35 Burst results for "30 Year"

How Did the FBI Get so Tone Deaf? Kurt Schlichter Explains

The Doug Collins Podcast

01:48 min | 1 d ago

How Did the FBI Get so Tone Deaf? Kurt Schlichter Explains

"How do you get to this level of tone deafness? The FBI? Well, it's not tone deaf. They know exactly what they're doing, and they thought they would get away with it. The thing is, we need to keep pointing out the hypocrisy to normal people who aren't paying attention and whose normal sense of justice repels them from this sort of thing. But among us conservatives, I don't want to hear any more about the hypocrisy of the I don't want to hear it because that's established. Right. I want to hear how we're going to destroy the FBI. I want to hear how this accursed agency is going to be disbanded and defunded. And I don't want to hear any more good Apple crap. All right, what's the name of the FBI agent? He said, here's my gun. Here's my badge. I won't be any part of this. Now I'm sure some have retired sooner than they would or not joined. But I'd like to see a few go, no, I'm not doing it because I won't be part of an American saucy. And of course we haven't seen. Instead, we see 30 of these schmucks show up with our stupid windbreakers and their assault rifles. To go raid Mar-a-Lago, you know? I mean, remember, these are the guys who murdered the mom of a guy who may or may not have sold a salad off shotgun 30 years ago in the Randy weaver thing. They blew his 9 year old kid away. They killed 80 some people at Waco. Their crime lab put out false results that led to the conviction of many, many people, including some death row guys. They have line on warrants, they have lied to Congress, they have leaked classified material. I don't want to hear about, I don't hear anything about the FBI.

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Olivia Newton-John, who played Sandy in 'Grease,' dies at 73

AP News Radio

00:47 sec | 5 d ago

Olivia Newton-John, who played Sandy in 'Grease,' dies at 73

"Singer and actor Olivia Newton-John has died after a 30 year battle with breast cancer at her ranch in Southern California according to her husband She was 73 a marchesa a letter with a look at her life Olivia Newton-John once said that when she showed up in leather for the final scene of the movie grease the crew had no idea who she was Newton John also starred in xanadu and two of a kind Newton John sold more than 100 million records including magic have you never been mellow and please mister please Newton Johnson in a 2019 AP interview when she realized what the song physical was about she tried to stop its release but her manager said it was too late So I was like oh my God We better do a video Okay we'll do a video and we'll make the video about exercise

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Breitbart's Alex Marlow on the Nature of the Media Landscape

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:49 min | Last week

Breitbart's Alex Marlow on the Nature of the Media Landscape

"Let's start with that overall question. So if you are in a battle, the first thing you have to do is we teach in the U.S. Military. You have an estimate of the situation. You take a snapshot of the battlefield and you measure what is going on. What is the nature of the media landscape today, Alex? And in what ways has it changed most significantly since you were first hired by that great man, Andrew breitbart, what would have been the biggest tectonic changes in the last, let's say, decade. Yeah, thank you as always for mentioning the book. And I think is what made me decide the book was necessary, was seeing that toggle switch that was flipped within the media when Donald Trump came down that escalator. It went from the media was simply this is liberally biased and they would prefer if Democrats. One, but they would try to present both sides to a certain degree and they weren't literally trying to destroy the people that they were writing about just for having different politics. And that did change with president Trump and we've seen it manifested in just about every prominent conservative political politician or activist or even business owner who stands for judeo Christian values now. When the media writes about them their weaponized, their weaponized against that individual or against the entity upon which they're writing about. And that really changed to me. And that's why books like Bernie Goldberg's bias, which all of us read 25, 30 years ago, which are very important. And all the great work that my Friends and the media research center do to track the media, all of that was, those are components of what's going on, but it did no longer told the full picture, the full picture was these people out to destroy your audience doctor G, you personally, president Trump, my audience, et cetera

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Long-term mortgage rates under 5% for 1st time in 4 months

AP News Radio

00:38 sec | Last week

Long-term mortgage rates under 5% for 1st time in 4 months

"Long-term mortgage rates have dropped under 5% for the first time in four months Mortgage buyer Freddie Mac says to 30 year rate fell to 4.99% down from 5.3% last week The drop came days after the Federal Reserve increased its main borrowing rate in an aggressive effort to get inflation under control The average 15 year rate popular among homeowners refinancing dropped to about four and a quarter percent down roughly a third of a point Higher borrowing rates have cooled the housing market that had been hot for years Mike Hempen Washington

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Justice Alito Cracks Dobbs Jokes Abroad

The Hugh Hewitt Show: Highly Concentrated

01:15 min | 2 weeks ago

Justice Alito Cracks Dobbs Jokes Abroad

"Want to play for you justice Alito abroad, talking about European reaction to the Dobbs decision. Can we play cut number one of justice Alito yesterday? A few weeks since I had the honor, this term of writing, I think, the only Supreme Court decision in the history of that institution that has been lambasted by a whole string of foreign leaders. Who felt perfectly fine commenting on American law. One of these was former prime minister Boris Johnson. But he paid the price. Post hoc ergo propter hoc, right? All right, so that's a joke. And don't take it as anything other than a joke, because of course, former prime minister Barack Johnson is still the prime minister, but justice Alito is gracefully telling non Americans that they don't get the make Supreme Court law. The United States Constitution dictates what Supreme Court law is. And even if they made a mistake, 49 years ago with roe and doubled down on that mistake, 30 years ago in Casey, now the court has it right. It is up to the states.

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Malcolm Nance: "Just Call Me Black Cassandra"

Stephanie Miller's Happy Hour Podcast

01:17 min | 2 weeks ago

Malcolm Nance: "Just Call Me Black Cassandra"

"Talk about in the book about how, you know, we joke, we call you an amstrad, and blah, blah, blah, but you were just saying it's not an accident. It's your 30 years of intelligence gathering of how you analyze what you analyze, that you saw January 6th coming went, as you say, everybody else was singing kumbaya, like oh, thank God Trump's gone. Oh, great. We're all gonna, you know, get along now. And like you say, you predicted this before January 6th happened. Yeah, and you would think that there would be something people would be like, oh jeez, what's he gonna say next, right? Right. But like, you know, the whole thing about making predictions and not being believed is what the goddess or what was it, the demigod Cassandra. Yeah. Right? Yeah. She would not be believed because the God Apollo gave her the gift of foresight and then condemned her to never being believed. So just call me black Cassandra. Yes. I don't know what I've ever done to Apollo. I can tell you what I've done to the Trump administration. Right. And they went after me hard in many places. You know, they pulled me off air at one point on MSNBC to satisfy the attorney general. Yeah. So, you know, people who were out there who were telling the truth or writing these books, I didn't sit on anything for two years to get this risk. Yeah.

