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Your Craving Mind With Kevin Griffin
"Okay. Kevin griffin great to meet you. Thanks for doing this. Nice to meet you dan. So i'd love to hear your overall thoughts on the addictive nature of mind. I know the big big opening question but If i could just get you to hold forth on any little piece of that big topic. I let's start there. Yeah well when we sit down to meditate this is what we encounter. And i think that what's so hard for people when they start to meditate and we hear this all the time and i know you hear this all the time that people say i can't meditate. 'cause i think too much which i always sort of take as an insult like i can. Meditate. 'cause i don't think that much are you implying not thoughtful. But we encountered that just stream daleus of thoughts and we. We immediately try to work with that. Just keep coming back to the breath and if we watch that process and kind of put it in the framework of the buddhist teaching on suffering. Which is you know. The suffering is caused by clinging. Always start to realize. Oh what's happening here. Isn't just that i'm thinking it's that i'm clinging to something and so then comes this question. What is it that i'm clinging to. Am i really clinging to what i'm going to have for lunch or whatever it is that i'm thinking about is the content of the thought really the thing that's holding me that i'm trapped in and then as we go deeper into this we start to see that it's not that that there's broader deeper implications of what's going on in that process the end point being if i can cut to the end of the story that were clinging to self because it's the thought it turns out as we get deep into this that the thoughts are what define us what create this idea of self and letting go thoughts is a threat to that existence of ego so that's the ultimate addiction is the addiction to self. So i think. I got in deeper than i was expecting to. Your first question now is perfect. There's no such thing as too deep. I struggle a little bit with understanding the notion of addiction to self. Can you say more about it. Because i it feels right directionally for me but i am not quite sure i've crystallized it in my own. Mind what you mean by it well. I'm not sure this is an answer but you know i don't know if you know him. Great english mark in the thai forest tradition loves to quote a study that showed that people were more afraid of public speaking than they were of physical death and his conclusion. Being that people are more afraid of ego death of making a fool of yourself in public then they are of of actually dying and you know from your studies as well that this becomes a kind of mushy territory somewhat. Because their the buddhist says that there's nothing we can point to that is self after very careful how we talk about this because people say the buddhist says. There's no self well. The scholars say that's not accurate. And it's important distinction right but there's nothing we can point to that self however the way we relate to i is through thought i think about myself. All my thoughts are about me. One of the reasons. It's hard for people to stop thinking is that there's a fear and can feel it when you get to that edge. You only get to that deepa place on a retreat but you kind of get to this edge and spike. You're looking into a chasm like what is myself who am i
Pandemic Self Care with Jondi Whitis
"Hey everybody i always tells me that. We're preparing we are now. We're live on facebook so welcome back to our conversations on pandemic self care then. We'll go into some other care. Discussions as well and i'm very excited to have with me today. John d. bias. So welcome john thanks. I'm glad to be back. Yes i'm i'm happy to have you here. We had a little chat before we hit a record or not record going live which is so awesome. going to talk a little bit about some self care and then kuo regulation. And yes but i tell let people know what it is that you are what you do great. My name is john d. And the last name johnny whitest. Nobody remembers that anyway. But you know not having reached share. Proportions johnny widest. And what i do. Is i go around and i help. People feel better fast so i have a private practice. Yes of us probably listening. But also i'm a trainer on the master trainer of trainers with the oldest original and registered charitable educational association. Way too many words. What does that mean. It's a noncommercial Association of people like myself that train if turkey and tapping professionally and we do it at the highest standards that we can and were even a registered charity so it is not a smokescreen noncommercial kind of place non profit. We actually mean. And so what are we try to do. We try to stretch gary craig's original tapping Diaspora into an even greater than his own eight or nine million across the globe. We try to keep that going. It's a it's a legacy and a privilege and what does that mean. It means that this tool which we know from our last conversation if you missed that real quick. It's it does three kinds of care. Which is why it's so wonderful and i call it the people's toolbox self-care crucial and non negotiable. It's perfect peer to peer care. We all need that. That's the connection that ends isolation and we all need that perfect and then at deeper levels like an iceberg. Those of us who are skilled in doing it because of practice and certification and accreditation and all the things we go through to make sure that we give the public the finest we have to offer. That's when we use it at the deepest therapeutic care level for traumatic relief and release and things like that. But look i'll three of those things are so wonderful. Somebody is going to get some great relief out of any one of those levels and all over possible. So that's what i do. Yeah well thank you. And i love it that you said connection because i'm not kidding when i say you're maybe my fourteenth live of past podcast guests and i think the word connection or connect has come up in every single one of them and how critical that is at this time was what we're going through especially these times right because social isolation you know physical social isolation is not good for most of us. We're not paying too bears. In our not polar bears we are heard like critters and we do. Best thrive best in connection with others. And when that's impossible or the flip side of that little too much connection but we're not used to. It don't know what to do with it. That's also very very unsettling because now on top of being uncomfortable we have all these uncomfortable feelings about. I shouldn't feel that way about my family. My roommate my uncle whatever it is right and so inside double whammy.
How Meditation Can Be A Welcoming Heartspace
"Let's take a few moments to find. Whatever posture serves you. Whatever way of sitting standing lying being allows you to feel a sense of presence and ease also feel a sense of safety. Do you feel grounded. Feeling perhaps yourself the gravity and the sense of being on this earth rooted belonging kind of like a mountain sitting with strength and balance also federal. A station. snus around you that. There's there's room in this world for whatever arises. One of my favorite translations of mindfulness is from the chinese that it means present tart sweet feel our intention to bring that presence at heart presence to whatever arises began in a simple way. Breathing together might very consciously extend the in rest now to account of five so breathing in inhaling filling the chest in the lungs and a slow out breath to the counter. Five letting go letting go breathing in nice deep in breath a slow out breath so you can feel. The sensations of the xl as the breath leaves the nostrils again inhaling deeply filling the chest lungs and then as you exhale feel a sense of letting go letting go letting go and then as the breath comes back into its natural rhythm just notice the quality of presence such here the sense of being right here right now that we can touch into even with just a little bit of focused attention we can deepen that presence as bring that gentle attention to the body that heart presents to the body you might begin to softening the is leading the brow be smooth receptive to the sensations that wake up as you relax in the region of the brow perhaps the flickering of light dr at the lids you might bring a slight smile to the mouth which sends a message to the whole nervous system to relax to let go fight flight freeze so it's possible to feel more of a sense of that. Benevolence towards whatever's arising. The job unhinged perhaps the tongue filling the lower palate maybe relaxing down to the root of the tone then opening a receptive way to the sensations in the mouth. Just noticing as you relax that you can be more intimate with sensations. Allow the shoulders to drop away from the neck. Let the awareness fill the shoulders see can feel from the inside out including whatever tension or tightness. Is there with a gentle presence. A soft attention. Notice if there's any natural letting go releasing relaxing the hands are asked in a very easy and effortless way you might explore softening the hands softening again.
