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Multitasking vs Monotasking: The Secret to Getting Things Done
"Now how many of you believe that you can multitask. I know you're nodding right now. I know you're raising your hand. How many of you genuinely feel you can multi. I have my hand out. Because i used to be one of those people and then read a study. That said this. Only two percent of the world's population can multitask. That means ninety. Eight percent of us can not multitask now. The article goes on to say that when people hear that we all believe the very present right. We all believe we can multitask. When the truth is most likely in ninety eight percent icon. So if you're sitting there convincing you solve your in that two percent i promise you you're not and we have to switch to mono tossing or single tasking. This is the idea of being present right now. Is i'm recording this podcast. I don't have my phone in front of me. I don't have my laptop in front of me. I don't have any device in front of me. Apart from the microphone and the recorder. I am fully present with you. And i know you can feel it. I know right now whether you're walking your dog with your cooking whether you're eating whether you editing. Whether you had the jim i know you can feel that i'm present. And why do i do that. Not so i can say i was mono talking or single tuscany. I do it. Because i want you to get the best of me. You know that this podcast will be different if i was texting messaging. You know this. Podcast will be different if i was cooking or if i was at the gym or if i was editing while i was doing this podcast. The quality of our output decreases as we multitask our efficiency and productivity goes up as we monitor. Ask single task. We think that. Hey if i only spent time on one thing at a time then i'm going to slow down. I'm going to achieve less than everybody. That's not true you actually achieve more quality you will actually achieve more debt you will actually achieve more connection by single tasking or monitoring asking.
Moving Out of the Shadow of Indifference
"So let's go into the shadow of indifference. The diffusion of responsibility at the website of the chinky. It's written is aki. -tated dislocation sorts about not being in the right located state. We kinda where we not belong. We don't find ourselves which just where everyone else is and we are sucked all his vital force life energy that is like getting sucked out of our system because we are just not doing what we are passionate about what we are excited about. This is from the chink book. As long as you are in different. You can't ever be different and to stir kinda challenge of shadow state. And what are we doing when we ended in different state. It means that we focus our precious time and life goes on the essential. We are like not doing what we are supposed to do. What we love to do which has hold our full potential back and as a beautiful example in the chinky spoke almond examples about a holocaust survivor and the writer elliott visa and he had the following to say about this indifference to opposite of love is not hate. it's indifference the opposite of art is not acklin us. It's indifference to opposite of face is not heresy. it's indifference and the opposite of life is not death. it's indifference so you see how big this indifference is when we understand to call that indifference and then being signed this field. No-one can exclude themselves. Because we all at some point in our daily lives to something we are not loving to do. We are not passionate about. And that's when we i into small cinetic field of this indifference.
The Importance of Self-Awareness Within Self-Care With Alex Elle
"I so love the way that you complicate this idea of self care and the fact that you name self awareness has being such a key component. Because you're right about that in your book after the rain that like your flawed like we all are right and you're learning hard lessons that needed to be learned but a lot of it was from not being self aware of who you were and your actions at the time And using that as an excuse to not learn to do better right. So i talk about that. Aladdin after the rain in the first chapter called change. Which is everyone's favorite chapter. I talk about like transitioning from working a nine to five nine years ago now to being in my career to how much up. I was an awful employees at one point to how i stepped into like really being a great employee and then faced some really challenging issues with my then boss and it really shows the duality of self awareness from grown from and where i was going And i think change plays a big role in my life. Because i've had to change so much and i've gotten really comfortable with being more okay with change and with learning that i always have worked to do and i think that's part of being a student of life is knowing that we will continue to expand and hopefully learn and grow until you know the day we transition off this planet and i think that that's extremely valuable and important especially as a black woman in this work in this
Soul Therapy Author Thomas Moore On His Approach To 'Meditation'
"Min- is in essence. A meditation podcast. We talk about the how the why the what of meditation and i thought before we jump into the book. I just wondered if maybe you could share a little bit about your own. Reflective practices meditative practices are or stillness practices. If you have any sure absolutely so you know that. When i was young i was a monk and for thirteen years and so i studied meditation. Then and i've meditated probably an hour and a half day those thirteen years so that was kind of empty meditation with the call. It kinda fun though focus But anyway it was quite wonderful. And now i've changed though i've changed in my taste my ideas and I have learned. I think mainly from henry. David thorough air comment. That really stuck with me. I read them a lot and yet a comment that That for him it was important to compost contemplate within nature to go out and they turn contemplates a for him but that was the most important thing and what i got from that that and fits in with my larger philosophy that it's important to be contemporary tive of by the way that phrase i prefer to to tour i prefer bit contemplates in that today because it suggests contemplating something and i liked the idea of being in the world with your spirituality to be in the world to make it a worldly not just separate i think anything that separate world from spirit as a really is a mistake. That's caused a lot of trouble.
Affirmation to Release Emotional Pain, Letting Go of the Past
"Your affirmation for today. We'll help remind you that your past does not equal your future again. Feel like that sometimes but each day is a brand new day. It's a fresh start full of new experiences. And i want to share with you about a personal experience. I went through a really difficult time in my life as we all do and during this time it was really difficult for me to overcome the pain. I was experiencing. I felt stuck in that pain and it didn't seem like anything could uplift to me. The things i was normally interested in no longer brought me joy. This experience really rocked my world. It was as if one day i woke up and my whole world looked different so this event was really challenging for me and i was worried that i would just never feel like my life was back to normal for me. My normal and i know that it can feel like this these days of uncertainty and as we continue to go through a pandemic and you're dealing with regular day to day life which involves sometimes events that are beyond our control that can cause great grief. Regret pain remorse. What i found for myself is that he was so important. That i take extra care of myself and this is hard to do. When you're suffering. I found that it was really important that i put myself on a schedule where i wake up every day and i include movement and of course meditation. I also found that it was really important for me to eat well.
How Daily Distractions and Busyness Can Make Us Miss Life's Moments
"It really made me think of these subtleties the subtle encounters of life. That that we experience all of the time that we may be missing. I started to ask myself. What am i missing. What else am i missing. You know. I've often heard that life happens between the two deuce right. It's between the tasks between the actions that those pauses those moments between notes where we experienced the brilliance of life as it is right now in this experience just brought that home for me years ago as well. I remember In this stuck with me for so years my friend. Linda brilliant woman was a ceo of a division of a pharmaceutical company was in charge of thousands of people. She also taught yoga for me at verge and still teaches there and I remember asking her after she retired from her. Ceo position it was like a mother two or three afterward. And i said so. How has life changed. How do you feel after retiring from massive position and her answer to me was just perfect. She said you know. I was in the shower. The other day shampooing. My hair and i was smelling the shampoo and i and it smelled so wonderful and i just kind of relished for a moment smelling the shampoo and i looked at the bottle. An- realized i've been using the for years. And i never recognized the smell because when i'm in the shower i've i'm always thinking about the day ahead what i have to do who i have to speak to what needs to happen and i have never forgotten that simple story and this is where i feel stories our stories. We can spark things in each other just by the simplicity of our stories and our experiences.