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Self-described R. Kelly manager pleads guilty to stalking

AP News Radio

00:50 sec | 2 weeks ago

Self-described R. Kelly manager pleads guilty to stalking

"An associate of R. Kelly is pleading guilty to charges less than a week after being convicted in a separate case involving the disgraced R&B singer Last week a New York jury found Donald Russell guilty of making a phone to it against a theater that was screening the documentary that featured girls and young women accusing R. Kelly of sexual abuse Now Russell has pleaded guilty to an interstate stalking charge this time he admits to using threats harassment and intimidation to silence one of Kelly's sex abuse victims Authorities say at one point he published explicit photos of the victim on the Internet when he as sentenced in November Russell could get up to 5 years in prison meanwhile R. Kelly the man all this was designed to protect was sentenced to 30 years in prison last month after being convicted of racketeering and sex trafficking I'm Oscar wells Gabriel

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Andrew Weissmann Wants Revenge Against Society

Mark Levin

01:42 min | 3 weeks ago

Andrew Weissmann Wants Revenge Against Society

"In for years he was a federal prosecutor on the federal payroll destroying lives destroying institutions as much as he could You have to imagine That when this punk was in junior high or we call it middle school now or when he was in high school he frequently must have gotten his ass kicked because he is on a revenge against society And he posts the following post the phone DoJ next steps number one prosecute and flip Clark eastman and Meadows Clark is the former official justice eastman of course was the lawyer for Trump and Meadows was the chief of staff Prosecute and flip Clark eastman and Meadows Prosecute and flip them for what Doesn't matter see this is his technique It's very Third Reich like Weissman very Third Reich like Just throw some books at these guys use these very ambiguous laws Threaten to put him in prison for 20 or 30 years and make them say things that they would not otherwise say Number two if you can make a criminal case on them immunize them and force them to testify in the grand jury See This guy would have been fantastic I think he would have been on the wrong side of the Nuremberg trials but would have been fantastic in some fascistic or Marxist regime Because that's where his head is

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What Is the Future of the 'Blind' BLM? Horace Cooper Weighs In

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:01 min | 3 weeks ago

What Is the Future of the 'Blind' BLM? Horace Cooper Weighs In

"So what is the future in that case? We saw the demonstration of the weekend that young man who fired into a woman's home with the two children there, 6 hour standoff with the police, finally he's killed. BLM comes outside that woman's house protests raised $15,000. The woman who was almost killed with her children comes out and screams him and them saying, this wasn't George Floyd, this man wasn't unarmed. What is the future of BLM? If they're so blind, that they're raising money for armed individuals who almost killed two small children, is their future a waning future or will they remain this separating wound in race relations? Okay, BLM was never an entity or an outworking of black America. If you wanted to get as many mansions and villas as possible, that would have been a good group to be connected with. But in terms of actually trying to improve the lot of black America, BLM has never been apart to that. And black America has increasingly recognized this. Got another data point. If you read my books, what you see is I don't just make the assertion. I show you the examples are the data. There are on social media that's Twitter that's TikTok, I guess, the communist control Doc. That's Facebook. There are 600,000 blacks who reject left wing views, and they post about this every single day. That 600,000 has always existed. That's just the 600,000 that's willing to post. The difference is, 15 years ago, 30 years ago, 40 years ago, it wasn't easy for that group to communicate. Right. Now, Americans are seeing everywhere that there are dissenters

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Victims & Hero Identified From Indiana Mall Shooting

Mike Gallagher Podcast

01:06 min | 3 weeks ago

Victims & Hero Identified From Indiana Mall Shooting

"Authorities identify the three victims who were killed in this Indiana mall shooting, a husband and wife, heartbreaking 56 year old Pedro Pineda, his 37 year old wife rosa, 30 year old Victor Gomez, all shot and killed by this monster who emerged from the men's room. And started opening fire. The 20 year old coward was killed when he was shot by 22 year old Elijah dicken of Seymour Indiana. He shot and killed the shooter with a pistol. Two minutes after the shooting began. He's been praised up and down by the people in Indiana. They've got no hesitancy in praising him. But the left just doesn't get

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Jim Petterson and Barry Bridger on Their New Book 'A Spirit to Soar'

The Doug Collins Podcast

02:16 min | Last month

Jim Petterson and Barry Bridger on Their New Book 'A Spirit to Soar'

"Going to be a great discussion today. I've met up with these folks at cpac, a book has been written called the spirit to soar. And it's about the true story of former orphan and POW lieutenant colonel Barry bridger, U.S. Air Force retired colonel bridger, I am also a lieutenant colonel in the United States Air Force as well. Finished it got 20 years in, so we'll see if I make it that way. Then you got Jim, Peterson. Jim is with us, and he is on that other blue, a little bit darker blue, the navy side, which I actually started in. But I spent more of my time with the green guys down at camp Pendleton when I was there as a chaplain, but folks, guys, it's good to have you all with us. This has been an exciting, I got to look over the book. And let me just tell you Jim for riding it, but Barry for sir for you and what you've been through. Thank you both for service and I'm looking forward to some discussion here. So am I let it rip? Here we are too. I love it. Well, let's start off jam almost start off with you on the riding of the book. You ride in the book about why you started it, but you chose it to be a biography, but also a lifeless and explain that a little bit. Well, you know, Malcolm gladwell wrote a book called outliers. And he talks about people who do extraordinary things. So started out, I've observed very known very over 30 years now. And I've observed him in the things that he does. I knew a story, but I didn't know it all that well. And once I learned his story, I told him, one day I met a writer biography in that process. I opened up the discussion of this biography saying that bears have been an inspiration in my life. I've learned so much, and so a publicist said, it's a life lesson book. So we put in 17 life lessons that I've learned from Barry's life. And he's had a tremendous impact on my life. So

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 Average long-term US mortgage rates bounce back up to 5.51%

AP News Radio

00:37 sec | Last month

Average long-term US mortgage rates bounce back up to 5.51%

"Average long-term mortgage rates are up again this week and likely headed higher amid surging inflation Freddie Mac reports the 30 year rate rose from 5.3% last week to 5.51 a year ago it was 2.88% Higher borrowing rates have cooled what was a red hot housing market discouraging House hunters and sending previously occupied home sales down for the fourth straight month in May The Federal Reserve is almost certain to again raise its benchmark borrowing rate this month as it fights high inflation

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R Kelly Is Engaged to His 'Brainwashed' Girlfriend

AJ Benza: Fame is a Bitch

01:55 min | Last month

R Kelly Is Engaged to His 'Brainwashed' Girlfriend

"R. Kelly is reportedly engaged to allegedly brainwashed girlfriend Jocelyn savage. Jocelyn savage was on that show surviving R. Kelly. Her parents went ballistic. They want their daughter back. They almost got it back and she basically told them, I don't want to leave him. Brainwashed to the hilt, the father was going bananas, and not that bad looking a girl. Most of the girls you see they look pretty beat up, but also maybe a little bit great picture of her, but I think she's a decent look at woman. But anyhow, the pedophile crooner has something to look forward to now when, well, let's say that when but if he makes it out of the slammer in 30 years and that is, he gets to tie the knot with his longtime girlfriend Jocelyn savage. Look, for her sake, I'm hoping all it made of honors are legal age. This way, there's no way R. Kelly will try and rape them and pee on them, which is his big move. His peccadillo, if you will, or maybe Jocelyn would like that sort of thing. I don't know. But publication called all hip hop. And this is where I get all my news, guys. All hip hop is reporting that the disgraced singer got engaged while waiting to be sentenced for his sex crimes. A court document obtained by all hip hop reveals that R. Kelly's longtime girlfriend for a family says is under his spell under something else too. Is engaged now to R. Kelly, noting that she is his fiance in a letter to a judge pleading for leniency ahead of his sentencing, back in September, R. Kelly was convicted of racketeering 8 counts of violating the man act and back on June 29th, he was sentenced to 30 years in the

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Why Keith Guinta of WinePatch.Org Wrote About the Harm of Vaccine

