Acceptance: Is It The Path To Less Suffering by Allison Carmen

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Acceptance is it the path to less offering by alison carman of alison. Carmen dot com. The other night my friend and i went to see a show is very crowded in the theater so when the show was over it took a long time to exit. My friends started to get very tight about people not walking more quickly and was really bothered for my part. I really didn't think much of it. We were talking about the show as we were shuffling out and accepted the slow pace as part of what happens when you go to the theater part of my mind detached and looked at the situation. I found it so interesting that we were both having the exact same outer experience but such a different inner experience. My friend just wanted to leave the theater and in her mind it was wrong. How slowly everyone was walking but his thought created impatience and frustration on her part. I'm no buddhist monk. But i did the situation and enjoyed my time talking as we inched out the door when i got home a little harsh about my friend as i repeated the story to my husband but as i was repeating the story i was reminded of how i had been in a cab going to the show that nights and there was traffic. I got upset that there was traffic. And that i'd be late for the show recalling. This my laughed a little. There was no difference between me and my friend why we were both resisting. The moment. it doesn't matter if one person stinking the line should be moving quicker and another. There should not be traffic on park avenue at this time of day. These are just are stories of how life should be stories that make a stress and miserable and even if my friend and i are right about these situations does it matter what should be is not what is happening in the moment and because we are trapped in how things should be we are not free so what is the key to internal freedom and joy in a word it is acceptance often when i speak to clients about the idea of acceptance. Their knee jerk reaction. No matter what their problem is. Why would i accept. This is not right. Or i am not going to just give up and accept these circumstances but believing that. Something's right or that you have to give up is not what acceptance is for me. The acceptance is seeing things as they are in the moment in simply accepting. This is the experience you are having. The struggle of is happening should not be happening or this is unacceptable ends when we accept things as they are. Sometimes there's nothing to do about a situation as when we were leaving a crowded theatre or when we are in traffic the minute you accept the thing that's driving you nuts. You stop struggling with it and you stop feeling pain. There's nothing to do but relax in the present with the experience is what life has to offer other times except in subsea find peace and less suffering even as he remained open to changing your circumstances in the future acceptance does not change your passion or need for change allows you to show up in the moment with piece about what is an strengthened focused to make things different nowadays. Will my kids don't clean their rooms it rains. I don't have an umbrella or declined. Forgets are meeting. I try to smile and say. I did not expect this but i accept this. Maybe everything is okay. I take a big breath in men. Smile still tell my children at clean their room. They get home. I buy a five dollar umbrella that will break in a week and try to figure out an effective way to remind my clients of our meetings. I do all of those things at the same time. I am accepting the moment for what it is. This is a true path for less suffering and more ease in everyday life. Take a moment and think about a few aspects of your life that you are not accepting how would it feel to not struggle with it anymore. Can you accept a circumstance in relax into the moment came. Accept your situation is still try to improve your circumstances in the future. Try the mantra. I did not expect this. But i accept this. Maybe everything is okay and then see what shows up in your life.

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