Washington, Bill Clinton, Bill Maher discussed on Women Amplified
What do I do with the circumstances that are around now? That can point me in the direction that I want to. To Go, and so the real change, the real difference between this type of transition and Kinda want initiated by your own desires is just how you approach it. It's an attitude. You're going to have that moment of perhaps warning if the life that you thought you were living, no longer exist. There's a moment for Greece. You're allowed that. There's a moment to kind of recognize that you weren't expecting to have to make shift here, but once you get there. However you get there. You still have that power to determine the next step. These are all things that you did and had to grapple with at a very young age. You completely changed careers at the age. Age Of twenty seven and I wonder if you would sort of walk us through how you decided that it was time to walk away from your job, and what happened along the way, so are yeah I started out my career. I'm a Washington DC area native, and I started out like I think most people in their twenties, certainly in the millennial generation, but I don't know that that's unique. I think a lot of folks who are young. Start off with wide, wanting to change the world, and so I kind of naturally. Thanks to a job. That great professor hooked me up with I found myself right after college working in one of the nation's leading. Human Rights coalition than with exposed to I was in a meeting with Jesse Jackson meeting with Bill Clinton. I'm exposed to this high level in the world of advocacy and immediately took to it like a fish to water because it. Took advantage of my skill that it was mission driven, which as a preacher's kid is very very important to me that anything that I do align with my values, and so I was well on my way, and through both grit and skill, but also I think luck in who I was around ended up in a really high profile position very early in my career, and so during the two thousand election I was on national television commentator on real time with Bill Maher. I was kind of the of millennial civic engagement, and was running a multi-million dollar program inside the nation bleeding progressive think tank working with Clinton's chief of staff. All these fancy things that look. Look really great on Instagram and make my resume really flashy, but the truth of the matter is I wasn't happy and I use the word happiness cautiously, because happy sounds very frivolous with the type of discontent that comes when there's something within you that has misaligned with life that you're living, and so while on the surface. It seemed like it was great, and I was on all the thirty under thirty list and everything was going well. I wasn't really taking advantage of Kuwait which is deeply creative person, which is a deeply spiritual person i. now talk about myself as someone who is not an indoor house cat. I need to be outside. I need to be. Moving around I. Don't like to be confined within one institution, also echina-. Although a day in my book I joked that in DC in Washington. They don't pay you and they pay you awards, which you can't then turn and pay your rent with so while my career looked amazing. I was still pretty financially insecure. As many many young people are, so all of those things contributed to the sense that okay. Perhaps this isn't the right career for me and I wish I could say that. At the time I made this beautiful strategic color coded plan. I would leave my career in the next six months, and I would explore and figure out next step. That's not what happened I got married came back from my honeymoon was so frustrated by my job and my boss, and just different stances that fell out of my control and I had my eat. Pray Love Jerry Maguire I'm walking away from it all moment I. I am Brusquely. quit which I don't recommend. I don't charge people to do that. But the process that is then underwent after that abrupt walking away is what I write about my book and what I tell people to do, and and really involved kind of figuring out first of all. How did I a driven ambitious deeply soulful mission aligned person and so quickly in my career at a place where I felt like this isn't right for me, and that involved unpacking all of the stories that I had told myself that I had believed that had shaped my understanding of who I was, what work was and should look like the perception that I. I was showing the world. My stories about money and success, and then painstakingly one by one rewriting them, and taking control of my narrative to help lead me towards the future that actually wanted for myself and the book you're talking about is from twenty nineteen. It's called you serve the truth. Change the stories that shaped your world and build a world changing life I wonder. How do we know the difference between jobs that were good at and he's will enjoy so many of my childhood references were preachers, a preacher's kid and I once heard of preacher define. Talked about purpose in this way he was pointing to a big floor speaker speaker. That sound comes out of conference or in a large room when he said you know what this speaker can function as a chair, it's thirty big I can sit on it, but just because I'm sitting on. That speaker doesn't mean that it is actually doing what it was designed to do. There is something greater that it can do and serve and be in the world, and that what purposes purposes not a function. But it is using something at its highest and best use, and so when I think of how we navigate our careers, so often led by function. What is it that I can do am capable up and I'm even good at doing, and we don't know until we try and I encourage a lot of experimentation. That's okay you don't have to have. It all figured out at once. Once, but once you start trying certain things realizing okay that this skills that is something that I have. But how does it make me feel when I use it? What am I seeking? What validation does it bring me? What is the impact? Says the impact matchup with my vision for my life, really the skill, but I'm encouraging folks to you unpack. All of this stuff is questioning. Questioning. The book is organized in a couple of core main questions to ask yourself as you're looking at not just your career, but your life to figure out if it is what you want it to be, and so as you're utilizing new skills and and looking at job that may take advantage of them. You have to interrogate and constantly asked how it making me feel what am. Am I gaining from it. What am I seeking and I think you don't know until you both do and also begin to really know yourself, and that's something that takes time, and I really would like to unpack that a little bit because it's something you talk about pretty eloquently, but I think also. There's this idea that you can figure out your ideal job by talking about it. Right by talking about your friends or by looking at the jobs, other people have and seeing what other people doing in saying. I would love that job and you laughed and I wonder. Why doesn't that work? It doesn't work of you..