Strategies for Overcoming Burnout, What Your Style Says About You, and Attitudes that Kill Success | ASK ME ANYTHING

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Eighty you are not easily deterred heated rugged resilient strong this is your life this we are this is who you will become you're a man of action you live life to the fullest embrace your fears and boldly charge your own path when life knocks you down you get back up one more time every time for the advice well first of all I commend Dan for deciding to wait I think it's a prudent decision to wait to get overly intimate with adding to provide for her in this area since she naturally needs more physical intimacy than I do but finding a balance between being intimate enough and falling back into sin has been difficult thanks thanks with the woman prior to committing to her because there's a lot of emotional and of course physical attachment that comes with that in in the facebook group I've seen a lot of interested in one hundred percent made and sourced in America boots and denim as well go check it out origin main as an estate main origin main dot com. I guess let's get into the questions now you might notice that today I am absent Kip last week he was absent me and that's what's of frustration and headache and heartache come from getting involved intimately and sexually with a woman that you haven't committed to so I do commend that's the Jujitsu stuff the lifestyle apparel Denham the boots or the supplemental lineup again origin may dot com use the code order facebook dot com slash groups slash order of man and also from our exclusive Brotherhood the Iron Council which you can find at order dot com slash iron council at a Youtube Channel we've got all the other social media channels of course we've got our exclusive brotherhood the Iron Council were running events I mean whatever we can do to reclaim and restore I've got a list here I think I've got I don't know maybe twenty twenty five questions or so we'll get through as many as I possibly can so the first ones just a quick announcement before we get into it I want to announce or introduce you to origin which is our show sponsor and of course my friends here in Maine they make season again I may have butchered that he says what advice do you have for men who were trying to be more intimate with their girlfriends without being sexual when my girlfriend and I started dating Yep we just gave away a brand new pair of origin boots I think it was earlier this we ended last week early this week we'll probably be doing some more of that in the near future but if you are dismantle of masculinity that's what it's all about so today is an ask me anything where I will field questions from the facebook group which you can find nice about having a partner and Co hosting KIP Sorenson is that if I'm not available he is and if he's not available I am so you're getting me you're getting me solo today and use the code order I confirmed I went onto their site and I confirmed that you're GonNa get a discount on your entire order whatever you purchase over there I hope it's informative hope I answer these questions to the best of my ability to give you what it is you're looking for so let's just jump right into this the questions for today right I am glad that you're here we need more men in the battle to reclaim and restore masculinity and that's what this movement is all about so we've got the podcast we've got facebook groups we relied on sexual things for intimacy we've grown into our Christian faith together and have resolved to stop those things until we get married in a year and a half to three years I've been from our facebook group and we'll jump right into it Dan her horizon see this is why have kip here is because he can butcher the names instead of me so Dan Rehash here maybe we'll do that on another podcast but as far as being intimate without being sexual I think that's a good distinction I think it is important to understand that intimacy doesn't Brazilian Jujitsu Rash Guards keys they've got their supplemental lineup partnered up with the Jaakko of course you guys are familiar with that and then they've got their denim lineup and their boot Dan for that I think that's a valuable valuable thing is waiting until you are committed fully before that happens and I've talked about that at length as to why that's the case and I won't intimacy but the best thing that I say is to get to know her deeply you know the more that you know and understand in this case Dan's girlfriend and potentially your wife can't I know that I have a very deep and intimate and familiar emotional and deep connection with my wife out outside of our physical have to be physical that there's an emotional connection as well and I think women are probably more inclined in prone to be connected that way then naturally men are but that's not to say that the more likely it is that you will be connected you know you could look at the same thing when it comes to battle for example you know there's men that I went to Iraq Aston Movement that as order of Man Want to welcome you whether you here for the first time you've been with us for any amount of time I feel like a same every single week but I am on deep intimate bond between that other individual and you can forge that through going through challenging times together getting to know each other very very well understanding circumstances together through being on the same page and having the same goals and objectives now obviously it's not romantic in nature but but there is that that's not to say that you are going to be a slave to her that she can manipulate or abuse your desire to serve her she should be serving you in two thousand and five and two thousand six that we have a deep deep bond and forged that through knowing each other through going through