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Mindfulness For Beginners
A highlight from From inner critic to inner coach: the self-compassion journey
"We realize that our thoughts don't define us, we can start to observe them without getting caught up in them. It's like watching a storm from far away, instead of being in the middle of it, we can still feel it, but we're not overwhelmed by it. This can help us to see things more clearly and feel stronger even when we're dealing with tough emotions. It's also important to pay attention and look deeply into your thoughts when they're happening. Each time we notice a difficult thought, it's a chance for us to learn more about why we're feeling that way. For example, if we keep thinking negative things about ourselves it might be because we were bullied in the past, instead of getting scared or upset by these thoughts, we can try to understand where they're coming from and show compassion for ourselves. We can imagine holding our younger selves and offering comfort to the parts of us that were hurt. And this can help to he lost from our past experience and accept our thoughts and feelings rather than running from them. Gaining insight from difficult thoughts is a key part of the path of freeing ourselves from suffering. And finally, we can set the intention every day to change the language we use to speak to ourselves. Think about it, how often do we say things to ourselves that we would never say to someone else? This negative self talk can have a huge impact on our well-being. That's why it's important to regularly check in with the language we use and ask ourselves if it's true and kind. When we catch ourselves saying something negative, we can test, is it really true? Is it really true that we're not good enough for the will never succeed? Often these thoughts are just stories we tell ourselves and they don't reflect reality. Once we've tested if it's true, we can then ask ourselves if it's kind, would we see this to a friend who struggle in? Of course we wouldn't, so why do we say it to ourselves? Instead, we can set the intention to use words of compassion towards ourselves every day. We can speak to ourselves with the same kindness and support. That we would offer to a good friend. So let's start journey with a gated meditation on self compassion. So if you want to take a moment just to make yourself comfortable, we'll start with three signs of the bail. And the usual settling in. Introduction.
The Angry Therapist Podcast
A highlight from The Five Stages Of A Relationship
"Who went through his own rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since, sharing my life lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you, I come unrehearsed on purpose because self help doesn't have to be so complicated. Okay, the 5 stages of a relationship. Here we go. Are you ready? Let's get right into it. Stage number one is discovery. This is what they call the honeymoon phase. I don't like the word honeymoon phase. It's two line with sugar. We are discovering we're discovering a new story. We're discovering a new body. We're discovering a new way of being with someone and discovery phase is obviously it's the funnest. Everything is new, right? It's the feeling of test driving a new car, right? It's puts a smile on your face. And it turns that your dial from judgment to curiosity. And it's great. It's like the magical summer, right? Now, right after discovery, stage two, because in the discovery phase, there's also a lot of room to fill in blanks. We are also fantasizing and. We haven't yet taken in the real person. We are only staring at the poster. Of him or her that is taped to our bedroom wall. So we're dreaming a lot. We spend we spend a day or night with that person, and then the rest of the time we're feeling in blanks, we're wondering, oh, what this could be. Lots of dopamine shooting into your brain. It's very exciting. The possibilities are endless, right? The person that you're dating can't do anything wrong. And then of course, the reality sets in and the stage number two is not to be a debut of downer, but it's disappointment. It's the disappointment stage. And it's not that the person you're dating is disappointing. It's because we feel in the blank so much. It's because there's so much room for fantasy in the discovery phase. That when reality kicks in and we realize that or we see the dirty socks on the floor, as I say, now we're a bit disappointed. It's like the rack focus when you see things, you know, in a movie, when the camera focuses on something in the foreground and then the background becomes blurry. So like the camera was on the background and then what was in the foreground was blurry and that's a discovery phase. And then once you get to know the person you're dating more thoroughly, the camera rack focuses where what's in the background becomes blurry and then what's in the foreground becomes clear. And so that's what that's what the disappointment face is. It's the rack focusing of the honeymoon phase becoming blurry and now truth and who the person really is. And what the relationship really looks like is now more clear. And of course, the feeling of that may be disappointment, okay? Phase number three is called the dance, by the way, this is something that I could craft it. They all start with a D, dance is, well, it's the beginning of learning to love someone, every relationship has a cadence, a rhythm, a tone, in the beginning, we are stepping on people's shoes. Of course, every relationship has compromised, the stretch, every relationship holds up a mirror. So the dance stage is all about learning to love your partner, learning to be loved by your partner. And yeah, some days are easy, some days are hard. And this is also part of the process, getting to know
On Being with Krista Tippett
A highlight from Janine Benyus Biomimicry, an Operating Manual for Earthlings
"Years ago, the term biomimicry started turning up as I moved around the world. I'll meet someone in a field that has nothing linear to do with the natural world. But someone creative and inquisitive and also usually markedly kind, who is remaking, revitalizing their world in some corner. Biomimicry is not a science, per se, though it works with science. It's a design discipline that takes the natural world as mentor and teacher. Inviting the intelligence and wisdom of biology and ecology around tables where previously only engineering and construction and material sciences sat. Biomimicry inquires into the mechanisms by which nature solves problems. And by the way,
The Angry Therapist Podcast
A highlight from What If I'm Not Feeling It Anymore?
"Who went through his own rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since, sharing my life lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you, I come unrehearsed on purpose because self help doesn't have to be so complicated. So this is a common topic theme question that comes up often when I'm helping people with relationships. What do I do if I'm not feeling it anymore? And it's never really that simple, right? There's always a story behind that. Unless you've never been feeling it, because a lot of people jump into relationships because they're lonely or they don't want to be alone or it's a part of their rebound story, like they just broke up with someone and they get into something very fast. I actually call it jumping from one lily pad to another lily pad. Where they actually don't sit with themselves, you know, that whole idea of dating yourself. When that doesn't happen and they jump into something really fast and then suddenly that becomes a relationship and they never really felt it. It was something that they got into because they were lonely or that they didn't want to be alone. Or, you know, sometimes people just allow things to happen and they're not proactive about it, right? They're just very passive and it's like someone likes me and someone no one's liked me in a long time so well, I was just go with it. You know, that kind of thing and suddenly you're in a relationship and one day you wake up and you realize that you're not feeling it or you've never really felt it and if you're in that situation, that's a completely different situation. But if you're in that kind of situation where you've never felt it from day one, usually those themselves out, you know what I'm saying? So like usually those aren't sustainable. So those relationships run their course. But if you feel that that's where you're at, then you really have to ask yourself if you want to be in this. And if so, why? If you haven't been feeling it since day one, the chances of it actually appearing or the chances of it of you creating that is going to be extremely difficult. So if you're in something where you haven't felt anything from the beginning, you have to ask yourself if this is something worth investing in, right? And if it's not, you know, you have to decide to either leave it or have a conversation. I think everything starts with the conversation you have with yourself. And then decide, you know, to communicate with your partner and then make a decision on if you're going to invest in this or not invest in this.
10% Happier with Dan Harris
A highlight from 574: Do You Feel Like an Imposter? | Dr. Valerie Young (Co-Interviewed by Dans Wife, Bianca!)