The Eric Metaxas Show

02:18 min | Last month

Why Keith Guinta of WinePatch.Org Wrote About the Harm of Vaccine

"Keith junta is my guest right now. Keith genta, how do you spell your last name for the people who are listening? GUI, NTA, it is a butchered Italian name. It should be G IU. They put the GUI. Ladies and gentlemen, making out of it. But I actually the reason I want to have you on is because a few years ago and you and I talk about this or maybe a year and a half ago, you started writing these essays. At wine patch dot org. And as always happens, like the better somebody is, the more humble they are, and you send them to me, is like, oh, I've just written this stuff, Eric, you're a real writer, and I just read this stuff. And I read it, and I said, this is amazing. What is wrong with you, my friend of 30 years Keith that you don't know that this is amazing. And you've continued to write these at wine patch dot org. And some of them are amazing. They are all important. And so I thought I want to talk to you because you posted one not long ago. And I said, I haven't read anything quite like this. This is actually very important. You wrote about at wine patch dot org, the harms that we are seeing from these vaccines. Everybody says, don't talk about that. Shut up, shut up. And you're thinking, why would I shut up when I see that something is happening? It's bad. I want to warn people. So you wrote a piece of wine patch dot org. And first of all, how do you come to the subject? Yeah, thank you so much, Eric. You know, I'm going to start with the grand finale. As Christians, we should be on top of all of this stuff. And not because we're smarter, not because I know how to use the Internet and research. But we have the spirit of God within us. And so when we hear the media and the big tech and big pharma and all the politicians in concert screaming one thing at us, the spirit within me says something's wrong. I'm not sure what, but something's wrong. And that put me on the I never aspired to be a blogger. I have a software business that I try to run here. And I was watching the church particularly, get infected with this wrong thinking.

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People Need to Cut Biden Some Slack Over Gun Control

Stephanie Miller's Happy Hour Podcast

01:45 min | Last month

People Need to Cut Biden Some Slack Over Gun Control

"Jody, am I crazy? I get what Biden's approval ratings are and some of the complaints in this and that, but I'm like, this guy has done amazing. I just don't get it. He's starting to sing job given what he inherited. And I just thought, well, and the lack of support in Congress. This was the first gun legislation we've had in 30 years. Is it enough for any of us know, of course not? No. But given the numbers we have, it's the first gun legislative anything. It's better than nothing. You had exactly. First of all, I don't want to speak for anybody who's lost someone in gun violence. Mister Oliver, who was at the signing ceremony, has. So I understand the raw emotion and all that. But again, you're heckling the wrong person. He heckled Joe Biden in the middle of signing something that we've never at least is a start, right? And I just, I don't get it. I mean, I get the emotion of this is not enough, and we have to do more, but Joe Biden agrees with you. He has said, we need an assault weapons ban, like we passed when he was a senator. But what? Oh, yes. Can we have that? Yes. The president. Okay. Saw weapons need to be banned. They were banned. I led the fight in 1994. Not under pressure in the gun manufacturers and others that ban was lifted in 2004. And that ten years it was law, mass shootings went down. The law expired in 2004, and those weapons were allowed to be sold again, mass shootings, tripled. They're the facts. I'm determined to ban these weapons again and high capacity magazines and all 30 rounds. And to let mass shooters fire hundreds of bullets in a matter of minutes. I'm not going to stop until we

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Polls Showing Most Democrats Don't Want Biden in 2024

The Hugh Hewitt Show: Highly Concentrated

01:00 min | Last month

Polls Showing Most Democrats Don't Want Biden in 2024

"Most Democrats don't want Biden in 2024. Well, that's a shock. What's really a shock is only 13%. Doesn't The New York Times. This is not some far right deal here. This is The New York Times. Only 13% of American voters think the nation are on the right track. Let's go to David axelrod on CNN cut number 15. President Obama was under siege as well at this time in his presidency. And there was hand wringing and quiet meetings going on as well. But he was also 30 years younger than this president. And that is a concern the ability to run a rigorous vigorous campaign and manage the presidency at the same time when he's in his 81st year. And I think that's a legitimate question and it's when he's going to have to consider when he tows up to the line and makes the final call that he's going to go.

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Which Nation Is More Motivated to Go to War?

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:16 min | Last month

Which Nation Is More Motivated to Go to War?

"Should be biased in the American direction. You should be wanting America to win any conflict. So if we were kind of in a coma for 30 years and we snap out of it and they said, okay, which side is more ready for war? Well, let's look at something that really can't be measured, motivation. Which nation is more motivated right now. The Chinese Communist Party or the American government. Now our government is motivated to put our entire country through the shredder, China is taking land. They have eliminated Hong Kong. It's done. It's over. Hong Kong is nothing but a memory. I'm struck by that famous scene in 1984, great book, all of you should read it at least once a year. You'll find something new every time. Where they just cross stuff out in the newspaper. They set up that didn't exist. That didn't exist, that is precisely what they did to Hong Kong. It doesn't exist anymore. Are you kidding me? Hong Kong is nothing more than a memory. And in fact, that memory we are going to eliminate Hong Kong is actually now call I want to make sure I get this right. That's right. It is the minor area of south Shenzhen. That's Hong Kong. The beautiful history and once free place of Hong Kong has been eliminated. So do you think we're prepared for the next military conflict?

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Biden celebration of new gun law clouded by latest shooting

AP News Radio

00:42 sec | Last month

Biden celebration of new gun law clouded by latest shooting

"The White House is set to mark a new bipartisan law aimed at reducing gun violence one that's already been overshadowed by another mass shooting When President Biden signed the bill two weeks ago he noted the message from families who shooting victims For God's sake just do something He says Congress did in passing the most impactful guns measure in nearly 30 years This morning he'll host a south lawn celebration but some gun control advocates say there's little to celebrate saying the bill is the very bare minimum lawmaker should do and noting the highland park Illinois shooting happened ten days after the bill passed Sagar Meghani Washington

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"30 year" Discussed on The Wild

