"Aghast I am your host tearing wealth and Super Excited Day with me today. Sarah Peyton's welcome. Sarah thank you very excited to be here with you. Yes yes I just was asking you to introduce you because I'm telling you when I went to your about Sarah page on your website flown away and just very very cool all that you're doing so author and looked hold it up now so excited you and then you present and you have online courses so talk to us about what it is. You're doing well. My My deepest most delicious passion is for healing. I it's I'm delighted to be with you DAB this conversation with you today. We often think that healing is is something difficult or hard to do or or that that it won't come unless we're just position ourselves exactly right but really it's our birthright. It's a given half a chance with resonance our our brains are like. Oh I can put these pieces together. I don't have to stay stuck in the past and so Had feel a tremendous excitement about the healing of trauma which is very funny. I was on an airplane. This the host their host. People were like what are you doing. I'm like travel around the world and talk talk about trauma and they're like you must be so tired now it's like no are you kidding. This is the most exciting work in the world. And it's the most hopeful full because as soon as you move into a space of resonance people's brains begin to go. Click Click Click and this and this and this and all and their strength Os just working in Europe and a woman said she liked to do a bit of time travel so With with a moment in her past that was difficult for her and it was a moment of really intense verbal abuse and humiliation. We stepped back through time. We we accompanied the little one that was in. Her memory was resonance with warms with acknowledgement. She goes this. Little girl is strong. ooh Yeah she was like this. Little girl loves intensely he as like yes and this is what we so often find when we begin. It's almost like the meme the trauma memories grab our life energy and tied and not so that we can't use it and when we begin to kind of bring warrants and understanding being and of course and acknowledgement to our past selves then. These trauma nuts dissolved and that life energy then becomes available to us you got me on teary eye for second as it is so so true and I loved it and I- resonated with what you were saying about the working in the trauma meal. The there is so much hope I do a newsletter and it's called hope for healing by newsletter because because I have a regular nine to five job on a business and that's where this I put more effort and time and energy energy into this but it doesn't feel like work. Yeah Yeah because yeah you're right there's just so much hope in it It's beautiful and the passion of it. It sounds like the passion of it just kind of carries you along like a current in the river of life. Very I saw that you're headed to Oslo and Germany and the US in May yeah yeah. I just think that's phenomenal domino. Thank you yeah I'll be I This this this week I brought my my Russian constellations teacher so I do the three things I do. Neuro Science Education so for example for talking about trauma get to say that the Amiga a has no sense of time. The part of the brain that stores Trauma Memory doesn't time stamp memory which means that we can have flashbacks all the time but it also means that we're forever available for residents support and healing is so you know it's like those trauma moments are suspended in time time and they can torture us with their suspension but that suspension also means we get to go to them whenever we meet somebody who can travel with us or we read the book or or we begin to you know to hear this podcast and do a little time travel and another thing I get to teach about is the beautiful work of Ruth Lenience. That shows the importance of time travel. I don't know if you know what the default mode network is. I do. Not the default mode network is what our brain does when when we are quiet. And we're not directing our brain to do anything in particular so the default mode network. Everybody's got him everybody. It has a default mode network. You have it before you're born. You have it till the day you die. It's what makes our dreams. What's it's what creates our nightmares if we have nightmares at night? It's what lets us is. Daydream be creative and it also is that torturous inner critic and the more trauma we've lived through the more tortures the inner critic and When we look at brains that are tortured by their inner critic we can look at them on? MRI is and they look different. We can actually physically see that. A brain that's torturing itself is working differently than a brain. That's not torturing itself. Andrew Salinas did a case. Study where she did before and after rain. FM IS FOR PEOPLE WHO had tortures default MO- networks and Then they did time travel after the first FM. I it at a time travel to be with the younger self. Who'd had the difficult event? And then after the time travel she looks at their brains again and their default mode network looked better. You can see it. You can and see the kind of work that you support the kind of work that I support. You can see it changing people's brains. I always. Yeah I love to talk about making the brain a good place to live. Yeah and that's not false. I'm instantly thinking of Neuro plasticity. In the way the brain you can change aged. I've talked about it on the podcast. Before how what. I