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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

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02:33 min | 3 d ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Hey everyone aaron perkins ear and this is you know. Let's just call this a trailer episode for season. Seven of we served now. What season seven. It just sounds even weird to say But that's where we are. And i know look. It's been a few weeks honestly a few months since we finished up season six. But i'll tell you another thing. The break was really really nice. I gotta be honest. I definitely needed you know. I had to submit a another Va disability claim. And then of course. There's the fulltime job and being a husband and a dad and owning a dog. You just the normal real life things and let's be honest we're still in a pandemic. Hopefully not the middle of a pandemic. hopefully we're about to come out of this thing but You know all that kind of plays into the level of stress of a normal person's day right so season seven though in. That's what i wanted to talk about. Just for just for few seconds is focused on you and your needs as a veteran i look. I know it's true that some of the things you and i as veterans need applies across the board. You know so. Hopefully you know the research. We do the interviews. We do in season. Seven are going to resonate outside the veteran community. And so if you find something that resonates with you and you want to share that man. They'll be just so amazing and let people know what you think about the show but season seven is. It's not going to be that different but it is going to be incredibly impactful and i firmly believe this is going to be the best season yet and you're not going to want to miss a single episode so wherever you're listening make sure you click follow or subscribe. Whether that's on. Google podcast or spotify or apple podcasts. Or podcast where route stitcher wherever you are listening. Please go ahead and give us a like in a follow so you get notified of our new episodes so in the first week of october. And i'm saying this to keep myself accountable first week of october. We're launching season. Seven and i cannot wait to share it with you. It is going to be such a great time. We have great great things in store. So hey come along for the ride again. Click that follow button clip. That likes and subscribe button. You can follow us on. Social.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

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01:47 min | 3 weeks ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"The episode you're about to hear a work of fiction written by matthew griffin and scott chapman both of whom are former. Us army rangers and between them have over. Twenty five combat tours. The dramatized portion of this episode was created and produced by me aaron perkins founder of courage to fight again and host of this podcast. Although this is a work of fiction it is disturbingly close to reality and may conjure up feelings of sadness contemplation or even anger as a result listener discretion is advised. This is a message from the taliban. The first time i saw. You isn't a khyber pass. You came into technology. Elite fighters fueled by revenge and sheba's to believe that.

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

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07:22 min | Last month

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Hey everyone was aaron perkins and this is the we served now. What podcast it on this show. I do my very best to answer. Questions that veterans and their families are already asking. You can turn your post military life into your best life now if you've never listened to the show before man where have you been her. Hey we've been on the on the air so to speak for quite a while now but i'm so glad to have you here because this is actually very very different episode from what we typically do so typically our process for at episode right as we find a topic or a a Question that veterans of the family members have asked and we dig into that. Maybe we schedule an expert. Come talk about it or we you know we just kind of dive into it ourselves in research it and then i get the opportunity to get here on the microphone and talk to you about what we found about. The you know the results of of our our research or you know what the right answers are to those questions but this episode is actually much different than just about all of our other episodes and it is completely unscripted. It is just me here on the mike like okay. Well why are you doing something so different. I'll tell you why. A lot of us i and i would say. Nearly one hundred percent of the folks listening to my voice right now. Listening to this episode have either served in afghanistan or their family members have served in afghanistan and so they say they. It's you you fully understand the sacrifice. The birthdays missed the holidays. Missed the memories that you did not get to make when you're in country so over the past few days really and especially within the last twenty four to forty eight hours Been watching the news. Pretty closely And watching the taliban basically sweep across the country of afghanistan and takeover basically everything basically everything we fought to defend. Now here's the thing. I i know and i understand that. This is just the way things go right. We weren't going to stay in afghanistan forever. you know we went in. I think we believed at the time doing something really great. Really good into this war on terror But at the end of the day you know we were still in someone else's country and we had to pull out at some point now whether you're for or against the you know the pullout of american troops you know and just kind of leaving afghanistan more or less as we found it right You know with a few more basis regardless of how you feel about that one of the questions in my own mind and a half to imagine the minds of other veterans as well is how should i be feeling right now because there is a special place in my heart right now for afghanistan and for the people of afghanistan us especially those that that i interacted with right that i got to talk to the you know where they came on when they came on the base. You know those. Dvd sellers right. Those knock off headphones sellers local people. You know just trying to make a living I think of the you know the linguists interpreters who embedded with with american forces were with allied forces. And i think of them and their families and so there's a special place in my heart for the country because i want the best for i want the best for those people right even though my experience was certainly not a great one right you know like i. I don't look back at my life. And think like ma'am so glad i went to afghanistan. That was amazing. Best time of my life because no it wasn't you know i mean we're there you know it's combat at the end of the day you you're either getting shot at or shooting at someone else or eight. My job in particular was intel finding the people to shoot at. You know letting the commander no this is what the environment is like this. What the enemy is like. This is what the probably do this is. What will probably happen and so that was basically my job but now that i'm looking at it right. The the the dramatic shift in. I mean obviously the politics of the nation. But i don't know how to feel. I really don't know how to feel about it. It you know. I add one part of me. I actually just told Someone i i had an interview A couple of weeks ago and Courage crucified again. We just posted on our or twitter accountant. Instagram and everything but Talking about like you know this has been a long time coming this. Pull out this. This withdrawal of american troops has been a long time coming when he was gonna come at some point You know regardless of the tactics of how we left you know. We knew we weren't gonna say there for forever so understanding that but while at the same time understanding that my formative years as an adult some of those were spent training for and or you know being in country in afghanistan and so it's us it's really i don't want to say confusing but it's it's one of those things like what do i. What do i say here. What do i do here and honestly like i. I'm out right. i've been out since twenty fourteen. I don't wear the uniform anymore but at the same time. There's there's a part of me in afghanistan and iraq to actually deployed to iraq twice afghanistan. Only one time. But they're still part of me there and seeing all these to the places where i used to be or used to go or used to be stationed. Used to walk on. I see now. I see the taliban just going. You know hog wild right. I mean they are just completely taking over the country. And i don't know how to feel but i came up with a couple a couple of ideas of how i think we as veterans should feel and you know maybe this apply to veteran family members as well but one of the ways. I think we should feel. Is that when we were over there. We did everything in our power to make.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

19:24 min | 3 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Your housing your food your transportation and then medical and absolute necessities so if you have prescriptions or you've had doctor's appointments or you absolutely have to have daycare because you don't have family or friends that can watch and you have to pay for daycare. Those are absolute necessities. Everything else is extra fluff lifestyle spending. So when you're going through and figuring everything out these four things need to be taken care of welcome to another episode of the we serve now. What podcast the show. Where i do my best to answer the questions veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos. I'm the author of the resolve book and that is a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through a process of rediscovering. Your life's purpose. After you left the military. And i gotta tell you i have so been looking forward to today's episode because my special guest is here to talk about something that matters to every single one of us is topic money. My guest today is quite boss. Marco is a twelve year navy veteran who deployed in support of operation enduring freedom. He got out got his bachelor of science. Degree started a side gig as a financial coach in two thousand sixteen while working in the nonprofit industry in didn't take marco long to realize that he was struggling with a lot of the same financial issues as the people. He was trying to help so in an attempt to fix his own struggles. Marco applied business cash flow principles to his own finances with an eighteen months. He added nearly one hundred thousand dollars to his net worth and his skills are skills that anyone can use. Marco now has his own financial consulting business. Called live like others. can't marco. it is so good to have you on the show today. Welcome to we serve now. What a thanks for having me on. It's pleasure to be here to serve all the rest of the veterans. They're listening absolutely man absolutely. Been looking forward to have you on the show. So what just take a few minutes and introduce yourself. Tell us a little bit of your back story how you got here. Well you covered a lot of it which was great but like it said so. I served twelve years of military. And when i got out i had a mountain of debt. I think it was like sixty thousand dollars in debt. When i left active duty was going to school got my bachelor business management and when moved down to florida a job. They're kinda help me pay down some more of The debt that ended up having once i got back from afghanistan. 'cause so side note. I went to afghan volunteer to to afghanistan to pay off my consumer debt and paid off the debt and then had a ton of money when i got back and did some investments that were really great but the problem was is. I didn't change my spending habits and some other habits. That i had that were really ingrained so i ended up building up that data again and was down in florida before i moved back home to ohio i ended up with like it probably about another twenty grand worth of debt when i moved back home and i was like said twenty twenty sixteen. I started looking at my personal finances. I got married in two thousand fifteen and after a year of trying to manage to all that we finally got everything into really like one pot start applying the business finance principles to my own personal finances and when i first started i was negative. Twenty five thousand dollars in my net worth so because all everything and i still wanna own twenty five thousand dollars so when i started applying some of those principles and turned it around and it was like oh my gosh in eighteen months be able to get to seventy five thousand and net worth. It was not so. I started taking some of those same principles and teaching some people. I knew some friends. And it's like okay. I really got something here but was really interesting. Is that these same principles basic math principles but these are the same things that have teaching the low income. People that for the nonprofit that i was working at so is really crazy that. There's so much parallel. The only difference is that my mistakes were spectacular because there is a larger amount of income to work with so it's it's really interesting the mindset that we don't teach so i that's what it was like. Okay there's a group of people working in the nonprofit world and the rule low income side of things. There's a whole support system around that but there's very few supports for this this middle class. The wealthy know how to do it. The low income have a ton of support. And when you're trying to make that transition to from low income or even the lower middle-class into an upper middle class even making that transition if you don't have some the fundamentals You're never gonna make it or it's gonna take forever by the time you retire like oh okay now i get. It would have been great thirty years ago. Sure so that's why i got into. That's what i got into being a coach. Cool man all right. So so the first question i have for you is it. It's a simple one. But i think it's one of those things that needs to be addressed because a lot of us find ourselves in a situation where we think that our finances are kind of like a bygone conclusion. You know i grew up in poverty. You know song going to stay in poverty. And so i don't even think about i. Just go through the motions. I you know. I get the car loan. I get credit cards. I get in debt. You know i do all these sayings in. I'm not really focused on my financial health right so when it comes to finances why should i even care. How big of a deal is it. Well i would have to say just starting out. It's actually perfect timing because this last year taught all of us. I mean how many people lost their jobs or were furloughed or laid off and maybe two never even get them back. It can come at any time. And if you're not prepared for it is what a lot of people don't realize is that when they signed their name for alone they're trading future time for something right now and it takes a special type of person to be an entrepreneur to be to be able to go out and create wealth but the majority of americans work for their money as opposed to creating their money. If that makes sense and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong going to work and and working a nine to five job you can be in everyday millionaire working a nine to five job you can. It's entirely possible but it's just. It's really crazy that when when wrenches thrown into it that we lose traction so fast if thing was like bank rate. It's on the ads that you've been running for me so it's six hundred ten. Ten people don't budget seven ten barely budget. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck. It's it's crazy as stupid number. Eighty percent of the people in the us are living paycheck to paycheck. That's nuts. That really is so eight out of ten people living paycheck to paycheck. Just you know if if you miss a paycheck or like you just mentioned you lose your job because of whatever reason pandemic or anything else. It's a huge impact. Not just. I don't know how i'm gonna pay bills for the next couple of weeks but it can like really really set you back. I think it's a perfect setup to talk about. What you just mentioned budgeting a little bit right. A lot of people don't budget so let's say for example. I know what a budget is. You know i've heard the term of. I've seen it on the news talk about but i've never tried it for me and for my family. Can you give us an insight into that. Like where do you even get started. Well sure an you can do a search on the internet for how i do a budget and almost all of them are going to give you the first piece of bad advice that you will ever hear when it comes to budgeting track your expenses for the next month. No you don't have to track your expenses for the next month. You know why because what you do. This month is the exact same thing he did last month. Just pull your bank statements. Look at your bank statements. That will is a great snapshot of your personal financial behavior and what your lifestyle choices are and when you take a look at that then you've got you've got gotta place all of those into a it or as we'll talk a little bit here a of a wall for foundation. There are four things that you have to take care of everything else is fluff and you can create whatever whatever other buckets you wine or i mean flake from an accounting. Were coming perspective. These are lineups okay. So you've got you've got your income and your expenses and then your expenses or all of your line break it down and then it breaks down even further when you file your taxes so every category that you make is a line item but there's four that are super important. Four and a lot of the times people tried to budget everything and they say okay budget down every last dollar and even the even the dollars that you're gonna put into savings if you don't have a good foundation to take care of the basic things that you need to have. It doesn't matter what you put into savings. It doesn't matter what what you spend on clothes. It doesn't excuse me it doesn't matter what what extra expenses and entertainment things that you wanna do. You've got to have these four things. Take care of i and what's interesting about them. Is it lines up. Perfectly with maslow's hierarchy and i'll leave it at that for further on all right so talk to us a little bit more about the four walls right. You mentioned the four walls and you know unite chatted about these a little bit before we go kind of hit the record button here as we were preparing for the show but that i'd never heard that term before the four walls. Can you explain like what those four walls are shirt. A quick back story on on the four walls. Is that if you do any personal financial searching on the internet. You're probably gonna come across the name. Dave ramsey dave ramsey. Oh yes some guy of phenomenal mindset really. Is there some things. Because i'm a business guy. There's some things that i can't entirely subscribe to because for me personally. There is some good debt. Because i'm a business guy. I used other people's money to make more money for my business. So that i can go ahead and potentially hire somebody in sure. Grow the economy that right right so for me. There is some good data. But from dave ramsey's perspective. There's no debt is good so the four walls are the four basic things that you need to survive. And when i say talking about maslow's hierarchy the bottom two levels of maslow's hierarchy pyramid are psychological and safety and that deals with food shelter and essentially money and i clued transportation in that because you need transportation get to and from work sir so the four walls are actually order. I it's it's your housing your food your transportation and then i. I don't like saying catch off for this last one but medical and other absolute necessities. So if you have prescriptions or you've had doctor's appointments or you absolutely have to have daycare 'cause you don't have family or friends that can watch and you have to pay for daycare. Those are absolute necessities. Everything else is extra fluff lifestyle. Spending this is still considered lifestyle spending as well but this is your baseline lifestyle. So when you're going through and figuring everything out these four things need to be taken care of and as you're going through the math and figure out okay. I'm not bringing in enough to cover the us basic four things. you're living to lavishly. You have played into the game of catching up with the joneses. You're trying to find too many influencers and live like them and showcase to the world. What all the amount of debt that you're bringing on is essentially what you're showcasing. You're not living the good life you're actually living a really crappy life. So that's kind of the premise of the four walls. And it when. I didn't really know that term when i first started doing my own budgeting but i realize kay. I've got regular monthly expenses that i always have to pay out have to pay my mortgage. I always have to pay the insurance. I always have to put gas in my car. Food on the table and a couple of medications and and some clothes. Those are the things that always spend money on every single month. What's fantastic about that is because it is you have the ability to look back over the last twelve months and really identify what your lifestyle is just by those expenses alone. Yeah that's that's interesting and it's it's definitely a a i won't say it's that different but it's definitely different than like you said what a lot of folks are gonna find when they do that. Google search for when they do that duck go search right on the internet of. Hey how do. I do a budget you know. What are the first things. I i should consider and and using hierarchy of needs and for those who are familiar with it. This basically just a pyramid that that stacks from bottom to top the needs. Every person has basic needs like markos already talked about psychological needs and then tops off. Self-fulfilment needs achieving your full potential including creative activities. And things like that. But with the four walls i know. They're all critical right but is one more important than the other. Is that the all really really for lack of a better term foundational for your financial health. They all are foundational. But dave will argue. And i kinda back this little bit. Is that if you have a choice between spending money on your electric bill and spending money on food you buy food and you can work with the company to to keep your electricity on food. Would probably the be the highest priority. Next would be your housing so everything that's involved with your housing your mortgage your mortgage. Iran's your utilities and then transportation would be third because there are things that you can do if you're spending too much on transportation. There's things that you can do to to lower those expenses but we can get into that little bit and then obviously medical. Now it's it'd be a toss up then if you've got to take medications or you need food a well. Okay then yeah but but at the same time. If the majority americans being healthy and not needing a whole lot of medications food would be the top priority so food station and then the other necessities sure sure so that so that kind of helps me prioritize as far as you know if i do find myself in a situation like I don't know what i'm going to you know. I only have so much money this month. And i can't pay whatever this one bill. Is you know kind of helps me. Prioritize food housing transportation medical. You know and then if it's more detailed it's down to the really really fine details of a few dollars here versus a few dollars here then. I think that's something you really just sit down like. If it's if it's you by yourself you just make the best decision right an absolutely. If it's you with your family you know you sit down with your spouse and or with your partner and you you talk about it like what do we want to do this month to make ends meet well and and i would say to that the amount of people who actually don't realize where their money's going is phenomenal so he say eighty percents living paycheck to paycheck. I would say one hundred percent of that. Eighty percent have no idea whether money's going and they don't realize that they probably have enough coming in to cover these four walls and then some that the problem comes is when they make all of the additional lifestyle choices and then they're like oh. I don't have enough money for food while it's because they just bought a thousand dollar iphone. So i mean like i know that's really rudimentary example. Because most people are buying their phones on the month to month plan that they put on that they tacked onto your bill which side note really crazy. I was trying to buy a new phone for my wife. No cellphone store will let me pay full price outright for the phone. They forced me to put it onto a monthly plan. Really i is crazy not i was like. I've got nine hundred dollars. That i'm gonna pay you right now and they don't want it. They want it on the monthly plan. So what's funny is so my family. We are an android family. Okay we've always been. We've never gotten into the iphones. You know my daughter. She's a teenager now. So she's kind of leading me toward the iphone but we've always been an android family and for the past few years. I have bought all of our phones directly from samsung. I don't know if you can do that with apple or not if it has to be carrier specific and you have to do over a month to month plan but if i go to samsung dot com. I can just buy that phone outright. I couldn't yeah. I basically i swipe my card more or less you know and you type in my numbers. He and then a couple of days i get new phone on my on my doorstep and so have to remember that for my wife because she's a samsung guy. I'm an iphone. Yeah for sure and so we when we started doing that. We've been with our with our carrier for. I don't know five six seven years now and so we're not really planning on leaving and going to another carrier. But i do get the unlocked phones just in case i need to right and so and so it is really nice to just be able to swipe their credit card and be like. Hey here you go. Here's all the money up front. I don't have to worry about that That money coming out every month right so off that sidetrack for second sorry about that it was just. It was really crazy when i was trying to do that. I couldn't believe that is crazy for phone. So why things that. When when i sit down with somebody and i'm going through this. Is that a lot of people. Don't realize all of the essentially the line items within each of these categories so under housing. There's a couple of lines you've got your mortgage or your rent which includes particularly if you have a mortgage. It also

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S6 E12 - This is how to get (financially) healthy

Courage to Fight Again

19:24 min | 3 months ago

S6 E12 - This is how to get (financially) healthy

"Your housing your food your transportation and then medical and absolute necessities so if you have prescriptions or you've had doctor's appointments or you absolutely have to have daycare because you don't have family or friends that can watch and you have to pay for daycare. Those are absolute necessities. Everything else is extra fluff lifestyle spending. So when you're going through and figuring everything out these four things need to be taken care of welcome to another episode of the we serve now. What podcast the show. Where i do my best to answer the questions veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos. I'm the author of the resolve book and that is a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through a process of rediscovering. Your life's purpose. After you left the military. And i gotta tell you i have so been looking forward to today's episode because my special guest is here to talk about something that matters to every single one of us is topic money. My guest today is quite boss. Marco is a twelve year navy veteran who deployed in support of operation enduring freedom. He got out got his bachelor of science. Degree started a side gig as a financial coach in two thousand sixteen while working in the nonprofit industry in didn't take marco long to realize that he was struggling with a lot of the same financial issues as the people. He was trying to help so in an attempt to fix his own struggles. Marco applied business cash flow principles to his own finances with an eighteen months. He added nearly one hundred thousand dollars to his net worth and his skills are skills that anyone can use. Marco now has his own financial consulting business. Called live like others. can't marco. it is so good to have you on the show today. Welcome to we serve now. What a thanks for having me on. It's pleasure to be here to serve all the rest of the veterans. They're listening absolutely man absolutely. Been looking forward to have you on the show. So what just take a few minutes and introduce yourself. Tell us a little bit of your back story how you got here. Well you covered a lot of it which was great but like it said so. I served twelve years of military. And when i got out i had a mountain of debt. I think it was like sixty thousand dollars in debt. When i left active duty was going to school got my bachelor business management and when moved down to florida a job. They're kinda help me pay down some more of The debt that ended up having once i got back from afghanistan. 'cause so side note. I went to afghan volunteer to to afghanistan to pay off my consumer debt and paid off the debt and then had a ton of money when i got back and did some investments that were really great but the problem was is. I didn't change my spending habits and some other habits. That i had that were really ingrained so i ended up building up that data again and was down in florida before i moved back home to ohio i ended up with like it probably about another twenty grand worth of debt when i moved back home and i was like said twenty twenty sixteen. I started looking at my personal finances. I got married in two thousand fifteen and after a year of trying to manage to all that we finally got everything into really like one pot start applying the business finance principles to my own personal finances and when i first started i was negative. Twenty five thousand dollars in my net worth so because all everything and i still wanna own twenty five thousand dollars so when i started applying some of those principles and turned it around and it was like oh my gosh in eighteen months be able to get to seventy five thousand and net worth. It was not so. I started taking some of those same principles and teaching some people. I knew some friends. And it's like okay. I really got something here but was really interesting. Is that these same principles basic math principles but these are the same things that have teaching the low income. People that for the nonprofit that i was working at so is really crazy that. There's so much parallel. The only difference is that my mistakes were spectacular because there is a larger amount of income to work with so it's it's really interesting the mindset that we don't teach so i that's what it was like. Okay there's a group of people working in the nonprofit world and the rule low income side of things. There's a whole support system around that but there's very few supports for this this middle class. The wealthy know how to do it. The low income have a ton of support. And when you're trying to make that transition to from low income or even the lower middle-class into an upper middle class even making that transition if you don't have some the fundamentals You're never gonna make it or it's gonna take forever by the time you retire like oh okay now i get. It would have been great thirty years ago. Sure so that's why i got into. That's what i got into being a coach. Cool man all right. So so the first question i have for you is it. It's a simple one. But i think it's one of those things that needs to be addressed because a lot of us find ourselves in a situation where we think that our finances are kind of like a bygone conclusion. You know i grew up in poverty. You know song going to stay in poverty. And so i don't even think about i. Just go through the motions. I you know. I get the car loan. I get credit cards. I get in debt. You know i do all these sayings in. I'm not really focused on my financial health right so when it comes to finances why should i even care. How big of a deal is it. Well i would have to say just starting out. It's actually perfect timing because this last year taught all of us. I mean how many people lost their jobs or were furloughed or laid off and maybe two never even get them back. It can come at any time. And if you're not prepared for it is what a lot of people don't realize is that when they signed their name for alone they're trading future time for something right now and it takes a special type of person to be an entrepreneur to be to be able to go out and create wealth but the majority of americans work for their money as opposed to creating their money. If that makes sense and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong going to work and and working a nine to five job you can be in everyday millionaire working a nine to five job you can. It's entirely possible but it's just. It's really crazy that when when wrenches thrown into it that we lose traction so fast if thing was like bank rate. It's on the ads that you've been running for me so it's six hundred ten. Ten people don't budget seven ten barely budget. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck. It's it's crazy as stupid number. Eighty percent of the people in the us are living paycheck to paycheck. That's nuts. That really is so eight out of ten people living paycheck to paycheck. Just you know if if you miss a paycheck or like you just mentioned you lose your job because of whatever reason pandemic or anything else. It's a huge impact. Not just. I don't know how i'm gonna pay bills for the next couple of weeks but it can like really really set you back. I think it's a perfect setup to talk about. What you just mentioned budgeting a little bit right. A lot of people don't budget so let's say for example. I know what a budget is. You know i've heard the term of. I've seen it on the news talk about but i've never tried it for me and for my family. Can you give us an insight into that. Like where do you even get started. Well sure an you can do a search on the internet for how i do a budget and almost all of them are going to give you the first piece of bad advice that you will ever hear when it comes to budgeting track your expenses for the next month. No you don't have to track your expenses for the next month. You know why because what you do. This month is the exact same thing he did last month. Just pull your bank statements. Look at your bank statements. That will is a great snapshot of your personal financial behavior and what your lifestyle choices are and when you take a look at that then you've got you've got gotta place all of those into a it or as we'll talk a little bit here a of a wall for foundation. There are four things that you have to take care of everything else is fluff and you can create whatever whatever other buckets you wine or i mean flake from an accounting. Were coming perspective. These are lineups okay. So you've got you've got your income and your expenses and then your expenses or all of your line break it down and then it breaks down even further when you file your taxes so every category that you make is a line item but there's four that are super important. Four and a lot of the times people tried to budget everything and they say okay budget down every last dollar and even the even the dollars that you're gonna put into savings if you don't have a good foundation to take care of the basic things that you need to have. It doesn't matter what you put into savings. It doesn't matter what what you spend on clothes. It doesn't excuse me it doesn't matter what what extra expenses and entertainment things that you wanna do. You've got to have these four things. Take care of i and what's interesting about them. Is it lines up. Perfectly with maslow's hierarchy and i'll leave it at that for further on all right so talk to us a little bit more about the four walls right. You mentioned the four walls and you know unite chatted about these a little bit before we go kind of hit the record button here as we were preparing for the show but that i'd never heard that term before the four walls. Can you explain like what those four walls are shirt. A quick back story on on the four walls. Is that if you do any personal financial searching on the internet. You're probably gonna come across the name. Dave ramsey dave ramsey. Oh yes some guy of phenomenal mindset really. Is there some things. Because i'm a business guy. There's some things that i can't entirely subscribe to because for me personally. There is some good debt. Because i'm a business guy. I used other people's money to make more money for my business. So that i can go ahead and potentially hire somebody in sure. Grow the economy that right right so for me. There is some good data. But from dave ramsey's perspective. There's no debt is good so the four walls are the four basic things that you need to survive. And when i say talking about maslow's hierarchy the bottom two levels of maslow's hierarchy pyramid are psychological and safety and that deals with food shelter and essentially money and i clued transportation in that because you need transportation get to and from work sir so the four walls are actually order. I it's it's your housing your food your transportation and then i. I don't like saying catch off for this last one but medical and other absolute necessities. So if you have prescriptions or you've had doctor's appointments or you absolutely have to have daycare 'cause you don't have family or friends that can watch and you have to pay for daycare. Those are absolute necessities. Everything else is extra fluff lifestyle. Spending this is still considered lifestyle spending as well but this is your baseline lifestyle. So when you're going through and figuring everything out these four things need to be taken care of and as you're going through the math and figure out okay. I'm not bringing in enough to cover the us basic four things. you're living to lavishly. You have played into the game of catching up with the joneses. You're trying to find too many influencers and live like them and showcase to the world. What all the amount of debt that you're bringing on is essentially what you're showcasing. You're not living the good life you're actually living a really crappy life. So that's kind of the premise of the four walls. And it when. I didn't really know that term when i first started doing my own budgeting but i realize kay. I've got regular monthly expenses that i always have to pay out have to pay my mortgage. I always have to pay the insurance. I always have to put gas in my car. Food on the table and a couple of medications and and some clothes. Those are the things that always spend money on every single month. What's fantastic about that is because it is you have the ability to look back over the last twelve months and really identify what your lifestyle is just by those expenses alone. Yeah that's that's interesting and it's it's definitely a a i won't say it's that different but it's definitely different than like you said what a lot of folks are gonna find when they do that. Google search for when they do that duck go search right on the internet of. Hey how do. I do a budget you know. What are the first things. I i should consider and and using hierarchy of needs and for those who are familiar with it. This basically just a pyramid that that stacks from bottom to top the needs. Every person has basic needs like markos already talked about psychological needs and then tops off. Self-fulfilment needs achieving your full potential including creative activities. And things like that. But with the four walls i know. They're all critical right but is one more important than the other. Is that the all really really for lack of a better term foundational for your financial health. They all are foundational. But dave will argue. And i kinda back this little bit. Is that if you have a choice between spending money on your electric bill and spending money on food you buy food and you can work with the company to to keep your electricity on food. Would probably the be the highest priority. Next would be your housing so everything that's involved with your housing your mortgage your mortgage. Iran's your utilities and then transportation would be third because there are things that you can do if you're spending too much on transportation. There's things that you can do to to lower those expenses but we can get into that little bit and then obviously medical. Now it's it'd be a toss up then if you've got to take medications or you need food a well. Okay then yeah but but at the same time. If the majority americans being healthy and not needing a whole lot of medications food would be the top priority so food station and then the other necessities sure sure so that so that kind of helps me prioritize as far as you know if i do find myself in a situation like I don't know what i'm going to you know. I only have so much money this month. And i can't pay whatever this one bill. Is you know kind of helps me. Prioritize food housing transportation medical. You know and then if it's more detailed it's down to the really really fine details of a few dollars here versus a few dollars here then. I think that's something you really just sit down like. If it's if it's you by yourself you just make the best decision right an absolutely. If it's you with your family you know you sit down with your spouse and or with your partner and you you talk about it like what do we want to do this month to make ends meet well and and i would say to that the amount of people who actually don't realize where their money's going is phenomenal so he say eighty percents living paycheck to paycheck. I would say one hundred percent of that. Eighty percent have no idea whether money's going and they don't realize that they probably have enough coming in to cover these four walls and then some that the problem comes is when they make all of the additional lifestyle choices and then they're like oh. I don't have enough money for food while it's because they just bought a thousand dollar iphone. So i mean like i know that's really rudimentary example. Because most people are buying their phones on the month to month plan that they put on that they tacked onto your bill which side note really crazy. I was trying to buy a new phone for my wife. No cellphone store will let me pay full price outright for the phone. They forced me to put it onto a monthly plan. Really i is crazy not i was like. I've got nine hundred dollars. That i'm gonna pay you right now and they don't want it. They want it on the monthly plan. So what's funny is so my family. We are an android family. Okay we've always been. We've never gotten into the iphones. You know my daughter. She's a teenager now. So she's kind of leading me toward the iphone but we've always been an android family and for the past few years. I have bought all of our phones directly from samsung. I don't know if you can do that with apple or not if it has to be carrier specific and you have to do over a month to month plan but if i go to samsung dot com. I can just buy that phone outright. I couldn't yeah. I basically i swipe my card more or less you know and you type in my numbers. He and then a couple of days i get new phone on my on my doorstep and so have to remember that for my wife because she's a samsung guy. I'm an iphone. Yeah for sure and so we when we started doing that. We've been with our with our carrier for. I don't know five six seven years now and so we're not really planning on leaving and going to another carrier. But i do get the unlocked phones just in case i need to right and so and so it is really nice to just be able to swipe their credit card and be like. Hey here you go. Here's all the money up front. I don't have to worry about that That money coming out every month right so off that sidetrack for second sorry about that it was just. It was really crazy when i was trying to do that. I couldn't believe that is crazy for phone. So why things that. When when i sit down with somebody and i'm going through this. Is that a lot of people. Don't realize all of the essentially the line items within each of these categories so under housing. There's a couple of lines you've got your mortgage or your rent which includes particularly if you have a mortgage. It also

