35 Burst results for "30 Years"
Dennis Prager Podcasts
Bills Intended to Shame and Scare Transgender Students Are Despicable?
"Read to you from the Los Angeles Times whose editorial board seems to be composed largely or exclusively. Of fools. I have no other term for their latest editorial. It's called bills intended to shame and scare transgender students are despicable. It is remarkable the lying that is comes with such ease to all leftists. Not all liberals, not all conservatives, but all leftists. There is a bill to shame and scare transgender students. The bill, which, of course, has no chance, because there is only Democrats controlling the two houses of the California, legislature, and of course the governor is a Democrat. So there's no chance it could pass its symbolic to show those who care about children. The amount of damage that the Democrats are doing to children. But they pay no price, they were the ones who advocated closure of schools that has led to far lower abilities intellectually among children in all these states. And has led to severe depression at rates never seen before in American history, but they know they don't pay a price because, as I wrote 30 years ago, being on the left means never having to say you're sorry. Do they still think the lockdowns of schools were right, by the way, I think, as at LA teachers are on strike? Is that correct? Yes. In sympathy for other strikers. Teachers unions care about children. As much as I never can fill in the rest of the sentence,
Mike Gallagher Podcast
Trey Gowdy Criticizes In-Fighting Between Trump & DeSantis
"I want you to hear Trey gowdy last night. Good guy. Former prosecutor out of South Carolina, U.S. congressman, now he's got his own show on Fox and he is uncomfortable not with the Santos attacking Trump, but he doesn't like Trump's attacks of Ron DeSantis. Ron has been taking on taking on weaponry, taking on attacks for weeks now. I mean, you mentioned he had an overwhelming victory in November and yet when a president Trump surrogates accused Ronald fixing the vote. Another one of president Trump's surrogates said that he was backed by George Soros. So I mean, at a certain point, whether you're running for president or not, you have to defend yourself, I don't know. I have not asked Ron, we serve together. I have not asked him if he's running for president. I think other people are going to get in, but you know, they know me, the whole process is really so degrading. I mean, you've got allegations of grooming high school students when you were a teacher, all this fixation over nicknames. I mean, we're picking the leader of the free world. The leader of the most important country in the world, and we are debasing ourselves with having these little quarrels over nicknames and allegations to go back 30 years that are really preposterous. I just think we ought to do better than that.
AP News Radio
American aid worker held captive for over 6 years in West Africa is released, officials say
"The Biden administration says an American aid worker kidnapped in West Africa more than 6 years ago has been freed. In 2016, gunmen took Jeffrey woodke from his home in Niger, where he'd been doing humanitarian aid work for more than 30 years. Officials believe witkey was moved over the years into Mali and Burkina Faso, while the administration's thanking Niger's government for helping free wood key. A senior official would not say exactly what led to the release or
The Charlie Kirk Show
Dr. Daniel Amen Describes How Alcohol Damages Your Brain
"There's two topics that sometimes my target demographic college kids don't like it when I talk about the negatives of drinking and marijuana. Let's start with drinking, is it true that if you drink too much or drink to excess or even drink at all that it can damage your brain? Any drinking, any alcohol has been shown to disrupt the white matter in your brain. So gray matter is brain cell bodies. White matter is brain cell tracks, or it's the highways in your brain. And alcohol is poison. I mean, everybody should know that. Drink too much can't walk a straight line, walk in a straight line as brain function. Drink too much, you say stupid things, you act like an idiot. Well, inhibiting is a brain function. But there's so many reasons that alcohol is bad for a developing brain because it disrupts a process called myelination, your brain constantly is putting down this white fatty substance called myelin that causes your brain to mature. And so if you're drinking at 15, 16, 17, 18, 20, 22, you're delaying and sometimes permanently damaging the maturity of the brain. Not to mention last year, and I didn't talk about alcohol for 30 years ever since I started looking at the brain. Last year, I wrote a blog called I told you so. The American Cancer Society came out against any alcohol because any alcohol increases your risk of 7 different types of cancer.
The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast
Biden Approves Drilling Project and Snubs Climate Change Allies
"So much surprisingly, Joe Biden has approved a massive drilling project in Alaska. This project allows the oil company called conical Phillips to go ahead with a, it's actually a project a 30 year project of drilling. And it's called the willow project. And it's giving the climate change people and the environmentalist people a real heart attack, which is a good thing. It's a good thing in the sense that they don't know what to make of it. They are quote deeply disappointed in the actions of Biden, they're claiming that he made assurances to them that this sort of thing would not happen, but it is happening. And by the way, it comes on the heels of Biden assigning a bill that knocks out the rewrite of the D.C. criminal code. So this is sort of the second turn code ish act by Biden from the point of view of the left and the question I want to look at is why did he do it? Now, a few details, this is a drilling project that will produce 576 million barrels of oil, so it's a big deal. And of course, he has Ann Alexander from the national and natural resources defense council. This would be an enormous carbon bomb. It's the single largest project currently proposed on federal lands because it involves three separate drilling sites. Now, the willow project had been greenlighted had been cleared by the Trump administration, and then Biden came back came in and stopped it. And so it was kind of halted in its tracks. But now Biden has to explain why he is essentially giving a clearance to a Trump approved project. And he says, well, we negotiated with conical Phillips. They've agreed to back off of some leases on federal land in an area apparently of Alaska that is home to Caribou and other wildlife. So this is apparently the concession made by ConocoPhillips. Yeah, we'll take this massive drilling project, but we'll give up this thing over here. And the left, of course, sees right through it, and they're not exactly appeased.
The Hugh Hewitt Show: Highly Concentrated
Silicon Valley and Capitol Hill Build an Anti-China Alliance
"A good bit of news. Wall Street journalist morning. Silicon Valley and Capitol Hill build an anti China alliance. A group of Silicon Valley executives, including Peter Thiel and Washington lawmakers, are quietly mobilizing at China's involvement in the U.S. tech industry. They plan to meet for a private dinner on Wednesday to discuss China national security and intensifying competition between the tech sectors of the U.S. and China. This was before TikTok gets hammered. TikTok is going to be out of business in the United States before long. Here's the deal. I love this hill and valley forum. The key thing is whom from whom will the Silicon Valley big tech people listen to advice. They might still get ambassador Robert O'Brien. They might, that deputy national security adviser, Matt pottinger, go get representative Mike Gallagher, go get representative Michael waltz, go get yourself. The Michael Pillsbury if he's a get good information and you'll get a good product out. But if you sit around listening to Wall Street bankers as you have for the last 30 years, you're not going to get good information on what the CCP is up to. It
AP News Radio
U.S. mortgage rates have moved lower in past week
"Mortgage rates in the U.S. have dropped after 5 straight weeks of increases. Mortgage buyer Freddie Mac says the average on the benchmark 30 year rate has fallen to 6.6%. Down about an 8th of a point from last week. That's welcome news for home buyers as to housing markets spring buying season gets underway. Rates on 30 year mortgage is usually track the moves of the ten year treasury yield, which lenders use as a guide to pricing loans. Treasury yields have tumbled since the collapse of two midsize U.S. banks. With the ten year yield following two under three and a half percent Thursday. It was over 5% last week. Its highest level since 2007.
Dennis Prager Podcasts
The Danger in Gender Ideology
"Pope Francis said in an interview published Friday that gender ideology, this is exactly what Michael null said, by the way. The Pope of the Catholic Church said the same thing like a null set. Is among the most dangerous ideological colonizations by colonizations. Today, according to a recent interview with la nacion, an Argentinian media outlet. Francis said that gender ideology is created one of the most dangerous ideologies in recent history because of the way it blurs the lines between men and women. According to a translation of his remarks in a nation by the Catholic news agency. Francis explained that all humanity is the tension of differences. By the way, for the record, 25 years ago, no more, 30 years ago. I wrote an essay, the war against differences. And said it would lead to tyranny.
