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The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast
The Real Reason for Tucker Carlson’s Abrupt Departure From Fox
"The real reason for Tucker Carlson's abrupt departure from Fox remains a little unclear and there's a bunch of different hypotheses or theories circulating you saw one that was actually well here, the article, this one is well, I mean, can we really trust it? I think it's from The Guardian. The Guardian in Britain. What does it say? Well, it says that Tucker Carlson's vulgar language in texts contributed to fox's firing of him. And what's the vulgar language and who was he referring to? So apparently he was referring to Sidney Powell and some of it. He also referred to Murdock and other parts of it. So, and apparently he was just a very mean guy is what they were saying. Well, I can see if he made that disparaging comments about Rupert Murdoch at this if it got back to Murdoch, Murdoch would be upset. I'm his boss. That kind of thing, I mean, it seems pretty clear that Tucker is a little bit of an early guy. And I say this because in fact, you made this point to me that when Justin B wells sent me very insulting text, this was in the immediate aftermath of 2000 meals. He was speaking in this kind of vulgar, brutish language, and I said to Debbie, I'm like, do you think that Tucker's producer would do this on his own? And she's like, well, it probably Tucker talks like that. So this is like the, this is the talk around the office, and there's a woman named Abby grossberg, who's apparently suing Tucker, claiming that there was all this very vulgar sexist talk going on in the office. Who knows? I mean, I have seen an article as a completely different theory that has nothing to do with any of this. And actually says that it's Tucker's Christianity. And by Christianity, what I mean is not tacos personal devoutness or anything like that. But Tucker gave a speech at heritage right before he got fired. And he basically said this isn't just a political fight. He goes, this is a spiritual war. And the other side isn't just wrong. They're basically like on the devil's side. They're evil. As we've said, yes, exactly.
Bloomberg Businessweek
Fresh update on "abby" discussed on Bloomberg Businessweek
"Got to jump into that pool or else go down the ladder and knowing that that diving board is not going to get any shorter uh... in terms of the distance to the water and take the plunge just dive in i mean you're already married but we're suggesting that have people these conversations way before that when they're still dating when they don't feel that they're ready to have the well but it's too late for me and the idea is as you said you can still use this system in your everyday life even after you're married absolutely and so i would say for you what is it that cars or that are motorcycles mean to you everything it's sorry well no it was everything until i had children and now to be honest with you it's not so much yeah and so maybe there is a way to corporate your family into that love and so one of the questions actually that we encourage people to ask one another early honest what do you spend reckless amounts of money on and so that might have been a question that would lead you to say actually cars and motorcycles and that start could a conversation about okay well what is that for you oh it's escape oh it's excitement oh it's adventure well how do we break those things into our relationship before we buy we spend six figures on a car is it similar akin to i've had a brother and his wife and like they had like a whiteboard i forget what you call it and you basically like put your like goals on it together whether it's financial goals and so on and so forth and they make sure that they're kind of on the same page about it but they both contribute to it and they work towards it so it's kind of that idea right absolutely and it starts as myra mentioned by being really clear and then communicating with the other person or people and then it's about being very clear on your choices so when we are in the throes of a big life decision we often see the two extremes we see do I marry this person or break up with them and the truth is that there are a options lot of in between those two extremes and we don't always see them when we are just looking at the question ourselves so we also suggest people check in that's the fourth C with someone who is a friend or family or trusted resource to give help them ideas of other choices they might have that they don't see at first blush. Our thanks to labor economist and Stanford professor Myra Strober and her former student turned co -author social innovation consultant Abby Davison pick up their new book money and love an intelligent roadmap for life's biggest decisions. the By way the all -important fifth C that we didn't get to in that excerpt consequences head over to our podcast feed for the entire conversation and Matt Miller's personal life you get to hear it all. You're listening Bloomberg to Business Week coming up the company dedicated to uniting retailers manufacturers foundations and individuals to help provide people in need with much needed merchandise. We speak with the head of delivering good when this is Bloomberg. Meet Sam. Hi I'm Dr. Megan Buffay at the University of Colorado Anschutz Medical Campus. Pregnancy should should be a joyous time but for many African -American women it can be complicated by various health concerns and mortality rates for African -American women during childbirth are up to four times higher than other ethnic groups. Let's work together for safer pregnancies and healthier babies. Visit the office on women's health at women's health dot gov. Sponsored by the Burroughs Welcome Fund. Sam is 30 years old. Sam may not act the part but he's a billionaire. But on December 12, 2022 everything changes for Sam. And what he calls a screw -up? The US government calls one of the largest frauds in history. From Bloomberg and Wondery comes a new series, Spellcaster, the fall of Sam Bankman -Fried. Follow Spellcaster, the fall of Sam Bankman -Fried on Amazon wherever you get your podcasts. When cyber criminals strike the difference between a catastrophic event and resilience is preparedness. Finance leaders who plan ahead can thwart the damage posed by ransomware. Yet in a recent EY poll only 23 % of directors expressed confidence in their organization's ability to respond to a ransomware attack.
The Trish Regan Show
Did Abby Grossberg's Lawsuit Play a Role in Tucker's Fox Exit?
"Else, though, going on, meanwhile, Maria bartiromo, wonderful, wonderful woman. I worked with her both at CNBC. And then, of course, at Fox. Maria bartiromo had a producer named Abby grosberg and Abby, then later went over to work on Tucker Carlson's show, and Abby sued as this dominion thing unfolded, alleging that there was a ton of discrimination that there was a ton of sort of harassment, the environment that she was working in was highly problematic on Tucker Carlson's show. So in that discovery process, you wonder if more things came out. I mean, we know already. You've seen some of the texts that went back and forth. Tucker didn't seem to have a whole lot of faith in management, and he was complaining that management was so bad that we're going to take the whole place down because they didn't really understand where the viewer was at, et cetera, et cetera. One wonders if more stuff came out in that discovery process for this other lawsuit that might have just been enough for the Murdochs to say, okay, we really don't want this guy here anymore. Not only do we want not want him, we don't want his producer, Justin wells. So they sent both of them packing. It's honestly just shocking. And I think it's unfortunate because it didn't need to get to this.
Bloomberg Businessweek
Fresh update on "abby" discussed on Bloomberg Businessweek
"Women and following but tell us about how you came to say all right we gotta write this book. Who wants to start? Well I've been teaching a course first at Berkeley and then at Stanford for gosh close to 50 years on work and family yeah and Abby was a student of mine in 2008 along with the man that she married her husband they were not even engaged then but they both took the class and I asked them to come back and speak once they had children of their own and were in the thick of all the decisions about which we write and so Abby and I were having lunch in August of 2018 and I stopped teaching this course in about a year before that and I said to Abby that I want to write a book about the class because I didn't want the information just to it was supposed to be available to Stanford students and so when we had lunch she said to me how's the book coming and I sheepishly said I haven't written a word and she said with a style you need an accountability partner let's do it no no no she wanted me me to be accountable to somebody and I looked at her and I thought no I need a co -author so even though our our book tells people not to make decisions on the spot I made a decision right there and then to ask career her to be my co -author I love it and she accepted and this book the course material which I took now 15 years ago totally changed my life it was a light bulb moment for me because the conventional wisdom is that you should separate career decisions financial decisions make those with your head from love decisions relationship decisions just follow your heart and the reason that I found those decisions so difficult is as Mayra described in her class that money and love decisions are inextricably linked you cannot separate them and actually if you do it's more likely to lead to decisions that you regret and so if you can think about decisions holistically and apply a framework to help you slow down the decision -making process you are more likely to have decisions that leave you filled and have purpose I feel like we could do a 60 -minute therapy session I'm sure everybody talks to you guys about this book talks about his or her own personal experience so when I hear you say that I realize that you know in all of my relationships that failed in the past typically failed because at first I wanted to go from 0 to 60 in like two seconds and not just romantically but also financially I always felt like if I buy you dinner if I pay your rent if I subsidize your master's degree then it's gonna work out better because you're gonna love me even more but that would have that always ended a up mistake being if I had not done those things from the get -go the relationship would have been much healthier and maybe they wouldn't have lasted you know to eternity but they wouldn't have failed so miserably so I when I was looking through this book last week I thought I really wish I had read this book in 2003 and I'm sure a lot of people tell you that well the key is and I don't know if you did this in those failed relationships but maybe before offer you to subsidize the master's degree have a conversation about your money experiences growing up that's all that was always top secret in my family also my father has never even told my mother about his finances which are essentially you know our finances as a family in my family that just wasn't something you spoke about when you were growing up you're not alone money is a very taboo topic and so I think one of the wonderful things that my risk class did and what we aim to do in our book is to demystify those conversations to purge people to have them before they feel ready right and that was one of the things that I had to do with this man who I'd only been dating for about about a a year when we found ourselves in my risk class. did it work? we've been married for over 14 years. while well I think this is really relevant I also think you know more and more I feel like society has changed in a big way right women women working women supporting their families I mean my husband I did kind of did a flip where he supported us half the time and then I the in last half of our you know we're still married you know have kind of we just reversed our our roles having said that so your heart says this person's for me what's the conversation you should then have with that person to figure out if financially it's going to work as well so before you even get to the conversation the other with person we talk about a framework which we call the five C's and the first C in the framework is clarify so clarify what it is you're looking for and you know don't think about this like choosing a pizza topping you know don't think about oh I want a little and bit of a this little bit of that what are your core values what are you looking for in your own life did you do that with your well we didn't have the framework in the class but now we use it actually to make all of our major life decisions including we both are starting new companies and so we absolutely did clarify our core values and talk about them with each and then the next step is to communicate those core values to the person you're thinking thinking of spending your life with or the person you want to help because you love them and they're about to retire and you wonder how they're going to make it so wait so matt you love cars so i'm curious what's the conversation matt is our car this is a difficult conversation that i'm having right now with my wife and my financial planner because i can't afford to continue buying cars and motorcycles at the rate i have now i've just had a child and i'm having another one if we want to send them to college right so yeah i mean it's tricky but it's not the kind of conversation i really want to have because i don't like reality you know i'd prefer to just continue to spend beyond my means but i assume you address that in some ways are uncomfortable conversations there's no doubt about it and i always think about it as going up to a huge diving board standing at the top of the diving board knowing that you've
Northwest Newsradio
"abby" Discussed on Northwest Newsradio
"Abby and ironwood pharmaceuticals. Back now it's 20 after on America in the morning. The Wall Street Journal is reporting that plane maker Boeing is pausing deliveries of some of their airplanes because of incorrectly installed parts, Boeing says it affects the 7 37 max 7, 7 37 max 8, and larger max 8 200 jets, as well as military P 8 reconnaissance planes at issue is two specific fittings in the tail of the airplane, Boeing said it won't impact planes currently in use. CNBC's Jessica eddinger covers Friday business. Wall Street coming off a rally yesterday after two back to back reports show 9 straight months of cooling inflation, the S&P 500 Index opens this morning at its highest since February, spring break headaches for airlines serving Florida after heavy storms and flooding forced the Fort Lauderdale at airport to close hundreds of flights canceled spirit and JetBlue the most impacted. Delta Air Lines posted a first quarter loss blaming the cost of its new pilot contract. But delta says this current quarter will be profitable as peak travel season approaches. Consumers are still spending big on experiences like travel. The consumer is shifting out of goods. They're moving into the experience world and the premium experience is the sweet spot for where the spending is going. And that's delta's bread and butter. Delta's CEO Ed Bastian on CNBC. Meantime. Amazon's CEO says, yes, just like Bastian said people are looking to spend less on goods. Consumers are spending, but they're just much more careful about what they're spending on. And we see a lot of trading down and praise. If you have a variation of a product and you might have seen more people shopping
Bloomberg Businessweek
Fresh update on "abby" discussed on Bloomberg Businessweek
"Think it's a pretty big mistake I have made a lot of mistakes in my romantic life that bled over into my financial life in a negative way really for years and years as soon as a woman even said hi to me back I would say do you want to move in with me? and it never worked out well that is Matt in a nutshell that really is but needless to say he's moved along and is in a much much better place this brings us to our next two guests who are the authors of a book Money and Love an Intelligent this is a really important road map for life's biggest decisions and with us is Myra Strober, labor economist at Stanford University here along with Abby Davison social innovation leader let me kick it off with you guys first of all why this book and I know you guys have been researching
AP News Radio
Mother of 6-year-old who shot teacher indicted by grand jury
"In Virginia, a grand jury indicted the mother of a 6 year old boy who shot his teacher. The 25 year old is facing charges of felony child neglect and endangering a child by reckless storage of a firearm. The AP is not naming the mother to shield the identity of her son. The boy shot his first grade teacher, Abby's Werner in January inside her classroom at richneck elementary school in Newport News. I remember him pointing the gun at me. I remember the look on his face, I remember the gun going off. I remember feeling something. Police say the mother bought the gun legally, her lawyer says she plans to turn herself in later this week after the shooting, the family said the boy has an acute disability that required a parent being with him in class every day, a parent was not with him on the day of the shooting. I'm Ed Donahue
AP News Radio
Barefoot tours of Westminster Abbey offered after coronation
"Visitors to London's Westminster Abbey will be allowed to stand for the first time on the exact spot where King Charles the third will be crowned, though they'll need to make sure they don't have holes in their socks for the shooter's tour meant to protect the Abbey's medieval mosaic floor. Abby officials say the section of the church's floor, known as the cosmati pavement, where the coronation chair has been placed for some 700 years, will be on display during Charles's crowning ceremony, Vanessa Simeone, head conservator at Westminster Abbey, says it will be a unique visitor experience. It's such a rare opportunity. Nobody apart from the clergy go up to this space. So for visitors to come here and be able to walk on the pavement and get up close and look at the designs and all the different materials that make up this incredible piece of art, it's going to be just once in a lifetime experience. The intricate and mosaic of marble stone glass and metal located in front of the Abbey's high altar was commissioned by Henry the third in the 1200s, and made by Italian craftsmen, it's said to be the best surviving example outside Italy of cosmati after the Italian family which created it. Charles De Ledesma
Mike Gallagher Podcast
Elliot Williams: Case Against Donald Trump Is 'Not a Slam Dunk'
"You've got CNN legal analysts saying this case is really flimsy. I mean, she and Anne's admitting it. And she and N is all anti Trump all the time. They hate the guy. They hate the guy. But yet this guy somehow was allowed to express the belief guide by the name of Elliot Williams, who's a CNN legal analyst, pointing out that this is really a very flimsy case to make history and for the first time ever in the history of the United States arrest a president. It's never been done before. We have never seen a sitting or former president arrested before. This would be the first time in the history of America that it would happen. But listen to this CNN legal analyst throwing a bunch of cold water all over it. So a couple of things. One, it's the facts are old. There's 6 or 7 years old and the star witness here in the form of Michael Cohen, Donald Trump's former attorney, has credibility issues has been convicted of crimes. And so your point, Abby, as far as the strength of the case, it's certainly not the kind of slam dunk that many people would wish that it were.