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Your food your transportation and then medical and absolute necessities so if you have prescriptions or you've had doctor's appointments or you absolutely have to have daycare because you don't have family or friends that can watch and you have to pay for daycare. Those are absolute necessities. Everything else is extra fluff lifestyle spending. So when you're going through and figuring everything out these four things need to be taken care of welcome to another episode of the we serve now. What podcast the show. Where i do my best to answer the questions veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos. I'm the author of the resolve book and that is a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through a process of rediscovering. Your life's purpose. After you left the military. And i gotta tell you i have so been looking forward to today's episode because my special guest is here to talk about something that matters to every single one of us is topic money. My.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"May is mental health awareness month. And i felt it only right to release an episode focusing on the topic of mental health. Now if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time you've no doubt heard me talk about my own struggles with ptsd depression and mon experiences. Not all that uncommon in the veteran community. What you don't often hear though is from the veteran's spouse and on today's episode. I get to sit down with my wife patricia. As she shares the story of her own emotional journey with mental health diagnoses medications. Hospital stays and a whole lot more. This is the we serve now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life by way of introduction my name is aaron perkins i am a us army combat veteran daddy to amazing kiddos. Host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here excited to talk about a subject that i'm passionate about. Yeah absolutely absolutely well. Great to have you here. I'm i'm incredibly happy that you agreed to be on the show. Usually it is me saying. Hey i'm going to be recording tonight. So if you you and the kids can kind of keep it down a little bit and but really really grateful that you here today. So today was one of many days where you're going through this. I don't know call procedure or treatment treatment. Okay so so. Obviously i went with you. Today is able to accompany you to that treatment and it specifically four depression right and so start with today. Let's start with today in a kind of what happened today. And what the treatment is. And let's start there. Sure okay so. The treatment is called. Tm s it means trans cranial magnetic stimulation menendez Treatment that oddly. Enough stimulates your brain. It's post what is supposed to do is to help the neurotransmitters talk to each other better and it is usually reserved for someone who's tried a few different types of medication for depression but it also helps with like anxiety. Ocd and sometimes even physical pain. Okay so so so. This is not a it. Sounds like it's a noninvasive. It's not a surgery type of thing so basically the way they explain it. It's like electromagnetic therapy. Where like in the old days where they would maybe cut. Open your head and maybe electric your brain things like that but this obviously they're not doing that. You can sit down in this chair. It's kind of like the big dentist chair. They strap you all in and they put this big magnet next to your head in a certain spot at a certain level. It's already been determined by your doctor and it made me last twenty minutes. And then you're you're on your way okay. So is that it's not obviously. I know this right before listeners. This is not like a one time thing. This is one of how many treatments you have to get. Okay so today was off my fourth treatment and i think if i did the math right i have at least thirty three more to go. So it's over a nine week period and because of where we live. I have to drive basically an hour and a half to get there. And then i'm there for fifteen to twenty minutes in the drive an hour and a half and and yeah i i definitely know that. That part in itself is frustrating. The drive so let's go back a little bit now so you're having this it might not be invasive but stewart pretty extreme treatment of kind of remapping your brain right yes. It's it's had some side effects already some some anger some tiredness Brain fog lightheadedness. The way the only way. I can explain it. It's like there's a big garden with a huge gate and there's all these locks and each treatment seems to slowly work open a new lock and then hopefully by the end all the locks will be open and king come open and i can be free of depression anxiety. I don't know if that's going to happen. I have faith that it can happen so hopefully it does happen. You me both you both so so take us back a little bit. How did you get to this point. You know obviously you. Have you know some sort of depression or anxiety or whatever take us back to diagnoses and that sort of thing so i i got diagnosed probably sixteen years ago like actual clinical diagnosis of major depressive disorder and house have severe anxiety. I have d. c. Ptsd so what is so ptsd. I know what is cd. Basically childhood post traumatic stress disorder. And then i have. Ocd okay so so ptsd. Veteran community intimately familiar with cps d c p s de. It is then the so. How did that come about. I mean this this is like you know really getting into the nitty gritty of it a little bit but i had parent you know. I had parents that. They weren't believers not that that makes you any less of a good parent but they were involved with things that they shouldn't have been involved with and they didn't have a good relationship with one another so that meant a very rocky relationship with their children and so without getting into too much and making people uncomfortable. This is a really bad childhood really bad and even in my teenage years there was some other stuff that was really bad. So just you know things that people don't really think about as being post traumatic stress disorder. I've heard other people say. How can you even have that. You weren't a soldier. Well that's not reserved for soldiers or servicemen period. Post traumatic stress can happen after a car accident after your home gets broken into after a traumatic. Any traumatic experience you can. Pdf st right right so so with depression. You were diagnosed. She said sixteen years ago crack and so did the anxiety diagnosis. Come along with that or out of that will work. It was shortly after. I think they at i thought maybe it was just really bad depression and they realized that it was both mint so they started treatment to different treatments who different medications and over the years between the two just the depression and anxiety. I know i've had over sixteen or seventeen medications and sixteen or seventeen. I didn't know there were that many others time for i mean i know. There's a lot of medications out there right. But most i know i i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say most people when they're struggling with anxiety depression or even if they do have a legitimate diagnosis of anxiety. Depression or both. It's okay let me go get this. Let me go try it. You know and then if that doesn't work maybe they go try something else but sixteen or seventeen that that just sounds like an extreme number is sensitive to medications and so what may work for a lot of people. Just doesn't seem to work for me. Or i ended up being allergic to it but i will say that i did. This test called a g. e. n. e. s. t. and it's a dna test and that's something that you're psychiatrists can do for you. There is a cost involved but it will tell you which medications and you know. They're all different classes. Work for your dna type so you have a red section and you should stay away from those. You have a yellow section. That may help. And then you have. A green section is more likely to help with your dna type so that can help a lot of people. Stay away from having to try sixteen or seventeen different medications. Sure sure that that's a really good point. And obviously you. You didn't take that 'til later. Right actually took it last year. Yeah so the break i. I wish i could have taken ten years ago. But i don't think even knew about it and that's another thing i would say. Is you know educate yourself. Don't wait on your doctors to find all the resolutions for you. Like feel free to look and research and bring it up to your doctor. you know. it's a good point. So medication is just one side of the depression anxiety. Ptsd just one side of it before the medication happens. There's something that either. Your doctors realize your families realize or you personally realize something different in me. Something is not working as it's supposed to or it's manifesting in in a certain way and i know that when it comes to ptsd specifically it manifests itself in a lot of different ways. They can manifest itself in anger in inability to focus and chronic pain. In a guilt it can manifest itself in different ways. So let's focus on the. Let's say let's. Let's go with depression right the major depressive disorder. How did that or does that manifest itself in your life. The first time. I realized that i might have an issue with. Depression was actually. I had a really bad episode. After i had caitlin so caitlyn's daughter. Sorry caitlyn's her daughter. Yeah she's fourteen now. After i had her. I was sitting just watching tv. And she was sitting there beside me and her little old bouncy seat. And i actually started having these really dark feelings kind of like oppression and actually that coincided with an anxiety attack as well and actually got rushed to the hospital because they thought i was having a pulmonary. Embolism so they thought that. I had blood clots. I was about to die. You know there was but it was a mixture of depressive episode and anxiety attack which i had never felt before and that really scared me and the doctors were able to put me on medication to help with that. It did not stop it but it did help. Sure sure so what what happens next. You know you're you're on this medication. It's helping look what happens. Is there a point at which you realize. That medication isn't working or isn't working as well as it should. Yeah most doctors will tell you you know. Give it two or three weeks to really get in your system if you don't see any changes or if you see getting worse than you're to want to let us know so that we can adjust or change that medication and over the years. That has happened so often. That i i got to this place and i'll say that it's okay to do this if you need to. Own your closet by yourself and cry for a little while. 'cause you're just overwhelmed and nothing seems to be working and you want so badly to be quote unquote normal. Go have cry. Go eat ice cream or chocolate or something. I don't even care. It's okay to do those things. But i got to this place where i was like. None of this is working. I need something completely different. And i think that's when. I did the insight site testing because most of the medications that i had been put on. Were in my red list more in the list that was for your dna. These are not going to work for you. Oh wow so going through this process and the truth is i didn't even realize this at the time we've been married for fifteen plus years and i knew that kept having different medications tried and you like oh. This is not working but we had no idea why. It's not working until this test. You didn't says hey this might actually work for you Yeah that's that stuff okay. So what about the anxiety piece you know. It started with an executive attack How does that manifest itself or did it manifest itself in your life. So i have an odd anxiety like i have panic. Attacks panic attacks but generally speaking. I'm just anxious and it's like my anxiety and my ocd. Like to just hold hands and frolic through my brain and so what. I'm feeling extremely anxious. I have to clean everything so it's kind of like since i can't control my emotions i can't control what's going on in the world. My brain has to find something that can control and the cleanliness in my house. I can control thankfully because you and the kids are pretty neat people. But i have to do have to be able to do something. Control something to calm down. If i don't do that ended up in the closet crying eating chocolate well like you said. That's okay if you have to do. It's not not not every day but so talked about the depression. Talk about the anxiety. Ptsd how does that manifest itself in your life on a day-to-day basis weekly basis. How how often what does it feel like said the. Ptsd is like a whole different monster. That lives somewhere inside of my person. And the worst episodes i have with. Ptsd is when my children especially caitlyn our daughter when she reaches those age those ages where you've espn we. We had talked about this a little bit today. As we're preparing for the podcast but it was as a recall kind of like the same ages or proxy ages where something traumatic happened in your own childhood right so so then. My brain is like imagine that happening to kaitlin. Imagine that having to our son. Christopher and then it's like this overwhelming like it's not a mama bear feeling is a mama dragon. And it's like i will. I will died to protect but at the same time. It's then there's this the the little girl in me is like. How could my mom have let that happen. How could my dad have let that happen. Where was the the parental. where were they. Why did these things even happened. That i have this trauma but we're all human doing the best. We can now. That i'm older i can. I can look at my pass without being completely angry with my parents because they were just doing their best as well. Sure sure so. We're won't take a break real quick but coming up after the break and now you have a few things that you want to share with our listeners. More as encouragement and continuing the story obviously but also practical steps. Stay with us. Many americans today don't realize the stress and anxiety. They feel is likely because of their finances. According to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like others can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill. That will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today. Alright so here we are back. Second half of the show here with my wife patricia talking about mental health. And it's okay. She's looking at me right now. She's like oh just made a noise like it's okay. Well we'll cleared up. It's fine and so so anyway so here talking to my wife patricia about mental health and about her own challenges and struggles with it. And so obviously there's no one in your corner so to speak. I mean there's the stigma associated with it but there's also no one kind of coaching. You through this of like okay. Well if this isn't working here's what you do right not currently. I've had counselors in the past. You know and they've we've tried to work through things. I have been the hospital couple of times. And i think there's a lot of people who mean well but it doesn't mean it's going to work for you and so i feel it's important that people understand that if you do have a mental illness. It's okay to research an advocate for yourself. You don't have to wait on a doctor or counselor or someone who you feel like is more intelligent or just because they have letters after their name that they know you better than you do feel free. No not feel free. Please speak for yourself. that's huge. That is so huge. And i think that advocating for yourself is such a critical element of getting the help you need. Because when i think of veterans who are struggling right. You know whether whether it's a physical health or mental health concern. They know themselves like better than anyone else knows them and so when they go to the doctor when i as a veteran go to the doctor i have an obligation to myself right to be as honest and as really a as direct as i can like look. This is the problem. This is how. I'm feeling. I'm here for you to help me fix it right. But then there's the stigma especially in the military community. Where if something isn't working right in your brain you're not working right. Oh absolutely that is the stigma is is really and i think the worst thing about mental health diagnoses today at least in america. If not all over the world it absolutely needs to be normalized that your your brain is an oregon and just like your heart and all your heart muscle but you could knees your liver. If any of those things were failing if they weren't working like they were supposed to have so many people around you. Hey what can i do for you. What can i do for your family. Could i get my blood tested to see if i could be donor. How in the world could make your life better but you hear someone is in a three month depressive episode and they can't even get out of bed. I don't see people lining up with casseroles. I don't know. I don't see that happening. You know if you have to leave an event because you had an anxiety attack there's whispers. There's not help this is strong. It is so strong. And there's a you know within the military there is a fear and i will say rightly so that if you say hey i have this particular mental condition it can potentially impact your career and in the civilian world because well as a mom i if another mom i don't know maybe somebody's going to hear this and maybe they don't want their kids hanging out but as a mom you think. Oh can this person actually take care of my kid. While i'm away or is everything issue going to be too overwhelmed. Is she going to have some kind of attack. That i don okay. If you know somebody like that. Just educate yourself right and know that that person wouldn't take on that responsibility if they didn't feel they could handle it. Yeah absolutely and you know. That's a critical point to is. There is so much misinformation out there about mental health. And you know here's the thing. Hollywood doesn't help and i'm not going to rant. I'm not. I'm not trying to say like oh. Don't make movies about people with mental conditions. You know but there is this you know. The joker movie that just came out with a joaquin phoenix. That's joker yeah. Okay so you know. He obviously has a mental health problem. It looks like severe depression and he turns out to be this mass murderer. Right and so people associate edison. He's bipolar but go ahead. Fair enough fair enough so people associate those mental health conditions with something so extreme that they saw on a screen or read an article. now there are extreme cases. it's true. I mean you can't just say that that. No one is that bad off but there are people that bad off that they're not usually the people who look like they're doing okay. There those the people who are really struggling there are more signs right than than you just meeting them. Like if i just walked up to you and said hi. My name's patricia. Perkin tie you doing. You would never think i had five mental disorders right. You know someone. who's that far gone. You know they're going to be showing signs. Oh yeah absolutely for sure for sure and you know the thing is when it comes to mental health when it comes to you know having a a severe enough level of mental health challenges concerns whatever. You wanna call them. If you don't have an official diagnosis right there are so many. I guess levels is probably the best way to put it of of severity. Because you know like saying. Hey i'm feeling depressed for a couple of weeks is a far cry from major depressive disorder right okay. Yeah may i believe probably should have been a little more research but it would be depressed for at least six months before. It is a clinical diagnosis. And so there's going to be events someone dies. A friend moves away. You have to switch jobs then you could go through a you know a few days or a week of feeling depressed. That's normal. yeah exactly. That's the normal depression. That's not the go quick. It'll medication so you can feel better. That's right it's just a normal life happens and you get down and i've even had people say to me. Well you know you have a lot of stuff. You're very blessed. You have a nice home. You have a great husband. Smart kids you you you have you have you have you have. That has nothing to do. With what my brain is doing. I have the intelligence to know that. I a blessed person a blessed individual but that does not mean that my brain is going to let me enjoy all the time. Yeah that's so true. That is so true. And so i just saw an article earlier today from cnbc said fifty one percent of young americans are struggling with mental health. Fifty one percent. I can believe and i think a lot of that if i can just put in. My personal opinion is social media. I'm sure you constantly see people who are throwing up. There highlight reels on instagram. And some of them still on facebook and then those who are throwing out things on twitter but there you're not getting their whole life you don't read what's actually going on. I mean if people looked at my facebook they would see highlights. Because i want to show the good. I don't want to show the days. I don't wanna get out bed. Showed the days where. I'm like begrudgingly. Driving my kids to school because i have to. I'm an adult to do these things. You don't see those things and especially the generation under us. They're so obsessed with social media that they think that's real life. I mean i have a good life. But it's not insta worthy like everything. I do isn't gonna be popping up on instagram. Because it's not real life right. That's just advertising then like you said it's just highlights right. Yeah and so. I want to go back to the stigma piece for just a minute. Because that's a piece that i'm really passionate about and you know in the military you know being healthy being fit to fight. That's part of the job if you're broken your broken leg unit can't use you to go to war right. You have to get that leg fixed. I if you're broken mentally your unit may not be able to use you to go to war because like there's something wrong with you and like the. The thing is with the stigma. It's okay in you know outside of the military that things that your body or your brain is not working like it's supposed to and i've heard so many veterans so min- countless veterans really be rating their brothers and sisters in arms when they talk about having. Ptsd like your combat. Experience was different than mine. Therefore you don't have ptsd or you can't be depressed or you can't be anxious like you're just whining because you want to get paid from the va. You want the va to take care of you. That's ridiculous it. It really is our veterans out there who just looking for that that extra little bit of money out a month sure. There are but by and large the majority of veterans who who are having the courage to stand up and say. Hey i got something wrong in my brain. It's not working like supposed to. They should be applauded and say you know what that is. Surreal courage that you having right now to go and say i need help. Yes it takes a ton of courage and just in time out of being a military spouse and then my time out of it and interacting with veterans and even people who are still currently serving. They they have these but they don't even know how to say it out loud. They will become an alcoholic. But there's nothing wrong with me. I had no problem with war. Or when they get out of the military you know they get hooked on drugs. Oh in the military didn't affect me very much. I'll have i don't have any. Ptsd that that crazy stuff you know or all of a sudden. They're wife isn't good enough. Their kids aren't good enough and they want to be away from them at all times. They don't want that interaction but they say they're fine because they're afraid to say i might be broken inside and might need some help. So instead of having the courage to say that they are literally ruining their lives in other ways right what alcohol would drugs with breaking up their homes with neglecting their responsibilities. That's may there's so much i want to. I want to fix it right. I want to fix the stigma. Problem wanted but there is no easy way to do it. But i think what we're doing right here is having the conversation for the world to hear that. Look it's not just veterans. It's not just veteran spouses. It's according to that article. Fifty one percent of young americans who are struggling with some sort of mental health condition right regardless of what title you go by better in active duty man woman boy girl. Mental health is no respecter of persons. I'm sorry mental illness right. No you're right and mental health needs. You know it doesn't matter who you are. What are what color you are just like any like. I said any other body part in any other thing. That may need attention. Don't be afraid to give it that attention. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out. Don't let the stigma hold down. Yeah for sure so from our conversation today. I know we're running up on time. So we're gonna wind this down and you know. Obviously you and. I have talked about this a lot and me in the future. I'm sure we will get you back on the show and talk and talk about about this and how fixing your life especially how the team s treatment is grain because he you know. I'm not afraid to talk about right. My inner demons especially can help somebody else. I feel like i feel like god puts us through situation so that we can help other people and if we can't take the bad and turn it around and help someone than what's it for and i have to have faith that it's it's to help others. Sure sure so. We have alluded to these three big takeaways right like the big takeaways from this episode. We've alluded to them throughout the episode. We've talked about them. We've even said them but remind us remind listeners. What those big three takeaways are from listening to this. I would say the first one is to advocate for yourself like i said. Don't be to research. Don't be afraid to figure out what might work for you. Ask for the jewish site testing. Ask for even if you've been on medication for a long time talking about the s you know there are other ways to go about it than just constantly saying in that cycle of pill after pill after pill with no results there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. So don't be afraid to say. Hey i think this might help me. What do you think. Don't wait on them. The second one i would say is. Don't let the stigma prevent you from seeking help Let's there is nothing wrong with you. If you have mental illness nothing like innately wrong review. You are just a person who is struggling and number three. I would say no that you are not alone like you were saying that article fifty one percent of young americans. This isn't even us. The older americans during these are young americans who were struggling. You're not alone. find group. fine fine started group. It right to you know. Don't don't stay alone either. When you isolate yourself things. Things often get worse so definitely seek out others who may have similar problems going on that you can talk through to to have some sort of accountability with and accountability is huge. It is huge and those are the three big ones. But i wanted to add one more. And it's something that i've done personally and it has to do with what i was talking about with social media and it's so funny because our pastors just said at this sunday delete block. You do not have to look at sally. Suzy sampson's and wish it was yours. Delete her blocking her. If if watching her highlight reel is taking your joy. Delete her if mr man who has it all together all the money all the muscles and the most beautiful wife you've ever seen if that stealing your joy delete him bought him because you need to focus on you and yours is so good. That is so so good so patricia. It is been an amazing conversation with you. I wanna thank you personally. Thank you for your courage to come on the show and talk about not just health in general but your own mental health your own struggles with the diagnoses. You know you've had hospital stays as a result had so many things going your life and so thank you so much for talking about this important topic with us you know. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is. This have accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ and before we go one thing. Patricia wanted me to point out was earlier. she referenced. cpt. St and she called it childhood. Ptsd it is actually complex. Ptsd would she informed me of later in complex. Ptsd is brought about from long term trauma that might be physical emotional sexual abuse own going childhood neglect things like that. It could even be a prisoner of war type of situation that brings about complex. Ptsd so just clarification. There that that was what she was referencing in the second. Half of the episode. You may have heard probably did hear a lot of clicking in the background while that clicking was my burien husky running around on a hardwood floor and unfortunately we can't edit that out he just kind of made a cameo appearance on the podcast so that dog is the way i deal with my ptsd and depression having a pet. It just helps a lot so anyway. Thank you so much for listening. It has been a joy sharing our hearts with you today. Be sure to check us out on social media. We at facebook at courage to fight again. Instagram also occurred to fight again and twitter at courage again and check us out on our website at courage to fight again dot com a whole lot. More resources there well until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)

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A highlight from S6 E10 - Real Conversations on Mental Health (w/ Special Guest: Patricia Perkins)

"May is mental health awareness month. And i felt it only right to release an episode focusing on the topic of mental health. Now if you've listened to the podcast for any length of time you've no doubt heard me talk about my own struggles with ptsd depression and mon experiences. Not all that uncommon in the veteran community. What you don't often hear though is from the veteran's spouse and on today's episode. I get to sit down with my wife patricia. As she shares the story of her own emotional journey with mental health diagnoses medications. Hospital stays and a whole lot more. This is the we serve now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life your best life by way of introduction my name is aaron perkins i am a us army combat veteran daddy to amazing kiddos. Host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here excited to talk about a subject that i'm passionate about. Yeah absolutely absolutely well. Great to have you here. I'm i'm incredibly happy that you agreed to be on the show. Usually it is me saying. Hey i'm going to be recording tonight. So if you you and the kids can kind of keep it down a little bit and but really really grateful that you here today. So today was one of many days where you're going through this. I don't know call procedure or treatment treatment. Okay so so. Obviously i went with you. Today is able to accompany you to that treatment and it specifically four depression right and so start with today. Let's start with today in a kind of what happened today. And what the treatment is. And let's start there. Sure okay so. The treatment is called. Tm s it means trans cranial magnetic stimulation menendez Treatment that oddly. Enough stimulates your brain. It's post what is supposed to do is to help the neurotransmitters talk to each other better and it is usually reserved for someone who's tried a few different types of medication for depression but it also helps with like anxiety. Ocd and sometimes even physical pain. Okay so so so. This is not a it. Sounds like it's a noninvasive. It's not a surgery type of thing so basically the way they explain it. It's like electromagnetic therapy. Where like in the old days where they would maybe cut. Open your head and maybe electric your brain things like that but this obviously they're not doing that. You can sit down in this chair. It's kind of like the big dentist chair. They strap you all in and they put this big magnet next to your head in a certain spot at a certain level. It's already been determined by your doctor and it made me last twenty minutes. And then you're you're on your way okay. So is that it's not obviously. I know this right before listeners. This is not like a one time thing. This is one of how many treatments you have to get. Okay so today was off my fourth treatment and i think if i did the math right i have at least thirty three more to go. So it's over a nine week period and because of where we live. I have to drive basically an hour and a half to get there. And then i'm there for fifteen to twenty minutes in the drive an hour and a half and and yeah i i definitely know that. That part in itself is frustrating. The drive so let's go back a little bit now so you're having this it might not be invasive but stewart pretty extreme treatment of kind of remapping your brain right yes. It's it's had some side effects already some some anger some tiredness Brain fog lightheadedness. The way the only way. I can explain it. It's like there's a big garden with a huge gate and there's all these locks and each treatment seems to slowly work open a new lock and then hopefully by the end all the locks will be open and king come open and i can be free of depression anxiety. I don't know if that's going to happen. I have faith that it can happen so hopefully it does happen. You me both you both so so take us back a little bit. How did you get to this point. You know obviously you. Have you know some sort of depression or anxiety or whatever take us back to diagnoses and that sort of thing so i i got diagnosed probably sixteen years ago like actual clinical diagnosis of major depressive disorder and house have severe anxiety. I have d. c. Ptsd so what is so ptsd. I know what is cd. Basically childhood post traumatic stress disorder. And then i have. Ocd okay so so ptsd. Veteran community intimately familiar with cps d c p s de. It is then the so. How did that come about. I mean this this is like you know really getting into the nitty gritty of it a little bit but i had parent you know. I had parents that. They weren't believers not that that makes you any less of a good parent but they were involved with things that they shouldn't have been involved with and they didn't have a good relationship with one another so that meant a very rocky relationship with their children and so without getting into too much and making people uncomfortable. This is a really bad childhood really bad and even in my teenage years there was some other stuff that was really bad. So just you know things that people don't really think about as being post traumatic stress disorder. I've heard other people say. How can you even have that. You weren't a soldier. Well that's not reserved for soldiers or servicemen period. Post traumatic stress can happen after a car accident after your home gets broken into after a traumatic. Any traumatic experience you can. Pdf st right right so so with depression. You were diagnosed. She said sixteen years ago crack and so did the anxiety diagnosis. Come along with that or out of that will work. It was shortly after. I think they at i thought maybe it was just really bad depression and they realized that it was both mint so they started treatment to different treatments who different medications and over the years between the two just the depression and anxiety. I know i've had over sixteen or seventeen medications and sixteen or seventeen. I didn't know there were that many others time for i mean i know. There's a lot of medications out there right. But most i know i i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say most people when they're struggling with anxiety depression or even if they do have a legitimate diagnosis of anxiety. Depression or both. It's okay let me go get this. Let me go try it. You know and then if that doesn't work maybe they go try something else but sixteen or seventeen that that just sounds like an extreme number is sensitive to medications and so what may work for a lot of people. Just doesn't seem to work for me. Or i ended up being allergic to it but i will say that i did. This test called a g. e. n. e. s. t. and it's a dna test and that's something that you're psychiatrists can do for you. There is a cost involved but it will tell you which medications and you know. They're all different classes. Work for your dna type so you have a red section and you should stay away from those. You have a yellow section. That may help. And then you have. A green section is more likely to help with your dna type so that can help a lot of people. Stay away from having to try sixteen or seventeen different medications. Sure sure that that's a really good point. And obviously you. You didn't take that 'til later. Right actually took it last year. Yeah so the break i. I wish i could have taken ten years ago. But i don't think even knew about it and that's another thing i would say. Is you know educate yourself. Don't wait on your doctors to find all the resolutions for you. Like feel free to look and research and bring it up to your doctor. you know. it's a good point. So medication is just one side of the depression anxiety. Ptsd just one side of it before the medication happens. There's something that either. Your doctors realize your families realize or you personally realize something different in me. Something is not working as it's supposed to or it's manifesting in in a certain way and i know that when it comes to ptsd specifically it manifests itself in a lot of different ways. They can manifest itself in anger in inability to focus and chronic pain. In a guilt it can manifest itself in different ways. So let's focus on the. Let's say let's. Let's go with depression right the major depressive disorder. How did that or does that manifest itself in your life. The first time. I realized that i might have an issue with. Depression was actually. I had a really bad episode. After i had caitlin so caitlyn's daughter. Sorry caitlyn's her daughter. Yeah she's fourteen now. After i had her. I was sitting just watching tv. And she was sitting there beside me and her little old bouncy seat. And i actually started having these really dark feelings kind of like oppression and actually that coincided with an anxiety attack as well and actually got rushed to the hospital because they thought i was having a pulmonary. Embolism so they thought that. I had blood clots. I was about to die. You know there was but it was a mixture of depressive episode and anxiety attack which i had never felt before and that really scared me and the doctors were able to put me on medication to help with that. It did not stop it but it did help. Sure sure so what what happens next. You know you're you're on this medication. It's helping look what happens. Is there a point at which you realize. That medication isn't working or isn't working as well as it should. Yeah most doctors will tell you you know. Give it two or three weeks to really get in your system if you don't see any changes or if you see getting worse than you're to want to let us know so that we can adjust or change that medication and over the years. That has happened so often. That i i got to this place and i'll say that it's okay to do this if you need to. Own your closet by yourself and cry for a little while. 'cause you're just overwhelmed and nothing seems to be working and you want so badly to be quote unquote normal. Go have cry. Go eat ice cream or chocolate or something. I don't even care. It's okay to do those things. But i got to this place where i was like. None of this is working. I need something completely different. And i think that's when. I did the insight site testing because most of the medications that i had been put on. Were in my red list more in the list that was for your dna. These are not going to work for you. Oh wow so going through this process and the truth is i didn't even realize this at the time we've been married for fifteen plus years and i knew that kept having different medications tried and you like oh. This is not working but we had no idea why. It's not working until this test. You didn't says hey this might actually work for you Yeah that's that stuff okay. So what about the anxiety piece you know. It started with an executive attack How does that manifest itself or did it manifest itself in your life. So i have an odd anxiety like i have panic. Attacks panic attacks but generally speaking. I'm just anxious and it's like my anxiety and my ocd. Like to just hold hands and frolic through my brain and so what. I'm feeling extremely anxious. I have to clean everything so it's kind of like since i can't control my emotions i can't control what's going on in the world. My brain has to find something that can control and the cleanliness in my house. I can control thankfully because you and the kids are pretty neat people. But i have to do have to be able to do something. Control something to calm down. If i don't do that ended up in the closet crying eating chocolate well like you said. That's okay if you have to do. It's not not not every day but so talked about the depression. Talk about the anxiety. Ptsd how does that manifest itself in your life on a day-to-day basis weekly basis. How how often what does it feel like said the. Ptsd is like a whole different monster. That lives somewhere inside of my person. And the worst episodes i have with. Ptsd is when my children especially caitlyn our daughter when she reaches those age those ages where you've espn we. We had talked about this a little bit today. As we're preparing for the podcast but it was as a recall kind of like the same ages or proxy ages where something traumatic happened in your own childhood right so so then. My brain is like imagine that happening to kaitlin. Imagine that having to our son. Christopher and then it's like this overwhelming like it's not a mama bear feeling is a mama dragon. And it's like i will. I will died to protect but at the same time. It's then there's this the the little girl in me is like. How could my mom have let that happen. How could my dad have let that happen. Where was the the parental. where were they. Why did these things even happened. That i have this trauma but we're all human doing the best. We can now. That i'm older i can. I can look at my pass without being completely angry with my parents because they were just doing their best as well. Sure sure so. 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That will significantly reduce your stress anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today. Alright so here we are back. Second half of the show here with my wife patricia talking about mental health. And it's okay. She's looking at me right now. She's like oh just made a noise like it's okay. Well we'll cleared up. It's fine and so so anyway so here talking to my wife patricia about mental health and about her own challenges and struggles with it. And so obviously there's no one in your corner so to speak. I mean there's the stigma associated with it but there's also no one kind of coaching. You through this of like okay. Well if this isn't working here's what you do right not currently. I've had counselors in the past. You know and they've we've tried to work through things. I have been the hospital couple of times. And i think there's a lot of people who mean well but it doesn't mean it's going to work for you and so i feel it's important that people understand that if you do have a mental illness. It's okay to research an advocate for yourself. You don't have to wait on a doctor or counselor or someone who you feel like is more intelligent or just because they have letters after their name that they know you better than you do feel free. No not feel free. Please speak for yourself. that's huge. That is so huge. And i think that advocating for yourself is such a critical element of getting the help you need. Because when i think of veterans who are struggling right. You know whether whether it's a physical health or mental health concern. They know themselves like better than anyone else knows them and so when they go to the doctor when i as a veteran go to the doctor i have an obligation to myself right to be as honest and as really a as direct as i can like look. This is the problem. This is how. I'm feeling. I'm here for you to help me fix it right. But then there's the stigma especially in the military community. Where if something isn't working right in your brain you're not working right. Oh absolutely that is the stigma is is really and i think the worst thing about mental health diagnoses today at least in america. If not all over the world it absolutely needs to be normalized that your your brain is an oregon and just like your heart and all your heart muscle but you could knees your liver. If any of those things were failing if they weren't working like they were supposed to have so many people around you. Hey what can i do for you. What can i do for your family. Could i get my blood tested to see if i could be donor. How in the world could make your life better but you hear someone is in a three month depressive episode and they can't even get out of bed. I don't see people lining up with casseroles. I don't know. I don't see that happening. You know if you have to leave an event because you had an anxiety attack there's whispers. There's not help this is strong. It is so strong. And there's a you know within the military there is a fear and i will say rightly so that if you say hey i have this particular mental condition it can potentially impact your career and in the civilian world because well as a mom i if another mom i don't know maybe somebody's going to hear this and maybe they don't want their kids hanging out but as a mom you think. Oh can this person actually take care of my kid. While i'm away or is everything issue going to be too overwhelmed. Is she going to have some kind of attack. That i don okay. If you know somebody like that. Just educate yourself right and know that that person wouldn't take on that responsibility if they didn't feel they could handle it. Yeah absolutely and you know. That's a critical point to is. There is so much misinformation out there about mental health. And you know here's the thing. Hollywood doesn't help and i'm not going to rant. I'm not. I'm not trying to say like oh. Don't make movies about people with mental conditions. You know but there is this you know. The joker movie that just came out with a joaquin phoenix. That's joker yeah. Okay so you know. He obviously has a mental health problem. It looks like severe depression and he turns out to be this mass murderer. Right and so people associate edison. He's bipolar but go ahead. Fair enough fair enough so people associate those mental health conditions with something so extreme that they saw on a screen or read an article. now there are extreme cases. it's true. I mean you can't just say that that. No one is that bad off but there are people that bad off that they're not usually the people who look like they're doing okay. There those the people who are really struggling there are more signs right than than you just meeting them. Like if i just walked up to you and said hi. My name's patricia. Perkin tie you doing. You would never think i had five mental disorders right. You know someone. who's that far gone. You know they're going to be showing signs. Oh yeah absolutely for sure for sure and you know the thing is when it comes to mental health when it comes to you know having a a severe enough level of mental health challenges concerns whatever. You wanna call them. If you don't have an official diagnosis right there are so many. I guess levels is probably the best way to put it of of severity. Because you know like saying. Hey i'm feeling depressed for a couple of weeks is a far cry from major depressive disorder right okay. Yeah may i believe probably should have been a little more research but it would be depressed for at least six months before. It is a clinical diagnosis. And so there's going to be events someone dies. A friend moves away. You have to switch jobs then you could go through a you know a few days or a week of feeling depressed. That's normal. yeah exactly. That's the normal depression. That's not the go quick. It'll medication so you can feel better. That's right it's just a normal life happens and you get down and i've even had people say to me. Well you know you have a lot of stuff. You're very blessed. You have a nice home. You have a great husband. Smart kids you you you have you have you have you have. That has nothing to do. With what my brain is doing. I have the intelligence to know that. I a blessed person a blessed individual but that does not mean that my brain is going to let me enjoy all the time. Yeah that's so true. That is so true. And so i just saw an article earlier today from cnbc said fifty one percent of young americans are struggling with mental health. Fifty one percent. I can believe and i think a lot of that if i can just put in. My personal opinion is social media. I'm sure you constantly see people who are throwing up. There highlight reels on instagram. And some of them still on facebook and then those who are throwing out things on twitter but there you're not getting their whole life you don't read what's actually going on. I mean if people looked at my facebook they would see highlights. Because i want to show the good. I don't want to show the days. I don't wanna get out bed. Showed the days where. I'm like begrudgingly. Driving my kids to school because i have to. I'm an adult to do these things. You don't see those things and especially the generation under us. They're so obsessed with social media that they think that's real life. I mean i have a good life. But it's not insta worthy like everything. I do isn't gonna be popping up on instagram. Because it's not real life right. That's just advertising then like you said it's just highlights right. Yeah and so. I want to go back to the stigma piece for just a minute. Because that's a piece that i'm really passionate about and you know in the military you know being healthy being fit to fight. That's part of the job if you're broken your broken leg unit can't use you to go to war right. You have to get that leg fixed. I if you're broken mentally your unit may not be able to use you to go to war because like there's something wrong with you and like the. The thing is with the stigma. It's okay in you know outside of the military that things that your body or your brain is not working like it's supposed to and i've heard so many veterans so min- countless veterans really be rating their brothers and sisters in arms when they talk about having. Ptsd like your combat. Experience was different than mine. Therefore you don't have ptsd or you can't be depressed or you can't be anxious like you're just whining because you want to get paid from the va. You want the va to take care of you. That's ridiculous it. It really is our veterans out there who just looking for that that extra little bit of money out a month sure. There are but by and large the majority of veterans who who are having the courage to stand up and say. Hey i got something wrong in my brain. It's not working like supposed to. They should be applauded and say you know what that is. Surreal courage that you having right now to go and say i need help. Yes it takes a ton of courage and just in time out of being a military spouse and then my time out of it and interacting with veterans and even people who are still currently serving. They they have these but they don't even know how to say it out loud. They will become an alcoholic. But there's nothing wrong with me. I had no problem with war. Or when they get out of the military you know they get hooked on drugs. Oh in the military didn't affect me very much. I'll have i don't have any. Ptsd that that crazy stuff you know or all of a sudden. They're wife isn't good enough. Their kids aren't good enough and they want to be away from them at all times. They don't want that interaction but they say they're fine because they're afraid to say i might be broken inside and might need some help. So instead of having the courage to say that they are literally ruining their lives in other ways right what alcohol would drugs with breaking up their homes with neglecting their responsibilities. That's may there's so much i want to. I want to fix it right. I want to fix the stigma. Problem wanted but there is no easy way to do it. But i think what we're doing right here is having the conversation for the world to hear that. Look it's not just veterans. It's not just veteran spouses. It's according to that article. Fifty one percent of young americans who are struggling with some sort of mental health condition right regardless of what title you go by better in active duty man woman boy girl. Mental health is no respecter of persons. I'm sorry mental illness right. No you're right and mental health needs. You know it doesn't matter who you are. What are what color you are just like any like. I said any other body part in any other thing. That may need attention. Don't be afraid to give it that attention. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out. Don't let the stigma hold down. Yeah for sure so from our conversation today. I know we're running up on time. So we're gonna wind this down and you know. Obviously you and. I have talked about this a lot and me in the future. I'm sure we will get you back on the show and talk and talk about about this and how fixing your life especially how the team s treatment is grain because he you know. I'm not afraid to talk about right. My inner demons especially can help somebody else. I feel like i feel like god puts us through situation so that we can help other people and if we can't take the bad and turn it around and help someone than what's it for and i have to have faith that it's it's to help others. Sure sure so. We have alluded to these three big takeaways right like the big takeaways from this episode. We've alluded to them throughout the episode. We've talked about them. We've even said them but remind us remind listeners. What those big three takeaways are from listening to this. I would say the first one is to advocate for yourself like i said. Don't be to research. Don't be afraid to figure out what might work for you. Ask for the jewish site testing. Ask for even if you've been on medication for a long time talking about the s you know there are other ways to go about it than just constantly saying in that cycle of pill after pill after pill with no results there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. So don't be afraid to say. Hey i think this might help me. What do you think. Don't wait on them. The second one i would say is. Don't let the stigma prevent you from seeking help Let's there is nothing wrong with you. If you have mental illness nothing like innately wrong review. You are just a person who is struggling and number three. I would say no that you are not alone like you were saying that article fifty one percent of young americans. This isn't even us. The older americans during these are young americans who were struggling. You're not alone. find group. fine fine started group. It right to you know. Don't don't stay alone either. When you isolate yourself things. Things often get worse so definitely seek out others who may have similar problems going on that you can talk through to to have some sort of accountability with and accountability is huge. It is huge and those are the three big ones. But i wanted to add one more. And it's something that i've done personally and it has to do with what i was talking about with social media and it's so funny because our pastors just said at this sunday delete block. You do not have to look at sally. Suzy sampson's and wish it was yours. Delete her blocking her. If if watching her highlight reel is taking your joy. Delete her if mr man who has it all together all the money all the muscles and the most beautiful wife you've ever seen if that stealing your joy delete him bought him because you need to focus on you and yours is so good. That is so so good so patricia. It is been an amazing conversation with you. I wanna thank you personally. Thank you for your courage to come on the show and talk about not just health in general but your own mental health your own struggles with the diagnoses. You know you've had hospital stays as a result had so many things going your life and so thank you so much for talking about this important topic with us you know. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is. This have accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ and before we go one thing. Patricia wanted me to point out was earlier. she referenced. cpt. St and she called it childhood. Ptsd it is actually complex. Ptsd would she informed me of later in complex. Ptsd is brought about from long term trauma that might be physical emotional sexual abuse own going childhood neglect things like that. It could even be a prisoner of war type of situation that brings about complex. Ptsd so just clarification. There that that was what she was referencing in the second. Half of the episode. You may have heard probably did hear a lot of clicking in the background while that clicking was my burien husky running around on a hardwood floor and unfortunately we can't edit that out he just kind of made a cameo appearance on the podcast so that dog is the way i deal with my ptsd and depression having a pet. It just helps a lot so anyway. Thank you so much for listening. It has been a joy sharing our hearts with you today. Be sure to check us out on social media. We at facebook at courage to fight again. Instagram also occurred to fight again and twitter at courage again and check us out on our website at courage to fight again dot com a whole lot. More resources there well until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

26:16 min | 5 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions after leaving the military and the lack of answers has left you frustrated and probably a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of the craziness that is post military life so you can turn your post military life into your best life. Money was aaron perkins a. Us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos and on this episode of the show. I want to talk to you about identifying your passion in life and how you do that. That's a big question. I think we all have even if we haven't put into so many words like how do identify my passion in life. It's like well aaron. Who are you to talk about identifying passion. Well number one. I've identified my own number two. I developed a process to do just that net processes called the nine line framework which i put into the book called resolve. That is just a step by step guide for you. The veteran to help you to rediscover purpose meaning and you guessed it. Passion in your post military life before i dive into the episode today. I want to take a few minutes until you a little story. I myself love stories. I love hearing them. And i love telling them and this story is really near and dear to my heart because it's about my son. His name is christopher and you may have heard me talk about him on the show before But this story. I've never actually shared on the show because actually just happened about a week or two ago and my son christopher almost twelve years old. he's a normal kid. Not a huge fan of school. Really good in school gets really good grades Does everything well is i. I don't know if i would say popular. But you know people like him he. He's just a normal kid. And he. And i we have this unique Father son relationship. I mean we joke around a lot. We have a very very similar Sense of humor. So we have memes that will share back and forth and that's actually across our entire family that we can laugh at together and everything but this story about his passion for video games. Now you might be thinking well yeah. He's eleven year old boy. eleven year. Old kid boy girl the one but he's eleven year old kid and he loves video games. Yeah what kid doesn't we're here's the thing. He is not just passionate about video games. He is passionate about tech in school and his technical classes studying python programming language. He studying java script and his his his little techy and he loves the technical aspect of it. Well there's this that he has for one of his platforms. And it's called beets saber. You may have heard of it. It's on playstation four for vr. And it's on oculus quest to In fact every year. we're pretty much every year. We get a family gift at christmas and this past year. The family gift that we all could use was the oculus quest to and that is a a virtual reality gaming system. That's fully wireless but the headset on. Hold the controllers and you could just play play games fun and while he has been absolutely just going nuts over this thing having so much fun with it. Well again. this game beats saber. You can create your own levels if you modify the game and there is no right or wrong i should. There is a right or wrong way to do it but there is no manual that you can look at and say okay. This is how you modify find the game. So he gets on discord. he's he finds Some experts who know about modifying the game he chats with him for hours. Some of some of them are as friends he's he's played games with everything and he's talking to them. Like how do i modify this game. What do i need to do. He figures out the programs. He needs to us figures out how to roll the game back to a previous edition. Now he knows how to launch the game with these modifications so he can play his own levels on the game. Keep in mind. This had nothing to do with school this nothing to do with any requirement. This was just something that he wanted to do something that he is naturally gifted at and naturally naturally passionate about and that is that's what that's one of the things i wanna point out here. Today is your passion in life is most likely going to be something that you are naturally geared toward you are naturally good at and maybe even it may even be something that you have spent a lot of time practicing and preparing at and you've spent a lot of time working on developing that skill. It could be anything from woodworking to the medical field to an to. I'm the the passion ideas for your life are virtually endless. But you heard me referenced. The nine line framework earlier. And as i look at this nine line framework. You know again. It's it's this step by step guide. It is the process that helps you rediscover passion in your life after the military. And i look at these these lines in here. These chapters and the storage is told about my son. I can see him in these chapters. I can see how his passion is coming out just in the things that he is naturally doing now in the last episode i mentioned and talked about quite a bit actually line four. Which is what is my personality type. you know. why does it matter. And it's not even so much. Why does it matter. But how does that. Impact me and my passion and my purpose for life. And so i'm going to touch on line for a little bit today but i want to give you some examples from line five later in the show about discovering that passion in your life but line four again i used sixteen personalities dot com. You can go there right now. You can take this free assessment to figure out to learn what your personality type is and again that is not the only tool you can use you. Can use myers briggs. You can use the disk assessment. There are so many tools you can use to figure out your personality because in the military unless you are you had a way different experience than i did. They really ask you. What your what your passion was or even more specifically. They didn't ask what your personality was. Just said hey here the jobs you can pick from pick a job do your job and then you go your military career and you get out and now you're here listening to this show and saying man. How do identify my passion in life. What is it that i am passionate about. How do i find that. Well you'll hear me say this more than once. Pick up a copy of the resolve book. That is really your first step to figuring out your passion and your purpose and your meaning in your life after the military but again light for just goes over. What is your personality type. It walks you through that process of discovering who you are and who you're meant to be and line five asks another question it says what do i have to offer. And that's very specific to you. What do you have to offer the world. Because i believe that. A life focused on making a difference in the world as a life worth living. I think that's really what we're all after is that we want to make a difference. Maybe it's just in our own personal lives. Maybe it's in the lives of our friends or family or our church or our school whatever it may be or or if your teacher may be your students you want to make that positive impact and so line five walks you through that process of figuring out what it is that you have to offer so coming up after the break. That's what i'm going to talk about. I'm gonna share some examples and walk you through blind five and sharing this for free and you can pick up a copy of the book on amazon or on kerr's to fight again dot com but i'm gonna share the the line five here with you and some examples that can help you figure out what it is you are passionate about in your life. That's after the break. Stay with us. Many americans today. Don't realize the stress and anxiety they feel is most likely because of their finances according to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like others can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill. That will significantly reduce your stress and anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right so as we go into these examples. I want you to have an open. Mind here right some of these examples. You may not even thought of. But i i want you to keep in mind that some of these may not apply to you. Some of the may apply to you perfectly but before we get into those examples and went to review. Read you this quote from a retired general martin. Dempsey actually had him on the show. A few seasons ago A great conversation. You can go check that out. He talks about you know continuing to provide leadership in your post military life again. If you don't know years he is the former or the lissi would number was of eighteenth chairman of the joint chiefs of staff and so again great guy. We had a great conversation. Should go check that out. But i want to read you a quote. He said sometimes we wait for thunderclaps drum rolls and clearly on calls to alert us to what's important when actually it's most often the subtle and persistent signals around us. That make the most difference. I want you to think about that for a minute when you think about your passion and life and what. You are naturally geared toward what are those subtle and persistent signals. So in in the book. I talk about the subtle and persistent signal. I got even as a child as a teenager. Really that writing is something i am. Naturally gifted at is something. I'm naturally good at in fact My mother found a poem that i had written She was cleaning. My room was teenagers. Don't ask me why she was cleaning my room and she didn't make me do it but i'm very grateful for her but she was cleaning my room and she comes into the room and she sees this poem that i wrote and when i get home from school she asked me about it. She says hair. Where did you copy this phone for. Almost didn't copy it. I wrote it. And i'm all of a sudden proud of myself because see my mother had always been this voracious reader with a strong command of the english language so hearing her say something like that. Which implied the poem was of this incredibly high quality right. It has stuck with me to this day. That aaron you you're naturally gifted at that and that the poetry. It wasn't anything i had to do. It was something i had in my head and maybe even my heart and just wrote it down. It was something. I felt naturally wrong to do. Just like my son was naturally drawn to develop this modification for this game and figure out all the additional software he needed and how to modify it and how to play the game afterward. I was actually drawn to writing so in that case even though my son and i we get along great and we have great father son relationship were way different as far as our passions. Go and that's okay. It's the thing is my. My writing skills are they. Were constantly improving through my life and the funny thing is even as i wrote the book wonder like am i the most qualified person to to write this book. Maybe maybe i am gifted at writing right. Maybe i am good at this. But am i the most qualified person and so why do i tell you this right. I tell you this. Because i want you to realize something that i'm still learning myself. The skills you have are probably around eighty percents better than you actually think. I want to say that again. The skills that you have are probably around eighty percent better than you actually think. Now what are get the eighty percent number. You know statistically they say what is seventy. Six percent of statistics are made up on the spot. I will say this. Evidence is more inaccessible and nature. But the things you are passionate about. You are geared toward learning more about it it just this natural thing. It's not something that you can really force. Can you learn things and learn more about Passions in your life. of course. you can't can you learn how to take care of the zales in your garden or in your new hangar. The year rose garden right. Is rose garden on. That makes sense but i looked at my window and saw zulia so i i mentioned it so it. Can you learn about that. Scher will you be passionate about it. Maybe you can develop a passion for it but passionate in your life is is this area of your life. That's built in. Its this natural part view. And so where do you go from here right. What are those examples that promised you a before we get into those examples. I want to share with you just a few questions that you can write down to ask yourself and you can kind of fill these out like to help you figure out where you go from here and figure out what it is you have to offer the world so the first question goes right along the lines of my story. I just told about not only about my son but about myself. I have always been good at blank. Fill in the blank there. What is it that you have always been good at something. That seems easy for you for me. It was english and grammar and for my son. Tech is easy for him. Technologies easy for him super easy a he is are basically our systems administrator at the house. he knows so much about For my daughter the things she is naturally good at and she finds easy music. She finds that incredibly easy from wife. She finds the medical field incredibly easy to pick up on. And it's not because it's not challenging to learn it's because we have a passion for those particular things in our lives. Here's a second question you can ask yourself. I don't know why. But i really just enjoy doing the following things and then list those things what things that you do really bring you joy for me. It's writing it's crafting something from nothing. It's looking at this blank page and putting words on it and impacting the world with a those words. And let's see what's the next one number three this. This is kind of long ones. All probably read it a couple of times. I never thought about what. I'm naturally good at and what i enjoy until what so for this question. Think of a time your life in which our knowledge or skills or ability was needed. Think of a time when you were able to use it and you suddenly realized that brought you joy so i to read that one again and explain that a little more. I never thought about what. I'm naturally good at and what i enjoy until this particular event in my life. I never thought about me being really good at writing until my mother when i was fourteen. Fifteen years old picked up that poland in my room and said hey this is really good. Where did you copy this from. I never thought about that. My son may not have ever thought about how good he is attack. Until i pointed it out and said dude that is amazing that you figure that out on your own you contact the experts in and you did everything needs to do on your own and so when you think we think of that like okay. I never thought about what i'm naturally good at. And what i enjoy until a particular event in your life and you think about when your knowledge or your skills or abilities were needed and and then you say okay. I was able to use it at that point in my life and then you suddenly realize man that made me feel really good. That brought me joy. That was dare. I say it fun and a lot of times. We as adults we. We tend to tend to think like well. You know i'm an adult. I don't need to have funding more. I shouldn't be having fun anymore. I'm more focused on business and and making money taking care of my family. Those are all great things but at the end of the day passion following that passion pursuing that passion your life a lot of times what it feels like is fun just a lot of fun number four thing. You can ask yourself. I was able to make a difference in a person's life by using one or more of my unique abilities which not only made a difference but it brought me joy as well and the question is list those skills or abilities that you use to impact someone's life or to make a difference in the world for me. They'll be writing for my son that might be tech my daughter that might be music for my wife that might be the medical field. So there's so many things that again virtually unlimited number of things where you can find passion in your life and it's those things that you are naturally geared toward they. Here's a few examples. I'm going to review these for you just to give you a sense of where you can find passion in your life and don't get caught up on the stories themselves. I want you to imagine yourself. What is it that you personally find your passionate about. Here's example number one. I was a cormon in the navy. And i learned a lot about helping others in times of medical crisis. I found so much joy. In this. I knew my job well and i knew i was making a difference. Pretty simple right pretty direct and so this person says hey. I knew what i was doing was making a difference. And i found joy in it. Here's another really good one along the video games. A video games idea. I love playing video games call of duty fortnight minecraft you name it. I get a sense of joy out of playing them and truth be told. I'm pretty good at it. My unique personality which i found in line for which i now understand. It equips me well as a teacher and so a combined those elements to start a video game players club in my community. We get together. We eat snacks. Play video games. Hold tournaments and get to know each other better. It's such a great time. And i love it. So being a woman in the navy versus playing video games way different right but still these people can find passion in these things see. Here's a here's another one very a very hands on example. I've never really enjoyed school or sitting in the classroom. But one thing i do enjoy working with my hands getting my hands dirty now that i know my unique personality type again that he learned in line for i understand more about wild like this type of work and why i tend to dislike sitting in the classroom. I love solving problems. I distinctly remember one time when my elderly neighbors toilet was leaking. She asked me. If i knew someone who could help and gladly volunteered myself. I checked out the situation figured out what. The problem was unseated. The toilet installed a new wax ring and reseeded the toilet. She was so grateful. And i had fixed a problem for her. I felt really good about myself. That's huge The the the What do you call it. The joy the inner joy that comes from making a positive difference in someone else's life is absolutely huge. Now here's here's the last example share with you because we're running up on time but this one. I really liked this one. Because i have a dog. I love my dog and a lot of you probably have pets as well but this one says. I am a pet whisper. Yes it may sound silly to some. But i have an incredible heart for dogs cats birds and just about any other animal who is suffering or quote unquote down on their luck. In fact i have adopted two dogs and two cats. I've them better lives. This has been so rewarding to me and it is a passion. I continue to pursue. See the thing is there is not one specific passion that we are all going to find fulfilling the passion in your life is going to be your own. Here's the last thing. I want to share with you how we are built as humans. We're designed to live our best life in the context of relationships with other people. I to say that again as humans. We're are designed to live our best lives in the context of relationships with other people. You know chances are we're not all going to be billionaires or a world famous politicians. Are you know billboard topping musicians but we can all make a difference when we find that passion in our lives. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Hope it's been helpful for you and that you've learned at least a little bit about identifying that passion in your life again you can pick up a copy of the resolve book at courage to fight again dot com or on amazon and i will share those links in the show notes as i typically do. Leave us a review. I tunes at definitely helps so much. Of course follow social media kurds. Finding in dot com is our website. Thank you so much for listening. We will see you next time.

