Lorena and John Bobbitt Pt. 1: Dream Shattered
I'm vanessa richardson introducing a new podcast original today in true crime. Today is wednesday august twenty first two thousand nineteen on this day in nineteen eleven. A man stole a painting and cemented. It's cultural legacy but what's remarkable about the heist is not the criminals lack of experience or the paintings incredible fame but how astonishingly easy it was for vincenzo perrugia to steal the mona lisa aw today and true crime podcast new daily show that relives the biggest true crime events from each day in history. Don't miss today's his full episode follow today and true crime for free on spotify and anywhere you listen to podcasts now due to the graphic nature of these crimes listener discretion is advised this episode includes discussions of domestic violence and sexual assault that some people may find offensive and maybe upsetting for some listeners we advise extreme caution for children under the age of thirteen for more information and resources victims and survivors survivors of domestic violence can call the national domestic violence hotline and one eight hundred seventy nine nine seven two three three or visit w._w._w. The u. w. w. dot the hotline dot org. Irma castro recognized that she was an old fashioned russian woman. Her teenage daughters sometimes scoffed at her rules and admonitions but she believed that it was important to race them with the firm hand. Young people could be so foolish and impulsive. They need sensible adults to guide them to ensure. They didn't stray into harm. That's what irma feared for llerena guy. Oh even though llerena wasn't her biological child. Irma was responsible for her and she she was becoming concerned by some of the changes. She noticed in the last few months. Llerena was acting differently ever since she met that young man in the marine marine corps in irma's opinion. The boy just wasn't responsible when he came to visit lorraina. He didn't show the right kind of respect. Irma kept track of the grades arena earned at community college and she had noted that since llerena started hanging out with him she had gone from getting as as and bs. Two apps and irma's daughters told her he never seemed to have any money. He was sponging off arena like elite. That wasn't how a proper courtship should go of course lorena wouldn't hear anything of it. She just kept saying saying she loved him. Irma didn't know what to do. She would never lead that mandate one of her own daughters she knew that lorena was on a bad path breath and she was afraid for her but if the young woman wouldn't listen to reason there was nothing irma do but pray for llerena guiso in john wayne bobbitt i i'm leaning hobbs and this is crimes of passion a podcast original. The legal definition of a crime of passion is a violent crime that occurs in the throes of of extreme emotion leaving no time to reflect on the consequences but in this show we explore how the passions of our relationships sometimes lead us criminal activity how does a husband and wife become killer and victim or killer and co conspirator. If there's a thin line signed between love and hate what manipulates our relationships into deadly results at podcast we are grateful for you our listeners. You allow us to do what we love. 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We'll talk about how the bobbitt's marriage culminated needed in an infamous act of mutilation and the criminal charges trials an media frenzy that surrounded the couple furlough arena geico family meant love tradition and respect these were the values she was raised to believe in born in buckeye ecuador in nineteen sixty nine lorraine grew up in a deeply religious catholic family though her parents were strict llerena always felt surrounded by warmth and affection in describing her parents relationship. She said they are like acquittal. Kids always holding hands when lorena was five. Her family moved from ecuador venezuela. They hope to find a better life there but dasmarinas got older. She dreamed about starting over in another country even farther away. She was in love with the idea of living in the united states dates. She grew up watching american movies and television captivated by the alluring world they portrayed she completely bought into the idea of the american dream and the land of opportunity. She couldn't wait to discover it for herself. When lorena turned fifteen in one thousand nine hundred eighty four. She told her parents that she didn't want them to pay for big gains and yet party instead. She wanted to use that money to take a trip to the u._s. Lorraina arrived in washington d._c. In the spring when the cherry blossoms were in bloom she was elated to be there. She later said it was like another planet. Everything was just pink and beautiful. She told herself oh god. This is the place i wanna be a few years later. Lorraina got her wish after she graduated from high school in venezuela. She obtained a student visa to study in the united it states. Her parents allowed her to enroll in a community college in the northern virginia suburbs of washington d._c. They're lorraina stayed with the castro's his family friends who were also immigrants from south america blue. Marina didn't speak much english so she enrolled in e._s._l. Classes she also got a job working as a nanny for a woman named janet basuki soon after she took a position as a manicurist at a salon owned by misbehave sudi the castro family like laurynas was strict and religious while living with them she was expected to follow a curfew and bring angus chaperone on dates. Lorraine didn't seem to mind the sheltered life but it might not have been to her benefit before i continue with llerena psychology ecology please note. I am not