The Surprising Upsides of Self-Deception With Shankar Vedantam
"The starting point for my expiration here was a very unusual story involving a con called the church of love and in the course of investigating the khan and how it worked. I came to understand that. Self-deception can sometimes help people. Even though we generally think it can't can you tell us that story. Sure of course so. The church of flowers a very unusual con that unfolded in the united states in the seventies and eighties at its heart was conman named donald lowrie. He was a balding middle aged guy. Living in a small midwestern town he was also a writer and in the early seventies he invented various characters literary character as young women and he called these women angels and then somehow he hit on the idea of writing love letters in their voices. Two thousands of men scattered across the united states. Many of the men receiving letters believe there were corresponding with real women. Some of them fell deeply in love with the people they were hearing from many of them sent in huge amounts of money to support the women that they believe they had fallen in love with and the most remarkable part of the story is that madonna. Larry was finally arrested and brought to trial on charges of mail fraud. Several members of his organization which was called the church of love showed up at the courtroom to defend him. And i found this astonishing. Why is it when the con is being revealed. Why would the mock show up to defend the con. Man and in some ways was starting point for my expiration of the potential value. That self-deception can sometimes play lives. Why did they show up to defend them. Well i think for some people. The church of love had become so central to their lives. Such an important part of who they were. These relationships were so valuable to them. These men believed that. They had found their soulmates They had found an anchor that giving up those anchors and those soulmate seems unbearable. A couple of people at lowery's trial said that the letters from the angels had saved them from alcoholism and drug addiction to people said that they were on the verge of committing suicide and the letters had pulled them back from the brink. And so i in many ways. The story of the church of love is how self-deception can sometimes aid us in moments of great crisis or great peril and those moments. It becomes easy for us to see how self-deception can sometimes play a solitary. Roy lives
The Importance of 'Enjoying the Process' With Chris Bosh
"In terms of playing every game like it's your last. You have a quote in the book from the movie. Sandlot quotas at some point in your childhood. You and your friends went outside to play together for the last time. And nobody knew it. Their quotas so powerful for me because he's dabbling. I grew up on that movie practically. And i mean that was. That was my truth as a part of my truth in my career. You know alluding back to that game news. Game against the spurs didn't really do too well other things were on my mind and so yeah went out there. I play the game. I just spent that evening trying to get better trying to push my teammates to get better trying to move a step closer to accomplish our goals but most importantly going out there and enjoying when i do and that was the last time that i played there were no you know t shirts made there was. No you know My good friend to wang way he had this awesome thing called the last dance. Hit was his final season. And i mean they did it up and and he was able to just really really take everything in and enjoy it for the last time you know it. Nothing like that in the lesson that i took from that was pretty much like i told you do enjoy the process. Enjoy doing the work that you put in enjoy if you're on a team hopefully you're in a position to where you're in a good environment. You know appreciate that. Appreciate those things that you have in the opportunity that you have because you might not always have it so i've always taken it to heart.
The Power of Showing Gratitude and Appreciating Others With Martin Galpin
"I'm very curious The perspective that you have on gratitude like how does gratitude featuring your work is really important that she is one of the things that i think from a positive psychology point of view. It's one of the kind of tools that we have a beta boots to us to help people to about practices which actually they can relatively easily implement into that day to day practices either individually or in terms of that that role with others in terms of for example. The questions that they're asking other people could be hugely powerful. We move in the direction of the questions we ask. We're asking questions of war. Preached fifty focused and helping people to notice was working on and while they go to be grateful than those things can have a big impact because so many organizations and manages focused on what's not working. And how do they fix things. In a way where. We're the problems and that can lead to a mindset which is actually very focused on the the detriments of situation unit gets harder to focus on. What's working well. And so just by asking those questions helping people to recognize the importance of as questions and taking time to experience being on the receiving end of some of those more gratitude. Crist questions is ready. Impactful often very simple doesn't have stick it out of time but it's a very young very worthwhile doing and i'm one of the things i love about working with gratitude sedates. It's something that has a wide impact and in a number of ways. I think if we can get better for ourselves and then becomes evidence that people around us than they more likely again through that ripple effects not stupid things around them but also and the communication between people say in the exercises we do we ask people to give feedback to somebody else to a colleague for example around the things that they are grateful for in person things they appreciate about then then as a double benefit that goes on the head. Because it's not only a lovely thing invaluable thing that presents receive in terms of all messages of appreciation support which is opposing bulletin. Because many people don't feel appreciated even might actually be appreciated. They often they realized because they didn't get told. So that's pretty important. The person receives them at the messages of gratitude and
Knowing When to Hit Your Emotional Reset Button
"We talk about the self bullying allot here on. Mindfulness mode this self bullying. That goes on these voices in our head they just sometimes are relentless they just keep going on and on and on and our brain and it just feels like oh man i just. I just need this to stop well. Are you receiving alerts in your mind that something is wrong. I've certainly received alerts in the past that something's not quite right. And sometimes i had idea what the alert meant in when i see alert. Well i'm talking about emotions because that's usually what what alerts us. It's our emotions that are the the human body's way of alerting us that something is going on. I've learned that when. I see an alert on my printer. It definitely means something. It's out a paper or it's low on inc. And i know i have to deal with it or else i'm not going to be doing much printing. I really have to deal with that. I can't just ignore that flashing light or whatever that alert is in. The same is true in my car. I once an engine light on a car. I was driving. And i ended up being stranded on a on a four lane highway with the steaming engine and i was just completely stranded there waiting for help. Well that's because. I ignored the engine light. That was telling me. Hey there's a problem and really what it was saying as you may not see a problem yet you may not know. There's a problem there yet but there is a problem. And that's the way our bodies are that you know. We suddenly feel this intense anger or feel pain or we feelings diety or stress. And it's telling us something. It's there for a
Exploring the Worlds Beneath Our Feet With Robert Macfarlane
"Really want to focus on under land. Which is your your newest book And also i think a book that people are discovering in this country in in a big way which has been exciting to see That use that as kind of a focal point to also more expansively explore. How you're thinking accumulated way of seeing the world and experiencing it rolls around inside you. And i feel like that also does find expression in in the writing of land so And it's always. It's so interesting to see how. I think you said it this way some in another interview that your body of work. The gradient of your body of work has been tending down because she began writing about mountain mountains of the mind. And then there were the values in moore's in wild places and then there's traversing the world on foot in the old ways and now you have gone down to the world's beneath our feet and you said we know so little of the world's beneath our feet i think just naming that not something that we even think about how little we know of the world's beneath our feet they. They are dark places in in several senses. That a sometimes say to my children. We walk on this thin above this raging space of life and matter in an oil its vibrancy and and fury and we knew nothing of it. site stops at our toes. It's tops at ground. Level in sight is so bind up with with with with modern ways of of of knowing we. Can i say alien unless we can look up and see literally trillions of miles. We can see light coming from starr's across the universe across the galaxy but we looked at and we we can't see beyond the grass or the tomczak
