeah maybe there is hope because these concepts are getting through to them about how to handle social emotional situations votes right. And i think what's so beautiful about it is. They're learning how to accept themselves which means they're able to accept others like you can't really accept others until you've accepted yourself. That is right monica. I think we're getting there with these little peeps. I like to think sometimes one hundred years down the road. What are the things we are going to be. Most embarrassed about So many things in so many other cultures folks like me coup in some ways have been marginalized and oppressed. I didn't make as much money as a soccer player. As i could have had been straight and long haired truly like. That's a reality for me. But you know i feel like in other cultures people like me are like revered set aside and like celebrate in you know i just hope for that next abby the next person that comes through that they are revered and celebrated for their perfect selves. 'cause i mean all of the labels and stuff are kinda just bullshit and i think over time they're gonna go away. I think we have to go through that turbulence because you were forced to go through it on your own come to terms with all these things who you were in the world insofar as a woman as a gay person the younger generation who is demanding. Specificity that is exactly glennon pushing those forms back going. No no these should both say person because there's just person yup but it's because of people like you who are making the younger generations demand so we are thankful very well. I think all the thanks should go to glennon push my own self. 'cause i that's what our partners can be. Great for two is just mirrors like. Hey here's maybe something that you're blinded to or something that you're not getting truly honest with yourself about. That's what i think. Having an amazing partner is good for is like somebody who will hold standards and glennon. I wrote marriage vows and we come back to those vows every single january of every year and we interpret them in different ways every year because life changes and so we rewrite them and it is a practice of ours. And you know kristen. I know that you and i dax takes a moral inventory of his life and that's something that we do every single night and bad like how is your day..
"abby " Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"Your friends is here today. Oh man i mean. I don't know if i can call my friend. Bridges sort of like. Dm friends but i do know her wife. Yes and the two of them are beacons of light for me. I love how they communicate. I love how open they are today. We have abby wambach dude guys. She's in olympia. Yeah ovarian d- di. I'm very interested in olympians. 'cause they're special dish don't get an olympian every time you walk out of the hospital with a baby that's right limited a dish. They're very limited edition. It also takes so much dedication which we talked about a lot. And abby is an american retired soccer players is also a coach two time olympic gold medalist a fee for women's world cup champion and a member of the no big deal national soccer hall of fame She's a six time winner of the. Us soccer athlete of the year award. It's an incredible. What's so fun about the national female soccer team. I'm not that into soccer or anything but when you watch them you really see. Everyone collectively doing their part. Yes something amazing about watching that very specific team of women just like bosses but letting people have their moment like. Oh it's just great. What's weird is in every other sport you can hold onto the ball yet can baseball. You got your catches me to hold it like in basketball. You can just hold it with your hands for like a minute. If you're dribbling it on from what i understand. There's like all these different sports where you can hang onto something where you get it and you feel great but literally in soccer. The goal is to get it and find the next move. And so you have to be assessing your teammates at all times and what i loved. His how abby described that of like knowing your strengths but also knowing. You don't have to be good. Everything find the strength and the people around you and that's your team. That's your family. That was the back tattoo. Sorry to blow it now but right. That was this week's back tattoo. Yeah you gotta know what your team mates are good at. Yeah and not feel like you have to do all the things. Yeah you're not alone out there. Yeah and that's one of the beautiful things about how soccer and she talks about soccer being this like global unifier of of and she's also just like beary open and honest and you know glennon her wife is a writer and she wrote a book about reuniting with her husband and then like a couple of weeks later met abbey and was just like i think i have to make a different choice then wrote a book untamed about meeting abby. And it's just crazy and beautiful love story and they're so honest and open and i love how much they've taught me awesome. We got to share it with our audience. Yadda peek into her insight. And here it is. We are supported by abby. Wambach concerning gonna feel did st now. Hello.
EAA AirVenture Oshkosh 2021
"My name's Tim it's my fifth oshkosh air venture Live near vancouver in canada and happy to be here. How this before. We continue I'll just mention that. Because of travel restrictions there are far fewer international visitors here to to air venture But but you found a way to smuggle yourself out of canada. I guess and You flew down correct. I did yep That's the one way we can cross by land at this point but through airplanes luckily we can make it here The other restrictions Cova test before we crossed the border to allow to be able to get onto the flight. And then i'll have to do the same on the return on the cobra test in order to return to canada all right. Hey it's Logan lynch Second time come to air venture Came in nineteen and is great excited to be here again. It's probably another record breaking ground this year. It seems like so Flew in from north dakota yesterday so glad to be here. North dakota put the land of the severe winter I'd say severe everything we get the extremes on both ends. We cost hunter three hundred and three up there. The other day we We'll get down to negative fifty in the winter. So it's extremes. Yeah crazy crazy also with us. Hello everybody. this is david. Abby from new york love the airplane geeks for on a right now. Just one of my first podcast. I've ever listened to and got me involved in aviation so it's great to see again at his first oshkosh and i flew in yesterday commercial from from new york via denver because of the I guess crazy Domestic airline operations lately but it went smoothly. No problem so glad to be here and just great to be among the aviation friends
