Rape, Boxing, Dr Patty discussed on Symphony Financial Group
For allegra-d at the pharmacy counter use as directed. Sexual abuse has become an everyday headline the last couple of years, but no matter how often we hear them. Those stories are often hard to listen to experts know that one in four girls under age eighteen is abused sexually. And those are only the reported cases, the actual number is likely much higher more like one in three girls. But the good news in all these headlines is that more than ever before abuse victims are telling their stories and finding healing and recovery. They're also opening societies is the problem the story, we're about to tell you is far from pretty it includes possibly objectionable language, but it's a story that needs to be told if you are a teen girl who's been sexually abused. And you're keeping it a secret just the essence of secrecy means that there's something wrong. And if you're a team girl feeling that secret, you're feeling that the wrong is your fault. And so when you express it when you release what's happened to you you begin to release. Any feelings of shame or guilt, or responsibility. That's clinical psychologist, Dr Patty fear, Reisen, author of invisible, girl, speaking the truth about sexual abuse. The book has just been released in an expanded third addition with an extended section on what fear is and says, it's an incredibly important, but taboo, topic incest. You know, what incest is the most common sexual abuse. And it is the least disgust. My father told me when I was fourteen that I was like putting a plate of spaghetti in front of a hungry, man. He had to have it your eyes and says that when survivors keep incest a secret, many of these young women later become susceptible to date rape during the teen years and women in their twenties. There's such a sense of beautiful resiliency. You can really move forward. You can really mean through things you can take different paths. You can internalize such healing the younger. You are if you are going to disclose the abuse. So what happens if you don't disclose it and move out of there? Homes and go to college are very susceptible to daybreak. They've not process things they still feel responsible. Sometimes they still feel that's their only worst. And as we know campus date rape is rampant. But at the same time going off to college and getting away from an abuser at home can be the best thing to happen. For many of these young women. That's not a lot of my girls, come to me when they've gotten out of their homes, a lot of incest survivors, and they're in college, and they feel the safety to reach out for therapy. And a lot of my girls come to me at that age or write to me from different parts of the country for some help. And it's great because then they start to release it. And when a survivor tells you they were molested the first thing you say is it's not your fault. And you just see the shoulders go down, the tears start to calm, and it's amazing these girls feel so responsible for something that is what hundred percent not their fault after the release of her book, your eyes and founded a nonprofit organization called girl thrive t h. I v e standing for teams, helping rape and incest victoriously emerged. It's a program where girls and young women help one another recover from the effects of their abuse. Because then they can hear from another girl. Yeah. My father did this to me. And when they hear the depth of the story and the experience they say, oh, I can really relate to that. That happened to me. You know, what's really interesting with groups of girls to visit survivors, they'll hear another girl story, and they'll say, oh, it wasn't your fault that horrible disgusting. Man. The girl will say, oh, I think it wasn't your fault. But when they start to internalize by hearing from other girls that they can feel such sympathy for they really begin to believe it wasn't their fault, which is key to all sexual abuse. You never asked to be sexually abused girl thrive. Offers what fear is and calls thrive. Herships financial gifts to help survivors pursue their dreams. A girl rights to me from Minnesota and says I just went to court today. I was raped on campus. And actually, I really want to take boxing. I don't have the funds, and then we send her funds to take kickboxing another girl from Texas. Right. I just put my stepfather in jail. He was molesting me. My mother is on my side, and I really.