How To Manage Stress, And Adapt To Change
"This is episode two thousand two hundred and twenty. Six of the daily meditation podcast. I'm mary medically and welcome back to dave five. We are mid week in our series. And i wonder how you're doing with your quest this week if you're new here every week we do a challenge where you go on a quest to take you a little more deeply into today's theme well on day five of our theme to manage stress triggers. You're going to be guided in a meditation to focus on one of the biggest stress triggers out there and that is how to manage stress from job loss or loss of any status. Having to do with how you view your self image so this could even do with a volunteer position or a few go to school not participating in a sport or activity or something where you gain a lot of value and a source of your identity so your challenge is to look for the opportunities in regard to stress. There's usually a hidden silver lining that. I'd you may not notice right away because you could be so absorbed in managing your stress but in hindsight when the dust settles you can usually find opportunities. That weren't there before even if you had to learn a hard lesson you've gained so much value. And that makes you a little wiser and it also usually requires you to reach out for additional resources that you may not have had previous to the particular stress you're experiencing today with the corona virus. Many people have changed the way they work. Or if you're a student out there the way you go to school you might not be able to go to the meetings where people looked up to you or take part in sport where you stood out and you gain so much value from being on a team. Many of you have reached out to let me know you feel like you're going through a bit of an identity crisis. I want to share a message from my fellow meditators. This is from kim who's reaching out from baton rouge louisiana and kim says that she is stuck at home. She says that even though many people tell her how lucky she is that she's able to finally work from home. She feels like it's a big loss in her life. She says when. I wake up in the morning. I don't feel that same urge to get up and start my day. I feel a sense of drag feeling stuck at my makeshift desk in my home. I miss seeing my colleagues. I even miss things such as the rickety chair at work and the coffee maker. that never worked correctly. I miss connecting with people. I realize how much of a sense of identity. I gained from simply being in a different location. I felt like when i would go to work. That i was up to something important that i had a mission that i mattered. And now i feel like i live in the shadows. Thank you so much. Kim for your honesty for sharing your heart in this message. I think we all feel a little like we're living in the shadows because we're trying to be so careful with the coronavirus. I take a walk at least once a day. Where i live and i was just noticing the other day how it now seems normal to see someone approaching and to distance myself as far as i can from the person so this is definitely a different way of life that we're living and even if we're out there among people were still most of us being careful trying to distance ourselves as best as we can. So that's what this episode is all about and asher guided in today's meditation. I'm going to guide you to feel a sense of opportunity or freedom if you're experiencing a loss of status or a sense of feeling as though you're not able to be fully who you are so as you get ready to settle yourself down and meditate set up street and closure is
Ordinary Dude Creates Meditation Books for Men
"John. Wailer has been meditating since he was seventeen years old. He says that it's helped him. Overcome anxiety panic attacks and even saved his relationship with his now wife was actually his girlfriend at the time. But unlike a lot of meditators. John doesn't completely by into the hippie culture surrounding meditation though. He says that there's nothing wrong with that. He found himself wanting to connect with people outside that space especially hoped to encourage men who had previously written off the idea. That's his desire to write an ordinary dudes guide to meditation john to dispel the myths and preconceived notions about meditation. But this wasn't his first experience with writing professionally. John works as a freelance writer and published his first book a few years before called backpack abroad now through that first publishing experience he ran into many pitfalls it a difficult time. Learning how to self publish on amazon says that he didn't have a great cover which makes a big difference so he's changed since then taking all that he'd learned he wrote him publish his ordinary dude guide. Unfortunately the second book didn't do well eater and the first six months. It only sold twenty copies. John was disappointed. He really believed in his book. And even though it was nonfiction he knew he had a novel idea. He couldn't find any other meditation. Books that catered to men and especially non that had a beer can on the cover. That's when he discovered amazon advertising he started using it an invested. Just twenty five dollars a month i. He sold twenty seven books in august that year and then released a paperback version september. Once again he saw a significant increase in sales. He hit his first five hundred dollars in december of that year when he spent one hundred and twenty five dollars on advertising from there he figured out that marketing was his key and he began to write even more books. In fact between october twenty eighteen in september twenty one thousand nine hundred. John published four more. Titles like the meditation guide. The new books also centered around themes of enlightenment and mindfulness. They were all directed towards his target audience of well ordinary dudes. Sales didn't really pick up until his six called a dude's guide to the couch. That one wasn't unexpected. Hit regularly bringing in five hundred dollars a month on. its own. the whole time. John was writing. He was also focusing on improving his advertising strategy. After learning how vital it was to the sale of the first book. He knew that learning as much as he could be invaluable to the future of his business. This meant expanding beyond amazon. Putting all of his advertising eggs in one platform basket was dangerous as he saw it. He was playing on someone else's turf when they wanted to change the rules his sales could plummet actually happened from time to time which served as a good warning now. John uses many strategies although he's had a blog for years it wasn't until june two thousand twenty. He began posting on it frequently in september. Twenty twenty he began using this service q promote to boost his blog. Posts using this service has posted racked up over twelve thousand shares in just the last four months. Not only that but his sales went up by twenty percent. According to john this is one of the techniques finally allowed him to break through making a thousand dollars a month consistently and get the biggest bang for his book moving. He currently has six more titles. He's in the middle of writing six much more prolific than me. But he also wants to spend more time freelancing which is his main source of income. Not only that but he wants to do this while still expanding his knowledge marketing for a while. He was pencilling in way. Too much work and his health began to suffer since then he's decrease the workload taking care of himself more and his businesses thrived in response. John confident that he will continue to rise to the challenge spreading the word about meditation one ordinary dude at a time. So think about this idea of a large market that we associate with a certain type of person whether right or wrong. Maybe there's some stereotyping there when we think about meditation for example. Obviously it's not all hippie. Women who meditates but what john observed is there are a lot of men who didn't connect to it or didn't relate to at least on a surface level so that's the question. What other markets can we associate with a certain type of demographic or psychographic where the topic the actual thing can be relevant for lots of other people if only the messaging is changed. Somehow i think about in portland. There's a woman owned school for carpentry and other trades and it's not just women owned it's classes for women to learn about carpentry and all these kinds of traits story there. But i assume that at some point they thought you know there could be a lot of women interested in this but historically women are not targeted by other schools workshops or classes. There's been association that it's mostly men who are doing it anyway. It's not all about gender you can think about something entirely different. Think about genealogy think about gaming think about something that you might not associate with younger people or with older people or something totally different. You get the idea here is like you take popular movement consider who might be missing out on it and that's where your opportunity is
Finding Inner Strength Through Meditation, Day 4 Living Authentically Series
"What your intuition is revealing to. You can't be heard when you're distract worrying about negative conversation you had with someone or you're feeling anxious and uncertain intuition only reveal itself and stillness. Because this is you. this is your true self. it's when you allow yourself silence and stillness. This is way you allow your soul to shine with your inner truth. So i would love to hear from you to know how your meditation ritual is coming along. Make sure you subscribe so you. Don't miss an episode and you can reach out to me by sending me an email message to mary at scipio. Dot com or the best way is by sending me a message on my and own instagram. And send me a direct message there and let me know how your meditation ritual to light up the sky and i am happy to know that someone is also out there. Meditating looking at the beach in florida wherever you are. I encourage you to meditate outside. In fact many of you recently have sent me photos of your meditations outside. And i so appreciate that so for your meditation today. You are invited to do. What is called a mood draw. A mutiara is a seal is a way you hold your hands and fingers when you meditate and it forms a connection with a corresponding region of your brain. That's why it's referred to. I believe as a seal in the ancient sanskrit language of india which has been around for over five thousand years. They're still abundant practice today. Four today is called the naga mudra to do it. Holds your palms in front of your chest and hold your left palm upright in front of your chest and then place your right hand palm facing your chest right on the back of your left hand sideways. So you're forming a cross or the plus sign with your hands and now take your right thumb place it into the palm of your left hand and then cross it right over your left thumb. You can see a photo of this on the on instagram. So