The Wild

06:51 min | Last month

"30 year" Discussed on The Wild

"See, this place was meant to burn. The trees are designed to survive a fast, low intensity fire. Some of them even need fire heat to open up the cones and seeds, entire thriving ecosystems of sprung up because of fire, not despite it. The Meadows I walked through to get to the peak were created by fire, and so was the biodiversity that those Meadows support, the flowers, insects, birds, and fungi. For thousands of years Native Americans have known the benefits of using fires in a controlled way. They used fire to make habitats productive for game and crops to provide for their needs, but for forest managers it took a while to realize this and to move from a philosophy of regulating fires, putting them out right away, to managing fires, letting them burn in a more controlled way. And when I was first in the forest service became much more about regulating fire managing fire was all the watchword and that's only become more so and as the years have gone by and we've realized we have to manage this thing. We can't you can't suppress it. You can't throw enough millions and millions of dollars in equipment and people at it to suppress this thing. So we need to manage it. But there is another course behind today's mega fires that goes beyond a change in forest management. All tied in with climate change as we are well known now and that's our future is fire. When we lose trees to fire a couple of things happen, they're no longer there to do their job of breathing in carbon dioxide from the atmosphere. In fact, when they burn, they release the carbon they've been storing while they were alive into the atmosphere. More carbon in the atmosphere means more global warming and drier, hotter, forest conditions, which leads to even more fires. It's called a feedback loop. Today, fires are not only more intense, but they also burn more often. In the past, fires would burn in this ecosystem around desolation peak. Every hundred years or so, naturally. It's called natural fire rotation, but today they burn more often and in the same areas, they're called short interval fires. These fires damage forest soils and deplete seed banks making it harder for affected areas to bounce back. Even increasingly rare old growth trees which have evolved to be resilient to fire can be damaged by high intensity and repeated burns. Jim shows me the evidence of a past wildfire on this ridge. One from nearly a hundred years ago. Yet there's some snags still from the 1926 fire because this was so burned over a fire came out of little beaver across the river and then came roaring up this ridge. So we walked down here just a bit. There's a standing snag. A fire had raced in the upper skagit and all the country around desolation. My mountain had burned for two months and filled the skies of northern Washington and British Columbia with smoke that blotted out the sun. I'm looking at evidence of that massive burn that kerouac described and still visible around the lookout. The government had tried to fight it, sent a thousand men in with packed string supply lines that then took three weeks from marble mount fire camp, but only the fall rains had stopped that blaze. And the charred snags I was told were still standing on desolation peak and in some valleys. That was the reason for the name, desolation. The charred snakes are still standing, like eerie pieces of fire history. This one, this stump here you can see the burn marks at the base. Sometimes they take some pretty dramatic forms and they're all twisted and have great burn holes in them way up high and where you can just picture the flame shooting out of it. Oh yeah. If you've ever seen trees on fire, the name desolation came from the destruction caused by this 1926 fire. But that fire was just one of many. So when you see the beginnings of a fire, does it just take off and go crazy? It depends on the weather and the conditions in the drought and it takes a lot of factors to make a fire really take off. Even days after a big storm, Jim has to keep a watchful eye. Maybe a little bit of fire interior on the snag, but it's just kind of smoldering for days sometimes. It could be a sleeper for this or weeks even. And then gets the right conditions, gets dried out, gets just some fuel pocket and just takes off slightly and you realize, oh my gosh, that's from the lightning two weeks ago. Two weeks ago, a hundred years ago, the passage of time is somehow clear from up here at desolation peak. In his book, desolation angels, Jack Kerouac ruminates on time in his description of an old photograph taken from the lookout. When I look at my panoramic photographs of the desolation area and see the old mules and wiry rounds of 1935 hackled out of no more corral fence, I marvel that the mountains looked the same in 1935 as they do in 1956. So that the oldness of the earth strikes me, recalling primordially that it was the same. They, the mountains, looked the same, too, and 584 BC. Well, they aren't the same now, are they? We're watching the changes happening fast. Jim reaches for something. He pulls out the same panoramic photograph that kerouac described. It's black and white and about four feet wide. The same one Jack's talking about in that passage because he mentions the pack horses in the picture, which is an unusual thing. And there they are over there and it was interesting to see that you could compare the glaciers in this 1935 photo of August and compare them to August now and go, wow, big difference. Jim pulls his finger over the photograph, and then points through the window to the corresponding peaks. Can look over toward spickard and peaks to my west and you see a lot more big talent slopes now where it used to be glacier. If Jack mountain comes out today, you'll see that in a whole commune glacier on it, it is quite large. And some of that's missing now from what we see today. And these peaks over here. It's really obvious just because we can see the whole glacier in this photo. They do some blocked by another peak or something, and you can see where it's receded and how much shorter it is and how much gray rock there is below it now.

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"30 year" Discussed on The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times

The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times

03:39 min | 3 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times

"It was on a Saturday and I took my daughter to a little birthday party at a park four years old, and it was all white. It was her friends from preschool. And I was exhausted. It smelled like smoke. I set it up picnic table just to sit there and watch them. And at the other end were two white mothers. And I don't know if they'd been talking about the rides before, but once I sat down on the other end, they said, oh, isn't that horrible about what's happening over the hill? Isn't that horrible? Because we could see the smoke coming from the city. And one of them said, yeah, it almost makes you wish they didn't have that video. And I thought she doesn't wish they didn't beat him. She doesn't wish the police were held accountable. She just wishes we didn't have to see it. And I remember thinking at that point, I could never have that thought. That thought could never occur to me. And that there is this gulf between us that, you know, I don't know. Can we all get along? I guess only if some people are protected from the ugly realities of racism and we see that today even with the debates over what can be taught in school about history. Let's protect some people from it. Can we all get along was a sincere and honest plea and the jury is still out even right now. Yeah, I'm curious what he meant by it, you know?.

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

01:54 min | 4 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"But that's huge, just to go on a date for Carmen is huge. I think that this journey that you're on and this journey that you're on and could articulate so well. I think it's, you know, the journey to yourself when you've lost yourself because that's really what's happened here. And I thought you articulated so beautifully how you stopped, how your father stopped and then you all just sort of stopped, you know, after your mother died. But the journey to yourself, that's the journey that we're all taking. It's a lifelong journey. Absolutely. We're all taking to discover that. So I understand you went on another date, Michelle. I did last night. Great time. Great time. Guess who might be moving to California just coincidentally? Oh, that guy. You never know. That's right. Never know. This isn't a quick fix, though, but what progress have you seen shayla and Carmen make? I've seen huge progress. Both of them have opened their hearts and their minds to this process. They've taken huge risks for them really put themselves out on a limb. And the bottom line is that for all of us, not only these two, but for all of us, especially for women, you need to know that everything you want, you can have for yourself. You don't have to depend on anyone else. You're not at the effect of anyone or anything else in the end, that if you want to take the reins of your life, you can create the love in your life that you most want. Thank you. Thank you, Carmen. Thank you, Sheila. Thank you, doctor burman. Thanks, everybody, bye. I'm Oprah Winfrey, and you've been listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. If you haven't yet, go to Apple podcasts and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Oprah show. The podcast. And I thank you for listening..

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"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:17 min | 4 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Tight lipped about where they are going. The where I'm going, I'm less concerned with, it's the who's going to be there. That both annoying not to know. I just hope it's not some corny strip club thing. Tatiana set up a dinner with a few eligible men. Hi, nice to meet you. Thank you. Not drinking. Shayla then starts talking about her homework. Okay, so when I met with doctor Berman, she said that I have to become more comfortable with sex and body parts and all that other kind of stuff. So I'm so my assignment is to masturbate and to report on that. Wow. Yeah. Wow. You okay? You okay? You never got that kind of time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. As the night goes on, shayla and Marlin appear to have some chemistry. Yes. Absolutely. After dinner, they head off alone for nightcap at a local bar. Okay. Was there any kind of chemistry or anything? He was a good friend. Yeah. Yeah. Can I just say that and I agree, I think in this case, it wasn't a good match for lots of different reasons. But that's what she does. She's fine on the first date. She's great. But if it's going to go into a second or third or fourth date, then she just sidles up to the bar with them to watch football and like buddy buddies them up because that's a protection. She doesn't have to take it further emotionally or sexually that way. But it's also harder because I love sports. But that's so cool. I love the things that slide me into the friend zone. But you can watch sports and still have a sexual and romantic connection with someone. Yes. Okay, so was that a cocktail or a mocktail in your hand? That was a real cocktail. Really? Okay, so shayla is hardest homework assignment was to write a letter to her deceased parents. After nearly ten attempts, ten attempts. Yeah. And an emergency session, he was finally able to put her thoughts onto paper. And here is what she had to say. Part of what she had to say. Dear mommy, did you think about what I would have to endure when you left? Or did you just assume that daddy and I's life would just go on as normal because it didn't, it didn't. It sucked. It totally sucked. I felt like on some level that you should have told me and prepared me for the hell that was coming. Okay, daddy, I just need to talk to you. You taught me the best of life you taught me how to laugh. You taught me how to be strong and you taught me how to endure it's not give up. And said that I gave up on the part of me that should be vulnerable and that should love. I'm sad that I gave up on that. I'm embarrassed that gave up other. But you just pointed me. You disappointed me, daddy, because I saw you give the best of yourself to be as saw that. If it would Bobby died, you quit. And they were loved like that. Wow, that is so powerful. Bravo that you should be able to do that. I can feel that your being able to write that letter say those words to your father is going to be a healing bomb for so many people watching who didn't have your issue of intimacy or connection, but it's about bringing closure to the past, being able to put that word deserves to be and letting that go. Yeah. How helpful was that to you? It was, it was shockingly helpful because I thought I could write a write well I'm articulate. I thought that the letters would be easy. And when I had to sit and talk to my mom and she isn't there and the most important people in my life are gone. That is the fact. And I can either choose to deal with it, to process it and to move forward or to stay where I was. And I was too afraid to move forward. Because where's your father now? He died. He died, too. Less than a year ago. So my identity as a woman was placed in my mother's hands. I didn't know who I was without her. She told me I was pretty. I was beautiful. I was this route was that. And so without that, I just was lost. Yes, and I think it's so important for, you know, I just felt that as a healing bomb for so many people because so many people, when they lose, whether it's you become a widow and you give up on love or whether you lose and divorce and then you give up and you don't love as much for your kids, your inability to move forward and continue to show that love affects everybody. Affects everybody, not just you. Yeah. Really? Brilliant, brilliant. Now back to Carmen. Earlier this week we teamed up with one on one matchmaking and found four eligible men who wanted to meet her. Hi, Carmen. Give me a hug. You look beautiful. How are you feeling? Are you in a complete panic? Yeah. We have four guys who know exactly what you look like and they're all interested, okay? These aren't guys who are expecting me to be a size zero. Can you connect with the fact that you're the one in power tonight? Possibly a hundred. So I'm gonna be watching cheering you on. Okay? All right, let's go. Hello. How are you? Nice to meet you. You get to go back home often. It's not as much. But I traveled a lot. Now do you speak Spanish? I don't know, very good, very good. It's Elliot, right? Yeah. Okay. So what do you do on your free time? I like to go out, you know, you know, spend time with my family, Friends. Do you have a question? Yes, I do. I don't have a card though. You want to write it on the back of that? I don't have it. Ten, ten, right here. Okay. This is terrible. Aren't you proud of yourself? I'm so proud of you. I'm actually quite surprised in myself that I actually did this. This is not something I would have done a month or two or even a year ago, but I am proud of myself. Wow, you are really, you're really putting yourself out there. I'll give you an a plus. All right. So you're out of bed. You're out. You're dressed, your hair is done. You're looking good. And my producers tell me one of the guys was in Chicago last night and there was another date. Yeah, he was in Chicago, I guess on business, so well. We met up for drinks yesterday. But how are you feeling now? Like I said before, it's still work in progress, but I feel better like I can actually go out and I have a I have a range like a date for Tuesday also. It's the same person? No, it's the first time..

