Responding Instead of Reacting When Communicating

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Learning to slow down the feelings and to think things through from someone else's perspective is specially key for couples. We all need more imagination about our partners perspective in order to respond instead of react. Couples need to embrace the complexity of valuing two points of view instead of trying to win. I'm going to say this again because it's that important. We all need more imagination about our partners perspective. In order to respond instead of react couples need to embrace the complexity of juggling valuing two points of view instead of just insisting on their own and trying to win juggling. Two points of view is a rare talent because we all love the simplicity of winning. And getting our way. Communication improves dramatically. When there is a higher percentage of responding instead of reacting everyone tilts towards reacting and leaps easily into defensive mode. Emotions are what lies beneath all reactions. Usually the more difficulty motions of fear hurt or anger are doing most of the contamination in everyone's reactions

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