difficult outside of physical intimacy is service the more that you can serve your significant other the better connected the more deeply connected that you are now what makes your partner tick what they what goals and objectives and dreams and visions and things like that they have but I think the biggest thing that you can do to create intimacy her needs and really support uplift and edify her that there's a deep intimate connection that goes well beyond what we do physically so get to know her as well this should be a reciprocal relationship and if it's not then that's something that needs to be addressed but I've noticed that the more that I served my wife and Sir Money and financial strategies is that we do a weekly Monday money meeting and the meeting is very very simple it's what in understand her what makes her tick and then strive to serve your partner same goes for women they should be doing the same thing as well all right Tyler Cross he says do you have any specific in has come in over the past week and what income is likely to come in in the week moving forward just because of the way that I get compensated it's important to look at it I looked at it daily together the best thing that about that meeting that nobody's in the dark and that's the most important think there's no surprises there is no guesswork there's no wondering it's an open book out she made tell me and inform me that there's some upcoming expenses that I'm not aware of or I may need to inform her that there's some upcoming expenses that she's not aware of and we make those decisions on the same page now I manage most of financial decisions because she's just not interested in could she do it one hundred percent no doubt she's not interested in so the partnership between her and processes or strategies to your family budget use any software notepad phone APP etcetera so this is really important one thing that I do as far as a system for my family works in that I manage the finances but I include her I included in the process I let her know what's going on I let her know of expenses and income and everything else that we have coming up and that's how we do it now as far as he software we just use our bank APP that's it there's there's cool programs like meant and why nab out what's coming in what's going out unforeseen or unnecessary expenses to be aware of road blocks stumbling blocks potential expenses that might become a planning for budgets whether it's Bakke Shins or trips or other expenses braces for kids and broken arms etc etc and then life and I look at it weekly I don't think monthly's is quick enough I think a lot can happen in thirty days so we look at it every week what money's coming in what money is going Ben Kosta are you considering investing in the main company partnering Invest Investments. I I don't know what the main AH spelled y an AB why you need a budget so why nab there's quickbooks we do actually use quickbooks online version for the business talking about origin that could be as well I don't really know as far as origin goes no I'm not planning on investing in them if that's what you're asking but we are friends that are some collaborations that were working on soon to be released and I'll let you know as soon as we have the details on that so yeah partnership in a way but as far as what target panic so that's my release but I did kill two does out there and that was exciting and it was good to bring meat home my arrows and a hit writer hip and I was really disappointed with that shot but I watched her long story short we tracked a very very scarce blood trail for company is he says are you considering investing in the main company partnering investments I don't know if the main company is a business or or just a company and maybe just let there be no question as to as to what the money situation is doing and then there's some so much accountability that to read like if she knows everything that's going on she died within thirty yards was a great shot she died quickly no harm has I shouldn't say no harm I should say she died quickly and peacefully especially in Anson personal stuff as well but for the most part we just use our our bank account information and go through that as well so yeah I would do a weekly meeting again talk about release but I'm going to start training with his silverback release which is a back tension release and I think that will help at least it's supposed to help on than I have accountability in the way that spend money if I knew everything that she's spending on then there's accountability to her knowing that I'm going to look at it so that accountability is huge as well all right I would say maybe two hundred yards or so roughly and found a small drop of blood picked her up and then I heard some rustling in go hunting I know it depends on where and what hunt just curious so I just got done with hunt I was in Minnesota and it was relatively successful right I am going to work on that with John Dudley familiar with him he's got his knock on TV use his knock to it release which is onto different good sized bucks I hate to admit that but that was the case I do get a little bit of a target panic I've noticed and I have a tendency of shooting high when I get make sure that we found her and harvested her and put her out of misery of course rather than the coyotes eating her while she was still alive sits rough sometimes but it is the way it goes and I did the best out there for hunting for five days I was out there a little longer and yes very successful hunt I did miss a shot on a very two shots that tar target panic which is exactly what I did on both these books shot right over their shoulder watch the watch the euro go right over their shoulder my hopes and dreams die with it often difficult situations and demanding situations and pushing yourself physically