The Four Remembrances
NAMA. Stan welcome. When I was in college many many many many decades ago. i. read the series of books that were written by Carlos Causton Yada about the Shaman Don, I know many of you. are familiar with them and had many takeaways but perhaps the most memorable. was built into this little quote right here. The Shaman Don Juan's teaching. How can anyone feel so important when we know that death the stocking us the thing to do when you're impatient. is to turn to your left and ask advice from your. An immense amount of pettiness dropped if you're death makes a gesture to are if you catch a glimpse of it. Are Few just have the feeling that your companion is there watching you. And A men's amount of pettiness dropped if you're death makes a gesture. So, this notion of death as an adviser is one that really actually goes through many many spiritual traditions. It's the wisdom of impermanent. and. When we open to remembering the truth that the slice of life is a flash, it's coming and going our perspective shifts in a very dramatic and usually very, very wholesome way. All pettiness falls away. And I was reminded of this. Recently I was Jonathan we're having dinner with a couple and one and one of them. The man said that he asked himself most days. How would today be different if I asked advice for my dad? What would I remember? What would be important today and he's just use that as one of his daily practices. And I think it's a really powerful one if we say, well, how would The rest of this day. If we really were paying attention to the reality that this life is command going and we don't know when. So, typically, we don't remember to tap into that wisdom we get into what I often call that that daily per transfer. Our concerns are way way narrow way small. Some years ago I saw this cartoon and it's got a graveyard and the bubble that you're reading coming up from under the ground. and. It says, Hey, I, think I finally decide what to do with my life. This is the caption pushes the late. Envelope to exciting new levels. Remembering what matters? So it's an all wisdom traditions, but I know that Since since college and it's deepened from in growing up that the more that I am. Intimately a radically sensing. Okay. This body mind is here now and it's going. Really the more I open to love. There's a there's a direct correlation to remembering death an opening to love. And it came clear in a certain way. When I was at a meditation retreat with harm and I went with a very dear friend and we had both been quite busy in our lives and we're thrilled that we're GONNA be able to take off a weekend and go to this retreat that was only a few hours away Virginia. And it was a lovely retreat. At the end of it took not Han it everybody get into pairs. buddied up with my Louisa, WHO's happens to be a teacher in our community here and he said, okay. Now, what the first thing to do is to bow and say Nam Nam Astaire's means I, see the the divine, the later or the sacred in you. So we did that then he said, hug each others who are hugging each other and he said now on the first breath as you're breathing reflect I'm going to die. I'M GONNA die in the second breath you're GonNa die you're. And then on the third and we have just these precious moments together. So. We did that we looked at each other and there was a level of. Presence and intimacy and love that was so fresh. It was so fresh. It was not an idea about loving. There were no barriers there was just in the face of hey. We've got these moments. The the loving that was always there just manifested in its full flesh. So love and presence in death and I don't think that at all as grim. into the slightest are at all as. You Know Morose. It's. It's really. The whole spiritual path is one of remembering and forgetting you've probably noticed. That we, we get inspired we get in touch with something we quiet down, we sent some wonders beauty or some tenderness. Oh. Yeah. This is why I do this stuff.