The Officer Tatum Show
Hunter Biden Files Counterclaims Against Computer Repairman
"I want to play an audio clip for you because I said that I wouldn't totally forgot to ask Sean to play it. So I do want to play audio clip number three Sean of Hunter Biden fouls a countersuit against the laptop repairman. So John Paul Mack Isaac is the guy who ran the computer shop in Delaware and he's been countersued as of an hour ago apparently. Hunter Biden's team is arguing that they had no right to he had no right to copy his private information from the laptop and distribute it. Remember that laptop was there for more than a year. I do believe, right? And he was like, when's the guy going to come and get it? So now they have launched their own legal suit too. That's also the laptop that the media said didn't exist, or wasn't theirs, or was Russia disinformation. Now, his legal team is saying, obviously, that was his property. That he left there. And they don't have a right to do anything with it. We'll see how that holds up in court. But you see a new sort of posture of led by Abby Lowell famous lawyer in D.C. to punch back and push against Republican efforts to try to get information on this. Okay. All right, so that's what they're going to do. That's what the left is going to continue to do. They are, these are people that are going to squash dissent. I'm telling you, we'll get into that into the in the third hour, but they destroy the culture. They are a corrupt bunch of people.
Encyclopedia Womannica
"abby" Discussed on Encyclopedia Womannica
"Hi, I'm Ku Damon, I'm a Florida born chef, writer, host, and recipe developer. I served as an executive chef of a New York City restaurant at the age of 24, and became cherry bomb magazine's first culinary director at 25. I've been named one of 16 chefs changing black food in America by The New York Times, and Forbes 30 under 30 in food and beverage. In 2021, I found it Kyiv is the people a budding mutual aid effort focusing on food apartheid in Brooklyn. I'll be your guest host for this month of manica. This month we're talking about taste makers, we're celebrating the black chefs, cooks and food historians who created new food ways and preserved important culinary stories of the past. Today we're talking about one of the first black American women to publish a cookbook. Her preserves, stews, cakes, and folk remedies offer a glimpse into southern food tradition and reminds us that black folks were often the ones establishing these culinary practices. Please welcome Abby Fisher. Not much is known about Abby's personal life. We do know that she was likely bored around 1832 in South Carolina to a black mother and a white French father. She was likely born in slave, though that's not confirmed. At some point, Abby moved from South Carolina to mobile, Alabama, where she met and married Alexander C Fisher. The couple would go on to have 11 children. Sometime in the late 1870s, the fishers moved California. There, Abby and Alexander set up a preserves business called misses Abby Fisher and co. Abby quickly gained notoriety as a skilled cook. An 1879 she won the highest award at the Sacramento state fair. A year later, she won two medals at the San Francisco mechanics institute fair. A bronze for best pickles and sauces and a silver for best assortment of jellies and preserves. Abby took her culinary success further, she wanted to create a written record of her recipes. She couldn't read or write, so she dictated to her friends who could. With their help, she immortalized her recipes on paper. In 1881, Abby's cookbook, what misses Fisher knows about old southern cooking was published. The cookbook begins with the preface and an apology. Abby revealed doubts about whether she could share her recipes without any formal education. But she did have over 35 years of quickening experience, and knew that sharing her food knowledge would have value for future generations. The preface reads this book will be found a complete instructor so that a child can understand it and learn the art of cooking. The recipes Abby shares range from briny shrimp salad with pickles to beefy okra gumbo to rich custardy sweet potato pie. Her cookbook exemplified a deep knowledge of southern black cooking tradition. And brought that knowledge to do audiences. One recipe she shared was for plantation cornbread or hoe cake. This dish was often made by enslaved people while out in the fields, using the flat side of a heated hoe, though Abby's recipes simply calls for a hot griddle. Elsewhere in the cookbook, I would describe her recipe for BlackBerry syrup as an old southern plantation recipe, common among black families. A few personal details about Abby's life can be gleaned through the pages of the cookbook. The last recipe in the book was for pap, a porridge like food served to babies. Alongside the recipe, Abby shared that she had given birth to 11 children and raised them all, and nursed them with this diet. At that time, raising 11 children without any infant death was a significant feat for any woman, let alone a black woman, most likely formerly enslaved woman. This detail is a testament to Abby's skill, not just as a cook, but a mother and caretaker. Little was known about.
Mark Levin
Latest 'Twitter Files' Describes the Use of Bots
"Of tweeting going on over at Elon Musk with Matt I want to thank Elon Musk Matt T Abby There's no fan of my apparently Barry Weiss And all the others who working so hard to get this done I mean you truly are doing something that is incredibly historic and crucially important to this country It's called free speech You're exposing what took place And it's getting worse It's getting worse And let me pull it down here On a one minute The significance of all these new titles and categories and all the rest of it The significance is that it shows a Twitter in 2020 at least This is Taipei Was deploying a vast range of visible and invisible tools to rein in Trump's engagement long before January 6th The ban the outright ban will come after other avenues or exhausted In Twitter documents executives frequently refer to bots that is let's put a bot on that That bot is just any automated moderation rule It can be anything Every time a person in Brazil uses green and blob in the same sentence action might be taken This instant it appears moderators added a bot for a Trump claim made on breitbart In other words just make it up Oh that must be a bot The bottom ends up becoming automated tool invisibly watching both Trump and apparently breitbart Quote we'll add media ID to bot So now they're monitoring a media site Breitbart Trump by January 6th was quickly covered in bots
Mark Levin
Former Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe Shot Dead
"The former prime minister of Japan I want to talk about why his assassination matters And I want to talk about this in connection with this happening in our own country Now you know what happened It's not clear why it happened Former prime minister Abbey was only 67 It was a towering figure In Japan he had to retire because he had ulcerated colitis which can be a debilitating disease And so he stepped down he stepped down he was enormously popular And his best we can tell from the media reports have put together in the video There were two shots fired by the killer the assassin From this homemade quasi shotgun these were powerful shots The first shot apparently missed him It was aimed toward his back Shot him from behind And then former prime minister Abby turned around and he was shot in the chest
Celtics Beat
"abby" Discussed on Celtics Beat
"It's like unbelievable. It's truly awesome. I mean, it's hard to get the COVID thing out of the back of your head like, oh man, we're still in this, but at the same time, it's like, wow, it's cool to see. You know, it's more than 20,000 because there's just people hanging around. The city watch parties when the team's on the road too. Yeah, it's awesome. It's very, very cool. And it's just fun, it's fun to be a part of it. Whether Abby's there or the ad and I just yucking it up in a Zoom call. It's just fun to be a part of the whole thing and talk about meaningful basketball about the team you cover in June. It's fantastic. I like this. I hope they do it some more. Well, hopefully when we connect again next week, we'll be talking about a, you know, either a series that's over or a Celtics team that is, I don't know, up three, two or something. I have to look at it at the schedule and see when we're gonna do our next show, but I promise one is coming next week. And maybe even, you know, as immediate as possible, depending on how quickly this series does end one way or the other. But this has been fun. A lot of fun. Tomorrow, or today, depending on listening to the show. Like, are we? Is that what you're asking? It seems like there's a lot of Golden State's going to make this thing up. I mean, I'll sort of say to you what I said last week when we were talking, giving our series predictions. If I'm going with my heart, obviously Boston takes game four. My head believes Golden State's.