mentally emotionally so this is something that would certainly do that and I would be interested in seeing doc hunt in in Arizona at the beginning of next year we can talk more about the load out there all right Chris Rice he says he this partner I don't have plans to have an asked me to be and Y- just friends and I enjoy appreciate what they do if that's what you're asking Dan that was good feel good about that the second one I shot far back it was good up and down but shot far back and I had the nocturnal knocks on I use an APP if you feel it feel inclined to do so meant it was always a good program but I do like quick books a lot so check that out hopefully that helps the biggest thing just be on the same page again that's origin check it out the way origin main dot com or Jemaine all right jeff diggle says do you have any upcoming hunts what's your gear load outlook currently for German put meat in the freezer and Be Successful I was really excited about that what else what else I will say the I know that I shot oh I don't bring anything with me the only thing I bring out when I sit is I bring my Bo I bring my range finder I use a vortex range finder and then is working on becoming an adirondack forty six or climbing all forty six high peaks would you ever consider coming to the high peaks and doing an order of man hike sure in the brush off to about twenty yards to our left looked over there with with my friend Matt and he saw her put another error owner and eventually we got the thing done but that was a disappointment but it was good that we tractor we are out there for quite a while trying to find her I honestly didn't think we would but we didn't give up is it operates like a single pane double pin technically but it does operate like a single pin site and Yeah I seventy-five heart is this is Andy for Cilla a friend of mine his his his program for building up mental and emotional resilience and grit and that is because it's in the shop getting restrung took a lot longer than I thought so I switched bows to the White Knight tricks I use the spot Har- Fast Eddie site which is thing than us it obviously it's proven to work and and he's got some great some great information so check it out Luke Davis I'm starting school for Business Marketing five almost five years now and it's worked well and I've accomplished a lot physically mentally emotionally and so that's the program that will continue to use but pay seventy five heart is an excellent and I can see that certainly helped a ton of people but again I use the battle planner something I've been using for in different forms in iterations for could and continued to improve as far as my bo I shot the white nitric a usually shoot the Rx one the only reason I didn't shoot that poll seventy pounds draw weight I don't know what else you wanna use as far as what I brought this was a tree hon a white tail hunt so I was hunting from tree stands and tripod I binoculars and that's it it's all I bring and the bow of course scenarios that's all I bring because I don't want a bunch of stuff out there so I'll talk later when I do a spot sounds awesome I would love to do that so Chris if you WanNa give me some details like let's take a look at it and maybe some of the next year but I think that's worth pursuing anything look I'm all about putting paying a thousand and rent a month and wait till I finish school and see where it takes me so there's so many variables to this equation what options are available and what that would look like all right Dylan dextra decks trays Dylan dexterous he says have you considered doing seventy five heart for those of you do not being utilized I think if you were going to buy a home for example and maybe there's home on this land you're looking at that could be potentially turned into a rental then less than three years for a bachelors degree I've been wanting to buy and own land for years do I pull the trigger and hope work will be nearby the growing area or key unions have become the bully I think unions raise prices artificially for consumers which ends up hurting industry and intake is maybe it's a gallon of water I don't know what it is it's sticking to your diet it's reading believe ten pages of a book every single day for seventy five days invested in it that we end up making decisions that aren't prudent wise so step back for a minute ask yourself this is emotionally charged or this is a prudent fortitude. I'm going to butcher this probably a little bit but I believe it's too at workouts per day it's so much water I don't know what the a the vocal says Volk Rehab I really va Volk Rehab. I really don't know specifically what he's referring to but we'll be done reasonable logical decision and then make your decision from there all right Christopher Campbell what is your view on unions and why I am union labor and I know a lot of people do not agree with organize unions frankly I don't like unions I think initially probably started for good reasons but I think that tying yourself into a bunch of land if you don't know what your goal and objective is and you don't know where you'll be might be a misstep but if just be smart make a good choice make a good decision do what's in your best interests don't get emotionally wrapped up in this thing because sometimes that's what happens you know this piece of land comes up and we envision ourselves hunting on it or envisioned ourselves you know raising kids on it or whatever whatever your thing is and we get so emotional in thinking about owning land if you end up getting work somewhere else that land is not going to be used like you can't rent it that might be something worth considering but I tend to lean more towards your schooling get it done I don't know that my own program that I use it's called the twelve week battle planner to ninety day that battle plan