Sharon Salzberg - Mindfulness to Heal Ourselves and The World
"I'm always excited to interview. Sharon salzberg one of the most prominent voices in the field of meditation. Co founder of the insight. Meditation society and author of eleven books including new york times bestseller real happiness in today's interview. We have a conversation about her newest book. Real change. mindfulness to heal ourselves and the world. It's an incredibly timely book. And sharon has a way of expressing complex ideas in her signature. authentic down to earth style. She invites us to rethink how we approach some of our most difficult emotions. She also shares some great examples of how we can bridge the world's of mindfulness and social action. Now here's sharon sharon. It is so great to have you back on tangalle. Thanks so much for being with us today. Thank you so much. I want to start with this question. What has this last year. Been like for you. What are some of the ways that you have been challenged and coped with twenty twenty. It's been strange. It's strange to even think that it's musty year. That's one of the strangest things of all. I think where did that. I'm go like enough. It's because it's so largely unstructured. Or because i'm not traveling or has that kind of groundhog day. Feeling like oh yeah waking up in the same place. It's been a long time since i did that. Everything is you say. It's been challenging. It's been extraordinary. I have not been traveling colleges on online. And some of the very very touching things that happened that way. First of all everything is really international people signing in from abu dhabi and saudi arabia russia. And what time is it and people having such a hard time. It's so moving to see both the goodness of people and the incredible stress whether you're at home or working outside the home Facing all this uncertainty and difficulty. It's very tough so one of the things that happened for me. This year is that i had a book. Come out which was like the oddest time. Everything about writing the preface of the book. I think has been the hallmark of my year more than anything like the supposed to command. Last june came out in september because the publisher press founded. A friend of mine was reading it and said this was some time in march or april himself. This friend was quite quite anxious because of the virus and he said he kept reading the examples. I've put it in the book and thinking. That's what major ryan says. Wait till you see what's main so taking that feedback. I went back to the publisher. And i said would it be okay with few if i knew precious contextualized the book. It's everything people are dunk and they said fine. So the overarching question. I kept asking myself in writing. That preface was still true time so much grief and loss in craziness on certainty and shattered expectations. What still true. what can i can't on what's upholding me. What am i relying on it. And that brought me right back to these central's of my practice and that still my question to myself all the time to ground my understanding and what i really care about the most yeah. It's a really interesting question because one of your goals was to bridge the world's of mindfulness and social action and yet i love what you just said about. Coming back to the essentials had does mindfulness. Help us with us. I think you originally. I was drawn to writing about the topic for largely to populations in that quickly expanded after the pandemic but the first was groups that i've been working with it very meaningful for me. In the last several years people we call caregivers. Keep thinking there's a better term. But either in their personal lives the relational lives their professional lives. They are caring for others. Split really on the frontlines of suffering and they say are upholding this world as we know it as we are counting on it and they're often unheralded uncelebrated unsupported it started with domestic violence shelter workers that was a four year program the garrison instituted an international humanitarian aid. Workers now back on offense to frontline medical personnel. It's so moving. mean here. People with enormous care and compassion for others in. They're burning out not because of lack of that but some other thing. Maybe it's compassion for oneself for some kind of or even poignant recognition of the limits that we have like things. Don't change right away and the system is not going to respond. Whatever system is not going to respond to our demands. The we were in control and things. And i thought who else is like that and i thought oh activists greeley trying to change the world not just activists as we might think of the chairman. Actually in the book also is a conversation. I had with bell hooks. And she was saying that she she doesn't like the term social action because she's concerned that maybe people would only think about marching or protesting and she looked at me so we're about art which also carries forward into obviously new terrain and takes courage an ability to step up to uncertainty. In all of that. I think there are a lot of people like that and i wanted to help offer at least an experiment. Some contemporary tools to see that could help one's efforts in your family and your community whatever more sustainable and then there's another group of people that i obviously know well which is meditators people who have done that introspection or self reflection or you some contemporary method and have found their hearts genuinely expand and compassion. Classic example would be somebody saying to me. I was taking a walk and somebody on the street came up and asked me for dollar it. I gave them a dollar. Because that's always been my practice. But this is the first time i ever looked at person in the i realized that was another human being. I've heard that some version of that so many times but so often. It feels like anything i can do is so negligible some meaningless. So nothing and so. I wanted to help and still some since it agency in those people and then when the pandemic happened is the circles expanded the care giving role and having just see the world bed is and fusing wisdom and compassion finding a sense of agency when days so determined by circumstance. All of that. Just in new relevance from me and you talk about with meditation that it is a way to practice generosity and to connect with something bigger. How does it do that even for those of us. That have been meditating. Longtime are those of us that are just starting to meditate. What is the way in which it does that. Well they could start with something. You were really alluding to before which first of all to sit on center at a greater sense of being censored in many many ways of doing that and attendant to that skill is also learning how to let go of distraction and fragmentation things that are taking you away gently and return your attention to whatever. The object of meditation might be that. You're trying to center on and being able to do that again. And again and again to let go and begin again is itself kind of resilience training. That's like the foundation is to center and then we cultivate an ability and this is part of what my the sexually means. We cultivate an ability to be with what becomes predominant and that may be very painful. Feelings tremendous sorrow grief our anger or fear. Whatever and not to think that's bad or wrong or now having a bad experience in meditation it's challenging but it's bad because it's important that we be able to be with those feelings in them. Were genuine way like this is not a visual medium. And i don't have the right cup in my room anyway. People are taking making me cups with sayings of mine. I have one that says we feel what we feel. We feel instead of feeling. It should have been able to stop this. Why is still here. Meditating his years in therapy forever shouldn't be as we feel. We feel and we need to allow every feeling the dignity of an. It's reality which presents but we also need to look at how we are relating to that feeling because often we pylon on the on whoever feels that sense of isolation. This is the only thing i will ever feel. So it's a sense of permanence. What's it gonna feel like tomorrow and the next the next week. So there's all that anticipation that is then layered on top of
Calm Racing Thoughts Breathing Technique, Day 3 Living Authentically Series
"Would like a little more support. You can find the full. Thirty minute guided meditations on the sip and own meditation app. You receive aid journal and a slow down that complement this weeks series customized for it had its seven days absolutely free so he could go through the whole series. Now as you get ready to settle yourself down for all of you. Journalists out there your journaling. Prompt which is also what you'll be guided through as you meditate today is to reflect on and the clarity. You need in order to calm a troubled heart so if you feel troubled these days about anything in particular. What kind of clarity can help. Calm your trouble the heart. This is your journaling. Prompt a few of your fellow meditators reached out to me. Seems like over. The past. Few weeks i've received several messages in regard to manifestation and i've had
Following Your Higher Consciousness, Day 2 of Living Authentically Series
"Going to be guided using an affirmation you'll be repeating and affirmation to help you feel anchored in understanding and compassion. It can be frightening exploring new aspects of who you are. The world has changed quite a lot. Have you changed as well. Do you really know the path. You're on right now. As guided repeating the affirmation focus on your life's purpose.