The Eric Metaxas Show
Ryan Helfenbein: The Role of Standing for Freedom Center at Liberty
"So what do you see it as what do you see the role of the freedom center at liberty being? In the main thing, I mean, we are in many ways Eric. It's almost like the canary in the coal mine where you see what's happening in the culture and within institutions within evangelicalism. Oftentimes, people are looking for signs of courage, holding the line. What's a demarcation that you guys are really standing for truth? And we point to the freedom center as an example of that. We really, really are trying to press into the issues. One of the things that we have to recognize is that this generation Gen Z that is one of the hardest generations to reach for the gospel. We have to hold the lines for freedom in this culture when you think of life. When you think of liberty and truth and all these things that made America great, it goes back to spiritual principles. You go to Liberty University, for example, there in the welcome center. First Corinthians ten 31 is right there in the rotunda. God is spirit and where the spirit of the lord is there is freedom. There is liberty. We understand that this is a spiritual principle first. It is a pre political thing. And downstream for that from that is culture, downstream from the gospel as culture downstream from that is also politics. So the freedom center really does exist to sort of hold the line there in many ways. And I think both institutionally and also on the outside as well. In addition to you being one of our fellows, of course, we've got Mike Pompeo. We've got Mike Huckabee. We have Abby Johnson. We have several others as well that are a part of the
Design Matters with Debbie Millman
"abby" Discussed on Design Matters with Debbie Millman
"Think it's because we grew up in we came out in different times. So Abby and I were at the bank recently and the man handed us paperwork for us to sign to become part of this bank. And he handed it to us and at the top it said husband and wife and I just burst out laughing. I just said, dude, you have got to be freaking kidding me. We're at this big table. I said, look at this. You just handed us this paperwork that says to us right here that we don't belong where you're trying to get like, man, are you out of your mind in 2020? This is what I was saying to him. And so we worked it out. We talked to him about welcome to this century and then got back in the car, and Abby was really quiet and she said, good. Why is it always you that speaks out in those moments? She said, I looked at that paperwork. I noticed it and I wasn't going to say a thing. Why is it always you? And we talked about that so much. And here's what I think is the answer to that. It's because Abby knew she was gay as a kid. She grew up in a time where she was being told she was an abomination. She had she had Stan screaming dike at her from while she played on that. She dated every single one of her girlfriends knowing that she would never get married, okay? She was used to being marginalized. I grew up as a heterosexual, white, abled, thin, pretty enough, Christian, girl, and woman. Okay, I am not used to being martial arts. It is shocking to me when it happens, right? And so when something like that happens to me, my initial reaction is to burst out laughing and to say something, right? Yeah. Abby has grown up in a time where she's used to that. Oh, yeah. Yeah, right? But I think that's what it is. It's because we came out at different times and people like you who came out when the risk was so much higher are the people who earned the entitlement I come to the table with. I love it for me. I love it. Yeah, yeah. I have to say that Roxanne goes through some very similar, but different types of scenarios because she's black and because she's living in an unruly body. She gets, I can't even begin to talk about. And that's really her story as well, but she gets so much discrimination. And I'm very similar Glenn and I see it and I'm like, wow, wow, wait a minute. What just happened here? We were on a work trip last week and we were checking into a hotel in the hotel didn't seem to have our reservation. And looked at Roxanne very skeptically. And I looked at him and I'm like, you sound skeptical about the reservation is there a problem here? And I didn't think twice about it. I just said what I said because he kind of gave us a bad vibe and I wasn't going to stand for it. And afterward, Roxanne said the same thing. I would never have said anything. I just wouldn't have said anything. And I'm the same way. I'm used to a life of real privilege as an able bodied white woman living in New York City. And it's shocking to witness the amount of discrimination that I now see. And that's why it's so important for those who haven't felt certain kinds of marginalizations in their life to speak up for those who are marginalized. Because this is the exact thing. It's like that moment would have been missed by this bank that if glennon hadn't said something, that moment would have happened again to the next gay couple that walked in the door. It had it not been for her. They changed their whole policy. Now it's spouse spouse, right? Yes. Well, it's just, and then you think about, okay, so we are white semi famous people that shit's happening to us. I talked to a friend after I had said something online about feeling not aligned with the board this way narrative. And there was a big to do about it. And I had said something to her about my experience coming out and the acceptance and the love and the and I and she said, well, you know, gayness, queerness at this moment is accepted and embraced for about ten people. Okay, and you're one of them. Right? But your experience is not the experience still of most queer kids in this country. And we'll be different for our son, our son came out to us. A few months ago or a year ago now. And just even thinking about his just a different. Congratulations. Thank you. We were so happy. We got one. We got one. You know, it was such an interesting thing for me. Because I still have like I said, this internalized homophobia inside of me. Oh, so do I? That when he told us, my initial feeling was total fear. Yeah. I was so scared for him. And what that moment did for me was healed so many childhood traumas around the way that I experienced coming out with my mom. It made me understand that, oh, she wasn't afraid of me. She was afraid for you. And that is a chasm wide difference. It made me see and understand the situation very differently. She doesn't want me to have a hard harder life and that it is a harder life. Also way better life. Better than me. I've been on both sides. I know. Work the hard. Both rated length about your deep desire to be seen. And how before meeting each other, you often felt like you weren't really, truly being seen by anybody. So how have you opened yourselves up to being seen? Because I think that's a big struggle for a lot of people. Do you want to go for it? No. It's like, it's not about glennon. The way in which glennon loves me makes me feel not just seeing but held, right? So I've changed so much over the last four years and it's because I feel like I keep turning into the person I believe glennon sees me to be. One minute. Another. And that's just true. And it guides me and it gives me comfort and love rather than like, oh God, she's looking at me all the time, and it's like, no, it feels inspiring. And I think that that's like the big difference between any relationship I had before glennon and now. Good luck answering whatever part of it. I guess I guess. You're really the only person that I'm not always trying to be better than I am one. Like I just feel like I'm an anxious person and I'm just always trying to be calm that I'm a controlling person and I'm always trying not to be like, I'll never forget the first time that I had, I would say was kind of like a panic attack, went in front of you. We were laying in bed and I just started this panic attack thing and I was in the middle of it and I was so embarrassed and I was curled up in a ball in the bed. We made it through. You were just like holding me. And we made it through and then I said something like I'm so sorry afterwards. And you said, oh, that's just what happens to people who are as magic as you are. Like you're just feeling the universe so deeply. Like, I wouldn't change these moments for anything. And I was like, oh my God. Like, I can literally have a panic attack with this woman. And she thinks it's magic. There's nothing I can do to blow this up. This is, it was this ultimate feeling of safety because I've dealt with mental health struggles my whole life. I have this fear that my shame fears, okay, I'm crazy and eventually they'll.
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Episode 53 Part 1 Our Relationship with Planned Parenthood Ft Amanda Weber - burst 02
"Like two. You kind of have the two extreme perspectives. And so for you to be able to come together and be able to say like, okay, so this is what this is what I found through my journey and experience with this object matter. I think that's really really wonderful. Yeah, the interesting thing is, is I could absolutely argue both points. You know, I know the talking points of both sides so well. I was actually I would go speak at the capitol in Sacramento California on behalf of Planned Parenthood and speak to the news outlets and speak to the representatives and stuff there. And then later, I ended up being a kind of social media coordinator for Abby. So I was responding to people on her social media platforms and stuff. And helping her with her outreach, not because I was pro life or not because I was opposed to abortion. But I could very much respond as she would, because I knew exactly what the talking points and the important points were. And. Her stances and her things have very much changed over time. But at the time when I volunteered at Planned Parenthood, I am not gonna lie. I hated the pro life movement. I mean, vehemently hated the pro life movement, partially because Planned Parenthood kind of set that in my mind that these were the bad guys. These were the people trying to take our rights away, and they were trying to ruin my life and all this. So I had this very strong narrative in my mind of what these people were, but also because I had a personal experience. And this is something I haven't talked about publicly, but I had this personal experience where I found myself in an unplanned pregnancy shortly after my mom passed away. And I panicked and I didn't know what to do and I didn't want to have an abortion and I reached out to the pro life movement to the people that had been protesting at my clinic for all this time and saying, we love you and we care about you and will help you no matter what. And I reached out, and I said, look, this is a situation I'm in. And here I am, you know, playing Paradise court putting her tail between her legs, saying I need your help. And it seemed on the surface. It's okay, we're going to take you to the crisis pregnancy centers and we're going to help you, but it was really, we're going to give you diapers and formula and you can figure out the hell out on your own. And that was very disheartening because here I am a person that just lost her mom. I'm on my own. I have no money. I have nothing to speak up. I'm literally scraping by month month and they're going, well, we'll give you some diapers and formula. And I just had the worst taste in my mouth about the entire movement because I thought that that's what they were, you know, or these people that were love you and we're going to take you under our wing. Oh, no, you're too much trouble. You're too needy. You have too many needs. And Abby was the first person that I came across that wasn't like that that she very much when I end up getting pregnant with my son said, what
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"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Should eat the pizza when you got it. No you have to come back next week okay. That was your guilt. That was your doesn't what kind of what madness is this. And i may. If you were making yours is making fun of skull would have put a fake ass. Tim robinson sketch or something. it is. yeah that's hilarious. I'm touched to get the exclusive. yeah. I'm so proud of that life. Top comedy you know this next comic from the flappers acoustic duboc give it up for abbey fantastic. I didn't even start with. What's your name. What's abby rahm abby. Rahm what's that mean. There's a lot of different translations in in like some hindu people in india they say Means like pleasure or connection a gaba. Abby rome was a disciple of worship tanya. who's kind of like their original hari. Krishna okay yeah all right all right so it doesn't translate to anything although it. Yeah rama's god. I hope he's not like the. Who's the guy who started mormonism. Joseph smith yeah hope. He's not like the joseph smith of india because the story is is like you just showed up as a reincarnation christians in you know told. The story was blue. Nope sometimes they're blue in the stories like somebody shows up and it's like yeah india's fascinating. They got cool I think it would be challenging for me because growing up i believed everything And then i had to like get a little bit more discerning right like i'd read any book by anybody and as long as they said they were christian. I would believe anything they said. It's still that way. I feel like i've been burned enough. Yeah i mean like really out there. I'm telling you the story. It was in africa. I read this book and it was his guidance. I went into the ocean. And that's where the devil is and that's where they make ladies lingerie and i was like wait a minute. This isn't true and that's and it ruined me. Well how could you be lying in the name of god you and then you realize people are lying in the name of a of different things time and then i feel like india if i was more pure or maybe just more childlike. I could go and really enjoy it. But i'd be like go here and your name is written on a parchment from five hundred years ago with the date. You're going to be in india. And i now it'd be like all right this baloney did you watch the movie. Life of pi did that made me understand it a little bit more. Appreciate a little bit more. Which part the ending like ba ca. You and it's not true. Is that not your. They're like because it's like a lot mean for most of society. Most people did not read right so to pass things down has to be through stories. You have to make the story interesting enough to be passed down. And then it's like it's like a story that you pass down then you on packet right which also leaves room for people on packet and reorganize it however they like right that's right so that's how you see a lot of like kind of sensational stories. They might be not literally true word. There's just another way of understanding them where it's not even look past it or if tuneful yeah some other thing. Yeah and that's what. I'm just starting to even consider think about your other dimension or win the same space or on. Yeah interesting no. I know what you mean. I found the life of pi. When i saw i wasn't really ready for it. I should watch it again. I'm gonna watch it again. Because he's so. That i watched and i was like so. It was true was a tiger on the boat. Eager tiger represented the evil. Like the guy on the boat that killed the people at the end the twist is but also escaped was a tiger and thing like no. There wasn't a tiger. It was all people. I thought at the end though they go attack people. I got that at the end. Isn't there was a story that said like among tiger extra twist. They added on top of the fine. That's what it means. I the first twist where i was like. Oh i get it. It's a metaphor. The man was like a tiger. The man was tiger. Okay but then at the end they go like but there really was a tiger and it gives you one of those like hollywood staff they added. Maybe yeah. i don't know how can't wait for the sequel. I yes some truths are so big. They can only be told lies. That's that's one. I like and myth doesn't mean not true it means always true. It doesn't mean literally trip means the essence of it is always true Whether or not the facts of the story yeah may your soul. Well read like. I feel like sometimes i talked to people that are like spiritual nyc have like in the like to talk to me about this stuff and i'm like dude i'm like i'm like just starting like and sometimes i'll like meet people who aren't even hard christmas and they'll break down the books better than me like if i had a conversation with duncan trussell. You'd probably be breaking it down to me better than i know. Yeah and i'm like that's kind of embarrassing. You're still young man for me. All all the real hardcore like i'm going to read this and memorize it sort of stuff started when i was like. I don't know older than you. That's cool my timelines on certainly totally on point my comedic and spiritual timelines similar to yours and the more you even out in your career the more time you have to spend the on. I don't want to say better stuff again. Better stuff. Yeah it's nice it's like once you reach a cruising altitude in your career not that you can never fully relaxed but like you kind of like established and you're okay and you're totally there. And the more you stabilize the more you stabilize then you can go like okay. Let's let's think about something else. How did you get rid of your self doubt. Not the how you get rid of the ideas that voice that was like i can't see myself on boss sir. Like what did he do to change. That started picturing myself on a bus. Like literally just imagining it and and saying like yeah. Yeah and even in my mind. It's like the four agreements. Careful with your language and i'd be like yeah. I'm an actor. I'm a comedian. Yeah i'm my favorite comedian. Yeah like i'm one of the best. Comedians alive like just saying things like that other people but later to myself. So that's kind of like what i was talking to earlier. Like when i'm talking to people and they're like talking about their sad story. I can't be around that because all all contagious comedy cancer. It's it's like if you're not where you wanna be no matter what you're trying to do..
