Aaron Coleman, Officer, Jerry Falwell discussed on Two Broads Talking Politics
East feels like she's got the support and the you know the the the kind of I don't know moral highground to say, no, I'm a I'm a human I make mistakes also this I was a victim of something. I was not this isn't my My own failing right. So I think it is challenging, right? It's it's incredibly difficult for us to to expect women to to kind of undergo the public scrutiny and the you know the just the the crap that they have to deal with when they're running for officer elected to office. But we need them to and it's a it's a it's a true public service and it's a fight that has to be that really has to be fought. In have been thinking a lot about how. These things happen in politics rate the personal scandals things come up and and so often especially sort of in the me too moment we're sort of looking at these men making have apologies and saying, why can't they do better what you know and then other people saying we'll what would true accountability look like what what sort of response would we be happy with and yet here you experience this thing where you were also a victim at the same time and yet did give this wonderful gracious response and you know. I'm sort of in this moment where things like the Jerry Falwell situation are happening and Aaron Coleman and we're seeing then again, get call now and not be able to respond like wait what is it gonNA take to get true accountability from male politicians who are going through candles like how how do we fix double standard that exists that clearly exist. The only thing that I can think of is the we really have to hold meant to the same standard and and part of why I decided to step down a big part of why I decided to step down as that, I did not want to be considered a hypocrite and. I didn't want to be the person who was you know kind of forcing us a S as Democrats progressives. Or even us as women to say, well, it doesn't apply these things that were asking for don't apply in this case in you know I, I talk about in the book and I've talked about in interviews the why? Why I think my situation y you know I think that it's it's part of a gray area and and how I do acknowledge my responsibility in the matter but how you know I think. There's a pretty big difference between like Harvey, Weinstein Situation and and you know what? What happened in mind but I think that I I still wanted to set an example of saying you I did I did something wrong by engaging in this power dynamic and I'm sorry for it and I I wanted to show that you can. You can accept that responsibility but you also it doesn't mean that you have to. Be, benched I. Guess Forever if you take the responsibility you try to, you try to make amends for it by doing something positive, which is what which attempting to do with the pack. So my you know I think what we have to do for men is individuals Aaron, Coleman. I, wrote I wrote an op Ed recently in the daily beast because. We see these progressive men who were defending him as opposed to saying that he picked the same kind of accountability and there's this total There is this total double standard in I. Don't know how much of it is because he's a man or how much it is because he had this this particularly progressive agenda that he was running on Bernie Sanders Bro kind of thing. But I think it's incredibly important that we continue to call that out his at as women in particular we don't stand for it. We see that misogyny and this kind of. Behavior is something that we're not going to accept from within our own party in. It's not something that we're going to condone, and we do not expect the men who call themselves allies to do that either. But you know also we can recognize that there's a gray area. We can recognize that people make mistakes in their past in and if they apologize if they own it if they take the responsibility in there and they're trying to do better with it than you know we should we should reflect on what we think is, can they can they contribute? Politics or otherwise than I hope that the answer is ultimately yes. But if they won't even take that responsibility if they try to brush off if they try to say that you know well, like I mean Aaron. Coleman he's nineteen years old at first. It was it we just learned. Today or yesterday that he had. He had much more recent in horrible instance of violently attacking his ex girlfriend just within the last year. But before that he it was he was hit. Bullied and Committed cyber exploitation against several young girls when he was fourteen years old, that's five years ago and he didn't serve any kind of he didn't really have any consequences for it and he didn't. He said that he you know he was sorry for what he did but he didn't he really truly never took the accountability for never Five years is simply not much time to have passed and and sure enough we found out that his behavior continued. So I think that those these are these tough conversations that we're going to be having you know out and we we should be having as we're as we're changing society. You know we bought some people. Men in particular have you know have committed these acts that are that were tolerated by society for so long and are not anymore so you know if they're changing their behavior now what we do with what they did in the past. Yeah I think it's just so a it. It struck me every time it came up in the book that you're like, yeah I also did something wrong you know and and just so straight-forward acknowledging is so powerful and meaningful. Is Done. So little. By the the men in these positions right? I mean like that's that's the part that just kind of blows my mind is it's like you you can be wrong. You know you can. You can say that I I screwed up and I'm sorry and I want to make things better and I don't I don't know if that's If that's a masculine ego. Thinking that makes it so much more difficult for men but I think it it must be at least partially or it might be because we have just let them get away with it for so long or or you know that society not we as women but just society as a whole has has not expected. Them has not expecting good behavior manner has not expected apologies or has allowed them to to kind of brush it off as like in the same way that we've had this boys will be boys mentality for for Kids I. Think we've had these men will be men you you almost expect cheat and. End To do these these things that are when women do something similar are. Considered important and You know sort of give you a scarlet letter. And I think that's missing. So often from the discussion, especially on the right wing of quote canceled culture this idea of own. But what's what's you know what people make a mistake or you're gonNA cancel them for it I feel like what is often missed that the cancellation is.