a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist but i have done a lot of research for the show. Dr richard site a wig a professor of neurology at george washington university stated that protecting children from the realities of the world can hamper their ability to learn from misfortune his fortune and develop the resilience that makes negotiating adult life easier in recent years. Marina admitted that she was very immature. In her early early adulthood she didn't have the capacity to make responsible decisions or handle the consequences of such she later said i was naive about many things. The castros had two daughters and several nieces around laurynas age and the young women were permitted to go out and socialize is together in september of nineteen eighty eight. They went dancing at an enlisted men's club located in the marine corps base at quantico virginia at at the party nineteen-year-old llerena enjoyed herself several men asked her to dance but only one young man came to sit at her table wearing still struggled with english but the man nevertheless trying to hold a conversation with her the twenty one year old lance corporal introduced himself as john wayne bobbitt till arena and might as well have been a dream or a fairytale. She was a simple simple girl living out her big adventure in a foreign land. The only thing missing from the story was prince charming but tonight after after an evening filled with dancing and music a handsome man with beautiful blue eyes was holding her hand and telling her how pretty she was. She couldn't understand everything he said but he made it clear that he wanted to see her again. He asked for her phone number. Lorena llerena couldn't think of any reason to turn him down. It felt like fate all these years she had been waiting to discover the american dream a successful astle life with husband and family with john. She felt like all of that was possible. John called the castro residents the very next stay asking to take lorena out. They began to see each other regularly never alone because the castros wouldn't allow it but john would come over to their house for dinner or to watch a movie other times llerena in john went out for ice cream and companied by one of the castro daughters. Llerena later said that the cash showgirls didn't like john because he frequently forgot his wallet leaving lorraina to pay the bill when they went out their mother irma <hes> noted that when the pair planned date he seemed incapable of showing up on time. Irma later said that he didn't strike her as a responsible young man. Dan marino wasn't bothered by any of this at all if john behaved a little carelessly. She didn't believe it was on purpose. She it was too infatuated with him to worry about these flaws she thought he was good looking and charming and she was impressed by his military service. Lorraina boss misbehave. Sudi said it was like a high school romance to nineteen year old lorena. John was tom cruise. Merano was deeply in love with her new suitor. Even though they didn't have much in common she soon learned that john had experienced a very different different kind of life than she had and interviews he has been open about the abuse he suffered as a child stating that his father was an alcoholic who regularly beat him his brothers and his mother when he was spirit young around three or four. His father left the family. John's mother had a breakdown after his father walked out and some reports indicate that she abused drugs. John also said his family had no money and they were forced to live in a crime ridden ghetto or he claims they were often the victims of racially motivated violent attacks when he was still a small child. John and his two brothers were sent to live with an aunt and uncle. John had limited minute contact with his mother. After the move dr sherry hamby a research professor of psychology at swannee. The university of the south stated that the people who grow up exposed to domestic violence are more likely to be in violent relationships as adults or teens about twice as likely in many studies. He's in addition physicians. Martin are hecker and williams smock reported that children who witnessed domestic violence may believe that violence is a reasonable reasonable way to resolve conflict but it can be difficult to predict how a child's exposure to violence will affect leader behavior medical. Call researchers let go rock avec fell. Sir of the university of maribor school of medicine noted this in a recent paper. She stated that some study support support the notion that growing up in an aggressive family increases the probability of being a victim of spouse abuse whereas other studies have provided support for the notion that growing up in an aggressive home increases the probability of being a perpetrator of spouse abuse. What is clear is that children who experienced variance or witnessed domestic violence often suffer long term consequences into adulthood. John said that he enjoyed a happy childhood. After moving again with his extended family in a separate interview however he claimed that he and his brothers were molested by an uncle during this time by some accounts since john also had difficulties in school due to a learning disability and attention deficit disorder but he was able to graduate from high school in nineteen eighty seven twenty year old. John joined the marine corps. John said that his military career blunted his ability to feel empathy saying because emma combat marine. I'm trained trained not to feel emotions. It's really hard for me to understand a person who has a lot of feelings. He later claimed that his marital problems with llerena were partly caused by his lack of sensitivity but this didn't seem to be a problem at the start of their relationship. Llerena was just happy to have his attention. Then after about ten months of dating twenty two year old john and twenty year old lorena were married a justice of the peace performed the legal legal ceremony on june eighteenth nineteen eighty nine the couple settled into a small studio apartment in manassas virginia out of the castro's home home and no longer burdened by chaperones and restrictions. John and lorena could finally build an intimate relationship together as husband bend and wife. They seemed happy together but that was quick to change. 