Iyanla Vanzant | Connect with the Love Within You | Guided
"Meditation. You will need to sit in front of a mirror. A full length mirror is best. So that your hands will be free and your body can remain relaxed. Begin to become aware of your breathing. Notice each breath as it goes in and comes out. Allow the breath to breathe you as you inhale and exhale become aware of slowing your breath to the rhythm four counting four as you bring in and four to breathe free then to the counts of four and breathe out to the council again three then two three four
Living Authentically Day 1
"Journal. Prompt each day and you'll be guided with the same journal. Prompt as you meditate so one of the best ways to go a little more deeply into each week's theme that we explore is by journaling. And i know many of you journal and by popular request. I'm sharing with you a daily reflection question. Now you can use this same reflection question in a way. Where maybe you're not sitting down opening up your journal but rather you reflect on question as you start your day or injured day or maybe at some point during your day when you have time to pause and sit in stone his. I wanted to share this theme with you. Because i've heard from so many of you letting me know that your lives have taken a different turn because of the pandemic and because of the uncertainty that's out there in the world has changed quite a lot and so you are redefining your life and your purpose. Many of you are starting new jobs. Or you've discovered some aspect of yourself from being locked down and more nice elation that you never really explored before and so now is your time. This is a week for you to gain clarity about your inner truth. If you'd like to go a little more deeply into any series you are always invited to try out the sip and meditation app. This is where you can find. Four half hour guided experiences as well as the journal with each day's reflection question on it and a slowdown guide. The slowdown guide has all the technique show explore throughout the week. Right there at your fingertips you can keep the guide and you also have on the guide a yoga asana a yoga pose. That goes right along with this weeks series as well as an herbal tea. That is also customized for our theme for this week again. It's the cipriano meditation app. And it's yours or an entire week's series free. i like to introduce you to a fellow meditators. This is from south west london in the uk. She says as of last year. Since the coronavirus i felt some anxiety and turn to self help books and this is where i found your meditation app. I love listening to it. Because it's very calming especially your voice and soothing music in the background. I would love to shift my thinking and feeling a fear. It is not fear of an animal but the fear of rejection and fear of not having the answer. I want to hear before receiving the answer marie. Claire thank you so much for your message and for listening to the meditations you may be asking is all be exploring this week. It's the important question of whether or not
Compassion, Day 7 of Staying Positive in a Negative Situation Series
"Many aspects of ordinary miracles today today your your journal. journal. Prompt Prompt and and you're you're guided guided meditation. meditation. We'll We'll have have the the focus focus of of compassion. compassion. Compassion Compassion is is a a powerful powerful way way to to feel feel a a little little more more hope hope in in the the world. world. When When you're you're feeling feeling negative negative when when everything everything seems seems to to be be going going wrong wrong or or you you wonder wonder how how you you can can possibly possibly like like someone someone who who was was just just incredibly incredibly rude rude to to you you or or how how you you could could possibly possibly endure endure a a difficult situation win. You focus on compassion trying to understand what another person might be going through or trying to understand a situation from a different perspective. This can be a way for you to soften your heart to open up to seem possibilities rather than feeling yourself closed down or to feel stack in regard to a particular situation or even a situation with someone who maybe really negative in your life. You'll also be guided as you focus on this past week to celebrate your big wins as well as those moments that were difficult. These are your lessons that can be just as valuable sometimes even more so than the times when you felt as though you are able to feel positive despite a negative situation so let's hear from one of your fellow meditators. This is a message that comes from hannah from germany. And she says that i've listened to your podcast for year and after i listened to it i feel very calm and i can handle things. I wouldn't have been able to handle before laying on the ground and listening to the podcast is like a break from the world a break from all those bad thoughts like being in another world in your own little world without any problems. It's wonderful. i want to thank you. So much hannah for describing how. You use the podcast. Because i know that many of you may not actually sit down to meditate. You might simply listen to the podcast and lay down and relax and that's fine because we all start somewhere and just the fact that you are giving yourself permission to slow down allows you to the best part of who you are and it's true too if you do. Sit down and meditate that you feel as though you're shielded in that moment from negatively because you're allowing your
Feeling Calmer and More at Ease
"This is episode two thousand two hundred and thirty four of the daily meditation. Podcast i'm mary medically and i welcome you back to day six of our series on staying positive and a negative situation. How are you doing. And i wonder how your challenges coming along your challenge. This week is to focus. On a particular aspect of positivity you are invited to look for the ordinary miracles in every day. Life those things that you might pass by and not really appreciate such as a beautiful tree or plant near your home or even the beautiful smiles on the people that you see. Every day is easy to take these ordinary miracles in our everyday life for granted. So i know many of you are journal lane and that is wonderful. So you're journal prompt as well as your focus. Today's meditation is to focus on the ordinary miracles. Kaj you to feel awe inspired. They causes sense of You might find this in the full moon. That is happening tonight. Or whenever you are listening to this as i record this. We are getting ready for a full moon tonight. I'm going to be watching it. Come up over sarasota bay where i live so as you get ready to meditate know that i would love to hear how you're doing on your meditation journey you can reach out to me at mary at sydenham dot com or you can also the best way to reach out to me is by going to my sip and own instagram account. And send me a direct message there. I would love to hear how things are going your way. I can share your message with your fellow. Meditators are listening right along with you. Or i can simply keep your message private between you and me. I do enjoy hearing your feedback because it helps me to make this podcast better for you. I would be honored if you would leave a rating and review of the podcast and cheryl little about how meditation has been helping you. Louisa from bogota colombia reached out. And she said. I've been listening to your podcast for the past two to three years and it has helped me a lot through really difficult times. I had a panic attack. At the beginning of the pandemic as i was by myself and incomplete 'isolation i am as matic so it's been scary to think that if i get infected i could die also. My significant other were separated for six months in two different countries to extreme travel restrictions. Thankfully we are back together again. Listening to your meditations has helped me cope and live through all of these weird and unique pandemic times but before this. It was a great tool for me to liberate stress. Stay focused and build self-confidence. I feel extremely grateful for finding you and listening to you every morning as soon as i wake up. Thank you louisa. And i hope you enjoy the asthma. Majora that i'll be sharing with you that i shared with you as well. In
Tal Ben Shahar - How to Improve Your Mood, No Matter What Life Throws Your Way
"Ben shahar and he's going to help you with your covert mood. He's an author and lecturer in the field of happiness and flourishing. He taught the most popular course and harvard. University's history on positive psychology. He's used to translating the rigorous research conducted universities into accessible material. Most people can apply in a professional and personal lives with his focus on enhancing wellbeing. I interviewed talent. Our happiness series last year where he shared excellent and well validated insights. And how to live a happier life and i've chosen to circle back with him now because the subject of happiness has not been lost due to the pandemic but the lens in which we discuss. It certainly has changed. Welcome towel fake yariel. It's great to be here. It's wonderful to have you back. It's always exciting to have a return guest right at the moment when we need them. It's a question do we need. Happiness can even talk about happiness now so many people are saying that this is not the right time one of my friends recently. Set to me tall tweet. Quarantine happiness at least for a while. I don't think we should. And i think this is the right time. And i'm excited to share some of what the science of happiness has to provide for us it these challenging times so let's talk about what happiness does have to provide for us. Can you share when things are going. Well then of course people wanna talk about happiness and became even happier when things are not going well. What's the science of happiness can help us with is our immune systems simply are psychological immune system. Everyone talks about the vaccine. How much we need it. We need for our psychology. No less men for our physiology and there are certain tools and techniques and interventions that we introduce into our lives to help us better deal with the hardship and we are experiencing hardship. Research came out recently showing that levels of depression. Anxiety are at an all time high. So since we've been starting to measure reliably measure depression anxiety that never been higher and this is decades and decades. So how can the science of happiness help us right now given where. We're added this moment. The first lady's understanding that we can grow from hardship. Now that may sound trivial to somebody to aids anything but in order to explain. Let me introduce a concept that i find to be very meaningful and important right now and that is the idea of anti fragility anti virginity was coined by the tallet. Who's a professor at new york university and whatnot seem todd. Talks about is essentially taking resilience to the next level in other words resilience as we today think about it is the ability to bounce back crates term actually taken from engineering beth's reflects the idea that if you put pressure on stress on material or system it goes back tweets original form to that's traditional resilience anti fragility takes that to the next level specifically. It's about putting pressure on material or on a system and is the result of the pressure that material. That system grows stronger. Bigger if resilience is about a ball bouncing back to where it was before. Anti rigidity is about the ball bouncing back higher. You think about anti fred. Giles system in terms of our muscles you go to the gym. You lift weights and a result of that your muscles. Don't just go back to our. They were before after some recovery. They actually grow stronger her bigger as a result of the pressure stress. The science of happiness is all about helping us become anti jal meaning for us to go through the hardships and difficulties in challenges and to emerge even stronger now. The thing is that just knowing about the possibility of anti frigidity makes it more likely to happen in other words if it's in my realm of possibilities if my expectation is that it's possible to grow stronger. I more likely to do so. Wow that simply by understanding that we can grow stronger. We actually are more likely to grow stronger through difficulty so simply by listening to this episode. People have actually enabled themselves to grow stronger through difficulty because they now have this concept in mind exactly so having this concept in mind is critical. Why because it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because it becomes a possibility. So that's the first step now. We can take a second or third step and that is by introducing certain conditions that can actually help us become more anti fragile so once we know existence. What else can we do for example. What's important to do is to allow ourselves to experience the full range of human emotions so the wrong thing to do in difficult times is to chastise ourselves. Why my anxious. Why am i saying. Why am i struggling. Because when we did that these painful motions owning intensify. Its paradoxically when we except when we embrace these painful emotions when we fully embrace the challenge in the hardship that we put ourselves in a position to grow so in a sense the first step towards happiness is allowing in unhappiness giving ourselves permission to be human another thing that we can do and can really help us. Grow stronger is exercise. Regular physical exercise makes the tougher stronger. Not just physically also psychologically. I talked to many people who tell me not exercising as much as i did before or not at all. Why because i'm too stressed or feel like it or because my favorite gym is closed and i can go there anymore and my response to daddy's than now be most important time to exercise because each time we're exercising or essentially strengthening our psychological immune system were essentially taking a vaccine for our levels of wellbeing so exercising even if it is ten minutes a day just moving running on the spot. If we can't get out of our house of lockdown or
Finding Your Balance + Inner Peace
"I really honor those of you. Who are sharing meditation with your children. What a beautiful gift you give children are anyone you share meditation so as shoe sit up straight and closure is gently. Elevate them upward to the point between your eyebrows. Begin to notice where you might hold tension in your body today. Name the emotion you are experiencing every day you sit down to meditate is a different experience.