Riley's Slam, 6 RBIs Power Braves to 12-5 Rout of Mets
"The Braves rolled to a twelve five victory over the Mets is Austin Riley drove in a career high six runs with a grand slam and a two run Homer a lot of pressure you know can be myself up you know last couple but that's you know with with guys in and score position you know just what I will get the job done you know like in Austin I was able to your browser balls up if if it felt good I see Abby's in Abraham Amonte each belted a two run Homer and Dansby Swanson hit a two run double for Atlanta the offense allowed Charlie Morton to improve to ten and three after he allowed three runs over five innings Mets starter and loser Jared I cough was torched for ten runs on seven hits and five walks and three in the third I'm Dave Ferrie
Abby Wambach on What It Means to Find Your True Self
"The book you wrote you. The chapters are all ways. People had seen you write and categories. You'd but sometimes walked into willingly and and sometimes is that had been an armor right so it was everything from you or how you seen yourself. We fraud tomboy rebel teammate. Lesbian manic depressive captain leader romantic hero addict failure and then the last chapter is human somewhere. You said i had created yourself. All these categories that were both generated from you generated externally helped create you but shut you off from becoming human fully. Human glennon has said this a lot. you know. We're all kinda like russian nesting dolls and as we get older. We kinda keep putting on all of these costumes. And that's what i thought for me growing up. That's what i thought. I had to do to mature to age to get. Wisdom is to put on all these different costumes and see which one fit. And i think that now having gone through a lot of my life granted i'm still fairly young thirty eight but i realized that the more you can actually take those costumes off and get down to that little small immobile russian nesting doll. That is like who you are your true self that is like the humanity of all of us and we all are in there. I visited very random. But i just wanna share it. Because it was reading thinking he ended with human which seems like the simplest most elemental thing of all but is really the work of a lifetime. Right i was thinking about this you. When i studied theology paul tillich wrote the courage to be and he's called an existentialist feel ogen. I read it when i was older. Because i was emphasized when i thought that to be that being but the current the book is actually about how the courage it takes right. The courage is the work.
Pfizer, Subsidiaries Agree to Pay $345M in EpiPen Settlement
"Visor into subsidiaries have agreed to pay three hundred forty five million dollars under a proposed settlement to resolve lawsuits over EpiPen price hikes the litigation goes back five years when lawsuits were filed alleging anti competitive conduct Abby pens auto injectable devices that are used for emergency treatment of a life threatening allergic reaction in two thousand seven and Abby pen package cost about one hundred dollars today it costs more than six hundred fifty dollars without pharmacy coupons or discounts a Pfizer spokesperson denied any wrongdoing and email to Casey you are radio adding this turns the focus on breakthroughs that change patients lives I'm a Donahue
Oxfam: 11 People Die Of Hunger Each Minute Around the Globe
"In a report titled the hunger virus multiplies Oxfam says the death toll from famine outpaces that of covert nineteen which kills around seven people per minute the anti poverty organization Oxfam says eleven people die of hunger each minute and that the number facing the famine like conditions around the globe has increased six times over the last year Oxfam America's president and C. E. O. Abby marksman says the statistics are staggering but we must remember that these because I made up of individual people facing unimaginable suffering Max boot adds unrelenting conflict on top of the cove it nineteen economic fallout and the worsening the climate crisis has pushed more than five hundred twenty thousand people to the brink of starvation I'm Charles de Ledesma
Humanitarian Crisis in Ethiopia's Tigray At "Tipping Point"
"We start today here in africa. Tens of thousands of malnourished children are at risk of dying in ethiopia is to gray region. That's according to the united nations and humanitarian groups. Working in the area. Tommy thompson is emergency coordinator for the world food program. This is a crisis of certainly food security. But it's really a crisis of access protection issues preventing us from doing work it's rewire it's an incredibly dangerous environment for. I'll be working out. There have been mind. Humanitarian have been killed thus far on every day. We have our chain senses. The ngos partners everybody who's trying to operate north find themselves challenged checkpoints. They're increasingly hostile on in some of these checkpoints. We have our beneficiaries having the things that are given luton for men if opium prime minister abby amid sent government forces into tegray in november to disarm leaders of the tegray people's liberation front. He blamed the group for attacks on army camps but international watchdog groups accused government forces of widespread atrocities against civilians and now humanitarian agencies say ethiopian forces and troops from neighbouring area. Tra are keeping relief shipments out of the region the un estimates more than a quarter million people into gray now face famine conditions.