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Laurino wanted too much too fast johnson. That llerena was angry that he could not provide more for her to her. The american dream meant being successful and having a big house bull arena told a different story. She was concerned by john's behavior savior very early in their marriage. She has said that the first cracks began to appear just a few weeks after they moved in together during the july a fourth holiday john lorena took a trip up to niagara falls to visit john's family according to llerena. John didn't tell her that his family had planned planned a special wedding reception and picnic at their local church. The newlyweds arrived at delete missing the celebration when they got there everyone everyone was furious. It was the arena's first introduction to john's family all she could say was i'm sorry i didn't know and after staying in niagara for three days. John and lorena returned to manassas. They did not go back alone. John's cousin todd bairo accompanied them. John told lorena that his cousin was going to live with them for a while. Lorraine was upset. Todd was a stranger to her. She tried to tell john's family that they lived in a tiny studio apartment without any furniture. She felt that they weren't in a position to host guests below. Rina said her husband didn't care todd was going to move in with them whether she liked it or not. Soon after marina ena found drug paraphernalia in their apartment she then discovered that todd was a convicted felon and addicted to cocaine and even bigger occur problem was todd's influence on john while he stayed with them. The two men went out drinking nearly every night. She said that about a month into their or marriage. She asked to join the men on one of their nights out according to lorena the group tried to go to a club called chelsea's in washington d._c. But they were turned away because they're tired. Didn't that the dress code. They decided to go to another bar. We're taught in john drink beer and took several shots. What's when it was time to go home. They all return to the car and john got behind the wheel. Lorena recalled that john sped down. <music> is sixty six at over ninety miles per hour recklessly weaving across lanes other drivers beep their horns in veered to get out of their way. Hey at one point. She was so afraid they were going to crash. She grabbed the steering wheel. According to lorraina that's when john on punched her. She started to cry as john screamed obscenities at her todd sitting in the backseat. Simply nodded in approval full at johns tirade. Lorraina reported that when they got home john dragged her to their apartment and began to kick her slap her and pull our hair. A security guard officer francis heard the disturbance in came to the apartment. When john opened the door his demeanor changed changed completely secondly he grew quiet and got his temper under control officer francis saul arena crying and asked her if she had anywhere else she could go. She told him she was leaving but she was too embarrassed to go to a friend's house. She didn't want anybody to know what had happened. Instead she drove to the parking lot of this along where she worked and slept in her car. John and his cousin todd remember that night differently. They confirm lorena story. The three of them tried to go to a dc nightclub chelsea's and they were turned away because john was wearing sneakers. Batat said let lorraina became enraged when the bouncer wouldn't let them in. He claimed she punched unscratched john across the face. Todd said llerena continued to attack john when they got home. He did not mention a visit from officer francis. He said that he left them alone in their apartment and waited in a parking lot for them to calm down then he came back inside and went to bed after the incident. Lorraina tried to talk to john to communicate that it was unacceptable to hit her. She said that john kind of apologized which which gave her hope that she had gotten through to him about a month later. The couple took a weekend trip to ocean city maryland. They brought taunton long as well as laurynas friend and coworker terry mccumber. The group was walking along on the beach when john thought he heard a man whistle at the women he grew furious. Lorena said john grabbed her by the hair and pulled her to their hotel. Terry mccumber confirmed arenas account of the trip horrified by the way john tree llerena. She yelled at him to stop but john ignored her and told the women that they were going home. John on win back to the hotel to pack up their things he ordered the group into the car and they began to dr terry said that on the drive home she witnessed john hit and punch punch lorraina while she cowered in the passenger seat terry again screened john to stop but he wouldn't listen. He told terry that if she didn't shut up he'd leave her on the side of the highway. John denied that he hit lorraine during this trip but he admitted that he became angry with her. He said that that while he was driving through traffic llerena and terry were sitting together in the back seat looking out the window and flirting with men they saw in the cars passing by them on the highway away. He did not