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"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:19 min | 4 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Like your vulva if you're not familiar with it? I don't know. Doing it. All right, America here comes the bowl talk. I know you love the ball. All the time it is. Now, so that's awesome. I love that you know what it is now. Yeah, I was like, what's a vulva? She's like, get to know your vulva, huh? What? I mean, I was like, you know, you'll learn what that is, as well as some other things too. Well, I also think when it comes to masturbation, if you've never masturbated and you're 30 years old, you feel like a loser. You know, if you've never touched yourself, I mean, you manage to get to be 30 and you never touched yourself that way. But it's also about for me the good girl. Good girls aren't masterbating. Well, they are now. But when but when we were doing that session, you know, that's not what we were told and that's been the beautiful thing about my journey here is just discovering pleasure what pleasures you, what makes you feel good. I never asked those questions. Of yourself. Of myself, no. Or I thought you deserved to feel pleasure. Right. She's owning the fact that you can be a nice girl and sexual at the same time. And she had never really connected those two. They were separate entities in her mind. And also what she said earlier, I always thought it was a team sport. Yeah, well, because there's part of me, okay, when you talk about the mechanics of it, I just feel like shouldn't somebody else be here, like, I'm not gonna lie, well, not with your new toy. But. So what happened is, shayla met one of doctor Berman's favorite things. I will not be having on the favorite things show. Okay, after a full day of therapy, doctor Berman gave shayla and Carmen some homework. My two virgin girls. So who should we do first? Let's do carbon. I'm going to get you some referrals to three different specialists, okay? I want to get you in to see an endocrinologist who has experience with polycystic ovarian syndrome. I want you to see a medical nutritionist and I'm going to get you a referral for a psychiatrist to evaluate to see if depression is a factor here, okay? And also, I'm going to set you up with a stylist who's going to give you a little mini makeover so that you can boost your confidence because you are going to contact that guy. Okay. Text, email, call, I don't care. How you contact him. But you are going to invite him to coffee. And you are going to meet him there and actually go without making excuses. Okay. So miss shayla, what I'd like you to do is write a letter to your mom and to your dad separately. Telling them about the anger and the sadness that you feel are still feel, okay? Next, I'm going to give you this book. It's right back here, okay? Real sex for real women and one time before I see you next. I am gonna have to master. Yes, you are. Yeah. Doctor Burke. You don't. You don't have to tell me the details. But guess what? Everybody does it. Okay. So the third assignment is that I am going to call on some of your girlfriends. To arrange for an evening out. You will know nothing of what to expect and your job is to let go of the control, stay calm, stay present. Okay. So you both ready? Who has the worst assignment, you think? We totally. Gotta love your vulva if you want anyone else to. And I know you don't know what a vulva is. We'll find out. Out of 5 my votes were. So tell us what that was like. Well, it was great. It was, it was scary in the beginning because I had to get past the judgment of it. The judgment of yourself. The judgment of me not deserving pleasure. And once I did that and I relaxed, I created a little vulva soundtrack, got my music too. I was going to ask you. I was asked, did you put on some nice music? Yeah. Go on a date with myself. I took myself out. And I relaxed. She did y'all. Have a good time. Wonderful time. Okay. We don't want to. Okay. I think your curd. Anyway, Carmen's body issues have been holding her back for ten years. I feel like if Carmen can get over the self esteem issues and the fear of being rejected, there's a crazy vixen inside. They're ready to come out. She's been buried for such a long time. I won't mind if I were thinner. I probably wouldn't, and you can be here. When she says that, what does that mean to you? How do you translate that? Well, you know, and Carmen knows this too. There are many women, millions of women out there who are her size or larger who have tons of guys interested in them and are in loving long-term relationships. It's not her size that is keeping men from her. It's her feelings about her size that is shutting her off from the outside world. Right. So let's take a look at Carmen's trip to the stylus, part of her homework. Ashley falcon is Marie Claire's plus size it girl, and the brains behind the column, big girl in a skinny world. Each month she gives tried and true fashion advice to full figure gals, we sent Carmen to Ashley's fashion closet to help her look and feel more confident. Hi, Carmen. It's so nice to meet you. I'm Ashley. Hi. How are you doing? Okay. You're okay. Well, we're gonna see if we can make it really good, actually. I'm so excited. I hear we have sort of a fashion demo. We're not sure what to wear or how to wear it. Tell me a little bit about that. To get dressed in the morning is a hassle and it's. Not fun. It's not fun at all. I make sure that whatever I'm wearing is gonna cover my stomach is gonna cover my arms. It's gonna cover my butt. So I have to be honest, I just see a pretty girl who's a little bit bigger, kinda looks a lot like me. Same skin tone. I mean, I'm not the size that I want to be right now. I'm not. It's that simple. But you know what? I still need to get up in the morning. Stone need to go to work. And I refuse to be in a garbage bag. I just do. I've got out and got a ton of things for you. So it would be really exciting. You have like a mini mall just for you. So why don't we go ahead and try some things on? Okay. I think you look fantastic. Thank you so much. Wow, common left with 7 new outfits and headed straight to the Rita hazan salon in New York City for some hair TLC. What did that experience do for you? I felt good. It's kind of corny 'cause I almost felt like a little mini celebrity, you know? I had someone pick out clothes for me and get my hair done. But I know I'm a work in progress, so. We're working. To combat Sheila's constant need to be in control. Doctor burman prescribed a night out planned by her friend. I have zero clue about what we're doing. I have no control, no questions. No input at all. Channel's not happy about that. Shayla likes to know what Shay was doing..

