Why Do You Have On Three Coats?
Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi Carol how is let's Talk Dementia? I'm glad you're here today. Well today we're going to talk about a whole bunch close in other words. We're not going to be nudist right while you're with advanced dementia. Very well might decide to be a nudist one day. Yeah where are you GonNa do about that? We'll talk a little bit opposed to that. Makes it more interesting doesn't it? The question came across my desk out about a week ago. What do we do about our loved? Ones are Ellos who wear lots of layers of clothes. Well you know. There's a real simple answer for that and the answer is leave them alone. My Dad used to say have to think about what you're going to fight over because if one hundred years from now is not GonNa make any difference that maybe we don't need to fight over to argue ever spend too much time being concerned about it and our loved ones will wearing Sarah lay layers of clothes in my mind falls under that category Now I am all over making sure our loved ones. Look good if you spent much time around my momma you know that. I made sure she had her jewelry on. Her hair was done in her nails done in his shirt. Her shirt and pants match. And I hate it when I come to see her if they put the wrong shirt on with wrong pair of pants and it looked bad because one moment to look good however there is the comfort factor to take into account also which was a big moment for Carol. The first time I realize Momma did have a bra on. Oh my goodness I'm like why did you not put Moms Brown? My mom used to sleep in a Bra. She would not be uncomfortable. She would not be comfortable without her bra in. They said to me Miss Vera did not want her bra today. She said don't put it on and that happened more and more to got to the point. Mama could not stand wearing. Her Bra was very bothersome for her. So guess what we did. We quit wearing a bra but our folks with dementia well our seniors. Let's just say right now. Our seniors are on average colder than they were when they were sixty or forty definitely teenagers. As we age we do get colder easier in with dementia. That is true. The fat pads under your skin protect your nerves and they have an effect on how you perceive cold and Hot in in physical touch and pressure and pain as we age those fat heads disappear in the nerves or more sensitive so our response to cold is different thin what it might be for others in the room. So the answer to the question. What do you do about someone who wants to wear lots of layers of clothes? Is You respect that maybe help them pick out pretty layers of clothes? It's important to you but you respect that they wanna have on those layers clothes and I can tell you they're gonNa have on soft close. They'RE NOT GONNA won't scratchy stuff. That doesn't feel good. I remember one time walking down the hall of Memory Care Community and The staff was standing. Two staff members was standing with a gentleman and he had on a winter coat. I mean a big willie winter coat and was walking down the hall and they took him into his room. They were standing there at the edge of his room telling him to take that coat off. We're going to hand the closet. This is July. You do not need to be wearing a coat and he kept saying but I won't wear the coach will you don't need to? And they were determined to take it off of him and you know about Las. My mind over them dislike all. Don't look don't say anything Susan Your Business but what I wanted to say is what is it hurting. Four Freddie to wear this coat in the hallway. What is one problem with that in? There's not a problem with that. Who cares if ready to wear a coat in the hall in July zipped up and hood on leave the man alone it is his coat it is his body. Leave him alone. He's not hurting himself. He's not hurting anyone else in. Because it offends your senses. Well that's your problem. Not Freddie's problem. So don't make it Freddie's problem he's got enough to deal with right but they were determined to get that coat off him and put it in the closet and they did and of course ready wasn't happy and then they were irked. What good did that do? It did not do any good but then the question comes up. What do we do about the fact that they're turning our heat? We know up to eighty five degrees. And we're dying in here now then. That is a problem right because we can't have everybody in the house with their lungs out. While your loved ones over there all bundled up so then we go back to let workout layering. If they are not on their own layering. Their clothes help them layer. Their clothes may be in their room. If you could Have what you call it? A new ceramic heaters put it up high so they can't touch it where it might Warm the room a little bit in their area where they sit. Make sure they can't get near it votes because that's why haven't you ceramic heater electric heater. You don't do that so you have to keep it away. But we're there area might be more pleasant more comfortable for them. Keep blankets out key pillars out. Things I can snuggle up in and then you could always buy those boxes of clear boxes that goes over the rope Thermostat yeah you know you see them in businesses or churches are big buildings where they don't want the average Joe Messing with the thermostat and you got have a key to unlock it. Raise it and get in there and change. The thermostat will get one. Install it on your thermostat and make it non accessible for your loved one. But I'm telling you fuel load your loved one up with enough clothing distract them. Give them things to do. Keep them involved in. Live as much as you can. We're going to decrease the number of times go there to mess with the thermostat in if they can't get to the thermostat what they can't change it thinking they is. It is a simple thing but respect the fact that your loved ones are cold so if right now you were just freezing and shivering cold in I in you. You wanted to go put on a jacket and I told you. Don't go put on that jacket. You donate a jacket. Put THAT JACKET. Away Getaway. Go sit down. You know all those kinds of things we might would say it makes me mad at. You wouldn't be really hurt that you and I might make you really unhappy for a while when all you had to say was man you like. Call Liska. Get you jacket as put a jacket on you. You you say how that's better and it is better. Try to respond sensibly on your end in some towns that just is not hard. I mean is it is hard. It's not easy. It's like the last thing that comes to mind is the logical approach. Because we're just a wound up just had it we've had it take off the damn. Cow's don't say that would be nice but that's how you feel isn't it? Just let it be Ya. Just let it be breed. Let them wear fourteen coats if they want to. So it's OK tomorrow. The Sun's GonNa come out. Well we're living in this time where there is this. Fear of Corona virus of the Sun's GonNa come out but we might not have toilet paper. I don't know why I don't know why. Toilet papers distilling homemade. That'd be bad. Wouldn't we laugh a well? We'RE PRAYING FOR EVERYBODY. Who's sick no matter what the illnesses right? God takes care of all of the state he will blessings and smiles on your caregiving journey. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? 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