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How Not to Say Stupid Stuff When You're Stressed
"Guys. It's Friday so we're dropping bonus in this week we've got to. We've got a good one as many of you have experienced. Perhaps I'll just be myself. I've definitely experienced this. Sometimes you get stressed you say dump stuff And that has it's happening to me. Still even after having meditated for over a decade but in in Buddhism. There's a way to deal with this. They call it right speech or mindful speech and the Great Susan. Hiver a meditation teacher based in the Boston area has thought a lot about this. She's written a lot about this and she recently joined me for an episode of T. P. H. Live where we discussed this subject and took questions from the audience? Tv H live for the uninitiated. Is this show. We do on on weekdays three eastern Pacific where we do alive guided meditation for a few minutes and then we take questions from the audience. The session that you're about to hear was with me and and with Susan and we talk about rights beach and being mindful of your speech and she also guides the meditation in the beginning. By the way. You're going to hear my son. Alexander playing in the background Since was recorded Live we don't have a lot of control but what's going on in my apartment at the time and Yeah so if you're okay with that listen on here we go Susan Piper. Hey everybody welcome T. ph live live from my living room if you hear background noise that is my son. Alexander playing with toys in the background tried to talk him into going into his room but didn't work so the role with like good meditators Speaking of good meditators we've got A great teacher today. Susan Piper beaming in from some of Massachusetts. I think they pronounce it. You know if you're speaking the king's English you'll be Somerville locally at some level and Susan. Thanks for joining. Us really appreciate it. I'M SO GLAD TO BE HERE. Appreciate you having our. It's our pleasure You you were a hit last time so it really great to have you back again and I wanted to talk about the subject. Which is I mean incredibly Germain and relevant these days of speech you know how we communicate with other people that Buddhist McCall it right speech Why why in particular is on your mind? These days do something wrong. I I don't know how can avoid doing something wrong in this environment. It's this topic. Came to mind because it's crazy out there. Y'All are people saying all sorts of things. They're people getting in arguments because we're isolated from each other. All we have a speech you know. That's our sole means of communication. It's all happening in the ether. It's so easy to project onto and everybody's uncertain humanity tends not to wear uncertainty well and we WANNA make up explanations for why. This is happening why that's happening and and were isolated. So uncertainty plus isolation leads to some crazy stuff. I online and at home. So how does a muting myself while you're answering? Because it's getting Routing the backdrop here so how. How can meditation help us with our speech? Well that's a very good question and so I just the definition of right speech which is a classical definition mean. Nobody has to be a Buddhist obviously to practice any of this but the whole Buddhist Path. of liberation is called the eightfold path. Right view right intention right speech number three so it's way up there and write speeches no lying. No abusive speech know divisive speech and no idol speech or no gossip. So we're everybody's telling you know it's really hard to find anyone who's not lying even if you think you're not lying people are just spouting things they actually haven't verified. That counts ally. There's I mean I don't have to explain that there's abusive speech and there's divisive speech and then there's Got Gossiping so it's hard not to do those things because we're human beings we get scared and we get angry and what what is needed before we open. Our PILES IS SPACE. Just some little space and then we can have some agency over what comes out and meditation is the practice of creating that space over and over again with every breath get absorbed in your thoughts as you know. And then you see that and you let go to letting go is quite delightful because immediately. There's a space and in meditation. You come back to the breath but in life you could come back to the good intentions of your kind heart or you know the needs of the person in front of you or the truth of your feelings about without that space. There's just reflexive nonsense. Speaking for myself I was just GonNa say speaking for myself. I'm still doing a reflexive nonsense. hopefully a little bit less So so we've invoke meditation when we do a little bit and then we'll at and let me tell people who are watching live. I know a lot of you. Don't watch live but those are watching. Live if you could send questions on this issue in particular. That'd be great Send any questions you want. We'll probably GONNA give us in preference to relevant questions but even if they're irrelevant. Send away so Susan Myself and you WanNa take over left to thank you so I thank you for being willing to sit and rest your minds so meditation practice very simple. Take a comfortable seat which basically means sit up straight. Unless you don't feel well then lie down and relax meaning while you're sitting up straight. Soften soften the front body the belly the area around the heart the shoulders times of stress. It can feel like the shoulders are like all the time but you can just let them let everything roll off your back. The mouth is closed and the reason the mouth is closed and meditation is. Because you don't have to say anything and that is a delightful luxury so let all the muscles of speech relax throat the jaw the tongue and let the inclination to speak relax to and enjoy not having to prove anything justify question and notice that inside there actually is no one talking anyway so it is quiet and you can rest in that quiet
Suffering Is Part of the Journey
"I want the world to know that when I am in my own personal crisis or when I feel like I am questioning whatever is going on in my life. You are one of the first people I call and particularly now that my is gone. You've been such a solace in bomb for me in in difficult times and I'm wondering pastor Bishop Td. Jakes what's giving you strengthen? This moment you know I have of resilient faith in God and in humanity and that has kind of steered my compass through tough days and tough times and then I realized that everything comes as a schoolmaster teach a lesson and I wanted to believe to. Isn't all life experience here to show us who we are absolutely absolutely enter bring correction correction and redirection and I think this has been a co Viet. It should have been cooked correction team because it's a lot of correction to our values to our sociological understanding of ourselves. Collectively and individually. What do you mean by sociological understanding of ourselves so I think that we have become tribal We head divided into too many segments. Millennials boomers blacks whites Brown's Democrats Republicans us them globally not just nationally but globally. And and I think this Disease that attack without discrimination made us rethink? What is humanity I think that's part of it. I think that America needs to rethink. How much of our resources we have farmed out overseas that we found ourselves needing things that we couldn't manufactured but I've gotten away from manufacturer but I think that we also have to rethink how we value ordinary workers delivery keeper. That's that's by the sociological. Because I think for the first time people who were before invisible they were the invisible men and women to a lot of people in in in our country and other countries have now become have the title of essential this. Yes but here's my concern. I watched after nine eleven. We talked about the police officers and the firemen and they were Iro's erosion. We made a big fuss insane songs and cried and candles and all that but we didn't pay them anymore and they still couldn't afford to live in the cities they protect and so we get through by. I'm wondering what we're GONNA do about minimum wage of what we're GONNA do about their families and making it possible for the people who protect us in these big cities to be able to afford to live in the city they serve in. I mean all the people in conversations. I've had I tell you the one thing that people certainly do understand and have a great respect for teachers and think that they should be paid whatever they want their own kids lives have been permanently altered and that we will take that alteration and be more united as Tim Travers. Trying to do here today Do you think that that has occurred to enough people to have a shift in consciousness for awhile awhile? We get Amnesia quite quickly. And it's amazing when we're frightened how we come down to what matters most but how quickly we deviate from it once. We feel safe and secure geared and I know that sounds negative pessimistic. But but I think for sermons and seen too many funerals to do you much. Yeah I've seen it all before and But every now and then we get a booster shot. That kind of reminds us to humble yourself a little bit and not take so highly of yourself and not to always evaluate your worth by your net worth. There's there's so many lessons to be learned here. I know I mean if you just open our eyes we can see them as we endure this crisis. You wrote this on Instagram. Last week. Be sure to lead by faith and show people that it's possible you said to be joyful no matter the condition. Where are you finding joy right now? You know I have not spent this much time at home it years. Okay with just my wife and I in the house and nobody else and so that has given me an opportunity to appreciate simplicity Sometimes we're so driven by our responsibilities that we get away trump simplicity. That's one of the things I learned from you You know you walk into the Darnall your fruit and spelling your love a blade of grass. Now I can love a blade of grass. Yes Sir you've been so inspirational. You started out talking about me but you. You've also been very inspirational. 'cause I've got to see you behind the scenes at seed. What quality human being you are and I think that this creates an opportunity where we start to appreciate each other and say it to each other. The things that that gave us comfort during this time costs no money at all a kind word a quick. Tech's a you know a a moment. Facetime checking on elderly person left alone. checking on successful people. Because it didn't matter how successful you were. This was still devastating. And you still need a little love a little hershey kisses. You know you know you. Suspended those incredible in-person services at the Potter's House in Dallas. And you say this is a great time for us all to be able to re-instill our core values and for families to reconcile and also reconnect. I mean just like you and the first lady Sereda have been able to spend time together so many families haven't and for a lot of people that that ain't so sweet. Yeah Yeah Yeah. That's true that that is true. It will either work for you or against you one of the things that I thought about the church part of it. Was You know when the teacher talks all through the classes but when the test comes she's always quiet and this was a testing moment and there was a time that we weren't able to draw from our traditional types of worship services because the test was in session? How much have we really learned? How much have we really grown? And even to those families who are lucked alone and they are combative. They will either find a way to work. Their way toward wholeness or toward a decision. That says we're better part than we are together. Not every story has a happy.