The Dan Bongino Show
Peter Schiff: Another Bailout That Taxpayers Will Pay
"It looks like world staring at another bailout here I mean Biden can play all the word games he wants but in effect what he's doing is sending in the United States government to digitally or print more money create more money out of thin air to backstop what in essence we're a bunch of terrible decisions made by bad managers at a bank Well I mean first of all Biden is lying when he says it's not a bailout and that taxpayers aren't going to pay It is a bailout and taxpayers are going to pay through the nose It's not just that banks made bad decisions They were led to make those bad decisions by government Number one the Federal Reserve kept interest rates at zero So the banks couldn't earn any yield And so they were forced to go out long duration to get into yield and they bought these ten to 30 year bank regulators pushed the banks into buying government securities because of the favorable accounting terms that they got Number one you didn't have to take a haircut on the assets So you've got dollar per dollar credit A lot of other assets you have to mark them down on your books And number two they never had to mark them to market So in order to appease regulators the banks bought all these treasuries and mortgage backed securities So the government can't now get upset that the banks did exactly what they were pressuring them to do So that's number one But the bigger issue is had they allowed these couple of banks to fail a Silicon Valley bank signature bank And allowed the uninsured depositors to lose money It would have been bad It would have been a financial crisis It would have been worse than the financial crisis in 2008
The Eric Metaxas Show
'Scalia: Rise to Greatness, 1936-1986' With James Rosen
"So this book Scalia rise to greatness really is the most in depth treatment of Scalia's life. It benefits from a wealth of documentary and personal sources that were either overlooked by or unavailable to his previous biographers. One such source is a secret oral history of his life that justice Scalia conducted in Supreme Court chambers with an interviewer in 1992, and which is now being published for the first time in these pages. And so Scalia was born in New Jersey. He moved when he was 5 to queens. He loved queens. He grew up in a multi ethnic neighborhood playing stick ball and what part of the queen since I grew up in Queens, I have to ask. Elmhurst queens. Okay. My people are from elmhurst. This is kind of amazing to me thinking of him growing up in LA. I feel the synchronicity coursing through me right now. It's actually, I don't know, I'm touched by that. Wow. So, and he was, as you say, devout Catholic, his father was an Italian immigrant who came to the United States not knowing English with only $400 in his pocket in 1920. His mother was the daughter of Italian immigrants. They both wound up becoming teachers, his mother in elementary school teacher and Scalia's father, a Professor of romance languages at Brooklyn college for 30 years. Now, between the liturgy of the Catholic Church itself and the reverence for text that he inherited from his parents and specifically his father, a romance languages professor who was leery of translation from one language to another and its ability perhaps to warp the original meaning of text, Scalia grew up with from all of these influences, a profound reverence for the inviolability of sacred texts. He went to Jesuit institutions for high school and college, Xavier high school in New York City, which was a rare hybrid of a military academy run by Jesuits. And then he went to Georgetown university in both places, he was top of his class Magna cum laude at Harvard Law School top 5 of his class there. He had an incredible prodigious capacity for hard work,
AP News Radio
Texas executes inmate convicted of killing 4 in drug-related robbery
"A Texas man has been executed. I'm Lisa dwyer with the latest. Texas executed an inmate for the drug related killings of four people more than 30 years ago, including a woman who was 9 months pregnant, all four had been tied up and shot in the head in a Houston home during a drug robbery in 1992. 52 year old Arthur Brown junior received a lethal injection and Huntsville Texas, his execution was carried out after the U.S. Supreme Court declined to stop it, frowns attorneys had argued he was exempt from execution because he was intellectually disabled. Brown was the 5th inmate in Texas and the 9th in the U.S. put to death this year. I'm Lisa
AP News Radio
La Nina is gone. Here are the deadly storms during its run
"The average long-term U.S. mortgage rate has risen for the 5th straight week to its highest level since breaching 7% in November. I Norman hall. The increase comes just as the spring buying season gets ready to kick off. Mortgage buyer, Freddie Mac reports that the average on the benchmark 30 year rate climbed to 6.73% from 6.65% last week, the average long-term rate hit 7.08% in the fall, a two decade high, as the Federal Reserve continued to raise its key lending rate in a bit to cool the economy and quash persistent for decade high inflation. The big rise in mortgage rates has pushed sales of existing homes down for 12 straight months. I Norman hall
AP News Radio
Average US mortgage rate up for fifth straight week to 6.73%
"The average long-term U.S. mortgage rate has risen for the 5th straight week to its highest level since breaching 7% in November. I Norman hall. The increase comes just as the spring buying season gets ready to kick off. Mortgage buyer, Freddie Mac reports that the average on the benchmark 30 year rate climbed to 6.73% from 6.65% last week, the average long-term rate hit 7.08% in the fall, a two decade high, as the Federal Reserve continued to raise its key lending rate in a bit to cool the economy and quash persistent for decade high inflation. The big rise in mortgage rates has pushed sales of existing homes down for 12 straight months. I Norman hall
The Officer Tatum Show
Charles Barkley Slams Kendrick Perkins for 'Racists' Comments
"Let me read this head and I'm real quick. It says Hall of Fame basketball player Charles Barkley ripped into Kendrick Perkins, suggesting that race plays a role in the NBA MVP, voting when it comes to the Denver Nuggets, the center, Nikola jokic. Jokic, jokic. You know I'm from America, jokic. And the funny thing is the criticism that racist Kendrick Perkins had made mention of was he was criticizing yo kitsch. He was criticizing Dirk Nowitzki and Steve Nash. And the funny thing is is that none of them are white Americans. them. And it's funny because white Americans sit on the board of the voting for MVP and I don't have they ever voted for a white American to be of MVP of a basketball of the NBA. I mean, I'll say from starting from 1990 because he went since 1990 to the present day, there has never been a white American that have been, I voted MVP in the NBA. None. racist Kendrick Perkins is a complete maniac and idiot in my personal opinion. And it makes black people folks look bad. I mean, we look dumb. Sitting on TV, making all that money, and we trying to claim that white people are racist, yet the white people we claim are racist, vote for black people more than white people. And they vote for white people who are not American more than white Americans. So if anything, they're excluding white Americans from the MVP voting. But I'm going to play with Charles Barkley said and if anybody out there that's listening, if you can get me in contact with Charles Barkley, I would love to sit down and smoke a cigar and interview charged Barclay because I just really appreciate his perspective even though I don't agree with everything. I appreciate people that keep it real. And Charles Barkley, I know he live here in Arizona. I saw him at the airport one year, but I wasn't able to follow up with him. However, if you know him, I want to interview him and talk to him about this whole thing. But I'm going to play the clip from Charles Barkley. I don't remember which number it is, but let's roll clip two. I think I got it. Clip two. If only 5 white guys have won MVP in the last 30 years, that makes zero sense if argument. Zero sense. Because if that was the case, we'd have a lot more white MVPs. Those and it's a little short clip of what Charles Barkley said. I know he probably said a lot. I mean, in the article that I have here, and I'm not going to say these words on a radio, but he said, he's pretty sure that the other gentleman jokic, is that how you say his name? That jokic don't give a, you know what about these idiots on television?
The Eric Metaxas Show
Be Anxious for Nothing
"Talking to my friend Barry Maguire, the book is ignite, your life, defeat fear with effortless faith. So part of what we were just talking about is people feel like, oh, when it comes to God stuff, I can give myself permission to be anxious. And you think, well, here's the problem. The description says be anxious for nothing. So your neighbor's Salvation, your relative Salvation, that's very tempting to be anxious about that. And all the wrong way. I started out thinking, I have to get them saved on the spot. So now that adds extra pressures, I got to get them to the center's prayer to everything. Right now, I'm a failure. And I felt that way. It has nothing to do with timing, nothing to do with timing, as you and I both know we have long. I've been chatting with some people for 30 years and they still haven't come around. I got a call from a friend in Chicago, bill called me, and he says, our mutual friend Jack in Oregon wants to talk to you. He's in his hospice bed. So I knew what he wanted to talk about. He taught his wife, I have to talk to Barry Maguire. So I knew he was ready. So we were actually, we had an afternoon off, we're going to go to the theater, to the booth, see a movie. I said, Karen, you drive, I got business to do. So I called Jack. As a hijack, how you doing, act like I didn't know anything I'm not doing well. I said, what's going on? He explained the situation. I'm in the hospital instead of dying, and I said, and can we talk about God? Yeah. You know, he's ready for you. And I led him through the center's prayer. And then I had him repeat it again just to make sure. And then I said, guess what, Jack? We're going to spend eternity together. What?