"Everybody. The phrase impostor syndrome has increasingly crept into the culture. If you haven't heard it, it basically means that you feel like you're a fraud. Despite abundant evidence to the contrary. In my own life, I hear a lot about impostor syndrome because my wife, Bianca, who's an incredibly highly trained physician, has long struggled with sometimes crippling feelings of being an impostor. In fact, when I first told her that perhaps she might be suffering from impostor syndrome, she thought, well, that's interesting that some people feel like impostors, but that doesn't apply to me because I'm actually an impostor. And again, this is somebody who and she's going to kill me for saying this. Graduated number one in her class at a prestigious medical school and then went on to do training programs at some of the most renowned academic hospitals in the world. Sorry, Bianca, I know you are congenitally modest, but I like bragging about you as your husband. In any event, as this term impostor syndrome has gained more purchase in our culture, it has also been subjected to an increasing amount of scrutiny and criticism and also confusion. So today we're going to try to cut through some of that with a woman who's been an internationally recognized expert on impostor syndrome since 1982. Her name is doctor Valerie young. She's actually the cofounder of the impostor syndrome institute. She wrote a book called the secret thoughts of successful women. Why capable people suffer from impostor syndrome and how to thrive in spite of it. As you will hear her explain impostor syndrome is not just for women, men deal with it too as do many other people all along the gender spectrum. Doctor young was recommended to me by my wife Bianca, who is also in the midst of researching her own book on this subject. I have a creeping suspicion. She'll get hers done before I get mine done. And then it will trounce me on the bestseller list. Anyway, I actually asked Bianca who's, as I said in the midst of her research, to conduct this interview with me jointly, so you're going to hear her ask some questions here. That's a first for us. Pretty cool. In this conversation, we talked about the three things that define impostor syndrome. Doctor young's contention that impostor syndrome impacts both men and women, but tends to hold women back more. What it means to shift from impostor thinking to thinking like a humble, realist, why we need to
A highlight from Chris Johnson - How a Simple Pause Can Make you a Better Leader at Work and at Home
"Want to give it a try. Let us know how you like it. Today's guest is master somatic leadership coach, trauma psychologist and mindfulness and structure Chris Johnson. In her book, the leadership pause, she shares how to quiet the noise of the daily hustle. So you can hear she says, there's still small voice of purposeful curiosity that lies within you. This spaciousness breeds more wisdom in both your work and your life. In the leadership pause, she shares how mindful awareness can lead to clarity of heart and mind, plus increased resilience and help you to be a better, more natural leader with a clearer vision and a deeper sense of connection to yourself and others. It's all about the pops. Now, here's Chris Johnson. Chris, it's really a pleasure to have you on untangle today. Thank you so much for being with us. You are welcome. I'm glad to be here Patricia. Tell us a little bit about you. And then what inspired you to write this book? Really what drives me personally, I would say in short order is our capacity for conversation as human beings. And to me, that all starts with the pause, which is one of the reasons I wrote the book, because I think that in the culture we live in, that's really fast and talks like this, and et cetera, that what happens is we don't listen as well. And then it makes it hard to ask great question. And then we end up taking action based on not really listening to each other, especially today in the polarizing environment that we're in. So what I'm really passionate about is great conversations. And it's starting with the pause. It's short. And what inspired you to write this book? Well, the truth of it is that I wrote the book because I needed to read it. So I like so many people in business or psychologists like myself. I was really, really driven. And achievement and on that hamster wheel myself. And about ten ish years ago, I was in the process of trying to decide my next direction. And I was working with a business coach, actually, in a program, and he said to me, he's like, Kris, you really need to think about what it is that you really want. And are you giving yourself time to do that? And I wasn't. And I, too, was caught up on that hamster wheel. And so it was like, I really need to take his wisdom to heart and give myself the time and permission to really think about it. And it was in that conversation that the title of the book, the leadership was landed because I realized how much I needed to take applause and how much the people that I was working with also really needed to take a pause. Now, general concept also comes out of mindfulness skills and were you someone that was meditating or studying mindfulness or even Buddhism? Yes. I trained with John Kevin years ago before they had a formal training program. And so I've been practicing and teaching MBSR for over 20 years. Both in the community and also in different corporate and business settings. Bringing it to the leaders who I think really have a lot of leverage to make a huge scaled up difference in terms of how they spread the news. So yes, mindfulness is a daily practice for me and I can go into that more, but for sure. Okay, great. And your hypothesis is that the leadership pause helps to sharpen your attention, deepen your presence and be more attuned to navigating your future and you also say that you believe this is important for any leader given all the complexities we now have in our lives and that we have to navigate. Can you talk a little bit about that? Yeah, for sure, the pandemic put a fine point on this. But we're really living in a world, the vuca world. And you and your listeners may well have heard of the vuca world. It's a term that came from the army military college in the 80s when they were looking around the globe at the shifting economies and businesses. They came up with this term to describe what they saw, which is volatile uncertain complex and ambiguous. And that phrase has made its way into business and people more and more are talking about, oh yes, we live in this world. It is more volatile. It is very uncertain. And for those of us who have been practicing mindfulness, like how do you work with that uncertainty, it is very complex. There are no simple responses to the big wicked problems that we have. And it's ambiguous. So there's a lot of doubt and change all the time. So with that in mind and the clients, the coaching clients that I was working with, their leaders, and we're working with some of these wicked problems. And so they were caught up as I had been, and still get some time in this hamster we have to have all the answers. We have to get it just right. We have to do it yesterday as opposed to right now or tomorrow. Helping myself initially and then helping other leaders just to pause to assess what's really going on. And then to make the best right choice and decision after that is really key. Not to mention all the great health benefits, right? Absolutely. How does it help you sharpen your attention and deepen your presence
The Angry Therapist Podcast
A highlight from How Relationships Are Like Sunsets
"Who went through his own rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since, sharing my life lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you, I come unrehearsed on purpose because self help doesn't have to be so complicated. I wanted to start with a Carl Jung quote. It goes like this. One of the most satisfying experiences I know is just to fully appreciate an individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying soften the orange a little bit on the right hand corner and put a little more purple in the cloud color. I don't try to control a sunset. I watch it with awe. As it unfolds. In this, it is this receptive open attitude, which is necessary. To truly perceive something as it is. I want to apply this to relationships. And I'm saying this because I struggle with this, right? I'm saying this because it's a great reminder for myself. I like many people have a habit, a horrible habit. A damaging habit of putting a black light to relationships. You know, being in my head, falling into the mental trenches, the cognitive distortions, possibly future shipping. Instead of really experiencing the moments like a sunset, you know? And here's what stuck for me. I watch it with all as it unfolds. It is this receptive open attitude which is necessary to truly perceive something as it is. And so what does that look like for you to watch your relationship in all? So for me, when I think about that, I think about because to me, it doesn't mean to not do nothing, right? To me, it means to see the relationship as something that is unfolding in that it has a life of its own, right? Both of you have invested in this and this thing, this living breathing thing, which is your relationship, has a life of its own and to watch it unfold instead of trying to grab control, wrestle, manipulate the relationship to how you see it or what you want. To actually let it be its own thing. You know, it's also, it's also the struggle we have, or maybe I should say I have with raising a child, right? So, your child, even though you created it, or you were part of the you were part of it, then the creation of this child,
10% Happier with Dan Harris
A highlight from 573: Scott Galloway on: The Impact of Work on Mental Health, the Role of Luck in Success, and How Much is Enough