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S6 E9 - How to identify what you are passionate about

Courage to Fight Again

26:16 min | 5 months ago

S6 E9 - How to identify what you are passionate about

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions after leaving the military and the lack of answers has left you frustrated and probably a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of the craziness that is post military life so you can turn your post military life into your best life. Money was aaron perkins a. Us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos and on this episode of the show. I want to talk to you about identifying your passion in life and how you do that. That's a big question. I think we all have even if we haven't put into so many words like how do identify my passion in life. It's like well aaron. Who are you to talk about identifying passion. Well number one. I've identified my own number two. I developed a process to do just that net processes called the nine line framework which i put into the book called resolve. That is just a step by step guide for you. The veteran to help you to rediscover purpose meaning and you guessed it. Passion in your post military life before i dive into the episode today. I want to take a few minutes until you a little story. I myself love stories. I love hearing them. And i love telling them and this story is really near and dear to my heart because it's about my son. His name is christopher and you may have heard me talk about him on the show before But this story. I've never actually shared on the show because actually just happened about a week or two ago and my son christopher almost twelve years old. he's a normal kid. Not a huge fan of school. Really good in school gets really good grades Does everything well is i. I don't know if i would say popular. But you know people like him he. He's just a normal kid. And he. And i we have this unique Father son relationship. I mean we joke around a lot. We have a very very similar Sense of humor. So we have memes that will share back and forth and that's actually across our entire family that we can laugh at together and everything but this story about his passion for video games. Now you might be thinking well yeah. He's eleven year old boy. eleven year. Old kid boy girl the one but he's eleven year old kid and he loves video games. Yeah what kid doesn't we're here's the thing. He is not just passionate about video games. He is passionate about tech in school and his technical classes studying python programming language. He studying java script and his his his little techy and he loves the technical aspect of it. Well there's this that he has for one of his platforms. And it's called beets saber. You may have heard of it. It's on playstation four for vr. And it's on oculus quest to In fact every year. we're pretty much every year. We get a family gift at christmas and this past year. The family gift that we all could use was the oculus quest to and that is a a virtual reality gaming system. That's fully wireless but the headset on. Hold the controllers and you could just play play games fun and while he has been absolutely just going nuts over this thing having so much fun with it. Well again. this game beats saber. You can create your own levels if you modify the game and there is no right or wrong i should. There is a right or wrong way to do it but there is no manual that you can look at and say okay. This is how you modify find the game. So he gets on discord. he's he finds Some experts who know about modifying the game he chats with him for hours. Some of some of them are as friends he's he's played games with everything and he's talking to them. Like how do i modify this game. What do i need to do. He figures out the programs. He needs to us figures out how to roll the game back to a previous edition. Now he knows how to launch the game with these modifications so he can play his own levels on the game. Keep in mind. This had nothing to do with school this nothing to do with any requirement. This was just something that he wanted to do something that he is naturally gifted at and naturally naturally passionate about and that is that's what that's one of the things i wanna point out here. Today is your passion in life is most likely going to be something that you are naturally geared toward you are naturally good at and maybe even it may even be something that you have spent a lot of time practicing and preparing at and you've spent a lot of time working on developing that skill. It could be anything from woodworking to the medical field to an to. I'm the the passion ideas for your life are virtually endless. But you heard me referenced. The nine line framework earlier. And as i look at this nine line framework. You know again. It's it's this step by step guide. It is the process that helps you rediscover passion in your life after the military. And i look at these these lines in here. These chapters and the storage is told about my son. I can see him in these chapters. I can see how his passion is coming out just in the things that he is naturally doing now in the last episode i mentioned and talked about quite a bit actually line four. Which is what is my personality type. you know. why does it matter. And it's not even so much. Why does it matter. But how does that. Impact me and my passion and my purpose for life. And so i'm going to touch on line for a little bit today but i want to give you some examples from line five later in the show about discovering that passion in your life but line four again i used sixteen personalities dot com. You can go there right now. You can take this free assessment to figure out to learn what your personality type is and again that is not the only tool you can use you. Can use myers briggs. You can use the disk assessment. There are so many tools you can use to figure out your personality because in the military unless you are you had a way different experience than i did. They really ask you. What your what your passion was or even more specifically. They didn't ask what your personality was. Just said hey here the jobs you can pick from pick a job do your job and then you go your military career and you get out and now you're here listening to this show and saying man. How do identify my passion in life. What is it that i am passionate about. How do i find that. Well you'll hear me say this more than once. Pick up a copy of the resolve book. That is really your first step to figuring out your passion and your purpose and your meaning in your life after the military but again light for just goes over. What is your personality type. It walks you through that process of discovering who you are and who you're meant to be and line five asks another question it says what do i have to offer. And that's very specific to you. What do you have to offer the world. Because i believe that. A life focused on making a difference in the world as a life worth living. I think that's really what we're all after is that we want to make a difference. Maybe it's just in our own personal lives. Maybe it's in the lives of our friends or family or our church or our school whatever it may be or or if your teacher may be your students you want to make that positive impact and so line five walks you through that process of figuring out what it is that you have to offer so coming up after the break. That's what i'm going to talk about. I'm gonna share some examples and walk you through blind five and sharing this for free and you can pick up a copy of the book on amazon or on kerr's to fight again dot com but i'm gonna share the the line five here with you and some examples that can help you figure out what it is you are passionate about in your life. That's after the break. Stay with us. Many americans today. Don't realize the stress and anxiety they feel is most likely because of their finances according to bankrate.com more than six out of ten people couldn't cover a one thousand dollar emergency seven out of ten. Don't budget regularly. An eight out of ten are living paycheck to paycheck to these describe you. Are you ready to live like others. Can't too many make the mistake of budgeting their lifestyle instead of budgeting their basic needs. I my friend. Marco over at mc business lab has a simple process to automate the basic things. You need to live and then never looking at one of those bills again. Head over to live like others can't dot com to get on the wait list for his own line course to learn this automation skill. That will significantly reduce your stress and anxiety. And if you think one on one attention could be the way for you. You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right so as we go into these examples. I want you to have an open. Mind here right some of these examples. You may not even thought of. But i i want you to keep in mind that some of these may not apply to you. Some of the may apply to you perfectly but before we get into those examples and went to review. Read you this quote from a retired general martin. Dempsey actually had him on the show. A few seasons ago A great conversation. You can go check that out. He talks about you know continuing to provide leadership in your post military life again. If you don't know years he is the former or the lissi would number was of eighteenth chairman of the joint chiefs of staff and so again great guy. We had a great conversation. Should go check that out. But i want to read you a quote. He said sometimes we wait for thunderclaps drum rolls and clearly on calls to alert us to what's important when actually it's most often the subtle and persistent signals around us. That make the most difference. I want you to think about that for a minute when you think about your passion and life and what. You are naturally geared toward what are those subtle and persistent signals. So in in the book. I talk about the subtle and persistent signal. I got even as a child as a teenager. Really that writing is something i am. Naturally gifted at is something. I'm naturally good at in fact My mother found a poem that i had written She was cleaning. My room was teenagers. Don't ask me why she was cleaning my room and she didn't make me do it but i'm very grateful for her but she was cleaning my room and she comes into the room and she sees this poem that i wrote and when i get home from school she asked me about it. She says hair. Where did you copy this phone for. Almost didn't copy it. I wrote it. And i'm all of a sudden proud of myself because see my mother had always been this voracious reader with a strong command of the english language so hearing her say something like that. Which implied the poem was of this incredibly high quality right. It has stuck with me to this day. That aaron you you're naturally gifted at that and that the poetry. It wasn't anything i had to do. It was something i had in my head and maybe even my heart and just wrote it down. It was something. I felt naturally wrong to do. Just like my son was naturally drawn to develop this modification for this game and figure out all the additional software he needed and how to modify it and how to play the game afterward. I was actually drawn to writing so in that case even though my son and i we get along great and we have great father son relationship were way different as far as our passions. Go and that's okay. It's the thing is my. My writing skills are they. Were constantly improving through my life and the funny thing is even as i wrote the book wonder like am i the most qualified person to to write this book. Maybe maybe i am gifted at writing right. Maybe i am good at this. But am i the most qualified person and so why do i tell you this right. I tell you this. Because i want you to realize something that i'm still learning myself. The skills you have are probably around eighty percents better than you actually think. I want to say that again. The skills that you have are probably around eighty percent better than you actually think. Now what are get the eighty percent number. You know statistically they say what is seventy. Six percent of statistics are made up on the spot. I will say this. Evidence is more inaccessible and nature. But the things you are passionate about. You are geared toward learning more about it it just this natural thing. It's not something that you can really force. Can you learn things and learn more about Passions in your life. of course. you can't can you learn how to take care of the zales in your garden or in your new hangar. The year rose garden right. Is rose garden on. That makes sense but i looked at my window and saw zulia so i i mentioned it so it. Can you learn about that. Scher will you be passionate about it. Maybe you can develop a passion for it but passionate in your life is is this area of your life. That's built in. Its this natural part view. And so where do you go from here right. What are those examples that promised you a before we get into those examples. I want to share with you just a few questions that you can write down to ask yourself and you can kind of fill these out like to help you figure out where you go from here and figure out what it is you have to offer the world so the first question goes right along the lines of my story. I just told about not only about my son but about myself. I have always been good at blank. Fill in the blank there. What is it that you have always been good at something. That seems easy for you for me. It was english and grammar and for my son. Tech is easy for him. Technologies easy for him super easy a he is are basically our systems administrator at the house. he knows so much about For my daughter the things she is naturally good at and she finds easy music. She finds that incredibly easy from wife. She finds the medical field incredibly easy to pick up on. And it's not because it's not challenging to learn it's because we have a passion for those particular things in our lives. Here's a second question you can ask yourself. I don't know why. But i really just enjoy doing the following things and then list those things what things that you do really bring you joy for me. It's writing it's crafting something from nothing. It's looking at this blank page and putting words on it and impacting the world with a those words. And let's see what's the next one number three this. This is kind of long ones. All probably read it a couple of times. I never thought about what. I'm naturally good at and what i enjoy until what so for this question. Think of a time your life in which our knowledge or skills or ability was needed. Think of a time when you were able to use it and you suddenly realized that brought you joy so i to read that one again and explain that a little more. I never thought about what. I'm naturally good at and what i enjoy until this particular event in my life. I never thought about me being really good at writing until my mother when i was fourteen. Fifteen years old picked up that poland in my room and said hey this is really good. Where did you copy this from. I never thought about that. My son may not have ever thought about how good he is attack. Until i pointed it out and said dude that is amazing that you figure that out on your own you contact the experts in and you did everything needs to do on your own and so when you think we think of that like okay. I never thought about what i'm naturally good at. And what i enjoy until a particular event in your life and you think about when your knowledge or your skills or abilities were needed and and then you say okay. I was able to use it at that point in my life and then you suddenly realize man that made me feel really good. That brought me joy. That was dare. I say it fun and a lot of times. We as adults we. We tend to tend to think like well. You know i'm an adult. I don't need to have funding more. I shouldn't be having fun anymore. I'm more focused on business and and making money taking care of my family. Those are all great things but at the end of the day passion following that passion pursuing that passion your life a lot of times what it feels like is fun just a lot of fun number four thing. You can ask yourself. I was able to make a difference in a person's life by using one or more of my unique abilities which not only made a difference but it brought me joy as well and the question is list those skills or abilities that you use to impact someone's life or to make a difference in the world for me. They'll be writing for my son that might be tech my daughter that might be music for my wife that might be the medical field. So there's so many things that again virtually unlimited number of things where you can find passion in your life and it's those things that you are naturally geared toward they. Here's a few examples. I'm going to review these for you just to give you a sense of where you can find passion in your life and don't get caught up on the stories themselves. I want you to imagine yourself. What is it that you personally find your passionate about. Here's example number one. I was a cormon in the navy. And i learned a lot about helping others in times of medical crisis. I found so much joy. In this. I knew my job well and i knew i was making a difference. Pretty simple right pretty direct and so this person says hey. I knew what i was doing was making a difference. And i found joy in it. Here's another really good one along the video games. A video games idea. I love playing video games call of duty fortnight minecraft you name it. I get a sense of joy out of playing them and truth be told. I'm pretty good at it. My unique personality which i found in line for which i now understand. It equips me well as a teacher and so a combined those elements to start a video game players club in my community. We get together. We eat snacks. Play video games. Hold tournaments and get to know each other better. It's such a great time. And i love it. So being a woman in the navy versus playing video games way different right but still these people can find passion in these things see. Here's a here's another one very a very hands on example. I've never really enjoyed school or sitting in the classroom. But one thing i do enjoy working with my hands getting my hands dirty now that i know my unique personality type again that he learned in line for i understand more about wild like this type of work and why i tend to dislike sitting in the classroom. I love solving problems. I distinctly remember one time when my elderly neighbors toilet was leaking. She asked me. If i knew someone who could help and gladly volunteered myself. I checked out the situation figured out what. The problem was unseated. The toilet installed a new wax ring and reseeded the toilet. She was so grateful. And i had fixed a problem for her. I felt really good about myself. That's huge The the the What do you call it. The joy the inner joy that comes from making a positive difference in someone else's life is absolutely huge. Now here's here's the last example share with you because we're running up on time but this one. I really liked this one. Because i have a dog. I love my dog and a lot of you probably have pets as well but this one says. I am a pet whisper. Yes it may sound silly to some. But i have an incredible heart for dogs cats birds and just about any other animal who is suffering or quote unquote down on their luck. In fact i have adopted two dogs and two cats. I've them better lives. This has been so rewarding to me and it is a passion. I continue to pursue. See the thing is there is not one specific passion that we are all going to find fulfilling the passion in your life is going to be your own. Here's the last thing. I want to share with you how we are built as humans. We're designed to live our best life in the context of relationships with other people. I to say that again as humans. We're are designed to live our best lives in the context of relationships with other people. You know chances are we're not all going to be billionaires or a world famous politicians. Are you know billboard topping musicians but we can all make a difference when we find that passion in our lives. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Hope it's been helpful for you and that you've learned at least a little bit about identifying that passion in your life again you can pick up a copy of the resolve book at courage to fight again dot com or on amazon and i will share those links in the show notes as i typically do. Leave us a review. I tunes at definitely helps so much. Of course follow social media kurds. Finding in dot com is our website. Thank you so much for listening. We will see you next time.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

22:08 min | 5 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions. After leaving the military in the lack of answers has left you frustrated in probably more than a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of what can sometimes be craziness that is your life after the military. See you can turn your post military life into your best life. Now when i was working on this show. I thought you know. I don't even know what this next. Show season six episode. Eight is going to be about so in the show. Topic is making my notes. I just put to be determined. Dvd to be determined. And i thought you know what that is a perfect title or or maybe more appropriately. I think it's a good topic especially right now as it feels like we are nearing the end of this year. Long over a year now global pandemic that is covid nineteen and the truth is it's it feels like our lives have been in a to be determined status for that entire time right so you can't go anywhere you can't really get out of the house much. Could there's not a lot to do now if you like the outdoors. Maybe this was the perfect time for you to do that. but you wanna go shopping. You want to go out to dinner somewhere. We'll sorry you can't because everything is closed so our lives of felt like we're in a to be determined status but you know pandemic aside. Maybe you're wondering some more practical things you know. Maybe you're wondering if you ever be happy or if you ever get married or if you'll ever have kids or maybe you're wondering if the tonight is in your ears. Whatever shut up. I know i wonder sometimes. Or if you're ptsd symptoms will ever subside. I'm willing to bet that you felt an and maybe you're feeling right now that your life is on hold it. It's all in this kind of this murky to be determined status so my question to you is this. How will you know when your life is no longer on. Hold in this episode. I'm gonna share six elements of forward progress with you and buckle up. Because they're not easy. But i can assure you they are worth it. So by way of introduction mining aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran also hosted. This podcast. I've been focusing on the veteran community. You basically ever. Since i got out you know i should be more honest with that right for a very long time after i got out on myself and focused on figuring out what my next steps were what my forward progress looked like once. I finally kind of got a handle on what my own life was looking like or what. It should look like what i wanted it to look like. I thought you know what. I can't keep this to myself. This is not something that i can say. Okay well i figured it out. All my other veteran brothers and sisters can just figure it out for themselves. So i wrote a book called resolve. That is a step by step guide. That takes you through the process of rediscovering purpose after the military but that aside today i want to talk about something really specific and and and a lot of the elements of the book. Come into to today's show. But i want to talk about those six elements afford progress with you. So look no matter where you're at you can live your best life. No matter what phase your life is in your best days are ahead of you and that and that's a key element and it leads right into this first piece. I want to talk about. Get your mind right. And i know you've heard so much about it. No doubt about mindset and how important your mindset is and how much it matters this. Honestly the most important aspect. Because if you don't get your mind right you are setting yourself up for failure if you are going into any challenge. Excuse me any challenge in your life. And you haven't i said okay. Let me you visualize what i'm going to do. Maybe let me rehearse it so to speak. Let me planet out now. Let me go tackle it. If you don't do those things then you are really like. I said setting yourself up to fail but more important than all those all. Those things i just mentioned is what comes before that and that is believing that you're going to be successful. So here's the thing when it comes to mind set right. It is not just a one time event. It's not just this decision. You make to say okay. Well i'm going to be Positive in this particular in this particular regard or I am going to say okay. I'm gonna change my mindset for this one time only. I know i normally have a negative outlook and i think that nothing is going to go my way and i it seems like life is crashing in on me but this one time. I'm going to believe it's going to get better. It's going to be better. Look your mindset. it's a regular event. It's not just a one time event. Maybe it's daily. It might be several times a day. Mindset is absolutely huge and a big part of the mindset is asking the why behind your desire to move forward or more specifically than. This is where i told you some elements of the book will come in. Maybe even the why try and so in the resolve book So i put together for the book. What is called the nine line framework. It is a guide a plan for you. The veteran to step through one step at a time for rediscovering your purpose after the military and line one in this nine line framework is why. Try you know we've already had purpose. We've already done so many things for our country and for allies for families. Why try and that. And that's one of the questions you have to answer in the book. I share more about how to get to that point right but element too so i wanna get your mind right get that mindset all clicking in the right direction element to is discover your purpose and you've heard me talk about a few times you've heard me say that discovery purpose rediscover your purpose even on this show on this episode and again talk a lot about this in the book and i wrote it with the belief that you do not have to suffer through life after the military. I'm going to say that again. You do not have to just suffer through life after the military because there is life after your military service you know. Maybe it's a whole new career or a whole new hobby or new opportunities. You simply couldn't take advantage of you. Were in the military purpose. Looks different for all of us. When i'm friends he was a medic In my unit that we deployed with and he is. He's big into fishing like that's his thing now. I'm not talking like you know. He just goes allen out on the lake every now and then this guy is a competitive fishermen really really great at his skill set and he has found a renewed sense of purpose just in fishing. And you know what is he doing. They're right what is he who what does he really getting at when you look at it like well okay. Cool like he's into fishing. But what does that mean as far as you know his life moving forward or discovering his purpose. Look here's what. Here's what i can guarantee you. In his life in his his new fishing fishing centric life right. He's got a family and everything that he's taking care of but this this is one of the best things for him because he has a passion for it and in that passion he gets to live out what he is really loving about his life and so in his day to day life where he gets to talk about fishing and and go fishing and all this. He's building these relationships with people around him and he's doing so much that it is. It's so cool to see when a veteran really really discover is in uncovers who they're meant to be after the military and again purpose different for all of us. So where i find my purpose are where my old dock mimetic buddy found purpose and fishing. Yours is probably going to be the same and don't expect it to. You shouldn't expect it to look the same as anyone else's that's why again that i created the framework that you can use to discover your own sense of purpose and the next element that leads me right into this. One is forgive. Look forgiveness is one of the least talked about aspects of transitioning from the military and it is arguably the hardest i say arguably because some people never even come close to really dialing into what it is. They need to forgive. They need to forgive themselves. Do they need to forgive. You know an old battle buddy Unit commander you know those who've been victims of trauma or If they have. Ptsd from their from their combat service. You know what are the elements of their lives that they need to forgive and again you know i feel like i'm talking about the book a lot and i'll be honest i am because there's so much more in the book and this is line three it walks you right through the process of forgiveness and forgiveness is not saying you know what it doesn't hurt it's not saying it wasn't a big deal. Forgiveness is choosing your own freedom. And i think i said this on the last episode of but holding onto unforgiveness or or bitterness even is like setting yourself on fire and expecting the person you were bitter at or angry at or holding a grudge against expecting them to die from smoke inhalation so all forgiveness is as tough as it may be all it is all it breaks down to is that you are choosing your own freedom so get your mind right. Discover your purpose and forgive what you need to forgive. Forgive who you need to forgive. Maybe that's you. Maybe that's someone else helmet four. Uncover you in other words. Understand how you tick. What types of choices do you make in specific situations and one of the best tools for this is a personality assessment and yes. That's part of the book as well. That's part of the nine line. Framework is discovering your personality. Because let's be honest in the military you know. Personality is fine when you're hanging out with your friends or your battle buddies or whatever you want to call them right but when it comes to getting the mission done your personality kind of takes a backseat. It seems to knocking out the mission to getting to mission success getting to mission completion and so a big part of your post military life like who am i to figuring out what it is that you are not only passionate about. But what are you naturally geared toward and in the book. I use a tool called sixteen personalities. And you can check out at sixteen personalities dot com that's one six personalities dot com. There's also a myers briggs assessment. There's the disk assessment. Which kind of is how you function in a work environment and so uncovering who you are and the key elements of your personality are really critical to your moving forward in life that brings me to the fifth element. Make a plan. The fifth element of moving forward in your life is to make a plan. Don't just imagine a plan get one now. Look i want to say something about plans here. Right it's a whole lot easier to turn to the left or to the right if you're already moving. Have you ever set in a vehicle. You're sitting in the driver's seat and you turn the wheel all the way to the left. It's kinda hard to do or maybe you need to turn it all the way to the right. It's kind of hard to do because the tires just kind of moving on the on the on the surface there and you're like this is. This is really really difficult. But if you're moving you can turn the wheel just slightly to the left or to the right in. It's a whole lot easier. So when i talk about making a plan you don't have to have every single thing figured out before you start moving. Make general plan now. Look there are a lot of great plans out there. The resolve book has just one of those. Which i've mentioned is the nine line framework. Now let me be honest with you here. Scrawling down your plan on the back of a cocktail. Napkin is about one hundred miles ahead of someone who never writes down their plan at all. There is a fundamental shift in our brains in imagining a plan and then writing out that plan so make a plan element six get accountability. Accountability is like magic. If there is some magic element to rediscovering your purpose and to moving forward in your life. Accountability is really kind of that magic. And you really get to kind of see behind the curtain so to speak and it's kind of the inner workings of how that m- all that magic happens and accountability can compel you to do things. You would not ordinarily do so take for example of a group of friends right so every saturday you go for run with those friends and you know you have to get up at five thirty. Am and it's saturday and you really have to work today. But you're getting up at five five thirty because you're going to go for a run with these friends and it's not just about the run. It's about the fact that if you don't show up there to give you a hard time about dude where were you like. Why were you not here. This is this is ridiculous right. And they're gonna they're gonna mess with you about it and and if you're a guy that they're gonna call out your man card and be like. Hey you know like we showed up. Why didn't you and so the there's this element of like men getting up at five. Am to go run now. If you're like a big into running and you do it anyway. Maybe this story doesn't resonate with you but for most of us. It probably does so. We're supposed to be showing up to this run right and we're like okay. Well here we go. Let's go tackle this thing but Man tired. I don't know if i want to do at this morning at saturday. I've gotten up early every single day this week. I have a hard all man. I just remembered these guys are going to be there. And i had better show up. Or they're going to give me a hard time and the thing is sometimes. It's fun accountability. It's it's light hearted but sometimes it's someone pointing their finger at you and saying. Hey why aren't you doing what you need to do or challenging you to say. Hey here's the next step for you. Here is what you need to be doing in your life. Go do it so element. Six is get account ability. So let me quickly go over these one more time number one. Get your mind right. Your mindset is critical and big critical part of that is asking the uae. Or the why tri- why should i even bother element to discover your purpose. How do you do that. Well one way you can do. That is pick up a copy of the resolve book. I go through that whole process. There and that process is called the nine line framework part of that nine line. Framework is forgiveness. One of the least talked about aspects of transitioning from the military. But i think one of the most critical element for uncover. You check out a personality assessment. Again you can look in the show. Notes shared a couple of links in there and you can use sixteen personalities. Dot com myers briggs disc assessment of variety. Once you can use but uncover how you naturally tick element five. Make a plan. don't just imagine it. Don't just think it write it down if you write it on the back of a cocktail napkin. That's fine at least write it down and remember. You don't have to have everything figured out before you actually start moving. It's a whole lot easier to make adjustments if you're already moving file element here elements six. Get accountability and accountability. Is that magic simultaneously that magic and it is the secret behind everything else that happens in your life. Can you do things without accountability. Sure is it a whole lot harder absolutely because again accountability. Is this thing in our minds. Says hey someone else's relying on you to do this to be that saturday morning. Run to show up at work to be at that volunteer opportunity. You promised you would be at an an again accountability. I cannot stress enough. i wish i could. I guess technically i could shout and scream and throw things and you know you know bangel desk and things like that but really accountability is so huge and it takes a certain level of maturity. It takes a certain level of maturity for to do that. Now look we all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ while i hope these elements have helped you. I hope they hope you think about not only whether you should move forward in life but what your next steps. Are you're practical next steps. Four moving forward in life. And i'm going to ask you specifically right now to go. Pick up a copy of resolve at courage to fight again dot com. Maybe you're not ready to pick up a copy of the book and if not just go follow us on social media where facebook courage to fight again. instagram same thing Twitter at courage again a. We're the most active on facebook. Though post a lot of things there you can join our post nine. Eleven of veterans families facebook group on. That's also great way to get connected. But one other thing i would love free to do is leave us a review on itunes because it helps so much. Thank you so much for tuning into this episode. Be sure to check out our others episodes as well. I mean this is season six. So if you're just joining us secret a lot of content you can catch up on. Thank you again so much for tuning in today. I'll see you right back here. In two weeks we served now. What is the production of courage to fight again.

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S6 E8 - Life: TBD

Courage to Fight Again

22:08 min | 5 months ago

S6 E8 - Life: TBD

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions. After leaving the military in the lack of answers has left you frustrated in probably more than a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of what can sometimes be craziness that is your life after the military. See you can turn your post military life into your best life. Now when i was working on this show. I thought you know. I don't even know what this next. Show season six episode. Eight is going to be about so in the show. Topic is making my notes. I just put to be determined. Dvd to be determined. And i thought you know what that is a perfect title or or maybe more appropriately. I think it's a good topic especially right now as it feels like we are nearing the end of this year. Long over a year now global pandemic that is covid nineteen and the truth is it's it feels like our lives have been in a to be determined status for that entire time right so you can't go anywhere you can't really get out of the house much. Could there's not a lot to do now if you like the outdoors. Maybe this was the perfect time for you to do that. but you wanna go shopping. You want to go out to dinner somewhere. We'll sorry you can't because everything is closed so our lives of felt like we're in a to be determined status but you know pandemic aside. Maybe you're wondering some more practical things you know. Maybe you're wondering if you ever be happy or if you ever get married or if you'll ever have kids or maybe you're wondering if the tonight is in your ears. Whatever shut up. I know i wonder sometimes. Or if you're ptsd symptoms will ever subside. I'm willing to bet that you felt an and maybe you're feeling right now that your life is on hold it. It's all in this kind of this murky to be determined status so my question to you is this. How will you know when your life is no longer on. Hold in this episode. I'm gonna share six elements of forward progress with you and buckle up. Because they're not easy. But i can assure you they are worth it. So by way of introduction mining aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran also hosted. This podcast. I've been focusing on the veteran community. You basically ever. Since i got out you know i should be more honest with that right for a very long time after i got out on myself and focused on figuring out what my next steps were what my forward progress looked like once. I finally kind of got a handle on what my own life was looking like or what. It should look like what i wanted it to look like. I thought you know what. I can't keep this to myself. This is not something that i can say. Okay well i figured it out. All my other veteran brothers and sisters can just figure it out for themselves. So i wrote a book called resolve. That is a step by step guide. That takes you through the process of rediscovering purpose after the military but that aside today i want to talk about something really specific and and and a lot of the elements of the book. Come into to today's show. But i want to talk about those six elements afford progress with you. So look no matter where you're at you can live your best life. No matter what phase your life is in your best days are ahead of you and that and that's a key element and it leads right into this first piece. I want to talk about. Get your mind right. And i know you've heard so much about it. No doubt about mindset and how important your mindset is and how much it matters this. Honestly the most important aspect. Because if you don't get your mind right you are setting yourself up for failure if you are going into any challenge. Excuse me any challenge in your life. And you haven't i said okay. Let me you visualize what i'm going to do. Maybe let me rehearse it so to speak. Let me planet out now. Let me go tackle it. If you don't do those things then you are really like. I said setting yourself up to fail but more important than all those all. Those things i just mentioned is what comes before that and that is believing that you're going to be successful. So here's the thing when it comes to mind set right. It is not just a one time event. It's not just this decision. You make to say okay. Well i'm going to be Positive in this particular in this particular regard or I am going to say okay. I'm gonna change my mindset for this one time only. I know i normally have a negative outlook and i think that nothing is going to go my way and i it seems like life is crashing in on me but this one time. I'm going to believe it's going to get better. It's going to be better. Look your mindset. it's a regular event. It's not just a one time event. Maybe it's daily. It might be several times a day. Mindset is absolutely huge and a big part of the mindset is asking the why behind your desire to move forward or more specifically than. This is where i told you some elements of the book will come in. Maybe even the why try and so in the resolve book So i put together for the book. What is called the nine line framework. It is a guide a plan for you. The veteran to step through one step at a time for rediscovering your purpose after the military and line one in this nine line framework is why. Try you know we've already had purpose. We've already done so many things for our country and for allies for families. Why try and that. And that's one of the questions you have to answer in the book. I share more about how to get to that point right but element too so i wanna get your mind right get that mindset all clicking in the right direction element to is discover your purpose and you've heard me talk about a few times you've heard me say that discovery purpose rediscover your purpose even on this show on this episode and again talk a lot about this in the book and i wrote it with the belief that you do not have to suffer through life after the military. I'm going to say that again. You do not have to just suffer through life after the military because there is life after your military service you know. Maybe it's a whole new career or a whole new hobby or new opportunities. You simply couldn't take advantage of you. Were in the military purpose. Looks different for all of us. When i'm friends he was a medic In my unit that we deployed with and he is. He's big into fishing like that's his thing now. I'm not talking like you know. He just goes allen out on the lake every now and then this guy is a competitive fishermen really really great at his skill set and he has found a renewed sense of purpose just in fishing. And you know what is he doing. They're right what is he who what does he really getting at when you look at it like well okay. Cool like he's into fishing. But what does that mean as far as you know his life moving forward or discovering his purpose. Look here's what. Here's what i can guarantee you. In his life in his his new fishing fishing centric life right. He's got a family and everything that he's taking care of but this this is one of the best things for him because he has a passion for it and in that passion he gets to live out what he is really loving about his life and so in his day to day life where he gets to talk about fishing and and go fishing and all this. He's building these relationships with people around him and he's doing so much that it is. It's so cool to see when a veteran really really discover is in uncovers who they're meant to be after the military and again purpose different for all of us. So where i find my purpose are where my old dock mimetic buddy found purpose and fishing. Yours is probably going to be the same and don't expect it to. You shouldn't expect it to look the same as anyone else's that's why again that i created the framework that you can use to discover your own sense of purpose and the next element that leads me right into this. One is forgive. Look forgiveness is one of the least talked about aspects of transitioning from the military and it is arguably the hardest i say arguably because some people never even come close to really dialing into what it is. They need to forgive. They need to forgive themselves. Do they need to forgive. You know an old battle buddy Unit commander you know those who've been victims of trauma or If they have. Ptsd from their from their combat service. You know what are the elements of their lives that they need to forgive and again you know i feel like i'm talking about the book a lot and i'll be honest i am because there's so much more in the book and this is line three it walks you right through the process of forgiveness and forgiveness is not saying you know what it doesn't hurt it's not saying it wasn't a big deal. Forgiveness is choosing your own freedom. And i think i said this on the last episode of but holding onto unforgiveness or or bitterness even is like setting yourself on fire and expecting the person you were bitter at or angry at or holding a grudge against expecting them to die from smoke inhalation so all forgiveness is as tough as it may be all it is all it breaks down to is that you are choosing your own freedom so get your mind right. Discover your purpose and forgive what you need to forgive. Forgive who you need to forgive. Maybe that's you. Maybe that's someone else helmet four. Uncover you in other words. Understand how you tick. What types of choices do you make in specific situations and one of the best tools for this is a personality assessment and yes. That's part of the book as well. That's part of the nine line. Framework is discovering your personality. Because let's be honest in the military you know. Personality is fine when you're hanging out with your friends or your battle buddies or whatever you want to call them right but when it comes to getting the mission done your personality kind of takes a backseat. It seems to knocking out the mission to getting to mission success getting to mission completion and so a big part of your post military life like who am i to figuring out what it is that you are not only passionate about. But what are you naturally geared toward and in the book. I use a tool called sixteen personalities. And you can check out at sixteen personalities dot com that's one six personalities dot com. There's also a myers briggs assessment. There's the disk assessment. Which kind of is how you function in a work environment and so uncovering who you are and the key elements of your personality are really critical to your moving forward in life that brings me to the fifth element. Make a plan. The fifth element of moving forward in your life is to make a plan. Don't just imagine a plan get one now. Look i want to say something about plans here. Right it's a whole lot easier to turn to the left or to the right if you're already moving. Have you ever set in a vehicle. You're sitting in the driver's seat and you turn the wheel all the way to the left. It's kinda hard to do or maybe you need to turn it all the way to the right. It's kind of hard to do because the tires just kind of moving on the on the on the surface there and you're like this is. This is really really difficult. But if you're moving you can turn the wheel just slightly to the left or to the right in. It's a whole lot easier. So when i talk about making a plan you don't have to have every single thing figured out before you start moving. Make general plan now. Look there are a lot of great plans out there. The resolve book has just one of those. Which i've mentioned is the nine line framework. Now let me be honest with you here. Scrawling down your plan on the back of a cocktail. Napkin is about one hundred miles ahead of someone who never writes down their plan at all. There is a fundamental shift in our brains in imagining a plan and then writing out that plan so make a plan element six get accountability. Accountability is like magic. If there is some magic element to rediscovering your purpose and to moving forward in your life. Accountability is really kind of that magic. And you really get to kind of see behind the curtain so to speak and it's kind of the inner workings of how that m- all that magic happens and accountability can compel you to do things. You would not ordinarily do so take for example of a group of friends right so every saturday you go for run with those friends and you know you have to get up at five thirty. Am and it's saturday and you really have to work today. But you're getting up at five five thirty because you're going to go for a run with these friends and it's not just about the run. It's about the fact that if you don't show up there to give you a hard time about dude where were you like. Why were you not here. This is this is ridiculous right. And they're gonna they're gonna mess with you about it and and if you're a guy that they're gonna call out your man card and be like. Hey you know like we showed up. Why didn't you and so the there's this element of like men getting up at five. Am to go run now. If you're like a big into running and you do it anyway. Maybe this story doesn't resonate with you but for most of us. It probably does so. We're supposed to be showing up to this run right and we're like okay. Well here we go. Let's go tackle this thing but Man tired. I don't know if i want to do at this morning at saturday. I've gotten up early every single day this week. I have a hard all man. I just remembered these guys are going to be there. And i had better show up. Or they're going to give me a hard time and the thing is sometimes. It's fun accountability. It's it's light hearted but sometimes it's someone pointing their finger at you and saying. Hey why aren't you doing what you need to do or challenging you to say. Hey here's the next step for you. Here is what you need to be doing in your life. Go do it so element. Six is get account ability. So let me quickly go over these one more time number one. Get your mind right. Your mindset is critical and big critical part of that is asking the uae. Or the why tri- why should i even bother element to discover your purpose. How do you do that. Well one way you can do. That is pick up a copy of the resolve book. I go through that whole process. There and that process is called the nine line framework part of that nine line. Framework is forgiveness. One of the least talked about aspects of transitioning from the military. But i think one of the most critical element for uncover. You check out a personality assessment. Again you can look in the show. Notes shared a couple of links in there and you can use sixteen personalities. Dot com myers briggs disc assessment of variety. Once you can use but uncover how you naturally tick element five. Make a plan. don't just imagine it. Don't just think it write it down if you write it on the back of a cocktail napkin. That's fine at least write it down and remember. You don't have to have everything figured out before you actually start moving. It's a whole lot easier to make adjustments if you're already moving file element here elements six. Get accountability and accountability. Is that magic simultaneously that magic and it is the secret behind everything else that happens in your life. Can you do things without accountability. Sure is it a whole lot harder absolutely because again accountability. Is this thing in our minds. Says hey someone else's relying on you to do this to be that saturday morning. Run to show up at work to be at that volunteer opportunity. You promised you would be at an an again accountability. I cannot stress enough. i wish i could. I guess technically i could shout and scream and throw things and you know you know bangel desk and things like that but really accountability is so huge and it takes a certain level of maturity. It takes a certain level of maturity for to do that. Now look we all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ while i hope these elements have helped you. I hope they hope you think about not only whether you should move forward in life but what your next steps. Are you're practical next steps. Four moving forward in life. And i'm going to ask you specifically right now to go. Pick up a copy of resolve at courage to fight again dot com. Maybe you're not ready to pick up a copy of the book and if not just go follow us on social media where facebook courage to fight again. instagram same thing Twitter at courage again a. We're the most active on facebook. Though post a lot of things there you can join our post nine. Eleven of veterans families facebook group on. That's also great way to get connected. But one other thing i would love free to do is leave us a review on itunes because it helps so much. Thank you so much for tuning into this episode. Be sure to check out our others episodes as well. I mean this is season six. So if you're just joining us secret a lot of content you can catch up on. Thank you again so much for tuning in today. I'll see you right back here. In two weeks we served now. What is the production of courage to fight again.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