The Doug Collins Podcast
Jason Lewis and Doug Discuss 'Comfortable Conservatism'
"Right now in the United States House, it's less than 8 years. Did you and most people don't realize this, that in this next Congress, they'll be less than 40% of the membership of the Republican caucus have ever served with anybody that they came in before Donald Trump. So, I mean, I mean, it's huge turnover. And you see it a little bit in the Santa. It's always the anomalies. It's always the Schumer as the Pelosi's the Dan youngs even. I put that. But what happens is, is what you just touched on. Is the staff on Capitol Hill, which you got a lot of great folks, but a lot of those committees have been there 30 years and they don't like change. Then you go into the bureaucracy. That's where I think the biggest problem is, you know, I got, you know, if you want to talk to me, it's fine, but let's have a some kind of at least turnover in Washington and these cubicles up and down these streets because that's where the real governess is going because we in Congress sort of gave our power away to them. Right. No, you're right. We don't do civil service reform. All is lost. I think incoming president has control over three or 4000 employees out of 2 million. So, you know, he's going to come and go and you're going to get those political appointees. But really, Peter strzok and Lisa page proved where the departments are. And the same with these committee staffs and all of that. So I couldn't agree with you more. Look, what I write in the book, Doug, is that too often Republicans want to revert back to what I call comfortable conservatism. And by that, I mean, what are you going to alienate related advocate for term limits? And I happen to be in favor of them, but I agree with you that I'm in favor of them for everybody. But who are you going to alienate? Nobody. Wearing a Ukrainian flag lapel pin. We really going to alienate nobody. You talk about a tax cut. We believe in tax cuts, but it's about as safe a political position as you can get. But if you start talking about we really shouldn't have a biological male swimming against my daughter swim team in college. We really shouldn't have lawlessness in the streets, although they are talking about that. But we ought to close the borders. Or how about this? We get to the point right now with China. We're not too many generations ago of you unleashed a bioweapon on the world. That would have been considered an act of war.
The Doug Collins Podcast
Former Rep. Jason Lewis of Minnesota Shares His Story
"Bit about your background and then what, you know, what staircase you fell down to say, I need to run for Congress, you know? Well, you do, I was in the airport the other day and somebody came up to me, and said, I know you, didn't you used to fill in for Russia and you were in Congress for a while and I said, yep, that's me and they said, whatever happened to you anyway. We all get those. Well, look, I grew up in a small business family. My mom was from north Minneapolis. My dad was from Iowa. We settled in the Hawkeye state, but Minnesota was the second home. So when I fell into talk radio after graduate school, I opportunity to go home to Minneapolis and St. Paul, I did. And that was in the early 90s and raised my two daughters here for 30 years. Loved it. Got into radio. It was fortunate enough to hit the timing was good, telling them for rush and had my own syndicated show for a while. But at some point, Doug, you know what it's like, you could be a commentator so long, but after a while, you got to put your money where your mouth is and you want to get on the field and play. Because the only way to really change things is to vote for them. So I thought, and most, by the way, most commentators won't talk most talk show hosts don't do that because they can demagogue your previous comments like Supreme Court Justices from and I knew that would happen with me and it did with CNN and all the rest. But I really didn't care. I just said, look, I want to do something. And I was fortunate to come into Congress with a new president when we really had an opportunity to do things and we did. But it was really just more of an angst about, look, you can talk all day long, but at some point, get sued up, get in the game. And so I did do that and served. I thought in one of the more consequential terms of Congress, and then I ran for the U.S. Senate alongside the president, here in Minnesota, and two years ago, and October, we were neck and neck with Tina Smith, who was the Democrat, I would say from Minnesota, but really she represents Planned Parenthood. Her former employer. But I felt that we were going to win Minnesota. I really felt the president went. And we did great. I collected more votes than any other statewide cabinet in Minnesota history. We outperformed the top of the ticket by two points, but we had 1.9 million absentee ballots at 60% of the total Minnesota vote gained by mail.
ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes
Caller: Ron DeSantis Should Stay Four More Years in Florida
"100% Trump running in this election. And my take with desantis, I love the fantasy. He's doing great in Florida, but I would like for him to stay four more years in Florida because he's still got a lot to do there. And I know probably him being vice president would Trump would support him. But I think he's going to, if he, if he runs in 2028, he's going to get, is he going to get it? Because he's going to be that kind of a gas. Everybody's going to know Ron DeSantis by that time. If they don't know. I don't want Trump to run independent. Because that just guarantees the liberals will be right in there. Because he'll take so many votes away from the Republican Party, they won't have a chance. Yeah, look, I'm afraid you're right there, Jerry. Yeah, I can understand the temptation, but into the day, bad move. Yeah. Absolutely. And I said, I'm 76 years old. And I said, now this thing about these things, I'm sharp as a tack. I got everything going. Well, you're not Joe Biden. I can bring this around. I got a lot of common sense, but 30 years ago, I kept telling all my Friends, anybody out of jail, I said, the only way this country's economy is going to survive, you had to have a businessman in the running because there's not a politician, those anything about business. That's it. That's it. President Trump came in and he proved it to me. Plus, we got a bonus for how strong it was in the foreign policy.
The Wild
"30 years" Discussed on The Wild
"Well, this is it, folks, that was our last episode for season four. Matt Gemini and the rest of the wild team want to thank you so much for listening. We feel like it's a privilege to bring new stories from this magical planet that we all call home. And we'd love you to share them with someone who's looking for a bit of inspiration and hope because there's a lot of it around when you look for it. We've already started work on season 5 and I promise to keep you posted about when the first episode will drop later this year. Some exciting plans unfolding. If you'd like to see photos of the spectacular view from Jim's lookout, head on over to our Instagram at the wild pod. And you can find me at Chris Morgan wildlife. A special thanks to all the people at north cascades national park that made this episode possible. Karen Taylor goodrich, Tamara Sterling, Tanya, ketamine, and Denise Schultz. And to Bernard roulette for giving a voice to Jack Kerouac. The wild is inspired not just by nature, but by the people who work in it, love it, protect it. The wild is a production of K or W in Seattle and me Chris Morgan with support from wildlife media. One way to support this vital work is through my wildlife organization, Chris Morgan wildlife, on Patreon. There's a link in the show notes. Our producer is Matt Martin, Jim Gates is our editor. A very special thank you for the kind financial support to Jill and Scott walker, rose letwin, Alan Ferguson, Anna Kimball, John Taylor, Paul Lester, Mark Wilkins and Rebecca badger, bob Yeley's, Barbara stallman, and Annie mize, and to enter the nature trust of the Americas. Our production team includes Juan Pablo chiquiza, April Craig, Michaela giannotti, Karen McDermott, the pesky, Darcy riggan Schmidt, and Brendan Sweeney. A theme music is by Michael Parker. I'm Chris Morgan. Until season 5, get into nature as much as you can. It's medicine. And take good care of.