Improve Your Memory
"I'm Mary Mickley and I welcome you. Mid Week to our series were exploring on brain health in regard to memory. And I want to ask you. How is your challenge coming along this week? Your challenge that I encourage you to do every single day throughout this week. Series is a challenge. I hope you will continue to do from here on out and that is to learn something new this week. I am learning how to play the harmonium. It's an instrument I received as a gift recently and I've been wanting to learn how to play it. Maybe I'll share with you. The results of my efforts. I'm sure it will take me some time to become proficient but when I do I will guide you through a chant. I really enjoy at least once a week to sit down and do some chanting before I meditate. So how about you? What are you learning to do? I challenged you to learn something that didn't take a whole lot of setup to begin to do right away in fact another challenge for my memory. This week is to memorize my credit card numbers. This for me would be very useful so your challenge could be pretty simple. It might be memorizing a poem or a song or a prayer that you've always wanted to remember when you use your brain regularly and challenge it you retain your memory much better. I want to share with you. A few lifestyle habits that can help your memory and these are habits that you may or may not already do. I know you do at least one of the habits and that is mindful meditation. Because here you are showing up for yourself doing one of the best things you could possibly do for yourself as you learn to do different meditation techniques to calm your mind and your body. The first lifestyle habit that can help to improve. Your memory is to stay away from sugar. In fact sugar is one of the worst things possible for your brain. It interferes with your memory and even a single instance of elevated glucose in the bloodstream can be harmful to your brain can result in slowed cognitive function and a deficit in memory and attention. In fact there is some research that suggests that a high sugar consumption can cause inflammation in your brain and this can lead to memory difficulties so your brain on sugar is not a good thing the next thing you could do to improve your lifestyle to improve your memory his to give yourself regular doses of aerobic types of physical activity it might be running or dancing or any other kind of aerobic activity and what this does is it helps to increase your oxygen capacity and this helps to improve your memory now. There are many many other lifestyle habits that I'll be sharing with you over the week but those are two that I encourage you to do today. You could stop eating sugar today even if you find it. Hard to refrain from sugar completely. At least cut back on your sugar intake. Also you could do something aerobic. Even if it's jumping jacks or just doing something simple and easy by turning on a youtube video and dancing that can be a great way to in prove your
Mindfulness for Children With Kamala Alcantara
"Good day and welcome to episode two hundred sixty one of live happy now. This is Paul thanking you for joining us again. This week most of us are aware already of how important it is to be able to use tools like mindfulness and meditation to help Create Intercom. But it's tough as it is for adults master. Imagine what it's like for a child. This week's yet has created a way to teach children things like meditation. Mindfulness Yoga and more with the help of some very cute. Ninja bunnies camelot. All Kante is co founder and chief content officer of Ninja focus an APP that helps young children learn breathing techniques. Mindfulness emotional regulation and a lot. More her goal is to help. Strengthen families and motivate children to be kinder were compassionate and happier. Let's hear how Ninja Focus can help them? Do that camelot. Thank you so much for coming on. Live happy now today. Thank you for having me. What you've created is simply amazing and I'm really excited for people to hear about this APP and see what all it can do. Can you kind of start off by talking about your intention behind creating Ninja Focus? Yes of course. Ninja focus as maybe base. Had seen is a mindfulness platform for kids. And we're really targeting. The critical ages of three to ten up to twelve in you know. I'm a huge mindfulness advocate. Because if it's beautiful restorative effects and I was seeing in schools and in homes for my friends in for my family. People who are parents didn't have an effective way to really teach their kids about. Mindfulness and mindfulness is extremely inclusive. Practice if you can you can practice. Mindfulness it's important. That young kids learn to practice mindfulness. Because it's an easy way to help them. Learn to focus on their own by paying attention to their breasts and understanding how to be present observing their own emotions in the moment that way. They're better equipped to respond in a way that's more productive and less emotional when they're feeling things that they don't want to feel and I was seeing APPs that we're taking kids and teaching them how to sleep and Yoga APPs for kids but I couldn't find a holistic platform that could teach kids about mindful eating and compassion and self esteem and really learning. What mindfulness is how they can control their breasts to reduce their stress and anxiety and I wanted to create something super superfund and focused on kids. Where kids could actually pick up the APP or their parents get hand over the tablet and would be healthy screen time. That kids could understand how to navigate the APP and so we built this beautiful cute little Ninja Bunny Mascot and I looked up what the most popular animals were. Kids love animals and also Ninjas so I thought the idea of Ninja bunny and wind ninjas mainly because Ninjas have to focus their silent and they have to pay attention to their surroundings in order to do their job effectively and so kids were able to easily relate to a Ninja so when kids go into the APP. They're able to just pick an emotion. Like how are you feeling today and offered you know if they pick angry? They're offered a guided meditation. That six straight to them about how they're feeling and in a language that's easy for young kids to understand and let me say that that is something that really impressed me about it because you have that whole component of teaching children to identify what they're feeling because I mean sometimes as adults. We haven't even learned how to do that. That you immediately have to start thinking okay. My board and my sad emma which of these things am. I really brilliantly don. How did you come up? With a way to customize it for these different ages because that's what's coral too when you go on there and you can choose the age range that you're in. This is really a a custom tailored experience for each child. Yeah so you know. I was a teacher previously in worked with young children in various capacities whether it be in community service or teaching them yoga or meditation and with kids. The ability to customize is really important especially for their development and so when I was figuring out what the content would look like how kids would consume it. What do I do? I actually called in kids. I called I called appearance. We had one two three hour sessions with individual families in these kids through the different drawings we had at the time and we had a prototype of the APP and so the APP actually looks completely a lot different and when we had input from the kids it really shapes their experience so the APP itself was driven by kids and so the design is set that if a child is under the age of six we noticed in our trials and we're doing research that that age group. Kinda press things so when baby are under six. They're taken to a screen in the APP. Which just a world of. Yoga falls and mindfulness mountains. Meditation rocks in so they're able to just click in explore in find out what they like in for the older kids who kind of understand emotion at that time they are taken directly to the Harry. Feeling screen where they're able to pick how they're feeling in that moment in choose content that is relevant towards how they are feeling and so. That's that's what we did. I ask kids as a kid. You tell me this is for you. This is improving. So that's that's sort of how as directed in its so adorable. We're the artwork. Come FROM SO. It was the work of a team. A design team and we had a lot of kids their input as well and when it comes down to it what I did was we ran a contest on nine designs and we had like a hundred and thirty expert designers submitted these bunny designs and I literally told him. I just WanNa Ninja Bundy. That's cute kids and so we narrowed it down to the top three actually. Open it up to kids that taught in Spain kids. I taught in Phoenix and I. I sent it out on facebook and we had kids choose which money they liked. The most and so kids chose the bunny and sort of the world. An animation Ms Secret Gamer myself. And so I put together a lot of different game designs in looked at what was working for kids and what wasn't working in sort of just drew out this world to designers and they made it happen.
Field Trip to Peace Out Park!
"Can you hear the other people in the park is a lot going on around us? But let's focus on one thing. This thing is really special and very important without it. We wouldn't be alive. It's the first thing we do when we're born. We cannot go more than a couple of minutes without doing this. Can you guess what I'm talking about? Yes that's right breathing. Let's focus on our breathing. We're all breathing right now. Breathing happens in the present when we talk about. Mindfulness that means paying attention to what is happening in the present so if we just pay attention to our breathing than we are definitely focusing on the present moment try it now place one hand over your heart and one hand on your belly take a nice deep breath in through your nose and breathe out through your nose slowly take another breath now and pre that keep going. Fill the air entering through your nose and moving through to your lungs and your whole body and then feel the air out to your nose again as you breathe out as you breathe in let it fill your belly like a balloon feel your belly rising and then falling as you agree the air back out if you notice yourself getting distracted by any of the noises talking around us. That's good that is a signal that you're giving to yourself that you just need to place your mind back onto your breathing.