19:53 min | 5 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"If you ever get married or if you'll ever have kids or maybe you're wondering if the tonight is in your ears. Whatever shut up. I know i wonder sometimes. Or if you're ptsd symptoms will ever subside. I'm willing to bet that you felt an and maybe you're feeling right now that your life is on hold it. It's all in this kind of this murky to be determined status so my question to you is this. How will you know when your life is no longer on. Hold in this episode. I'm gonna share six elements of forward progress with you and buckle up. Because they're not easy. But i can assure you they are worth it. So by way of introduction mining aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran also hosted. This podcast. I've been focusing on the veteran community. You basically ever. Since i got out you know i should be more honest with that right for a very long time after i got out on myself and focused on figuring out what my next steps were what my forward progress looked like once. I finally kind of got a handle on what my own life was looking like or what. It should look like what i wanted it to look like. I thought you know what. I can't keep this to myself. This is not something that i can say. Okay well i figured it out. All my other veteran brothers and sisters can just figure it out for themselves. So i wrote a book called resolve. That is a step by step guide. That takes you through the process of rediscovering purpose after the military but that aside today i want to talk about something really specific and and and a lot of the elements of the book. Come into to today's show. But i want to talk about those six elements afford progress with you. So look no matter where you're at you can live your best life. No matter what phase your life is in your best days are ahead of you and that and that's a key element and it leads right into this first piece. I want to talk about. Get your mind right. And i know you've heard so much about it. No doubt about mindset and how important your mindset is and how much it matters this. Honestly the most important aspect. Because if you don't get your mind right you are setting yourself up for failure if you are going into any challenge. Excuse me any challenge in your life. And you haven't i said okay. Let me you visualize what i'm going to do. Maybe let me rehearse it so to speak. Let me planet out now. Let me go tackle it. If you don't do those things then you are really like. I said setting yourself up to fail but more important than all those all. Those things i just mentioned is what comes before that and that is believing that you're going to be successful. So here's the thing when it comes to mind set right. It is not just a one time event. It's not just this decision. You make to say okay. Well i'm going to be Positive in this particular in this particular regard or I am going to say okay. I'm gonna change my mindset for this one time only. I know i normally have a negative outlook and i think that nothing is going to go my way and i it seems like life is crashing in on me but this one time. I'm going to believe it's going to get better. It's going to be better. Look your mindset. it's a regular event. It's not just a one time event. Maybe it's daily. It might be several times a day. Mindset is absolutely huge and a big part of the mindset is asking the why behind your desire to move forward or more specifically than. This is where i told you some elements of the book will come in. Maybe even the why try and so in the resolve book So i put together for the book. What is called the nine line framework. It is a guide a plan for you. The veteran to step through one step at a time for rediscovering your purpose after the military and line one in this nine line framework is why. Try you know we've already had purpose. We've already done so many things for our country and for allies for families. Why try and that. And that's one of the questions you have to answer in the book. I share more about how to get to that point right but element too so i wanna get your mind right get that mindset all clicking in the right direction element to is discover your purpose and you've heard me talk about a few times you've heard me say that discovery purpose rediscover your purpose even on this show on this episode and again talk a lot about this in the book and i wrote it with the belief that you do not have to suffer through life after the military. I'm going to say that again. You do not have to just suffer through life after the military because there is life after your military service you know. Maybe it's a whole new career or a whole new hobby or new opportunities. You simply couldn't take advantage of you. Were in the military purpose. Looks different for all of us. When i'm friends he was a medic In my unit that we deployed with and he is. He's big into fishing like that's his thing now. I'm not talking like you know. He just goes allen out on the lake every now and then this guy is a competitive fishermen really really great at his skill set and he has found a renewed sense of purpose just in fishing. And you know what is he doing. They're right what is he who what does he really getting at when you look at it like well okay. Cool like he's into fishing. But what does that mean as far as you know his life moving forward or discovering his purpose. Look here's what. Here's what i can guarantee you. In his life in his his new fishing fishing centric life right. He's got a family and everything that he's taking care of but this this is one of the best things for him because he has a passion for it and in that passion he gets to live out what he is really loving about his life and so in his day to day life where he gets to talk about fishing and and go fishing and all this. He's building these relationships with people around him and he's doing so much that it is. It's so cool to see when a veteran really really discover is in uncovers who they're meant to be after the military and again purpose different for all of us. So where i find my purpose are where my old dock mimetic buddy found purpose and fishing. Yours is probably going to be the same and don't expect it to. You shouldn't expect it to look the same as anyone else's that's why again that i created the framework that you can use to discover your own sense of purpose and the next element that leads me right into this. One is forgive. Look forgiveness is one of the least talked about aspects of transitioning from the military and it is arguably the hardest i say arguably because some people never even come close to really dialing into what it is. They need to forgive. They need to forgive themselves. Do they need to forgive. You know an old battle buddy Unit commander you know those who've been victims of trauma or If they have. Ptsd from their from their combat service. You know what are the elements of their lives that they need to forgive and again you know i feel like i'm talking about the book a lot and i'll be honest i am because there's so much more in the book and this is line three it walks you right through the process of forgiveness and forgiveness is not saying you know what it doesn't hurt it's not saying it wasn't a big deal. Forgiveness is choosing your own freedom. And i think i said this on the last episode of but holding onto unforgiveness or or bitterness even is like setting yourself on fire and expecting the person you were bitter at or angry at or holding a grudge against expecting them to die from smoke inhalation so all forgiveness is as tough as it may be all it is all it breaks down to is that you are choosing your own freedom so get your mind right. Discover your purpose and forgive what you need to forgive. Forgive who you need to forgive. Maybe that's you. Maybe that's someone else helmet four. Uncover you in other words. Understand how you tick. What types of choices do you make in specific situations and one of the best tools for this is a personality assessment and yes. That's part of the book as well. That's part of the nine line. Framework is discovering your personality. Because let's be honest in the military you know. Personality is fine when you're hanging out with your friends or your battle buddies or whatever you want to call them right but when it comes to getting the mission done your personality kind of takes a backseat. It seems to knocking out the mission to getting to mission success getting to mission completion and so a big part of your post military life like who am i to figuring out what it is that you are not only passionate about. But what are you naturally geared toward and in the book. I use a tool called sixteen personalities. And you can check out at sixteen personalities dot com that's one six personalities dot com. There's also a myers briggs assessment. There's the disk assessment. Which kind of is how you function in a work environment and so uncovering who you are and the key elements of your personality are really critical to your moving forward in life that brings me to the fifth element. Make a plan. The fifth element of moving forward in your life is to make a plan. Don't just imagine a plan get one now. Look i want to say something about plans here. Right it's a whole lot easier to turn to the left or to the right if you're already moving. Have you ever set in a vehicle. You're sitting in the driver's seat and you turn the wheel all the way to the left. It's kinda hard to do or maybe you need to turn it all the way to the right. It's kind of hard to do because the tires just kind of moving on the on the on the surface there and you're like this is. This is really really difficult. But if you're moving you can turn the wheel just slightly to the left or to the right in. It's a whole lot easier. So when i talk about making a plan you don't have to have every single thing figured out before you start moving. Make general plan now. Look there are a lot of great plans out there. The resolve book has just one of those. Which i've mentioned is the nine line framework. Now let me be honest with you here. Scrawling down your plan on the back of a cocktail. Napkin is about one hundred miles ahead of someone who never writes down their plan at all. There is a fundamental shift in our brains in imagining a plan and then writing out that plan so make a plan element six get accountability. Accountability is like magic. If there is some magic element to rediscovering your purpose and to moving forward in your life. Accountability is really kind of that magic. And you really get to kind of see behind the curtain so to speak and it's kind of the inner workings of how that m- all that magic happens and accountability can compel you to do things. You would not ordinarily do so take for example of a group of friends right so every saturday you go for run with those friends and you know you have to get up at five thirty. Am and it's saturday and you really have to work today. But you're getting up at five five thirty because you're going to go for a run with these friends and it's not just about the run. It's about the fact that if you don't show up there to give you a hard time about dude where were you like. Why were you not here. This is this is ridiculous right. And they're gonna they're gonna mess with you about it and and if you're a guy that they're gonna call out your man card and be like. Hey you know like we showed up. Why didn't you and so the there's this element of like men getting up at five. Am to go run now. If you're like a big into running and you do it anyway. Maybe this story doesn't resonate with you but for most of us. It probably does so. We're supposed to be showing up to this run right and we're like okay. Well here we go. Let's go tackle this thing but Man tired. I don't know if i want to do at this morning at saturday. I've gotten up early every single day this week. I have a hard all man. I just remembered these guys are going to be there. And i had better show up. Or they're going to give me a hard time and the thing is sometimes. It's fun accountability. It's it's light hearted but sometimes it's someone pointing their finger at you and saying. Hey why aren't you doing what you need to do or challenging you to say. Hey here's the next step for you. Here is what you need to be doing in your life. Go do it so element. Six is get account ability. So let me quickly go over these one more time number one. Get your mind right. Your mindset is critical and big critical part of that is asking the uae. Or the why tri- why should i even bother element to discover your purpose. How do you do that. Well one way you can do. That is pick up a copy of the resolve book. I go through that whole process. There and that process is called the nine line framework part of that nine line. Framework is forgiveness. One of the least talked about aspects of transitioning from the military. But i think one of the most critical element for uncover. You check out a personality assessment. Again you can look in the show. Notes shared a couple of links in there and you can use sixteen personalities. Dot com myers briggs disc assessment of variety. Once you can use but uncover how you naturally tick element five. Make a plan. don't just imagine it. Don't just think it write it down if you write it on the back of a cocktail napkin. That's fine at least write it down and remember. You don't have to have everything figured out before you actually start moving. It's a whole lot easier to make adjustments if you're already moving file element here elements six. Get accountability and accountability. Is that magic simultaneously that magic and it is the secret behind everything else that happens in your life. Can you do things without accountability. Sure is it a whole lot harder absolutely because again accountability. Is this thing in our minds. Says hey someone else's relying on you to do this to be that saturday morning. Run to show up at work to be at that volunteer opportunity. You promised you would be at an an again accountability. I cannot stress enough. i wish i could. I guess technically i could shout and scream and throw things and you know you know bangel desk and things like that but really accountability is so huge and it takes a certain level of maturity. It takes a certain level of maturity for to do that. Now look we all have a lot of questions but the most important question you can ask yourself is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ while i hope these elements have helped you. I hope they hope you think about not only whether you should move forward in life but what your next steps. Are you're practical next steps. Four moving forward in life. And i'm going to ask you specifically right now to go. Pick up a copy of resolve at courage to fight again dot com. Maybe you're not ready to pick up a copy of the book and if not just go follow us on social media where facebook courage to fight again. instagram same thing Twitter at courage again a. We're the most active on facebook. Though post a lot of things there you can join our post nine. Eleven of veterans families facebook group on. That's also great way to get connected. But one other thing i would love free to do is leave us a review on itunes because it helps so much. Thank you so much for tuning into this episode. Be sure to check out our others episodes as well. I mean this is season six. So if you're just joining us secret a lot of content you can catch up on. Thank you again so much for tuning in today. I'll see you right.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

23:00 min | 6 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions after leaving the military and the lack of answers looking frustrated and probably a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of what can sometimes be well just some craziness that is post military life so you can do more than survive. You can thrive my name. Is aaron perkins. I'm us army. Combat veteran husband. Who beautiful wife daddy to two amazing kiddos and the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the process of rediscovering purpose in your post military life sue. You can thrive so the questions we talk about on the show you know. A lot of them are direct questions. You know how to use eleven gi bill. What's new for veterans. twenty one. Those are just a couple of things we talked about in the season. This is a season six episode. Seven and we're tackling a tough question today and there's no single answer to that's the toughest part about this question so before we dive into the question. I want you to think of math equations for minute. Just really simple ones. Two plus two. What's two plus two. It's four right so very simple. Very easy math equation vice. What's tuplice to. You're always going to say you're always going to know. Won't let's four but if i say what math equations when you finish them we'll have four as that end number and be like man. I don't know that's almost an unlimited number of answers. What's the same thing today. Because today's question is surrounding how you build resilience when a family member has a chronic condition and there was a virtually unlimited number of answers to this question. But i'm going to do my best to unpack those and there's a lot to unpack here so let's get started so my son. Christopher was born in two thousand eight and he had a kidney disease and still. Has this kidney disease to this day and We knew that he had some problems with his kidneys. Because they found the these problems on an ultrasound. When i was in iraq and my wife was still in germany and The the did the ultrasounds that hey you know what we recommend you go ahead and head back to the states because you know you can get you can get better medical care there in the states and so my wife moved back what she thought was temporarily and ended up being a permanent move I- redeployed early on and a compassionate reassignment and Got to fort knox kentucky which was the closest. Us army post Where to where. My son was getting his medical care and for the first couple years of his life he went through. Thing was eleven or twelve operations and Numerous other procedures to get these kidneys fixed. Now today. it's amazing it. You would never know. A single thing was wrong within the last couple of times. He's gone to the kidney. Specialists are like look his kidney. Function is great. He's doing very very well. And so that was a trial by fire so to speak. That was kind of like. Hey this this is A method i guess. A real world Test to see if you. Aaron are resilient and so. I learned a lot about resilience just in that experience. You know because again this is not just a flash in the pan you know Something one thing happened and then we had to deal with that. You know a broken limb or you know an accident or something like that. It was a chronic condition and again still is to this day but i learned a lot about resilience through dealing with my son's challenges with that disease and if you think back to military life right and this is army specifically i have to expect that all the services are like this but they build resilience in to the training plan. You know and as important as that is personal resilience all together now the past two months. I'll be honest with you. Guys have been absolutely brutal. They've been crazy because not only does my son have a kidney disease but my wife has chronic conditions as well so the past couple of months. My wife and i got her permission to tell some of her story. Her story is man. If if you ever meet my wife asked her to tell you her story because it is absolutely jaw dropping. How she is where she is today. You know based on where she came from and an all the the difficulties she came through to become the woman she is today but just in these past couple of months We experienced quite the scare and that scare It it seemed like it was cancer. Just be honest so for A while we were getting tests and then waiting for more tests and we got those tests and We said okay well. We're just going to get through this. You know no matter what happens. We're we're in this together and we're gonna stick together through this well. My wife goes to get a biopsy and she gets this biopsy. She's in recovery. The biopsy went fine. It was painful but it went fine. nothing was unexpected But it went fine while she was in recovery and this recovery was just a quick recovery. Just a few hours. She had what is called a ti or a mini stroke. And so we're like. oh my goodness how. In the world number-one how in the world is this happened number. Two how do we deal with this now. You know this is. This seems so much more serious than what it The what started out to be. We thought it was going into get a biopsy and and now here you've got to stay in the hospital. You've gotta be admitted well actually admitted to one hospital then transferred to another because at first hospital was too small and they didn't have the right doctors. There had to be transferred to another hospital and then finally a few days later she gets out. She's getting slowly better. But we still don't have those answers right. Don't have the answers in the biopsy because it takes a week or more to come back and you know she finally gets these answers and they're like yeah. Well we really don't know what it is. We really don't know what it is. It's not cancer. But we're not sure. And so they said. Well we want to send you to an autoimmune specialist and and those Those doctors are are booked up forever and well we can get you. Maybe like june july and so here we are still waiting on those answers and obviously all of this is stressing her out now. Little bit about that mini stroke just answered stress for her brings about these These symptoms where It stress basically over stresses her brain and she ended up needing to quit her job. And you talk about frustrating. And i don't mean frustrating like all you can't work anymore but she was super frustrated at like me. Why in the world is this happening. And and you know. What can i do to help and to build that resilience right but this is. This is not a story about my son. This is not a story about my wife specifically. Today's show is all about building that resilience when your family member has a chronic condition. And so i'll just tell you over. This was going with my wife. I stopped everything i could. You know some of you may have seen an email from said. Hey sorry. Our live mental health event An open dialogue mental health is going to be cancelled if your sponsor for the event. You've already paid. You know we're going to refund your money Which which already did. But there were so many things that i was doing that having a hand in that i said you know what i've just gonna stop doing those things and focus on what matters most right now focus and for me. That's my family. And and i think that is a key element to resilience is focusing on what you need to focus on and again. I know that sounds vague. Right but what is it that you personally need to focus on. Because i can't tell you what you should focus on. I can't tell you that. I wish i could but unfortunately i can't at so. I resigned my position from a nonprofit board Alabama veteran here in here in obviously alabama But also got some help from facebook in preparation In preparation for this episode and Some of you responded and told me how you build resilience in your own personal life. And i want to go through some of those responses real quick and then i'll dive into the five science backed strategies to build resilience but on facebook right. You know one of my friends. He said it. Because i asked i said look. I'm news and helping an oak upcoming podcasts. What are your go-to strategies for building resilience in your personal life and one of my friends. He's kind of a kind of a jokester but he says he says avoiding people and puts us little laughing face or winking face at the end of the comment but the the fact is sometimes that is the to do to help you build resilience and focus on what matters most to you another person. I and i love this. She said it's all about the thought life. It's about your mindset and and she also she said. I'm practicing telling myself no just to exercise that muscle while you know what that's not a bad idea and so there was a number of really good comments here but a couple of them Not a couple of them. I should say a couple of themes came out number. One was faith how my friends saying you know what. I'm learning to do what i've needed to do for years. And that's focus on my faith. You know my faith pushes me past that present crisis or would i'm perceiving as a crisis right you know made. My faith is reading and prayer. And you guys know if if you've listened to this podcast before that you know. This isn't absolutely faith-based podcasts. You know and and my my faith is that of christianity of following jesus But faith has been incredibly important for those seeking to build resilience in a personal lives and Additionally is time for self reflection so one thing is faith is the one theme that came out in the second was self reflection scheduled time for relaxation. And so using those hobbies or those Chill lacks kinda relaxing moments and building those in to your everyday life so that you can handle those stressors right And i wanna mention one of the thing this was. This was a a another theme. That that i know i said only two. There's actually three themes that came out and that's relationships. Relationships are so critically important and one guy actually When my friends here in the area said whoa to him and this is a scripture verse. Actually he's fourteen. He says woe to him who was alone when he falls and doesn't have another lift him up because look lifestyle right. It's really really tough. And the truth is we can't do it by ourselves. We weren't meant to we weren't designed to So it's really really important to have those people in our lives to help us when we can't help ourselves so having those strong relationships around us In a one one other one other comment. I wanna to point out before you get to the five science back strategies for building resilience practice resilience by practicing being resilient each time. Something happens to us. We need to put that in her memory so next time that happens to us even if even if it never happens again we we have that memory of what we did as we figured out you know kind of how to go through that process the first time now. What does that have to do. With a chronic condition you a family member having a chronic condition. All those things apply. They apply directly. Okay so five. Science back strategies to build resilience and this will take just a few minutes number one change the narrative. So look when something bad happens whether it's a single event or a long term Kind of episode right. We often relive the event over and over in our heads and it's called ruminating rehashing the pain and and it it's like we're spinning our wheels. Basically you know There's a study. Said you know what maybe try expressive writing. You know to try gaining some new insights into the challenges in your lives. You know there are a few different ways. You can manage that but that you can change the narrative But one of the one of the ways is to reframe it in another Another perspective or another light. How do you that a one of the things you can do is talk to those in your life that you have those strong relationships with another reason why relationships are so incredibly important. That's the first one number to face your fears. Sure like man. I don't know what's going to happen. In my spouse's life from my child's life because of this chronic condition face it running away is not going to help and when i say face it i i don't mean just dive headlong into a by yourself and tackle it all alone. Another reason why those relationships are so important. So even if you know it's your spouse that's going through something being able to talk to someone else about it about what's going on in your life and how you were feeling is so incredibly valuable. You can't even put a number on it so number one going to change the narrative number to face your fears and face those fears with someone else number three and i'm gonna put this link. This is a great article will put this link in the show notes. You can check out this entire article yourself but practice self compassion. Think of it. Think of what. You're going through right now and think of that in someone else's perspective like if someone else had the same challenges you were having right. Now maybe your child is a chronic condition or your parent or your spouse and they came to you and said hey i. I'm having this problem you know. My wife had a cancer scare. She had many stroke and then We sort of know what's going on. Oh gosh i i don't know what to do. What would you do. Chances are you would be compassionate with them and we know fear versity they can make us feel really alone and we wonder why were the only ones feeling this way and what exactly is wrong with us and check chances are. There's nothing wrong with us at all. You know the there's this real problem with And with i within the veteran community that we all seem to think we're alone and the truth is were not and another reason why you need those strong relationships so you can remember. Hey i'm not alone this but practice self compassion be compassionate to yourself number four meditate and. I know that meditation sometimes gets a bad rap. But i will say. I've tried it myself meditation. Mindfulness and it is a wonderful stress. Reliever i will let you do your own research on that. But there is such value in meditation number. Five and this one is critically important. Cultivate forgiveness. And here's the thing. When it comes to a chronic condition of family member whether that's your spouse or child or your parent or or sibling you can sometimes get this. You can get mad right. And what is there to be mad at. Who is there to be mad at. Well you know you can be that nature you can be mad at god. You can be frustrated but holding a grudge is only going to hold you back. And and that expands far beyond just the Know caught debating forgiveness for forgiveness. Sake right extends will beyond that in well beyond the chronicle condition idea and goes further into your entire life because my pastor says it like this he says holding a grudge against someone is like setting yourself on fire and hoping. The other person dies from smoke inhalation. I know sometimes we feel like man. I've got to hold on to this grudge. I'm not going to forgive but cultivate forgiveness. And there's an entire chapter dedicated to forgiveness in the resolve book. And so i love you to check that out Head over to kurds fight again. Dot com click on. Get the book and you can find out more about forgiveness what that looks like. In the veteran's life look stress and struggles come in many forms in life adversity trauma. Fear shame betrayal of trust. Look there's a lot of things you can do though that can help you learn to cultivate forgiveness so those five science backs strategies to build resilience number one change the narrative face your fears in practice. Self compassion go easier self number four meditate again. You do your own homework. Do your own research there. Maybe it works for you. Maybe it doesn't. But i know in my own life it has helped kaminsky and number five avait forgiveness l look. I know we have a lot of questions. We all have a lot of questions in our lives but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ while i hope this episode has helped. I'd definitely hope that you've gotten something out of it. If you have would you go to. I tunes and leave us a five star review. That would be amazing. And if you if you didn't like the episode and you're like hey. I learned something. Would you please go leave five star review. Those reviews actually helped so much. If you're like you know what. I'll leave review but maybe not five stars both. We'd like to hear those two so again. If you have any questions for us at all that you would like us to address here own the show. Send us a message podcasts. At courage to fight again dot com. And like i said at the beginning of the show. If it's on your mind it's worth exploring. Well thank you so much for listening. I'll see you next time We served now. 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S6 E7 - How YOU can build resilience in the face of chronic conditions

Courage to Fight Again

23:00 min | 6 months ago

S6 E7 - How YOU can build resilience in the face of chronic conditions

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions after leaving the military and the lack of answers looking frustrated and probably a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of what can sometimes be well just some craziness that is post military life so you can do more than survive. You can thrive my name. Is aaron perkins. I'm us army. Combat veteran husband. Who beautiful wife daddy to two amazing kiddos and the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the process of rediscovering purpose in your post military life sue. You can thrive so the questions we talk about on the show you know. A lot of them are direct questions. You know how to use eleven gi bill. What's new for veterans. twenty one. Those are just a couple of things we talked about in the season. This is a season six episode. Seven and we're tackling a tough question today and there's no single answer to that's the toughest part about this question so before we dive into the question. I want you to think of math equations for minute. Just really simple ones. Two plus two. What's two plus two. It's four right so very simple. Very easy math equation vice. What's tuplice to. You're always going to say you're always going to know. Won't let's four but if i say what math equations when you finish them we'll have four as that end number and be like man. I don't know that's almost an unlimited number of answers. What's the same thing today. Because today's question is surrounding how you build resilience when a family member has a chronic condition and there was a virtually unlimited number of answers to this question. But i'm going to do my best to unpack those and there's a lot to unpack here so let's get started so my son. Christopher was born in two thousand eight and he had a kidney disease and still. Has this kidney disease to this day and We knew that he had some problems with his kidneys. Because they found the these problems on an ultrasound. When i was in iraq and my wife was still in germany and The the did the ultrasounds that hey you know what we recommend you go ahead and head back to the states because you know you can get you can get better medical care there in the states and so my wife moved back what she thought was temporarily and ended up being a permanent move I- redeployed early on and a compassionate reassignment and Got to fort knox kentucky which was the closest. Us army post Where to where. My son was getting his medical care and for the first couple years of his life he went through. Thing was eleven or twelve operations and Numerous other procedures to get these kidneys fixed. Now today. it's amazing it. You would never know. A single thing was wrong within the last couple of times. He's gone to the kidney. Specialists are like look his kidney. Function is great. He's doing very very well. And so that was a trial by fire so to speak. That was kind of like. Hey this this is A method i guess. A real world Test to see if you. Aaron are resilient and so. I learned a lot about resilience just in that experience. You know because again this is not just a flash in the pan you know Something one thing happened and then we had to deal with that. You know a broken limb or you know an accident or something like that. It was a chronic condition and again still is to this day but i learned a lot about resilience through dealing with my son's challenges with that disease and if you think back to military life right and this is army specifically i have to expect that all the services are like this but they build resilience in to the training plan. You know and as important as that is personal resilience all together now the past two months. I'll be honest with you. Guys have been absolutely brutal. They've been crazy because not only does my son have a kidney disease but my wife has chronic conditions as well so the past couple of months. My wife and i got her permission to tell some of her story. Her story is man. If if you ever meet my wife asked her to tell you her story because it is absolutely jaw dropping. How she is where she is today. You know based on where she came from and an all the the difficulties she came through to become the woman she is today but just in these past couple of months We experienced quite the scare and that scare It it seemed like it was cancer. Just be honest so for A while we were getting tests and then waiting for more tests and we got those tests and We said okay well. We're just going to get through this. You know no matter what happens. We're we're in this together and we're gonna stick together through this well. My wife goes to get a biopsy and she gets this biopsy. She's in recovery. The biopsy went fine. It was painful but it went fine. nothing was unexpected But it went fine while she was in recovery and this recovery was just a quick recovery. Just a few hours. She had what is called a ti or a mini stroke. And so we're like. oh my goodness how. In the world number-one how in the world is this happened number. Two how do we deal with this now. You know this is. This seems so much more serious than what it The what started out to be. We thought it was going into get a biopsy and and now here you've got to stay in the hospital. You've gotta be admitted well actually admitted to one hospital then transferred to another because at first hospital was too small and they didn't have the right doctors. There had to be transferred to another hospital and then finally a few days later she gets out. She's getting slowly better. But we still don't have those answers right. Don't have the answers in the biopsy because it takes a week or more to come back and you know she finally gets these answers and they're like yeah. Well we really don't know what it is. We really don't know what it is. It's not cancer. But we're not sure. And so they said. Well we want to send you to an autoimmune specialist and and those Those doctors are are booked up forever and well we can get you. Maybe like june july and so here we are still waiting on those answers and obviously all of this is stressing her out now. Little bit about that mini stroke just answered stress for her brings about these These symptoms where It stress basically over stresses her brain and she ended up needing to quit her job. And you talk about frustrating. And i don't mean frustrating like all you can't work anymore but she was super frustrated at like me. Why in the world is this happening. And and you know. What can i do to help and to build that resilience right but this is. This is not a story about my son. This is not a story about my wife specifically. Today's show is all about building that resilience when your family member has a chronic condition. And so i'll just tell you over. This was going with my wife. I stopped everything i could. You know some of you may have seen an email from said. Hey sorry. Our live mental health event An open dialogue mental health is going to be cancelled if your sponsor for the event. You've already paid. You know we're going to refund your money Which which already did. But there were so many things that i was doing that having a hand in that i said you know what i've just gonna stop doing those things and focus on what matters most right now focus and for me. That's my family. And and i think that is a key element to resilience is focusing on what you need to focus on and again. I know that sounds vague. Right but what is it that you personally need to focus on. Because i can't tell you what you should focus on. I can't tell you that. I wish i could but unfortunately i can't at so. I resigned my position from a nonprofit board Alabama veteran here in here in obviously alabama But also got some help from facebook in preparation In preparation for this episode and Some of you responded and told me how you build resilience in your own personal life. And i want to go through some of those responses real quick and then i'll dive into the five science backed strategies to build resilience but on facebook right. You know one of my friends. He said it. Because i asked i said look. I'm news and helping an oak upcoming podcasts. What are your go-to strategies for building resilience in your personal life and one of my friends. He's kind of a kind of a jokester but he says he says avoiding people and puts us little laughing face or winking face at the end of the comment but the the fact is sometimes that is the to do to help you build resilience and focus on what matters most to you another person. I and i love this. She said it's all about the thought life. It's about your mindset and and she also she said. I'm practicing telling myself no just to exercise that muscle while you know what that's not a bad idea and so there was a number of really good comments here but a couple of them Not a couple of them. I should say a couple of themes came out number. One was faith how my friends saying you know what. I'm learning to do what i've needed to do for years. And that's focus on my faith. You know my faith pushes me past that present crisis or would i'm perceiving as a crisis right you know made. My faith is reading and prayer. And you guys know if if you've listened to this podcast before that you know. This isn't absolutely faith-based podcasts. You know and and my my faith is that of christianity of following jesus But faith has been incredibly important for those seeking to build resilience in a personal lives and Additionally is time for self reflection so one thing is faith is the one theme that came out in the second was self reflection scheduled time for relaxation. And so using those hobbies or those Chill lacks kinda relaxing moments and building those in to your everyday life so that you can handle those stressors right And i wanna mention one of the thing this was. This was a a another theme. That that i know i said only two. There's actually three themes that came out and that's relationships. Relationships are so critically important and one guy actually When my friends here in the area said whoa to him and this is a scripture verse. Actually he's fourteen. He says woe to him who was alone when he falls and doesn't have another lift him up because look lifestyle right. It's really really tough. And the truth is we can't do it by ourselves. We weren't meant to we weren't designed to So it's really really important to have those people in our lives to help us when we can't help ourselves so having those strong relationships around us In a one one other one other comment. I wanna to point out before you get to the five science back strategies for building resilience practice resilience by practicing being resilient each time. Something happens to us. We need to put that in her memory so next time that happens to us even if even if it never happens again we we have that memory of what we did as we figured out you know kind of how to go through that process the first time now. What does that have to do. With a chronic condition you a family member having a chronic condition. All those things apply. They apply directly. Okay so five. Science back strategies to build resilience and this will take just a few minutes number one change the narrative. So look when something bad happens whether it's a single event or a long term Kind of episode right. We often relive the event over and over in our heads and it's called ruminating rehashing the pain and and it it's like we're spinning our wheels. Basically you know There's a study. Said you know what maybe try expressive writing. You know to try gaining some new insights into the challenges in your lives. You know there are a few different ways. You can manage that but that you can change the narrative But one of the one of the ways is to reframe it in another Another perspective or another light. How do you that a one of the things you can do is talk to those in your life that you have those strong relationships with another reason why relationships are so incredibly important. That's the first one number to face your fears. Sure like man. I don't know what's going to happen. In my spouse's life from my child's life because of this chronic condition face it running away is not going to help and when i say face it i i don't mean just dive headlong into a by yourself and tackle it all alone. Another reason why those relationships are so important. So even if you know it's your spouse that's going through something being able to talk to someone else about it about what's going on in your life and how you were feeling is so incredibly valuable. You can't even put a number on it so number one going to change the narrative number to face your fears and face those fears with someone else number three and i'm gonna put this link. This is a great article will put this link in the show notes. You can check out this entire article yourself but practice self compassion. Think of it. Think of what. You're going through right now and think of that in someone else's perspective like if someone else had the same challenges you were having right. Now maybe your child is a chronic condition or your parent or your spouse and they came to you and said hey i. I'm having this problem you know. My wife had a cancer scare. She had many stroke and then We sort of know what's going on. Oh gosh i i don't know what to do. What would you do. Chances are you would be compassionate with them and we know fear versity they can make us feel really alone and we wonder why were the only ones feeling this way and what exactly is wrong with us and check chances are. There's nothing wrong with us at all. You know the there's this real problem with And with i within the veteran community that we all seem to think we're alone and the truth is were not and another reason why you need those strong relationships so you can remember. Hey i'm not alone this but practice self compassion be compassionate to yourself number four meditate and. I know that meditation sometimes gets a bad rap. But i will say. I've tried it myself meditation. Mindfulness and it is a wonderful stress. Reliever i will let you do your own research on that. But there is such value in meditation number. Five and this one is critically important. Cultivate forgiveness. And here's the thing. When it comes to a chronic condition of family member whether that's your spouse or child or your parent or or sibling you can sometimes get this. You can get mad right. And what is there to be mad at. Who is there to be mad at. Well you know you can be that nature you can be mad at god. You can be frustrated but holding a grudge is only going to hold you back. And and that expands far beyond just the Know caught debating forgiveness for forgiveness. Sake right extends will beyond that in well beyond the chronicle condition idea and goes further into your entire life because my pastor says it like this he says holding a grudge against someone is like setting yourself on fire and hoping. The other person dies from smoke inhalation. I know sometimes we feel like man. I've got to hold on to this grudge. I'm not going to forgive but cultivate forgiveness. And there's an entire chapter dedicated to forgiveness in the resolve book. And so i love you to check that out Head over to kurds fight again. Dot com click on. Get the book and you can find out more about forgiveness what that looks like. In the veteran's life look stress and struggles come in many forms in life adversity trauma. Fear shame betrayal of trust. Look there's a lot of things you can do though that can help you learn to cultivate forgiveness so those five science backs strategies to build resilience number one change the narrative face your fears in practice. Self compassion go easier self number four meditate again. You do your own homework. Do your own research there. Maybe it works for you. Maybe it doesn't. But i know in my own life it has helped kaminsky and number five avait forgiveness l look. I know we have a lot of questions. We all have a lot of questions in our lives but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ while i hope this episode has helped. I'd definitely hope that you've gotten something out of it. If you have would you go to. I tunes and leave us a five star review. That would be amazing. And if you if you didn't like the episode and you're like hey. I learned something. Would you please go leave five star review. Those reviews actually helped so much. If you're like you know what. I'll leave review but maybe not five stars both. We'd like to hear those two so again. If you have any questions for us at all that you would like us to address here own the show. Send us a message podcasts. At courage to fight again dot com. And like i said at the beginning of the show. If it's on your mind it's worth exploring. Well thank you so much for listening. I'll see you next time We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

06:39 min | 6 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"This is the we served now. What podcast and if you're anything like me you've had a ton of questions after leaving the military and the lack of answers looking frustrated and probably a little confused. This show is here to help you make sense of what can sometimes be well just some craziness that is post military life so you can do more than survive. You can thrive my name. Is aaron perkins. I'm us army. Combat veteran husband. Who beautiful wife daddy to two amazing kiddos and the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the process of rediscovering purpose in your post military life sue. You can thrive so the questions we talk about on the show you know. A lot of them are direct questions. You know how to use eleven gi bill. What's new for veterans. twenty one. Those are just a couple of things we talked about in the season. This is a season six episode. Seven and we're tackling a tough question today and there's no single answer to that's the toughest part about this question so before we dive into the question. I want you to think of math equations for minute. Just really simple ones. Two plus two. What's two plus two. It's four right so very simple. Very easy math equation vice. What's tuplice to. You're always going to say you're always going to know. Won't let's four but if i say what math equations when you finish them we'll have four as that end number and be like man. I don't know that's almost an unlimited number of answers. What's the same thing today. Because today's question is surrounding how you build resilience when a family member has a chronic condition and there was a virtually unlimited number of answers to this question. But i'm going to do my best to unpack those and there's a lot to unpack here so let's get started so my son. Christopher was born in two thousand eight and he had a kidney disease and still. Has this kidney disease to this day and We knew that he had some problems with his kidneys. Because they found the these problems on an ultrasound. When i was in iraq and my wife was still in germany and The the did the ultrasounds that hey you know what we recommend you go ahead and head back to the states because you know you can get you can get better medical care there in the states and so my wife moved back what she thought was temporarily and ended up being a permanent move I- redeployed early on and a compassionate reassignment and Got to fort knox kentucky which was the closest. Us army post Where to where. My son was getting his medical care and for the first couple years of his life he went through. Thing was eleven or twelve operations and Numerous other procedures to get these kidneys fixed. Now today. it's amazing it. You would never know. A single thing was wrong within the last couple of times. He's gone to the kidney. Specialists are like look his kidney. Function is great. He's doing very very well. And so that was a trial by fire so to speak. That was kind of like. Hey this this is A method i guess. A real world Test to see if you. Aaron are resilient and so. I learned a lot about resilience just in that experience. You know because again this is not just a flash in the pan you know Something one thing happened and then we had to deal with that. You know a broken limb or you know an accident or something like that. It was a chronic condition and again still is to this day but i learned a lot about resilience through dealing with my son's challenges with that disease and if you think back to military life right and this is army specifically i have to expect that all the services are like this but they build resilience in to the training plan. You know and as important as that is personal resilience all together now the past two months. I'll be honest with you. Guys have been absolutely brutal. They've been crazy because not only does my son have a kidney disease but my wife has chronic conditions as well so the past couple of months. My wife and i got her permission to tell some of her story. Her story is man. If if you ever meet my wife asked her to tell you her story because it is absolutely jaw dropping. How she is where she is today. You know based on where she came from and an all the the difficulties she came through to become the woman she is today but just in these past couple of months We experienced quite the scare and that scare It it seemed like it was cancer. Just be honest so for A while we were getting tests and then waiting for more tests and we got those tests and We said okay well. We're just going to get through this. You know no matter what happens. We're we're in this together and we're gonna stick together through this well. My wife goes to get a biopsy and she gets this biopsy. She's in recovery. The biopsy went fine. It was painful but it went fine. nothing was unexpected But it went fine while she was in recovery and this recovery was just a quick recovery. Just a few hours. She had what is called a ti or.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