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"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

06:38 min | 4 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"My lack of experience. Is it not being in a relationship or not having had sex? Okay. I feel like a loser, like all the friends that I have, you know, they got married, had kids, and here I sit at 31 and I had one maybe kind of boyfriend. And that's it. Would you want to be in a relationship? I would love to be, but I just don't feel like I warrant anybody wanting. To be with me. When was the most recent guy? Who did try to reach out to even pursue you and who you shoved off? Because imagining it couldn't possibly be real. There is a, there's a guy right now actually for a couple months now. How'd you meet him? He actually spoke to one of my brothers and asked for my number and I'm like, yeah, okay, whatever. So my brother. Why would he do that? I honestly thought he was just playing games. Just like making fun of you. You're just kind of like, you know, let's try to entertain the fat girl. That's what I always feel like. So does it seem you've been communicating with this guy for a couple of months? Do you sleep through text? And we had arranged to go out once or twice. And I will admit it was my fault. I got nervous, and I got scared, and I kind of blew them off. What's the worst thing that can happen? Worst thing that can happen is that we get to that point where we're, you know, and where you're whack. We're about to have sex based, okay? And I'll have to be naked. And now my jiggly parts just feel like and it will just turn them off ill. He would scream like, oh my God, that's disgusting. And then just kind of. Would you feel any worse than you feel now? I think I would worst case, yeah. It's like, wow, you know, if I grew the nerve to actually get to that point and then someone were to just reject me. So your fear, both of those fears end up in the same place. Yeah. Where you're alone. And that's that seems really scary and sad to you. What are the tears for? What are you feeling? I just feel like a hopeless, like it's just hopeless, like it doesn't matter. Like, sometimes I just don't want to. Like, why bother? Carmen, this doesn't feel to me to be about sex at all. It appears to be from what I've heard. And I've heard just what y'all have heard. It feels to me that this is a self esteem. Yes. Absolutely. This is not a self esteem. No. And they manage very differently. Shayla could go on dates and is very outgoing and articulate in her dating world. And Carmen is this Quiet Riot. She's extremely articulate, but she won't let her voice be heard. And she won't put herself out there because she's so convinced that people will be judging her like, why are you even bothering? She's so convinced that she's disgusting. So what do you think is at the root of your weight issue? It's actually, it started about like 19. I discovered I had its polycystic ovarian syndrome. And what is that? It's all, it's a hormonal condition. I know I noticed the weight mostly. Like my sorry, like my period stop coming. And say period. Everybody knows what that is. Sorry, guys. Okay. They just stopped coming. And then little bit was just gaining weight rapidly. And like a 9 month period, I went from a size ten to a size 18. And you know, doctors would just kind of blow me off like, oh, you're eating too much. You know, I was like, I know it's not my diet, some things wrong with me. And I just shut down since then. I was just like, I was convinced. And I know what then what happens is you're so frustrated by it that you eat to make yourself feel better, and then you gain weight and then you feel bad about that so then you go eat to feel better that you feel bad. Yeah. See, part of it was, it was a vicious circle with the eating because she went. She finally got the diagnosis for polycystic ovarian syndrome. She tried a medication when she had a side effect. She just gave up and never went back to the doctor, never continued treatment. And this was more than a decade ago, right? That you were diagnosed with this, so part of my work with Carmen was getting her to the place where she was ready to mobilize herself to start taking the reins of her life and her health. But earlier, we learned what's at the root of Sheila's intimacy problems. Her mother's death and her father's promiscuous behavior afterwards, doctor Berman dug even deeper with shailene. You haven't even been dating girl. Because a lot of dating is a bunch of bull. Hi, I'm cute and you have to have your, you know, dibble dabble in my Friends and go, we'll flirt, flirting is part like, oh, hi, I'm presenting something and learning how to touch management. Stupid. Is that what those women did? Yeah, and I'm not gonna do that. How you make sure you're not gonna be one of those girls by just not even dipping a toe in. Because that's much easier than so what's the point? You might as well just stay in your house. Doctor Berman, see? You get it. So you know what to do on a date. I can deal with the date part. But when it comes to intimacy and sex, that's stuff makes me like so you know what I'm doing. You knowing what to do to him or him knowing what to do to you, both and do you know what to do to you? Do I know what to do to me? Yeah, I mean, do you ever self stimulate? I think it's a team sport. I'm sorry. It's hard to talk about. Who talked to you about sex? Yeah, I mean, I learned about your period, but not about. What? You know, like masturbating, no. Look at your feet. Like nobody can't teach that. There's no course. I give courses. I'll give you a book. But yeah. Really? Yeah. I'm not gonna do that, doctor. You're not gonna do what? No, I'm not gonna take some book. Oh God. Why not? What's wrong with masturbating? Are you ever gonna have sex?.

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"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