"Work can play a huge role in our sanity and happiness or lack thereof. So today we're going to tackle some common and thorny questions with a guy who has been extremely successful at work and now teaches other people how to do so. We're going to talk about questions such as how much work life balance should we really strive for is hustle culture really dead. What's the role of luck in success? How much is enough and should you bring your whole self to the office as some believe? Scott Galloway is a Professor of marketing at NYU's stern school of business. He's also a serial entrepreneur. He's founded 9 companies, including profit, red envelope and section four. He served on the boards of directors of The New York Times company, Urban Outfitters, and Panera bread. He's the bestselling author of many books, including the four, the algebra of happiness, post Corona, and his latest book, which is called a drift America in a hundred charts. He's also the host of two podcasts, prof G and pivot. The latter pivot, which he co hosts with the legendary tech reporter, Kara Swisher, is a must listen for me. I'm a regular pivot head. So it was cool to meet Scott. Albeit virtually. And this conversation we talked about why work is such a big factor in determining our mental health. What the number one retention factor at work is, how capitalism pushes us toward living to work rather than the other way around. Why he believes men's self worth is so often and maybe too often based on their ability to earn, where he stands on the idea of bringing your whole self to work, how to get over getting fired. His thoughts on side hustles, work life balance and whether remote work will stick around post COVID. Why he says being in the office is very important for younger workers if they want to get ahead, especially younger men, why despite the fact that he has made a great living, he still has economic anxiety. The rare moments when he's able to relax and tell himself this is enough. His self described addiction to the approval of other people. And we talk about the fact that Galloway has some critics. How he handles that while retaining his willingness to go out on a limb and say some pretty controversial stuff sometimes. I should say before we dive in here that this is the first in a four part work series, we are launching. For the next two weeks, I'm going to be talking to guests about issues such as impostor syndrome. I actually jointly interviewed an expert in impostor syndrome with my wife, so that's coming up. We also will be doing episodes on managing conflict at work and whether it's actually possible to be mindful at work. We are reviving the title work life, which we use the last time we did a work series here on the show. There's also a work life challenge available, complete with videos and guided meditations over on the 10% happier app. Just a quick note here that if you're listening with children, there are a couple of curse words included in this episode. Before we get started with today's episode, I want to make sure you know that we've got an entire course on this work life subject complete with videos and guided meditations over on the 10% happier app. In this 7 day work life course, you will cultivate the skills to navigate everything from impostor syndrome, to dealing with difficult people so that you're equipped to handle the natural ups and downs of life on the job. I am joined in this course by my colleague Matthew Hepburn, along with the meditation teacher Don Mauricio, both of whom have been on the show
The Angry Therapist Podcast
A highlight from Toxic Single Behavior
"Who went through his own rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since, sharing my life lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you, I come unrehearsed on purpose because self help doesn't have to be so complicated. We not only think about our exes or playback relationships that went south and wonder what could have been, we not only get into our time machine and we start thinking about what could have been different. Or we're just playing back highlight reels and all of that, we not only do all of this in our heads, we sometimes act on them and obviously I think this is toxic, meaning we will call or text. It's like, we probably won't call. That's a little too much, but we'll tax, you know. It starts like this. It starts with being curious about nx, or maybe someone that we dated and didn't go well. And so we start stalking them on Instagram or social media. Start, you know, going through their feet, seeing their life. And of course, that sparks emotion or a lot of what ifs. And we realize that they're still single. Or their newly single. And then we reach out, right? And it's very subtle. Maybe we shoot them a DM. We're very clever about it too. Oh, you know, by the way, did you hear about this or something that's kind of casual indirect? And we start the conversation. Next thing you know, we wake up in the morning and we just slept with them or we are now in or maybe we're in a giant fight and we realize nothing has changed because we're engaging with them again. So engaging with our exes or in relationships that didn't work out, even if it was short lived, basically round two, or round three, around four, I don't know how many times you have gotten back or given at another chance. You know, one of the things I say is if two people haven't changed significantly, and I'm not talking about physically, right? I'm not talking about someone losing 80 pounds. I'm talking because that's a significant change, but I'm talking about internal change. I'm talking about secondary change. Change that irreversible. Because you have gone on your journey. You know that you are internally a different person, the way that you see the world is different. The priorities you have are different. So unless there's been that much change in two people, the chances are the relationship's going to be the same because, you know, our wiring is the same because the way that we think is the same, the way that we react is the same. And so because those tracks of that relationship has already been laid, it's very easy that when you meet that person again, that you just kind of fall into that dynamic. This episode is brought to you by Shopify. That's the sound of another sale on Shopify. The moment of business dream becomes reality. Shopify is the commerce platform revolutionizing millions of businesses worldwide. They simplify selling online and in person and provide 24/7 support. So you can focus on successfully growing your business. Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at Shopify dot com slash offer 22, all lower case. This episode is brought to you by vonage. Is your business ready to integrate live video chats into your app? Devoted video API makes it simple for developers to build custom solutions that make sense for your business. From providing faster tech support and better customer service to hosting more productive meetings and classes. Live video enhances every conversation. Go live on your terms, with varnish, learn more advantage dot com. Let me give you an example of how powerful relationship dynamics are when you are near your parents. Do you not turn into that 15 year old again? Do you not snap back into the same banter? Does it not trigger you when you're hanging out with your mom or dad or whatever, whoever, sister, brother, for more than a week. And it doesn't matter who you are or how far you've come in this world or what you've accomplished. Because we grew up with them and those relationships are very sensitive. They're triggering and we snap back, you know? And that's an example of how powerful the dynamic of a relationship is. So when it comes to your exes, especially if there was a chaos and lots of toxicity, sometimes I've got to slow down to see the word correctly. You're going to you're going to snap back. And this is why I say if the relationship or if two people are completely different from the inside out, then that then there's room for that dynamic to be different, right? There's room to start over in a fresh way. Okay, so that's obviously a toxic thing going back to someone that didn't work out because you're single and you're wanting to give it another chance. Now, yes, there is a chance that it could work out again, or it could be better, but again, two people have to be different, you know? All right. Another one, this sounds obvious, but our addictions, you know? And it doesn't, we don't have to be technically addicted to something, but any of our addictions where we can lose ourselves. When we're single, if we decide to numb, if we decide to run high, not face, if we decide to just chase after dopamine, and that could be anything from alcohol, drugs, to, I don't know, but parting till I don't know four in the morning or whatever it is that, and listen, if you do it once, you know, I don't think that's a bad thing. I'm talking about losing yourself. I'm talking about not having control over it. Food, you know? Anything where the behavior is unhealthy because it's a form of numbing. And a sex, what else? Or it could also be something that on the surface or from the outside appears healthy. You know, like exercise, you know, exercise can be an addiction. It could, and I think exercise is great when you're single. I think fitness can be an amazing part of your life that makes you feel great about yourself. But if it becomes an obsession, like at what point is it unhealthy, you know? Social media, social media can be an addiction. And I mean, that's how I make my living, and I have to do it, but it could also be addictive in you could actually start to live two different lives and you could not have a life because you're just on social media so much that you're not really living in the real world, right? Like I actually have to tell myself, okay, I'm going to put the phone down. I'm going to get on my motorcycle, drive somewhere. I'm going to act with real humans, I'm going to be mindful of what I'm eating this meal. I'm going to just get off the Internet for a while. If not, it's easy for me because I'm on it so much working. It's easy for me to just live on there. And I think that can be toxic, especially for single. And speaking of social media, dating apps. If you are using dating apps as a way to find the one or your husband, I think it could be very toxic because you know we all know the dating landscape can be very toxic. Everything from ghosting to,
Mindfulness For Beginners
A highlight from Discover how to factory reset your mind
"On the way out. Breathing in, I know I am breathing in. Breathing out. I know I am breathing out. In right.