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"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"My business started doing really well. And i'm just like and You get this again. Yeah and i started getting that rush of like in the neil comedy starts happening on my car. And what's your business on a podcast studio network. Oh fun yeah okay for you to be here. I'm just giving it so. You have a podcast. No you own. A studio studio network my podcast. But you just take a produce other people's reviews other deals and i saw the ads for it and oh well studio. How many podcasts. We saw we do ads for like fifteen different shows. Oh well you know we have a whole lift staff and everything. Well the whole team good for you. Yeah what's it called narrows podcasts at at that. Oh yeah so what got you back. When did you start chanting again. When did you get the beads. And the way was up there now. I had a lot of free time to. And i just started chanting again and then i realized forever. I've been trying to meditate. I'd like try. Tm i didn't do the class. And i have my own opinions about having to pay for a mantra. Whatever i i know my opinion all i know is i just don't feel like right now and try different things and absent whatever and that was like why not just like i know how to do this one. Yeah i'll i'll try this and then and started working and just the idea of having the beats the little something and i liked it. I don't know it just. I started doing it and i would feel the effects owed. I would feel anxiety. Go down. I would feel. I'm like this is cool. I'm not like i'm not doing. It is not like a results. Based thing where i don't have some spiritual reason behind doing it. I dislike doing it. Yeah and i used to hate doing it. When i was a kid and now you like and i like it is just do it and maybe i'll learn more about the reasoning behind it later but it just i like it. I don't do it every day. But i do most days and you know just trying to one. And then sometimes i do to three rounds and four and whatever. Each bead is the whole argyris. Mary christner rumour i and then you the next and then at the end of the beads. There's another mantra. Say once and then you turn them around and then you go backwards okay. Yeah and what about the theology do you are you into the yeah. I do what i read. My dad's like really into and i had. I never really talked to him. That much about this. I went back to visit recently so funny. United talking about that seinfeld moment where like the parents like. Hey i'm sorry about that. My add literally did that like we had this moment where he basically made like an immense to me for like just kind of an overall just like hey let's about like. Do you have any hard feelings. I'm like and it caught me so off guard where he was just like a very open vulnerable moment in he. Just kinda like. Give me real sincere apology for you. Know anything going. It was like it was like a very healing experience. Wow whatever and beautiful because see this sort spirituality does at least for me is it helps us extricate ourselves from our roles the role of father and son two parts were playing in a play. Yeah and sometimes spirituality can say. Let's put down the scripts and just talk to each other as equals. How'd i do And how do you feel. And i was able to talk about it and say like like i. I didn't like this. But i was also able to be like bob. Maybe maybe there's another reason for it was it was awesome. Yeah i love that. Yeah it for you. So what is your worldview. Now my worldview now is your into the karma thing my worldview now is like it doesn't matter what i believe it. It's like whatever i believe isn't gonna affect the universe like the universe can operate how works but why not just kinda lean into what seems to make sense in what seems to make me feel better and be of service to more people in me To live the best life in its. And so i'm just like i'm just open to whatever like i'll do crystals all do the some silly hippie thing. I'll read a book. Like i'm just like i'm just open. That's where i'm at right. Yeah just great place religious food and it's fun and i just like reading books and preaching the bottom half halfway through being an expert. Yeah and then just ever need needed guessing. They the goal your ten year ago. Yeah i'm trying to get that money is get out. Yeah at least so you can get out yet. A lot of people want to get money so they can get in more. You can't just quit halfway so you gotta you know what i mean like doing it for ten years. Yeah got want to get three. You're talking about thing. When i was like three years in for people like you gotta wait till ten years before the good stuff happens on mike. Maybe you do not me. And now i'm ten years in and not to say that i'm like niagara. It's not like a resentful thing from just like. Oh i guess right now. If you told me i'd be where i'm at ten years ago i'd be like bullshit. I be way more successful in that. It works out but also there was like a delusion but i never believed any of it either. I never believed. I could do anything even now that have done new faces. I'm like maybe. I can do comedy not done other cool stuff too. Yeah yeah that's really cool. Yeah i love that. And they were so right. So have you ever had like a spiritual. what makes you This isn't a challenging question. Yeah the answer. What makes you certain of a spiritual dimension to reality or not certain. What makes you open to it. A lot of people are like this is. What are you talking about this this is. I've just had enough experiences. Where.
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"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"That is that is incredible. I've never heard it put so cleanly. Yeah like have a cigarette to feel like you've never had a cigarette. Yeah wow that's incredible from the alencar. Yeah it sounded like the alan carr. Yeah i read now in book ish. it was About drinking and how this naked mind. The did a very similar thing. Yeah there was just like leader in withdraw from right halsey drink alcohol so you can feel normal exactly but the thing is if you are in alcoholic. Alcohol is only a symptom of alcohols only a symptom of the of the problem of the of the problem. Which is like a mental physical and spiritual abnormality right and so people drink so they don't have to feel themselves when you move the alcohol. If you're not working on yourself you just ask a crazy person you'll fill in something else. Yeah exactly my first. Six months pine ice cream like five. Seventy so weak because you. That's what pete rollins. Who's a philosopher wonderful man. He's like alcoholism or whatever it might be is actually the gift. Because it's telling you something is deeply wrong. But it's actually not just the alcoholism and it's like you were masking or medicating. Some feeling of disease muse. The you felt wrong in the world. Yeah and then it really latched onto this. One thing became an addiction. Got out of the way or maybe at the gene for it or whatever but if you don't address that you'll you'll become a dry drunk. They say you'll you won't have changed. You'll just be drinking pepsi. Still be a. You'll still be an asshole. Sibi unreliable unloving be connecting or whatever it might be because you haven't told your child sell for your true self like you're safe because you don't feel safe. Yeah which is. Why are we getting fucked up in the first one. But i'm so grateful for that like looking back like i'm so grateful i'm an alcoholic because it's like i think i'm somebody who can only be giant piece of shit or i can just be like a really good hard working driven kind. That's the attic rain. But it's also great though. Because then i get to live on the other side to and some people can just coast to coast through life and that's right on completely uneventful. The like there's no there isn't even like emotional events. It's just. I mean that sounds kind of good to just normal. Just just just just not even questioning. And i know what you mean like a person with addict tendencies myself. I like my extremes. Because i'll go. I'll just lean really hard this way but when you start leaning hard in ways that are good for you like you were saying hard work or or spiritual practice or exercise in your case that that can be beneficial. So you're just like well let's use what's wrong with me to do some good. Yeah and that's that's like what comedy is. Let's use what's wrong with me to do some good exactly. That seems to me. Like one of the points of life Like all the stories of the weird stuff that happened to us become our best stories. But it's that that resurrection of the story. Absolutely transforming it for good seems to be one of the great joys of life so that brings us back to your story a little bit. I'm gonna steve thank you. You didn't say oh. Bless you right. After i said blasio. I hope he doesn't beat me to the point. Okay so you're born in a barn. Your dad your mom. Drought drove into the lake You were at a school with one hundred other people you had to trailers. That was the one hundred other people in the whole community. Schools like kindergarten through twelve. Maybe seventeen to twenty people still there to this day. Whoa yeah good. Experience awesome awesome. Awesome if you ask me a long time ago. I would have said had mixed feelings looking back. Awesome really. yeah it's great good sense of community good people. Everyone's cared for each other. Everyone was spiritually minded. I just wanted to live in the city. Like i wanted to hit a light switch and the light turns on like on it to just be like regular normal like i used to love going and getting that sense of norm by going into this watching year like watching. Tv and stuff and just being like these people. It's just normal like like the suburbs and all that stuff like the stuff that people like now like looking like you hear people talk about like. It's like hell i wash. That looks awesome because it does look awesome. Yeah it's like let's take life and give it right angles. Yeah all these things that don't exist in nature straight lines clean manicured lawns your area. Your room air conditioning. Tv and food and there is an appeal to that. Whatever value on a spiritual retreat. We come back and like the day we come back. We're on our phones so hard and we. We don't even beat ourselves up about it. That's like our old christian programming would say. Now you should say such a phony pieces you fact that man. It's just like really really in the moment and it was great and for some reason. I just wanna eat junk food right now. That's okay have you done the pasta. Have you know. I'm gonna do it. You are yeah yeah means. Start dating this girl. We've been on like two or three days and we've already planned day silent Great great great. Yeah i mean. I like yeah. I don't know if you're expecting judgment but you'll find on here. I was actually looking for re vallon. I went from long distance dating to moving in together so like i'm all for like not so stuff meaning. You've only been out a few times gone over bosnia. Yeah it's great and you're going to be silent anyway exactly just going to be sharing space together and on the other side of it. I bet the first thing you say to each other is not working. We'll figure it out where you'll be like let's move in together so they like something extreme. I've heard a lot of great things about those retreats but they're also really difficult but that's kind of going back to the thought of just like what are my thoughts. I ten days. It'll be a good good amount of time to sort that out. I mean this is what we're avoiding mean. This is why we're constantly on our phones and on tv. Like i said this before but like my dad wasn't on his own because we didn't have smartphones but he was on his phone. Yeah meaning like we're all sort of on our phones. I think one of the reasons why people staring at their funds is so offensive to ass again at scapegoating. Yep like saying trump's insane her. The homeless person on the street is insane. You're insane even if you're not looking at your phone if i could see what's in your brain you're just scrolling through harass sexual members. Weird movie quote like books. You've read it this off topic. I have noticed a lot of people that are like on facebook all day. Fuck trump is like just like going to war. I'm like those same. People would have been cunanan if somebody sent them. The link link ariston. Yeah that's what. I used to say if i spent forty five minutes with tom cruise. I'd be a scientologist zach. There was but that's a there. There's something i think liberating about going. I am q-. Im seven links away from going on instead of going. Look at these you and on jack offs going like. Yeah and. I'm painting a stereotype. But maybe if i was in isolation or if i didn't have this community and say that community you would have gone with the community that was sending you links. You would have joined the that absolutely white. Yeah we're what what's so different. Yeah that's what. I've always felt like if you if you're dating someone you don't like the way they lean politically or whatever their beliefs. Just go on their youtube clip. A bunch of links. That you stuff that you like fifty dollars algorithm just shove it out there and slowly. Don't say anything and you'll see them change. That is true. That is daniel son at the end of karate kid. Doing the crane kick. That is one of the best things. I've ever heard in my mind because it's compassion. You're acknowledging that what we are abused. The word amalgamation again. But we're an allegation of what we've received now. we see the who's controlling the spec. Yeah a little bit of hot water. A little bit cold water. And you're saying just go in click the stuff that you want them to see and they will change. Yeah this is by. The way is what mark zuckerberg is doing exact. Let's change abbas political views. Slowly just for fun. Let's just see if we can do it. Let's see if we can get him to be a libertarian. Probably y'all you can convince you to do any. That's what i'm saying. Oh man that's a bit you have to do that. And i gotta go break into your girlfriends you to click on a bunch of democrats stuff and slowly. She would or whatever. Yeah my god. Yeah and i watched that with my parents. My mom was republican. My whole life. She's becoming more liberal and my dad.
