Coronavirus Dont Talk About It!
Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Everyone I'm Carol. How welcome to. Let's talk dementia. Well today. We're GONNA talk about what everybody on. The planet is talking about Corona Virus. Oh my goodness is there a channel you can watch on TV or radio station? You can tune into or group of people who get together that don't talk about it. It's just it's what our world is all about. Well I am fifty nine years old. I think that's right While I will be this year and I never recall a time in my life. Wear anything like this has ever happened. Never I do remember when We were in looking for the the clocks to change over to the midnight hour for the year. Two thousand come in and everybody was freaking out with the computers. Due in the world would come to an end kinds of crazy stuff of course nothing like that happened. But that's as close to this kind of chaos in our world as I recall but sure enough. That's what we're dealing with. Well I know you're hearing everything don't do this. Don't do that and stay away from this and stay away from that and I'm not gonNa tell you all that stuff you've already heard fourteen times you don't need one more person telling you but I didn't WanNa put one thing in your brain that I want you to be very aware of in. Its don't don't talk about the virus. The Corona virus in front of your loved one with dementia. Don't do that. The last thing you need is for them to have negative thoughts on their mind. Negative thinking you want them to only have happy. Happy joy joy. You remember how we've talked about that before. That's what you want so I want you to spend your time in their time thinking about the happy. Happy parts of life in. They can't do that if their mind is full of the negative the scary the unknown the uncertainty that they are hearing from you that they're detecting from you in your voice in your thoughts and The way that you're behaving is probably a little different because there's some stress so don't bring that into their world. What we know is our loved. Ones don't remember squat deadly do I'll give you that. But what we do know is they are more likely to remember really really happy thoughts and really really negative thoughts now. The really really happy thoughts are not as likely to be remembered as the really really scary or negative thoughts. They will land on the brain and for some reason. I don't understand the reason of they will retain that information or more likely to retain that information then if they did not have it. So don't do that okay. Just just don't do that I had a conversation trying to find this year. As as you and I are having this conversation have a beautiful poem and I can't seem to get my hands on it right this minute. Where did it go about the Kuroda virus in a one to share it with? You may have to do that on another episode yet. Not Coming up but I do have something that was posted somewhere that I read. It said regarding all the things that we can't do can't do this. Don't get in crowds of more than the US. Stay ten feet away from people Blah Blah Blah with this came through on Somebody emailed at him. I think conversations will not be cancelled. Relationships will not be cancelled. Love will not be cancelled. Songs will not be cancelled. Reading will not be cancelled. Self Care will not be cancelled. Hope will not be cancelled. May We lean into the good stuff that remains. Do I hear an amen on that? I just thought that was really good telling you a husband are very glad that readings not cancel. 'cause we hit the Library Har- Yesterday boy picking up some books by authors. That we like are trying to use this time to I don't know reload and to relax and enjoy life as it is different for us now is different for everybody and I realize this time is probably even more difficult for you because of caregiving than it would have been had. You not been caregiving. But I don't know I still think in this time we can just breathe and remember that. Nothing's going to happen to you today. Where God has not already been and where he is not presently at also in his understanding. He didn't wake up. Oh my goodness I did not realize the crow virus is going to hit the United States. Water all those people come to or that it was going to hit China or anywhere else in all the planet. No no no. That didn't happen to the Lord. He no he knows and he is. He is a on that situation. He's in the middle of that situation in so hopefully that will bring you some peace. I hope I am. I am struck by several things lightly. One being our need to be understanding of other people to understand that their needs are different from ours and to be willing to reach out in ways other than with our hands. We have to reach out with our heart. That kind of came to on this poem that I told you Came through my friend and this is what it says. The poem called pandemic. What have you thought of it? As the Jews consider the Sabbath the most sacred of times safe from travel cease from buying and selling give up just for now on trying to make the world different than it is sing. Pray touch only those to whom you commit your life center down in win. Your body has become still reach out with your heart know that we are connected in ways that are terrifying and beautiful. You could hardly deny that now know that our lives are in one another's hands surely that is come clear. Do not reach out with your hands reach out your heart reaches out your words reach out all the tendrils of compassion that move invisibly where we cannot touch. Promise this world your love for better or for worse for sickness and in health so long as we all shall live in. That was written by Lynne. Unger and I'm GonNa tell you WanNa give it knowledge of where she is she is employed own. Goodness it's not coming up here. You universalist UNITARIAN church That's what it is in. Fort Myers Florida beautiful poem reaching out not with our hands but with our hearts now when you're caregiving you still got reach out your hands for sure. You GotTa make sure what's coming from. You is not fear you know. God is not the author of confusion. He does not live in fear he lives in peace in hope and joy love and mercy and kindness and all those wonderful things. And that's what we want to exude two votes with dementia. Because it's GonNa make your day better because they're going to be in a better mood so let's put our hope. Let's put our faith. Let's put our trust not in what's coming down from Washington any mandates. We might hear what we hear on the news reports or at the pool when we're talking to put out walking or wherever you might be but put our hope in him because that's the only hope we've got. Yeah that's the only one we can depend on. That's my thoughts for today so remember only happy happy joy joy in front of you folks with dementia. You'RE GONNA be glad you did all right. We'll see you on the next episode of. Let's talk dementia. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors? National Association of Veterans and families can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find his Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. It looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today. For Power House. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. 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