Dr Robinson, Gingrich, Facebook discussed on Therapy for Black Girls
Some self care things that I think are important I also. Also. Think giving us again. A lot of this is mindset. We have been trained in condition to be available and accessible. That actually isn't what most people need from you. People benefit from having good boundaries, and sometimes it is our lack of boundaries that keeps people in a place for feel coat. Opinion on us because we have a need to feel needed, right? boundaries are your best friend. They have to be in. It's. It's not about creating barriers to accessing you. It's about creating a boundary around your resources and conserving that, so that can be used more effectively for those who actually needed including yourself right creating a boundary around access whether it be you giving information receiving information I. Think Boundaries are really really important. They get a bad rap, but they are so important for keeping you intact. I think those are some of the things that we. Want to be intentional about is in. Being not available so that you can refill, your own cup is important, especially, because none of us are unaffected, I also think that it's really really important that we are mindful about the ways we are evaluating the way other people are coping or dealing, because I've seen friendships unravel in the midst of trauma in chaos, because we are not clear that somebody is in it with us, or they're not available in the ways we need them to, but if we can just remember that we're all doing the best that we can. And Our grief looks different. It doesn't mean we're not doing it. It just means it's different, and it's important that we don't impose our values on other people's grief, process. So several times throughout this conversation Dr Robinson you said, this is what I'm concerned about on the other side of this right, and so of course I'm not asking you necessarily to read into our future, but I am curious about some of the things that you think we will have to be making sure we're paying attention to. As we kind of come out of sheltering in place in you know things starts to open up a little bit more. What kinds of things do you think we do need to be paying? Attention to? Our might expect related to grief. Gingrich's is going to be a big one being triggered by everyday things right, and so it may be. Having some anticipatory grief around going back to work that is is normal, right? It's normal in general, it is heightened in this setting, because a covert hasn't gone away right, and because we have this additional layer around the injustice, instill navigating what life looks like as we embark on. Free writing some of the fabric of our society right so we may not be sure how we're going to be treated if we walk into the grocery store or other spaces right, all of those things creates but also some inside around that, but knowing that desired, he comes with the grief, a loss of normality loss of of the norms loss of structure. All of those things I think being acutely aware of what are triggers are in knowing that those can change. We have been removed particularly thinking about our kids are. are even adults who generally have let's say society or situational based triggers. They've likely not been encountering those sugars because they've been at hall. Where most folks may not experience those triggers that the experience in the workplace or in school, or just out in society in general, so we've not had to practice coping mechanisms around them in, so we might feel ill, equipped or e compensate right in the face of those so again. That's another regrouping retrigger I think other pieces around heightened anxiety where already seeing some impacts of socializes they. Are In increase suicidality. I think that many of the reports are indicating this next wave of endemic is gonna be on the mental health It's Harvard here. We haven't even talked about the ways. Our kids are grieving in the ways that they are missed in the sheer amount of. Under the the level of under resources right where you're under-resourced shoe, help kids in general with understanding the language of what grief looks like them. Inciting those are all things that we will hack grapple with sooner rather than later because we do not. We have been so inundated with Justin. Safe that we haven't even had an opportunity to be well in so I. think that we. We have we're going to have to reemerge that? What is it like to do more than survive is that's what we have been. We have been in survival mode right as people trying to stay safe from covid as black and Brown. People in this country. What happens when we have to go back to day-to-day functioning whatever that looks like we're expected to buoy producing to thrive. We don't have the coping skills to do so. We don't even know what that looks like anymore. Those are the things that I'm concerned about from appearing. Tangible Perspective yeah absolutely so, are there any additional resources you share lots with us last time, but are there. Any new resources are things that you think people might WanNa. Check out given what we talked about today. Until I, think that being connected with Nami, so the national lines mental illness they have in can access a resource group such as support groups all over the country. The Association for Death Education Counselors. That's for clinicians. To be trained in in doing some grief work as well less chew identify. Clinicians were trained in grief work so I also have a book in a in a training series. Coming out, called the gift of grief on the work for you available already, the book will be out shortly. Where we will be doing some of the work around changing clinicians as well as parents and educators on recognizing grief in the workplace in the school environment in clinical practice, I think one of the best things that we can do is to be able from a personal perspective to really do the work. To identify what your loss history is, what you're coping strategy is your trauma history so that you can get the support you need. In from a clinical perspective, we have to build capacity for very long time. Clinicians have been saying I. Don't do work in. My response has always been. If you work with people, you do Greek work that is being called Sir Roost now. And they're scrambling to get educated into get trained. Now's the time to do that. into looking at some of these programs. Either three universities or Some formal programs in grief. I think incor- rest acts as great, and of course it will include all of those resources in our show notes, and where can we find you Robinson? What are your social media handles as well as your website absolutely I am Dr Agenda on facebook? After Agenda Robinson instagram message on twitter in Congressman Ismailis site perfect. Thank you so much for joining us again. For sharing your wealth of knowledge, I appreciate it. Thank you so much for doing this for having us against. Dr Robinson was able to join us again this.