Creating lasting change with neuroscientist Dr Gabija Toleikyte
Hello and welcome. I'm your host wardner and in my nearly twenty acri bringing on the cost models celebrities and doctors conversation and come away feeling excited and you always think bliss the tapes conversation discussed on this one on this forecast expert against a framing. You're willing and able to challenge or self improvement diesel. Very thin sites business web graduated. Let's all head to the show just before we begin. I just wanted to be totally. Kita is scientists by april coach. J. joins me on his episodes climbed talk about how we change things. Now we've talked about habits at length on this podcast goodman's bad ones bill. Good ones and we can all have great intentions when it comes to creating habits that we hope will lead to a positive change but intention isn't always followed by action and that's what can become frustrating in fact it's not inability to act on the intention that can sometimes become a stick that we use to beat ourselves. We've been there. We've written down a less before in our intentions down the habits that we won't agree on nice paper. Maybe we've done in the computer. The nice font and yet when it comes to actually acting on it just doesn't happen well in this episode debris says that this inability to act on our intentions is pretty understandable. Especially if you know how. The brain works which parts of the brain according you to not do something even if there's a part of you that really really wants to. During our conversation gabby an i talk about habit formation. Why bad habits can actually serve a useful purpose. Why taking a slow run up to change often the way to really make it stick understanding the role of the dealer plays in decision making and how perception bias affects how we see an indirect with the world wrestling affect our intentions and our actions gabby also exposed what it means to have a growth mindset. Why we procrastinate why wanting to change but feeling unable unable to is something you can walk around with a few clever exercises. I find his insights really fascinating and i asked to come on the show after i read her book which i thoroughly enjoyed is called. Why the f. Cont i change with expertise and insights is a neuroscientist and behavioral coach. It really feels as she's able to do is lead. You wanna journey of self discovery that takes a very trusted path. When reading had a lot of lights go you as you will hear situations. That i've been in his want one to touch angel didn't expertise bioterrorism might get very much. She ruined your range signs credit to take honestly those by reading that book. I really am delighted to share and soaks bootees and insight with you on the show so the links to have book everything we've talked about in the podcast we'll obviously in the show which can be found wherever it is that you are streaming and downloading this episode. But here years is making her debut on the podcast. I hope she will retain. Its dr gabiela. Kita on the gun. Shy hello gabby atallah keita. How are you. Hi there yam great. Thank you so much really excited to have a conversation with you on the phone causing because you are aging year reis scientists and how to our place and this thing. You're very hard. Why the f. climate change as like something that i think he can really resonate stations toronto restiveness because previously looking at which is that chain which i don't know how a lady we think what we all unable resolutions maiden when look all trying very best and then it becomes a web where we become aware of actually getting thrown where resolve is made and so breaking away just before we begin. I just wanted this one. Go about how did happen. She writes why the caught. I change and is it because of seeing this kind of topic talked about over and over again yes. That's a very good question. So i used to give a lot of public talks in. London is to give two two to three public talks in london. A week attended between hundred and three hundred people. And every single time after after the semilunar Somebody would come to your number of people. Say like okay. I understand all this. Unit is brilliant to took to spy and try to create those things. But what's wrong with me. Why can't they change. What's from the mental basically wrong with me And i heard that over no again with my coaching clients as well they would come and say okay. Well i have all these possibilities and am i sabotaging myself was what's going on with me. And and that's one of the. Biggest misconceptions is that we should be able to change easily. How come we can look at other people they can. Now hannity's changes heart in order to create change in the brain. Loads of things need to happen. So therefore In this book combined neuroscience approach with the coaching tools to to just show show the actually what needs to happen in your brain for the change to be created in the first place but also how to make the change last sometimes to create a quick changes easily. Like if if you know. I feel the same guy bacon. Can you quit sugar completely for a day. No problem but if you tell me could sugar for a year that would be much harder so so how to make a lasting change requires even more things to happen in the rain so so therefore in the book i share a shared both neuroscience and very practical tools and coaching techniques vol to accompany how to actually practically than make things happen. When i was reading the book i had a lot of light bulb moments. I definitely saw things in a new perspective and looked at situations that i've been in previously. Well perhaps i have wanted to change or didn't get the results i wanted. And then in reading the book very much through your insights like you say using neuroscience and coaching was able to take those one or two steps back game perspective and think. Oh that's why it went wrong.