Taylor Clears Bases in 8-Run Fifth, Dodgers Beat Braves 9-5
"The Dodgers erupted for eight runs in the fifth inning of a nine five win over the Braves Chris Taylor capped a huge rally with a three run double that gave Los Angeles an eight one lead pitcher Julio Reavis drove in the fifth inning run with a bunt single for the Dodgers who won easily despite collecting just four hits all in the fifth LA also scored runs on consecutive bases loaded walks in the fifth arena scattered four hits over five innings including Freddie Freeman's first inning Homer Ian Anderson was chased in the fifth charged with four runs on just one hit I see Abby's hit a two run double for Atlanta I'm Dave Ferrie
Relationships Made Easy With Abby Medcalf
"Abby. Please introduce yourself. Hi well first of all. Thank you for having me here. I'm really excited. I listen to you and tell my clients all time to listen. So may i relation ship. May then i love your tedtalk you watched. I'm really proud of that. And i have a podcast also. The relationships made easy. You know how to do that. And i'm author. And i see clients and i speak allotted corporate and all the things all the things and i'm a mom in a long term recovery myself and actually been running a group in a drug rehab for thirty five years. Wow i like that news. I ever give it up no matter what else i'm doing in my life no matter what else is going on I run some kind of group. Do some sort of group it just it. yeah you know. That's what's under everything. So
In the Light of the Tough Season, The Celtics Still Have a Glimmer of Hope
"Think the way that we have seen Kemba Play Over the month of April, and if he can bring that, if he can be 80% of the camera that we have come to expect, I think that that will be huge for this team going forward. And I am also optimistic like Evan said, the absence of Robert Williams has proven to be dead And even bigger issue than I think anyone had could have predicted just in the fact of what he was doing with that starting unit on offense, he was moving the ball and also not allow defense has to pack the paint because you have to draw Robert out of the paint or else you at least have to account for him cuz he will just come in behind you and dunk on your face. So for that it opens up a lot of things offensively and then defensively just to have a guy who can provide that kind of Rim protection and that kind of communication we hear from the assistant coaches. Just how much Rob has improved in communication job defensively. And so I do think that, that is a huge thing that is missing for this team right now. And then you add in the fact that yes, Evan Fournier is coming off a battle with covideo said, he didn't feel well for a 4 to 5 days and still trying to work his way back. I think there are areas to look to for positivity, but I agree with Evan that it's in this season. The fact that they can be so dead. And hide and look like two completely different teams. It's just frustrating and it and it's frustrating because of the expectations that are on this group and regardless of how many games they lose and how fast they come out over and over again, those expectations remain,
Sign up to get notified about COVID-19 vaccines in Seattle
"To become vaccinated. Thousands of people got their vaccinations yesterday at Blumenfield comes Abby. A Cockney explains how you can sign up for yours eligible for the cover 19 vaccine until April 15th right now you can go to it. City of Seattle website to be signed up from notifications of open appointments at big vaccination sites like the one Here Lumen Field, You can head to our website cos dot com From war. As for what we saw unfold history before eyes Blumenfield Event center administering 8000 doses. That's the highest number of vaccinations on a single day. Here at this site, the city is hoping to vaccinate 11,000 people on a single day next week, and from there, the goal is to get to 20. 1000
How to register for Covid vaccine shot in Seattle area
"Of becoming eligible for covert covert 19 19 vaccines vaccines this this month, month, But But ah ah lot lot of of people people are are apprehensive apprehensive about about the the process process of of scheduling scheduling their their shot. shot. Almost Almost Abby Abby a a Cockney Cockney shares shares some some advice advice from from experts. experts. The process of scheduling that all important vaccine shot has been stressful and confusing for so many people. That's why small and large community groups around the region coming together. Help connect people to those shots. Here's the advice from those top community groups from folks who are eligible. One used the state's vaccine local cater to all to look, your county's Health Department website. Re check out the city of Seattle website to get connected to those appointments. And lastly, if you get an error on your phone or desktop, try another device. We talked to the co founders of the wildly popular Facebook group. Find a covert shot walks. They urged people to be flexible and to get the vaccine as soon as they're deemed eligible. So what we recommend to people in our community is that you schedule your vaccine. Aziz quickly as possible on Dick. Sure that you're really scheduling your life around the vaccine and not the vaccine around your life that face. The group has more than 50,000 followers and many of them constantly searching for and posting about. Open vaccine slots. Abby a. Coney Come on
Eritrea Agrees to Withdraw Troops From Tigray, Ethiopia Says
"Months of denial. Ethiopia's Prime Minister Abby Ahmed admitted for the first time this week that Eritrean troops were in the northern region of T dry and yesterday after talks with Eritrea's president is Icka Afwerki in the Eritrean capital, Asmara. Abby announced that Eritrea has agreed to withdraw its troops from the border region. But interestingly, the Eritreans have made very little comment on Mr Abby statement.
Ethiopia says Eritrea agrees to withdraw troops from Tigray
"This week, Ethiopia's Prime Minister Abby at Med admitted for the first time the troops from neighboring Eric Traer had bean vote involved in the four month conflict in Tigre, Ethiopia's northern region. Human rights groups allege that Eritrean soldiers have committed atrocities, including killing unarmed civilians on raping women. Now. I'll be at med has said Eritrean troops are to withdraw. We can go now to Addis Ababa and speak to our reporter Can't kiddin you. Bill tell Cochi down hi. What exactly has the prime minister said? Yes, that the announcement from the Prime Minister Kim as he's in a two day working visiting asthma and their return capital. He tweeted earlier this morning, saying that on agreement has been reached between the two governments for a trailer for a train troops. To leave the areas that they occupy now following the conflict in thing, right, So this comes as you said after a few days after he admitted that very trained forces where part where involved in the conflict and they wear Integrate as well. Do we know Mork precisely where exactly? These troops are where they are expected to go from as it were. Yes. During his parliamentary address, when he admitted the presence of a friend troops, the prime minister said that they were occupying bordering areas start. We're bracketed by if you can troops. When they took Ken troops were actively engaged in fighting with the former rulers of that, where which it so now it seems that he's saying that this Eritrean troops that that are occupying this vacant areas are going to leave. They're going to retreat back to Eritrea, and that if you can, defense forces are going to occupy these areas.