19:30 min | 6 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"You know nothing is easy. I mean not a single thing in life is easy. Sometimes it might feel easy and then you realize wait. There's more to this than meets the eye so to speak and it ends up not be easy so let me give a little background so i am getting some work done at my house and i'll just be honest with you. It is some really cool work. I am getting a bucket list. Item checked off and we are getting pool. Installed sounds awesome. It also sounds expensive. It is both. It is both awesome and expensive. But here's the thing. They were digging the pool today or digging the hole for the pool right and everything was going fine except going a little slow because where we live there a lot of rocks in the ground. It just took him longer than it. Typically would i guess but it was. It was going fine until they hit a sewer line. And then i'm like man. You know it the. They've obviously hit sewer lines before so that wasn't the big deal but the big deal was now. I've got to get a plumber out here. And now i've got to go through the process of not just getting out here. Hope and pray that i get an honest plumber that they are going to not Fleece me so to speak and not going to just take me for all. I'm worth because they know. I need this work done. And i'm like man. This is just another thing that's going on and my wife has been sick for a while and we've been dealing with that and the kids are in school and my daughter was sick at school. Had to go pick her up today and there are so many things in life can seem really really hard. Sometimes and let's be honest it is you know. So that's what i mean by. Nothing is easy but when it comes to what. I want to talk about today how to get a good job after the military honestly sometimes it is really easy and sometimes it's not hey. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran. Binned daddy to my to amazing kiddos author of resolve a book which is a step by step guide for you the veteran to rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life and if you hadn't guessed and the host of this podcast this podcast since i fail to introduce it at the very beginning is called we served now. What an on this show. I do my very best to answer the questions that veterans and their families are already asking and today as you just heard me mention. I'm talking about how to get a good job after the military. Because i put out a poll of sorts and a few facebook groups. That are full of veterans in a said. Hey what are some things you like me to talk about. Or what specifically would you like to talk about and tadpole on the next episode of the show and this is the one that the people have demanded so to speak so this is it how to get a good job. And here's the thing. Your mileage may vary. I'm going to give you a few pointers few strategies. You can use but every person you run into that has found that quote unquote good job. Probably have a different version of this story. So first of all you have to do the important work of determining what to you constitutes a good job. What is it good job. Think about that for a second. What is a good job is a good job. Something that pays really well or is it something that allows you a lot of flexibility or does it have a great work environment or is it the type of worker the industry you're in or is it all of those things you know. Is it a government job or is it a private sector job what what is a good job to you. And so here's the thing you have to figure out what it is you want to do. And a lot of times your passion in life or your experience in the things you already enjoy doing. What kind of guide you toward the type of work. You would consider to be a good job so if you're interested in let's say plumbing for example maybe that would be a good idea for you and again please. Don't take this as my recommendation. This is only a suggestion of an idea right. I'm not saying if you like plumbing that you should go be a plumber. I'm not saying that at all but it is an indicator like. Hey maybe that's something that would be a good job for me or maybe like electric and you would want to go being electricity. Maybe like cybersecurity. Like i do and you want to go to the cyber security field. You know there's a lot of things. I mean literally countless things. You could consider a good job. Maybe you want to go work at a convenience store. I don't know what you consider a good job. What you want to do is completely different. From what i want to do. Or what my kids want to do or what your kids want to do or any one else. No one is going to be able to tell you what you want to do. And no one is going to be able to define that for you and to say hey. Here's what you should be doing as a job. So here's the thing. There are a lot of different tools available that can help you kind of narrowed down that job field for you. Do you want to work at a company. That is focused on only on making a difference. You know a nonprofit type or are you wanting to work at a company. That is focused on making money and also making a difference right so he. Here's the thing. Let me just a just a side note here. Just because company is focused on making money does not mean. They are not making a difference. It might be a good difference in my bad difference positive or negative difference but they are making a difference right and again. I don't want to go too far down that road. But that's not what this show is about. This episode is about today. But what i want to say here is that you are the only one who can define that that. What is that good job for you. Okay so back to what. I was saying tools available. There are several tools available. Personality assessments. things that can help you determine what you are kind of set up for They're also tools. You can find online that you can just google i. This was my mls and you know this is the these are the jobs that might be in line with my mos had in the military. Now i will say this about those emma west to job translators. Most of them are pretty much garbage. That just being really honest. I mean they like i'll put in my intel. Mos they'll be like. Hey you should go drive a garbage truck you know. I think that there are a lot of tools. You can use so use a variety of tools so resolve that i just mentioned at the top of the show is a book i wrote and that book takes you through the process of rediscovering purpose but in part of that process is identifying your skill. Set your personality what you are naturally good at what you are naturally drawn to. What sparked that fire in you and helps you develop that one year two year five year ten year plan so you can move in the direction that you want to go now. Here's the thing when it comes to getting a good job right. You have to consider your phase of life if you're seventy five years old and you want to be a medical doctor. Chances are that are that is not going to happen. If you are a twenty year old who has you know. Been really good at golf your entire life. You played varsity golf when you were in high school. You are just about to get out of the military. You've played golf as much as you can. While you were in and could you possibly get a scholarship to go play golf. Go become a professional golfer. You know maybe so. I mean who knows if that's something you're passionate about. Maybe there's something you should pursue. He you consider being a professional golfer a good job but for those of us who are not those professional athletes right. Who have to you know more or less clock. In and clock out every day those definitions of what a good job is can probably be narrowed down more to the things. We're good at and the things we're interested in. Now i want to say here too is just because you don't have a skill in something does not mean you can never do that. I'm going to say that again. Just because you do not have a skill in one area or another does not mean. You can never do that. Thing i'll relate a story from a one of my jobs that i've had we were looking for a person and again i'm not going into the details of who this was or what positions was looking for a person to hire and as we're looking saw candidates who were just top of the line really really great skill wise. They knew what they were doing. They had the skills that the company needed. And then we had other candidates were a really good fit from the personality side of things and guess what we hard. The candidates that had the personality that met our criteria and criteria is probably long term. But that met our culture that matched our culture because for our company the culture was far more important than the skill because we can teach skills. We can teach anybody skills as long as you have that attitude and that aptitude to learn it we can definitely teach you the skills so just because you don't have the skills does not mean you will never have them if there's something you're interested in doing and you think that would be a good job. Then go for it. Go do that next. I want to share a couple of things with you. That are just again. Take them as suggestions. These are just some practical tips for those of you. Who either have never done this or you're not sure about the importance of it. Once you figure out once you determine for yourself what a good job is what you identify as a good job create a linked in profile. I know i know you might not think he linked in profile is important. You might think. Hey man i'm going to go do some blue collar work and i'm going to you know i want to go. You know. cut down trees for a living but I don't need a linked in profile. Well it's not going to hurt anything and the truth is maybe you don't but again i would still recommend you to create a linked in profile because you never know the connections you will make on there and you never know the connections. You will need in the future. I highly recommend you create lincoln in profile. And frankly i highly recommend you a lincoln profile before you even determine what a quote unquote good job is for you. Just get the process started. It takes five minutes or maybe ten minutes if that get started and get your information on there also if you don't have one already develop a resume and if you've never done a resume. There are a ton of resume services. Don't go paying a ton of money for someone to develop resume for you. You're gonna waste your money. get someone that you know. Who has a pretty good idea of who you are to look over your resume man. All you know how to write a resume. Your resume is basically just the things you've done in a little bit about you and your experience okay. Your experience education your military service again google. It look it up. You can find a ton of different examples of what a decent resume looks like and again. I don't have time in this show. Go into all the details of what your resume needs to contain. Maybe that'll be a show in the future. Or who knows but right now. I'm just saying you need to develop a resume because just about every job not every job but just about every job is going to require you to have a resume and so if you want to apply online dark sure fill out your application upload your resume or just links to your linked in profile so we can check you out there again. Cradling profile develop a resume resume or you just need some help. I am more than happy to help you with that. Drop me a line at podcast at courage to fight again dot com and put in the subject line resume. Help and i'll do everything i can to help you with. That and truth be told. If i get enough of those request we will put together a another complete episode on developing a resume. You might be a specific podcast episode but we can meet together. Virtually socially distance on a zoom. Call or something to where. I can just walk you through developing a resume and again i've been on the outside so to speak of the military for a few years. Now got out in two thousand fourteen. It's twenty twenty one. And so i've got some experience. Not only developing resumes but in helping others develop their resumes as well again. I'm not selling you anything. I'm just offering you the help if you want to. Draw me line at podcast. Courage to fight again dot com and again. If we get enough people interested then we can schedule a separate call where can walk through it with you altogether. Okay another thing. I would recommend again. I know said. Don't take these recommendations okay. Another suggestion i would make create an indeed profile an upload your resume their indeed dot com upload your resume their so that way people who are searching for candidates with your skillset can find you. Okay you say hey. This is what i'm interested in. Here's my resume. This is my experience that and those hiring managers those recruiters who are looking for people like you can find you on indeed so if you want work for the federal government however you're gonna need to create a usa jobs account and explore that and frankly creating a usa jobs account and applying to federal jobs could take hours to go into all of the details of that and the number of keywords. You need and how those need to be structured in the way the resume needs to be worded and how you need to apply and all of that. I'm just hitting the highlights of the steps. You need to take on this particular episode. So what was it five six steps. Maybe let's do a quick recap you need to figure out you need to determine what constitutes a good job to you is it. Money flexibility work environment type of work. The industry are going to be in. No one is going to tell you that. No one is going to be able to tell you what you want to do. You have to determine that for your life you have to consider your phase of life but you also need to create a linked in profile and this is regardless of your phase of life. Credit linked in profile develop a resume. And as i mentioned if you don't know how are you need some help with drop me a line at podcast kurds fighting dot com. And i will do my best to help you with that. Create an indeed profile is the next thing you need to do upload your resume their and again if you want to work for the federal government create a usa jobs account and explore that or here we are almost at twenty minutes and i have barely scratched the surface of what it takes to get a good job in fact it was just talking to a friend of mine. The other day Last night in fact and He has a great job He's had great jobs ever since he left the military. And a lot of those have been timing. A lot of those have been Just who he has known people he has met and things just fell into place for him but doesn't always come that easily in fact it rarely comes that easily a lot of times. What you're going to find about getting a good job as you're going to have to put some work in toward developing some relationships with people who can view when they say. Hey i know someone who knows how to install acoustic panels. And i know i could call because i know they are good at that. I know they've done that before i know. I've seen their lincoln profile their resume or i worked with them at one point so again there are so many different directions. You could go with a good job. And what constitutes a good job for you but you're the only one who can decide that easy but hopefully this has answered your question of how to get a good job. Look we all have a lot of questions but the most important question that we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in. Jesus christ thanks for listening. We'll see next time.

S6 E6 - How to get a good job - Full

Courage to Fight Again

19:30 min | 6 months ago

S6 E6 - How to get a good job - Full

"You know nothing is easy. I mean not a single thing in life is easy. Sometimes it might feel easy and then you realize wait. There's more to this than meets the eye so to speak and it ends up not be easy so let me give a little background so i am getting some work done at my house and i'll just be honest with you. It is some really cool work. I am getting a bucket list. Item checked off and we are getting pool. Installed sounds awesome. It also sounds expensive. It is both. It is both awesome and expensive. But here's the thing. They were digging the pool today or digging the hole for the pool right and everything was going fine except going a little slow because where we live there a lot of rocks in the ground. It just took him longer than it. Typically would i guess but it was. It was going fine until they hit a sewer line. And then i'm like man. You know it the. They've obviously hit sewer lines before so that wasn't the big deal but the big deal was now. I've got to get a plumber out here. And now i've got to go through the process of not just getting out here. Hope and pray that i get an honest plumber that they are going to not Fleece me so to speak and not going to just take me for all. I'm worth because they know. I need this work done. And i'm like man. This is just another thing that's going on and my wife has been sick for a while and we've been dealing with that and the kids are in school and my daughter was sick at school. Had to go pick her up today and there are so many things in life can seem really really hard. Sometimes and let's be honest it is you know. So that's what i mean by. Nothing is easy but when it comes to what. I want to talk about today how to get a good job after the military honestly sometimes it is really easy and sometimes it's not hey. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a us army combat veteran. Binned daddy to my to amazing kiddos author of resolve a book which is a step by step guide for you the veteran to rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life and if you hadn't guessed and the host of this podcast this podcast since i fail to introduce it at the very beginning is called we served now. What an on this show. I do my very best to answer the questions that veterans and their families are already asking and today as you just heard me mention. I'm talking about how to get a good job after the military. Because i put out a poll of sorts and a few facebook groups. That are full of veterans in a said. Hey what are some things you like me to talk about. Or what specifically would you like to talk about and tadpole on the next episode of the show and this is the one that the people have demanded so to speak so this is it how to get a good job. And here's the thing. Your mileage may vary. I'm going to give you a few pointers few strategies. You can use but every person you run into that has found that quote unquote good job. Probably have a different version of this story. So first of all you have to do the important work of determining what to you constitutes a good job. What is it good job. Think about that for a second. What is a good job is a good job. Something that pays really well or is it something that allows you a lot of flexibility or does it have a great work environment or is it the type of worker the industry you're in or is it all of those things you know. Is it a government job or is it a private sector job what what is a good job to you. And so here's the thing you have to figure out what it is you want to do. And a lot of times your passion in life or your experience in the things you already enjoy doing. What kind of guide you toward the type of work. You would consider to be a good job so if you're interested in let's say plumbing for example maybe that would be a good idea for you and again please. Don't take this as my recommendation. This is only a suggestion of an idea right. I'm not saying if you like plumbing that you should go be a plumber. I'm not saying that at all but it is an indicator like. Hey maybe that's something that would be a good job for me or maybe like electric and you would want to go being electricity. Maybe like cybersecurity. Like i do and you want to go to the cyber security field. You know there's a lot of things. I mean literally countless things. You could consider a good job. Maybe you want to go work at a convenience store. I don't know what you consider a good job. What you want to do is completely different. From what i want to do. Or what my kids want to do or what your kids want to do or any one else. No one is going to be able to tell you what you want to do. And no one is going to be able to define that for you and to say hey. Here's what you should be doing as a job. So here's the thing. There are a lot of different tools available that can help you kind of narrowed down that job field for you. Do you want to work at a company. That is focused on only on making a difference. You know a nonprofit type or are you wanting to work at a company. That is focused on making money and also making a difference right so he. Here's the thing. Let me just a just a side note here. Just because company is focused on making money does not mean. They are not making a difference. It might be a good difference in my bad difference positive or negative difference but they are making a difference right and again. I don't want to go too far down that road. But that's not what this show is about. This episode is about today. But what i want to say here is that you are the only one who can define that that. What is that good job for you. Okay so back to what. I was saying tools available. There are several tools available. Personality assessments. things that can help you determine what you are kind of set up for They're also tools. You can find online that you can just google i. This was my mls and you know this is the these are the jobs that might be in line with my mos had in the military. Now i will say this about those emma west to job translators. Most of them are pretty much garbage. That just being really honest. I mean they like i'll put in my intel. Mos they'll be like. Hey you should go drive a garbage truck you know. I think that there are a lot of tools. You can use so use a variety of tools so resolve that i just mentioned at the top of the show is a book i wrote and that book takes you through the process of rediscovering purpose but in part of that process is identifying your skill. Set your personality what you are naturally good at what you are naturally drawn to. What sparked that fire in you and helps you develop that one year two year five year ten year plan so you can move in the direction that you want to go now. Here's the thing when it comes to getting a good job right. You have to consider your phase of life if you're seventy five years old and you want to be a medical doctor. Chances are that are that is not going to happen. If you are a twenty year old who has you know. Been really good at golf your entire life. You played varsity golf when you were in high school. You are just about to get out of the military. You've played golf as much as you can. While you were in and could you possibly get a scholarship to go play golf. Go become a professional golfer. You know maybe so. I mean who knows if that's something you're passionate about. Maybe there's something you should pursue. He you consider being a professional golfer a good job but for those of us who are not those professional athletes right. Who have to you know more or less clock. In and clock out every day those definitions of what a good job is can probably be narrowed down more to the things. We're good at and the things we're interested in. Now i want to say here too is just because you don't have a skill in something does not mean you can never do that. I'm going to say that again. Just because you do not have a skill in one area or another does not mean. You can never do that. Thing i'll relate a story from a one of my jobs that i've had we were looking for a person and again i'm not going into the details of who this was or what positions was looking for a person to hire and as we're looking saw candidates who were just top of the line really really great skill wise. They knew what they were doing. They had the skills that the company needed. And then we had other candidates were a really good fit from the personality side of things and guess what we hard. The candidates that had the personality that met our criteria and criteria is probably long term. But that met our culture that matched our culture because for our company the culture was far more important than the skill because we can teach skills. We can teach anybody skills as long as you have that attitude and that aptitude to learn it we can definitely teach you the skills so just because you don't have the skills does not mean you will never have them if there's something you're interested in doing and you think that would be a good job. Then go for it. Go do that next. I want to share a couple of things with you. That are just again. Take them as suggestions. These are just some practical tips for those of you. Who either have never done this or you're not sure about the importance of it. Once you figure out once you determine for yourself what a good job is what you identify as a good job create a linked in profile. I know i know you might not think he linked in profile is important. You might think. Hey man i'm going to go do some blue collar work and i'm going to you know i want to go. You know. cut down trees for a living but I don't need a linked in profile. Well it's not going to hurt anything and the truth is maybe you don't but again i would still recommend you to create a linked in profile because you never know the connections you will make on there and you never know the connections. You will need in the future. I highly recommend you create lincoln in profile. And frankly i highly recommend you a lincoln profile before you even determine what a quote unquote good job is for you. Just get the process started. It takes five minutes or maybe ten minutes if that get started and get your information on there also if you don't have one already develop a resume and if you've never done a resume. There are a ton of resume services. Don't go paying a ton of money for someone to develop resume for you. You're gonna waste your money. get someone that you know. Who has a pretty good idea of who you are to look over your resume man. All you know how to write a resume. Your resume is basically just the things you've done in a little bit about you and your experience okay. Your experience education your military service again google. It look it up. You can find a ton of different examples of what a decent resume looks like and again. I don't have time in this show. Go into all the details of what your resume needs to contain. Maybe that'll be a show in the future. Or who knows but right now. I'm just saying you need to develop a resume because just about every job not every job but just about every job is going to require you to have a resume and so if you want to apply online dark sure fill out your application upload your resume or just links to your linked in profile so we can check you out there again. Cradling profile develop a resume resume or you just need some help. I am more than happy to help you with that. Drop me a line at podcast at courage to fight again dot com and put in the subject line resume. Help and i'll do everything i can to help you with. That and truth be told. If i get enough of those request we will put together a another complete episode on developing a resume. You might be a specific podcast episode but we can meet together. Virtually socially distance on a zoom. Call or something to where. I can just walk you through developing a resume and again i've been on the outside so to speak of the military for a few years. Now got out in two thousand fourteen. It's twenty twenty one. And so i've got some experience. Not only developing resumes but in helping others develop their resumes as well again. I'm not selling you anything. I'm just offering you the help if you want to. Draw me line at podcast. Courage to fight again dot com and again. If we get enough people interested then we can schedule a separate call where can walk through it with you altogether. Okay another thing. I would recommend again. I know said. Don't take these recommendations okay. Another suggestion i would make create an indeed profile an upload your resume their indeed dot com upload your resume their so that way people who are searching for candidates with your skillset can find you. Okay you say hey. This is what i'm interested in. Here's my resume. This is my experience that and those hiring managers those recruiters who are looking for people like you can find you on indeed so if you want work for the federal government however you're gonna need to create a usa jobs account and explore that and frankly creating a usa jobs account and applying to federal jobs could take hours to go into all of the details of that and the number of keywords. You need and how those need to be structured in the way the resume needs to be worded and how you need to apply and all of that. I'm just hitting the highlights of the steps. You need to take on this particular episode. So what was it five six steps. Maybe let's do a quick recap you need to figure out you need to determine what constitutes a good job to you is it. Money flexibility work environment type of work. The industry are going to be in. No one is going to tell you that. No one is going to be able to tell you what you want to do. You have to determine that for your life you have to consider your phase of life but you also need to create a linked in profile and this is regardless of your phase of life. Credit linked in profile develop a resume. And as i mentioned if you don't know how are you need some help with drop me a line at podcast kurds fighting dot com. And i will do my best to help you with that. Create an indeed profile is the next thing you need to do upload your resume their and again if you want to work for the federal government create a usa jobs account and explore that or here we are almost at twenty minutes and i have barely scratched the surface of what it takes to get a good job in fact it was just talking to a friend of mine. The other day Last night in fact and He has a great job He's had great jobs ever since he left the military. And a lot of those have been timing. A lot of those have been Just who he has known people he has met and things just fell into place for him but doesn't always come that easily in fact it rarely comes that easily a lot of times. What you're going to find about getting a good job as you're going to have to put some work in toward developing some relationships with people who can view when they say. Hey i know someone who knows how to install acoustic panels. And i know i could call because i know they are good at that. I know they've done that before i know. I've seen their lincoln profile their resume or i worked with them at one point so again there are so many different directions. You could go with a good job. And what constitutes a good job for you but you're the only one who can decide that easy but hopefully this has answered your question of how to get a good job. Look we all have a lot of questions but the most important question that we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in. Jesus christ thanks for listening. We'll see next time.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