Into The Nothing With Gabriel Cousens
"It's so interesting to to talk to you. Because and i'm just going to share a bit about you with mindful tribe. You're a world renowned holistic physician a rabbi yogi spiritual mystic. You're a psychiatrist. A family therapist a humanitarian. A peace ambassador. And there's just so much to share about you and It it says here that you live in the world between nothing which is the world beyond time and something which is the temporal world. So let's start there. How did you get to the point where you see yourself. As as living in this world between nothing and something it had been gradually it was back philosophical. I lived in india for seven years and begin editing about six hours a day and also focusing intense contemplation on the divine name with chanting During the time. I begin to move into the nothing. No what is the nothing you disappear as a separate ego as a separate linus and there's only that or in that said is nothing to say the just but the point is that is that just quiet but you are there. There's not a you with a quiet mind you disappear. There's only durant
Why You're Burning Out And How to Fix It With Leah Weiss
"Thinking bernal is a spectrum. A binary on off or a habit. Or i don't i think is really helpful and in terms of the research on the stages of burn out one of the things that's really interesting is the early stages of burn out which include things like having excessive drive and pushing yourself to work harder and harder than you start neglecting personal care. Needs these all our lake. How would you describe workaholic. I think it's when you get into the middle and later stages of burn out the you understand that it's not just about work habits and then the other thing that your comment makes me think of is i think often one of the biggest misimpressions people have about burnell is that it's just caused by working hard often. It's about the components that are you know have to do more with lack of fairness or poor relationships or frustration with values being transgressed. That are the real drivers of burnout. Not quote unquote just working a lot in hard so that gets a really important point and i believe this is a really important point to you. Which is it can be really unfair. Perhaps to frame burn out as an issue of individual agency because often it's not just that we have decided to work ourselves too hard. It's that were caught in noxious structures. Yes and i think that's critical. It's it's not to negate the role that we have as an individual but it's to add in the importance of understanding our environment. The teams were working in cultures. That were a part of so that we don't put all of the blame. And also all the onus on ourselves to fix it we understand this is we are part of a system so that is spot on. Its part of why. It's such an important component to me. And i think a big part of my frustration with how burnout is presented often. And we're talking a lot about it because of covid many articles. You know many how to's in. I think we broadly emphasize the individual in that which is counterproductive for exactly what you're pointing
Developing a Stronger Sense of Self and Truth With Maureen Pelton
"Do we separate what we know in our brains to be true. Let's say and an intuition or a sense of something that might come to us from a different place. Do you ever hundred percent know something is true for you. That's a really good question. And i spent twenty some years embodiments and how to discern between the two. And i'm gonna i start by saying there's no absolute so and there's no one hundred percent so it is what i call developing muscle. We exercise to develop our muscles. Strengthen them will listening to our body listening to our wisdom listening tore intuition versus all the chatter in the head that is developing a muscle practice. And i encourage playfulness. I encourage innocence and joy and curiosity as we explore this. Because we're we're way too serious. And that is the brain in the ego. And it is the place of the beginner. Mind as they call it or the neutral observer where something comes up something emerges we know something we feel something and we sit with. Oh well that's interesting and we don't go into your boy. It's absolutely right or that. That is true. We stay with that and it is revealed that the minute go on our head and this is what a lot of us are conditioned to do and we try and make sense of it and put meaning to it and find the mechanism for when that happens. We have now left the body and we're back living above the neck and then the muscle doesn't get developed. So i talk a lot about and teach a lot about the neutral observer. The silent witness that is just receiving and full of curiosity on wondering innocence. Enjoy and one of my greatest teachers around that. Because i have had the pleasure of being with his holiness the dalai lama in his place in dharamsala a couple times as well as in larger venues that he's brilliant but he sits in that place of joy innocence and wonder and playfulness. And that's where. I feel a lot of fluidity. In emerging an unfolding of what is
Instead of Chasing Happiness, Do This
"Because they're busy trying to be happy. So here's the thing if you don't strive for happy what you strive for right. I mean if you're not trying to be happy in this world than what should try to be well. Here are a few words that come to mind. Because i spent most of my life trying to be happy by trying to be happy i was not happy. It's almost a mirage you know. It's almost something that were chasing and by chasing that thing. We're not getting there. If that makes sense. I'm trying to think of where else in life that happens. Of course my my brain instantly goes to sexual. But it's almost like yeah. It's like if you try to give someone in orgasm then you may not. You know what. I'm saying like the chance of you. Giving someone or an orgasm is exponentially higher if that isn't your intention but your intention is more about connection or about Sexual expression or exploration. And i think when your goal is something like that then the orgasm is the byproduct right and so i think instead of chasing happy. Whatever happy looks like for you. There are other things that you can try to build. And i say not chase. I don't like the word chase. It has kind of lined with a powerlessness. You know it's line with disparition Building makes sense to me. That's something that feels honest and the building is earned right so instead of chasing happy would if you build some of these things
A Buddhist Approach to Patience With Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche
"How do you define patients generally speaking when we speak a patients it is sort of understood largely as a green in bed with whatever is happening but in the buddhist teachings in the buddhist a practice of course maybe initially you might have to kind of do that. A little bit y. You're being agitated while you're being irritated. Nyu feel few need to react. And you pass beyond that point if you could just be present with what's happening in your in the mental and emotional level then is much. Do actually with the hull. Do you actually constructively respond to the situation. Thou is always close this from this book. If there's something you could do why to worry all why to lose your temper if there's nothing you could do. Then what's the benefit so you come to sort of explore y'all own sort of internal innate wisdom to see whether there is something that you could and if there is something you could remedy then tried to sort of get on with that. Skillful means and then not lose your self to the kind of emotional self destructive any kind of pain fool state of hangul resign mental even if you don lash it out because he should should out. Then it's going to be much more problematic but even if you don lash out if you just kind of stained state sort of eats up a lot of your own peace and a lot of your own sense of well being so in tried to sort of move on with what you do to kind of remedy the situation and then come to the other side so much to do you know applying yourself to kind of find this malaysians rather than sort of be stuck with emotion.
