Listen: 238: Stopping the What Ifs Diving into Decluttering Question 2 Podcast
"The problem with this question is that as your decluttering while I see those I see the glow that bracelets and so I know. They're now and yet I didn't have a place where I ever would have looked for them. And so this this is just kind of my reality. Check I'm going to get rid of it. This thing needs to go because I would never have thought to go look for it okay. I know it's hard word. But that's part of this whole process is just working through all the what ifs and the what if as a legitimate what if and yet I'm gonNA survive you guys. Here's the thing I can tell you now. Not based on that initial time. When I made this decision to get rid of things that I didn't remember that I had that I would never have gone looking for When I made that decision you know was ten years ago now? I have been decluttering this way now for ten years I have gotten rid of a lot of things like a lot of things just because I said I am going to be honest with myself and admit that I would never have looked for this. It would have just sat here. I would have bought another winner. I would've done without and yes I've had to cluttering regrets. I've I've had times where I'm like. Why got rid of that because I never would have looked for it but now I remember I had it and now I actually need it? And it's frustrating. Because I have to go out and buy another one. You know what I've survived survived. I've survived but there has to be that final. This is how I'm GonNa make this decision. Do you know what I mean like. There has to be that this is the thing that's going to make me say yes or no right and that is is how I make that decision as I say. Let me be honest. I couldn't answer that first question. Where would I look for it? I and so now that I can't answer that question. Let me be real honest with myself. Would it ever have occurred to me that I had one. No okay. It's going to be donated all right so it's is not fun but I'm telling you it works and you'll survive okay because the reality is if you didn't know you had it and you would have gotten about another one anyway. If you hadn't declutter this space you would have been oblivious and you would have spent that money anyway and had more cluttering your house. Meanwhile I get to live with a D. cluttered third space between now and this hypothetical time when I might need it and I get to enjoy that space so I also decided and this is one of the ways that I put monetary value on empty space of my home on usable space in my home so I ask myself the question this. Is You know the decluttering questions are very concrete. And very okay you know would have ever occurred to me that I already had one. No it goes in the donate box. Okay but we're diving coming into this question and kind of giving us some around about about around the bout. Who knows anyway? Who knows what I'm saying but a roundabout way of thinking? Thanks through this to make you willing to ask those concrete questions. Okay so one of the ways that I do it as I look at it as because monetary is a big part of the reason why. It's really hard for me to get rid of something that I might need in the future you know but that five pack of gone our bracelets was worth a dollar. And there's lots of stuff that I hold onto that really. The replacement value is a dollar. Okay so we're ish or whatever it would be And as I get rid of that item I will sometimes just remind myself okay that if someone was to say hey would you pay a dollar for this disastrous junk drawer to be cleaned out and usable. And you know what's in it and be able to get to what's in it and be able to find what's in it if someone asked me if I would pay a dollar for that I'd be like y'all. I'll pay you double just out of gratefulness you know. Am I willing to pay a dollar for this space to be cluttered and usable between now and this hypothetical time when I might need this item in the future if my answer is yes. That's what I'm doing here. Okay is I'm going to just get rid of this item and run the risk that I might have to pay a dollar to replace it in the future or I might never have to pay it because in the vast majority of cases I don't ever have to spend that dollar in the future sued him saying so I put that value on there. Maybe it's not something that's a dollar. Maybe it's something that costs a lot more than a dollar. Maybe it's twenty dollars thirty eighty dollars forty dollars looking at that space and saying okay. I would never have gone looking for this item. Yes it's a twenty dollar item that I might right possibly need in the future but the reality is I would never have gone looking for it so I either would have done without because I didn't WanNa spend twenty or thirty dollars and I would have survived or I would have gone out and spent twenty or thirty dollars anyway and then I would've really kicked myself eventually when I was decluttering this space because I'd be like Oh my goodness I spent twenty or thirty dollars on that thing. I already had a twenty or thirty dollar item just like it came but again I can ask myself the same question. Would I give someone someone twenty dollars for this item right here or this space right here to be cluttered between now and this hypothetical time. There's a lot of times when I'm frustrated with my house and I'm like I would totally give someone twenty dollars for the space to be de cluttered. Okay so thinking of it that way another thing. I know I've said this before but I just love it. So Much Tisch Oxen writer. I think she still has a podcast. The simple show is what it was called for a while or simple or I don't know anyway but I heard her say one time that she views the thrift store as her storage unit. Okay so she looks at these items and she's like. Is this something that I could find a thrift store pretty easily okay. Well then I'll donate it and if I ever need it again. I can rent a thrift store