34:04 min | 7 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Hey just a quick before we get things kicked off here. I do want to let you know that. There is some strong language throughout this episode so listener discretion is advised. If there's five step process but there's indefinite general over overarching rules that she must consider but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at compeer in the wall and analyzing while i'm analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening pay. Everyone welcome to season six episode. Five of we served now. What it on this podcast. I do my very best to answer the questions. That veterans and their families are all ready asking my name is aaron perkins on the host of this show and the founder of courage to fight again an hour parent organization. I'm also the author of resolve. Which is a step by. Step guide for q the veteran to help you rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life. Today's topic when the show is via a disability. What you need to do to submit it and not just what to do with. How do it bright outta appeal it. Should you appeal that well. That work all those things and more in today's show. I had a chance to sit down with a couple of really great guys who have done their homework on this. They do this kind of thing. Every single day. Greg colton and will simmons and we set down and chat or mojos that hour and a half i had to cut out unfortunately a lot of that conversation but the week to that full interview can click on the link in the show notes. And that'll take you to a form review request access to that whole uncut interview. And you could watch that in its entirety video interviewed. Please please take advantage of that. But for now i'm going to get out of the way. Make this intro as short and sweet as possible and let you hear the part of the show. The part of our conversation that i was able to stick into this episode here fleas. Enjoy my conversation with greg. Colton and wilson's check it out. Well i am here today with two honestly powerhouses in this field talking about increasing eight disability benefits. I'm here with gregg golden easy. Us navy veteran. This guy has twenty five twenty five years of sea level experience in financial technology compliance security investigation. All these things he's worked with numerous law firms used his own experience with the va to build something really cool. And i know he's gonna wanna talk about that more on this show but it's very good to have you on the show today greg. I'm also here with will simmons. He's a us army veteran former va founder. And managing attorney at simmons law. And i gotta tell you. I could not have asked for a more knowledgeable. Duo to answer veterans questions about va a disability benefits. So i want to just say to both you guys. Welcome to we serve now. What oh thank you very much Very happy to be here with you. you know my own experience of five years in the navy and thinking i came out and was was everything was great. You know always young. And i was happy in that aitken painted matter a whole lot. You know then. I got my late forties and early fifties and realized yeah does kind of hurt a little. Bit so yeah. I'm happy to be here with you and Look forward to the conversation. Will everybody will simmons Absolutely happy to talk to you today. About incentive Something near and dear to my heart. china passion play for me Having gone from ten percent disabled the a lump sum of less than eight hundred bucks and a holy shit. Now what am i gonna digress. My life to one hundred percent permanent total my law degree and my mba so There are programs out there to better your life and puts you in a position to dramatically. Change your life for the better and happy to talk about that too. That awesome awesome. Well let's start our conversation today guys with the transition out of the military. Maybe greg we can start with you. Tell me a bit more about your own transition story what you did right what you wish. You would have known things like that sure. Well you know when. I got out of those one clive in the military. I went through paramedic school in my last year in the military. So i was busy guy for you know. Fourteen sixteen months in the last days in the military. I was also going to civilian paramedic school. So i didn't sleep in as i got out. I worked as a paramedic and did fine. And then i realized that really didn't make a whole heck of a lot of money for all of the responsibilities that i had and that i wanted to do more but i wasn't quite sure how to do. And if i if. I known then what i know now. I would have in fact on to law school however i was a single parent of a two year old and a five year old and i did that for more than fifteen years and i can assure you that. There's nothing fun about going full time college and also trying to get You know to be a good parent and to provide the income necessary and i had that entrepreneurial spirit and i wanted to grow in in and have a big business that that was bringing the wealth i wanted and building it from my retirement and it just There wasn't a lot of of a maps out there. Do this do this do this do this. And through twenty five years of experience. I figured it out and and we've done well and i'm in. I'm thrilled with my past. The navy taught me so much about responsibility and accountability and and those are certainly tenants to be an entrepreneur. No question about it but there was no road map. There was no getting out of the military. Didn't here's your step plans being successful on your own It was it was really hard. So i'm glad to be your health. Talk about that in the journey Will tell us about you and your journey. It was definitely a different Yeah absolutely so i was. How do i even begin this When i joined the military. I joined in forty days. Forty five days before nine. Eleven and I was an architecture student at the time. Indiana national guard kind of do a my weekend. Warriors thing and In after nine. Eleven i i just couldn't physically sit there and design buildings that we're gonna be used to blow people and caused devastation. I wanted to change that. And so i went active duty and went to school and in sadly my entire time in the military was was spent in school one school to the next and in one of those schools. I got banged up. Injured prior to going getting acceptance to west point from enlisted to the academy so i went to west point for two years while i was there. Got my injury that i sustained during active duty. The kid exacerbated to the point that i could no longer sir and unceremoniously. I went home with a ten percent disability. Seven seven hundred eighty bucks or something like that. Night came from west point to sit on my parents. Couch i legitimately want to move. I didn't even know your podcast existed until last week but eyesight. Now what what the heck am i gonna do the rest of my life. I had zero idea. I went from the premier leadership institute in the world to not knowing. I didn't know what the heck did so I decided that applied at schools Just just keep the ball moving and Quickly went to indiana university. Got into the business. School in really just fell in love with entrepreneurship and i let that passion takeover You know my healing process from you. Know both physical and emotional fiercely all of it. I needed to mend myself after coming out of the military. And it's a hell of a won't talk to make that work but Anyway yeah i mean. The transition was man. I don i even describe the transition with it was so unbelievably difficult. It shouldn't need to in needed to be a conversation with a counselor commonality military that said you know. What do you want. do the rest of your life. This is the direction you go and go. Do it can i. It was a lot of soul searching to find. It ought to be honest. But now i've been imagined doing anything else. Couldn't imagine sitting my day any other way when i do and holy shit i get paid for it. I mean oh my god. That's the best. The best thing in the world i completely agree with you will on on that. Come out and you're just in this hot this this song in this hayes in your you have so little direction and even if you had a career counselor to try to talk to you. I don't know if it's just you don't know what you're doing in life because you're so mean you don't stand different concepts yet but man you're just lost wandering out there in and Yeah i grabbed me by accident eck and smack me up a little bit. I do right by sagar i absolutely. I think if there's one thing that i absolutely did right was i I jumped head head on into school and education and building might tool set. Because i wasn't relying solely on the things that i learned in the military to to be jumping off point. I realized i had a heck of a lot of catching up to do. And and that's where the education started for me And obviously i didn't quit. And in fact i found a way to make sure that i didn't have to pay for which was really you know that was. The true transition story was okay. Hang on a second Your bettering yourself. And you're getting somebody else. Pay the bill. This this is something should write a book about Because a lot of that cedeno that hidden. I mean that was one of my biggest struggles was coming out and being twenty five seven a two year old and a five year old that i was literally racing by myself and i was taking eighteen credit hours Getting my degree in biochemistry with minor in english lit. And i you know eighteen credit hours trying to take care to five hundred worked at the same time you know you can get loans and all the rest of it but if you don't have a good nation in what's possible. I had no idea. I was eligible for vote. Rehab you know. When i went i had gi bill and believe it or not. The college never applied the gi bill. I paid for everything out of my own. And even though i was eligible for the gi. Bill is all the time it's really sad is what it comes down to that. We have the capability had had. I recognized what was was there army. And i recognize these benefits. Were there than i could have slowed down and cast in my kids. Now's a roof over their head and not had trying to kill myself to get through it in a short period of time And it would have changed the trajectory of my life. I you know. I watched medical school. Go out the door. Because i couldn't do an internship and be a single parent and i couldn't do medical school and be a single parent. Too young kids had. I had those benefits and recognized that they were available to me. I could have done more. I could've figure things out that's not bad. I mean i. I love where i'm at today but it could have been so much easier. Had i known about all the benefits that are out there. Not just disability. But is as you're talking about. Well the both rehab and the gi bill and things don't get taken advantage of profitable now. I was just gonna say we. We actually just talked about that. I think it was in the last episode about gi bill and how you can leverage it with the Volk rehab well. Vr program now but Leverage that you know those two you know really great benefits to you get further education. Everything i know when i got out You know. I'm sitting in the end of the transition not unit but are transitioning out processing briefings. Right and they're telling us about the va. I knew zero about the. Va except that veterans. Go to the. Va that's really all. I knew about it and they and they told us like. Hey go to the hospital like on post go hospital get your medical records and take him upstairs. Because i had a v. Va office fort hood. They had a. Va office up. Like start for a said okay. Cool and so. I took them and they said okay. Cool we got your medical records like okay to me. It was just another task. I had. I literally had no idea that i was submitting my va. Disability claim audios. Like somebody told me to give you these. I guess this is how i get officially into the va and become a veteran so to speak at someone like your most crucial claim and there you are getting pushed by the system through their said that you're not on purpose fan. That was done on purpose for years and years. And call me a conspiracy theorist or whatever but the truth of the matter is this is mon mon Insurance company pan out benefits and they've got an minimize this as much as far as sharing and you know the the the the hard part was to that by the time i did my first what do you call that first. Compensation exam with the with the doctor or the nurse practitioner. Whatever she was I'm still in tough guy mode. I'm still like yeah. Her s- i'm good. I can you know. I'm sure i can just suck it up for a little while. I didn't realize it's supposed to go there and just be blatantly. Honest like holy crap. This hurts this hurts. This hurts and i can't do this anymore. And i just went. I was like no. This is fine. Do you have anything no. i'm fine. no i'm good. I had no. I d like there was no. There's no plan there's no. There's no one at that point in the transition to to really tell me. Hey this is what you should be doing. This is the level of scrutiny. That they're going to look at your. Va claim with and this is the level of of intensity you need to put to it when you submit it so we can talk about that a little bit like what. What was your guys. Experience with The va disability claims program. I i know with mine drag. Mom i was cormon and i and i was I was one of the supervisors of the ambulance service in and they will. Hospital orlando in the training center training center there and when i sat down out processing with personnel. I still to this day. Remember sitting down at that gray metal desk. And here's somebody that's not much older than me on the other side of the desk in. They're typing out my dvd fourteen. And they're asking me different questions on a checklist and you know how many problems not have any problems you know. Got both of my legs. I got both my arms You know i can hear you talking fine which goes exactly to the point. You're making aaron. And i don't think it was bravado on my side is much as not understanding to transition process and the purpose of the questions being asked as they apply to me in my future not to mention. Let's let's young. Were coming from the military where it's shut the hell up in suck it up. Well it's not only that pervasiveness in the military will absolutely but there's a pervasiveness in the medical side on top of that of we don't go to call unless we are on death's doorstep i had owns and you know i'm i'm urinating blood. I went to the er. I was terrified. I didn't know anything about kidney. Stones about point. I tell you when you look down. Ten o'clock at night and the toilet bowl is you're ready to go to bed. You see bright red blood. You're going to the er right now when they didn't ask me about that as i al processed. I didn't recognize that. The jimmy stones that my kidneys continued to put out than started in the military. Were something that should have been taking care of for in evaluating before on the disability side. And so you know as as a cormon. My knees hurt my back. Hurt dr a are you know my gird. hey dot. Can you write me. Something for this. Ensures tagamet for this there was never any documentation. It was me and my buddy. The doctor who wrote something if i wanted it or b who went to the cabinet and opened up and took out the a hundred older motrin. It took it myself just like i told my fellow shipmates to do or the. You know the marine corps guys that i worked with to do so i mean there was a pervasiveness medicine on top of. What will we say about. The pervasiveness of we have a missions. Do the military. Our mission is to get the dadgum job done. Every single time is not to be standing in sakala. Whine about how this hurts. Don't it well. i'm sorry. I didn't mean now. You know. i think it's for me. I was you know i dealt with something that i deal with. Almost every with almost every veteran client that deal with. It's it's it's a pervasive problem. That every better needs to know you're going to be under compensated for some of your disabilities and you're gonna be overcompensated for some disabilities and when you're coming out of service and you get med boarded for something you know for me. I was hellbent on getting my chest fix chest and backs back rated properly in even though chefs in particular the maximum benefit. I could ever get no matter how hard i tried and no matter what i did was ten percent no matter what so yourself the net absolutely ruined my military career. That is only gonna ever pay me ten percent. I'm sitting. you're banging my head against the wall for at least five years fighting that fight when there was literally nothing i could do. I had to learn the system the right way you gotta do end arounds and connect everything possible to this in order to make sure that your stated appropriately for the actual shit that you're dealing against off that took years to figure out when you don't have somebody holding your hand through the through the that's really true. I mean in my case. I knew the was there that can provides healthcare benefits. But i had a job. I had healthcare benefits. I didn't mean to be a and i correctly and incorrectly depending on how you look at it. I wanted that benefit to be more available my fellow brethren who actually needed it and couldn't make it private healthcare good private healthcare because the. Va does a as much as they get. Beaten up in the news over. they do. Try very hard. You've healthcare Chewed the veterans other. They can't do better but it's not because they're trying to do that. And so i wanted that that benefit of healthcare to be availed more available. My brother and i never looked into. It wasn't until we want to buy a house and property. You're in texas the realtor said. So what's your your disability rating. And which i giggled including talking about and she goes well with your own. You won't have a fun in fee in taxes. You will either of your property taxes reduced or abated completely if you have disability and i said i don't have any disability. I have both my legs and lower. Did she said idiot. I've known you long time. And i know your kidney stone started in service. I know you're back. Problems started from when you were. Emc girl medic in the military in the military. How can you not have this ability rating. And i wasn't out looking for the money. I was making okay money so i never went searching for those benefits and you know that makes that much more difficult woken. Tell you when you're now twenty. Five years ho service. And the g jared processes are really starting to kick in that began in the military to then through this this connection. It would be much easier on him and i if we get the veteran. Who's diagnosed in service with my backers a bit. You know. I have a strain. I have whatever that turns into severe Disabling degenerative disk disease or herniation in those sorts of things. It'd be so much easier if those that are ins new on the way out. I need a copy of my medical records. I need diagnosis in the military. I need imaging. Studies are is cat. Scans whatever to show this. Something started in the military. Because we can tie that together much more easily absolutely and i think with the be. Dd program the benefits Direct delivery program that the provides This new system. I'm helping quite a bit of Servicemembers transition out of the military the contact meteorology and they want help going through their initial claim. You know it's something that You know you can't charge for it's a you know it's a. It's a pro bono thing but the end of the day were taken bets. Soldiers vets who are transitioning out on their first you know their initial claim walking out of the room with a ninety percent. Walk on service. Now we're sitting here fighting on. You know that most important ten percent on the backside to get you to the hundred percent but we're a heck of a lot closer than that thirty percent of the twenty percent that you're getting when you're walking out of there like a hero like you and i are all of us did back at our generation you know there's various services connection is an art. It is not a science. It is an art all day long you. There are ways to stack disabilities on top of each other to maximize your coins. And if you do not know what you are doing you are doing it wrong here. What it takes strength or something. We said to will as a process that that is like everything else that all veterans doing the military. There's a procedure. Here's your procedure. One five and the average veteran doesn't understand it is a legal process. There are statutes. The congress is there are regulations that implement those statues that the va is put out is a legal process and it involves medicine so it's a combination of the legal side in the medical side and the average joe out there doesn't understand the law at that level and doesn't understand medicine at that level to connect all of this stuff together both legally and medically right and so let's dive into the details a little bit of that initial. Va disparity claim you know. Will you talk about it. Being an art and greg you talked about it being a legal proceeding. Is there even a three step. Five step nine step seventeen step process. That veterans can look at and say. Okay here's what i need to do. And here's how. I need to submit that claim. I don't know if there's a five step process but there's definite general over overarching rules that you must consider and And i think most important if i could say This is your kids Number one takeaway take notes Holy shit do. Not shotgun approach your. Va clays do not claim. Every single fingernail do not claim every single to- fungus. It's not gonna get you paid number one and number two. It's going to paint you in a corner so bad no attorney can get you out of just because you have dirty your file. You're talking about non attorneys who are adjudicating legal cases. These people do not practice law. They are practicing what they feel in. Our job is to show what disability looks like as plainly as possible so that we can either capitalize on that person's Motive to assist the veteran or To somehow paint over bad in a file because you absolutely are are leaving a trail of tears when you are claiming a shotgun approach to your to your veterans claims Number step is only claimed things that you are legally entitled to claim so it's going to require a little bit of research on your part to know what you're entitled to but that's that's my claim to everybody number one only clean things that you're entitled Because once you start claiming things that you're not entitled to the most important thing that you can not lose that you just gave away is your a benefit of the doubt that fifty percent and when it's as least as likely as not it's you're full of shit and you're claiming everything under the sun You just lost your fifty percent when it comes to the thing that's going to get you hundred percent. Yeah i think all take off on that in a little bit of of education. The vast majority of raiders as will can tell you are veterans. They want to help their fellow veterans. That's why they get that job. However the vast majority are not attorneys and just like we were talking about procedures few minutes ago. That's what they do. They have a manual called the young twenty one one and it is a procedure manual. They claim they step through the procedures. Won- jews hyperlink year like there for five six hyperlink there is. I wish it was. It's not to say there isn't some feeling in it. I mean there there is they are the trier of fact they get to be the arbitrator in adjudicate the claim but they do get that interpretation on their side in trying to decide. What's right and what's wrong is disconnected is not but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at line compeer in the law analyzing walleye analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening. No they are now providing a claim. You know it's transitioning to the other point. He made a providing claims that are not shotgun that you're entitled to. What does that mean rethinks. You have a current diagnosis. You have continuity of your condition meaning you. didn't you know. Get a bruise in boot camp. In your thirty years later. Trying to to say i have a problem. You have to be able to document the progression so he is a little bit different than degenerative disk disease that you may have had back pain and service but it didn't really degenerate until a certain point but then it kept getting worse and worse document how it kept getting worse and worse documented in a law whether it's a blood pressure log a headache log of that in law document the continuity of that condition and the third component of that is the next service. How did that. How did service relate to your claim. It didn't have to 'cause it. You could had a car accident while you were stationed florida. That caused an injury service. Puts you in florida. Therefore that disability the you weren't combat got shot and you got that disability but it's still considered service connected because the military had you stationed there so it's not causation. Its relation to. But if you don't have continuity veterans lose every time is you know. Oh i had this. Bigger hangnail. And i had this. This shotgun approach. Yes but that's not a chronic condition. It's a one time edition. Thank you so much will and greg and has been so great heavy on the show. This has been absolutely amazing. we will share some next steps with our audience in the show notes as we don't have time to cover today but this has been so so great guys. I cannot wait to publish this here in just a few days once we get through the very long process. Now because we've been on here for almost an hour and a half. Oh man what get through this very low process of you know post producing this but This has been really great. I know i've learned a lot. No doubt our listeners have learned a lot. Thank you guys so much for coming on the show really really enjoyed having you absolutely are i would not try and in a motor selves doll. But there's more information both in blogs articles that are on our websites on the im l. a. r. dot com their blogs articles about all his unstuffy also webinars that the media von normal basis. That has a lot of money on and join this martin. I'm ask questions where you're to help end. Try and elton's many veterans hand and your minds and you'll get them guys. Make yourselves better absolutely. I wish i wish. I got a website to promote them in the middle of fixing it right now so Sadly i've got a lotta latin or the we're working on that Were growing like crazy. This last year and a half. It's been unbelievable in worth To do a little self promotion where we're entirely. We're all veteran. were were all disabled vets. For all young where he's All worked on the inside. Su know how all the systems work so there we'd and accurately communicate with the that's how we run a different off practice than everybody else who's We what these guys who they're fighting against and there's a alive easier way that i hope you've enjoyed this segment of the interview. Now to listen to the full interview click on the lincoln the show notes fill out that form and we will email that link directly to you again until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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"Hey just a quick before we get things kicked off here. I do want to let you know that. There is some strong language throughout this episode so listener discretion is advised. If there's five step process but there's indefinite general over overarching rules that she must consider but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at compeer in the wall and analyzing while i'm analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening pay. Everyone welcome to season six episode. Five of we served now. What it on this podcast. I do my very best to answer the questions. That veterans and their families are all ready asking my name is aaron perkins on the host of this show and the founder of courage to fight again an hour parent organization. I'm also the author of resolve. Which is a step by. Step guide for q the veteran to help you rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life. Today's topic when the show is via a disability. What you need to do to submit it and not just what to do with. How do it bright outta appeal it. Should you appeal that well. That work all those things and more in today's show. I had a chance to sit down with a couple of really great guys who have done their homework on this. They do this kind of thing. Every single day. Greg colton and will simmons and we set down and chat or mojos that hour and a half i had to cut out unfortunately a lot of that conversation but the week to that full interview can click on the link in the show notes. And that'll take you to a form review request access to that whole uncut interview. And you could watch that in its entirety video interviewed. Please please take advantage of that. But for now i'm going to get out of the way. Make this intro as short and sweet as possible and let you hear the part of the show. The part of our conversation that i was able to stick into this episode here fleas. Enjoy my conversation with greg. Colton and wilson's check it out. Well i am here today with two honestly powerhouses in this field talking about increasing eight disability benefits. I'm here with gregg golden easy. Us navy veteran. This guy has twenty five twenty five years of sea level experience in financial technology compliance security investigation. All these things he's worked with numerous law firms used his own experience with the va to build something really cool. And i know he's gonna wanna talk about that more on this show but it's very good to have you on the show today greg. I'm also here with will simmons. He's a us army veteran former va founder. And managing attorney at simmons law. And i gotta tell you. I could not have asked for a more knowledgeable. Duo to answer veterans questions about va a disability benefits. So i want to just say to both you guys. Welcome to we serve now. What oh thank you very much Very happy to be here with you. you know my own experience of five years in the navy and thinking i came out and was was everything was great. You know always young. And i was happy in that aitken painted matter a whole lot. You know then. I got my late forties and early fifties and realized yeah does kind of hurt a little. Bit so yeah. I'm happy to be here with you and Look forward to the conversation. Will everybody will simmons Absolutely happy to talk to you today. About incentive Something near and dear to my heart. china passion play for me Having gone from ten percent disabled the a lump sum of less than eight hundred bucks and a holy shit. Now what am i gonna digress. My life to one hundred percent permanent total my law degree and my mba so There are programs out there to better your life and puts you in a position to dramatically. Change your life for the better and happy to talk about that too. That awesome awesome. Well let's start our conversation today guys with the transition out of the military. Maybe greg we can start with you. Tell me a bit more about your own transition story what you did right what you wish. You would have known things like that sure. Well you know when. I got out of those one clive in the military. I went through paramedic school in my last year in the military. So i was busy guy for you know. Fourteen sixteen months in the last days in the military. I was also going to civilian paramedic school. So i didn't sleep in as i got out. I worked as a paramedic and did fine. And then i realized that really didn't make a whole heck of a lot of money for all of the responsibilities that i had and that i wanted to do more but i wasn't quite sure how to do. And if i if. I known then what i know now. I would have in fact on to law school however i was a single parent of a two year old and a five year old and i did that for more than fifteen years and i can assure you that. There's nothing fun about going full time college and also trying to get You know to be a good parent and to provide the income necessary and i had that entrepreneurial spirit and i wanted to grow in in and have a big business that that was bringing the wealth i wanted and building it from my retirement and it just There wasn't a lot of of a maps out there. Do this do this do this do this. And through twenty five years of experience. I figured it out and and we've done well and i'm in. I'm thrilled with my past. The navy taught me so much about responsibility and accountability and and those are certainly tenants to be an entrepreneur. No question about it but there was no road map. There was no getting out of the military. Didn't here's your step plans being successful on your own It was it was really hard. So i'm glad to be your health. Talk about that in the journey Will tell us about you and your journey. It was definitely a different Yeah absolutely so i was. How do i even begin this When i joined the military. I joined in forty days. Forty five days before nine. Eleven and I was an architecture student at the time. Indiana national guard kind of do a my weekend. Warriors thing and In after nine. Eleven i i just couldn't physically sit there and design buildings that we're gonna be used to blow people and caused devastation. I wanted to change that. And so i went active duty and went to school and in sadly my entire time in the military was was spent in school one school to the next and in one of those schools. I got banged up. Injured prior to going getting acceptance to west point from enlisted to the academy so i went to west point for two years while i was there. Got my injury that i sustained during active duty. The kid exacerbated to the point that i could no longer sir and unceremoniously. I went home with a ten percent disability. Seven seven hundred eighty bucks or something like that. Night came from west point to sit on my parents. Couch i legitimately want to move. I didn't even know your podcast existed until last week but eyesight. Now what what the heck am i gonna do the rest of my life. I had zero idea. I went from the premier leadership institute in the world to not knowing. I didn't know what the heck did so I decided that applied at schools Just just keep the ball moving and Quickly went to indiana university. Got into the business. School in really just fell in love with entrepreneurship and i let that passion takeover You know my healing process from you. Know both physical and emotional fiercely all of it. I needed to mend myself after coming out of the military. And it's a hell of a won't talk to make that work but Anyway yeah i mean. The transition was man. I don i even describe the transition with it was so unbelievably difficult. It shouldn't need to in needed to be a conversation with a counselor commonality military that said you know. What do you want. do the rest of your life. This is the direction you go and go. Do it can i. It was a lot of soul searching to find. It ought to be honest. But now i've been imagined doing anything else. Couldn't imagine sitting my day any other way when i do and holy shit i get paid for it. I mean oh my god. That's the best. The best thing in the world i completely agree with you will on on that. Come out and you're just in this hot this this song in this hayes in your you have so little direction and even if you had a career counselor to try to talk to you. I don't know if it's just you don't know what you're doing in life because you're so mean you don't stand different concepts yet but man you're just lost wandering out there in and Yeah i grabbed me by accident eck and smack me up a little bit. I do right by sagar i absolutely. I think if there's one thing that i absolutely did right was i I jumped head head on into school and education and building might tool set. Because i wasn't relying solely on the things that i learned in the military to to be jumping off point. I realized i had a heck of a lot of catching up to do. And and that's where the education started for me And obviously i didn't quit. And in fact i found a way to make sure that i didn't have to pay for which was really you know that was. The true transition story was okay. Hang on a second Your bettering yourself. And you're getting somebody else. Pay the bill. This this is something should write a book about Because a lot of that cedeno that hidden. I mean that was one of my biggest struggles was coming out and being twenty five seven a two year old and a five year old that i was literally racing by myself and i was taking eighteen credit hours Getting my degree in biochemistry with minor in english lit. And i you know eighteen credit hours trying to take care to five hundred worked at the same time you know you can get loans and all the rest of it but if you don't have a good nation in what's possible. I had no idea. I was eligible for vote. Rehab you know. When i went i had gi bill and believe it or not. The college never applied the gi bill. I paid for everything out of my own. And even though i was eligible for the gi. Bill is all the time it's really sad is what it comes down to that. We have the capability had had. I recognized what was was there army. And i recognize these benefits. Were there than i could have slowed down and cast in my kids. Now's a roof over their head and not had trying to kill myself to get through it in a short period of time And it would have changed the trajectory of my life. I you know. I watched medical school. Go out the door. Because i couldn't do an internship and be a single parent and i couldn't do medical school and be a single parent. Too young kids had. I had those benefits and recognized that they were available to me. I could have done more. I could've figure things out that's not bad. I mean i. I love where i'm at today but it could have been so much easier. Had i known about all the benefits that are out there. Not just disability. But is as you're talking about. Well the both rehab and the gi bill and things don't get taken advantage of profitable now. I was just gonna say we. We actually just talked about that. I think it was in the last episode about gi bill and how you can leverage it with the Volk rehab well. Vr program now but Leverage that you know those two you know really great benefits to you get further education. Everything i know when i got out You know. I'm sitting in the end of the transition not unit but are transitioning out processing briefings. Right and they're telling us about the va. I knew zero about the. Va except that veterans. Go to the. Va that's really all. I knew about it and they and they told us like. Hey go to the hospital like on post go hospital get your medical records and take him upstairs. Because i had a v. Va office fort hood. They had a. Va office up. Like start for a said okay. Cool and so. I took them and they said okay. Cool we got your medical records like okay to me. It was just another task. I had. I literally had no idea that i was submitting my va. Disability claim audios. Like somebody told me to give you these. I guess this is how i get officially into the va and become a veteran so to speak at someone like your most crucial claim and there you are getting pushed by the system through their said that you're not on purpose fan. That was done on purpose for years and years. And call me a conspiracy theorist or whatever but the truth of the matter is this is mon mon Insurance company pan out benefits and they've got an minimize this as much as far as sharing and you know the the the the hard part was to that by the time i did my first what do you call that first. Compensation exam with the with the doctor or the nurse practitioner. Whatever she was I'm still in tough guy mode. I'm still like yeah. Her s- i'm good. I can you know. I'm sure i can just suck it up for a little while. I didn't realize it's supposed to go there and just be blatantly. Honest like holy crap. This hurts this hurts. This hurts and i can't do this anymore. And i just went. I was like no. This is fine. Do you have anything no. i'm fine. no i'm good. I had no. I d like there was no. There's no plan there's no. There's no one at that point in the transition to to really tell me. Hey this is what you should be doing. This is the level of scrutiny. That they're going to look at your. Va claim with and this is the level of of intensity you need to put to it when you submit it so we can talk about that a little bit like what. What was your guys. Experience with The va disability claims program. I i know with mine drag. Mom i was cormon and i and i was I was one of the supervisors of the ambulance service in and they will. Hospital orlando in the training center training center there and when i sat down out processing with personnel. I still to this day. Remember sitting down at that gray metal desk. And here's somebody that's not much older than me on the other side of the desk in. They're typing out my dvd fourteen. And they're asking me different questions on a checklist and you know how many problems not have any problems you know. Got both of my legs. I got both my arms You know i can hear you talking fine which goes exactly to the point. You're making aaron. And i don't think it was bravado on my side is much as not understanding to transition process and the purpose of the questions being asked as they apply to me in my future not to mention. Let's let's young. Were coming from the military where it's shut the hell up in suck it up. Well it's not only that pervasiveness in the military will absolutely but there's a pervasiveness in the medical side on top of that of we don't go to call unless we are on death's doorstep i had owns and you know i'm i'm urinating blood. I went to the er. I was terrified. I didn't know anything about kidney. Stones about point. I tell you when you look down. Ten o'clock at night and the toilet bowl is you're ready to go to bed. You see bright red blood. You're going to the er right now when they didn't ask me about that as i al processed. I didn't recognize that. The jimmy stones that my kidneys continued to put out than started in the military. Were something that should have been taking care of for in evaluating before on the disability side. And so you know as as a cormon. My knees hurt my back. Hurt dr a are you know my gird. hey dot. Can you write me. Something for this. Ensures tagamet for this there was never any documentation. It was me and my buddy. The doctor who wrote something if i wanted it or b who went to the cabinet and opened up and took out the a hundred older motrin. It took it myself just like i told my fellow shipmates to do or the. You know the marine corps guys that i worked with to do so i mean there was a pervasiveness medicine on top of. What will we say about. The pervasiveness of we have a missions. Do the military. Our mission is to get the dadgum job done. Every single time is not to be standing in sakala. Whine about how this hurts. Don't it well. i'm sorry. I didn't mean now. You know. i think it's for me. I was you know i dealt with something that i deal with. Almost every with almost every veteran client that deal with. It's it's it's a pervasive problem. That every better needs to know you're going to be under compensated for some of your disabilities and you're gonna be overcompensated for some disabilities and when you're coming out of service and you get med boarded for something you know for me. I was hellbent on getting my chest fix chest and backs back rated properly in even though chefs in particular the maximum benefit. I could ever get no matter how hard i tried and no matter what i did was ten percent no matter what so yourself the net absolutely ruined my military career. That is only gonna ever pay me ten percent. I'm sitting. you're banging my head against the wall for at least five years fighting that fight when there was literally nothing i could do. I had to learn the system the right way you gotta do end arounds and connect everything possible to this in order to make sure that your stated appropriately for the actual shit that you're dealing against off that took years to figure out when you don't have somebody holding your hand through the through the that's really true. I mean in my case. I knew the was there that can provides healthcare benefits. But i had a job. I had healthcare benefits. I didn't mean to be a and i correctly and incorrectly depending on how you look at it. I wanted that benefit to be more available my fellow brethren who actually needed it and couldn't make it private healthcare good private healthcare because the. Va does a as much as they get. Beaten up in the news over. they do. Try very hard. You've healthcare Chewed the veterans other. They can't do better but it's not because they're trying to do that. And so i wanted that that benefit of healthcare to be availed more available. My brother and i never looked into. It wasn't until we want to buy a house and property. You're in texas the realtor said. So what's your your disability rating. And which i giggled including talking about and she goes well with your own. You won't have a fun in fee in taxes. You will either of your property taxes reduced or abated completely if you have disability and i said i don't have any disability. I have both my legs and lower. Did she said idiot. I've known you long time. And i know your kidney stone started in service. I know you're back. Problems started from when you were. Emc girl medic in the military in the military. How can you not have this ability rating. And i wasn't out looking for the money. I was making okay money so i never went searching for those benefits and you know that makes that much more difficult woken. Tell you when you're now twenty. Five years ho service. And the g jared processes are really starting to kick in that began in the military to then through this this connection. It would be much easier on him and i if we get the veteran. Who's diagnosed in service with my backers a bit. You know. I have a strain. I have whatever that turns into severe Disabling degenerative disk disease or herniation in those sorts of things. It'd be so much easier if those that are ins new on the way out. I need a copy of my medical records. I need diagnosis in the military. I need imaging. Studies are is cat. Scans whatever to show this. Something started in the military. Because we can tie that together much more easily absolutely and i think with the be. Dd program the benefits Direct delivery program that the provides This new system. I'm helping quite a bit of Servicemembers transition out of the military the contact meteorology and they want help going through their initial claim. You know it's something that You know you can't charge for it's a you know it's a. It's a pro bono thing but the end of the day were taken bets. Soldiers vets who are transitioning out on their first you know their initial claim walking out of the room with a ninety percent. Walk on service. Now we're sitting here fighting on. You know that most important ten percent on the backside to get you to the hundred percent but we're a heck of a lot closer than that thirty percent of the twenty percent that you're getting when you're walking out of there like a hero like you and i are all of us did back at our generation you know there's various services connection is an art. It is not a science. It is an art all day long you. There are ways to stack disabilities on top of each other to maximize your coins. And if you do not know what you are doing you are doing it wrong here. What it takes strength or something. We said to will as a process that that is like everything else that all veterans doing the military. There's a procedure. Here's your procedure. One five and the average veteran doesn't understand it is a legal process. There are statutes. The congress is there are regulations that implement those statues that the va is put out is a legal process and it involves medicine so it's a combination of the legal side in the medical side and the average joe out there doesn't understand the law at that level and doesn't understand medicine at that level to connect all of this stuff together both legally and medically right and so let's dive into the details a little bit of that initial. Va disparity claim you know. Will you talk about it. Being an art and greg you talked about it being a legal proceeding. Is there even a three step. Five step nine step seventeen step process. That veterans can look at and say. Okay here's what i need to do. And here's how. I need to submit that claim. I don't know if there's a five step process but there's definite general over overarching rules that you must consider and And i think most important if i could say This is your kids Number one takeaway take notes Holy shit do. Not shotgun approach your. Va clays do not claim. Every single fingernail do not claim every single to- fungus. It's not gonna get you paid number one and number two. It's going to paint you in a corner so bad no attorney can get you out of just because you have dirty your file. You're talking about non attorneys who are adjudicating legal cases. These people do not practice law. They are practicing what they feel in. Our job is to show what disability looks like as plainly as possible so that we can either capitalize on that person's Motive to assist the veteran or To somehow paint over bad in a file because you absolutely are are leaving a trail of tears when you are claiming a shotgun approach to your to your veterans claims Number step is only claimed things that you are legally entitled to claim so it's going to require a little bit of research on your part to know what you're entitled to but that's that's my claim to everybody number one only clean things that you're entitled Because once you start claiming things that you're not entitled to the most important thing that you can not lose that you just gave away is your a benefit of the doubt that fifty percent and when it's as least as likely as not it's you're full of shit and you're claiming everything under the sun You just lost your fifty percent when it comes to the thing that's going to get you hundred percent. Yeah i think all take off on that in a little bit of of education. The vast majority of raiders as will can tell you are veterans. They want to help their fellow veterans. That's why they get that job. However the vast majority are not attorneys and just like we were talking about procedures few minutes ago. That's what they do. They have a manual called the young twenty one one and it is a procedure manual. They claim they step through the procedures. Won- jews hyperlink year like there for five six hyperlink there is. I wish it was. It's not to say there isn't some feeling in it. I mean there there is they are the trier of fact they get to be the arbitrator in adjudicate the claim but they do get that interpretation on their side in trying to decide. What's right and what's wrong is disconnected is not but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at line compeer in the law analyzing walleye analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening. No they are now providing a claim. You know it's transitioning to the other point. He made a providing claims that are not shotgun that you're entitled to. What does that mean rethinks. You have a current diagnosis. You have continuity of your condition meaning you. didn't you know. Get a bruise in boot camp. In your thirty years later. Trying to to say i have a problem. You have to be able to document the progression so he is a little bit different than degenerative disk disease that you may have had back pain and service but it didn't really degenerate until a certain point but then it kept getting worse and worse document how it kept getting worse and worse documented in a law whether it's a blood pressure log a headache log of that in law document the continuity of that condition and the third component of that is the next service. How did that. How did service relate to your claim. It didn't have to 'cause it. You could had a car accident while you were stationed florida. That caused an injury service. Puts you in florida. Therefore that disability the you weren't combat got shot and you got that disability but it's still considered service connected because the military had you stationed there so it's not causation. Its relation to. But if you don't have continuity veterans lose every time is you know. Oh i had this. Bigger hangnail. And i had this. This shotgun approach. Yes but that's not a chronic condition. It's a one time edition. Thank you so much will and greg and has been so great heavy on the show. This has been absolutely amazing. we will share some next steps with our audience in the show notes as we don't have time to cover today but this has been so so great guys. I cannot wait to publish this here in just a few days once we get through the very long process. Now because we've been on here for almost an hour and a half. Oh man what get through this very low process of you know post producing this but This has been really great. I know i've learned a lot. No doubt our listeners have learned a lot. Thank you guys so much for coming on the show really really enjoyed having you absolutely are i would not try and in a motor selves doll. But there's more information both in blogs articles that are on our websites on the im l. a. r. dot com their blogs articles about all his unstuffy also webinars that the media von normal basis. That has a lot of money on and join this martin. I'm ask questions where you're to help end. Try and elton's many veterans hand and your minds and you'll get them guys. Make yourselves better absolutely. I wish i wish. I got a website to promote them in the middle of fixing it right now so Sadly i've got a lotta latin or the we're working on that Were growing like crazy. This last year and a half. It's been unbelievable in worth To do a little self promotion where we're entirely. We're all veteran. were were all disabled vets. For all young where he's All worked on the inside. Su know how all the systems work so there we'd and accurately communicate with the that's how we run a different off practice than everybody else who's We what these guys who they're fighting against and there's a alive easier way that i hope you've enjoyed this segment of the interview. Now to listen to the full interview click on the lincoln the show notes fill out that form and we will email that link directly to you again until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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"Hey just a quick before we get things kicked off here. I do want to let you know that. There is some strong language throughout this episode so listener discretion is advised. If there's five step process but there's indefinite general over overarching rules that she must consider but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at compeer in the wall and analyzing while i'm analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening pay. Everyone welcome to season six episode. Five of we served now. What it on this podcast. I do my very best to answer the questions. That veterans and their families are all ready asking my name is aaron perkins on the host of this show and the founder of courage to fight again an hour parent organization. I'm also the author of resolve. Which is a step by. Step guide for q the veteran to help you rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life. Today's topic when the show is via a disability. What you need to do to submit it and not just what to do with. How do it bright outta appeal it. Should you appeal that well. That work all those things and more in today's show. I had a chance to sit down with a couple of really great guys who have done their homework on this. They do this kind of thing. Every single day. Greg colton and will simmons and we set down and chat or mojos that hour and a half i had to cut out unfortunately a lot of that conversation but the week to that full interview can click on the link in the show notes. And that'll take you to a form review request access to that whole uncut interview. And you could watch that in its entirety video interviewed. Please please take advantage of that. But for now i'm going to get out of the way. Make this intro as short and sweet as possible and let you hear the part of the show. The part of our conversation that i was able to stick into this episode here fleas. Enjoy my conversation with greg. Colton and wilson's check it out. Well i am here today with two honestly powerhouses in this field talking about increasing eight disability benefits. I'm here with gregg golden easy. Us navy veteran. This guy has twenty five twenty five years of sea level experience in financial technology compliance security investigation. All these things he's worked with numerous law firms used his own experience with the va to build something really cool. And i know he's gonna wanna talk about that more on this show but it's very good to have you on the show today greg. I'm also here with will simmons. He's a us army veteran former va founder. And managing attorney at simmons law. And i gotta tell you. I could not have asked for a more knowledgeable. Duo to answer veterans questions about va a disability benefits. So i want to just say to both you guys. Welcome to we serve now. What oh thank you very much Very happy to be here with you. you know my own experience of five years in the navy and thinking i came out and was was everything was great. You know always young. And i was happy in that aitken painted matter a whole lot. You know then. I got my late forties and early fifties and realized yeah does kind of hurt a little. Bit so yeah. I'm happy to be here with you and Look forward to the conversation. Will everybody will simmons Absolutely happy to talk to you today. About incentive Something near and dear to my heart. china passion play for me Having gone from ten percent disabled the a lump sum of less than eight hundred bucks and a holy shit. Now what am i gonna digress. My life to one hundred percent permanent total my law degree and my mba so There are programs out there to better your life and puts you in a position to dramatically. Change your life for the better and happy to talk about that too. That awesome awesome. Well let's start our conversation today guys with the transition out of the military. Maybe greg we can start with you. Tell me a bit more about your own transition story what you did right what you wish. You would have known things like that sure. Well you know when. I got out of those one clive in the military. I went through paramedic school in my last year in the military. So i was busy guy for you know. Fourteen sixteen months in the last days in the military. I was also going to civilian paramedic school. So i didn't sleep in as i got out. I worked as a paramedic and did fine. And then i realized that really didn't make a whole heck of a lot of money for all of the responsibilities that i had and that i wanted to do more but i wasn't quite sure how to do. And if i if. I known then what i know now. I would have in fact on to law school however i was a single parent of a two year old and a five year old and i did that for more than fifteen years and i can assure you that. There's nothing fun about going full time college and also trying to get You know to be a good parent and to provide the income necessary and i had that entrepreneurial spirit and i wanted to grow in in and have a big business that that was bringing the wealth i wanted and building it from my retirement and it just There wasn't a lot of of a maps out there. Do this do this do this do this. And through twenty five years of experience. I figured it out and and we've done well and i'm in. I'm thrilled with my past. The navy taught me so much about responsibility and accountability and and those are certainly tenants to be an entrepreneur. No question about it but there was no road map. There was no getting out of the military. Didn't here's your step plans being successful on your own It was it was really hard. So i'm glad to be your health. Talk about that in the journey Will tell us about you and your journey. It was definitely a different Yeah absolutely so i was. How do i even begin this When i joined the military. I joined in forty days. Forty five days before nine. Eleven and I was an architecture student at the time. Indiana national guard kind of do a my weekend. Warriors thing and In after nine. Eleven i i just couldn't physically sit there and design buildings that we're gonna be used to blow people and caused devastation. I wanted to change that. And so i went active duty and went to school and in sadly my entire time in the military was was spent in school one school to the next and in one of those schools. I got banged up. Injured prior to going getting acceptance to west point from enlisted to the academy so i went to west point for two years while i was there. Got my injury that i sustained during active duty. The kid exacerbated to the point that i could no longer sir and unceremoniously. I went home with a ten percent disability. Seven seven hundred eighty bucks or something like that. Night came from west point to sit on my parents. Couch i legitimately want to move. I didn't even know your podcast existed until last week but eyesight. Now what what the heck am i gonna do the rest of my life. I had zero idea. I went from the premier leadership institute in the world to not knowing. I didn't know what the heck did so I decided that applied at schools Just just keep the ball moving and Quickly went to indiana university. Got into the business. School in really just fell in love with entrepreneurship and i let that passion takeover You know my healing process from you. Know both physical and emotional fiercely all of it. I needed to mend myself after coming out of the military. And it's a hell of a won't talk to make that work but Anyway yeah i mean. The transition was man. I don i even describe the transition with it was so unbelievably difficult. It shouldn't need to in needed to be a conversation with a counselor commonality military that said you know. What do you want. do the rest of your life. This is the direction you go and go. Do it can i. It was a lot of soul searching to find. It ought to be honest. But now i've been imagined doing anything else. Couldn't imagine sitting my day any other way when i do and holy shit i get paid for it. I mean oh my god. That's the best. The best thing in the world i completely agree with you will on on that. Come out and you're just in this hot this this song in this hayes in your you have so little direction and even if you had a career counselor to try to talk to you. I don't know if it's just you don't know what you're doing in life because you're so mean you don't stand different concepts yet but man you're just lost wandering out there in and Yeah i grabbed me by accident eck and smack me up a little bit. I do right by sagar i absolutely. I think if there's one thing that i absolutely did right was i I jumped head head on into school and education and building might tool set. Because i wasn't relying solely on the things that i learned in the military to to be jumping off point. I realized i had a heck of a lot of catching up to do. And and that's where the education started for me And obviously i didn't quit. And in fact i found a way to make sure that i didn't have to pay for which was really you know that was. The true transition story was okay. Hang on a second Your bettering yourself. And you're getting somebody else. Pay the bill. This this is something should write a book about Because a lot of that cedeno that hidden. I mean that was one of my biggest struggles was coming out and being twenty five seven a two year old and a five year old that i was literally racing by myself and i was taking eighteen credit hours Getting my degree in biochemistry with minor in english lit. And i you know eighteen credit hours trying to take care to five hundred worked at the same time you know you can get loans and all the rest of it but if you don't have a good nation in what's possible. I had no idea. I was eligible for vote. Rehab you know. When i went i had gi bill and believe it or not. The college never applied the gi bill. I paid for everything out of my own. And even though i was eligible for the gi. Bill is all the time it's really sad is what it comes down to that. We have the capability had had. I recognized what was was there army. And i recognize these benefits. Were there than i could have slowed down and cast in my kids. Now's a roof over their head and not had trying to kill myself to get through it in a short period of time And it would have changed the trajectory of my life. I you know. I watched medical school. Go out the door. Because i couldn't do an internship and be a single parent and i couldn't do medical school and be a single parent. Too young kids had. I had those benefits and recognized that they were available to me. I could have done more. I could've figure things out that's not bad. I mean i. I love where i'm at today but it could have been so much easier. Had i known about all the benefits that are out there. Not just disability. But is as you're talking about. Well the both rehab and the gi bill and things don't get taken advantage of profitable now. I was just gonna say we. We actually just talked about that. I think it was in the last episode about gi bill and how you can leverage it with the Volk rehab well. Vr program now but Leverage that you know those two you know really great benefits to you get further education. Everything i know when i got out You know. I'm sitting in the end of the transition not unit but are transitioning out processing briefings. Right and they're telling us about the va. I knew zero about the. Va except that veterans. Go to the. Va that's really all. I knew about it and they and they told us like. Hey go to the hospital like on post go hospital get your medical records and take him upstairs. Because i had a v. Va office fort hood. They had a. Va office up. Like start for a said okay. Cool and so. I took them and they said okay. Cool we got your medical records like okay to me. It was just another task. I had. I literally had no idea that i was submitting my va. Disability claim audios. Like somebody told me to give you these. I guess this is how i get officially into the va and become a veteran so to speak at someone like your most crucial claim and there you are getting pushed by the system through their said that you're not on purpose fan. That was done on purpose for years and years. And call me a conspiracy theorist or whatever but the truth of the matter is this is mon mon Insurance company pan out benefits and they've got an minimize this as much as far as sharing and you know the the the the hard part was to that by the time i did my first what do you call that first. Compensation exam with the with the doctor or the nurse practitioner. Whatever she was I'm still in tough guy mode. I'm still like yeah. Her s- i'm good. I can you know. I'm sure i can just suck it up for a little while. I didn't realize it's supposed to go there and just be blatantly. Honest like holy crap. This hurts this hurts. This hurts and i can't do this anymore. And i just went. I was like no. This is fine. Do you have anything no. i'm fine. no i'm good. I had no. I d like there was no. There's no plan there's no. There's no one at that point in the transition to to really tell me. Hey this is what you should be doing. This is the level of scrutiny. That they're going to look at your. Va claim with and this is the level of of intensity you need to put to it when you submit it so we can talk about that a little bit like what. What was your guys. Experience with The va disability claims program. I i know with mine drag. Mom i was cormon and i and i was I was one of the supervisors of the ambulance service in and they will. Hospital orlando in the training center training center there and when i sat down out processing with personnel. I still to this day. Remember sitting down at that gray metal desk. And here's somebody that's not much older than me on the other side of the desk in. They're typing out my dvd fourteen. And they're asking me different questions on a checklist and you know how many problems not have any problems you know. Got both of my legs. I got both my arms You know i can hear you talking fine which goes exactly to the point. You're making aaron. And i don't think it was bravado on my side is much as not understanding to transition process and the purpose of the questions being asked as they apply to me in my future not to mention. Let's let's young. Were coming from the military where it's shut the hell up in suck it up. Well it's not only that pervasiveness in the military will absolutely but there's a pervasiveness in the medical side on top of that of we don't go to call unless we are on death's doorstep i had owns and you know i'm i'm urinating blood. I went to the er. I was terrified. I didn't know anything about kidney. Stones about point. I tell you when you look down. Ten o'clock at night and the toilet bowl is you're ready to go to bed. You see bright red blood. You're going to the er right now when they didn't ask me about that as i al processed. I didn't recognize that. The jimmy stones that my kidneys continued to put out than started in the military. Were something that should have been taking care of for in evaluating before on the disability side. And so you know as as a cormon. My knees hurt my back. Hurt dr a are you know my gird. hey dot. Can you write me. Something for this. Ensures tagamet for this there was never any documentation. It was me and my buddy. The doctor who wrote something if i wanted it or b who went to the cabinet and opened up and took out the a hundred older motrin. It took it myself just like i told my fellow shipmates to do or the. You know the marine corps guys that i worked with to do so i mean there was a pervasiveness medicine on top of. What will we say about. The pervasiveness of we have a missions. Do the military. Our mission is to get the dadgum job done. Every single time is not to be standing in sakala. Whine about how this hurts. Don't it well. i'm sorry. I didn't mean now. You know. i think it's for me. I was you know i dealt with something that i deal with. Almost every with almost every veteran client that deal with. It's it's it's a pervasive problem. That every better needs to know you're going to be under compensated for some of your disabilities and you're gonna be overcompensated for some disabilities and when you're coming out of service and you get med boarded for something you know for me. I was hellbent on getting my chest fix chest and backs back rated properly in even though chefs in particular the maximum benefit. I could ever get no matter how hard i tried and no matter what i did was ten percent no matter what so yourself the net absolutely ruined my military career. That is only gonna ever pay me ten percent. I'm sitting. you're banging my head against the wall for at least five years fighting that fight when there was literally nothing i could do. I had to learn the system the right way you gotta do end arounds and connect everything possible to this in order to make sure that your stated appropriately for the actual shit that you're dealing against off that took years to figure out when you don't have somebody holding your hand through the through the that's really true. I mean in my case. I knew the was there that can provides healthcare benefits. But i had a job. I had healthcare benefits. I didn't mean to be a and i correctly and incorrectly depending on how you look at it. I wanted that benefit to be more available my fellow brethren who actually needed it and couldn't make it private healthcare good private healthcare because the. Va does a as much as they get. Beaten up in the news over. they do. Try very hard. You've healthcare Chewed the veterans other. They can't do better but it's not because they're trying to do that. And so i wanted that that benefit of healthcare to be availed more available. My brother and i never looked into. It wasn't until we want to buy a house and property. You're in texas the realtor said. So what's your your disability rating. And which i giggled including talking about and she goes well with your own. You won't have a fun in fee in taxes. You will either of your property taxes reduced or abated completely if you have disability and i said i don't have any disability. I have both my legs and lower. Did she said idiot. I've known you long time. And i know your kidney stone started in service. I know you're back. Problems started from when you were. Emc girl medic in the military in the military. How can you not have this ability rating. And i wasn't out looking for the money. I was making okay money so i never went searching for those benefits and you know that makes that much more difficult woken. Tell you when you're now twenty. Five years ho service. And the g jared processes are really starting to kick in that began in the military to then through this this connection. It would be much easier on him and i if we get the veteran. Who's diagnosed in service with my backers a bit. You know. I have a strain. I have whatever that turns into severe Disabling degenerative disk disease or herniation in those sorts of things. It'd be so much easier if those that are ins new on the way out. I need a copy of my medical records. I need diagnosis in the military. I need imaging. Studies are is cat. Scans whatever to show this. Something started in the military. Because we can tie that together much more easily absolutely and i think with the be. Dd program the benefits Direct delivery program that the provides This new system. I'm helping quite a bit of Servicemembers transition out of the military the contact meteorology and they want help going through their initial claim. You know it's something that You know you can't charge for it's a you know it's a. It's a pro bono thing but the end of the day were taken bets. Soldiers vets who are transitioning out on their first you know their initial claim walking out of the room with a ninety percent. Walk on service. Now we're sitting here fighting on. You know that most important ten percent on the backside to get you to the hundred percent but we're a heck of a lot closer than that thirty percent of the twenty percent that you're getting when you're walking out of there like a hero like you and i are all of us did back at our generation you know there's various services connection is an art. It is not a science. It is an art all day long you. There are ways to stack disabilities on top of each other to maximize your coins. And if you do not know what you are doing you are doing it wrong here. What it takes strength or something. We said to will as a process that that is like everything else that all veterans doing the military. There's a procedure. Here's your procedure. One five and the average veteran doesn't understand it is a legal process. There are statutes. The congress is there are regulations that implement those statues that the va is put out is a legal process and it involves medicine so it's a combination of the legal side in the medical side and the average joe out there doesn't understand the law at that level and doesn't understand medicine at that level to connect all of this stuff together both legally and medically right and so let's dive into the details a little bit of that initial. Va disparity claim you know. Will you talk about it. Being an art and greg you talked about it being a legal proceeding. Is there even a three step. Five step nine step seventeen step process. That veterans can look at and say. Okay here's what i need to do. And here's how. I need to submit that claim. I don't know if there's a five step process but there's definite general over overarching rules that you must consider and And i think most important if i could say This is your kids Number one takeaway take notes Holy shit do. Not shotgun approach your. Va clays do not claim. Every single fingernail do not claim every single to- fungus. It's not gonna get you paid number one and number two. It's going to paint you in a corner so bad no attorney can get you out of just because you have dirty your file. You're talking about non attorneys who are adjudicating legal cases. These people do not practice law. They are practicing what they feel in. Our job is to show what disability looks like as plainly as possible so that we can either capitalize on that person's Motive to assist the veteran or To somehow paint over bad in a file because you absolutely are are leaving a trail of tears when you are claiming a shotgun approach to your to your veterans claims Number step is only claimed things that you are legally entitled to claim so it's going to require a little bit of research on your part to know what you're entitled to but that's that's my claim to everybody number one only clean things that you're entitled Because once you start claiming things that you're not entitled to the most important thing that you can not lose that you just gave away is your a benefit of the doubt that fifty percent and when it's as least as likely as not it's you're full of shit and you're claiming everything under the sun You just lost your fifty percent when it comes to the thing that's going to get you hundred percent. Yeah i think all take off on that in a little bit of of education. The vast majority of raiders as will can tell you are veterans. They want to help their fellow veterans. That's why they get that job. However the vast majority are not attorneys and just like we were talking about procedures few minutes ago. That's what they do. They have a manual called the young twenty one one and it is a procedure manual. They claim they step through the procedures. Won- jews hyperlink year like there for five six hyperlink there is. I wish it was. It's not to say there isn't some feeling in it. I mean there there is they are the trier of fact they get to be the arbitrator in adjudicate the claim but they do get that interpretation on their side in trying to decide. What's right and what's wrong is disconnected is not but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at line compeer in the law analyzing walleye analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening. No they are now providing a claim. You know it's transitioning to the other point. He made a providing claims that are not shotgun that you're entitled to. What does that mean rethinks. You have a current diagnosis. You have continuity of your condition meaning you. didn't you know. Get a bruise in boot camp. In your thirty years later. Trying to to say i have a problem. You have to be able to document the progression so he is a little bit different than degenerative disk disease that you may have had back pain and service but it didn't really degenerate until a certain point but then it kept getting worse and worse document how it kept getting worse and worse documented in a law whether it's a blood pressure log a headache log of that in law document the continuity of that condition and the third component of that is the next service. How did that. How did service relate to your claim. It didn't have to 'cause it. You could had a car accident while you were stationed florida. That caused an injury service. Puts you in florida. Therefore that disability the you weren't combat got shot and you got that disability but it's still considered service connected because the military had you stationed there so it's not causation. Its relation to. But if you don't have continuity veterans lose every time is you know. Oh i had this. Bigger hangnail. And i had this. This shotgun approach. Yes but that's not a chronic condition. It's a one time edition. Thank you so much will and greg and has been so great heavy on the show. This has been absolutely amazing. we will share some next steps with our audience in the show notes as we don't have time to cover today but this has been so so great guys. I cannot wait to publish this here in just a few days once we get through the very long process. Now because we've been on here for almost an hour and a half. Oh man what get through this very low process of you know post producing this but This has been really great. I know i've learned a lot. No doubt our listeners have learned a lot. Thank you guys so much for coming on the show really really enjoyed having you absolutely are i would not try and in a motor selves doll. But there's more information both in blogs articles that are on our websites on the im l. a. r. dot com their blogs articles about all his unstuffy also webinars that the media von normal basis. That has a lot of money on and join this martin. I'm ask questions where you're to help end. Try and elton's many veterans hand and your minds and you'll get them guys. Make yourselves better absolutely. I wish i wish. I got a website to promote them in the middle of fixing it right now so Sadly i've got a lotta latin or the we're working on that Were growing like crazy. This last year and a half. It's been unbelievable in worth To do a little self promotion where we're entirely. We're all veteran. were were all disabled vets. For all young where he's All worked on the inside. Su know how all the systems work so there we'd and accurately communicate with the that's how we run a different off practice than everybody else who's We what these guys who they're fighting against and there's a alive easier way that i hope you've enjoyed this segment of the interview. Now to listen to the full interview click on the lincoln the show notes fill out that form and we will email that link directly to you again until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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S6 E5 - How do I maximize my VA disability benefits? - burst 1