Attract Good Things By Spreading Gratitude with Author Elena Anguita
"Basically to tell you my story how this came to me about over three years ago and i almost remember like it happened. Yesterday i was walking in my house. And i was stopped dead in my tracks by what my book called a wash. Something that stopped me. At in that wash i saw vision and the vision set a thank you day and based on that i had enough trust to start this practice of writing a thank you note every single day and the thank you note was to a real person. It wasn't to the universe it was to to somebody and it was a fact. I actually made sure got delivered. So what i noticed. Immediately as part of the journey was at whatever mood. I was in that day whether it be bad mood. It was raining out or neutral mood when i was done with my thank you note. My mood was elevated to one of gratitude. And so i would go onto my day in a higher state and what i also noticed. Happening right away was that they used on that. Some little serendipity or something good would happen that day from to be grateful for so it was as simple as i would be driving to an appointment and my side of the highway was crystal clear and the other side of the highway was a parking lot and i would say whoa good thing. I'm on this side of the highway. And then i realized wow yesterday. I found the perfect parking spot. And so i just started recording. These little daily serendipity which then became very very large. And i call them my daily miracles
Validating Your Negative Feelings and Adjusting to Life's Trajectory
"The time out to tell the person who feels like they're on the verge of giving up things. Don't look good. Things are actually looking horrible. The thoughts that you're having you're almost embarrassed or ashamed to admit it in. I just wanna tell you. There should be no shame. There should be no embarrassment. You are a human being you have a heart that beats you beat you bleed the same blood like the rest of us therefore it is your human rights to feel what you feel to hurt how you hurt without feeling like you have to think of others before yourselves before your pain and i just wanna let you know that this is normal. What is happening in the world is not how you feel is valid and i just want to encourage you that wherever you are not to stay there. Don't try to deny it. don't try to cover it up. You know put a lid on it so to speak because what happens when you do it comes out in different ways. Scary ways In ways that could affect your health in ways that could have long-term effects. So i just wanna encourage you whether you want wanna journal whether you wanna talk to a friend without giving so much details just like. I'm glad you're hanging out with me today because today is not a good one. Today is not a good one I wish i could say it was just today but it's just not a good one. I'm grateful that you're here.
The Burden of 'Stuff' and The Benefits of Letting Things Go
"I wanna tell you a story that happened to me when we first moved from house to apartment and this was a brand new apartment building it was spanking new. It was really really nice and we took a lot of care in in how we pleased things and got some new furniture so it was just a really light grey tone Apartment and it was a sunday afternoon. And brian was out so i had the place to myself and i wasn't teaching. I wasn't working. I was deliberately. Because i can work all day long and i was sitting on my couch looking at a book and i had this sense. Come over me this feeling. This visceral feeling of ease of peace. I couldn't put my finger on it. What is this. I mean yeah. I feel relaxed and rested sunday. I have nothing really to do on. I don't want to just work. I don't want to do anything. And i realized in that moment that i didn't have any house chores. I didn't have the burden of stuff over my head or on my shoulders. I didn't have a garage to clean. I didn't have a closet to clean out. I didn't have you know something to fix in the house. And you know if you're a homeowner you know there's always something you could be doing any of that. It was the most bizarre feeling almost felt. Like i was a kid. You know kids that are unburdened. It's like oh. I just get to go out and play now. I can't say that. I live in that all the time but i remember that vividly because it made me realize how much weight i feel or more way. Did i feel when burdened with stuff. So i'm encouraging you just to explore your own relationship to stuff to what are you holding onto. What are you holding onto. And why
A highlight from #358: Buddhist Lessons on Anxiety | Leslie Booker
"Of anxiety from the inside with the inimitable sarah barillas who shared a really personal story. We talked about the science of anxiety with dr luana marquez. And the thirty challenge of social anxiety with dr allen hendrickson today to wrap things up. We're gonna take a look at anxiety from a dharma perspective from a buddhist meditative perspective. Leslie booker who by the way prefers to go simply by the name. Booker is one of america's leading dharma teacher. She really got started by teaching meditation to vulnerable populations back in two thousand and five. She's worked with incarcerated and vulnerable youth. She's done mindfulness cognitive based therapy work on records island and she's written about best practices for teaching yoga in criminal justice settings. She is a graduate of three different training programs at spirit rock meditation center including their four year retreat teacher training program and in this conversation booker will make the case that one of the most important even life saving tools when it comes to dealing with anxiety is other people which is interesting because other people can also be the source of so much anxiety in this conversation she also brings our attention to yet another buddhist list. You guys love the buddha's various lists the listening question. Here is the three characteristics. So it's a shortlist. Basically you're going to hear booker argue that anxiety like everything else. It is susceptible to what the buddha called the three characteristics the three marks of existence impermanent unsatisfactory. Nece or suffering and impersonality selflessness. That you can't find any you at the core of your experience. The
A highlight from Fierce Compassion - A conversation - Tara Brach & Kristin Neff
"Welcome friends nama. Stay thank you so much for joining us. So this is a special night. I am joined in with my good friend and colleague. Kristen neff and i'm going to give you a brief intro but just to say that even before we started recording formally we just jumped right in and there so much exciting stuff to discuss it. It's an a spacious time because both of us had our books come out on the fifteenth on the same day real different kinds of books and so it was just made extra fun for us. So kristen is associate professor at the university of texas austin and she's pioneered research in cellphone passion that really leading figure in the field and along with chris gherman her another friend colleague. She developed training and mindful self compassion. Which i know. Many many of you know and uptake. And it's now taught by thousands of teachers around the globe so has been the key figure. In this generation you know bringing self compassion to the forefront of our collective attention internationally. And she did it. I with this her her wonderful book self compassion. Which i know a lot of you have read and this current book. It's fear self compassion. I read it. i love it. I recommend it cuts new ground. It's really a really relevant to our society. So welcome my friend. Welcome kristen Things star. And i just have to correct you. So we're i'm on the science world. You're more in the world but you are a groundbreaker self compassion as well. We're in it together. We're holding differing doors in. But we're both in the same place and it works really well. The have the science and the research and the meditative approaches. All co mingling. So yeah so. I guess i would like to start with first to say that this is a different kind of offering for you mean self compassion the theme but has got a larger vision. And it really exploring the meaning of self compassion vs a society. That's marked by. Dominance hierarchies gender race class and you honing in on gender and sexism. And i guess. I want to start with. What may this compelling what made it a compelling focus for book for you so much fund right because patriarchy is really the backdrop of this book right. How self compassion play out for women who are socialized in patriarchy and i've always been interested in issues of gender equality and power. My dissertation was called recently about rights and responsibilities in the context of indian family life in other words in the context of real patriarchy. I've always been interested in this nice to do research on it. And then i discovered self compassion my buddhist practice and got carried away by research on that and then things have come full circle. Which is why it's so meaningful to me. But if you want to know the truth tar the time. I really needed a new. I needed to write this book. Was i had my own experience of ami tumult. Move a moment right so and that it was it was a horrible experience. Someone that i news reported he was a friend. I thought he was a friend. Turned out to be like a mini harvey weinstein. Who was abusing people. Work for him. It was an autism center and it was just horrible and so unpacking what happened. did it happen and also how do we dismantle it. I was when i started realizing that gender socialization against women being fierce against them speaking up against him not wanting to rock the boat new worrying about what other people going to say about you. You actually might say someone. It's not just a misplaced fear. That people may not like you iraq. The vote they will not like those in power but our ability to stand up and say you know. I don't care if he like me. I like myself. I'm going to say the truth to speak the truth. I'm going to draw my boundaries this fierceness which is part of self compassion. Part of caring for yourself Fierce mama bear self compassion. That real protective instinct is a key part of self compassion and it was actually why i was going to that experience that i thought i gotta write a book about this partly because self compassion helped me so much get through it that i realized that this is something i could write for people or other people who've been socialized woman and it's not so much actual gender is how you are socialized. Some people are socialized gender. Some people are not the people who are socialized as women are taught to be tender but not fierce people who are socialized as men are taught to be fierce to not tender. That's the problem because we need both and so the book is really all about how we reclaim our fear santander size and and get this healthy balance so you mentioned mama bear and utah a great story. That was one of your mama bear realization stories. And i just want you to share with us. Actually tell to mama. Bear stories is one of the zoo or the one in romania. Couple monitor right was. Yeah so this is funny. Because i used to always joke thank goodness i'm a self compassion teacher. Not a mindfulness teacher. Because i'm not. I'm not a person who has tons of equanimity writing.