Matt Kahn | Being Meditated
"So welcome. Did They House Meditations podcast Matt Conn? Well thanks for having me. It's an honor to be here. It's really great to have you on and you know these are Super Challenging Times. I mean we have We have everybody experiences challenges in different ways. But we're experiencing a kind of group dynamic And so I wanted to talk to you today about that. About how experiencing both as an individual and as a collective and your book your latest book the Universe always has a plan. Ten golden rules of letting go I thought that it would be. I thought it might. We might be able to frame our conversation within those golden rules. Why I love that. You know it's it's a very extraordinary time in the planet There's a multitude of ways we can look at what's happening you know. There's the there's the the spiritual being who lives in the world who says how I see that the old is dissolving and. There's a sense of excitement because I feel like something. New is emerging and of course for those in the planet that are right now having a crash course in expanded consciousness. It's hard to not look beyond or look past the lost devastation. And the change that no one really anticipated or could ever prepare for so. I really think it's interesting that you know individually and collectively Really we are as as a society No matter what continent we live in or whatever Sector of the world that we Occupy were really all experiencing transformation of consciousness. Where the old way of being is essentially has come to an end and new way is dawning and being burst. And you know the Great News. Is that as we settle into this new way of being. Or we're GONNA find is that we're going to be more connected to our hearts more connected to our loved ones and certainly we're going to kind of I. I see US getting back to more of community based Society of consciousness and of course before we get into that place where we come together as one there of course is going to be the growing pains and the losses that literally bring us out of our individual shells and literally help us connect heart to heart with others. You wrote about in in the. I don't know if you maybe even remember this. But in the introduction to the book last the first paragraph of the introduction last sentence you wrote that we're entering a time of big change and loss. Yes and you know this was. The book came out just a few months ago. So this was written obviously before the pandemic. And then you. You wrote that you that you wanted to share the with the the wisdom that you have to help find the light through out life's darkest tunnels and like in in in most people on the planet right for most people in the plan right now. This is perhaps one of the darkest tunnels they've ever been in and everybody's sort of collectively experiencing it so I wanted to ask you is What is the sense that you have where were where we're experiencing Not only having this experience together as sort of planet temporarily but how what we're experiencing isn't actually the pandemic there or at least the corona virus. We're not all we all. Don't have the CORONA VIRUS RIGHT. But we are all experiencing fear we all are experiencing uncertainty. And so your your work. I mean your password and this this These sort of guidelines or these golden rules as you call them stay. He seemed like point right towards that how to deal with uncertainty and fear. We'll absolutely because you know we we understand on a spiritual path. The the working structure of the universe is that the universe will manifest your reality to be whatever it needs to be seen as or perceived upon in order to bring up whatever. Lingering emotions need to be healed and processed from your past That's something that we've all worked with. But you know and the spiritual journey up to this point. The spiritual journey has been sort of a a luxury for many people who will explore spirituality expansion and healing under. You know very what's the word? I'm looking like almost comfortable situations in their yoga studio or exactly half hour with their incense but exactly how they're being flake. Yeah it's time now will be almost like before we had the invitations who choose spiritual evolution and our being ushered into a time where truly it is. It is now not choosing spiritual evolution. It is spiritual evolution has chosen us. And I think that you know when you're under the very Structured conditions of being peaceful and meditating in a yoga studio or going to see a speaker speaking on stage or all. These beautiful things is. It's giving you food for thought. But I don't think a lot of people were prepared for and when I wrote this book by the way I wrote this book because what I was talking about about loss and the dark tunnels and the things that you just quoted. I was actually talking about when people enter dark night of the soul. And go through this transformation when it's interesting nowadays is that you know Dr the sole usually is when you just spontaneously star awakening and all the repressed energy the shadow aspects of Jagdeo starts starts to come up and what scares people is that they don't have any contacts. But what's interesting is that people are experiencing the same exact fear of dark night of the soul but with context. And so it's interesting to think about with context. People get very mesmerized distracted in blaming the circumstances and view. If it wasn't for this my life would still be how I wanted it to be. And there's that negotiation going on and yet when we enter dark night of the soul spontaneously. It's the same kind of fear but without any context and so we actually We don't know what's happening is this right. Is something wrong with me so I think it's very interesting to see whether we have context for a spontaneous awakening or we are lost in the context of what we think is causing our depression or sadness. Anxiety whether it's social distancing whether it's self quarantining whether it's the fear of the corona virus the economic impact. I think what's interesting is that with or without context. Uncertainty brings up our deepest vulnerabilities and help us get get reacquainted with our deepest fears. And as I like to always teach when these deepest vulnerabilities come up. It is showing us. What's next in line to be loved?
Releasing Emotions from the Body
"Hello everyone welcome back to energy healing with me Heidi Lane. I received a question and I wanted to devote a whole episode to it because I do believe at something that many people struggle with and this person is not alone in their question is so their question was. I've been listening to your podcast a lot and I wanted to ask you for some advice. I've always blocked my emotions to the point where I'm very numb to a lot of bad things that happen since. Getting more into my energy and spirituality. I'm so aware of the fact that I want to cry. I haven't cried hard and probably two years but I always feel this way on my chest that I can't get rid of. I practiced guided meditations opening my heart Chakra. Which has helped bring emotions to the surface but right when they get there it goes away. I don't know if this makes any sense but hopefully you have some words of wisdom for me so the good news is this does make sense. This makes so much sense and it's something that I have even struggled. I struggled with this for a long time and still an occasion struggle with it. It's an ongoing process Working with our emotions so I've talked about emotions throughout various episodes. Let's maybe start with Y? We block our emotions. Why is it so difficult to connect with our emotion sometimes? There's a lot of reasons for this. There could be some trauma what sh needs to be healed resolved and that certainly takes time and depending on what the trauma is and helps densities. It is working with a psychotherapist can be super beneficial for that especially one who specializes in trauma but in general unpleasant emotions negative emotions were not going to label emotions negative or positive. We're GONNA use pleasant or unpleasant. I'm pleasant emotions are not fun to deal with. They aren't fun especially if we're not sure where that emotion is coming from or perhaps we feel like we shouldn't feel that way or we just don't want to experience it. We only want to experience the pleasant emotions that is a big culprit for unpleasant emotions getting blocked and getting suppressed now. When we suppress emotions any kind of emotion it creates a blockage in our energy because emotions are energy so in that creates a blockage. It shows up in shock res- It shows up. We have our seven primary shockers but are also so many thousands of minor shock res- as well. So how do we know if we are blocking and emotion? Our physical bodies provide us with a lot of clues as to what it is. We are feeling emotionally so doing a full body scan every single day to help to new in to what it is. You are feeling so doing that. Full body scan starting at the top of your head all the way down to your toes scanning yourself to see what thoughts are surfacing what emotions are surfacing and what physical sensations are surfacing. Now it's also important to do this body scan win. You are experiencing emotion in the moment so when you're feeling angry doing that body scan and noticing where it is. You're feeling your anger. Maybe you notice that your neck gets kind of tensor shoulders. Get tense may be feel it in your chest. There's no right or wrong. There is really tuning in to find out where you feel it specifically so that way when that physical sensation comes up in your body it can automatically clues to. Oh I'm feeling this right now. I'll also say because the listener mentioned that they've been working on opening their heart. Shaqra more sometimes. That's not what's needed. Because our authentic emotions reside in our sequel Shaqra so in her gut. Our Heart Shaqra is great for compassion and love. It also can hold grief or anger by our sacred. Shaqra is where we hold our emotions. So if we're too hot up being in our heart Chakra where neglecting a whole other area. So what does that mean are? Authentic emotions are authentic. Emotions are what or how we really feel about things. We spend a lot of time up in our heads. A Lotta time with our thoughts and our thoughts are often misleading. I'm taking this class The science of Wellbeing Yale Class. But it's free so if you haven't heard of it I would encourage you to check it out. Talks about happiness and cultivating more happiness. She talks about this. A little bit in that. Our initial intuitions about things from our mind from our thoughts are very often wrong and this creates a lot of unhappiness. So when you pick up on an emotion when you recognize that there's emotion within you or you're feeling it just stop and sit with it firmament because it may not be what. You're really fueling. Our authentic emotions are generally calm and their shared with you as information rather than being this blaring alarm foghorn from your brain because our thoughts are basically a runaway train so if it creates an emotion emotional reaction to something and allow that trained to take off without emotion with all of these thoughts. It's going to make it very difficult for to stop that train. So that way you can figure out what it is. You're actually feeling
Turning Social Isolation Into a Creative Outlet With Martha Alderson
"This is Paula Phelps. And this week we are going to tap into our creative side. Using our creativity is a proven way to increase our personal well-being. It can put you in a positive mood and that starts an UPWARD SPIRAL. That makes you feel more creative. And thereby further increases your happiness for somehow life creeps in and takes over the time. We'd love to spend exploring creatively before we know it. We feel like we've lost touch with our creative side entirely. This week's guest is an expert in tapping into creativity. Martha Alderson is an author who also works with bestselling authors Hollywood directors artists and performers all over the world to help them find their creativity. Now you can try this at home. Her New workbook boundless. Creativity is a one month exploration into your creative side. So let's hear what Martha has to say about it. Martha welcome to live happy. Now thank you for inviting me. I'm thrilled to be here. This is such a great work book that you've written for us. And what a great time for us to work on our creativity. It seems like it. I know that a lot of people are under enormous stress for all sorts of reasons because of the virus but if people do have free time and they're looking fill it creatively. I think by going through the program in the workbook. It's just a great way to let go of. That's happening around us. All the news all the problems of the world and just sink into your creativity and into really your spirit sh and who you are at your core beyond all the material things the problems and everything else so. I think it would be a great place for people to spend some time. We'll obviously when you wrote it. He didn't say hey. I think everyone's going to have a couple of months you know. So what was your decision behind writing it in the first place? Well I been a plot consultant for about thirty years for riders every story whether it's a memoir scream player. A novel has to have a plot and I'm passionate about empowering women's voices and women traditionally have had a lot of trouble with plot because it's a very linear logical progression and of Women. Writers are highly creative somewhat disorganized and are very interested in character development. But they don't really get plot in so. I just became passionate about teaching everybody but it seemed like it turned out to be the majority of women and then in doing that. It soon evolved into working with all kinds of creative people because what I found is we're all sort of on the same universal path. It's a universal story. That has certain markers in them that we pass through along the way. And what I found is that it's great when you're in the creative muse and everything's flowing in your feeling that euphoria of feeling like a conduit or a medium for the creative news to come through you. But at some point we stumble and all of a ten. We read over what we wrote. Are we look at the painting we painted and think? Oh my gosh you know. It's not what I thought it was going to be. And we started to doubt ourselves and self sabotage come up with sorts of reasons why we should put the project aside or give up or whatever and this is especially true for anyone who has perhaps suffered what. I call a backstory wound. Which is something that has traumatized them? In some way you know it can be a divorce or apparently being when you're a child or some kind of abuse or whatever and that really influences what we say to ourselves about our worthiness in our capabilities and our potential and that really interferes with the creative flow. All of a sudden that flow is stymied and our spirits. Can't really get through to be able to give us the support and the encouragement that we deserve. I wanted to write a workbook to be able to help people to become unblocked it to be able to get rid of all this self doubt and insecurities and unworthiness and to really live a life of passion and excitement and happiness joy and that really is something that I'm devoted to and with this workbook. You really prepare us for what we're going to do. It does such a wonderful job of asking these deep thoughtful questioned. Where did that come from over the course of time? Did you develop that? These are the questions that are going to help drive us into our creative selves. Well I think it's just sort of evolved over the last thirty years or so probably my whole life to tell you the truth but when I came up with the idea of the universal story I had a really hard time bringing it down to the concrete was very cereal and spiritual in all of that but once I started writing more about it and seeing these parts you know the beginning the middle and the end it really correlates with the Hero's journey that Joseph Campbell came up with but I take it a step further and called the universal story because I see it in not just what we move through as humans on our human path but nature you know the seasons of the year the moon cycles plants growth animal cycles. All these things have the same beginning middles and ends. And if you're aware of where you are on that journey and what's expected of you. It just makes the journey easier.