Pittsburgh Houseplant Merchant Blossoms During Pandemic
"Now. This is a really cool story today. Two weeks ago we focused this episode this segment around a guy known as plant influence sir. The plant influence up toronto. And naturally we try to space topics out of bit When i was looking at all the notes for upcoming throwback thursday segments. I saw that this one was about plants i was like. Oh that's cool but let's let's push the plants back just so we're not like all plants all the time. But when i listened to the interview with abby some parts of which you'll hear in a moment. I realized she had a really good story that i just didn't want to wait for you to here. So this is the month plants. Apparently and after years of being part time abby opened her shop in january twenty twenty she opened a retail shop in pittsburgh and naturally was quite worried. Because you may recall. January twenty twenty was the last normal month of life for most of us especially anyone who is a public facing kind of business like a new retail shop but in her case she really ended up turning things around so she's got a great update along with some helpful lessons. You always hear this thing about you. Know find your niche and chief and mentioned sat in her by. She's like yeah. You always hear this thing but it's so important in a crowded space and she actually was able to find a good one so it's always good to look and say okay. Not just find your niche. But how does one do that. What are specific examples of people that have done that because that will perhaps allow somebody else to think. Okay what is what is my thing. Not just my broad area. But what is my specific plant expertise. Am i going to be the plant. Influence her going to be abby from pittsburgh or am i going to be myself. You know the best answer is probably to be yourself. But how can you make that marketable anyway enough about me. I learned a lot from abbey's interview. So let's hear some highlights from her. And i'll be back at the end to wrap it up. My name. is abby calcio knee from pittsburgh pennsylvania and i own jericho plant co which was previously featured in episode eighty three. I started back in twenty eighteen. I was working a full time corporate job in the supply chain in finance world and just wanted to do something in my free time on my own with something that i love which was plants. So i started in online houseplant shop. You can hear more about in that previous episode. And i did that for about a year and then in two thousand nineteen. Whenever we recorded that last episode i was just branching out into doing local pop up shops around town and finally getting my hands. what in selling in person instead of just online and having my husband come and help me because i needed extra help because they were doing so well Yeah it was. Just you know. A pretty stereotypical side-hustle just kind of finding time wherever you can find it so once. The lockdown happened in pennsylvania It was also very uncertain. And we no one really knew what to do however my space and the warehouse i open in pennsylvania technically allowed to stay open. Because i'm an ecommerce company. So i was actually set up pretty well for covid and the lockdown was already set up to ship customers their orders. And that's exactly what i did so honestly i don't know if i would have grown as much as i had twenty twenty. My first technical big year in business had it not been for people really wanting to have plants in their home so that they were all stuck at home and finding my business especially here locally. I was shocked at the amount of people who are willing to pay for shipping. And i was sending it to miles away because they could leave their homes. So i all my inventory was already on the website. I've still have that same shop. Affi- store that i had for the last two years so i was really set up for success. Actually which was incredible and then just sort of went with the flow for the rest of the year. Like i'm sure every other business owner has has done and i continued pop up shops where possible and doing sidewalk shops. So that was also a great way for me to advertise and shop. Affi- put in place a curbside pickup option into their interface. So from may onwards. That's how i've made most of my money as people buying online and picking up on my warehouse here in pittsburgh and i still ship across the country and that's still a great avenue for for revenue for me. I was fortunate enough to hit one hundred k. And revenue by november of twenty twenty which. I didn't expect to happen at all. I was very happy with that. It was sort of a struggle of mine. What's i kind of got to see. How the hub. Year risk going in terms of hitting six figures in nine months in a business essentially started the pandemic i. I'm pretty happy with the growth. That i've had and continue to see going into twenty twenty one one of the biggest challenges that actually any house plant or plants seller in general husband. Basing is a plant shortage across the entire country This is both in seeds and outdoor plants. I think demand is skyrocketed this year. Which i've obviously benefited from. However that's led to incredible shortages at the growers in florida and on top of that they are also dealing with the repercussions from fad hurricanes in the past five or ten years because the plant supply chain. It takes so long if you go to a store and buy a five foot tall tree just think of how many years it took for that plant ticket that large and if a thrower gets its inventory wiped out or damage that can be years of sales that are taken away from them. So my advice to you in. If you're looking to get into any sort of plant business would be to find your niche differentiate. Yourself and i know that is sometimes just something you hear about and you know marketing class or whatever but in a saturated market like online plant. Sales are or you know. Even locally you're competing with other plants stores florists and garden centers and lowe's and home depot You really have to differentiate yourself so. I focused my entire websites on helping beginners. Find their plants. Just sort of like a questionnaire like form type of thing you can go through my website and then everything is kept nice and simple on the product pages to really just get people started with house plants one of the biggest surprises and benefits. I am getting out of starting my own business is so i do the retail side and the wholesale side and retail to make people happy every single day by giving them plants which is so much fun and talking to everybody is so much fun but what i didn't know i would enjoy so much is talking to my wholesale clients and getting to know other people who are running businesses. Because they're in it with me. They no one else knows unless they're nba arena there few fighting the same fight. You are like the struggles. Of how am i gonna pay rent this month. All right my heating bill was really high. What can i do to reduce that. And and how. Am i going to get inventory and a consistent schedule talking about those problems and helping other business owners and learning from other business owners spend such a wonderful benefit of. It's sort of like your own little. Nba i feel like without having to pay all the money for an mba.
"abby " Discussed on Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!
