Episode 152: Millennials Are Killing Everything
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The calendar, the calendar is lying because if we go by the temperatures, the calendar is lying, but we all know how it is, especially for those of us who who lived down here who were born and raised down here in this area Christmas day. It is very common Christmas day to be eighty degrees now, I mean, wow, so anyway, thank you for joining me for another episode of Don talk today. I wanna talk about an article that came across this more. Learning that is talking about the well, basically are millennials killing divorce. Now, on the surface you would think, or at least I did. And then whenever I talked to one of my millennial age children, actually my youngest one, she's right there on the cusp of the between of being a millennial in an idea in she identifies as a millennial. She says, the Hailwood ideas, their idiots. She's she's a millennial. She just happens to be a young millennial, but she she actually read this article as well. And we felt the same thing based on the title of the article, which says, add divorce to the list of things millennials killing, and our first thought is, well, is it the fact that millennials just aren't getting mad. Married because the institution of marriage is not what it once was. And personally, I'm okay with that. I have told my kids don't get married because of any some weird sense of duty or it's the socially accepted thing to do. You know you do you if you want to have a live in girlfriend? Live in boyfriend it, whatever. What matters is how you feel about each other? Not some damn piece of paper that is only good in the eyes of the government. Now, granted, there are benefits to actually being married, and sometimes those benefits do outweigh the fact that you're not married. I understand that, but I'm just simply saying, I'm considered, you know, I'm forty eight. I'll be forty nine in January. I'm a genetic sir, and my parents and my grandparents. I mean, we come from a long. In line of folks that it was custom, especially down here in the south. It's customary fee to get to a certain age get hitched in and go on with your life. Well, that's not the way it works when it comes to the generation of millennials. However, this particular articles tidal kinda kinda masks what the actual article is about. It's not about the fact that millennials aren't getting married is the fact that millennials in my opinion are actually being smart about it. But before we get into that as an aside, I wanted to talk about some of the other things that millennials are actually accused of supposedly killing and it's a list of four things so far. I'm I'm pretty sure it's gonna continue to grow. But right now here the four items, the millennials have supposedly killed off. Number one is Br. Halls. Yes. Bras b. r. a. s. bras the over the shoulder boulder holder. Women are choosing brawl le'ts or no bra at all. Now I have to tell you, I like to consider myself an educated person. I like to consider myself educated in the ways of the world and not necessarily fashion, but I do a do live in a household that has to women and men. Both of them over twenty years of age. It's a pickup a little little information here and there I had no damn clue what Abroal it was. So I had to go ask my daughter right before I decided to come and record this show as what is a brawl it. And of course, then she explained to me what abroad is. It's it's basically a bra without an under wire in only four small Cup sizes, larger breast sizes aren't necessarily. They don't work for that because they can't. They can't do. The support. So apparently it's becoming customary for millennials to either go brawlers or if if they're not well endowed enough to at the very least just go with a brawl it I did know though I know that both of the women in my life always complain about bras and and I've got several female friends over the years that way. They've complained about it to all right. Number two is chain restaurants. We're talking about chain restaurants, such as Red Lobster and Applebee's. TGI Fridays, you know, the places that I grew up going to well, I grew up going to win. It was a special occasion because my go-to is always McDonald's. I mean, I was born and raised in FitzGerald, Georgia. So my go-to was McDonald's and then eventually Burger King and and we finally got a Windies. So I was always a fast food hamburger, joint guy. You know sonic which by the way, sonnet was just sold to the parent company of arby's or either arby's is the parent company anyway, two point one billion dollars anyway. Yeah, that's ADHD in me, squirrel. But yeah, so we're talking about chain restaurants, you red lobsters, your Applebee's, and what have you will millennials don't care to go to these places in. So these these particular establishments that at one time or red hot commodity actually would have lines of people waiting to get in during lunchtime and suppertime not so much anymore. I've seen commercials where Applebee's is doing their damndest to try to attract this younger generation. It's not working. The millennials prefer fast, casual restaurants, fast casual. Those are your Chipotle lays your Pinera's which we have a Panara here in in Tiffin. Now we don't have a Chipotle than I at least I don't think we do, but I'm expecting us to have one in any year now and here are the reasons that they are. Are gravitating, they have gravitated away from the chain restaurants will. Number one is the chain restaurants in their minds. That's a family restaurant. That's that's where they went with the family. So especially if they're they're not married or they're single, but their dating or what have you. They don't want to go to the family restaurant. They wanna go to something that's a little more hip little more trendy. They also want places that are healthier. Millennials are a lot more health conscious than gen Xers and the baby boomers. I mean, I love my mayo. I love my my crisco. I love my fried foods. I'm almost politics wannabe, and it's probably gonna wind up killing me unless you're like, one of my friends who his cholesterol was at like seven hundred and the doctors were like, how the hell are you still alive? And he still functions, fine. I think he's still laugh now he is. So they're looking at healthier. They're looking at customized products. They're looking at fast service. They won't trendy looks they. They want. They