08:11 min | 4 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Uh. It's almost like that suit that I can't get off. I don't weigh 300 pounds. What do I weigh 250 pounds though? I'm pretty close to three. And that's because every day I get up, you know, and I try to put a positive spin on to what the day is gonna be like, and then I see that. My mirror. I'm still the same. I'm still decides. I've never been intimate with anybody, and I know that I'm. I'm part of the reason why, 'cause there's girls out there, I know who are heavy. Who, you know, are married, who have boyfriends who are active, and I just can't see myself being like that. To have someone look at me. Like this. I would rather right now just be alone. So shayla and Carmen are both here. Why did you want to be here today? I'm tired of being locked up in my room. There's no life in that room. But I'm too scared to go out there and but this isn't really or is it real? This isn't about sex. Honestly, it's a little bit about sex. It's more about the skin that I'm in. My body, my, I'm very self conscious. I guess self esteem is pretty low. Why did you write a Sheila? I knew it would take your show to yank me out. I have brick walls. Surrounding me. And I knew that I would have to confront a lot of the issues that kept me. So close, these fear. It's fear to live to love to be vulnerable. Well, last month, we flew both Carmen and Sheila to Chicago to meet with our sex therapist, Dr. Laura Berman, doctor Berman, discovered Sheila's intimacy issues, start it when her mom died suddenly when she was searching. So before we go into the tape, I just want to talk to you hi. Hi. That this is, this is, you know, the title of the show is a 30 year old virgin, but your inability to connect or your inability to feel comfortable in your own skin, sex would be the manifestation of that comfortability. So it's much deeper than sex. It always is, which is why I love my job. Sex is never just about sex. It never is. And certainly for these guys, it was about the fears, the fears, universal fears, not just for these two virgins, fears that all women have, they're just to the extreme here, body image, having your heart broken, being abandoned, self esteem issues, you know, all of those things, we all struggle with. In their cases, it was. Okay, before we see Sheila's tape, can you tell me when did when did the shift happen in our country that being a virgin is a bad thing? Yeah. When did that happen? Well, you know, and I sort of, I agree with you to some extent that it's not necessarily bad. And there are all sorts of reasons why women remain virgins. Some is because of religious or moral reasons. And some women are virgins in 30 and totally fine with that. But for these two, it wasn't okay. I think in terms of our society, it's been a gradual shift, certainly even since I've been working in this field over the past 20 years. It's been escalating. So our thresholds have gotten lower and lower. And so the virginity issue plays into that because if you're a 30 year old virgin, people think either you have crazy stuff that happened to you and you're going to be have too much baggage with you or they're scared to take your virginity because then you're going to be all attached to them and your friends judge you and it's hard. There's a lot of judgments running around. Most of which are unnecessary. So doctor Bremen discovered that Sheila's intimacy issues started when her mother died suddenly when she was 13. Your mom told you everything basically, but she didn't tell you that she had cancer. Yeah. I hated her for that. Yeah. Yeah. I can understand that. So did you ever were you ever able to say goodbye to her? No. Last thing I said to her was I love you. You didn't have a chance to say, mom, what were you thinking? Why didn't you tell me? You weren't even believing until you heard she was gone. That she might go, right? I mean, you hadn't even gone there. No. I would be really pissed at my mom. I was and I remember screaming. I was mad at her. I was mad at God. How could you take my mom? You know I need her. How soon did the other women come around? Months, months. Maybe three, to four months. And then, and what house? I was blindsided. That's gonna imagine, yeah. It made me sick. Because I thought, damn, 20 years of a great marriage that my, that my parents had, and then three or four months, my mother's replaceable. So were you mad at him for replacement? Yeah. Mad, there is word for what I found. Absolutely. Yeah, I was in the way I must have felt. 'cause I would express to me. He's still in love with my mom, but he needs somebody to have sex with him. How old were you when he's saying this to you? What? 13, 14. He needs somebody to have sex with him. He needs somebody to fill sort of that sort of companionship role. He needs to get his rocks off, that he needs to have women in his life. And as much as that hurts you, that is not going to prevent him from doing it. All right, so your dad, who was your best buddy, this great guy, the ideal father, if he can betray my mom and they had the perfect relationship, what can I count on? Me, that's it. Doctor burman has been working with shayla and Carmen for over a month now. So how is Sheila's past as it does for everybody until you can let that go? How has that prevented her from having an intimate relationship? Why in so many ways, wouldn't you say Sheila? Before she's so fantastic is she can articulate it so well. She gets it. She really gets that. They both do. And so she not only lost her mother and felt betrayed by her mom because her mom didn't tell her she was sick, but she also felt betrayed by her dad who then went off with and had all these women coming in and out of the house. And honestly was telling her way too much at way too early of an age. And there was this implicit message. He liked these women, but he didn't have a tremendous amount of respect for them and he was always telling shale or whatever you do. Don't be like these women. So she's been carrying around this idea of what those women are and for fear of becoming that just locked herself in her house. But it's so interesting how we all manifest differently and process information because depending upon the kind of personality that Sheila had or who she was before this all happened. She could have done the exact opposite. She could have been, you know, out in the street, having sex with everybody that would have been another way to process that information. You see that, right? It is, it's the same thing. I put a lot of judgment on promiscuous girls. Oh, I would never be that girl. But I realized that that is the way that it manifested for them to try to gain control. They just chose to do it through several partners. And I chose to control it by not having it by not engaging. Very smart girl, you are. Well, over the last month, sex expert Dr. Laura Berman has been working intensely with both of these women to uncover what's really holding them back and what's interesting is whether you're having sex or not having sex, we can all learn more about connection and intimacy through their stories. Here's Carmen in a therapy session with doctor Berman. I wanted to kind of hear what brought you here..

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"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

04:36 min | 4 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. I really never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss in every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show, the podcast. So here we go again, talking about sex today. We are talking about sex shayla is here to lay it all on the line. She is 30 years old and says she is fed up. She's frustrated because she has never had sex. Now, some of you might think, what's wrong with being 30 and a virgin, especially if you've never been married? Well, there are many others who think that being a virgin in 2010 and 30 years old is taboo. That's how Sheila feels. She wants to have sex, but she hasn't. I wrote into The Oprah show because I realized why I'm a 30 year old virgin. It's because I am terrified of relationships. I've never, ever been in love. I've never had sexual intercourse with the man. No. No. I shut men out a lot, but they don't know it. I'm very slick with it though. And when they start calling more and want to see me more, oh, you know, I'm busy, busy, kind of busy, I'm not busy doing anything. I'm a control freak when it comes to me. I do not drink. I don't smoke. I have passed on the dessert. When I was 13, my mom passed away. Boom, my life changed. My dad just couldn't cope. He was not himself again. I saw women coming out of nowhere because he had this desire for sex. I saw how he just used them, and he put them down when he didn't want to be bothered. I watched. I was very observant as a child. And so I told myself, uh oh no. There is no way that that woman is going to be me. I'm tired of being a controlled 30 year old who can't let go enough to enjoy sex and to enjoy a man's company for what it is and then move forward. More of our conversation in just a moment so people don't always realize but physical symptoms like headaches or teeth grinding and even digestive issues can be indicators of stress. Oh, and then let's not forget about doom scrolling, sleeping too little, sleeping too much, eating too much, not sleeping enough. Fighting your nails. Stress just shows up in so many different kinds of ways. And in a world that is telling you to do more and sleep less and just grind all the time, let's stop for a minute and take care of ourselves, you know? Do a little bit less and try some therapy. So better help is customized online therapy that offers video phone and even live chat sessions with your therapist. So you can do it the way you want. You don't have to see anyone on camera if you don't want to. It's more affordable than in person therapy and you can be matched with a therapist in under 48 hours. So give it a try and see if online therapy can help lower your stress. This podcast is sponsored by better help and The Oprah Winfrey Show the podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at better help dot com slash Oprah that's BET TER HELP dot com slash Oprah. Well, for many women, virginity isn't just about a lack of sex. It is a much deeper issue, a lack of intimacy, a lack of connection and for shaila, it is also, as you heard her say, about control. We also heard from Carmen who says that she's embarrassed to.

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"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

02:02 min | 5 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

"Guys. Our listeners can find all the links in our show notes. And on our website, I do podcast dot com and thanks for taking the time to come on the show. Thank you, chase. Yes, thanks again. Just a great time. Thank you guys so much for tuning into today's episode, as always, all the links to the guest as well as any of their recommendations will be in the show notes page. You can find the link to that in the episode description or by going to I do podcast dot com. Click on the podcast tab up at the top and you will have access to all the episodes that we've ever done. There are over 300 of them. And while you're on our website, if you haven't checked out our free 14 day happy couple challenge, we really hope you do..

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

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02:36 min | 5 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

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"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

04:33 min | 5 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

"Such a basic thing, but as you are saying, a lot of us don't sit there at multiple times at the beginning of a relationship, middle, at all points to sit down and go, well, what is it that I want? And then looking at those things and then understanding if they're realistic expectations as well because I think a lot of times we have unrealistic ideas about how our partner should show up, how a relationship should be. Our partnership read our mind. What do you mean? There you go. I'm trying to tell you, but a lot of times we got to point the finger back at ourselves. And Vanessa just had mentioned non negotiables. Again, sitting with that and even better if you're doing it when you're single and going into a relationship. But it's never too late. And those things can certainly change, but I think the underlying value system that we want to have in our lives and have with our partner and what our non negotiables are, is so important to understand for ourselves, take that pause and then to communicate it to our partner. And that's where, okay, what's the intensity of your non negotiable? Is there inability to move a little bit towards the middle? And I have a kind of always been a compromise type of guy. To me, there's not a lot where there can't at least be some movement. And so that we absolutely instill that when we're when we're talking about back clarity. So yeah, I know it's not surprised that you guys, the longer that we go in coaching the more that we're not surprised that this basic type of foundation that you would think is there just is not. I've also like to add, you know, sometimes chase, it's a struggle to understand ourselves, right? Sometimes lots of times. Yeah. So if we're confused about our feeling, just think about how much more confusing we are to our spouse..

