Little: During a Difficult Family Discussion, Someone Knows the Right Thing to Say
I'm Gretchen Rubin and this is a little happier. Happier is brought to you by quip. One of the most important things we do for our health every day is brushing our teeth yet. Most of us don't do it properly. Quip is a better electric toothbrush that makes brushing your teeth, simpler and more affordable. Go to get quip dot com slash happier right now to get your first refill pack for free with a quip. Electric toothbrush. I'm always looking for examples of people knowing the right thing to say, this is such a challenge in life. We're faced with someone's grief, disappointment, anger, frustration or guilt, and we want to offer comforting words, but we don't know what to say. So I love hearing someone get it right. I saw a wonderful example of the right thing to say on a TV show the Amazon TV show transparent. This show is about the pfefferman family in Los Angeles, two parents and their three grown children who go through various challenges. The moment I want to talk about was on the show way back in season two spoiler alert I am going to talk about something that happened in the show. So if you don't wanna know, skip this episode of a little happier, and it's also a sad story. So you may want to skip because of that a bit of backstory for the moment I wanted to Scott is that in season two episode, one, the character. Sarah is getting married her second marriage on the day of her wedding, DJ. Josh tells their sister alley, a secret. His girlfriend Raquel is pregnant and because no one in this family can keep a secret soon, the whole family knows and then their mothers, Shelly is so thrilled by this news that she cannot resist announcing it to a big crowd of people at Sarah's wedding. Later in season two episode, seven, the pfefferman family who is Jewish is celebrating Yom Kippur the day of atonement. This is the holiest day in the Jewish here and as part of it people fast. In this episode, the youngest child of the three children alley is hosting a break, fast celebration in her apartment. She's invited her family and various family friends to share a meal. Everyone's sitting around the table there. Eating talking. People start to say to Josh, where's Raquel? Whereas Racale. And finally, he steals himself and reveals what has happened. Raquel lost the baby and Josh and Racale broke up. Shelley immediately bursts into loud sobs. I'm. This is nine, your all my. The wedding, the wedding. Told everybody. Thanks everybody to celebrate it. I brought up the evil eye like healed the may. You. So here's the question. What do you say to this woman in her grief and her guilt? What could comfort her Shelley's new boyfriend, buzz news just what to say and what to do. He reaches out and puts his hand on her back in says, an gentle, almost humorous tone Shelly here. Not that powerful. When I heard those words, I felt a tremendous rush of relief. Those words are comforting because they're true. She's not that powerful. I'm Gretchen Rubin, and I hope this makes your week a little happier. Panoply.