want your restaurant to be able to embrace change, cut your prices and innovate. We're talking about a generation here that has to have on average the latest greatest iphone. Whenever it comes out every year, your restaurants have to innovate. Number three. Another thing that they're supposedly killing off napkins, they are skipping the expensive paper napkins in, they're going for the cheaper paper towels or even the cloth napkins. Now, as an aside, this is something my wife actually started doing two thousand eleven two thousand twelve. She away. I mean, she's a seamstress. She's very creative person. She's education coordinator. JoAnn fabrics here in Tiffen. So around twenty eleven, twenty twelve. She started creating cloth napkins for us to use it cut down tremendously. On the. I mean, we were buying paper towel. In the big like four packs or whatever the large pack has. And we were going through just hand over fist. Now I keep two rolls of paper towels in the cabinet because I believe in the philosophy, if you have one, you have none if you have to, you have one that kind of mentality. So as soon as I pull a paper towel. A paper towel roll out of the cabinet to put it in use. I buy another one. Just like as soon as I pull, let's say, apple mayo out of the cabinet is going on my grocery list for the next grocery run to his one. One is nine. So we've been using cloth napkins for many years now and they have their advantages and they have their disadvantages. You do have to wash them more often. They have a tendency to collect a lot of Greece and eventually you just gotta discard them and then make more and finally, and this is something that conferred with my daughter. Again, top sheets on the bed, millennials that that flat sheet that's between you and the blanket. Apparently millennials prefer not to use them, and I asked her about that and she's like, yeah, she said I sleep under my blanket and I just can't imagine that. I mean, I have a fleece blanket on top of me, but also have that top sheet and in pointed out to our said, well, that means you've got to actually wash. The blanket more often than than you normally would if you actually had a top sheet and she's like, well, you know dad, to be honest, we probably should. All of us should probably wash our our bed clothing a little more often than we do and she's not wrong. So now we're adding to this list this laundry list of things that millennials have supposedly killed off. We're adding divorce, but not for the reasons that you may think a study by professor Philip Cohen of the university of Maryland. He looked at the years between two thousand and eight and two thousand sixteen, and he is saying that the US divorce rate the US divorce rate has dropped by eighteen percent eight, teen percent. And it is driven this. This change is driven by younger women, and I thought that was actually interesting that he would point that out that this is driven by young. Younger women, and I guess you gotta back off and look at the dynamic most men and this is real talk. Most men do not want to get married most men Akwa yes, into getting married because that is the only way that they're going to, unfortunately. And I'm gonna say it for a lot of men out there. They would rather have the woman move in with them whether they want to have an easier time of breaking away from the relationship or not. I I can't really speak to that, but most men would rather have the woman either move in with them or she stays at her place. He stays at his place and they just have conjugal visits every so often during the week. Again, real talk. Don't get embarrassed. This is truth, so it's it's not surprising that this study this this statistics come out of this study are driven by women younger women. Now the study isn't pure peer review yet. So. So it's not been published in a peer reviewed publication, but it has been submitted for presentation at the two thousand nineteen population association of America. They're meeting next year. So the measurement, what what did they do to come up with these numbers? Well, they compared the number of divorces to the number of married women. And then when they controlled for other factors, such as an ageing population, it still showed an eight percent drop in the divorce rate. But the pattern the pattern was still there. So we're either looking at eight to eighteen percent drop, but it's still a drop since the nineties people under the age of forty five for those people under the age of forty, five divorce has leveled off. Even though in this modern age, twenty eighteen divorce is more widely accepted today than ever before millennials, which. In this particular article. Now you can go online and you can look up what defines the age range of a millennial, and you're gonna find about four or five different answers. So I'm going to give you the one that this particular article stated in there saying that millennials, which are the ages of twenty to thirty seven. And then genetics tres which are the ages of thirty eight to fifty. Three are staying together. Why? What has changed to make the divorce rate drop? If it's not the fact like I was originally thinking from the from from the headline of the article in most things that that we seem to know. And I say, seemed to know about millennials because I've got millennial children and I've got one or two millennial France. I mean, I'm. I, like I say, I'm forty eight. I'm a millennial friends are about twenty years younger than me and they are not your typical millennials, they, you could not tell if you look at the characteristics of what a millennial is supposed to act like talk like, what, what they believe in, what they don't believe in the ones that I know are not your standard is characteristic millennials. So why? What is changed? Well, the Mary population is getting older and more educated. Now, let me explain what that means because at first blush that sentenced didn't really make sense to me because I was like, well, of course we're all getting older, but then no, no, no. What they're talking about is the fact that I got married. I've been married twice in my life. All right. I was married at nineteen, and then I was married at twenty. Now the first marriage was completely jacked up for reasons. Let's just put. It put it at that. So I got married at twenty. My wife was nineteen. We had our first kid when I was twenty two. We had our second child at twenty four, and we had our