and probably doubly find one for two bucks. Okay and that two bucks is my storage unit fee for having you know left is not the exact same item obviously but you know she just thinks of it that way and I love that that so much that right there all those what ifs a lot of times for me. It's money but the the truth is you didn't have a place that you would even look for it. You didn't didn't have a place for it and here's the other thing to remember. I'm not saying everything that surprises you. When you're decluttering has to go into the donate box? I'm not saying that just because you didn't remember you had it that it automatically goes in to the donate box. No we have decluttering question number one to cut in question number one is where if if I was looking for this where would I look for it. I okay so if you are decluttering something if you come if you pull up this I know I'm in my bedroom right now. So I'm saying that you pull up this hangar and you're like oh I forgot. I had that really cool looking hanger but you have an answer to. Where would I look for this hanger? I will in my closet. Is it so I go and I take it there right now. It's done I don't have to ask the second question okay. So there's not this angsty analysis of things. The whole goal here is to work through clutter really really quickly came. I hope that's helpful and just to remember that getting over these. What ifs is so hard but you are going to get better at it because every time you go ahead and stick it in the donate box and then needed again later and get frustrated with yourself but also realize I've I really enjoyed the D. cluttered space k when I'm acknowledging the fact that there's value in this D- cluttered space and man? I can't believe I got rid of that Christmas sweater and here. I need a Christmas sweater for a party. Oh my goodness and you live through it because you realize that you can grab something at Walmart for really cheap or it's really fun to run by the Thrift Store and get you wind whatever every time you live through that experience. You're going to be better able to do that quickly and easily the next time okay. So it's not going to be as angsty for you the next time when you have some experience under your belt because that's where that momentum comes in okay is you're like Oh yeah. I totally regretted something last time and yet I live through it and in the end I was glad to have a less have have less stuff in my house so okay yeah I'll live there it. It gets so much easier and remember. These are the questions I use instead of things like. Is this title useful. y'All things are useful to me. That aren't useful to anybody in the entire world. Because I'm like you know what I could turn that into. You know what I saw went on Pinterest. Whatever useful is not something I can ask myself I am basically saying? Do I have the space for this in my home. And will I be able to find it when I actually need it basing that on my instinct for I would look for it. I I am not usefulness. Yeah there's a lot of useful stuff in this world that I don't need in my house. What if it's valuable? Well then sell it but sell it right now. You know. I'm not big on selling but my thing is if you fill the need to sell it because you think it's worth money then sell it right now sell it and figure out how much time it takes to actually actually sell something and get the price that you want. And then you're GonNa look at items and you're gonNA think. Oh that's valuable but I wouldn't get enough for that to make it worth my time. mm to go through the whole ebay process or facebook marketplace. Or however you want to do it it will change how you view those things so go ahead and do it. Is it valuable to me. Because here's the thing too. Is it valuable. It's not as valuable as you're thinking if you don't and have a place for it in your house and you don't actually like it and want it okay. I mean like just keeping it because it's valuable but you don't actually like it or use it will then it's not actually valuable. See what I'm saying. So if it's valuable away but you don't want to your house then try to get that value out of it and get rid of it Sell it but all those things I said before too that makes sense What if you have to buy another one? We talked about that. Okay placing placing the value. That you what you would spend on this item placing that value on this d cluttered usable space between now and the hypothetical time. Okay so I I hope that's been helpful again as I said. Go and listen to the book I talk through all of these things and the whole process and the getting space from total disaster to okay. It's actually the way it needs to look with all of those. This is just one step in this process. And it's a step that you don't use all that often and just to remember that the purpose of the question question is mostly as a reality. Check a reality check that something needs to go into the donate box okay. I needs to leave my house because I'm being realistic about the fact that I would never have gone looking for this K- and and that's the part to remember more than anything. It's not just adjusted. I remember I had it. It's would I have gone looking for it if I needed it. Because because that when you really start thinking through that that makes you go okay then it it doesn't actually exist in my house like as a useful item it doesn't exist because I would never have gone looking for it. It's only function that it's actually serving in my house. Right now is that it's taking up space. It is clutter. It is causing me frustration. Even I didn't know specifically was there. I knew I had way too much stuff in my house. Okay and so the only purpose that it serving is to you be this ambiguous space taker. That's frustrating me. Okay all right. I hope that's helpful and just want to remind you guys. I think I've got another interview coming up next week. 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