On Being with Krista Tippett
A highlight from Rick Rubin Magic, Everyday Mystery, and Getting Creative
"I'm in conversation today with the rockstar music producer Rick Rubin. But I'm not really going to talk to him about music. Yes, he has been a singular transformative creative muse for artists across genres and generations. From the Beastie Boys to Johnny Cash from public enemy to the Red Hot Chili Peppers from Adele to Jay-Z to name just a few. But Rick has been looking back these past few years at what he's learned about the creative process itself. And he's published his first book, the creative act about that. The flow and the ingredients by which an idea becomes an offering. Life practices which call that alchemy forth. The mystery of it all that can only be named and wondered at and the ordinary mystery that creativity is a human birthright. A way of being rather than doing that beckons to us all in everything we do from crafting something to conversing to the arranging of furniture in a room. I remember the first time I saw Rick Rubin in a documentary about a record he was producing with the then Dixie chicks. He sat with his eyes closed, listening with his entire body. He was palpably taking them to new places in themselves that they hadn't known how to reach. In this hour, he offers a beautiful and accessible abundance of practices and takeaways for the rest of us too. Our creativity doesn't come from our ideas. Everything we do has all of ourselves in it. It can have all of ourselves. Deeply in it, or it could just be
The Angry Therapist Podcast
A highlight from When To Break Up With Your Therapist
"I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since, sharing my life lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you, I come unrehearsed on purpose because self help doesn't have to be so complicated. I am here with a beverage of friend and some questions. Is it disrespectful to call you a friend? We have a baby together. We've got a couple homes. Baby mama. I am here with a beverage as usual. My baby mama and some questions. I'm okay with that. Question one, how many therapy sessions before I know it's not a good fit? And find someone else. This is actually a really common question. And I think it's important. I want to shed light on the therapy process. We're both therapists, so you could get two different opinions. I think generally speaking, people don't give their therapist a shot. I think people don't stay long enough. I've been guilty of this. We judge our therapist and we say it's not a good fit. And then we try to find someone new and that's not a good fit and suddenly we're juggling two or three therapists and then we realize this is not for me and then we can discourage and then we don't believe in therapy anymore. Yeah, I I think that well there's a couple things are coming up for me. So exactly what you said. I totally agree. I think it's like any relationship. We need to give the other person some time. We need to give the kind of connection a little time. I mean, I would treat this just like I would treat dating. And I tell people this a lot. You do want to kind of interview a few people, see who you get vibes with. There is a certain amount of connection that you want to feel. So I don't think you need to wait too long, but I do think you want to have a connection, right? First and foremost, but also a lot of people don't understand that the therapeutic relationship itself is actually or can actually be one of the most healing components to therapy. So for example, if you are somebody who grew up in a household where you never saw healthy conflict modeled and people just pretended like there was no conflict or there was a lot of cutoffs happening. And let's say your therapist says something that you don't really like. And now you're sitting here going, I don't know, I don't know if the therapist is really right for me. I think I'm going to leave and find somebody else. I might push you to say, well, that's really interesting. Maybe you have an opportunity in this safe container in this safe relationship to explore what a healthy confrontation or healthy conflict might look like, right? And so it becomes a really good testing ground for some of the relational skills that you're learning in the therapy itself. Yes, and also if you are not happy with your therapist before you leave your therapist, tell them. Yeah, challenge yourself to actually use the therapist as an exercise to express, you know? We want to know, like, you know, it's our job to like, if it hurts our feelings, that it's not, you're not supposed to take care of us, right? You're paying for this session. It's your session. So ask, I mean, you know, maybe you could be kind about it, but ask your therapist, what you need. So a lot of times therapists are too passive or neutral and it was good for us and what we needed at the time and then we want more direction or we want our therapist to be more directive, right? You should ask your therapist for that. And if your therapist says that's not how I work, then that's their right too. And then yeah, it's not a good fit. But I would definitely play it out, I think many people, they'll judge the session or maybe one session for getting that therapy as a cumulative process and if the session wasn't good or if the therapist did something that annoyed them, they're like, it's not a good fit. And so most people leave too soon. I think you got to play it out and also before you leave, I think you should express what you want, what your goals are, you know, all of that stuff, and then see if the therapist can meet you there. So to answer your question, when is a good time to actually leave? I mean, I think it's different for everyone. What would you say? At what point do you know that this therapist is done? I think once you've done the communication, so you've had the conversations with them around what feels like it's working and not working. And you've both kind of made an attempt to, I don't want to say fix, but you know, make some adjustments in the relationship or in the working relationship. And if you feel like you've done that and you're not just jumping to the cutoff, which is usually the easy way out and you feel like it's still not working and this person's just not getting you and you're not feeling it, then I think that that's a totally okay time to go. Yeah. Next question is, I'm trying to figure out who I am. How do I know myself? How can I understand the new me? So my first gut reaction is I'm not a big fan of like who I am. Who are you? I think we use that a lot because I think we're always in constant flux, you know?
