Fred Flintstone, Mister Slate, Fraud discussed on The Tightrope with Dan Smolen


That was a great risk. Sure I mean. There was a huge risk for young children children. We had a new house. We went from fourteen thousand charts down to fifty overnight so talk about but I knew that this company was helping me so that was I. Didn't it wasn't blind. We had some help and but as as I started started with my practice I realized it wasn't quite just didn't want to take care of sick people and prescribed give medications and just do the same old same old which wasn't really helping people. I wanted to find some meaning and purpose in it. So that's what I try to help. People do in their own careers to try to sort out. Do what you're doing. Do it the best you can as I always tried to do. But as you're doing that start to tease out aspects of your soul of your heart things that you really want to be doing. Don't quit your day job. Start exploring those on. The side may beast on your way to work. Start listening to books that might be empowering that might be along the lines of your purpose and meaning because that will make you sick is not only. Will it do that. It will start sparking the automatic brain. It will start triggering your relationships with your spouse in your family because you'll feel like they're putting too much pressure on you there. In a sense the world is one thing you and you're fighting and fleeing that because now you you feel little you feel small. Feel like Fred Flintstone those of you. I'm dating myself Fred Flintstone when he would go to for an interview with Mister slate I think it was would start getting smaller and smaller and smaller. And that's how so many of us feel when really we are so big again. We are a spirit in a body. We are spiritual beings in there so much greater than us than this physical automatic brain which has kind of running circles. And feeling the way. Okay you're describing when I became a recruiter and I'm not a recruiter anymore. This might listeners now but in twenty years of doing it when I dealt with people who were high fliers fliers what we used to call dragon slayer right. The word that used to come up more than anything is control I can't control. I need to control and as I was listening to you talk. I thought about that word. What I tried to do as a recruiter sometimes not successfully would would be to try to help them identify other motivations? I got them beyond that. Need to to run the show and find something joyful now. Maybe maybe it's a different kind of motivation. Sometimes people solving problems sometimes like you. It was to be More altruistic and and be more of a help and a better listener are you. Do you find that comes up a lot that can that need for control and beyond work you in the family too. I need quiet I need. I can't have the kids running around the living room on trying to have a quiet moment. Spent getting getting to that addressing that that CEO the the the the Dragon slayer right It reminds me of a of a friend of mine who was a big the big hotshot heads fund it was his hedge fund. He was the guy in the hedge fund. There was a circumstance where he few people came in. Actually she. There was probably about a meeting of the higher ups in the company. The boy arrogance maybe five or six people and it was a circumstance that as he was addressing seeing them he broke EEK his voice cracked and he held back tears. Well word got around the the the company very very quickly and it made him have so much so much more respect for him that he did that he did that. He didn't. He thought he blew it. He thought that this is it. You know I'm going to have to quit. Nobody's going to respect manny more and what struck me and what really helped me get over some of my anxieties especially when I started practice and I really didn't feel as though I was really a doctor. I had this insecurity that I was going to be. We found out or discovered that was a fraud. What what got me over that with this idea that vulnerability can be your greatest? Asset vulnerability are automatic. Brain will say oh no you can't be vulnerable. You have to be tough. You have to be strong and surely there are times when you don't want your doctor. To show their vulnerability vulnerability can be a very strong and it. It's not unexpected it's paradoxical but for the CEO to show the control of the show. They're big and strong and powerful. Yes that might work some of the time in some by the time you have to but you also have to know times to be vulnerable to be a human to be personable and I think that goes a long way you made a career or your transition. Even though you've regained doctor you your motivation. From the time you're a little kid in new haven was to be a doctor but you changed your practice. You went from one that was basically transactional to one that was value added for our listeners. Who are trying to make that kind of a a pivot in their lives leads to something more meaningful than their work? What advice might you give them to to perhaps make themselves more successful than the transition shoe? You're one of my favorite and coming from a doctor. That's very unusual but one of my favorite topics money. And what does that mean. And I think that understanding what money really is is important when you transition. And I have a formula that passion plus purpose this plus perseverance plus action multiplied by the in a in a in in parentheses multiplied by people. We'll equal your prophets and so those profits will turn out in our world. Where money is the currency on earth? Those was prophets will be monetary. But you're not trying to make that your some because what you're putting into that equation. His purpose plus passion plus perseverance. But you need to take action but the more you do that to the number of people you do with. It's going to turn the Prophet so look at your gifts..

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