Feeling Grateful, Day 2 of Staying Positive Series
"Love to hear from you. And also i encourage you to recommend upcoming themes that you'd like me to share so advocate ready to settle yourself down to meditate. I would like to share with you a message from one of your fellow meditators who follows along with these meditations. Right along with you. This is from e. from texas. She says i been listening to your podcast off and on for a couple of years. I'm so glad to have found you on instagram. I know that twenty twenty was a difficult and challenging ear for many people. But i believe it helped me find myself made me realize to take each day as it is and make it what i wanted to be. I've been more at peace and creating an environment that i feel comfortable in a couple of roads ago. I listened to you when you talked about the lady who was so upset because someone had been spreading rumors about her. I've experienced that before. And what helped me was to journal about it and say prayers for that person to help them with their own challenges in life anyways just wanted to say thank you. I live in texas and with this cold front and energy conservation. I've been going to bed way too early and glad to be listening to your lovely voice every evening. Thank you ellie for reaching out. And i hope you are warm and restored to heat and normal weather patterns soon and i also appreciate your insight in regard to journaling and that is a very powerful way to manage difficult emotions and focus again on what matters most to you and so that is the challenge right along with the quest this week to journal about or even to reflect on as you wake up in the morning or as you go to bed at night a focus on a miracle of life the focus for today is gratitude so you are invited to settle down and begin to relax your body as you get ready to meditate
Powerful Sleep Technique the Dalai Lama Does
"This is episode two thousand two hundred and thirty five us. The daily meditation podcast. I'm mary medically and i welcome you back to day seven. This is the final episode in our series. We've been exploring to help you sleep better in each episode this week. You have discovered a meditation technique. You can do to help you as you sleep. Especially during these difficult times we're experiencing there's so many people who've reached out to let me know how much they struggle with sleep where previously they didn't struggle and now they feel there's so much uncertainty that is hard to fall asleep. One thing i did notice is that many of the people tell me that they are so disturbed by the news. And i have recommended for quite a while now to watch less news or to even refrain from the news. Just go on a news diet for awhile and see how you feel. If there's something really important going on that you need to know about you'll hear about it. Believe me people around you will let you know one thing is certain. We're not really designed to take on all the different situations happening in the world with so much interconnectedness the days we hear instantly about what's happening all over the world and this is upsetting. It's difficult to hear that something happened in an area. That's maybe halfway across the world from where you live. It's not as though you hear the news and then you go about your day ed's upsetting a definitely has an impact on how you feel previously before we were so interconnected especially with social media. We mostly heard things going on locally. We'd also be aware of what was happening nationally and we'd hear a little about what was happening internationally will now what happens in a small city across the world can impact your day. And it's not as we should ignore what's going on. But it does mean that we are absorbing so many more politically economically socially happening Over the world and so this can definitely weigh heavily on your mind especially as you go to sleep at night and you're arresting trying to settle in to a peaceful night's sleep maybe after you've checked email or your messages or social media or one last glance at the news i you can feel pounded by all that's happening in the world. This is one reason. Why more and more people are turning to meditation. And this also makes your meditation ritual even that more precious so as you get ready to settle in to sleep. Consider refraining from all new sources several hours before you go to bed at night making sure not to check your text messages social media or emails or even your phone messages before you go to bed if
Winding Down Your Day to Sleep Better, Day 6 of Sleep Better Series
"This is episode two thousand two hundred and thirty four of the daily meditation. Podcast i'm mary medically and i welcome you to day. Six of our sleep series. I hope you've been sleeping well this week. And that you have discovered some meditation techniques that work for you really only need one technique to help you fall asleep and stay asleep. It's good to try different ways to meditate and different techniques. Because you never know what might work for you in today's episode. You are going to be guided as you layer together the different meditation techniques. You've explored this week. When i meditate. I layer together the techniques and the reason why is because meditation techniques help to transition you from whatever you are doing right now to estate of inner stillness and this can take a little time. It's not as though you sit down and boom. You are meditating. You are ready to calm your mind. It's more like you sit down and you might fidget around a little bit until you get comfortable and then you might have thought that keeps running through your mind that you can't seem to let go of and so you just might wrestle with that thought a little and then you might think of something else and then you might think about. What are you supposed to be doing. You're trying to meditate so you're going to just four sure breath to be calm. You're going to focus and make yourself calm. That doesn't usually work very well. And that's why meditation techniques are so priceless when you focus on your breath and you know how to do a few breeding techniques that are really designed to help. Calm your mind and body you may find. That's all you need. You might layer in a mutiara a way you position your hands. This helps to activate responding region of your brain to help you. Focus in a particular way you might repeat an affirmation or do a visualization these are going to help to impact your para sympathetic nervous system in a much better way. That's the part of your brain. That helps you to calm down and relax so meditation techniques aren't necessarily you meditating but they get you to that point they calm your mind and body. If you're already feeling very calm then go for it. Sit in stillness and meditate. But as i mentioned most days especially these days that can be hard to do. So i want to ask you. How are you doing with your challenge. this week. we are in day. Six of our sleep series. Your challenge has been to get a little more sleep each night and to go to bed a little earlier each night. I hope you're finding this is helpful for you. Make sure that you subscribe so you. Don't miss a single app mode and reach out to me and let me know how you're doing with your meditation journey. You can reach out to me at mary at dome. Dot com or the best way is to go to my sip and own instagram. And send me a direct message there. I'll also answer your e mail although it might be a little bit slower so as you get ready to settle yourself down and meditate. I want to share with you a message from your fellow meditate. Her this is someone who reaches out to me quite a bit. She recently let me know what she's been doing to help herself sleep. Well and i thought i would share this with you because i thought it was a great nighttime routine. She begins about one hour before she goes to bed. She lowers the lights and she goes outside and she sits down and she just takes a look around her space she notices. What's happening outside. This calms her down because she can see it becoming dark outside and sometimes it's already dark outside especially this time of year. You live in the hemisphere. Like i do. If you're in. The southern hemisphere is probably still light outside but she sits outside and just notices things become calm and she says that she can feel her body begin to calm down right along with nature. She said sometimes people walk by and they're a little bit noisy but she'll notice that there's still a sense of letting go of the day a sense of the day indie and this helps to get her in the right frame of mind as she goes to sleep and then she goes into her room and she gets ready for bed and then she goes to bed and she always reads before she goes to bed. She reads something calming an inspirational. She said that she used to listen to music. Or a podcast on her phone but that caused her to need to look at her phone or device and that exposure to the blue light so for a recent celebration she requested inspirational books and she selects a book when she goes to bed at night. And she reads something inspirational. She doesn't read anything to engaging because that might keep her up because she'll want to finish reading the book to see what happens at the end. And i thought this was such a beautiful way to close out a day so i really think this fellow editor of yours who is remaining anonymous. Remember you can always reach out to me and remain anonymous. And i don't even need to share your message at all. But i really appreciate hearing your messages. You can also leave a review on the podcasts. That means so much to me and let me know how meditation is helping you. Especially now these times. You never know he might help by sharing your journey. So ashley get ready to go to bed tonight. I encourage you to do what your fellow meditators is doing. I encourage you to look outside a window or to sit outside and to begin to notice the evening whether it's already dark or it's maybe just getting dark and notice how things seem a little more hushed notice how animals and people around you are winding down for the most part
Fall Asleep with a Forest Meditation, Part 5 Sleep Better Series