"And they're also willing to tell you. I find that way march you. You had been a reporter for politico and the washington post. Now you're at cnn. And now you're on cnn. A lot on the sort of panels constantly commenting very well. Is it hard to come up with something new to say. Oh it's definitely hard sometimes. Sometimes you're like one more my supposed to say about this thing but the thing is you know. Maybe i think the thing that you don't realize that he will. Tv is that half of the battle is just repeating. What the person before you said but just saying it in a different way and making it sound mail and then so in other words. You're kind of recycling. The information that has already been offered to the viewer. But perhaps you're doing it in the slightly new way so as to make it seem different. Is that what you're saying. You're exactly right about wow i. It's hard to say. I mean you've done a lot of very valuable work but maybe the moment that that really brought you to the attention was a of. The public was a confrontation. You had an almost ugly one was with referring of course to the time you were attacked by a gecko. One of the scariest moments of my life was done. This was down in florida. Having the president is that right yeah. Yeah what happened while i was on. Tv on a panel and it was. It was the middle of some kind of crazy. Florida windstorm and suddenly i feel something land on my leg and i don't look down because i'm on tv. But i'm like i have to look down. I looked down. And there is a gecko staring at me so i creams and tried to knock the thing off my leg and everyone thought i was being attacked by you. Know i i was in west palm beach could have been an all the stuff that could attack you in florida. A gecko is so nothing. I think maybe the reason. I was also a little jumpy because where we do. Our live shots was is in front of this Lake thing that has an alligator in it there is an actual alligator in the late hind. Me i three and have yet goes but also other tiny yeah animal than is this hazardous There's another thing i wanted to ask and you can tell me if i'm wrong. We heard that you have a big enthusiasm when you need to relax for reality tv. Is that the case yes gio. What's your favorite show. I'm like a real housewives. Really mu yeah. What is the appeal of real. I've never felt repeal. What is the appeal. And maybe it's because it's it's like people that you know so it's basically the same crew every season and you get to know them really well and you watch over time. I'm bad with names so it's easier to keep track. I guess the reason puzzle is because isn't your job as a political reporter analyst covering enormous amounts of drama in the fact that you want to relax by watching more of that as long as it's not about the future of american democracy. I think it's you can relax. And i have to ask you this. I joked about it. You did take over inside politics. Sunday morning from the legendary john king. Will you get to use the magic wall. I think so. We talked about it. But i have not been allowed on the magic wall. Just yet tab get a little bit of training. It's big and so but we're working on if you move your hand wrong. Pennsylvania goes into the sea. You can't yeah. You can't mess with the total. I mean look. Nobody is going to be as good at the magic wall as john king c. Shouldn't even try. But just i just want to break anything or make anything disappear or anything like that. Wow yeah you're gonna do the magic wall in your own special way. Abby hoping that. I have one last question you and everybody else in political journalism. Npr cnn everywhere has been spending a lot of late nights of late starting with the election going through the next impeachment. Do you a secret for staying awake. I eat a lot of candy really. That's the secret i mean. That's what i do secret. That's what i do. I eat a lot of like sugary thing. Unite on favorite candy. Free snacks fruit. Snacks are not candy. Fruit snack one hundred percent juice. That's what i tell myself but it's mostly you ever eat anything that turns your tongue funny color and then you've got a problem. Wouldn't go on camera has not happened yet. Stay away from atomic fireballs. They've they do. It lasts for hours right now. That you've said that abbey. Philip is a pleasure to talk to you. We have invited. You hear this time though to play a game we're calling outside politics you host inside politics now. We thought we'd ask you about outside politics. That is politics in the animal kingdom. Answer two questions out of three correctly when our price whenever listeners. The voice of their choice in their answering machine. Bill who is abby philip playing for the pet ab- to loose france is your first question. Beehives are very organized. We all know that. You have your queens. Your drones your workers. Your warriors beehives. Also have what a bar. Bouncers be spiritual guides or see chauffeur's i wanna ask you are right. Far bounces turns out. I didn't know this. A notorious for getting drunk on fermented nectar and so high there will be certain bees whose job it is to stand at the entrance and keep the drunk bs from going inside all right next question. Chickens have a pecking order. Obviously now sometimes a rooster will challenge the human for dominance over the chicken coop. So what does modern farmer dot com suggests the human due to show the rooster. That he or she is boss. A crow like a rooster through an amplifier because volume always wins. Be just put on a rooster suit. Get down in the dirt and get ready to rumble or see just eat. It know what i want to answer. But i'm going to go with a it was actually just eat it. Okay yeah. I was apparently sometimes. If you grab the russert hold it down on the ground that can establish dominance but when that doesn't work to quote modern farmer.
"abby " Discussed on Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!
