A highlight from #125: Why You Should Play Games with Your Kids with Jack Berkenstock Jr., MHS

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Going to be talking about the therapeutic value of playing games some melissa. I am curious. What was your favorite game as a child. Okay you're even laugh at me. I know we play games as a kid. I i just don't have my future thinking self just doesn't remember a ton but our family has to go to games in general and they are aggravation which i feel like no one's ever heard of. It's something my husband introduced me to. It's kind of like sorry but with marbles. I know that game do you. Yeah i had never heard of it before. I met him but our family is obsessed with it so much. So that patrick built a modular aggravation board so that it doesn't matter how many people are playing there's never an empty like home set and then were also a huge fan of trained domino's nice. Well i was thinking what my favorite game one was as a child and we did play a fair number of games but my strongest memories of playing games are with my grandmother my nanna she loved play cards. It's really special memory. But every time we were together she would get out the cards and she taught us card games in my favorite card game was kings corners and that was just when i loved and i loved being with my grandmother and felt very connected to her through the fact that she was willing to give her time and attention to me while playing cards. Oh i love that well. This week's guest is a gaming expert. Extraordinaire and honestly when he reached out and told me kind of what his practice was all about. My imagination. just couldn't get around like how playing sorry together as a family could be therapeutic as he claimed it was going to be but he talks about so much more in the gaming world. I mean there's just you don't know what you don't know right until you reach out and talk to people who are experts in these things so our guest this week is jack birkenstock junior. He's a master's level therapists with over twenty four years in the human services field and he has worked with children at lessons and adults both in residential treatment facility settings and in community based treatments. He is one of the founders and the executive director of a nonprofit called the donna group which he's going to tell you a little bit more about before we jump into this episode. We want to let you know that. Jack naidoo talk about some pretty mature themes in this interviews. If you've young years listening you might want to pause and either listen on earbuds. Save at a time when you can listen in private so without further ado here. Is my conversation with jack. Hijack welcome to the adoption connection podcast. Hello thanks for having me. Yeah well we are really excited one of the themes that we often talk about here. They'd option connection is how what we call. Playful engagement can be such a great way to keep everyone's nervous system open really increase the connection. We have with our kids. So we're really excited for you to expand a role a little bit into options that can be used and kind of this avenue playful gauge i'll have plenty of those. I'll uplift twenty of opportunities to talk about recommendations on many sides of the table top spectrum. So perfect before we get into all of that. Let's just kind of start with the basics. Will you share a little bit about your group. Donna group and tell us kind of what that means and how it came to be sure thing so bojana is A sanskrit word that means leading to awakening or an understanding so One of the reasons that we kind of chosen this is initially. Donna was formed From a bunch of us who had worked together in residential treatment facility for pre adolescent adolescent males who were either Victims of sexual abuse or persons who had Problematic sexual behaviors. So we wanted to provide some sort of treatment system or support system to kind of lead people to understanding of the impact of this cycle. And you know how old the starts so. We had originally looked at things like mindfulness practice. And you know so. That's kind of where we we got the name bohdan. also. I'm a practicing buddhist myself. But as we kind started forming and china wanted to provide like all of our trainings on our support on things like compassion fatigue vicarious trauma we found that the market that we were trying to connect to wasn't really there Like they had started to shut down a lot of like You know in state facilities in such within pennsylvania which is were based so we were going more into like a different direction.

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