third child at twenty seven. That's the reason why I write. I'm not even in my fifties yet and all my kids are grown and I wouldn't go back and change a thing, but I can tell you this. It was a struggle. It was a struggle, but we managed, we did it. And like I said, I wouldn't go back and change a thing. But now millennials are getting married at an older age. Many women are now thinking about education. I financial stability and then marriage in that order. Many are over twenty five years of age. They have no children before they actually decide to get married. And another curious thing that has happening is that in the arena of millennials getting. Married being married is now starting to be seen as a status symbol because it demonstrates that they are financially stable. But it also has the downward side. That means that there's a possibility that the poorer Americans may not get married. So what does that mean for the future of marriage? Well, what this seems to to be indicating is that if you're doing well financially and educationally, been your marriage could represent your status of wealth. Almost like another classification, the married class, meaning that when you see a couple in their thirties, Mary, they're probably rich or at least well off there. There could be developing a possible stigma for the unmarried class because they are seen as less successful, less financially stable. They're not rich. Each. So they are seeing less successful than their financially stable enrich counterparts. So are we seeing the beginning of yet another social class? We all right. We have your one percentage. We have your upper class, you're middle class or lower class, and are we looking at the fact that we could have the married class that would tuck neatly in between the upper and the middle, which would then unfortunately pushed the lower class even further down and will we be seeing the emergence of the quote, old maid classification of women that once designated, a young woman that had not married by a certain age as an old maid, because now we've gone from independent single women that you cannot deny that there has been a big push over the last fifteen twenty years for that independent wool. Woman who's who gets an education who goes after that career makes her own money buys her own stuff like her pays for own house or car and everything. She's independent. She don't need no man. But if what we're talking about here holds true that millennials over the age of twenty five or getting married because they're now financially stable, educationally stable, and it is a status symbol. Are we going to to start seeing a reversal of that independent single woman as being seen as a positive? Are we going to go back to the old maid designation because now she if she's not married, then she must not be in the the proper social class. I don't know. But it is interesting that from the very beginning of this, this article, the headland I was thinking, millennials just aren't getting married, but no millennials seemed to be doing what they're doing it right. They're doing it the proper way. There's an old adage that I've heard in some form variation of it is and it goes along for marriage and it goes along for having a kid. We're going to wait until we can afford to get married with Esa case. You'll never get married. We're gonna wait until we can afford to have a kid. Well, if that's the case, you're never going to have a kid except the millennials are now doing exactly that they're waiting until they've got their their, their educational of future secured. They've got, they've gone through, I mean, and less don't even muddy it up by talking about the the educational crisis that we do have here in the United States when it comes to student debt, that's a completely side issue, but those that can actually get through it, they still may come out on the other side with monstrous debt. But there they come out, they've got their degree. Hopefully they can get a good stable job that that makes good money. And once they've been entrenched in. That for a number of years, then they decide along with another partner who has followed suit, finished educational objectives, got a bright financial future with with a good job. They get together. They get married now they can start a family. That's the way they're doing it. So they are literally blowing this, the stereotypical line of if you wait until you can afford it to get married, you won't. If you wait until you see, you can afford it to have children, you won't. They're tearing apart because they are waiting. They're not getting married at eighteen nineteen twenty years of age. They're waiting into their at least twenty six, twenty seven twenty. I told my kids do not get married until you're at least twenty-five. Get your financial future set and on the right path before you even entertain putting a ring on it. And unfortunately, sometimes that does seem to come across the wrong way with my wife and I'm trying to. I said, look, I'm we did what we did because it was a completely different time and I don't regret anything that we did. I don't regret the way we did it. We. We are the people that we are today because of the trials and tribulations that we went through getting married at such an early age, having children at such an early age, having a single income family from nineteen ninety until two thousand and thirteen I carried this house and I would do it all over again. But I want a different future for my children in it seems like they've already got it figured out. I'm sorry, we're out of time. This way I'm getting in today's show if you like the show follow us on Twitter at the Don talk show on Facebook where at Don talk show, shoot us an Email DT are at Don talk radio dot com, or you can leave a voice mail or a text at two, two, nine, seven, nine, six, four, zero zero, nine. I am personally on Twitter at Don Ed kissing. I'm also on Instagram done at kiss and there as well. Let me know your opinion about the divorce rate and millennials. What's your experience are? Are you the parents of a millennial or a couple of millennials? Do you have friends that are millennials? What do you see? Are they? Are they doing what this article suggests? Are they getting their education and their financial future set first and then getting married? I mean, what are you seeing? I'd love I'd love to hear from you. Let me know. 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