"Here is your first quote. Everyone's entitled to a mulligan once in a while that was senator. Mike lee of utah. Perhaps showing his hand is what solemn preceding began in the senate impeachment. Yes or these second. Impeachment of donald trump house manages presented video of trump and the rioters incited that was so compelling republicans had to literally look away. just senator. josh. Hawley was seen ignoring the presentations and just going through paperwork instead. What a disgrace said a million people who have spent every minute of every zoom meeting for the past year scrolling instagram. Oh come on now who hasn't incited a riot in an attack on the capital. It could happen to anybody. wouldn't move. That is pretty much taken by republicans. Some of whom are performative. -ly ignoring the evidence. In addition to josh hawley senator rick scott was seen over the course of the two days of evidence. This is true. He was filling in the country's on a blank map of asia. It's so nice that even after reaching his high office he's still working on getting his elementary school degree. Yeah yeah he had some work. That was missing. Found the whole thing so educational really hustle paula. I had no idea that nebraskan. we're such judicial thinker. I didn't yes now. You are referring. Of course to the breakout star of day one. That was trump lawyer bruce. Castor who gave a speech summary andering including calling nebraska for some reason a quote judicial thinking. Place that even rudy giuliani thought. What the hell is this guy talking about you know. Trump was in trouble when castor started his speech by saying ladies and gentlemen what is impeachment and then waited for someone to tell him. He was just lost in his suit. You did you know. I mean it. Looks like he lost like forty pounds but never had the suit. Take in which i mean. I applaud him for losing the weight. But holy smokes. Apparently he lost it that day. He heard the opening arguments of the other side. And just the pounds fellow and now the second and third days of the trial. The democrats showed much more video evidence including new security video. We had never seen it of the capital siege including footage. That showed mitt romney running so fast from the rioters that one of his hairs almost moved real. Romney runs like an olympic sprinter. While in another video chuck schumer is seemed to run like an olympic. Schumer oh you did look fairly athletic. When he you know he kicked it in he just he found a strident was gone. Straight ran like they were taxes. Coming alright any. Here is your next quote dammit. Double up. that was epidemiologist. Eric fagel ding talking about new advice. We got from the cdc this week telling us all to double up on our. What masks. yes that's right. Cdc recommends everybody should wear masks at once one to cover your mouth and nose and one to hide your face in case you attack the capital but and this is true you might think will tuesday good threes better. No three masks is bad. Because your air can't pass through it so it goes out the signs and defeats the purpose of the mask. So was better than one. But three is worse than two and eight is better than three because you suffocate. Which at least means you won't get cove. It is the good doctor aware. That half of the country isn't wearing one mass. Well shoot for two. Isn't he aiming a little high. Has not been to florida texas arizona the dakotas and on and on and on i. It's possible that they're only saying this. So maybe the idiots who refuse to wear a mask as a form of rebellion will. Now try to rebel by wearing just one masks so at least you're like you're trying to get the american average up to one. Maybe yeah it's like when you set your alarm clock for an hour before you need to leave for where you're going. If you sleep in the eventually you'll get up and go. Yeah right which means that. You got fifteen minutes right now. One problem with double masks is it might double your mask knee. Which is a real problem. That's rashes and pimples in your chin caused by constantly wearing a mask while it's either that or it's that we're all using the pandemic as an excuse to gorge ourselves and chocolate anabolic steroids. I wonder what happens if you tell a nurse about your mask. Ni like crimea river. I've been wearing these masks since before dependent. What do they do. Don't healthcare workers. They've been wearing these all the time. So can't we just find out what they do for mask. The apparently they're solution. Is you have to wash your mask regularly. Or who cares you wearing a mask. No one's gonna see. Maybe they're only wearing it because they already had You know all right here is your last quote. Why are people so dang obsessed with it. That was national geographic. Talking about the recent pileup of space probes. Arriving wear well. I we get the there. We yes it is. Mars you guessed correctly probes. Three different space probes of either arrived or will be arriving at mars. Just this month is one from china. One from the usa and one from the united arab emirates are you a either is actually traffic on the way to mars the real space race. It turns out just getting a parking spot. Yeah makes you think that they that they found something. They're not really telling the rest of us about right. Yeah well what's interesting to me is The you a night of the emirates first arab country ever to do it has sent a probe to mars. It has just arrived in orbit now. They of course are the same people who convinced like the international jet set to come to dubai so that means that mars will soon be the next pretentious destination. Somebody spent a week there and for the rest of their life. They'll be like well. We pronounce it marthe. When you think of dubai. it's they probably got the best shot at at being able to settle mars because look where they built that city. Yeah it's not going to bank of sand with no freshwater. Plus don't they have the tallest building in the woods. Dubai bridge make the elevator go three more floors practically. They're right. I think it just shows how little we trust each other as countries when one government goes to mars and says there's absolutely nothing there and they're like don't believe upset in the countries like it is barren. There's nothing but dust you're holding out on me. I'm sending bill. How did any do in our quiz. Eddie's champion congratulations emmy took guys. Thank you so much for plane any and keep up the good work. Hopefully it'll be over soon. Bye.
