Listen: Principal, Ellia Eliya, Elia discussed on This is Actually Happening
"On October eighteen two thousand seventeen. I was going on my way driving into my twelve week checkup and I left school early and was on my way to this appointment. I had called Ellia Eliya just to check in which I did sometimes during the day and sometimes he'd pick up and sometimes he wouldn't he didn't pick up and I was driving onto visit. Darrow and I noticed that there were like a lot of cops on the street. You know like Oh that's weird and then I got a phone call from one of his his co worker and friend who I knew and as soon as he said. What are you doing in the way that he sat it. I knew something had happened. I just kept telling him like. Tell me what happened. Tell me what happened and he said Allie was hit by a car. It was like reality assed split open and don't you know he he didn't have that much information. He just told me it's bad. It's bad he asked me where I was because I told him he said stay in your car. I pulled over and just waited for someone to come get me and I was just screaming and it's like this weird tunnel of reality collapsing and it's like you WanNa hold onto you where you were not at this happened but now you have this thing that you have to absorb somehow somehow and so I was just screaming know what to do with myself and my and my principal called me. It and I didn't know why he was. Why was my principle calling me you know and he called me what is going on? You know just like where where are you. What is happening 'cause they had called my school because they thought it was thought work. The COP car showed up and someone someone jumped in my car. I jumped in someone's car. His Co worker and friend who I knew was in the car and we're just going lights and sirens to the to the hospital and I just wanted information. Nobody could tell me anything. I didn't know if I was showing up and he he's GonNa be dead or alive or what. I didn't know anything and nobody knows I'm pregnant. It's like I don't know how bad says is but when I got there. I realized how bad it is because there's like sixty. Police officer's just standing outside of the are like I understand understand it as reality like everyone staring at you. Everyone's like faulk. This is her. I just like got to my knees at the door. I felt my knees and told his friend. I said I'm pregnant like someone needs to know the only two things I kept saying war. I'm not meant to handle things like this and and I'm awake in my worst nightmare. I just kept repeating those two things over and over again. I didn't even know what was happening at but they just knew this was my worst thing there and I was awake and that I felt in that moment that who I was at that moment. It was not meant to handle things like this. I I couldn't be in my body like I couldn't first of all. I couldn't look up like any time I had to walk from a room to another room. I couldn't look up and then when the doctor came to talk to me I like couldn't couldn't sit in a chair. I was like I need to lay on the floor like I need to sit on the ground. I cannot sit on a chair. Just I can't process this moment. Uh so he said it's a brain injury. He's unconscious and we need to remove a piece of his skull. We need to remove that so that the brain has room to swell out without breaking through the skull because that will kill him and so I had to sign these papers that are like okay. He could have a surgery in die but I was. What's the what's. The alternative like there really is none so I signed the papers and I just I don't even know I sat in a corner. I just I wanted this to exist in a vacuum. I did not want anybody knowing my good friend. WHO's a CO worker because they had called all may principal she knew and so she called me and I was freaking out and so she came she became like my rock at that. Moment I couldn't function was heard this woman who is in the fire department the social worker and the pastor they all became like my lifeline and so they went to go do the surgery and I just said I want my mom like I wish my mom was here. So many people ended up coming my parents his parents his sister my brother friends from San Francisco. La Philadelphia like so many people kept on coming but in that twenty four hours of just like not knowing anything. I think we were all just like taking a second by second. I had this middle school picture of my husband. I don't know why in my wallet like one of those yearbook photos and I just like clung onto it. I like had it my hand. The whole time who I was before that moment was kind of being excommunicated from being like I could no longer be that person the anxiety and the lake aac like there were thoughts in my mind of like funeral and you know and I just before I could really get stuck there towards the end end of that twenty four hours. Something lifted me up out of bed out of the like misery and the pain Hanes and the message was clear that like he's not dead yet like he is alive. He's fighting for his life and and I have a role to play in this and what I do is going to impact what happens to him. I really strongly strongly. I believe that perhaps it was a way to deal. I don't know the surgery had gone well but after brain injury after surgery like that it's all about stabilizing the brain so no one has answers for you. No one can tell you anything you know the only people people who were like kind of trying to lift us up where the nurses and they were like you have to be positive you have to you just don't know with these. These types of things that kind of was the shift of am I going to focus on how horribly fucked up all of the cities and the fact that I have a baby inside of me and that everybody is finding out that I'm pregnant in this horrifying way that makes me so sad that I'm pregnant or am I going to empower myself and everybody here to play a role in this and so I was like Gimme markers Gimme paper and I demanded. Everybody probably forty people on the floor. All police officers is all our friends is like we're writing like messages on these that are positive you know that are going to build our our strengths are going to build his strength and we're going to put them everywhere in. You're going to look at these messages anytime you walk down this hall anytime you go in his room. You're going to be about this and so everyone was like all right like we're on board Elia. It was a bicycle cop he he likes horrendous bike and be wanted to be able to be more involved in the community. The tenderloin which is like the tenderloin is the hardest part of the city but Elliott was like I wanna work here and I WANNA be on my bike because I want to interact with the people there was a fleeing suspect who had a gun and he was in a stolen car. People were looking for him in Elia was one of those people Elliott was on his bike. This person was fleeing in the car. The end came up out of a parking garage and Elia was crossing at the same time and was head and so a lot of that twenty four hours was finding this person and so I knew that they had found him. I knew that they had arrested him so that's pretty much all a new because at that point they're also not you know. I'm not very interested in that per se. I'm more interested in my husband's life. You know there's a trial and everything thing but I still I said my piece through a letter and stuff but I'm not involved in that sense because it's so complicated and like you know I still have a husband with brain injury with a brain injury. It's very tricky tricky because medically doctors don't know alive you know and so we're trained to look at doctors two have all the answers right and so the neurosurgeon did his job and he did an amazing job and like God bless him but beyond that it's not looking good you know it's like they don't have an answer but they can't tell you that that so they throw these numbers out at you and so like the first number we got with like twenty percent chance that whole live and that was not good enough at I four we were trying to do with get a higher number find a doctor who would give us a a higher number and there was like one who was away and I kept insisting that he sees us when he comes back and so we were in the ICU for three a week and I think in the middle of it we got to meet with the doctor and his number was even lower in six six."