Chris, DAN, Riley discussed on Dave Ramsey


Picket fence, you were dorming Rockwell's example of of a typical American family. Here's how weird my family's still is my husband, Chris his parents are still together. So you have he and I were married in both of our parents are still together. That's not typical. So to speak nowadays. More and more people come into my side of the fence, by the way, welcome come on in the water's fine that highest point ever. Of people living alone a single person household twenty eight percent of all households right now in the US are single person households. Only one of you lives in the house. Welcome. Well, I think part of that is also coming because of the societal norms of marriage changing fewer people are getting married today than they did. And you're not cohabitating living in sin. You you might be living alone part of the challenge of that. Is it used to be, you know, who who who gets married if you're looking at the guys in the girls who's the most likely of men to get married. What is their marriage? What do they call it? Marriageable marriageable men marriageable marriageable men are those that have an education are making good money. Okay. Sure. If you have a high school education or just some college the decline for marriage is pretty sharp compared to those with a bachelor's degree. Now, the counterpoint to that on the women's side would be the independent woman. The woman who has an education who has a good job. And when you have those things you're more likely to be married. Okay. Okay. So you've got that going on. And also kind of look at what else is changing the norms marriage is not necessarily today was what it wants was decades ago. Think about that people used to wait to get married to have children. Heck, you were married. I yeah. Very for the hippy dividend, and then came into by the house and all of those things what children need to make need to get married anymore. No show. Many people are now raising kids by themselves. Maybe even mom and dad aren't married, but one out of every four parents is unmarried right now. This was the number that stuck out to be when you took a look at some of these these facts in the changing American household was that now fewer than half the numbers. Forty eight percent. Fewer than half of all households are married couples. Yeah. Which means the majority are either unmarried couples or like, we said single people living alone. Right. That the the norm is not married couples in house. I mean think about this. If you're raising kids by yourself right now. You have a record number of people that are doing the same thing as you of folks, you've got company, right? So if you numbers also it used to be considered shameful to have kids outside of marriage. Scarlet letter. You still might have somewhat of a side. I, but I think people are more enlightened today about that than they once were agreed. And you talked about like buying a home or living by yourself. A lot of people. You know, what they love that solitude? They would rather live alone in always know how much milk is left. Nobody ever ever likes the last of anything in my house. I know I bet I'm just thinking about all the. I never go to somewhere and go. What do you mean out of this who use know what else we never go into the bathroom, sit down and go. Oh, yeah. Who finished the toilet paper did put a new role ever happens or you go to you know, clothes in the dryer. And there's a bunch of clothes ever happens ever happened that sounded pretty good too on our open mic line people call Dan and said yet a lot is changing today. And here's why they think it is. This is Bob Phoenix back in the eighties. What made you a successful, man? Or woman was a family how to cars good job nowadays society's perception of that is changed alternately. Like really a lot of people have kids the challenge that the mom and dad people don't want that including myself. Interesting. Okay. So so the what am I gonna use the term struggles of your parents? You learn from their mistake. You looked in said that's not going to be me. I'm going to do something differently. I'm going to do this different. And you've gone to an extreme. I mean like for me. I have great parents. And there are things that that they have done and I go. Yeah. That doesn't work for me. And I'm not gonna do that. But they're small. There are a lot of people listening right now that have had parents that made big mistakes. And they and they've learned from those big mistakes. And they say, yeah, I'm not going to perpetuate that in my life hasn't adult. And so they've made different choices about had to be generational in the past. I just don't know if people felt they could do anything about it since empowerment because so many people have been making those choices. He other examples said one in four parents right now are raising children on their own. That's twenty five percent. Okay. You're not you're not the oddball out in your neighborhood your. Your kid isn't the oddball because they have friends that are being raised by single parents or mom and dad aren't married or whatever it may be. But you're talking about changing norms on marriage. You're talking about changing norms on having children. Right. And these are. I mean, I'm sure there's people out there that say, this is the reason why everything's going to hell in a Handbasket. But there is I think there's also a positive in that there's a freedom, and there's a freedom to define how you want to live your life and not just do it. That's the way we've always done. And there are a lot of Dulce out there that don't wanna just put one person one romantic partner at the center of their life. They may be somebody who you wanna spend a lot of time with, but you have other passions that you wanna pursue into that person is still a major part of your life. But they're not the center of it. They're not the one that you're waking up to and going to bed next to every single day. So do you think it's an acknowledgment? Maybe this is a positive thing, Pamela, where the people that have come to that realization, the one you just described those of you there that went, oh, that's me. That you're not getting married. Which means you're not getting divorced. When that person isn't the thing in your life causes strife down the road. Like you've come to that. We know this going into it. Well, I mean to a certain degree I for one still believe in marriage, and I would have it. No other way. Yeah. You know, Chris, and I could have lived together and never gotten married, and you know. Yeah. You work harder the relationship than I don't buy that at least for me, and it may work for you. But but not for me. But I think that like when we talk about societal changes the biggest change that has happened over the last thirty years or so is women working in the reason why I've changes the household. The reason I bring it up because to be very honest invulnerable with you here when Riley was about like six months old, and I was working really really tough times. My my husband was working like a compressed work week. He worked overnight. So I was I was home alone. A lot by myself with. Maybe and I didn't have anybody that was going through. Or who knew of what I was going through my mom never worked. When my were. We're young infants my mother-in-law never worked. Okay. A lot of the friends. I had hadn't had children the first in your family group, if you will to be the working mom, and I didn't have didn't have any mentors. I didn't have anybody. I could go to and it was really difficult on me like extremely difficult on me. But I choose to work. I choose to have a career. This is what I want and Riley's now nine and I'm so glad I made the decision that I did. I don't look back with regret at all. But it's one of those things where I was kind of blazing a trail in my family. Family of friends and have anybody to talk to that's a big difference. Because the economic difference of a woman working or getting the education and a lot of women out there right now put education in their careers first. And then they're forty and they're like, yeah. You know, what kids to start on the car? You don't we left out of all of this conversation about living alone, not having children, not being married? The impact that this generation's dealing with with debt specifically student loan debt, and how that delays some of these decisions I cannot afford to have a kid. I cannot afford to get they they see everything through a financial prism Kizer expensive high of heard rumors rumors about this. Well, tell you what if you were living alone with a cat, by the way and not have kids. You're not that odd anymore. Oh, we're still gonna make fun of you. But you're not that. What is going on mill avenue? Do you spend time down around ASU? Well for the next three months you may want to avoid the area. Like, the plague just considered detour Dan telling you every single hour of every single day stay away from it. We'll tell you why you're gonna wanna void mill right after Bob McClay gets us all caught up with our top stories..

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