"abby " Discussed on Design Matters with Debbie Millman
"To this very special. Episode of design matters the near state writers institute and the university at albany speakers. Series thank you. You're so played into being very excited to yard very excited to meet you too and my wife. Roxanne gay says hi. She's fans of both of you as well rate absolutely amazing together all of it everything that you really follow everything. Thank you glennon. I like to start by reading an excerpt from your latest book untamed. Which as of this interview has been on the new york times bestseller list for twenty eight weeks. Congratulations that is quite a feat. So i'd like to sit a stage for what am about to read for our listeners read large librarians dinner with a group of other prominent. You're there to talk about the launch of your upcoming book. Love her which recount your then. As i mentioned husband's infidelity and subsequent attempts at reconciliation and forgiveness. And there you are at this dinner sitting in your assigned seat despite your talent for public speaking. You don't like small talk and sitting in your seat about to eat a salad. Here is the excerpt as i'm reaching addressing. The children's book lady looks over at the door. I look over to. Suddenly a woman is standing there. Where nothingness used to be. She takes up the entire doorway the entire room the entire universe. She has short hair platinum on top shaved on the sides. She's wearing a long trench coat. A red scarf a warm half smile. Cool steel confidence. She stands there for a moment taking inventory of the room. I stare at her and then take inventory of my entire life. My whole being says there she is then. I lose control of my body. I stand up in. Open my arms wide. She looks over cocks. Her head to the side raises her eyebrows. Smiles at me. Fuck fuck fuck. Why am i standing. Why are my arms open. Oh my god what am i doing. I sit back down. She walks around the table and shakes hands with everyone when she gets to me. I stand up again. turn around face. her i'm abby. She says. I ask if i can hug her. Because what if this is the only chance she smiles and opens her arms. Then the smell. That will become home to me. Skin like powder and fabric softener blended with the will of her coat and her cologne and something that smelled like air like outdoors like crisp sky like a baby and a woman and a man and the whole world. The only seat left is at the far end of the table. So she walks away from me and sits down abby. My first question is t you tell us about your experience in that moment when you first met glennon what did you feel what did you think what did you experience with that hug. Tell us everything will leaving us. This event I usually like to see who's going to be at the event kind of pick out. The person was talk to the most straight and at the time. I was really struggling to figure out what i was. Gonna write in my book and part glennon sore. Her backstory was mashing. Mike current store at the time. So i kind of knew that there was made you get beat a person that i'd be able to connect with and when i got into the room and she stood up. She didn't write this in in the book but she actually ended up doing a little bit so nobody else stood up. So this is. This is most supreme awkward moment in all of awkward moments so because she stood up it kind of forced my hand in having to walk around the whole table to her because there again i felt bad right But as soon as i got to her There was something that was that was happening in a couldn't pinpoint the time you know. She asked if we could hug. We hugged and sat down and then throughout the entire dinner. I just felt so annoyed. I was not sitting right next to her curious about what the energy was happening. And then as the dinner on. I kept building a building and then We got literally three or four minutes to walk from that back room to the dais to the stage where we were gonna go. Try to sell our books to the library of america and it was an energy between us that was definitely both ways. You know schuman's many years sober. I was dealing with trying to get sober at the time. I was like a month sober and so i thought maybe our relationship would be based in sobriety and that she was made to get her mentor me through might early sobriety days and then you know i heard her speak and that is what changed it all for me on. If you've ever heard glennon speak it's hard not to fall in love with her and it's hard not to listen and cry and laugh within seconds so though that initial moment for me might not have been there. She is like she experienced. It definitely happened throughout the rest of that night. And i went home. I read love warrior. It was funny because the way love where the marriage redemptions like she figures it out with cragg in the end and at the end. I was like what i like at three o'clock in the morning. I like shot. The broken nose like can't be that on a stage. He wasn't line so my experience. Now i know that the very next time you met in person which was several months later you had both untangled yourselves from your previous marriages so you could be together but you did this before you even kissed for the first time and so in reading forward and reading wolfpack in reading untamed. There's there's not a lot of detail in those months. So i'm wondering if you can share just a little bit about how you started to move to threaten your lives together at that point so the wild thing is not just we had never kissed we had never been in the same room again freight until we both. We can tell that hotel room right. This isn't even in the book. But at the event abby having assistant to was dear french abbas assisted was watching from there was a thousand librarians in the hall that we were in and she watching me speak and she was watching. Abby react to me speaking so abby was kind of tearing up being very emotional and her assistant understood that audience with your very hard time at that point with sobriety. The assistant came up to me at the end of the event. Handed me her card and said. I don't know what's happening tonight. But i've never seen abby like this. And i just feel like she needs you in her life. Mrs unbeknownst to me i have no idea but my sister and i was stunned but i was also like well that makes two of us lady i that i should be an obviously the A few days later. I was just stunned by this experience for days. A few days later. I wrote an email to abby about sobriety about my experience early sobriety and i sent it to the assistant. Because i didn't know early surprise. Should i even be reaching out to her idaho. I said if you think that this is a good thing for her to read senate your. That's how we started emailing so than the assistant sent it to abby abby. Email me back. We ended up just writing to each other every single day. Just writing writing writing writing eventually. Abby later on put together all of our.
"abby " Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"True and beautiful life that we can possibly live and we live at out I do think that. The Kingdom of Earth's the kingdom does come down to Earth on some. Sundays. I think you both talk about a lot separately and in the same conversations is identity. Glen I think you talk about a lot in your book abby you've talked about with sports and just in your book as well. I know from my personal experience with athletics. My identity was wrapped up in whatever the world wanted to tell me I was I was just the gymnast I was just the metal nothing else. They told me what I could wear how could talk how I could act who I should hang out with all of it. Glenn you've talked a lot about the identity that you got caught up in with your husband in the church and even going as far as like eating disorders in having an image tied to it. I'm curious how your relationship has helped that working through both identities in world stigmas because I know, one of the greatest things ever happened to me was finding Andrew because I was wrapped up an identity that I didn't know how to get out of and he saw something different when the doors were closed and I could Kinda let that guard down and he helps me kind of heal through that and become. Who I was and I'm curious if you guys have. Gone through that together or healed outside of it and. I don't know like flourished each other. Andrew Good. Familiar.
"abby " Discussed on The Official The Last of Us Podcast
"Does, she have hope. Is Abby have hope. Yes. Yes there is hope. I mean what's crazy is what you're seeing. Elliott go through. is, everything. Abby went through. There would be a period where she wouldn't see that everything was her fault. She would think like. This is on. This is on Joel. This is on. Owen I you know getting pregnant. This is for this is on L.. E. For coming back after we let her live. How dare she and then finally coming to the reality of this is on me. This is this is based on my actions. I'm the one that's at this motion. And finding up peace with that. If there can be. I think love certainly. Helps her see. A possibility that. She can forgive herself. And Find Redemption in whatever way she can. And that's. One of the reasons, it's so important. He so important to her. I can find redemption through. To keeping this kid alive. She's. Come on. fucking people. You're my people. We're GONNA have to fight to get out of this. Then I need you to show us those.