"This is episode two thousand two hundred and thirty. Three of your daily meditation podcast. I'm mary medically and i welcome you. Back to our series were exploring. This is day five of our sleep better series in each episode this week. You're discovering ways to help you sleep better at night not only to fall asleep but also to stay asleep and go back to sleep when you wake up in the middle of the night and you find fears and worries and doubts begin to invade your thoughts. This is especially common these days as we continue to go through a worldwide pandemic. We are in year two vis pandemic and it seems never ending but there will be an end to this pandemic and yet here. You are managing day by day. That is the best way to manage this pandemic simply taking each day one moment at a time. It's a great time to practice. Being mindful and present in the moment one of the most difficult aspects of this pandemic has been the isolation a fellow meditators of yours interviewed me. Recently for her podcast. She is a professional dancer and she started a dance podcast. She wants to share limitation with the people listening on the podcast and she lives in the uk. Her name is sarah and she told me how this has been so difficult. Being incomplete lockdown currently in the uk and this prolonged sense of isolation as you experience varying degrees of lockdown. Where you live takes its toll especially on your mental health. I received another message from a listener. Julia julia says to me. I just discovered your podcast one month ago and i'm loving it as everybody. I'm going through a difficult time. I'm far from my home country. And i'm trying to deal with the uncertainty of will see my family again and even make any future plans. But you're meditations and your convoys makes me feel better and i feel. i'm not alone. When you tell stories about other people struggling with his pandemic banks banks and banks a julie. I appreciate you reaching out to me because you are not alone. I'm honored that you
Encore - Daphne Rose Kingma - Navigating Love and Relationships Anytime
"It is such a pleasure to have you on untangled today. I'm really excited. Thank you likewise patricia. I'm smiling with anticipation light. Yeah my biggest questions in life or about love and relationships. So i am going to ask you a bunch of questions because you have this their unique expertise and then i have a number of questions from our listeners will get into that as well wonderful. We'll just start by understanding a little bit about how you came to be so interested in love and relationships granted. I'll start for you. It has been a surprising pass. But i think the origin of it for me was that i was the youngest child in a family with five children and so i had many opportunities to observe the relationships at the family table and i just remember as a child being so fascinated by all these people who were related to me their conversation who interrupted whom who was trying to get rid of their vegetables on the other person's plate and the peacemakers the quiet ones so i just remember very very early on being so fascinated by the connections between people and the beauty of it and the challenge of it and that just continued from my earliest days as growing up and seeing romantic relationships unfold and being a part of them and observing them so just always been passionate observer of human connection yet. And you've done a ton of research. I think you've written something like
Living in Gratitude With Kira Newman
"We prepare to celebrate the international day of happiness on march twentieth. As part of that celebration. We're launching a gratitude challenge. Which i'll tell you about at the end of this podcast but i i'm talking to cure newman managing editor at greater good science center and co editor of the book the gratitude project how the science of thankfulness can rewire our brains for resilience optimism and the greater good cures here to talk about what gratitude does for us how we can make it part of our lives and why it's even more important during difficult times kira welcome to happy now thank you so much glad to be here. This is a great time to talk to you because we are starting the month of march and we do have international day of happiness on march twentieth. And as part of this. We're doing a different theme every week and our first week. The theme is gratitude. Because here happy now we are gratitude junkies and it just seems so fitting to bring you on because of the work you've done on gratitude so and with the greater good science center and so to start for those who aren't familiar with the greater good science center. Can you tell us a little about what it is what it does sure so. We're a nonprofit center base at uc berkeley in california. And you know we kind of think of ourselves as a conduit between the research world and the mainstream so we translate findings in social and emotional wellbeing to a mainstream audience. And we do that through a lot of different venues Major one is our magazine greater good magazine and we also have our own. Podcast called the science of happiness. Gratitude is one of our favorite topics here. And can you explain why it's so important to practice gratitude to increase our wellbeing. Yeah you know gratitude. I think in our field in the field of positive psychology or the signs of happiness. Gratitude is one of the most well-studied emotions or shops. And i think part of the reason for that is just because in a way. It's sort of a balanced to a lot of the the difficulty in life. You know it's easy to get weighed down by stress by problems and ruminate on all the things that are going wrong so when we think about gratitude think about looking to the positive things in life looking to the gifts we receive from others and kind of orienting our brain toward that and it can help build a sense of hope. A sense of optimism like a rosier view of the world to combat some of those negative feelings and difficulties that we can get stuck in and it's also easy to implement because you know it's so simple a child can do it because i'm like say you know. Mindfulness can be trying for for people to try to stay focused and try to stay present in the moment but gratitude is something that we can start with very simply and and build a practice on so does simplicity add to. Its its benefits. Yeah i think that makes sense. I think one of the things that really struck me. When i was learning about gratitude is that is the notion that the good things are are already there. They don't have to be huge things that doesn't have to be getting a commotion or having a baby or anything it can be you know. Allow woke up this morning and the sun was shining. And you just sort of take a moment to to feel that and to pause because we're often just racing through life and these good things pass us by. And i think if we really take that time to savor them. It's it's good for our brains and it's really good for our well being and i think you made a great point in that. It doesn't have to be something huge. It doesn't have to be this. I just got a new car kind of situation smallest thing right right exactly so now. Your co editor of the book gratitude project which. I won't say this whole title because it's it's very long say in the introduction of the ending but this is a comprehensive book and it does such a great job of bringing together all these different insights about gratitude. Show as you're putting this project together. How did you even go about determining who all needed to go into this book. you know. that's one of the things about having the magazine is a lot of this content. Is things that we've been sharing over the years about gratitude research so we sort of had this body of work by many researchers in the field and we had had the experience of seeing it evolve over time. Seeing new discoveries happened in a new avenues explored so. I think we were able to take that perspective. Put it all together. look at you know. The latest research and make sure that it reflects the current state of gratitude science to be most helpful to people who wanna learn about why it's so beneficial than also find out ways that they can implement it in their daily life not just personally but no in their family and their community as well beyond the book gratitude in general. Do you get a lotta response. When you do articles in things about gratitude we do and of course you know about that sort of peaks in november at thanksgiving when when everyone is really thinking about gratitude. But you know it. It is one of the most popular practices. I think a lot of people have gratitude journals for example as you said it's really accessible other things you know for example. We about forgiveness in that one can be a bit trickier but gratitude is something that feels like people realize they take things in their life for granted at it will be good to see. See the gifts in their life. Definitely as you were creating the book. What was the intention behind the book. And what you hope that people will get out of it now. A great question. I mean i think that for one. We do try to translate research so it's a very research heavy book at it really takes you through that journey of what scientists have learned about attitude over the years with many participants around the world having them try gratitude practice by various gratitude practices and seeing what happens doing your neuroscience research looking at what people's brains look like when they're feeling grateful so we wanted to present that in a way that is easy to understand but also you know very accurate and faithful to the research and then hope that all of that would really inspire people to practice it. Because i think one of the things that i've seen over my years working in this field is that there's so much knowledge and so much insight about what we could do to be happier and to promote our well-being and it's that step of putting it into practice making it a daily habit finding out how it's going to fit into your schedule and based on that sustainable and not something that you just try once or twice then forget about so. i hope. The book does motivate people to to try these different practices to see what works for them and find a habit that they can really continue in their life is one of the great things about it is. It's kinda like looking at a really robust menu. You know you can. You can go through and choose what is right for you. And what feels good and fits instead of of all seeming overwhelming. Yeah also gratitude is something that we already. Most people are already expressing gratitude. Sometimes at least you know we say. Thank you to each other in daily life so in a way the book can learn about gratitude. Can people may be figured out what something they can add to their. Thank you that would make it more impactful
Guided Meditation | Venerable Karunika | 27 February 2021