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"30 years" Discussed on The Wild
"See, this place was meant to burn. The trees are designed to survive a fast, low intensity fire. Some of them even need fire heat to open up the cones and seeds, entire thriving ecosystems of sprung up because of fire, not despite it. The Meadows I walked through to get to the peak were created by fire, and so was the biodiversity that those Meadows support, the flowers, insects, birds, and fungi. For thousands of years Native Americans have known the benefits of using fires in a controlled way. They used fire to make habitats productive for game and crops to provide for their needs, but for forest managers it took a while to realize this and to move from a philosophy of regulating fires, putting them out right away, to managing fires, letting them burn in a more controlled way. And when I was first in the forest service became much more about regulating fire managing fire was all the watchword and that's only become more so and as the years have gone by and we've realized we have to manage this thing. We can't you can't suppress it. You can't throw enough millions and millions of dollars in equipment and people at it to suppress this thing. So we need to manage it. But there is another course behind today's mega fires that goes beyond a change in forest management. All tied in with climate change as we are well known now and that's our future is fire. When we lose trees to fire a couple of things happen, they're no longer there to do their job of breathing in carbon dioxide from the atmosphere. In fact, when they burn, they release the carbon they've been storing while they were alive into the atmosphere. More carbon in the atmosphere means more global warming and drier, hotter, forest conditions, which leads to even more fires. It's called a feedback loop. Today, fires are not only more intense, but they also burn more often. In the past, fires would burn in this ecosystem around desolation peak. Every hundred years or so, naturally. It's called natural fire rotation, but today they burn more often and in the same areas, they're called short interval fires. These fires damage forest soils and deplete seed banks making it harder for affected areas to bounce back. Even increasingly rare old growth trees which have evolved to be resilient to fire can be damaged by high intensity and repeated burns. Jim shows me the evidence of a past wildfire on this ridge. One from nearly a hundred years ago. Yet there's some snags still from the 1926 fire because this was so burned over a fire came out of little beaver across the river and then came roaring up this ridge. So we walked down here just a bit. There's a standing snag. A fire had raced in the upper skagit and all the country around desolation. My mountain had burned for two months and filled the skies of northern Washington and British Columbia with smoke that blotted out the sun. I'm looking at evidence of that massive burn that kerouac described and still visible around the lookout. The government had tried to fight it, sent a thousand men in with packed string supply lines that then took three weeks from marble mount fire camp, but only the fall rains had stopped that blaze. And the charred snags I was told were still standing on desolation peak and in some valleys. That was the reason for the name, desolation. The charred snakes are still standing, like eerie pieces of fire history. This one, this stump here you can see the burn marks at the base. Sometimes they take some pretty dramatic forms and they're all twisted and have great burn holes in them way up high and where you can just picture the flame shooting out of it. Oh yeah. If you've ever seen trees on fire, the name desolation came from the destruction caused by this 1926 fire. But that fire was just one of many. So when you see the beginnings of a fire, does it just take off and go crazy? It depends on the weather and the conditions in the drought and it takes a lot of factors to make a fire really take off. Even days after a big storm, Jim has to keep a watchful eye. Maybe a little bit of fire interior on the snag, but it's just kind of smoldering for days sometimes. It could be a sleeper for this or weeks even. And then gets the right conditions, gets dried out, gets just some fuel pocket and just takes off slightly and you realize, oh my gosh, that's from the lightning two weeks ago. Two weeks ago, a hundred years ago, the passage of time is somehow clear from up here at desolation peak. In his book, desolation angels, Jack Kerouac ruminates on time in his description of an old photograph taken from the lookout. When I look at my panoramic photographs of the desolation area and see the old mules and wiry rounds of 1935 hackled out of no more corral fence, I marvel that the mountains looked the same in 1935 as they do in 1956. So that the oldness of the earth strikes me, recalling primordially that it was the same. They, the mountains, looked the same, too, and 584 BC. Well, they aren't the same now, are they? We're watching the changes happening fast. Jim reaches for something. He pulls out the same panoramic photograph that kerouac described. It's black and white and about four feet wide. The same one Jack's talking about in that passage because he mentions the pack horses in the picture, which is an unusual thing. And there they are over there and it was interesting to see that you could compare the glaciers in this 1935 photo of August and compare them to August now and go, wow, big difference. Jim pulls his finger over the photograph, and then points through the window to the corresponding peaks. Can look over toward spickard and peaks to my west and you see a lot more big talent slopes now where it used to be glacier. If Jack mountain comes out today, you'll see that in a whole commune glacier on it, it is quite large. And some of that's missing now from what we see today. And these peaks over here. It's really obvious just because we can see the whole glacier in this photo. They do some blocked by another peak or something, and you can see where it's receded and how much shorter it is and how much gray rock there is below it now.
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"30 years" Discussed on The Wild
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The Wild
"30 years" Discussed on The Wild
"Okay, make some coffee. Love some coffee. Finally, inside, and out of The Rain, Jim Henson makes me a warm drink. He has an old hand crank coffee grinder clamped to his desk to make a fresh brew. Jim's in his late 60s tall with high cheekbones. And a complexion that's seen a lot of time outdoors. He's a quiet man, but I sense he's ready to talk. His home for several months each year is a 12 by 12 box that was packed up here by mules and horses in 1932. There are big single pane windows on all sides with 360° views of all the peaks around us. But there's no view today. The storm means we're up in thick clouds. The lookout is 15 miles from the nearest road and 6 miles from Canada. I heard it described as a crow's nest for smoke spotters. Literally perched at 6100 feet. Desolation rises up, among other peaks with equally ominous names, mount despair, damnation peak and mount terror. Artwork, photographs and sun faded handwritten quote decorate the space, Jim points proudly to the small library as on his desk. I've added quite a few books to the librarian and there were quite a few up here when I came, but fire on the mountain. Mixed in with the essential Lewis and Clark, and a book simply titled alone. Jim's job is to look for fires. Here in the giant forests of the north cascades, like all over the west, fires are getting bigger and more common, which means jobs like gyms are more important than ever. At the center of the lookout is Jim's main tool, the Osborne firefighter. It's like a giant compass about the size of a large pizza, and it sits on top of a tool table pride of place in the middle of the tiny room, and the compass part spins around like a lazy Susan over a detailed map. There's a crosshair gauge to look through. It turns there's a bearing ring that turns on 360°, and on one end it has the brass affair you look through with a slot for your eye. When Jim sees smoke, he turns the Osbourne, and lines up the sights, so it points to the location of the fire. He can then get a direction, a bearing, with the compass, to give fire crews on the ground, or in the air a precise location. You have to really pay attention to details in this job. As we used to say, you've got to be on a lookout about four seasons before you made enough mistakes, actually be able to read the land properly. So it's not exactly high technology, is it? It's technological and very, very clever, but it's not high-tech. No, it's based on what early surveyors used. It's a surveyor's transit is what Osborne was basing it on and before there were laser laser surveying. And satellites and all that. It was just eyeball. This is an analog system in a digital world. For more than a hundred years the forest service has been using osbournes and fire lookouts like this one, placing men and women a top peaks and ridge lines to wait and watch for fire. One of Jim's most recent big fires was in 2018, he was hiking back up to the desolation lookout mid fire season. So I was taking him from my days off I was on a couple of days off and hiking in there. I knew there had been lightning, so I am looking around. And I was actually down fairly low on the trail and through a gap in the trees. I had just happened to see these smokes. Jim saw two plumes of smoke high on a ridge on the other side of the Lake below desolation. He describes the smokes as acting very differently than a cloud. Smokes have a bluish white color and they're not moved by the wind like clouds. They're pushed around by heat, created by the fire below. They're just more of an active animal unto itself. And hard thing to describe. Jim radioed into the park dispatch from the trail to tell them where he thought the fire was on top of a ridge above Arctic creek. Once he made the final push up to the lookout, he confirmed the location with the Osbourne firefinder. And they flew at some hours later, and it was starting to get bigger. And they gave it a name and unfortunately they didn't call it Arctic creek fire, which I thought they would. From the aircraft they said, yep, it's the right where you put it. And so this will be the Arctic gym fire. No. No, you can not do that. And so first did the name stick Arctic Jim? Of course. Yeah, it's on the map. The Arctic gym fire, really? Jim's pinned a picture of the fire on the wall of the lookout. Oh, there's the Arctic gym of August 2018. Got pretty big. It almost got Jim is a humble guy. He seems a bit embarrassed to have had a fire named after him. Doing it this way, using the Osborne to locate fires, hasn't really changed since the 30s, but more and more lookouts like Jim are being replaced with new technology. Although Jem's not afraid or loses job anytime soon, he's been hearing these threats since he first started doing this work in the 70s. You know, you guys are going to be replaced, you're not going to be doing this for very much longer. We're going to have things on the top of the roof to just go. We're not going to need people on the lookout. But technology is changing how fires are being monitored. Weather satellites are now used to monitor potential or ongoing wildfires, even solar powered drones are used to relay crucial information to firefighting crews on the ground. At one point the forest service operated 5000 permanent fire lookouts like this. Now there are only a few hundred left. But Jim provides something that GPS can't. Huge one is that I can talk to people. You know, this is very much even though desolation peak is so remote. Jim still gets frequent visitors to the lookout. People are drawn to the place. You can give the historical perspective on this and you can tell about its history. You can share the technology such as it was in the 1930s and still active. You can give a lot more information about the land about the wildlife about the vegetation and just it's a person. It's a person to tell stories. Like a mountain top ambassador, giving people a better understanding of and respect for the land. And Jim isn't the first person to tell stories from this hilltop. I came to a point where I needed solitude and just stop the machine of thinking and enjoying what they call living. I just wanted to lie in the grass and look at the clouds..
