Listen: Leaders Are Those Who Take Responsibility for Their Worlds
"Are all leaders and leaders those take responsibility for their worlds in. That's the that's the construct I choose to operate in. That's like the construct. I'm doing my work from because I want all of us to be aware that we have a responsibility to be really consciously choosing what we're doing in our showing up and the impact it doesn't matter if it's just at home or just with friends ends or at work you know or inner communities larger stage. We all have an opportunity to influence and create him back every moment and it's it's a choice. We get to consciously make an it's such a beautiful choice that we have that opportunity. How do you see when do you think leadership Japan changed over the years and especially right now. Do you think what do we need to know about leadership today that maybe we didn't know about leadership ten years ago. I I really think it's been transforming. You know in the best way I can. I can look at that is one of the I guess. The data points I have is even just coaching it professionals coaching when I did my training fifteen years ago. Organizations were using coaching as punitive tool as is a willing to coach somebody out of something that they're not really well right thirty right whereas now organizations are investing in in developing their leaders to have a coaching skill set because they know it elicits high performance and they're providing executive coaches for their their their executives and senior leaders because they get a it's. It's it's needed so. This is an example of how leadership has shifted in that. There is a lot more of an understanding that as a leader I don't have all the answers it's important that I'm asking for help in receiving help and have support network to do so whether it's a professional or peers mentor and also that this piece around emotional I call it. Emotional leadership has really come into play at being the millennials have released shifted the workplace in the way that they've taken a stance for ivory my whole south to work so interact with my whole self not just the person that's doing this role but I'm a whole a whole person and what a beautiful gift that that is actually I mean I think the millennials for doing that because I think back to my corporate days and there were those days where I would go to work and I was my corporate me and than ever go home and I was my at home me and never did those to cross right. I mean it was really it was such a beautiful gift when I left the corporate world than I really started to build my business about ten years ago where I started to show up as me and my business and it was it was so it's exhausting to try to be two people and so thank us for the millennials really holding that up there yes and thank goodness goodness for people like you who are modeling that that it's okay to bring your full self and this was when I think back to the twenty six twenty seven year old all that McDonald's restaurant like I didn't know that and I was you know I was pretending to have it all together when I did and and I I think I would have been so much more enrolling had I been vulnerable with the team and and just said you know I need your help. You know this is a big mission. We're going to do it together. Other here are some of my ideas. What are your ideas we collaborate in co create and that takes vulnerability and I think that that's a they way how leadership has shifted and will continue to shift that leaders nowadays needs to be more vulnerable open hearted and really good collaborating and listening. Yes yes and you're teaching leaders to be more resilient with their emotions at the building really resilient relationship nations ship. What does that mean yeah so what it means from the emotional leadership body of work is that it is a leader. I'm aware when I'm experiencing emotion so meeting and maybe something is said or or something happens and I'm I'm triggered by meaning like I feel some anger so knowing one knowing that like having you blow flow into it right you just you just go into the motion and you don't even feel it rightly so there's other completely bypassing it suppressing it pretending like it didn't happen or there's getting so reactive that we were not resourceful. Were not creating the impact. We want you know in so we ended up becoming becoming difficult to work with or you know or we just took the meeting off rails because we weren't able to really say okay. Hey I'm noticing. I'm really uncomfortable with what just happened here. Can we just take a moment. let me try to understand this and get curious with you or the team to should try to really figure out what's going on so I think emotional leadership position having the awareness than a emotional beings and then be knowing knowing how did really harrogate them in a responsible way because we are all our emotions our our energy in motion and if we're a for if we're able to navigate them than we can use it to move our missions forward and to enroll people into our into our visions uh-huh that's good that's good and one of the things that really impressed me as I was looking through your information. That is really around how you are. You're you're a coup Delaney Yoga Meditation Teacher Yan. You Bring Movement into your leadership work in. I love that one of the things I do is I hi do equine guided retreats leadership retreats with my with my horses in our work with teams in their motion. There's movement in there. There's there's ways ways for people to start to to connect into their bodies and and I know that this has got to be really powerful when you're bringing Pendolino Cellini Yoga and meditation into your leadership work. Yeah and I'm so I'm so happy CNET. You're doing this work with horses. It's so powerful there it is. It's incredible. It's anything there's there's you know Kinda. Kundan leany Yoga and equine guided added work has got to have some really comparable threads yes yeah into what I noticed in my own practice of the couldn't Yoga and meditation that because every day I'm moving the energy in my in my field old might energetic body in my physical body. It allows me to have a greater experience of what I'm wanting to create and any thing that gets us in our body. Inner breath is going to allow us to create more what we want though as leaders eaters as humans. I think it's important in this day and age because of how busy it is because of how much information coming at us because of how how many like just how how much we don't have an opportunity just to be and take a moment to pause that we have some I'm kind of embodiment movements breath work practice to allow us to really connect to ourselves to be clear on what I'm here for and to be able to be discerning as to where I put my energy because all of us could be doing a million things things end can be getting pulled in so many directions and if that's