explain why he perceived their behavior to be flirtatious. He recalled feeling angry and ocean city but claimed that he didn't remember her any other details of the trip. After they dropped terry off and returned to their apartment john continued to beat lorraina until she fled the the apartment she stayed with terry that night but she returned the next day jason b whiting professor of marriage and family therapy at brigham young university university cited religious and family pressure as one of the most common reasons that women stay in abusive relationships in the two thousand twelve study by associate associate professor of psychology at brigham young university new wakayama walkie research suggested that social stigma and fear of being judged often deter victims from leaving their abusive spouses at that point lorena and john were still newlyweds only married a few months. She did not want to admit her marriage was already. A failure divorce also went against her catholic believes so she stayed with john. She was pleased when his cousin todd finally moved out of their apartment a few weeks later but john in lena's lives did not improve <music> but laurynas account john lost his temper and beat her at least once a month especially when he was drinking she felt particularly terrified when he started to choke her robbing his hands around her neck and digging his thumbs into her windpipe llerena co workers reported regularly seeing bruises bruises on her arms neck and face around the same time. John and lorena moved into a new house with more space. John said the move was laurynas idea and arena said it was john's. Both of them have since called the move a mistake since the house cost more than they could afford worries about money added to their tension then in the spring of nineteen ninety twenty one year old lorena became pregnant. Llerena couldn't understand how her marriage had gone so wrong. She tried to talk to john but nothing she said could make him understand when when she explained how much she was hurting her he either laughed or became angry. Lorena couldn't remember the last time she felt anything positive until now but nothing not even john could take away the joy. She felt being pregnant. She had always wanted to be a mother. In fact she pictured herself. Eventually having three children a family just like the one she had grown up in she had reservations about starting a family with john but for better or worse he was her husband and john was close with his own family. He always enjoyed spending time with his brothers and cousins. Perhaps lorena thought he would be pleased to have a family of his own. Lorena clung to that hope having a baby would certainly change everything about their lives. Perhaps it would also change john and to a different kind of of man but when lorraina told john about the pregnancy he was furious. He didn't wanna child and they couldn't afford one. He berated her grabbed a phone book and found a listing for a women's clinic lorraine ascent. John insisted she have an abortion john. John denied this saying that they came to a mutual decision to end the pregnancy because neither of them were ready to be parents but lorraina denied that she would ever have come to this decision on her own and win strongly against her catholic faith twenty one year old arena terminated her pregnancy in mid june of nineteen ninety. She said she was distraught. Not only because she wanted to have the baby but also because john taunted her before the procedure telling her that it would be extremely painful and that she would not receive any anesthesia lorraine became severely depressed after the abortion listen. She didn't wanna talk to john or be anywhere near him in response. She said he began to rape her. John's behaviour escalating llerena started to fear for her life. They had a particularly terrifying altercation in late nineteen ninety one morning while john was backing out of the garage. Lorraina approached the car. John had hidden her car keys before for leaving so she followed him out to ask him where they were. As llerena stood beside the car john flung the driver's door open it hit lorraina raina and knocked her to the ground he then careened the car out of the driveway and raced away without stopping to see whether she was all right. He didn't notice that when lorena fell down her clothes caught on the bumper she managed to untangle herself before he sped off but john came close to dragging ragging her behind his car. Lorraina felt like she might have been killed when she went back inside. After this incident she saw a list of emergency agency phone numbers taped to her refrigerator including the contact information for marine corps helpline. She decided to call and was connected to a military social worker in an interview with the social worker. John denied that he abused his wife but when asked to fill out a questionnaire he circled categories oris on the report sheet indicating that he had threatened to hit or throw something at her pushed carried restrained grabbed or shoved her drove drove recklessly to scare her through her bodily and hit her or tried to hit her with something john later said that he didn't remember remember filling out the form or even speaking with the social worker he did say that he sometimes push lorraina or restrained her because he claimed she sometimes tried to hit him. When they fought he objected to this because as he put it. It's not ladylike to strike out. Although john was questioned by the marine corps nothing came of the interview. There was no follow up. This was perhaps because john was due to be discharged. From the military the following month lorraina said that throughout nineteen ninety one john's beatings continued and became more frequent on several occasions