"Hey just a quick before we get things kicked off here. I do want to let you know that. There is some strong language throughout this episode so listener discretion is advised. If there's five step process but there's indefinite general over overarching rules that she must consider but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at compeer in the wall and analyzing while i'm analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening pay. Everyone welcome to season six episode. Five of we served now. What it on this podcast. I do my very best to answer the questions. That veterans and their families are all ready asking my name is aaron perkins on the host of this show and the founder of courage to fight again an hour parent organization. I'm also the author of resolve. Which is a step by. Step guide for q the veteran to help you rediscover purpose meaning and passion and your post military life. Today's topic when the show is via a disability. What you need to do to submit it and not just what to do with. How do it bright outta appeal it. Should you appeal that well. That work all those things and more in today's show. I had a chance to sit down with a couple of really great guys who have done their homework on this. They do this kind of thing. Every single day. Greg colton and will simmons and we set down and chat or mojos that hour and a half i had to cut out unfortunately a lot of that conversation but the week to that full interview can click on the link in the show notes. And that'll take you to a form review request access to that whole uncut interview. And you could watch that in its entirety video interviewed. Please please take advantage of that. But for now i'm going to get out of the way. Make this intro as short and sweet as possible and let you hear the part of the show. The part of our conversation that i was able to stick into this episode here fleas. Enjoy my conversation with greg. Colton and wilson's check it out. Well i am here today with two honestly powerhouses in this field talking about increasing eight disability benefits. I'm here with gregg golden easy. Us navy veteran. This guy has twenty five twenty five years of sea level experience in financial technology compliance security investigation. All these things he's worked with numerous law firms used his own experience with the va to build something really cool. And i know he's gonna wanna talk about that more on this show but it's very good to have you on the show today greg. I'm also here with will simmons. He's a us army veteran former va founder. And managing attorney at simmons law. And i gotta tell you. I could not have asked for a more knowledgeable. Duo to answer veterans questions about va a disability benefits. So i want to just say to both you guys. Welcome to we serve now. What oh thank you very much Very happy to be here with you. you know my own experience of five years in the navy and thinking i came out and was was everything was great. You know always young. And i was happy in that aitken painted matter a whole lot. You know then. I got my late forties and early fifties and realized yeah does kind of hurt a little. Bit so yeah. I'm happy to be here with you and Look forward to the conversation. Will everybody will simmons Absolutely happy to talk to you today. About incentive Something near and dear to my heart. china passion play for me Having gone from ten percent disabled the a lump sum of less than eight hundred bucks and a holy shit. Now what am i gonna digress. My life to one hundred percent permanent total my law degree and my mba so There are programs out there to better your life and puts you in a position to dramatically. Change your life for the better and happy to talk about that too. That awesome awesome. Well let's start our conversation today guys with the transition out of the military. Maybe greg we can start with you. Tell me a bit more about your own transition story what you did right what you wish. You would have known things like that sure. Well you know when. I got out of those one clive in the military. I went through paramedic school in my last year in the military. So i was busy guy for you know. Fourteen sixteen months in the last days in the military. I was also going to civilian paramedic school. So i didn't sleep in as i got out. I worked as a paramedic and did fine. And then i realized that really didn't make a whole heck of a lot of money for all of the responsibilities that i had and that i wanted to do more but i wasn't quite sure how to do. And if i if. I known then what i know now. I would have in fact on to law school however i was a single parent of a two year old and a five year old and i did that for more than fifteen years and i can assure you that. There's nothing fun about going full time college and also trying to get You know to be a good parent and to provide the income necessary and i had that entrepreneurial spirit and i wanted to grow in in and have a big business that that was bringing the wealth i wanted and building it from my retirement and it just There wasn't a lot of of a maps out there. Do this do this do this do this. And through twenty five years of experience. I figured it out and and we've done well and i'm in. I'm thrilled with my past. The navy taught me so much about responsibility and accountability and and those are certainly tenants to be an entrepreneur. No question about it but there was no road map. There was no getting out of the military. Didn't here's your step plans being successful on your own It was it was really hard. So i'm glad to be your health. Talk about that in the journey Will tell us about you and your journey. It was definitely a different Yeah absolutely so i was. How do i even begin this When i joined the military. I joined in forty days. Forty five days before nine. Eleven and I was an architecture student at the time. Indiana national guard kind of do a my weekend. Warriors thing and In after nine. Eleven i i just couldn't physically sit there and design buildings that we're gonna be used to blow people and caused devastation. I wanted to change that. And so i went active duty and went to school and in sadly my entire time in the military was was spent in school one school to the next and in one of those schools. I got banged up. Injured prior to going getting acceptance to west point from enlisted to the academy so i went to west point for two years while i was there. Got my injury that i sustained during active duty. The kid exacerbated to the point that i could no longer sir and unceremoniously. I went home with a ten percent disability. Seven seven hundred eighty bucks or something like that. Night came from west point to sit on my parents. Couch i legitimately want to move. I didn't even know your podcast existed until last week but eyesight. Now what what the heck am i gonna do the rest of my life. I had zero idea. I went from the premier leadership institute in the world to not knowing. I didn't know what the heck did so I decided that applied at schools Just just keep the ball moving and Quickly went to indiana university. Got into the business. School in really just fell in love with entrepreneurship and i let that passion takeover You know my healing process from you. Know both physical and emotional fiercely all of it. I needed to mend myself after coming out of the military. And it's a hell of a won't talk to make that work but Anyway yeah i mean. The transition was man. I don i even describe the transition with it was so unbelievably difficult. It shouldn't need to in needed to be a conversation with a counselor commonality military that said you know. What do you want. do the rest of your life. This is the direction you go and go. Do it can i. It was a lot of soul searching to find. It ought to be honest. But now i've been imagined doing anything else. Couldn't imagine sitting my day any other way when i do and holy shit i get paid for it. I mean oh my god. That's the best. The best thing in the world i completely agree with you will on on that. Come out and you're just in this hot this this song in this hayes in your you have so little direction and even if you had a career counselor to try to talk to you. I don't know if it's just you don't know what you're doing in life because you're so mean you don't stand different concepts yet but man you're just lost wandering out there in and Yeah i grabbed me by accident eck and smack me up a little bit. I do right by sagar i absolutely. I think if there's one thing that i absolutely did right was i I jumped head head on into school and education and building might tool set. Because i wasn't relying solely on the things that i learned in the military to to be jumping off point. I realized i had a heck of a lot of catching up to do. And and that's where the education started for me And obviously i didn't quit. And in fact i found a way to make sure that i didn't have to pay for which was really you know that was. The true transition story was okay. Hang on a second Your bettering yourself. And you're getting somebody else. Pay the bill. This this is something should write a book about Because a lot of that cedeno that hidden. I mean that was one of my biggest struggles was coming out and being twenty five seven a two year old and a five year old that i was literally racing by myself and i was taking eighteen credit hours Getting my degree in biochemistry with minor in english lit. And i you know eighteen credit hours trying to take care to five hundred worked at the same time you know you can get loans and all the rest of it but if you don't have a good nation in what's possible. I had no idea. I was eligible for vote. Rehab you know. When i went i had gi bill and believe it or not. The college never applied the gi bill. I paid for everything out of my own. And even though i was eligible for the gi. Bill is all the time it's really sad is what it comes down to that. We have the capability had had. I recognized what was was there army. And i recognize these benefits. Were there than i could have slowed down and cast in my kids. Now's a roof over their head and not had trying to kill myself to get through it in a short period of time And it would have changed the trajectory of my life. I you know. I watched medical school. Go out the door. Because i couldn't do an internship and be a single parent and i couldn't do medical school and be a single parent. Too young kids had. I had those benefits and recognized that they were available to me. I could have done more. I could've figure things out that's not bad. I mean i. I love where i'm at today but it could have been so much easier. Had i known about all the benefits that are out there. Not just disability. But is as you're talking about. Well the both rehab and the gi bill and things don't get taken advantage of profitable now. I was just gonna say we. We actually just talked about that. I think it was in the last episode about gi bill and how you can leverage it with the Volk rehab well. Vr program now but Leverage that you know those two you know really great benefits to you get further education. Everything i know when i got out You know. I'm sitting in the end of the transition not unit but are transitioning out processing briefings. Right and they're telling us about the va. I knew zero about the. Va except that veterans. Go to the. Va that's really all. I knew about it and they and they told us like. Hey go to the hospital like on post go hospital get your medical records and take him upstairs. Because i had a v. Va office fort hood. They had a. Va office up. Like start for a said okay. Cool and so. I took them and they said okay. Cool we got your medical records like okay to me. It was just another task. I had. I literally had no idea that i was submitting my va. Disability claim audios. Like somebody told me to give you these. I guess this is how i get officially into the va and become a veteran so to speak at someone like your most crucial claim and there you are getting pushed by the system through their said that you're not on purpose fan. That was done on purpose for years and years. And call me a conspiracy theorist or whatever but the truth of the matter is this is mon mon Insurance company pan out benefits and they've got an minimize this as much as far as sharing and you know the the the the hard part was to that by the time i did my first what do you call that first. Compensation exam with the with the doctor or the nurse practitioner. Whatever she was I'm still in tough guy mode. I'm still like yeah. Her s- i'm good. I can you know. I'm sure i can just suck it up for a little while. I didn't realize it's supposed to go there and just be blatantly. Honest like holy crap. This hurts this hurts. This hurts and i can't do this anymore. And i just went. I was like no. This is fine. Do you have anything no. i'm fine. no i'm good. I had no. I d like there was no. There's no plan there's no. There's no one at that point in the transition to to really tell me. Hey this is what you should be doing. This is the level of scrutiny. That they're going to look at your. Va claim with and this is the level of of intensity you need to put to it when you submit it so we can talk about that a little bit like what. What was your guys. Experience with The va disability claims program. I i know with mine drag. Mom i was cormon and i and i was I was one of the supervisors of the ambulance service in and they will. Hospital orlando in the training center training center there and when i sat down out processing with personnel. I still to this day. Remember sitting down at that gray metal desk. And here's somebody that's not much older than me on the other side of the desk in. They're typing out my dvd fourteen. And they're asking me different questions on a checklist and you know how many problems not have any problems you know. Got both of my legs. I got both my arms You know i can hear you talking fine which goes exactly to the point. You're making aaron. And i don't think it was bravado on my side is much as not understanding to transition process and the purpose of the questions being asked as they apply to me in my future not to mention. Let's let's young. Were coming from the military where it's shut the hell up in suck it up. Well it's not only that pervasiveness in the military will absolutely but there's a pervasiveness in the medical side on top of that of we don't go to call unless we are on death's doorstep i had owns and you know i'm i'm urinating blood. I went to the er. I was terrified. I didn't know anything about kidney. Stones about point. I tell you when you look down. Ten o'clock at night and the toilet bowl is you're ready to go to bed. You see bright red blood. You're going to the er right now when they didn't ask me about that as i al processed. I didn't recognize that. The jimmy stones that my kidneys continued to put out than started in the military. Were something that should have been taking care of for in evaluating before on the disability side. And so you know as as a cormon. My knees hurt my back. Hurt dr a are you know my gird. hey dot. Can you write me. Something for this. Ensures tagamet for this there was never any documentation. It was me and my buddy. The doctor who wrote something if i wanted it or b who went to the cabinet and opened up and took out the a hundred older motrin. It took it myself just like i told my fellow shipmates to do or the. You know the marine corps guys that i worked with to do so i mean there was a pervasiveness medicine on top of. What will we say about. The pervasiveness of we have a missions. Do the military. Our mission is to get the dadgum job done. Every single time is not to be standing in sakala. Whine about how this hurts. Don't it well. i'm sorry. I didn't mean now. You know. i think it's for me. I was you know i dealt with something that i deal with. Almost every with almost every veteran client that deal with. It's it's it's a pervasive problem. That every better needs to know you're going to be under compensated for some of your disabilities and you're gonna be overcompensated for some disabilities and when you're coming out of service and you get med boarded for something you know for me. I was hellbent on getting my chest fix chest and backs back rated properly in even though chefs in particular the maximum benefit. I could ever get no matter how hard i tried and no matter what i did was ten percent no matter what so yourself the net absolutely ruined my military career. That is only gonna ever pay me ten percent. I'm sitting. you're banging my head against the wall for at least five years fighting that fight when there was literally nothing i could do. I had to learn the system the right way you gotta do end arounds and connect everything possible to this in order to make sure that your stated appropriately for the actual shit that you're dealing against off that took years to figure out when you don't have somebody holding your hand through the through the that's really true. I mean in my case. I knew the was there that can provides healthcare benefits. But i had a job. I had healthcare benefits. I didn't mean to be a and i correctly and incorrectly depending on how you look at it. I wanted that benefit to be more available my fellow brethren who actually needed it and couldn't make it private healthcare good private healthcare because the. Va does a as much as they get. Beaten up in the news over. they do. Try very hard. You've healthcare Chewed the veterans other. They can't do better but it's not because they're trying to do that. And so i wanted that that benefit of healthcare to be availed more available. My brother and i never looked into. It wasn't until we want to buy a house and property. You're in texas the realtor said. So what's your your disability rating. And which i giggled including talking about and she goes well with your own. You won't have a fun in fee in taxes. You will either of your property taxes reduced or abated completely if you have disability and i said i don't have any disability. I have both my legs and lower. Did she said idiot. I've known you long time. And i know your kidney stone started in service. I know you're back. Problems started from when you were. Emc girl medic in the military in the military. How can you not have this ability rating. And i wasn't out looking for the money. I was making okay money so i never went searching for those benefits and you know that makes that much more difficult woken. Tell you when you're now twenty. Five years ho service. And the g jared processes are really starting to kick in that began in the military to then through this this connection. It would be much easier on him and i if we get the veteran. Who's diagnosed in service with my backers a bit. You know. I have a strain. I have whatever that turns into severe Disabling degenerative disk disease or herniation in those sorts of things. It'd be so much easier if those that are ins new on the way out. I need a copy of my medical records. I need diagnosis in the military. I need imaging. Studies are is cat. Scans whatever to show this. Something started in the military. Because we can tie that together much more easily absolutely and i think with the be. Dd program the benefits Direct delivery program that the provides This new system. I'm helping quite a bit of Servicemembers transition out of the military the contact meteorology and they want help going through their initial claim. You know it's something that You know you can't charge for it's a you know it's a. It's a pro bono thing but the end of the day were taken bets. Soldiers vets who are transitioning out on their first you know their initial claim walking out of the room with a ninety percent. Walk on service. Now we're sitting here fighting on. You know that most important ten percent on the backside to get you to the hundred percent but we're a heck of a lot closer than that thirty percent of the twenty percent that you're getting when you're walking out of there like a hero like you and i are all of us did back at our generation you know there's various services connection is an art. It is not a science. It is an art all day long you. There are ways to stack disabilities on top of each other to maximize your coins. And if you do not know what you are doing you are doing it wrong here. What it takes strength or something. We said to will as a process that that is like everything else that all veterans doing the military. There's a procedure. Here's your procedure. One five and the average veteran doesn't understand it is a legal process. There are statutes. The congress is there are regulations that implement those statues that the va is put out is a legal process and it involves medicine so it's a combination of the legal side in the medical side and the average joe out there doesn't understand the law at that level and doesn't understand medicine at that level to connect all of this stuff together both legally and medically right and so let's dive into the details a little bit of that initial. Va disparity claim you know. Will you talk about it. Being an art and greg you talked about it being a legal proceeding. Is there even a three step. Five step nine step seventeen step process. That veterans can look at and say. Okay here's what i need to do. And here's how. I need to submit that claim. I don't know if there's a five step process but there's definite general over overarching rules that you must consider and And i think most important if i could say This is your kids Number one takeaway take notes Holy shit do. Not shotgun approach your. Va clays do not claim. Every single fingernail do not claim every single to- fungus. It's not gonna get you paid number one and number two. It's going to paint you in a corner so bad no attorney can get you out of just because you have dirty your file. You're talking about non attorneys who are adjudicating legal cases. These people do not practice law. They are practicing what they feel in. Our job is to show what disability looks like as plainly as possible so that we can either capitalize on that person's Motive to assist the veteran or To somehow paint over bad in a file because you absolutely are are leaving a trail of tears when you are claiming a shotgun approach to your to your veterans claims Number step is only claimed things that you are legally entitled to claim so it's going to require a little bit of research on your part to know what you're entitled to but that's that's my claim to everybody number one only clean things that you're entitled Because once you start claiming things that you're not entitled to the most important thing that you can not lose that you just gave away is your a benefit of the doubt that fifty percent and when it's as least as likely as not it's you're full of shit and you're claiming everything under the sun You just lost your fifty percent when it comes to the thing that's going to get you hundred percent. Yeah i think all take off on that in a little bit of of education. The vast majority of raiders as will can tell you are veterans. They want to help their fellow veterans. That's why they get that job. However the vast majority are not attorneys and just like we were talking about procedures few minutes ago. That's what they do. They have a manual called the young twenty one one and it is a procedure manual. They claim they step through the procedures. Won- jews hyperlink year like there for five six hyperlink there is. I wish it was. It's not to say there isn't some feeling in it. I mean there there is they are the trier of fact they get to be the arbitrator in adjudicate the claim but they do get that interpretation on their side in trying to decide. What's right and what's wrong is disconnected is not but it is very procedural. It's they're not looking at line compeer in the law analyzing walleye analyzing the case law even the references to it. They're not opening. No they are now providing a claim. You know it's transitioning to the other point. He made a providing claims that are not shotgun that you're entitled to. What does that mean rethinks. You have a current diagnosis. You have continuity of your condition meaning you. didn't you know. Get a bruise in boot camp. In your thirty years later. Trying to to say i have a problem. You have to be able to document the progression so he is a little bit different than degenerative disk disease that you may have had back pain and service but it didn't really degenerate until a certain point but then it kept getting worse and worse document how it kept getting worse and worse documented in a law whether it's a blood pressure log a headache log of that in law document the continuity of that condition and the third component of that is the next service. How did that. How did service relate to your claim. It didn't have to 'cause it. You could had a car accident while you were stationed florida. That caused an injury service. Puts you in florida. Therefore that disability the you weren't combat got shot and you got that disability but it's still considered service connected because the military had you stationed there so it's not causation. Its relation to. But if you don't have continuity veterans lose every time is you know. Oh i had this. Bigger hangnail. And i had this. This shotgun approach. Yes but that's not a chronic condition. It's a one time edition. Thank you so much will and greg and has been so great heavy on the show. This has been absolutely amazing. we will share some next steps with our audience in the show notes as we don't have time to cover today but this has been so so great guys. I cannot wait to publish this here in just a few days once we get through the very long process. Now because we've been on here for almost an hour and a half. Oh man what get through this very low process of you know post producing this but This has been really great. I know i've learned a lot. No doubt our listeners have learned a lot. Thank you guys so much for coming on the show really really enjoyed having you absolutely are i would not try and in a motor selves doll. But there's more information both in blogs articles that are on our websites on the im l. a. r. dot com their blogs articles about all his unstuffy also webinars that the media von normal basis. That has a lot of money on and join this martin. I'm ask questions where you're to help end. Try and elton's many veterans hand and your minds and you'll get them guys. Make yourselves better absolutely. I wish i wish. I got a website to promote them in the middle of fixing it right now so Sadly i've got a lotta latin or the we're working on that Were growing like crazy. This last year and a half. It's been unbelievable in worth To do a little self promotion where we're entirely. We're all veteran. were were all disabled vets. For all young where he's All worked on the inside. Su know how all the systems work so there we'd and accurately communicate with the that's how we run a different off practice than everybody else who's We what these guys who they're fighting against and there's a alive easier way that i hope you've enjoyed this segment of the interview. Now to listen to the full interview click on the lincoln the show notes fill out that form and we will email that link directly to you again until next time. Thanks for listening. We served now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

Courage to Fight Again

21:30 min | 7 months ago

"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Welcome to we served now. What were we seek to answer. The questions. veterans and their families are all ready asking. Don't today show. I want to share three things with you. Just three and here they are. I won't answer the question. Hopefully definitively how do you use post nine eleven. Gi bill number two. I will share with you how to maximize post nine. Eleven bill benefits and finally. I will tell you how you can buy side eleven. Gi bill benefits with another amazing benefits. That you've earned the most notable programs if you're interested in hearing more about that which i have to assume you are stay tuned and you are going to hear every single bit. Stay with us. Who am i. Why am i still here. How can i uncover you. I was meant to be during my own transition from the. Us army the wounds of war especially those not visible continued to play. I walked through the pain of job loss of ptsd diagnosis often crippling anxiety by finally discovered the reason. I'm here to earth. And i knew i couldn't keep it to myself. So i wrote a book simply titled resolve resolve is a book that is apologetically faith-based a step by step guide designed for maximum effectiveness in the context of a small group of other veterans resolve provides veterans everywhere with the tool to help you step into your new life a life full hope purpose and vision for the future to pick up your copy of resolve head over to courage to fight again dot com. That's courage to fight again dot com so today's question surrounds the post nine eleven. Gi bill as no doubt. You've figured out by now and specifically how you use it but the truth is if that was the only question i answered on today's show who would be a very short episode now using the post nine eleven. Gi bill is really really easy now. Of course. I want you to listen to this entire episode and if you do i have a special gift just for you toward the end of the episode. But i'll tell you right upfront. Using the post nine eleven she i bill is probably the easiest thing you will ever do when it comes to taking advantage of the benefits you've earned through your military service now before we dive in. I want to share some of my method with you kind of how we came to put this episode together posted a question on the courage to fight again facebook page. I shared that question on several veteran focused facebook groups and we got more engagement with this single question than with anything we've ever posted and the question was just this is what has been your experience with a post. Nine eleven jabil. We got over eleven hundred comments and i've read almost every single one of them and around ninety nine percent of those responses. Give or take. They were very positive in nature. Talking about how easy it was to us how it was the best benefit you can take advantage of and how to get the most out of the post nine eleven gi bill and not only did those who responded answer that question but they answered so many more as well man here. I am rolling right into the episode. And i haven't even introduced myself yet so if you were here for the first time you may be like. Who is this guy. Talking about. The post nine eleven. Gi bill well. My name is aaron perkins. I'm us army. Combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos. I'm the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the journey of rediscovering purpose. Meaning and passion in your life after you've left the military and as you've probably already guessed on the host of this podcast so let's dive right in at the top of the show. I promise you three things. Let's tackle the first one. How do i use my post nine. Eleven gi bill. Now i'm going to assume you're already eligible for the gi bill. So i'm not going to dive into that part. But i will post a link in the show notes about your eligibility and how you can determine your eligibility in case you need to dig into that a bit more but step one is apply for the benefits on the va website. And guess what. I'll post that link in the show notes as well. You need a few things when you apply. Here's what you need your social security number your military history and that just basic military history. You don't need your full your your details of where you're stationed in when you were stationed there and all of that. He just need basically the years you serve and the date service egypt education history of the schools. You've attended other degrees. You hold things like that and finally basic information about the school or trading facility that you want to attend because you don't have to attend just a traditional community college or university or state scored like that. You can attend a variety of training facilities. Let's say you wanted to become an h vac technician. There are schools or training facilities that you can learn how to do that if you want to become a cybersecurity expert while their schools training facilities we can do that so again just some basic information about the school or the training facility that you want to attend now. You can do this by mail. Apply by mail using the va form or obviously the most preferred way is to apply online. That's going to be the fastest takes about thirty days or so for the va to verify eligibility. And that's it for step one. Step two you're just going to reach out to the school. the understanding. here's that you've already been accepted or you're well on your way to being accepted to the school. So you contact the school and request to speak to the va rep and these are your best friends in the post nine eleven gi bill business. Now i know i've heard some mixed reviews about. Va reps But they do know the school and they know the va. So they're going to be able to share some things with you. Some indepth information that you're not gonna be able to find him the va website. You're not gonna find on the school's website you're going to have to talk to them directly and step three. Follow the directions of your. Va school rep number. Four step four. Get your education. It's really that easy now. Look with nearly all things. Va there are multiple paths to get to the same destination but those steps has share with you apply online. Contact the school link with your. Va rep. That really is the simplest and most direct route to taking. Hold of your post nine eleven. Gi bill benefits. So if i would have had just a single question for this episode. We'd already be done. But i promise you i would share with you and the next is really important and that is how to maximize your post nine eleven. Gi bill benefits now. There are a bunch of ways to do this. And i'll mention those in passing and you can do your own homework and figure out if those are something you want or need to explore. But i want to focus on just two ways to maximize your benefit so your options. As far as maximizing your benefit goes find a yellow ribbon. School is one option tuition assistance. Top up that's another program that the va has. You may be eligible for you may need to look into There's also the option of a stem scholarship science technology engineering or math. If you're majoring in any of those categories you may be eligible for scholarship. Veteran education courses aka vet tech also tutorial assistance if you're struggling with biology or chemistry or calculus or whatever may be and you need a tutor to get tutorial assistance with the. Va actually pay you to go to a tutor. She can pass that course now here the two i want to talk about all the ones i just mentioned are in this section of the website that talks about the posting. I love jabil bill. But all the ones i mentioned in this section are in a section called additional information very simple and one of those is finding yo a yellow ribbon school. Excuse me and the second is not mentioned in that additional information but it is getting that monthly housing allowance and again. I'm going to dive into that but let's talk about the yellow ribbons school here for just a minute. So the yellow ribbon program can help you pay for hire out of state private school or graduate school tuition. That the post nine eleven. Gi bill does not cover so tuition might be higher than what the gi bill will cover or you want to attend a school as a nonresident student. Non resident of that state in other words. Another thing this is more of a side note. Not yellow ribbon schools specific. Your state may also provide additional benefits for you as a veteran. And that is something you should look into with your state. Truth be told your. Va rep at your chosen. School should be able to answer that question for you or at the very least be able to point you in the right direction. All right so that is the yellow ribbon school piece. I wanted to talk about and the other piece. That's not listed in additional information. section is section one. Oh seven sounds very boring but it's very very important. And that is the location based housing allowance the location based housing allowance. Now you will get a housing allowance for using the post nine eleven gi bill and if you attend all online classes this rate that it is set at is half the national average of an e five with dependence for their basic allowance for housing. So that doesn't change unless the national average changes. I know when i was taking a few online courses. It was eight hundred dollars a month. I don't remember the exact number but we're the location based housing allowance. Really comes into play is when you were attending in person classes. Now i want to set the record straight here then. There's this common misconception that your housing allowance rate is based on where you live. This is not the case. Your housing allowance is based on the zip code of where you're attending classes. I'm going to say that again. Your housing allowance is based on the zip code of where you are attending classes. Let me just share a little story from my own experience. I decided to take some undergraduate courses my undergraduate degree before went into the army. But i wanted to just take advantage of the post nine. Eleven she i built a little bit wasn't ready to work on my master's degree or anything so i was like you know what. Maybe i'll just take some courses. I know i have to take at least one of those in person. So i can get that in person Housing allowance right that location based housing loans. Well right up. The road from probably ten minutes or less away was a campus of the school. I was wanting to attend. They had multiple campuses all over the city and the housing allowance. Right there was. I don't know eight nine hundred dollars. Something like that. But if i would drive an extra seven or eight minutes i could get the location. Based housing allowance ended up being like eleven. Eleven sixty seven. Ninety i don't remember now. It's been a few years but i was like. Hey i will totally drive a few extra minutes to get the extra couple hundred dollars or so a month because to three hundred dollars a month because that just makes more sense because i want to get the same education and going to get the same course the same credit for the course. Why not just drive a few extra minutes so again. The housing allowance is based on the zip code of where you were attending classes. And i just mentioned this but keep in mind. You only need to attend a single class in person. that's it you can take the rest of your classes online and still collect the housing allowance based on the zip code of where you attending that one class. Now let's talk about kovic for a minute though we're we're still in the midst of this pandemic. I don't wanna say the middle. Hopefully we're nearing the end of it. But cova has missed a lot of things up our way of life our jobs our relationships a lot of things and it has changed the way a lot of schools do business and that is i'll say inadvertently affecting those of us trying to use the post nine eleven. Gi bill and some schools. They're not even holding in person. Classes yet and and veterans are facing this never before seen challenge and in fact. This was one of the concerns. someone maybe more than one person brought up when i ask about experiences with the post nine eleven. Gi bill. so. I just mentioned that you get paid at half the national average of an e five with dependence if you attend school all align. Let's say that's eight hundred dollars but if you attend at least one class in person you'll receive your housing allowance based on zip code of the school year attending so again when i attended in person. Who's eleven dollars a month so it made sense to at least attend one school. Excuse me or one class in person and this is where co vid really comes into play some schools. Excuse me some schools or universities that were previously holding in person. Classes do not even have the option to register for in person classes. Now which means that. If he veteran was attending in person in receiving that in-person housing allowance rate that housing allowance rate has suddenly changed to the online rate. And i've done a good bit of research into this. I have not found anything in my research for my conversations with veterans or anything social media no way to really get around this so to speak. So if you found a way to continue receiving the in-person housing allowance rate while attending only online due to covid. I would love if you would share that with us by reaching out to me at podcast at courage to fight again dot com. So i can send it out to the rest of our listeners. Finally and i'm really running low on time here but i promise three things at the top of the show how to use your gi bill. We cover that outta to maximize your gi bill. We cover that and now how to combine your gi bill benefits with another benefit. You may or may not have heard of and that benefit is vocational rehabilitation or volk rehab as it's often called now technically its known as veteran readiness and employment or vr and e but no one actually calls it that or at least not yet. It just hasn't a katelyn voc rehab. Though in fact is probably a better benefit than the post nine eleven. Gi bill pays for literally everything. You need special equipment for your degree. Plan pays for that. You have to pay for parking at your school. Pays for that. You'd pay for books pays for that pays for pretty much everything and just about anything you do that has to do with getting your education and i'm saying this because i want to reiterate it vo korea will pay for that and so it does seem at least initially to be a better benefit than the post nine eleven gi bill. But here's where you can. Combine them nate. Because you can't use them both at once you can use either one or the other because if you use vocal rehab or any it will cut into the total time you can use your gi bill. So here's the hack if you will if you use all thirty days of your post nine eleven gi bill and then apply for your vote rehab benefit. Frankly i'd opt for a bit more. Forty five sixty days. Something like that just to be on the safe side. But thirty days minimum is what i found volk rehab or vr knee or whatever. You want to call. It goes through a different process than the post nine eleven. Gi bill but leveraging these two benefits together is really the best of both worlds. And here's why. I say that because let's say you use just about all of your post nine eleven gi bill to get your bachelor's degree in psychology. But you wanna be a licensed professional counselor. Will you need at least a master's degree for that and you've used almost all of your jive. Ill what are you gonna do. Well then you go to your local. Vr knee or volk rehab counselor and say. Hey here's what i need to do. And then you move into the vote rehab program now again. Your mileage may vary. Because i've heard again a lot of mixed stories mixed reviews of working with folk rehab counselor but that is your process and again i will post a link to these processes or actually there's a few links but all these processes and all these resources in the show with that we have reached the end of season six episode. So what are your questions voice memo on your phone and send it to podcast kurds. Fight again dot com. So what's on your mind. What questions are you asking. What are your family members asking or join the post. Nine eleven veterans families facebook group and post your question. There have block of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves. Is this have. I accept the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ well. I'll see you right back here. Two weeks from the day and the next veteran questions we'll be asking is this. How do i increase my va. Disability rating ohio and for the special gift. I promised every thursday evening is hosting a sous vide for justice guys who are veterans. Sorry ladies you're coming soon. The training for that. We will be walking through the resolved journey. Together get your copy of resolve for thirty percent off using the code asked and just head over to courage fight again dot com and click on. Get the book and if you like to join the group on the lincoln the show notes to let me know. 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S6 E4 - How do I use my Post-9/11 GI Bill? - FULL