The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"30 years" Discussed on The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"It's part of a package along with her colleagues about this very important part of California history. Visit LA times dot com to read them all. Hi, I'm Ivan viria. I'm a staff writer for the LA times covering TV and I also co host our awards podcast the envelope. I spend my days talking with the creative minds behind your favorite shows to find out what goes into their art. And we have been dedicated to keeping you informed every step of the way. But none of it would be possible without your support. Consider subscribing to the LA times and you'll get access to diverse perspectives on the news of today all from the West Coast point of view. Head over to LA times dot com slash exclusive to subscribe today. And that's it for this episode of the times. Daily news from the LA times. Tomorrow, part two of our 30th anniversary coverage of the Los Angeles riots. We'll go down to south LA. It's epicenter and see how the economy and the neighborhoods have changed. Denise Gerard was a hef on this episode and our shows produced by Shannon Lin Denise Guerra, kasha besalyan, Ashley Brown, angel carreras and David Toledo. Our editorial assistants are Madeline amato and Carlos de loera. Our engineers Mario Diaz are editors Kinsey Moore. Our executive producers are hasi nagila and shani Hilton and our theme music is by Andrew epee. Like what you're listening to, then make sure to follow the times on whatever platform you use. I'm Gustav Ariana, we'll be back tomorrow with all the news in this month. Buying a home for the first time can seem daunting, even impossible for some of us, especially in Southern California, one of the most expensive and competitive markets in the country, but you're not alone. The great SoCal house hunt is a step by step guide to buying a home in Southern California that breaks down and explains the process, making it easy to work through..
The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"30 years" Discussed on The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"It was on a Saturday and I took my daughter to a little birthday party at a park four years old, and it was all white. It was her friends from preschool. And I was exhausted. It smelled like smoke. I set it up picnic table just to sit there and watch them. And at the other end were two white mothers. And I don't know if they'd been talking about the rides before, but once I sat down on the other end, they said, oh, isn't that horrible about what's happening over the hill? Isn't that horrible? Because we could see the smoke coming from the city. And one of them said, yeah, it almost makes you wish they didn't have that video. And I thought she doesn't wish they didn't beat him. She doesn't wish the police were held accountable. She just wishes we didn't have to see it. And I remember thinking at that point, I could never have that thought. That thought could never occur to me. And that there is this gulf between us that, you know, I don't know. Can we all get along? I guess only if some people are protected from the ugly realities of racism and we see that today even with the debates over what can be taught in school about history. Let's protect some people from it. Can we all get along was a sincere and honest plea and the jury is still out even right now. Yeah, I'm curious what he meant by it, you know?.
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"30 years" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"But that's huge, just to go on a date for Carmen is huge. I think that this journey that you're on and this journey that you're on and could articulate so well. I think it's, you know, the journey to yourself when you've lost yourself because that's really what's happened here. And I thought you articulated so beautifully how you stopped, how your father stopped and then you all just sort of stopped, you know, after your mother died. But the journey to yourself, that's the journey that we're all taking. It's a lifelong journey. Absolutely. We're all taking to discover that. So I understand you went on another date, Michelle. I did last night. Great time. Great time. Guess who might be moving to California just coincidentally? Oh, that guy. You never know. That's right. Never know. This isn't a quick fix, though, but what progress have you seen shayla and Carmen make? I've seen huge progress. Both of them have opened their hearts and their minds to this process. They've taken huge risks for them really put themselves out on a limb. And the bottom line is that for all of us, not only these two, but for all of us, especially for women, you need to know that everything you want, you can have for yourself. You don't have to depend on anyone else. You're not at the effect of anyone or anything else in the end, that if you want to take the reins of your life, you can create the love in your life that you most want. Thank you. Thank you, Carmen. Thank you, Sheila. Thank you, doctor burman. Thanks, everybody, bye. I'm Oprah Winfrey, and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"30 years" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Tight lipped about where they are going. The where I'm going, I'm less concerned with, it's the who's going to be there. That both annoying not to know. I just hope it's not some corny strip club thing. Tatiana set up a dinner with a few eligible men. Hi, nice to meet you. Thank you. Not drinking. Shayla then starts talking about her homework. Okay, so when I met with doctor Berman, she said that I have to become more comfortable with sex and body parts and all that other kind of stuff. So I'm so my assignment is to masturbate and to report on that. Wow. Yeah. Wow. You okay? You okay? You never got that kind of time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. As the night goes on, shayla and Marlin appear to have some chemistry. Yes. Absolutely. After dinner, they head off alone for nightcap at a local bar. Okay. Was there any kind of chemistry or anything? He was a good friend. Yeah. Yeah. Can I just say that and I agree, I think in this case, it wasn't a good match for lots of different reasons. But that's what she does. She's fine on the first date. She's great. But if it's going to go into a second or third or fourth date, then she just sidles up to the bar with them to watch football and like buddy buddies them up because that's a protection. She doesn't have to take it further emotionally or sexually that way. But it's also harder because I love sports. But that's so cool. I love the things that slide me into the friend zone. But you can watch sports and still have a sexual and romantic connection with someone. Yes. Okay, so was that a cocktail or a mocktail in your hand? That was a real cocktail. Really? Okay, so shayla is hardest homework assignment was to write a letter to her deceased parents. After nearly ten attempts, ten attempts. Yeah. And an emergency session, he was finally able to put her thoughts onto paper. And here is what she had to say. Part of what she had to say. Dear mommy, did you think about what I would have to endure when you left? Or did you just assume that daddy and I's life would just go on as normal because it didn't, it didn't. It sucked. It totally sucked. I felt like on some level that you should have told me and prepared me for the hell that was coming. Okay, daddy, I just need to talk to you. You taught me the best of life you taught me how to laugh. You taught me how to be strong and you taught me how to endure it's not give up. And said that I gave up on the part of me that should be vulnerable and that should love. I'm sad that I gave up on that. I'm embarrassed that gave up other. But you just pointed me. You disappointed me, daddy, because I saw you give the best of yourself to be as saw that. If it would Bobby died, you quit. And they were loved like that. Wow, that is so powerful. Bravo that you should be able to do that. I can feel that your being able to write that letter say those words to your father is going to be a healing bomb for so many people watching who didn't have your issue of intimacy or connection, but it's about bringing closure to the past, being able to put that word deserves to be and letting that go. Yeah. How helpful was that to you? It was, it was shockingly helpful because I thought I could write a write well I'm articulate. I thought that the letters would be easy. And when I had to sit and talk to my mom and she isn't there and the most important people in my life are gone. That is the fact. And I can either choose to deal with it, to process it and to move forward or to stay where I was. And I was too afraid to move forward. Because where's your father now? He died. He died, too. Less than a year ago. So my identity as a woman was placed in my mother's hands. I didn't know who I was without her. She told me I was pretty. I was beautiful. I was this route was that. And so without that, I just was lost. Yes, and I think it's so important for, you know, I just felt that as a healing bomb for so many people because so many people, when they lose, whether it's you become a widow and you give up on love or whether you lose and divorce and then you give up and you don't love as much for your kids, your inability to move forward and continue to show that love affects everybody. Affects everybody, not just you. Yeah. Really? Brilliant, brilliant. Now back to Carmen. Earlier this week we teamed up with one on one matchmaking and found four eligible men who wanted to meet her. Hi, Carmen. Give me a hug. You look beautiful. How are you feeling? Are you in a complete panic? Yeah. We have four guys who know exactly what you look like and they're all interested, okay? These aren't guys who are expecting me to be a size zero. Can you connect with the fact that you're the one in power tonight? Possibly a hundred. So I'm gonna be watching cheering you on. Okay? All right, let's go. Hello. How are you? Nice to meet you. You get to go back home often. It's not as much. But I traveled a lot. Now do you speak Spanish? I don't know, very good, very good. It's Elliot, right? Yeah. Okay. So what do you do on your free time? I like to go out, you know, you know, spend time with my family, Friends. Do you have a question? Yes, I do. I don't have a card though. You want to write it on the back of that? I don't have it. Ten, ten, right here. Okay. This is terrible. Aren't you proud of yourself? I'm so proud of you. I'm actually quite surprised in myself that I actually did this. This is not something I would have done a month or two or even a year ago, but I am proud of myself. Wow, you are really, you're really putting yourself out there. I'll give you an a plus. All right. So you're out of bed. You're out. You're dressed, your hair is done. You're looking good. And my producers tell me one of the guys was in Chicago last night and there was another date. Yeah, he was in Chicago, I guess on business, so well. We met up for drinks yesterday. But how are you feeling now? Like I said before, it's still work in progress, but I feel better like I can actually go out and I have a I have a range like a date for Tuesday also. It's the same person? No, it's the first time..