10% Happier with Dan Harris
A highlight from 571: What Is Holding You Back From Greatness? | Lewis Howes
"Gang, okay, so this episode is a little bit of an experiment. Normally, Lewis howes would not be the type of person I would be drawn to. He's 6 foot four, extremely good-looking, a former pro football player and an all American in not one, but two sports. As somebody who is 5 foot 7 or as I sometimes joke, 5 8 when I'm using my wife's volumizing shampoo and also as somebody who rode the bench and pretty much every sport I've ever played, it is hard for me not to be just a little bit resentful of Louis. Complicating matters even further, Lewis sometimes approaches the subject matters we discuss here on this show, human psychology, the meaning of life, the training of the brain and the mind, et cetera, in a style that is truly quite different from my own. And yet, despite all of that, I really like this guy. I mean, it's hard not to, I think you're going to find the same thing. He's extremely open as you will hear about his personal struggles from childhood trauma to his present day romantic challenges from family drama to failure and self doubt. Lewis is just a guy who's trying to figure it all out. He's a voracious learner. Relentless in his pursuit of his interests. And he will bust his ass to get to the bottom of things in his own life as the kids say today he is doing the work. His main area of interest is what he calls greatness. He hosts a podcast, a very popular podcast called the school of greatness. And he has spent many, many years interviewing people who have excelled in all sorts of areas. So he's become a true student. Lewis now has a new book called the greatness mindset in which he shares what he has learned via all of these interviews and via his own personal work. In this conversation, we talked about the source of his interest in greatness. The difference between a powerless mindset and a greatness mindset, the pernicious impact of self doubt, how to counter your inner critic via a contract with yourself, how to face your fears, the importance of mission and purpose, where selfishness fits into, having a mission and purpose, and we have a friendly debate about his attraction to the so called law of attraction, which is one of my personal pet peeves, a quick audio note before we dive in here. There are some stray sounds in the first couple of minutes, but then it goes away. So bear with us. Before we get started with today's episode, I want to make sure you know that we've got an entire course on this work life subject complete with videos and guided meditations over on the 10% happier app. In this 7 day work life course, you will cultivate the skills to navigate everything from impostor syndrome, to dealing with difficult people so that your equipped to handle the natural ups and downs of life on the job. I am joined in this course by my colleague Matthew Hepburn, along with the meditation teacher Don Mauricio, both of whom have been on the show several times to talk through some strategies for making your work life a little saner and healthier and more successful. You can check it out by downloading the 10% happier app wherever you get your apps and now on with the show. If you are the kind of person who drinks kombucha, you are probably also the kind of person who pays attention to what you put into your body. So here is a fun fact most kombucha's
A highlight from Dr. Emeran Mayer - How The Mind-Gut Connection Impacts our Mood, Choices and Overall Health
"Microbiome with lots of juicy insights on the biological link between the mind and the digestive system. He shares the science behind this communication pipeline and discusses how we can actually harness the power of this connection to take charge of our health and listen to the innate wisdom of our bodies in other words how to listen to our gut so we can learn to pay attention to the signals our body is giving us. A favorite quote of mine from this interview, the time has come for us to empower ourselves to be the engineers of our own internal ecosystem and our bodies and minds. This book goes into a lot more detail so I highly recommend it if you or someone who's interested in the communication between the brain and the gut or if you've ever had any type of gut challenge or disorder, you will find his work to be extremely fascinating. Now, here's doctor mayor. Doctor Meyer, it is really such a thrill to have you on the show today. I'm a big fan of your book, the mind gut connection. So I'd love to start with this. You have been a pioneer in this research and especially in the connection between the brain and the gut microbiome interactions, and I'm curious what originally inspired you to study this and to write this book to share all of this research and valuable information with others. Yeah, so first of all, thanks Patricio for having me on this show. I'm always happy to talk about how this all came about. Sometimes I'm still amazed myself. It didn't come overnight. I have had a career long interest in brain gut interactions in some ways I could say this is even one of the reasons I wanted to medicine because I was interested in brain body and tractions and I picked the gut because it was the most obvious organ for me from the beginning where you can study this and we can have a large number of patients experiencing symptoms. So we have done studies, research I've seen thousands of patients, over several decades, and most of the work was really focused on one clinical condition, the irritable bowel syndrome. This was the prototype for brain gut interactions for a long time. And then about ten or so years ago, the first studies from animals came out about the potential role of the gut microbiome in modulating brain gut interactions, particularly modulating brain function and structure and biochemistry. And I was very skeptical at the beginning because I thought the science that had accumulated over the last four decades, about just brain gut interactions was sufficient to explain certainly most of the clinical issues that come up in a typical practice. So we did one study, the first human study really what we looked at the effect of digestion of a probiotic cocktail over several weeks in the healthy young women, and we found that this had an influence on structure and function of the brain. And that convinced me that it's worthwhile pursuing got very excited, switched my research operation, our research center, fundamentally, in two ways. One is we added two collections for detailed microbiome analysis to all of our ongoing studies. Which also have brain imaging in it. And my own interest spread beyond the IBS and now got interested in a lot of other studies that are now considered potential brain gut microbiome disorders ranging from autism spectrum to cognitive decline to Parkinson's disease in a whole range of others. And that first study that I mentioned to you, we've found an effect of the gut microbiome on the brain. That triggered a lot of interest in the lay media. And I got a lot of phone calls from publishers and agents, and it led ultimately to writing that first book, the mind God connection, after year, it kept increasing in sales and became a bestseller in gastroenterology and has remained believe it or not over 6 years, the number one bestseller in gastroenterology on Amazon. I'm not surprised that it's a number one in gastroenterology because I think when people have stomach disorders and they can't be answered by traditional medicine, they're desperate for understanding what could possibly help them and I would love for you to go over just the basics on what are microbiome or microbes and how if it's possible to just simply explain how they influence the brain. What is the relationship between the brain, the digestive tract and the trillions of bacteria in our gut? The full story, we won't have time here to explain that we've gone for a few hours. And anybody who's interested in the details should read the mind God connection, but so microbes are the dominant life form on this planet and have been for millions of years, they occupy the planet's oceans, have lived there without competition for, as I said, millions of years. Have developed a language to communicate with each other. So when the first animals in evolution appeared, there was an early realization for this microbes that when they live inside the cut of these primitive arena animals that they would get a lot of benefits, they would get the benefits of safety being protected, of being carried around for free. And they paid back the animal, but providing important components that the animal itself could not produce. This was still all in the oceans to symbiosis develop that it was good for
The Angry Therapist Podcast
A highlight from What is Life Alignment?
"Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since, sharing my life lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you, I come unrehearsed on purpose because self help doesn't have to be so complicated. What do you think of when you hear the word alignment or life alignment? Usually people think of intuition, gut soul, a feeling they have that something isn't right. But they can't really put their finger on it. And of course, you know, I agree with that. I mean, I could definitely be a compass, but for me, it's really hard to apply those things when it comes to my life, right? For me, intuition is something that I have not sharpened, and it's not something that I really evaluate when it comes to alignment. So what works for me and maybe I can encourage you to look at alignment in a new way, challenge your definitions or maybe it's adding on to your definition. But what if alignment was tied to your story? I'm a huge believer in our stories and the power of our stories. And I also believe that most of us would like our stories, you know? Especially what happened. We may be excited about the story that we could write, but most of us want to rip out chapters. And when you rip out chapters of your story, your disconnecting with self, your denying everything you've been through, you know, in a way you're erasing parts of you by wanting to rip out chapters of your story. So when I think about alignment, I think about my story. And I play back, you know, just Montage shots of my first image would be ten year old Korean kids. I was going to see what the bull haircut, but that's not true. But by this time, I was rocking a pompadour with aqua net hairspray. And parachute pants. But that kid looking out the classroom window because he hated school. I'm sure I had some kind of attention deficit disorder. And wondering if I could fly, you know, wondering about just other things than homework. And very curious about the world and about, you know, what I could do and wanting to just experience life. And so I got into breakdancing. And got into BMX bikes and usually whatever I got into, I would get obsessed with. I remember building a dirt track digging a dirt track in my backyard. There were these little cars called stompers back in the 80s and you just flipped them on and they're like these little four by four cars that just went forward. And I would dig a track for the cars to go around the track that they're track. And I would dig it in a way where it wouldn't go off the track. And so for that to happen, I mean, you would have to spend hours tweaking the dirt and patting it and all that. Because I was obsessed. Anyway, so part of my story is that obsessive kid and I find that obsessive kid now today, parts of that kid, when I write books, when I make videos, I'm like that with this podcast. I get obsessed for sure. And so when I think about that kid who got obsessed about things and then later grew up and then filled into
10% Happier with Dan Harris
A highlight from 570: You Are Not a Sh*tty Person | Carla Naumberg
"Everybody. There is so much compelling research behind the notion of self compassion. Even though many of us think we need an internal cattle prod in order to retain our edge, research shows that people who have a supportive inner attitude who have their own back, so to speak, are more resilient and more effective, not to mention happier and nicer. And yet it is easy for skeptics, I don't want to name any names, but his initials are Dan Harris. To be turned off by some of the language and practices of self compassion, they can come off as, I don't know, a little bit to some. So today we've brought in a great guest who can put self compassion in plain English and also be very funny. Carla naumburg PhD is a clinical social worker author and mother. I first met her back in 2017 when I was giving a talk at my old high school Newton south high school, go lions, Carla lives nearby, and during the question and answer session, she got up and asked me a rather pecan question about the fact that I was meditating at that time in my life for two hours a day. Here it is. But the biggest obstacle for me is I have two young kids. Yeah. And they have this radar and I crawl out of bed so quietly in the morning and I just like shuffle one foot over to my cushion and they sense it. And they're there. And I think a lot about your wife. And I've never met her, but I've heard you talk about how long you meditate each day, and I'm like, wow, she puts up with that. Yeah. You know, my husband, I love him. But if he was as much as I want him to be enlightened, I want him to unload the dishwasher. And if he was like, I'm going to meditate for an hour. I'd be like, no, you're really not. If he got too enlightening, he might not be able to unload. That's right. That's right. Just watchers loading. Unloading. So I would love to hear if you want to speak a little bit about how your practice has changed since you became a father. Or any advice you have for parents, because that's the biggest thing for me. That's great. So what's your name? Carla. Carla, so one thing immediately that I think would be an easy fix is like, have you ever thought about giving your kids up for adoption? Yes. Okay, so that gives you a sense of what we're dealing with here. Carla is very funny. I've called her a mom with moxie. And like I said, she has a lot to say about self compassion and she does it in a way that I suspect skeptics will find very appealing. She does use a little bit of profanity, which I happen to like. I think it's a feature not a bug. That said, we are posting a cleaned up version of this episode over on our website if you've got kids around or sensitive ears. There's a link to that in our show notes. One other note about Carla, a lot of her books are directed at parents, especially parents who are self critical. But this episode is aimed at everybody. We do talk a little bit about parenting at the end, but it's not the main focus here. Just so you have it, her books have titles such as how to stop losing your shit with your kids and you're not a shitty parent. It is very common for parents to think that we suck. It is also very common for humans to think that on some fundamental level we suck. That somehow we are terrible people. So sit back, relax and let Carla disabuse you of that notion. Before we get started with today's episode, I want to give you a heads up about one of
On The Rekord
A highlight from Episode 98 - March 13, 2023 - Updates
"Volcano mastermind. Let me get out. Let me get off. Know they don't pop and they play with the gang and we standing on top of the bag on the New York place in the bitch. I got chopped at the top of the check. But while in the night I could tell them on crackers I know that ain't good you know rich. I know they don't like me but they be they discipline what made me go late something I tried to find make 9 sparkle they blocking the striker they thought they got straight back from long no glue I ain't fight I ain't no club I be trapped I'm the one that be making half I get that that I was just rapping. Ayy let me get out know ain't no record I'm chasing them down with this switch you gonna run from it uh yeah ayy let me get out I just played the bed with the boogie on and what I'm doing in the kitchen you know what I'm cooking walked in this body with late I ain't trusting no niggas so I gotta go for the drink. I'm smoking these eyes to the face I really like a demon. You thought I'd swap that would say I've been thinking too much about slavery. I took out my chain like they don't rock in the brakes I don't know why they be hating them guessing they throw the money on me and I wanna I ain't got no more place my truck roll the hood I got too many pace. I'm like a Doctor Who they don't stop in my look at my sexy get scared like Jason my life booth I got too many pages I'm selling these rocks if they go by the age. I make them pay by the middle plug daughter ain't no middle man. Get out spend a little bit in the ceiling fan you know black boy trying to get it in. And I do not get OTF 50 no room for the field of me through the Cali flew back with a
Lesley's Lessons Podcast
What Does Real Friendship Look Like? How to Create & Strengthen Friendships - burst 1