Don't Try To Be Great
"In his book. Based on a commencement speech he gave at Dartmouth College in twenty eleven. Charles Wheel tells a story about how he was once a guest on a news program hosted by Chicago journalist Phil Ponts now the show is filmed live. So of course if you mess up or say something you regret there are no do overs. They're only hundreds of thousands of pairs of eyes watching. You do whatever it is you did or say whatever it is you said polished or not just before airtime Charles the writer recalls how. He was feeling right before. He said he was nervous. Self-conscious in hoping to impress in that very moment fill. The host leaned over with just thirty seconds to live and said these words. Charles never forgot. Don't try to be great. Just be solid. The book is called ten and a half things. No commencement speaker has ever said and in it. Charles Leland writes this. That simple advice had a profound effect. Because I knew I could be solid. That was within my control. I could just talk about what I know. I could answer questions candidly. I could have a fun and interesting conversation with other guests. I might have some fun. Equips I might not. Phil's advice was liberating because it removed the pressure to deliver what I wasn't certain I could deliver and it made me better at doing what I knew I could again. The book is called ten and a half things. No commencement speaker has ever said and don't try to be great. Is thing ten and a half like many of you? I've been thinking a lot about this class of twenty twenty both like I said the high school graduates college graduates to in addition to all of the end of year events. This graduating classes either missing out on her having to modify because of the pandemic the truth remains they're still graduating. They are moving into the world of grownups and the expectations in this world can be while extreme to say the very least. This world is filled with people who are trying to be great in the same way. I hope doing the next great thing is a kind of phrase for graduates to hold onto. I think Philpott he gave to Charles. Leland seems like a relief as well. Don't try to be great. Just be solid. It's not the message we usually hear after all the phrase is greatest of all time not solid est of all time or does that even mean to be solid years ago. I listened to an interview with author Philly Anderson who by the way is also a real life dear friend of ours here. North Carolina but in the interview Phil shared about his thirty year. Friendship with author and priest Brennan Manning in that interview Phil says this about Brennan Guy who's famous for what he has to say yet. What I remember most about him was how he sat and listened. He touched my life with his kindness. To fill. Brennan was solid. Another story comes to mind about Brennan himself one that he told his book souvenirs of solitude and it was about how years ago after a difficult phone call he had. He left his home. He was distracted and he had an appointment. That day. To give a talk to the inmates of Trenton State prison when he stood up there in front of the inmates he had been distracted. Like I said right before. He got up there so without stopping to think about his surroundings. His first words of greeting to the inmates were well. It's nice to see so many of you here when I read that statement. I tip my head back and laughed out loud all by myself mainly though I recognized how Brennan responded to his own words he wrote. I'm frequently not inform on top or in control. This is part of my poverty. As a human being and self acceptance without self concern simply expresses a reality he writes an impoverished spirit prevents the poor man from becoming a tyrant to himself. Brand was not anxious shocked or even much concerned about this misstep in front of the inmates. Instead he had a light heart about it if he had been trying to be great that day. This mistake would have crushed him instead. He showed up solid which meant there was room to make a mistake and to move on without crumbling. We try to great. We risk becoming a tyrant to ourselves when things don't go the way planned one final quote and then I'll be done Dallas. Willard writes about the misunderstood phrase that we find in the Bible about dying to self he says in this is a quote when we see people dominated by their lust for glory or insisting that there will be done we will be in a position where we can be very firm in not cooperating with them even if their loved ones when we live in the shepherd sufficiency and died to ourselves. We become the most firmly established people in the world. That quote is from his book. Life Without lack the most firmly established people in the world so class of twenty twenty. Don't try to be great. Just be solid. Be Solid in the way you live in your house until the next phase begins in the way you hang out with your family your choice to laugh instead of roll your eyes in the way you choose to listen to your younger siblings. Who will miss you more than they can possibly say. Or put into words be solid with how you enter into your next experience not like a tourist who watches from behind a camera lund's and insists all of your usual comforts are close at hand and not like an expert who thinks she's supposed to know everything as best you can enter into your new situation ready to be fully present and engaged when you can and free to withdraw when it's necessary be solid enough to be boring if you're trying to be great you might not notice the people and the margins your neighbors who are working twice as hard for half as much. If you're trying to be great you might be tempted to bend the truth to get ahead. So just be solid honest simple and you
Responding Creatively to Fear
"Welcome y'all as many of you know at Sacred Chill West. We create a community tension every month for all of our classes to focus on as we teach meditation. Yoga Yoga and this month's community intention for the month of May is awake to the transitions awake to the transitions. Now this phrase really stems from teachings that we my business partner Octavia and I received from one of our teachers Tracy Stanley and she continually uses this phrase as the reminder not to go back to sleep when we wake up when we learned something about ourselves. Don't let yourself get pulled back into old habits or old ways of coping just because things get hard or scary even in the midst of a pandemic. So I've been reflecting on this. How do we stay awake to the transitions? How do we stay awake as the moment to moment shifts under our feet and right in line with this thinking? I listened to episode of Radio. Labs podcast you'll know. I Love Radio last. And in this episode they were reflecting on a question posed by famous physicist Richard Feynman. And he asked this question all the way back in nineteen sixty one he asked. If in some cataclysm all of scientific knowledge were to be destroyed and only one sentence was passed on to the next generation of creatures what statement would contain the most information in the fewest words and then of course he went on to answer this question in his own brilliant physicist way but radio lab took this a step further and they went out and asked a myriad of artists musicians scientists creative thinkers this very question and what was so interesting to me about the response was the vast majority responded in some way with the word fear. Fear is the thing that most people want to tell other people or other creatures or other beans. This is the thing that limits us that holds us back that paralyzes us that keeps us from our potential and that we must have a willingness to respond creatively to fear. And so this whole talk. Today is based on the question. What do I do when I feel? I can't handle what's going on. What do I do when I feel? I can't handle what's going on and I'm willing to bet all of you have an immediate answer because how many of us have been sitting at home for weeks on end feeling like we can't handle what's going on and so we do the thing right. We all have these coping mechanisms. Maybe it's shopping maybe it's TV watching. Maybe it's eating or drinking or drugs or talking on the phone too much. Who knows we all have these mechanisms and we use them to avoid feeling uncomfortable? We use them to go back to sleep rather than stay awake to the unknown and of course the problem with this is this is fake control coping mechanisms. Are Pseudo control. That becomes actually like a prison. Boxing us into our neurosis. We couldn't possibly wet go of our beliefs. We couldn't possibly let go of the actions or escape mechanisms that we've created because what is left would be way too scary. We become increasingly terrified of the possibility of freedom. Now happily meditation does tell us. There's another way. Meditation reminds us. That freedom doesn't come from resisting or blocking our fears but it comes from getting to know these fears well so today. We're going to get to know our fears and in many traditions. The teachings within a meditation practice are that there are three main ways. We protect ourselves from this fear of the unknown from the fear of uncertainty. The first one is the one. I already referenced. This is the method of escape that each of us has so someone shops someone uses alcohol's food drugs sex. Tv books walking in nature being social. You know some of these are completely benign. Some of these maybe a little bit more dangerous but all of them can be methods for stain asleep. No matter how we escape. Our normal response is not one of curiosity. Meaning were not normally going. Oh look at me escaping the moment by calling a friend. No we're just calling the friend and were numb to what we're escaping. We don't explore it and our practice now is to get curious. This is step one right. Gay Curious what am I relief from when I engage this escape mechanism? What am I feeling relief from as I engage this escape mechanism the second way that we avoid fear our beliefs the beliefs that we used to give us a sense of certainty these might be political beliefs or social justice beliefs or religious beliefs? A scientific beliefs right any belief that gives us the person a sense of rightness or correctness. Now the problem of course is not the beliefs themselves but rather the problem is. How do we use these beliefs to make us feel steady to feel grounded or in control? How do we use these beliefs to avoid feeling the discomfort of not knowing? What will happen next? This one has been particularly potent for me in this moment. You Know Georgia beam the first state to reopen anything and my personal belief surrounded are that that's way too soon and sponsor and I could go on for hours and so the act of curiosity is to really pay attention does what does that righteous anger prevent me from feeling the right when. I get all up on my soapbox and outraged an angry and yelling. My opinions is it trying to make me feel more in control of a moment. That's totally out of control. And I'm not hear me say this. I am not saying you should not get outraged about certain things and speak up and not discounting the need for justice and standing up for what's right by any means that is a talk for another day but what I am talking about. Today is the curiosity of how we use those beliefs to make ourselves feel better the last way that we avoid fear is perhaps the most tricky this form of protection comes to us by seeking altered. Mind states some might do this through drugs. Some might do this through exercise highs or extreme meditation through falling in and out of love anything that takes us out of the mundane the ordinary and feels special right. These special mine states can be so powerful because we feel above or removed from the discomfort of the every day. So like if you have a really powerful meditation experience and you get some kind of clarity or visit or you hear voice or something magical happens in that meditation and in the next time you meditate you expect the exact same thing to happen but what really happens you write the grocery lists for twenty minutes. Now were feeling disappointed in our practice or upset with our practice. We can clean to those special experiences as a way to avoid life. And what we're not trying to do is avoid life. What we're trying to do is be in our
