Cancer, Miami University, London discussed on The Mentors
So now, you're you're Ohio University Miami university. I know it, I know. Bob cats. I grew up I grew up in the midwest. So I know Miami university, but as you look back on the time you were in high school and going through all of this. Is there anything that you wish had been done differently? I thought about that a lot and the answer is no actually, I can't think of anything that. I wish I would have done differently and everything I mentioned previously that I sometimes wish I would have gotten that going away to college experience. But I think the way that everything played out, and I'm very happy with I I think that everything kind of you can either find reason in everything or everything happens for a reason. However, you choose to look at it. And I'm I'm thankful for the path that was kind of created for me. Did luck play a role in your life? Look hard work. I know I think what is what did they say success is when luck and hard work meat. And I think that that's definitely true. Because I you know, I I went through what I went through with lymphoma went back into high school jumped in went to college. I'm very proud of the fact that I double majored in two majors that aren't even in the same college. And did it under four years. I studied abroad, I'm very proud of everything that I've I've done in my in my short time on this earth so far for those that may not know at Miami university as a tough school to get into. So it's not a. That's a very important school. And you said you did some work overseas. Yeah. I studied abroad in London for for six weeks in in college. And it was one of the coolest things there's actually the year that the Olympics were there. So it was very cool. Very cool time to be there and see how see the London kind of before everything happened. And then see how even more amazing. It got when when everything happened, and I was able to go to one Olympic event. I think it was field hockey. I never been to a field hockey, but I've been to Olympic field hockey. Oh. And during this period. What was? When you're dealing with the cancer. What was the best advice that you received at that time? What a quote finding nemo just keep swimming. But essentially, the stage of staying positive and keeping a positive attitude. I firmly believe in the science and the medicine that that helped make me better. But I also believe that you can really make it even better with a positive attitude. I always tell people that. Yes, I'm a survivor because I'm still living. But I also count people survivors, even if they're no longer with us. I count them survivors if they attacked it with a positive attitude and came out with a positive attitude because I think that that's that's the most important thing is just to try and remain positive. No matter what life is throwing it's hard. But it's it's good to kind of tranquil that in the back of your mind. I I had heard that the term cancer survivors. Controversial. Why is that? I've I've heard some people that don't appreciate it because they feel that it shows disrespect to to those who are no longer with us. And I don't I don't agree. I can see why they would think that. But I don't agree. I respect those who are no longer with us. Us just is not just as much if not more than than myself because they went through something probably even harder than I did. So I personally have just as much respect for them. It's all relative went hard is hard, right. Yeah. Exactly. Exactly. I think others who are listening, but you went through his difficult. So it's all relative. Now, there's an author Bonnie where I don't know if you're aware of her she is from Australia. She was a person who worked with people who were at the end of their life. And as you were talking about. Being happy and being positive. That's interesting one. She wrote a book called the top five regrets of the dying and one of the big regrets that people had were facing this. I wish I had let myself be happier. To me was you're talking you echo that you were you really let yourself be happy tried to be positive, right? Yeah. You have to. I don't think otherwise it's just gonna be you're gonna make an already miserable situation even worse. I think you things happen to us. Yes. But you can happen to things come back to that. This is Tom Lauria. You're listening to the mentors radio show today. We are talking with Megan Metcalfe and the wisdom she gained about life and career while fighting cancer. So what do you mean by that? Yeah. Just there's a book that's pretty popular right now by Rachel Hollis called girl wash your face, and that's one of the. Things that she says quite a bit. And I it really resonated with me is that. Yeah. Things happen to you in your life. But you are ultimately responsible for your happiness. You are the one who is responsible things may happen that you don't plan for cancer happened to me, I wasn't planning for that. I don't think anybody's planning for that or hoping for that to happen. But I tell people that February twenty two thousand eight the day. I was diagnosed is the best day of my life. And I truly truly mean that that's not me just trying to sound more important or anything. I truly mean that the day that I was diagnosed as the best life because it's given me this life experience that has given me more like experiences, I probably wouldn't be sitting here with you talking. If I wasn't a cancer survivor. I wouldn't have met some of the oh my gosh. I have met some amazing people. I've met a guy who's a survivor who I think has one functioning lung. He's climbed Mount Everest. He was the first cancer survivor to climb Mount Everest. He's done. So many amazing things I've had the chance to speak with him. If I had the chance to meet so many people. And none of that would have happened. If I wasn't diagnosed, and that's how I choose to look at it. I know some people may receive a cancer diagnosis and choose to just get their treatment and be done with it and not think about it ever again. And that's okay, that's their choice, but my choices to own it. And and I'm going to happen to cancer cancer may have happened to me, but after that diagnosis date, I happened to my cancer and. How does that translate to your career now for yes? I I mean, I I went through college, and I wanted to get back to normal life and I worked in sports for years. And that's what I wanted to do. And I absolutely loved it. And I miss it. But last year, I kind of I wanted to take this life experience that that I was given and use it even more so than I have been over the past ten years to help others. So I started working for the leukemia lymphoma society, who is the best nonprofit that is fighting blood cancer. Our mission is to to find a cure for blood cancer and to improve the quality of life for for patients and their families. And it's it's an honor to to meet, so many other survivors, and so many other caregivers and friends and family and people that have been affected by by blood cancer. And there's a revolution underway, which I work that I do. I'm very familiar with the revolution that we're moving away from chemotherapy, not immediately. But the hope is therapy, which is rather than using a toxic chemical to kill everything. Is she use drugs to improve the immune system. So can clear cancer killing clear cancer. And you're right in the middle of that revolution. Archer? It's amazing to see. I mean, even though I was only treated ten years ago, the advancements that are happening are really revolutionary life-changing and really going to make a difference in improve the future quality of life for.