"Lessons. So today I wanted to talk about what real friendship looks like. And I find that we can think about what real love looks like, we can tell someone, no, that's not what real love is about. Real love is this real love walks talks, acts like this. But what does real friendship look like? You know, is it coming from a place where you need them to nurse certain things inside of you that hasn't been healed? Things that you know you need to work on, but they're so good at it that they almost enable you to give you a pass so you don't have to work on those issues because they give it to you freely. They have it in abundance. Like if they're just super confident and you lack confidence, you don't have to work on it because they have enough for you. So the relationship works because you have something that you can get from them. What does friendship really look like? Thinking back, I had a few fallouts and in my case, it wasn't so much like there was any argument or anything. They just dropped off and I had to have a true moment with myself, like listen, don't worry about what it sounds like, talk straight. And I would compare it, you know, to a wise counsel and then they'll be like, yo, the common thread is, look at what they're doing and what you're doing and look at what they're not doing, and I didn't want to get into that and, you know, trip off of, you know, my ambitions versus anyone else, I just know I showed up as who I was and it just didn't work out. And I had to understand that there are different scenarios why things don't work out. Sometimes it is you sometimes it's not you sometimes someone knows they can't bring anything else to the table or at that place or they don't want to. Sometimes they're annoyed at your evolution. They're not interested or it's intimidating by where are you going? Last week you were into, you know, drinking till you pass out. Now this week, you're meditating. And just one glass of wine, or what have you, and friendship is something that we just kind of accept, but we don't really filter out. And when we do it's either too late or we just, we just don't do it in time, sometimes. And I just want to know what does it look like for you? Is it someone who's always there, someone who always attends your events? Does that mean they're a friend? Someone who listens to you problems, you get to crown their shoulder, you pick up every phone call. Does that make you a friend? Because there are a lot of things that it can serve both of you very well. You can get an ego boost. It can make you feel better, knowing that you are dependent upon to be there for someone for them to cry on your shoulders, but are you happy? Are you satisfied in the friendship? And I think a lot of times people want to figure things out without expressing themselves. And I don't understand how that can ever work without someone knowing how you feel, so to me, a friend, you know, understands the dynamics and understands what the friend can handle when how much they can handle it and sometimes there's some things you just have to work out on your own or wait till it's the appropriate time to talk if you don't have regard for that then maybe you're really not a friend, maybe you're more concerned with hearing yourself speak but a friendship it goes both ways. A real friendship is not textbook. It's not like a hallmark movie sometimes you need space, sometimes it's almost like a platonic marriage, you know? I'm not going to say that because it's going to start an argument. I'm going to bite my tongue because I know how this is going to end up. But you give each other grace. That's a real friendship. You give each other grace and it's not about just waiting to one day, okay, three strikes, and then I'm going to blow up and throw everything in their face. Then you're not a friend. Because you have an opportunity as they do to express yourself. Why are you waiting until you've reached the boiling point to now all of the sudden bring up everything that annoyed you. So you were just waiting on that moment. So have reasonable expectations for each other and talk about it from time to time. Or, you know, it really doesn't have to be a thing. It really doesn't have to be something that takes away from having a good laugh and enjoying each other's company. Read the room. Read the temperature. No when to say something when not to say something. What is your motivation for expressing what you feel right now? Is it going to hurt the person? Is it going to help make the situation better? Are you going to be a cheerleader or are you going to sit on the side and just be a critic? You know, is it something that they need to stop right now what they're doing just to hear you speak? Or can it wait? Grace. Friendship to me is grace. Grace for the imperfections, grace for, I'm going to maybe hurt your feelings one day and I didn't mean to do it. Grace is about forgiving, I'm sorry I didn't show up in the way that you needed me to show up. But nothing has changed about how I feel about you. Grace is about I was wrong. I just wanted my own way. I just, I don't know what took over me. That's being a little stubborn. We're missing grace. It's antibiotic expectations and being a perfect person. Or being a mind reader and knowing what this person is thinking all the time. It's about saying, you know, this is all I got. I did my best. Or you know what? I don't feel my best right now, and I need you to understand that. Being a good friend is not about doing everything right. It's just about doing your best. Being yourself, loving and embracing someone the way you would want them to do for you. Giving them space when they need it. Allowing people to come to their own conclusion without trying to control the narrative for your advantage and for their disadvantage. Friends, if you are lucky to have someone see you as a friend as you see them, are worth treasuring their worth, appreciating.
Lesley's Lessons Podcast
The breakup is not a personal attack. It's what's best for that person. -
"And just mental capacity when things don't work out. And let's face it, no one wants to prepare for a relationship to be doomed. It's just, that's what happens. Some part of our lives on our journey. And what do you do? Recently, I recorded an audiobook. How to turn a breakup into a breakthrough, and move on like a boss. And it's really a mental thing. You don't have to be a boss and a company or anything like that, but the attributes of a boss. Being in control, taking charge, going after what you want, getting to business, project management, you can take attributes of a boss and apply it to your emotional side. Because we don't want to stay in that space, right? It's not good there. If you stay too long at that space, all you're going to do is get depressed. If you look in the future based on that space, all you're going to do is feel anxious and we don't want you to feel anxious, we want you to be in the present and be your best. And I wanted to speak to people who often get overlooked. I find that sometimes we keep it a little a little bit more surface a little bit more general when it comes to talking about dealing with a breakup. Not everyone has handled it in a model way, you know, not everyone becomes friends, not everyone is able to just get up out of bed, brush their teeth, start their day without feeling like they're dying inside. Not everyone understands no is no. And you have to stop contacting me, stop acting like we're still together. And I wanted to bring that together in a safe space for people who are in different areas of the spectrum of accepting a breakup. Understand the triggers of what caused the breakup, the duels and don'ts of what you don't want to do that's only going to make things worse for yourself and what you can do to heal and move on. Granted, you might be the person who might still have a chance with someone. But I didn't want to focus on that. That's your journey to decide. This is about someone who it is clearly over and you are struggling to get a hold of it. You might look put together on the outside is still doing the same things, still getting your coffee, tea, going to the gym, getting your hair done. You still doing the routine on the outside, while on the inside, you're dying inside, and we don't want that. You have the capacity to heal. You have the ability to thrive in life and to move on. And what do we often do? Let's see who we can get involved in our life to kind of distract us, try that. Let's DM someone. Let's flirt with someone and see what happens. Try that. And everything that you've tried has not worked, and you find yourself going around in circles and more frustrated as time goes by. And I just wanted to, in my own life, I've dealt with people who haven't accepted a breakup. And I know how that felt on my end. Was I not direct enough? Why is this happening? Why are you so why are you still there, why are people stalking people? Why are people abusing people shaming people airing dirty laundry or trying to get them jealous? Like, why are you doing these things trying to embarrass them? Why are you doing these things when the breakup is really not personal? It's not a personal attack. It's what's best for that person. So either if you're the person that's struggling to accept the breakup, you're hurting, you want desperately that person back. You want that person back or you just don't know what to do. There's something for you in this book. And there's something for you. There's jewels of advice for you in this book. And my goal wasn't to make someone feel ashamed of how they feel, but to feel comfortable knowing that you know what? I've been trying to deal with this on my own, but I don't have to tools. I don't know what to do. I'm going to my usual moves in my own mental survival kit, but it's not working. I need new energy. I need a new way of thinking. How to do this in my life. And it can be tough when you feel like just abruptly something drastic happens in your life. And you don't know what to do. It's uncomfortable. The pattern was unexpected, even if you had an idea, you didn't think it was going to happen right now. So I just want to encourage you that it's not too late, and it's not too late for you, but we have to get you to focus on you right now. It's time to check out of the usual routine the things that you're doing and let's get to work. Because life still needs you. And it's about being motivated to live life. And this is just a small step in your life and there's so much more to come and I want that for you. So if you are dealing with a breakup or could have been a year ago, it could have been ten years, 20 years ago, isn't it time to get back to you? Isn't it time to laugh again? Get those laughs back. Get whatever you feel like you lost from that relationship back in your life. Get some your smile dance again, you know? So I hope this is able to help you. If you are looking for something to listen to, I encourage you to check it out. I just thought about how grew some it can feel sometimes. How you can feel isolated with your pain. And I didn't want that feel. I wanted to write a book to help people no longer feel isolated with their pain, but to feel inspired to come out of their shell and heal and move forward in their life. There's one thing to tell someone you got this, go for it, you'll be okay, but I wanted to take it a step further and help put steps in place to help you know how to do that. Be your own hero, you have the capacity to save yourself. You just have to look and see that you are wearing a life