Interrupt Negative Thought Patterns
"You are going to discover how to break negative thought patterns. There are many ways to do this. But I'll be sharing with you. A to break thought patterns that are especially prevalent and hazardous to your thoughts. Negative thinking is a bad habit that can be broken. And that's what you were exploring this week and this week series and you have a challenge. Each day this week I challenged you to chase down your negative thoughts. So the challenge is a thought chaser begin to notice when you're thinking a negative thought and then track that thought to its origin. Why made you start thinking this negative thought in the first place. How does it make you feel if it makes you feel angry? Is it really anger or is it more fear because you feel threatened in some way and what really makes you feel threatened and begin to unravel that thought as you get to the root? You're negative BOT. Keeping Journal helps immensely as you do. This process in fact. There's a lot of research that shows. How when you journal writing something down on paper the old fashioned way it helps you process your thoughts and your emotions much more effectively and just thinking things through or even if you were to text or user voice recorder to process your emotions writing with pen or pencil and paper is a powerful way to clarify your thoughts and emotions so you might try that will we are past our mid week of this series and you may have noticed that some of your negative thoughts follow a particular pattern and I'm going to mention a few patterns that are very prevalent among negative thoughts. Remember we all have these negative thoughts and we can break these thoughts when you recognize. Certain Common Thought Distortions. So see if you can identify your negative thoughts as I share with you. These thought distortions. This is coming from psychology today. An article in the women's mental health matters by the Cellini Institute. It's an article by Dr Patricia Harteneck. And it's titled Seven ways to deal with negative thoughts learn how to tap into the positive and manage the negative so she talks about thought distortions and the I thought distortion is black and white thinking. Do you notice yourself seeing everything as one way or another way without too much flexibility in between just think about if you take your thoughts to an extreme in any way so you might see someone and think they don't like me. They didn't smile at me. I think they gave me actually a really dirty looks so I know they don't like me when really that person may not have even noticed walking past you because they were so deep in thought or do you recognize this common. Thought Distortion personalizing. It's similar to black and white thinking. Do you feel that you are to blame for something that goes wrong for example when you pass that person and they don't smile at you you? It's because they saw something about you that they didn't like and that there's just no way to please this particular person you can go on and on and on and create a big scenario when you personalize your thoughts. Do you see any of your thoughts being distorted in this way. The next way is filter thinking when you're choosing to see only the negative side of situation so you just think that no matter what it's just going to be negative. There's no hope it's just bad. Do you notice yourself falling into this kind of thought pattern. Maybe your in a dispute with someone and you just see no way. Will this ever work out? Could be just a bad thought. Distortion your parts. So consider that and the fourth thought distortion is catastrophe. Ising now you might notice that you assume the worst possible outcome is going to happen. So let's say you wanted to make amends with someone that you are in a dispute with but you think oh it will just make it worse and then that person will just go on and on acting how they act and you can just think of all these ways that. It's just going to be a big catastrophe notice if you do this. We all do these to certain extents notice. If your thought distortions are actually habits so what you can do to reverse. These thought distortions is to challenge your negative thoughts. Think about whether or not there's a complete reality in the way you're thinking or if you could see some wiggle room for improvement so the person who walked past you and you thought that person just didn't like you and on and on and on maybe you could say well maybe that person didn't see me or maybe that person's just in a really bad mood and you can even have compassion and sympathy for the person. So think about this as you go into your meditation today. Consider your thought distortions. You might notice a definite pattern in how you frame your thoughts and your experiences. So that is your technique to do as you settle yourself down to meditate about a particularly negative thought and analyze it and consider if you are personalizing that thought if it's black and white type of thought if you are filtering that thought by only thinking negatively or if you're catastrophe thought and just only thinking the worst possible outcome see if you can reverse that thought process and think of maybe not the cure to your negative thought but how you could begin to see some hope or rationalize in a true invalid way how you could improve that thought so this could be a very important pivotal change for you this week because once you do this once you may begin to recognize that you could do this again and again. Rinse and repeat it across your thought process
How to Lead a Less Hurried Life
"So Dr. Like men. Dr. Alan Lightman. Nice to meet you hear remotely I've to meet you opera. Thanks for joining us for this call to unite and also on super so conversations. From the moment I read that article that you wrote in the Atlantic recently title the viruses. A reminder of something lost long ago perfect title. Might I say I was so moved by your words. I've been wanting to talk with you about it so I'm glad we had this opportunity so before we get started. I just want to introduce you all to tell you Who Dr Lightman is? He's a physicist also a humanities professor at Mit you're known as one of the few scientists who is also a bestselling writer of novels and one who embraces spirituality. That's what got my attention. A scientist who embraces spirituality. Sounds like to me. You're a renaissance man. For Time. Such as this well the world has gotten more and more interdisciplinary so we need people that can cross discipline and talk to each other so before we talk about that article in the Atlantic and I was just sharing with you before we that the Atlantic is doing a great job on covert you there so nonpartisan you. You spill the truth in them. I wanted to ask you about an experience that you wrote about in one of your books. Call for the stars on an island in Maine. So you're on a boat at night on the ocean when you had a transformative transcendent experience. Share that with our audience. Will you will. I was coming back to an island late at night after midnight and a clear night and there was no one out on the water and I turned off the engine of the boat and got even quieter than turn off the running lights of the boat in got even darker and I lay down in the boat and just looked up at the sky. And just you just you just me just me on about after midnight. I lay down on the boat and looked up at the at the sky and I felt like I was falling into infinity. I felt like I was merging with the stars and not only with the stars I felt like I was merging with the cosmos was an incredible feeling. I felt like I was part of something larger than myself. And I've been scientists all of my life and But I realized later the Dow was a an experienced it was really not reducible by the methods of science. The feeling that I had of being connected to something big because science does always out to prove a thing. And you're saying that just the experience itself for you and anyone else. Who has that experience? That is proof enough. That's the authority lies the experience itself. No-one can negate the experience that you have. That's pretty amazing coming from scientists. So we're living in a world now at a time where a scientific facts as we can tell from. Every news organization are more important than ever for albro from all the information that we're getting we're living in a time where scientific fact is so important but you say that there is actually room for us understand that there is an invisible and as we just said unprovable but real connection between all living things in the universe. Can you explain a little bit more about that? Well i'd like to distinguish between the physical universe. Which is the subject of science? And what what I might call the spiritual universe and by spiritual universe. I mean the collection of all of those experience that we have where were tied to something larger than ourselves. I'm not talking about organized religion on talking about this very vital personal experience like the one I had lying in the boat and Maine looking up at the stars where we feel connected to things bigger than ourselves and those are two domains the scientists in spiritual h had their own region of validity. Up questions like how old is the earth or what is the cause of climate? Change those light in the physical realm and they are the the realm of science but there are other human experiences that we have like the one we describe lying about looking at the stars that that are not reducible by science and the report of some other world some other existence. I think that's one of the things that connects us as people. Well you know. It's interesting