twenty one year old raina place place calls to nine one one to report the abuse but the police really knew how to help her saying they didn't have the training to advise a victim only once did one of her reports result in an arrest in february of nineteen ninety-one lorraina call nine one one after john punched her in the face ace and twisted her arm when the responding officer arrived he noted that lorena had sustained visible injuries to her elbow lip and foot. John was arrested and charged with assault and battery. John pleaded guilty to these charges but his conviction was never recorded. The core records indicate that the case was dismissed after six months after john completed the judges condition of attending counselling it would not not be the last time police were called to handle violent incident between john and lorena bobbitt coming up. We'll talk about the final years of the bobby marriage and the night that preceded their permanent separation now back to the story in the spring of nineteen ninety-one twenty three year old john wayne bobbitt and his wife twenty one year old arena had been married for nearly two years for the entirety of their marriage lorraina claim that john physically and emotionally abused her. She was not not silent about the abuse. She told customers at the nail salon where she worked who asked about her bruises. Many of these customers were horrified by what they heard but did nothing. She told neighbors one of them gave her pamphlets on domestic violence and another offered her a place to stay lorraina declined the offer. She wasn't ready to leave yet even if she was she thought it would be too easy for john defined her lorena arena and john occasionally attended church services at bethlehem baptist church one sunday llerena told the pastor there that her husband was hitting her. The pasture spoke to john telling him to stop. He leader recalled that john had no response. She told medical professionals dr inman treated lorena for a respiratory infection. She noted that lorena seemed agitated and nervous. She was either ventilating. Dr ayman asked her whether she was experiencing stress and the rain responded that she was anxious because her husband meet her have sets without her permission. The doctor advice lorraina to call protective services at times. John was also open about his behavior an acquaintance. It's related time. They were hanging out with a group of men talking about women in that conversation confirmed by others john brag that he enjoyed having being forcible sex the friend recalled he said that he liked to make girl squirm and yell and make them bleed and yell for help lorraine azeem desperate for help but the one thing she wasn't willing to do was end her marriage at that point she still believe that divorce would be immoral failing against her catholic faith but by the summer of nineteen ninety-one even the appearance of a marriage between john and marina was rapidly disintegrating according till arena. John started sleeping with other women. She said he often stole money from her purse i to fund his dates. John rarely had money of his own dispend. After his discharge from the marine corps he struggled to find and keep the job. The couple relied almost entirely on the arena's income as a manicurist but she didn't make enough to pay their bills. Their cars were repossessed zest and their house was foreclosed on sometime in the summer of nineteen ninety one in order to keep up with the bills and and get her car back. Lorraina began embezzling money from the neil salon. She wrote up false tickets for the customer. She served overcharging them and kept the difference. She did this for several months when she eventually confesses to john he was furious the agreed she should come clean into her boss. Jonah basuki miss basuki was angry but she had known lorena for several years and she understood her desperate situation relation instead of firing her she dunk chlorine as commissions until all the money she'd stolen was repaid with financial strain and john's infidelity ability a constant source of tension. The couple separated in october of nineteen ninety one after two years of marriage john move back to niagara falls falls to stay with his family. Marina moved back in with a castro's. The couple remained apart for nearly a year but they stayed in touch by telephone both seemed interested and reconciliation despite everything that had happened between them. John was still arenas. I love she admitted committed. I was scared to meet somebody else. A two thousand three study published in the journal of family violence found that leaving an abuser tends to be a process process rather than a discrete event and can take several years on average. A victim leaves air abuser seven times before the separation is permanent terminent in september of nineteen ninety two twenty four year old. John returned virginia. He said he lorraina wanted to try to start over again and work on their marriage. They moved into the maplewood park apartment complex and manassas according to lorraina. The abuse resumed immediately after they were reunited. Llerena said that by the start of nineteen ninety three john beat her at least twice a week by may llerena finally seemed to recognize that their relationship was beyond repair around this time. John told her that his friend robert was moving into their one bedroom apartment and after the experience with todd lorena was weary about having more men's danner home but john didn't give of her choice at this point. Lorena thought about getting a divorce when she brought it up to john. He told her she could leave but reminded her that he knew where she worked. He would always be able to find her even if their marriage was over according to lorena john told her