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"30 years" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Like your vulva if you're not familiar with it? I don't know. Doing it. All right, America here comes the bowl talk. I know you love the ball. All the time it is. Now, so that's awesome. I love that you know what it is now. Yeah, I was like, what's a vulva? She's like, get to know your vulva, huh? What? I mean, I was like, you know, you'll learn what that is, as well as some other things too. Well, I also think when it comes to masturbation, if you've never masturbated and you're 30 years old, you feel like a loser. You know, if you've never touched yourself, I mean, you manage to get to be 30 and you never touched yourself that way. But it's also about for me the good girl. Good girls aren't masterbating. Well, they are now. But when but when we were doing that session, you know, that's not what we were told and that's been the beautiful thing about my journey here is just discovering pleasure what pleasures you, what makes you feel good. I never asked those questions. Of yourself. Of myself, no. Or I thought you deserved to feel pleasure. Right. She's owning the fact that you can be a nice girl and sexual at the same time. And she had never really connected those two. They were separate entities in her mind. And also what she said earlier, I always thought it was a team sport. Yeah, well, because there's part of me, okay, when you talk about the mechanics of it, I just feel like shouldn't somebody else be here, like, I'm not gonna lie, well, not with your new toy. But. So what happened is, shayla met one of doctor Berman's favorite things. I will not be having on the favorite things show. Okay, after a full day of therapy, doctor Berman gave shayla and Carmen some homework. My two virgin girls. So who should we do first? Let's do carbon. I'm going to get you some referrals to three different specialists, okay? I want to get you in to see an endocrinologist who has experience with polycystic ovarian syndrome. I want you to see a medical nutritionist and I'm going to get you a referral for a psychiatrist to evaluate to see if depression is a factor here, okay? And also, I'm going to set you up with a stylist who's going to give you a little mini makeover so that you can boost your confidence because you are going to contact that guy. Okay. Text, email, call, I don't care. How you contact him. But you are going to invite him to coffee. And you are going to meet him there and actually go without making excuses. Okay. So miss shayla, what I'd like you to do is write a letter to your mom and to your dad separately. Telling them about the anger and the sadness that you feel are still feel, okay? Next, I'm going to give you this book. It's right back here, okay? Real sex for real women and one time before I see you next. I am gonna have to master. Yes, you are. Yeah. Doctor Burke. You don't. You don't have to tell me the details. But guess what? Everybody does it. Okay. So the third assignment is that I am going to call on some of your girlfriends. To arrange for an evening out. You will know nothing of what to expect and your job is to let go of the control, stay calm, stay present. Okay. So you both ready? Who has the worst assignment, you think? We totally. Gotta love your vulva if you want anyone else to. And I know you don't know what a vulva is. We'll find out. Out of 5 my votes were. So tell us what that was like. Well, it was great. It was, it was scary in the beginning because I had to get past the judgment of it. The judgment of yourself. The judgment of me not deserving pleasure. And once I did that and I relaxed, I created a little vulva soundtrack, got my music too. I was going to ask you. I was asked, did you put on some nice music? Yeah. Go on a date with myself. I took myself out. And I relaxed. She did y'all. Have a good time. Wonderful time. Okay. We don't want to. Okay. I think your curd. Anyway, Carmen's body issues have been holding her back for ten years. I feel like if Carmen can get over the self esteem issues and the fear of being rejected, there's a crazy vixen inside. They're ready to come out. She's been buried for such a long time. I won't mind if I were thinner. I probably wouldn't, and you can be here. When she says that, what does that mean to you? How do you translate that? Well, you know, and Carmen knows this too. There are many women, millions of women out there who are her size or larger who have tons of guys interested in them and are in loving long-term relationships. It's not her size that is keeping men from her. It's her feelings about her size that is shutting her off from the outside world. Right. So let's take a look at Carmen's trip to the stylus, part of her homework. Ashley falcon is Marie Claire's plus size it girl, and the brains behind the column, big girl in a skinny world. Each month she gives tried and true fashion advice to full figure gals, we sent Carmen to Ashley's fashion closet to help her look and feel more confident. Hi, Carmen. It's so nice to meet you. I'm Ashley. Hi. How are you doing? Okay. You're okay. Well, we're gonna see if we can make it really good, actually. I'm so excited. I hear we have sort of a fashion demo. We're not sure what to wear or how to wear it. Tell me a little bit about that. To get dressed in the morning is a hassle and it's. Not fun. It's not fun at all. I make sure that whatever I'm wearing is gonna cover my stomach is gonna cover my arms. It's gonna cover my butt. So I have to be honest, I just see a pretty girl who's a little bit bigger, kinda looks a lot like me. Same skin tone. I mean, I'm not the size that I want to be right now. I'm not. It's that simple. But you know what? I still need to get up in the morning. Stone need to go to work. And I refuse to be in a garbage bag. I just do. I've got out and got a ton of things for you. So it would be really exciting. You have like a mini mall just for you. So why don't we go ahead and try some things on? Okay. I think you look fantastic. Thank you so much. Wow, common left with 7 new outfits and headed straight to the Rita hazan salon in New York City for some hair TLC. What did that experience do for you? I felt good. It's kind of corny 'cause I almost felt like a little mini celebrity, you know? I had someone pick out clothes for me and get my hair done. But I know I'm a work in progress, so. We're working. To combat Sheila's constant need to be in control. Doctor burman prescribed a night out planned by her friend. I have zero clue about what we're doing. I have no control, no questions. No input at all. Channel's not happy about that. Shayla likes to know what Shay was doing..
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"30 years" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"My lack of experience. Is it not being in a relationship or not having had sex? Okay. I feel like a loser, like all the friends that I have, you know, they got married, had kids, and here I sit at 31 and I had one maybe kind of boyfriend. And that's it. Would you want to be in a relationship? I would love to be, but I just don't feel like I warrant anybody wanting. To be with me. When was the most recent guy? Who did try to reach out to even pursue you and who you shoved off? Because imagining it couldn't possibly be real. There is a, there's a guy right now actually for a couple months now. How'd you meet him? He actually spoke to one of my brothers and asked for my number and I'm like, yeah, okay, whatever. So my brother. Why would he do that? I honestly thought he was just playing games. Just like making fun of you. You're just kind of like, you know, let's try to entertain the fat girl. That's what I always feel like. So does it seem you've been communicating with this guy for a couple of months? Do you sleep through text? And we had arranged to go out once or twice. And I will admit it was my fault. I got nervous, and I got scared, and I kind of blew them off. What's the worst thing that can happen? Worst thing that can happen is that we get to that point where we're, you know, and where you're whack. We're about to have sex based, okay? And I'll have to be naked. And now my jiggly parts just feel like and it will just turn them off ill. He would scream like, oh my God, that's disgusting. And then just kind of. Would you feel any worse than you feel now? I think I would worst case, yeah. It's like, wow, you know, if I grew the nerve to actually get to that point and then someone were to just reject me. So your fear, both of those fears end up in the same place. Yeah. Where you're alone. And that's that seems really scary and sad to you. What are the tears for? What are you feeling? I just feel like a hopeless, like it's just hopeless, like it doesn't matter. Like, sometimes I just don't want to. Like, why bother? Carmen, this doesn't feel to me to be about sex at all. It appears to be from what I've heard. And I've heard just what y'all have heard. It feels to me that this is a self esteem. Yes. Absolutely. This is not a self esteem. No. And they manage very differently. Shayla could go on dates and is very outgoing and articulate in her dating world. And Carmen is this Quiet Riot. She's extremely articulate, but she won't let her voice be heard. And she won't put herself out there because she's so convinced that people will be judging her like, why are you even bothering? She's so convinced that she's disgusting. So what do you think is at the root of your weight issue? It's actually, it started about like 19. I discovered I had its polycystic ovarian syndrome. And what is that? It's all, it's a hormonal condition. I know I noticed the weight mostly. Like my sorry, like my period stop coming. And say period. Everybody knows what that is. Sorry, guys. Okay. They just stopped coming. And then little bit was just gaining weight rapidly. And like a 9 month period, I went from a size ten to a size 18. And you know, doctors would just kind of blow me off like, oh, you're eating too much. You know, I was like, I know it's not my diet, some things wrong with me. And I just shut down since then. I was just like, I was convinced. And I know what then what happens is you're so frustrated by it that you eat to make yourself feel better, and then you gain weight and then you feel bad about that so then you go eat to feel better that you feel bad. Yeah. See, part of it was, it was a vicious circle with the eating because she went. She finally got the diagnosis for polycystic ovarian syndrome. She tried a medication when she had a side effect. She just gave up and never went back to the doctor, never continued treatment. And this was more than a decade ago, right? That you were diagnosed with this, so part of my work with Carmen was getting her to the place where she was ready to mobilize herself to start taking the reins of her life and her health. But earlier, we learned what's at the root of Sheila's intimacy problems. Her mother's death and her father's promiscuous behavior afterwards, doctor Berman dug even deeper with shailene. You haven't even been dating girl. Because a lot of dating is a bunch of bull. Hi, I'm cute and you have to have your, you know, dibble dabble in my Friends and go, we'll flirt, flirting is part like, oh, hi, I'm presenting something and learning how to touch management. Stupid. Is that what those women did? Yeah, and I'm not gonna do that. How you make sure you're not gonna be one of those girls by just not even dipping a toe in. Because that's much easier than so what's the point? You might as well just stay in your house. Doctor Berman, see? You get it. So you know what to do on a date. I can deal with the date part. But when it comes to intimacy and sex, that's stuff makes me like so you know what I'm doing. You knowing what to do to him or him knowing what to do to you, both and do you know what to do to you? Do I know what to do to me? Yeah, I mean, do you ever self stimulate? I think it's a team sport. I'm sorry. It's hard to talk about. Who talked to you about sex? Yeah, I mean, I learned about your period, but not about. What? You know, like masturbating, no. Look at your feet. Like nobody can't teach that. There's no course. I give courses. I'll give you a book. But yeah. Really? Yeah. I'm not gonna do that, doctor. You're not gonna do what? No, I'm not gonna take some book. Oh God. Why not? What's wrong with masturbating? Are you ever gonna have sex?.