would have a cigarette panic attack again. I I couldn't think my way rationalized allies my way out of it. I wish just responding in physiologically responding in it matter what I just couldn't make myself in. It would be so hard on myself. terrier such as far person can get through this. You can talk your way out of it and I just couldn't do it. He hunts. I started to understand brain implicity changing habitual patterns and creating new neuron pathways giving myself coping skills. Wow was I able make some great strides in overcoming my panic attacks in symptoms that would arise knowing my triggers but yeah oh bring less density that fascinates needs me and I love it. Yeah Yeah I love it too. I'm celebrating that moment that you made. I mean it's such a profound movement from the intensity the panic attack the alarm state. Where your whole neurobiology just takes over with reactivity to try to save your life and that gradual building dean of the neurons that can hold that much alarm? I mean that is a lot of work. Yeah I often think about those neurons that were growing as like a permaculture garden. Oh Yeah Yeah so beautiful. And that the plants in the permaculture Gordon have to get big enough to hold the enormity of our panic or rage or terror. Alarmed aloneness us. I mean just yeah I have beautiful visiting my head about it. Talk to us about your book in about the Meditations in the book is about okay. I had started to talk about my Russian constellation. Oh Oh yeah a little bookmark on that and then we'll be I the the book is I this is a a little bit sad but ms quite sad but it's important I think I have a son who died only died. He died of alcoholism was an adopted son and the trauma. Uh of his early life was too great to for him to be able to figure that out survive it the PTSD was so bad that he That he ended up just Following the path of alcohol until he died very very young and yes. It's very intense but I was working really hard to save him. You know I was trying to figure out how the heck could I mobilize everything that I was learning to create eight a some sort of process idea coherence theory. That would hold trauma so that people wouldn't have to die and And that is dead. Essentially the book. I mean that was like the work of the book was trying to forget. How do we hold drama with so so much warmth than gentleness and acknowledgement and care that that we will make it through that we can make it through? Yeah and so. That's the book. And it's got a number of different elements it's got a little very sweet neuroscience education a lot of warm resident. Hasn't it holding of the self with lots of acknowledgment and it has these guided meditations. which actually you don't even have to buy the book to get? You can get them on my website. Your resident itself dot com for free download And there's a series of of thirteen Of these meditations that take you through step by step how to how to begin to make your brain a good place to live. Yeah and we start with something really simple which. I found so completely startling the first time that I experienced it. It's a guided meditation Shen about breathing and about how our attention is supposed to travel aval everywhere to try to keep us safe and the more that we've lived in an unsafe world the less easy it will be intention to focus just on our breath because our attention is going to be like. This is not going to save my life. I need to be focused on everything that is happening in the inner and outer world to be able to save my life. Are you kidding me. Focus on my breath. I've talked about that before it will one. I talked about the fact that that I had trouble initially with the breathing work that we were working on in therapy because it brought attention attention to the fact that I was in my body and I wanted to be anywhere but in my body Being in my mind you meant that. I was anxious than I was having anxiety I I was having a panic attack or all that in there and so but again once I started the healing journey and started to create create new habitual patterns. Then I started to understand being able to use breath to just Sarah myself and bring myself back to the now so I get Yeah Yeah and of course as soon as we stop focusing on things that are really absorbing than the default mode network gets gets a chance to kick up so we're also in relationship with the default mode network and how and how intense or critical or anxious that network is as soon as we turn our attention to breathing so this guided. Meditation is just about being in a warm relationship with our attention. No matter where it goes that we get to say thank you attention. Thank you for going over here. Thank you for going over there. Of course you would think that the pain in my back is more important than my breath and And just gently bring it back to a sort of a starting point for mindfulness. That gives us a little bit of a little bit of juice. A little bit of warmth juice to help it work and so then and then the meditations gone from there. There's all different kinds of meditations her to support the the nourishment of these permaculture gardens of neurons very cool all right so we'll loop back around again hooping background. I do three things. I do nursing education I do what I call resonant language which which is learning what kinds of words what ways we use language that take us into the healing space because is our brain has two ways of looking at the world it has a reductive way."