what you describe in the boat. I had an experience like that in two thousand six. I was walking along a road in Maui in an area where the cloud had come down and it was like we were walking through the clouds. You could see only through the cloud. Just a sliver of a of moon and it looked like the moon and my friend said Oh that looks like the DreamWorks Moon. You could put boy up there with a fishing pole and you could just see the sliver of the moon and as we're walking it became so still that I tell you just thinking about. It makes my eyes water. It became so still that I felt that thing that you're talking about in the boat where I felt a connection between all time all life all sp it just felt. I felt expanded. I felt like I felt like I was a part of the clouds. So that's one thing you're talking about. Yes that's the same thing and I think many I think all of us have had experiences like this One of the aspects of the experience you're describing and I imagine you felt to is. Is You you lose your body. You lose track of your ego you lose track of yourself you lose track of time. It's a beautiful experience is Dr Lightman. Is that just a glimpse? That's just a glimpse of what at what is right. That's a glimpse at the full present moment that we speak. So much of this is a tiny little glimpse. Just please call me Alan. Yes that's Okay Allen Dr Allen. Now that we're talking about transcendent experiences we should be. Yeah Yeah it's a glimpse it's a glimpse of something and of course we don't know with that larger thing is. Einstein said someone asked him whether he was a spiritual person or believe or something and he said I feel like we are children going into a library and we see a lot of books in the library written in different languages and we don't. We can't read the books but we know that somehow they got there that something produced those books. Yeah you know. I'm thinking that this pandemic as a massive reset for the world and I know that you believe that we have a chance to choose a less hurried life. Now you wrote about that in the Atlantic article and you write that we've been living too fast. We have sold our inner cells to the devil of speed efficiency. Money hyper connectivity progress. I know you are a whole book on this topic. Call in praise of wasting time but this time that we have white now. Do you think that this is a perfect time to be reset and to do what we're talking about? Be more united. Yeah well I think there is a silver lining to the the virus and then of course when you say that you have to. I acknowledge the tremendous human suffering. This going on the billions of people don't even have clean water to wash their hands so millions of people who've lost their jobs people lost their jobs and we need to celebrate the the care workers and the people working in grocery stores. That are keeping everything going. You know what this time has done. It is allowed us to see that the people who you for for many people overlooked and were just a part of your daily life how necessary everyone is more your life to be lived comfortably and well yes yes it gives us a greater appreciation of the end of an invisible people that make our lives run But I think that there might be one or two silver linings to this devastation. And one of them is that it is forcing many of us to slow down Of course you have to have a certain amount of privilege to be able to slow down. But I hope that we can become conscious of of the frenzy of our normal lifestyle. Where most of the Runaround checking off items on our to do list Being connected to the grid. Twenty four seven. Everything is scheduled up and we haven't had the time to think about who we are to reflect on what's important to us To be quiet and still and I I believe that one of the possible benefits of this period. We're going through now. Is that it's forcing some of us to slow down
Finding Positivity in a Pandemic With Deborah Heisz
"Welcome to episode two hundred and fifty nine of live. This is Paul thanking you for joining us for many of us right now. It seems a little bit harder than to find the good in the world and finding things to be optimistic about concealing even more of a chore. If you know what I'm talking about and I'm guessing you do. You don't want to Miss Today's episode. This week I sat down with live happy. Ceo Deborah Highs to talk about how we can look for. What's good in these? Trying times and find positivity and optimism and make the most of this most unusual time deb. Welcome as always to live. Happy now remotely are remote social distanced version of live happy now. I always glad to be her Paula. And yes it is a social distancing time so we are in our respective homes and having this conversation do unique experience. I don't WanNa these for my house yet. Yeah we'll see. It's all about new experiences right now. It really is well. I wanted to talk to you because you always have such great insight on kind of the lesson in the goodness of what's going on so when you look at what's going on. How do you start finding some of the positives in the pandemic? Well there are some real positives for many of us. I don't WanNa say all of us because not everybody is in. You know the new social environment where they have a family to be at home with but for those of us who do have a family to be at home with and people we live with you know. One of the great positives is truly eating dinner together. Every night truly spending time and and being in each other's involved in others lives meal for me. I've found a way that I haven't had the opportunity to do before I love to cook so we don't go out of the League at groceries really so I've been able to cook. We'll have family dinners at kind of the same time every night because I'm also not stuck in that car for forty five minutes on the way to and forty five minutes away from the office and I'm not getting home to load the kids into the car to go to whatever practices is on tonight. So it certainly. It's created kind of A. I'm going to say a change of pace. That is welcome. I think might be the first time in my adult life. I've getting the right amount of sleep per night. Yeah and I've heard that I've I've also heard the flip side of that is true but and we'll talk about that in a minute but you know we were talking in our house the other night saying I wonder how many people will when this ends in opens up. How many people will decide voluntarily like? I'm not going to go back to that job. Because I've found that this is like I was spending too much time doing Xyz and not enough time with my family or taking care of myself. I think it's a real eye-opening time for a lot of people who I think that's true. I also think it's an eye opening time for a lot of employers being manager being someone who who who leads organization you know you always have a little bit the fear that people aren't there in the office. That work isn't getting done but I think you know. My experience has been exactly the opposite. I think more work is getting done by people because are more positive environment more self directed environment and yes. We spend a lot more time on conference calls. Communication is definitely more deliberate than it was in. You know flying by the Hallway and somebody and being at this question you know you actually have to schedule a meeting time to do it or pick up the phone and call somebody to get to make sure we're communicating but there are advantages on both sides. I think there are a group of people were like. Hey you know what I really like this working from home. I'd like to continue doing it. And there's a group of people who are like you know what I was fearful of. No maybe my employees or my staff to Matt. I'm not as fearful anymore because I see that things are getting done so that's been interesting but I also agree with you. There's a whole swath of people that are like what have I been doing the last five ten years I've been I've been in the rat race and suddenly I'm not certain there's some real advantages adding time to meditate workout. Do the things that we know we should be doing and do with people we love. I think it's going to be hard for my children when I go back to work. And they go back to school so to speak not that I haven't been at work but it's going to be different. It's going to feel like there's a loss yellow St- I think we have not put enough I into that yet because people are saying thinking of like. Oh my gosh as soon as this has done. I'm going do this. And this and this. But we're kind of discounting the fact that we're gaining some real treasures here in in terms of time in our interaction with people and we. WanNa make sure we don't miss those. I agree I think what we lost in entertainment because you know for me personally. I think people listening to podcasts at all. No I'm a sports fanatic. I Miss My sports. I MISS WATCHING BASEBALL ON TELEVISION. And going to hockey game. You know but what we've lost in those areas. I do think we've made up in other areas. I have never done as many Legos as I have in the past four weeks. But it's been quality time and you know my dog probably doesn't WanNa go for walks. Yeah that's how the dogs when the people go back to work. They're going to be like way way way. We thought we had a new world and we were running it and well you know. There's been a lot of dogs adopted from shelters. It's GonNa you know for pet population. I think there's a lot of positive. I certainly hope people take as much care of an animal. That bonding with right. Now when they go back to work and I don't find it. Suddenly it is a little bit more difficult when you have to buy a dog walker home. You know there are some positives in the world. You know somebody another thing I wanted to wrap on. The positive side is now social. Distancing is is interesting in that most of us know that you know when we're in crowd were in or anything. We always have a bit of the risk of getting the flu or or you know a cold or something. You know you have this. But the social distancing claim for a lot of people. They need to remember that they aren't doing this for themselves. It's not about whether or not you get sick. It's about helping other people not get many occur strangers to you. This truly is an opportunity to give back to the world by doing something that most of us never would have thought that simply staying home and help the world by doing your part. It's really a collective effort to improve the lives and the health of the people in the world but in order for it to work it has to be a collective effort. It's a very interesting thing it's going on. It isn't good enough that you stay home. Your neighbors have to so just an interesting social dynamic going on and I find it fascinating that so. Many people are adopting social distancing. You know not just because they're told to but because they're doing it because it's the right thing to do and in some ways it gives me faith in humanity that people are out there. Doing the right thing.