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"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

03:55 min | 5 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

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"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

03:47 min | 5 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

"George and Vanessa, thank you so much for joining me on the show today. Oh, chase. It's an honor to be on your show. You had Sarah did great work and we're just happy to be a small part of what you do. Yeah, thanks so much for having us on. Well, we appreciate it. And there is no show without guests like you guys. So thank you so much for coming on. And I'm excited to talk to you guys for a number of reasons. But you have been married almost 30 years and we don't have a ton of couples on, let alone couples that have been together for that long. So excited to dive into the wisdom and the trials and tribulations and everything that you guys have learned throughout that time. And I thought we could start with talking about communicating around our feelings, wants and needs, which is really all about how we need to communicate in a relationship. So what are some of the ways in which people stumble and then we'll talk about ways that we could do it better? I would say some of the ways that folks stumble is misinterpreting each other. And like for example, you know, our body language speaks as well as the words that we use when we're communicating. So we have to take that into consideration. You know, sometimes if our spouse says something that we don't like, of course, there may be eye roles or other body language that just tips the scale in the negative direction and then disconnection happens. And so we teach communication styles so that disconnection does not happen. That you stay connected with your partner, even.

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"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

02:54 min | 5 months ago

"30 year" Discussed on Relationship Advice

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"30 year" Discussed on Tech Talk Tuesday

Tech Talk Tuesday

04:34 min | 2 years ago

"30 year" Discussed on Tech Talk Tuesday

"You haven't had backup assessment lately. You should get one. And this one sure that you're backing up your data. To multiple locations, not only on site to a different location, but in the cloud. This one sure if you do get caught fishing that you can get your data back and get your business back up and running. There you go so craig just to highlight their you know. Makes you check out that fishing prone score to kind of get a benchmark or all your companies operating on that and then check out the podcast. We did a whole podcast on fishing or gave really good tips on how to keep your company secure, and then, lastly if you WANNA take a deeper dive on one that looks like we can. Can Get you connected to one of our technology experts to to help you more specifically in your environment, so thanks for the question Craig question is Morgan from Shafie Morgan says. Why is Google performing a bait and switch with organizations organizations utilizing? It's Google adleman sweet. We jumped onboard pretty early on, and since then we've been using the platform. Google seems to be removing numerous features which were appealing to us. Great Question Morgan thank you for many net. We appreciate it Sorry to hear your frustrated with Google. as Google begins, move away from free access for like G. Mail and Docs were schools I think we're going to begin to see a change in how they deliver their services. So, I also last week. That Google docs was having some weird problems, and they couldn't retrieve their files effectively so Definitely something's going on I don I just think it's kind of a revamp or kind of a look at how they provide those services, and how they're going to start making it more enterprise available, which will then come with a price tag. as far as Google. In uncoupling their offerings. Isn't I? Believe is an attempt to charge for those services and become more of a enterprise grade company. And I believe. We'll start to see more difficulty in working with Google. As. They begin to charge for those free services. Yeah most people don't. Realize. I think is when you're on Google and you're storing everything in a google drive. You still need to back it up and make sure your data is secure. We actually had a customer call in and they said that they weren't able to get into their google drive because all the changes that they were making, and they're really concerned about where their data's or how they could access it and first thing. We thought it was like you gotTa. Have a backup. Just in case you're not. Able to access your environment, even big companies like Google. Are Prone to data, breaches or are things that would prevent you from accessing your most important data so definitely do a backup on even your cloud environment data. Great great point there Jaffa would also recommend. Exploring moving that data and services from Google to office, three, sixty, five, and a lot of people have a hard time because it costs money for office three sixty five, but we use office sixty five. We I love it. I think it does a good job. And, that's something you might WanNa. Take a look at and also like Jeff said make sure you're backing up all Google data to an offsite location. We recommend moving into the cloud You can get access anytime anywhere. And in my opinion, the security's better. Go Well I. Thank you..

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"30 year" Discussed on Tech Talk Tuesday

Tech Talk Tuesday

05:20 min | 2 years ago

"30 year" Discussed on Tech Talk Tuesday

"This Day in tech history. Old. Man? Time for our segment called this day in Tech History Gee that's here at this day in history, July, twenty, first, nineteen, sixty nine. What day to celebrate Neil Armstrong he was the first person to step on the lunar surface of the moon and voice a famous quote. What does it Jeff one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind nine. Let's go. Wow, reminds me a buzz light. Actually Buzz Aldrin your best album got his name from Buzz Aldrin bustling. Good point anyways, but Buzz Aldrin joined him nineteen minutes later where he's managed to collect forty seven point five pounds of lunar material to bring back to Earth. That's a lot of material forty seven pounds. It sounds like maybe your backpack I've seen that thing. You pack today's launch. Bricks in there and got a lot of stuff. What can I say? This was a huge accomplishment to show the world. The advancements of technology the United States at the time. Everybody was racing to the Moon Space Race. We wanted to get there before everybody else and we did. And this displayed the ability of sending humans to the moon, and returning them to Earth safely and putting an end to the space race. Yeah I, love the the. This story. I'm really pumped. Today was the the lunar landing with Neil Armstrong interesting. Fact is that we actually have more. Processing power in our smartphones. And then they had on the spacecraft that landed on the moon, which is incredible to think about how far technology has progressed now it's a good point. Jeff and I think that's something to. Really focus on to like if you're going to sit back and wait for things to happen, other companies don't even have servers like in the data center. Like I've seen people spend companies in a week. Because, they can go to the cloud, they can get these services and they don't have all the old legacy systems that are keeping people back, so you really need to be proactive. Put together a strategic plan of how you're going to really help. Accelerate the business, be innovative and creative in really helping the business be more more competitive..

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"30 year" Discussed on Tech Talk Tuesday

Tech Talk Tuesday

04:25 min | 2 years ago

"30 year" Discussed on Tech Talk Tuesday

"A deal. I will reserve table for you and your mother and your wife before and after the game if you promise, show up here and spend a half hour and have a beer with the fans and he did. The place is packed. But while he beerman him and I actually sold hotdogs. Door to, lease. While he remained coal beer here and hot dogs. Yeah, so if you're not from Minnesota why Veerman is all the twins, games primarily twins game, but I think he was at other sporting events as well, but he walked around with beer and go big here. That would be wally. The beerman became a celebrity in the Minneapolis community, and so it's it's a pretty cool story with him. Yeah, nine hundred. Hundred and eighty dug a big hole. called the Metrodome and then during that time in one, thousand, nine, hundred and nine, hundred eighty two. We actually my brother, and I played football in the Metrodome over one hundred times while we deliver burgers that construction workers have fifty burgers. Bring him over in bags or park our car now bring a football, and after we delivery play football in the metro. D. Times. We played in there, so we're pretty good football. Yeah, they just took the metrodome down after fury, forty or so years because it collapsed with snow, but that plays so many memories with the twins and the world series and eighty seven and ninety one. So you guys. You guys broke that place in now. It's amazing in. You know. It didn't really change until they got rid of. Cal Griffin and bought in. Cairo Pole ad who really invested in the team and that was pretty pretty incredible. Talk about my favorite player's Kirby Puckett Embarrassing Kirby Puckett Man. He hit runs and run the outfield. He was pretty big phenomena. Remember Kent Herbeck. Can't hurry. Because a great guy signed Bam. Yeah, and then he had like anything game sex that he was on second base and got picked off. He was really mad wasn't paying attention. They picked him off second base and the good news came up in the seventh inning. Hit the Grand Slam. That was crazy I had my father-in-law. There I got tickets for like two hundred and eighty dollars. A ticket I bought my father-in-law. Idea was cry the whole time. Eddie what's wrong? I'm so happy to be here I. Never get an opportunity ever. That is so cool tearing up here. Yeah, what a great lesson with him is! You get picked off like that and you think you ruined it for your team to have the.

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