Courage to Fight Again

21:30 min | 7 months ago

S6 E4 - How do I use my Post-9/11 GI Bill? - FULL

"Welcome to we served now. What were we seek to answer. The questions. veterans and their families are all ready asking. Don't today show. I want to share three things with you. Just three and here they are. I won't answer the question. Hopefully definitively how do you use post nine eleven. Gi bill number two. I will share with you how to maximize post nine. Eleven bill benefits and finally. I will tell you how you can buy side eleven. Gi bill benefits with another amazing benefits. That you've earned the most notable programs if you're interested in hearing more about that which i have to assume you are stay tuned and you are going to hear every single bit. Stay with us. Who am i. Why am i still here. How can i uncover you. I was meant to be during my own transition from the. Us army the wounds of war especially those not visible continued to play. I walked through the pain of job loss of ptsd diagnosis often crippling anxiety by finally discovered the reason. I'm here to earth. And i knew i couldn't keep it to myself. So i wrote a book simply titled resolve resolve is a book that is apologetically faith-based a step by step guide designed for maximum effectiveness in the context of a small group of other veterans resolve provides veterans everywhere with the tool to help you step into your new life a life full hope purpose and vision for the future to pick up your copy of resolve head over to courage to fight again dot com. That's courage to fight again dot com so today's question surrounds the post nine eleven. Gi bill as no doubt. You've figured out by now and specifically how you use it but the truth is if that was the only question i answered on today's show who would be a very short episode now using the post nine eleven. Gi bill is really really easy now. Of course. I want you to listen to this entire episode and if you do i have a special gift just for you toward the end of the episode. But i'll tell you right upfront. Using the post nine eleven she i bill is probably the easiest thing you will ever do when it comes to taking advantage of the benefits you've earned through your military service now before we dive in. I want to share some of my method with you kind of how we came to put this episode together posted a question on the courage to fight again facebook page. I shared that question on several veteran focused facebook groups and we got more engagement with this single question than with anything we've ever posted and the question was just this is what has been your experience with a post. Nine eleven jabil. We got over eleven hundred comments and i've read almost every single one of them and around ninety nine percent of those responses. Give or take. They were very positive in nature. Talking about how easy it was to us how it was the best benefit you can take advantage of and how to get the most out of the post nine eleven gi bill and not only did those who responded answer that question but they answered so many more as well man here. I am rolling right into the episode. And i haven't even introduced myself yet so if you were here for the first time you may be like. Who is this guy. Talking about. The post nine eleven. Gi bill well. My name is aaron perkins. I'm us army. Combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Daddy to amazing kiddos. I'm the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the journey of rediscovering purpose. Meaning and passion in your life after you've left the military and as you've probably already guessed on the host of this podcast so let's dive right in at the top of the show. I promise you three things. Let's tackle the first one. How do i use my post nine. Eleven gi bill. Now i'm going to assume you're already eligible for the gi bill. So i'm not going to dive into that part. But i will post a link in the show notes about your eligibility and how you can determine your eligibility in case you need to dig into that a bit more but step one is apply for the benefits on the va website. And guess what. I'll post that link in the show notes as well. You need a few things when you apply. Here's what you need your social security number your military history and that just basic military history. You don't need your full your your details of where you're stationed in when you were stationed there and all of that. He just need basically the years you serve and the date service egypt education history of the schools. You've attended other degrees. You hold things like that and finally basic information about the school or trading facility that you want to attend because you don't have to attend just a traditional community college or university or state scored like that. You can attend a variety of training facilities. Let's say you wanted to become an h vac technician. There are schools or training facilities that you can learn how to do that if you want to become a cybersecurity expert while their schools training facilities we can do that so again just some basic information about the school or the training facility that you want to attend now. You can do this by mail. Apply by mail using the va form or obviously the most preferred way is to apply online. That's going to be the fastest takes about thirty days or so for the va to verify eligibility. And that's it for step one. Step two you're just going to reach out to the school. the understanding. here's that you've already been accepted or you're well on your way to being accepted to the school. So you contact the school and request to speak to the va rep and these are your best friends in the post nine eleven gi bill business. Now i know i've heard some mixed reviews about. Va reps But they do know the school and they know the va. So they're going to be able to share some things with you. Some indepth information that you're not gonna be able to find him the va website. You're not gonna find on the school's website you're going to have to talk to them directly and step three. Follow the directions of your. Va school rep number. Four step four. Get your education. It's really that easy now. Look with nearly all things. Va there are multiple paths to get to the same destination but those steps has share with you apply online. Contact the school link with your. Va rep. That really is the simplest and most direct route to taking. Hold of your post nine eleven. Gi bill benefits. So if i would have had just a single question for this episode. We'd already be done. But i promise you i would share with you and the next is really important and that is how to maximize your post nine eleven. Gi bill benefits now. There are a bunch of ways to do this. And i'll mention those in passing and you can do your own homework and figure out if those are something you want or need to explore. But i want to focus on just two ways to maximize your benefit so your options. As far as maximizing your benefit goes find a yellow ribbon. School is one option tuition assistance. Top up that's another program that the va has. You may be eligible for you may need to look into There's also the option of a stem scholarship science technology engineering or math. If you're majoring in any of those categories you may be eligible for scholarship. Veteran education courses aka vet tech also tutorial assistance if you're struggling with biology or chemistry or calculus or whatever may be and you need a tutor to get tutorial assistance with the. Va actually pay you to go to a tutor. She can pass that course now here the two i want to talk about all the ones i just mentioned are in this section of the website that talks about the posting. I love jabil bill. But all the ones i mentioned in this section are in a section called additional information very simple and one of those is finding yo a yellow ribbon school. Excuse me and the second is not mentioned in that additional information but it is getting that monthly housing allowance and again. I'm going to dive into that but let's talk about the yellow ribbons school here for just a minute. So the yellow ribbon program can help you pay for hire out of state private school or graduate school tuition. That the post nine eleven. Gi bill does not cover so tuition might be higher than what the gi bill will cover or you want to attend a school as a nonresident student. Non resident of that state in other words. Another thing this is more of a side note. Not yellow ribbon schools specific. Your state may also provide additional benefits for you as a veteran. And that is something you should look into with your state. Truth be told your. Va rep at your chosen. School should be able to answer that question for you or at the very least be able to point you in the right direction. All right so that is the yellow ribbon school piece. I wanted to talk about and the other piece. That's not listed in additional information. section is section one. Oh seven sounds very boring but it's very very important. And that is the location based housing allowance the location based housing allowance. Now you will get a housing allowance for using the post nine eleven gi bill and if you attend all online classes this rate that it is set at is half the national average of an e five with dependence for their basic allowance for housing. So that doesn't change unless the national average changes. I know when i was taking a few online courses. It was eight hundred dollars a month. I don't remember the exact number but we're the location based housing allowance. Really comes into play is when you were attending in person classes. Now i want to set the record straight here then. There's this common misconception that your housing allowance rate is based on where you live. This is not the case. Your housing allowance is based on the zip code of where you're attending classes. I'm going to say that again. Your housing allowance is based on the zip code of where you are attending classes. Let me just share a little story from my own experience. I decided to take some undergraduate courses my undergraduate degree before went into the army. But i wanted to just take advantage of the post nine. Eleven she i built a little bit wasn't ready to work on my master's degree or anything so i was like you know what. Maybe i'll just take some courses. I know i have to take at least one of those in person. So i can get that in person Housing allowance right that location based housing loans. Well right up. The road from probably ten minutes or less away was a campus of the school. I was wanting to attend. They had multiple campuses all over the city and the housing allowance. Right there was. I don't know eight nine hundred dollars. Something like that. But if i would drive an extra seven or eight minutes i could get the location. Based housing allowance ended up being like eleven. Eleven sixty seven. Ninety i don't remember now. It's been a few years but i was like. Hey i will totally drive a few extra minutes to get the extra couple hundred dollars or so a month because to three hundred dollars a month because that just makes more sense because i want to get the same education and going to get the same course the same credit for the course. Why not just drive a few extra minutes so again. The housing allowance is based on the zip code of where you were attending classes. And i just mentioned this but keep in mind. You only need to attend a single class in person. that's it you can take the rest of your classes online and still collect the housing allowance based on the zip code of where you attending that one class. Now let's talk about kovic for a minute though we're we're still in the midst of this pandemic. I don't wanna say the middle. Hopefully we're nearing the end of it. But cova has missed a lot of things up our way of life our jobs our relationships a lot of things and it has changed the way a lot of schools do business and that is i'll say inadvertently affecting those of us trying to use the post nine eleven. Gi bill and some schools. They're not even holding in person. Classes yet and and veterans are facing this never before seen challenge and in fact. This was one of the concerns. someone maybe more than one person brought up when i ask about experiences with the post nine eleven. Gi bill. so. I just mentioned that you get paid at half the national average of an e five with dependence if you attend school all align. Let's say that's eight hundred dollars but if you attend at least one class in person you'll receive your housing allowance based on zip code of the school year attending so again when i attended in person. Who's eleven dollars a month so it made sense to at least attend one school. Excuse me or one class in person and this is where co vid really comes into play some schools. Excuse me some schools or universities that were previously holding in person. Classes do not even have the option to register for in person classes. Now which means that. If he veteran was attending in person in receiving that in-person housing allowance rate that housing allowance rate has suddenly changed to the online rate. And i've done a good bit of research into this. I have not found anything in my research for my conversations with veterans or anything social media no way to really get around this so to speak. So if you found a way to continue receiving the in-person housing allowance rate while attending only online due to covid. I would love if you would share that with us by reaching out to me at podcast at courage to fight again dot com. So i can send it out to the rest of our listeners. Finally and i'm really running low on time here but i promise three things at the top of the show how to use your gi bill. We cover that outta to maximize your gi bill. We cover that and now how to combine your gi bill benefits with another benefit. You may or may not have heard of and that benefit is vocational rehabilitation or volk rehab as it's often called now technically its known as veteran readiness and employment or vr and e but no one actually calls it that or at least not yet. It just hasn't a katelyn voc rehab. Though in fact is probably a better benefit than the post nine eleven. Gi bill pays for literally everything. You need special equipment for your degree. Plan pays for that. You have to pay for parking at your school. Pays for that. You'd pay for books pays for that pays for pretty much everything and just about anything you do that has to do with getting your education and i'm saying this because i want to reiterate it vo korea will pay for that and so it does seem at least initially to be a better benefit than the post nine eleven gi bill. But here's where you can. Combine them nate. Because you can't use them both at once you can use either one or the other because if you use vocal rehab or any it will cut into the total time you can use your gi bill. So here's the hack if you will if you use all thirty days of your post nine eleven gi bill and then apply for your vote rehab benefit. Frankly i'd opt for a bit more. Forty five sixty days. Something like that just to be on the safe side. But thirty days minimum is what i found volk rehab or vr knee or whatever. You want to call. It goes through a different process than the post nine eleven. Gi bill but leveraging these two benefits together is really the best of both worlds. And here's why. I say that because let's say you use just about all of your post nine eleven gi bill to get your bachelor's degree in psychology. But you wanna be a licensed professional counselor. Will you need at least a master's degree for that and you've used almost all of your jive. Ill what are you gonna do. Well then you go to your local. Vr knee or volk rehab counselor and say. Hey here's what i need to do. And then you move into the vote rehab program now again. Your mileage may vary. Because i've heard again a lot of mixed stories mixed reviews of working with folk rehab counselor but that is your process and again i will post a link to these processes or actually there's a few links but all these processes and all these resources in the show with that we have reached the end of season six episode. So what are your questions voice memo on your phone and send it to podcast kurds. Fight again dot com. So what's on your mind. What questions are you asking. What are your family members asking or join the post. Nine eleven veterans families facebook group and post your question. There have block of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves. Is this have. I accept the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus christ well. I'll see you right back here. Two weeks from the day and the next veteran questions we'll be asking is this. How do i increase my va. Disability rating ohio and for the special gift. I promised every thursday evening is hosting a sous vide for justice guys who are veterans. Sorry ladies you're coming soon. The training for that. We will be walking through the resolved journey. Together get your copy of resolve for thirty percent off using the code asked and just head over to courage fight again dot com and click on. Get the book and if you like to join the group on the lincoln the show notes to let me know. 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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Welcome to we serve now. What were we seek to answer. The questions. veterans and their families are already asking that stays question is about a relatively new. Va program called va solid. Start and on today's show. We'll be answering all your questions about this program. What is it. who's it four. What's the goal of the program who's eligible and perhaps most importantly the actions that you need to take to not only take advantage of this program but also to take advantage of ball. The va benefits that you've earned through your military service. And i thought who better to answer this question than the person who came up with the program. So some of you may have heard of dr paul lawrence who is the head of the veterans benefits administration. Well his second. Command is a lady by the name of margarita devlin and she is an absolute well of knowledge. Not just from the. Va solid start program. But about so much more as well hello. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a. Us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Father to two amazing kiddos on the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the journey of rediscovering purpose. Meaning and passion in your life after you've left the military and if you hadn't guessed on the host of this podcast and when we come back my special guest will be here so sit back. Relax and enjoy my conversation with margarita. Devlin who am i. Why am i still here. How can i uncover who. I was meant to be during my own transition from the. Us army the wounds of war especially those not visible continued to plague my through the pain of job loss of ptsd diagnosis at crippling anxiety by finally discovered the reason. I'm here on the earth. And i knew i couldn't keep it to myself so i wrote a book. Simply titled result. Resolved is a book that has one apologetically faith-based a step by step guide designed for maximum effectiveness in the context of a small group of other veterans resolve provides veterans everywhere with the tool to help you step into your new life a life full hope purpose and vision for the future to pick up your copy of resolve head over to courage to fight again dot com. That's courage to fight again dot com. Well i am here with margarita. Devlin and i just want to take a minute to thank you margarita for being here on the show. This is going to be so so great. I'm super excited about it. But i want to take a minute just to kind of introduce you. And i don't want to steal your thunder because i'm going to give you a chance to introduce yourself as well but margarita devlin. She is the principal secretary for benefits in the department of veterans affairs. She's held that position since may of two thousand eighteen. Now that title in itself obviously a mouthful right. But i will let you. Margarita explained what your role is and all of that and kind of dive into a little bit more for listeners. Basically she second in command at veterans benefits administration so veterans benefits administration. Va that's your va. Va home loan disability compensation of oak rehab life insurance transition assistance and speaking of transition assistance marguerita has a lot of different advancements in military to civilian transition and also suicide prevention to include. What we're talking about today and that is the. Va solid start program so margarita. It is so good to have you. I just want you to want you to take a few minutes and introduce yourself but is so great to have you here. Welcome to we served now. What inky so much. It's really my pleasure to be here. Thank you for inviting me to be on this podcast And i guess what. I areas like to tell people as i've been in the va for twenty five years It's my passion to serve veterans in in various different roles throughout my career. i'm also mom of inactivity serving marine And also the mom of a college student Dad was a navy veteran brother served in the army so Military family close very close to my heart this mission so really happy to be here and talk about the solid start program haas of also weived definitely excited to have you and again on this show. We do our best to answer the questions that veterans and their family members are already asking and one of those questions is what is the. Va solid start programming. And that's question. Maybe we can just lead off with that. What is the. Va solid start program. Absolutely i'm happy to just dive right into that. so solid. The solid start program is really part of the military to civilian transition journey. That really looks at the fact. That transition does not end when you get the d. to fourteen at the end of your military service in fact those of you who have served you know this right. That's really when everything starts to actually happen and no amount of preparation With the military can really prepare you for what what your situation is gonna be like after we heard this from veterans so this program really seeks to connect with veterans in that first year after separation starting at about three months and then we follow up beginning six months in a year and it really is an opportunity for us to start out with. How is it going for you. How's your transition going. How're you doing what's going on in your life. What are you worrying about. And really letting the veteran drive the conversation about what he or she needs the moment how it's going and then our agents are very well trained to pick up on those cues from that conversation and provide that veteran with specific resources in guidance on how to continue their transition in the most successful manner. Possible that is that is huge. I remember. I remember when i got out at the end of two thousand fourteen. It was a kind of a drinking from the fire hose. Except i didn't even know what i was supposed to be drinking. You know it's like hey here's a bunch of benefits you might be eligible for good luck and so it's funny so we started this podcast in the summer of two thousand eighteen and it wasn't until i started this podcast and started doing some research that i learned about more benefits. I could've taken advantage of when i first got out. You know four years prior and so the fact that this this solid start program is tackling that specific issue. I think is great. So what what. Problems specifically is the program trying to solve will it is really a suicide prevention initiative and it came from the fact that we heard from veterans. That sort of felt like all the services and support sorta stopped When they separated from the military and because it was like drinking from a fire hose. They really didn't know where to go to do And who to connect to and it was really difficult for. Va to connect with veterans who were not engaging with our with our systems already so we entered into this agreement with department of defense and homeland. Security is coastguard is under homeland security to get data feet of all the military members when they were separating so that we can start those phone calls so that we can call everybody and by the way we do call everybody that we have information for that includes regardless of character discharge We will call these veterans and we will make sure that they get connected to services and resources that are that are specific to their needs so again suicide prevention. We recognize that. There is a a real. There's a reality about transition stress Which is very different than what you might think about with clinical rate with post traumatic stress disorder. Which is a clinical diagnoses Comes with its own required treatment in the mental health arena. But this is just It's stress around. All the life changes that happened with transition. And what you said you know sometimes they. You're hearing so much about so many benefits while you're in the process of separating that when you get out you might not realize that you didn't take advantage of all of them right right. That is so true. That is so true. So so the the tap program transition assistance program or the army's version i think is a cap or something. It is this part of that is essential that the tap program still exist. How does it factor into all that. They're they're connected. They're two separate things but connectors so the transition. Assistance program does still exist Dod really owns and operates. Don on any of the military services of course puts their own branding on their part of the program via has an entire day where we come in and we teach about. Va benefits was really great. We were able to get it to a full day. Always didn't always look like that but even in that full day where we teach it's really It's a classroom experience right so you're Before covid you were in a room with twenty twenty five other service members and as much as we try to make it engaging and make sure that the servicemember can tie all the benefits to their own personal situation using interactive workbook. All of those things. It still was a classroom experience. A not individual not one on one We do still have benefit visor. Available for one on one support with and they. They advertise that during the class. Now when we went into the code environment we go to virtual So we we are still pretty much in the virtual environment. We've we've started working on getting a little bit more in person presence with tap classes but of course as you can imagine Safety is the number one concern And so we think about this way. Transition assistance program is about teaching. You what you might need to know and getting you prepared in the right mindset for transition. Solid start is like okay. Now we're gonna talk to you after this happened after you got out of the military to see. How are you doing ended. All that stuff makes sense. What questions do you still have. And it's one on one so rather than having to listen to what everybody has to listen to if you already have a job and that's not your concern or you're already in college and using your education benefits that's not your concern but maybe you need to get into a medical appointment. You don't know how to navigate. That will work with you on justice. If that's what you need is maybe you have issues with your children. You need some some other resources. We have access to information about state department of veterans affairs benefits that can sometimes filling gaps were. Va can't Provide a service to really is personalized the comments we hear from veterans. I know you've been seeking feedback from veterans. As well is that they're surprised that va's calling and they're so thankful for it because they were maybe not sure who to call her how to ask about a particular benefit so it's been really interesting seeing the positive reaction from our veteran community. Absolutely and you know. I think that you know this is my opinion. You based on my own experience and the experience of know friends and other veterans who gone through the transition systems program. There are getting ready to get that to you to fourteen right. So all of those briefings. I shouldn't say all but a lot of those briefings are at least in the transitioning servicemembers. Mind it's it's a check the block it's like all right. Let me just get through this thing. So i can go home. Take off this uniform for the final time and get on with my life so the fact that you're contacting them throughout that first year i think they're going to be a whole lot more receptive to hearing. What the benefits are. Because it's not like you're not keeping them from you know from going home you know. You're not you're not saying. Hey you have to be here. This is your place of duty right now. So you mentioned covid nineteen and a lot of things have gone. virtual has there been any other impacts to the program. I know the program still pretty new but have there been any other impacts of the program as a result of the pandemic like are you behind or ahead or anything like that. A solid start actually was in a great position to react effectively to the covid nineteen situation. All of our agents were telework ready and all of our equipment works from telework standpoint. So they haven't skipped a beat they are not behind. They are on target When we first created the program we weren't sure what kind of response we were gonna get so when we created the program We we have to have a performance measure right so we said well. How many people do we really going to answer. The phone won't va calls. You know think about yourself right if your cell phone rings and you don't recognize the number what's the chance you're gonna answer it. Probably not your let it. Go to voicemail right. And if that person's important deli new message so we kinda thought we might get that sort of a reaction so we kinda started. Set the bar low. We said fifteen percent our goal was fifteen one. Five fifteen percent of veterans we reached out to we would be able to actually engage with. They would answer the phone and engage with our with our representatives. It's been just phenomenal. The actual result actually have your with me the december twenty twenty report since we began the program. We have reached over. Eighty seven thousand veterans and the fiscal year. Twenty twenty today fifty seven point. Five percent have responded and engaged. Yeah i know it's it's been just an incredible Response and we also prioritize veterans. Who we know from the information from dod if a veteran had mental health appointment In that last year of service before they left the military prioritize them and we also know that for that population. We need to make sure we get them connected into. Va healthcare and with that sub population. The percents even higher seventy three point. Six percent have responded to our agents and our end have engaged with them on the phone. Wow that is really really great. How surprised were you at the at the numbers when he finally saw them. In the beginning. I was very surprised. And then you know we had a town hall with are Representatives the ones who are actually making the call and it was really interesting. Many of them are veterans themselves. Some of them are you were military spouses. And some of them even used to work in the tap program and and they're so passionate about their work and they're always submitting new ideas about how to improve the program here in the anecdotes That they shared with me about what some of these veterans were telling them and how grateful they were for this phone call. One thing we do is we did put it on the caller. Id so in most with most cellular services You you'll it'll save veterans affairs on your phone so you kind of notes the. Va calling so kind of helps to increase the the response rate but yeah. It's it's been an amazing response for veteran for so happy that this program is reaching them in making impact. Yeah definitely that's great. That's great so. Va solid start. It's for those who are basically brand new to the civilian world right so for those of us like myself and a lot of our listeners who are not newly separated what resources are available for us for helping us understand available that that we can take advantage of so a couple things you're right. Solid start is for those that are recently separated so for veterans of any era. Were here for you as well. And you know i always. I'm always very sensitive to that that you know if you Or vietnam era veteran. We care about you. We want you to call us if you if you never got connected to your benefits. Please call us and we will walk you through. There's a main toll free number which is one eight hundred eight two seven one thousand and that is our main call centre. Those agents are trained across the entire portfolio benefits as well and they will help you identify. What eligibilities you might have In the benefit side and they can even connect you to healthcare If you if you haven't signed up for your healthcare so they can. They can kind of connect you regardless of when you got out of the military And if you are a veteran that just got out in the last year and you haven't gotten your solid start call. I say the information we get from dod his last information we had about the servicemember. Sometimes people change their phone number They changed their email address. We do try and reach out by email First before we make that first phone call so call us. And if you're in that last in the first year after separation just asked to be transferred to the solid start program very cool very cool and you just taught me something with this eight hundred numbers at eight hundred eighty two seven one thousand right cracked. Okay so i could you know after we finish this conversation i could off here. I could call that number and find out the benefits that i'm eligible for. Maybe i'm not taking advantage of. Yes and really. What what they're gonna do is they're going to ask you some questions. What type of benefit are you thinking about. you know. and because we haven't education call center so if you said hey. I'm really wondering if i'm if i'm eligible for the gi bill. They'll transferred to gi bill experts. Right if you say well. i'm really kind of thinking. What kind of employment types of benefits or what about disability benefits So you know they'll help you with those benefits. It's a little bit different than solid. Start in that There are more got react to what you're needing in the moment whereas are solid start agents are trained to sort of prompt And get information out of the veteran to help navigate the whole suite of benefits they might be entitled to and i also wanna say your state department of veterans affairs. They have offices in in different states. We have regional offices. One day hopefully will be able to meet in person again. But in addition there's the veterans service organizations in. They're out there to help. There's a lot of resources but yes feel free to call us. Anybody listening to podcasts. Give us a call one. Eight hundred eighty two seven one thousand and we'll try and get you connected to your benefits above love it and so speaking of benefits and this is it's kind of a curiosity question. I guess what is the most overlooked benefit that veterans typically. Don't take advantage. There's a couple and we actually make it a point to focus on these in the beginning They're time sensitive so one thing for example is life insurance benefits. There is a time limit on when you can convert your service group. Life insurance to veteran group life insurance. And if you don't do in that timeline you kind of miss the opportunity It's about a year and a half out from from when you leave the military so We tell them always about life insurance and that's always kind of a tricky thing right. Nobody ever wants to think about end of life. Especially you know you. A young twenty five year old veteran and twenty six year old. And they're thinking while life insurance okay. You know if they're single and they don't have a a spouse children they might not be thinking about it so we want to make sure they understand the value of having that life insurance policy and so that they make an informed decision potentially to take advantage of it another one is dental care the eligibility for dental care which is time limited in a lot of veterans miss out on that because they don't fully understand it so there's a couple of the ones that we know are are critical sensitive And honestly we've heard some some of our veterans who say they didn't file for disability benefits. Because they didn't feel like they should take that benefit away from another veteran so we do spend some time explaining that they don't take benefit from another veteran. It's a it's a mandatory benefit. Were any veteran. Who's eligible for the benefit and it also opens up the door for healthcare. And you know if you're young and strong now but but you know that you had injuries orthopedic injuries for example. But you're okay and you can kind of deal with the pain right now. Well one day you're going to need healthcare it might worsen You know this is. This is not a handout. It is an investment in that veteran. Making sure that they can stay strong and half the care that they need to to For the rest of their life if needed sure sure so that is some really really great information. But it's not every day that i get to to the principal. Deputy undersecretary for benefits at the veterans benefits administration or being translated. Second command right. So i have a couple of questions that they're they're along the lines of transition but not solid start specific right sure all right so one thing that i'm incredibly passionate about is helping veterans rediscovery since of purpose and meaning after the military and so finding that sense of purpose in that sense of meaning after military service is. It's really the single most challenging part of a chat challenging part of the transition and so one question. I wanted to ask you is how does the. Va help with this aspect of post military life. It's interesting that you bring that up because our research also validates that is one of the biggest challenges. In fact we did. We just started last year. A post-separation study of veterans. Who went through the top programme while they were in uniform to kind of see the retrospective look right. Because it's one thing we can really high marks in the classroom right there. The ninety six percent are highly satisfied with our tap class. But what we wanna do is wait to your veteran in the naski. Look back on and say okay now. How well prepared did you feel you were and we also bounce that against data to see are they employed you know are they using our benefits and we ask them for information about how they're doing so in that study we found the open comments that we got from veterans were very much around that loss of sense of camaraderie. That loss of sort of feeling that you're part of a community unit cohesion that you had the military you don't have that in communities today And just that that loss of sense of purpose and mission so we're just now starting to lean in to explore how the can help with that. We can't solve the problem ourselves right because we're not going to be that sense of community for them but we can connect them and we've been engaging with a lot of organizations nonprofits and via so organizations that provide that connectivity that sense of community in that sense of mission And we're starting those conversations to say. How do we infuse that into the solid. Start program so that we can start connecting veterans in a different way to give them that sense of community. they're looking for. It's really going to involve have to involve a partnership model via. Can't do this alone. Sure sure on love the fact that that the va is realizing this and is like you said leaning into that so now this is a this next question for you is potentially a touchy question. But i don't need to tell you that. A lot of veterans are like. I don't like the va about experience for those veterans who have had that experience or they're just like man. I've heard so many bad things. I don't even wanna try it you know. It's probably not worth the hassle. What what would you say to them if they were if they were asking like. Okay what should i do. Should i do anything. What would you say to them right now. A couple of things first of all. I wanna say avenues. Cells and good news typically unfortunately does not get the same kind of traction. There are so many good news stories out there. And if you look for them you'll see them. I would say comback triumphs again. It's not the same. va that. It was a few years ago. We have come such a long way in the healthcare system with the hospitals in the end the outpatient clinics in our regional offices are outreach is is so much different and we understand better how to improve the experience for our veterans. So i would say it's been a couple of years maybe had a bad experience comeback to us get another chance and if your experience is not absolutely stellar fabulous edit. It doesn't make you turn around your opinion of va. Reach out to us. And i would say in the healthcare system. We have Advocates in every medical center. Go talk to the patient advocate. Tell them about your experience. Let us change something. If there's something specific that's not quite right. Sitting in our via regional office asked to speak to the leadership team. We have lead dan so hard on getting feedback from veterans and making changes across the entire enterprise. It's it's just not the same. Please try again in comeback. That's what i would say. Sure sure so of just just anecdotally right so my family. And i we live in alabama and so my closest a regional center is in birmingham. And so you know i. I've been there a lot over the past few years. And when i compare the service and the facilities and everything like that to a to a more local hospital more local medical facility. It is night and day difference. I mean bring. Va clinic is just top of the line. So it it is really an and again. I know everyone is different but it even from. When i used to go to the va we lived in texas to go into the va. Here it is. There's so many positive changes that have been made in at so honestly i'm really really happy with with the facilities and the care receive and everything like that so glad to hear that. Yeah absolutely absolutely so what's a big takeaway here right. So what does something. All veterans and newly separated veterans or. Otherwise what should they really remember from our conversation. Today i would say remember that. Va is here for you We probably have a benefit or a service that you might not have been aware of And we wanna be there. We want to be partners in your military civilian transition. We want to be partners in your life and help you with any issues that you might have. We're not the answer for everything But we also have connections with community resources and just reach out to us if if you need anything don't try and go it alone and again if if you had a bad experience in the past comeback to us i promise you it should be a much better experience now and like i said if there's anything you encounter that that you have an issue with let us know we're here to be part of it. I mean my personal story. My brother who is an army veteran wouldn't go to the. Va for the longest time. I finally got him to go and he's been so thrilled he was. He calls me up and he's like says they're offering me services that i didn't even ask for. They're they're doing this. They're doing that. And i said yes. That's what we call wraparound services when you come into a va. We are not just looking at the problem that you presented with. We're gonna ask you how else we can help you. And he's been so impressed with that. He wishes he would start in the. Va system a long time ago. It really is We've really made some great advances. So please come see as awesome awesome so here on the show. We like to give our listeners. Some practical next step. So when this podcast finishes playing what should they. Do you know the context of our conversation today. What should they do because today's question is. Hey what's the. Va solid start program. And obviously you've answered that more than we could ever imagine and in so having you on the show has been just absolutely outstanding but what should their next steps be right after listening to this podcast. I would say if you're curious about the benefits and services we offer You might try to going to our website. Www dot va dot gov easy to remember And when you go to. Va dot gov. You'll see sort of things grouped into logical sort of life domain issue. So you'll be able to kind of navigating see. Wow you know what is what does the. Va half for me. And then you can actually apply for many of our programs online. Some of them Were still working on getting online. But you get the application online so that would be one thing and then if you just don't wanna talk to somebody some full more comfortable calling on the phone and talking to somebody call that number i gave earlier one eight hundred eight two seven. One thousand You know we're here for you. Take that step. Check us out If you're already enrolled in one of our programs you know good on you but there might be something else that he don't know about so check us out. Sure well margarita. Devlin this has been so so rate again. You have answered the question. What is the a solid star program. Frankly answered a whole lot more questions as well. So thank you so so so much for coming on serve now. What really enjoyed having him my pleasure and thank you for what you're doing to. It's really important work. I hope you've enjoyed my conversation with margarita devlin. So what are your questions recorded voice memo on your phone and send it to podcast at courage to fight again dot com or joined the post nine eleven veterans and families facebook group. And post your question there. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus. Christ we'll i'll see you right back here. Two weeks from day and the nixed veteran question. We'll be asking is this. How do i use my post nine. Eleven gi bill. Well until next time. Thanks for listening. We serve now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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A highlight from S6 E3 - What is VA Solid Start?

Courage to Fight Again

30:48 min | 8 months ago

A highlight from S6 E3 - What is VA Solid Start?

"Welcome to we serve now. What were we seek to answer. The questions. veterans and their families are already asking that stays question is about a relatively new. Va program called va solid. Start and on today's show. We'll be answering all your questions about this program. What is it. who's it four. What's the goal of the program who's eligible and perhaps most importantly the actions that you need to take to not only take advantage of this program but also to take advantage of ball. The va benefits that you've earned through your military service. And i thought who better to answer this question than the person who came up with the program. So some of you may have heard of dr paul lawrence who is the head of the veterans benefits administration. Well his second. Command is a lady by the name of margarita devlin and she is an absolute well of knowledge. Not just from the. Va solid start program. But about so much more as well hello. My name is aaron perkins. I'm a. Us army combat veteran husband to a beautiful wife. Father to two amazing kiddos on the author of resolve a step by step guide. That takes you the veteran through the journey of rediscovering purpose. Meaning and passion in your life after you've left the military and if you hadn't guessed on the host of this podcast and when we come back my special guest will be here so sit back. Relax and enjoy my conversation with margarita. Devlin who am i. Why am i still here. How can i uncover who. I was meant to be during my own transition from the. Us army the wounds of war especially those not visible continued to plague my through the pain of job loss of ptsd diagnosis at crippling anxiety by finally discovered the reason. I'm here on the earth. And i knew i couldn't keep it to myself so i wrote a book. Simply titled result. Resolved is a book that has one apologetically faith-based a step by step guide designed for maximum effectiveness in the context of a small group of other veterans resolve provides veterans everywhere with the tool to help you step into your new life a life full hope purpose and vision for the future to pick up your copy of resolve head over to courage to fight again dot com. That's courage to fight again dot com. Well i am here with margarita. Devlin and i just want to take a minute to thank you margarita for being here on the show. This is going to be so so great. I'm super excited about it. But i want to take a minute just to kind of introduce you. And i don't want to steal your thunder because i'm going to give you a chance to introduce yourself as well but margarita devlin. She is the principal secretary for benefits in the department of veterans affairs. She's held that position since may of two thousand eighteen. Now that title in itself obviously a mouthful right. But i will let you. Margarita explained what your role is and all of that and kind of dive into a little bit more for listeners. Basically she second in command at veterans benefits administration so veterans benefits administration. Va that's your va. Va home loan disability compensation of oak rehab life insurance transition assistance and speaking of transition assistance marguerita has a lot of different advancements in military to civilian transition and also suicide prevention to include. What we're talking about today and that is the. Va solid start program so margarita. It is so good to have you. I just want you to want you to take a few minutes and introduce yourself but is so great to have you here. Welcome to we served now. What inky so much. It's really my pleasure to be here. Thank you for inviting me to be on this podcast And i guess what. I areas like to tell people as i've been in the va for twenty five years It's my passion to serve veterans in in various different roles throughout my career. i'm also mom of inactivity serving marine And also the mom of a college student Dad was a navy veteran brother served in the army so Military family close very close to my heart this mission so really happy to be here and talk about the solid start program haas of also weived definitely excited to have you and again on this show. We do our best to answer the questions that veterans and their family members are already asking and one of those questions is what is the. Va solid start programming. And that's question. Maybe we can just lead off with that. What is the. Va solid start program. Absolutely i'm happy to just dive right into that. so solid. The solid start program is really part of the military to civilian transition journey. That really looks at the fact. That transition does not end when you get the d. to fourteen at the end of your military service in fact those of you who have served you know this right. That's really when everything starts to actually happen and no amount of preparation With the military can really prepare you for what what your situation is gonna be like after we heard this from veterans so this program really seeks to connect with veterans in that first year after separation starting at about three months and then we follow up beginning six months in a year and it really is an opportunity for us to start out with. How is it going for you. How's your transition going. How're you doing what's going on in your life. What are you worrying about. And really letting the veteran drive the conversation about what he or she needs the moment how it's going and then our agents are very well trained to pick up on those cues from that conversation and provide that veteran with specific resources in guidance on how to continue their transition in the most successful manner. Possible that is that is huge. I remember. I remember when i got out at the end of two thousand fourteen. It was a kind of a drinking from the fire hose. Except i didn't even know what i was supposed to be drinking. You know it's like hey here's a bunch of benefits you might be eligible for good luck and so it's funny so we started this podcast in the summer of two thousand eighteen and it wasn't until i started this podcast and started doing some research that i learned about more benefits. I could've taken advantage of when i first got out. You know four years prior and so the fact that this this solid start program is tackling that specific issue. I think is great. So what what. Problems specifically is the program trying to solve will it is really a suicide prevention initiative and it came from the fact that we heard from veterans. That sort of felt like all the services and support sorta stopped When they separated from the military and because it was like drinking from a fire hose. They really didn't know where to go to do And who to connect to and it was really difficult for. Va to connect with veterans who were not engaging with our with our systems already so we entered into this agreement with department of defense and homeland. Security is coastguard is under homeland security to get data feet of all the military members when they were separating so that we can start those phone calls so that we can call everybody and by the way we do call everybody that we have information for that includes regardless of character discharge We will call these veterans and we will make sure that they get connected to services and resources that are that are specific to their needs so again suicide prevention. We recognize that. There is a a real. There's a reality about transition stress Which is very different than what you might think about with clinical rate with post traumatic stress disorder. Which is a clinical diagnoses Comes with its own required treatment in the mental health arena. But this is just It's stress around. All the life changes that happened with transition. And what you said you know sometimes they. You're hearing so much about so many benefits while you're in the process of separating that when you get out you might not realize that you didn't take advantage of all of them right right. That is so true. That is so true. So so the the tap program transition assistance program or the army's version i think is a cap or something. It is this part of that is essential that the tap program still exist. How does it factor into all that. They're they're connected. They're two separate things but connectors so the transition. Assistance program does still exist Dod really owns and operates. Don on any of the military services of course puts their own branding on their part of the program via has an entire day where we come in and we teach about. Va benefits was really great. We were able to get it to a full day. Always didn't always look like that but even in that full day where we teach it's really It's a classroom experience right so you're Before covid you were in a room with twenty twenty five other service members and as much as we try to make it engaging and make sure that the servicemember can tie all the benefits to their own personal situation using interactive workbook. All of those things. It still was a classroom experience. A not individual not one on one We do still have benefit visor. Available for one on one support with and they. They advertise that during the class. Now when we went into the code environment we go to virtual So we we are still pretty much in the virtual environment. We've we've started working on getting a little bit more in person presence with tap classes but of course as you can imagine Safety is the number one concern And so we think about this way. Transition assistance program is about teaching. You what you might need to know and getting you prepared in the right mindset for transition. Solid start is like okay. Now we're gonna talk to you after this happened after you got out of the military to see. How are you doing ended. All that stuff makes sense. What questions do you still have. And it's one on one so rather than having to listen to what everybody has to listen to if you already have a job and that's not your concern or you're already in college and using your education benefits that's not your concern but maybe you need to get into a medical appointment. You don't know how to navigate. That will work with you on justice. If that's what you need is maybe you have issues with your children. You need some some other resources. We have access to information about state department of veterans affairs benefits that can sometimes filling gaps were. Va can't Provide a service to really is personalized the comments we hear from veterans. I know you've been seeking feedback from veterans. As well is that they're surprised that va's calling and they're so thankful for it because they were maybe not sure who to call her how to ask about a particular benefit so it's been really interesting seeing the positive reaction from our veteran community. Absolutely and you know. I think that you know this is my opinion. You based on my own experience and the experience of know friends and other veterans who gone through the transition systems program. There are getting ready to get that to you to fourteen right. So all of those briefings. I shouldn't say all but a lot of those briefings are at least in the transitioning servicemembers. Mind it's it's a check the block it's like all right. Let me just get through this thing. So i can go home. Take off this uniform for the final time and get on with my life so the fact that you're contacting them throughout that first year i think they're going to be a whole lot more receptive to hearing. What the benefits are. Because it's not like you're not keeping them from you know from going home you know. You're not you're not saying. Hey you have to be here. This is your place of duty right now. So you mentioned covid nineteen and a lot of things have gone. virtual has there been any other impacts to the program. I know the program still pretty new but have there been any other impacts of the program as a result of the pandemic like are you behind or ahead or anything like that. A solid start actually was in a great position to react effectively to the covid nineteen situation. All of our agents were telework ready and all of our equipment works from telework standpoint. So they haven't skipped a beat they are not behind. They are on target When we first created the program we weren't sure what kind of response we were gonna get so when we created the program We we have to have a performance measure right so we said well. How many people do we really going to answer. The phone won't va calls. You know think about yourself right if your cell phone rings and you don't recognize the number what's the chance you're gonna answer it. Probably not your let it. Go to voicemail right. And if that person's important deli new message so we kinda thought we might get that sort of a reaction so we kinda started. Set the bar low. We said fifteen percent our goal was fifteen one. Five fifteen percent of veterans we reached out to we would be able to actually engage with. They would answer the phone and engage with our with our representatives. It's been just phenomenal. The actual result actually have your with me the december twenty twenty report since we began the program. We have reached over. Eighty seven thousand veterans and the fiscal year. Twenty twenty today fifty seven point. Five percent have responded and engaged. Yeah i know it's it's been just an incredible Response and we also prioritize veterans. Who we know from the information from dod if a veteran had mental health appointment In that last year of service before they left the military prioritize them and we also know that for that population. We need to make sure we get them connected into. Va healthcare and with that sub population. The percents even higher seventy three point. Six percent have responded to our agents and our end have engaged with them on the phone. Wow that is really really great. How surprised were you at the at the numbers when he finally saw them. In the beginning. I was very surprised. And then you know we had a town hall with are Representatives the ones who are actually making the call and it was really interesting. Many of them are veterans themselves. Some of them are you were military spouses. And some of them even used to work in the tap program and and they're so passionate about their work and they're always submitting new ideas about how to improve the program here in the anecdotes That they shared with me about what some of these veterans were telling them and how grateful they were for this phone call. One thing we do is we did put it on the caller. Id so in most with most cellular services You you'll it'll save veterans affairs on your phone so you kind of notes the. Va calling so kind of helps to increase the the response rate but yeah. It's it's been an amazing response for veteran for so happy that this program is reaching them in making impact. Yeah definitely that's great. That's great so. Va solid start. It's for those who are basically brand new to the civilian world right so for those of us like myself and a lot of our listeners who are not newly separated what resources are available for us for helping us understand available that that we can take advantage of so a couple things you're right. Solid start is for those that are recently separated so for veterans of any era. Were here for you as well. And you know i always. I'm always very sensitive to that that you know if you Or vietnam era veteran. We care about you. We want you to call us if you if you never got connected to your benefits. Please call us and we will walk you through. There's a main toll free number which is one eight hundred eight two seven one thousand and that is our main call centre. Those agents are trained across the entire portfolio benefits as well and they will help you identify. What eligibilities you might have In the benefit side and they can even connect you to healthcare If you if you haven't signed up for your healthcare so they can. They can kind of connect you regardless of when you got out of the military And if you are a veteran that just got out in the last year and you haven't gotten your solid start call. I say the information we get from dod his last information we had about the servicemember. Sometimes people change their phone number They changed their email address. We do try and reach out by email First before we make that first phone call so call us. And if you're in that last in the first year after separation just asked to be transferred to the solid start program very cool very cool and you just taught me something with this eight hundred numbers at eight hundred eighty two seven one thousand right cracked. Okay so i could you know after we finish this conversation i could off here. I could call that number and find out the benefits that i'm eligible for. Maybe i'm not taking advantage of. Yes and really. What what they're gonna do is they're going to ask you some questions. What type of benefit are you thinking about. you know. and because we haven't education call center so if you said hey. I'm really wondering if i'm if i'm eligible for the gi bill. They'll transferred to gi bill experts. Right if you say well. i'm really kind of thinking. What kind of employment types of benefits or what about disability benefits So you know they'll help you with those benefits. It's a little bit different than solid. Start in that There are more got react to what you're needing in the moment whereas are solid start agents are trained to sort of prompt And get information out of the veteran to help navigate the whole suite of benefits they might be entitled to and i also wanna say your state department of veterans affairs. They have offices in in different states. We have regional offices. One day hopefully will be able to meet in person again. But in addition there's the veterans service organizations in. They're out there to help. There's a lot of resources but yes feel free to call us. Anybody listening to podcasts. Give us a call one. Eight hundred eighty two seven one thousand and we'll try and get you connected to your benefits above love it and so speaking of benefits and this is it's kind of a curiosity question. I guess what is the most overlooked benefit that veterans typically. Don't take advantage. There's a couple and we actually make it a point to focus on these in the beginning They're time sensitive so one thing for example is life insurance benefits. There is a time limit on when you can convert your service group. Life insurance to veteran group life insurance. And if you don't do in that timeline you kind of miss the opportunity It's about a year and a half out from from when you leave the military so We tell them always about life insurance and that's always kind of a tricky thing right. Nobody ever wants to think about end of life. Especially you know you. A young twenty five year old veteran and twenty six year old. And they're thinking while life insurance okay. You know if they're single and they don't have a a spouse children they might not be thinking about it so we want to make sure they understand the value of having that life insurance policy and so that they make an informed decision potentially to take advantage of it another one is dental care the eligibility for dental care which is time limited in a lot of veterans miss out on that because they don't fully understand it so there's a couple of the ones that we know are are critical sensitive And honestly we've heard some some of our veterans who say they didn't file for disability benefits. Because they didn't feel like they should take that benefit away from another veteran so we do spend some time explaining that they don't take benefit from another veteran. It's a it's a mandatory benefit. Were any veteran. Who's eligible for the benefit and it also opens up the door for healthcare. And you know if you're young and strong now but but you know that you had injuries orthopedic injuries for example. But you're okay and you can kind of deal with the pain right now. Well one day you're going to need healthcare it might worsen You know this is. This is not a handout. It is an investment in that veteran. Making sure that they can stay strong and half the care that they need to to For the rest of their life if needed sure sure so that is some really really great information. But it's not every day that i get to to the principal. Deputy undersecretary for benefits at the veterans benefits administration or being translated. Second command right. So i have a couple of questions that they're they're along the lines of transition but not solid start specific right sure all right so one thing that i'm incredibly passionate about is helping veterans rediscovery since of purpose and meaning after the military and so finding that sense of purpose in that sense of meaning after military service is. It's really the single most challenging part of a chat challenging part of the transition and so one question. I wanted to ask you is how does the. Va help with this aspect of post military life. It's interesting that you bring that up because our research also validates that is one of the biggest challenges. In fact we did. We just started last year. A post-separation study of veterans. Who went through the top programme while they were in uniform to kind of see the retrospective look right. Because it's one thing we can really high marks in the classroom right there. The ninety six percent are highly satisfied with our tap class. But what we wanna do is wait to your veteran in the naski. Look back on and say okay now. How well prepared did you feel you were and we also bounce that against data to see are they employed you know are they using our benefits and we ask them for information about how they're doing so in that study we found the open comments that we got from veterans were very much around that loss of sense of camaraderie. That loss of sort of feeling that you're part of a community unit cohesion that you had the military you don't have that in communities today And just that that loss of sense of purpose and mission so we're just now starting to lean in to explore how the can help with that. We can't solve the problem ourselves right because we're not going to be that sense of community for them but we can connect them and we've been engaging with a lot of organizations nonprofits and via so organizations that provide that connectivity that sense of community in that sense of mission And we're starting those conversations to say. How do we infuse that into the solid. Start program so that we can start connecting veterans in a different way to give them that sense of community. they're looking for. It's really going to involve have to involve a partnership model via. Can't do this alone. Sure sure on love the fact that that the va is realizing this and is like you said leaning into that so now this is a this next question for you is potentially a touchy question. But i don't need to tell you that. A lot of veterans are like. I don't like the va about experience for those veterans who have had that experience or they're just like man. I've heard so many bad things. I don't even wanna try it you know. It's probably not worth the hassle. What what would you say to them if they were if they were asking like. Okay what should i do. Should i do anything. What would you say to them right now. A couple of things first of all. I wanna say avenues. Cells and good news typically unfortunately does not get the same kind of traction. There are so many good news stories out there. And if you look for them you'll see them. I would say comback triumphs again. It's not the same. va that. It was a few years ago. We have come such a long way in the healthcare system with the hospitals in the end the outpatient clinics in our regional offices are outreach is is so much different and we understand better how to improve the experience for our veterans. So i would say it's been a couple of years maybe had a bad experience comeback to us get another chance and if your experience is not absolutely stellar fabulous edit. It doesn't make you turn around your opinion of va. Reach out to us. And i would say in the healthcare system. We have Advocates in every medical center. Go talk to the patient advocate. Tell them about your experience. Let us change something. If there's something specific that's not quite right. Sitting in our via regional office asked to speak to the leadership team. We have lead dan so hard on getting feedback from veterans and making changes across the entire enterprise. It's it's just not the same. Please try again in comeback. That's what i would say. Sure sure so of just just anecdotally right so my family. And i we live in alabama and so my closest a regional center is in birmingham. And so you know i. I've been there a lot over the past few years. And when i compare the service and the facilities and everything like that to a to a more local hospital more local medical facility. It is night and day difference. I mean bring. Va clinic is just top of the line. So it it is really an and again. I know everyone is different but it even from. When i used to go to the va we lived in texas to go into the va. Here it is. There's so many positive changes that have been made in at so honestly i'm really really happy with with the facilities and the care receive and everything like that so glad to hear that. Yeah absolutely absolutely so what's a big takeaway here right. So what does something. All veterans and newly separated veterans or. Otherwise what should they really remember from our conversation. Today i would say remember that. Va is here for you We probably have a benefit or a service that you might not have been aware of And we wanna be there. We want to be partners in your military civilian transition. We want to be partners in your life and help you with any issues that you might have. We're not the answer for everything But we also have connections with community resources and just reach out to us if if you need anything don't try and go it alone and again if if you had a bad experience in the past comeback to us i promise you it should be a much better experience now and like i said if there's anything you encounter that that you have an issue with let us know we're here to be part of it. I mean my personal story. My brother who is an army veteran wouldn't go to the. Va for the longest time. I finally got him to go and he's been so thrilled he was. He calls me up and he's like says they're offering me services that i didn't even ask for. They're they're doing this. They're doing that. And i said yes. That's what we call wraparound services when you come into a va. We are not just looking at the problem that you presented with. We're gonna ask you how else we can help you. And he's been so impressed with that. He wishes he would start in the. Va system a long time ago. It really is We've really made some great advances. So please come see as awesome awesome so here on the show. We like to give our listeners. Some practical next step. So when this podcast finishes playing what should they. Do you know the context of our conversation today. What should they do because today's question is. Hey what's the. Va solid start program. And obviously you've answered that more than we could ever imagine and in so having you on the show has been just absolutely outstanding but what should their next steps be right after listening to this podcast. I would say if you're curious about the benefits and services we offer You might try to going to our website. Www dot va dot gov easy to remember And when you go to. Va dot gov. You'll see sort of things grouped into logical sort of life domain issue. So you'll be able to kind of navigating see. Wow you know what is what does the. Va half for me. And then you can actually apply for many of our programs online. Some of them Were still working on getting online. But you get the application online so that would be one thing and then if you just don't wanna talk to somebody some full more comfortable calling on the phone and talking to somebody call that number i gave earlier one eight hundred eight two seven. One thousand You know we're here for you. Take that step. Check us out If you're already enrolled in one of our programs you know good on you but there might be something else that he don't know about so check us out. Sure well margarita. Devlin this has been so so rate again. You have answered the question. What is the a solid star program. Frankly answered a whole lot more questions as well. So thank you so so so much for coming on serve now. What really enjoyed having him my pleasure and thank you for what you're doing to. It's really important work. I hope you've enjoyed my conversation with margarita devlin. So what are your questions recorded voice memo on your phone and send it to podcast at courage to fight again dot com or joined the post nine eleven veterans and families facebook group. And post your question there. We all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this have. I accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith in jesus. Christ we'll i'll see you right back here. Two weeks from day and the nixed veteran question. We'll be asking is this. How do i use my post nine. Eleven gi bill. Well until next time. Thanks for listening. We serve now. What is a production of courage to fight again.

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

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"aaron perkins" Discussed on Courage to Fight Again

"Hey everyone. Aaron Perkins here host of the courage to fight again podcast and I want to welcome you back to another episode, and as you know, as you just heard, this is season five where we are telling the story of just regular people who joined the military and in many cases changed the entire trajectory of their lives. So my guest today I'm incredibly excited. We have been trying to get her on the show for a very long time. I know you're going to love her her name is Charlene Review. and. She is a musician she completed to musical performance degrees and she actually went into the air force as a musician and her story is so interesting her energy is infectious and again I know you're going to love hearing from her. So she sent me a bio that I could kind of read off for her, but I actually want her to be the one to tell her story. So I'm going to let her do that but Charlotte it is so good to have you here. Welcome to courage to fight again. Thank you. Erin. It is so good to be here and talking with you. And Love Love. Love this. This is so much fun I. Love It. So why don't you just give us the overall picture right of WHO Charlene Charlotte is kind of introduce yourself to the listeners. Sure So I'm a person. I am a woman I'm a female veteran I am a musician specifically, a clarinetist Yup for all you learn at out there. I. I grew up with academics and musicians and artists, and of course I joined the military. And it was a whole new world so. I just I was. After a after completing those two degrees I was grateful to get to the the opportunity to audition as a civilian. And when they said, they wanted me I was so excited. And I was so excited to to be able to take the skills and talents that I developed and to be able to plug it into something so much bigger than one person could ever be. That's what that's what military musicians do, and we go on stages we go and places that. A lot of other military members don't get a chance to go don't get a chance to see were we get to be the the ambassadorial side? So, it was very exciting to compile all of those elements into a military career and then while I was in there also live my life and change. My last name we got married and find out that I was going to be a mom and what does that mean in the Air Force? And then of course Lots of stories in suit from there. So that gets you to today. Awesome that is so great. It's so great. So take me on the journey the path a little bit that kind of led you from growing up with academics and musicians to actually saying you know what the military seems like a good option. It take us through that path a little bit sure. So it was always something that was there. It was present I mean growing up there were military bands or or sometimes there would even be a smaller on Sambas maybe a quartet or quintet that would come especially to universities. So you could see people who had chosen to have a very high level of musical pro s and then. Plug it in into Against a purpose that was that was enormous. So originally, I was in my head I was fourteen I was going to be a professional musician. It was going to be a soloist I wanted to play with the symphony and. and. So I went to all those little nerdy music camps in high school and. In College I did I finished my Undergrad went right onto the masters degree and had that newly minted music performance from Conservatory I thought. Okay. I can do this right But the housing bubble had just I and jobs were limited for everyone. including the classical musical oats. So I was taking all editions I. I was literally a I had just gotten it. I was a year out from from graduating and I had kind of cobbled together different things. I was a professor of music appreciation at a small state college and I had some private students then I freelanced into gigs, and of course, it didn't pay the bills so Then then the air force had an ad. And they held there were actually two toback auditions. There was one in bowling, which is the premier bands in DC. And a week later, there was the the addition. Langley. In Virginia and that was for the regional band system. Now I. Don't know if they still do this. But at the time, it was possible to audition at one location and be offered a position in a different location. That's what happened with me. So you know I. I did those back I literally. Had To binders. or The for all of the orchestral excerpts and Solos and things I had the premier band binder and I had the real band diner and once I made it to the finals of the retail of the premier band. Didn't get it but had a chance to take a lesson with somebody who was in and she really encouraged me. She said, honestly, please just take another addition. And I said well, I got next week so. Sure enough. Sure. Enough I I kind of put that. Picked up the new byner fresh start and they offered me a position they they wanted to take two people actually from audition and one was a guy coming from New York and I was already living in Georgia at the time. There was an opening band of the Air Force Reserve, which is not extant anymore. But but it was in in Warner Robins, Georgia? So they said, Hey, would you be open to this physician? Absolutely yes. So. That's how I ended up. Becoming an air force musician and I should mention. So once you win the audition, you you go through basic training you you actually go through maps and and go through that process. At the time I was still I was wrapping up a semester with my college students. So I asked for a little bit of a delayed entry so I could finish with them and then it could be a trainee. Is younger than I was. Man. I graduated from college well, before I went into the military. So I totally get that and it's a it's a different dynamic for sure. Oh Yeah. So how how long were did you end up being there for six years? I took a six year lists six years. Okay six years and so you started in Georgia? Where did you go from there? So literally less than a year later, they announced all the four shaping. So that was in two thousand twelve. They announced that would be one of the band's shut down. So I got orders to Germany and in the meantime my Fiance. The time had just proposed. And I said, well, honey, we're GONNA have to move up the wedding if you want to be on my military orders. So we did it we had less than six months. And he was another musician And he was, he was wrapping up year tour of..

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