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"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Am. I supposed to get home because you need twenty dollars to get on the ferry and you can't sneak onto the ferry and all my shit like i was like you can sneak onto the for. Yeah exactly and then i was like why did i do look. I'm such an idiot. Like i can't i couldn't have just had six instead of seven like why. What was i thinking right and my friend was leaving the bar on dude so i cannot board twenty dollars from you like. And he's like yeah. Of course so he lends me twenty dollars. Leaves them at the bar by myself. And i'm twenty dollars. And then i spend that twenty. Wow and i'm like you know. I'm sober enough to realize like fuck. Fuck myself over twice and i went outside and smoked a cigarette. And i'm like what the fuck was like. How what do. I have a problem like why did i. Why do i do this type of shit and then like this voice came in my head. That's i go back to the bar where people drink in like in like poulet where they order and makes people are drunk and they drop money sometimes inside. Go back to the bar. I sorta i down on the ground. There's a twenty dollar bill on the floor. Well fuck yes saved. And i bend over and i picked up the twenty. I get it by tom. I like straighten up. The bartender was there and he's like you need anything. I'm like y'all get a beer and a shot and i just spend it three times three times a one night abby. That's the obsessive thing. We're just you'll figure it out you'll get another twenty you'll you'll get a magical twenty on the ground and i spent it by the time you stood up. Yes as if to say. I had no other intention for this twenty. I never had another thought for twenty. Yes give me a shot. And i need to get home. Forget getting home yeah. It's miller time. Yeah holy shit. Yeah i know. Before i ever did a tried cocaine. That's like a heavy okay. I wanna hear that. That's heavy story but like in hindsight the crisp clarity yeah. It's like a great recognition of a problem and those early as just like but in hindsight. Yeah that's perfect example thinking yes you can't you can't stop and i know this is going to sound corny but like the way that i relate hardest to that as a box of oreos. Yeah just one more i. It's like yeah exactly. And i'm telling you abby i just like using food because it's a little less it's booze heads are talking about booze. Yeah i mean. Give me ten and i could walk you through it. The first one the first the first head of excitement is ooh tenorio. That's kind of as good as again. I'm glad i didn't get that marshmallow test when i was a kid. Just pick the little pieces off of course and then you don't get that second much rough. The first oreo is is as close as it gets to being. Good by oriole number three. You're not even enjoying a. You're starting to feel a little sick. Val said this to me. She was like sometimes think of my own body is a baby that i'm taking care of and it's like and your this weird kathy bates type character overfeeding. The baby and like how cruel that is and i was like. Oh my god. That's what i do. I'm just stuffing this poor baby. The soft baby body that has no control because the brain is in charge. And it's just like overfeeding and overfeeding and your case over drinking it over drinking it and kind of have to. That's like a way of splitting it into instead of going. It's me that wants the cookie. Goes like there's something that wants a cookie and then there's the body yep helps me have compassion for the body and go like maybe take it easy a little bit okay. So when did you do the cocaine. Oh never like crazy. I would do it like once a month but every time i do it was just just go hard. I only did that for a year and that was good. It accelerated my sobriety. I think it made shit get crazier. Yeah yeah and he just made. It made things a little clear right. Yeah what do you mean. I mean if i just drank. I wouldn't think i had problem. But if i drank and did coke then it's like i couldn't and then it became. They became like those wires. Cross where i can drink without doing coke coke but if i drink i'm going to do coke so i can't drink anymore interesting and then you wouldn't i'd still drink and then do coke but it just. It ruined drinking where i was like. Oh i can't drink yet and that's my whole night and i have been in the morning. Your i don't want to feel like shit all day tomorrow. Absolutely i remember my mom smoked in the seventy s and she was like i figure what why she told me this but she was like some people like to see. They only smoke when they drink. Drinking cigarettes are like so enjoyable together. Some of my hate to say this because we're talking about sobriety. But i remember the euphoria of nicotine and alcohol and carbon monoxide. There's the lightheadedness of that and being like. Wow this is the greatest thing in the world but then of course that's like five seconds and then the rest of the night is just kind of chasing that feeling next thing you know. You're coughing in the shower and it smells like a cigarette. And you're like this is insane but like the brain only really remembers the you fauria and it just chases that over and over and over but my mom was like but be careful because if you smoke when you drink then you'll drink just so you can smoke right which i was like. That's that's what addiction right and for me back to food. I said this. Emily gordon and she loved it for some reason. She quotes it. Sometimes so i guess. I had an impact on both of us. I would want chinese food. But i was sober so i knew chinese food wasn't like good for me. I'm talking about like garbage. Chinese food like really going so i would drink get chinese food and there was this weird awakening where it was like. Just get the chinese food right. You don't have to have nine mortiz than any if you want to eat like shit shit. Yeah just go ahead and do it and at least do it. A little more consciously and know what you're doing and experience it and get all bloated weird and be there for it instead of in the morning being like what the fuck was that. Okay so cocaine helped you realize you're sort of going down there on the wrong way. And that crazy euphoria feeling is that you just want to feel normal for a second. You just wanna feel how a healthy spiritual person feels normally like people who are addicted to cigarettes that basically all the addiction is. It's just a with is just you're always in a perpetual state of withdrawal from nicotine. The senate can you put that cigarette out. You start withdrawing from nicotine. Yeah so you smoke it and you think oh the cigarettes good is like no the cigarette you just get to feel how you felt before you became a smoker for a few minutes. Wow how now that it's gone. I'm like now. I get that satisfaction of a cigarette all day because all the cigarette does just remove the withdrawal symptoms..
You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Show description of this pete read book and he'll explain it to you even though he hasn't finished it. Yeah yeah. I'll read the first two thirds of a book and then start immediately. Tried to get all my friends to read it. The big joe cabbies you work out. I just got this treadmill. I've been using it every day for three weeks. And i'm already telling people like you don't work out like i'm immediately a nonsmoker. The i don't have a cigarette. I never smoked. But i start telling people shouldn't smoke obsolete even though you just stop smoking what was your sobriety like. We'll get back to the story. i'll never. I'll never forget the story. Perfect your but we can. We can give it a my the best thing. I got sober twenty three. I got sober wall work in the door at the comedy store. Which is the darkest place and being sober in that environment like being newly sober to am sitting at the back door. I went to coke. Heads are talking in your ear like it was quite the task but it was. I mean it's for sure. The hands down the best decision. I ever made slowly like i before. I got sober. Had this almost like vision of myself of like what i could be like. I just briefly sought. And i was like i wanna be like dat person and so i've just stumbled was like event. You had a moment where you remember. Yeah i was sitting. Yeah it was like a vision. I know what happened. Where acting class. Okay so you're in acting class. You got like a little visit from highest self. Yeah yeah just tell me every whispered in my ear. And i just kind of tuned out of the class and i just started just envisioning it just this kind of low resolution vision of like what i could be you know and i realized what i could do anything like i could see. You know what triggered it nothing. Nothing just like i was just it was almost like i was in this acting class thinking about maybe getting better. I've only keep my dumb did a three week acting intensive and that's it and it's better than a lot of the actors crushing myself included. You know what i mean like. It's okay you can't like it's okay. People are talking their way through those acting challenges. And i'm like you're acting right. I know it's a disappointment but that. Yeah that's you're on the way that's sort of what it is yeah But yeah it was in this class in. Just the idea was just like oh what if i just got better at this and then i just started seeing. These roadblocks smoke a pack of cigarettes. A day well. Gosh i get rid of that. In the mike i fact i drink like every night and like and then i just like what would that be like and then like what if i did this and then i just like the vision just like almost like a manic like i was just like oh i could like i can do anything in my life just like this crazy idea and then that was like the first sort sorta seed in then i i dunno i later mean. It took me a from that moment to getting sober as like a year. Just trying it on my own and just kind of stumbling forward. But i've always like taking step back stumbled forward. Just gone in that general direction. Side to side moving forward. And then yes so was the best thing ever so you saw them not just as like good things to do for yourself which is not a compelling narrative right. It'd be good if you stop drinking. Every night and smoking cigarettes you saw them as like impediments to be coming this best version of yourself. Yeah and that. That's a beautiful vision. That's like i want that and now there's like these roadblocks and that's a better story. Yeah let's move these so we can get there instead of let's move these so we can be a good boy when tell our doctor that we don't smoke not a good story for five seconds. Something yeah and you and you saw. Yeah and you were visited by. Yeah i love that i mean. I've done the hypnosis things where they're like. Hang out with your best self. you know. They're always putting in some garden. It's like there you are and you're fifty. What is your best self say to you when you're twenty whatever or thirty and they tell you this stuff like don't worry everybody kind of has similar things. Don't worry what he so worried about. Like it's gonna be okay and self love. I mean that was a that was a game changer. For me i forget what book it was in but it was. Somebody was looking at like a beautiful house and they were like. Oh i could never live in a beautiful house like that and the voice in their head said. Don't worry you won't and it was like right. Lesson was until you go. I could be a house like that and i. I haven't told this for a while on the podcast. But i remember mine was. I was backstage. I was doing best week ever live. Which was this college tour. And i realized. I recognized that whenever i thought of having my own show. There was this huge chorus of voices. That are like that's not for you. That's for somebody else. I literally couldn't picture myself on the side of a bus because like advertising shot. Yeah it's why we crashing. But that's why we did that. Like you have to be able to see yourself on a bus. So girlfriend bought a bus ad. And what i was trying to say was like somebody in that case her needs to believe in you. But it's best if it's you. So that's what like visualization is and. That's what sort of like vision. Boards never done that staff but in that moment it was powerful enough to go like no. I'm going to start picturing myself on the side of but because let's be honest sort of embarrassing it's a little grotesque little gauche. The egg should be on the side of a bus. But it's like. Are you doing it abby yet or are you do it. Yeah and you had that moment. Yeah you were visited by your future self and exactly and so you said you. I love that image that you were going criss cross. You're still moving up. Yea the slowest possible falling shore. All the time still inching inching forward. You just tried to go on your own sober. Try last rankings over. I tried it for like a year on and off until i eventually started a program in the obsession was removed and i've continued to the obsession. Yeah it was gone. I don't know like. I was like that was like my first realization of like i tried my absolute hardest top my willpower fighting tooth and nail to not have that drink on certain nights and i went to a meeting and for whatever reason i just. I just hit me all the sudden. I'm like it's gone really gone. No that couldn't have been me. Because i tried my best. So maybe maybe who knows who cares. I also think like it doesn't matter what i believe like. You mean it was something else you know something else. Something lifted it from yes something greater than me. Remove that obsession woes like a gift that was given going to the meeting. And what was it. Somebody's share. that really touched you or just by virtue of admitting that you needed help yet. I think is admitting needed how walking showing up being there everything just hearing people talk and realizing it can be gone and then i don't i don't know what what what was it about getting. What made you realize like. I think i'm an alcoholic. Not just i like to have a whiskey ginger at night all i mean so many times i mean just embarrassing myself doing coke till the next day get into trunk puking just being a moron i remember before early on my first experience realizing around like oh i might not have control over this like i was having was living on vancouver island i was at a bar mink hoover had like one hundred dollars to my name i drink. I spent all one hundred dollars at the bar. And i'm like shall am. I supposed to get home because you need twenty dollars to get on the ferry and you can't sneak onto the ferry and all my shit like i was like you can sneak onto the for..