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"30 years" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Uh. It's almost like that suit that I can't get off. I don't weigh 300 pounds. What do I weigh 250 pounds though? I'm pretty close to three. And that's because every day I get up, you know, and I try to put a positive spin on to what the day is gonna be like, and then I see that. My mirror. I'm still the same. I'm still decides. I've never been intimate with anybody, and I know that I'm. I'm part of the reason why, 'cause there's girls out there, I know who are heavy. Who, you know, are married, who have boyfriends who are active, and I just can't see myself being like that. To have someone look at me. Like this. I would rather right now just be alone. So shayla and Carmen are both here. Why did you want to be here today? I'm tired of being locked up in my room. There's no life in that room. But I'm too scared to go out there and but this isn't really or is it real? This isn't about sex. Honestly, it's a little bit about sex. It's more about the skin that I'm in. My body, my, I'm very self conscious. I guess self esteem is pretty low. Why did you write a Sheila? I knew it would take your show to yank me out. I have brick walls. Surrounding me. And I knew that I would have to confront a lot of the issues that kept me. So close, these fear. It's fear to live to love to be vulnerable. Well, last month, we flew both Carmen and Sheila to Chicago to meet with our sex therapist, Dr. Laura Berman, doctor Berman, discovered Sheila's intimacy issues, start it when her mom died suddenly when she was searching. So before we go into the tape, I just want to talk to you hi. Hi. That this is, this is, you know, the title of the show is a 30 year old virgin, but your inability to connect or your inability to feel comfortable in your own skin, sex would be the manifestation of that comfortability. So it's much deeper than sex. It always is, which is why I love my job. Sex is never just about sex. It never is. And certainly for these guys, it was about the fears, the fears, universal fears, not just for these two virgins, fears that all women have, they're just to the extreme here, body image, having your heart broken, being abandoned, self esteem issues, you know, all of those things, we all struggle with. In their cases, it was. Okay, before we see Sheila's tape, can you tell me when did when did the shift happen in our country that being a virgin is a bad thing? Yeah. When did that happen? Well, you know, and I sort of, I agree with you to some extent that it's not necessarily bad. And there are all sorts of reasons why women remain virgins. Some is because of religious or moral reasons. And some women are virgins in 30 and totally fine with that. But for these two, it wasn't okay. I think in terms of our society, it's been a gradual shift, certainly even since I've been working in this field over the past 20 years. It's been escalating. So our thresholds have gotten lower and lower. And so the virginity issue plays into that because if you're a 30 year old virgin, people think either you have crazy stuff that happened to you and you're going to be have too much baggage with you or they're scared to take your virginity because then you're going to be all attached to them and your friends judge you and it's hard. There's a lot of judgments running around. Most of which are unnecessary. So doctor Bremen discovered that Sheila's intimacy issues started when her mother died suddenly when she was 13. Your mom told you everything basically, but she didn't tell you that she had cancer. Yeah. I hated her for that. Yeah. Yeah. I can understand that. So did you ever were you ever able to say goodbye to her? No. Last thing I said to her was I love you. You didn't have a chance to say, mom, what were you thinking? Why didn't you tell me? You weren't even believing until you heard she was gone. That she might go, right? I mean, you hadn't even gone there. No. I would be really pissed at my mom. I was and I remember screaming. I was mad at her. I was mad at God. How could you take my mom? You know I need her. How soon did the other women come around? Months, months. Maybe three, to four months. And then, and what house? I was blindsided. That's gonna imagine, yeah. It made me sick. Because I thought, damn, 20 years of a great marriage that my, that my parents had, and then three or four months, my mother's replaceable. So were you mad at him for replacement? Yeah. Mad, there is word for what I found. Absolutely. Yeah, I was in the way I must have felt. 'cause I would express to me. He's still in love with my mom, but he needs somebody to have sex with him. How old were you when he's saying this to you? What? 13, 14. He needs somebody to have sex with him. He needs somebody to fill sort of that sort of companionship role. He needs to get his rocks off, that he needs to have women in his life. And as much as that hurts you, that is not going to prevent him from doing it. All right, so your dad, who was your best buddy, this great guy, the ideal father, if he can betray my mom and they had the perfect relationship, what can I count on? Me, that's it. Doctor burman has been working with shayla and Carmen for over a month now. So how is Sheila's past as it does for everybody until you can let that go? How has that prevented her from having an intimate relationship? Why in so many ways, wouldn't you say Sheila? Before she's so fantastic is she can articulate it so well. She gets it. She really gets that. They both do. And so she not only lost her mother and felt betrayed by her mom because her mom didn't tell her she was sick, but she also felt betrayed by her dad who then went off with and had all these women coming in and out of the house. And honestly was telling her way too much at way too early of an age. And there was this implicit message. He liked these women, but he didn't have a tremendous amount of respect for them and he was always telling shale or whatever you do. Don't be like these women. So she's been carrying around this idea of what those women are and for fear of becoming that just locked herself in her house. But it's so interesting how we all manifest differently and process information because depending upon the kind of personality that Sheila had or who she was before this all happened. She could have done the exact opposite. She could have been, you know, out in the street, having sex with everybody that would have been another way to process that information. You see that, right? It is, it's the same thing. I put a lot of judgment on promiscuous girls. Oh, I would never be that girl. But I realized that that is the way that it manifested for them to try to gain control. They just chose to do it through several partners. And I chose to control it by not having it by not engaging. Very smart girl, you are. Well, over the last month, sex expert Dr. Laura Berman has been working intensely with both of these women to uncover what's really holding them back and what's interesting is whether you're having sex or not having sex, we can all learn more about connection and intimacy through their stories. Here's Carmen in a therapy session with doctor Berman. I wanted to kind of hear what brought you here..
The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"30 years" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast
"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss in every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. So here we go again, talking about sex today. We are talking about sex shayla is here to lay it all on the line. She is 30 years old and says she is fed up. She's frustrated because she has never had sex. Now, some of you might think, what's wrong with being 30 and a virgin, especially if you've never been married? Well, there are many others who think that being a virgin in 2010 and 30 years old is taboo. That's how Sheila feels. She wants to have sex, but she hasn't. I wrote into The Oprah show because I realized why I'm a 30 year old virgin. It's because I am terrified of relationships. I've never, ever been in love. I've never had sexual intercourse with the man. No. No. I shut men out a lot, but they don't know it. I'm very slick with it though. And when they start calling more and want to see me more, oh, you know, I'm busy, busy, kind of busy, I'm not busy doing anything. I'm a control freak when it comes to me. I do not drink. I don't smoke. I have passed on the dessert. When I was 13, my mom passed away. Boom, my life changed. My dad just couldn't cope. He was not himself again. I saw women coming out of nowhere because he had this desire for sex. I saw how he just used them, and he put them down when he didn't want to be bothered. I watched. I was very observant as a child. And so I told myself, uh oh no. There is no way that that woman is going to be me. I'm tired of being a controlled 30 year old who can't let go enough to enjoy sex and to enjoy a man's company for what it is and then move forward. More of our conversation in just a moment so people don't always realize but physical symptoms like headaches or teeth grinding and even digestive issues can be indicators of stress. Oh, and then let's not forget about doom scrolling, sleeping too little, sleeping too much, eating too much, not sleeping enough. Fighting your nails. Stress just shows up in so many different kinds of ways. And in a world that is telling you to do more and sleep less and just grind all the time, let's stop for a minute and take care of ourselves, you know? Do a little bit less and try some therapy. So better help is customized online therapy that offers video phone and even live chat sessions with your therapist. So you can do it the way you want. You don't have to see anyone on camera if you don't want to. It's more affordable than in person therapy and you can be matched with a therapist in under 48 hours. So give it a try and see if online therapy can help lower your stress. This podcast is sponsored by better help and The Oprah Winfrey Show the podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at better help dot com slash Oprah that's BET TER HELP dot com slash Oprah. Well, for many women, virginity isn't just about a lack of sex. It is a much deeper issue, a lack of intimacy, a lack of connection and for shaila, it is also, as you heard her say, about control. We also heard from Carmen who says that she's embarrassed to.