A highlight from #357: Strategies for Social Anxiety | Ellen Hendriksen
"Abc this is the ten percent happier. Podcast i'm dan harris. Hey hey happy. Friday as many of you know. We usually reserve fridays for special bonus meditations. But today we're doing something a little bit different. We've got a brand new full episode ready for you. This is the third in our four part series on taming anxiety as we move into summer and more and more vaccines or going into people's arms. Your town or city or state or country may soon be opening back up. If it hasn't already some of us are ecstatic about that. A lot of us are anxious about that. And by the way those are not mutually exclusive. it's totally possible to be both ecstatic and anxious anyway if the thought of large crowds or even small dinner. Parties makes your palms sweat. Don't worry you're not alone. And if
A highlight from [Unedited] Alex Elle with Liliana Maria Percy Ruiz
"All right. can alex hear me. I can hear you said we're gonna see each other because we're not now we're going to hear each other okay and alex you roll your recording. Let me just triple check. I thought i was and let me just tripled. I know this is the thing that always scared me. When i would do like my own kind of recordings in the field away from engineers. I was like if i don't get this recording. We're gonna be fine that alex we're going to we're going to do it yes we are. We are recording. Yes it is jumped. We're recording okay. Thank you. I'm gonna meet myself. Okay i really that. The clock in here doesn't work anymore. It's not turned on. So just know that i have no way of knowing when an hour so maybe you wanna just also also when we pass one hour. Just throw something at me Well alex says i was sharing with you Before we started recording you have been such a source of support and comfort and also challenge in the best way during this past year So i'm just so grateful to be here with you and to have the space for conversation so thank you. Thank you so much i really. I'm smiling ear to ear and equally as honored and grateful to be able to share this space with you and be in conversation And to know that my work has resonated with your heart Really just makes me extremely happy. So thank you know one of the things that i find so remarkable about the way that you talk and write about self care is just how much you describe as a practice which is something that i honestly have never really thought of before and i'm just curious when you think back to your childhood. What are your earliest memories of the idea of self. Care or self soothing. Something else that you write about as well. How did you see that modeled or not modeled. Your family are in your community so it was not modeled. And i think that's where i learned it and to be super transparent and clear. I didn't start leaning into my self care practices until i was in my early twenties and that was really by way of a force from the universe because I didn't know who i was. And i was looking for other people to give that answer so when i started to toy with the idea of actually taking care of myself it required me to get curious about myself too which i didn't. I didn't know how to do that. But i knew that i wanted to figure it out and i think that that's where curiosity came into play for me and my self care becoming a practice because i didn't anyone in my family taking care of themselves. I saw women. Their backs saw women carrying the world on their shoulders. An trying to raise families and trying to survive. And i just knew that wasn't going to be an option for me So i decided to shift what was going on in your life at the time. That really opened that up for you and also just just as part of what. I'm also thinking about self care is kind of like this buzzword now thrown about some curious as you think about that time when you first started to embrace it like what did it mean to you. What it meant to me is showing up for myself. So that i could show up for other people and to put that in context i became a mother at eighteen so at twenty three i was a young single mother and when my daughter was born. I vowed to myself that things would be different. I would be a different type of mother. I would be a different type of woman. And i would do my best to stop chasing love in places that were rejecting me and that required a lot of self soothing because rejection is a part of the human experience but also i had. I had really carried with me in my emotional suitcase is how i talked to my course community in clients in in the emotional unpacking settings right is like my emotional suitcase was so filled with things that didn't belong to me and rejection and self loathing and self doubt were spilling out and when i was in that early stage figuring out what self care meant for me not only as a mother but as a woman as a young woman trying to find her way and trying to dismantle generational cycles I was really called to like check myself and become more self aware. And that's really what self care looked like for me is getting to know who i was and getting up close and personal with myself awareness and what that meant for my then one child. I have three children now And also myself and my potential partner. Which i'm married now. So it's everything really comes full circle right and it requires us to show up and get up close and personal with the things that really are uncomfortable And that's what i learned is self awareness has to play a role in the self care practice. Yeah so love the way that you complicate this idea of self care And the fact that you name self-awareness has being such a key component. Because you right about that in your book after the rain that like you know you're you're flawed like we all are right and you're learning some hard lessons that needed to be learned but a lot of it was from not being self aware of who you were and your actions at the time and using that as an excuse to not learn do menor right side talk about that. Aladdin after the rain in the first chapter called change. Which is everyone's favourite chapter. I talk about like transitioning from working a nine to five almost nine years ago now to being in my career to how much i was an awful employees at one point to how i stepped into like really being a great employee and then Faced some really challenging issues with my then boss and it really shows the duality of self awareness. From where i had grown from and where i was you going And i think change plays a big role in my life. Because i've had to change so much and i've gotten really comfortable with being more okay with change and with learning that i always have worked to do and i think that's part of being a student of life is knowing that we will continue to expand and hopefully learn and grow until the day we transitioned off this plane and i think that that's extremely valuable and important especially as a black woman In this work and in this world yeah and reading that first chapter one of the things that i remember feeling my body was like. Oh my god. I can't believe alex's sharing all these things like the kinds of things that i would normally try to hide right the things that i think often prevent us from changing which is not embracing both the best and the i won't say worse but my more complicated parts of ourselves Yeah and i liked that. You bring that up because i was raised to hide I was raised and not necessarily no one was telling me to hide but children watch the adults in their lives and just by watching the behavior of the people in my life who were my caretakers. I was taught very early on to hide to be fearful To be unhappy. And you know as i think back to my childhood which i talk a lot about an after the rain. It's very tender for me. I'll be thirty two this year. And i feel like each year. I grow older the more tender. My childhood trauma is for me Amazing true i relate to that a lot. I'm thirty nine. And i'm still deeply surprised and disappointed by that. Yeah oh my goodness yeah. And i'm like why am i feeling so tender about this now right and
A highlight from Alex Elle Self-Care as Generational Healing