happening for you or for any you know any any of the listeners might write. My recommendation is to really look at how can I harness the energy that I have so. I'm directing it to the things that matter most right right and when when you're making that space to be much much more aware. You're starting to feel that so are you. Are you teaching. Are you bringing that energy into the leadership teachings that you're doing so in my online program. It's part of the foundation of it. I'm I'm create. I'm bringing core creates or core impostures. If you will meditations to support the participants to have a healthier more responsible relationship with their emotions MHM I've actually tracked certain meditations at work more effectively with anger or sadness or enjoy so that we can regulate and work with those emotions more effectively and so I- introduce some foundational kindle yoga meditation and then then pull it through the threat of online training now that's awesome. That's really powerful and I will say to Cami for some of your listeners who are leaders was inside organizations or parents. Would I do with my team at work if we get on a call all virtual and if they're struggling ogling you know because there's just so much going on. I'll take three minutes and we'll do a quick meditation and you know and then ask them. You know what shift did now our three minutes ago when most of them will say we'll. I'm actually president now. I feel like this big fire. That's burning over here is actually manageable and and so you could do that at home too. You know whenever wins freaking out or when you sit down for dinner just let's take the take a couple minutes in breeds and you know it's a game changer changer it is you know I had interviewed Tammy Simon of sounds true and she was fabulous and one of the things she talked about was they start start every meeting with with some form of a away to just pause right even if it's like sixty seconds of quiet for people to come into the room mm-hmm and be in the room and I learned that because so often you know even think about coming home you get home. You Walk in the door at dinnertime. The the kids are ready. It's like there's so much noise but if you have that moment of pause between Your Day in one part of your day into the next I think we can move into it much more gracefully completely completely. That's good so how do you bring more peace and balance into your your life. What's what is. What kind of practices do you do personally yeah so I do morning. Delina yoga meditation sets and end sometimes all actually I was living very close to a studio in Venice Beach California where my teachers were but not there anymore so they have an online online where I can just do a class from the day before so sometimes that's sixty to ninety minutes set. If not I have like a short thirty minute set that I'm committed to doing every day and then I'm also committed to doing some being more physical. Whether it's running biking walking on going to some kind of fitness class last year the combination of for me too breath were the energetic body work and the physical body work is crucial I and then I have a gratitude practice that I begin end my days with really looking at what I want to create for the day. It's awesome journal that it is it is all laid out for me so makes it really easy to fill in the blank spots but it's like what what would make today gray and then at nighttime the time so what are three things that I'm grateful but what happened throughout the day and they know I think there's a lot of scientific data out there and a lot of mindfulness information that would talk about whatever we focus on we get more of than so. I think gratitude is having a the daily practice of that really really helps us again to create more of what we're wanting jaggery and one of the things I love that you just talked about there is and because I live live in a remote part of Colorado. I live in the foothills of Colorado writes. I'm not in the heart of city anywhere and to get to a yoga class. It's it's a good twenty minute drive for me. He and I love the fact that you've found on online source that you're you're tuning into that on a regular basis. I might have to get that online source from you happy to share that with you. Yeah that'd be awesome and we'll share it in the show. Notes has after you send that to me said just because it's good for all of us define nine ways that we can connect for ourselves make space for ourselves and I love my own morning time. I really do you know. I I do different things. I really tune into the morning and tune in to say okay. What does my body feel like. It needs right now. Some days. It's meditation in Journalism Days. It's journaling and reading other days. It's just sitting outside and the especially this time of year is such a beautiful time of year to build the still enjoy before it starts to get cold old so that you know just to be in nature as hard so important and I love that you are listening to what you need and that day day so it's I think it's important if we can to schedule a bit of time for ourselves each day it just I know for me. It allows me to come bring more gracefulness throughout the day in be more present and kind of navigate what shows up more elegantly. I guess you know not always but I think that's a really good point Kristie. I think it's we're not even we when we do these things we're gonNA. We still catch ourselves going down as we go back. I could've handled that much more eloquently. Oh my God so much so Oh yes and so but I think the more even going back and acknowledging. Gosh that didn't go the way I wanted it to. It just gives us another groundwork to a foundation to work from right and that we can carry forward most definitely meant to be gentle on ourselves when we don't. Ooh When we're not as perfect as we'd like to be as it's like okay well. I'm learning in them growing up to fail forward the exact and that's part of the growth of it all because none of us are ever perfect so it's really being gentle on ourselves with that most definitely yeah so what is the lie. Are you see you wish to leave in the world who Hammy if I could help this. You know was. GonNa say a handful but that's not true. I WANNA help a lot of people connect to their emotions and the legacy I wanNA leave is more permission for each of us to connect and with all of our emotions and and you know and then within a subset under that would be like some tools for people to so that they feel safe to do that so that they don't continue to suppress or avoid or have the bursts but they I feel like they have some tools to connect those emotions. That's the legacy I wanNA lead in that. You know what it's okay to have messy xenakis that emotions are just part of how we give us feedback to know what's happening for us to have the courage to share that more openly brilliant butter bullied people in a responsible way."