Matilda Matilda, Mathilde, Los Angeles discussed on The Moth
And in this hour, we're gonna play you some of our favorites. Our first story is from the actress and writer, Molly ringwald, she told in the show. He did the Carolina theatre in Durham, North Carolina. Here's Molly ringwald. Hi. So a couple years ago my family, my husband Ponti, oh, and my seven year old daughter Matilda and our one year old twins move into a new house in Los Angeles. Which is in the best school district in Los Angeles. My daughter Matilda up until that point was was going to school in a very progressive Montessori ish kind of school that was very far away. She quite liked it. But everybody kept saying why don't you have your daughter go to this school? It's it's an amazing school. Everybody moves into this this area just to go to the school. So we thought about it and about after year we said to Matilda Matilda. What do you think about going to the neighborhood school? It's supposed to be really good. And she said, no. And so we thought about it. And you know about a week later. We asked her again, she said, no we kept asking her. She kept saying, no, no, no, no. But her father, and I decided we're parents and we're going to make an executive decision. And we said, yes. Mathilde kept saying no all the way up until she actually entered the second grade. But we figured you know, what she's young. She seven years old. She's going to get over it. She'll adjust. We all did right? The first week. We knew that something was wrong. When her teacher said to us at the first week conference. You know in all my years of teaching. Which was sixteen years. I've never had a child like Matilda. You know, sometimes somebody can say this about your kid, and you think, wow, that's amazing. But in our case, we knew it wasn't very good. She said, you know, she amended it and said, you know, maybe boys, but not girls. And we said, oh, all right. Okay. What's up gender bias? But we had to listen to what she had to say she presented us with an index card that was clearly and matilda's handwriting. That said you're pretty short and little for a second grader. Which I thought was sort of alarming until I realized that it was actually written to a little boy. And I thought she's flirting. I did that until I was well into my thirties, you know. But then there were other things that we really couldn't ignore. She told one girl that she had a pretty awful name. But that she could change it when she turned eighteen. And then and then there were other incidences, you know, when when she would get mad. It's thought somebody was laughing at her. She would throw sharp pencil at them or sometimes she would go up to their desk and just tear up their their work. So it was it was clearly a problem, and then they would give in schools and public schools at least in Los Angeles. They do this thing called a reflection chart, and what it is. They tell the child to explain what they did. And why they did it and how they felt and then and then the next part is how the other child might have felt and that's to instill some kind of empathy, and what Mathilde would right in the space was, blah, blah, blah. And translated. That's the eight year old version of fuck you. So Pontiac by my husband's started to talk to her, you know, an verged on pleading where we said Matilda this. This is your first year at this school. If you keep doing this, you won't have any friends and Matilda looked at a straight in the eye. And she said, I don't need any friends. I don't want any friends. And this was very alarming to both of us. About a I would say maybe a week went by it was probably about a week before Mathilde and Pontiac, and I both got hauled into the principal's office. And I can tell you that I never in my life had been inside of a principal's office only in a movie, in fact, there was a scene in in pretty in pink where I got called into the principal's office..