"Veterans new study. What does spirituality mean to us reveals. How spirituality informs our understanding of ourselves and each other and inspires us to take action for the common good explore. These findings and more at spirituality study got org aren't been discussing with friends and colleagues. How the last year has changed us. What it unsettled deepened. My colleague liliana maria percy release. Who also goes by lilly says she could not have survived the physical isolation of the pandemic without the writing teaching an instagram presence of alex l. For lily as a first generation colombian immigrant is work opened up notions she'd previously thought impossible. And that have now come to feel essential. She heard language like self care and meeting your inner child and wasn't sure what these meant or how to practically approach them were they for privileged people. Who have the time for this. So i'm handing
A highlight from Meditation: The Heartspace Where All is Welcome (2021-06-16)
"Rush tang and the wasteful openness that allows includes all change in flow of life. Quite natural. the mind will drift. Thought you can gently relax back reconnecting with the aliveness right here. Feeling the breath and the changing sensations in the body sounds that are here. The sound in some stations appear and disappear in this wake full of cash. This alert stone mesh. That's your own presence. We wake up from thoughts and we noticed the thinking and then relax open. Thought scher mental contraction. That always correlate with physical contraction chamois. She can read election any moment just noticing. What might wanna let go a little right now. Perhaps softening the shoulders softening the hands softening the belly sanctioning that slight smile relaxing your heart letting life just as it is sensation towns peering disappearing in open awareness much sancho that open awareness is experienced at the region of the heart as a kind of heart fish that includes what year heart space for everything that is included and welcome
A highlight from #356: Anxiety, Explained | Luana Marques
"From abc this is the ten percent happier. Podcast i'm dan. Harris guys anxiety is of course very common but it's also very commonly misunderstood. So today we're going to do a show that you might think of as everything you wanted to know about anxiety but were afraid to ask. We've got an expert from harvard. Who is going to answer your questions about all sorts of flavors of anxiety which isn't especially relevant topic during this time of pandemic and political upheaval. This by the way is the second episode in a four part series. We're doing called taming anxiety. By the way. If you missed the first episode with pop star broadway star sitcom star sarah barilla's. I strongly recommend you go check that out. And the third part by the way and this is important to know the third parts going to be posted on friday friday. We normally post bonuses. But we're going to do a full proper episode on social anxiety specifically
A highlight from 5 Unconventional Things I do to Stay Productive in my Business
"You want to live and it all starts now. One of the most common questions. I get in my business is how productive sarah. What are your favorite productivity tools. What are you doing on a regular basis. Are you time blocking. Do you like notion. do you like asana. Do use click up. What are you doing. How can i be as productive as you. Well first of all let's defined that productivity is gonna different for everyone and the goal in your life and business is not necessarily to be more productive but to be more efficient in reaching your goals and honoring your time and energy levels right. You have more time to be a human and enjoy your life in today's episode. I thought it would be kind of fun to touch on some of the more unconventional things and practices. That i do in my business to stay productive. Because i think a lot of people expect productivity strategists touch on how they've found the perfect platform and now i'm gonna teach it to you or this is the exact plan or that i use and i never use any other planner. I'm here to tell you today. That i use a wide variety of tools and strategies to stay productive and it's always changing and always evolving. So maybe that's a disappointment to you. That i don't have some magical answer for you. But it's also encouraging to know that your productivity and how you work best is an outcome based off of life circumstance your energy levels. Will you have going on and your preferences that change as life goes on. So let's jump this hot list. Because i think it's going to be pretty eye-opening for you today. So the first thing that i do in my business that i would consider more unconventional in terms of productivity strategy or advice is that i actually big shocker switch between productivity tools and product project management systems. More often than you would think. Now here's how i set things up in my business. I love using google workspace to house the majority of my important documents. This is because this is a secure system. That i really trust and i've been using it since the beginning of time and i haven't had any issues with it so i love to use google docs for example to house all of my important workflows in my business and know that they're here and there in one specific place in print them out. I could give them to someone eventually. If i delegate processes my business or have hires that i'm hiring on something like that so i start with google docs and there's one that's house. All of my workflows. I think that's really important to have a safe and secure place that you do that right and also to have some of them printed out in a binder. But that's a whole other topic for another time. So i actually switched between project management systems and productivity tool. So what do i mean by this well right now. Currently in my business. I used to main productivity systems. Well maybe three if you count my planners i like to use my planners journals specifically in my business i do use the ones i've created so i have the mindful productivity guide that helps me map out my annual goals. My quarterly goals. I use the quarterly goal. Play pages to map out. What i call work back calendars so this gives you a breakdown of each month with a quarter. So there's three months and a quarter you've got one you've got three different months that you're looking at and then it breaks down all of those weeks into about twelve to thirteen weeks so when i'm looking at a quarter. I know what my main goal is for that quarter whether it's a launch goal or something like that or revenue goal and break it down into themes for the month and then i break it down into. What are the main things that i'm working on for the week. I talk more about this in my focus project training that you can find on mine. Mine's low productivity blow dot com. But that's also going to be a training that's going to be available soon in a new course that i'm working on wync wing. You'll hear more about that zun. So that's one of the things that i use is the guide an inside the mindful productivity guide to. It's undated so. I use those pages to break down my weekly goals and there's a two page spread for every week where there is a place for actually every day of the week. And then there's notes and focused section where i write down more detailed dues. I also use my daily productivity and brandom book almost every single day usually in the morning and i like to spend about ten twenty minutes doing a structured brain dump and there is a daily productivity page. Where really helps me to write down. What my main two focuses are for the day and what the five microtarget tasks are beneath each one of those main focuses. So i know what to actually take action on those are things that i use pretty regularly for the most part every now and then i will buy another planner. If i go to michael's and i get tempted. Or if someone creates a really cool one online i am always buying planners and always trying different things out so i really love doing that. It's also really fun too. Because i have students that are always always creating endless journalism planners inside of my published with purpose. So i like to buy those every now and then and give those a try as well and that's been really fun so those are like my handwritten ways of staying productive but then i also use other productivity tools and systems and i try out new ones when i want to. It's important to note that i have to kind of rain. It in because just like anyone maybe like you. You can kind of get this shiny object syndrome with new productivity tools or if you're familiar with the site app sumo. there's a lot of deals all the time for no new productivity systems or software and it can be really tempting to just you know by different ones or try out different recharge trials and never actually get any work done but how a lot of fun setting up a system on the back end so over the years.
