New York, Analyst, Mike Writer discussed on Jocko Podcast

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Oh, thank thank you for speaking. Just a quick question. I work in a corporation here in New York and one of the toughest things with being an analyst here. It's just the fact of like when you actually escalate or which kind of feels like defeat, but also at the same time, you wanna make sure you loop somebody else to know what's going on. So just of us about that. Thank you. For me. I look at a problem. If I think I contain the problem, then I'm going to try and contain the problem. I recognize I weighed the risk of if this is wrong. What's going to happen? Can I manage that? Can I control can I have Zorba the impact of that? If I can't absorb the impact of it. Then I know it's okay. This I need to bring this up. I need to send this up the chain. If it's something that I know I can absorb the impact of and I can explain myself, and it will be sensitive won't have been a strategic loss or a major error. Then I'm gonna try hang onto it. And in the beginning, I'm gonna be I'm gonna air towards sending it up the chain of command as I start to trust myself. And I get better at my job. I'm going to hang onto more. But again, I'm always gonna way is this something that I could contain or I can absorb if it goes wrong. And if it's something that I can't. Hey, I'm gonna run it by somebody. So I think it's just got away that out. Once you weigh that out. Make a decision. And live with it. All right. One more. Here. Microphone anyone? Mike writer. Somebody who's. Recently recently proposed to somebody would spend the rest of my life with somebody who's married and has. From my knowledge gone away for extensive periods of time from the partner. What is your tips to building a mortar proof marriage that's going to last a long time. The first thing I'll say is you want to develop the you want. You wanna make sure and encourage your wife to be emo- emotionally independent emotionally independent 'cause there's going to be times when you're not around. And if they're dependent on you emotionally, you're not there. They're going to they're going to be hurt. And they're not gonna be able to handle it. So you want to help them build that resiliency where when you're not around. They know how to handle things independently like the broken water heater flat tire. They can do that. And you go through those things you you build that confidence with that. And then also the emotional independence where what they have is trust in you that you're gone, but you're coming back, and you're going to be there for them. Always. That's numb. One. Number two. Is. Straight up extreme ownership. That's what it is. When something is going wrong in your marriage. It's your fault. It's your fault the minute. You turned your wife, and you say you shouldn't have done this. You're wrong, and you're taking that relationship in the retro. What you say? Hey, look, I'm trying to figure out how I made you do what you did. I don't wanna let that happen. So taking ownership when things go wrong. That's what you gotta do. That's what you gotta do. Thank you. Awesome. Awesome. With. Once again, I can't thank you all enough for common tonight. And know that you're just not here tonight. I know that if you here tonight, you're here all the time, you're with us. You're supporting us you're supporting everything that we're doing your support. You're representing representing representing with the

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