Free Yourself from Negative Thoughts
"This is episode two thousand twenty of the daily meditation. Podcast I'm marry medically and or welcome back to our series to release negative thoughts in each episode this week. You are going to discover a meditation technique to help you tame and manage those negative thoughts. You have a challenge this week. Your challenge is to chase your thoughts and what that means is for you to chase down those negative thoughts when you notice yourself began to fall into that negative thinking cycle stop and think about what does your thinking and what may have triggered those thoughts chase them down and then see if you can recognize what exactly your particular negative thoughts represent so if you are running through your mind the argument you had with someone could have even been an argument. You had years ago with someone and something triggered you to remember that person and that argument you might just stop and think You know at that time in my life I was feeling pretty insecure about how this person treated me or what this person said to me. And then after you've chased down that thought you could think about how you can put a positive spin on the situation to tame this negative thought you might think about how you've moved on in your life you no longer feel that same way about that person or that conversation or even if you do still feel a little irked by what was said or done you could think about how much you've learned and grown from the experience. This is an example of how you can take your own real life experiences and tame your thoughts this isn't just some positive thinking and aid you can slap on some real difficult thoughts. You might run through your mind. There is science tobacco up why in fact negative thoughts come so easily to US turns out that positive thoughts the good vibes those are usually influenced by dopamine and dopamine is a chemical in your brain that takes some time to work it takes some time to kind of get dopamine going so you can reinforce your positive thoughts or do good things over time in that really gets the dopamine flowing well court. Ah Saul on. The other hand is fast acting and its fuel. It's fire for negative thoughts and we do need this rapid action in a negative situation. Because what if just saying you were being chased by a tiger where you really want your cortisol to be fast acting so that you would instantly sense this danger. When there isn't a true imminent danger. We can create a sense of danger in our minds with negative thoughts. So that's why chasing down. Your thoughts can help to interrupt this process so you can kind of tame that surge of Cortisol you feel when you see a particular person or hear a particular news story now. You are meditation technique for today is I am free. I am free and this affirmation is how you feel when you begin to notice that. Wow this really works. When I do a thought chaser. It really brings to light some awareness. I can see where I was really just stuck in a kind of lazy even cycle if thinking and when I really analyzed it. I didn't really need to be feeling so upset by something that was said or done or I can look at it in a different light so as you settle yourself down today repeat the affirmation. I am free. I am free saying it out loud engaging your voice whisper it repeated in your natural speaking voice and especially repeat. I am free. I am free when you chase down your thoughts and realize the freedom you can create from repetitive negative thoughts. If you'd like the full half hour guided meditations that go right along with each weekly series on the podcast for two weeks free. You can try out these SIP and alm as Ip A. N. D. O. M. MEDITATION APP. Where you receive access to over two thousand guided meditations as always you are so worth slowing down for
PSYCHOLOGY OF A PANDEMIC
"This is Alan Lieber Te. When we talk about what's happened we have to start with What we would call the global trauma that happened when the coronavirus started to change our experience in the world and from there we would go to what we call the global shock which was the shock that all of a sudden this is real and this is really happening in our lives are changing and then we moved from there to global grief which was a morning that we couldn't go and do the same things we used to do because we had stay at home stand shelter and all of a sudden thinks it changed and there was an unforeseen Element that was dangerous that we couldn't fight with an army or we couldn't fight in the other ways and so that has led to All of us having different different experience. Some what we're used to and that's called Angst. It's caused anxiety it's caused depression. It's caused a whole slew of different sort of symptoms in reaction to this sort of emotional haze that happens when you're experiencing grief in this sense were exploited experiencing grief and a global way as well because every time we look for answers or push back into the not knowing into the unknown of. What's the next steps are going to be I? I love the idea I mean. I don't love the idea but I'm intrigued by the way of a global trauma that you know. I mean obviously individuals experienced trauma. But this really in at least in my lifetime I mean I guess you could say wars and things like that but this is something. That's you know. Wars are specific to certain countries and certain specific areas. This this really is this. Pandemic has gone over the entire planet. That's right and so a sense. We're looking for solutions. Because we're a solution oriented and very resilient country but in this instance were dealing with something that is Making it more difficult for us to be resilient Because we don't have the ways in which to resolve this Sooner I think that's where a lot of the anger is coming from. A LOT OF THE GRIEF. Also people are really upset. Like what you know. There's we have to do something you know. There's there's a great line. Did you ever see the movie night of the living dead? Yes and the zombies. Come out of the grave and they're attacking this house in. This woman is freaking out in the house. And she says there's gotta be someone we can call it the funniest line in the movie because it was it was just great. And that's what it feels like. Don't you want just go. There's gotta be somebody we can call and I think that that is the element of that disconnect. 'cause there really isn't anyone to call at this point in time and we're watching the news or reading the paper watching the Internet and looking for a semblance of an answer that we can sort of build a framework around to understand and hopefully have some relief emotional relief from this. Some of the people I work with are experiencing nightmares anxiety. Depression of and all those issues along with PTSD and other sorts of psychological aspects are Becoming more pronounced because of this unforeseen issue is changing what they've known and most people what we've known which is you know. Were able to get NARCAN and go places. Visit with people go to places where we normally have our ritual of shopping or going to work and having meaningful relationships around interactions on yes been frustrated with traffic and other sorts of things but at this point in time all of of that stuff is kind of a wash because it's all different. It is really different. Like I haven't hugged anyone other than my wife and my daughter at my house in a couple of months. That's an odd thing and telling. My daughter went for a walk with her yesterday. And I said not only am I. Distancing myself from the other people walking. I don't even want to look in the eye and I noticed that I was looking away. It's like I was embarrassed that I was distancing myself from them like they. They were defective in some way. Because they might have this and I wasn't even sometimes I cannot go hello through my mask and I'm okay but yesterday I just couldn't even look at them beating feel a sort of angst of being home so much and not being able to start to continue in move out that inner resiliency that we have as a country as a population that the United States is embarked on always had. We're not really experienced that so much at this point I was wondering how many people When they're when they're home because your home and you've got a lot of hours in the day to fill in a in. A new way are are are. They becoming more introspective. Is it you know as it forcing people to be alone with their own thoughts which can be like really profound or also really unpleasant not just about the virus but just their own thoughts. It's like what's my life about. I would think you'd see a lot of people start to question. The basic tenants of their entire existence in some way. Because they have the time to do it. I think you're absolutely right because I think that from what I'm hearing people are looking at their lives and they're seeing that they're able to have a light but not necessarily do all the things run around. Do all the things that we used to do. there's a very famous psychiatrist. Psychotherapists Carl Young talked about the transcendent function of the personality. And we're sort of pushed into that place of having transcend our circumstances and we we have to look at it. Behooves us to look at? What are the things that are fulfilling us in the things that are are providing us with a nerd emotional nutrients and how much that will help us dealing with the present circumstances knowing that we just don't know so how do we connect meaning purpose? And what are the things that will help us Get THROUGH. This is really an important issue. It does seem like that. I mean I. I am sort of somebody that is able to spend a lot of time by myself and not feel like. I'm missing out on anything but I know there's quite a few people that don't live that way. Expe- you know it's like well. What distraction am I going to do next and I've got to go here and I'm busy this idea of being busy as an interesting concept because you when you're constantly busy and you've got this thing you know this idea of Maybe I don't even know if it's just accomplishment of just being busy sometimes it's just being busy to be distracted and not be present That it must create a lot of problems for people you know and you then now. You're seeing people protesting they can't they can't they can't they. Can't sit home. They're actually going a little nuts. It's like I you know when I see a sign of somebody. I need a haircut really that bad right. I cut my hair and I did a terrible job so I think you're bringing up a really good point which is after we are going through this global guilt immer also mirroring and having a parallel process with what's happening in the world. What happens is we ended up in this place of Anticipatory Reef and you made have lots of feelings about that with your children. In with your family you can feel lots of different things in terms of what the situation is and then how that gets played out in the family system.
Stop Judging Yourself Plus Others
"I'm Mary Mickley.
