Listen: The 2 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself While Decluttering
"Use these two decluttering questions to determine either determine the home or determined that it needs to leave my house so the first decluttering question is is if I needed this item. Where what I look for it I K- that means the instinct of if I was looking for this item fi I needed it? Where would I go first to see if it was there? That is the home for the item. Not some analyzed thought through you know what would be the best place to put this. Where did normal people keep their staplers? I don't know but it's literally the instinct of where would I go. I if I was looking for this item. Where's the first place I would look? And that is it's home and then I take it there now so like I said I have a whole nother podcast. There's there's other podcasts. I've talked about question number once. We're not GONNA win today but the thing to remember is you do not ask question number two if you answered question number one so question number one is where revenue for this first and you take it there now and you're done with that. That item is over gay. It's not clutter anymore because it's an actual home in your house and and you're actually going to find it when you need it because you're gonNA look in the first place where you would look for it and it's going to be there okay. So that item is done and question number two who doesn't even get asked for a lot of items but question number two. I want you to remember is my second question of only two questions which means it's the last last question. It's the final thing. I do not have a list of ten questions for you to think through an analyze whether you need things. We're basing things on facts. I do not base. My decluttering process us on emotions. Or what if I have to take those out of there because my brain goes away too crazy when I allow those to be options of you know making these decluttering decisions so this is the final question before we get to it. I just want you to know. This is the final question okay and if I needed this item would it ever occur to me that I already have one K now. It's important to realize that most of the time we're not even asking this question because you answered the question. Where would I look for this first and you had a place for it? Okay you only ask decluttering question number two if your answer to the first question was Way Well Throw a level. Where would I look for this? I if you find yourself doing that that's when you ask decluttering question number two okay now if you want to be super ruthless it just say well if I couldn't answer that I'm going to get rid of okay but we do have a second question to help you think through this process and be super realistic about this item. So the second question is if I needed this this item. Would it ever occur to me that I already had one. I've got this item when I asked the question. Where would I look for it? I I didn't have an answer which means I wouldn't have gone looking for it so I'm asking myself this question. Would it have occurred to me that I already have one. Most host likely the answer to that question is no because you didn't have a place where you would look for it. I okay so this is A. It's time to be realistic moment. Because I could not answer. That first question would ever have occurred to me that already. We had one and I had. This is me being honest with myself. Okay so an example that I give is Glow in the dark bracelets K.. Okay and I know if you guys have listened to all the PODCAST Steve Harvey till the story before but this is from the decluttering project very early on. I think it was in January when I had started mighty sloppy vacation process my practice blog. That was never going to be the thing. I wrote a book about but when I was cleaning out a junk drawer. You're and I asked myself this question And I came up with these two decluttering questions during that process because it was all just random stuff so I came up with the if I needed this item. Where but I look for it? I and I just made the decision that that's his home. Well guess what that has held up for ten and years now you guys I mean that holds up as being the most transformative decluttering question ever for me and for a whole lot. y'All okay okay. But as I was going through I asked myself that question about things and I got to stuff that I went. I don't know so I came across crossed these glow in the dark bracelets and I knew what they were from like. I knew what they were four. So my oldest kid had been in kindergarten two years before and the teacher would do this thing where she they took a trip to the moon and they studied the moon and did this little fun project and she would have all the parents in the class US send in a set of twenty or however many kids. There were twenty of a certain item that they would fill these boxes with basically fill these boxes with junk but it was really cute and it was really sweet and all that For the kids to have this special big day where they took a trip to the moon evidently people on the moon where bracelets I don't know but anyway. That is what I had been assigned with my first child to send twentieth for these boxes and evidently had had an extra pack of five glow in the dark bracelets are maybe it was four because there were twenty one kids. I don't remember anyway. I ran across this package. glow-in-the-dark bracelets that was shoved in the back of junk drawer and that I had no memory of it being there k now now the reality is that my second child was in the same woman's class at that very moment when I was was declaring and so my brain immediately went to well. You know what there's a one in twenty ish chance that I'm GonNa they get assigned glow in the dark bracelets again within the next couple of months. But I didn't have an answer for where would I look for glow in the dark bracelets slits I because I wouldn't have looked for going that art bracelets because I didn't remember that I had these glow in the dark bracelets okay and because I didn't remember remember that I had these glow in the dark bracelets would never have looked for them. It was a moment of reality. Check for me. I had to say are these glow-in-the-dark bracelets useful Wilshire. Might need it. One day absolutely I had a one in twenty chance that I was going to need it within the next little while but I had to say I'm GonNa be honest with myself and admit the fact that if I was not decluttering like my goal at this moment is for this space to be more usable and lovely when a like the space. I want to be able to find the things that I need. It had been a total disaster. Like couldn't even open. It couldn't find anything I needed. My goal is to make this space better right now and the truth is that if I wasn't working on this space right now with this goal of making it better I would never have run across these glow in the dark bracelets and and the truth is I didn't have a place to put him because I asked myself the question. Where would I look for I and the question the answer to that question was I didn't didn't have a place to look for him I because I wouldn't have gone looking for them? Which means that if I was not at this moment decluttering the space with the goal of making it better if I got assigned glow in the dark bracelets it would never have occurred to me to go? Look for those glow in the dark bracelets like the thought would not have crossed my mind and and when I went to this dollar tree to get twenty glow in the dark bracelets I would have just bought that extra package package anyway. I mean I was going to have to make that trip to the store anyway and spend one extra dollar for another five pack of bracelets and so I made a a decision. This is not because this is the perfect scenario. I mean the perfect scenario is that I always remember everything. I have the perfect scenarios scenarios that I can always find everything I wanna find. But this wasn't a perfect scenario. This was mu saying. I have to be realistic. My goal is to make my house. More Livable Bull. I need to have less stuff in it to make it more liveable K.. At the time I didn't know about clutter threshold right. I was just kind of working toward that and eventually got to the point room. uh-huh oh my goodness I can get my house under control now because I have only the amount of stuff I can keep under control but I had to be realistic and just say there are a lot of what ifs with this but the truth is I would never have even looked for it. I would have gone out and bought another one anyway and and so you know if I needed this and I hadn't declared the space I would have gone out. Spent the money anyway and then I would have to in my house okay and and I just had to get over it. I mean that's not the kind of advice that people like me WanNa hear people like what me WanNa hear that there's a way to have everything worked out perfectly but the truth is I needed the space d cluttered and I had to make some hard decisions and so I decided to get over it and just say the reality is. I need the space to be in better shape and I can't keep all the junk in here and have it be in better shape and make my house more Livable K.. If my goal is is to make this better I have to make some tough decisions and this decluttering question too is how I do a reality check on myself and make that difficult decision to get rid of something. That's totally useful. But the truth is I didn't know I had it. I never would have gone looking for it. I would've just gone to the store and bought another one or I made it would've made do without which is also valid. Okay so that is just a way to give myself a reality. Check to be honest with myself and say if I wasn't decluttering the space with the goal of making it better I would never have known this was here I would never have looked for it and I would have"