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Hey, Marie Forleo. And this is the podcast version of our word winning show. Marie TV. Now, the video version has some useful and entertaining visuals. So if you want to check that out go to Marie Forleo dot com forward slash Marie TV, real find this and hundreds of other episodes. Thanks so much for listening. Hey, one more thing if you're feeling stuck or frustrated or wishing you could reach your goals just a little bit faster want you to go. Download my free training called how to get anything you want. It's simple. It's powerful. And hey, as what is free get it. Now at Marie Forleo dot com slash subscribe. That's Marie corley dot com slash subscribe. Hates Marie four. Leo. And you are watching Marie TV the place to be to create a business in life you love. And this is Tuesday. I'm so excited for it. This question comes from. And she writes, dear Marie thank you for being an inspiration and a role model. My question is a little bit embarrassing. I've a lot of goals in my life, and I've been working hard to accomplish them. However, I see people who are so happy portray their life to be so perfect. And I just feel a little bit jealous. Would you recommend to overcome that feeling of envy towards those who seem to have everything that I want? Thanks, and and thanks so much for asking this question. You know, I haven't met anyone who doesn't struggle with envy, including myself. So I want you to know there is nothing for you to be embarrassed about. Now, there are three really important things to keep in mind. When you're struggling with envy, or jealousy, or whatever you call that crappy feeling you. After you're comparing yourself to other. So let's start with number one tip number one. Is remember the filter factor? You know, Seth Godin calls the internet, the envy amplifier, and boy is he right? So what you may be forgetting an is the filter that all these happy, pictures and updates are being shared throw. So here's what I mean. Now, of course, there's filters on apps like Instagram that make colors pop and make bad skin as creamy as half-and-half, but there's another filter, and that's the filter that we all use to decide what we want to share publicly, and what we don't now this isn't manipulative, it's just normal. So for example, I was in Paris recently. I shared lows of picks. So I took picks of these beautiful flowers. I took pictures of me rediscovering red lipstick, and I also shared a little impromptu dance party. Now, you know, the shot I didn't take it was the one of me and Josh fighting in the rain because I was dragging him all over Paris in search of the perfect croissant. Now, that's not because I want everyone to think I'm perfect. It's because who would want to take a picture of yourself and your man fighting in the rain that would be weird. Here's some other things you won't see for me up Pinterest board of completely mediocre meals. Over over-paid for a list of sad face. A motor cons my failure feed. Or a gif of me popping is it my point here is that everything happy or great that you see has already been processed through several filter. So you're rarely seeing the whole picture tip. Number two is taste the rainbow. This may be the most important thing you hear the entire episode. So listen up. Now, the biggest emotional mistake that most people make when they're dealing with envy or any other bad emotion is they try to overcome it. What you resist per cysts? So the more you try and overcome envy, the more at actually get stuck with you check this out. My man Josh teaches that emotions are nothing more than atoms. Vibrating in our bodies at particular frequencies, and that we've been taught to label these vibration. As either good, emotions or Batum oceans. So for example, what we consider good emotions or good vibrations are things like happiness and excitement. And of course, Mark Mark and the funky bunch. And then there's what we call bad vibrations things like fear or sadness or your old friend envy. So what if we've stopped labeling all these things? And instead we just allowed ourselves to experience our motions for what they actually are vibrations and physical sensations inside our body. What if we just allowed ourselves to experience the full range of sensations or emotions that are essential to the human experience kind of like a rainbow of emotional sensations. So stop demonizing the emotion that you call envy and start getting skittles on your emotions and other whereas taste the rainbow girl. Tip number three is turn envy into action. So envy can be inspiring and instructive if you're envious of someone's results just let that fuel you ahead. The fact that they did means that it can be done and that you can do it too. So just give them a high five and associate second realized that envy is often a clue that there's something Layton in you that needs to be expressed. So let that B trigger you in a beautiful way. Let it guide you to where you need to take some more action your own life. So next time and that you're feeling some envy, don't feel embarrassed. Just remember this tweet -able. Don't hide your beat ride your envy from. She has what I want to. I'll have what she's having that was my aid your cue. And I hope it helps. Now, I would love to hear from you. How do you deal with N B when it pops up in your life? As always the best discussions happen. After the episode over at the fed tastic land of Marie Forleo dot com. So what you go there and leave a comment now, did you like this video if so subscribe to my channel, and of course, share with all your friends by wouldn't you? 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