A highlight from #355: Sara Bareilles: Anxiety, Anger, and Art
"From abc this is the ten percent happier. Podcast i'm dan harris. Today is a huge day here on the podcast both because we have a fantastic new episode and because this episode is actually kicking off a series. We've been wanting to produce for a long time and that series is called taming anxiety anxiety to state. The obvious is a massive issue in our society even before the pandemic was on the rise and now the situation is even worse. Chances are afflicted you or somebody love at some point and on some level. Maybe you've received an actual diagnosis like generalized anxiety disorder. Or maybe you're prone to symptoms closer to panic as i've been known to experience or perhaps you just susceptible to a bit too much garden variety. Worrying maybe your kids are increasingly anxious. Or maybe like me. You've got a few different items on the menu. Some sort of sampler plate of low level professional freak outs here and some panic attacks in elevators or on live. Tv over there
A highlight from Trusting the Gold
"Welcome friends. It's fun to be able to see you appear on zoom and also to know you're here Listening on either livestream youtube or i'm cwc as well It does feel special to me to have you with me. This is the official first time exploring and celebrating the book coming out and really looking at some of the key themes together. I hope for those of you that have been with me. It feels really deeply familiar. these themes of trusting the goal. So i'll be including practices as we go and for some of you. You might wanna journal. I i'm finding more and more that if you do a practice and then just write down a little bit and i'll suggest some questions The practice goes deeper. So you might consider that if you wanna get a pad or have something to ride on nearby and we'll start with a short practise. We're not doing a full meditation at the beginning because i'll be weaving in a few practices. But let's take a moment and arrived together and as a way of beginning you might just check whatever posture in and inhabit the posture mothers. Really come into your body and make whatever of those slight adjustments. Help you so that you really feel that. You're sitting in a way that wake full that supports being alert and also addy's really at ease if it helps you closure is or let your gaze downcast to bring your attention inside. Please do so. Let's take a few full breasts together. Inhaling slow long deep in breath perhaps the counter four or five. Heal yourself feeling your chest and lungs. And then a slow out breath matching the length of the in breath fields sensations releasing the breath through the nostrils letting go breathing together nice full deep breath slow conscious
A highlight from Meditation: The Presence Beyond Thoughts (2021-06-09)
"The following meditation is led by tara brach tax us more of my meditations joined my email list. Please visit tara brock. Dot com making yourself at home in this moment. It's really coming into the moment. Feeling your breath new might feel and sense
A highlight from Nicholas Christakis How Were Wired for Goodness
"World veterans new study. What does spirituality mean to us. Reveals spirituality informs our understanding of ourselves and each other and inspires us to take action for the common good explore. These findings and more at spirituality study got org elemental human capacities like friendship and love in its many forms teaching and learning have tremendous constant practical force. We don't think of these in terms of what has given our species the grit to endure through hard times and even volve in the long run. There lived social intelligence part of the every day and so can be hard to see a serious amidst the high tumult of our age but these kinds of human qualities are what nicholas kristof studies from his human nature lab at yale and in his life generously lived. I spoke with him in january. Twenty twenty and this conversation shaped how. I made sense of the past year how i looked for hope within it. His thoughts feel more immediately applicable to the world. That is now upon us. He offers a wide lens. A broad perspective that deepens and refreshes it's like standing on a ten thousand foot plateau and noticing. That one hill is three hundred feet and one hill is nine hundred feet and becoming obsessed that what is it. That explains the difference between these two hills. But if you step off the plateau and go at some distance you see that actually those are two mountains and actually the forces you were previously focused on sort of locally rozhin or human action are trivial in comparison to the plate tectonic and volcanic forces. The caused these huge mountains. And it's those kinds of super powerful forces acting below the surface that interest me especially since to my i. Those forces are primarily forces. For good. And i think they've been neglected. I'm
A highlight from #354: The Surprising Upsides of Self-Deception | Shankar Vedantam
"From abc this is the ten percent happier. Podcast i'm dan harris. Hey guys anybody with a passing. Familiarity with buddhism will know that delusion is rarely if ever mentioned in a positive way in fact the buddha included delusion otherwise known as confusion about the way things really are on his list of the three poisons that was one of one of his many many lists the three poisons. The whole point of meditation for the buddha is to uproot delusion along with the other two poisons greed and hatred only then. Can you be enlightened. My guest today is here to valiantly make the case. That delusion or self-deception actually has an upside several websites while he concedes that self-deception can of course be massively harmful. He argues that it also plays a vital role our success and well being in that it holds together friendships marriages even nations understanding. This he says can make you happier more effective and crucially more empathetic with people with whom you disagree. Shankar bottom is the host of the incredibly popular and very very good podcast and radio show called hidden brain. His new book is called useful. Delusions the power and paradox of the self-deceiving brain. In this conversation. We talk about the many ways in which our brains filter and alter our perception of reality why we evolved for such a robust capacity to lie to ourselves and how his research on delusion has colored his view of the chaos and confusion of our modern world one important order of business before we dive in with trucker though it has to do with a very common human condition that you could argue is based in delusion anxiety. If you're anything like me you may know anxiety very well. We want to teach you how to build a healthier relationship with your anxiety in our brand new taming anxiety series a series of episodes that will kick off next week. Right here on the podcast. We'll bring you four brand new episodes that explorer the science of anxiety. The way it shows up in your life and what to do about it and we will be answering the many many questions that you sent us over the last couple of weeks. Thank you for doing that by the way and as more good news. Well-meant it to help you put everything you're gonna hear in this special podcast series into practice. We're also launching a free taming anxiety challenge in the ten percent happier app. What you may ask is a challenge. Here's how it works everyday. You'll get a short video featuring me and conversation with an anxiety expert and also a phenomenal meditation teacher. And then that video will slide directly into a ten minute guided meditation. If you are at all skeptical about the notion of doing meditation challenge. Check out this quote from a podcast listener. Who participated in our last challenge here it. I've literally listened to dan since this podcast began finally at the peak of frustration with the pandemic. How poorly i was managing stress work politics. I joined a challenge. I completed my twenty one day. Challenge had never meditated so consistently. Before i am more aware and i am not alone. Covert is still here uncertainty. Still here how. I choose to manage. All of it has changed so awesome to hear that.