"abby " Discussed on The Official The Last of Us Podcast
"We talked to Hallie about PTSD, and how it it touches on that in a very real way and I'm curious as a performer. On lock that and then put it back again. kind of dealing with such a brutal world you know. As characters say in the game. They call abby of a piece of shit. How do you play that character? Do you tap into that? But then also let it go when you need to be a decent human being. Some of it sticks with you. To that end. I think that's that's exactly what they have to do. In that world, everybody has to be able to instantly put on and take off the brutal hat because he can't constantly live as a killer. Right you don't. You do these heinous things, and then you go and you have a drink with your buddies. I think to Abbey and anybody. Really that is you know somebody on the front lines in this kind of a situation. They have to be somebody. That can turn that switch off themselves and just. Move like a machine. So it it does it, it haunts you just a little bit coming off those kind of days I, certainly you know. Doing scenes like finding my dad or Finding, a win! Those were all kind of days back to back, and I was full for a few a few days afterwards because you have so much. Emotion just pouring out of you and you have. Your body doesn't realize that you're acting. Know you create those emotions in yourself, and then they're just there. and. And you just Kinda have to deal with it until they. They find a way out again. Related to finding a way out or finding humanity, and Ptsd Abby relives these moments of Walking into the hospital, the operating room and seeing her Dad Dad there. And, we see that moment. it happened, and we see it and Abbey's dreams. In one of those moments is abby in that hospital walking through the corridor? And then seeing are in love and kind of what happens to them if she does nothing. And I'm curious to get your take on. Abbey's decision to save. Them in what that means to her and what it means to her matt moment in Ny. She decides to act verses letting that be a thing that she kind of sheds off because it's just part of life for her. It's that that's premeditated ray. That's a everything else is about survival. To sit back and know that they're just gonNA suffer. That's something different, so why this time? Why then did she need to? Go back for them especially for Yarra, she she puts it all on the line for your to ultimately have her. Die Right. Why does that do that, you know. Coming off that dream coming off the realization of where she was at that point in her life, which is exactly where Levin Yar our. Age wise coming off of having just really been a pretty shitty human. After everything with the just happened with Owen I think that. That moment of going. I can't. I can't live with myself if I. IF I don't go, do something you know at least try. a huge is a huge turning point for abby. Do. You think she succeeds..
"abby " Discussed on The Official The Last of Us Podcast
"Happy. And so I'm curious. What Abby thought happiness could be in that moment when Owen tries to connect with her because she has killed Joel to recognize. That's not the end all solution. revenge won't bring them back kind of lesson Can't she be happy? because she doesn't deserve it. You know that's. Like he can say, you're allowed to be happy, but. After, the sins committed, I don't think she thinks she can. She can do that. But you know. The loss of her dad, which you know in all the. Scenes, you get with him. You understand like what a bright spot he was, and how positive he was, and you know I. Think her time with the firefly's really even though she hadn't experienced life before. She still had them saying there's hope right? That's what they meant. There's hope that this won't last forever and there will be a piece coming. And when that's taken away. I think a lot. I think our hope died. You know and I? Don't think she. She fully understands what even that means anymore..
"abby " Discussed on New Jersey 101.5
"Was named Abby after Abby world my second dog was white the little black spots around his eyes Ziggy Stardust so he became Ziggy and my third dog is just a ball of fluff who learned at a big football games and my son's name him fluffy which you know you want to feel or mass going around the hydrant but when the flow when you're a fluffy were you going to do but he carries it well like Rod Stewart saying he wears it well Lynn is in gives town under Jersey one one point five highland Hey how you doing tonight I'm good how you doing I'm doing great just got out of work and done for the night for you home safe and sound yes Sir we work I'm a liquor store hello good ever you know you're the perfect place you go all right take a little bit of little bit a whole what do you think maybe any of your work home a little bit of this a little bit of that you know you got to stay in the mood you got it you got to stay on point so if you got to tell you to bring your work home you got to bring your work home you have to know your product so how did you name your dog well I adopted her from a rescue center at the pet smart where I was working at the time and she was about four pounds of the most dejected this sad little creature I had ever seen and all she all she wanted to do was be cuddled okay and she looked like she needed love more than anything I'd ever seen so I named her pie everybody loves hi look at that that's very good that is very good at what's your favorite and my favorite part I have to pick one yeah I'll give god lemon meringue really that's where you went lemon meringue my son my son the pike Eckley like crazy and I mean like whatever where we ever since thanksgiving when all the pies with their I mean the reason we have no leftover dessert he's my son was living on it I love the the chocolate pudding with the whip cream and the banana pudding with the whipped cream like the banana cream pie in the chocolate cream pie but then I'm not a fan no love now I got the fruit one of my wife is like that I got then Roush was in here last week he sang Jersey Christmas any brought me of a look from the little pie shop a Mississippi mud pie and your heat that and you put some whipped cream on it all my god ecstasy and and that was a good bet either thanks for the call to New Jersey one one point five nine days on one ninety five a New Jersey one one point five I dont day our you know you working overtime no you don't open a hardware.
"abby " Discussed on RobinLynne
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"abby " Discussed on RobinLynne
"Abby we have so baby problem wally thing thing take can do rain thing fish things things.