Relationship Advice
"30 years" Discussed on Relationship Advice
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Relationship Advice
"30 years" Discussed on Relationship Advice
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Relationship Advice
"30 years" Discussed on Relationship Advice
"George and Vanessa, thank you so much for joining me on the show today. Oh, chase. It's an honor to be on your show. You had Sarah did great work and we're just happy to be a small part of what you do. Yeah, thanks so much for having us on. Well, we appreciate it. And there is no show without guests like you guys. So thank you so much for coming on. And I'm excited to talk to you guys for a number of reasons. But you have been married almost 30 years and we don't have a ton of couples on, let alone couples that have been together for that long. So excited to dive into the wisdom and the trials and tribulations and everything that you guys have learned throughout that time. And I thought we could start with talking about communicating around our feelings, wants and needs, which is really all about how we need to communicate in a relationship. So what are some of the ways in which people stumble and then we'll talk about ways that we could do it better? I would say some of the ways that folks stumble is misinterpreting each other. And like for example, you know, our body language speaks as well as the words that we use when we're communicating. So we have to take that into consideration. You know, sometimes if our spouse says something that we don't like, of course, there may be eye roles or other body language that just tips the scale in the negative direction and then disconnection happens. And so we teach communication styles so that disconnection does not happen. That you stay connected with your partner, even.
Relationship Advice
"30 years" Discussed on Relationship Advice
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The Bible Recap
"30 years" Discussed on The Bible Recap
"Today. We launched into a six chapter section referred to as the six woes or the six laments and the overarching theme of all. six statements. Is that man shouldn't rely on his own devices. We're far too short sighted and even those of us who know and love god often operate out of our natural side rather than our spiritual side reminds me of what paul said in. I corinthians to fourteen. The natural person does not accept the things of the spirit of god for their folly to him and he's not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned. Each of these six statements usually opens with the word. Aw or whoa will cover the first three today and in the first one isaiah uses israel's unfolding tragedy with syria as a warning sign for the people of judah he says both kingdoms have spent a little too much time with wine and not enough time with the word and not just the political leaders but the religious leaders to you may recall hosea also called some of these guys. Out for their drunkenness. In jose seven five so it was apparently a well-known issue. If you're reading with your eyes you saw that twenty eight nine. Ten is in quotes. That's the leaders response to isaiah's rebuke. They mock him. In fact i thought there was a typo in one of the commentaries. I was using because it literally just said blah blah blah blah for most averse tin. That's how these people were responding to isaiah isaiah so god responds by telling them that since they're disregarding and disrespecting his words then that's how everything he says we'll sound to them like blah blah blah blah. It may sound funny but this is one of the more challenging themes we see in scripture that god is able to close people's ears to the truth he makes these monikers unable to understand his word and twenty eight thirteen. Says god is doing this so that they may go and fall backward and be broken and snared and taken. This is a just response to them. But it's definitely tough to read and process twenty eight sixteen gives us a prophecy of jesus here god says behold. I am the one who has laid a foundation in zion. A stone tested stone a precious cornerstone of a sure foundation. Whoever believes will not be in haste some of the people who heard this prophecy of sure foundation assumed it meant the temple in jerusalem would never be destroyed that is exactly not what admit but it's what they thought it meant at the time. This prophecy pointed to something greater than the temple. Jesus god the son himself but they had no way of knowing that. It's one reason why. I try to hold any as yet unfulfilled prophecy with a very open hand. Because rarely does it happen exactly like people think it will chapter. Twenty eight ends with isaiah making another appeal for repentance. He reminds them that though. God has fought and won. Many victories on their behalf from mount peres seem to the valley of gibbon. This time when he rises up it will be to fight against them. He begs them to trust god's ways of wisdom and yield to him because he always has an orderly plan that he's working out. I say it draws a metaphor between god's people and wheat he says the process of a harvest always involves threshing but the point of threshing is not to destroy the wheat. it's to make it usable. It exposes what's valuable in it. The second whoa is to a city named arielle which is most likely a nickname for jerusalem. So that's how we'll approach it. God sends a foreign army to set up a siege against jerusalem. But then he shows up with his army of heaven and the enemies flee. It happened so fast that the people in jerusalem they must have dreamt the attack but even still the leaders of jerusalem won't understand what god is doing because even though they perform a bunch of religious activities. They don't actually love him. He says their hearts are far from him. This is what i expect him to pour out wrath on them but he doesn't the very next verse says therefore behold i will again do wonderful things with this people with wonder upon wonder he says because their hearts are far from him he will do wonders things to reveal himself to them. Unbelievable the third and final. Whoa for today is indirectly addressed to judah. They're the ones who've been trying to make an alliance with egypt their former captors so that they can have someone to get their back against big bad assyria. This may seem like a wise diplomatic move but the problem is that they didn't consult god about any of this and they didn't trust him to protect them and when he told them not to do it even when they didn't ask for his advice they do it anyway. God says it will not go well for them. They're running from god. They're striving and impatient and afraid which leads them to act foolishly. Then in thirty fifteen. God tells them the remedy for each of these things. The remedy is found in returning to god. Rest quietness trust. That's where they'll find their salvation and strengthen this situation but they were unwilling. Beer speaks with urgency. God whispers trust burst. Eighteen says therefore the lord waits to be gracious to you. Blessed are all those who wait for him. it feels like as a as trying to say to judah. You don't have to try so hard you know. You're striving afraid things are gonna go terribly if you don't step in with your own solution but slow down long enough to ask god what he has to say about this. He's ready to answer if you'll just ask and all of this ties into my god shot for today versus twenty two twenty one. Say your teacher will not hide himself anymore. But you're i shall see your teacher and your ear shall hear a word behind you saying this is the way walk in it when you turn to the right or when you turn to. The left guy just spent three chapters warning against walking in our own wisdom. So how cruel would he be. If he told us not to lean on our own understanding but then didn't offer to help or told us he was too busy or that our needs were too frivolous we would be paralyzed. Thank god he promises to teach us to guide us in fact he's so serious about it that it's title. He's given himself teeter guide. It's who he is and it's what he does. He wants us to come to him to seek wisdom. This invitation from god isn't supposed to be paralyzing. It's supposed to free us up to talk to him about things and learn to hear an recognize his voice and the way we learn to recognize. Someone's voice is by talking to them more often. If i met you once or have only ever heard other people do impressions of you. I probably wouldn't recognize your voice if you call me on the phone but if my mom calls even if i have bad cell service i still know who it is by being in god's word every day you're starting to recognize the kinds of things he says you're starting to develop a deeper awareness of his personality traits and you're storing up his actual word in your heart and mind based on what you know from his word. Listen for his voice today. These where the joy is okay bible readers. It's time for our weekly check in the prophets. Have a little bit of a different. Feel to them don't they. Maybe you weren't expecting as much poetry. It's easy to breeze through poetry and miss some of the deeper meaning so this may have been a time when you were really feeling like. What did i just read. If that's you hang in there and don't worry we'll walk through all of it by the way. If you find yourself starting to identify with the people of israel and judah that will probably be humbling but it can also lead you to despair if all you do is fix your eyes on waywardness. Either there's or your own so remember to look for god his character on these pages. Keep the long view in mind as you looked to. God's great mercy and redemption the bible recap is brought to you by du discipleship and bible study groups that meet in homes and churches around the world each week..