A highlight from Jon Levy - How to Build Deeper Connections with Anyone
"Episode with my co host rl garden. Hello and welcome to another untangle as we begin to open up as the world opened up as people leave their homes and go and connect with one another. The power of human connection takes on a whole new meaning today. We're going examine an interesting take on human connection and how we influence one another with my friend and awesome guest. John leafy john is behavioral scientists best known for his work on influencing human connection. He's been able to connect and foster meaningful relationships with people of all domains. Celebrities royalty nobel laureates and then bring the links in his network together in meaningful ways. John is here to share his insights on human connection with us and show us how to connect with anyone. Welcome john thanks for having me. I'm super excited. That's my joy and pleasure to have you here so let's dive in by understanding a little bit about why human connection is so important we all know. It's important intuitively. Can you put some words around it for us. Oh for sure. So i'll just start off by saying i grew up. Pretty lonely was super kid. And i didn't really quite fit in. This was like before you could actually have cool geeks now. Everybody likes marvel superheroes back then. It was me and like three other kids in my school. So the weird thing is. I thought that that was like a unique experience. Because i would see shows on television where like everybody was hanging out and everybody had friends. Even the geeks and as i was researching my new book. You're invited. I came across something pretty startling in one thousand nine hundred eighty five the average american had just about three close friends besides family by two thousand four must in a generation later. We were down to just about to so nineteen years. We lost a third of our close social ties besides family and that is terrifying terrifying for two reasons. One is that we'd like to blame things. Like social media and technology the real culprit is probably people moving more for work or after school and it resets their social ties but now that trend is probably progressed and with the pandemic and people being locked in their homes and avoiding physical contact. That numbers probably even lower and for me. The most concerning thing about that is that research. From brigham young looked at what are the actual greatest predictors of human long jetty especially the ones that are in our control and after genetics. Which we can't really control for and i'm meeting meaningful way. At least not yet to is close social ties of close friends or family and number one is social integration which is essentially measured by the number of social contact. You have throughout the day but it that sense of belonging that you're part of a community that you're integrated into the way that people interact and if you really look at the research. Loneliness
A highlight from Hermit_Radio #67
"Back. Thanks for listening to her radio. I'm your host cameron. And today i wanna get into a deep conversation. I was thinking this morning and spending time on contemplation and something that. I don't talk about often but i do think about often is the question. Why why do we exist. Why is existing so hard. Why is any of this necessary. And you know some of you are on a spiritual journey and you have your answers that you've come to your conclusions over these years and so of i although i don't come from a place where i feel like i know everything especially when it comes to the universe and the origins of the universe and all of that and even got itself I don't even like the word god because giving any description. You've you've heard about or read about god from any religious texts that always says that it's undescribable It's vastly more than what we can comprehend and for some people they think god is a man in the sky like santa claus. Granting wishes Saying that something that is a god couldn't manifest itself into a person. As a matter of fact. I really think that is all of us. I think we are all God manifested and we are experiencing what it means to be alive and to be a human now even with that. That doesn't necessarily explain. Why like why are we god experiencing itself or the universe right but even the universe think about that. There's more than one universe. So did our god or our creator only create this universe. Is there a god forever universe or is there only one forever universe and for what we understand of space is that it is infinite and it is never ending to lease to what we understand right now. So if that's the case think about how much space and density and time and everything that is truly limitless it again goes to a place where it is hard to comprehend therefore it is difficult for us as humans in this you know three dimensional realm that we live in to comprehend and even understand what that is or what that means and i had an epiphany this morning while having these contemplacion's you know let's start with what everything is right. Everything is experience. Your feelings your emotions. It's all experience when you get cut off and traffic when you become a lawyer in space when you eat cherry all of that is experience and so what is the point of experience experiences to learn right. That's really what we are doing here now as learning but for what end right if god is this infinite thing will. Doesn't it no off. Things doesn't have the ability to understand all things. Why does it need us to fulfil that understanding. And this is where i get hung up. This is the question where i don't understand in in a lot of religious texts and people have the understanding that it's about love but love is also just inexperience. It's also just another thing that we learn. So what is beyond that because love can't be the answer. It may be a facet but it is just an experience. So what is beyond that. What is beyond love. Why if you were. God why would you create all of this. What would be the purpose and one of the conclusions that i had was that at our at least for me in our current present time in. I don't know that we can't understand it because when you start to understand other dimensions something of another dimension right like let's say that there's two entities that live in another dimension. The way that they think about life in the universe is different in dimensions. Different than what we would think it could be way more advanced more than likely would be more advanced so with the current fabric of our understanding. I don't think it's possible to understand what the universe is and why it operates the way it does. But there is a phrase that i just resonated with their. I hope means something to you and maybe it can help you with your every day.
A highlight from Hermit_Radio #67
"Welcome back thanks for listening to her radio. I'm your host cameron. And today. I want to get into a deep conversation. I was thinking this morning and spending time on contemplation and something that. I don't talk about often but i do think about often is the question. Why why do we exist. Why is existing so hard. Why is any of this necessary. And you know some of you are on a spiritual journey and you have your answers that you've come to your conclusions over these years and so of i although i don't come from a place where i feel like i know everything especially when it comes to the universe and the origins of the universe and all of that and even god itself I don't even like the word god because giving any description. You've you've heard about or read about god from any religious texts that always says that it's undescribable I it's vastly more than what we can comprehend and for some people they think. God is the man in the sky like santa claus. Granting wishes I'm not saying that something. That is a god could manifest itself into a person. As a matter of fact. I really think that is all of us. I think we are all God manifested and we are experiencing what it means to be alive and to be a human now even with that. That doesn't necessarily explain. Why like why are we god experiencing itself or the universe right but even the universe think about that. There's more than one universe. So did our god or our creator only create this universe. Is there a god forever universe or is there only one forever universe and for what we understand of space is that it is infinite and it is never ending to lease to what we understand right now. So if that's the case think about how much space and density and time and everything that is truly limitless it again goes to a place where it is hard to comprehend therefore it is difficult for us as humans in this you know three dimensional realm that we live in to comprehend and even understand what that is or what that means and i had an epiphany this morning while having these contemplacion's you know let's start with what what everything is right. Everything is experience. Your feelings your emotions. It's all experience when you get cut off and traffic when you become a lawyer in space. Eat cherry pie. All of that is experience. And so what is the point of experience experiences to learn right. That's really what we are doing here now as learning but for what end if god is this infinite thing. We'll doesn't it know all things doesn't have the ability to understand all things. Why does it need us to fulfil that understanding. And this is where i get hung up. This is the question where i don't understand in in a lot of religious texts in people have the understanding that it's about love but love is also just inexperience. It's also just another thing that we learn. So what is beyond that because love can't be the answer. It may be a facet but it is just an experience. So what does beyond that. What is beyond love. Why if you were. God why would you create all of this. What would be the purpose and one of the conclusions that i had was that at our at least for me in our current president time in dimension. I don't know that we can't understand it because when you start to understand other dimensions something of another dimension right like let's say that there's two entities live in another dimension. The way that they think about life in the universe is different in dimensions. Different than what we would think it could be way more advanced more than likely would be more advanced so with the current fabric of our understanding. I don't think it's possible to understand what the universe is and why it operates the way it does but there is a phrase that i just resonated with that i hope means something to you and maybe you can help you with your every day and that is because it is when something happens when tragedy or grief when those things happen and you in your first instinct as an experience as a learner you think. Why is this happening to me. Why did this happen to somebody. I know or love or why did it happen to this country or why and the answer simply is because it is