You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"I don't know i don't think so i would. Let's say that's the tradition. I go to the most and it's not for lack of trying right but again i'm forty two years sort of like already coming back to your original and there is something really nice about going back to your original but it it just. My favorite teachers just happen to like christ and the and they turned me on like if somebody says. Are you religious. Like are they say. Are you heard chris. And i would say like i. Don't say like yes. I'm like i read all the books. Yeah i don't. I don't even get it. It's like i can't just be like yum this and it's like i don't even rival fully understand it right. That's right. I'm just trying to figure it out. That's right you're in the process richard. Rohr thing he's like people going around just sort of saying they're saved is sort of a cheapening of what conversion really means. We're talking about his conversion so your sobriety was a small conversion. You changed how you were seeing and really what it is as you saw that there was something seeing which was the way that abby sees the world and then it's like totally says going like the world is mad is is fine but going. I'm mad is the first step of awakening. Because now there's a separate thing seeing what is in the world is in you and that's the small awakening as you go. Fuck me to instead of scapegoating ango like the way that we murder people in other countries. It's like aren't you sort of murdering people with your thoughts. Aren't you building boundaries. Aren't you protecting your beliefs to the death You know aren't you a little country trump. the way that hated trump. I was like man. He's a hard mirror isn't a right the way that he's like. I hate people. And it's like he's just being honest you're that way to see him. Destroyed up like lie and just like and does not back down. I was like people. Were grossed out by them. Like odds kind of cool. I should try that. that's hilarious. You probably were doing that right. I mean i lied to myself all the time. I go like i'm right. I'm right even though evidence is saying i'm not right. That's trump trump was just doing what i swear. So many of us are doing lying to ourselves lying with no evidence for no reason and not backing down and it's like that's reminded me of myself in so many people in my family. So many people i know so many americans. It's like it was the result of what we were doing every day. Memento like the way that he's lying so we're all lying to ourselves and trump was just doing it out loud. it's like again eker. Tony says you see a schizophrenic. Or or some other disturbed person and on house person and they're talking themselves and in your head you're like jeez what's wrong with that guy. I don't know maybe. who are you talking to. You know what. I mean like you like your thoughts. He's doing it out loud. But if you were just like that guy's crazy who's he talking to. What a fucking weirdo better. Not stay in my neighbor. I'm gonna call the cops cops cups listen to me. I'm a good boy. You're doing it inside. He's doing it outside. Yeah same thing though. That's sort of how i felt about. What trump is doing. Yeah wow crazy time okay. Sorry i i don't know how we got onto that. You were saying you were saying a bunch of things. You don't fully understand hari krishna. And i'm curious what you liked about. The four agreements agreements the idea of the idea of pursuing. The kind of living. You can live in having amongst people living in how you know you can kind of drop into your own personal around people suffering like you know if you ever hanging on the back of the comedy club and everyone's like this fucking yeah. This just doesn't like everyone's talking. They're almost asking you to reaffirm their bad story like i'm sure like what was it like when i'm all over the place too. So what was it like like when you were becoming successful and you would talk to comedians. That it wasn't popping off and you and was it was it. Was it ever uncomfortable like when you were talking to them. And their life wasn't good so they were trying to get you to affirm their story or their choices or anything like that. What do you mean a firm like. They're trying to get you to validate it somehow. Yeah like that. They're doing the right thing or yeah that's interesting. Know i love it. And i gave myself a note. I was like i've been really up. I'm going to spend the rest of this episode more on your level going on my trump france. No no i love it. I know i keep keep Do all these spiritual concepts. I really wanna get more juice out of you. Because this is your episode. And i'm going to try to hear. No no no no. Like i wanna i wanna hear happening because i i. It's great because i used to listen to this podcast. And i'm like so deep that's so great. It's really your sweet. I know what you mean that some people are living in hal. Anna comedy club green room especially where there's a lot of us is a really good example And i think the example that comes to mind is montreal Because you'll never be more aware of your status than right. I don't know if i said it on your night. I don't think i did. Maybe i did we the first the first night so i did. I said it's somebody. I don't think you were there but i was just saying like in a way you guys were lucky that you didn't go to montreal. Yeah because what i remember about for new faces was the new faces. Stay in a hotel. That's down the street older that yeah so this is i think this is just my experience. I don't want assume it was everyone's but that's just sort of the first thing like yeah. I guess i'm not really a part of the festival. Clearly they have too many people personal. Like what if. I can just do comedy and not deal with any of the bad crazy ego nonsense. Because that's that's what you're saying. I was putting myself in hal even though they were inviting me to have him. Yeah your chosen. And i was like at the wrong hotel exactly. And then you get there. And you're like but this guy you know was invited to best of the fest and i wasn't. Yeah and then. I was and i was like i guess i was but i wasn't that i won like you'll never stop robbing yourself. Is that sort of what the four agreements with say a little bit like even after. Afl wonder how many meetings the other people got. You know like a longer look cool opportunities there. That's right you know. And i'm just like why why mike it's just like it's having all the way to heaven and tell all the way down so it was blowing my phone up. Ignore you can take us. Yeah that's all right so it's a meeting. What's the big media. I just know what you mean that that but then you realize like what's wrong right now is a good one like when you're making yourself miserable. Yeah by comparing and thinking and stuff and that's what the book is sort of saying. Do you yeah yeah. I'm still trying to understand the book. I'm like i'm that guy that just read the self help book and gets on the podcasts and starts preaching it the show description of this pete read book and he'll explain it to you even though he hasn't finished it. Yeah yeah..
You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Love what you just said. Have you read the book four agreements. Yes i just got the audio book. And i've been listening to it over and over again trying to like really grasp it and understand it and that's kind of what it's all about to like. It's like you're born like dislike. You're born light. You're born this happy being and then society conditions you two and there's just so many agreements on a day to day it's like oh you suck it this and then you agree to. It's like bone that's locked in now and it's like trying to d program that and figure out who i am and stuff and it also demystify is reality like it's i was at a party. Last night was a lovely party. But we're having like kind of show biz discussion. Yes like a show biz discussion. And when i'm doing that. I like to go. Oh my god this is what the infinite undulating savage insane gorgeous frac deal of eternal is doing. Its thing this conversation because when you get locked into those conversations and they're good conversation. I'm not saying they're bad. Let's say we're talking about how head lassos a good show. Even now as we're speaking there are blue. Hindu gods infusing practical like it's happening and this is just what we're seeing. This is the channel that are receivers tuned to so. I'm looking at abbey on this couch so we can talk about farts dick's or whatever the fuck but like there's something i know you know it's really just under this. There's like fucking thing itself. Yeah like to ghostbusters. Guns hitting each other point where they hit each other and that's reality and if we zoom into that reality there's just sitting on the couch going so would you get into but like if you zoom out you and i make myself laugh all the time. So what i'm saying is those agreements that society makes you make makes you deeper. And deeper into into the illusion. Yes and you forget that you are. I like the mantra. I'm a point of sacrificial fire. Held within the fiery will of god right because that's similar to the two blasts of the ghostbusters go. You're like you're a spark flying from the to ghostbusters guns flying into each other. You're you're a spark of that. Your whole world is just a spark of two blasts of infinity rubbing up again rich other but in that spark there's a whole lot of bullshit school. Yeah where this boys don't pierce their left ear that or they're right here. That means you're gay. There's all this bullshit. The super bowl and pepsi presents doritos as like your future like xbox live and twitch in its and all of that gets you go into a contract with that and the more you get deeper into it the more you forget and to demystify it. We could just say that you're floating in infinity that you're floating in outer space that you're floating in iraq that no one knows what the fuck is going on here. Is that what we're saying. Yeah it's like it's almost. It's so overwhelming that we have these like this this illusion just so we don't just completely just drift off into. That's right wondering that's right. Yeah so that's impart the service of it. It's nice to go for a walk. You can get an ice cream. Yeah it is and valid. I have days where we go. No deep thoughts today because we do it so much. Let's just. Let's just enjoy the the orchard. Let's not worry who planted that sort of thing right but then. I think that gets overdone. Would you agree. It gets overdone to get where you're like. Of course there's nothing going on because you feel like a visitor here right. Yeah sometimes you've got to clock in and shut those thoughts off. Just be like all right. I gotta just kind of do my thing and then the other times you just wanna think about the world right. It's so crazy. Because i like i completely shut that part of my brain in my life off forever was just like like i just want to do comedy workout. Be a white american guy you know and now i'm just like i'm done with this. I'm how old are you. I'm thirty that's about right. Yeah yeah you did it. Yeah cove it. The lockdown really helped helped perspective. Yeah take the pause pause and reevaluate who were you. That was a spiritual experience for everybody whether they use spiritual language or not because you vanished. Abby roberto didn't exist pete. holmes didn't exist. Because pete holmes is a relationship pete. Holmes is an idea that is only affirmed by other people going european homes. And that's the same with you. Yeah and then when you're alone and you can't be in relationship with other people you're just you're just awareness and then and how many of us went like. Why am i. Flying to south dakota for four days and i'm bear in making like this much money after expenses and you're like why am i doing that all the time saying there isn't a time for that but i'm forty two so many people were like when this is over. I think i'm going to make my own bread. People's are making their own breads probably so many dad ship. Yeah like wait a minute life. My dad would make the best homemade bread. of course he did. Yeah the best he has. He has a starter grind we in the whole the whole deal and that's life what we're realizing is i'm preaching so much we're having our needs met as if the point of life is what happens after your needs are met yet but there's all of this art of like chop wood and carry water. Make bread you realize on a hike. It's not about getting to the destination it's about. The hike and spirituality is so much about being like spirituality is doing the dishes but now i have a dishwasher and then he started letting machine wash your dishes and then you're like well what do i do and it's like go on instagram. And like and wonder why we're depressed. We've completely lost so needs are so mad. They're selling thousand times over already and we're realizing the point of life isn't just meeting your needs how you meet your needs. And this goes back to the amish. It's not what you see. It's how you see it's like what do you see when you see what you see now. What you're looking at. We think it's what we're looking at a suicide squad and there was like slow motion. You're gonna forget it it's about converting and changing and plugging into a new way of seeing a lot of that comes from making goddamn bread..