Spark My Muse
Breakdown of Meaning and the Courage to Despair: Insights of Paul Tillich [SSL 205] - burst 2
"Existentialism as it appeared in the twentieth century represents the most vivid and threatening meaning of existential in it the whole development comes to a point beyond which cannot go it has become a reality in all the countries of the western world it is expressed in all the realms of humans spiritual creativity it penetrates all educated classes. It is not the invention of a bohemian philosopher or of a neurotic novelist. It is not a exaggeration made for the sake of profit and fame. It is not a morbid play with negativities elements of all these have entered it but it itself is something else it is the expression of the anxiety of meaninglessness and of the attempt to take this anxiety into the courage to be as once-off
Real Ass Affirmations
Finding The Pieces of Yourself That You've Lost
"Is easier to go. Sleep is easier to procrastinate. Is easier to stop doing something. Because you're not feeling it right now but the things that we do on a daily basis provide us with the goals and the achievements that we want and it's just really hard sometimes to see your way clear through that forest through that foggy day to say i got to get me back like this was really happening right now right. You're in a situation where you feel like you've lost your self and the only person that can get you back. Is you so all the excuses that you've told yourself all the naps that you've taken all of the phone calls and emails that you didn't respond to all of the times that she said you were going to go somewhere and you were going to do something in the you just like faggot. I'm not doing it. All of that is because you lost a piece of you and you need to find that piece of peace which allows you to be as great as you possibly can now what you have to do in order to find that it's going to be different for each individual partisan but i'm a big for that you already know what's missing you already know what would make you happy. You already know what's not bringing you joy right now so when you evaluate this and you take inventory of who you are who you were and who you want to be. They may not be the same person. Oh shit somebody's just realizing this about themselves on Yeah issue you know who you. Were you know that there were certain things that brought you joy in that made you happy. And they're not doing it for you anymore and there are other things that you may be didn't even think about right and now that thing is making you happy and it is breaking you a piece of peace. So who do you need to find. You need to find you because some where along the line you lost the most important person to you which is yourself
On The Verge
You Get To Make This Up!
"You get to make this up. I thought about that this morning. When i was sitting with my journal and all of a sudden i wrote morning messages. Go back to morning messages. And i thought to myself as my as my doubting mind came in all. But you've tried that and you've gotten tired or you've got lost things to say or you weren't sure if it was working or not and then i wrote down in the next moment you get to make this up and not only do i get to make it up and try again. Get back on the horse. Do these morning messages again. But you get to make up your life as well you know at the end of the day. No one's really watching. No one's keeping score. No one's keeping count that you stopped and started something that you tried several times and maybe felt like you failed. No one is really watching so you get to make it up. Think about the things that are moving through that creative energy that creative impulse. What is it that is nagging at you in those early hours of the morning to pick your paintbrush backup to to try something new in how you move your body to let go of something. That's not working. We get to make this up and as we all know now after a year and a half of incredible uncertainty in the world. Nothing is forever we can change on a dime as we all had to change during the pandemic. We all became so nimble so flexible. Even if we didn't want to we did it anyway. Well how about if you want to help out if you want to change you wanna make it up. If there's anything that i can share in these morning messages. And i hope it comes through loud and clear is that we get to change. We get to change our story. We get to let go of what doesn't work anymore. We get to embrace who we are becoming and so if that means doing something that you've tried ten times before but you have a new impulse to do it just like i do with these morning messages. Then go for
Why Creativity Equals Productivity With Author Joe Sanok
"You have got so much to say about creativity and productivity. Why is it that creativity causes us to be more productive. What's that all about. Yeah i think intuitive we know this and a lot of the science backs it up as well but just think about when you have your best ideas you know when you're stressed out or maxed out. It's when you're taking a shower when you're out for a hike when you're on a long drive and maybe turn off the radio for a while It's when our brains are able to rest when we're not really in that fight flight or freeze and so we know that if we're going to be more creative it doesn't start with having a week. That's maxed out and stressed out and then we have a weekend where we're just recovering that we go right back into it. It's where we start with the slowing down when we start with that that mindfulness and we allow our brains to relax. I and ask those hard questions of. What is this weekend. need From me and from my brain. How do i best myself for this next week. the idea that we work five full days and then for two days we take off. It just doesn't work anymore. And as we look at the research on the forty workweek and about making thursday the new friday we see emerging more and more that countries and businesses that are switching to a four day of work three days off are seeing better productivity and creativity.
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Why We Need More Humanness on the Internet
"We just need more humanness on the internet. I think we think we have it. But i don't think we're there yet I don't think we're there yet. I know this. Because as soon as i like. Put a camera in front of my face or start talking on instagram stories. Or even go live. It's like i'm a nuanced version of myself. I'm still me. I'm still real. I'm still authentic. But i'm trying to be authentic. Does that make sense. So it's like. I'm almost not even thinking about how i'm talking now versus how i talk to my podcast right like i. I'm trying to convey something. So because of that i'm trying. I'm just a different version of myself. It's not it's not this like raw version of my of myself. I think that's we missed that online. And i think it's because like there's all these ways that we mask rate there's like professionalism and all these things and they make sense. I'm not saying we do away with those. But i just think that there's there's some kind of veil that if we could take it down online and really see more of ourselves. I think that's what tick talks doing right now. Honestly a lot of these talking head videos people are just having conversations about how they feel or literally breaking down into tears talking about their experiences and people are actually relating to other
Why We Need To Live Deliberately in the Present Moment
"Here today with murray history murray. Are you in mindfulness mode today. I certainly hope so. Well tell us murder. What does mindfulness mean to you. What does mindfulness mean in your world question and for me. Mindfulness is about. Are we living deliberately. Are we living awake to the moment or are we kind of in default mode in some automated program preprogramed robotic kind of existence. And i think we can all relate to that certainly some past point in our lives. We're just going through the motions and really for me. It's about how present. Can i be because we talk about presence in mindfulness quite often right. I mean it's the present moment right. It's a lot of practices of meditation techniques to connect with the present moment and. I'm sure everyone that's listening. Has heard the term present moment and connecting with the present moment and maybe has some techniques for that. Why are we interested in the present moment right if we take a step back and say what does the present moment offer that is tantalizing or should be of interest. Why not live in the past. Why not live in the future. They could be one of places of the imagination right. Well it turns out the present moment. Right for me is really intimacies domain. If we want to have an intimate relationship with life in all the relational aspects of life which is the people places and things that are around us. We want to have an intimacy with that then. We must be aware of it right now. Not in the past and not in the future because the person's right in front of us and expecting some interaction not in the past another future but right now and what's the benefit of intimacy will the benefit of intimacy is more love more sharing ke- and we're relation. Of course that creates. I think what we all want. Right ultimately