"So we are doing the guided meditation right now and we have vendrell choline carmen. Sarah modesty to the guided. We actually running a series of workshops. Here it's a whole day workshop but we take a break from three to four o'clock to do this guided meditation. And i just wanted to check. If you're here for the introduction to meditation that stan at the community hall in this whole. I just wanna make sure that you are in the right place. No one okay. All right. So with that all hanover. Two venerable communica. So we'll do this until like three forty five three fifty. Okay thank you okay. good afternoon every volume. Okay okay okay. Yeah okay okay. So today we have been doing the mid busting and a lot of the questions about the part and the sequence works. So are you ready to just try out. Because i don remind us mentioning how the right view and morality helps our meditation. And that's what we are trying to do. Now is to do a bit of meditation so maybe we can just use some aspects of the fact this afternoon. I thought I will speak. Maybe for about fifteen minutes. So just bear with me. Those of who you who. You are meditating already. Just continue with. However you're meditating and if you wish to take my suggestion on board then you can just listen to a bit. And maybe tried out. So i would like to take two aspects of the right view and that he's the idea of non-self and in permanence so very often when we sit down to meditate the thing that troubles us the most is our thinking. It's just things that we have to do. Our concerns things that happen to us and when we reflect our life even though we think we have a sense of self which can control things which is why we think a lot. How often have been proven wrong often. We have realized things are out of our control anyway. So during this shit i encourage you to just bring him. This idea of that things are out of my control of my business so any if any thinking arises then just remind yourself of this right view. There's nobody in here. Things are out of my control and just let things be. The other thing is also impermanent. S- we also know that everything changes all the time and we don't know what's going to happen even this afternoon. You went in this meditation. So worrying about future is kind of hopeless and we know this. The problem means we sometimes forget about it so. Let me encourage you this doing this. Sit to just remember this idea of permanence as well when thinking comes up and just let things to disappear slowly. Read this right view so when we have this attitude of right view it actually makes you quite peaceful. Things are changing. You know that things are out of your control most of the time. So that's one of the things you can bring in as you meditate in the second thing is about your morality. I recognize most of the people who are in this room. You all have been coming to displace for quite some time being good people. Trying your very best to leave the spiritual part keep precepts liver moral life to your best ability now. No south coast. 'perfect anybody who is not in lighten has defilement. And the nature of defilement s- easter sometime. Do wrong things so we are all guilty but this is not the time to remember the things that went wrong but we can actually have a sense of the guinness while assess understanding. That too was sometimes beyond our control. We have been conditioned by our past. And that's why we behave that way so please bringing take a few moments to really would give yourself and also with the application to the people around you in figgy others astro. Now i encourage you to bring your mind back to where you're sitting right here. Really sit back in very comfortable way and having attitude contentment band standing having right view in the forefront of our mind. This is the time to relax. Relax into this moment with an attitude of contentment and forgiveness. If your mind is starting to move just remember. It's not my business. Bring it back to this moment. Contentment and relaxation. Into this moment gently in right to do bringing a sense of joy remembering that you have been kind and you have been generous throughout your life actively bringing this joy and meet the sense of joy settling into the moment sitter the me into this moment with a sense of joy and contentment. Knowing that you have be a good person happy to be here. Feel mindless moving. Remember it's none of my business bringing back to here happy to be here. S we're coming to end the meditation. I know right you all to really bring that happiness in joy in your heart remembering your own goodness
168: Is it Time to Dream Again?
"It was early. March two thousand twenty and i set with john at a bistro table on the upper level of downtown wedding venue. He had just finished officiating. The wedding of one of our former youth group students who we adore but if he hadn't been the efficient we may have been hesitant to attend because of the news emerging in the weeks leading up to that event a week before that i was at a gathering for writers in california and when i got home i started recording my journal. How many minutes of the six thirty national news was dedicated to the coronavirus. The first day. I started paying attention. It was eighteen out of the thirty minute broadcast the next day. There wasn't a single minute without mention of the pandemic in a rare moment alone that wedding and early march of two thousand twenty as we leaned over the railing and saw so many familiar faces in the entrance hall below the buffet style. Hors d'oeuvres beautifully displayed in the corner. The small groups of people laughing and catching up the low delightful rumble of joyful crowd at a celebration. Periodically punctured with a loud laugh or an exclamation. In that moment. i looked at john. And i said i have a feeling. This is the last gathering we're going to attend for a very long time. As we looked over that railing. We knew we were on the verge of something big. We just didn't know what the cost would be what impact it would have or how long it would last about thirty minutes later. During the reception of that wedding we got a message on our phones that the county schools would be canceled for the next two weeks and so it began in our north carolina public school district. What started as a two week. Cancellation has extended into a full year of remote learning a full year of navigating life. Closer to home. Various degrees of corentin lots of isolation and reconsidering nearly every social situation structure system. We've come to know a full year of sorrow reckoning and heartbreaking milestones of lives lost to this pandemic. My girls will return to hybrid in person learning today's week on march eighth which is almost to the day a full year since in person school was canceled for us in our county now. Of course we know this year has not been all bad. It's carried a lot of joy in the basket of sorrow. There have been babies. Born birthdays celebrated milestone. Anniversaries toasted ministry started careers. Reimagined for me personally in some ways this has been one of the most clarifying twelve months of my life. I know many of you could say the same no matter what this year's held for you. This is a significant anniversary to mark. We don't learn from experience. We learned from reflecting upon that experience. So as you reflect on who you were this time this week last year and compare it to who you are now and curious. What do you see. I hope that's not a scary question for you. Especially if you've been hanging around here for any length of time. I want to normalize reflection but one of my goals is also to change its reputation because one common misconception about reflection is that it's passive and it's the opposite of action but when done with intention reflection can actually be the pathway. That leads to clarity for our next rate thing. When i look back to this time one year ago one thing that stands out was how impossible it became to make any plans at all. We were at the beginning of the great pause but we didn't fully know it yet. With everything cancelled. There was nothing to plan for and depending on your personality not much to look forward to of all the things we lost one thing we laws. That's taken the longest for me to name. Is this sense of possibility. So much felt impossible for so long and some things still do. If i'm honest but one question is rising up in me. And i wonder if it would be helpful for you to. Is it time to dream again. I say again. Because i do think this last twelve months was a year. When dreamers stop dreaming. But i also want to acknowledge that for some dreaming has always felt like luxury and something that maybe you have felt like you've never really had access to but whether you set dreaming aside for a time or have never been very practiced at it in the first place. You might be carrying right now today. Some version of is now the time to dream. Is it time to stop. Being afraid to be myself is a time to go back to school to start dating to begin writing to open my business to make a big move. Is it time to dream again. If you found yourself carrying some version of that question i would love to companion you as you consider your next rate thing in. The spirit of reflection here are three things to think about number one. What do you want dreaming another word for desire which is another word for. Want if you're wondering if it's time to dream again a question i would ask. You is simply what do you want. Do you want it to be time to dream again. Often we complete the importance of timing as if there is a perfect time for something and it's our job to discern the exact right moment to act. This can be even more complicated if you're a person of faith and working to know if it's god's timing for you to act on something or not when it comes to life decisions like the ones we're talking about here. Decisions are rarely as simple as either right or wrong and the same could be said for timing instead. Be a kind friend to yourself an answer. Honestly do you want it to be time to dream again if there is yes. Here's a second thing to keep in mind number two. What is unresolved. Attend to your business. This can help tease out. If in your desire to dream you're moving toward something in love or away from something in fear. Dreaming can be kind of like money. In a way it can be used for good or for ill it can be the catalyst that moves us beyond the status quo and towards the hopeful vision that compels us to take action or it can be a way of avoiding the real work. We need to do the responsibility. We need to take or the grief we need to look in the face. If you aren't sure of it's to dream again name. What is unresolved will you don't want to do is move onto your next right thing. Too quickly author. Leona tankersley says the so beautifully on her instagram page. This week. i'm going to quote her. She says when you're grieving what you actually feel is stuck like things will never feel any different than they do right now that you give anything to get out of where you are and fast forward to the next phase of things trust grief. It will be the hardest thing you do to partner with it to stop trying to outrun your feelings of loss.