You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"abby" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes
"Doing and all that information is just available. This is going to be kind of dorky example. But when i started submitting cartoons to the new yorker away that anyone could go. And that's like sort of like a weird see grip you the time of the cartoon meeting. You just go to the desk and say i'm here for the cartoon meeting really it's like your scientology story so you can just walk in and be like hi. I'm cartoonist. And i sorta. I don't tell when the meeting isn't stuff because i don't want them to be ended but clearly yet with all the tv shows what comedians are vagrants. That hang out in the same location yet. And you figure that out. i'll. I'll just do that on the show. What did you think you were like going to plug. What was the fantasy that they were gonna love you and that you just probably probably ask you to go up tonight. Wasn't like that. Yeah it was like it would be like. Oh you're comedian. Hey you wanna go up like that. I didn't realize how impossible it is again. We give it a shot. And then i was like i was like i got an awesome five minutes. I'll probably kill good three months and you couldn't have had a good five minutes. I thought it was good though. It's so crazy better. Get comedy like the worst. I think i am yeah. That's how it works. I always remember. I opened for jim gaffe again and i was three years in and you think three years is forever. I mean if you thought three months three years. I'm for real for real and i was still in chicago and i emailed him. I was like i really wanna to get on conan and he wrote back the nicest way to put it. He was like yeah. I remember when. I was three years. And i i really really wanted to be on. Tv too right like he made it about him. He was like absolutely kicking down the door and he was like well. You don't realize you'll get better and better and like it'll happen when it's supposed to happen but like he conceded the point is like me to r- also when i was not ready. I thought i was ready. So what he's saying absolutely he didn't say it. That way said it nicely. I've always wanted things like two months before. I deserve it just so i can just like enjoy a little more just two months just just like right before i deserve it back a little bit. Well we may not new faces. Yeah how was that. How many times have you audition for new faces. That was my fifth year before time because they didn't do it last year but yeah so yeah years about five years. Yeah yeah okay. I think i said the Robin chan did it. And i'm trying to think of some other new faces have done it anyway I am i forgetting his name. Peter kim peter anyway. Everybody had similar stories. I was one to three year. I didn't get a call back then. Booked at the baxter. The third year. Like i tried to really hard but i try to wrong way. This is real inside baseball but like you did for your set which was fantastic. By the way thank you. It was so fantastic but it was so great. And i was like well. That's all everybody set was a real just for left set. I wanna just for laughs. Said is a good late night. Set is get to like what's unique about you as quickly as possible and the third year. When i didn't even get the callback. I was just doing a joke. About subway. right is trying to kill just trying to be like. I'm a killer. And i didn't kill down ten thirty at the comic strip in new york and it was just like it was bad it was bad anyway. So you're fantastic and i immediately immediately jumped out because of your youth you were. You were raised on the thing. And i'm sure you've talked about it. A billion who cannot stop so much not someone not really no no no. I couldn't be more interested. yeah. I didn't even talk about it on stage until like a couple years ago. Is that right. Yeah we'll just try and be like i would just i didn't really really want people knowing about it. Then i tried talking about onstage bomb. And and then i finally couple years ago started talking about it on stage and it's kinda like open up a lot of stuff. Isn't that fantastic by the. So how long have you been doing commie. Ten years now. I was going to say dude. Ten years is like when i was like maybe i will talk about my divorce on stage and my faith growing religious. All of this stuff and canal. Ten years was like Let's talk about the fact that i was sort of arranged marriage. Just flirting with the staff that at the beginning you resist for a number of reasons yet. Maybe too personnel. Or you're worried that it's like gimmicky or something. What what was the hesitancy for you. It would be like. It's too personal. I just and still trying to make sense of it all and it's just like i want to jump in. Kostanic is like the conclusion. Yeah sometimes i mean if i came up with a joke that smashed. I would do it for sure but it's just like i just couldn't couldn't kill would jokes and also just it wasn't like what i was passionate about like i just wanted to talk about and that's just i was more interested in talking about whatever and it wasn't until i just like grew up and became more mature kind of sorta got rid of resentments too because i would try it would bomb because i'd come at it and sort such resentful of course angle but now i come at a much more fun angle and it's like people are more receptive towards it. I'm going to do the same thing. I i had an idea about a show about my parents and then i was like and i kept hanging it up and work on it and it would just bum me out and i just put it away for months and months and months maybe a year then come back to it and it only really sort of clicked. I'm still not quite ready to do it. But the more. I like forgive is a strong word because they didn't do anything like you know like horrible right but like forgive meaning love them for who. They are better way to put it. The more i was able to love them for who they are. I could write the the pilot like funding like it would be funnier instead of like. And then this fucking idiot he looks just like a revenge peas and like look the if the thesis of the show is. I just wanna prove that my childhood was fucking weirder than yours. Then that's an ugly place. Yeah and this is why though. I'm still holding out though like you're if they made a tv show about your life or if they made a tv show about my parents. There's always the risk of t. v. affiliation which is like take frazier for example. I'm almost done blabbing inborn whenever. There's a complicated dad like. He's from a different generation. Yup he says sissies and he drinks beer and all that sort of stuff at the end of the pilot. he's going to say to frazier. I'm so sorry son. I'm sorry. I'm not exactly what you imagined but i love you and i'm like pull fucking shit dude that's just and even the frazier's of brilliant perfect pilot but like i sometimes bristle at the end if they did that with like. I don't even know your story yet. There'd be a temptation to have your dad cutting celery for a smoothie or whatever and be like you know abby. I know this might seem a little bit weird. But we're all just doing our best Like it just feels unearned or canned and like seinfeld. The parents are kooky. But there's always something kind of lovable. I'm always like. Can't you just make them not lovable at all other times. I did a better job at that. They weren't very level. Do you understand what i'm saying absolutely. Tv vacation they give to tie it up and and make them redeemable in some way and if you met my parents you'd like i love them. They're great but they're not redeemable. They're not going to be a moment where they go like you know we. I'm sorry i said you have a girl's name he's never gonna..
The Rachel Cruze Show
"abby" Discussed on The Rachel Cruze Show
"A cook and author all the things abby. It turner is here abby. Welcome to the show you so much. I'm side. I'm so glad that you're here. And you guys may know her. Instagram accounts table top affair. Because i love everything about what you do your messaging your heart or soul so kind of tell everyone who's not familiar with you. Just what you love. So i am kind of really in love with the table. I think that there is a lot of great community connection. That comes when you just approach. The table and food is just that natural conduit. They kind of gets us there. And so i started a blog and started an instagram. Where it's all things easy thirty minutes or less like really inexpensive because at the end of the day. It's not about perfection. It's not about presentation. It is about the that we can get there then. Hey i'll help you. I think it's so good. I know we don't your parents have like phrases that you kind of make fun of them for and you're my dad's is always break. Bread was people. Yeah break friend with people you sit down and you have a meal with someone. There is a level of connection and intimacy that is bigger than if you were just like texting or something you know it slows us down really gets us in that mindset of let's talk. Let's break the bread yet. Let's actually have communities talking about right so but it's intimidating. I think some people hold back like invitable over because they feel like they're not a good cook or the table is not great and beautiful but you like lower all those boundaries. Break those walls down right and it doesn't have to be part instagram. Pictures and everything out. There has told us that it has to be perfect. Have to be you know this. Perfect chefs food network star. Name it. and you don't have to be. You just need to be at the table and that is better than to be at the table with great food. I know that's right okay. So one of the things that you do she has different tables. The male have themes which i love so he picked to them for the show today. And i picked this one selfishly popcorn and i have kids so this is but this is the table that connects so kind of. Walk me through that haiti. So the table that connects in the living. Table the cookbook. I broke it out into these different tables that we see throughout scripture that we see jesus really breaking bread out and bringing his disciples teaching us how to be great. Servants of people and so connecting is one of those really big nugget. Let's get with people and so let's make it easy. I did a popcorn board here. And what i love about. It is that you can do it with kids. You can do it with the girlfriend. You can do with your family movie night game night. You name it. Let's just bring people around and what i love about. This is that you could have people bring their favorite item. You just bring the popcorn and then everybody else can bring their trauma and just added in bags and we did hear so great. Okay so the idea for this one specifically it's popcorn obviously the base and different types of popcorn. Which doesn't take very long to find. You can just see this really quick. Yes but then adding these elements which adds a level of creativity and just fun and braves flavor. So we've got some mom. Ap's which are spicy for those that are spicy. If you follow me at all you know. I do not do spicy so i will not be retaking. He's and then we've got some yogurt covered raisins which i mean. Everyone loves cranberries because a pop of color is always great. I mean who wants just plain white popcorn. Nobody a little something. We'll color so then we have some honey roasted pecans. If you're a nut person. I'm not but you know i love it. Yes put it on the board as pretzels and eminem's and let me tell you will secret. These are the crunchy immanent. Oh yeah they're so much better. Than just the plain ones they give crunchy texture so smart and then three different popcorns have got your basic just your white popcorn and then i've got a chocolate drizzle popcorn. Which if you're in the cookbook. I do a smarts drizzle popcorn. You could definitely make you can just buy because it's just easy and cheddar popcorn so it's not expensive and you can just find stuff that you have in your pantry because it probably costs way if you have. I think the entire board everything together. Maybe twenty five dollars. So and we're i mean look at how much we just got and you probably could do. What eight or ten people are looking at. Like what two fifty a pop and so fun because it's so creative. Yeah or as something different. And it's those things in life that i realized the mic. The memories right. Yeah you know it is. It's all about the moments. I love the anniversaries. I love the birthdays and the big holidays. And they huge family gatherings. But there's something about the tuesday nights friday afternoons the sundays like that. You just want to bring people in and connect. Yes and this helps them do that. Hey come over. let's turn on a movie. Bring your favorite popcorn ad in and i'll get the popcorn. Decided up here so creative. And you're like okay. So this is the table that connects travel out next or and talked about the table. That serves as one of my favorites. Still love right. So for the table that serves. Do we have okay. The best kind of cake. The breakfast sausage bundt cake cake and it is one of my favorites because it can be used literally. I know that it's in the table that serves. It could be used in any type of if you want to serve your neighbor that just moved in. If you wanna serve a new mom that has a sweet little baby if you just want to serve you know your friend or your mom or your family or just you know your kids sometimes so easy and comes together in like forty five minutes like super easy and what i love is that people always think of dinner. They're always like i'm going to make for dinner but when it gets you breakfast..
Christy Wright's Business Boutique
"abby" Discussed on Christy Wright's Business Boutique
"And today's episode. I have. I want to call it like a food. Experts a cook and author all the things. Abby turner is here abby. Welcome to the show. He's so much i'm set side. I'm so glad that you're here. And you guys may know her. Instagram accounts tabletop affair. Because i love everything about what you do your messaging your heart or some kind of tell everyone who's not familiar with you. Just what you love. So i am kind of really in love with the table. I think that there is a lot of great community connection. That comes when you just approach. The table and food is just that natural conduit. They kind of gets us there. And so i started a blog and started an instagram. Where it's all things easy thirty minutes or less like really inexpensive because at the end of the day. It's not about perfection. It's not about presentation. It is about the people we can get there then. Hey i'll help you. I think it's so good. I know we like know your parents have like phrases that you kind of make fun of them for and you're my dad's is always like break bread with people. Yeah break bread with you. Sit down and you have a meal with someone. There is a level of connection and intimacy. That is bigger than if you were just like texting or something. Didn't you know writing it. Slows down illeg gets us in that mindset of let's talk. Let's break the bread yet. Let's actually have community talking about right so but it's intimidating so i think some people hold back like invite people over because they feel like they're not a good cook or the table is not great and beautiful but you like lower all those boundaries. And you're break those walls down brian. It doesn't have to be full. Instagram and pinterest and everything out. There has told us that it has to be perfect. Have to be you know this. Perfect chefs food network star. Name it. and you don't have to be. You just need to be at the table and is better than to be at the table with great food. I know that's right okay. So one of the things that she do she has different tables. The male have themes which i love so he picked them for the show today. And i picked this one selfishly popcorn and i have kids. So this is this is the table that connects so kind of. Walk me through that. So the table that connects in the living. Table the cookbook..
This Day In Esoteric Political History
Lizzie Borden, Axe Murderer, Maybe
"The incident. Nicky what do we need to know about what happens on the night that are on the day that andrew and abby are all i guess hacked to death is the is the right way to put it. Yes the day they are axe murdered. Well i mean we know we have a pretty clear timeline of what happened actually Because it happens in a short window of time when they're alone so abby was the first to be killed And she was struck in the back of the head and then hacked sawmilling seventeen times like it was a pretty vicious brutal murder And then it's like. I think an hour an hour and a half later when her husband andrew comes home and then he is hacked as well and there are people in the house when this is happening. So the made is there though. She is supposedly up on the third floor. Taking a nap and lizzie. Bordon is there. She said you know some people say she's in the barn for a while she comes back. It's an unclear. It's unclear where everyone is During this but the maids as the she hears lizzy say come. You know my father is dead and then the police are called and they do kind of shoddy investigation and it goes from there. She's arrested The murders happened on fourth So she's arrested about a week later and then we get to the trial and the trial. Is i suppose not that big of a surprise. A sensation is covered breathlessly. Not just in the town and not just even in boston. But it's let's pick up national attention. You know described to us kelly. Why what is it. That's appealing about this trial. And what are the narratives that emerge particularly as we said they start to tilt a little bit in lizzy favor. Yeah so there's so much about this. That i think would not happen if the family were not wealthy. This was related to like as being like the titanic of its moment. What seems a little suspect me. But if you think about like the exorbitant amount of wealth and how tragedy gets connected about people sometimes have like an insatiable appetite to want to know what happens to rich people. And why and so. And so lizzie gets caught up in this now. She is supported by her community. The women's temperance group comes to her aid. They protest by her side saying that she could not have committed this crime and it really becomes sort of this. Well you can't even say a. He said she said moment because her father. And some of the can't really say you know what happens so it becomes her story versus everybody else versus the evidence of the
LifePix Relationships With ST
"abby" Discussed on LifePix Relationships With ST
"Level with your host s. t. He likes hope. We're having an awesome day. Are you starting to see where you and your partner are in this parent child relationship with each other if not going out the previous episode with doctoring and gene. Obviously after you finish this one because they were discussing the real reasons relationship fail. We are on for hitting one million dollars per episode by the end of twenty twenty five. Can you help us. Regal and cheer this podcast. Obviously only if you like it if you don't get much while you're listening but if you do like mixture to share with your family and friends today to can go have an extraordinary relationship and you'll be helping juggle of one million downloads now for today's episode Discussed the real reasons. Why relationship fail. We've got a tech speaker. Podcast does author and psychologist. abby madcap. thank you so much abby for being here. I'm super excited to start speaking you. You wanna tell us how you met your husband. Do you know what the personal ads. And i have done personal ads for like i don't know how many people but in back in the day when you put it in a newspaper I've had very good luck with goes and i highly my best gay wrote it. You know my best day. France guy friend and i still remember the subject line. Was babe with brains and he wrote it. I.
