A highlight from #84: Redefine Your Vision of Success

Mindset for Life
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Hit a certain milestone. Maybe you're a teacher and you want your students to demonstrate their learning in a certain way. If you're a manager you want your employees to be able to do certain things. Maybe production needs to be a certain way regardless of what field. You're in or what your goals really are. There are benchmark success points. People have we all think we need to measure up to these success areas. I have news for you. Your definition of success is about to change. If you have ever defined success as the outcome the prize the achievement the reward the ending the result. This is what's holding us. all back. Success is not what we achieve at the end of a long journey. Success is the journey. The journey is all about correcting once. Course getting back on track and being able to move forward once again after all we are human beings. We're going to make a lot of mistakes and we have those weaknesses. I mentioned before and because of that. We cannot insist that. We're going to be perfect to always make progress forward. We're going to step back a little bit. we're gonna fall off the trail. Sometimes we're going to have a genuinely horrible day. We might have a bad attitude one day and get it back together the next and start again. That's the whole idea behind a new day a clean slate and a fresh start when we're working on our mindset. We have to protect it. It's growing is becoming stronger more capable and much more in favor of us moving in the right direction but while we're doing that we have to think about that direction. As journey of success not a destination if you start to think about your journey as the success itself what becomes possible for you now think about how you can celebrate milestones how you can celebrate smaller steps of growth when you try something new or notice something new about your thinking that can be celebrated too many of us are achievers who win something and just turn and move onto the next tackle. We're working hard to achieve something else and we haven't even stopped to celebrate what we just did. If you're a parent you know how critical that is for you. You can get exhausted raising children and especially in a difficult world where the pandemic is raging and people are filled with despair at times. It's difficult to remain cheerful so celebrating. That every time you can do it is also a big win. We teach our children and our students and our colleagues some pretty wonderful things when we pick ourselves up dust ourselves off and keep trying. That's why i'm defining success as the journey. Not the destination now. Let's think about some things that are part of that success. I've surveyed teachers recently to find out what they feel is the measure of their success in their teaching careers. A lot of these teachers described the students and their attitudes their behaviors their dispositions as the measure of their success. When you think about this putting your success measure in say a ten year old child that is giving away your power to determine your own happiness and your own level of success. They're going to leave there feeling loved and nurtured during the time they were with you but perhaps their home environment or their family life is going to take a bigger president in their life and they may still be held back from greater well-being high performance. There are just too many unknowns. Also think about someone's personality. They might naturally resist what you're trying to offer or maybe they have a physical emotional or spiritual roadblock for a lot of reasons i recommend not putting your measure of success or your happiness in the outcomes that your students may achieve some of these teachers described their students as looking happy looking engaged appearing interested smiling allot or thanking them for what they were teaching in. Today's world. children may still do that. But it's less likely that these could be reliable measures of your success instead. There are some things you can do that. You can measure. You can take note of them. You can reflect on them and you can rely on these things to measure your own growth and your progress along the journey. The first one is to measure your abilities. Do you have the strengths that you need to contribute what you would like to contribute. Do you have the talent. The skill the educational background the training. What kinds of abilities do you have that. You're putting into what you're trying to do if you're a manager or a teacher certainly there's some education in there and there's probably some experience and some life experience as well think about your abilities and whether you are qualified to do what you're trying to do the second thing you can measure on your path to success or your path of success is your effort. Think about your best efforts. How much of the time are you able to fully focus on what you are doing. And how much of the time are you distracted trying to multitask or doing something halfway. If you can give it one hundred percent of your effort when you're doing it being present in the moment you can measure that on your path of success. What is your investment. And then lastly this one to me is a little more difficult but much more rewarding and that is to think about your impact the impact you have is not the same as looking at the subjective attitudes of your students. The impact you have is when you're able to accomplish what you set out to do. Were you able to deliver the lesson. Were you able to measure the learners progress and get some feedback about how it landed this impact you have can be described as positive or negative. You may have influence in the lives of those people. You're working with whatever your impact. You need to ask a lot of questions to find out what it is and you need to also think about your impact on the greater community. Some people i know of when i was an early career teacher went out into the professional community and presented at conferences. They taught other people how to do things. And i sat there and watched these people and thought i could do that too and i started doing that. Also i've presented at conferences all over the world. Because i saw the examples of others who wanted to have a bigger impact in the profession. What kind of impact do you wanna have think about it. It's likely that you want to have an impact in the field of education in some way or in the culture of your school or your business or in the lives of specific people you cannot always control the impact you have in others lives but you can more generally measure and notice your impact. When we don't measure these things like our ability our efforts in our impacts we become pretty self-focused and we start to measure only our shortcomings and only our weaknesses. The more you do that the more you're going to be really down on yourself and see the negative pretty much everywhere you go. I don't know about you. But most human beings have inner voices or inner thoughts that criticize themselves. We think about what we should have done or how we could have done it better or what we might do the next time or how. We fell short or are not qualified to do something. If you start getting aware of your bigger impact outside of you you can let the needs of other people derive your work. You can help them meet their challenges or at least take them into consideration in what you're doing and pretty soon you're going to have an elevated mood and an elevated attitude. You're gonna see a much bigger picture outside of yourself where you can actually collaborate with people. You can work together to help others. Lives become even better and you can lift the business or the school or have an influence for the positive things around you wherever you are. Think about giving yourself a little bit of self compassion when you start to feel down on your abilities. One of the things. I care most about as an online

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