that divorce divorced people usually stay friends and continue to have sex given his past behavior arena took this as a threat he would continue to to rape her even if they split up as the abuse continued. Lorraina had the idea to hide a tape recorder in her purse. She thought a tape tape. John be reading her might be helpful in divorce proceedings ba- john discovered the tape while trying to take money from her purse and he flew into a rage. The bobbitt's downstairs neighbors later said they heard a loud argument with someone banging in running around. She heard lorena screaming at john to give back her purse. First lorena said the john grab the tape and flushed down the toilet then. She said john raped her. Lorraina tried to fight him off. She scratched his face leaving a gouge in his cheek but he overpowered her. Lorraina reached a point where she didn't want to salvage things her life with. John was a nightmare and she just wanted it to be over over the next few weeks six. She moved things out of the apartment. She told neighbors she was donating clothes and furniture if they wanted to come by and take what they liked. It seemed that she was finally leap preparing to walk out of her marriage. On saturday june nineteenth nineteen ninety-three marina ran into a neighbor diane hall. She told diane that she was moving out and looking for new place to live the next day. John's friend robert johnston arrived to stay with the bobbitt's robert noted that lorena was moving boxes out of the apartment. He said the couple seemed strained and that they were ignoring each other on monday june twenty-first lorraine and and went to the prince william county courthouse. She filled out paperwork to obtain a protective order against her husband. She was worried about what john had said that he would tracker record down even if they split up at the courthouse clerk helped her fill out the paperwork then let her know it would take some time to type up and enter the order into the computer system. Lorraina told him that she couldn't stay but that she might return on wednesday to complete the process she may we have decided to wait because she had not yet found her own apartment and was still living with john. Lorena might have realized that if she filed the protective order that day they would have had to separate immediately before she was ready to move out the next morning. John robert were gone when lorraine awoke up john john had gotten a job unloading trucks at food warehouse and secured robert temporary work there as well lorraina went to work at the nail salon as usual when when she came home the men were still out john was supposed to work a second job that evening as a host a nightclub but he was told it was a slow night and he wasn't needed. He and robert decided to go out for drinks instead lorraina. Meanwhile had a quiet night at home. She visited with her downstairs. Neighbor ella jones and talked about her marriage. Miss jones had overheard several incidents of violence and she was worried about lorena. When arena opened up about the abuse miss jones told her that she could come spend the night at her place but she was an elderly woman with several health problems and arena did not want to make more trouble for her. She thinks miss jones for the offer then she went back to her apartment and went to bed after drinking taking several beers. John robert left the bar around one thirty a. m. They had a meal at a denny's restaurant then returned to the maplewood park apartment around on three a._m. In the early hours of wednesday june twenty third llerena said that she woke up to find her husband on top top of her he had ripped off the shorts and underwear she was wearing and forced himself onto her. She said she tried to cry out but he shoved his tongue so far down her throat. She thought she was going to vomit. She kept shaking her head no but he ignored her and raped her afterward the word. He pushed her away arena said she cried and asked him why he did this to her. He told her to leave him alone and let him sleep sleep. Lorena pulled on her clothes and got out of bed. Her head roiled as unwanted images flashed through her brain. She couldn't and stop the barrage of memories. The first time john hit her kicked her choked her and all the times after hundreds druids of instances seared into her mind. She tried to calm herself down to stop her body from shaking to stop the pictures from flooding through her brain but it was impossible. She was so tired and angry. She had reached her limit. She was desperate to escape to be rid of john but it seemed impossible the whole he had on her felt like a heavy cloak on her shoulders. She couldn't simply shrug it off. It suffocated her. She felt terrified that she would never ever be free. Llerena went into the kitchen. She thought a glass of water might help settle her nerves. As she opened the refrigerator. The kitchen filled with light lorena. Turn towards the counter to grab a glass instead. The first thing she saw was a knife she reached out and wrapped her fingers around the handle. It felt smooth and cool in her hand. When she returned to the bedroom. She took the knife with her. Thanks again for tuning into crimes of passion. We will be back wednesday with the next episode on john and lorena bobbitt. We'll discuss halloween a- ended her marriage and the trials and media storm that came after you can find more episodes of crimes of passion as well as all of our casts other shows on on spotify or your favorite podcast directory. Several of you have asked how to help less if you enjoy the show. The best way to help is to leave a five star review. Don't forget to follow us on facebook and instagram at podcast and twitter at podcast network. 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