Noble Eightfold Path Workshop II - Part 4 | 27 February 2021 | Ajahn Brahmali & Venerable Mudito
"Good morning everyone. Good morning to that. So we're doing the time radio young. Okay all right. We're four minutes late okay. All right so we're doing the second workshop for the nobel for paf series and today as usual we have john. Bre molly and venable detoro. Don't introduction let me just quickly introduce who the nuns we have here today. So we've got benadryl when he sarah with god venerable pick wondering why there's no will pick onto seat okay and where. Oh okay all right. And then we've got general. Tommy karoon ika and we're going to do the guided meditation today. She did the cadet contemplation. One isn't it. that's really good. Then will gen t as well as vanua surata so just just a few things that i'd like to mention this morning. We constantly trying to improve the program. And how we run it so each time after each workshop like emailing a or show we do. We do that anyway. So we notice that. We've we've taken quite a lot of time answering questions and for people to ask questions but we want to make sure that teachers. You have enough time to address those questions. They are important questions but same time also have enough time to finish the materials that the teachers have prepared so we were thinking that from today's workshop on words because the teachers were open up the questions and unser after each meany meditate so we will take questions. Rahm to people are two questions. We'll have two questions per mini meditation. And because we only taking two questions per mini meditation we would like to ask everyone to try and if chance to someone else who has not asked a question or the session at the same time in order to make sure that any burning questions left unanswered. I have prepared a question box a little bit similar to how we run retreats and we have because a salary to talk and then we have people to write questions on a piece of paper and then we can pasta questions to the teachers and can you can then see depending on time whether they want to address the questions during this workshop during next workshop. But i'm quite sure they will address it sometime. Doing doing the series yeah And of course this two questions limit does not appeal to the nonce so the nuns can ask questions more than two questions and not just quite happy to answer it. yeah l. Sorry lhamo and forgot to introduce this method sitting yup one of the things that we can do is because sometimes there will be extra time at the very end and we can actually more questions than if not so questions left if you have a box for questions or whatever. We can do it at that time. Yeah okay all right. And then we are also asking people to that are related to noble it. Four puff there are always other avenues for you to ask other related questions but yeah so. Let's let's just keep those questions onto this. And i just want to quickly mention as those of you would have known we are doing. A small donation drive To get a new laptop for giambra molly for the monastery. So i've got a donation box outside but now because the classes after we brought it in so we'll put a donation volunteer outside again during lunch time. If some of you didn't bring cash just push me. We'll see what we can do a yup other than that. I think that's pretty much it did. I miss anything else. Sounds good to me okay. All right so let's head back to the dentist. Okay thank you heart and so we are gonna continue pretty much left off last time so remember. This is about early. What is and because. It is about early buddhism. It really is a bad what the buddha taught not about buddhist traditions and buddhists developments over the past two and a half thousand years as about coming back to kind of the what the buddha taught and of course that is very important because what the buddha taught obviously is the gold standard for what buddhism is about and everything else in a two and a half thousand years since then. It might be right sometimes. It might be wrong but what the buddha taught obviously has to be the standard for everything else and because of that usually when we have workshops. We have a session. Where we talk matt misconceptions last time. We had misconceptions about dependent origination. Now we're going to look at the misconceptions about the noble eightfold path for some of the wrong ideas. That are out there. You can see if not wrong at the very least. They are not really in accordance with how the buddha taught and that is kind of the again the essential thing here. So we're going to look at that and see how. See what happens when we look at these Ideas maybe today. Maybe we will have a discount. We have the breakout session later on. Maybe we can discuss this topic further. Some of you may have some ideas of your own. About what our misconceptions about early buddhist sorry about the noble eightfold path. Get this right. So it's nice to get added because we have obviously limited idea about what. This misconceptions is good to have other people's input as well. There might be an interesting topic for toronto. You can bring up your favorite misconception or you can bring up your own misconception. Yeah now i get it now. Thank you so much for clarifying. My my own kind of often happens so the first misconception. We're going to look at is the following him. All paths are different ways up the same mountain. The mountain symbolizes climbing the mountain walking the path. Yeah and reaching the pinnacle like reaching the end point of that particular spiritual path or whatever it is and this is a very common view that you will hear especially maybe not maybe so much buddhism but sometimes you hear it in certain religions. That happened this idea. Sometimes buddhists also have this idea. There are certain kinds of more new religions. Yeah which tend to have this sort of ideas and so is it really true. That is really the issue here.
Giving and Accepting Generosity | Ajahn Brahmavamso | 26 February 2021
"And for those of you find it difficult to smile. Maybe you can do exercise. Which my first. Meditation teacher taught me believe it or not. When i was a young student had a very miserable looking face apparently and what my teacher told me to do. Every morning i go to the toilet relieve yourself but ended up past from there will be a mirror a when you see that meera look yourself in the mirror. Pull your two fingers on the side of your mouth. Push up ex- exercise your smarty muscles and i thought i was a stupid idea but i had enough respect for ancient wisdom to try that my did for two years never missing any morning and sometimes you know what it's like when you i get up in the morning you feel terrible going to do today. Does that sound convincing. Probably not fix happy life. So but anyway. I learned how to smile these days. If you know you want to play tennis or you want to be free to exercise people exercise their hands. I exercise their legs. May i exercise my mouth. Believe it or not it works and you look yourself in the mirror. This young man was little girl. And of course you love and that says hundreds thousands of dollars from having to go to see site. Psychologists goes in psychology. We can do that in front of your bathroom mirror. But anyway well this mutation of being smarty the fat happy monk and not only that. I think that's important too because i said our to the cancer group the center just last tuesday and i just mentioned this is of science that way and you are happy and start laughing. You're actually blood vessels expand. Its well known if you're a negative and miserable then your blood vessels contract apps and answered an important question which would be bothering me for. So many years why all choppy people happy. Have you ever seen a fat miserable person. And the reason is because all fat miserable people died out a long time ago so much gut goes through. Their arteries are arteries are very small. That's why they have. The traffic jams called coveney's but if your happy smile i been doing this for such a long time. The arteries and veins just so wide. They been expanding for years. So anything can go through here. Never gets up. That's going to talk about this evening. What is going to talk about this. Evening was one of the things which happens to you by understanding some reporters. Especially when you get into some meditation. Get some insights coming up. You start to look at life in a different way more useful way. I one of the things we were talking about last week with some of our committee members was like gratitude and thanks sometimes now almost told is somewhat help. She say thanks. But when i tried doing that when i was a young monk that i heard that no we talking about to say sex to me worth. I learned. this was now as monks. We go on arms around so we have our bowl and we go walking on arms now. They've every morning entirely had to get arms food from villages. And these very very poor people. I know and i saw that. This is a bit of an imposition to now got a good education in my family. Were poor but you know had a good job as a schoolteacher. Before what am i doing begging for my food every morning. This is not right. I thought but that was our custom. So i did it and what happened. After a couple of months we never went into the village one morning because we were being fed in a house and having a celebration for something so we went then. We never went into the village for arms food electron the afternoon. The whole village led by the headman of the various came into a monastery to ask forgiveness asking forgiveness for you had an ice free day. You need to feed the mouths. You didn't need to serve no waste all that rice and money on us said no. We must have offended. You didn't come in our village and give us the opportunity to do some good calmer for you to serve. And that's what i realized giving in this particular case food or giving breakfast whereas moore's vapor so we can ever eat. It's not the we need your food but you need to give it to us and this was where something clicked in me an article which i never understood years ago though when a journalist was following the allama this was in tibet. And how he got in. There must have been a long time ago that whenever the dalai lama would go to various village in the countryside of tibet people would line up to give him sings and this journalists was just watching and just getting more and more angry because many many many poor people scraping by a manager to save up or get something they could give to the dalai lama and once according to this journalists diary or article. Sorry he saw a really really poor woman this lineup and she gave the deadline armor skirts. A woman's skirt and a journalist got so upset. You call yourself a demand you call yourself a religious leader you live in a big panish you eat so you get whatever you want and that navy. She needs that score. Much all your man. You don't were skirts. Why have you taken that skirt from this. Really poor lady and the dalai lama and just his character he would listen first of all and was quiet and he plied with what i heard is change lot of the way i look at things he said. Yeah that's true. I don't need discomfort. i'm. I'm a leader. Get many things are not the only woman skirt for that woman needed to give it to me. She needed to give.