"Now me dreaming big has never been about money or fame. I just happened to get it along the way. It's about the process of continually seeking to be better and my prayer. From the time I was a little girl was God. Use Me use me. Guide us me and it just so happens that God chose to use me in the world on a platform that caused me to have money and fame. I see that very clearly in my life. Yeah it's so important and what a great job you've done but that's that's the way. God is his dream our life big many times. We limit him. Because we think we'LL OPRAH I don't have the Education Ronald have the money I don't know the right people but what God never tells you to figure everything out. He says if you believe all things are possible and so I think that's a big part of it is just yes. Yeah taking the limits off him so I would have to say. We talked about this when I came to your house and interviewed you and Victoria that from a little girl I was looking at. What did I really believed? I believe I would sit on the on the second pew from the Front on the right every Sunday. That was my spot. I was baptized when I was eight years old and I really did believe when I look back at my life. I believed I was God's child and I believe that because I was God's child being born in Mississippi being born in the segregated South They Wanna. I really did believe that anything was possible for me. And that's what is carried me to the space and that's what we want to offer you all. You become what you believe and to believe that you are created by the power that's greater than yourself and that to live in that space means anything's possible and what you want in your life. What you really want is not your little piddly dreams for yourself. Because I had some piddly dreams. What you want to do is to be able to live in the space. That Beautiful Bible Burson Accident Says in God I move and breathe and have my being. You want to be able to live in that space of God's dream for you so the question I think is what is God's dream for you. We want to talk about. What is the difference between dreaming and wishing for something? I think most people spend their life. They wish for things they want things. I want a new car. I WANNA different than talking about. What is the big dream for yourself? I think the big dream for yourself is tied onto your purpose. It's bigger than just you. Meaning that your dream should be connected to helping other people as well. When it's when it's just like you said it just got a lot of money. I want to do this. But it's very different when you say I want to fulfill my purpose so I can be a blessing to others as well. Of course you're going to take care of your family. But it's it's about fulfilling your purpose which is believed. God's dream is always tops in some way to helping other people. Yes some way to making the world of whatever we have. We're here as a part of the human family to offer to ourselves and to the rest of the human family all right. So how would you save? I Love Kristen Miller said on facebook. I've never really known how to have a dream. I just existed hoping for the best but now I know dreams are important and I'm working toward realizing my dreams and obtaining them as dozen God meet you where where wherever you are with the dream he meets you in expands it. Yeah I think he does. I. I'd like to say godel super size going into the fast food restaurant. Your dream God's going to super size anything dream to tweet tweet. God will superstar the super size me. Jesus okay that's good. That's just I feel super size me. Jesus
Read Psalm 23
"Of all the passages of scripture in the Bible. There's one that has become to me. And maybe to you like an unfaltering beam of warm light guiding my way through the darkness like a mother's voice and middle of the night a father's steady arm wrapped around shaking shoulder the six verses in Psalm. Twenty three do more than comfort us in death. They guide us in life. And if we're paying attention these six lines can teach us how to walk into every room every day of our lives is because Psalm. Twenty three is a next right thing. Kind of Psalm and I will never get over. It many have memorized it and it's perhaps the most well known psalm in scripture but. I think it's safe to say while many people know it by memory they may not fully know it by heart. We've all seen these verses recited and accepted by people who don't claim to know. God don't seem to really like God and certainly aren't interested in what God has to say in other parts of scripture we've watched these lines quoted by politicians on both sides of the aisle on hit TV shows during the scenes of sadness and goodbye. We've heard references to these verses in Song Lyrics and movie scripts and in whispered graveside conversation. Among people from all walks of life the twenty third psalm is one passage of scripture. That seems to get a free pass. The traveler who breezes through security when others have to stand in line behind the rope. No-one hinders or stops her. No one detains her for questioning. We DON'T DEMAND. She makes sense or explain herself a thing. It's because the twenty third psalm is often associated with death and in death. Even the most cynical among us make exceptions for the grieving and while I think that's beautiful. It is a service understanding of the intent behind this song because while it has most certainly comforted us in times of Death. It has the potential to reveal to us a new kind of life. It's a liturgy. Apoel a lyric an invitation. It's a story if will listen and it's for you right now. If you'll let it be these lines have mother at me fathered me comforted and challenged me. I have discovered piece. Inhering them curiosity and studying them and freedom in believing them and somehow the more I read them the more questions I have and the more settled I become psalm. Twenty three is an invitation to trust. God for the life we want to live as Dallas. Willard puts it a life without lack it is possible to live as though the Lord really is our shepherd it is possible to live as though we already have what we need. It is possible to live without fear. That's the promise. And the mystery of the song today my intention is not to dissect this promise verse by verse or to give you an explanation of what the song means to me or what I think. Maybe it could mean to you. That's not my job today instead. In keeping with the intention of this podcast. That's about making decisions and making life. I want to invite you to bring Psalm. Twenty three into your day. How would the presence of the Lord through the words of David Inform Influence and impact? Your decisions today. What if the Lord really is Your Shepherd? What if he really does provide all that you need? What if you could walk without fear? What if he could restore your soul? What if Your Cup really does overflow? Maybe you're next. Right thing is to read this beautiful challenging Psalm for yourself.
Deep Relaxation Echo Meditation
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"Bake them back to Daly Bretault. I'm Deepak Chopra today. One to discuss the sunscreen practice of some some culpa has and key Sunk Alpine is a subtle intention subtle thought intention of thought that you put into your awareness any intention seed your consciousness with a desire to act upon it. Some Culpa is very subtle intention incorporated in the field of silence of what we call choice less awareness and when we see our intentions in that field of silence than intention spontaneously organizes its own fulfillment and that is because the feel of silence. The field of choice less awareness is a field of infinite possibilities and also infinite coalition sun-cult but is actually putting intention in the timeless part of your being and you to understand that intention engagement and detachment coming together as what is called. Darna the focused intention done the expense of meditation and Somebody Timeless Being Automatically fulfills your intention so today remind yourself but the following notions number one. I am present for time as timeless. Be An present for time number two. I consider myself pretty lucky as I look back on my life and number three. I believe that the universe brings me what I want in word. I need if I'm patient. This timing and Vanessa position to the fulfilment of desire time is meant to unfold according to your needs until disease. It would start to do that. Only if you give up the opposite belief. The time is in charge. Time is not in charge your presence. You'll being your timeless says his charge
"Back to daily bread this departure pro. What does it mean to live in the present moment? The Twelfth Secret Confronts this question by explaining how to use tight. Aw deeper understanding which is there is no time but now there is which I am but now have you ever experienced anything other than now. Just Ask Yourself. If you're having thought about the future is happening now. If you having thought about the bust it's happening. Now that's why the great wisdom traditions say now never ends now is actually not even a moment in time. It's the presence of being in which time unfolds has experience but being itself. He's always now. The present moment is the presence of what we call awareness appear consciousness just presence. The presence of presence is always now and this is the purpose of Yoga is the word. Yo guys have said before means Union Union with the staff which is always now. Yoga is union with the South which is always now now. There are many kinds of yoga. Gaon Yoga the body of knowledge which opens up as a result of being in touch with the mystery of our own existence with the wonder viramune existence gone. Yoga is also frequently two as reflective says including asking questions. Like who am I? What do I want? What's my purpose would migrate What can I do to make a difference? How can I serve? But the yoga is the second button and that is the butter devotion filled with sweetness and love and compassion. Enjoy Karma Yoga is the butt of action. Selfless Service Rod. Yoga is the bottom meditation and in their silence or stillness so all these ways. Silence Stillness Loving action love and devotion reflective self enquiry off these of windows so that we can explore our journey from here to here.
Kelly DiNardo on living the Sutras in this Moment
"Hello My name is Ron. And this is the flow artist. Podcast every episode my co host Joe Stewart and I speak with inspiring me. This thing is and teachers about how they find their flow and much much more. Hope you're doing okay and adapting to this new normal. We find ourselves and for me. Yoga and mindfulness are more important. Now than ever these wisdom traditions of a wonderful guidance about life and how to navigate it one very important scripture arguably the foundation of Modern Yoga is the Yoga Sutras of patange. Last year we caught up with Kelly. Denardo was a yoga teacher studio owner writer and author of the book. Living the sutras now. We interviewed Kelly last year and obviously a lot has changed since then so I reached out to her and
Cause and Effect
"Welcome back. To Daly breath this Needs to collaborate the upholding force in your existence. It is as much in you as it is out there in situations circumstances events and people that which we call the universe the universe is just the outer projection of our consciousness than experienced the universe of course as sensations images feelings thoughts perceptions so when we say universe we could also easily be saying the realm of the soul of could easily be saying consciousness. That would be par undestanding today of the eleventh secret which is about escaping the bondage of cause and effect so causing effect only apply to the Eagle identity when we go beyond Eagle identity. Everything is correlated with everything else that is correlation and this correlation goes beyond direct linear cause in effect. It's actually a correlation of the deeper reality where everything is connected with everything else. And when you understand this you'll to realize that the universe wants to live and breathe through you. Find out the truth. You need to relate to the universe as if it were alive so whatever your concept of the universe whatever your image of the universe may be the Milky Way galaxy a starlit sky or just your own higher self. Pretend if you've gone to actually totally understand this pretend that the universe is alive and it is your higher self. Then talk to it US questions over your own self or your image of the universe. Listen for its reply be on intimate terms with nature because nature is the expression of the universe. See Life in everything that you encounter in nature with its tree or plant. Dr. A mosquito butterfly on a rainbow are a river.
Karma and Dharma
"Karma and tire. Mom what do these words mean? And what do they mean? Within the context of the eleven secret the universe thinks to you so first of all libby define what Karma meets the word Girma simply means action and therefore it also applies to any experience that we've had as a result of choices that remade either consciously or unconsciously Karma of course leads to memory. The seat of that memory is called since Kara. It's spelled S. A. N. S. K. A. R. A. Some Scott leads to something called B. S. A. N. A. EMBOSS. Enough is the seed of desire so we can say in modern terms that Karma about experiences even the interpretation of those bus expenses Karma leads to memory and memory leads to desire and desire leads to Karma again. This is the software as it travels through Guzman time in search of enlightenment. So that's what? The word means customize bust experiences boss actions bus choices Ganges and unconscious that leads to memory and desire which then recycle Karma Dharma on the other hand is not only meaning and purpose in our existence but the ultimate is to be lying to the elements and forces of the universe. So both Mom Dharma are goes influenced by our. In outer circumstances outer circumstances means relationships snarlin professional ecosystem social life environment all of that influences Karma and also the meaning the context the relationships that move our life forward ultimately in the direction of higher calling and that higher calling becomes her mom. But I'd like you to do is pay attention to what's happening in your life. What's your story? What's your backstory? What's story right now. Are you ready to move forward to a vision in the future? I'll do create the environment that supports you. Think back to a time when you were in perfect harmony and everything seemed to be supporting you and you felt toward is called. The State of grace are spontaneous insight or inspiration took the right action and moved in the direction that made you feel more expanded and free where you felt renewed these other science that you are in Dharma on the other hand buy new stock. Those are the signs that you are. Basically Not in alignment with the fundamental nature of your own being as it tries to align with the elements enforces forces of the universe and menu stuck the new Andreotti to move forward. You not paying attention. The environment seems not to support. You feel threatened. Ukiyo sustaining yourself. As the same person now is the time for you to start asking yourself. What do I really want from my life? What is my higher calling? Before I had all the money in all the time in the word how would I expressed my unique data? And who would benefit from them? The pulling force than in your so will be activated will be knighted and you will be in touch with your soul