Liar, Liar Pants on Fire! Telling the Truth About Compulsive, Pathological and White Lies
And who were you with again What was that like you know. What did they say. What did you guys do. Did you hang out for a while. We're then where'd you go next and so a lot of times that is going to be. You know you're not putting someone backing them into a corner and you're not saying well. I don't believe you because when you flat out say i don't believe you in comes that psychological reactions the person's back into a corner and now they're almost you can watch them go into fight or flight mode they can and i feel like that's where you see those impulsive lies. Those lies just come out of thin air because the person feels backed into a corner trapped but often in. I feel like one of the best ways to test. This theory is with teenagers. happen to have them. But if they're telling you a story of the now no. I was in my friends. Where yet what were you guys up to We were doing this. You know who was with you. The what was that like. Tell me more and it may sound. Like i'm i'm saying. Hey try to catch him but you know. Approach it with sincere curiosity and a desire to know more to tell me more about that and oftentimes. That is what is going to have someone feel like. They are any better position or a safe place to possibly open up and say you know what i really wasn't there or you know i i'm not telling the truth but if you just lay the somebody and say i don't believe you you're almost handing them the an opportunity to not tell the truth you're handing them an opportunity to fire back and get angry. So that's where. I feel like the beauty of asking more questions and not by saying hey I noticed that your is shifted to the right. I don't believe you. And that's what i love about this article. Now while we're talking about lying impulsive lying compulsive lying. I thought it might be interesting to just intersperse. Some of these found a pretty amazing web site that just had a lot of facts about lies and deception and there are some things that i think. We're pretty fascinating. Honest healthy living. According to a study done by the university of notre dame telling the truth can improve your health. The study found that telling fewer lies per week improved both mental health and physical health participants. Who fewer or. No lies reported fewer complaints such as feeling tents and having headaches compared with a control group which was allowed to continue lying. Ted the truth is not only good for your soul but it is also good for your body. It's good for your mental health. Sixty percent of people lie at least once in ten minute conversation. According to a study published by the journal of basic and applied social psychology according to the research people do this because they want to be likeable and they want to be viewed as competent in. This means that even during a brief conversation. Somebody's probably telling a lie or to a are you ready for a pretty cheesy segue.