designed to push you in the right direction so I think what Andy's doing is amazing I think I got all of them I think you have to take a progress picture you don't need a post it but you need to take it I think those were the qualifications I've considered doing it but quite frankly commerce and I think that it's expensive I think that union dues don't end up being utilized in a way that's most effective for the union if you've always wanted land and there's a right piece that comes up and you know you'll have it forever and want it forever regardless of where you end up then maybe it's worth considering I I would just say be smart income together like this yeah I've got a little different hat here obviously so this is a constant debate whether I should wear a flat brim or a curve Brim Lope they they bully they shut down free trade and commerce and they don't let the market dictated I am somebody who believes in free free but generally speaking and look I'll be the first to tell you I'm I'm limited with my knowledge with unions but again I think they artificially inflate prices it's definitely bullying tactics there and I and I just I don't agree with it all right brandon deem order man low pro trucker hats their bargaining but they're using you as a bargaining chip so there's probably a lot of union guys who listen to this podcast and if that's working for you then by all means great I I think it's a form of socialism in Hawaii and that there's some fat cat sitting at the top skimming off the your your resources and your money maybe Athletic Mesh with a Hook and loop you know to support the cause they had a great one for my I ask but after nightshift this is all I've got thanks for doing what you do now you can't maybe you can lease it out I don't know how much land you're buying but it just becomes this yes technically an asset but it's just sitting over here in the side in his bushy beard have a negative effect on people's perception of you I would answer this very simply for some people yes some people don't like it for other people having a blue shirt on doesn't make you a man that sounds idiotic because it is so some people have a negative perception and other people have positive perception gets in a capitalistic way of operating economics so I think unions are at direct odds with that many times now some people will say well you know I agree nobody even alluded to the fact that that's the case that would be like me saying if somebody who I'm talking to blue shirt on out of the blue randomly to say well always new merchandise check it out store dot org dot com thanks brandon appreciate it all right Jon Boden does okay here we go here's another one does having facial hair such as would have the right to decide whether they're part of the union or not and I don't think that if they decide not to be part of the union that they should be blacklisted or called out the way that they are into becoming out in I would say the next couple of weeks it's called the ranger hat it is a baseball hat a baseball cap so stay tuned for that and we've got some other plans as well for as long as I think you're doing generally what it means to be a man then you get to call yourself as far as hats we do have a new hat that's a beard or is this shirt or is this hair or is it tattoo or piercings or whatever your thing is is going to move me closer to my objective or move me further actually means that they do care so everyone cares and you should you should be conscious about the way that you're presenting yourself and putting your it is necessary as it once was that's that's my take so I hope it works for you I hope it's working well I would just say be wary and I think every employee that they they help their union members by collective bargaining well okay there's there's laws and there's regulations and rules in place and so I don't it really doesn't matter but I think that your style and when I stay style and talking about hair on your head facial hair close manners or and or it doesn't fit your current objectives maybe you're in the military or law enforcement and you're required to shave then by all means do that profile or whatever it's like the topic of debate it's really it's really interesting actually because a lot of the times the guys that say you should men don't wear flats will deliberately and intentionally wear clothes and maybe even not do proper hygiene because they want to signify to the world that they don't care which the way you communicate tone inflection speech vocabulary some guys like to swear a lot that might help them in certain circumstances and might hinder them in certain circumstances so you whatever your mannerisms the way that you present yourself to the public is saying something about you so you just have to ask yourself in the situation in your in is is your style and your presence the way that you present yourself as as a tool that's all it is and again a lot of guys will say well real men don't care about that away from my objective Mcginn whatever that is just make your decisions based on that if having a beard is acceptable and you WanNa have a beard by all means rocket if you don't like beers all right Dwayne classen excuse me at what point or milestone or quote unquote Aha moment during your rebuild did your wife finally are you can only control yourself and I think you ought to have the right motives and intentions because that's GonNa be more real and whether she comes back or doesn't you're going to set yourself and some people that doesn't matter either way I his next couple of questions such as future employment dealing with financial institutions government agencies or the public in general what about that's not true everybody cares about that there isn't a single person who does not care about the way

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