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When i get feedback i disagree with. It's something i definitely am not to do but i worry a lot that it's how i ended up coming across. Do you have advice for responding to feedback you disagree with in a way that acknowledges points of feedback ever while still retaining your vision. This is an interesting one for me because the answer is if you're arguing with the person giving you feedback for the most part you're always in the wrong is the truth of it. There's going to be obviously exceptions. If someone says something really offensive to you feel free to argue with them but for the most part the deal you're making if you ask someone to give view feedback if you ask someone for the time out of their life to read or listen to your thing and give you feedback on it. You don't get to argue with them. <hes> what you can do what what is totally acceptable to them if they come back and you think their feedback is completely wrong or doesn't fit the vision of your work. What you say is thank you so much for your feedback and then you move on and you don't do anything with it. That's totally fine. Nobody says you have to make changes based on the feedback. What is never okay. I think is to to tell them they are wrong to be like no. Your feedback is wrong. You don't get it because it's not really their problem. They're just giving giving you their experience of your work. <hes> and maybe consider that if they got it completely wrong that might mean that your intention if the work isn't coming across i think a common version of this run into is somebody somebody i've done this myself but it's somebody gives feedback and you know they'll say something along the lines of like the this middle section with the couple that gets into this discussion in the diner scene. There's felt long to me. It just felt like a dragged for awhile and then the artist will then be well. What what i'm going for what i'm trying to to feel. This need to sort of explain what it was you were trying to do because you. You know it was too long. You're just trying to that's why you already freddie have a an excuse ready and that's. I think that's another version. I don't know if that's specifically what the asker here is is going through but yeah. I think you're right joseph. I think i think that what you do is you say thank you for the feedback and you use it or don't because the other thing that can happen. Is you step step away for a while and you're like that was actually pretty good. Feedback just didn't feel in the moment like acknowledging it as correct <hes> because they didn't feel it was correct at the time and there's nothing wrong with that. That is a perfectly legitimate response. You don't need to engage the argument and you don't have to and you really never have to defend yourself in feedback. You really honestly mostly do not about needing to defend yourself yeah. I think that's a really good point that if you already have full defense ready for someone's feedback. That's probably a sign that you yourself knew it was wrong and you were just trying to justify it so it it might be worth taking that moment of self reflection of why did i already have a full defense of this choice. Maybe it was because i knew people weren't gonna like it here. Type asks are there any particular advantages this or disadvantages that have stood out to you for getting feedback in physical space like a classroom audience setting etcetera <hes> vs on social media <hes>. Let's start with that. I well the advantage to being in a physical space for somebody's that you can see them and you can hear the tone of their voice. Social social media's tough because the the people are strangers to you for the most part and even people that you regularly interact with social media. There's a good chance that they're not people. You've you've ever met in real life so you know there's a lot of people i interact with on social media and have for years that have never actually met in real life so i just have. I'm just envisioning. Visiting envisioning is the right word. Can you envision a hearing thing but yeah i'm just imagining what their tone and hearing and hearing their tone so yeah i always prefer in person physical feedback versus social media social media is great for higher volume things like running a poll or asking asking a very specific question from people but again. It's more of a wildcard. The biggest advantage to the social media in my opinion the feedback on social media is you can always shut it off and the one problem with physical space is you will run into people who just cannot stop asking a question or the audience wants to keep asking questions and then you start feeling trapped and it's a little bit hard cut it off in person once again to hear the full episode and to get the chance to have your questions answered join <unk> our membership program at start with this podcast dot com see you soon make art.