LifePix Relationships With ST
Why Relationships Fail With Abby Medcalf
"Do you think is the real reason relationships fail so 'cause i really talk about this a lot. I you know i've been. I've been working with couples all these years like thirty five years now. 'cause i'm old and i have to say so. Everyone comes in usually the same thing. We don't communicate with. They say over and over again. We're not communicating. We need help communicating. It's here and really. The communication is failing because of a different problem which is competition and we compete with our partners. All the time and this isn't really just in love relationships but that's what we'll talk about right now it is. We compete all the time you know. It's your turn to put away the dishes. I took sally the baseball on monday. So you have to take jack piano on friday. You spent money on this thing. So i get to spend money on that thing. We divide all the time. We do this sort of thing and what happens. Is we end up on opposite sides from our partners because right we're in competition for resources in the relationship money time all those things in that jealousy that happens i see it all the time and it's not even just a couples who have children it's all over Were i think with kids. It's more about time and with couples with our kids. It's more about money But sometimes it's time kill and there's this a subtle. Will you out with your friends all weekend. You know when is my time you know. There's this jealousy. There's this not liking when the other person is doing. Well actually not liking. When someone's doing while i had belie is that if you really love percent then you want the best for the other person you do but if you think it means loss for you you don't so if you're going to be lost for you just because i say it shouldn't
What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't
Dr Abby Medcalf Says the Real Problem in Relationships Is Competition
"Really enjoyed your ten tad ex talk in part because we both know that everyone who comes to our office arrives believing that communication is the big problem in their relationship. But you say there is a bigger problem. Tell me about that you know so. I have the same same as you. Everyone comes in. Our problem is we. Don't communicate and number one we both know. You're you're communicating all the time. Why you like it or not. So that's you might not like what you're communicating but you're communicating. that's number one but number two. The real problem is competition and we learned this from a young age. We saw our own parents do it and we say things like it's your turn to put away the dishes. I took jack to piano practice on monday. It's your turn. You have to take sophie to baseball on friday. We use spent money on this on going to spend money on this. There is so much. Tit for tat. There is so much keeping score watching. What our partners are doing or not doing comparing it to what we're doing. Which of course is always always much more always better and living in that place so when that happens of course you're treating it it is it's a competition and in any competition son. One side has to win and one side has to lose. And we don't wanna lose so you're literally setting your partner up failure literally want them to fail on some level because for in your head. It means you'll get
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"abby" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"They weren't a drawing class. My second grader and the teacher at one point said you know you wanna draw baseball cap if you want this character to be boy or you can draw pigtails if you wanted to be. A girl and a student raised their hand. I don't know the students under the student raised their hand and went. Is it okay. Our picture is non binary and the two and it was like not a stopdown not in anything they all know what non binary means and i was like. Oh yeah maybe there is hope because these concepts are getting through to them about how to handle social emotional situations votes right. And i think what's so beautiful about it is. They're learning how to accept themselves which means they're able to accept others like you can't really accept others until you've accepted yourself. That is right monica. I think we're getting there with these little peeps. I like to think sometimes one hundred years down the road. What are the things we are going to be. Most embarrassed about So many things in so many other cultures folks like me coup in some ways have been marginalized and oppressed. I didn't make as much money as a soccer player. As i could have had been straight and long haired truly like. That's a reality for me. But you know i feel like in other cultures people like me are like revered set aside and like celebrate in you know i just hope for that next abby the next person that comes through that they are revered and celebrated for their perfect selves. 'cause i mean all of the labels and stuff are kinda just bullshit and i think over time they're gonna go away. I think we have to go through that turbulence because you were forced to go through it on your own come to terms with all these things who you were in the world insofar as a woman as a gay person the younger generation who is demanding. Specificity that is exactly glennon pushing those forms back going. No no these should both say person because there's just person yup but it's because of people like you who are making the younger generations demand so we are thankful very well. I think all the thanks should go to glennon push my own self. 'cause i that's what our partners can be. Great for two is just mirrors like. Hey here's maybe something that you're blinded to or something that you're not getting truly honest with yourself about. That's what i think. Having an amazing partner is good for is like somebody who will hold standards and glennon. I wrote marriage vows and we come back to those vows every single january of every year and we interpret them in different ways every year because life changes and so we rewrite them and it is a practice of ours. And you know kristen. I know that you and i dax takes a moral inventory of his life and that's something that we do every single night and bad like how is your day..
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"abby" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"Your friends is here today. Oh man i mean. I don't know if i can call my friend. Bridges sort of like. Dm friends but i do know her wife. Yes and the two of them are beacons of light for me. I love how they communicate. I love how open they are today. We have abby wambach dude guys. She's in olympia. Yeah ovarian d- di. I'm very interested in olympians. 'cause they're special dish don't get an olympian every time you walk out of the hospital with a baby that's right limited a dish. They're very limited edition. It also takes so much dedication which we talked about a lot. And abby is an american retired soccer players is also a coach two time olympic gold medalist a fee for women's world cup champion and a member of the no big deal national soccer hall of fame She's a six time winner of the. Us soccer athlete of the year award. It's an incredible. What's so fun about the national female soccer team. I'm not that into soccer or anything but when you watch them you really see. Everyone collectively doing their part. Yes something amazing about watching that very specific team of women just like bosses but letting people have their moment like. Oh it's just great. What's weird is in every other sport you can hold onto the ball yet can baseball. You got your catches me to hold it like in basketball. You can just hold it with your hands for like a minute. If you're dribbling it on from what i understand. There's like all these different sports where you can hang onto something where you get it and you feel great but literally in soccer. The goal is to get it and find the next move. And so you have to be assessing your teammates at all times and what i loved. His how abby described that of like knowing your strengths but also knowing. You don't have to be good. Everything find the strength and the people around you and that's your team. That's your family. That was the back tattoo. Sorry to blow it now but right. That was this week's back tattoo. Yeah you gotta know what your team mates are good at. Yeah and not feel like you have to do all the things. Yeah you're not alone out there. Yeah and that's one of the beautiful things about how soccer and she talks about soccer being this like global unifier of of and she's also just like beary open and honest and you know glennon her wife is a writer and she wrote a book about reuniting with her husband and then like a couple of weeks later met abbey and was just like i think i have to make a different choice then wrote a book untamed about meeting abby. And it's just crazy and beautiful love story and they're so honest and open and i love how much they've taught me awesome. We got to share it with our audience. Yadda peek into her insight. And here it is. We are supported by abby. Wambach concerning gonna feel did st now. Hello.
Airplane Geeks Podcast
EAA AirVenture Oshkosh 2021
"My name's Tim it's my fifth oshkosh air venture Live near vancouver in canada and happy to be here. How this before. We continue I'll just mention that. Because of travel restrictions there are far fewer international visitors here to to air venture But but you found a way to smuggle yourself out of canada. I guess and You flew down correct. I did yep That's the one way we can cross by land at this point but through airplanes luckily we can make it here The other restrictions Cova test before we crossed the border to allow to be able to get onto the flight. And then i'll have to do the same on the return on the cobra test in order to return to canada all right. Hey it's Logan lynch Second time come to air venture Came in nineteen and is great excited to be here again. It's probably another record breaking ground this year. It seems like so Flew in from north dakota yesterday so glad to be here. North dakota put the land of the severe winter I'd say severe everything we get the extremes on both ends. We cost hunter three hundred and three up there. The other day we We'll get down to negative fifty in the winter. So it's extremes. Yeah crazy crazy also with us. Hello everybody. this is david. Abby from new york love the airplane geeks for on a right now. Just one of my first podcast. I've ever listened to and got me involved in aviation so it's great to see again at his first oshkosh and i flew in yesterday commercial from from new york via denver because of the I guess crazy Domestic airline operations lately but it went smoothly. No problem so glad to be here and just great to be among the aviation friends
AP News Radio
Riley's Slam, 6 RBIs Power Braves to 12-5 Rout of Mets
"The Braves rolled to a twelve five victory over the Mets is Austin Riley drove in a career high six runs with a grand slam and a two run Homer a lot of pressure you know can be myself up you know last couple but that's you know with with guys in and score position you know just what I will get the job done you know like in Austin I was able to your browser balls up if if it felt good I see Abby's in Abraham Amonte each belted a two run Homer and Dansby Swanson hit a two run double for Atlanta the offense allowed Charlie Morton to improve to ten and three after he allowed three runs over five innings Mets starter and loser Jared I cough was torched for ten runs on seven hits and five walks and three in the third I'm Dave Ferrie
On Being with Krista Tippett
Abby Wambach on What It Means to Find Your True Self
"The book you wrote you. The chapters are all ways. People had seen you write and categories. You'd but sometimes walked into willingly and and sometimes is that had been an armor right so it was everything from you or how you seen yourself. We fraud tomboy rebel teammate. Lesbian manic depressive captain leader romantic hero addict failure and then the last chapter is human somewhere. You said i had created yourself. All these categories that were both generated from you generated externally helped create you but shut you off from becoming human fully. Human glennon has said this a lot. you know. We're all kinda like russian nesting dolls and as we get older. We kinda keep putting on all of these costumes. And that's what i thought for me growing up. That's what i thought. I had to do to mature to age to get. Wisdom is to put on all these different costumes and see which one fit. And i think that now having gone through a lot of my life granted i'm still fairly young thirty eight but i realized that the more you can actually take those costumes off and get down to that little small immobile russian nesting doll. That is like who you are your true self that is like the humanity of all of us and we all are in there. I visited very random. But i just wanna share it. Because it was reading thinking he ended with human which seems like the simplest most elemental thing of all but is really the work of a lifetime. Right i was thinking about this you. When i studied theology paul tillich wrote the courage to be and he's called an existentialist feel ogen. I read it when i was older. Because i was emphasized when i thought that to be that being but the current the book is actually about how the courage it takes right. The courage is the work.
AP News Radio
Pfizer, Subsidiaries Agree to Pay $345M in EpiPen Settlement
"Visor into subsidiaries have agreed to pay three hundred forty five million dollars under a proposed settlement to resolve lawsuits over EpiPen price hikes the litigation goes back five years when lawsuits were filed alleging anti competitive conduct Abby pens auto injectable devices that are used for emergency treatment of a life threatening allergic reaction in two thousand seven and Abby pen package cost about one hundred dollars today it costs more than six hundred fifty dollars without pharmacy coupons or discounts a Pfizer spokesperson denied any wrongdoing and email to Casey you are radio adding this turns the focus on breakthroughs that change patients lives I'm a Donahue
AP News Radio
Oxfam: 11 People Die Of Hunger Each Minute Around the Globe
"In a report titled the hunger virus multiplies Oxfam says the death toll from famine outpaces that of covert nineteen which kills around seven people per minute the anti poverty organization Oxfam says eleven people die of hunger each minute and that the number facing the famine like conditions around the globe has increased six times over the last year Oxfam America's president and C. E. O. Abby marksman says the statistics are staggering but we must remember that these because I made up of individual people facing unimaginable suffering Max boot adds unrelenting conflict on top of the cove it nineteen economic fallout and the worsening the climate crisis has pushed more than five hundred twenty thousand people to the brink of starvation I'm Charles de Ledesma